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Editor’s Message Hello Community, Were you aware that a child is abducted every 40 seconds in this country? Moreover, did you know that over 40% of these children are African American? If not, you are not alone because few peo ple are aware of this epidemic. The truth is that African American children receive limited media coverage when they go missing. Sadly, without this exposure it is less likely that they will be safely found. The staff at Peas In Their Pods works diligently to spread aware ness about this issue by alerting media outlets as needed when African American children are missing or abducted. Our mission is to make communities aware of the plight of these children, and to make them a national priority. Since its inception in March of 2007, Peas In Their Pods has garnered a lot of attention from radio shows, newspapers, and magazines. The momentum is definitely growing. However, your help is needed to help find these missing children. We ask everyone to help us in this crusade, because..It's Everyone's Job To Save Our Children!!!
“When it comes to parents of missing kids, there are NO racial lines there! They all cry the same tears and feel the same sadness.” Peas In Their Pods organization are asking for your helping in becoming alert system partners. Children are missing right from your communities.
Sincerely,
Denise Bethune - Editor-In-Chief Whitesboro, New Jersey www.peasintheirpods.com hfmbc@hotmail.com
*Articles submitted are not soley the beliefs of Peas In Their Pods but of contributing authors*
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BEST FRIEND It was 1978. She was 38 and I was 14. She was my best friend. In a matter of time I witnessed this vibrant energetic person succumb to the killer...CANCER. The battle began 9 years prior. First it took her breast. Then came the chemotherapy and radiation. I watched her hair fall out. She was nauseated and tired. We were unable to do some of the things we shared together. Then remission. We now had hope. She had beat the monster. I thought it would be forever...I was wrong. One day a lump appeared in her neck, it was Cancer. Several months later another lump. This time in her leg. It had spread. More chemotherapy, radiation and hospital visits. It seemed never ending. She would be strong one day and sick the next. I thought how long can she fight this? Then in a blink of an eye the beast had won. It devoured her body. . Goodbye my Friend. She left this world on February 27, 1978. She was free!!! No more surgeries, nausea, hair loss and pain. They say she is in a better place. I often wonder as I look to the sky for answers....Each sunrise and sunset represents her watching over me...She is my mother. 3
By Gina Butts
Tonetta Carlisle Left: Carlisle, circa 1989; Right: Age-progression at age 28 (circa 2001) Vital Statistics at Time of Disappearance • Missing Since: March 16, 1989 from Chattanooga, Tennessee • Classification: NonFamily Abduction • Date Of Birth: August 28, 1973 • Age: 15 years old • Height and Weight: 5'1; 90 pounds • Distinguishing Characteristics: Black hair; brown eyes. Carlisle's hair was curly and trimmed short on the top and sides while longer in the back at the time of her 1989 disappearance. Her ears are pierced. Several of Carlisle's teeth are capped or have fillings. • NCIC Number: M-353311618
Details of Disappearance
Carlisle was last seen walking home from City High School at approximately 2:55 PM on March 16, 1989 in Chattanooga, Tennessee. She was headed to her family's residence on Hamilton Avenue at the time. A witness observed Carlisle's abduction approximately one-half block from Carlisle's home at approximately 3:00 PM. A woman on Ruth Street near Hamilton Avenue glanced up the hill and watched Carlisle walking down the street. Several unidentified suspects jumped out of a tan and yellow van, forcibly pulled Carlisle inside the vehicle and then drove away. The witness told authorities that she and her husband chased the vehicle and called law enforcement with its license number. Carlisle's mother filed a missing child report with authorities eight hours later when her daughter failed to return home. The two cases were not connected for some time. The license number of the vehicle involved in the abduction was traced back to Jeffrey Jones. Jones had been released from prison for a rape conviction shortly before Carlisle disappeared. He committed suicide and was found deceased inside his van on March 18, 1989, two days after Carlisle was last seen. There has been no trace of her since that time. Carlisle enjoys pizza and fast food items. She liked rap music and the musical artist Bobby Brown at the time of her 1989 disappearance. Carlisle was last seen wearing a pink and white-striped blouse, a denim skirt and white tennis shoes.
