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The Diocese of Oxford Reporter: Berkshire, Buckinghamshire and Oxfordshire

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October 1993

Inside the DOOR FAMILY MATTERS page 5 onwards 1994 is the UN Year of the Family. But family life has changed dramatically in the last 20 years. How are Christians coping with the changes? What are they doing to support the family? The Mothers' Union in the Year of the Family (page 5), stories from family life (page 10 -11), and the reflections of a Christian Relate counsellor (page 13) are just some of the family matters we touch on in this issue.

JOURNEY TO ORDINATION page 6 The extraordinary journey of one woman's journey to ordination is the subject-of our God in the Life of feature.

First new Church Aided School in the Diocese forfifty years It really was back to school with a smile for 70 Didcot primary children on September 7 when All Saints, the first new Church Aided School in the Diocese for more than 50 years opened its doors.

The school will build up to a role of 300 children over three years. It includes a nursery class with 56 part - time places. The building have been designed by Michael Gotch of Woodstock so that part of it can be used by the community out of school hours.

One school hall for instance, will be used on Sundays as an ecumenical worship centre for a new Church of England / Baptist congregation.

The new school on Didcot's rapidly expanding Ladygrove estate was orginally scheduled to open in 1988. However, the governors were concerned that the original site, beneath a major power cable, might affect the children's health so a new site was found. The recession slowed down the development of the area causing further delays.

Michael Walker, the new chairman of the Governors has been involved with the school's progress for eight years as a temporary governor. "The day those children walked up to the new school I could hardly believe it. But this is not just for the children of Didcot but for the whole community", he said.

All Saints School cost £1,500,000 to build. Funding came from four sources: the Oxford Diocese from school closures, the Department of Education, Oxfordshire County Council and South Oxfordshire District Council. "The Diocese welcomed this opportunity in expanding Didcot in order to ensure that Church schools continue for the future" ,said the Revd Tony Williamson, Diocesan Director ofducation (Schools) The school has a staff of five teachers and five non-teaching staff. Its headteacher, M/s Sue Mantell ,formerly head of Stockwell School, Wantage, was appointed in June 1992 so that she could supervise the completion of the building, the puchase of equipment and the'planning of the curriculum.

Philip Dalloway, Priest in Charge of All Saints Church, Didcot is delighted at the 'tremendous challenge' both the new school and the new Ladygrove worship centre provide. The Revd Joan Impey,

Curate of All Saint's will be in charge of the worship centre together with her Baptist colleague, the Revd Keith Nichol. On October 21 the Bishop of Reading for the Anglicans and the Southern Area Superintendent for the Baptists will jointly conduct a dedication service there. The Bishop will also spend the afternoon meeting children, parents and staff and blessing the new school.

And at Didcot's Northbourne School...

Not to be left out, Didcot's Northborne CE Primary School has also some changes to report. They have a new head, Mrs Kathleen Cook who replaced Di Steel who was so tragically killed last year in a gliding accident. They also have some new buildings which replace old terrapin huts. For the children, there was another unexpected cause for celebration. When the old buildings were demolished, the new ones failed to arrive on time so the three classes affected had to add another week to their holiday!

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"We're all new together" said Head teacher, Sue Mantell outside All Saints School. With her (left to right) are: Natalie Brome, Charlotte Kirsty Jarvis, O'Donnell, Jamie Betteridge, Richard Hilton and Martin Davenport. They were photographed

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HALLOWEEN page 15 It's time to face the truth about Halloween, writes Richard Miller. Plus: more photos from the Bishop's Pilgrimage toTaizé,something for children to make for a church bazaar and books about womens' role in Christian history(page 14) are all in this DOOR.

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KNOW YOUR FAITH A pocket-guide to the basics of the Christian faith

2. Who am I? Jesus looked at a huge crowd who had come to hear him preach - poor people, most of them, living under enemy occupation, crushed and oppressed, 'nobodies' as we might say.

"Aren't five sparrows sold for two pennies?" he asked them. "Yet not one of them is forgotten by God. Indeed, the very hairs of your head are numbered - don't be afraid, you're worth more than many sparrows." I can imagine them feeling better at once - valuable, watched over, cared about. The Romans might despise them and the authorities might ignore them, but God in heaven counted the hairs on their heads and remembered who they were.

It's a lovely answer to one of the most important questions we can ask: Who am I? Do! have any value? Or am Ijust a bit of random biology, a cosmic accident, a statistic in the population totals and the minutest speck on a tiny planet?

God's answer on the lips of Jesus is that! am of infinite value because lam valued by God. The one who made me loves me and cares about what happens to me.

And that's consistent with everything the Bible tells us about human beings. The first great statement of the Old Testament is that God made everything that exists. The second is that he made men and women 'in his own image' not looking like him of course (God is spirit) but sharing those characteristics that we call 'personal'. God loves making things: so do we. God expresses himself in relafionships ('mine', 'his') and so do we. God loves: and so do we. And God speaks, communicates: and so do we. In some strange way human beings are images of God, like his 'icons', showing us what he is like - not in our sin and evil of course, but when we reflect our Maker - when we 'look like our father'. The image of God in us may be damaged and distofted, but it can't be completely erased. The coin of my character still bears his image stamped on it, and that is why no human being is ever without value.

David Winter

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Women of God rise up!

Child care facilities at synods, inclusive language and training in public speaking were some of the points raised when women members of Diocesan and deanery synods, boards and committees met at Diocesan Church House recently. They came. to discuss the Ecumenical Decade of the Churches in Solidarity with Women, a World Council of Churches (WCC) initiative.

The evening was arranged by a working party recently set up in this Diocese to consider the aims of the Solidarity with Women Decade.These are to empower women, to affirm women and to give visibility to women's perspectives. The Revd Jean Mayland, a member of the WCC group who set up

the Decade, spoke about its progress.

"Listening to women talking about their experiences in the Church, their feelings about being ignored, their frustration about being put down or labelled strident, has made me realise the importance of changing attitudes," said Jean Beresford, of the Diocesan Working Party.

"Many people are increasingly aware of feeling excluded by the language we use. Singing 'Rise up 0 men of God' in church recently was a reminder to me!" she said.

The priorities of the Working party, said Mrs Beresford, will be: to increase the number and effectiveness of women on synods, committees and work-

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ing as Church officers; to build up women's courage and confidence in expressing their views and their distinct gifts of spirituality and, where necessary, to challenge traditional practice and to increase awareness and sensitivity in the use of language in liturgy and communication.

After the meeting at Church House she said: "We hope to pursue the issues raised and to hold further meetings to consider how to increase awareness of language and to promote women's contribution to spirituality and theology".

If you are interested in finding out more or would like to be involved Jean Beresford would like to hear from you. A book list is also available. Write to her at: Merlin House, Medmenham, Marlow, Bucks SL 2HJ.

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Thanks to a remarkable increase in giving from groups and parishes in the Oxford Diocese, contributions to the Church Missionary Society (CMS) increased by 26.5% in the year ending January 31, 1993. Coming two years after a financial crisis for the Society, CMS sees this as a firm expression of confidence in their continuing work with partner churches around the world.

Along with Southwark Diocese, the total giving from parishes, groups and individuals in this Diocese was the highest in Britain.

"Giving like this encourages us to redouble our efforts on behalf of the Church here and our partner Churches. Our task is to help everyone to see and develop their part in mission and world partnership; to keep it as an integral part of their ministry", said Gill Poole, CMS Area Secretary for the Oxford Diocese.

'The Oxford Diocese has also contributed more than any other diocese in the country to the work of USPG. Donations from colleges and other institutions has gone up from £91,297 in 1990 to £118,204 in 1992, while private donations have increased from £5,716 to £13,209 over the same period.

People who have been bereaved in the last year in Chalfont St Giles are being invited to a special Service of Remembrance and Thanksgiving on All Souls Day, November 2 at 8pm.

The service is the idea of the Vicar, the Revd Peter Poole who hopes to make the service an annual event if there is an obvious need for it. "Having a set day each year to bring to mind those who have died can often be a help and bring comfort and healing," he says.

Wycombe District Council's grant of £50,000 towards a new church/community hail for St Francis Terriers Church in High Wycombe has broken all records for a district council grant to a church project in Buckinghamshire. The first bricks of the hail, which will be ownedjointly by St Francis and the High Wycombe DeafAssociation, were laid on September 6 by the Archbishop of Buckingham, the Venerable John Morrison and Councillor Mrs Val Lethe ran, Leader of Wycombe District Council. The project came about when both St Francis Church and the local Deaf Association applied to the Council for grants. The two appeals merged and the hail is the result. Pictured above are The Venerable John Morrison and Mrs Val Letheran watched by (left to right): Keith Walter and Peter Lovelock (Churchwardens at St Francis'Church) and CounciliorMrs Kathleen Preedy, President of the High Wycombe DeafAssociation. Photo: Frank Blackwell.

