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In this issue: 3 News Briefs 5 Calendar 9 Animal Husbandry 12 Epic Theatre Review 14 “What it Takes” 16 Prov. College Contrversy 17 TGI Network 18 AIDS Project RI 19 Youth Pride Inc 20 SAGE 22-23 AIDS Walk Photos 25 AIDS Care Ocean State 26 Prov. Gay Men’s Chorus 27 Classifieds/Resources

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Thur, Nov 7, 2013 • 7:30pm After 20 years in the music biz, self-described “Little Folksinger” Ani DiFranco is still technically little, although her influence on fellow musicians, activists, and indie-minded people the world over has been huge. Ani DiFranco has never stopped evolving, experimenting, testing the limits of what can be said and sung. For tickets, call the Park Theatre Box Office at 401.467.7275 or visit our website at www.ParkTheatreRI.com.

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News Briefs Kim Stowell

Governor Chris Christie Drops Gay Marriage Challenge

New Jersy Governor Chris Christie announced that he would drop his legal challenge to same-gender marriage. New Jersy has joined 13 other states and the District of Comombia in allowing same-gender couples to marry.

Moldovan Lawmakers Vote to Repeal Ban on Gay Propaganda

behalf of his husband, a Croatian national who was here on a tourist visa, and received the date for their meeting, which turned out to be a week after DOMA was repealed, opening up immigration rights to binational couples, no matter their sexual orientation. Cakaric’s green card arrived in August, granting him permanent residency and the potential for citizenship. They are the first same-gender, binational couple in Rhode Island — and possibly New England — to successfully petition for a green card since DOMA was invalidated.

15 Years without Matt

LGBT Rights Demonstration in St. Petersburg Ends in Violence and Arrests

On October 11, several dozen protesters were confronted by about 200 conservative and religious activists who blocked the LGBT activists’ access to a park with a war memorial, leading to the arrests of 67 people. The demonstration was meant to observe National Coming Out Day. Since the Russian government enacted its nationwide ban this summer on “propaganda of nontraditional sexual relationships,” there have been several incidents of violence against LGBT people. Human rights activists around the world have been concerned about the antigay climate in Russia, especially in light of the Winter Olympics scheduled for Sochi, Russia, in 2014.

Glaad Releases Positive Assessment of LGBT TV Characters Radio Free Europe has reported that anti-gay activists tried to block the entrance of Moldova’s Palace of the Republic in Chisinau to try to stop the passage of new LGBT antidiscrimination laws, but lawmakers did pass the legislation. This happened despite threats from Orthodox Churches to ban them from taking communion if they passed the law. Earlier this month Georgian President Mikheil Saakashvili accused Russian President Vladimir Putin of exporting homophobia to other former Soviet Union countries in an attempt to retain control over them.

Binational Couple Wins Green Card Petition

Dreams came true for Alan Alberto and Davor Cakaric of Providence, a binational couple who married in Boston last winter. Alberto filed a petition on

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The brutal murder of Matthew Shepard in Laramie, Wyoming on October 12, 1998, brought national attention to homophobia. To mark the 15th anniversary of Shepard’s murder, two new pieces of media were released last month. Matt Shepard is a Friend of Mine is a documentary film by one of Shepard’s friends that focuses on those who knew and loved him and how the tragedy has affected them. “The Book of Matt: Hidden Truths About the Murder of Matthew Shepard,” by gay journalist Stephen Jimenez, argues that Matthew’s murder was motivated not by hate, but by sex and drugs.

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A study released by the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Discrimination last month finds that most of the nation's major television networks saw an uptick in favorable depictions of the LGBT community. History and TBS were the only networks given a "failing" grade in the study, while CBS improved its standing from "failing" to "adequate." The study also highlighted the relative lack of transgender storylines on TV. q

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From the Editor’s Desk Options is proud to give a special shout-out to Sally Ann Hay, longtime community activist and founder of SAGE/RI. A former editor of this publication, Hay was honored in September by the YWCA of Rhode Island as a “Woman of Achievement.” The tribute cited her work with Options and with SAGE and the Equity Action Fund of the R.I. Foundation, as well as her long career as a social worker. Hay and her long-time partner, Deirdre Bird, were

recently married and live in Lincoln. We add our hearty salutations and congratulations to this woman of great achievement!

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November 2013 q Vol. XXXII, No. 10 Managing Director Kim Stowell editor@optionsri.org Writers Chris Cedroni, Jim Seavor, Anthony Maselli, Brian Gay, Tom Bertrand, Kerri Kanelos, Sally Ann Hay, Christopher Dalpe, Bradford Greer Copy Editors Nathaniel Zane, Brian Gay, Steve Kagan, Joseph Morra, Maria Phillips, Jim Seavor, Myra Shays Production Chris Cedroni Calendar Editor Lisé Schwartz calendar@optionsri.org Resources Editor Myra Shays mshays@verizon.net General Information info@optionsri.org Advertising Kyle Marnane advertising@optionsri.org Billing Donny McKendall billing@optionsri.org Webmaster Ken Fonzi admin@optionsri.org

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1-2 Spiritual Retreat: The Beloved. Canonicus, Exeter RI. Sponsored by The Church of the Holy Paraclete. Arrival is 4 p.m. on 11/1; departure is 8 p.m. on 11/2. $100. For more information see www.holyparaclete.org. 1

15 Mary Day Band, 8-11 p.m. Indigo Lounge & Pizzeria, 599 Tiogue Ave., Coventry.

Youth Pride Annual Awards Event, 5:30 p.m. The Providence Biltmore Hotel, 11 Dorrance St., Providence. Cocktails, silent auction, dinner, awards, and dancing. Tickets are $60, and may be purchased via www.youthprideri.org.

Becky Chase Band, 9 p.m.-midnight. Indigo Lounge & Pizzeria, 599 Tiogue Ave., Coventry. For information, call 615-9600.

Sunday’s OUT at Christie’s, 12 noon. 14 Perry Mill Wharf, Newport. Fabulous lunch, inspired cocktails, fun atmosphere. Sponsored by NewportOut.com. Every Sunday.

A Night at the Museum, 6 p.m. Legends! Calendar 2014 Release Party. The Colosseum, 180 Pine St., Providence. $20 includes a calendar. All proceeds benefit AIDS Care Ocean State.

Borderlands, 7-9 p.m. A peer-led support group open to transgender, transsexual, gender-variant, and/or intersex people and to those who are exploring whether one or more of these identities is a good description of their experience. Meeting location withheld for participant privacy. See info@tginetwork. org for more information.

12 TransFamily New England, 6:30-8:30 p.m. Free, confidential meeting for parents and other family members of someone identifying as transgender, gender variant, and/or intersex. Meetings held in Providence. E-mail jewcy15@gmail.com to be added to the contact list.

PFLAG of Greater Providence meeting, 6:45-8:45 p.m. The Met School (Justice Building), 325 Public St., Providence. 7517571. 7 Ani DiFranco at the Park Theater, 7:30 p.m. 848 Park Ave. Cranston. Admission $35 and $45. For tickets, call box office at 467-7275 or visit www.parktheaterRI.com. 10 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7 p.m. Social and networking for gay and bisexual men 40+. Social, dinner and meeting. See www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010 for more information.

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16 COLAGE, 10:30 a.m.-12 noon. The Gordon School, East Providence. A kid-centered place for youth ages 8 and up with one or more LGBTQ parents. To RSVP or to receive more information, e-mail Veronica at vjutras5@gmail.com. 19 Borderlands, 7-9 p.m. A peer-led support group open to transgender, transsexual, gender-variant, and/or intersex people and to those who are exploring whether one or more of these identities is a good description of their experience. Meeting location withheld for participant privacy. See info@tginetwork. org for more information. 20 Queer Book Club, 7 p.m. Books on the Square, 471 Angell St., Providence. Orange Is the New Black: My Year in a Woman’s Prison by Piper Kerman. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more information e-mail queerbookclub@gmail.com. 21 Thanksgiving Gay Bingo, 7 p.m. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Ave., Cranston. Doors open at 6 p.m. $20 to play. Bingo benefits ACOS and APRI. Get ready for the annual pie eating contest! 21 The Theater Offensive takes you to Beyond the Stage–The premier benefit for True Colors: OUT Youth Theater, 6-8 p.m. Hill Holliday, 53 State St., Boston. Supporting at-risk LGBT Youth & Allies. Enjoy complimentary sips and treats. Tickets are $50 and may be purchased via www.bts2013.brownpapertickets.com. 21 Transgender Day of Remembrance, 6:30-8:30 p.m. Temple Beth-El, 70 Orchard St., Providence. For more information email info@tginetwork.org. 23 Sherri Lynne (Melissa Etheridge tribute), 9 p.m.-midnight. Indigo Lounge & Pizzeria, 599 Tiogue Ave., Coventry. For information call 615-9600.

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24 The Imperial Court of RI’s Performer of the Year contest, hosted by Jealousy Jonez, 7 p.m. The Dark Lady, 124 Snow St., Providence. $5 door; $10 contestant entry fee. Proceeds benefit RI Pride. Winner will receive $200 cash prize, and a ticket and command performance at the ICRI 2014 Coronation in April.

