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Rhode Island’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer community news source since 1982. May 2015, Vol. XXXIV, Issue 1

Publisher Kyle McKendall kyle@optionsri.org Editor in Chief Jen Stevens editor@optionsri.org Senior Copy Editor

Out on the Town: Triple Crown Pageant & Coronation pg. 20

Myra Shays Copy Editors Bradford Greer, Maria Phillips Graphic Design Theresa “Reese” Barzyk Writers Kurt Bagley, Christion Batty, Adam Brooks, Cathy S. Cranston, Annie Cronin-Silva, Christopher Dalpe,

Passages: Steve Isherwood pg. 5

SAGE’s Silver Lining pg. 26

Worth a Look: It Takeis Two pg. 38

Bradford Greer, Michael Guy, Kerri Kanelos, The Lit Chick, Beth Milham, Kelly Scafariello, Melanie Silva, Paula Smith Photographers Jen Bonin, Jack Hartwein-Sanchez

4 From the Editor 4 & 5 Letters to the Editor 5 Passages: Steve Isherwood 6 From the Publisher 6 Advertisers 7 AIDS Candlelight Memorial 8 Calendar of Events 10 News Briefs 12 Queer People of Color Conference 14 Foster Care Awareness Month 15 Bear & Bones 16 Summer Recreation

18 Ask Paula 20 Out on the Town 22 Gay Men’s Chorus Gets Happy 23 Being Genderqueer 25 ACOS King of Queens 26 SAGE-RI’s Silver Lining Gala 28 RI PrideFest: IndiVISIBLE 29 Lesbians on the Loose 30 Youth Pride Inc. 31 Resources 38 Worth a Look

Home delivery is free! Subscribe at www.optionsri.org, email frank@optionsri.org, or write to us at our PO Box. © OPTIONS 2015. Options is published monthly. The opinions expressed are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect those of the governing board, volunteers, or staff. Listings are provided as a resource and do not imply endorsement. Submissions to Options must include a phone number or email address. Names may be withheld on request. Submissions, ads, calendar, or resource listings for the June issue must be delivered by May 8.

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Photo Editor Michael Scanlon IV Finance Director Donny McKendall billing@optionsri.org Subscription Manager Francis Ryan frank@optionsri.org Calendar Editor Sam Simas calendar@optionsri.org Advertising advertising@optionsri.org

Cover by Jen Bonin: Renaissance City Softball League Players

From the Editor

Letter to the Editor

Dear Reader, I’d be naïve to think that the most avid news consumers wait in anticipation for each month’s issue of Options to hit the stands to be among the first to discover the current happenings of Rhode Island’s LGBTQ community. Maybe that was a reasonable expectation ten or fifteen years ago. Nowadays, those who are really hungry to be in the know, are likely to rise, shine, and log onto social media for their daily/hourly/moment-by-moment dose of “news.” I recently witnessed a more-than-average month of accusations, rumor-spreading, organizationbashing, and defensiveness among community members on Facebook. Conflicts erupted there that in all likelihood could have been amicably settled by the parties involved after a good night’s sleep and a timely personal interaction. My disappointment had me wishing that social media posts endured the same scrutiny as Options editorials and stories before reaching the public eye. Comments are too often launched in a huff of emotion, and deleting a regrettable post hardly diminishes its impact.The bell has been rung.You can’t erase the message from the minds of those who were tuned in to read it. Writing is a therapeutic exercise. Expressing our inner thoughts and feelings in the written word provides a certain release. Our vulnerability to the reaction of our audience can provide a catharsis; we may find the affirmation or rejection we need to move forward or simply find relief in being understood. Each spring our community crowns new leaders as ambassadors within and beyond the LGBTQ community. I’m so hopeful and encouraged by what I’ve observed of our 2015 title-holders. May they avoid pointless drama, build bridges, enjoy their reign, and value the written word.

When I list my positive HIV status on Internet dating profiles and hookup sites, it’s because I am at a place where I’m comfortable enough with it to be honest, and because I think other positive guys need to see that it’s something that it’s okay to be open about. Because so few poz guys are “out” about their status, listing it can put you in a position where people contact you just to ask questions. Being openly positive in Rhode Island is something of a novelty, and when you make the decision to share this part of yourself with everyone, you agree to take on the role of educator. And I do. What I hadn’t signed on for, though, was the number of people who message me with more unusual questions to satisfy their morbid curiosities, or, more alarmingly, the darker messages from people who fetishize the virus and are exhilarated by risk. The old term for seeking out partners for the purpose of being infected with HIV is “bug chasing.” But I don’t get the sense that the people who contact me in this way directly intend to become infected. I believe that some people initiate these dialogues for the excitement inherent in pursuing dangerous activities, but do not implicitly desire to contract HIV. In the early days of AIDS, so-called “bug chasing” was more of a hot topic than it is today. Some contended that this disturbing behavior stemmed from feelings of inevitability towards HIV among the gay community and the empowerment of choosing when to contract the virus. Others suggested that some people who felt lonely desired the nurturing community that supported people with AIDS. I do not find this to be so true any more in our current culture. Some researchers suggest that more recent HIV fetishizing has grown from a “resistance to dominant heterosexual norms” due to a defensive response by gay men to repudiate stigmatization and rejection by society. Others have suggested that people consider bug chasing “intensely erotic” and the act of being infected as the “ultimate taboo, the most extreme sex act left.” More probable though, is that the desires of risk-seeking and engaging in taboo behavior stems from the individual’s lowered self-esteem, complicated by the trending use of sexual inhibition-reducing party drugs like crystal meth and GHB and with the underlying knowledge that this historically fearsome illness is now largely treatable in the U.S. So in addition to the expected miseducation and irrational fears around being with an HIV-positive person, dating with HIV openly in the gay community exposes you to another kind of stigma altogether that is seldom discussed. Though I believe we have largely departed from the days of “bug chasing,” there are still those who will seek us out for the purpose of fulfilling, or at least discussing, depraved fantasies and masochistic, drug-fueled desires, and who lose interest upon realizing that such a notion is the farthest thing from your mind. Though it offends me, I would be lying if I said I do not understand it. I never intended to become infected with HIV, but I can relate to the deeply rooted need for personal destruction as brought on by extremely low self-worth and exacerbated by drug use. It’s a complex issue, but one that is evidenced to me on a regular basis and that I believe warrants further discussion. - Anthony Maselli, Providence

In solidarity, Jen Stevens

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Letter to the Editor I want to provide some personal feedback regarding the piece in the [April 2015] News Briefs section titled “Bruce Jenner to Confirm Transition Status in Diane Sawyer Interview.” In general, I’ve found media at large to be incredibly inappropriate in their speculation of Bruce Jenner’s yet-to-be-named identity and personal decisions. By and large, there has been great speculation. Your brief on this begins with, “Rumors have been flying left and right.” Yes, they have, but does that mean that we (as a community, as the general public, or as spectators and viewers of the Kardashians’ lives) should promote those rumors? It’s completely possible (likely, even, it seems) that Bruce will come out as trans* in his Diane

Sawyer interview and/or the “rumored” E! series, but why has Options chosen to jump on this bandwagon? I would prefer to see folks leave Bruce alone about his identity unless and until he comes out and shares the name, pronouns, and language that identifies him. Not waiting until that point continues to sensationalize an already sensationalized and stigmatized community. - Stephanie Huckel, Providence [Note: Bruce Jenner came out as transgender on April 24.]

Passages:

Steve Isherwood

Steven D. Isherwood, 55, passed away on Sunday, March 8, after a courageous battle with cancer. His family and life partner David Eng were at his side. He was born in Niagara Falls, NY, but made his home in Providence, RI, where his life impacted many, through his love of music and his caring and generous personality. He was an integral part and long-time member of the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus and the Providence Chapter of the Barbershop Harmony Society, where he shared his beautiful voice with the world. Steven’s humanitarian efforts were also evident in his involvement with the Boston Living Center, where he was member #1, assisting those who are living with HIV/AIDS. Steve loved eclectic things and he enjoyed sharing stories about them, especially his Rambler. He will be greatly missed by all whose lives he touched through his music and his spirit. Steve previously lived in Portland, ME and Options | May 2015

graduated from Portland High School and went on to attend the University of Maine. He is survived by his life partner David Eng of New York, NY; his loving family including his father Donald Isherwood, and brothers, Thomas Isherwood and wife Monique; Gregg Isherwood and wife Donna, all of Portland; his sister Debra DeForte-Kowalski and husband Rich of Woolwich, NJ; and his seven nephew and nieces. His mother, Lorraine Isherwood, passed away in 2001. Per Steve’s wishes, there will not be a traditional funeral service. He wanted a party--with lots of friends, lots of food, and lots of music. David and the family have scheduled a Memorial Service and Celebration of Life at Beneficent Church in Providence on June 6 at 2pm. They hope that all of his family and friends will be able to stop by and help celebrate his life. Donations may be made to the Boston Living Center in Steve’s name. Rest in peace, Steve, we will all miss your kind smile, beautiful spirit, and amazing voice. q In the mid-2000’s Steve Isherwood was an invaluable volunteer for Options, not only on mailing night, but also when we needed help with a vehicle for a float for a Pride parade. He was also a very powerful and committed voice for preserving Options in those very dark days when the paper’s finances indicated it was on its last legs. His fundraising efforts (and amazing chocolate chip cookies) helped bring the paper back from the brink and made it possible for Options to enjoy a rebirth of sorts. q - Michael Guy, former Options Editor 5