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Tear Fund is celebrating its 25th anniversary with a presentationof music and words called 'God's Love in Action' at Westminster Central Hall on October 30 at 2.30pm and

Two years after a major fire separated pupils at the CE School of SS Mary and John, East Oxford, they are back together again.

After the fire some children were able to remain in the school but 180 six to eight year-olds moved to a temporary building in Cricket Road.

The refurbished building was officially opened by the Archdeacon of Oxford on September 17. Before the fire, classrooms led off a gloomy central corridor. Now they have been moved to one side to provide more light and space for a hall.

Marianne Le Prevost who spent two years in Cricket Road is delighted with the new classrooms. "The main problem with the split site was communication", she said.

However there were regular staff and parents' meetings, explained the Headmaster, Tony Eaued. "Although it has gone well there has been an enormous disruption to the school, but the staff have been very supportive and the parents very patient. One of the nicest things somebody said to me was that the education of the children doesn't seem to have suffered."

The word 'euthanasia' comesfromtheGreek for good, easy, or happy death. Nowadays it has come to refer to the means of achieving such an end. The word is sometimes quite wrongly taken to mean 'mercy killing'.

What it really means is the termination of human life voluntarily, or by consent. Voluntary euthanasia refers to cases where an adult of sound mind wishes to die in order to save himself or herself further suffering, or before suffering and senility remove all traces of their former personality.

Today, through the use of drugs and other medk5al care, it is possible to prolong human life far beyond the biblical three score years and ten. But problems can arise when life is prolonged without reference to the wishes or condition of the. individual, and where undue suffering is involved.

Some people feel strongly that the law should allow them a freedom of choice, but at the moment Holland is the only western

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country where a form of voluntary euthanasia is legally permitted.

The religious case against euthanasia is important, if hard to summarise. Basic to it is the conviction that human life is sacred and no Christian would wish to dispute that. But we have to face the question as to what life is:, there is life as shown by purely physical signs, such as the beating of the heart; and there is life seen as consciousness where the individual can respond to the world around and still have a meaningful existence. Sadly, there are now many cases of people who retain the physical appearance of life while being unable to take a meaningful part in it.

We have to consider if this is truly life.

There is also the question of whether it is ever right to interfere with God's will. As Christians it is instinctive to say it can never be right, but the trouble with this argument is that every effort we make to prolong life is a kind of interference. The Christian may also

Jeff Curtis, a director of Radio e1evenSEVENTY, is delighted with the response to the station's appeal for funds (see September DOOR). Over £1,500 has been raised so far, with donations coming in from all over the Diocese.

"We are delighted with the response," said Jeff. "I am trying to acknowledge all those who have given an address and do apologise to those I may have

missed. Some of the doners are obviously elderly and we are very grateful to all the people who have contributed."

A radio mast has already been erected and the transmittor will soon be installed so that test transmissions can begin. For more information about Britain's first Christian-run radio station, write to eIevenSEVENTY AM, 11 Duke Street, High Wycombe, Bucks HP13 6EE.

After five years of success, the Oxford Diocese cricket team has lost the Church Times Cup, but only by one wicket. The match between Oxford and Liverpool took place on September 2. Oxford started well, reaching 116 for 2, when they suddenly lost six senior batsmen for only eight runs. Fennemore, Samways and Bentley gave respectability to the score with some defiante stroke play and the innings ended on 168.

For 32 of their 50 overs, Liverpool looked as if they would win easily, despite a briiliant spell of seam bowling from However Fennemore.

Samways, returning for his second spell, clean-bowled four players and had a fifth well caught by Tomlin low down.

With eight wickets down and seven runs needed to win at the start of the final over, the game could have gone either way.

One further batsman was run out leaving number 11 to score two runs off the last ball.

He was struck on the pads and and as he tried to score the first run, a fielder hared in to prevent the second. The throw came in over the head of the wicketkeeper resulting in an overthrow. Thus scores were level and Liverpool, having lost one less wicket, was declared the winner. The final scores were: Oxford 168 all out (49 overs): Mitra 53, Wingfield-Digby 34, Winn 5 for 29. Liverpool 168 for 9: Moffatt 42, Macauly 41, Nicholls 33, Samways 5 for 32.

Rural Berkshire RuralLiving is a pilot newsletter for rural parishes in the Archdeaconry of Berkshire. The editorial board includes the Revd Jacob Lewis, the Berkshire Rural Chaplain, and Celia Learn, the Parish Development Adviser. The newsletter is being backed by the Community Council for Berkshire.

Bishop Appleton The Most Reverend George Appleton died in Oxford on August 28 aged 91. A requiem service was held at St Stephen's House. We hope to include an appreciation next time.

believe that suffering is in itself of value to God and inspiring to those who witness it bravely borne. Although this may be true, unnecessary suffering can surely never be the will of God. "There is much uncomfortable dying," a medical Commentator has said. The noble work of the Hospice Movement has done much to help, but most people, unfortunately, remain beyond its reach.

So the debate continues. A recent contribution has been Life's Dominion by Ronald Dworkin. In a recent review of the book, Dr Caroline Berry suggests what the real Christian attitude should be: "We should rise to the challenge of this book by putting forward a Christian perspective of dying well."

William Purcell Canon William Purcell is a former canon of Worcester Cathedral and former head of religious broadcasting in the West Midlands.

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FEATURE Family Matters 1994 is the United Nations International Year of the Family.

The Mothers Union will also focus on the family next year and family life is currently the subject of a General Synod Working Party. Our Diocesan Synod will also debate support for the family at their November meeting.

How are Christians coping with the changes in family patterns and what is the Church doing to support broken families? In this issue The DOOR looks at some family matters which concern us all.

God's love is for us all Anyone playing the card game 'Happy Families' for the first time today might be surprised to find Mother, Father and two children every time; most families are not like that now. Our own picture of 'the family' will be formed by our experiences, and by what we have learned from others over the years. Families are shaped by the culture and society in which they belong. The media project powerful images of the family today, and may appear to mock those families which do not fit their stereotypes. We may be influenced by the media, and reject those families which are different from our own.

Family life can give us so much happines, but it can be the source of much pain too. When it works, a family enables all those who are joined together, whether by blood ties or by promises, to grow to their fullest maturity. Family life can provide love, acceptance and encouragement, and a place where we can admit our failures. We can be challenged, frustrated and feel put-down by each other; but we still have a haven where we can retreat, and find physical, spiritual and emotional fulfilment.

Christians believe that God's love is for us all. We need to find ways to encourage and treasure what is good in family life, and to prevent the disintegration of marriages and families at times of stress. In this country more remarriages and the new families so formed have added to the complexity of family life today. Ibelieve that we must find ways to make some kind of supportive family for everyone, whatever their circumstances. This edition of The DOOR looks at families and different ways they support each other. It also encourages us to pray and work forjustice, peace and fulfilment for all God's children.

Rosemary Peirce Rosemary Peirce is President of the Oxford Diocesan Mothers' Union.

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Initiated by the General Assembly of the United Nations, the International Year of the Family (IYF) is a worldwide campaign to stimulate international, national and local action that will make a difference to families in the future. The basis of their discussion during the year will be 'Families: roles, resources and responsibilities in a changing world'.

The IYF Council in the United Kingdom is made up of representatives from the voluntary sector in partnership with central and local government, educational and community groups, private and public sector employers and trade unions. It aims to celebrate both family and family life, with all its strengths, complexity and diversity; and will look at what families need in order to cope in our changing society. They hope to generate ideas and actions which provide long term change in attitude and practice - making Britain a more family-friendly place in which to live and work.

To focus activities four themes have been been identified: families and work; families and poverty; families and relationships; families and celebration. It is hoped that 1994 will be the beginning of a continuing process of consultation and achievement in family matters.

An ecumenical group with representatives from 23 Christian

organisations has been set up within the UK International Year of the Family association.

They have produced an attractive leaflet outlining a variety of discussion points and suggestions for action which might be undertaken by local churches and Christian groups. Copies are available from : the Secretary, Family Life Ecumenical Project, do Free Church Federal Council, 27 Tavistock Square, London WC1H 9HH.

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At the Provincial Presidents' Conference in Canada this year, all delegates welcomed plans for 24 hours of prayer from noon of January 16 1994. During that period members will be part of a worldwide chain of prayer for families.

Nationally, April 16 will see members gathered for a special service in Coventry Cathedral.

The major event will be 'Ark in the Park', a service and celebration at London Zoo on May 21.

There will also be an open day

conference at Mary Sumner House in London, and a prayer bookmark for the year.

In the Oxford Diocese, the Mothers' Union, in partnership with the Family Life and Education Group (FLAME), has organised a day when Michael Quinn of the Family Caring Trust will continue his Parenting Programme (March 15 at St Michael's, Easthampstead). On Septmber 24 the MU is sponsoring an informative day in Reading for anyone concerned with, or about, stepfamilies - an important and emotive topic today.

