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CONTENTS

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4 QUEERING THE BLOCKCHAIN WITH MAIDEN GLOBAL 10 MILE HIGH KINGDOM BRING THE MASCULINITY TO DENVER’S DRAG SCENE 14 WIDENING THE LENS OF WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY IN COLORADO 20 STRAIGHT MEN WHO DATE QUEER WOMEN 28 DEFYING GRAVITY (AND CONVENTION) 30 10 MUST-SEE MUSIC EVENTS COMING TO DENVER THIS FALL

34 MACBETH HITS DENVER WITH WITCHY MEN 36 “EVERYONE IS WELCOME, AND NO ONE IS SAFE” 42

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FAMOUS GAY MEN OF THE MOVIES 53 HEINZESIGHT: PITFALLS OF BEING A DUDE

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OUEERING THE BLOCKCHAIN WITH MAIDEN GLOBAL

he blockchain is having a moment. Bitcoin’s meteoric rise to $4,683 has meant that more people are paying attention to digital currencies, often called cryptocurrencies, and even your uncle or former babysitter might be investing in lesser-known coins like Ether, Litecoin, and Ripple [Disclosure: I own some Ether and Golem]. Though initial coin offerings have garnered attention (and raised tech firms and investors large sums of money), the technology behind blockchain businesses is actually more important, as it allows for greater transparency, security, and accuracy for all kinds of transactions without a bank or broker. While Bitcoin lets you transfer cash accurately and securely, other platforms can track basically anything—where your fish was harvested, who downloaded the song you recorded, whether or not a parent read the letter you sent home with a student. By allowing digital information to be distributed but not copied, blockchain technology created the backbone of a new type of internet. Originally devised for the digital currency, Bitcoin, the tech community is now finding other potential uses for the technology. Amid this buzz, Raine Revere and Shira Frank are looking for queer blockchain entrepreneurs to step up. And to do it now.

Affirming Diverse Intelligence “Imagine if when email came out,” Shira said, “only gay, queer, and trans people had access to it for the first five years.” She sat across from me with bright blue hair, enjoying an Americano, eyebrow arched at the potential of LGBTQ people participating in and benefiting from this new industry. “In previous economic revolutions, [few LGBTQ people could] get in on the ground floor. At this point, there is the possibility that if we gain access to the tools that will soon run the economy, we could be the ones directing, leading, managing that economy.” This spring, Shira joined the Denver Blockchain Meetup and quickly found work due to her fundraising and networking skills. Her new job wasn’t ideal, however. “I was working with these guys,” she explained, “and the collaborative space felt narrow and limited and unintelligent, frankly. So I finally threw up my hands and said, ‘If I’m don’t meet more women, I’m out. Where are they?’”

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That led her to Raine, whose long black hair frames a confident smile. “What brought us together was connecting with other women in the blockchain space,” Raine says, “and the implicit power of naming one’s identity and [seeing] people for who they are.” Raine’s software development for ShapeShift, a major blockchain company, led her to invest early on in Ether. With capital from that investment and her and Shira’s shared vision for greater economic opportunities for women, people of color, and LGBTQ people, they’re launching Maiden Global. “We trust in the power of diverse intelligences that come from diverse experience,” Shira explained, “but if diverse people don’t have access, they can’t offer that intelligence. Maiden doesn’t see exactly how the world will be when LGBTQ [people] have greater economic power, but we see that the world will be a better, more intelligent place.”

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“It’s really important that the way we’re helping people is actually increasing accessibility.” Additionally, as an incubator, Maiden Global plans to provide equity investment, coaching, and business consulting to women, queer people, and people of color who want to integrate blockchain tech into their businesses or bring it to their industries. Some may feel hesitant to invest or participate in cryptocurrencies. Raine pointed out that, just like the ‘90s dotcom boom, the cryptocurrency industry has its bubbles. “Imagine if you were learning JSS, Javascript, and html during the internet bubble,” she posed. “When the bubble broke, you still would’ve had incredibly powerful skills that the market demanded. The real invitation is not for people in the LGBTQ community to invest their limited funds in something they don’t understand. It’s to invest in skills that are going to be viable in the new economy.” Maiden Global is hosting events in the Denver metro area on Oct. 8 and Nov. 16. You can sign up for the Maiden Challenge and receive updates for future trainings at www.maiden. global.

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LEGAL DIRECTORY

DO YOU REALLY NEED A WILL? You have likely heard the advice about the importance of having a will. To help figure out if a will is right for you, here are five things to keep in mind: 1. WHO WILL GET YOUR STUFF? The most common and simple reason to make a will is to decide who will get your property. Without a will, state laws determine how your property will be distributed. 2. WHO WILL HANDLE THINGS? You can use a will to name an executor. Someone you trust, that will take care of all your final affairs and wishes. Without a will, a court will appoint someone to do the job. 3. WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF THE KIDDOS? A will is the only place to designate a guardian to care for your children. Without a will, a court will decide who will be their caretaker. Moreover, if you leave property to children, the process must be managed

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by an adult, which should also be designed in a will. 4. WHAT ABOUT YOUR PETS? Use a will to name a trusted caretaker for your pet(s). You can also leave money to that person to help them with pet-care expenses. Using a will isn’t your only option, but it is surely the simplest. 5. WHAT’S YOUR BACKUP PLAN? Maybe you have a living trust or perhaps don’t have children or pets that need guardians. It’s still a good idea to have a backup will — a catch-all for any property that isn’t taken care of by a living trust or other estate planning instrument. Not everyone needs a will, but having one isn’t a bad idea. Your best bet is to consult with an attorney to determine (if any) what your end-of-life planning options should include. Remember, if you don’t declare your final wishes, the state will do it for you.

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MILE HIGH KINGDOM BRINGS THE MASCULINITY TO DENVER’S DRAG SCENE

ast year, RuPaul told ABC News that he thought neither he nor Drag Race, the televised drag competition he’s hosted for nine seasons, could ever go mainstream.

