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Publisher/Creative Director Jason Tanner jason@tannerwest.com Editor Ashley Sorce ashley@owensboroparent.com

from the editor This holiday season is a little more special for the Sorce family, as we prepare to welcome our second child, a son, into our family of three. I opened up to our readers a few issues ago about our fertility issues and the struggle we faced in trying to grow our family. While making the decision to share our story was difficult, I truly believe it is important to share all sides of parenting: the joyful, the sad, the trying, the happy, the celebration and the sorrow. After sharing our story we received an outpouring of love and support from friends, family, and even strangers, who I now realize are not strangers at all, but our Owensboro Parent family, readers like you that took time to show fellow parents support in a time of struggle. It is this support, along with prayer and wonderful doctors that led to our happy ending. Reed James is due in early March and Jeff, Avery and I could not be more excited to meet him! As you will read in a few pages, we are featuring the story of Emelia, the sweet daughter of Sara and Kyle Aud. While Emelia was born last year into a world that was desperately awaiting her arrival, to parents that loved her before even meeting her, she never took a breath. Owensboro Parent is honored to share the Audsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; story and thankful that this grieving family has found light within darkness. Within these pages you will also find Owensboro Parent suggestions for family fun this holiday season. We encourage you to create, play and explore, making memories with your children as we celebrate two of the yearâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s most anticipated holidays. We not only share with you holiday crafts, but also tips on making the traditional thank you note more fun, how to de-stress holiday shopping as well as how to teach your kids to value veterans. On behalf of all of us at Owensboro Parent, I wish you happy holidays! Enjoy the season with those you love and we will be back in the New Year with more informative, family-focused articles.

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let the spirit of the season shine [08] parental control [10] good night sleep tight [12] the dinner plate [15] fall break photos from facebook [18] CO MMUNIT Y

light within the darkness [24] teaching the value of our veterans [30]

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[34] holiday fun guide for families [40] tips to limit screen time

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[44] the write stuff [46] tips for hassle-free holiday shopping [48] why should you vaccinate your child? [50] kids eat free list [52] november calendar

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let the spirit of the season

shine { by: lora wimsatt }

y enthusiasm for the holidays went through a dry

The lights reflected in the shining eyes of a child

spell a few years ago.

illuminate even the darkest corners of any home, any heart.

Thanksgiving and Christmas – the twin beacons of

Their cheerful squabbling over the wishbone, the breathless

celebration – had always been a pleasant, happy season

excitement upon spotting what must surely be a reindeer

during my childhood, even though our family festivities

hoofprint in the snow, the earnest innocence of their closed

were modest. I was still basking in those memories by

eyes and clasped hands as thanks are offered to the Giver,

the time my children came along, when I discovered that

their wide-eyed wonder as the star is placed at the very top

experiencing the bountiful feast, the sparkling lights and

of the most beautiful tree in the world ….

the joyous anticipation through their eyes rekindled my

And then I visited the home of an elderly man, long

own spark of joy to an even warmer glow.

since retired, no children or grandchildren within several

zip codes, a widower puttering around in a house filled with

Then my kids grew up and moved away, and for awhile,

I admit, those occasions became more habit than holiday.

mementos and memories.

Turkey, dressing, football – check.

I had entered through the “real” door, the side door,

Tree, lights, gifts – check.

which was where the driveway took me. This is one of those

Ho-ho-hum.

houses where the front door is used only to bring in the

mail and the newspaper … not that a lot of people were

But the embers burst into a blaze of festivity three years

ago with the arrival of my grandgirls, and this Thanksgiving

knocking anyway.

will be especially meaningful with the birth of my first

It was late afternoon as we sat in the living room,

grandboy.

surrounded by Hummel figurines that would have informed

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even the dullest detective that no small children were

lights had come on all by themselves. “The kids like it.”

expected here. I wasn’t really thinking about it at the time,

but I knew this gentleman’s holidays were distinguished

my question seemed abrupt, he seemed not to notice.

from all the many just-another-days only because of the

hospitality of a sister-in-law or an occasional special meal at

for them on all the holidays.”

the nearby senior center.

I thought about that later as I sat quietly in my own

But as evening fell, a flash of unexpected color caught

home, looking out the window at flocks of neighborhood

my eye, and I glanced out the large window that opened

children riding their bicycles, chasing dogs and one another,

onto the front porch of his home.

and generally enjoying the final days of autumn before cold

“Oh look!” I exclaimed, and he did, but he seemed

weather drives them indoors until spring.

puzzled about what he was supposed to be looking at.

And I smiled.

As long as there is a child, I promised myself, any child,

“The lights!” I cried. “Look at all the lights!”

Without thinking, I wondered out loud, “What kids?” If “Just the kids in the neighborhood,” he said. “I decorate

I hadn’t even noticed them before, but the rails and

anywhere, I would let the spirit and the lights of the season

columns on the front porch had been twined about with

shine.

strings of light, with plastic decorations dangled from shoestrings tied to the underside of the gutter.

“They’re on a timer,” he explained when I asked how the

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Lora Wimsatt is a mother, grandmother and writer. She enjoys the everyday blessings and adventures of life, especially her family.

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{ Q&A with christina dalton,

M S S W, C S W

parental

control Q: My 3-year-old refuses to eat any type of vegetable other than a French fry. I don’t want to be “Mommy Dearest,” but I don’t know how else to make him eat well. Any suggestions?

}

A: I have a child that also considers

Q: I am just wondering what your

the “French fry” a great vegetable.

belief is on spanking vs. timeouts

It’s very hard when you have a picky eater. I don’t know what makes

them eat or not eat something. My

know there are so many different

child ate plenty of vegetables when

beliefs when it comes to this topic.

she was little, but won’t touch them

I will just try to stick with my own

now. She will eat corn, but that’s

personal belief. It’s funny you asked

where the line is drawn. I have had

this question because I was recently

her try new vegetables, but I think

listening to the radio and this same

she is predisposed to hate them. At

question was asked of the listeners

least she will try new things. The

and the responses surprised me. Most

only good suggestion I have is to find

of the people that called in were pro-

alternative methods to getting him

spanking. Their reasoning being that

to eat his vegetables. They make lots

was how they were raised. Personally,

of juices that contain a daily amount

I don’t spank my child but I also don’t

of vegetables and the child won’t

judge other people who choose this

even know it. There are lots of books

form of discipline. I didn’t come to

about putting vegetables into their

this decision overnight either. When

food and they won’t taste it. I just

my child was young, I would smack

saw last night that they now have

the top of her hand and I would say,

popsicles that are all vegetables!

“We don’t hit.” And I thought about

Your son will think he’s

how stupid I sounded. I was hitting

getting a treat and you’ll

her and saying, “We don’t hit.” I

have peace of mind that

didn’t do that anymore after that. I

he is getting his veggies. I

feel that there are things I can take

don’t however know what

away or events that she won’t be

they taste like, so you’ll have

able to attend that would feel much

to let me know.

This is a loaded question. I

worse than a spanking. I think where we get off track nowadays is not the spanking vs. timeouts, but rather a lack of discipline. We are living in a world that has a whole lot of “entitled children.” And it makes us ask the question what is different now from twenty years ago?

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Q: My 11 year-old daughter is asking

have accounts prior to this age, I would

and send it to someone and it disappears

if she can have a Facebook account.

still monitor the account and make sure

in about five seconds. The photograph

She says lots of her friends have them

that everything looks all right. I know

is gone. I didn’t really understand the

and I am being unreasonable by saying

that even on my own Facebook account,

purpose of it. But it’s kids who are using

no. I just don’t feel comfortable with it.

I sometimes see inappropriate articles

this app mostly and that terrified me.

Am I being too harsh?

or just weird stuff that can be in the

They could send anything and then

newsfeed. I think it goes back to your

there would be nothing to show that it

A: I do not think you are being too

rules and how you feel about these kinds

was ever there. Just the thought of that

harsh at all. And it doesn’t matter

of things. There is no perfect answer to

I didn’t like at all. I think you have to

because you are the parent and if you

any of these questions when it comes to

be cautious when it comes to technology

are not comfortable with it then there’s

technology. I just know that we have to

and be smart. And I think if you’re not

probably a good reason. I know that lots

be careful as parents when it comes to

comfortable with it then that’s your

of kids have Facebook accounts, but that

the social media world and our children.

answer.

doesn’t mean that they should. Facebook

I had a friend that showed me an app

requires that the users are 13 years old.

called, Snapchat. I wasn’t familiar with

Even if parents allow their children to

it at all. Basically you can take a picture

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t is vitally important for children of all ages to get enough sleep each night as it is linked to many health,

good night sleep tight

behavior, and academic problems. Although I will not address sleep in infants in this article, I want to remind parents to always place infants on their backs to sleep in their own crib or bassinet to decrease the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS).