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Providence Gay Men’s Chorus presents NOEL – An international celebration of the holidays in traditional PGMC fashion, 7 p.m. The PGMC partners with CABINS (Community Against Bullying in Schools) for this benefit performance. Wesley United Methodist Church, 55 Woodland St., Lincoln. See www. provgmc.org for ticket information.

Providence Gay Men’s Chorus presents NOEL – An international celebration of the holidays in traditional PGMC fashion, 7 p.m. Beneficent Congregational Church, 300 Weybosset St., Providence. Tickets are $20 and are available via www. provgmc.org or www.PGMC-Noel.Eventbrite.com. 7 ICRI’s Monarch’s Ball, hosted by Emperor XXI Scott Diamond McMahon and Empress XXI Gia Devaroux, 7-9 p.m. EGO, 73 Richmond St., Providence. $10 door which will benefit Sojourner House. 7 Becky Chase Band, 9 p.m.-midnight. Indigo Lounge & Pizzeria, 599 Tiogue Ave., Coventry. For information call 615-9600.

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Providence Gay Men’s Chorus presents NOEL – An international celebration of the holidays in traditional PGMC fashion, 4 p.m. Beneficent Congregational Church, 300 Weybosset St., Providence. Tickets are $20 and are available via www. provgmc.org or www.PGMC-Noel.Eventbrite.com.

RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7 p.m. Social and networking for gay and bisexual men 40+. Social, dinner and meeting. See www. riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010 for more information.

10 TransFamily New England, 6:30-8:30 p.m. Free, confidential meeting for parents and other family members of someone identifying as transgender, gender variant, and/or intersex. Meetings held in Providence. E-mail jewcy15@gmail.com to be added to the contact list. 17 Borderlands, 7-9 p.m. A peer-led support group open to transgender, transsexual, gender-variant, and/or intersex people and to those who are exploring whether one or more of these identities is a good description of their experience. Meeting location withheld for participant privacy. See info@tginetwork. org for more information.

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18 Queer Book Club, 7 p.m. Books on the Square, 471 Angell St., Providence. My Name is Red by Orhan Pamuk. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more information e-mail queerbookclub@gmail.com.

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19 Martha Stewart Gay Bingo, 7 p.m. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Ave., Cranston. Doors open at 6 p.m. $20 to play. Bingo benefits ACOS and APRI. Wear your ugliest holiday sweater! 21 COLAGE, 10:30 a.m.-12 noon. The Gordon School, East Providence. A kidcentered place for youth ages 8 and up with one or more LGBTQ parents. To RSVP or to receive more information, e-mail Veronica at vjutras5@gmail.com. 22 Christmas DIVA show, 4-7 p.m. Indigo Lounge & Pizzeria, 599 Tiogue Ave., Coventry. Karen Grenier, Colby and Keila, MaryAnn Rossoni, Christina Thomas, and the Mary Day Band. $10 includes Christmas pizzas. For information call 615-9600.

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I don’t know many farmers, so I can’t tell you if Aden and Jon Mott-Restivo are typical ones. As the owners of Legend’s Creek Farm, they seem to buck a lot of trends. They’re gay men who farm. They’re farmers who blog. One of them even practices law Monday through Friday. They’re a little bit country, they’re a little bit rock and roll. But as I found out after visiting the farm, loving what you do, (and the man you’re doing it with) is better than “typical.” I met Aden, a 33 year-old Boston native, and his husband Jon, a 28 year-old from North Providence, on their rambling, picturesque 35 acres on the Hartford Pike in Foster, RI. It was a cheerful place, even on an overcast October day. Goats had the run of the pasture, with an occasional chicken bobbing by. The dogs were at the groomers, so I missed my chance to meet Legend, for whom the farm is named. As I was getting introduced to the goats, (all named after characters from John Waters’ movies) BoBo, their llama, came to investigate. “He guards them from predators,” they told me. I believed them, never having been this close to a llama before. They were married five years ago in Massachusetts before moving to Missouri, where Jon attended law school. “We figured, we can’t get married there—we should do it now,” Aden said. Then they started planning their farming life, even though they had very little experience. “My family thought we were crazy,” Jon said. But they do have a lot of experience in other fields. Jon is a real estate lawyer who does some work on the farm before putting on a suit and tie and driving to Providence. Aden had a more varied career. He was lead singer in the band God Fearing Man, (he performed at the RI Pride Festival in 2006 and 2008) and went on to become a recording artist/writer; he also had a PR business that he sold to help pay for the farm. He writes about cooking on his blog, Gay Gourmet. He also takes the lead on making some of the farm’s artisanal products, including their signature goat’s milk soaps. “We needed something to do with the milk,” Aden laughs. “Jon doesn’t like goat’s milk, and I don’t eat goat cheese.”

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The goat’s milk soap is a good seller. Since June, Aden estimates that he’s made some 2,500 bars. “I just keep filling orders as they come in.” he said. The farm also boasts an impressive line of canned goods, from onion jam to apple butter. I asked what it was like for gay men to live in the country, instead of a city, where acceptance seems more built in. Jon laughed. “Before we moved here, I checked the last census—the first to ask about same-gender households. Foster had none. But we really liked this place. I even ran for State Representative, and, there I was, shaking people’s hands and introducing them to my husband.” He didn’t win the election, but he did get a good feeling from the community. Aden seems to have a different take. “I think it’s almost the opposite. There’s a gay couple down the street, and another one down that way,” he said, pointing. “We haven’t been to a gay bar in years and years. Our gay friends come here for drinks.” So what’s next for the farm? They want to clear more land, and put up some out-buildings. They’re also in the running for a grant from Chase Bank to help them expand. They want to get a farm kitchen license, so they can sell the fruits, eggs, veggies, maple syrup, artisan breads and milk that they produce. And they’re expanding their line of goat’s milk products. “We’re testing lotion,” Jon says. Also, they’re making a foray into bee keeping, so beeswax products can’t be far behind. Other than that, they plan to renew their vows. “Something more meaningful than the back office of the Attleboro Town Hall,” Aden said. “That just leaves starting a family,” I said. Aden and Jon beam. “We’d love to be dads. We’ve been looking for a surrogate to help us.” It seems that farming life suit Jon and Aden. And Legend’s Creek Farm seems like the perfect place to start a family. Especially with BoBo to protect them. q

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Epic Theatre Company wants - us!

Jim Seavor

Last month, Epic Theatre in Providence produced an at-times explosive staging of Larry Kramer's The Normal Heart – a heartfelt and often angry look at the early days of the AIDS crisis written by one of its controversial leaders. Kramer often speaks with the passion of a prophet from scripture and his autobiographical play speaks, shouts, cries and shakes the walls with the emotions of 1982. I've long felt that if you want the facts, go to a textbook. If you want to understand how people felt and talked,

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turn to “fiction.” The Normal Heart gives us that. True, it's Kramer's version of the times, but it brings them to life. But that's not all: In March, Epic will stage The Busy World Is Hushed, which looks at religion, both faith and institution. And, yes, we're there. And in May, Epic will be doing a real epic – Angels in America – both parts. Tony Kushner's mammoth awardwinning masterpiece uses fiction and fantasy to tell many truths. Stay tuned. q

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“What It Takes”

Anthony E. Maselli

Excerpts from remarks delivered at 28th Annual Rhode Island AIDS Walk for Life September 28, 2013

I’ve been certified as an HIV test counselor with AIDS Project Rhode Island for five months now. When you tell someone that they have tested positive, it is a life-altering experience. It has been described as a death sentence, a life sentence, a jail sentence, and among the most horrifying news that person will receive in their lifetime. But I’m not speaking here today as a test counselor. I’m speaking as a patient. In September of last year, I tested positive for HIV. I was raised in the type of religious cult where being gay was considered the ultimate sin, and AIDS, God’s answer to it. I moved to Rhode Island when I was eighteen to attend school and start my own life. Venturing alone into what was for me a new world, without a foundation of support, was more dangerous than I could realize. I was so eager to come out of the closet in search of acceptance that I spent a lot of time in bars and clubs where I thought I could meet people who were like me. After a short time, that quest for love and acceptance turned dangerous and tragic. The cocktails and substances that once served me as social lubricants inevitably became aggressive and expensive addictions. What followed was a dark period of using and finding means to get more, so frantic and reckless that maintaining my own safety and knowing the HIV status of my partners was not my concern. It would take me eight years to find help in a recovery program. By the time I went to be tested for HIV, I think part of me was prepared for what Tom Bertrand was going to tell me. I already learned the principle of acceptance in recovery; my concern was not how I got this way, my concern was “What am I going to do about it starting today?” I feel very grateful today that I am healthy, on medication, and having not had the need to pick up a drink or a drug, one day at a time, for over fourteen months. My story is just one of thousands. The unique thing about it

is that I am willing to tell it. Approximately eighty Americans are diagnosed with HIV each day. Over eighty Rhode Islanders were diagnosed last year. That’s about one every four days. Statistically, this is not a large number, even considering the percentage of HIVpositive people that don’t know their status. But to me and everyone else here whose lives have been affected by this disease, even one is too many. in 2010, 15,529 Americans died from HIV/AIDS-related causes. One of them was my friend. I learned that last year’s national death toll exceeded 19,000. We know that this is unacceptable; however, many feel so far removed from it that they don’t know how to address the issue.