Many deaneries will host 'Prayers and Bears' services and picnics during June - inviting families with their children from neighbouring churches to be part of a month of celebrations.

In parishes, members will mark 1994 as a special year for families in whatever seems the most appropriate way. Ideas from our local initiative leaflet include Babysitting, a family theme for Mothering Sunday, involvement in children's school holiday clubs and joint pensioner/toddler group tea parties.

The emphasis is on all-age (and all circumstance) events to avoid exclusive and painful situations.

Whilst acknowledging that the traditional family is no longer a reality for many, and can be an uneasy place for some, there is much good to celebrate in a wider interpretation of 'Family' and the Mothers' Union will be prominent in those celebrations during 1994.

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PROFILE everyone in the congregation could hear my knees knocking. One day I had to take a memorial service for a young girl who had died, and beforehand I was reading out my talk to my husband. I cried every time I read it, and I said that it was no good, I couldn't do it.

And he said :"Who are you doing it for? It's not for you, it's for Helen and God's called you to do it." I've never forgotten that.

But there was a growing sense that God warted me to be more than just a lay person involved occasionally and that He was asking me to really sacrifice something for Him and to be part of his serving heart. It may sound arrogant and I tried very hard to ignore it. I didn't really want to think about sacrificing. By now I was well on my way in my career in aviation, and enjoying quite a free life style and it was hard to contemplate actually putting oneself before the Lord, before a parish, being just part of a serving ministry.

By this stage we had moved down to Wooburn Green near High Wycombe. It was an Anglo-Catholic church and although alien to my tradition, we received much during our time there. Richard, the vicar, encouraged me to test Gods call and I felt surrounded by prayers, support and love.

When I broached the subject to Gordon there wasn't really any discussion, it was yes, that is right, you must go and test the call.

There was no hesitancy either on the part of my sons just sort of "Well, Mum, you've got to do it."

FLYING HIGH VVITH FAITH FOR THE LORD When I was twelve, for some inexplicable reason, I started going to the cathedral in Nairobi by myself.! can remember a great sense of God being very powerful but far removed from me. It was something that kept drawing me back When I came to England to train as an air traffic controller, going to church didn't feature too highly. But when Gordon and I became engaged, even though he wasn't from a Christian home, it seemed very important (again inexplicably) that we should be married in a church.

The crucial point came when Jonathan, our youngest son was born. Two years after Dean arrived, we were told we couldn't have any more children. But a very committed Christian friend of mine lent me a book about the power of prayer. It spoke to me so strongly, that I became convinced that God was not only there but very much interested in me as a person, and for the first time I began to pray in a very simplistic way.

That prayer went on for eight years and as time passed my faith such as it Was, that God would honour this prayer, got stronger. To begin with! was very depressed at the thought of not having another child but as time went on I recall my husband saying to me "You know, it's good to see you getting over it" and! said "Not a bit,! know we're going to have a baby".

"The night Jonathan was born at the John Radcliffe in Oxford ,l gave my life to Christ."

The night Jonathan was born at the John Radcliffe in Oxford, I gave my life to Christ. I had felt felt pretty unwell all over the Christmas of 1975 and eventually went to the doctor. He said: " It's absolutely amazing. You're six months pregnant". So the night Jonathan was born at the John Radcliffe in Oxford I gave my life to Christ because the sense that there was a God who was really interested in our personal lives was just overwhelming.

I started to go to a local church near High Wycombe. We received great encouragement from the vicar and within six months of starting to attend regularly (but still on my own) I began to go to confirmation classes and was confirmed the following year. Then I began to pray in earnest for my husband to become a Christian and after about two years that prayer was also answered.

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4 Ann Bush I had been a very insecure, nervous person, mainly I think because of the uncertainty of my life out in Africa. I was six when the MauMau started. And I was left with some psychological scars from some of the horrors of that. But becoming a Christian brought an inner confidence that there was another in charge. About a year after I was confirmed I began to help in the Sunday school and when the lady who ran it had to give up quite suddenly, the vicar asked if! would take on being the co-ordinator. It was rather scarey but to my amazement I felt confident enough to say yes. With his encouragement I also started to do a Chiltern Christian Training Scheme Bible studies course.

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ORDINATION CANDIDATES

PREPARING TO TEACH THE GOOD NEWS The candidates for the Michaelmas Ordination, which takes place at Christ Church Cathedral on Sunday October 3 at 10.30am, include an unusual number of teachers and scholars.

Professor Michael Screech is a scholar of international standing, Dr Aston is a geology lecturer, Bob Edy taught history, Jane Knowles music and Dee Castle RE, while Richard Smail taught Greek and Latin. The new deacons also include several Readers and a bereavement counsellor. Twelve of the candidates will continue as NSMs (non-stipendiary ministers) in their current jobs, leaving only Tim Perry, Beren Hartless,

Patricia Gillham and Joanna Coney to serve full-time in their parishes. The preacher will be the Revd Canon John Fenton. On the same day at St John, Stratfield Mortimer, the following candidates will be ordained as priests by John, Bishop of Reading: John Cooper (Burghfield) Christopher Lea (Stratfield Mortimer, Mortimer West End with Padworth) Michael Oke (Stratfield Mortimer, Mortimer West End with Padworth) Nigel Sanders (SS Andrew and Mary Magdalene, Maidenhead.

The preacher is the Revd Brian Mountford, vicar of St Mary the Virgin Oxford. And at SS Peter and Paul, Buckingham, Simon,

Right: Tim Perry trained for the ministry at Trinity Theological College in Bristol. He has worked in the 'red light' district of Amsterdam for a Christian organisation amongst drug addicts and prostitutes, and then became a full-time youth worker at St Andrews Church in Oxford. Tim goes as curate to Christ Church, Abingdon.

Right: Veronica Beaumont and her husband John live in High Wycombe and have two daughters Ruth and Clare. Veronica works for Midland Bank as a clerk in the securities department.

Veronica and John are active members of All Saints Church where they ran a youth group for many years before Veronica was licensed as a Reader in 1987.

Left: Richard Smail read Greats at Corpus Christi College, Oxford. Since 1980 he has taught Greek and Latin at Radley College where he was head of department for eight years.

He also coaches cricket and fives. His interests include travelling, cooking, wine and music. He will begin his ministry within Radley College.

Left: Dee Castle trained on the Oxford Ministry Course and is head of RE and head of year 7 at the Clere School in Burghclere where she will serve as school chaplain. She will also be honorary curate of St George the Martyr, Wash Common.

Dee has a daughter and wo grand-daughters and is honorary secretary of Newbury RSPCA.

Above: Anthony Aston Smith read Natural Sciences at Cambridge and did PhD in physical metallurgy.At King's College, London he lectured on materials science. He trained to be a NSM on the OMC and will serve at St Giles and St Philip & St James in Oxford. He enjoys chamber music, singing, hill walking and gardening.

Right: Erik Fudge is Professor of Linguistic Science at Reading University. He has been a Reader for 32 years and is licensed in the parish of St Sebastian, Wokingham. After ordination he will serve as a NSM in the parish and at the University. He is married with three grown-up children.

His interests include classical music and railways.

Right: Jane Knowles trained at the Guildhall School of Music and Drama then taught music, including seven years in a special school. Jane is now co-director of music at the Marist Convent, Sunninghill. She and her husband Ian have two children: Ben and Johanna. Jane will serve as assistant curate in Sandhurst Parish.

Left: Pat Gillham was a Church Army sister in the 1960s. She has served as a stipendiary accredited lay worker in Kintburysince 1989. She is married to Martin, who is vicar of Kintbury. They have two children, Mary (22) and Peter (20)and enjoy walking, local history and photography. Pat will continue to serve in Kintbury.

Left: Alison Caw is from Rhodesia. She taught maths then worked as a computer programmer until her twin daughters, now aged 24, were born. Alison has worked with mentally handicapped adults and is a bereavement counsellor.

She wili serve in the parish of Beacc,nsfiJl and be based at St iiary and All Saints Church.

During the last 20 years both the Oxford Ministry Course and the St Albans Ministerial Training Scheme have presented over 500 people for ordination. It is by building on this tradition that the new course seeks to develop opportunities which will meet the Church's present need.

In today's Church, exciting new patterns of ministry are emerging to meet the changing demands of modern life. Many more ordinands are being accepted for ministry who have already reached senior positions in secular employment, and it is not always possible for them to give up their jobs and go back to college for two or three years. So a new course, developed jointly by the Dioceses of Oxford and St Albans, is emerging as a vital new way of training for ministry.

Canon Vincent Strudwick is the Principal-designate of this new course. "I'm excited", he told The DOOR. "This new course can be taken part-time by people already working in senior positions in industry and the professions without them having to give up the very experiences which make their contribution to ministry so valuable. We can draw on the richness and variety of the universities and colleges, and equally on the life experiences of the candidates themselves, and because we are not having to support the candidates and their families during three years of full-time training, we can save the Church and the candidates a considerable amount of money."