There are a few things that, despite our best efforts, we

cannot make our toddlers and preschoolers do: swallow food, use the toilet, and go to sleep. (I use the word “we” here because I am mommy to a 5 year old son and 3 year old twin girls and am well-versed in the ways of little people with strong wills.) However, we can set the groundwork to make all of those things more likely to happen. When it comes to sleep, establishing a routine is critical to achieving bedtime success.

To borrow from healthychildren.org,

using the 4 Bs of bedtime is a great method – bathing, brushing (teeth), books, bedtime. It may be fun to create a bedtime chart with pictures of the 4 Bs so your child will know what comes next and it will seem more like a game. Another tool to try is an incentive system where the child gets a sticker on a chart or a treat from a prize bucket for staying in bed after lights out. Using a transition object like a special blanket or teddy bear helps some children feel more comfortable, particularly after moving from their crib to their big kid bed. Finally, consistency is crucial. All caregivers who put the child to bed must be committed to { by: shanna mcginnis,

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following the routine, even on weekends and holidays or when the child is ill. School-aged children who mastered the bedtime

Good night, sleep tight. “Yeah, right.”

routine as toddlers and preschoolers typically have less

That is the response of many parents

difficulty, but as they get older, new challenges arise

that I speak with in my office. Bedtime can be very difficult for some families.

that can interrupt things. Homework, sports, and other activities can cut into bedtime. Beware of allowing your children to be overextended in extracurriculars. Not only

Some sleep issues start in infants or

can it be stressful for them to be involved in too many

toddlers while others may not arise

activities, but daytime sleepiness can affect their academic

until the adolescent years.

performance, behavior, and overall health. Utilize these times as teachable moments about priorities and time management. As with younger kids, the 4Bs still apply and maintaining a similar routine on weekends and holidays is

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important. Finally, avoid beverages with caffeine, especially in the evenings, and do not allow TV viewing within an hour of bedtime. Adolescents can be a particular challenge.

They are

usually involved in extracurricular activities, which may require traveling to other towns for games or competitions. Many work part-time jobs and then, of course, there is their social life. All of this must be balanced with early start times at school, completing homework, and hopefully a few chores. It is no wonder that a recent poll by the National Sleep Foundation found that 59% of middle school students and 87% of high school students get less than the recommended amount of sleep each night.

To overcome their drowsiness,

some teenagers reach for caffeinated drinks or attempt to catch up on weekends, but these are not a good substitute for regular, adequate sleep. Again, these opportunities can become teachable moments.

Establish guidelines on how

many activities are appropriate for your teenager. It is also important to set limits on media use, i.e. no TV or cell phones in bedrooms at night. Along with establishing some rules,

sleep

by the numbers Newborn to 2 months: up to 18 hours per day. 3-11 months: up to 16 hours per day. 1 year – 3 years: 12 to 14 hours per day. 3 years – 5 years: 11 to 13 hours per day. 5 years to 12 years: 10 to 11 hours per day. Adolescents: 8.5 to 9.5 hours per day. Reference: National Sleep Foundation, this includes nighttime sleep and naps for up to 5 years.

give your kids more autonomy at this age regarding bedtime. They may not always make the best choices, but sometimes suffering some mild consequences while they are in your care will help them avoid bigger mistakes in the future. Finally, model good habits for them. Most adults do not get adequate sleep either and our children usually do as we do.

The majority of sleep issues with children can be resolved

by improving their bedtime routine. However, there are some special considerations. Some medications, particularly ADHD medications, can affect sleep. Also, sleep apnea can affect children and may lead to daytime drowsiness. Some young children who experience night terrors, which are different than nigthmares, have frequent nighttime awakenings. If you are concerned about your child’s sleep habits, keep a sleep journal of all of the factors surrounding their sleep routine and make an appointment with your doctor. Otherwise, establish and enforce a healthy bedtime routine so your whole family can sleep tight.

Dr. Shanna McGinnis is a pediatrician at the Owensboro Health Pediatric Center. She is also the mother of 3 children.

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the dinner

f I were to create a list entitled “Elaine’s Favorite Things,” near the top would be

family dinners. Breakfast and lunch would definitely be in the top 50 because I love food, so all things that include confectionery treats are awesome; however, dinnertime has an entirely different set of emotions for me. I appreciate the evening gathering for one

plate

very special reason…actually, because of a very special plate. Let me backtrack and give you some history. About ten years ago, I ran across an article in Family Fun, which is a magazine I regularly devoured to glean new ideas for

{ by: elaine martin }

my young family. The author shared an idea that helped stop her children from fighting, and it involved a unique dinner guest – a plate. Each evening, as her family sat eating, one member of the family would have the honor of eating off a particular plate. As the meal was consumed, all other family members took

turns telling the plate person why he or she was special. After all encouraging words were shared, the good news recipient

The

then had to tell what he or she liked about herself.

first few

nights we started,

I couldn’t close the magazine quickly enough!!! I probably

resembled Roadrunner chasing after Coyote, as I darted into

the words we heard from our girls to one another were

the kitchen to find my own special plate. I dug in several

expected: “I like your shirt,” or “You smell good,” and even

cluttered cabinets and dusted off a tiny pink teddy bear plate,

“I like that you aren’t sitting next to me.” One of the very

which I declared The Martin Family Plate. Little did I know

few rules we created was that praises could not be repeated, so

that particular chipped piece of dinnerware would add such a

they had to start digging deeper to find richer expressions. We

remarkable dynamic to our boring ol’ spaghetti dinners.

started hearing: “You have a pretty smile” and “You were kind

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when you let me watch the show I wanted.” Dinnertime had gone from grumbling about being forced to eat green beans to a time that we actually built each other up. Please don’t think that this was always a warm and fuzzy, feel good time. We definitely had our share of “I like that I’m not you” sort of moments, where the kids just couldn’t find a silver lining of her sister that day. Those were learning times as well, as the speaker really had to learn to push the day’s hormonal events to the side and try to find even a tiny spark of something to say. One of my very favorite memories was when one of the girls was preschool age. It was my husband Greg’s night to eat off the teddy bear plate. She thought and thought, struggling to add to the previously spoken words. Finally, her eyes lit up as she dropped her plastic fork and quipped, “Daddy, you know when I wake up early in the morning and come into bed to snuggle with you and Mommy? I love when you turn over and your back hair tickles my nose.” You can only imagine the spewed food and laughter we shared after that! We had an occasional family or guest join us, and their faces were a bit surprised when I put our beloved pink plate in front of them. The guest would usually think I’d made a mistake, but as we started eating and sharing the praises, the confusion would turn into a big smile. I recall one evening when my aunt joined us for simple sandwiches. We all took turns, saying why she was important to each of us. It was just a matter of minutes before the tears were flowing. She told us that it had been ages since someone had told her she was special. Our girls’ friends loved joining us for dinner, because they knew exactly what to expect. She would see the special plate on the table and race to her seat, for she wanted the seat of honor. When I saw how eager one specific friend was, I paused and prayed that our words would ease her wounded spirit, as I knew her parents had just recently announced their separation. Her anxious face turned into a beautiful smile, as she allowed herself to hear the warmness of our words. It has been many years since we added this simple but very meaningful addition to our family meals. The pink plate was eventually dropped and shattered, but a trip to the Dollar Store gave us a newer and bigger plate that holds just as much significance. We learned that dinner time allows us to load up more than just our bellies. If we take just a few more minutes to truly see one another, suppertime can be a sacred time to leave the table with fuller hearts as well. OP