“I think that I haven’t been accepted in mainstream media outlets... because the only way they could actually have a conversation with me is to make fun of me, or if they could somehow make a joke about what I’m doing,” he told Dan Harris. And look where he is now. The popular drag reality show has been catapulted into the mainstream and has transformed the lives of drag queens across the world. But, while the folks who strap on heels collect dollars, those who impersonate men are left in the dust. We’ve forgotten about our drag kings. Denver only has one drag king troupe, called Mile High Kingdom. They frequently perform at events, such as Colorado’s Pride events, benefit shows, and the recent Catalyst Cabaret, an anti-racism variety show. Robin MacKinnon is the Mile High Kingdom’s troupe founder and father. Two years ago, she saw her first drag king performance and was immediately drawn to the art of male impersonation. When she returned to Denver and realized there wasn’t a troupe, Robin called out to her friends to start up the first and only drag king troupe in Denver. Almost two years later, MHK is a troupe of nine. They practice about 10 hours a week, choreographing routines and

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challenging themselves with new styles. “I call them male illusionists because stereotypically, people would say lesbians or tomboys, but really our group is not that at all,” MacKinnon explained. At the latest Catalyst Cabaret, the troupe took the stage, donning ‘80s hair band wigs that swayed as they worked it at the Oriental Theater to Def Leppard’s “Pour Some Sugar.” Robin has a dance background with a feminine style, but her moves become more masculine as she choreographs the troupe’s routines. It takes a lot more than moves to transform these women into men on stage. “A drag queen can put on a wig and a gown and she is instantly glamorous and amazing. We can’t put on a gown. We have to work pretty hard at our look, which is still developing,” Robin explained. Sam Jones, who responded to a call-out last year for MHK, shares MacKinnon’s opinion. Jones played the cello in high school orchestra, but she said performing and preparing for drag is much different. “I make sure I have all the makeup, clothes, facial hair, and of course, my packer set up and ready to go the day before the show,” Sam said. “It is easier to arrive for call time with at least the contouring done on your face; this way it takes less time to get into face at the venue.” Everyone in the troupe has a drag name that they go by to represent their character. Jones goes by Gnash D’Boy (nasty boy).

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“I wanted a name that was a play on words like other performers have,” Sam said. “My partner and I were heading to rehearsal and she said something like Gnash D. something, then Janet Jackson’s song “Nasty Boys” popped into my head, and it stuck.” The troupe is made up of straight women, queer women, and trans men. Together, they are a family, like traditional drag queen groups. Robin is the troupe dad, and they call each other brothers. “Being part of MHK is the first time I have felt like I have a family or support system,” Jones said. “I didn’t know what I was missing, but I can’t imagine my life without these guys. I do drag because it is helping me get to know a whole new part of myself, and it has made me feel more confident both as Gnash and as Sam.” Unlike drag queens, who pride themselves on making individual names for themselves and creating a “lineage,” drag kings tend to form troupes or performance groups. While they do occasionally join houses and maintain a solo persona, this is increasingly rare in the drag king community. Many troupes are created out of the desire to forge a cohesive unit in order to book shows and performances. When Mile High Kingdom hosts its own event, the group performs 10-13 numbers, ranging from group performances to solos from members of MHK. Denver comedian Debbie Scheer emcees their events and helps the audience to understand drag kings. She explains to the crowd that if you see a drag queen’s cleavage, she is doing it right. For a drag king, if you see cleavage, he is doing it wrong.

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“When we are at drag rehearsal or at a show, I call everybody ‘he,’” MacKinnon said. “We transform ourselves into men, so that’s how we should be addressed.” Drag Kings are newer on the scene, but troupes are beginning to pop up all across the country. Mile High Kingdom got to connect recently with a drag king from Brooklyn, who visited and exchanged tips. “We have an interesting saddle because we are different than drag queens, so we stick together across the nation,” MacKinnon said. She believes drag is an important part of the community and a therapeutic way for her and her sons to artfully express themselves. “After the Orlando shootings, we were in a drag show and it felt like the community came together, and that was the art and expression, and the way of being in our community.” MHK goes beyond dancing on stage together: they have each other for support and to help each other grow. And as they continue to build MHK together, their performances and bonds get stronger. “I really love those guys, and I would do anything for them. I see them growing in their drag world, and I see them growing in their lives, and it’s really exciting as a family to watch that happen.” Stay tuned to their Facebook page for for more upcoming events in the Denver area.

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WIDENING THE LENS OF WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY IN COLORADO

tanding in front of 200 of his favorite people, Clancey Woodlee looked around the quaint, dimly lit lawn of the Fort Collins Solarium, watching his July 4 wedding unfold both handsomely and masterfully. It was a day that would, as promised to his partner David, “always have fireworks.” After spending nearly a year planning the event, Clancey and David Woodlee were married surrounded by the wedding industry’s finest. Woodlee had worked diligently to procure talented, outgoing, and kind vendors who understood their style and met their needs. The day went without flaw, with every detail well thought-out, from the eucalyptus table garlands to the precise size of the sequins on the wedding party’s dresses. Nothing was left without a double- or triple-check. If someone asked Woodlee how difficult it was to plan the wedding, he’d probably crack a joke about underestimating the amount of champagne the guests would consume.Which, he will tell you, was a lot. But beyond that, he’d explain the frustration that came with nearly every other element. Woodlee began planning the wedding the very 1 4 \\ O C T O B E R 4 , 2 0 1 7

same night he got engaged. He immediately reached out to vendors in hopes of securing them for the day. Despite his initial fears about planning the event, his most prominent problem came from the wedding industry itself. Woodlee noticed a troublesome scenario arising nearly every time he informed the vendors that their services were for a gay wedding. “We would submit a request for pricing for a certain vendor, and we’d say that we were a gay couple. A lot of the time the pricing would be way more than they would ordinarily do for a straight couple or way less just based on if they wanted our wedding for their media or just to promote their business,” Woodlee said. Rather than being disheartened by the inconsistencies, Woodlee saw how his passion for photography could fit in a competitive and growing industry. Almost exactly three months after his wedding, Woodlee found himself itching to get into the wedding industry. After making a pros and cons list to determine what part of the wedding industry would suit him best, he landed on photography because it allowed for the perfect amount of creativity with the freedom to do

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his own little passion projects on the side. In typical Woodlee fashion, he quit his nine to five job and decided to make wedding photography his full-time gig right from the beginning. Setting the goal of shooting three weddings in a year, Woodlee published his website and began looking for clients within his wide network of friends and family. Woodlee explained that his client base began with people who were close and trusted him as he built his portfolio. Over the next few months, thanks to great networking and an incredible social media presence, he built a reputation and style that is recognizable and high-end. Today, he is working to make the wedding industry more accessible to a wide range of people through consistent style and pricing. His pricing is the same regardless of his couple, embodying dependability and trustworthiness in an industry that seems unsure of how to react to nonnormative relationships. Woodlee set out to level the playing field

for queer couples. According to data from U.S. tax returns examined by the New York Times in 2014, there were a total of 963,832 marriages in Colorado. Of those marriages, only 3,227 were same-sex couples. Only 0.33 percent of marriages were queer. As of June, 2015, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled in favor of same-sex marriage. Two years later, 61 percent of same-sex, cohabiting couples are married. And over the last year, 10.2 percent of LGBTQ Americans were married to someone of the same sex, up 2.3 percent from months before the Supreme Court ruling, according to Pew Research Center via a survey conducted by Gallup. Woodlee is proud to be part of this growth. He grabbed the camera by the lens and started his business in 2016, just a year after the change in legislation. 2017 marks one year in business, and already he has shot more than 26 weddings in five different countries and established himself as a major competitor in the wedding photography industry. OUTFRONTONLINE.COM

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Woodlee’s fascination for photography began as far back as he can recall. Growing up, “I was always the kid with the camera that was really annoying and taking too many photos,” he claimed. As a child, Woodlee was always drawn to the way photography could capture an entire series of emotions in a single frame. This passion translated into a hobby as he backpacked through Europe after graduating from college. During this trip, he learned the mechanics of a camera and began to grow his hobby into a legitimate skill. “I didn’t think it was a feasible career; I thought it was more of a hobby, until I actually got married myself and thought of doing wedding photography because of my own experiences.” Despite his humble beginnings on a disposable camera at family events, he can now be spotted at weddings all over Colorado, toting no less than a fancy leather harness to secure up to three cameras to his body for efficiency and fast shooting throughout the day. He is working to provide quality photography through a business model that relies on the relationships he establishes with his clients. Coming up on the one year anniversary of his business, Clancey James Creative, he is working to expand even further. His goal for this upcoming year is to diversify his client base and continue the upward trajectory that the business is moving in so far, all while remaining true to his approach of fairness and inclusivity.