Following the meeting of the July Synod, the Bishops decided to choose two colleges on the advice of the Bishop of Hereford's working group of which Canon Strudwick was a member. The group also recommended 'clusters' of colleges and courses. The new St Albans/ Oxford Course will be part of a cluster with the Oxford theological colleges Wycliffe Hall, Ripon College, Cuddesdon and St Stephen's House.

Because many of the candidates will return to minister in the parishes that have sent them, both laity and clergy have a big stake in ensuring that what is provided is what they need."! want to listen hard in both Dioceses so that we are training to enable ministry to develop; but also training missionaries for every situation in the community and at work; missionaries who will present the comfort and the challenge of the gospel for today's generation," said Canon Strudwick.

The 'new look' Oxford/St Albans course will be launched in September 1994. During 1993/4 the Oxford Ministry Course, which has trained 200 priests and deacons during the last 20 years, will continue as usual, while together with the St Albans staff, our own colleagues prepare to launch the new course in 1994.

If you are thinking about training for the ordained ministry, or would like to comment on the new course, Canon Strudwick would like to hear from you. Why not put your name on the mailing list for information about the course. You can contact Canon Strudwick at Diocesan Church House, North Hinksey, Oxford 0X2 ONB. Telephone 0865244566.

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Right: Joanna Coney will in Summertown and Wolvercote in Oxford. Besides being a teacher and a Reader, she has travelled in the Holy Land and belongs to the Third Order of the Society of St Francis. She has worked in Papua New Guinea and studied psychology with the Open University. She has three children and one grandson. serve

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He has a particular interest in the environmental. Tim will serve at St John and St Stephen, Reading where he and Moira run Climbers Sunday School.

Left: Stephen Coe was educated at St Dunstan's College and Cambridge University. In 1977 he joined The Navigators, the Christue trsining and missionary organisation, working in London, Glasgow and Abingdon. He and Elizabeth have two girls Helen (11) and Laura (10). and will be a NSM at Christ Church, Abingdon.

Above: Bob Edy taught history in Taunton and Evesham before moving to the Henry Box School, Witney where he is now deputy head. With his wife Ruth and daughters Rhoda (17) and Charlotte (8) he is looking forward to working as an honorary curate at St Bartholomew Ducklington.

Bob enjoys golf and spending time with his family.

Bishop of Buckingham will ordain the following: David Addley (St James the Great Claydon with All Saints Mollington) Christopher Clare (St Leonard Chesham Bois) Timothy Ling (Gerrards Cross and Fulmer) Ian Thomas (St Martin Fenny Stratford) Christopher Turner (Hook Norton with St Andrew, Great Rollnght, St Mary Sweford and St Giles Wiggington. The preacher is Canon Mark Fitzwilliams, Rector of Beaconsfield.

Above: Beren Hartless was a Biology to 'A' level teacher. Since then she has been a housewife, bringing up Katie,12 and her sister Claire, 9. Beren is married to Julian, a civil engineer, and is the third generation of her family to serve this Diocese. Beren will serve her title at St John the Evangelist,High Wycombe.

Left: Ann Bush is married to Gordon, with two sons Dean, 25 and Jonathan, 17.

Ann began her career in the aviation industry 28 years ago. She is currently in senior management with an aviation group based in Surrey. She will be ordained NSM and will serve as deacon at St Michael, Warfield.

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Above: Joseph Cotterill attended the Manchester College of Technology and read Chemistry. From 1939 to 1948 he served as a missionary in North China and married a fellow missionary in 1945. On his returnto England he became pastor of a mission church in Kent then worked first with the Atomic Energy Authority and then in 1977 moved to the Scientific Advisory Branch at the Home Office until 1982.

He was licensed as a Reader in 1967 and both he and his wife (who died in 1988) were Readers to Christ Church Abingdon after they moved to the town in 1982. Latterly he has been licenced as Reader to All Saints, Marcham. He trained on the OMC and will be a NSM at Marcham.

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Perhaps it is not so strange that the word vocation has lost favour in our society as the notion of personal freedom to make life-style choices has gained ascendance. After all "a divine call to" or even "a sense of fitness for" does not sit easily alongside the freedom to do what! want, with my life, when I want to.

Today some people choose to opt in and out of bed, in and out of relationships and even in and out of parenting, whilst a body of informed opinion gets increasingly anxious about the long-term effects of this hotchpotch of behaviour and subsequent lack of social cohesiveness. Reports are published to convince us that the breakdown of more traditional family patterns is leading to a variety of ills. We are urged to improve child rearing to prevent delinquency, shown that marital breakdown has an adverse effect on health and that increased mobility prevents the extended family providing a buffer at times of crisis.

Professionals, themselves not immune, urge us to re-think family. Some suggest we glue together old concepts such as love, commitment, care of the young and ports in a storm in ways that do not have oppressive overtones of sacrifice and pain. In other words, let's choose what we like when we like and discard the uncomfortable bits!

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ter, concentrating on the personal rather than any public dimension. Others, realising that it becomes more difficult to paper over cracks in relationships once they gape, are urging primary care teams to nurture people at significant life-changes.

"We'll have the rose without thorns and summer without winter" The fact is that though we can lament, though we can propose new income policies and though

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My own view is that despite those who would have us identify one family shape and prescriptive behavour as "the Christian Family" this is unhelpful.

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"Each individual will be attempting to relate to one another and society in ways compatible with Christ's teaching"

their own experiences and feelings, nothing more. If we are to use this international year creatively it is important that we identify what is actually happening, have some vision about what we wish could happen and consider what practical contributions we can make towards this. No one thing alone is likely to be important but contributions which range from a sensitive understanding of how to nurture children through to adulthood and how to share these insights, the practical provision of credit unions and child-care shops in local community centres to offers of Christian hope, such as the possibility of childhood wounds being healed when two adult partners experience loving positive affirmation from one another, will all have their place.

Bit when auld-lang-syne rings out at the end of 1994 men and women will still only be prepared to commit themselves to the way of life that they want.

So let us end where we began. If we consider that it is part of God's plan for our well-being that humans should be familied, let us pray that many will receive a vocation to be a Mum or Dad, a daughter, aunt, son, uncle, sister, godparent, putting their heart and soul into it and so be prepared for the sacrifices as well as the enormous potential " satisfaction and the benefits that accrue for society in general.

Jeanne Wesson Mrs Wesson is married to the RectorofStMartin-in-theBullring, Birmingham and is chairman of the Youth and Community Centre there

Households of believers may be the nearest we can come to a notion of Christian family and, since under our Western legal in-law system some individuals relate to more than one household, these households intertwine like Olympic rings.

Sadly, some church members seem to think that all families behave like the ones in their own neighbourhood. They get bored by statistics and trends and approach the topic with only

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WHO WINS WHEN THE CHURCH GOES TO COURT? On one level it is rather amusing to discover that the Diocesan Chancellor and Registrar are on opposite sides in the action brought by the Church Society against the archbishops and general synod (September DOOR).

But at a deeper level I am angry. This kind of litigation is fine for the lawyers - it will line their pockets very nicely. But who ultimately foots the bill?

We, the ordinary members of the Church. Frankly, I don't want my money spent on splitting ecclesiastical hairs when the Church has far more pressing needs to address. What, I ask, does Jesus ask of us?

We Anglicans have synodical government as a sincere, albeit clumsy and imperfect attempt to involve the whole People of God in decision-making. So, when general synod decided, by a substantial majority and after much thought and prayer, to permit the priesting of women, then we should accept it, whether we like it or not. Those who are pouring large amounts of time and money into seeking to delay or overturn the legislation, or to modify it beyond recognition, are not only damaging the Church of England, but are also squandering the means we have been given to bring Christ to the world.

Personally, the people I respect and admire most at this time are those who are unhappy (and some are profoundly so) at the prospect of women priests, but who remain loyal members of the Church of England accepting synod's decision. They are quietly getting on with loving and serving the Lord and their fellow human beings. But we don't hear about them because they will not hurt the Church.

Revd Catherine Dyer Wokingham

Parish Share Mark Roach, in his letter 'Ethical Investments' published in the September issue of The DOOR reports that he has been asked the reasons why the parish share appears to be rising "at twice the rate of inflation". How I wish that this figure were true!

The figures included with the draft diocesan revenue budget for 1994 published six weeks ago show that in 1993 the Diocese needs £6,809,000 from parishes compared with £5,912,000 actually collected through the parish share in 1992.

This is an increase of 15.2 per cent. Inflation so far this year

has been running at well below 1.5 per cent. Thus my arithmetic suggest that, far from rising at twice the rate of inflation, the parish share is èurrently increasing at well over ten times the rate of inflation!

