Options Magazine-August 2015

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LGBTQ News, Resources & Events

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In This Issue:

Rhode Island’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer community news source since 1982.

August 2015, Vol. XXXIV, Issue 4

Publisher Kyle McKendall kyle@optionsri.org Editor in Chief Jen Stevens editor@optionsri.org Resources Editor Myra Shays

RI International Film Fest’s LGBTQ Sidebar pg. 10

Calendar Editor Sam Simas calendar@optionsri.org Copy Editors Bradford Greer, Maria Phillips, Rex LeBeau, Myra Shays Graphic Design Theresa “Reese” Barzyk

50 Years of LGBT Activism pg. 12

Interview with Kathy Griffin pg. 22

4 From the Editor 5 Protecting MSM from HPV 6 From the Publisher 6 Advertisers 8 Calendar of Events 10 News Briefs 12 50 Years of LGBT Activism 14 Jessica Brand’s Journey 16 Women’s Rugby 18 Passages: Beverly Case of APRI

Kim Stowell: SAGE Exec.

Director

Annie Cronin-Silva, Christopher Dalpe,

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Jesse DeRita, Bradford Greer, Sally Ann Hay,

18 Bear & Bones 19 ACOS: High Heel Dash & More 20 Out on the Town 22 Kathy Griffin: Live in Newport 25 News from SAGE-RI 26 Lesbians on the Loose 28 Rhode Island Pride 29 TGI Network 30 Resources 38 Worth a Look

Kelly Scafariello, Jaye Watts

Home delivery is free! Subscribe at www.optionsri.org, email frank@optionsri.org, or write to us at our PO Box. Retraction: The City of Providence designated gender-neutral bathrooms in City Hall, the Public Safety Complex, and the Providence School Department, but has not yet made the designation in public schools, as was stated in the last issue. © OPTIONS 2015. Options is published monthly. The opinions expressed are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect those of the governing board, volunteers, or staff. Listings are provided as a resource and do not imply endorsement. Submissions to Options must include a phone number or email address. Names may be withheld on request. Submissions, ads, calendar, or resource listings for the September issue must be delivered by August 14.

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label. With a pressing deadline and no other clear photo option—our solution: edit the sign for the mailed copies. Because Options had been mailed in a white envelope until the spring of last year, we believe this is the first time Options has had the need for two cover images.

Kelly Smith scribed dozens if not hundreds of those yellow poster board signs throughout the marriage campaign, and this last one is being preserved for the local LGBT archive as her last. For readers on the mailing list, and for those who picked it up elsewhere—here’s what you missed.

In Solidarity, Jen Stevens

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Dear Reader, The content you find in Options has been vetted through a rigorous process. Stories are initially submitted to me, and I may call for a writer to answer lingering questions or dig a little deeper. In all likelihood I’ll trim a bit and catch some typos. From there, stories are distilled through three rounds of edits before four or more pairs of eyes belonging to a vastly diverse group of dedicated copy editing volunteers, each possessing a passion for language. (New volunteers are always welcome.) Each editor has a reaction to a piece, and the thoughtful questions and enjoyable discussions that arise are at the heart of what I enjoy most about Options. Constantly aiming to present these stories about our beloved community truthfully, within the context of a big picture, and with a desire to educate, ensures that Options remains a dignified, trusted, and ever-evolving resource.

As a monthly magazine, we’re challenged when we’re eager to report compelling news occurring at the end of the month beyond our typical editorial deadline (think PrideFest, Supreme Court equal marriage ruling, Equality Act introduction). Thankfully, our devoted volunteers are usually willing to write a news brief, conduct an interview, or photograph an impromptu event in a pinch.

Last month, the troops rallied and we were thrilled to cover the Supreme Court decision and the local celebration, where I fell in love with a photo snapped by Jack Hartwein-Sanchez of the BeckerNorton family. It was certainly cover-worthy, but the placement of the message on the sign they held posed a problem I hadn’t yet encountered as editor. Cover photos are tricky.They need to be highquality (cell phone photos won’t cut it), with room at the top and the lower left corner to accommodate the Options logo and the mailing

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How to Protect Yourself from HPV:

A Guide for Men Who Have Sex with Men

by Dr. Gus Mannochia for Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island

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uman Papillomavirus (HPV) testing for women has become a routine practice among primary care physicians, but there is still no standardized testing available to men. Most men have never had an HPV screening, and screenings for asymptomatic men are not recommended by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). However, HPV can cause health problems for men, particularly men who have sex with men (MSM). Being aware of HPV’s potential consequences, checking regularly for symptoms of the virus, and getting vaccinated if appropriate are the best measures men can take to protect themselves and their sexual partners.

HPV is the most common sexually transmitted infection (STI) in the United States. It can be spread through anal, vaginal, or oral sex. Nearly all sexually active people contract at least one type of HPV at some point in their lives. HPV can be spread with no symptoms, making it challenging for infected persons to know that they are sharing the virus. HPV is different from HIV or HSV (herpes); it spreads mostly through skin-to-skin contact, not through blood.

The HPV virus sometimes clears up on its own without any symptoms.

The most common symptom of HPV is genital warts, which usually develop three to six months after infection. These warts can be painful, are often accompanied by discomfort and itching, and may return throughout life. However, warts may also cause no pain or irritation, making them difficult to detect. Warts commonly present as small flesh-colored bumps resembling cauliflower, or are smooth in surface and slightly bumpy to the touch.

Beyond the discomfort of genital warts, HPV can also lead to more serious health consequences—especially for MSM.

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HPV is a contributing cause of potentially fatal cancers of the cervix, penis, anus, and throat. Men who are most vulnerable to HPV-related cancers are those with compromised immune systems, such as men with HIV, and those who receive anal sex and then contract anal HPV. Because HPV is so common and there is no regular testing available to men, it is essential that MSM know how to protect themselves and their partners.

Here are the best ways to prevent HPV: • HPV vaccinations are available to both boys and girls ages 11-12, when they are not yet sexually active, until the age of 21. The CDC also recommends the HPV vaccine to gay, bisexual, and young men with compromised immune systems— including those with HIV—through the age of 26.

• Regularly checking yourself (with a mirror) and your partner for any abnormal warts or spots where the skin is irritated around the penis, anus, scrotum, and mouth will help you identify genital warts, which can be hard to see.

• Condoms are highly effective at protecting yourself from STIs, including HPV. However, warts can appear in areas of the genital region not covered by a condom, making regular checks for warts important.

If you or your partner is presenting symptoms, it is important you both be checked by a healthcare provider for other STIs and to discuss treatment options. If either you or your partner has genital warts, it is recommended you avoid sex until the warts are gone or removed. Genital warts can be treated with prescription medication or can be removed surgically, though doctors discourage early treatment as symptoms may clear up on their own.

Knowing your body, sexual history, and vaccination options serves as a healthy preventative against HPV-related diseases.

Working with your doctor and having open dialogue about your health status and sexual activities will help them to offer you the best care. Having a health provider you are comfortable with will make your screenings and these conversations easier.

Your provider can also provide you with your immunization history and vaccination schedule to keep you on track with preventive care.

Here are some HPV-related tips to keep in mind and share with your community: • Get to know your health needs. What risks, if any, do you face for more serious HPV consequences due to your health history and sexual activity?

• Make sure you have a health provider with whom you feel comfortable discussing your sexual activity, and schedule regular visits.

• Keep track of your vaccination history, and stay up to date on immunizations.

• Check yourself and your partner regularly for symptoms of HPV and other STIs. • Spread the word and help friends in your community.

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Last month 2nd Story Theater hosted a benefit night for Options, raising over $1,700. All proceeds from ticket sales on the pre-opening dress rehearsal performance were donated directly to Options. Thank you to the management and staff at the theater, all of whom purchased tickets to the show, and to the cast who put on a fantastic production of Die, Mommy, Die! Payton St. James’s portrayal of Angela Arden is a mustsee. The production runs through August 28. I hope you’ll visit www.2ndstorytheatre.com to purchase tickets.

Please join me in welcoming Kellie and Belinda Marcil to the Options team.They will manage distribution of the magazine.

I look forward to working closely with them over the coming months; their energy is contagious. Options’ distribution efforts are 100% dependent on volunteers. In a time span of just a few days, Kellie and Belinda are tasked with getting 3,000 copies of Options dropped to over 100 locations around the state. I hope you’ll visit our website to see how you can help. Signing up for just a handful of locations would make a huge impact. We are still trying to fill several key volunteer roles that have minimal time commitments tied to them. I hope you’ll contact me to find out how you can help. Skillsets and interests of any kind and in any industry can be utilized.

On Tuesday, August 25, we’re hosting an open house at our office. Please join us from 6-7pm at the Hope Artiste Village, 1005 Main Street in Pawtucket in Suite 1105. Light refreshments and drinks will be served. We’ll provide updates on the organization, brainstorm editorial ideas and fundraising opportunities, and talk about the future of Options. I hope to see you there!

Onward,

Kyle McKendall

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Calendar of Events RI International Film Fest August 4-9

Kathy Griffin August 21

August Sat. 1-Fri. 28 Die, Mommy, Die!, 7:30pm. 2nd StoryTheatre, 28 Market Street, Warren. When her ill-tempered children become suspicious, Angela’s hopes for a new life fall riotously apart.This psychedelic satire of‘60s celluloid classics will give “summer camp” a whole new meaning. Starring Payton St. James.Tickets are $25.Visit 2ndstorytheatre.com for more information.

Tue. 25 Options Magazine Open House, 6-7pm. 1005 Main Street #1105 in Pawtucket’s Hope Artiste Village. Learn about the organization, provide input on our direction, and socialize with other readers and volunteers. Light refreshments and drinks served. RSVPs encouraged on the Options Facebook event. For more info, www.optionsri.org.

Sun. 2 Options Release Party, 3-6pm.The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence. Join Options Magazine for the release of the August issue. Social event. No cover.Volunteers needed for distribution.

Wed. 26 Rhode Island Pride Open House, 7pm. 1005 Main Street #1105 in Pawtucket’s Hope ArtisteVillage. Social gathering and discussion of community events and opportunities for involvement. All are welcome. For more info, www.prideri.com or 467-2130.

Tue. 4-Sun. 9 19th Annual Rhode Island International Film Festival, with screenings in Providence, Newport, Bristol, East Greenwich,Woonsocket, and Jamestown. $15 admission for opening night gala/$10 for all other screenings.

Advanced tickets and discounts for seniors, groups, and students are available at 861-4445 and www.RIFilmFest.org.