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rilliant sunlight was breaking through the tall windows within the room, contrasting strongly against the deep, somber, almost palpable sadness, which will be part of their lives—forever. Yet, amid the heartache emerged a determined commitment to break through the darkness of loss, a loss totally unexpected and contrary to a religiously healthy lifestyle during her pregnancy. “I never once thought that we’d come home without a baby,” Sara Aud said, as she sat alongside husband Kyle, recalling that tragic day, August 2, 2013. She had chosen natural childbirth, using the Bradley Method, which involves a mid-wife, and doula (a woman who assists during labor and provides support). Her pregnancy had progressed normally, going full term, and giving birth on her due date. She went into labor early August 1, but she urged Kyle to go on to work, since she was not progressing quickly. She, too, went to her job at Ohio County Hospital, where she serves as an occupational therapist. Her co-workers

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jokingly said that she was making them nervous by being there. That evening, the contractions increased. “Her pain was in her back. We had to press on her hips in her lower back to relieve her pain,” Kyle said. They had a caravan en route to the hospital, including Sara’s sister who was 5 months pregnant. They stopped three times to ease her through the contractions. Kyle passed the hospital entrance in all the excitement. The midwife met them at the hospital. With the back labor, Sara could not lie down for long. Emelia, their daughter, was up high and so Sara knew she would be pushing for quite a while—two hours to be exact. Emelia’s heart rate was still perfect at this point. “I pushed and I pushed. I chose to deliver on hands and knees. The last time they checked her heart rate was about 1 ½ minutes before delivery. At that point she was so low in the cavity that it (the heart rate) could not be checked again,” Sara said. Two more pushes. “I knew pretty quickly that something was wrong because I knew Kyle was supposed

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to cut the umbilical cord . . . so when I heard the midwife say she was going to cut the cord, I knew something was wrong.” Emelia was not breathing. “They were so quick to respond. I can’t tell you how much it eased our hearts to know that she was so well taken care of. If there was any way she was going to live, she would have lived because NIC-U was in there immediately, immediately! The midwife had started compressions anyway,” Sara said. The doctors tried five shots of epinephrine and intubation twice. “She didn’t take a breath once she was out.” They elected to have an autopsy. If there were answers, they wanted to know. “She was so perfect. It might have been easier if something was obviously wrong. Basically, she’s a medical mystery,” Sara said. The only explanation was a possible vagal

of natural childbirth gone awry. Two, they had decided they were not going to let this ruin their lives. Three, they did not want others to question the hospital staff ’s quality of care. “She wasn’t meant to be here, and as terrible as that is, that’s a little easier to swallow than someone did something wrong and she should be here,” Sara said. So how do they continue to cope from day to day? “We knew it wasn’t going to give her any glory to never speak her name, or act like she was taboo. She’s not taboo. She’s our daughter,” Sara said. They speak of her daily. They welcome others talking about her. They treasure the photos taken at the hospital. They display them prominently. They reach out to help others. They grieve together. “I can remember in the delivery room—this always makes

response, which slows the heartbeat. “The memory of them working on her is so blurry. I was so out of it because of the pain,” Sara said. The blessing of having Emelia in the room with them the entire time came in the assurance that everything medically possible was done to help her. Kyle said they chose to share their story for three reasons: One, they wanted others to understand this was not the result

me cry—he grabbed my chin and he said, ‘We’re gonna get through this. We’re gonna be OK.’ I said, ‘You know what, yeah, we are. This is our first daughter, but she’s not our last,’” Sara said, as the tears flowed. Counseling was helpful. Family, friends, their church and Sunday school class at First Christian have been enormous, continual support. The Auds also took advantage of a counseling suggestion to take a trip; they hopped in the car and went to

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her not being able to be pregnant since Emelia’s stillbirth. “You know it’s stress. Each month when you know you’re not pregnant, there’s a breakdown and you hit rock bottom again,” Kyle said.

“Every month I felt like she had died all over again. It was

terrible,” Sara said. A friend who had her third child die of SIDS told her that a broken heart will do a lot to your fertility. Sara truly thought she would be pregnant quickly, as she had no problems being pregnant before. “All my friends are getting pregnant. They are at that point in their lives. I hated the look on their faces when they told me . . . it was like they were so sorry . . . it broke my heart.” She told Kyle that she needed something to look forward to and that is when they began looking into adoption. They had tried three unsuccessful rounds of IUI in Newburgh. The second round of IUI was the absolute bottom for this couple. It occurred right before Emelia’s birthday. Neither of them Asheville and Charleston shortly afterward. They concurred that it was good to be away, to unwind and to be out of the house for a while. “It was a tough trip for sure,” Kyle said. Sara acknowledged that she has a month where she does well, and then it hits her all over again. Compound that with

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knew much about adoption, but Sara plunged into it with zeal, contacting anyone and everyone she knew who had adopted with questions. “Kyle calls me the research queen,” Sara said.

They chose a domestic consulting firm in Atlanta, Georgia,

called Faithful Adoption Consultants who have contacts with

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a variety of adoption agencies. They wanted a newborn from

but the struggles have strengthened rather than weakened her

a state that is family-friendly toward adoption. In some states,

faith. “I don’t think we would have gotten through it without

including Kentucky, there’s a 20- to 25- day waiting period

our faith,” she said. “Sometimes you feel so alone in it and you

where the birth mom can change her mind. Sara knew she could

see all those other healthy babies born—and I’m shocked every

not handle that type of stress. After all the paperwork, they were

time I see a healthy baby born. I don’t know when that feeling

matched within a week.

will go away.”

Their newborn is due January 8 in Gainesville, Florida,

to a birth mom and dad who have other children. She will be

She has been such a good resource since they also adopted.

named Ellington Claire, having Emelia’s middle name and her

Although Sara and Kyle are eager to welcome Ellington Claire,

initials. “What a gift. We left the hospital without a baby. We

they know it is somewhat bittersweet, “because you have to think

know what that feels like and to think that someone is willing

about the little girl you don’t have anymore and you feel guilty

to go through that so that their child will have a better life and

for being so sad for Emelia,” Sara said. “Knowing someone else

we will have a family is a gift that you really can’t repay and you can’t really describe. I think I always knew that, but I never knew how personally it would affect us,” Sara said. “We want Ellington to know where she came from and that she was loved long before she was born, by two people, that we wanted her so badly . . . and that it’s not she wasn’t wanted.” The Auds did not meet any resistance from family or friends when they learned

One of Sara’s friends also had a baby stillborn at 25 weeks.

has been through it and has lived through it helps.”

Their grief remains. “We’re definitely not trying to replace

Emelia by any means . . . but we’re seeing ourselves healing, knowing that we’re going to have another child. A piece of our heart will always be missing . . .” Sara said. “The dark season is passing.”

they were choosing to adopt, rather they wondered what took them so long.

Gail recently retired from DCHS, where she taught journalism and English.

She is a mother of twins, a Meme, and sports enthusiast.

Sara questioned God about why all of this has happened,

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teaching the value of our

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ith Halloween in the rearview and Veterans Day on the horizon, this is the perfect opportunity to share with our children the importance of those who serve and have served in the United States military. As we hang up and pack away the ice princess gowns and the superhero costumes, what better time to educate our children about who the real life superheroes are. When preparing to discuss our military heroes with our children, one can’t help but think of Tommy and Cathy Mullins, who not only recognized these heroes in their home, but proudly raised two of their own. When Cathy was asked how she taught their children about pride and patriotism, she said that they just “came by it naturally.” All three children grew up with a father, a grandfather, and an uncle who served in the military. They also grew up across the street from the National Guard Armory in Ashland, Kentucky, where they “saw soldiers every day.” With little boys who were into Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Superman, and Spiderman, it was important to Cathy that they teach their boys that those “in the military are our real life superheroes.” Shaun and Brandon Mullins not only learned of these heroes, they transformed into them; while the Mullins’ daughter Bethany married a real life hero of her own. Tommy and Cathy’s oldest son Shaun is currently serving in the Army, their younger son Brandon gave his life in service to his country on August 25, 2011, and Bethany and their son-in-law Steven are currently stationed at Fort Campbell. With a family steeped in red, white, and blue, Cathy knows firsthand what military members and their families need to hear. She had this advice to offer concerning discussing Veterans Day with our children.