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By Addison Herron-Wheeler

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WHO DATE QUEER WOMEN

t’s human nature to want to put things, and people, in boxes. We like to divide our community up into gay, lesbian, bisexual, etc., and we like to divide people as a whole into two groups: queer and queer allies. If only the world really was so simple, and everyone knew exactly what category they fit into. The reality of human experience is that it is messy, and most people have had confusing thoughts, relationships, or experiences at one point or another that defy the concept that they are a “straight” person with no queer leanings whatsoever. Many straight men, men who in most cases consider themselves hetero, just attracted to women, find themselves interacting with the queer community in a more intimate way than just acting as an ally and supporter. By dating bisexual, pansexual, or trans women, these men are immersing themselves in the queer community. Whether they are considered, or consider themselves, a part of that community, they are still uniquely privy to the issues that queer women face. It is what they decide to do with this connection that defines their impact on this community.

The Bi Factor It isn’t uncommon for a hetero man to be in a relationship with a bi or pansexual woman, a woman who dates both men and women or who dates men, women, and non-binary individuals. Not everyone in these situations is met with the love and understanding necessary to foster a healthy and connected relationship. Unfortunately, many bi and pan women are victims of sexual or domestic violence. According to the Human Rights Campaign, 46 percent of bisexual women have been raped, compared to 17 percent of heterosexual women and 13 percent of lesbians. However, there are men who understand and respect the needs of their nonstraight partners. “Honestly, a majority of the women I have dated have been queer, since my first girlfriend at 16,” explained Shawn

Dautant, a heterosexual man. “I surround myself with alternative crowds, and it always seemed to go hand in hand, being alternative and being queer, so I never really thought about it. I really don’t know how I ended up dating so many queer women, but when I think about it, the number just skyrocketed higher and higher as I got older. It could be something I look for or a certain kind of attitude, or something people look for in me.” Dautant explained that he grew up with queer family members and friends and never felt that being queer was odd or unusual. Then he made a lot of queer friends, and eventually, queer lovers. The progression seemed natural, and possibly explains why he had such an easy time adapting to queer relationships. He also feels that, to the best of his knowledge, the women he dated never felt that they could not be their entire selves around him, or that they had to hide their queer identities. Still, despite his relationships with queer women, Dautant does not consider himself a member of the queer community. “I don’t feel like I’m a part of the community,” he admitted. “I feel I have a lot of ideas and thoughts and believe in rights for everyone. I believe everyone should do what they want, but I’ve never really labeled myself that way. Any time I come across someone who has skewed thoughts and ideas about queer people, I am more than willing to share my thoughts. So I don’t identify as queer, but I try and do my best to share my knowledge and support the community.” Tony Towner, a man who explains that about 50 percent of the women he dates are queer, expresses similar ideas about being an outsider, but a welcome outsider who has the privilege of supporting a queer partner. He feels it is a coincidence that he has dated so many queer women, not something he seeks intentionally. Similar to Dautaunt, Towner explains that having a gay uncle growing up helped introduce him to the idea of LGBTQ people early on and lead to him feeling completely at ease with the concept of a bi or pan girlfriend. OUTFRONTONLINE.COM

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“I genuinely hope my significant other can express their sexual identity with me,” Towner told OUT FRONT. “I would feel terrible if I were to discover I were keeping them from being who they really are at heart. Dating bi women has presented far less issues than dating women who are straight, or at least claim to be straight. I’ve yet to have a girl leave me for a girl; plenty have left me for other men.” He also reflects, as does Dautant, that he doesn’t really consider himself to be a part of the community, except as a supporter. Also like Dautant, he included without prompting that while he is not himself a member of the community, he goes out of his way to correct wrong impressions about the queer community. “I feel I’m a member of the community mostly as a supportive role,” Towner said. “I also try to encourage a positive image of the community in more impressionable groups, like younger family members, usually by discouraging pejorative use of slang and things like that.”

A Female Perspective His girlfriend Moriah Gallagher, who identifies as bisexual, speaks about the positives of being in a healthy relationship where she can share her queer identity with her significant other and still feel supported. However, she also recounts negative experiences when she could not be herself around the person she was dating. “I’d say that having been able to take my boyfriend with me to pride had a very positive impact on my identity,” she said. “I have been with men that were too jealous to do that and ones that have wanted me to ‘be straight’ while with them. Being able to actually go with the man I’m dating made it feel more like it’s okay to date a man and still identify within the LGBTQ community. I don’t have to choose one over the other.” Gallagher points out that when dating queer women, men should make it a point not to get defensive about every person encountered, not to worry needlessly about a cheating partner, and not to assume the woman is interested in a threesome or an open relationship just because she is bi or pan.

Not Here to Be a Fetish While there are many understanding and accepting men who date LGBTQ women, these women still have to deal with straight men who slut shame and abuse them just for being attracted to others, as well as men

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who fetishize the concept of two women together or the idea of a trans woman. The trans fetish is an especially painful one, as it involves objectification of an entire person, not just an act they participate in. Arianna J., a trans woman who considers herself pansexual, has had many negative experiences throughout her involvement with straight men. “As a trans woman, I don’t date straight men often,” she admitted. “Most of my relationships with typically straight men have been almost strictly sexual in nature with little to no emotional connection and always rather brief. I was usually their dirty little secret. Coming from a very unaccepting family background, I honestly didn’t think I deserved better. I wouldn’t say my relationships with typically straight men were typical relationships—at least I hope not, anyway.” Arianna stated that as a usual rule, she will only date men who identify as queer in some way, due to all the negative experiences and fetishization she has faced. She also doesn’t consider straight men who date queer women a part of the queer community. However, she has had a few positive experiences with straight men who made her feel accepted and loved, not just used. “I did date one straight guy very recently and he was a genuinely nice, self-proclaimed straight guy that I dated for several months and began to have an emotional bond with,” she told OUT FRONT. “He said he viewed trans women as women, as we are, and didn’t discriminate based on body parts. He only dates women and considers himself straight. We are still friends and he is dating a friend of mine now.”