Wed. 5 Rhode Island International Film Festival kickoff, 7:30pm. Bell Street Chapel,5 Bell Street,Providence.$15. LGBT short film premiers:Pink Boy,Golden, Clan, Stealth, Hole, and Setting Them Straight. Full descriptions of the films can be found at www.riiff2015.sched.org. Filmmaker reception follows the screening.

Sun. 9 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Network for gay and bisexual men 50+.

Social, dinner, and meeting. For more info, www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Thu. 13 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment including music, comedy, dance, and oddities. $6. Find Sweet LittleVariety Show on Facebook.

Sat 15Women’s Rugby Fundraiser: Big Ball 7s, 9am. Hurley Middle School, 650 Newman Ave, Seekonk, MA. For more info, www.providencerugby.com.

Wed. 19 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: Female Man by Joanna Russ. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com.

Fri. 21 Kathy Griffin:Like a Boss,7pm and 9:30pm.Hyatt Regency,1 Goat Island, Newport. Newport Comedy Series presents this hilarious, debaucherous, and saucy stand-up comedy show by the shore. For tickets, visit ticketmaster.com.

Sun. 23 High Heel Dash, 12-2pm registration/12-6pm block party.The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence.A one-block race in heels to benefit AIDS Project Rhode Island. $25 registration fee. Register at aidscareos.org.

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Sat. 29 New London Pride @ Hygienic Art Park, 5-10pm. 79 Bank Street, New London, CT. Live music and dance party featuring Hartford Gay Men’s Chorus, Exelle, Pride Idol contest, and more. www.newlondonpride.com.

Sun. 30 New London Pride @ Ocean Beach Park, 12-5pm. 98 Neptune Avenue, New London CT. Amusement rides, waterslides, arcade, mini golf, swimming pool, spray park, playground, live performances. $6. www. newlondonpride.com.

Sun. 30 Drag Brunch,11am.Red Fin Crudo,71Washington Street,Providence.

Featuring Haley Star, LaDiva Jonz, and Jacqueline DiMera. For reservations, call 465-1335.

Sun. 30 Celebrating the Life of Kevin Mitchell,4-8pm.TheVillage,373 Richmond Street, Providence. Heather Rose in Clover, Mary Bee, Jodi Jolt & the Volt, and John Kelley perform. Donations accepted for Kevin’s family.

Sun. 30 Options Release Party, 3-6pm.The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence. Join Options Magazine for the release of the September issue.

Volunteers needed for distribution.

September Thu. 10 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment including music, comedy, dance, and oddities. $6. Find Sweet LittleVariety Show on Facebook.

Sun. 13 30th Annual AIDSWalk, Registration 9am. Rhode Island State House.

The event benefits AIDS Project RI and AIDS Care Ocean State,which provide education, prevention, testing, and a range of services for people living with HIV/ AIDS in RI. For more info, www.aidscareos.org and www.aidsprojectri.org.

Sun. 13 RI PrimeTimers, 4:30-7pm. Network for gay and bisexual men 50+.

Social, dinner, and meeting. For more info, www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

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RI Pride Honors September 13

Sun. 13 RI Pride Honors, annual gala, 6:30-9:30pm. Aqua at the Marriott Downtown Providence, 1 Orms Street. Pyramid of Pride presented to Kate Monteiro, Spirit of Pride presented to Steve Ahlquist, Parade and Volunteer awards given. Cash bar, appetizers. $35/$60 couple. For tickets and info, www. prideri.com or info@prideri.com.

Wed. 16 Queer Book Club,7-9:30pm.Books on the Square,471Angell Street, Providence. Reading: Between These Walls by John Herrick. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@ gmail.com.

Sat. 19 Drag Divas v. Renaissance City Softball League Swingers, 2pm game followed by a homerun derby. Agawam Softball Complex, 1600 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence.

Wed. 23 Bisexual Pride Day! Wed. 23 Rhode Island Pride Open House, 7pm. 1005 Main Street #1105 in

AIDS Walk RI September 13

Pawtucket’s Hope ArtisteVillage. Social gathering and discussion of community events and opportunities for involvement. All are welcome. For more info, www.prideri.com or 467-2130.

Sun. 27 Options Release Party, 3-6pm.The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence. Join Options Magazine for the release of the October issue.

Volunteers needed for distribution.

Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS Tue. 4pm, (gay males): Wed. 1:30pm Alcoholics Anonymous (LGBT Group): Tue. 7pm COLAGE (children of LGBTs): 3rd Sat. 10:30am PFLAG (parents, friends, allies): 1st & 3rd Wed. 6:45pm TGI Network (trans*): 1st & 3rd Tue. & Sat. 7pm TransFamily New England: 2nd Mon. 6:30pm YPI (youth): Way Out Thu. 4pm/Gender Spectrum Tue. 4pm See Resources on page 30 for more info.

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News Briefs

by Adam Brooks

RI Bishop Calls for Opposition to Supreme Court Marriage Ruling Katie Lang, a county clerk in Hood, Texas, made national news last month by refusing to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples because her “religious convictions” are guaranteed by the U.S. Constitution. Bishop Thomas Tobin (pictured) of the Roman Catholic Diocese of Providence publicly lauded Lang’s decision in a Facebook post, writing, “Congratulations to Ms. Lang for her courageous stand. We need many more conscientious objectors—public officials, private businesses, advertisers, religious leaders, and family members—people of courage who will abide by their conscience, protect their religious rights, and not support or enable the furtherance of this moral aberration, so-called same sex marriage.” In a statement last month, Bishop Tobin, who serves on the boards of trustees at Providence College and Salve Regina University, said of the U.S. Supreme Court decision,“Catholics, and other citizens of goodwill, should oppose this misdirected innovation and steadfastly proclaim the unchanging truth about marriage as we have received it from God.” In an interview with Rhode Island Public Radio, RI Senate President Teresa Paiva-Weed of Newport (a previous opponent of same-sex marriage) said she “certainly would not join in that call” in reference to Bishop Tobin’s statement, and noted that regardless of the Bishop’s moral and personal beliefs that he is entitled to, the U.S. Constitution must be obeyed.

RI International Film Fest Screens 40+ LGBTQ Films The Providence LGBTQ Film Festival runs August 4-9. It features a diverse sampling of over 40 international and domestic films made by and for members of the LGBTQ community and includes romantic comedies, journeys of discovery, concerns of aging, and issues affecting the trans community. Screening locations include Bell Street Chapel in Providence, the RISD Museum, the Paff Theatre at URI-CCE,The Vets Ballroom, and the Greenwich Odeum.

Programming will include an expanded focus on social and political issues, plus a special weekend symposium. Discussion panels with filmmakers and LGBTQ community members will follow select screenings to develop community discourse. Screenings cost $10.

The LGBTQ Film Festival is a cinematic sidebar of the FLICKERS: Rhode Island International Film Festival. FLICKERS is a non-profit arts

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organization that supports and promotes the film arts in Rhode Island and throughout New England. More details and a downloadable schedule of the films can be found at www.RIFilmFest.org.

Same-Sex Couples Denied Marriage Licenses in Southern Counties

Just days after the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling to legalize samesex marriages, April Miller and Karen Ann Roberts of Rowan County, Kentucky were denied a marriage license, the clerk telling them that Rowan County was no longer issuing licenses to any of its residents. In counties across Alabama,Texas, Kentucky, and Nebraska, courthouses were turning away countless couples seeking to wed, despite state officials ordering courthouse clerks to comply with the Supreme Court ruling. Kim Davis, a clerk from Rowan County, had ceased issuing licenses to straight and LGBT couples alike, stating bluntly that allowing gays to marry “goes against everything I hold dear, everything sacred in my life.” Davis told ABC News, “My conscience won’t allow me.” Lawsuits have been filed against many of the clerks refusing to grant licenses and recent laws have passed in North Carolina and Utah requiring clerks who object to same-sex marriage to stop all of their marriage duties for six months. Luckily, LGBT advocates have put measures in place to ensure that same-sex couples can obtain licenses to wed from other officials in their counties. According to attorneys representing many of the higher profile LGBT cases, the clerks who are opposing the ruling of the Supreme Court could be fined, fired from their positions, or even face jail time for not performing their jobs and for their role in perpetuating discrimination.

RI LGBTQQ Youth Mentoring Program Announced

Youth Pride Inc. (YPI) is partnering up with Big Brothers Big Sisters of the Ocean State (BBBSOS) to start an LGBTQQ Youth Mentoring program. This program will match youth between the ages of 11 and 21 in a one-on-one mentoring relationship with an adult volunteer mentor. In order to be selected for the program, a mentor must participate in a thorough interview with a Program Coordinator to create the best match possible between the mentor and mentee. Ideally, volunteers will share similar interests with the youth they are paired with. The mentor’s skills and experience will play a crucial role in helping to educate youth in curriculum-focused topics, such as LGBTQQ history, gender identity, and safer sex. The initial commitment for a volunteer mentor is one year and visits with a youth will be bi-weekly at YPI under the guidance of BBBSOS and YPI staff. For more information or to volunteer to the program, visit YouthPrideRI.org.

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Caitlin Jenner Honored at 2015 ESPY Awards

At the 2015 ESPY Awards held at the Nokia Theater in Los Angeles on July 15, Caitlyn Jenner made her first major televised

appearance since her transition. Jenner was awarded the prestigious Arthur Ashe Courage Award, whose previous winners have included Nelson Mandela, Pat Tilman, and Muhammad Ali. After receiving a large amount of backlash for honoring Jenner in lieu of other candidates, ESPN released a statement: “The Arthur Ashe Courage Award is meant to honor individuals whose contributions transcend sports through courageous action. Sometimes that courage is demonstrated over the course of a lifetime and sometimes it is demonstrated in a single act that shines a light on an important contemporary issue.”

Jenner gave a heartfelt and tearful acceptance speech thanking her family and the trans advocates who have been contributing to the worldwide dialogue leading to trans acceptance, and received a standing ovation. “Trans people deserve something vital.They deserve your respect,” she said. “And from that respect comes a more compassionate community, a more empathetic society and a better world for all of us.”