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Memorial Day vs. Veteran’s Day Most people often confuse these two holidays, or think of them interchangeably. In reality, the two are quite different. Memorial Day is a day that was created to remember the fallen and those who gave their lives for our beloved country. Cathy reminds us that this is a day to “cherish your family” and to be grateful for the sacrifices that others have made on your behalf. This is also a beautiful time of year to visit gravesites of grandparents and family members who have served our country in years past. Place flowers or patriotic decorations at the site together and explain to your child who you are visiting, what war they fought in, and how they continue to hold a special place in your heart. Veterans Day, on the other hand, is a day to recognize all veterans. According to the Department of Veterans Affairs, “Veterans Day is the day set aside to thank and honor all those who served honorably in the military, in wartime or peacetime…and is largely intended to thank living veterans for their service and to acknowledge that their contributions to our national security are appreciated.” This is a day that we should acknowledge and show our appreciation to anyone that we know that has ever proudly worn a uniform.

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particular branch of the military their parent or grandparent served in. Take the time to look through old pictures and allow them to call or visit to ask questions. For family members that live nearby, make sure that you are aware of when your child’s school is holding their annual Veterans Day assembly. Invite your veteran family member to accompany your child to school or, at the very least, send in a photo so that their service can be recognized. Even if there are no veterans in your family, make an effort to attend your child’s program, and encourage them to take a leadership role in the activities. Make sure to discuss the events of the program when they get home and answer any questions they might have.

Kentucky Remembers 5K on Saturday, November 8. Terry Mathis, commander of the Owensboro American Legion, says that the best thing that we can do for our veterans locally is to actually come out to the Veterans Day parade and show our support. Mathis says that, “Just the fact that people know they (the veterans) are there…shows that they haven’t been forgotten.” OP

Melody Ann Wallace is a teacher at DCMS who finds new blessings each day in her roles as teacher, wife, mom, and step-mom.

Modeling an Attitude of Gratitude Veterans Day is such a wonderful day to instill in your child a gracious heart and an attitude of servanthood. Cathy says that there are “a lot of different reasons that people join the military, but their primary reason is to serve others. They are volunteering their life” in service to their country. She says that this is the perfect day to say, “thank you,” to neighbors, uncles, and grandparents, or to buy them a cup of coffee in appreciation of their service. Do not underestimate the value of a hand written thank you note. Break out the red, white, and blue paints, markers, and craft supplies and discuss the various pictures and symbols that represent the military and our veterans. Create heartfelt cards for family members, teachers, or neighbors that your child can deliver personally or place in the mail. If you do not have any family members that have served, cards are more than welcome at the Owensboro Veterans Clinic. Just think of how much brighter someone’s day will be when they visit the clinic for a routine or sick appointment and are greeted by a handmade card of appreciation from your child.

Showing Up in Support Cathy Mullins is a proud member of the American Gold Star Mothers, Inc., a prestigious group of women who share the common bond of having a child who lost their life in service to their country. They are an organization that “turns grief into service…by helping veterans who are still living.” You can support this meaningful organization by participating in the

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TOMMY & CATHY MULLINS HOLDING A PHOTO OF THEIR SON BRANDON. PHOTO BY DREAM COPY PHOTOGRAPHY.

If you and your family would like to write notes of thanks to Owensboro veterans, please drop them off at the Owensboro VA Clinic no later than Monday, November 10, 2014. Veterans Clinic 3400 New Hartford Rd Owensboro, KY (270) 684-5034 If you would like to support the Gold Star Mothers by signing up for the Kentucky Remembers 5K race please visit http://www. doactivities.com/owensboro5kraces/. The race begins at 8 a.m. at Smothers Park and the cost of registration is $30. The Veterans Day parade will take place on November 8, at 2 p.m. It will begin at East 2nd and Clay Streets, will travel west on 2nd, and end at Frederica Street. Wear your red, white, and blue and come out and show your support for our community’s heroes.

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FUN guide for families

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create:

fun things to make and do together Deck the Halls with Tabletop Christmas Trees Turn your already read newspapers and magazines into modern holiday art with just a few simple folds. Kids will have fun making something from scratch and picking out fun holiday colors to decorate your family’s home. What you’ll need: Old magazines or newspapers of any size Gold, silver, or clear spray paint Glitter in desired colors Steps: 1: Open magazine and bend to break spine. 2: Fold individual page from top right 34 OWENSBORO PARENT

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corner to inside seam. Fold same page from bottom right edge to gutter. 3: Fold bottom triangle of each additional magazine page up, making the bottom of the tree flat. Then, fold top of all pages down to form tree shape. 4: Spray-paint folded tree desired color. Immediately sprinkle glitter over wet paint. Let dry.

3. Wrap the vellum around a tall, cylindrical glass vase and adhere the overlapping edges with double sided tape. Trim and excess paper. 4. Put a battery-operated tea light inside the vase.

Bright Idea – Create a memorable keepsake This fun craft will not only help you make a memory with your child while creating it, but preserve a memory using a family photo. This candle votive will be proof your child’s smile can literally light up a room! Steps: 1. Choose a digital photo that is horizontal, not vertical. 2. Print it in black-and-white on an 8 ½ - by 11-inch sheet of plain velum paper, available at craft and office supply stores. www.OwensboroParent.com

Kids in the Kitchen Rather than buying holiday candy from the store this year, encourage your kids to make their own festive treats. Here is a fun fall idea perfect for your family’s Thanksgiving gathering. They also make great party favors! What you’ll need: 1 bag of Hershey Kisses 1 bag of semi sweet chocolate chips 1 package Nutter Butter Bites (make sure you get the ‘bites’ size!) Steps: 1. Melt 1/2 cup (depending on how many you want to make you can up the ante on this!) chocolate morsels in microwave or on stove top. 2. Dip flat side of Hershey Kiss in melted morsels and immediately attach to Nutter Butter. 3. Dip one non-melted morsel on the flat side into the melted morsels, immediately attach to the other side of the Nutter Butter.

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the opposing team’s side, gathering and returning any balls tossed into their own. When the timer sounds, play stops, and balls are counted. The teams with the fewest balls wins!

Giving Thanks

play:

simple ways to have more fun this season Snow Days It’s hard to believe fall is coming to an end and snow will soon be falling over Owensboro. If the snow is too cold for your little ones, try this idea for inside snow day fun! Snowball Scramble Bring the fun of snowy weather indoors with a zany (and energetic!) game fit for the whole family. Clear a large open area for play and lay down a length of string or rope to create a center line. Gather small sponge or Ping-Pong balls (balls used in a child’s ball pit would work perfectly!) and distribute them evenly between two teams, which take positions on either side of the line. Set a timer for two minutes (an iPhone works great!). On “GO,” players start tossing balls into 36 OWENSBORO PARENT

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It can be difficult for kids to understand the tradition behind Thanksgiving and why we celebrate it every year. Rather than talk turkey, why not reinforce to your children what Thanksgiving really means. Here are three unique ways to celebrate Thanksgiving with your kids: 1. Get Online—Plymouth Plantation has a great website dedicated to the “First” Thanksgiving. Some of the education materials are to prepare the kids for visiting the plantation, but they have a ton of resources for educators and children. Kids may especially enjoy the section that teaches them how to “Talk like a Pilgrim.” Or they may prefer to play the awesome Thanksgiving Interactive, an award-winning online activity that allows children to act as “history detectives” and investigate what actually happened at the first feast between the Wampanoag tribe and the Pilgrims. 2. Make a Thankful Tree—In recent years, creating a Thankful Tree at home has become a very popular idea. The best thing about it? You can make it any way you want! I have collected branches and arranged them in a pot, and even

made a winter tree out of brown mailing paper and taped it to the wall. You can print colored leaves on your computer, or have the kids make their own using colored cardstock or construction paper. Need some ideas? Just search for “Thankful Trees” on Pinterest for inspiration! 3. Sail the Mayflower—Who knew there were so many different ways to build a ship? Dig through your recycling bin if you have one, and ask your kids to create their own mini version of the Mayflower. Your family can study more about the real story behind this famous ship at MayflowerHistory.com.