From the Publisher

Advertisers in This Issue

Dear Reader, It has been an amazing few weeks watching the nonprofit community welcome spring in full force with a unified focus on the upcoming Pride season. I’ve had the honor of representing Options while attending Rhode Island Pride’s Triple Crown Pageant, AIDS Care Ocean State’s Drag Bingo, the Imperial Court of Rhode Island’s Coronation, the Renaissance City Softball League’s opening day ceremonies, the Trans Day of Remembrance, and Interweave’s Born this Way Prom to benefit Youth Pride Inc. SAGE-RI also hosted Put a Little Silver in Your Rainbow, which looked like a fabulous event held at the Warwick Art Museum. I hope you were able to get out and support these organizations by attending an event or two. Over the next two months these organizations, along with Options, are preparing for PrideFest 2015. The festival and parade are organized by Rhode Island Pride volunteers and draw an estimated 30,000 attendees to downtown Providence. This is an incredible opportunity for nonprofits to showcase the organizations that provide essential services to our community, but we need your help to make it happen. These organizations would benefit from the support of new volunteers. I implore you to reconnect with an organization you’ve helped in the past, or initiate a new relationship and make 2015 the year you get involved with the nonprofit community. Often your commitments can be minimal, such as staffing a table for an hour during an event or at PrideFest. Two members of the Options team are competing in King of Queens on May 17 to raise money for AIDS Care Ocean State. Finance Director Donny McKendall and Lesbian on the Loose Melanie Silva will receive drag makeovers and compete for the crown against ten other contestants. Event details are listed in the calendar. (p. 8) I hope to see you there! On behalf of the team at Options, I’d like to congratulate a number of individuals who have taken on new leadership roles, including the 2015 Rhode Island Pride Triple Crown title holders: Mr. Gay Richie DeFilippo, Ms. Lesbian Lorena Gorman, Miss Gay Complete Destruction, Miss Bisexual Amber Giselle, and Miss Trans Alejandra Blaze, as well as Empress XXIII Angela Soprano-Butana of the Imperial Court of Rhode Island. We look forward to working with you all over the next year! Onward,

Kyle McKendall

AIDS Care Ocean State - King Of Queens.................... 2 Bill Hendrickson, Electrician....................................................23 Blue Cross Blue Shield of Rhode Island...........................36 City Kitty............................................................................................23 Cruise Planners..............................................................................24 Family Service of Rhode Island.............................................17 Gregory’s Optical.........................................................................30 JDHS Photos...................................................................................24 Jennifer Minuto, Attorney.........................................................34 Jennifer Minuto, Musician..........................................................30 John D. DaPonte, Mental Health Counselor.................30 Marjorie L. Roblin, Mental Health Counselor...............24 Melvin’s Tirepros.............................................................................. 9 Mister Sister.....................................................................................24 Neighborhood Health Plan of RI.........................................15 N’Touch Productions..................................................................32 Plumbing by Paul...........................................................................25 The Providence Flea...................................................................13 Providence Gay Men’s Chorus.............................................28 Providence Preservation Society.........................................40 Quidnessett Country Club.....................................................25 Residential Properties................................................................35 RI Association of Gay Professionals...................................37 Rue De L’Espoir.............................................................................31 The Stable........................................................................................... 6 Stephen J. Dennis, Attorney....................................................33 Town Hall Lanes............................................................................30 The Village.........................................................................................39 URI presents Baggage................................................................24

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AIDS Quilt RI Hosts

International AIDS Candlelight Memorial in Newport

Support Options Volunteers in the King of Queens Competition on May 17

by Beth Milham

AIDS Quilt RI hosts the 33rd Annual International AIDS Candlelight Memorial at Channing Memorial Church in Newport on Sunday, May 17, at 7 pm. All are invited to this Rhode Island commemoration of the largest grassroots worldwide event. Channing members Edwin M. Milham, a professional singer and former music director, along with composer John Prevedini, a graduate student at URI, will provide music for the program. The International AIDS Candlelight Memorial, coordinated by the Global Network of People Living with HIV, is one of the world’s oldest and largest grassroots mobilization campaigns for HIV awareness in the world. Started in 1983, this memorial takes place every third Sunday in May and is led by a coalition of some 1,200 community organizations in 115 countries.

Donny McKendall Finance Director

Melanie Silva Lesbian on the Loose

AIDS Quilt RI’s HIV prevention education program, Anna’s Workshop, “moved east” from URI this spring, with activities centering in Newport.The three panels created since World AIDS Day were each made in memory of people associated with Channing Memorial Church in the past three decades and were made in Newport. Channing’s Interweave program made a panel for psychiatrist Gary Poser, MD, who died in 1992 of HIV-related causes. Many remember Poser for his acting roles with the Newport Players’ Guild. He later moved to New York to pursue an acting career. The Channing Youth Group, joined by Channing members and friends, created the panel for attorney Al Frechette, who died in 1994. Both were active members of the church with their families in the 1970s and 80s. The Salve Regina Social Work Club and Channing friends made a panel for Evan Davies, who died in 1988. He was a beloved friend of Channing minister, Rev. Dr. F. Jay Deacon. The SRU Social Work Club has hosted panel-making workshops and Quilt displays on campus annually since the early 1990s. The International AIDS Candlelight Memorial not only memorializes those lost to AIDS, but also serves as a community mobilization campaign to raise social consciousness about HIV and AIDS.With 33 million people living with HIV today, it represents an important intervention for global solidarity, breaking down barriers of stigma and discrimination, and giving hope to new generations. The global theme for this year is “Let’s Keep the Light on HIV.” For more information, contact Beth Milham at bpmilham@cox.net, 847-7637, or 316-2555. q

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Both contestants are raising money for AIDS Care Ocean State. Visit www.optionsri.org to donate. Don’t miss their drag transformations and performances The Colosseum,180 Pine St., Providence. Doors 6pm/show 7pm

Calendar of Events King of Queens May 17

May Sat. 2 The Silver Lining: AIDS Care Ocean State’s 25th Anniversary Gala, 6pm cocktails/7pm dinner. Providence Performing Arts Center, 220 Weybosset Street, Providence. In memory of founding member Sister Ann Keefe. Guests will enjoy music by Superchief Trio, dancing, and an awards ceremony. Festive silver attire strongly encouraged.Tickets cost $100 and are available at www.aidscareos.org. Sun. 3 Options Magazine Release Party, 3-6pm.The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence. Join Options for the release of the May issue.Volunteers needed for distribution. www.optionsri.org. Tue. 12 Big Gay Al’s Bowling League Opening Day, 7:15-9:30pm. Town Hall Lanes, 1463 Atwood Avenue #7, Johnston. Runs Tuesday nights through August 18. $15/week. Join a team or bring a team of 4.To register, www.bgalbowling.com. Thu. 14 Sweet LittleVariety Show,8pm.Aurora,276Westminster Street, Providence.A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment including music, comedy, dance, and oddities. $6. Sat. 16 RI Women’s Association Pre-Pride Dance, 7pm. Letter Carriers Hall, 174 Mayfield Avenue, Cranston. Featuring a raffle to benefit RI Pride, an Italian-influenced potluck, and BYOB dance party with DJ Sharon. Rainbow wear encouraged; each attendee will receive a rainbow peace necklace. $10/members free. Membership is open to all women of all ages, costs $25, and includes four remaining RIWA dances. Sun. 17 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Network for gay and bisexual men 50+. Social, dinner, and meeting. For more info, www. riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

TransJourney May 27

over $2000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. Hosted by Kitty Litter and Haley Star. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI. Thu. 21 Brown Meditation Community’s LGBTQ Sangha, 6:30-8pm. Manning Chapel on Brown University’s Main Green, Providence. Meditation and discussion. For more info, BrownLGBTQSangha@gmail.com. Sun. 24 2nd Annual Provincetown Cares Diva Dash 5K Fun Run/Walk, 10am. Pilgrims’ First Landing Park, Commercial Street, Provincetown, MA. Benefits women’s charities such as Fenway Health, Outer Cape Health, Helping Women Now, and Dr. Susan Love’s Army of Women Foundation. Individuals and teams welcome. $40. To learn more or sign up, visit www. provincetowncares.com. Wed. 27 TransJourney screening, Countdown to Pride, 8pm. RI Pride Center, 1005 Main Street #1105, Pawtucket. $5 suggested donation for screening of this local film receiving national attention. Screening follows RI Pride’s Open House at 7pm.All are welcome. www.prideri.com. Sun. 31 Options Magazine Release Party, 3-6pm.The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence. Join Options for the release of the June issue/RI Pride Guide.Volunteers needed for distribution. www.optionsri.org.

June Thu. 4-Sun. 6 Providence Gay Men’s Chorus presents: Get Happy. Providence Public Library Auditorium, 225 Washington Street, Providence.Thu.-Sat. at 7pm, Sun. at 4pm. For more info or to purchase tickets, www.provgmc.org.

Sun. 17 King of Queens, 6pm doors/7pm show. Colosseum, 180 Pine Street, Providence. People who have never done drag before are paired with a drag queen as they compete for the title of King of Queens. $15 at the door to benefit AIDS Care Ocean State.

Sat. 6 The Eagle: Countdown to Pride. 124 Snow Street, Providence.

Wed. 20 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: Billy Budd by Herman Melville. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com.

Wed. 10 Kinky Boots, 5:30pm. Providence Performing Arts Center, 220 Weybosset Street, Providence. Reception and performance to benefit Rhode Island Pride and the RI Association of Gay Professionals. $125.

Thu. 21 Drag Bingo: Hill Billy Bingo, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. $20 gets you in all games with

Thu. 11 Sweet LittleVariety Show,8pm.Aurora,276Westminster Street, Providence.A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment including music, comedy, dance, and oddities. $10 to benefit Rhode Island Pride Options | May 2015

Sun. 7 Pride Karaoke, 9pm-1am. The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. www.thevillageri.com.