Girl Scouts Return $100k Donation Excluding Trans Girls

A donor who wishes to remain anonymous made a $100,000 donation to the Western Washington council of the Girl Scouts of America, which amounts to one quarter of the council’s yearly fundraising goal.The donation came with a stipulation from the donor: “Please guarantee that our gift will not be used to support transgender girls. If you can’t, please return the money.” While each council of the Girl Scouts is able to independently decide whether or not to include trans girls in the respective chapters, the national organization has been adamant in being inclusive of trans members, regardless of some major backlash received in recent years. The Girl Scouts of Western Washington held strong to their decision to accept trans girls and returned the check. “Girl Scouts is for every girl. And every girl should have the opportunity to be a Girl Scout if she wants to,” said Megan Ferland, CEO of the Western Washington Council. To make up for the loss of money that would have funded the membership of 500 girls, the troop launched an Indiegogo campaign to raise money

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from sponsors who believe in the acceptance of all girls. Within a day, the campaign raised well over their $100,000 goal and surpassed $350,000 in two weeks. Of the success of their campaign, Ferland said, “The only way we’re going to fulfill our mission of building girls of courage, confidence, and character who make the world a better place is if we make sure there aren’t any barriers in place for girls’ success.”

Boy Scouts of America Prepare to Welcome Gay Leaders

Almost since its inception in 1910, the Boy Scouts of America have been opposed to homosexuality within their organization. In early 2014, they finally rescinded their ban on having gay members as scouts, but they kept their ban on having gay or bisexual men to act as leaders of their troops.This year, however, an executive committee for the Boy Scouts of America unanimously agreed to remove the ban on both gay adult leaders and volunteers. This decision will go into effect immediately and, according to the activist group Scouts for Equality, will help to provide acceptance and inclusion of gay and bisexual adults and youth. The change will also allow adults who have been previously removed from the organization for their sexuality to re-apply for their former positions. “For decades, the Boy Scouts of America’s ban on gay adults has stood as a towering example of explicit, institutional homophobia in one of America’s most important and recognizable civic organizations,” said Zach Wahls, an Eagle Scout and the Executive Director of Scouts for Equality. “While this policy change is not perfect—BSA’s religious chartering partners will be allowed to continue to discriminate against gay adults—it is difficult to overstate the importance of today’s announcement.”

Historic LGBT Rights Bill Introduced to Congress

Last month The Equality Act, an LGBT non-discrimination bill originally proposed in 1974, was introduced to Congress by Senator Jeff Merkley (D-OR) and Representative David Cicilline (DRI). The bill’s co-sponsors include Senators Tammy Baldwin, Cory Booker, and Chuck Schumer, and Representatives Nancy Pelosi, John Lewis and Jared Polis. The bill would extend protections named in the 1964 Civil Rights Act to LGBT citizens, thereby prohibiting discrimination based on gender identity and sexual orientation in employment, housing, education, credit, public accommodations, jury service, and federally funded programs. Democrats are hoping that the U.S. Supreme Court ruling on marriage equality will provide momentum to push the bill through Congress. In a letter written to the Republican-dominated Congress, Representative Cicilline (pictured) wrote, “In most states, a same-sex couple can get married on Saturday, post pictures on Facebook on Sunday, and then risk being fired from their job or kicked out of their apartment on Monday. A majority of states in our country do not have laws that protect LGBT individuals against discrimination…We need a uniform federal standard that protects all LGBT Americans from discrimination.”q

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Celebrating Gay Pioneers::

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by Bradford Greer

On July 4, 1965, 40 brave people carried signs calling for homosexual emancipation and marched at Independence Hall in Philadelphia. It was the largest demonstration of its kind ever in the country and was the first of many homosexual demonstrations for civil rights held every July 4th in Philadelphia until 1969. The demonstrations were called “Annual Reminders.” July 4, 2015 marked the 50th anniversary of that first courageous protest.

Noted lesbian comic Wanda Sykes was the Master of Ceremonies at a series of events taking place in Philadelphia (July 2-5) to commemorate this historic event. “America the Beautiful” sung by the New York, Washington, DC, and Philadelphia Gay Men’s Choruses opened the celebration. “Over the Rainbow” was sung by Jonathon Allen, the 18 year-old America’s Got Talent opera singer who was thrown out of his house by his parents for being gay, and former Lady Ga-Ga back-up singer/ dancer Go-Go Morrow.

James Obergefell, the victorious plaintiff in the recent historic United States Supreme Court decision on marriage equality, laid a wreath at the Gay Pioneers historical marker, which is across the street from Independence Hall. There were LGBT history exhibits

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at the National Constitution Center, The National Museum of American Jewish History, and the AfricanAmerican Museum. One of the many events staged was a reenactment of the first picket line with 40 activists who marched in front of Independence Hall with reproductions of the original signs.

Attendees participated in legal and political panel discussions, an interfaith service, a 50th Anniversary concert, numerous parties and celebrations, and a special screening of The Gay Pioneers as the centerpiece of the celebration. The Gay Pioneers was produced in 2013 by the Equality Forum, a Philadelphia-based nonprofit that produces documentary 1

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films to advance LGBT civil rights, and WHYY-TV, which has chronicled the modern gay rights movement since before Stonewall.

Before the rainbow, before anyone threw a strappy sling-back or smacked a policeman across the head with a beaded handbag, before a lesbian threw a punch, before a homeless gay youth lobbed a bottle into the fray that became known as The Stonewall Uprising, there was a group of people who had already been marching for equal rights for years.

The Gay Pioneers documents footage from FBI files of the early demonstrations, and includes interviews, protocols, and photographs from

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the early activists. According to the documentary, the fear of retribution fueled the debate as to whether or not to do something so public as a demonstration. They decided on a strict dress code. They were instructed to look as normal as possible—like any one of the neighboring businesses would want to hire them. The idea was not to have people gawk at them but to focus on the messages on the picket signs. When the lowering of the American flag occurred, they lowered their signs and stood with their hands over their hearts to show that they were proud Americans—first-class citizens, not marginal or second-class citizens. These homosexual Americans did this every year on the fourth of July and their numbers increased each year.

In 1969, just one week after Stonewall, the group attracted about 150 people.

They weren’t queer with a capital Q then. They weren’t even gay. Homosexual first appeared in the American dictionary in 1938. Until then, they were referred to as degenerates and perverts. After that they were referred to as homos, fruits, light in the loafers, and Nancy boys. The word dyke was always preceded by the word bull, and queer was always said with a sneer.

They were that way, and confirmed bachelors or spinsters in polite society.

Frank Kameny and Barbara Gittings organized the first demonstrations in Philadelphia in 1965 and are arguably considered the mother and father of the gay rights movement. In 1969, they recognized the events at Stonewall as the homosexual Boston Tea Party moment, and shifted their energies after the march in Philadelphia to help organize

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the 1970 march from Greenwich Village to Central Park, marking the first anniversary of Stonewall with what would eventually come to be known as the first Pride Parade.

Barbara Gittings (1932-2007) started the New York chapter of the lesbian organization Daughters of Bilitis in 1958, and served on the boards of the National Gay Task Force and the Gay Rights National Lobby in the 1970s.

She also presented to the American Psychiatric Association, urging them to declassify homosexuality as a mental illness, and won an honorary Lifetime Achievement Award from the American Library Association for her work in promoting gay materials and eliminating gay invisibility in libraries.

Frank Kameny (1925-2011) was dismissed from his job as an astronomer in the U.S. Army because of his homosexuality.

His was the first recorded appeal in civil court based on sexual orientation.

5 He lost twice and took his case to the Supreme Court who refused to hear it.

In 1961, he co-founded the Mattachine Society. Kameny launched a picket line with other gays and lesbians at the White House on April 17, 1965. Twelve of the picket signs from that march are in the Smithsonian National Museum of American History. In 1971, he became the first openly gay candidate for congress in the District of Columbia.

He sat in the front row when President Obama signed the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Repeal Act of 2010” and his house is listed on the National Register of Historic Places.

This 50th anniversary celebration featured prominent guests such as Judy

Shepard and Staff Sergeant Eric Alva, the first soldier to win the Purple Heart in the Iraq War. Supreme Court Plaintiff Edith Windsor was also honored. The aforementioned Gay Men’s Choruses closed the ceremonies with their rendition of Cyndi Lauper’s “True Colors.”

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White House, President Obama stated: “Let us recommit to reaching for a tomorrow where no matter who we are or who we love, each of us is equally recognized and celebrated.”

For more information regarding this 50th anniversary celebration, visit www. lgbt50.org.q Photo Captions: 1. Gay Pioneers film poster 2. 1965 Protest 3. Celebration Logo 4. Gay Historic Marker, photo by K.Ciappa 5. Frank Kameny 6. Gittings Pickets in 1966, photo by Kay Lahusen 7. Spectators at LGBT 50th Ceremony, photo

by Christopher Brucks National LGBT 50th Anniversary photos courtesy of Equality Forum.

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A Local Story:

Jessica Brand

by TC Rogers

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and the Journey to Herself

s transgender issues gain media attention, Rhode Island native and University of Rhode Island (URI) graduate Jessica Brand takes the topic to a more local and even deeper place. Jessica aims to help youth who are struggling to be seen and heard as their authentic selves within their bodies and their sex. She was the student speaker at the grand opening of the University of Rhode Island’s Gender and Sexuality Center on May 6 of this year and has been interviewed by NPR and various newspapers.

Jessica knew at an early age that her true gender was incongruent with her physical body and endured severe depression because of it. Unfortunately this experience is too common among transgender individuals. Jessica explained, “Countless times, around age three to four, I would slam the toilet seat down on it, trying to snap it off like a twig.” As she continued to age into a body that was not hers, the measures taken to cope led to more significant consequences. “One day, around age nine, I was so resentful of my body that I took a saw to the offending area, and began to slice back and forth on it.” She attempted suicide several times, and was almost successful once.

Jessica discussed notable shifts within her personal journey—physical ones induced by hormones and surgery, and symbolic ones, like a name change. “A new name was never difficult for me [or my sisters]. It was a bit harder for my mother, though not in a condemning way; it was just a psychological adjustment to a new name and female pronouns.” Although Jessica was not open about her journey with many people at URI, she found the campus and its medical staff to be safe and supportive.

More recently, Jessica took the final step in her journey-having sexual reassignment surgery, which URI health insurance covered after the co-pay.The surgery took place in San Francisco because there are no local places to have it done. “It has been much easier to communicate with others since this process began. I also have become much more happy, and ever since surgery, feel that I finally love myself for who I am,” Jessica stated.

When asked what would have happened if she were unable to have sexual reassignment surgery, she answered, “I was going to commit suicide.This body, and living the life that it implied was simply that terrible for me and made me hate myself beyond all

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words. It was absolutely a necessity for my survival.”

Jessica classifies herself as one who had a transsexual medical condition and is now cured. Encouraging us to dig deeper in our understanding of sex and gender, Jessica explained, “I am no longer trans. In Latin, trans means through and I have completed my journey.”