The Bottom Line It’s not easy to land on an overall consensus about the concept of straight men who date LGBTQ women and where they fit in with our community. For every positive story of acceptance and support, there is a negative story of abuse and fetishization to match. Our society continues to generate straight men who feel that queer women are either promiscuous and unfaithful or there to be an object of sexual amusement. However, it appears that when raised with values that encourage accepting LGBTQ people, straight men are more likely to be open and accepting, even when it comes to their own romantic lives. Let us celebrate these men, not for having patience with queer women and allowing them to be who they are, but for being true examples of barrier breaking and the phrase “love is love.” And let’s raise our straight sons and daughters to follow in their footsteps.

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What is TRUVADA for PrEP? TRUVADA for PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) is a prescription medicine that is used together with safer sex practices to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1. To help determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk openly with your healthcare provider about your sexual health. Ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about how to prevent getting HIV. Always practice safer sex and use condoms to lower the chance of sexual contact with body fluids. Never reuse or share needles or other items that have body fluids on them.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION What is the most important information I should know about TRUVADA for PrEP? Before taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ® You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confirmed to be HIV-negative. ® Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. If you have flu-like symptoms, you could have recently become infected with HIV-1. Tell your healthcare provider if you had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting or at any time while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ® You must continue to use safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. ® You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ® Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months. ® If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. ® To further help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1: ® Know your HIV status and the HIV status of your partners. ® Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV to infect you.

® Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior, such as having fewer sex partners. ® Do not miss any doses of TRUVADA. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. ® If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. TRUVADA can cause serious side effects: ® Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. TRUVADA is not approved to treat HBV. If you have HBV and stop taking TRUVADA, your HBV may suddenly get worse. Do not stop taking TRUVADA without first talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to monitor your health. Who should not take TRUVADA for PrEP? Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: ® Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. If you are HIV-1 positive, you need to take other medicines with TRUVADA to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. ® Also take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B infection. What are the other possible side effects of TRUVADA for PrEP? Serious side effects of TRUVADA may also include: ® Kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare provider may do blood tests to check your kidneys before and during treatment with TRUVADA. If you develop kidney problems, your healthcare provider may tell you to stop taking TRUVADA. ® Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but rare medical emergency that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a fast or abnormal heartbeat. ® Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain.

Please see Important Facts about TRUVADA for PrEP including important warnings on the following page.

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I’m passionate, not impulsive. I know who I am. And I make choices that fit my life. TRUVADA for PrEP™ is a once-daily prescription medicine that can help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 when taken every day and used together with safer sex practices. ® TRUVADA for PrEP is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIV through sex. ® You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP.

Ask your doctor about your risk of getting HIV-1 infection and if TRUVADA for PrEP may be right for you. ® Bone problems, including bone pain, softening, or thinning, which may lead to fractures. Your healthcare provider may do tests to check your bones. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP are stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effects that bother you or do not go away. What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking TRUVADA for PrEP? ® All your health problems. Be sure to tell your healthcare provider if you have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis. ® If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if TRUVADA can harm your unborn baby. If you become pregnant while taking TRUVADA for PrEP, talk to your healthcare provider to decide if you should keep taking TRUVADA.

® If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. If you become HIV-positive, HIV can be passed to the baby in breast milk. ® All the medicines you take, including prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. TRUVADA may interact with other medicines. Keep a list of all your medicines and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. ® If you take certain other medicines with TRUVADA, your healthcare provider may need to check you more often or change your dose. These medicines include certain medicines to treat hepatitis C (HCV) infection. You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA. Visit www.FDA.gov/medwatch, or call 1-800-FDA-1088.

Learn more at truvada.com

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IMPORTANT FACTS

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This is only a brief summary of important information about taking TRUVADA for PrEPTM (pre-exposure prophylaxis) to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. This does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your medicine.

MOST IMPORTANT INFORMATION ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP Before starting TRUVADA for PrEP: • You must be HIV-1 negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confirmed to be HIV-1 negative. • Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include flu-like symptoms, tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. Tell your healthcare provider if you have had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP: • You must continue to use safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1.

• You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you think you were exposed to HIV-1 or have a flu-like illness while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. • See the “How to Further Reduce Your Risk” section for more information. w

TRUVADA may cause serious side effects, including: • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. TRUVADA is not approved to treat HBV. If you have HBV, your HBV may suddenly get worse if you stop taking TRUVADA. Do not stop taking TRUVADA without first talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to check your health regularly for several months.

ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP TRUVADA for PrEP is a prescription medicine used together with safer sex practices to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1. • To help determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk openly with your healthcare provider about your sexual health.

Do NOT take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: • Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. • Take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B infection.

HOW TO TAKE TRUVADA FOR PrEP • Take 1 tablet once a day, every day, not just when you think you have been exposed to HIV-1. • Do not miss any doses. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • Use TRUVADA for PrEP together with condoms and safer sex practices.

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• Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months. You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP.

POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS OF TRUVADA FOR PrEP TRUVADA can cause serious side effects, including: • Those in the “Most Important Information About TRUVADA for PrEP" section. • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. • Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but rare medical emergency that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a fast or abnormal heartbeat.

• Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain. • Bone problems. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP include stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. These are not all the possible side effects of TRUVADA. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you have any new symptoms while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Your healthcare provider will need to do tests to monitor your health before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP.

BEFORE TAKING TRUVADA FOR PrEP Tell your healthcare provider if you: • Have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis. • Have any other medical conditions. • Are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. • Are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. If you become HIV-positive, HIV can pass to the baby in breast milk.

Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take: • Keep a list that includes all prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements, and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist. • Ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist about medicines that should not be taken with TRUVADA for PrEP.

HOW TO FURTHER REDUCE YOUR RISK • Know your HIV status and the HIV status of your partners. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV to infect you.

• Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior, such as having fewer sex partners. • Do not share needles or personal items that can have blood or body fluids on them.

GET MORE INFORMATION • This is only a brief summary of important information about TRUVADA for PrEP. Talk to your healthcare provider or pharmacist to learn more, including how to prevent HIV infection.

• Go to start.truvada.com or call 1-800-GILEAD-5 • If you need help paying for your medicine, visit start.truvada.com for program information.

TRUVADA FOR PREP, the TRUVADA FOR PREP Logo, the TRUVADA Blue Pill Design,TRUVADA, GILEAD, and the GILEAD Logo are trademarks of Gilead Sciences, Inc., or its related companies. All other marks referenced herein are the property of their respective owners. Version date: April 2017 © 2017 Gilead Sciences, Inc. All rights reserved. TVDC0180 08/17

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By Louisa Silverman

DEFYING GRAVITY (AND CONVENTION)

riven by a passion for social justice, both Colorado State Senator Dominick Moreno and One Colorado’s Communications Manager, Austin Montoya, understand the value in breaking from convention to achieve their goals. Nearly a decade ago, Dominick Moreno had just graduated from Georgetown University and trekked back across the country to Adams County, Colorado, where he was born and raised. It didn’t take long for him to decide to run for city council, even though he wrote off his campaign as a long shot. As we chatted over coffee during the final days of summer, he recounted walking up the stairs of his parents’ basement, where he had been living, to tell them his plan. “They both looked at me like I was insane,” he said. “But they were obviously very supportive and wanted me to be successful.” Despite having lived in our nation’s capitol in college, Moreno initially had no idea how to campaign. He went into it blindly and mimicked his opponents’ strategies, like knocking on voters’ doors. He even bought a book called How to Win a Local Election.