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Change can be effected by everyone at all levels of society. This is what it takes: It takes a governor like Lincoln Chafee who ensured that there would be no wait list for any Rhode Island patient to access medication therapy. It takes our allies like Dr. Phil Chan, the team at Miriam Immunology, the Rhode Island Department of Health, AGAPE, and the Center for AIDS Research, working to make pre-exposure prophylaxis available to any at-risk person who needs it. We eagerly anticipate this day. This is the new frontier of prevention. It takes all the case managers and certified HIV test counselors of our AIDS service organizations, who either work for little pay or volunteer their time. It takes an HIV-positive speaker’s bureau, comprised of men and women who are willing to stand up to fear and stigma and rejection, to be vulnerable and share their truth with those who need to hear it. It takes every parent, student, administrator, and teacher to demand adequate and appropriate sex education in their schools. It takes a minister, a preacher, a rabbi, a reverend, a priest to stand up and speak out, affirming and reaffirming that this disease is not an indictment of sin, affecting a small community, but rather a public health crisis that affects us all.

drug and alcohol abuse are affecting your ability to behave safely and responsibly.” I believe that people listen. I believe I would have listened, had somebody been brave enough to say this to me. You see, it takes each one of you to bring the conversation into your homes, schools, offices, places of worship, and out into the streets, to end the stigma by talking openly about HIV. We have in this past year witnessed a bevy of breakthroughs in HIV research. There were exhilarated gasps at the news of the cure, followed by disappointed sighs, realizing that we’re just not there yet. I hope one day I can stand here and say “I used to have HIV.” I don’t know if I’ll ever be cured, but I’ll do everything I can to end the stigma that perpetuates this plague by speaking out and advocating and educating as many people as will listen. We’ve been holding this walk for twenty-eight years. That’s longer than I’ve been alive. It’s time to finish the work that was started three decades ago, and finally close this chapter of our history. Don’t take off your red ribbons yet. It is not over. We must talk about HIV to raise the level of acceptance and comfort to where everyone can speak openly about their status and access the appropriate services. We can’t sit quietly and wait for the cure. We are the cure. q

There are those who would question the need for such activism on the church level. I am here to tell them that as long as there are preachers spewing hate, stigma, and intolerance in the name of God, then there must be an alliance of faith leaders who will stand on our side in the name of dignity and truth. Sometimes, far more often than we realize, it takes a friend to intervene and say, “I love you, and I’m concerned that your

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Controversy at Providence College Over Speaker on Same-Gender Marriage Brian Gay

Non-Discrimination Policy Announced

While it’s been nearly a month since the highly publicized cancellation of John Corvino’s “The Meaning of (Gay) Marriage” lecture at Providence College (PC), many of those involved remain dissatisfied with the response by the school’s administration.

In February, Corvino, chair of the Philosophy Department at Wayne State University, first received the invitation to speak at PC. The event was scheduled for September 26 and co-sponsored by nine different academic departments and programs. In the week leading up to the event, everything suddenly became complicated. On Saturday, September 21, the school’s Provost and Senior VicePresident for Academic Affairs, Hugh Lena, sent the faculty an email saying that the school’s “policy… dictates that both sides of a controversial issue are to be presented fairly and equally,” citing a 2004 document from the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops. It stated that “Catholic institutions should not honor those who act in defiance of our fundamental moral principles.” Lena then cancelled the event.

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Corvino, along with a substantial number of students, alumni and faculty, found this reasoning problematic, given that he was delivering a lecture, not receiving an award. Furthermore, the event was to include a response by moral theologian and PC Professor Dana Dillon, following Corvino’s lecture. In his e-mail announcing the cancellation, Lena wrote that “It is simply not fair to her to give her less than one week of preparation opposite someone who has been lecturing on

this issue … for years”. Prof. Dillon disagrees. “I never agreed to debate Dr. Corvino, but to offer a response after he finished his talk,” she wrote in an e-mail. “In the context of courses that I teach on Catholic Social Thought and Contemporary Moral Problems, I regularly teach the Church's position on marriage, including reasons the Church believes it is impossible to extend marriage to same sex couples. I feel more than capable of speaking … on this issue at any time, with very little preparation.” According to PC Professor Christopher Arroyo, coordinator of the event, “There is no college policy requiring organizers of academic talks to receive permission for the talk from the administration. I never planned or scheduled a debate.” The school’s administration has stated that the event has been postponed until next semester, a claim which Dr. Corvino himself disputes. Students and alumni held an alternative event on September 26 in place of the cancelled lecture, entitled “Fighting for Academic Freedom,” at which an auditorium full of students and faculty met in small groups to talk about the recent events at PC and then came together as a large group to hear stories of students’ personal See College, Continued on Page 21

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The Transgender Community Remembers on November 21

Being trans is never safe. There is social danger: the constant rejection and marginalization that comes with social disapproval. There is psychological danger: being the target for resentment, prejudice and disapproval by being namecalled, demeaned, mis-pronouned, threatened and attacked (emotionally as well as verbally) because of who you are. There is physical danger: seemingly innocent situations that provoke assault, physical violence, beatings and, yes, murder. Some people hate you with a vehemence that is incomprehensible. A simple thing like going to the bathroom can lead to confrontation, arrest, accusations of sexual inappropriateness and violence. The constant state of vigilance that this danger provokes takes its toll. Safe places are treasured by trans people. TGI Network’s Borderlands support group provides a regular safe space for an intimate group of trans people. There are larger groups: Transcending Boundaries Conference, the National Trans Health Conference, rallies and protests. There’s nothing to

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equal being surrounded by five or six hundred other trans people marching, singing, protesting or convening. But safe places only underscore how much of trans life is unsafe. Each year, some thirty to forty trans people are reported to have been murdered in the United States for being trans, but the actual figure is much higher. Most states refuse – refuse! – to gather appropriate statistics. Rhode Island agreed to do so only two years ago, after more than a decade of community effort to pass legislation to include tracking hate crimes against trans people. Worldwide, we can identify more than a hundred such deaths each year, though these reflect only the handful of countries that report them. When Rita Hester was murdered in San Francisco in 1998, her friends began an online memorial for her. It quickly developed into an annual event: Transgender Day of Remembrance, which honors our dead. The names we know are read out loud and those we don’t know are remembered. Trans people, friends, allies, families and supporters gather in tribute.

TGI Network Press Release

November 21, at Temple Beth-El on the East Side of Providence at 6:30 p.m. There will be the traditional memorial service followed by social time and then a panel of community leaders and resources. This is an open community event organized and sponsored by Youth Pride, Inc. and TGI Network. One special experience for trans people is being in a place of worship where they are welcome and safe. We thank our hosts at Temple Beth-El. Info: Trans Day of Remembrance. Temple Beth-El, 70 Orchard Avenue (just north of Wayland Square), 6:30 – 8:30 p.m. Enter from the lot in the rear. Light refreshments will be provided (vegan only in respect for our hosts and kosher guidelines). q

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AIDS Project Rhode Island Tom Bertrand

AIDS Walk 2013 Success

done on the day of the event and more than 40 flu shots were administered by Lifespan. The final dollar amount is still being tallied; however, more than $40,000 came in from online gifts and our sponsors, and displays brought in more than $15,000. AIDS Project Rhode Island would like to thank all of the volunteers and supporters for their efforts to end HIV in Rhode Island and help people living with HIV lead full and healthy lives.

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The AIDS Walk for Life took place on a beautiful, sunny day with more than 500 people in attendance. Walk cochairs Dr. Charles Carpenter and Dr. Philip Chan spoke strongly as they shared the theme for this year’s event, “Prevention is the Solution!” The event’s keynote speaker, Anthony Maselli, who is HIV-positive, brought many walkers to tears as he told his story and urged supporters to reach out to friends and family to offer their love and support. He also talked about the importance of ending the stigma of HIV and working on getting people tested and into care.

World AIDS Day State House Event

Please show your support for efforts to prevent HIV in Rhode Island by coming to Rhode Island’s 2nd Annual Walkers enjoyed Starbucks coffee, World AIDS Day State House Event chair massages from Healthy Hands on Monday, December 2. This event Massage and food from Waterplace will feature a variety of speakers, Restaurant and Eastside Marketplace. including Rhode Island’s First Lady Many teams were there in significant Stephanie Chafee, local HIV activist numbers including FSRI, Walgreens, Anthony Maselli and other community Johnson & Wales and several church leaders and elected officials. The groups. Thirty-seven HIV tests were event will start at 12:30 p.m. in the State Room of the Rhode Island State House and will include beverages and refreshments. The sponsor of this event is the Rhode Island Coalition for HIV Prevention, which is composed of over 25 groups dedicated to ending HIV in Rhode Island through education and empowerment of people at risk for HIV. For more information contact Tom Bertrand at Thomas@aidsprojectri.org.