Get Happy with PGMC June 4-7

Sat. 13 Boston Pride Parade and Festival: Wicked Proud, 11am6pm. City Hall Plaza. Free for all ages. www.bostonpride.org. Wed. 17 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: The Paying Guests by Sarah Waters. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com. Thu. 18 Front Runners Pride Run, 6:15pm. Meets on Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street. Thu. 18 Drag Bingo: Peace, Love & Understanding, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. $20 gets you in all games with over $2000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. Hosted by Kitty Litter and Haley Star. All funds raised benefit Rhode Island Pride. Sat. 20 Rhode Island PrideFest: IndiVISIBLE, noon-8pm. South Water Street, Providence. PrideFest features a Kids Zone, over

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RI PrideFest & Illuminated Night Parade

June 20

100 vendors, a beer/wine/spirits garden, and performances by Crystal Bowersox, Pearl & the Beard, Shannel, Sir Ari Gold, Mimi Gonzalez and more. Free for all ages. Sat. 20 Rhode Island Prideâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Illuminated Night Parade, 8:45pm. Starts at Dorrance and Weybosset Streets and travels west on Washington Street to Empire Street. Reviewing stand on Empire Street (rather than at PPAC this year). Free for all ages. Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS Tue. 4pm, (gay males): Wed. 1:30pm Alcoholics Anonymous (LGBT Group): Tue. 7pm COLAGE (children of LGBTs): 3rd Sat. 10:30am PFLAG (parents, friends, allies): 1st Wed. 6:45pm TGI Network (trans*): 1st & 3rd Tue. & Sat. 7pm TransFamily New England: 2nd Mon. 6:30pm YPI (youth): Way Out Thu. 4pm/Gender Spectrum Tue. 4pm

See Resources on page 31 for more info.

News Briefs by Adam Brooks

Anti-LGBT Pizzeria Gains Support After Backlash Over Gay Wedding

Cicilline Planning to Sponsor LGBT Civil Rights Bill

Rhode Island Democratic Congressman David Cicilline has been working with Senator Jeff Merkley to draft a bill that would extend civil rights protections to LGBT citizens. This bill, which Cicilline has reportedly been working on for quite some time, has become increasingly more relevant with the introduction of several highly discriminatory laws in the Midwest. The bill would prevent states from using what is referred to as “religious liberty” to discriminate against people based solely on their sexual orientation. Said Cicilline to progressive political blog RI Future, “Many of us started to feel that the time had come to approach LGBT equality in a different way. Why aren’t we putting together a comprehensive bill that prohibits discrimination against the LGBT community, period? We looked at a variety of federal protections that exist in the civil rights area based on race, and gender, and ethnic origin, and religious tradition. Why don’t we just add sexual orientation and gender identity to those existing categories that are protected from discrimination?” Cicilline is a former two-term mayor of Providence, co-chair of the LGBT Equality Caucus, and openly gay.

Memories Pizza in Walkerton, Indiana shut down last month after coming under fire for refusing to cater a gay wedding and became national news after the owners referred to the business as a “Christian Establishment.” A GoFundMe page was set up for the pizzeria and raised more than $840,000 in 15 days from supporters who agree with the state’s Religious Freedom Restoration Act. Memories Pizza co-owner Kevin O’Conner told local news, “That lifestyle is something they choose. I choose to be heterosexual. They choose to be homosexual. Why should I be beat over the head to go along with something they choose?” Kansas-based non-profit Equality House countered by setting up the “Virtual Pizza” fundraiser. If their goal of $100,000 is reached, 100 hotel rooms will be made available to homeless LGBTs for one year. To donate, or for more info, visit www.crowdrise.com/lgbtpizza.

Homeless Shelter Legislation Aims to Reduce Discrimination

It is Now Illegal For Federal Contractors To Fire Someone For Being LGBT President Barack Obama signed an executive order in June of 2014 banning workplace discrimination against gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender employees of federal contractors and the federal government after years of pressuring Congress to pass similar legislation. The Obama administration provided rules to contractors and gave companies time to put processes into place in order to comply by April 8. This historic change affects over 24,000 companies and an estimated 28 million workers. In a recent op-ed, White House senior advisor Valerie Jarrett wrote, “This will effectively prevent any company that does business with the government from firing an employee based on who they are or who they love.” It is still legal in 29 states to be fired for being LGBT.

In response to numerous complaints regarding discrimination based on sexual orientation in a Providence shelter, the Rhode Island Homeless Advocacy Project (RIHAP) is working with legislators on a bill to revamp standards for homeless shelters throughout the state. RIHAP member John Freitas said he has seen many violations firsthand, including requiring residents to attend a church service which talks about the evils of homosexuality. “What we’re trying to accomplish is to set standards for anyone who is trying to shelter the homeless,” Freitas said. “As an advocacy group, we have to deal time and time again with people who have been denied shelter for arbitrary reasons.” Along with sexual orientation, homeless individuals have been denied residence due to wearing too much makeup, being an unwed pregnant woman, and religious beliefs, among other things. The bill, conceived almost entirely by RIHAP, says, “All homeless persons have the right to homeless shelter services,” and is being sponsored by a wide range of Democrats including Senator Betty Crowley and Representatives Aaron Regunberg and Doc Corvese.

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Obama Supports an End to Conversion Therapy by Bradford Greer

“Tonight, somewhere in America, a young person, let’s say a young man, will struggle to fall to sleep, wrestling alone with a secret he’s held as long as he can remember. Soon, perhaps, he will decide it’s time to let that secret out. What happens next depends on him, his family, as well as his friends and his teachers and his community. But it also depends on us—on the kind of society we engender, the kind of future we build.” With this statement President Barack Obama threw his support behind a White House petition to end conversion or reparative therapy on gay, lesbian, and transgender youth. Over four decades ago the American Psychiatric Association declassified homosexuality as a mental disorder and has since opposed any psychiatric treatment used under the guise of repairing an individual’s sexual orientation. Currently, only California, New Jersey, and the District of Columbia have laws against using conversion therapy on minors. Only 18 other states have introduced legislation at this time.The President has indicated that his administration would support a national ban, which would require an act of Congress. The bill would be named Leelah’s Law after Leelah Alcorn, the 17 year-old transgender youth who committed suicide two days after Christmas 2014. Her parents isolated her and forced her into conversion therapy in an attempt to change her gender identity. It was Leelah’s tragic story that prompted President Obama to come forward with his public support.

Tech Industry Leaders Make Joint Statement to Legislature to Add Anti-LGBT Discrimination Protections to Civil Rights Laws

In response to the higher frequency of anti-LGBT bills pending or signed into law across the country, tech industry leaders signed an unprecedented joint statement supporting the addition of non-discrimination protections for LGBT people to civil rights laws. “This unprecedented and historic effort by the giants of the tech industry should be a clarion call to policymakers that discriminating against LGBT people is not acceptable in today’s marketplace of ideas,” said Chad Griffin, President of the Human Rights Campaign. “These leaders have made it clear: if states want high tech jobs, they must put fullyinclusive nondiscrimination protections in place immediately.” Max Levchin, CEO of Affirm, organized the joint statement and noted that he and his fellow tech industry CEOs—including Jeremy Stoppelman of Yelp; Marc Benioff of SalesForce; Jack Dorsey of Square; Dick Costolo of Twitter; Joe Green of Lyft; as well as Dan Schulman, President of PayPal; and Devin Wenig, President of eBay Marketplaces—were proud to stand up for what they believe is truly right and judicious.q

RI-Based Company Launches Campaign to Combat Anti-LGBT Groups Drupal Connect, a website design and consultation company headquartered in Newport, RI, announced last month that they will be spearheading a massive nationwide fundraising campaign to aid in the fight against legislative discrimination against the LGBTQ community. President and CEO of Drupal Connect John Florez stated that his company has become increasingly concerned over issues such as Indiana’s religious freedom law. “We support LGBTQ equality, and denounce any legislation that supports discriminatory practices. We are outraged at individuals who are profiting from the hate caused by this type of legislation, and we’d like to counter this negativity by raising funds that will go directly to support various LGBTQ organizations throughout the country,” says Florez. Drupal Connect is engaged in projects worldwide with clients including Sony Music Entertainment and the New York Stock Exchange.

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ueer People of

by Bradford Greer

Color

The 2nd Annual New England Queer People of Color Conference (NEQPOC) convened at Brown University April 3-4 with over 250 registrants from every major college in New England plus New York, Pennsylvania, and New Jersey. The 2014 NEQPOC conference had been held at the University of Vermont and inspired Lo Smith, who had heard of the conference but was unable to attend, to bring the conference to Rhode Island for attendees to connect intellectually and socially, and to investigate and share their identities. The 2015 conference theme was “Healing, Visibility, and Community.” Brown’s NEQPOC team, first led by Lo Smith and later led by Yen Tran, began planning in July of 2014 and included Kelly Garrett, Program Director of the LGBTQ Center and advisor to the conference; Jared Turner, Media Services Chair; Joshua Jackson, Volunteer Chair; Patricia Ekpo, Speakers Chair. Keynote speaker Mia Mingus,

herself a queer, disabled, Korean, and trans-national adoptee, is a writer and community educator working for disability justice. The focus of her speech was meant to inspire attendees to identify and leave a legacy worth fighting for. She spoke to an enthusiastic crowd of racially diverse individuals, mostly of college age. She asked, “How do we actually build a legacy worthy of passing along to future generations? What is community now, and what do we want it to be?” She went on to say, “Most queer people of color do not feel connected with a community of color. If we can’t find our folks at The Queer People of Color Conference, then who are our folks? We are only as strong as the relationships we build between us. What are the things we can do in our own lives to help us be accountable for the change we want to accomplish?” Mingus talked extensively about the spirituality of kindness. She spoke of compassionate listening and disagreement,

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saying, “Don’t just kiss everybody’s asses. I’m talking about taking care of one another. How can we respond to violence and abuse within our community? This work should make us better people—not just the same crappy people with better sounding language. This work can make us more human in an inhumane world.” She challenged the crowd to be proactive: “What if we started from the kind of world that we do want instead of pushing against what we don’t want?” In an interesting response to an audience question about how to best get one’s message across, Ms. Mingus advised more personal communication such as a phone call or a face-to-face discussion. She pointed out that texting and the Internet have their place but don’t compare to inperson human interaction. “How we learn to invest in each other is our greatest resource. Liberation is a collective practice. Trust and building community are the keys.”