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holiday events around owensboro Downtown Fall Fest Saturday, November 8 | McConnell Plaza, Dowtown Owensboro Hosted by Puzzle Pieces, this is sure to be a day of fun for families! All proceeds from the day’s events will benefit Puzzle Pieces, a non-profit activity day center for individuals with intellectual disabilities. The days events include: Scavenger Hunt – Starts at 11:30 a.m.; $5 per team (2 or more make a team); Will be held in the Plaza; Meet at the Gazebo at 11:00 a.m. Corn-Hole Tournament - $20.00 per team; Must sign up your team by emailing amandaowen@puzzle-pieces. org; Start time 11 a.m. Games/Booths - 10 tickets for $3.00/ Armband for $10.00; Enjoy bowling, face painting, inflatables, cake walk, tattoos, wagon/hay ride, pumpkin painting, train ride and much more. Chili Cook Off –- Owensboro businesses www.OwensboroParent.com

and schools compete for the title of best chili in Owensboro. You can participate in the taste testing starting at 11:00am; $2 per taste test, up to 4 samples or $8 to taste test all vendors; Begins at 11 a.m. and judging starts at 12p.m. Walk for All - Downtown disAbility Walk in Their Shoes - Puzzle Pieces annual Puzzle Walk to honor those with disabilities! Check in 12:30 - 1:30 p.m. Gather a Team in Honor or Memory of someone with a disability. Top three teams who raise the most money will win 1st - 3rd awards. All teams will be recognized! Enjoy apple cider and sundaes, food, live entertainment and more! For more information, visit puzzle-pieces.org.

Veterans Day Parade November 8 | Downtown Owensboro Come honor our veterans for the Annual Veterans Day Parade beginning and

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ending on Veterans Memorial Blvd. This is the longest running Veterans Day Parade in the country. The parade will begin at East 2nd and Clay Streets, will travel west on 2nd Street, north on Daviess Street, and west on Veterans Memorial Blvd. ending at Frederica Street.

78th Annual Owensboro Christmas Parade November 22 | Downtown Owensboro The Owensboro-Daviess County Christmas Parade Association, Inc. is presenting the 78th Annual Christmas parade themed “Christmas Miracles.” Each year the parade committee spends countless hours sifting through nominations and suggestions for its Honorary Grand Marshal. This year the committee announced that two of Owensboro’s very own, Bayli Boling and Alexandra Watts have been named Honorary Grand Marshal. Bayli earned

the title of Miss Teen Kentucky United States and Alexandra earned the title of Miss Jr. Teen Kentucky United States. Both are from right here in Owensboro and will spend their time travelling and representing our great city very well. Join us on the Saturday before Thanksgiving in Downtown Owensboro, “where Kentucky starts Christmas,” to congratulate Bayli and Alexandra and wish them the best in the years to come.

Holiday Stroll Saturday, December 6; 4 - 8 p.m. | Second and Third Streets from Daviess to St. Ann in Downtown Owensboro Stroll the downtown streets to get in the holiday spirit. Strolling carolers, storefront decorations, and indoor performers will make this evening a reminder of the good old days of being downtown at Christmas.

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tips to limit

screen time { by: danny may }

he American Association of Pediatrics recommends that children under 2 not watch any television, and that older

children have no more than one or two hours of screen time a day. But letâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s be real: that takes work! Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s much easier to just let them plop in front of a TV or device so we can get things done around the house and not worry about them getting into

56% of children in Kentucky spend more than two hours a day playing video games, watching television, videos or DVDs, or on the computer, according to a 2012 survey of parents by the Foundation for a Healthy Kentucky.

anything, right? Yet, we know that too much screen time is not good. Common sense tells us that too much TV or video gaming leads to inactivity and lack of creativity. Therefore, common sense also tells us that limiting screen time would be the better option. Kentucky Health News reported that a study by Iowa State University says reducing the amount of time children spend on the computer or in front of the TV will help them

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sleep more, do better in school, behave better and lower the

empowerment parenting, parents can set up routines and

risk of obesity. Of course those are all things we want for our

consistent guidelines surrounding screen time that are easy for

children.

children to follow, Jackson said.

So how do we draw a hard line on screen time without being

“It’s just like life,” Jackson explained. “First we work and

so hard-nosed about it?

then we get paid. First we do our household chores and then we

Step #1 is becoming aware or your family’s screen time

get the media use. Parents who are waking up in the morning

habits. Start by monitoring the screen time in your household

and letting their children watch TV first thing before school

for a day – or even better – a week. Then start backing it down.

are really missing the boat here.”

A WebMD article on this topic made an excellent point that

it’s okay to make gradual changes. It helps everyone ease into

important for parents to set the example here. By and large,

it. Another interesting thing about this approach is it allows

our children value what we value. So if we limit our own screen

you to notice the gradual change in attitudes, productivity,

time, that will go a long way in validating our limit setting.

etc. which can be great conversation points when you do start

KidsHealth.org makes these suggestions to create good TV/

setting new limits. It’s also important to back up what you’re

screen/media habits in your home:

trying to accomplish by explaining “why.” Plus, you can use

The research I read for this article consistently said it’s very

what you’ve noticed so far to help back up your stance.

1. Limit TV-watching hours (After the morning chores are

done; after homework; not after 8 p.m.; an “extra hour” on the

A Huffington Post article quoted Rebecca Jackson, author

of The Learning Habit, who suggested a parenting style that she calls “empowerment parenting,” which uses “thoughtful

weekends)

rules and effort-based praise to reward desired behavior.” By

2. Put other things to do in the TV room:

creating awareness about device use in the home through

magazines, toys, puzzles, games. (Then play with your kids.

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Give them better options. Give them adventure and play. Stimulate their senses. Again, this takes work, but it’s well worth it.)

7. Establish and enforce family TV viewing rules. (Be the parent. You are ultimately responsible for what goes on in your house. As hard as it may be to stick to your plans, the more

3. Keep TVs and internet connections out of the bedrooms. (They always need to be monitored, especially on the internet.)

4. Turn the TV off during meals. (Family meal times and car rides are the best chances for conversation for most families.

work you put in during those younger years, the more long term reward you see in later years.)

8. Record and watch only the shows you want your kids to watch. (Again, take control. Set the tone. Gauge what you want your children to watch.)

Don’t let TV dominate and distract. If you’re starting with gradual change, start by setting the rule of “no TV the first 10

minutes” and go from there.)

control is important for several reasons. For one, it might help

5. Don’t allow kids to watch TV while doing homework. 6. Treat TV as a privilege to be earned. (This helps to reshape the mindset. TV/media is not a necessity. It’s a bonus.)

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With the Holidays approaching, getting screen time under

in gift buying selection. Also, establishing healthier media habits and routines now will help keep screen time under control if your child does receive a new device for Christmas.

Danny May is a husband and father of two boys (4 and 5). He is the Director of Family Life at Lourdes Catholic Church and a regular contributor to Owensboro Parent Magazine.

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the

write stuff

{ by: ashley sorce }

With the season of giving quickly approaching, the more likely your kids will be receiving gifts from family and friends. Many parents encounter a battle when it comes to your child and thank you notes. It takes a lot for a child to sit still long enough to come up with something thoughtful to jot down in a note. And letâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s face itâ&#x20AC;Ś thank you notes are tedious. Most parents have had their own experience with thank you notes after baby or wedding showers. This season try something different. Here are some suggestions to make thank you notes more fun for kids, and therefore easier for parents.

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Send a personalized thank

you

note

thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s better than a typical card. Ask your child to write a message of thanks on a chalkboard (or you can write one if your child is too young) and have her pose with the board and the present. Take a photo, and then mail or email it to the gift giver.

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Have your kids paint a piece of art on a large piece of paper. Cut the paper into note size shapes and use the back for a thank you note. It still requires writing, but your kids got to paint the front, which makes it more fun!

Allow your children to use favorite photos of themselves as thank you cards! They will send their gratitude along with a special moment for the gift giver to cherish.

In the age of technology, why not upgrade the common thank you note? Film a short video, even on your phone, of your child saying thank you for the gift he received. Even better, be sure to include the gift in the shot or allow the child to play with the gift on the video so the giver can see how much the gift was appreciated. You can then text or email the photo. Instant thank you!

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tips for hassle-free

holiday shopping Looking to take the stress out of your holiday shopping this season?

Planning ahead and taking steps to protect yourself and your

purchases can relieve a lot of shopping-induced stress, according to Jeff Unterreiner, a senior vice president with Assurant Solutions.

“While it’s easy to get overwhelmed by holiday shopping, the good

news is that it only takes a few basic steps to make the process easier on your pocketbook and your peace of mind,” said Unterreiner.