Mr Roach points out that 5.11 per cent of the increase results from a reduced allocation to the Diocese by the Church Commissioners "because of the effects of the recession". Let's not mince words, Mr Roach; the report by the eminent accountants Coopers & Lybrand commissioned by the Archbishop of Canterbury attributes the loss of over a quarter of the Church's assets by the Commissioners not to the recession but, and I quote, to "naive investment policy and incompetent administration". In fact, as Mr Roach points out, over the same recessionary period, the Diocese increased the value of its investments by 27 per cent and could have increased it by 32 per cent. There is no reason why the Church Commissioners couldn't have done the same thing so, please don't let us have any more excuses for them being hard hit by the recession!

However, even accepting the 5.11 per cent increase in parish share due to the mismanagement of the Church Commissioners, this still leaves a far greater proportion of the total increase - over 10 per cent which is not due to the Commissioners!

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Open Churches These days more and more churches seem to be in danger of being closed during the week despite the hankering after beauty, history and spiritualhelp by so many people.

Recently I took an hour off to drive round my neighbourhood, stopping at the four churches I passed. To my joy they were all open. Each one was being visited by holiday makers.

The parable of the talents tells us of the danger of hiding the talent for safety instead of making good use of it. Are we not in danger of becoming like that servant by shutting so many church doors to those who seek help and comfort and at least a few moments of peace?

Margaret Dickinson Marlow

House in Order?

• A Church of England secondary school whose head teacher is not a Christian.

• A Bishop who denies the Resurrection.

• A priest who denies God, but still takes services and is responsible for a parish.

How has the Church of England the arrogance to talk of an Age of Evangelism when it cannot keep its own house in order?

I feel that the parable of the house built on sand has a terrible relevance to all this.

Geoffrey Wilkinson Hun gerford

During July and August I exchanged churches, houses and cats with Clark Lowenfield, Rector of the Holy Communion Church in Charleston, South Carolina, USA. I also ministered in Trinity Episcopal Church, Myrtle Beach and attended the Church of the Advent in Boston.

It turns out that both Clark and I gained a great deal.

I was very proud of the way the people of Headington Quarry took the Lowenfield family to their hearts and equally we were wonderfully received and entertained over there.

Alison and I ac companied by our fourth daughter, Hannah, decided we would say yes to every invitation. We can give you a good rundown on the restaurants of Charleston!

We also entered the life of the parish, attending groups and healing services and talking to Father Clark's staff. The American ministry is differently based.

They live in a market-place ambience.The very big churches, Baptist and Presbyterian, set the style of the enormous premises and large staffs.

The Epsicopal Church cannot but be conscious of this and will frequently employ a staff of priest, associate priest, one or

two secretaries, youth minister, musician, education officer, pastoral co-ordinator and others too in the big churches. I spent over an hour talking to the excellent pastoral co-ordinator of Father Clark's church. The membership and the budget are obviously big items as each church is totally selfsufficient.

I also spent with time Bishop Ed Salmon whose offices were round the corner. Bearing in mind the steep financial gradients we are all going to have to climb in this country, I met with their Diocesan Stewardship Officer, Howard Peckenpaugh. Americans are very up front about money and we have a lot to learn from them over here.

So it was a formative time for me and impossible without the substantial grants I received which enabled the three of us to go, for which we are very grateful. I recommend the experience.

Christopher Hewetson Canon Christopher Hewetson (pictured with his wife Alison) is Priest in Charge ofHeadington Quarry, Oxford and Diocesan Vocations Officer.

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Over the last year, the Working Party has been trying to take account of a huge volume of facts and analyses, and we have been consulting with other organisations and denominations working on these issues. We have also sent out well over 15,000 leaflets to churches across the country, asking people their views about families, and including study material for groups.

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The response has been very enthusiastic, and we have had to print another 10,000 leaflets. Many dioceses inluding our own, are focussing on family issues during 1993/4, and have wanted to link in with our work. Fortunately, a retired civil servant is helping to put all the responses together!

Members of the working party have also done papers on their 'specialist subjects'. For example Stephen Barton's paper on the 'Theology of the Family' appeared in Crucible, BSR's quarterly magazine, and brought dozens of thoughtful replies. I have been sharing some of my work on Christian family values with the working party - my book about this should be published next year.

The working party is aware that many people are looking to the Church to give some clear guidelines about family life, and to hold out a vision for a troubled society. Whether the Church's role is to take a firm moral stand, or to give pastioral care to people

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He always goes ahead of me When I was younger I used to impress my friends by telling them I had seven grandparents and two birthdays each year. I definitely saw the advantages in my parents having divorced and remarried.

As I grew older! considered what it would be like to have just one family as it were, I wondered if I'd be different. I also wondered what it was like to have a family who were all Christians.

As if two families weren't enough I began to feel that when going to church I was seeing yet another family. I felt comfortable there, and still do. I like the atmosphere.

On reflection, perhaps it's better that only my mother and I are Christians. It means I never feel I can stop being a Christian for an evening or so. That sounds negative but it also means that! know God is there for me personally.

I feel it's my place to keep my faith strong as a witness to others but by the same token I know God is with me wherever I go.

Now I am a Christian, as long as lam willing, I feel that I'm never alone. God is always there to go through the door first.

Being a Christian also provides a constant in my life. Whereas before Ifound it hard adjusting to being a big sister for a weekend and fitting into another family, now if I concentrate on being a Christian, I don't have to worry about how to act. Similarly, when coming home after visiting my Dad, I can now rely on God to smooth the change of place and routine.

Joëlle Kirby-Turner Joëlle is a sixth fomer at Lord Williams's School, Thame.

Church-going has been a regular part of our lives. It fits into a busy family life that revolves around work, home and hobbies. It provides us with friends and the opportunity to get together for services, Sunday school and social events. From church we also get support through the liturgy. It gives us a focus for our thoughts and makes us realise that we can cope with anything life throws at us.

Our beliefs also help us to tolerate and forgive others. We try to teach our three children to be aware of other people and to understand how what they do affects others. Being a family connected to the church also helps us to participate in and give back something to the community through such activities as harvest festival distribution and church bazaars. We also run a small children's service once a month which is taken by mothers and children. This encourages confidence and commitment.

For us church offers a time for togetherness as a family and a point on which we can focus regularly in an otherwise very busy life.

Greg and Rebecca Smith.

Greg and Rebecca live in Long Crendon with Sam(9), Amy (6) and Henny (4).

Home with an open door The brokeness of family life is a part of our life. Our fostering career began nearly twenty years ago at a time when children were placed all too quickly in longterm foster homes.

My own fostering 'career' began as a child placed in a long term foster home. Coming from a background of broken family relationships and time spent in residential care I have a deep commitment to the need for children to remain where possible within their natural family. If it becomes necessary for a child to become a

part of our family then we also accept the child's natural family in the hope they may be re-united or, if that is not possible, to work with the pain of letting go. You can take the child out of the family but you cannot take the family out of the child.

We have two sons of our own who have known no family life other than the one with an open door. It has not always'been easy for them adjusting to each change within the family as children of all ages come and go with their own hurts.

When we speak of the family this must also include the wider family of our church where we receive care and support. To

know it is not possible to take away the pain of loss which comes through the rejection felt in broken relationships can be hard for foster carers to accept, yet the knowledge that the wounded Christ is present in the brokeness of these children's lives gives us the confidence to remain alongside them and perhaps begin the healing process.

Sue Smith To enable us to continue fostering over a long period of time we are members of a foster carers support group, gaining insight through sharing each other's experiences. As foster carers we are sharing the life of someone else's child. To do this means sharing toys, time, friends, attention and of course the extra work involved in the addition of another member to the family. All of this can and does lead to tensions within the home.

The joy received in exchange for this are the whispered words at bedtime from the foster child "can I have a cuddle".

David Smith Sue and David are members of St Michael's Church, Wolvercote with Summertown, Oxford.

Our God is o Seco From a very early age, my only concern as someone to marry. I was excessively worried me attractive; I also lived in a remote village w: I left home for the first time aged 18 to go to was unprepared for all the changes. Even tho adult for the first time in my life, I was not appreciate my-independence, so I said 'yes' t along and said he wanted a 'permanent girlfr I would never get a second chance.

I remember that when he said we ought to liv in an empty church - they were always empty through the marriage service. I could find n respond but I did know I did not want to lost We were together for 10 years and had a dau she was five. Iwent through 10 years of utter li husband and felt for the first time in my life th race. I still find it difficult to believe it rei married in my local church which was a won marriage had been in a registry office with nc no presents.)

My husband is not a Christian (yet) but he he meant what he said in church - to love me and, keep me in sickness and in health, forsal we both shall live.

To me God is the God of second chances.] just begun and each day is an adventure as I faith, more about my purpo.;e in life, but mos of having a husband who loves me and intenc as long as we both shall live.

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whatever their situation - or to try and put these two together, is a question we are still discussing. Our final report is due in 1995.

Whatever it says, it will be built on the prayers and thoughtful discussions not only of ourselves and the 'specialists' we talk to, but a mass of Christian people who are living daily with family issues. The vision we offer should be both true to the Gospel, and relevant enough to make a difference.