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Youth Pride, Inc. Kerri Kanelos

Comings and Goings

We want to welcome two new board members to YPI: Angela Sherwin and Aaron Buckley. We are always interested in meeting dedicated people who want to serve on one of our board committees (fund development, communications and marketing, and finance). Please contact Kerri at kerri@ youthprideri.org or 421-5626 if youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d like more information. We are also sad to say goodbye this month to one of our staff, Jayeson Watts. Jaye started at YPI five years ago, first as an MSW intern from Rhode Island College. He stayed on to become our Direct Services Coordinator. He wore many hats at YPI: providing resources and support to youth, supervising many of our interns, coordinating our community food pantry, and training providers in the community. He is a tireless advocate for LGBTQQ youth

and we will miss him dearly. We wish him all the best in his future endeavors! We will be in search of a new staff person, so please keep an eye on our website for job postings.

Holiday Needs

Every year we hold a Thanksgiving dinner for YPI youth and a Yankee Swap in December, so each YPI participant goes home with a holiday gift. Youth are encouraged to bring a small gift to swap, but some are not financially able to do so. We would greatly appreciate donated food (turkeys, ham, stuffing, desserts, beverages, etc.) for Thanksgiving dinner and gifts (lotion or other fun hygiene products, candy, card games, candles, funky socks, costume jewelry, RIPTA tickets, gift cards in small denominations, etc.) for youth who cannot afford to bring one. Please contact us at 421-5626 and tell us what youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d like to contribute. q

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Services and Advocacy for GLBT Elders Sally Ann Hay

Big News!

SAGE/RI is launching its first membership drive! We are calling on all members of the LGBT community and their allies to show their support for this exciting organization. The new and improved SAGE/RI has been in operation for a few years and has accomplished a huge amount: • RI’s first LGBT Health Fair, made important information available to all members of the LGBT community; • Two conferences provided education to health care professionals who are eager to increase their “cultural competency” and to learn more about the unique needs of the LGBT community; • In-service training to health care organizations; • Presentations to students of nursing, social work and medicine;

• Launched the LGBT Senior Housing Committee, dedicated to developing affirming, friendly and competent housing options for RI’s LGBT seniors; • Hosted an array of social events and movie nights; • Collaborated with several statewide healthcare and elder services organizations, as well as with a number of LGBT organizations; and • Brought LGBT elder issues to the attention of RI policy makers. However, this year, we have commited ourselves to growing our organization and seeking more reliable funding to continue doing the work we’ve been doing, and to look at how we can address the growing interest in and meet the needs of RI’s LGBT elders. To do this, we need to be able to show potential funding sources that we do indeed have the support of our

community. The timing is good: We’ve developed good relationships with some key governmental people who are in a position to help us. Many of you have told us you are glad we are here – now we need you to prove it. We need you to join SAGE/RI today! It is so easy! If you are already on our email list, you can respond to the appeal when it arrives in your inbox. You can request an application by emailing, writing or calling us (contact information below). You can also simply mail us a note with your name, mailing address, email address, phone number and payment to SAGE/RI at the address below. Our annual dues are low (Individual: $15; Couple: $25, Senior: $10). Thank you!

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On October 3 the president of the college, Rev. Brian Shanley, sent a campus-wide e-mail announcing an amendment to the school’s nondiscrimination policy to include sexual orientation and gender identity. Providence College now joins “over twenty distinguished Catholic colleges and universities across the country” who use similar language in their own non-discrimination policies, writes Shanley. The policy amendment includes a clause that not all other Catholic colleges include however, which states that “nothing in this notice shall require Providence College to act in a manner contrary to its Dominican mission and the teaching and tenets of the Catholic Church, and the College reserves the right to take actions designed to ensure and promote its Catholic and Dominican mission.” This leads some students to question how strong the

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new policy is and what it will look like in its application. Despite the stress caused to many by the recent events, some of those involved have seen good come out of them. Prof. Dillon notes that her involvement has lead to meaningful dialogue with some of her students. In an e-mail she writes: “I have found most moving … the gratitude of the LGBQQIAA students at PC. So many have made it very clear to me that, although I was going to present a position that they disagree with or have questions about, they deeply value my willingness to be in relationship and in dialogue with them…. I hope that can be a model for all of Providence College going forward: finding ways to be in community with one another even in the midst of serious disagreements about these difficult and important sets of issues.” q

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AIDS Care Ocean State Christopher Dalpe

Legends! 2014 Calendar Release Party A Night at the Museum

Legends! is back! The Legends! 2014 Calendar Release Party returns to the Colosseum at 180 Pine Street on Sunday, November 3. Each year Legends! releases a themed calendar comprised of photos of favorite local drag queens, and this year the lovely Legends! ladies are spending A Night at the Museum. The Legends! calendars make great holiday gifts, and buy one for yourself, too, because they sell out fast.

If you cannot attend the calendar release party, you can always purchase your Legends! 2014 calendar at www. aidscareos.org for just $15.00!

Adopt-a-Family for the Holidays

For many, the holidays are a time to spend with loved ones to celebrate the importance of family and friendship. For others, who cannot afford presents for their families, or heat to keep them warm, the holidays are an especially tough time of year. ACOS’s annual Adopt-a-Family campaign is an easy way to support clients of ACOS during the holiday season. Last year, we celebrated

For just $50, a family is provided with gifts, heat for their homes, and warm clothing for the winter months. “Fifty dollars does so much good for people who have next to nothing,” said Stephen Hartley, Development Director at ACOS. To Adopt-a-Family, please visit our website at www.aidscareos.org and click on the “Donate Now” button to Adopt-a-Family today. It’s that simple, and your donation is greatly appreciated. For more information about ACOS’s Adopt-a-Family campaign, please contact Stephen Hartley or Chris Dalpe at 521-3603 or info@aidscareos.org. On behalf of the entire ACOS staff, we wish everyone a safe, happy and healthy holiday season. q

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Admission for the Legends! 2014 Calendar Release Party is $20.00 and includes an autographed calendar from all the ladies along with a live “legendary” show that evening. All proceeds from the Legends! 2014

calendars benefit AIDS Care Ocean State (ACOS). Doors open at 6 p.m., show begins at 7 p.m.

a record success with our Adopt-aFamily campaign. The generosity from our community has provided our clients with warmer and brighter holidays. We hope to have the same result this year.

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Providence Gay Men’s Chorus Bradford Greer

PGMC Kicks into Gear

The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus is pleased to announce Susan Carroll as the new accompanist. She is the current Music Director at Beneficent Church, and the chorus is very happy to have her. The chorus has been whirling around the city with more appearances than ever. Following their powerful participation in the Martin Luther King, Jr. Interdenominational Celebration of Diversity: Singing the Dream, the chorus has been spreading their dulcet tones of pride at the annual AIDS Quilt Memorial service, Marriage Equality’s thank-you fundraiser for Governor Chafee, and their Pride Concert which celebrated the Colors of Our Lives. They also sang at this year’s AIDS Walk for Life, and are busy collecting food for the needy in President David O’Brien’s Bulging Basket program.

CABINS

On Friday, December 6, the PGMC will partner with Community Against Bullying in Schools (CABINS) in a mutual fundraiser to help raise awareness and funds for the Lincolnbased organization. CABINS began in 2006 as a support organization when 16-year-old Jeffrey Michalenka took his own life after being bullied. It was formed by parents and joined by students and neighboring supporters who have worked together to educate students and teachers about the circumstances surrounding bullying and ways to eliminate them. There will be a special benefit performance of NOEL, the PGMC holiday production, at the Wesley United Methodist Church in Lincoln. For details, please visit www. provgmc.org.

the gift of music to Stephen Hartley, Brian Deslauriers and their daughter Courtney for their wedding ceremony. Four chorus members have also married since then, and one became engaged. There’s a lot of love in the air and if the guys of the PGMC have their way you will leave their winter concert with a big chunk of it in your heart.

PGMC tenor Angelo Garcia, promotes diversity and individual growth. The school provides 6th to 8th graders with a safe atmosphere and a rigorous academic program that encourages and prepares them for a higher level of education. The young chorus will perform by themselves and share a song with the men.

NOEL

Artistic Director Kim Kuda had this to say: “The choristers of the PGMC are working hard on the holiday music for our upcoming concert season, NOEL. They put so much energy and concentration into each rehearsal and they make my Monday evenings a joy! I can't wait for all of our fans to be a part of this concert. You are going to love these men as much as they love you.”