So, who is Jessica Brand at the end of this journey? She’s a thoughtful and articulate young adult, with a remarkably supportive family, who enjoys sports, traveling, romantic comedies, politics, the stock market, and cherry cheesecake.“Since transition, I would say that my interests remained largely the same, but with the important note that I now feel safer, on an interpersonal level, about being able to express these interests,” she shared. And after years of feeling as if she couldn’t form close relationships because she wasn’t truly herself, she’s especially ready for a “nice boyfriend.”

Her future professional endeavors include working on Wall Street and being an advocate for those with a transsexual medical condition, especially youth. Jessica advocates for crucial advancements, such as the ability to “make sex changeable on birth certificates in all 50 states, have hormones provided at the age of 12 or 13 for all transsexual youth, change sex before age of majority in all states (as Rhode Island has done), and creating a greater support network for youth.”

Additionally, Jessica serves on the board of and has a feature role in the documentary What I’m Made Of, which for two years has chronicled the journeys of transgender and genderqueer teens and their families as the teens safely transition under the care of Rhode Island pediatrician Dr. Michelle Forcier. The film is scheduled for release in 2016. The trailer and information can be found at www.wimodoc.com.

Jessica’s journey, at times filled with concerning despair, ends joyfully. Her perseverance and courage, support from loved ones and medical professionals, and appropriate medical coverage helped Jessica become her true self. “You just never know what to expect from society at times, but Rhode Island seems to be doing a simply fantastic job of equity matters here,” Jessica posited. For those experiencing challenges relating to gender, she advised, “Find even the simplest way to be yourself. Stand up for your right to simply be. Embrace yourself, and just let you be you!”q

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Women’s

Rugby

by Kelly Scafariello

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group of women are packed closely together in a circle on a field. Heads are down and there is a great deal of movement only to attempt to gain possession of an egg-shaped ball.This is known as a scrum and the sport is Rugby.

Women’s rugby has been growing in North America and has a loyal following. The sport is most commonly found in colleges. In 2004, a group of women who had recently graduated from colleges in or near Providence came together to play the sport at area fields. The women enjoyed playing so much that they formed the Providence Women’s Rugby Football Club (PWRFC) and began competing in matches against area teams within the New England Rugby Football Union (NERFU).

The PWRFC currently has between 20-25 active members and plays in fall, winter, and spring. The competitive season is fall, where the PWRFC competes in Division I or II levels against NERFU teams from Worcester, Boston, Hartford, Portland, Burlington, and crossover matches with the New York region team from Brooklyn.

The competitive season can see anywhere from six to ten matches. For the upcoming 2015 season, the team is scheduled to play eight matches from September 12 through October 31.

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PWRFC play their home matches in Pawtucket but practice twice a week on the campus of Johnson & Wales University in Providence. Depending on how successful the season is, the PWRFC can advance out of region and compete at the national stage.

President Susan Ely said that the women involved are loyal to the club and love to see new women join. She encourages women who have no, some, or other club experience to join. PWRFC is currently taking sign-ups for those interested in playing in the competitive fall season. For first-time players, registration starts at $25. Ely said, “We keep registration costs low for first-time players because we want the women to have a positive experience in getting to learn more about the club to see if it is something that they want to be a part of.”

Michelle Vander Ploeg plays the 8 man position and remarked that, “Coach Kathy Flores is a rugby celebrity, but she’s so down to earth you would never know she’s such a star from talking with her. She teaches through caring, pushes us to work hard, and makes you want to excel.”

If playing non-competitively is something that particularly interests you, the spring and summer seasons may be more

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would like to see the sport continue to gain support with the city, the state, and ultimately throughout the country. If you are interested in participating in the upcoming fall season or simply want to learn more about the Providence Women’s Rugby Football Club, visit www.providencerugby.com or contact Susan Ely at susanely@gmail.com. q

suitable. Ely noted that the spring and summer seasons are not as formal and at times they play with fewer people on the field.

Traditionally, during the competitive season, teams play 15 vs.

15. In the non-competitive seasons, it is common for teams to play 7 vs. 7. Ely said that spring and summer seasons tend to be more social and those who have never played the sport may find it easier to ease into it. Cat Carmignan, who plays scrumhalf and wing, joked, “If we win we get beers. If we lose we get beers. We say, ‘Let’s take it to them and get some beers!’”

Captain Alicia “Sox” Gloria initially joined the group to continue in a sport that she loved playing in college and also wanted an opportunity to meet new people in a social setting.

The PWRFC is perfect for that. The team holds fundraisers to help pay for field rental and officials’ fees for the competitive season. In the spring, the PWRFC hosts an annual collegiate tournament and a special touch rugby event for fun. The PWRFC volunteers in community events like Habitat for Humanity and Relay for Life. Socially, the group has been known to attend Red Sox games and informally get together around town for drinks. Ely said, “there is a great deal of camaraderie within the team and sometimes even with other area teams.”

Boofer & Cat

Kara “Boofer” Plaxa, who plays prop and second row, said, “In rugby, players need to trust and support each other.

In this league, that support is also found off the field. I couldn’t have found stronger bonds of friendship than with those of my teammates.”

Essentially, Ely wants to encourage women of all ages and levels, from novice to seasoned players to join the PWRFC. She

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Passages: Beverly Case

by Christion S. Battey

Comprehensive Emergency Services Program, which helps troubled families with short-term assistance and support.

In January 1997 I attended a two-day training at the RI Department of Health called HIV 101 and have been working with HIV positive clients ever since. Over the years there have been some traumatic losses, as well as a few successes (such as the opening of the AFIA Dropin Center in 2003 and the recent cure for Hepatitis C).

As I retire, I shall miss my clients, co-workers, and colleagues from other agencies and I will always be grateful to Family Service of Rhode Island for the opportunity to make a positive difference in people’s lives and to be paid to do so!” – Beverly Case Beverly enriched so many lives: her friends, family, co Beverly (Cleworth) Case, beloved friend and colleague who retired this past April after twenty-five years of service to workers, and her clients here at APRI. She once told me that AIDS Project RI, passed away on July 14. Beverly was someone her clients were like “extended family members…you need who gave so much to others and expected nothing in return. to be there for them no matter what the circumstances are.”

Upon her retirement, I asked her to type something up for me so She certainly lived that sentiment and always went above I could include it in an all-agency email. Beverly was “old school,” and beyond to make sure all of her clients’ needs were met, and the next morning, I had a hand-written letter on my desk. regardless of the circumstances. Her level of commitment and I chuckled and said, “That is so Beverly.” As I typed her words, case management support was like no other. She will be missed.

I realized the impact she had on so many people throughout q her career. We are proud to share her letter with readers here:

“I have always believed that helping other people Christion Battey is the Program Coordinator should be a lifelong endeavor. So I was overjoyed to be of HIV Testing and Prevention for AIDS Project RI. is a division of Family Service of RI, providing hired by Family Service of Rhode Island in January 1990 to APRI case management, various health-related services, do just that—in the Adolescent Pregnancy and Parenting advocacy, prevention education, and HIV and Hep-C Program at Chariho High School. My youngest son was still testing. APRI’s location is 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. a student there, which made for a very interesting first year. Call (401) 831-5522 or visit www.aisdprojectri.org

When the agency lost the APP contract with the for more info. state in 1996, I was invited to work in Providence in the

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Get Ready to Dash!

by Christopher Dalpe for AIDS Care Ocean State

High Heel Dash and AIDS Walk RI

It’s time to dust off those old pumps and get to steppin’ because you don’t want to miss the first annual High Heel Dash & Block Party on Sunday, August 23 at The Stable (125 Washington Street, Providence). AIDS Care Ocean State (ACOS) and AIDS Project Rhode Island (APRI) have teamed up this year for the 30th Anniversary AIDS Walk RI and together we’re bringing you some offthe-wall fundraisers like the High Heel Dash.

Queens, bears, men, women, experts, novices, and everyone in between are getting into heels and making a mad dash to benefit HIV/AIDS causes this summer.You think you have what it takes? Then come on down to The Stable in your best stilettos, platforms, wedges, kinky boots, or whatever you have and dash with us! Dashers will be making a run for it up Washington Street to Empire Street and then back to The Stable’s Block Party. Whether you’ve never run in heels or you’ve done it too many times, it’s going to be a blast! Fabulous 1st and 2nd prizes will be awarded for men and women.We’ll be partying all day, enjoying delicious food on the grill,The Stable’s beverages, and music and dancing from noon to 6pm with your hostesses Kitty Litter and BB Hayes. Registration costs $25 and begins at 12pm, or you can register now at aidscareos.org. The Dash is at 2pm. We will not be supplying any footwear at the event, so if you need size 14 heels you best get to shopping/thrifting/hunting now.

The fun doesn’t stop there. ACOS and APRI will see you at the 2015 AIDS Walk RI on September 13, 12pm at the Rhode Island State House followed by the Aborn Street block party. Create your walk page today and start fundraising at firstgiving.com/aidswalkri.

Warren and was active coaching youth baseball when I was growing up….Volunteering is a way to get myself out there while also helping others.” Leo is creative, kind, and dedicated. ACOS thanks him for all the long days, late nights, and wonderful work he has done for the community. When asked what advice he’d give to those who’d like to follow in his foot-steps he said, “I get more back than I give.

Overall, the people that volunteer and work in non-profit agencies are great, generous, and loving people. I treasure the friendships I have made and experiences I have had. If my efforts have helped improve someone’s life in any small way, the time I have put into it was well worth it. More people should give it a try!” q

AIDS Care Ocean State provides comprehensive AIDS service, supportive housing, emergency funds, and a Speakers Bureau. Located at 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. (401) 521-3603. Appointments: (401) 781-0665. www. aidscareoceanstate.org.

Swing for the Fences with ACOS

On September 19 your favorite drag divas are going head-tohead against the Renaissance City Softball League Swingers with a game at 2pm followed by a home-run derby (Agawam Softball Complex, 1600 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence).

Volunteer Spotlight: Leo Mansi

Longstanding volunteer Leo Mansi was recently named AIDS Care Ocean State’s Volunteer of the Year. You know Leo if you’ve ever attended Drag Bingo.

He probably helped you find your seats with a smile on his face. Leo has been volunteering at Bingo every month for over eight years and has been volunteering at AIDS Walk Rhode Island for over 15 years. When asked why he began volunteering, Leo replied, “I’ve always believed that everyone should give back to their community. Over the years, I have volunteered for various religious and civic organizations. My father set an example for me. He was the long-time clerk of the Rough and Ready Fire Company in

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Ask Me

Anything:

Kathy

Griffin

by Kristen Connolly

Comedy legend Kathy Griffin is bringing her “Like a Boss” tour to Rhode Island for two shows on August 21. Kathy recently took time out of her busy schedule to dish about her life on the D-list, her thoughts about Rhode Island, and her next targets.