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But his lack of experience also kept him immune to certain pressures and conventions. For example, he found it disrespectful to the decisionmaking process to ask people for their vote while canvassing. He didn’t expect anyone to be able to make up their mind based on a 30-second interaction. Instead, he had conversations with them about the issues they cared about and sought out their opinions. Not only did he win his first election, he got more votes than the other two candidates combined. Moreno stayed true to that technique throughout his campaigns for seats in the State House of Representatives and the State Senate as well. In 2016, he was elected to the Senate as a representative of Adams County. His colleagues selected him to serve on the Joint Budget Committee, which is responsible for writing and balancing Colorado’s $28 billion annual budget—a rare distinction for a freshman senator. For him, it’s worth straying from the pack in order to stay true to his morals. Moreno also stood out in ways that were beyond his control, the most apparent of which being his age. It was tough for him to gain respect at times, so he was very intentional about his appearance. He didn’t own a suit, so he wore the most professional attire he had—a button-down shirt and a tie—every day. He recalled an instance when he and the oldest city council member were having a debate that got heated. While Moreno was speaking, a fellow city council member turned to him and said, “Why don’t you shut up.” “Everyone there was very taken aback because that’s not how you address people in a city council meeting,” he said. The mayor, who was facilitating, didn’t even object in Moreno’s defense. “I felt really lonely that day.” Moreno knew that the only reason this council member felt that he could talk to him that way was because Moreno was young, so he pulled him aside after the meeting and politely told him not to do that in the future. The council member graciously apologized and was respectful from then on. Despite the challenges that came with being young, there was no denying his fresh perspective and innovative ideas, and Morena accomplished a lot, including a smoking ban in parks in Commerce City and a land donation for a new Boys and Girls club. Mental health services have also been an important political issue for him because, on a personal level, mental health services helped him through his coming out process in college, helped him gain the confidence to come out to his family after he graduated, and helped him face the push-back he got once he came out publicly.

Moreno’s political experience has shown him the importance of political representatives who reflect the community they represent, whether that means young folks, LGBTQ folks, or people of color. “But,” he said, “the legislature is still not representative of the population as a whole.” As a life-long resident in his district and as an out LGBTQ politician of color, Moreno is in the perfect position to understand issues facing his constituents. By not losing sight of what is important to him personally, he is better able to convey the concerns of his community as their political representative. He is not alone. “For me it comes naturally as a gay man of color. It’s always at the forefront of our minds,” said Austin Montoya, about One Colorado and their goals of disseminating messages to a wide array of communities. One of the reasons Montoya was drawn to One Colorado was because they deemphasize the boundaries between communities and have an intersectional approach to their work. Instead of forming to the mold of fellow social justice organizations, One Colorado expands what social justice means and pushes its fellow organizations to do the same. One Colorado is known as an LGBTQ advocacy organization, but Montoya points out the simple truth that, “our community is full of many different communities.” No one fits into just one category. It is through this lens that One Colorado aims to deliver information, and it is this lens that distinguishes One Colorado from the other social justice organizations with which Montoya has worked. Montoya always wanted to be involved with One Colorado, but his job gives him a vantage point to see the intolerance that still exists even within the organization. He said that it’s difficult to sit in a committee and see representatives and leaders of his community saying bigoted, inaccurate things about people like him. “It’s hard not to feel personally attacked,” he said. At that point, it’s about him as a person, not just his career. “My personal life becomes very public.” But, for him, it’s worth it. He reasoned that he never would have been satisfied in his original career path of journalism because he could not sit on the sidelines and be an unbiased observer. Both Montoya and Moreno make sacrifices to stay true to their values for the benefit of their communities, and their message is simple: There is no one correct way to make change, and the most important thing Coloradans can do for their community is to get involved as early as possible, in any way possible. Follow your instincts.

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by Lacy Bursick

10 MUST-SEE

MUSIC EVENTS

COMING TO DENVER THIS FALL

here’s no denying that Colorado’s music scene is bustling.

As a live music lover, the best part of fall is the epic concert lineup that delight the Mile High City with unforgettable shows. We are lucky enough to have Red Rocks, the best outdoor venue in the country, and almost every major artist will announce a tour stop in Denver at some point. And don’t forget about the many music festivals in Colorado that bring national acts year after year. Colorado has also produced many nationally-touring artists such as The Fray, The Lumineers, OneRepublic, and Pretty Lights, who bring out their best for their hometown shows. Denver should never be bored on a weekend because there are so many awesome promotion companies throwing events across every venue in the city in a range of genres, from electronic music to bluegrass. Even the smaller venues boast the best production, giving Denver its bass capital reputation. Put on your dancing shoes for these noteworthy events coming to Denver this fall.

Rabbit In The Moon undisclosed warehouse location

Oct. 7

Rabbit In The Moon will be performing for the first time in Denver in eight years, bringing their full, live act that includes dancers, performers, narratives, and props. This Denver-exclusive warehouse event is the most intimate setting in which to catch them up close and personal, because otherwise it will be a festival set with 100,000 other people. Also performing is the Dirtybird OG producer Worthy. This show will take us back to ‘90s raves. Stay tuned for the official location. 3 0 \\ O C T O B E R 4 , 2 0 1 7

Deadmau5 - Red Rocks

Oct. 19-20

Deadmau5 is bringing his new Cube 2.1 Production to Red Rocks for his only U.S. tour date this Fall. Electronic fans across the country will be flocking to this special techno performance and new production. Whether you are a fan or not, there is no denying that Deadmau5 production is one of the most infamous EDM acts around. His iconic Mau5 helmet and logo can be found everywhere, and he is easily one of the most active artists on Twitter, often with controversial commentary. He was scheduled for one night at Red Rocks on October 20, but after the show sold out almost immediately, a second night was scheduled for Thursday, October 19.

Marilyn Manson the Fillmore in Denver

Oct. 19

Back in the ‘90s, Marilyn Manson was called “Male Performer of the Year” by Metal Edge Readers and won “Best Cinematography in A Music Video” from MTV. We haven’t heard much from him since then, except for that myth that he had a rib removed. But on October 6, his new album titled Heaven Upside Down will be released, and he will touring worldwide with a stop at the Fillmore in Denver on October 19. Let’s see if this once-dubbed best male performer has still got it 20 years later.