Investigating Agency If you have any information concerning this case, please contact: Chattanooga Police Department 615-698-9752 The National Center For Missing and Exploited Children Chattanooga Police Department America's Most Wanted 4 National Crime Information Center
Rev. Ora Stearns Smith My heart is so full today. It is so completely full . . . And running over. And I have to shout it on the roof top, and declare it to the whole world that I am utterly enthralled and enraptured with the God of my Sal vation. I truly love Him so.
When I sense His Presence filling up my room and walking towards me, hovering over me, then pouring in me, well, something indescribable sweeps over me and through me so much so . . . that my soul quakes at the splendors of His visitation. Like Isaiah, I feel undone. And my heart gallops like a thoroughbred in hot pursuit of the finish line. I am shaking, quaking. He touches me with a touch that assures me. Then He softly calls my name. And the quaking ceases. Peace, sweet, sweet peace envelops me. He calls my name again and gently, lovingly says, “I love you.” And suddenly tears, uncontrollable tears, swell in my heart and overflow in my eyes. “You are the one for me. I chose you. You did not choose me. I chose you and have made you My holy habitation. We are one. I in you and you in Me. We are One. You are Mine forever, and I am yours forevermore. I will never leave you, My-forever-love.” The weight of His words and the reality of Who He truly is, well, it grips me. Overwhelms me. Floors me. I can’t move. I can’t speak. I can only cry profusely. But He understands . . . He hears . . . He sees. He knows . . . oh yes, my Darling Lord knows . . . that I am . . .So thankful! Selah . . .
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Case Type: Endangered Missing DOB: Jan 13, 2005 Sex: Female Missing Date: Mar 6, 2009 Race: White Age Now: 4 Height: 3'8" (112 cm) Missing City: KANSAS CITY Missing State : MO Weight: 40 lbs (18 kg) Hair Color: Brown Eye Color: Brown Missing Country: United States Case Number: NCMC1117576 Circumstances: Allyson was last seen on March 6, 2009. She may be in the company of her father. They may travel to Manassas, Virginia or Houston, Texas. Allyson's date of birth is listed in NCIC as April 13, 2005. CAUTION IS ADVISED.
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Gaétane is a certified School Psychologist who works closely with the inner-city youth and their parents. She is an advocate of children’s rights and strives to help parent achieve healthy, harmonious, and emo tionally stable environments for their children. She is a sought after media consultant, and is often fea tured in print, radio, and television.
In the upcoming weeks, millions of parents will be packing lunches, buying new school clothes, and putting their kids on school buses while waving goodbye tear fully. That’s right, a new school year is upon us! Although the back to school store sales often signify the end to a fun summer vacation, many parents are caught off guard by the quickly approaching first day of school. Here are some helpful tips to ensure that your school-ager has a successful and safe academic year. Make sure that the get enough sleep and eating a proper breakfast. These steps are fundamental. It’s simple…if children are tired or hungry they will be sleepy and irritable. Therefore, they won’t learn! Get them excited about the school year. Talk to them about the expectations and what they will learn that year. Make sure to attend the orientation sessions that schools offer so that they can meet their new teacher. This will greatly help to decrease any first day anxieties. Show Them the Way. If they are new to the school, your child should be acclimated to their new environment. Go with them on the first day, but DO NOT linger around too long as this will make separation more difficult for both of you. Prepare the Teacher. Let your child’s teacher know of any medical, behavioral, emotional concerns. This is critically important is your son or daughter has allergies. In this case, there are special forms that would need to be completed to ensure your child’s safety.
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Make certain they know their personal contact information. Even before your son or daughter is old enough to ride the school bus, they should know their full name, address, and telephone number. Knowing this information could very well save their life if in unfortunate circumstances. Be a role model. It is not only important that you say how important education is, you must demonstrate it as well. Sit with your child and monitor them as they complete homework; ask pointed questions about their school day; attend parent/teacher conferences; volunteer to come in a read to the class or chaperone field trips; and last (but not least), pick up a book and read in their presence. The truth is that the first day of school can be equally anxiety provoking for parents as it is for children. This is especially the case for the youngsters who have never been away from mommy or daddy. However, just remember that this is a part of the developmental cycle and that great things come from it. Be prepared for the ups and the downs, but make certain to take many pictures, as they are sure to grow faster than you think! Happy Parenting, Gaétane F. Borders, M.A., A.B.D Have a parenting question for Gaétane? Email her7 at psychologist4you@gmail.com and have your question or concern featured in our next issue!