Unterreiner offered these tips to help ensure your shopping this

Christmas season is hassle-free:

Budget planning

Shop early Start your shopping well ahead of Christmas to spare yourself the headache of unending lines and sold out shelves. Doing so can also help you save money. Starting earlier will give you more time to look for sales and promotions. When it comes to larger purchases, be sure you know the return policy and keep an eye on sales even after you buy. If the item is offered for a lower price within a certain timeframe, you may be able to get the difference refunded.

Reward programs

smart strategy: leave yourself a little padding to accommodate potential

Take advantage of the many reward cards and incentive programs that let you earn cash back, goods and discounts. The holiday season is a great time to sign up, as many retailers offer bonus programs and extra perks for shoppers. In some cases those rewards can be used immediately to trim your shopping budget or find something nice for

budget-busting treasures you discover along the way.

yourself as a reward for being a savvy shopper.

The easiest way to overspend is to approach your shopping without

a budget. Determine ahead of time what you can afford to spend overall, and make sure the gifts on your list fit within your means. A

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3 P’s of Smart Shopping: plan

purchase

protect

A smart shopping plan begins with a budget.

Focus your gift giving on what the

The most wanted gifts this season — electronics and

Decide what you’re willing to spend on

person will like the most, not on the

jewelry — also are the most vulnerable to breakage and

all holiday-related items, including travel,

amount you think you should spend on

theft. Including an extended protection plan will ensure

decorations and holiday meals. A budget will

that person. The best gift might not be

your gift keeps on giving for a long time to come. You

keep you disciplined and ensure you have

the most expensive one; it’s truly the

can buy one at the checkout or from a third party like

enough money to pay your bills come January.

thought that counts.

Assurant Solutions, which offers plans on Amazon.com.

Protect purchases

Beat fraud

Many of the most-wanted gifts this season, like electronics and

The frenzy of the Christmas season can make you vulnerable to

jewelry, are also the easiest to break or lose. Ensure your gifts keep

theft. Be sure you’re using a debit or credit card that offers protection

giving long into the future by protecting your purchases with extended

in the event of unauthorized purchases. If you don’t already, now is

service plans, such as those offered by Assurant Solutions. These plans

also an ideal time to pay closer attention to your transaction log so you

offer a range of protection from things like mechanical breakdown,

can quickly address any unfamiliar charges.

accidental damage, loss and theft, as well as services such as tech

support. And this protection can last long after the manufacturer’s

visit consumerview.assurantsolutions.com.

For more ideas to help take the stress out of holiday shopping,

warranty expires.

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why should you

vaccinate your child?

It’s a question that parents everywhere are asking doctors like us, and it’s a good question. Vaccination has been under a lot more scrutiny in the past several years. We feel that when it comes to keeping children safe from serious diseases, there is no better method of prevention than vaccination.

accines work in a number of ways, but the basic principle they rely on is the same. Vaccines introduce your body to a disease without the risks associated with actually contracting the disease. A vaccinated person not only protects themselves, but also those around them. We call this “herd immunity” and it happens when a disease is prevented from traveling because it can’t find anyone who can carry it. People often ask us about the safety of vaccines, and the short answer is that vaccines are safe. Vaccines do carry side effects, but most of these are minor, such as soreness, redness or swelling at the injection site. In extremely rare cases, children can sometimes have “febrile seizures” after getting a vaccine, but febrile seizures don’t result in long-term issues, and are possible with fevers that aren’t connected to receiving a vaccination. For every child that ever experiences a side effect from a vaccination, there are hundreds or thousands more who are spared a great deal of suffering and pain from these diseases. Vaccines are a proven way to prevent the deaths of thousands of children every year. The National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Disease compiled a list of nine common diseases and ran the numbers of how many cases there were in a baseline year before a vaccine was available and then again in 2009, after vaccination had taken place. The diseases listed included crippling, debilitating and potentially lethal diseases, such as smallpox, polio, tetanus, the measles and more. Of all nine diseases, every one of them was reduced by at least 98.6 percent. Three of them, diphtheria, smallpox and polio, were completely eradicated in the United States. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in Atlanta estimates that since 1994, more than 732,000 children’s lives have been saved by vaccinations.

At the bare minimum, vaccines prevent a child from getting sick. But it’s also important to remember that even a common disease like the measles is deadly. In 2012, measles killed more than 122,000 children around the world, but there were only 55 cases in the United States and 21 of those were contracted outside the U.S. In 1964, Rubella (commonly known as German measles), killed 2,000 babies and caused another 11,000 miscarriages. In 2012, only nine cases of Rubella were reported in the U.S.

We feel it’s important to lead by example. Dr. McGinnis, mother of three children: “All of our children have received all of the recommended vaccines on the schedule, on-time. They also receive a flu vaccine annually. I have taken care of children with vaccine preventable illnesses in the past and would never want to put my children at risk. These conditions do not discriminate. All children are at risk of becoming infected if exposed and not immunized.” Dr. Griffin: “I do not have children, but I unequivocally recommend that each of my family members gets the recommended vaccines based on his or her age and health conditions. If I had children of my own, I absolutely would vaccinate them. It’s the best way I know of to keep them safe from diseases that I have seen cause great difficulty and harm to people.” We can’t put all of our knowledge into one article, but we have tried to hit the most important points. If you do have further questions, we encourage you to talk to your child’s pediatrician. They can talk you through your concerns and offer you options when it comes to how and when your child receives their shots. We want the same thing that you want for your child: For them to grow up healthy and happy.

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the kids eat free list

Mondays

Tuesdays

Catfish Willy’s - $1.99 kids meal with the

Beef ‘O’ Brady’s – free kids meal with the

purchase of adult meal

purchase of adult entrée from 4 – 8 p.m. for kids 12 years and younger

Grandy’s - 99¢ kids meals with the purchase of regular adult meal

purchase of adult meal for kids 12 and Mirko Pasta – 2 free kids meals per adult

younger; kids get a special treat of icing

entrée purchase

their own cookie

Red Lobster – free kids meal with coupon available on website or Facebook page Shoney’s – 2 free kids meals per adult entrée purchase from 3 – 9 p.m. for kids 10 years and younger TGI Fridays – free kids meal with the purchase of adult entrée for kids 12 years and younger

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Bob Evans – free kids meals with the

Denny’s – 2 free kids meals per adult meal purchase Fazoli’s - 99¢ kids meals with the purchase of adult meal Pizza Hut – 1 free child buffet with the purchase of adult buffet from 5 – 8 p.m. at the South Frederica location.

Zaxby’s – 2 kids meals for 99¢ with

Red Lobster – free kids meal with coupon

purchase of an adult entrée

available on website or Facebook page

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Salsarita’s – free kids meal with the purchase

Saturday

of $5 or more adult entrée; dine in only

Maloney’s – free kids meals from 11 a.m. – 2 p.m.

Wednesday Ole South Barbeque – 2 free kids meals per

Texas Roadhouse – 2 free kids meals per

adult meal purchase for kids 12 and younger

adult entrée from 11 a.m. – 3 p.m.

Red Lobster – free kids meal with coupon

Sunday

available on website or Facebook page

Briarpatch – 1 free kids meal per adult entrée for kids 10 and younger

Thursday Bee Bop’s – free kids meal with the purchase of

Maloney’s – free kids meals from

adult meal after 5 p.m. for kids 12 and younger

11 a.m. – 2 p.m.

Captain D’s – 2 free kids meals with adult

Salsarita’s – free kids meal with the purchase

meal purchase; dine in only

of $5 or more adult entrée; dine in only

Red Lobster – free kids meal with coupon

Texas Roadhouse – 2 free kids meals per

available on website or Facebook page

adult entrée from 11 a.m. – 3 p.m.