“Grant us peace. Bring us love and unity… This is a dream everybody can share… This is the hope of people everywhere” So sings the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus when they bring “An African Wish” to you in their international celebration of peace and harmony titled: NOEL. Grab your passport and carry-on luggage and run – don’t walk – to NOEL at Beneficent Church in Providence. This season the men will be sharing the stage with the young chorus from the Segue Institute for Learning. This charter school in Central Falls, under the leadership and inspiration of

So look to the PGMC to bring you into the spiritual joy, peace and happiness of the season in several languages and nationalities. The performances are Wednesday and Saturday, December 4 and 7, at 7 p.m.; and Sunday, December 8, at 4 p.m. at Beneficent Church. Oh, and bring your cha-cha heels. q

Going to the Chapel

On May 2, the PGMC had the honor of singing at the celebration of Rhode Island becoming the 10th state in the union to ratify same-gender marriage. Several months later, the chorus gave

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Classifieds Seeking clean, applianced, unfurnished, year-round, 1-2 bedroom apartment or condo to rent for single professional woman. East Greenwich to southern MA considered. Serious responses only please. Pictures appreciated. rhodyrenter@yahoo.com

Addiction Support Groups AA: Brothers in Sobriety, Community Church of Prov., Wayland & Lloyd Aves., Prov., 751-9328; Sat., 7:308:30 p.m.; Central Services, info on all groups, 4388860; RI LGBT Group, Anchor Recovery Center, 249 Main St., Pawtucket, Tues. 7 p.m.; Suburban Gay & Lesbian, Fatima Shrine, Rt. 126, Holliston, MA, Thurs. 8-9:30 p.m. Alcohol/Drug Helpline. RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence, 24-hr., (866) 252-3784. Gay Al-Anon: Tues. 7:30 p.m., Congregational Church, 71 Park Place, Pawtucket, 726-2800.

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PO Box 2591, Newport, RI 02840; 434-4880; www.aidsquiltri.org; admin@aidsquiltri.org; annasworkshop@aidsquiltri.org. Brown Univ. AIDS Program (BRUNAP): clinical trials, public policy, research; lectures/conferences, patient/ community education. Bradford Briggs, 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu; www.brown.edu/brunap. Chiropractic Services: Free for unemployed HIV+ patients, Ronald P. Marsh, DC., 11 King Charles Dr., Portsmouth, RI; 683-1941.

AIDS/Health Resources

Comprehensive Community Action Programs (CCAP) Medical, mental health, dental, social services. 311 Doric Ave., Cranston. 467-9610. Also Coventry and Warwick. Sarah Bowman, LGBT Outreach.

ACT-UP (AIDS Coalition To Unleash Power), a group of individuals united in anger, committed to ending AIDS pandemic through direct action. Call Scott 640-3108. info@actupri.org. Donations welcome!

Crossroads RI Health Care Services: Free, confidential, anonymous HIV counseling & testing for homeless/ at risk: Mon & Wed, 1-3 p.m., call Gloria, 5212255, Ext. 325.

Afia Center for Health & Wholeness: socializing with other HIV+ individuals. Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recovery groups, recreational and social activities. Wed & Thurs, noon to 4 p.m., at Matthewson St. Church, 134 Matthewson St., Prov. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI; free to clients. Gordon Cooper, 331-1350 Ext. 3268 or coopergo@ familyserviceofri.org.

FACTS (Family AIDS Center for Treatment & Support): See AIDS Care Ocean State.

AGAPE/Family Resources Community Action. Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in Northern Rhode Island. 245 Main St., Woonsocket, RI 02895. 2356092. lcohen@famresri.org. AIDS Action Hotline: (800) 235-2331, MA only. AIDS Care Ocean State (557 Broad St., Providence): case mgmt., emergency funds, mental health & nutrition support, FACTS Nursery, housing for PWAs, referrals, advocacy, ADa.m.S Clinic for adolescents, street outreach, ENCORE, education, HIV+ support groups. Sunrise Community Housing for people with HIV/AIDS. 18 Parkis Ave., Prov. 02907. 521-3603; www.aidscareos.org. AIDS Project RI Division of Family Service of RI: Case mgmt., buddies, COBRA & dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment & referral, wellness prog., advocacy, strength training. Prevention Ed. 404 Wickenden St., Providence: 831-5522. AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS Memorial Quilt panels; panel-making programs, including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people;

Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case mgmt. & financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MA Health funded for MA residents. Michael (508) 678-1002. HIV antibody testing, Anonymous: R.I. Dept. of Health, Prov., Newport and other locations, Free or sliding scale, call 222-2320. Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care mgmt. for HIV/AIDS. 24-hr. nursing staff for treatment. 782-0725. Bereavement Groups: John Charette, 727-7079. HPV study for gay/bi men ages 18 -- 26. Receive free HPV vaccine and HIV testing. Must be HIV-negative. Call Gail at Miriam Hospital (793-4335) or Email gyates@lifespan.org. House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Rd., Cumberland. 658-3992. Jewish AIDS Task Force: Programs for HIV/AIDS and Jewish communities. 421-4111, ext. 172. LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group for LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems, visit www.caregiver.org and click on groups. Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor (508) 984-7514. Partners in Learning About AIDS (PL-AIDS) Outreach

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to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations, and our No. Providence office, providing free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. www.plaidsproject.org or www.pl-aids.org. Email info@plaidsproject.org. 305-3993. Project ACT: Free Anonymous HIV Counseling and Testing. Walk-in Hours: Mondays 9 a.m.-4 p.m. and 5-7 p.m. Tuesdays and Thursdays 9 a.m.-4 p.m. Other hours by appointment only. 1 Washington St., Taunton, MA (508) 977-8146 Project Empower: Wellness prog. for gay, bi, questioning men in So. Coast MA. Info on HIV/STD test sites & safe sex; social/support groups, therapists & health care referrals; & more. Community Counseling of Bristol Co., MA. (508) 828-6692 or www. projectempower.com.

formers and DJs. 276 Westminster St., Providence. www.lunaspvd.com.

Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for lgbt causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com

Providence Eagle: 198 Union St., Prov. 421-1447. Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. Sun-Thurs 3 p.m.-1 a.m., Fri, Sat 3 p.m.-2 a.m.

The Next Thing (TNT): political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. Contact the Brown Queer Alliance, 863-3062.

Mega-Plex and Hush Providence: 257 Allens Ave., Prov. www.themega-plex.com. Gay men’s bathhouse. Open 24 hours daily. Membership required. One day pass available.

Rhode Islanders United for Marriage: 274-1323. Office 3 Center St., Providence. www.RIUnitedforMarriage.org.

The Stable: 125 Washington St., Prov. 272-6950. Newly renovated downtown bar. Pool table. Sun - Thurs noon - 1 a.m.; Fri - Sat noon - 2 a.m. Tommy’s Lounge Gay/Lesbian Night each Friday (21plus) Doors open 8 p.m. Music from 80’s, 90’s and today’s hits on the video screen. $5.00 cover. 99 India Street, Pawtucket RI 02860

SSTAR (Stanley St. Treatment & Resources): counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs; Free, confidential HIV, HEP C (HCV) & STD testing, education, case mgmt. and support. 386 Stanley St., Fall River, MA 02720. (508) 6795222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV) (800) 937-3610, Family Healthcare center (508) 675-1054; www. sstar.org.

T.W.I.S.T. Program Coffee Night: Coffee, light snacks served every Thursday, 7 – 9 p.m. 1287 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford. 508-672-0378.

Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation and more. 105 Charles Eldridge Dr, Lakeville, MA. (508) 9471683.

Feminist Voices: women’s chorus. www.feministvoices. com.

Thundermist Health Assoc.: 450 Clinton St. Woonsocket, provides HIV/AIDS services including: medical care & treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment & counseling, pharmacy consultation, free, confidential HIV testing. Philip Kane 7674100 Ext. 3516.

Be There and Be Queer! The Alley Cat/Dark Lady: 17 Snow St. Prov. 273-0951 Downtown neighborhood bars. Sun.-Thur. 3 p.m.1 a.m., Fri.-Sat. 3 p.m.-2 a.m. http://thealleycat.net. Bobby’s Place, 62 Weir St., Taunton, MA (508) 8249997. Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. Mon.Thurs. 5 p.m.- 1 a.m.; Fri. 5 p.m.-2 a.m.; Sat. 2 p.m.-2 a.m.; Sun. 2 p.m.-1 a.m. www.BobbysPlaceMA.com. Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Prov. 575-2284. Special events space. Open mike First & Third Sat. of each month. Film screenings and other public/private events. See us on Facebook and at www.BrooklynCoffeeTeaHouse.com. Club Body Center: 257 Weybosset St., Prov. 274-0298 www.clubbodycenter.com. Gay men’s sauna. Membership required. One-day pass available. Open 24 hours daily. Club Gallery, 681 Valley Street., Providence. DJ, dancing. Deville’s: 345 South Water St., Prov. Lesbian, gay, straight, it’s all good. 383-8883, www.devillescafe. com. Ego, Providence’s newest Nightlife Performance/Event Space. Thurs. 9 p.m. -- 1 a.m., Sat. 9 p.m. -- 3 a.m. 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. Girlspot at Loft 71, 71 Richmond St., Providence. Saturday nights at 8:00. www.girlspotri.com Luna’s Ladies Night, Fridays 8 p.m. -- 1a.m. Female per-

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Information/Education Fenway Gay and Lesbian Helpline: support, info & referrals for GLBT community from Fenway Community Health Ctr., Boston; (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-4528, 6-11 p.m. seven days a week. GLBT National Help Center Hotline. Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888843-4564. www.GLBTNationalHelpcenter.org. NewportOut.com: LGBT Web site for Newport, RI. RILGBT-NEWS: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net. United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 Youth Pride, Inc. HIV Peer Educators: discussion, games, thought-provoking and empowerment activities. Led by trained youth educators. Free. 4215626.