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The impressive schedule included topics such as: Letting go of False Narratives and Embracing Who You Want to Be; Mexican Mothers and Lesbian Daughters; Growing up Queer and Southeast Asian; Caribbean Identity and Speaking the Unspeakable; Protesting Transphobia in Everyday Life; Kink in Color; Public Performances of Black Queerness; Commitment to Love; and The Trevor Project’s Lifeguard Workshop for Youth. There were many opportunities for interaction as well as a free night for

conference attendees to venture off College Hill and socialize within local gay establishments. The struggle for gay people of every racial background is massive. In so many cultures, homosexuality is still forbidden, not spoken of, or punishable by imprisonment, violence, and disgrace. For our students at Brown University to organize a Queer People of Color Conference in Rhode Island is cause for high praise and pride. Our world is changing. This conference

fuels the systematic dismantling of cultural attitudes born in fear and bred in ignorance in order to make way for a community thriving in strength, support, and acceptance—perhaps not just for gay people of color, but for all people. They are fulfilling the legacy left by those who fought for so many years; who sacrificed their jobs, their safety, their families, and their lives. To coin an old-fashioned black phrase: Right on! q

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amily Service of RI recently launched their “We Take Pride in All Families” initiative to raise awareness that LGBTQ individuals and couples are encouraged to apply to be licensed foster care parents in order to provide children in state care with a safe environment and the guidance they need while their biological parents work to rebuild their lives. Family Service of RI provides foster parents with initial and on-going training plus a weekly payment to help support the placement. The commitment is huge; the rewards are great. Foster parents Michael Leighton and Marc Fernandes said, “We have opened our home and hearts to share with these two kids only to experience love, humility, respect, and great appreciation for humanity.” For more information, contact Program Manager Greg Wright at 331-1350 ext. 3305; join Family Service of RI at the RI State House on Wednesday, May 13 between 5-7pm for Foster Care Awareness day; attend an Information Open House (134 Thurbers Avenue in Providence) on Wednesday, May 20 from 5-8pm; or visit www.familyserviceri.org. q

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Come Out for Some

Funthein Sun by Kelly Scafariello

an you believe that just a couple of months ago Rhode Islanders were complaining about the never-ending snow that was falling on us? We were left wondering if summer would ever come to the Ocean State again. Fast forward to the end of April. I am writing this article at my favorite Starbucks location in Wayland

Square on the patio in the warm sunshine. Yes! We are finally ready to come out— and I’m not talking closets. Are you itching to be active again while enjoying the best months that New England has to offer, but aren’t sure where to begin? Fear not, as there are plenty of summer activities to get you going.

For you who love to feel the sand between your toes, look no further than the Ocean State Pride Volleyball League (OSPVL). This summer they are taking their passes, sets, and spikes outdoors to Mulligan’s Island Golf & Entertainment Complex in Cranston. The outdoor league will run for 12 weeks

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on Sunday afternoons from 3-6pm beginning in June at a cost of $92.50. Players sign up individually and teams of four to six players will be selected. Sign up at www.bfbvc.com. Click on “Outdoor Sand at Mulligan’s,” register for the summer leagues with a new account, and be sure to select “Summer Mulligan’s Sunday OSPVL Fours.”To learn more about the summer league and the OSPVL, check out their Ocean State Pride Volleyball League Facebook page, or email the league coordinator, Jim Simon, at ospvolleyball@gmail.com. If beach volleyball is too competitive for you, how about driving east for a charity walk or jog? Over Memorial Day weekend, on Sunday, May 24, the 2nd Annual Provincetown Cares Diva Dash 5K Fun Run/Walk will take place, benefiting local and national women’s charities such as Fenway Health, Outer Cape Health, Helping Women Now, and Dr. Susan Love’s Army of Women Foundation. You may sign up as an individual or create a team of family and friends. The race begins at 10am at Pilgrims’ First Landing Park on Commercial Street. The cost to enter the race is $40. To learn more or sign up, visit www. provincetowncares.com. If you enjoy the Cape but want to pick up the pace, why not enter the 5th Annual Provincetown 10K Charity Road Race? It’s Sunday, May 31, at 9am at MacMillan Wharf on Commercial Street.The race is “moderately challenging” and starts in the charming town center along Commercial Street and heads towards the breathtaking dunes and beaches of the Cape Cod National Seashore. All proceeds go towards the Provincetown Aids Memorial and the Provincetown Art

Association and Museum. The cost to enter the race is $40. To learn more or sign up, visit www.provincetown10k.com. For those who would rather take things a bit slower this summer, don’t forget to explore one of the many bike paths in Rhode Island. Take a bike ride along one of the eight bike paths located in every corner of the state: Blackstone River Bikeway, East Bay Bike Path, Fred Lippitt Woonasquatucket River Greenway, Quonset Bike Path, South County Bike Path, Ten Mile River Greenway, Warren Bike Path and Washington Secondary Bike Path. All path, maps and parking information for the eight paths can be found on the Rhode Island Department of Transportation website at www.dot.ri.gov/community/bikeri/ index.php. Looking for a more relaxing yet entertaining, outdoor, free, sober, LGBT event? Take a beach chair and head to one of the three softball fields in East Providence to cheer for a Renaissance City Softball League team. The league is “dedicated to the growth and promotion of softball in the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Trans community in Rhode Island and surrounding areas.” The season kicked off April 19 and runs through July on Sundays at the Agawam Softball Complex and Pierce Memorial Field. For schedules, directions, and team information, please visit www. providencesoftball.org. I hope to see you out and about this summer enjoying the best of what Rhode Island and New England have to offer. If you have any recreation ideas that you would like to share and have me write about, please contact me via info@optionsri.org. q

May is Foster Care Awareness Month FOSTER CARE AWARENESS EVENT

CONSIDER BECOMING A FOSTER PARENT

Join us as we celebrate special families with food and fun!

Attend an information open house to learn how.

Wednesday, May 13 5-7pm Rhode Island State House

Wednesday, May 20 5-6:30pm 134 Thurbers Avenue, Providence

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Ask Paula

by Paula Smith

10 Tips for Your Dating Adventures Fellow LGBTQ community members often approach me for advice on dating, which within this limited pool can seem like navigating a minefield, but can also be fun and very exciting. Personally, I’ve been on over 100 dates. I have fallen in love, had my heart broken and, at times, been made to feel absolutely crazy. So I can say with a degree of certainty that there is no way to know who a person is from the pictures they post, the job they have, or the status updates they write. The only way to be sure is to go on a date, interact with them, and find out for yourself. Although it isn’t a comprehensive list, I’d like to share a few things I learned while making my way through the LGBTQ dating scene.

Get out there!

Enjoy the longer days, perhaps freshen your wardrobe, and join the digital par ty, i.e. Match.com, JDate.com, OneGoodLove.com, OneScene.com, Ohmojo.com, PrideDating.com, and OKCupid.com.

Is s/he single? S/he may be sitting across the table telling you so, but, especially in the lesbian scene, there is almost always an undercurrent going on (think: friends with benefits, one night stands, exes with physical strings attached, etc.). Use logic to understand if, for example, the woman you bumped into at a par ty is single or just playing the field. You don’t want your hear t broken or your butt kicked by her current girlfriend.

First dates are awkward,

so lose the ego and be honest. Big egos come with bigger insecurities. You can’t do a second date without doing the first.

Read the undercurrents!

Silence your phone

Don’t even look at it unless it has something to do with the date.

Avoid sharing too much

“Fifth-stepping” or wordvomiting happens, but one way to really mess up a first date is to admit how long you spent on Google-stalking her. The censorship walls can come down after a while, but I’m guessing you want a second date.

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No, you cannot change them

And, yes, they’ll likely tr y to change you. You are not the exception to anything. The most compelling people are passionate about something, so allow room for someone to be their unique self and you may find them irresistible. Don’t forget: if they cheated their way into the relationship, they’ll likely cheat their way out. So will you.

When to get physical?

First, let me say, I waited three months before I slept with my wife (she was my girlfriend back then). I did that so I could see who she was without all the lust, which means we had to talk more. She’s hot, so it took self-discipline. That said, the only people who know when you should have sex are you and the other person (or persons). If it feels right at the end of the date, go for it! Just make sure your hair and underwear are on point.

Remember: lust wears off. It’s not sad; it’s just a fact. Be sure to consider more than meets the eye when choosing a mate.

Open up in a genuine way...

if you’re looking for a commitment. Someone who is actually looking to date you, and not just sleep with you, will appreciate this more than you know. It opens up dialogue for the other person to share, which can be scar y to initiate. It also quickly weeds out those who just want sex because they see you’re serious, which isn’t a bad thing. Open and honest communication is crucial in any relationship.

If you don’t succeed the first time, TRY, TRY AGAIN.

Commit to going on 10–20 dates this summer as a way of learning more about yourself and what you want in a par tner. It’s not a marathon; it’s an experiment. Remember : If a first date falls flat or a budding relationship turns out not to be what you wanted, don’t give up. Your next date is waiting around the corner, and they could be “the one!”

Ultimately, you have to trust your intuition to find your way through the dating world. Always stick to your values and do not settle!q Paula M. Smith , M.Div., MFT, is a Har vard graduate; certified IMAGO therapist; marriage, family, and child therapist; ordained interfaith chaplain; and published writer. Paula lives in Providence with her wife Yael. She has an office-based and online therapy and coaching practice where she works with individuals and couples locally and internationally. Write to Paula with your questions at

askpaula@optionsri.org.