Ryan’s - 99¢ kids buffet for children 11 years and younger

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november 2014 Informing parents about fun, local events is a priority for Owensboro Parent. Our magazine compiles events from across the city and county. So when your family is looking for something to do, check out the Owensboro Parent calendar, where you will find information on local events, including event descriptions, locations, dates, times and price. Want to include your event? Contact the editor at ashley@owensboroparent.com.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 1

educational activities with a focus on literacy

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 5

PRESERVATION STATION Preservation Station

and school readiness; Daviess County Public

U-BOUNCE OPEN BOUNCE NIGHT; All must

Market Days are held the first weekend

Library, 2020 Frederica St.; dcplibrary.org

wear socks; $7 per child, children under 2

of every month, Saturday 8 a.m. – 4 p.m.

are free, unless they are the only child, adults

and Sunday 12 p.m. – 4 p.m. with over 80

OWENSBORO COLLECTOR CON features over

always free; 5 – 8 p.m.; (270) 685-1255 or

vendors of antique, vintage, handcrafted,

200 booths and quality dealers from across

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and customized items, live music, and food.

the region. The event will feature comics,

Preservation Station Market and Event Center,

movies, posters, toys, action figures, collector

9661 Highway 56. Call 270-215-1045, go

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 6

cards, die cast, and much more. Celebrity

to www.visitpreservationstation.com, or find

BLUEGRASS JAM On the first Thursday of

guests include Dan Haggerty, Aron Eisenberg,

us on Facebook.

each month, head to the Bluegrass Museum

Joyce DeWitt, Honky Tonk Man, Robert D’Zar,

to jam with other musicians. Jamming is for

Jim Cornett, Scott Shaw, and Jim Decker. TRUNNELL’S GRAND PUMPKIN SMASH Don’t

musicians of all levels and begins at 7 p.m.

There will also be a Witches and Wizards

trash ‘em, smash ‘em! It’ll be a smash’em,

For more information, contact the Museum

Celebrity Costume Ball Friday evening with

bash’em kind of day at Trunnell’s! Come assist

at (270) 926-7891 or visit their their website at

$1,500 in prizes; For more information, visit

in the destruction of any unsold pumpkins or

www.bluegrassmuseum.org.

www.collectorcon.com.

bring your own! If you’ve always wondered what to do with your old pumpkins once

FREE STORYTIME WEE READ for ages 2 and

Halloween has come and gone, this is the

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 2

younger and Circle Time for ages 3-5; 10 –

answer! Join us for our First-Annual Pumpkin

PRESERVATION STATION See event description

10:30 a.m.; Daviess County Public Library,

Smash and bring them ol’ pumpkins with

on Saturday, November 1.

ya! Watch for more details on all the ooey gooeyfFun we’ll be having with activities ranging from a Giant Pumpkin Smash, Pumpkin Bowling, Farm Scene Investigation, getting lost in the Interactive Corn Maze, face painting and more “Absolutely Farmtastic Fun”! Call 270-733-2222 or visit http://

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 3

DOWNTOWN DATE NIGHT Start your weekend early by heading to Downtown Owensboro

FREE STORYTIME WEE READ for ages 2 and

for free live music and events. Visit one of our

younger and Circle Time for ages 3-5; 10 –

great downtown restaurants for dinner and

10:30 a.m.; Daviess County Public Library,

then enjoy the riverfront.

2020 Frederica St.; dcplibrary.org.

www.trunnellsfarmmarket.com for more

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 4

information.

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FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 7 KRAFTUCKY ARTS & CRAFTS EXPO Owensboro

U-BOUNCE TODDLER TUESDAY; All must

has a long history of producing quality craft

FREE SATURDAY MORNING LIVE!

wear socks; Children 5 and under get in for

shows. Kraftucky Arts & Crafts Expo will

Visit the library every Saturday morning

$5 all night; 5 – 8 p.m.; (270) 685-1255 or

continue this tradition of quality and will

from 10:00—12:00 for self guided fun and

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be the premier consumer craft show of

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calendar the season. Kraftucky will serve as a central

one of the specially marked flags in memory

talents including artists, musicians and guest

location for arts and crafts enthusiasts and

of a fallen hero. The race is presented by

speakers will grace the stage for a very special

vendors to collaborate on and purchase the

the Kentucky Chapter of the American Gold

community wide celebration honoring the

newest trends and products; $3 for adults

Star Mothers of which Cathy Mullins, mother

military service and sacrifice of all men and

(children 11 and under are free); Owensboro

of SPC Brandon Scott Mullins KIA 8-25-11

women in uniform, their families at home, and

Convention Center.

is the president of the local chapter of this

those who have made the ultimate sacrifice

non-profit organization. Proceeds from

for our country. Hosted by the family of

the race will go between two organizations

SPC Brandon Scott Mullins; Good Shepherd

including the Bluegrass Chapter of the Honor

Church, 3031 Bittel Road.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 8 FREE VETERANS DAY PARADE Come honor our

veterans for the Annual Veterans Day Parade beginning and ending on Veterans Memorial Blvd. This is the longest running Veterans Day Parade in the country. The parade will begin at East 2nd and Clay Streets, will travel west on 2nd Street, north on Daviess Street, and west on Veterans Memorial Blvd. ending at Frederica Street. KENTUCKY REMEMBERS VETERANS DAY 5K RUN/WALK This race will honor and remember the sacrifice of thousand of American soldiers who have paid the ultimate price for our freedom. Since 9/1l, Kentucky alone has lost 113 heroes, 7 from

Flight that provides all expense paid trips for WWII veterans to go to Washington DC to visit the national memorials and the Honor and Remember organization who provide personalized flags to families of the fallen.

KRAFTUCKY ARTS & CRAFTS EXPO See event description on Friday, November 7.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 10

FREE SATURDAY MORNING LIVE!

FREE STORYTIME WEE READ for ages 2 and

Visit the library every Saturday morning

younger and Circle Time for ages 3-5; 10 –

from 10:00—12:00 for self guided fun and

10:30 a.m.; Daviess County Public Library,

educational activities with a focus on literacy

2020 Frederica St.; dcplibrary.org.

and school readiness; Daviess County Public Library, 2020 Frederica St.; dcplibrary.org

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 11 U-BOUNCE TODDLER TUESDAY; All must

KRAFTUCKY ARTS & CRAFTS EXPO See event

wear socks; Children 5 and under get in for

description on Friday, November 7.

$5 all night; 5 – 8 p.m.; (270) 685-1255 or ubouncepartyhouse.com.

Daviess County including 5 soldiers who were killed in combat - SGT James Harlan,

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 9

PFC Robert Settle, SPC Timothy Fulkerson,

KENTUCKY HOMETOWN VETERANS DAY

VETERAN’S DAY AT GLENN FUNERAL HOME

SPC Brandon Scott Mullins and SGT Michael

Celebration On the Sunday before Veterans

Honoring all who served, Glenn Funeral

Cable. Participants are encourage to carry

Day, the community’s best and brightest

Home invites all veterans to join them under

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calendar the tents in the Glenn Funeral Home parking

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 19

PARTY OF THE SEASON! Colt Ford We have

lot. Lunch will be provided Old Hickory Bar-

U-BOUNCE OPEN BOUNCE NIGHT; All must

“The Party of the Season” coming to the

B-Q and live music by Cathy and Tommy

wear socks; $7 per child, children under 2

Owensboro Sportscenter Friday, November

Mullins; 11 a.m. – 1 p.m.; 900 Old Hartford

are free, unless they are the only child, adults

21. Colt Ford with special guests Moccasin

Road.

always free; 5 – 8 p.m.; (270) 685-1255 or

Creek will be rocking the Spotscenter all

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night!!. The party will be emceed by Dee Jay Silver – he’ll keep you moving with his unique

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 12 U-BOUNCE OPEN BOUNCE NIGHT; All must

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 20

wear socks; $7 per child, children under 2

FREE STORYTIME WEE READ for ages 2 and

are free, unless they are the only child, adults always free; 5 – 8 p.m.; (270) 685-1255 or ubouncepartyhouse.com.

younger and Circle Time for ages 3-5; 10 – 10:30 a.m.; Daviess County Public Library, 2020 Frederica St.; dcplibrary.org.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 13

DOWNTOWN DATE NIGHT Start your weekend

FREE STORYTIME WEE READ for ages 2 and

early by heading to Downtown Owensboro

younger and Circle Time for ages 3-5; 10 –

for free live music and events. Visit one of our

10:30 a.m.; Daviess County Public Library,

great downtown restaurants for dinner and

2020 Frederica St.; dcplibrary.org.

then enjoy the riverfront.

style of country remixes. Also performing will be Jaclyn Graves and The Josh Merritt Band. Tickets go on sale online today (Wednesday) at 11:00 AM, and will be available at the Maloneys Pizza and Wings on Hwy 54 starting tomorrow; For more information, email Steve@BigOMusicFest.com.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 22 FREE 78TH ANNUAL OWENSBORO CHRISTMAS

PARADE The Owensboro-Daviess County Christmas Parade Association, Inc. is

DOWNTOWN DATE NIGHT Start your weekend

CANVAS AND COCKTAILS Come unleash your

early by heading to Downtown Owensboro

inner artist with us!

for free live music and events. Visit one of our

Canvas & Cocktails is a one-of-a-kind painting

great downtown restaurants for dinner and

class hosted by Studio Slant. You come in and

then enjoy the riverfront.

get taught step by step the painting for the night and take home a masterpiece. The Cost

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 14

is $45 with all materials and artist instruction

BROADWAY AT RIVERPARK CENTER “A

included. We offer a public class once a

CHRISTMAS STORY” Based on the classic 1983

month or you can book your own private

movie, A CHRISTMAS STORY, THE MUSICAL!

party. Visit us on Facebook to see what we

invites you into the Indiana home of Ralphie

are painting that night; $45; Studio Slant, 624

Parker, an 11-year old kid who is desperate

Emory Drive; For more information, call (270)

to win the most coveted holiday prize: An

684-3570.