Copies of the consultation leaflet are available from Alison Webster, BSR, Church House, Great Smith Street, London SW11? 3NZ. Telephone: 071 222 9233. Contributions towards postage are asked for bulk orders. The deadline for replies is now December 31, 1993.

Anne Borrowdale Dr Anne Borrowdale is Diocesan Social Responsibility Officer and a member of the General Synod Working Party on the Family.

1994 is the Year of the Family. But is the traditional family (see left) a thing of the past?

Here, Christians tell how their faith has helped them in their different family situations

Coping with singleness Some people are single through choice others through circumstance. Some have lost a partner through death, others through family break-up. But into whatever category we fall, we need to see it in a Christian context.

Looking back! see my singleness has been a gift from God bringing fulfilment, friendship and a relationship of love and dependency on Him for all I have needed.

Nepal did have a few 'holy women' who had devoted their lives to serving their god. However marriage was the norm and on Indian trains I was always bombarded with questions like "how many children do you have, where is your husband?" but my explanations rarely satisfied them.

One of the plusses for me has been the confidence to follow God's call in serving those suffering from leprosy over many years with the blessing of my church and widowed mother. The freedom from family responsibilities made that easier.

I see'loneliness' as being alone with oneself. So we need to turn that into 'solitude' which is being

Faith sees us through I have four children now in their twenties but I have always worked full-time. Because of my husband's work we moved often and I changed fields a number of time. I started out as a secretary and then changed to nursing before coming back to office work and then going on to teach. I taught for over 13 years when the children were small because I knew I could be home with them in the holidays. I now work with Crossroads, a voluntary organisation providing respite care for carers of all age groups in the Slough District.

It's very difficult to have a family and a full time job although my mother helped us a lot and my husband was very supportive. Being Christians has also helped us to cope. We don't take problems very seriously. In other words we believe that every problem can be solved not by our own power but by the will of God.

Celia Cleeve Celia is married to the Vicar of Christ the Worker Church, Langley, Slough.

Besides working for Crossroads, she is doing an Open University degree.

is a God id chances nly concern and ambition was to find ssively worried that nobody would find emote village with no social life, so when ged 18 to go to university in a big city I Inges. Even though I was treated like an life, I was not experienced enough to so I said 'yes' to the first man who came ermanent girlfriend', because I thought Lance. we ought to live together I went to think always empty in those days - and I read I could find no clues on how I should ot want to lose him. s and had a daughter. We divorced when )years of utter hell until met my present me in my life that I had joined the human ) believe it really happened. We were rich was a wonderful blessing. (My first ' office with no guests, no reception and ian (yet) but he keeps reminding me that ch - to love me, comfort me, honour me n health, forsaking all others, as long as cond chances. I feel as if my life has only adventure as I discover more about my in life, but most of all more about the joy me and intends to remain faithful to me

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"I left my husband in May due to domestic violence and now I live in a refuge. Elliot, my little boy, is 19 months old. Twice a week he and I come to the SPHere day centre playgroup.

The refuge is nice, comfortable and safe. At the moment I think of it as home. I can't make plans for the future. The worst thing is other people control my life - some judge, the council, the DHSS. I didn't get to make any decisions about me or my child.

I'm very proud Elliot is my son. He's wonderful and I want him to grow up with a good moral education. I want to be a good role model for him too.

It's hard on my own. You are wrong to be a single parent and wrong to be married to a violent husband. But unless you see the situation coining there is nothing you can do about it.

I believe in God. I used to go to a Bible study group and I liked it.

When I left him, I only took three carrier bags with me and my Bible was in one of them. But God is so far down the list of priorities. You need time to think about Him and when you are a single parent you only have time to think about things like being upset."

Sasha

alone with God. As we spend time in His presence meditating on His word, He speaks, giving direction and sometimes correction too. For me this has brought security and the opportunity to widen my horizons through reaching out to others.

Often single people do feel locked into situations where there is family need and they seem to be the only ones free to take care of it. I didn't find it easy to relinquish what I was doing to be at home for several years looking after my elderly mother. But the Lord was gracious to me and sent me help when Ineeded it and lam left with good memories.

Now I am retired and in the words of Elizabeth Elliot: "I do not know the plans for years to come, My spirit finds in Thee its perfect home, Sufficiency.

Lord, all my desire is before Thee now, Lead on, no matter where, no matter how I trust in Thee."

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Granny to the rescue Rachael started school in September! Nearly five years ago, we were waiting for our first two grandchildren to be born, one on the Isle of Wight and one here in Oxford. They came within two days of one another, two beautiful girls, Hannah and Rachael. Of course, we visited them both as soon as we could and felt so pleased and proud. Little did I think that I was going to be so closely involved with Rachael's first years.

Her mother went back to work leaving Rachael with a childminder but when she was about a year old, my daughter-inlaw came to me and broached the subject of my having Rachael.

They wanted her to be with the family, and after all it was only for two days a week!

Shortly, it became necessary for Deb to take full-time work and of course it depended on my co-operation. As a Christian and a member of the Mothers' Union, my belief in the integrity of the family was paramount and I saw that this was a way I could hold the family together. Joshua, Rachael's brother, arrived nearly two years later and, of course, he came to me as well.

I have loved the last four years.

There were times when they drove me mad but the pleasures far outweigh those moments and there was a real hole in my life in September. Joshua and l still trot along to mid-week Communion and do the flowers and put the magazine together and see 'our ladies' at MU meetings, and! can only hope that some of the Christian values he and Rachael have met have rubbed off on them for the future.

Joy Brown Joy is a member of Botley, Oxford Mothers' Union.

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Reflections on Relate One of the reasons why the former Marriage Guidance Council changed its name to Relate five years ago was to confront the myth that counsellors were there to 'guide' clients to a particular resolution of their difficulties. It is not the job of a professional counsellor to tell clients what to do.

As you may have heard through the media, Relate have recently produced a video about divorce. As I was involved both in the production and the launching of the video it seems appropriate to explain what is involved in being a professional marital counsellor as well as a Church of England Reader and Franciscan Tertiary.

Many clients come to Relate knowing that they want help with their marriages; others come for help with the management of their separation and divorce, seeking to limit the amount of long-term damage to themselves and their families; others come with conflicting wishes: one wants to stay in the marriage, the other wants it to end. In this case the task of the counsellor is to hold the dilemma while exploring with the clients the present and past causes of conflict. After a while, one of two things usually happens: the one determined to leave the marriage, goes, while the remaining partner may or may not accept the invitation for continuing, supportive counselling while experiencing feelings similar to those of bereavement; if, on the other hand, the one talking about leaving is expressing despair about the relationship, the counselling may enable real change and the marriage is

given another chance.

Relate does not encourage divorce. Relate does encourage honesty in relationships, the wish to gain insight into our own behaviour in relationships and the wish to change patterns of behaviour which may once have had their function, perhaps as a matter of survival, but

which are now experienced as destructive.

There is an enormous amount known about the practice of making relationships work. Relate has recently published several handbooks written by Sarah Litvinoff. I am committed to education work which seeks to make that knowledge available to everyone. So what helps? The following are a few suggestions: a willingness to listen; an expectation that there is something to learn from every encounter; waiting for the appropriate moment if we need to say something painful to someone we love; a refusal to gossip or to listen to gOssip; the courage to face the realisation that we regularly hurt those close to us; a willingness to say sorry; a readiness to forgive those who want to make it up after hurting us.

How does prayer help? It is not my practice to pray with clients. It is my practice to bring

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all those I see into my own prayers. As a Fransiscan, I value the regular prayer of the Community of St Clare in Freeland and feel upheld by them. Prayer gives me the courage to challenge persecution and cruelty, while remembering that the perpetrators are themselves former victims of the same. Prayer reminds me to look at myself, my own part in causing pain and being judgemental. Prayer reminds me that I can only be a channel for the development of others. Asa parent of teenagers, I know what it costs to let go of them into a dangerous world.

As a divorcee, I stand as one who has failed to make a marriage last 'til death do us part'. I know that this informs my wish to understand what goes on in relationships and help others to equip themselves for a lasting commitment.

I do believe that Christian communities have a role in supporting the family, but they need to think carefully about how they best fulfil it. Sanctimonious righteousness will continue to driveaway those struggling to make sense of their lives. Anyone could try to develop the core conditions of the counselling setting: warmth, unconditional acceptance and genuineness. The rest can be left to God. Anne Holmes Anne Holmes has worked as a Relate Counsellor for seven years. She is Director of the Oxford Pastoral CounsellingService. The nextOPCS workshop on October 23, will be led

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How the Diocesan Council for Social Work helps families 1994 is the 'Year of the Family', and the Oxford Diocesan Council for Social Work, as one of its basic tenets, is helping to promote family life. This is done in two ways, firstly through the Adoption Service and secondly by helping homeless unsupported parents to gain confidence, independence and, hopefully stability in their role as sole provider for their children. Although the work of the Council has been going on for many years, the current focus enables the agency to update readers of The DOOR on what is being done at this time.