Type of Abduction: Suspicious Circumstances Date Missing: 10/26/98 Missing from: Amarillo, TX Date of Birth: 5/6/89 Age at disappearance: 9 years old Race: African American Sex: Male Height: 4’ 0� Weight: 60 lbs. Eyes: Brown Hair: Black
Dorien Thomas
Other: Last seen wearing blue jeans, and a red shirt Circumstances: Dorien was last seen riding his aqua blue bicycle with white tires along 9th and Libscomb Streets in Amarillo, TX around 5:30pm. He told the friends he was with that he was going to go see another friend and has not been seen or heard from since. His bicycle has not yet been recovered. Dorien's photo shown age progressed to 19 years by the NCMEC. 8
“ Why Black Women Don’t Tell “ Christy Poindexter I will never allow someone to hurt me in that way again. That is what I had sworn to myself. You see, I had become a statistic; one of many that survived a very painful experience. I had not simply visited hell but I had to live in it for about a year. Somehow, I made it through the fire but not without emotional burns; scars that seemed to be permanent. I smelled of sulfur and of smoke because my attitude towards people had been marred-all because an incident that happened years ago.
Sexual crimes have no prejudices. It affects people of every race, economic status, and social background yet African-American women who have been molested as children, or sexually abused in some way, are less likely to report the incident to officials. According RAINN.ORG, for every one black woman that reports an incident, there are approximately fifteen who do not. Not to mention, we often keep our pain a secret, even from loved ones. Researchers believe they may be several reasons why black women don’t tell. Here are but a few:
According to some statistics one out of every three to four girls will experience some form of sexual abuse or assault by her eighteenth birthday. While this is an alarming number it may not provide an accurate depiction of how serious the issue of sexual abuse truly is. Why? Because many cases are unreported. The statistics we have today are mostly based on reports and convictions and therefore do not provide a real picture of a problem that so greatly impacts society. A Look at the Stats: The FBI reports that the National Institute for Mental Health found that only 1% to 10% of victims ever tell that they were abused.
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The average child molester will molest fifty girls before being caught and convicted.
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The standard pedophile will commit 117 sexual crimes in their lifetime.
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Most sexual abuse happens between the ages of 7 and 13.
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There are over 491,720 registered sex offenders in the United States.
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80,000 to 100,000 of the above offenders are missing.
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Molesters known by the family or victim are the most common abusers. The Acquaintance Molester accounts for 7070-90% of reported cases. The last bullet is one that cannot be ignored because these are people that our children and many parents know and trust. And because of this we allow the unthinkable- the opportunity for them to strike again. 9
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Loyalty to family, friends and community-survivors do not want to be the cause of family crisis, turning in a loved one, or neighbor.
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Fear that no one will believe her- many subscribe to the myth that black women are “sex pots” or are typically enticing.
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Distrust in social program and legal system-there may be fear that programs that supposed to be there to help often do not give black women a fair chance for justice or healing.
However, what we fail to realize is our effort to protect loved ones can cause more harm than good. It is extremely difficult to sound the alarm on an uncle, cousin, parent, neighbor, etc. that is certainly understandable. But by remaining tight lipped, we become enablers for predators buy not divulging information to those we can trust. We should at the very least protect our children from possibly suffering the same fate. Too often families fail provide a level of assurance to children that says if any violate you, we are here and will support you. For those who have been sexually molested or abused, the ramifications of silence can be severe. Failing to seek support and counseling can yield devastating effects. Victims of sexual crimes are more likely to suffer from depression, struggle with relationships, and battle with substance abuse. As a survivor, I know the high price of remaining silent. Whether those of us who have first hand knowledge of the trauma of sexual crime choose to open our mouths or continue to remain silent is more than a choice to tell our business or not. It is the difference between receiving the much needed care and healing, or remaining broken. It is the choice to live and enjoy healthy relationships, protect our children and loved ones, and rebuild our community or allow the “hush” to fuel the cycle of molestation within our own race. Where do we begin? Communication is the key. The time to talk is immediate and imperative. We must make it priority to teach our children the truth about sexual crimes and be committed to protecting future generations. Here are some tips for parents:
continue - “ Why Black Women Don’t Tell “ As a survivor, I know the high price of remaining silent. Whether those of us who have first hand knowledge of the trauma of sexual crime choose to open our mouths or continue to remain silent is more than a choice to tell our business or not. It is the difference between receiving the much needed care and healing, or remaining broken. It is the choice to live and enjoy healthy relationships, protect our children and loved ones, and rebuild our community or allow the “hush” to fuel the cycle of molestation within our own race. Where do we begin? Communication is the key. The time to talk is immediate and imperative. We must make it priority to teach our children the truth about sexual crimes and be committed to protecting future generations. Here are some tips for parents:
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If you are a parent, talk with your children and let them know that they can come to you if they feel that someone makes them uncomfortable, behaves strangely, or of they believe someone has touched them inappropriately. Do not force them to spend time with someone that makes them highly uneasy.