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MartyParty at Re:Search Wednesdays Cervantes Masterpiece Ballroom in Denver

Oct. 25

Euphonic Conceptions has made hump day one of our favorite nights to go out, thanks to their Re:Search Wednesday events. They bring big name artists out for intimate sets at Cervantes every week and often have surprise guests, making the $5 cover well worth it. October 25th features MartyParty, who is also half of the DJ-duo Pantyraid. MartyParty’s slow and sexy bass music is sure to heat up the dance floor.

Glamoure’s “Freak Show” Blush & Blu in Denver

Oct. 14

“For FreakShow, I tend to invite and encourage all sorts of freaks and monsters to come out and play and support one another in a Halloween Freak-themed drag show,” said Alice Glamoure, the host of the event. Glamoure is a Denver drag star in the group Haus of FishCandy, which hosts events all over the city. Come get your freak on for only $5 at Blush & Blu.

The Bloody Mary Festival EXDO Center in Denver

Oct. 22

Bring on the cool season with a spicy bloody mary while listening to great music. For three hours, you can try the best bloody marys from all your favorite Denver restaurants, from Snooze to Steubens. Expert judges will be selecting the winner for 2017 Best Bloody Mary in Denver, and your vote will count for the 2017 People’s Choice. This event is perfect for all you dedicated brunchers.

Global Dance Presents Supernatural Festival - National Western Complex in Denver

Oct. 28

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Convention Center is putting on a Halloween event called Supernatural Festival. Global Dance always brings premier events to Denver, boasting great sound and top-notch production. The lineup isn’t released yet, but we can expect the biggest names in dance music.

Sonic Blossom - Cervantes Masterpiece Ballroom in Denver

Nov. 4

The psychedelic Colorado music and art festival Sonic Bloom is presenting a winter rendition called Sonic Blossom, featuring Bluetech and the duo Kalya Scintilla & Eve Olution as the headlining acts. They will bring their intricate Hummingbird Stage design indoors to Cervantes Masterpiece Ballroom in Denver on November 4 and to the Aggie Theatre in Fort Collins the night before. Expect a creative production with awe-inspiring performers.

Desert Dwellers & Quixotic Present Beyond - Ogden Theatre in Denver

Nov. 10

Desert Dwellers is a project by a West Coast DJ duo who met at desert parties two decades ago. Today, they’re headlining events across the country and becoming known as the kings of downtempo electronic music. On November 10 at The Ogden Theatre, they are bringing their worldly vibe together with cirque group Quixotic. Picture straight-off-the-playa performers hanging from each other on aerial silks with entrancing, exotic electronic beats. This is a specially curated performance that the Dwellers have been planning for months.

Desert Hearts Take The Ride Tour The Church Nightclub in Denver

Oct. 20

Desert Hearts is one of the best techno stages at Burning Man, and they also host their own sold-out festival every year. The group is made up of Mikey Lion, Lee Reynolds, Marbs, Porkchop, and RYBO and will be stopping in Boulder as well as Denver on their tour. Be warned though, this isn’t your basic club techno: expect sparkles and flare, because these guys bring the party.

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By Addison Herron-Wheeler

MACBETH HITS DENVER WITH WITCHY MEN

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re you a man? O, proper stuff! This is the very painting of your fear. This is the airdrawn dagger which you said led you to Duncan.” It’s the age-old, unspoken question in Shakespeare and in Macbeth: are you a man? Most people know that early productions of the Bard’s plays were completely done by men. But you haven’t seen a rendition of the classic tragedy done in this fashion—a cast of only men directed by an LGBTQ director. The Denver Center for Performing Arts sets out to give us just that experience, but with a few modern twists.

If you think this sounds homoerotic, you’re right. Not only does this rendition embrace the queer tones in Macbeth, it highlights them. The men are shirtless, rugged, and wearing leather daddy gear. The female characters are all done with drag, but a subtle, classic drag that is in no way meant to cover the biological sex of the performer. This is a difficult thing to pull off without being too campy, too silly, or outright confusing. But this cast hits the mark, thanks in part to the immaculate casting of Lady Macbeth and Macbeth, who read as the ultimate, doomed Beyonce-andJay-Z power couple. The tone of the show is dark and beautiful; dubstep and festival trap provide an odd soundtrack that is illustrated through dance instead of battle scenes. Black lights and projections add to the witchy air of the show; minimalism paired with an amazing stage setup and effects make for a performance that is dramatic, dynamic, and never dull. The delivery of the lines (often what a writer hangs on during criticism, as words are our babies), is the highlight of the show. Somehow, almost every player

on the stage manages to use inflection that both conveys the meaning of the outmoded words and allows them to take on new, modern life without changing a syllable. Certain accents and sound effects add new entendre or innuendo, or make a line that could go unnoticed really pop. The queer relationships within the play are also highlighted. Whether Shakespeare intended anything to be going on between Macbeth and Banquo is a question scholars will debate until the end of time, but in this version, there most certainly is something happening—but only the hint of something, an almost-kiss, grazing hands, too-long eye contact. There aren’t many problems with the production and execution of this show; everything is perfect, almost to a fault. The dramatic, loud music and the sexual rendition isn’t going to be for everyone, but for the purposes of queer inclusion and a dynamic portrayal, it hits all the marks. Of course, one can’t help but notice the biggest problem about the show: the fact that the initial all-male casting in Shakespeare was due to prejudice that kept women from the stage. While this rendition is amazing and queer, and almost emasculates the players and makes them sexual objects, it can’t completely be ignored that this is an homage to a time when women were barred from the stage, and no women were given the chance to perform in this production. As a dubstep enthusiast and journalist, I feel it necessary to note that the music could have been a little more carefully chosen for effect. In some places, trap music and over-the-top pop are a perfect juxtaposition to the tone. However, there are other moments where darker, more underground electronic music would have been an even cooler choice, especially for a show based in one of the dubstep capitals of the world. Those looking for a show that pushes boundaries and reinvents something classic without compromising it will love this show. Though not completely without cultural fault, the Denver Center’s Macbeth is beautiful, enthralling, and seductive. OUTFRONTONLINE.COM

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EVERYONE IS WELCOME, AND NO ONE IS SAFE ROBERT O’HARA’S MACBETH HITS DENVER

his month, the Denver Center kicks off their 2017-18 season with a bold, all-male production of Macbeth, directed by Robert O’Hara. A gay, black playwright based in New York City, O’Hara’s plays are daring and brilliant.

It starts with three witches, and I wanted to make sure people understand that. Most directors will take the opening scene as if it’s the most normal thing on earth. They’re just talking to their neighbor, and I think, “No, these are witches.”

O’Hara sat down with OUT FRONT at the end of a tech rehearsal, sporting a tan cardigan, black Prada glasses, and a scruffy salt and pepper beard. After weeks in rehearsal, he was days away from the play’s debut.

So the supernatural plays a big role in your take on Macbeth?