Working hand in hand with local deanery associations we are able to offer help to young women throughout the Diocese. In Slough, five women and their babies are currently living in one house; a second house is being refurbished. In Windsor and Maidenhead, two houses can accommodate seven residents. Here we have links with the Toynbee Housing Association to provide 'move-on' housing. In Bracknell and Wokingham there are a further two houses with three residents in each; and in Oxford there is one house with six residents. The house in Amersham has recently closed because of lack of applicants but there are plans underway to consider a house in Milton Keynes, and we have had requests from the Newbury area. The average age of the residents is eighteen.

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Another project which has been made possible thanks to the generous donations of wellwishers is an educational fund which helps unsupported parents undertake vocational training and achieve financial (and emotional) independence. So far the fund has made grants available to those retaking 'A' levels, studying at the Open University, training to be playgroup leaders, or attending adult literacy classes.

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The Scottish Churches' Industrial Mission is to be congratulated in commissioning this book as a sequel to New Patterns of Work. Both are bold attempts to address the challenges we face as work and employment go through irretrievable upheaval.

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FEATURE

TIME TO FACE THE TRUTH ABOUT HALLOWEEN?

'Fanning the FLAME It is a weekday evening and a group of people are listening to a tape about 'parenting'. They have joined a course led by a member of the Oxford Diocese FLAME Group. They are all parents - some couples, some who have come on their own who benefit from sharing their worries: about the toddler's tantrums, the 9 year old accused of stealing, the teenager who comes in late. But they are also discovering that they can acquire practical skills to enable them to cope. The course is helping them to see parenting as a creative job that they can learn to do better.

A clergyman is feeling dissatisfied with his customary way of preparing couples for marriage. He suspects that in his busy ministry he does not give adequate time to thinking out what would really be most helpful to couples today. The Diocesan Office gives him a printout of FLAME's list (frequently updated) of resources: books, tapes, courses, experienced peo-

ple and also a 'flier' about the next Day Conference, entitled 'Celebrating Marriage', organised by FLAME (in co-operation with one of the Diocesan Training Schemes), aiming to provide stimulus and ideas for all (clergy and lay) who are involved in marriage preparation.

FLAME is a national organisation working through the Dioceses of the Church of England.

In this Diocese we have a FLAME Group, of 10 hardworking volunteers, with valued help from the Social Responsibility Officer, Dr Anne Borrowdale. We are concentrating our effort on marriage preparation and training support for parents. We work in three ways: by 'networking' (co-operating with other groups with similar aims); by responding to requests (providing a course here or giving advice to a parish there); and finally by initiating various educational projects. By joining it, as an individual or as a parish for a modest subscription, you

Do we want our children drawn into this profoundly evil festival asks Richard Miller

will receive a regular mailing and invitations to national events.

Your parish is probably already doing good things to give families the support of the Church. I hope that some of these will be shared when the subject of The Family is debated in the Diocesan Synod in November. There may be help which the Oxford Diocesan FLAME group can give you, or you may have ideas for new ways in which FLAME might work? As chairman of the FLAME Group, I would be glad to hear of your experience and your suggestions.

Penny Nairne

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The DOOR factsheet

Family Life is on the agenda of the Diocesan General Synod. There will be a debate sponsored by the FLAME group of the Board for Social Responsibility which it is hoped will be wide ranging and cover such topics as whether the family is in crisis, the Church's contribution to social policies and the Diocese's contribution to the International Year of the Family.

The motion put before Diocesan Synod will urge every Deanery togive attention to the subject of families' during 1994. Deaneries may like to start planning b3 putting this on their agendas in the hope that the motion will be carried. Berkshire Churches Together have already decided to focus on work with families in J993f4.

The Oxford Diocesan Council for Social Work, the NSPCC and the Oxfordshire Family Conciliation Service are just three of the organisations which exist to provide help and information. Parents, children, step-families, single parents and divorced fathers are some of the people who can find support with organisations which are specially tailored to their needs.

A complete list of these organisations with addresses and telephone numbers is available from The DOOR. Write, enclosing an SAE, to: Families Factsheet, The DOOR, Diocesan Church House, North Hinksey, Oxford OX2 ONB.

Any research of Halloween will make it quickly clear that its origins go right back to Britain's druidic and pagan past before the Romans came. It was the time when the druids held their great autumn festival, lighting fires in honour of the Sun god in thanksgiving for the harvest. On the eve of this festival, Saman (or Samhain), lord of death, called together wicked souls. Bonfires were also lit to frighten away evil spirits. Sometimes even human sacrifices were offered to appease supernatural powers that controlled the natural processes.

Continuing unabated through the centuries from these roots, witchcraft and satanism have used this festival as the highlight of the occult year, working in direct conflict with Jesus and the Kingdom of Heaven. In order to give Halloween a veneer of respectability, parties, dressing up and 'tricking or treating' have been introduced. But do we really want our children involved in this? Do we want to encourage them to be playing games with the lord of death and his demonic hordes. So many are drawn innocently into this profoundly evil and spiritually dangerous festival. Every Christian denomination recognises the existence of demons and Satan, and the Church of England appoints diocesan exorcists to set people free from these powers; not ignoring them but

actually combating them.

Jesus came with good news and hope to "destroy the devil's work" (1 John 3:8). We should oppose Halloween because it is a celebration of evil, but we need to wear the Heavenly Armour, which God has provided for our protection (Ephesians 6). The day after Halloween is All Saint's Day, November 1.

That is a completely different matter.

Let us arrange our children's and adults') parties then, encouraging them to dress up and rejoice over the generations of faithful Christians who have lived before us. The opportunity may arise to help youngesters realise that Jesus is the light of the world. We must prayerfully carefully consider. how we resent Him as their Saviour and Friend, King of kings and Lord of lords, Ruler of the Kingdom that will never

pass away or be destroyed. I have found the leaflets produced by the Christian Publicity Organisation most helpful. They are ideal for distributing among school teachers and some are particularly suitable for children.

When the local paper mentions Halloween, why not write to the editor, sending a leaflet? Why not give a leaflet to your youth leaders and church workers, so that united we understand the truth and enjoy the good things which Jesus has made available to us.

Richard Miller The Revd Richard Miller is Vicar of Aldermaston. The illustration above is taken from the CPO leaflet 'Halloween Party Time?'

The address for leaflets is: The Christian Publicity Organisation (CPO), Garcia Estate, Canterbury Road, Worthing, West Sussex BN13 lB. Telephone: 0903 264556 Fax: 0903 830066.

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Recently, of course, the state of the nation's economy has made this a tougher decision for parents to take, but with uncertainties and constantly changing landscape of the National Curriculum, and the individual child's educational career at stake, it is one that continues to be taken, despite having to pay twice, once in taxes to the Government and then obviously in fees to the school selected.

Why do people do it, is a natural question. The answer is always a composite one, particular emphasis varying family by family. The key elements of the National Curriculum are no big deal for independent schools.

They have had ordered curricula for years; have reported to parents not once a year but at the end of every term; have had their internal assessments not just now and then at certain ages but usually twice a year, more often in some schools.

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But even all that is not the whole story, for the independent schools have traditionally laid a heavy emphasis on the character of their pupils when they leave. The difference between right and wrong is no revamped buzz phrase but has always been part of the core curriculum. Is the child honest, or not?

Is he or she kind, sensitive to the needs of others, or totally selfish? Is the sense of humour wholesome or downright smutty? Have they learnt to operate within a 'team' framework, have they developed a capacity to accept responsibility? Can they conduct themselves effectively on a public platform?

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bMk * Children's Church Hello Everyone!

TAIZE.' TREAT FOR OXFORD PARTY Reporting from Taiié: Bishop Richard and some of the 44 young people from Oxford, Newbury and Slough who enjoyed a week with the Taizé community last August.

October already - summer holidays have come and gone and Christmas is too far ahead to think about. But is it?

If you belong to a Junior Church group or Sunday School it's more than likely that you are already planning for your church's Christmas fair, bazaar or market. I know we are.

Maybe you are helping to run a stall to help raise urgent funds for your parish.

Fund raising can be great fun, can't it, especially if you can make articles for sale which catch the customers. With this in mind I thought you would like a few ideas to try out.

Pet Stones

To make these you need big pebbles about as big as your fist, the smoother the better, Wash and dry them and paint on your designs. If you are a little unsure you can draw them in first.

Readimix paint - like you probably use at school - works well

Above:Leaving Church House.

Right :Nallygetsan impromptu shower!Photos rightand below byAbiLee "We have found that nothing is more beautiful nor greater than the deep understanding of one another and most importantly, that God is love and nothing can reach above it - Taizé will change your life." Rachel Mélières and Mark Frost.