Official Red Ryder Carbine-Action 200-Shot

presenting the 78th Annual Christmas parade themed “Christmas Miracles.” Each year the parade committee spends countless hours sifting through nominations and suggestions for its Honorary Grand Marshal. We look for someone who has “put Owensboro on the map” in a positive way, or someone who has made a contribution to our great community. This year we are proud to announce that two of our very own, Bayli Boling and Alexandra Watts have been named Honorary Grand Marshal. Bayli earned the title of Miss Teen Kentucky United States and Alexandra earned the title of Miss Jr. Teen Kentucky United States. Both are from right here in Owensboro

Range Model Air Rifle. With songs both funny

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 21

and sentimental, A Christmas Story paints a

FREE 28TH ANNUAL HOLIDAY IN THE PARK

refreshing holiday portrait of a simpler time in

representing our great city very well. Join

Begins November 21 at Legion Park. Giant

America; RiverPark Center, 101 Daviess Street.

us on the Saturday before Thanksgiving in

elves, trees, toys and figures, not to mention

Downtown Owensboro, “where Kentucky

Santa in his sleigh, line Legion’s half-mile

starts Christmas,” to congratulate Bayli and

walking path.

Alexandra and wish them the best in the years

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 15 FREE SATURDAY MORNING LIVE!

and will spend their time travelling and

to come.

Visit the library every Saturday morning

CHRISTMAS AT PANTHER CREEK PARK Begins

from 10:00—12:00 for self guided fun and

November 21 at Panther Creek Park. An

FREE SATURDAY MORNING LIVE!

educational activities with a focus on literacy

outdoor driving lighted tour with 400,000+

Visit the library every Saturday morning

and school readiness; Daviess County Public

lights winding through Panther Creek Park.

from 10:00—12:00 for self guided fun and

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$3.00 charge per carload. Wagon rides

educational activities with a focus on literacy

through the park are also available. 5160

and school readiness; Daviess County Public

Wayne Bridge Road. Open from 6-9 p.m.

Library, 2020 Frederica St.; dcplibrary.org

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 17

each night.

FREE STORYTIME WEE READ for ages 2 and

younger and Circle Time for ages 3-5; 10 – 10:30 a.m.; Daviess County Public Library, 2020 Frederica St.; dcplibrary.org.

OWENSBORO CHRISTMAS SHOW See event OWENSBORO CHRISTMAS SHOW The

description on Friday, November 21.

Owensboro Christmas Show will have 200 booths and some of the best dealers in the region. Free pictures with Santa for the kids.

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 23 OWENSBORO CHRISTMAS SHOW See event

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 18

Wonderful seasonal lobby displays. All the

U-BOUNCE TODDLER TUESDAY; All must

sight and sounds of Christmas; $2 admission;

wear socks; Children 5 and under get in for

Friday, 2 - 7 p.m.; Saturday, 9- 6 p.m.; Sunday,

$5 all night; 5 – 8 p.m.; (270) 685-1255 or

10 - 4 p.m.; Owensboro Convention Center,

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 24

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501 West 2nd Street.

FREE STORYTIME WEE READ for ages 2 and

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calendar younger and Circle Time for ages 3-5; 10 – 10:30 a.m.; Daviess County Public Library, 2020 Frederica St.; dcplibrary.org.

10:30 a.m.; Daviess County Public Library,

DOWNTOWN DATE NIGHT Start your weekend

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early by heading to Downtown Owensboro for free live music and events. Visit one of our great downtown restaurants for dinner and

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 25 U-BOUNCE TODDLER TUESDAY; All must wear socks; Children 5 and under get in for

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 2 U-BOUNCE TODDLER TUESDAY; All must wear socks; Children 5 and under get in for

$5 all night; 5 – 8 p.m.; (270) 685-1255 or

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WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 26 U-BOUNCE OPEN BOUNCE NIGHT; All must wear socks; $7 per child, children under 2 are free, unless they are the only child, adults always free; 5 – 8 p.m.; (270) 685-1255 or

GIVING TUESDAY On this international day of giving, remember Wendell Foster’s Campus for Developmental Disabilities. You can make donations anytime at www.wfcampus.org/ DONATE.

THURSDAY, DECEMBER 4 FREE SATURDAY MORNING LIVE!

Visit the library every Saturday morning from 10:00—12:00 for self guided fun and educational activities with a focus on literacy and school readiness; Daviess County Public Library, 2020 Frederica St.; dcplibrary.org

FRIDAY, DECEMBER 5 OWENSBORO FLEA MARKET The Owensboro Flea Market features over 200 booths and dealers from several states. Items to be found include a wide variety of antiques and collectibles, jewelry, furniture, arts and crafts, and 1000’s of other items; Friday, 2:00 p.m. to 7:00 p.m; Saturday, 9:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. ; Sunday, 10:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.; Admission

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SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 29

then enjoy the riverfront.

is $1; Owensboro Convention Center.

BLUEGRASS JAM On the first Thursday of each month, head to the Bluegrass Museum

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 6

to jam with other musicians. Jamming is for

FREE HOLIDAY STROLL Stroll the downtown

musicians of all levels and begins at 7 p.m.

streets to get in the holiday spirit. Strolling

For more information, contact the Museum

carolers, storefront decorations, and indoor

at (270) 926-7891 or visit their their website at

performers will make this evening a reminder

www.bluegrassmuseum.org.

of the good old days of being downtown at Christmas. Second and Third streets from

FREE STORYTIME WEE READ for ages 2 and

MONDAY, DECEMBER 1

younger and Circle Time for ages 3-5; 10 –

FREE STORYTIME WEE READ for ages 2 and

10:30 a.m.; Daviess County Public Library,

younger and Circle Time for ages 3-5; 10 –

2020 Frederica St.; dcplibrary.org.

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Daviess to St. Ann. 4-8 pm PRESERVATION STATION Preservation Station Market Days are held the first weekend

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of every month, Saturday 8 a.m. – 4 p.m. and Sunday 12 p.m. – 4 p.m. with over 80 vendors of antique, vintage, handcrafted, and customized items, live music, and food. Preservation Station Market and Event Center, 9661 Highway 56. Call 270-215-1045, go to www. visitpreservationstation.com, or find us on Facebook. BREAKFAST WITH SANTA AND MRS. CLAUS Join Mesker Park Zoo for a breakfast with Santa and Mrs. Claus. Visit meskerparkzoo.com for details. THE NUTCRACKER SWEET CHARACTER BRUNCH Come to the RiverPark Center to enjoy a special brunch opportunity with the characters of The Nutcracker; 10 – 11:30 a.m. at RiverPark Center. THE NUTCRACKER Owensboro Dance Theatre is proud to present the family holiday favorite The Nutcracker Saturday December 7th at 7pm, at the RiverPark Center. Owensboro Dance Theatre has been performing The Nutcracker annually since 1992. The Nutcracker has sold out for the last four consecutive years; RiverPark Center at 7 p.m FREE SATURDAY MORNING LIVE!

SUNDAY, DECEMBER 7 OWENSBORO FLEA MARKET See event description on Friday, September 5. PRESERVATION STATION See event description on Saturday, November 1.

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