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Do not leave your child alone outdoors, in stores, vehicles, etc. Assume that every place is a potential opportunity for child predators.
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Listen to your children. If a child mentions anything that raises suspicion do not be afraid to check it out. It’s your child!
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Check websites that provide current lists of any sexual offenders convicted of any sex crimes on state databases.
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You can talk with local authorities to make sure they are doing all they can to keep the citizens in your community informed when a convicted sex offender moves into the area, especially near schools.
Last, be a good parent. Today many parents are so consumed with work and managing their own lives that children are left to themselves. Children want and need a parent’s attention. Spend time with them. Talk with them and listen to them. A child that feels neglected can be an easy target for a predator.
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Set boundaries. Be wary of those who don’t have time to listen to you or drain you more than support you. Steer clear of those who insinuate that the incident was somehow your fault.
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Learn to have fun. Try not to allow an awful experience ruin your ability to live your life.
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Don’t be afraid to seek counseling. Seeing a good counselor after having been abused does not mean something is wrong with you. It means that you have the courage to do what it takes for you to heal. Be patient with yourself. Healing takes time and the process differs for everyone. Remember that you are a woman of great worth. God loves you and understands what you are going through. I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made… (Psalm 139:14).”
“ Never would I have believed that almost thirty years later that I, a survivor of child molestation would be able to support others who are hurting. Today, I have a non-profit organization, High Calling for Women, Inc., that raises awareness and educates the community about the effects of child molestation and sexual abuse. I made it and so can you”.
Christy Poindexter www.highcallingforwomen.com References: www.nowpublic.com registeredoffenderslist.org/blog/sex-offenders/ child-molestation-statistics/ www.RAINN.ORG
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Recognize that you have made it this far and that it took a huge amount of strength to do so. Tell yourself you are already an over comer. Keep a journal. This helps to manage emotions and feelings. It also provides a record of progress. You can read it later and see the difference in your life because it has been recorded. 10
“ PATE “ Vital Statistics at Time of Disappearance Missing Since: September 4, 1998 from Unadilla, Georgia Classification: Endangered Missing Date Of Birth: October 29, 1989 Age: 8 years old Height and Weight: 4'4, 59 pounds Distinguishing Characteristics: Black hair, brown eyes. Pate had braid extensions in her hair at the time of her disappearance. Her hair was also twirled in the front with 10 to 12 gold beads in the sections. Pate has a surgical scar along her waistline. Her ears are pierced. Pate's nickname is Shy-Shy. Clothing Description: A neon green button-down Atlanta Braves jersey with red lettering, Levi's jeans and white K-Swiss tennis shoes. Details of Disappearance - Pate was last seen near her family's residence on Crumpler Avenue near The Roxy Club in Unadilla, Georgia at approximately 7:00 p.m. on September 4, 1998. Her family planned to attend a football game that evening and her older sister noticed Pate was missing. The authorities were summoned after Pate's family was unable to locate her later in the night. She has never been seen again. Charlie Project http://www.charleyproject.org/
