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Setting Healthy Boundaries
SettingHealthy Boundaries
What are Healthy boundaries? Boundaries are invisible fences which mark where your comfort zone ends. They can be in relation to personal space, emotional thoughts and feelings, time and energy, psychological health, Intellectual thoughts and beliefs, personal or work relationships, sexuality and sexual expectations and material boundaries.
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Boundaries can be misinterpreted as someone wishing to be in isolation which is not the intention.
Why do we need them
Without boundaries we may find ourselves constantly pleasing others and not necessarily wanting to do that, but not knowing how to act differently. A lack of boundaries could indicate that our identity is not strong.
Setting Healthy Boundaries
It is important to set boundaries as they reflect your personal standards and values, which help with wellbeing and fulfilment. Within our boundaries, it is important to ensure that our basic human rights are encapsulated in them and additionally your right to say NO! It can be difficult to stand up for yourself for a fear that you might be rejected or cause offence. Emotional boundaries are vital as they give us personal space but when they are not respected we may feel overwhelmed, anxious or not valued. Should they continue to be disrespected it may result in despair, feeling powerless causing anxiety and spiral into depression.
Self care, good mental health and wellbeing
Healthy boundaries can help us define our individuality to be honest with ourselves. They can also help with personal or work relationships. Whilst unhealthy boundaries can lead to anger, resentment or even burnout. Boundaries are personal and will be different for everyone. Setting healthy boundaries is important for self care, good mental health and wellbeing. Boundaries may need to be flexible rather than rigid as they may feel different with individuals. It is important not only to make boundaries but to ensure that they are communicated with others. A large majority of people do not hold or neglect their boundaries to meet loved ones needs in a fear of upsetting or displeasing them. They can be seen as selfish, which is not true. Boundaries are there to protect you, your values and maintain a sense of self-identity; without them we can lose who we are.
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