This is your first time directing Shakespeare. What excited you about this project? I’m not usually afforded the opportunity to direct Shakespeare— especially with these resources. I wanted to do all men. I wanted to have it set through the witches’ perspectives. I wanted elements of rain, fire, and snow. I wanted a large cast. I wanted to make sure that I was able to be the artist that I am, rather than conform or make it polite. Because Macbeth is not polite. 3 6 \\ O C T O B E R 4 , 2 0 1 7

Macbeth was written under King James I and dedicated to him, and King James I wrote two books. One was about demons and witches and the other was the Bible. The supernatural and the spiritual were obviously big in this time period. What I find fascinating about religion, the supernatural, and the spiritual is that we use it as an excuse for abhorrent behavior. That’s what happens in this play. Macbeth blames the witches. And most people who watch the play blame the witches. When we want witches to heal us, give us herbs, make us feel better, make so-and-so stop messing with my man, we’re fine. But every other time, we want to burn them at the stake.

The witches are an important part of the play, but you’ve chosen to center the play from their perspective.

in here and expect that sensibility. When people come into the theater and it doesn’t line up with their sensibility, they become frightened.

I am using the play as a ritual for the witches. Every generation, they get together and do the Scottish play that demonizes them.

My motto for years has been “Everyone is welcome, and no one is safe.” I want you to feel uncomfortable because that’s how you know you’re alive. Otherwise, you could be eating a bar of chocolate in front of the TV.

There’s something also about honoring the dead in the play because the witches have been blamed for all of it.

This production is also the re-opening of the Space Theatre in Seattle. How was it to direct theater in the round? All the plays I did in undergraduate were in the round, so it’s a little like coming home. It allows for the play to have a lightness of touch. You don’t have to wait for someone to get off stage before someone comes on stage. There are different levels and people all around you. You have to be constantly moving and constantly alive, which is exciting. It’s like directing a single-shot mini-series with no commercial breaks. You can’t make a play where everyone sees the same thing, so it gives it a ritual quality: everyone is watching each other watch something. It embodies ritual.

Your previous plays have had a strong element of camp. How does that inform your directing of Shakespeare? I don’t direct from a white, straight lens, so you can’t come

I tell the cast, we’re building a bus, and people can get on the bus or get off the bus, but you can’t get on the bus and ask, “Can you slow down? I need to use the restroom.”

What does Macbeth have to offer us right now? Well it’s about a ruthless, ego-maniacal would-be leader who steals the throne by killing, lying, and making up facts. I’ll let you take it from there. Macbeth reaps what he sows in many ways. I think when you radicalize your constituency, they will turn on you in a radical way. Macbeth is usually killed by one person, but in our play he gets his comeuppance not only by the real but by the surreal. The play shows how ambition starts and where it can end, if you lead by ambition. Macbeth runs Sept 21–Oct 29. The DCPA advises, “This highlyvisual, all-male production sets Shakespeare’s plot and language in a ritualized world including stylized violence, minimal costuming (including exposed skin), some sexual content and pulsating music.”

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here are many, but they stand in the shadows, afraid to take a place in their own community, often covering as either gay or straight. Bisexual men are probably the least-talked-about, least-acknowledged group in the entire LGBTQ spectrumâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;yet they arenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t few or far between. According to a recent study from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more men than ever are admitting to having same-sex relations. Five percent of men reported identifying as bisexual in 2016, up significantly from the 1.2 percent in 2010. Still, despite this rapid increase, bisexual men are often ignored and erased.

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Unlike bisexual women, who are often acknowledged but brushed under the rug with the claim that “all women are bisexual,” bi men are often treated as either straight men who just wanted to experiment or have high sex drives, or gay men who once or twice wanted to see what it was like to be with a woman. “I think it’s much harder for a man to be openly bisexual,” said Stewart McCloud, founder and CEO of the Bi Men Network (bimen.org). “At a swingers’ party, if your wife is going at it with another woman everyone is cheering them on, but if a men starts carrying on with another man, then they get thrown out. It’s ok for women to have sex with women, but the men are just supposed to watch; you’re not supposed to have sex with other men. It’s a major stigma.” McCloud feels that over the years, most of the men he has been in contact with are not actually looking for a way out of the closet, at least not right away. They don’t want to identify as bi, and they don’t want to become activists in the bi cause. In fact, they are ashamed of the way they identify, and feel they will either be emasculated or disowned if they come out. Instead, they are looking for solace and someone to talk to anonymously, or hunting for ways to find same-sex partners online. “I’m representing the silent majority of bisexuals who do not want to be outed,” he told OUT FRONT. “They do not want to self-identify as bisexual; they are married; they have children, or they would be very uncomfortable at their job. The problem is, a man shows a gay man a picture of his wife and kids, the gay man will say he’s in denial. And straight men don’t want to talk about it.”

ones, because they still have the same equipment down there. It’s almost like a fetish. But if a man is trapped in a woman’s body, people don’t want to accept or deal with it.” So what can we do for all these bi men, trans or not, who feel they have no one to turn to or nowhere to go? McCloud says that the best thing to do is give them a safe space and a sympathetic ear. In 2017, that place is the internet. “The thing is that when I started this 20 years ago, everyday I would meet someone who thought they were the only bisexual guy on earth,” he admitted. “Now, luckily, because of the media and the internet, most bi people don’t think they are the only ones on earth, but they still feel alone. They need a place to hide behind anonymity, to make friends, find support, and talk without ever having to identify who they are,” he continued. “They need a place they can feel comfortable without ever having to go into a gay venue. It’s very rare that someone will come out without being online for months or years. They don’t all of a sudden go to a hotel room or show up at a conference. They thought about it, got comfortable, made some connections. They need this support and they also need the support of someone who isn’t proselytizing them to become a bisexual activist or join a bi rights organization or something. They may eventually get involved, but they aren’t trying to do so right away.” McCloud and men like him are out there showing support for bi men every day. The rest of the LGBTQ community, and all of its allies, can help make things better for bi men by listening to their stories and accepting their truths.

The prejudice McCloud is referring to is not a new one in queer circles—many gay men and lesbian women feel that bi people are closeted gays or lesbians fighting to come out. On the flip side, many straight people think that bi people are just confused, or promiscuous individuals incapable of monogamy. The problem is only exacerbated for trans men who identify as bi. McCloud once encountered a porn star who identified as a trans, bisexual man. McCloud eagerly urged the young man to reach out to his network, confident that not only would the individual find all kinds of friends and allies, but his network of bi men would learn about and become more accepting of trans issues. Unfortunately, many of the men he reached out to shunned the trans man or showed no interest. McCloud believes this is because men have a hard time accepting trans men, and an easier time accepting trans women. “I think men are more comfortable with the idea of a woman trapped in a man’s body,” he claimed. “And I think there is a certain fascination with trans women, especially the pre-op

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1 F. W. Murnau (1888-1931) Friedrich Wilhelm Murnau achieved cinema immortality in 1922 when he directed the poetically haunting film Nosferatu: A Symphony of Terror. The first film adaptation of Bram Stoker’s legendary novel Dracula, Nosferatu was almost lost when Stoker’s widow sued the film’s distributors for copyright infringement courts at the time ordered all copies of the film destroyed. Fortunately, a few prints survived. Ninety-five years later, Nosferatu remains available on DVD and Blu Ray, where viewers can appreciate Murnau’s stunning vision: parts of the film were shot on location in a desolate European castle. A few years later, Hollywood called, and Murnau made the equally stunning Sunrise (1927). Murnau’s use of lighting and shadow created a mood unlike anything seen in films before or since. Janet Gaynor, leading lady in Sunrise, was honored as Best Actress that year, the first year of the Academy Awards. F.W. Murnau was a gay man. In 1931, at age 42, he was killed in a car accident near Santa Barbara, California. According to tabloids, a 14-year-old boy was in the car with him. Murnau’s remains were returned to his native Germany for burial. In 2015 his grave was broken into and his skull was stolen. Actor John Malkovich played Murnau in the 2000 film Shadow of the Vampire, a fictionalized chiller about the shooting of Nosferatu.