Political & Legal Groups American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 831-7171; 128 Dorrance St., Suite 220, Prov., RI 02903. Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTIQ human rights. Cvohs18904@ yahoo.com or 212-807-8400. Visit www.amnestyusa.org/Our Issues/LGBT Human Rights. BIGFLAG (Boston Immigration Group for Lesbians And Gays): social/support for LGBTs affected by immigration discrimination. (617) 499-9433. Brown University Queer Alliance: student advocacy and support organization. 683-3062. Email: queer@ brown.edu Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/HIV legal info hotline, 1:30-4:30 p.m. weekdays, (800) 455-GLAD. www.GLAD.org; 30 Winter St., Ste 800, Boston, MA 02108. Green Party of RI: PO Box 1151, Prov., RI 02901; 4907602. Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall St., Suite 1500, NY, NY 10005; (212) 809-8585, Fax: (212) 809-0055.

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RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: hate crime awareness training program www.hatecrimeri.org. RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations and credit, 180 Westminster St., 3rd floor Prov. Phone: 222-2662. Fax: 222-2616, TDD: 222-2664. RI Patient Advocacy Coalition: legalization of marijuana use for medical purposes. www.RIpatients.org. RI Socialist Action: adgagneri@gmail.com. 952-5385. Español: walsil@cox.net. 351-3414 Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Assisting active duty service members affected by the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy. PO Box 65301, Wash., DC, 20035; (202) 328-3244, ext. 100, sldn@sldn.org, www.sldn.org. Straight But Not Narrow Coalition: Straight support for LGBT, PO Box 2591, Newport, RI 02840; 8477637.

Religious Resources All Saints’ Memorial Church, 674 Westminster St., Providence. 751-1747 www.allsaintsmemorial.org. asmcri@verizon.net Amicable Congregational Church (UCC), 3736 Main Rd., Tiverton. Open & Affirming. Sunday worship 10:00 a.m. Pastor William Sterrett, 624-4611. Email amicablechurch@aol.com Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists, email: mail@WABaptists.org. Barrington Congregational Church (UCC) “the white church”, 461 Old County Rd., Barrington. 2460111.www.bccucc.org Bell Street Chapel (Unitarian Universalist), A Welcoming congregation: 5 Bell St., Prov., Rev. Ann Willever. 273-5678, www.bellstreetchapel.org. Beneficent Congregational Church (UCC), in the heart of Providence at 300 Weybosset St. An Open & Affirming congregation since 2001. Visit us Sundays at 10 a.m. or on the Web at www.beneficentchurch. org. Co-Pastors Todd & Nicole Yonkman, 3319844. Berean Baptist Church, a safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. 474 Chapel St., Harrisville, RI. www.bereanri.org; bereanbaptist@verizon.net. 5685411. Worship 10 a.m. Sundays. Calvary Episcopal Church, Open and welcoming. 158 Broad St., Burrilville, RI. 568-3888. www.calvaryepiscopal.us.email, calvary125@aol.com. Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown, 200 Turner Rd., Middletown, RI 02842. 847-6181. Ask Amy about LGBTQ Early Dementia support group. Central Congregational Church (UCC), where we believe God is still speaking. Services Sunday, 10:30 a.m. An Opening & Affirming Congregation. 296 Angell St., East Side of Providence. 331-1960. www. centralchurch.us.

Channing Memorial Church, Unitarian Universalist, A Welcoming Congregation, 135 Pelham St., Newport. Call 846-0643 or visit www.channingchurch. org.

Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Rev. Hayes & Rev. Baker. Open & Affirming. 73 Pelham St., Newport. 849-2238 or nccucc@newportcongregationalchurch.org.

Charter Oak Grove ADF, an open and welcoming congregation of neopagan druids in CT. www.charteroakadf.org. Email charteroakadf@gmail.com.

Park Place Congregational Church, 71 Park Pl., Pawtucket, 726-2800.

Christ Church in Lonsdale (Episcopal), 1643 Lonsdale Ave., Lincoln. Services 8 and 10:30 a.m. www. christchurchlincoln.org. 725-1920. Church of the Epiphany, 1336 Pawtucket Ave., Rumford. 434-5012. A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. www.epiphanyep.org Church of the Holy Paraclete, Independent Old Catholic; Mass every Sunday at 6 p.m. 155 Douglas Ave., Providence. http://holyparaclete.org; Fr. Jakob Lazarus 218-0706. Edgewood Congregational Church (UCC) Open & Affirming, 1788 Broad St., Cranston. 461-1344. www. edgewoodchurchri.org.

The Pub Church: A church that meets in a pub! Saturdays, 5 p.m. at The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Ave. Boston. Open & Affirming. Email thepubchurch@gmail.com. Location may change. Pilgrim Lutheran Church, an inclusive congregation: 1817 Warwick Ave., Warwick. 739-2937 Pilgrim United Church of Christ. Open and affirming. 635 Purchase St., New Bedford. 508-997-5684. Riverside Church (U.C.C.) 15 Oak Ave., Riverside, RI. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 35 Lower College Rd., Kingston. 783-2153 www. staugustineURI.com.

Emmanuel Episcopal Church. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland RI 02864. 658-1506.

St. Francis City Ministry at the Church of St. Mary, 535 Broadway, Prov. Office of LGBT Outreach 3531422

First Congregational Church in Bristol, an Open and Affirming Congregation. 281 High Street, Bristol. Pastor Dan Randall, 253-7288.

St. James Church: Episcopal, 474 Fruit Hill Ave., No. Prov. 353-2079.

First Unitarian Church. A Welcoming congregation at One Benevolent St., Prov.; 421-7970. Services Sunday 10:30 a.m. First Unitarian Church. 71 8th St., New Bedford, MA 02740. (508) 994-9686. First Universalist Society, Franklin, MA: UU. Welcoming congregation. Same-gender weddings. 262 Chestnut St. (508) 528-5348. www.fusf.org. Email fusf@verizon.net Foxboro Universalist Church, Unitarian Universalist Association. 6 Bird St., Foxboro, MA 02035. 508543-4002. Welcoming congregation, marriage ceremonies. www.uufoxborough.org Grace Episcopal Church in Providence, 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation, 647 N. Main St., Attleboro, MA 02703. Pastor Sandra Demmler Damico (508) 2222898, www.immanuellc.org. Interweave at Channing UU Church in Newport, 135 Pelham St. A membership organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons -- and their allies -- confronting oppression. 846-0643. Mathewson St. Church (United Methodist), 134 Mathewson St., Prov., 331-8900. Meditation: Gay Men’s Meditation Experience. Relax and connect. Third Tues. of each month in Cranston, 7 -- 8 p.m. Tim, 944-0723. Fee applies. Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. If you feel called, please visit our Web site: www.mgc.org. Murray Unitarian Universalist Church, 505 N. Main St., Attleboro, MA, 02702 Rev. Sandra D. FitzHenry. Marriage & commitment ceremonies for all. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org Newman Congregational Church, Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Ave., Rumford, RI. 4311-4742.

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St. Martin’s Episcopal Church, 50 Orchard St. East side of Prov., 751-2141 St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: County & River Sts., New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-8972, stmartins1887@aol.com. St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 728-4300. www.stpaulspawtucket.org St. Paul’s Church, a Welcoming Episcopal church. 2679 E. Main St., Portsmouth. 862-1466. www.stpaulsportsmouthri.org St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Ave., Prov.; 272-9649. Email.stpanda25@verizon. net. www.stpetersandstandrews.org. Saint Therese Old Catholic Church, Open & Affirming, Sunday Mass at 10:30 p.m. at 134 Mathewson St., Providence. Fr. David Martins, 263-4296. www. saintthereseocc.org Second Congregational Church of Attleboro (UCC) Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday worship 10 a.m. (508) 222-4677, www. attleborosecondchurch.org

www.TempleSinairi.org. Unitarian Society of Fairhaven (MA): 102 Green St., Fairhaven, MA 02719; (508) 992-7081. Unitarian Universalist Congregation of So. County: 27 North Rd., Peace Dale, RI; 783-4170 or Val 7897282. www.uusouthcountyri.org. United Church of Christ: Coalition for LGBT Concerns. 13 Steven Circle, S. Kingstown, RI 02883, Ray Bradley at 782-3871. Westminster Unitarian/Universalist Church, a UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich, RI 02818. 884-5933. LGBT weddings welcome.