Options: You’ve performed in Rhode Island more than a few times. As a native Midwesterner who’s spent a lot of your time on the West Coast, what’s it like to visit here?

come to one of my shows, you get to hear all of your horrible thoughts come out of my mouth. You just relax, sit back, and laugh at everything I say. I think this is a fair and equitable deal.

Kathy Griffin: I have a thing for the accents of your people.

Right now, there’s this skinny, adorable gay guy on Big Brother with a nice, strong Rhode Island accent and it tickles me just to look at him and listen to him. I’m banking on that with my audience. Unlike most people, I proudly say, “I hope you laugh just looking at me.” Then I make fun of President Trump.

O: What’s your pre-show routine? How do you warm up when you get to a new city?

O: Tell us about your shows on August 21 in Newport. What should we expect?

KG: First of all, leave your damn kids at home. After an unprecedented 23 televised stand-up specials, I hope you get it by now. My material is up-to-the-minute, brilliant, current—but mostly wrong, and all kinds of inappropriate.

O: What have those who have never been to one of your shows been missing?

KG: A combination of belly laughter, nervous laughter, and a lot of looking around to see if what I have just said made anyone in your row want to storm out of the show. I mean, how can you resist that? I take no prisoners. I don’t hold back. And when you

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KG: I typically have a Cobb salad three hours prior to show time. Whatever. Here’s the fun part: I have the best time making each show unique and different. I will be making fun of you people right to your faces. I love gathering local material and luckily, you nutjobs never let me down. God only knows what crazy local business establishment I will pass on the way to the show or a breaking news story I will catch on one of your local news channels. Every city has a Ron Burgundy. I bring the local flavor kind of like Anthony Bourdain, but the parts will be known, not unknown.

O: What’s on your Rhode Island bucket list? Any favorite spots, places?

KG: This is where you get your directive from me. I am counting on my fans to tweet me @KathyGriffin or send me Facebook messages with any appropriate or inappropriate insider dirt about Rhode Island that I can sneak into my act. That is one of

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the wonderful things about the “Like a Boss” tour. When you play 80 cities in a year, people will give you dirt via social media at the drop of a hat. Start tweeting me now and I will follow your lead.

O: You’ve been on TV, in movies, you’ve written books, hosted talk shows, and, of course, done standup. What have you enjoyed most?

KG: There is nothing like LIVE touring. Ten years ago, my agents were telling me that television and live entertainment were dead. Well guess what? No one is ever going to want to watch the Super Bowl on their cell phone and while I love doing all kinds of television, from live New Year’s Eve coverage with Anderson Cooper on CNN to winning my two Emmys, nothing can replicate the delicious and twisted energy that comes from a live audience. Most of the things I will be saying on stage Friday, August 21 in Newport, Rhode Island could not be televised!

O: I polled some friends and asked them what they would ask you. They wanted to know when you would be on Law and Order again.

KG: Look, I have carried that show like the world’s heaviest backpack for long enough. I had so much fun playing a lesbian on Law & Order: SUV. (Yes, my 95-year old alcoholic mother Maggie insists on calling it Law & Order: SUV.) That guest appearance was written for me by the show. I would love nothing more than to do a guest appearance that is juicy, and on a show that

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will run forever in reruns. Are you listening, Scandal? Modern Family? CSI? Come on, Black-ish!

O: I loved your takeover on Big Brother this summer, and the Ginger Pride houseguest competition. Is Ginger Pride a real movie? (Because if it isn’t it probably should be.) Who would you pick to be your co-star if you could pick anyone?

KG: First of all, it’s Ginger Fever, you hack. I have been handed a list of names by CBS and turned them all down. Brad Pitt?

Too old. Jake Gyllenhaal? Never heard of him. Chris Pratt? Too doughy. Not if, but when Ginger Fever is made into a series and a feature film, I will only allow Tom Brady to be my co-star. How’s that for pandering?

O: You’ve been a huge proponent for marriage equality for as long as I can remember, and even went door-to-door to campaign against Proposition 8. How did you celebrate the recent Supreme Court ruling?

KG: I think I cried a little, actually. Then I went on every retail website I could think of because the 700,000 gay men that I know are all registered there now. Look, equality is a marathon, not a sprint. As a woman working in an extremely sexist field, I have always identified with the LGBT community. I have been front and center and happy to be involved in this struggle because I identify with living a life where you know you have to work twice as hard to get the same opportunity as others. I too, was born this way—including the dance mix.

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O: Beyond marriage equality, you’ve done a lot over the years to support the LGBT community, and continue to work for HIV/AIDS support and prevention. (I remember your rally against “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” on My Life on the D List.) Why did you choose to be so involved and, of everything you’ve done, what are you most proud of?

KG: I became more involved with the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” after I went to Afghanistan on a USO tour and performed for our troops. I have many friends in the military and have heard many heartbreaking and heroic stories from the LGBT-proud military members. In my small way, I think the best way I can help is by simply giving them a laugh. And when that doesn’t work, you testify before a Senate committee before they kick you out.

O: I know you love your gays. What do you want to say to your Rhode Island gays?

KG: Let’s be honest, the Rhode Island LGBTQIA2’s can be a little, how shall I say, rough around the edges. I mean, what has the world come to when I look out into my own audience in Rhode Island and see both straight and gay men who are quite muscley and clad in either Ed Hardy or Affliction T-shirt wear?

Give a sister a break. Just a simple, “Hey Gurrl,” will give me a little clarity. I know we are all equal and God’s children and all that, but I am bilingual; I speak English and Gay. O: How’s Cher?

KG: Cher is F-ing Cher! That’s how Cher is. She will tell you that herself. Her cat, Mr. Big, died recently. I loved that cat. Cher and I would be sitting in her room eating delicious sushi from Nobu and Mr. Big would hop on the couch and Cher would yell, “Get down, Mr. Big” in a very thick Cher accent. Many emojis were passed back and forth between us. Not me and the cat—Cher and I. O: What’s next for Kathy Griffin? Any new TV or movie projects?

KG: I’ve just finished my first script for a comedy series that I may or may not be in. I write my own entire stand-up material.

I don’t know if you know this, but a lot of famous comedians don’t even write their own TV stand-up material or live material.

That is baffling to me. My stand-up is highly improvisational, as

you will see. But I also love to bang some stuff out on the computer until it’s good and funny. I also would love to do a juicy role in a feature film. It’s time, don’t you think? That’s right—I’m looking for my Precious.You can think of me as either Mo’Nique or Mariah Carey, just as long as you think of me. Oh, and did I mention that I’m playing the iconic Mark Taper Forum in Los Angeles the first week of November and the incredible Carnegie Hall in New York on November 12?

O: Who’s the next target?

KG: Obviously, Donald Trump. But trust me, I have my eye on the whole line-up. All the candidates are imploding in a way that is a dream for a comedian such as myself. Be warned: I will be talking about Caitlyn Jenner. When she sat down with Diane Sawyer (and you can look this up), the first thing she said to Diane was, “It’s very important to me that we maintain a sense of humor about all this.” I hope she meant it. I had just about run out of Kardashians to make fun of.

O: Anything else you’d like to mention?

KG: I’d like some damn credit for the fact that after two Emmys, a Grammy, the Guinness Book World Record for the most televised stand-up specials of any comedian male or female, and decades of activism, I’ve decided to do 80 cities in this “Like a Boss” tour. I’ve clearly lost my mind, but I must admit that the best part is truly going everywhere in America. From my sold-out Kennedy Center show to Billings, Montana, to Rohnert Park, California (and I don’t even know where Rohnert Park is), touring is so much fun! Please go to KathyGriffin.com and follow me on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. I promise that each of the 80 shows will be dangerous and different on each given night. And thank you for supporting live entertainment.

There’s nothing like it.

Catch Kathy at 7pm and 9:30pm on Friday, August, 21 as part of the Newport Summer Comedy Series, now at its new home at the Newport Hyatt on Goat Island. Order your tickets now at www.NewportComedy.com. Tweet Kathy at @KathyGriffin and you could end up in her act!q

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News from SAGE-RI

by Sally Ann Hay

What’s Kim Up To Now? July 13 was a momentous day for SAGE-RI. Not only did we have our first official Advisory Committee meeting at our new home at CareLink, we also welcomed Kim Stowell (pictured) as SAGE-RI’s new Executive Director. Kim will lead SAGE-RI as we learn how to most effectively address the unique concerns of LGBT older adults while navigating the CareLink system and situating SAGE within that organization to best meet everyone’s needs. We are delighted to have Kim at the helm. She is well-grounded in Rhode Island’s LGBT community and has great organizational skills, as we have seen in her work as the Managing Editor of Options, as Communications Manager for the Greater Providence YMCA, and through her efforts on behalf of the RI LGBT Center. Welcome, Kim Stowell!

Brunchtime We look forward to gathering the SAGE clan at our September brunch to celebrate and share more information about the recent merger with CareLink, and to let you hear Kim Stowell’s vision of SAGE-RI’s future. A key agenda item for this event is the election of a board of directors—the next step to strengthen our organization.

We will meet at Chelo’s in Warwick (2225 Post Road, 1/3 mile walk from the RIPTA bus #1 Radisson Hotel stop) on Saturday, September 19, from 11am to 1pm. All are welcome, though voting is limited to individuals who have been SAGE-RI members for at least 30 days and whose annual dues are current. Reservations are a must. Give us a call or drop us a note for more information.

Building Our Base You’ve heard it here before: if SAGE-RI isn’t already important to you, it should be! Help us ensure that your next decades (whatever your age may be today) are lived with the respect, support, and LGBT-competent services you want and deserve. Our recent changes have positioned us to be an even greater force for good.

A growing membership will make these efforts stronger and, as we come together, more effective. Members will be entitled to vote for the Board of Directors, have a stronger voice in setting the organization’s priorities, have greater opportunities to network with peers, be eligible for reduced fees on many events and gatherings, be a part of the national network of SAGE affiliates, and support an organization that has advocated for the LGBT older adult community in Rhode Island since 1997. Annual dues (which are tax-deductible) are $25 for individuals, $30 for a couple or family, $15 for students or people with limited incomes, and you can become a lifetime member for $500. Checks payable to SAGERI should be sent to the address below. Questions? Drop us a line or give us a call.

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Have You Been to the Café?