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RI Pride Triple Crown Pageant, April 12 Imperial Court of RI Coronation Ball, April 19 Photos by Jack Hartwein-Sanchez

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Get Happy

by Bradford Greer

with the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus

y the time you read this the last mounds of snow and ice will have melted away. Crocuses and daffodils will have poked through the ear th and other signs of spring will make you smile. The sounds of music will fill the air and come the fir st weekend of June, the Providence Gay Men’s Chor us (PGMC) will help you welcome a new season of light, laughter, and pride. “Get Happy with the PGMC” will have you be-bopping in your seat, anticipating cook-outs, cocktails, sunshine at the beach, and remembering summer evenings on the porch and old summer loves. As the PGMC celebrates their nineteenth year, this par ticular concer t has the distinction of being featured in “Don’t Stop the Music,” the Providence Public Librar y’s three-month celebration of 20th centur y music in Rhode Island. Performing at the librar y bolster s Ar tistic Director Kim Kuda’s vision to share the PGMC’s

music with audiences who may not normally find their way to a concer t by a gay chor us. To underscore that vision, the PGMC were guest ar tists at The Ocean State Summer Pops Orchestra Holiday Concer t, Temple Emanu-El’s Holocaust Memorial program, Blithewold Mansion’s “Sparkle” event, and Linden Place in Bristol, and performed the National Anthem at events like the PawSox’ fir st LGBTQ Day, the Community College of RI 5K race, and the Providence Roller Derby semi-finals. In 2013, the PGMC added Friday evening concer ts to benefit local nonprofit organizations. Youth Pride, C ABINS (Community Against Bullying In Schools), RI Pride, and AIDS Care Ocean State are past beneficiaries. If you value the Providence Public Librar y’s mission to nur ture the educational, historical, and cultural fabric of Rhode Island, then Friday, June 5, is your night to “Get Happy,” as half of the proceeds will be donated to the librar y. The charitable chor us also raised money

for college scholarships, contributes food and funding for holiday dinner s, and instituted a year-round “Bulging Basket” initiative for chor us members to donate non-perishable food items, toiletries, and paper products. Come on, get happy with the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus in the auditorium space at the Providence Public Librar y (225 Washington Street), Thu.-Sat., June 4-6 at 7pm and Sun. June 7 at 4pm. Tickets can be purchased for $25 from PGMC members or at www.provgmc.org. Three-hour par king costs $3 at the Biltmore Par king Garage with a ticket stamped at the performance. The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus aspires to deliver uplifting, empowering messages of equality for all. Through this artistic vision, the PGMC strives not only to change the way society thinks about gay men, but to hopefully change society’s perceptions of all diverse people in all parts of the world. q

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SPEAKS OUT

binary w [ e d] o not see o[ urselves a ] sa man or woman.

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AGenderqueerVoice

For people who “transgress the

by Christion Battey for AIDS Project RI

At a recent HIV testing event at the Community College of Rhode Island’s Knight Campus in Warwick, I came across twenty-year-old Brandy, a student who identifies as genderqueer. Being from a different generation, I asked myself, what is genderqueer? I had an idea, but wanted to hear Brandy’s point of view. Brandy said, “For people who transgress the binar y— [we] do not see [ourselves] as a man or woman.” So, genderqueer is non-binar y, is not about physical characteristics, and is not transgender or bisexuality. From Brandy’s perspective, it is not what society thinks, it is about how you feel. I asked Brandy to tell me about the experiences faced by someone who identifies as genderqueer. Growing up in rural Washington County, it became quite clear that this was something Brandy would face alone during the high school years of self-discover y. “Nobody ever told me there are other genders out there. There was never a sex/ health education class that had that,” explained Brandy. “I felt as if I did not belong and did not know where I fit in.” Brandy went on a three-year journey of “self-discover y” and moved from Rhode Island to Florida to be closer to extended family, thinking it would get better and become more manageable, all the while hoping she’d somehow be understood. It was the complete

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opposite. Eventually, after “sitting in a gay bar for six to seven hours,” Brandy said, “I came to the self-realization that this is not who I am. I moved back to Rhode Island, enrolled in college fulltime, and have been at CCRI ever since, finishing up my associates degree.” Brandy has reached out to others who identify as genderqueer and has built up a network of suppor t in the area. Brandy states that Youth Pride has been a great resource and “friends make it a lot better.” Brandy hasn’t experienced much community at the Community College of Rhode Island, believing it to be a bit conser vative at times and feeling misunderstood by professors, administration, and students. “I would like to see this change. I am tr ying to star t the first genderqueer social group club.” Brandy feels it’s impor tant to find the courage to be who you are, strive to become who you want to be, advocate for yourself, and educate those who may not understand what it means to be genderqueer. As I was wrapping up, I thanked Brandy for taking the time to open up to me and she shared one final thought: “We are all still fighting, and [we’re] not where we need to be. Progress still needs to be made.” q

AIDS Project RI is a division of Family Ser vice of RI, providing case management, various health-related ser vices, advocacy, prevention education, and HIV and Hep-C testing. APRI’s location is 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. For more info, call (401) 8315522 or visit www.aisdprojectri.org.

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by Christopher Dalpe for AIDS Care Ocean State

King of Queens Fifth Annual

Competition

Mark those calendars because you won’t want to miss the 2015 King of Queens competition. Twelve local Rhode Island celebrities who have never dressed or performed in drag have been teamed up with drag mothers who’ll transform them into queens for a night for charity. Join AIDS Care Ocean State (ACOS) on May 17 at the Colosseum (180 Pine Street in Providence) for a 7pm performance with doors opening at 6pm. Tickets will be sold at the door for $15. This year’s competition is fierce and our contestants have been training for months to bring you the best show you’ve ever seen. They’ve got the names, the hair, the nails, and the dress but only one will be named the 2015 King of Queens. One hundred percent of the proceeds support ACOS programs and services. This is the 5th Annual King of Queens Competition. Alysha Brock, dedicated supporter and volunteer for ACOS, is the creator of King of Queens. She pitched the idea to Stephen Hartley, ACOS Development Director, five years ago as a new, fun way to involve the community while bringing in much needed funds to the agency. Little did they know, King of Queens would become one of the most anticipated yearly drag events in the state. What makes the event so special? Brock says, “People don’t just attend, they perform! The performers bring family, friends, and coworkers out to support them, and by association they learn about the agency, who we help, and what the money they are donating to support their contestant actually benefits.”

A panel of judges will score the contestants on appearance, song choice, performance, and crowd applause. Remember to bring your tip money because The Fan Favorite is chosen based on tips and donations the contestant receives. Be sure to check out your favorite contestants online because many of them have already started collecting donations through gofundme.com. For more information and event details, please visit us on the web at aidscareos.org or contact chrisd@aidscareos.org. q AIDS Care Ocean State provides comprehensive AIDS service, supportive housing, emergency funds, and a Speakers Bureau. Located at 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. (401) 521-3603. Appointments: (401) 781-0665. www.aidscareoceanstate.org.

ACOS can’t wait to see what our newest Queens will bring to the table; we know it’s going to be spectacular. Expect to see ACOS board member Marc Gauthier,The Alley Cat and Dark Lady’s Rande Diantuono, Options’ Donny McKendall, Ego’s Bill Berggren, Stable’s Jim Mello, and Options’ Lesbian on the Loose Melanie Silva among our fabulous contestants who will work it on stage for ACOS.

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News from SAGE-RI by Cathy S. Cranston

and support of our sponsors and when the occasion arises, please utilize their services or purchase their products in return.” SAGE also thanks the Event Planning Committee— David Liddle, Thea Ernest, Jeffrey Hartley, and Kim Stowell—for the hard work and great heart they put into producing the event, and the unbelievably talented artists who contributed to the Silver Rainbow art auction.

Our Tomorrow Survey SAGE Interim Executive Director Cathy Cranston, left, stands in front of some of the beautiful wearable auction items with Maria Tocco, founder of The Providence Flea.

Put a Little Silver in Your Rainbow Takes the Gold! A sellout crowd, dressed in their finest, filled the Warwick Museum of Art on April 18 for an evening of drinks, desserts, dancing, and art to benefit SAGE-RI. Margie McLaughlin, chairperson of SAGE-RI’s steering committee said, “I am still reeling from the excitement of SAGE’s first foray into the major fundraising event arena; it was obvious everywhere I looked people were having a fabulous time.” SAGE thanks the event sponsors whose contributions made “Silver Rainbow” a great success: Northeast Investment Group and Neighborhood Health Plan (Stonewall Sponsors); Blue Cross Blue Shield of Rhode Island (Del Martin Sponsor); Cherry Hill Manor, Ann Marie Harrington, Pronzi Catering, and Lynn McKinney (Harvey Milk Sponsors). Sally Ann Hay, SAGE Coordinator, said “I encourage Options readers to remember the generosity

SAGE-RI has received a small grant to partner with SAGE USA and other SAGE affiliates across the country on a campaign called Our Tomorrow. Our Tomorrow is an effort to engage LGBTQ people across the country in a conversation to shape the future of a bigger, bolder movement that leaves no one behind. The goal of the campaign is to collect surveys outlining the hopes, fears, and ideas of LGBTQ people to inform an advocacy agenda beyond marriage equality. SAGE will be distributing surveys at the May 29 LGBT @ Friendship Café luncheon; at the June 7 premier of the new SAGE-RI video What They Know: Reflections and Collective

Many of the artists were on hand, including John Fazzino, left, and Michael Guy. (Michael is a former director of Options.)

Wisdom; and at RI PrideFest on June 20. You may also take the survey online at www.goo.gl/forms/4xnj7h9TP6 or check out the SAGE Rhode Island Facebook page for more details on how to share your thoughts and ideas.

What They Know: Reflections and Collective Wisdom Video Premier

Members of Youth Pride, Inc. were in the house, serving delectable desserts to the guests

For the last several months SAGE student intern and videographer extraordinaire Jeffrey Hartley has been interviewing community members about their views of life gone by and life yet to come, seen through the lens older age provides. What has emerged from the project is not only a high quality video that will be used by SAGE in its educational and training programs, but a poignant and insightful look into the

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It was a wonderful reunion for many attendees, a chance to see old friends and meet new ones

lives of ten people who have bravely and openly shared their experiences, hopes, dreams, and fears with us. The What They Know video will premiere on Sunday, June 7 at 11am in the fourteenth floor community room and terrace at Waterplace Residences (200 Exchange Street in downtown Providence). Waterplace is handicap accessible and free parking is available on the street on Sundays. The program is free of charge and a light breakfast will be served. Capacity is limited to 50 people, so Options readers are encouraged to make reservations at 528-3259.