Social Organizations Atheists/Agnostics: RI Atheist Society – “Working to keep Church and State separate” Welcoming all. Meets 3rd Monday of the month at an area restaurant for lively discussions among like-minded people. For info: www.RIatheist.net Bisexual Resource Center: 29 Stanhope St., Boston, (617) 424-9595 or www.biresource.net. Biversity Boston: Mixed-sex social network. Bi-monthly brunches and other social events. http://biversity. org. Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups, and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman.” Subscribe at www.biwomenboston.org. Bears Ocean State (BOS): Informal e-group for gay & bisexual bear-identified and -affiliated men for friendly companionship. All welcome. http:// groups.yahoo.com/group/bearsoceanstate or bearsoceanstate-subscribe@yahoogroups.com. Agerestricted. Bridgewater State College GLBT Alumni Group: email Kenneth Hayes (‘91) khayesbbc@msn.com or visit www.bridgew.edu. Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGYA): (508) 778-7744. CORISMA: Gay and lesbian couples of RI and Southeast MA. Potluck get-togethers for couples only. For info or to be added to email list write: corismainfo@ comcast.net. www.corismagroup.org Defenders/Providence: Leather/Levi club, c/o PO Box 41153, Prov., RI 02940. Third Sun at 6 p.m.

Seekonk Congregational Church: 600 Fall River Ave., Seekonk, MA. 02771, (508) 336-9355, Rev. Joy Utter, www.scc-ucc.com.

Fall River’s Rainbow Girls: private, moderated welcoming group for women in the Fall River Area. groups. yahoo.com/group/ Fall_River_Rainbow_Grrls.

Temple Agudas Achim: GLBT-friendly, Reconstructionist cong. Rabbi Elyse Wechterman. 901 No. Main St., Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243 or www.agudasma.org.

Gay Lesbian Alliance of Newport County Etc. (GLANCE): Social and entertainment events. Email glance1234@hotmail.com.

Temple Beth-El: GLBT-welcoming. Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Ave., Prov., RI 02906. 331-6070 Temple Emanu-El, Sessions St. & Morris Ave., Providence. A welcoming Conservative congregation. Rabbi Wayne Franklin, 331-1616. www.teprov.org Temple Habonim: a warm, Welcoming Reform congregation. Rabbi Andrew Klein, 165 New Meadow Rd., Barrington, 245-6536. www.templehabonim. org. Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform Temple. Rabbi Peter Stein, 30 Hagen Ave., Cranston, RI. 942-8350.

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Gay Men’s Meditation Group, third Thursday each month, 6:30 -- 7:30 p.m. Tim, 225-8149. Fee applies. Imperial Court of RI at Prov: Male, female, drag king & queen performers raise funds for local charities. Meetings 1st Mon. of month, at RI Pride Office, 1005 Main St., Pawtucket. All welcome. PO Box 6583, Prov., RI 02904;www.icriprov.org. Lesbian Writers Group, Rochambeau Library, Hope St., Providence. Mondays 7 -- 8:30 p.m. Writing exercises, support. No critiquing or workshopping. Free. Russian or Computer Room.

Men’s Card Group: E-mail johninprov@gmail.com or call John 261-9715. Men’s Gay Camping: In RI, CT, MA. Gatherings organized for tents to RVs during Spring, Summer and Fall. www.webspawner.com/users/gaycamping/ index.html or call 277-0075 or email gaycamping@ gmx.com. Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more! Monthly meetings, all welcome! For more information: www.MixedBorders.com or E-Mail Mixedborders@cox.net Opera Club: last Sunday of each month at 1:00 p.m. Enjoy hearing and attending. Email Dave at BrettCornellpi4@aol.com Pawtuxet Pride: GLBTQ folks & friends in Pawtuxet Village (Cranston and beyond). All welcome. Call Ed at 345-1264 or email EDZL@aol.com. Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: Mon, 7-9:30 p.m., Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset St, Prov.. New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and nonsinging volunteers welcome. www.provgmc. org. Queer Book Club. Meets 3rd Wednesday 7 p.m. at Books on the Square, 471 Angell St., Providence. Email queerbookclub@gmail.com. Raging Grannies: Women of “a certain age” working toward a more peaceful, equitable society with song, humor & passion. Will sing for rallies & events. Email jlglass53@aol.com.

in Fall River/New Bedford area. Drop-in center, referrals, condom distribution, social groups. Coffee night Thursdays 7 – 9 p.m. (508) 672-0378; www. myspace.com/twistprogram. UNISONG: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.unisong.net or jlglass53@aol.com WomenRIsing. Feminist Chorus. Director Nancy Rosenberg. www.womenrisingchorus.org. Email: contact@womenrisingchorus.org. Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT people interested in vintage & specialty cars. www. yankeelcc.com, sisherwood@aol.com.

Sports PRIDESPORTSBOSTON: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area: www.pridesportsboston.com 617-937-5858

frontrunnersboston.org SNOWBOARDING: OutRyders, www.outryders.org or email brian@outryders.org. SOCCER: Boston Strikers Soccer Club www.bostonstrikers.com (617) 937-5858 Ext. 9. SOFTBALL: Renaissance City Softball League. New players and boosters always welcome. 226-7771642 or rcsl_commish@cox.net. Visit www.providencesoftball.org Beantown Softball League: (617) 297-7490 www.beantownsoftball.com. Serving since 1978. SQUASH: Boston Boasts www.bostonboasts.com SWIMMING: LANES (Liquid Assets New England) www.swim-lanes.org; (617) 937-5858. For fitness and/or competition. TENNIS: TENNIS-4-All: www.tennis4all.org.

Gay sports in Boston and beyond: www.gaysports.com. Email info@gaysports.com.

VOLLEYBALL: Cambridge Boston Volleyball Assoc. www.GayVolleyball.net, (617) 633-2180

BASKETBALL: Boston Gay Basketball League: www. bgbl.com or (617) 937-5858 Ext. 2.

BOWLING: RI GALA: 6 p.m. Sun., East Prov. Lanes, Newport Ave., Bruce, 397-3803, or Bill, 828-5587 www.galabowling.com. Monday Night Women’s Bowling League, Pat 451-2188. Royal Court Bowling League: 9 p.m. Wed., Woonsocket Hill Bowl; 767-2110.

Ocean State Pride Volleyball League. Adult coed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Rd., Warwick. Fee applies. Email ospvolleyball@gmail.com.

WRESTLING: East Coast Wrestling Club www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org, email ecwc@juno.com, (401) 467-6737 or (617) 937-5858 Ext. 6

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RI Association of Gay Professionals. Professional networking and philanthropy. gayprofessionalnetworkofri@gmail.com. 453-9276

Big Gay Al’s Duckpin bowling league: Tuesdays 6:30 p.m., Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. www.BGALBowling.com. Frank Ferri 831-6940. www.townhalllanes.com.

Bristol Community College Gay/Straight Alliance (BCC/GSA); Steven Camara, Advisor (508) 6782811 Ext. 2391, BCC-H202, 777 Elsbree St., Fall River, MA 02720.

RI Lesbian Social Club: social gatherings for women. heylari@yahoo.com or call 272-2962.

BOWLING: BOSTON: Monday Night League, www. mnbl.net

Brown University Queer Alliance: umbrella org. for groups. 863-3062. Email: queer@brown.edu

RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children. Contact Melanie, 464-2288 or saphicangel120@yahoo.com

FLAG FOOTBALL: FLAG (For Lesbians and Gays) Football www.flagflagfootball.com, (617) 937-5858 Ext. 4.

Brown University Grad Student - Med Student - Staff LGBTQ Association: queer-med-grad-members@ queer.brown.edu

RI Pride: Parade & Festival, year-round events; Box 1082, Prov. RI 02901, info@PrideRI.com; www. PrideRI.com. Office at 1005 Main St. #1105, Pawtucket. 467-2130

FOOTBALL: Women’s professional team Northeastern Nitro. Members of the Women’s Football Alliance. Practices held in Bethel, CT. Contact Amy Manfred at amymanfred@yahoo.com or Carley Pesente at linebackergirl56@aol.com.

Brown University Staff LGBTQ Association: call LGBT Resource Center: 863-3062

RI Prime Timers. Social and networking group for gay and bisexual men 40 and older. Meets 2nd Sundays. www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010. RI Skeptics Society. Yearning to talk with someone rational? Meetings 4th Saturday at a Seekonk restaurant for refreshing discussion. http://skeptics.meetup. com/133/ RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group; age 21+; dances/events. www.RIWA.net SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) Advocacy, education and social events for LGBTQ seniors. Mail address 235 Promenade St., Suite 500, Box 18, Providence RI 02908. sageriinfo@gmail. com, 528-3259. Facebook: “Sage/Rhode Island.” SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of S.E. Mass and RI to foster strong friendships.Semassmen-subscribe@yahoo groups.com or email moderator rlevass @yahoo.com. Trans Queer RI: friendship, fun activities, and support for transgender, queer & like-minded people. Gatherings third Sunday of each month. Email trans. queer.ri@gmail.com. T.W.I.S.T. Project: Program for gay and bisexual men

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RI/S.E. MA Flag Football: Sats. 10 a.m. All levels and genders. mbs1994ever@yahoo.com GOLF: Golf4All www.golf4all.net (617) 450-8682. HOCKEY: Boston Pride Hockey www.bostonpridehockey.org (617) 937-5858 Ext. 7. ICE HOCKEY for WOMEN: Gail Wickstrom email gwick@kersur.net. KICKBOXING or BOXING for WOMEN: 272-5425. www.rondeauskickboxing.com MARTIAL ARTS: Main Street Martial Arts. Non-profit, welcoming dojo and community center. Scholarships available. 1282 No. Main St., Providence. 274-7672. www.mainstma.org. OUTDOORS: Chiltern Mountain Club, New England’s LGBT outdoor recreation club. www.chiltern. org. Email events@chiltern.org. ROWING: Boston Gy Rowers: www.glrf.org RUGBY: Boston Ironsides Rugby Football Club. www. bostonironsidesrfc.org. RUNNING: Frontrunners Rhode Island: Brian 7517643, bripm@cox.net. Frontrunners Boston www.