2 John Schlesinger (1926-2003) Schlesinger was a fearless film director who refused to bow to the rules of political correctness. He lived as an out gay man throughout his life. His 1969 film Midnight Cowboy remains the first and only X-rated film to take home the Best Picture Academy Award. Considered shocking at the time of its release, Midnight Cowboy told the story of two down-on-their luck street hustlers in New York City who may have fallen in love with each other. One of them, Joe Buck (Jon Voight), was a sex worker who was willing to sell himself to both men and women. Schlesinger followed this most daring film with the equally shocking (for its time) Sunday Bloody Sunday (1972). This was a tense drama about a young bisexual artist (Murray Head) who moves with ease between his boyfriend and his girlfriend (Peter Finch, Dame Glenda Jackson). In a scene that left 1970s moviegoers gasping, the young man leaves his girlfriend’s bed and drives to the other man’s house, where the two men kiss full on the lips. They are next seen in bed together. Schlesinger never hesitated to push the envelope.

3 Montgomery Clift (1920-1966) Clift became a sensation when his first films were released during the late 1940s. He was the first major star to employ method acting, a technique in which actors train themselves to actually “become” the character they are playing. Clift’s

stunning good looks added to the intensity of his performances. Reportedly, Clift inspired Marlon Brando, now considered to be one of history’s greatest film actors, to become a method actor. In 1956, while filming Raintree County with good friend and frequent co-star Elizabeth Taylor, Clift’s face was severely disfigured in a car accident. Numerous surgeries were needed to restore it. When he and Taylor co-starred in Suddenly Last Summer (1959), it was obvious that Clift’s looks were gone. The combination of losing his looks and having to live a life in the closet sent Clift on a downward spiral from which he never recovered. Though he continued to appear in films, he became a severe alcoholic, often mixing his drinks with a deadly combination of pills. Reportedly he was trying to dull the almost continuous pain he was in as a result of his accident. The booze and pills took their toll. Clift aged rapidly and died of a heart attack at age 46.

4 Jack Larson (1928-2015) Larson was one of Clift’s boyfriends during the early 1950s. A contract player at Warner Brothers during the 1940s, he became a teen idol when he was cast as Jimmy Olsen on the 1950s TV series The Adventures of Superman. Larson soon found himself typecast and unable to find other roles. When the series ended, he quit acting and worked behind the scenes in films. He also composed operettas. In 1958, Larson and film director James Bridges became partners in life. Their production company produced several successful films, most notably The China Syndrome (1979) and the John Travolta vehicle Urban Cowboy (1980). Over the years, Larson occasionally returned to the Superman franchise. He appeared in an episode of the 1980s series Superboy and was seen as an aged Jimmy Olsen in a 1996 episode of Lois and Clark: The New Adventures of Superman. Ten years later he played a bartender in the film Superman Returns (2006).

5 William Haines (1900-1973) Haines was a top box office star in Hollywood during the 1920s. A handsome, muscular jock, he was often cast as college students and football players—female movie-goers swooned over him, according to press reports at that time. Haines had a secret. Not only was he gay, he was in a committed relationship with a young man named Jimmie Shields. Haines made a successful transition from silent films to talkies and made millions for MGM, his home studio. In 1933, Louis B. Mayer, head of MGM, delivered an ultimatum to Haines: marry a woman or stay with Shields and quit the movies. Haines chose Shields. The two men started a successful interior design business that made them quite wealthy, and Haines never made another film. He was offered a small role in the 1950 film Sunset Boulevard but turned it down. He and Shields remained together for the rest of their lives.

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walked carefully into a pitch-black room, my eyes straining to see anything in front of me. A single strobe light mounted near the ceiling briefly illuminated clouds of billowing smoke rolling into my vision in flashes of sharp, white light. Then I saw the outline of... something emerge out of the fog, and my legs cemented my body to the floor. It was human, I think, hunched forward with a white mask spattered in blood which seemed to leap out of the darkness with each flash of the strobe. It was carrying a bloody axe, head tilted, its gaze locked on mine as it moved closer, and closer, and closer. My heart was slamming against the inside of my rib cage, but I was also laughing nervously with a big smile plastered to my face as I navigated the haunted house. There are numerous ways to describe the experience of fear, but one of my favorites comes from Frank Herbert’s epic novel, Dune: “Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.”

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“Yet... one more” one of my favorite things to do in October is indulge in that little-death at a haunted house (usually while really, really stoned). I dive headfirst into shared human terrors: waking down corridors with bloody, severed limbs hanging from the ceiling; or dodging zombies that spring toward me brandishing ear-splitting chainsaws; or being stuck inside a pitch-black room with rolling fog and a masked, axe-wielding maniac. Why do we enjoy walking into that total obliteration every Halloween? Some of it has to do with adrenaline, that warm chemical cocktail that floods the brain and body. But for someone who struggles with anxiety and depression, you would think I would avoid being chased by chainsaw-wielding zombies. But I love the entire experience, which usually ends stumbling out of a haunted house with a group of friends, laughing inside that cloud of adrenaline fallout, reminding myself I’m still here on this planet—with all my limbs still attached to my body. I’m still alive.

FEAR To finish Herbert’s quote from Dune: “I will permit it [fear] to pass over me and through me . . . where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” To a certain degree, the most difficult part of the haunted house is the waiting. There’s the obvious annoyance of standing in long lines in the cold, but the anticipation of facing all those fears can be more anxiety inducing than the actual experience itself. Life itself often feels like a horror house of lingering traumas

or precarious futures which cement thoughts to the skull. Those fears are truly the “mind-killers,” with every conceivable failure hanging over my head like those bloody, severed limbs in that corridor. But fearing my own fear is often worse than actually engaging in the horrors of social interactions or adult responsibilities. Halloween is a reminder that fear is a just fickle fiend, and whatever terrors manifest in my mind as a result of mental illness, I’ll outlive that fiend on the other side of those seemingly terrifying experiences.

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