LGBT Café @ Friendship Café The April luncheon for LGBT older adults and their allies, like the inaugural lunch in March, sold out well in advance. The room was abuzz as old friends and new ones gathered for great food, spirited conversation, and some laughs courtesy of comic Poppy Champlin. “The chefs and waitstaff from the Amos House culinary training program provided excellent service, and the food was exceptional,” said Cathy Cranston, SAGE-RI’s Interim Executive Director. The May 29 luncheon begins at noon with this menu: mixed greens and balsamic dressing; turkey panini with cheddar, caramelized onions, and avocado cream (or roasted vegetable

RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence Director Deb Debare, center, along with her partner Cindy Emery at left, chat with SAGE’s Cathy Cranston

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Secretary of Health and Human Services Elizabeth Roberts, right, has long been a strong ally to our community. Here she enjoys the festivities with Former SAGE Director Sally Hay at left and SAGE supporter Tiffany Hogan

panini for vegetarians); a cookie ice cream sandwich, and milk and other beverages. The Café offers LGBT individuals and their friends age 60 and older a hot, nutritious meal in a friendly, centrally-located environment. Come and experience an opportunity for socializing with friends, great entertainment, and information about nutrition and senior services, all for a suggested donation of $3. Reservations are required by calling Pauline at 351-6700. Friendship Café is located at 500 Broad Street in Providence. This café is funded in part by Federal and State funds distributed through the Rhode Island Division of Elderly Affairs. q SAGE-RI (Services& Advocacy for GLBT Elders) addresses issues of concern to LGBT elders and is an organization of diverse people of all ages. For information on programs or to join SAGE-RI, drop us a line at sageriinfo@gmail.com; leave us a message at (401) 528-3259; write to us at 235 Promenade St., Suite 500, Box 18, Providence, RI 02908, or find us on Facebook as SAGE-Rhode Island.

RI PR I DE Congratulations to our 2015 titleholders, chosen by a wonderful panel of judges last month at the annual Triple Crown Pageant.The 2015 titles include the first ever Ms.Trans* RI and Ms. Bisexual RI, breaking new ground in recognizing and including less visible members of our LGBTQ community. All of the contestants worked hard and put on a great show for the 300 people in attendance. Welcome to your year with RI Pride—Mr. Gay RI Richie DeFilippo, Miss Gay RI Complete Destruction, Ms. Lesbian RI Lorena Gorman, Ms. Trans* RI Alejandra Blaze, and Ms. Bisexual RI Amber Guzman! We look forward to all the amazing things you will do for our community during your reign.

by Kurt Bagley

It takes over 120 volunteers to execute PrideFest, so please register to volunteer at www.prideri.com. Vendor and Parade registrations can be completed there as well. q Rhode Island Pride is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization dedicated to promoting the visibility, equality, and diversity of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community and provides safe space to come out, express, and celebrate all sexual identities and genders. For more information, email info@prideri.com or call (401) 467-2130.

This year’s PrideFest theme, chosen during our annual planning retreat is IndiVISIBLE, reflecting that it’s essential for our community not to be divided as we pursue equality, and also that individuals being out and visible is vital in our efforts to effect change in our state, our nation, and world. The 2015 PrideFest entertainment showcase will feature local and regional acts as always, and this year we have a very diverse evening lineup that includes Sir Ari Gold, Shannel from RuPaul’s Drag Race, an amazing folk trio called Pearl and the Beard, and our headliner, Crystal Bowersox, who was the first runner up from American Idol Season 9.

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by Annie Cronin-Silva & Melanie Silva

Wondering if the warmer weather was ever going to make an appearance in Little Rhody, we braved the chill and ventured out at the end of March and April to attend some fun community events. Mr. Gay RI 2014 Anthony Maselli’s step down party on April 17 (to benefit AIDS Care Ocean State) at Bravo Restaurant in Providence was a who’s who of comedy. Talented comedians like John Kelley, Mark Shea, Ellen Moschetto, and Doreen Collins performed, and Charlie Hall made a special rare appearance. The setting was perfect for mingling and reconnecting with community members. Payton St. James and Anita Cocktail were great emcees. Anthony’s supporters beamed with pride when he took the stage looking completely regal in a coat and crown. He comically introduced the event with hysterical, on point jokes, warming the crowd for a night of laughter. The tastefully done dinner buffet, entertainment, and auction items truly made it a night to remember.

Mark Shea, John Kelley, Poppy Champlin, Melanie Silva,Annie Cronin-Silva at The Village

Lesbians especially should note that the first Friday of each month The Village hosts a comedy night from 8-10pm before the dance floor is opened for the Kiki Crew. We attended the uproariously funny Poppy Champlin with Mark Shea comedy

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show which was emceed by John Kelley. Our pre-show dinner was fantastic. The Village not only has amazing weekend brunches but also delicious dinners. A must is the risotto ball appetizer—it’s delish! We may have worked off our dinner calories just from laughing hysterically at the three comedians’ quick one-liners and perfectly timed jokes. Saturday, April 4, we drove to the W Hotel in Boston to attend the NOH8 Photo Shoot. The NOH8 campaign was established by photographer Adam Bouska and is most recognizable by the duct tape over the mouths of the subjects in the photos. That duct tape symbolized the voices being silenced by the passage of Proposition 8 in California which was the amendment to ban same sex marriage. In recent years, the campaign has grown in scope and meaning to end discrimination and inspire acceptance. Several years ago Youth Pride Inc. arranged for the campaign to come to Providence. We were lucky enough to attend that session and knew if it ever came back to the area, we would definitely have to go again. It’s a powerful feeling to look around and see over 600 diverse people—singles, couples, families, groups, pets, beauty queens, drag queens, politicians—standing in solidarity in a sea of white tee shirts with NOH8 tattoos on their faces in hopes of eliminating hatred. With the warmer weather and Pride season come more events to add to our calendar. We recommend you mark your calendar for the ACOS Gala at PPAC on May 2, Boston Pride on June 13, and RI PrideFest on June 20. We especially hope to see you at King of Queens on May 17. Community members inexperienced in drag are paired with talented “drag mothers” who facilitate their transformation and coach them in the competition.You might recognize Melanie as the only female in the pageant. She’s pumped and ready to represent the ladies in this competition to benefit AIDS Care Ocean State. Come on out, cheer for Melanie, and enjoy being part of this fabulous community! q

Volunteers of All Ages Needed

don’t grow up invisible

Youth Pride Inc. by Kerri Kanelos

YPI has been accepted as a beneficiar y of the CVS Caremark Charity Classic golf tournament taking place on Sunday, June 28 through Tuesday, June 30 at the Rhode Island Countr y Club in Barrington. YPI must provide volunteers to assist in the VIP parking areas to be eligible to receive a sizable donation from the proceeds raised. All volunteers will receive a free pass to the three-day golf tournament to be used at any time outside of their scheduled volunteer hours. Charity Classic Volunteers are asked to sign up for two shifts, one of which must be on Sunday. Please call 421-5626 or e-mail kerri@youthprideri. org to sign up. People under 18 need parental permission to par ticipate. We hope you’ll take advantage of this oppor tunity for folks to turn their time into money for YPI. Lipsky/Whittaker Scholarship

Erich Hastlehurst speaks at Mark McClure’s Memorial

With thanks The staff, board, and youth of YPI would like to thank the family and friends of Mark McClure, one of the founding youth of YPI. Sadly, Mark passed away last year. An event was held on March 16 to celebrate Mark’s life and $2,782 was raised for YPI in his honor. Many thanks to Mark’s parents William and Susan McClure, the Sandra Feinstein-Gamm Theatre for hosting the event, and the friends and family who came out to share memories of Mark.

Applications for the Lipsky/Whittaker Scholarship Fund are being accepted now through May 15. The Lipsky/Whittaker Scholarship is awarded to Rhode Island youth who are LGBTQQ or the child of LGBTQQ parents. Scholarship details and applications are available online at www.youthprideri. org. For more information, please contact Executive Director Kerri Kanelos at 421-5626 or via e-mail at kerri@youthprideri. org. q Youth Pride Inc. provides support, education and advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13-23. Our Drop-in Center is at 473 Westminster Street, Providence, RI 02903. Visit www.youthprideri. org, email info@youthprideri.org, or call (401) 421-5626 for more info.

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Options originated in 1982 as the offical newsletter of the Rhode Island Gay Task Force. Editor Jos Fayette explained, “The RIGTF wants to make the homosexual community aware of their options as gay men and women in Rhode Island. And it’s only because we live, work, love, and play in this state that there are such a large number of options available to all of us.” Options has always, and will continue to print LGBTQ resources so that you can, as Fayette went on to say, “Exercise your OPTIONS today to make positive changes in your life tomorrow.” Help us help you! Email info@optionsri.org if you come across a resource listing that needs updating. Phone numbers are in the 401 area code and addresses are in RI, unless otherwise indicated. Addiction Support Groups AA Brothers in Sobriety: Saturday 7:30pm. 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328. Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence. 24hr. (866) 252-3784. RI LGBT AA Group: Tuesdays 7-8pm. The Wellness Company,132A George M Cohan Blvd., Providence. All are welcome. Set Them Free: Narcotics Anonymous open discussion group. Wednesdays 7:30-9pm. Anchor Recovery Community Center, 249 Main Street, Pawtucket. 721-5100. info@anchorrecovery.org. www.anchorrecovery.org. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: Addiction support services and Narcan. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Leonard Amaral, Program Manager, lamaral@sevenhills.org. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous: 12-step program. Fridays at 7pm. Providence Presbyterian Church, 500 Hope Street, Providence, side entrance, downstairs to the left. Gay, but all are welcome. AIDS/Health Resources AFIA Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recovery groups, recreational and social activities. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients. Wednesday and Thursday 12-3pm. Mathewson Street Church, 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. Contact Gordon Cooper, 331-1350 ext. 3268. info@uwri.org. www.familyserviceri.org. AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331. www.aac.org. AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & HEP C testing, safer-sex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups. Speaker’s Bureau, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence. 521-3603 (call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment). www.aidscareos.org. AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. 831-5522 www.aidsprojectri.org. AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panel-making programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport. 434-4880. admin@aidsquiltri.org. www.aidsquiltri.org. Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education. 121 South Main Street, Second Floor, Providence. 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu. brown.edu/Departments/BRUNAP. Community Care Alliance: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island. 245 Main Street, Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org. Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston. Also Coventry, Pawtucket, and Warwick. 467-9610. Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management and financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. 376 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. Contact Jenn, (508) 678-1002.