Who knew a senior meal site could be so cool? Our next lunchtime gathering will mark the 6-month anniversary of the LGBT Café. To date, we’ve been serenaded by Mary Day, talked about “Our Tomorrow” (a national initiative of LGBT groups to develop an LGBT agenda), and watched some great movies! Hang out with old friends, meet new friends, and enjoy a tasty meal at a very reasonable price. The next Café will be on Friday, August 21 at noon, at the Church of the Transfiguration (1665 Broad Street, Cranston). By bus, take the Broad Street bus to Grand Avenue and it’s a short walk back to the church. Enter via the ramp/walkway on Wheeler Avenue. Reservations must be made by calling Pauline at 351-6700. Plan on joining us!q SAGE-RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) addresses issues of concern to LGBT elders and is an organization of diverse people of all ages. For information on programs or to join SAGE-RI, drop us a line at sageriinfo@gmail.com; leave us a message at (401) 443-4451; write to us at one Virginia Ave., Providence, RI 02905; or visit sage-ri.org.

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Summer is in full swing. You’d better get out and soak it all in before the crisp fall air cascades over New England. We have certainly been out on the town since summer began. We’ll fill you in on a few favorite happenings.

In early June, we cruised to Bermuda on the 2nd Annual Kitty Litter ACOS Cruise. What a fabulous week! The bus ride from Cranston to New Jersey (where we would sail away on Celebrity Cruise Lines) was a fun opportunity to chat with fellow AIDS Care Ocean State supporters and connect with new people like Belinda and Kelli who were married the day before and made this trip their honeymoon. Forming new friendships and vacationing with friends was just what we needed after the longest winter ever. All our cruise buddies were so much fun and we enjoyed their company immensely. Be on the lookout for information regarding next year’s cruise—this time to the Bahamas.

June 20 was the day we had been waiting for all year: RI PrideFest. We felt like kids at Christmas. We began our day by volunteering at the Options booth, passing out magazines, chatting with community members, and happily meeting many supporters—readers like you! We walked the length of the festival with Melanie’s cousin Jaime and her girlfriend Leslie, who met three years ago at Pride and have been inseparable ever since. Knowing that a marriage proposal from Jaime was imminent, I feverishly and secretly snapped pictures as they walked hand in hand past the vendors. All eyes were on Jaime as she got down on one knee and proposed. Cheers erupted when the crowd realized what was happening. Options

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photographer Jen Bonin skillfully captured the tender moment and her photo was featured in the July issue. Congratulations to Jaime and Leslie!

June 26, 2015—a day for the history books! The Supreme Court of the United States ruled in favor of marriage equality.

It was the news we had all been waiting years to hear. As we watched the blogs and news websites, anxiously awaiting the decision, we had time to reflect on those who fought this battle long before us. We thought of the men and women who, in 1969 at the Stonewall Inn in New York City, fought back and stood up for themselves and in turn stood up for all gay and lesbian people. So many people worked tirelessly for equality long before we even came out of the proverbial closet; those are the real heroes of the movement and we applauded them that day. As Annie heard the news at work, tears began to flow down her cheeks. Was this real? It is real! Overwhelmed with emotion, the congratulatory emails, texts, and Facebook posts began pouring in from friends and family. Smiles were fixed on our faces all day and night, right through the celebration at the Roger Williams National Park in Providence where advocates rejoiced in seeing their hard work come to fruition and reminded us that the road to equality continues. After the celebration, we dined in the city and enjoyed champagne toasts with dear friends Kyle, Donny, John, and Mark. Love wins!

Summer isn’t over yet. There’s plenty to do. Drag Brunch is back and if you haven’t joined us at The Stable for an Options Release Party, you’re missing out. Check the calendar for details.

Come out, be seen, and be part of the community!q

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RI PR I D E

by Kurt Bagley

Volunteer Appreciation PrideFest volunteers and their guests enjoyed a party in their honor hosted at the home of Pride President Kurt Bagley on July 18. Complete with a 25-foot tall inflatable doublewaterslide, it was a great afternoon of bonding over food and games that lasted well into the night. It was wonderful to see first-time and veteran volunteers spending this more relaxed time together. Some board members were excited to hear that several new volunteers intend to stay involved in our activities year-round.

Want to be part of this amazing team? Planning begins now for our 40th Anniversary celebration in 2016. Please check out our calendar of meetings and events at Prideri. com and join us.

Rhode Island Pride Honors Our annual awards gala, Rhode Island Pride Honors, will be held at Aqua, the Providence Marriott’s poolside venue, following the annual Aids Walk on Sunday, September 13 at 6:30pm.

The Pyramid of Pride is our organization’s highest honor and is awarded to someone who has made outstanding and lasting contributions to Rhode Island’s LGBTQ community.

This year’s recipient helped found the Rhode Island Alliance for Lesbian & Gay Civil rights; has served in leadership of Marriage Equality RI, Rhode Islanders United for Marriage, and Rhode Island Pride; is a go-to community spokesperson and historian; and recently organized the local celebration of the United States Supreme Court ruling.The members and board of directors of Rhode Island Pride are happy to honor Kate Monteiro with the 2015 Pyramid of Pride.

deserved honorees on September 13. Tickets and sponsorship opportunities are available online at www.prideri.com.

Pride 365 There’s always something going on at Rhode Island Pride.

We are here year-round to serve Rhode Island’s LGBTQ community. Interested in participating on a committee to discuss the future of the Triple Crown Pageant? Want to learn more about how RI Pride operates as an organization? Have some feedback you think we need to hear? Send us an email at info@prideri.com and let us know!q Rhode Island Pride is a 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to promoting the visibility, equality, and diversity of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community and provides safe space to come out, express, and celebrate all sexual identities and genders.

For more information, email info@prideri.com or call (401) 4672130.

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RI Pride is excited to honor journalist, artist, and activist Steve Ahlquist with the Spirit of Pride Award. His in-the-field journalism work for progressive political blog RI Future focuses on the struggles and activism of the oppressed and ignored through comprehensive coverage that highlights the power of the personal narrative. A life-long Rhode Islander, Steve is also a founding member of the Humanists of Rhode Island.

The 2015 Illuminated Night Parade award winners and three outstanding volunteers will also be recognized.

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News from TGI Network

by Jesse DeRita

It’s been a busy summer at TGI Network.

We had a great turnout at Rhode Island PrideFest, where we marched in the Parade for the second time. We had an increase in people seeking information at our table, many of whom were attending Pride for the first time.

We distributed trans pride flags, hats, and T-shirts and accepted donations. We had the opportunity to be a point of contact for folks who had never met a trans person before, and brought visibility and education to the greater LGBT community. We look forward to meeting even more people next year.

On June 28, we held our 3rd annual TGI Picnic at Colt State Park. It was a beautiful day and a big success, with over 60 people attending, both familiar and new. Having frequent trans-specific social events is a big priority of TGI Network.

Our next event is a beach day on August

8, where strength in numbers will allow us to feel comfortable and safe on the beach—something that can prove challenging for those of us who are gender non-conforming. We are excited to be together and feel connected as a community. It’s also an opportunity to be visible as a minority and maybe even meet some new friends. We are very welcoming and encourage those who are trans-identified or questioning to come and get to know us. Like us on Facebook for updates on our meetings and outings.

particularly youth bullying and suicide. A particularly beautiful point to me was in the introduction, when Jenner’s mother, Esther Jenner, said, “Believe me, I’m not losing anything. I’m gaining a better relationship with my child,” showing that no matter how old you are, you can open your heart and accept your child as the person he or she really is. After Caitlyn’s speech, she received a standing ovation from the crowd. TGI Network thanks Caitlyn Jenner for the activism work she has only just begun and the influence she brings to the cause.q

It was a big moment for the trans community when Caitlyn Jenner was presented with the Arthur Ashe Award for Courage at the ESPY Awards on July 15. She brought trans-visibility to the sports community, a group otherwise unlikely to be exposed to trans issues before she came out. The introduction included a great piece that covered Caitlyn’s sporting trials and tribulations, her accomplishments at the Olympics, and her struggle with her gender identity. She then gave an over ten-minute-long speech focused on the struggles of the trans community,

TGI Network of Rhode Island is the only statewide organization providing support, advocacy, and education for the transgender, gender-variant, and intersex community (aka trans* community).

Incorporated in 2011, our mission is to be a resource for TGI people navigating their lives and the medical and legal systems; to serve as a resource for professionals working with TGI people; and to serve as a liaison between the TGI and LGB communities and the community at large.

Visit us at www.tginetwork.org.

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Resources Options originated in 1982 as the offical newsletter of the Rhode Island Gay Task Force. Editor Jos Fayette explained, “The RIGTF wants to make the homosexual community aware of their options as gay men and women in Rhode Island. And it’s only because we live, work, love, and play in this state that there are such a large number of options available to all of us.” Options has always, and will continue to print LGBTQ resources so that you can, as Fayette went on to say, “Exercise your OPTIONS today to make positive changes in your life tomorrow.”

Help us help you! Email info@optionsri.org if you come across a resource listing that needs updating. Phone numbers are in the 401 area code and addresses are in Rhode Island, unless otherwise indicated.

Addiction Support Groups AA Brothers in Sobriety: Saturday 7:30pm. 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328.

Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence. 24hr. (866) 252-3784.

RI LGBT AA Group: Tuesdays 7-8pm. The Wellness Company,132A George M Cohan Blvd.,Providence.All are welcome.

Set Them Free: Narcotics Anonymous open discussion group.

Wednesdays 7:30-9pm. Anchor Recovery Community Center, 249 Main Street, Pawtucket. 721-5100. info@anchorrecovery.org. www.anchorrecovery.org.

Seven Hills Behavioral Health: Addiction support services and Narcan. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-9994159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Leonard Amaral, Program Manager, lamaral@sevenhills.org.

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous: 12-step program. Fridays at 7pm. Providence Presbyterian Church, 500 Hope Street, Providence, side entrance, downstairs to the left. Gay, but all are welcome.

AIDS/Health Resources AFIA Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recovery groups, recreational and social activities.

Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients. Wednesday and Thursday 12-3pm. Mathewson Street Church, 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. Contact Gordon Cooper, 331-1350 ext.

3268. info@uwri.org. www.familyserviceri.org.

AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331. www.aac.org.

AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & HEP C testing, safer-sex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups.

Speaker’s Bureau, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence. 521-3603 (call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment). www.aidscareos.org.

AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence.

831-5522 www.aidsprojectri.org.

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AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panel-making programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport. 434-4880. admin@aidsquiltri.org. www.aidsquiltri.org.

Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education.

121 South Main Street, Second Floor, Providence. 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu. brown.edu/Departments/BRUNAP. Community Care Alliance: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island.