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Brown University LGBTQ Resource Center: 863-3062, e-mail lgbtq@brown.edu Bryant Pride: Bryant College Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual Student Association. 232-6389. CCRI Triangle Alliance: Student & staff GLBTQ group meets on Flanagan and Liston campuses. 455-6065. www.ccri.cc.ri.edu/triangle. COLAGE. Support and social activities for children of LGBT Parents: Meets third Saturday of the month, 10:30 -- 12 at Gordon School, E. Providence. Coordinator Veronica Jutras (vjutras5@gmail.com) www. colage.org/colage-chapter/colage-rhode-islandchapter/ Fitchburg State College GLBT Alliance: Social support group for students. One-in-Ten and Friends, 978665-3164, sfranzemn@fsc.edu. Peer Listening Line/Fenway Community Health Ctr.: Boston. Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth; support, info and referrals. (617) 267-2535 or (800)399-PEER, 5-10 p.m. all week. Roger Williams University LGBTQ & Allies group: S.A.F.E (Sexual Advocacy for Everyone): Weekly meetings in Intercultural Center; speakers, social and awareness events; Pride Week in April. Email: saferwu03@gmail.com. Facebook: S.A.F.E.

Salve Regina University Gay Straight Lesbian Bisexual Alliance (GSLBA), 100 Ochre Point Ave., Newport. Sister Johnelle, Lucianij@salve.edu

Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group, meets in Boston First Thursday, 7 – 9 p.m. www. compassftm.org, compassftm@comcast.net

SeaQuel: Southeast Asian Queers United for Empowerment and Leadership. Bi-weekly Sunday meetings. 383-7450. myspace.com/seaQuel; Email SeaQuel@ Prysm.us

Crossroads RI: Hotline (Travelers Aid): (800) 367-2700

S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Sq., Prov., RI 02918, E-mail shepard@providence.edu. 865-1631 The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-theclock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. 866-4-UTREVOR; 866-488-7386. thetrevorproject.org. The Next Thing (TNT): Political & support group for queer people of color at Brown Univ. Call Brown Queer Alliance, 863-3062. University of RI Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex, Queer & Questioning (LGBTIQ2) alumni association gsimonelli@advance.uri.edu. 874-5808. URI Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer Center. A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo, 874-2894. web.uri.edu/gender_sexuality

Day One (Formerly Sexual Assault and Trauma Resource Center of RI): Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/abuse & incest. 24-hr hotline (800) 494-8100, collect calls accepted: 421-4100. Dementia and Early Alzheimer’s LGBTQ support group at Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown, 200 Turner Rd., Middletown RI 02842. 8476181. Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling, LGBT or straight relationships. 24 hour free and confidential helpline. 782-3990. Female-to-Male Support Group: Transgender peer support, information, social group. For those who identify somewhere on the trans-masculine spectrum. Regular meetings. Visit www.SNE_FTM@yahoo. com Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: support: E-Mail outreach@gayfathersboston.org. www.gayfathersboston.org.

PFLAG: Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays: Greater Providence chapter serves all of RI and Southeastern Mass.: First Wednesdays, 6:45 p.m. at Met School, 325 Public St., Providence. 751-7571; www.pflagprovidence.org; pflagprovidence@verizon.net; Cape Cod: Falmouth: Last Tuesday of each month, 6:30 p.m. Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Falmouth, 840 Sandwich Rd., E. Falmouth. Brewster: Third Mondays, 7 p.m., First Parish U.U. Church, 1969 Main St. joann@pflagcapecod.org. RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: Info at 4679940; 24-hour helpline, (800) 494-8100. RI Rainbow Support Group for people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Meets last Tuesday of each month. 98 Rolfe St., Cranston, 6 - 7:30. Ken Renaud, 785-2100. RI Relay 711. Samaritans: 24-hour hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044 (RI only), 2724044; www.samaritansri.org. Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, LGBTQ-friendly and bilingual (Spanish). Contact Aida (amanduley@sojournerri. org) or call 861-6191, ext. 121. No caller ID is used; calls are blocked for safety. Sojourner House: Support, shelter, advocacy, info for people in abusive relationships. Call us at 861-6191 We DON’T use Caller ID; calls are blocked for safety.

Youth Pride Inc./The Way Out: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13-23. Drop-in center at 743 Westminster St., Prov. 02903; Mon.---Thurs. noon--8 p.m, Fridays 4 -- 8 p.m., Sat. 10 -- 5. The Way Out peer support group Tues., 5 p.m. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 5:30 p.m. Ask about the 14-and-under day. Call 4215626 or email kerri@youthpride-ri.org Web: www. youthpride-ri.org.

Gay Fathers Support Group in RI. Tom Fronczak, LICSW, 431-2953. Fee applies.

Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project: support, info, shelter. (800) 832-1901, www.gmdvp.org.

Straight Spouses Group: Visit www.StraightSpouse.org. for info on groups and online support.

Support Groups & Social Services Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline (617) 742-4911. Network/LaRed. Email office: advocate@tnir.org

Gay Officers Action League /New England (GOAL NE), gay/lesbian/bisexual law enforcement officers, sworn & civilian. Fire, rescue and publicly employed EMS. P.O. Box 587, Boston, MA 02117; www.goalne.org; info@goalne.org; (617) 376-3612. Confidential.

TGI Network of R.I.: Support, advocacy for Transgender, Transsexual, Gender-variant, Genderqueer & Intersex people. www.tginetwork.org. info@tginetwork.org.

Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help for LGBT and straight adoptions. Betsy Alper, Jewish Family Service, 959 No. Main St., Providence. 331-54337.

Gay Share. Coming Out? Gay men’s support group Wed., 7:30 p.m. No fee. Call Tom/Mike, 369-9448 or www.gayshare.org; Info@gayshare.org.

Foster parents needed: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 766-0900, ext. 1213.

Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline, call 24/7 for crisis and suicide prevention. Also social networks. 866-4-U-Trevor

Foster parents needed, for newborn to age six. www.childrensfriendri.org. 276-4318

HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group at AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Ave., Prov., RI. 521-3603. Refreshments served. New members should call Scott: 6403108

Foster parents sought: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Gregary Wright, Family Service of RI, 331-1350 Ext. 3305 Behavioral health outpatient services in Fall River area, inclusive of LGBT: S.T.E.P. (508-)235-1012; T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378 Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center, offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. Catholic Parents Outreach: Always Our Children, 1st and 3rd Tuesdays, Sacred Heart Convent, 395 Chestnut St., Springfield, MA. Call Ann, (413) 7366803. COLAGE (Children of Gays): A national movement of people with one or more LGBT parents. Social activities, education & advocacy. Meets 3rd Saturday of the month. rhodeisland@colage.org. Coordinator Veronica Jutras (vjutras5@gmail.com)

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GayLab for Healthy Relationships: Learning & practicing healthy ways to socialize in safe, non-judgmental environment in LGBT community. www.gaylab. org. Email info@gaylab.org. James, 781-762-6629

Kathys’ Group: free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Meets monthly in Providence. Partners and caregivers welcome. Call 888-5KATHYS. Lesbian Moms of Southern NE: discussion, support and activity list for lesbian mothers. www.topica.com/ lists/LMOSNE or ForADancer63@aol.com. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Social/Discussions for gay/bi/curious men 18+. Taunton every Thursday, and New Bedford 1st Tues. of the month, 7 – 8:30 p.m. Confidential. Drug/alcohol-free. Email mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com

Straight Spouse Support: Straight spouse professional offers peer support and referrals. Jane Harris, (413) 625-6636. Email jcmalinski48@gmail.com.

Transgender Support Group: Cape Cod (508) 362-4435 Trans Family New England. Gives parents/family members of transgender people a safe place to explore impact of gender identity of their loved ones, and to connect with other families. Meets in Providence 2nd Tues. each month. Location unpublished for privacy. Email Partners@tginetwork.org. Trans Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. Meetings in Providence, last Wed. of each month, location unpublished for privacy. Email partners@tginetwork.org. TransYouth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. Info@imatyfa. org. www.imatyfa.org. Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www.tavausa.org. Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties, offering services to victims of domestic violence. 846-5263.

Nat. Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues, info@nlgja.org.

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