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HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous. Free or sliding scale. RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations. 2222320. Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/ AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 1085 North Main Street, Providence. Referrals: 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette, 727-7079. Main Office: 415-4200 or toll-free 800-338-6555. www.hhcri.org. House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992. LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514. Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations. North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 1006 Charles Street, Suite 5, North Providence. 484-7523. info@plaidsproject.org. www.plaidsproject.org. Planned Parenthood of So. New England: Confidential, low-cost, same-day & walk-in STD and HIV testing. Commonsense approach to health. 111 Point St., Providence. 800-230-7526. www.ppsne.org.

Project Weber: Services for male sex workers. Drop-in center, support groups, HIV and Hep C testing, clean needles. 383-4888. www.projectweber.org. Seven Hills HIV Prevention & Screening: TWIST program, HIV and STI prevention and testing, partner care. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Contact Leonard Amaral, lamaral@sevenhills.org. SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C, and STD testing, education, case management and support. MA and RI locations. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV); (508) 324-3561. Family Healthcare Center; (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org. Steppingstone, Inc.: Welcome Home Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. HIV support groups available. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 984-7514. www.steppingstoneinc.org. Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation.109 Rhode Island Road, Lakeville, MA. (508) 947-1683. www. tranquilmind.net. Thundermist Health Center: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing. 450 Clinton Street, Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane. 767-4100 ext. 3516. Information/Education The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy.Tues. -- Sat. 12 -- 6 and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org. Fenway Community Center LGBT Helpline: Support, information and referrals. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-452

GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564. www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org. Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com. RILGBT-News: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list.To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net. United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 Nightlife The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar. MondayThursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm-2am, Sunday 2pm1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. Sunday-Wednesday 5pm-1am, Thursday-Saturday 5pm-2am. 62 Weir Street, Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com. Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Providence: public/ private venue for music, art, film screenings, weddings, showers, etc. RHODYWOOD@yahoo.com; 359-0192. Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required. One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.cbcresorts.com. The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. Tuesday-Thursday 9pm1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm-1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. EGO: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space. Sunday and Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 10pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. www.egopvd.com. Indigo Lounge: 599 Tiogue Ave, Coventry RI 02816. Breakfast buffet, specialty pizzas, T Dances, live entertainment, karaoke Thurs. Hours vary, closed Mon. www.Indigopizza.com. Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am. 15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com.

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Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. Monday-Thursday 2pm1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday-Sunday 12pm-2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447. The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday 12pm-2am, Sunday 12pm-1am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950. The Village: Downtown Providence’s newest LGBT owned and operated restaurant and live entertainment venue. Lunch & dinner Wednesday through Sunday for varying hours. 373 Richmond St. 228-7222, www.TheVillageRi.com Political & Legal Groups American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 220, Providence. 831-7171. riaclu.org. Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTQ human rights. (212) 807-8400. Cvohs18904@yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org. Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. queer@brown.edu. Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. (617) 436-1350 or (800) 455-GLAD. gladlaw@glad.org www.GLAD.org. Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY. (212) 809-8585. www.lambdalegal.org. Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com. The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062. tnt@brown.edu. RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org. RI Socialist Action: 952-5385, adgagneri@gmail.com. Spanish: 351-3514, walsil@cox.net. RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations, and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662 TTY: 222-2664, richr.ri.gov. Scouts for Equality: An organization composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. Contact Carol Crowther. ccrowther1@gmail.com. Facebook.com/ riscoutsforequality. Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans. PO Box 65301,Washington DC. (202) 328-3244. or (800) 538-7418. sldn@sldn.org. www.sldn.org. Religious & Spiritual All Saints Memorial Church: 674 Westminster Street, Providence. 751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org. Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton. 624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com, www.amicablechurch.org. Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: robin@awab.org, www.awab.org.

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Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” Sundays 10am. 461 County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. office@bccucc.org, www.bccucc.org. Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Rev. Margaret Weis. Sundays 10am. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org. Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC. An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Co-Pastors Todd & Nicole Yonkman. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. BeneficentChurchUCC@gmail.com, www.beneficentchurch.org. Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.org. Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. Sundays 10:30am. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181, www.middletownmethodist.com. Central Congregational Church: UCC. An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence. 331-1960. www.centralchurch.us. Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643. administrator@channingchurch.org. www.channingchurch.org. Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of Neo-pagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail.com, \www.charteroakadf.org. Christ Church in Lonsdale: Episcopal. 1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln. Services 8am and 10:30am. 725-1920. office@christchurchlincoln.org. www.christchurchlincoln.org. Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. 1336 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence. 434-5012. info@epiphanyep.org, www.epiphanyep.org. Church of the Holy Paraclete: Independent Old Catholic. Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 9am and 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 218-0706. www.holyparaclete.org. Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Service 10am. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. office@edgewoodchurchri.org. www.edgewoodchurchri.org. Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland. 658-1506. office@emmanuelri.org. www.emmanuelri.org. First Congregational Church in Bristol: An Open and Affirming Congregation. Skip Macaulay, Interim Pastor. 281 High Street, Bristol. 253-7288. www.fccbristol.org. First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation. Sunday 10:30am. 1 Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970. admin@firstunitarianprov.org, www.firstunitarianprov.org. First Unitarian Church: Service 11am. 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686. admin@uunewbedford.org, www.uunewbedford.org. First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Samegender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 528-5348. fusf@verizon.net, www.fusf.org. Foxboro Universalist Church: UUA. Service 10am. 6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. chair@uufoxborough.org. www.uufoxborough.org. Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. hello@gracechurchprovidence.org. www.gracechurchprovidence. org. Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation. Pastor Sandra Demmler D’Amico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 2222898. www.immanuellc.org. Interweave at Channing Memorial UU Church: A membership organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643. Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd: A “Reconciling in Christ” congregation (Welcoming). 3383 Old North Rd., Kingston, RI. Sundays 9 am. Pastor Mary Hansen-Joyce. 789-7776; office@goodshepherdri.org

Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900. MathewsonStUMC@gmail.com. Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. mercycomm@yahoo.com, www.mgc.org. Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Bob McKetchnie. 505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org. Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 434-4742. www.newmanucc.org. Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238. Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket. 7262800. office@ppucc.necoxmail.com, www.parkplaceucc.com. The Pub Church: An Open & Affirming church that meets in a pub. Location may change. Saturday 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com. Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937. parishasst@pilgrimlutheranri.org, pilgrimlutheranri.jimdo.com. Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)-997-9086. Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. Service 10am. 4332039. www.rcc-ucc.com. St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 15 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153. Sundays 8am and 10am.StAugustinesChurch@necoxmail.com, www.staugustineuri.org. St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence. 353-2079. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 10am. 50 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 751-2141. StMartinsNB.Secretary@gmail.com, www.stmartinsprov.org. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Welcoming Church. Monthly LGBT Eucharist. 136 Rivet Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)994-8972. stmartins1887@comcast.com, www.stmartinsma.org. St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 9am. 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 7284300. office@stpaulspawtucket.org, www.stpaulspawtucket.org. St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. Sundays 9am. 2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 683-1164. stpaulsportsmouthri.org. St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Avenue, Providence. 272-9649.stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpeters-standrews.org. Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 680-9076. stocc134@gmail.com, www.saintthereseocc.org. Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 222-4677. office2nd@verizon.net, www.attleborosecondchurch.org. Seekonk Congregational Church: Rev. Joy Utter. Sundays 9am. 600 Fall River Avenue, Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. sccucc@verizon.net, www.scc-ucc.com Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education. Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. www.sgi-usa.org. Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congregation. 901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. office@agudasma.org, www.agudasma.org. Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 331-6070. info@temple-beth-el.org, www.temple-beth-el.org. Temple Emanu-El: A welcoming Conservative congregation. Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 99 Taft Avenue, Providence. 331-1616. info@teprov.org, www.teprov.org. Temple Habonim: A warm, Welcoming Reform congregation. Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 245-6536. office@ templehabonim.org, www.templehabonim.org. Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Jeff Goldwasser, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350.

webmaster@templesinairi.org, www.templesinairi.org. Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr.org, www.unitarianchurchfr.org. Unitarian Universalist Society of Fairhaven: Service 10:30am. 102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081. www.uufairhaven.org. Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. uucscri@yahoo.com. www.uusouthcountyri.org. Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich. 884-5933. www.westminsteruu.org. Social Organizations Bear Providence: Monthly social events for the bear community. www.bearprovidence.com Bisexual Resource Center: PO Box 170796, Boston, MA. (617) 4249595. brc@bicresource.net www.biresource.net. Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. (617) 424-9595. biversity-subscribe@biversity.org, www.biversity.org. Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman Quarterly.” www.biwomenboston.org. Bears Ocean State (BOS): Informal e-group for gay & bisexual bearidentified and affiliated men for friendly companionship. All welcome. groups.yahoo.com/group/bearsoceanstate. Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGSYA): 56 Barnstable Road, Hyannis, MA. (508) 778-7744. info@cisgsya.org, www.cigsya.org. Communisong: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.communisong.net. CORISMA: Potluck get-togethers for couples from RI and southeast MA. corismainfo@comcast.net, www.corismagroup.org. Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. All welcome to general membership meetings on first Monday at Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. icri.prov@gmail. com. www.icriprov.org. Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.mixedborders.com. Opera Club: Enjoy hearing and attending. Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. BrettCornellpi4@aol.com. Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non-singing volunteers welcome. Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org. RI Association of Gay Professionals: Networking and philanthropy. www.riagp.com. RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children. Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com. RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday

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in June. Office: 1005 Main Street #1105 Pawtucket. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, 02903. 467-2130. info@prideri.com, www.prideri.com. RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for gay and bisexual men 40 and older. Second Sunday. Contact Steve, 996-3010. www.riprimetimers.org. RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational? Refreshing discussion. Fourth Saturday. East Providence restaurant location. www.meetup.com/skeptics-133/. RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net. SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBTQ seniors. 235 Promenade Street, Suite 500, Box 18, Providence. 528-3259. sageriinfo@gmail.com. SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA & RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@ yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com. Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT vintage & specialty car enthusiasts. www.yankeelcc.com. Sports & Recreation PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. www.pridesportsboston.com. Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: ksg.bgbl@gmail.com, www.bgbl.com. Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. 1463 Atwood Avenue, Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri. 831-6940.www.bgalbowling.com. www. townhalllanes.com. GALA Bowling League: Sundays 5:50 p.m., E. Providence Lanes, 80 Newport Ave., E. Prov. Season thru April. View us on Facebook or email galabowlingleague@gmail.com. FLAG (For Lesbians And Gays) FOOTBALL: Boston-based recreational football club.All skill levels are encouraged to participate. Saturday mornings in the

fall and spring. www.flagflagfootball.com. Boston Pride HOCKEY: www.bostonpridehockey.org. Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www.rondeauskickboxing.com. Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence. 274-7672.www. mainstma.org. Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org. Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf.org. Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football: www.bostonironsides.org. Frontrunners Rhode Island RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Meet at the end of Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence. Thursday 6pm. Contact Brian. 751-7643. bripm@cox.net, frontrunnersri@gmail.com Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Morning walk/run along the Charles River. Saturdays,10am. Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org. OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. www.outryders.org. Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment. www. bostonstrikers.com. Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome. www.providencesoftball.org. Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in four divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and recreational. (617) 2977490. www.beantownsoftball.com. LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org. TENNIS-4-All: Boston area tennis organization. www.tennis4all.org. Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. secretary@cbvolleyball.net www.gayvolleyball.net.

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Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult coed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com. East Coast WRESTLING Club: (617)937.5858 x6. ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org. Students & Youth Bristol Community College Gay/Straight Alliance: Steven Camara,Advisor. BCC-H202, 777 Elsbree Street, Fall River, MA. (774) 357-2391. Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown University for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown.edu or lgbtq@ brown.edu. CCRI Triangle Alliance: an LGBTQQ student-run group at CCRI, on the Flanagan, Liston, and Knight campuses. www.ccri.edu/triangle/. COLAGE: Support and social activities for children of LGBT parents. Coordinator Veronica Jutras. Third Saturday 10:30am-12pm. Gordon School, E. Providence. rhodeisland@colage.org www.colage.org/colage-chapter/colage-rhode-island-chapter/. LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743. Private one-to-one chat and info on local resources. Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth. Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-9001 or (800) 399-PEER. www.fenwayhealth.org. Salve Regina University – The Alliance: 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Contact: Mandy Hart. mandy.hart@salve.edu. SeaQuel (Southeast Asian Queers United for Empowerment and Leadership): a program of PRYSM. Monthly Sunday meetings. 383-7450. SeaQuel@prysm.us. www.prysm.us. S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu.

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The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. (866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org. University of RI LGBTIQ2: Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@uri.edu. URI LGBTQ Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894. Youth Pride Inc.: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13--23. Tues. -- Fri. 2 -- 8pm. The Way Out peer support group Thurs. 4pm. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 4pm. Visit our website for full calendar of events. 743 Westminster St., Providence. 421-5626. info@youthprideri.org. www.youthprideri.org. Support Groups & Social Services Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline: (617) 742-4911. TTY: (617) 227-4911. advocate@tnlr.org. Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 331-5437. www.adoptionoptions.org. Child & Family Services: Counseling, young parent support, adoption, more. LGBT groups beginning July. Open six days. 66 Troy St., Fall River, MA. (508) 676-5708. www.child-familyservices.org Community Care Alliance: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 235-6095. www.famresri.org. Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4300. www. childrensfriendri.org. Family Service RI: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright. 331-1350 ext. 3305. www.familyserviceri.org. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: HIV Prevention and Screening. 310 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 235-1012.T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378.

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Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. www.bvadvocacycenter.org. Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group. Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@gmail.com. www.compassftm.org. Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700. Day One: Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/ abuse & incest. 24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100. www.dayoneri.org. Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline. 782-3990 or toll free 800-494-8100, www.dvrcsc.org. Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. 738 Main St. #323, Waltham, MA. (781) 333-8429. info@gayfathersboston.org, www.gayfathersboston.org. Gay Officers Action League (GOAL)/New England: Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue and publicly employed EMS. Confidential. PO Box 587, Boston, MA 02117. (617) 376-3612. info@goalne.org, www.goalne.org. Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee. Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@gayshare.org, www. gayshare.org. GLBTQ Domestic Violence Project: Support, info, shelter. 955 Massachusetts Avenue, Private Message Box 131, Cambridge, MA. (800) 832-1901. www.glbtqdvp.org. Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor. HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served. AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 521-3603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108. Kathys’ Group: Free support group for lesbians with cancer or any lifethreatening illness. Partners and caregivers welcome. Meets monthly in Providence. 888-5KATHYS. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Socializing and discussions for gay, bi and curious men. Confidential. Drug and alcohol-free. 18+. Thursdays in Taunton and first Tuesdays in New Bedford. 7-8:30pm. mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com. National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@nlgja.org, www.nlgja.org. Partner Support Group at Fenway Health: A ten-week support group with the purpose of building community and connections for anyone who identifies as non-trans, ages 18+, and is in a relationship with a trans* person(s). 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA. Contact Sarah Eley, LICSW. 857-313-6551. seley@fenwayhealth.org. PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Greater Providence chapter, serves all RI and southeastern MA. First Wednesday 6:45pm. Met School, 325 Public Street, Providence. 751-7571. PFLAGprovidence@gmail.com, www.pflagprovidence.org. RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 4948100. 467-9940. RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston. 6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100. Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www.samaritansri.org. Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety. 861-6191 ext. 121. Sojourner House: Call for confidential support group. Support, shelter,

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advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships. Including specific LGBT services. No caller ID used. Outgoing calls blocked for safety. 24hr helpline. 765-3232. 861-6191. www.sojournerri.org Straight Spouses: Groups and online support. www.straightspouse.org. TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group 1st & 3d Tues. and 1st & 3d Sat. of the month. Location & information: 441-5058. info@tginetwork.org. www.tginetwork.org. Trans* Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. First Wednesday 6:30-8:30pm. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org. Trans* Youth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org, www.imatyfa.org. Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www.tavausa.org. Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence. 846-5263. www. wrcnbc.org. q

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Worth a Look by The Lit Chick

“Pull up a chair around the campfire,” Brandi Carlile seems to be saying with her newest album, “and listen to where I’ve been.” The Firewatcher’s Daughter is part alt-folk and part rock, but all distinctly Carlile. There is a mature and contented feeling as the songs roll with the signature rhythm and depth of poetry that she and her long-time bandmates and songwriting collaborators, Tim and Phil Hanseroth, are known for. I loved the rocking sarcasm of “Mainstream Kid” and the hard-found peace of “Heroes and Songs.” Fans will recognize the first singles from the album, “Wherever Is Your Heart” and “The Eye,” as classic Carlile.

The staggeringly prolific George Takei has helmed the U.S.S. Enterprise as Lt. Sulu in Star Trek, and taken Facebook by storm with 8.4 million followers. Now Takei is taking on YouTube, and his husband, Brad Altman, is coming with him. In It Takeis Two, the couple’s playful new weekly webseries, George and Brad poke fun at their popularity on social media and beyond. I especially enjoyed the title sequence, a take on Bewitched with Brad as Darren and George as Samantha, and the outtakes and bloopers, but what I liked most was seeing Brad and George together. “You have to accept the internet for what it is,” George explains to Brad in the first episode. “It’s like marriage: you go into it for better or for worse.” George and Brad, the first couple in West Hollywood to apply for a marriage license in 2005, met 28 years ago through the LGBT runners club Frontrunners. Said George in an interview with OWN last year: “He was the best runner in the club and also great looking, and so I went up to him and asked him to train me for my first marathon.” The rest, as they say, is history. Visit www.teamtakei.com/ ItTakeisTwo to watch episodes of It Takeis Two and subscribe to the series. For even more of George and Brad, watch To Be Takei, a 2014 documentary about George’s life and adventures.

I recommend listening to this album straight through from the first song to the last. At times uproarious and other times reflective, the songs all reflect the common theme of finding home. The album comes full circle; home is where our hearts are and our hearts are always with the people we love. Carlile’s last album, Bear Creek, begged the question “How does she keep doing it?” and I thought the same thing when I heard The Firewatcher’s Daughter. It’s worth a listen, especially on those warm, lazy summer nights spent around the fire. I picked up my copy at Starbucks, but you can also find it, and more about Carlile, at www.brandicarlile.com.

“All poetry is forgiveness for what this world can not always hold,” writes genderqueer poet-activist Andrea Gibson. Gibson’s newest book, Pansy, does its part, delving into such topics as gender and sexuality, feminism, white privilege, abuse, retribution, recovery, and most of all, love, in all of its phases, and with all of its pain and rewards. At its heart, this is a book of personal and social activism and justice. With brilliant flashes of feeling and turns of phrase, these poems transcend current perceptions to expand our view of ourselves and the world around us. The book is a chance to savor the writing itself, and is a perfect accompaniment to the live shows Gibson is known for. I happened to read Pansy during National Poetry Month, which seemed to have a much bigger bandwagon than usual this year. I’ve never read as much terrible poetry as I did last month (including my own). Gibson’s book is a cut above, and it’s a jagged, through-the-gut cut that challenges us to look in, deeply, and face feelings we may struggle to hide, or not even know were there. It shows the rest of us how it’s done, and the extraordinary talent and courage it takes to do it. Find Pansy and Gibson’s live shows at www.andreagibson. org, and visit Gibson’s www.StayHereWithMe.com, a new website dedicated to suicide prevention.

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