245 Main Street, Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org.

Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston. Also Coventry, Pawtucket, and Warwick. 467-9610.

Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management and financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. 376 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. Contact Jenn, (508) 678-1002.

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HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous.Free or sliding scale.RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations. 222-2320.

Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 1085 North Main Street, Providence. Referrals: 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette, 727-7079. Main Office: 415-4200 or toll-free 800-338-6555. www.hhcri.org.

House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992.

LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514.

Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations. North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 1006 Charles Street, Suite 5, North Providence. 484-7523. info@plaidsproject.org. www.plaidsproject.org.

Planned Parenthood of So. New England: Confidential, lowcost, same-day & walk-in STD and HIV testing. Commonsense approach to health. 111 Point St., Providence. 800-230-7526. www.ppsne.org.

Project Weber: Services for male sex workers. Drop-in center, support groups, HIV and Hep C testing, clean needles.

383-4888. www.projectweber.org.

Seven Hills HIV Prevention & Screening: TWIST program, HIV and STI prevention and testing,partner care.1173AcushnetAvenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Contact Leonard Amaral, lamaral@sevenhills.org.

SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C, and STD testing, education, case management and support. MA and RI locations. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV); (508) 324-3561. Family Healthcare Center; (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org.

Steppingstone, Inc.: Welcome Home Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. HIV support groups available. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 984-7514. www.steppingstoneinc.org.

Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation.109 Rhode Island Road, Lakeville, MA. (508) 947-1683. www.tranquilmind.net.

Thundermist Health Center: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing. 450 Clinton Street, Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane.

767-4100 ext. 3516.

Information/Education

The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Tues. -- Sat. 12 -- 6 and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org.

Fenway Community Center LGBT Helpline: Support, information and referrals. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-452 GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources

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nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564. www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org.

Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com.

RILGBT-News: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net.

United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1

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Nightlife The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar.

Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369.

Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. SundayWednesday 5pm-1am, Thursday-Saturday 5pm-2am. 62 Weir Street,Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com.

Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Providence: public/private venue for music, art, film screenings, weddings, showers, etc. RHODYWOOD@yahoo.com; 359-0192.

Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required.

One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.cbcresorts.com.

The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. TuesdayThursday 9pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369.

EGO: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space.

Sunday and Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 10pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. www.egopvd.com.

Indigo Lounge: 599 Tiogue Ave, Coventry RI 02816. Breakfast buffet, specialty pizzas, T Dances, live entertainment, karaoke Thurs. Hours vary, closed Mon. www.indigopizza.com.

Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am.

15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com.

Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. MondayThursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday-Sunday 12pm2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447.

The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday 12pm-2am, Sunday 12pm1am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950.

The Village: Downtown Providence’s newest LGBT owned and operated restaurant and live entertainment venue.

Lunch & dinner Wednesday through Sunday for varying hours.

373 Richmond St. 228-7222, www.thevillageri.com

Political & Legal Groups American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 220, Providence. 831-7171. riaclu.org.

Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTQ human rights. (212) 807-8400. Cvohs18904@yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org.

Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. queer@brown.edu.

Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/ HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. (617) 436-1350 or (800) 455-GLAD. gladlaw@glad.org www.GLAD.org.

Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY. (212) 809-8585. www.lambdalegal.org.

Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com.

National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@nlgja.org, www.nlgja.org.

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The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062. tnt@brown.edu.

RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org.

RI Socialist Action: 952-5385, adgagneri@gmail.com. Spanish: 351-3514, walsil@cox.net.

RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations, and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662 TTY: 222-2664, richr.ri.gov.

Scouts for Equality: An organization composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. Contact Carol Crowther. ccrowther1@gmail.com. Facebook.com/riscoutsforequality.

Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans. PO Box 65301, Washington DC. (202) 328-3244. or (800) 538-7418. sldn@sldn.org. www.sldn.org.

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Religious & Spiritual All Saints Memorial Church: 674Westminster Street,Providence.

751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org.

Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton.

624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com, www.amicablechurch.org.

Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: robin@awab.org, www.awab.org.

Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” Sundays 10am. 461 County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. office@bccucc.org, www.bccucc.org.

Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Rev. Margaret Weis. Sundays 10am. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org.

Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC. An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Co-Pastors Todd & Nicole Yonkman. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. BeneficentChurchUCC@gmail.com, www.beneficentchurch.org.

Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.org.

Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. Sundays 10:30am. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181, www.middletownmethodist.com.

Central Congregational Church: UCC. An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence. 331-1960. www.centralchurch.us.

Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 135 Pelham Street, Newport.

846-0643. administrator@channingchurch.org. www.channingchurch.org.

Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of Neo-pagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail. com, www.charteroakadf.org.

Christ Church in Lonsdale: Episcopal.

1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln.

Services 8am and 10:30am.

725-1920. office@christchurchlincoln.org. www.christchurchlincoln.org.

Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal

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congregation. 1336 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence. 434-5012. info@epiphanyep.org, www.epiphanyep.org.

Church of the Holy Paraclete: Independent Old Catholic.

Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 9am and 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 218-0706. www.holyparaclete.org.

Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Service 10am. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. office@edgewoodchurchri.org. www.edgewoodchurchri.org.

Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland. 658-1506. office@emmanuelri.org. www.emmanuelri.org.

First Congregational Church in Bristol: An Open and Affirming Congregation. Skip Macaulay, Interim Pastor. 281 High Street, Bristol. 253-7288. www.fccbristol.org.

First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation.

Sunday 10:30am. 1 Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970. admin@firstunitarianprov.org, www.firstunitarianprov.org.

First Unitarian Church: Service 11am. 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686. admin@uunewbedford.org, www.uunewbedford.org.

First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation.

Same-gender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 528-5348. fusf@verizon.net, www.fusf.org.

Foxboro Universalist Church: UUA. Service 10am. 6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. chair@uufoxborough.org. www.uufoxborough.org.

Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. hello@gracechurchprovidence.org. www.gracechurchprovidence.org.

Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation. Pastor Sandra Demmler D’Amico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org.

Interweave at Channing Memorial UU Church: A membership organization for the spiritual, political and social wellbeing of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression.

135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643.

Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd: A “Reconciling in Christ” congregation (Welcoming). 3383 Old North Rd., Kingston, RI. Sundays 9 am. Pastor Mary Hansen-Joyce. 7897776; office@goodshepherdri.org

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Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900. MathewsonStUMC@gmail.com.

Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. mercycomm@yahoo.com, www.mgc.org.

Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Bob McKetchnie.

505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org.

Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 434-4742. www.newmanucc.org.

Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238.

Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket.

726-2800. office@ppucc.necoxmail.com, www.parkplaceucc.com.

The Pub Church: An Open & Affirming church that meets in a pub. Location may change. Saturday 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com.

Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937. parishasst@pilgrimlutheranri.org, pilgrimlutheranri.jimdo.com.

Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)-997-9086.

Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. Service 10am. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com.

St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 15 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153. Sundays 8am and 10am.

StAugustinesChurch@necoxmail.com, www.staugustineuri.org.

St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence. 353-2079.

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 10am. 50 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 751-2141. StMartinsNB.Secretary@gmail. com, www.stmartinsprov.org.

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Welcoming Church. Monthly LGBT Eucharist. 136 Rivet Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)9948972. stmartins1887@comcast.com, www.stmartinsma.org.

St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 9am. 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 728-4300. office@stpaulspawtucket.org, www. stpaulspawtucket.org.

St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. Sundays 9am. 2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 683-1164. stpaulsportsmouthri.org.

St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona

Avenue, Providence. 272-9649.stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpeters-standrews.org.

Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 1500 Main St., W. Warwick, RI 02893. 680-9076. stocc134@gmail.com, www.saintthereseocc. org.

Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 2224677. office2nd@verizon.net, www.attleborosecondchurch.org.

Seekonk Congregational Church: Rev. Joy Utter. Sundays 9am. 600 Fall River Avenue, Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. sccucc@verizon.net, www.scc-ucc.com Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education. Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. www.sgi-usa. org.

Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congregation.

901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. office@agudasma.org, www.agudasma.org.

Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 331-6070. info@temple-beth-el.org, www.templebeth-el.org.

Temple Emanu-El: A welcoming Conservative congregation.

Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 99 Taft Avenue, Providence. 331-1616. info@teprov.org, www.teprov.org.

Temple Habonim: A warm, Welcoming Reform congregation.

Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 2456536. office@templehabonim.org, www.templehabonim.org.

Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Jeff Goldwasser, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. webmaster@templesinairi.org, www.templesinairi.org.

Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@ unitarianchurchfr.org, www.unitarianchurchfr.org.

Unitarian Universalist Society of Fairhaven: Service 10:30am. 102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081. www.uufairhaven.org.

Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. uucscri@ yahoo.com. www.uusouthcountyri.org.

Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich.

884-5933. www.westminsteruu.org.

Social Organizations Bear Providence: Monthly social events for the bear community. www.bearprovidence.com Bisexual Resource Center: PO Box 170796, Boston, MA. (617) 424-9595. brc@bicresource.net www.biresource.net.

Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. (617) 424-9595. biversity-subscribe@biversity.org, www.biversity.org.

Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman Quarterly.” www.biwomenboston.org.

BearsOceanState(BOS):Informale-groupforgay&bisexualbearidentified and affiliated men for friendly companionship.All welcome. groups.yahoo.com/group/bearsoceanstate.

Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGSYA): 56 Barnstable Road, Hyannis, MA. (508) 778-7744. info@cisgsya.org, www.cigsya.org.

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Communisong: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.communisong.net.

CORISMA: Potluck get-togethers for couples from RI and southeast MA. corismainfo@comcast.net, www.corismagroup.org.

Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. All welcome to general membership meetings on first Monday at Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. icri.prov@gmail.com. www.icriprov.org.

Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.mixedborders.com.

Opera Club: Enjoy hearing and attending. Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. BrettCornellpi4@aol.com.

Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non-singing volunteers welcome. Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset

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Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org.

RI Association of Gay Professionals: Networking and philanthropy. www.riagp.com.

RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children. Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com.

RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Office: 1005 Main Street #1105 Pawtucket. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, 02903. 467-2130. info@prideri.com, www.prideri.com.

RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for gay and bisexual men 50 and older. Second Sunday. Contact Steve, 9963010. www.riprimetimers.org.

RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational?

Refreshing discussion. Fourth Saturday. East Providence restaurant location. www.meetup.com/skeptics-133/.

RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net.

SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBT seniors. SAGE-RI at CareLink, 1 Virginia Ave., Providence, RI 02905. 443-4451. sageriinfo@gmail.com. www.sage-ri.org.

SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA & RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@ yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com.

Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT vintage and specialty car enthusiasts. www.yankeelcc.com.

Sports & Recreation PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. www.pridesportsboston.com.

Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: ksg.bgbl@gmail.com, www.bgbl.com.

Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. 1463 Atwood Avenue, Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri. 831-6940.www.bgalbowling. com. www.townhalllanes.com.

GALA Bowling League: Sundays 5:50 p.m., E. Providence Lanes, 80 Newport Ave., E. Providence. Season begins Aug. 30. View us on Facebook or email galabowling1990@gmail.com.

FLAG (For Lesbians And Gays) FOOTBALL: Boston-based recreational football club. All skill levels are encouraged to participate.

Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. www.flagflagfootball.com.

Boston Pride HOCKEY: www.bostonpridehockey.org.

Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www.rondeauskickboxing.com.

Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence.

274-7672.www.mainstma.org.

Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org.

Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf.org.

Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football: www.bostonironsides.org.

Providence Women’s RUGBY Center: Competitive and recreational. www.providencerugby.com Frontrunners Rhode Island RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Meet at the end of Blackstone

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Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence.Thursday 6pm. Contact Brian.

751-7643. bripm@cox.net, frontrunnersri@gmail.com Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Morning walk/ run along the Charles River. Saturdays,10am. Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org.

OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. www.outryders.org.

Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment. www.bostonstrikers.com.

Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome. www.providencesoftball.org.

Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in four divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com.

LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org.

TENNIS-4-All: Boston area tennis organization. www.tennis4all.org.

Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. secretary@cbvolleyball.net www.gayvolleyball.net.

Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult coed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com.

East Coast WRESTLING Club: (617)937.5858 x6. ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org.

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Students & Youth Bristol Community College Gay/Straight Alliance: Steven Camara, Advisor. BCC-H202, 777 Elsbree Street, Fall River, MA. (774) 357-2391.

Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown University for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown. edu or lgbtq@brown.edu.

CCRI Triangle Alliance: an LGBTQQ student-run group at CCRI, on the Flanagan, Liston, and Knight campuses. www.ccri.edu/triangle/.

COLAGE: Support and social activities for children of LGBT parents. Coordinator Veronica Jutras. Third Saturday 10:30am12pm. Gordon School, E. Providence. rhodeisland@colage.org www.colage.org/colage-chapter/colage-rhode-island-chapter/.

LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743. Private oneto-one chat and info on local resources.

Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth.

Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-9001 or (800) 399-PEER. www. fenwayhealth.org.

Salve Regina University – The Alliance: 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Contact: Mandy Hart. mandy.hart@salve.edu.

SeaQuel (Southeast Asian Queers United for

Empowerment and Leadership): a program of PRYSM. Monthly Sunday meetings. 383-7450. SeaQuel@prysm.us. www.prysm.us.

S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu.

The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. (866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org.

University of RI LGBTIQ2: Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@uri.edu.

URI LGBTQ Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894.

Youth Pride Inc.: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13--23. Tues. -- Fri. 2 -- 8pm. The Way Out peer support group Thurs. 4pm. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 4pm. Visit our website for full calendar of events. 743 Westminster St., Providence. 421-5626. info@youthprideri.org. www.youthprideri.org.

Support Groups & Social Services

Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups.

Hotline: (617) 742-4911.TTY: (617) 227-4911. advocate@tnlr.org.

Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 3315437. www.adoptionoptions.org.

Child & Family Services: Counseling, young parent support, adoption, more. LGBT groups beginning July. Open six days. 66 Troy St., Fall River, MA. (508) 676-5708. www.child-familyservices.org Community Care Alliance: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 235-6095. www.famresri.org.

Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4300. www.childrensfriendri.org.

Family Service RI: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright.

331-1350 ext. 3305. www.familyserviceri.org.

Seven Hills Behavioral Health: HIV Prevention and Screening.

310 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 235-1012. T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378.

Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. www.bvadvocacycenter.org.

Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group.

Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@gmail.com. www.compassftm.org.

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Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700.

Day One: Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/ abuse & incest. 24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100. www.dayoneri.org.

Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline. 782-3990 or toll free 800-494-8100, www.dvrcsc.org.

Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. 738 Main St. #323, Waltham, MA. (781) 333-8429. info@gayfathersboston.org, www.gayfathersboston.org.

Gay Officers Action League (GOAL)/New England: Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue & publicly employed EMS. Confidential. P.O. Box 171587, Boston, MA 02117. www.newenglandgoal.org. On Facebook at NewEnglandGOAL. Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee.

Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@ gayshare.org, www.gayshare.org.

GLBTQ Domestic Violence Project: Support, info, shelter.

955 Massachusetts Avenue, Private Message Box 131, Cambridge, MA. (800) 832-1901. www.glbtqdvp.org.

Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor.

HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served. AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 521-3603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108.

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Kathys’ Group: Free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Partners and caregivers welcome.

Meets monthly in Providence. 888-5KATHYS. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Socializing and discussions for gay, bi and curious men. Confidential. Drug and alcohol-free. 18+.Thursdays in Taunton and first Tuesdays in New Bedford. 7-8:30pm. mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com.

Partner Support Group at Fenway Health: A ten-week support group with the purpose of building community and connections for anyone who identifies as non-trans, ages 18+, and is in a relationship with a trans* person(s). 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA. Contact Sarah Eley, LICSW. 857-313-6551. seley@fenwayhealth.org.

PFLAG (Parents, & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Attleboro Chapter serves Southeast Mass. Third Wednesday 6:45 p.m., Second Congregational Church, 50 Park St. (side door). email pflagattleboro@gmail.com. Greater Providence Chapter serves all R.I. First Wednesday at 6:45 p.m., Met School, 325 Public St., Providence.

751-7571. PFLAGprovidence@gmail.com. www. pflagprovidence.org.

RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 494-8100. 467-9940.

RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston.

6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100.

Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed.

(800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www.samaritansri.org.

Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety. 8616191 ext. 121.

Sojourner House: Call for confidential support group.

Support, shelter, advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships. Including specific LGBT services. No caller ID used.

Outgoing calls blocked for safety. 24hr helpline. 765-3232. 8616191. www.sojournerri.org Straight Spouses: Groups and online support. www.straightspouse. org.

TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group 1st & 3d Tues. and 1st & 3d Sat. of the month.

Location & information: 441-5058. info@tginetwork.org. www. tginetwork.org.

Trans* Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people.

First Wednesday 6:30-8:30pm. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org.

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Trans* Youth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org, www.imatyfa.org.

Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www. tavausa.org.

Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence.

846-5263. www.wrcnbc.org. q

Jennifer A. Minuto LGBT Legal Advocacy.

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JDHSPHOTOS.COM 401.624.6698 JDHSPHOTOS@VERIZON.NET

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Worth a Look

by The Lit Chick Leave it to Stephen Fry to write a three-volume novel of his life. For those, like me, who started with the third volume, the British comedy star does an entertaining job of recapping his early years before he gets into the juicy parts. All told, More Fool Me covers 20 years of his life, into the 1990s, picking up steam as he rises to fame on the London comedy sketch scene with best friend Hugh Laurie.

Fans of Fry will enjoy this book. It’s as if you’re having a conversation with Fry in a London gentleman’s club as you sit sipping a cocktail, listening to stories about how he survived his cocaine years. He has tales about being jailed for credit card fraud, trying to bribe police with Blackadder tickets, drinking with Helen Mirren, and having Prince Charles and Princess Diana invite themselves to tea at his house. An active humanitarian, Fry also describes events for Britain’s first AIDS charity, marching with the Stonewall Group, and addressing Parliament alongside Sir Ian McKellen in support of LGBT rights legislation.

I especially loved the story of 12-year-old Fry falling in love with Oscar Wilde’s writing to the point of stalking his neighborhood mobile library. Twenty-eight years later, he would turn in his most brilliant performance as the man himself in Wilde. Looking back, he says, “I have felt rather like someone groping forwards barefoot in an unlit attic, forever treading on unexpected Lego bricks.”

Find More Fool Me at Books on the Square, home of the Providence’s Queer Book Club, and find Fry himself on Twitter at @stephenfry.

It doesn’t get more “Indigo Girls” than One Lost Day, the first studio album for Amy Ray and Emily Saliers since 2011’s Beauty Queen Sister. This album goes back to their roots, and has a raw, Southern feel. It’s fitting that the album art is Ray and Saliers looking in the rearview mirror.There’s a lot of reflecting in this album, about childhood and adolescence, about first loves and true loves, about history, injustice and human nature, and, in some cases, about other people’s reflecting.

The revivalist feel of “The Rise of the Black Messiah” reflects directly on the violent history of slavery and the slow and still current march towards equality. Ray and Saliers juxtapose the song with “Findlay Ohio 1968,” a heavy, sticky song about the time just before the Kent State protests of the Vietnam War that resulted in the deaths of four students at the hands of the Ohio National Guard. My favorite is “Texas Was Clean,” which, with its expansive sound and the Indigo Girls’ signature harmonies, is destined to become another of their classics. I can’t overlook “Learned it on Me,” a perfect break-up song, and the final track, “Come a Long Way,” a fitting end to a road trip that has become a journey through history.

What I love most about One Lost Day is what I love most about the Indigo Girls: it’s two very different styles coming together in perfect harmony.

Fans of their beautifully deep, complex sound and provocative, sometimes cryptic turns of phrase won’t be disappointed.

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I stumbled across Grace and Frankie, a new Netflix original series, while trying to find my way to the latest season of Orange Is the New Black. Who can resist Lily Tomlin? Not I, says the Lit Chick.

Grace and Frankie is worth watching for Tomlin alone, but it’s also fun to see her act with costars Jane Fonda, Martin Sheen, and Sam Waterston.

Grace and Frankie opens with Grace (a type-A, retired cosmetics mogul) and Frankie (a laid-back, new-age, former art teacher) sitting in an elegant restaurant as they wait for their husbands to meet them for dinner. They think their husbands, who are partners in a divorce law firm, are announcing they will finally retire.Turns out that their husbands are leaving them—for each other.

After the initial shock, Grace and Frankie, who have never really liked each other, reluctantly bond over peyote tea and creaking knees, and end up realizing that they need each other more than they both had thought. It’s fun to see Sheen and Waterston as a gay couple, and the show tenderly reveals how the group has built their lives together for the past 40 years, and how those lives unravel.

Grace and Frankie is like The First Wives Club with more heart, and deals with a situation that many women have found themselves in but few have talked about. It’s a fun, binge-worthy summer series that pairs well with Ben and Jerry’s Chocolate Fudge Brownie Froyo.

Catch the entire first season on Netflix (after you’re finished with Ruby Rose).

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