"Taizé is a place of contrasts which for someone who is visiting for the first time can be overwhelming as well as very inviting. Living in a community like this means that your days are structured and full of activity and yet in all there is an underlying peace because of the emphasis on a personal relationship with God. The true impact of Taizé is only

Above: inside the church. Below left: Taizé chants. Below right: Jenny andLouisa on the campsite realised after arriving home from a brilliant week away, as it is here you must begin to live out all that you have learnt, making it a reality rather than a memory". JaneAmnerand Abi Lee. "After last year's Taizé Pilgrimage with the Archbishop of Canterbury, I was very much looking forward to this year's trip. I feel that I certainly benefitted from the smaller size of the group this year, and I enjoyed the fellowship that we shared together, with the Bishop and his wife, and with people from all over the world." Stephen Hearn.

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ithough most paints are alright. If you use a water-based paint you will need to varnish over this once it is dry. Remember to wait for the first coat to dry before you paint in details or you will get a gungey mess! These 'pets' make good paper weights orjust keepsake. I heard of one person who chalks the number of pints of milk she needs each day under her pet and sits him on the doorstep.

Little house matchboxes

With lots of candles to light at Christmas-time, you could make 'little house matchboxes' (Make sure you have your parent's permission). Any size matchbox will do but the small every-day size is probably best. Remove the tray of matches and put it to one side (so that little brothers and sisters can help without touching '. the matches!). From scraps c of felt cut two pieces to cover over the front and back of the label. Using any glue which will stick fabric, stick these in place. With thin card cut a little roof and cover MAtc* 09—iV"0- this with another piece of ItJVII.J,J,4r lb IfAft felt. Cut out tiny windows Ike.. and doors and stick these in i-k. bbt+orA "kOU$e" U-b'tOUQ.re4 place. Top with your roof DY. I1Q.V*b)II{ 13€.and asmall chimney. If you ,'owker.. 10 Shikriilt have time you can mark in t-I'€. M"Cke.S. climbing roses or rows of flowers with fibre-tipped pens. When all is dry slide in the tray of matches. When the matches are all used up you can use these houses to make model villages.

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Tue 2 OXFORD Bring and buy sale for Church Missionary Society at St Andrews Church, Linton Road. 1030am12pm.

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Sat 6 OXFORD Christ Church Cathdral.

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For girls who need a Home from ho . e The name of the Girls Friendly Society suggests an old-fashioned institution, founded (as indeed it was) in the Victorian age, and not much changed since then - which it most definitely has. Today, as well as providing hostels for homeless women and girls, the GFS offers Christian-based activities for young girls, and also employs women industrial chaplains like Jo Saunders in Slough and Barbara Hayes in Cowley who play an important role in helping people find a way of reconciling family and work concerns.

Jo Saunders says that an understanding of the issues facing women at work is an important aspect of the work, especially when it comes to helping women gain the necessary confidence to seek work or train for employment.

Barbara Hayes is also particularly concerned with the pressures women face: "As a GFS Chaplain I have a particular concern for women and work. Things like the abolition of wages councils and changes in Sunday trading laws have a particular effect on women," she says.

"The wages councils protected 2.5 million workers, the majority of whom were women who make up the majority of hourly-paid staff in retail. Too often women are in part-time, low-paid jobs with few employment rights. Even women in full-time employment on average receive only 75 per cent of the average male wage for fulltime work. Yet, no matter how small women's incomes are they

are vital contributions to family finance. These issues are important if we claim to have a pastoral concern for people and to believe injustice."

A place of refuge GFS housing schemes offer safe accommodation for young women who cannot live at home and who are looking for work.

In some parts of the country, the organisation also provides help for young .single mothers.

Townsend House in Reading opened in September 1988 and provides accommodation for about 40 single women between the age of 16 and 30. It does not cater for women with children.

Each resident shares a bathroom, kitchen and toilet but have to provide their own crockery and kitchen utensils. There is a communal lounge and laundry facilities and the house is furnished and heated throughout. Residents pay rent of ÂŁ48.71 per week. Staff are on hand to offer advice about housing benefit and other services the women may be entitled to, and Cleo Lee, the local GFS Youth and Community Worker, calls in regularly.

Residents are not expected to stay longer than two years in the scheme.

Playing and praying Another aspect of the GFS is the parish-based branch, such as the one in Long Whittenham, where girls aged seven to 15 are encouraged to be self-reliant through games, crafts, community work and spiritual teaching.

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June Whitehead (seated centre) runs Long Whittenham GFS With her are Diana Wright, Margaret Bishop and GFS members taken over as the group's leader: "We are the only GFS branch on the Oxford area. We did once manage to get 24 girls into cars and onto the train to a meeting in Francis Street near Victoria,just to let the girls see it was not only a village organisation.

"It was started in the village 70 years ago, lapsed for a while and was restarted in the 50s by Mrs Marjorie Edwards. She reintroduced the May Day crowning and May Pole dancing in the 'Plough' garden - it's a delight to see and well-attended by villagers. Posies are taken to the sick and elderly afterwards.

"Eighteen months ago Mrs Edwards retired after 30 years and I carried on the work. Two other people help me: Diana Wright, who runs a group of musicians, and Margaret Bishop who helps with whatever is required. We try to keep to the GFS principles of learning, playing and prayer. As the prayer says, "Help us to bear one another's ,, burdens".

The girls meet after school at 3pm in the Village Hall. They have a drink and biscuits, then a game and an activity, usually craft-based. We have writing days and more thoughtful sessions. We plan and present a church service each year and the girls put on an annual entertainment for old folk and their own families. When we have services GFS girls play record-

ers, flute and violin for the musical accompaniment. Each year we present the 'Talbot' award to one or two girls who have shown special attributes to others."

A stitch in time The 118-year old Society is now facing financial difficulties and needs to raise ÂŁ50,000.

Fundraising efforts include the knitting of the world's longest scarf - the current record is 20 miles 13 feet. Lengths can be sent to the Society at 126 Queens Gate, London SW7 5L. After the competition, the sections will be made into blankets and sent overseas.

I hope our Diocesan Bishop will excuse me if! allude to his article in the national press at the end of July about William Wilberforce, which readers of The DOOR may not otherwise have seen.

One of the more positive aspects of liturgical revision in the Church of England has been the addition of modern 'saints to the calendar. Amongst them are teachers, social reformers, evangelists, mystics, missionaries, parish priests and bishops - and one politician, William Wilberforce, Member for Hull from 1784 to 1825. He was of an evangelical persuasion and had many claims to fame, but the most striking and influential achievement was his campaign against the slave trade in our dominions, which culminated in its abolition by an Act of Parliament in 1807, Here indeed was a Christian politician prepared to take on the vested interest ofthe slave-owners, fierce apposition in Parliament itself, and the whole apparatus of political expediency. At this distance in time it is easy to overlook this amazing achievement which overturned world opinion over many centuries, which had accepted slavery as part of the natural order. William Wilberforce remains an example to practising Christians in the Lords and the Commons who struggle often against heavy odds, to maintain their witness and seek to influence legislation in a positive Christian direction.

Pray for your MP regularly and make July 29 on which Wilberforce is celebrated a special day in the Church calendar.

He did more than any other world figure to influence the society in which we now live by unremitting and sacrificial effort on behalf of a 'neglected' underclass.

I end with a quotation from the Bishop's article in The Times (July 31) "Wilberforce knew that his intense personal conviction also needed political expression Slavery was an affront to human beings made in the image of God. and for whom Christ had died."

After a summer of somewhat dubious political mayhem, take comfort from the example of the honourable member for Hull.

Stuart Blanch Lord Blanch is the former.4 rchbis/iop of York and author of many books.

DOOR STOP Bishop Winston Ndungane of our companion diocese of Kimberley & Kuruman in South Africa, urgently requires a new Diocesan Secretary/Treasurer to begin work January 1994 for three to five years.

Accommodation is provided, and some funding would come from the Bishop of Oxford's Outreach Fund. A retired businessman or clergyman with good human relation skills would be ideal. For details ring Martin Gorick on 0865 244566.

Who's Who in the Diocese THE BISHOP OF OXFORD The Right Revd Richard Harries, Diocesan Church House, North Hinksey, Oxford 0X2 ONB. Tel: 0865 244566.

AREA BISHOPS AND ARCHDEACONS Berkshire Bishop of Reading; The Right Revd John Bone, Greenbanks, Old Bath Road, Sonning, Reading RG1 OSY. Tel: 0734 692187.

Archdeacon: The Venerable Michael Hill, Foxglove House, Love Lane,Donnington, Newbury RGI3 2JG. Tel: 0635 552820.

SPACE FOR PRAYER Keep me, 0 Lord, from the little, the interfering and the stupid; From the infection of irritation and anger over nothing; From all the promptings to decry the person or the work of others; From scorn, sarcasm, petty spite, and whisperings behind the back; From the dishonest honesty of frankness meant to hurt; From harsh judgements, cruel judgements, and all pleasure in them; From resentment over disapproval or reproof whether just or unjust. AMEN Found in a family Bible.

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