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Dr. Dawn K- Aldrich - The Benefits of Antioxidants Antioxidants are known to protect your cells from free radicals. Free radicals damage the cells as they are molecules that are produced when your body breaks down food, also when you are exposed to the pollutants in the environment. Free radicals are linked to diseases such as cancer, heart disease and many others. Here are the foods that contains antioxidants: Poultry, Fish, Some Meats, Fruits, Vegetables, Nuts, Grains What substances are found in antioxidants? Vitamin A - liver, sweet potatoes, carrots, milk, egg yolks and mozzarella cheese. Retinol (Vitamin A1), 3,4-didehydroretinol (Vitamin A2), and 3-hydroxy-retinol (Vitamin A3). Vitamin C - also known as ascorbic acid is found in fruits and vegetables. Vitamin E - is found in almonds, in many oils including wheat germ, safflower, corn and soybean oils, and also found in mangos, nuts, broccoli and other foods. Beta-carotene - foods that are orange in color, including sweet potatoes, carrots, cantaloupe, squash, apricots, pumpkin, and mangos. Some green leafy vegetables including collard greens, spinach, and kale are also rich in beta-carotene. Lutein - green leafy vegetables such as collard greens, spinach, and kale (all linked to healthy eyes). Lycopene - tomatoes, watermelon, guava, papaya, apricots, pink grapefruit, blood oranges, and other foods. Selenium - is a component of antioxidant enzymes. Plant foods like rice and wheat are the major dietary sources of selenium in most countries. Meats and bread are also common sources of dietary selenium specifically in the United States. Be informed -make healthy choices!
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Unidentified Black Female The victim was discovered on September 13, 1975 in Compton, Los Angeles County, California Estimated Date of Death: September 13, 1975 Cause of Death: Homicide Vital Statistics Estimated age: 14-17 years old; (Born 1958-1961) Approximate Height and Weight: 5'0" (152 cm); 100 lbs (45 kg) Distinguishing Characteristics: Brown hair; brown eyes. Distinguishing Marks: 1 1/2" scar on left instep of her foot. Clothing: She was nude. Jewelry: Gold ring with large black stone, within the black stone was a gold colored flower; silver ring with white stone and 6 green stones; one gold & one silver wrist bracelet; silver key chain necklace. Case History: On September 13, 1975, this unidentified decedent was found in the 700 block of Artesia Boulevard, an industrial area in Compton, California. Investigators If you have any information about this case please contact: Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department Cold Case Unit 323-890-5500 Email Or Los Angeles Coroner Investigator Daniel Machian - 323-343-0754/323-222-0343 Email You may remain anonymous when submitting information. Agency Case #: Coroner # 75-9275 NCMEC #: NCMUU10237 NCIC #: U-761532768 Please refer to this number when contacting any 13 regarding this case. agency with information
WYATT COLE LITTLELIGHT
Case Type: Endangered Missing DOB: Oct 24, 2008 Sex: Male Missing Date: Dec 23, 2008 Race: Am. Ind. Age Now: 8 Month(s) Height: 1'7" (48 cm) Missing City: BILLINGS Weight: 15 lbs (7 kg) Missing State : MT Hair Color: Brown Missing Country: United States Eye Color: Brown Case Number: NCMC1113537 Circumstances: Wyatt was last seen on December 23, 2008. ANYONE HAVING INFORMATION SHOULD CONTACT National Center for Missing & Exploited Children 1-800-843-5678 (1-800-THE-LOST) 14 Bureau of Indian Affairs (Montana) 1-406-638-2631
EMILY MELCHOR Case Type: Endangered Missing DOB: Sep 20, 2007 Sex: Female Missing Date: Dec 7, 2008 Race: Hispanic Age Now: 1 Height: 2'5" (74 cm) Missing City: LAGUNA HILLS Weight: 24 lbs (11 kg) Missing State : CA Hair Color: Black Missing Country: United States Eye Color: Brown Case Number: NCMC1111725 Circumstances: Emily was last seen on December 7, 2008. She may be in the company of her mother. They are believed to be in Mexico. Circumstances: Emily was last seen on December 7, 2008. She may be in the company of her mother. They are believed to be in Mexico.
ANYONE HAVING INFORMATION SHOULD CONTACT National Center for Missing & Exploited Children 1-800-843-5678 (1-800-THE-LOST) Orange County Sheriff's Office (California) 1-949-770-6011
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Southern Hospitality with Sharon Fox Healthy eating doesn't mean you have to give up all the wonderful flavors! This month I want to share with you a few of my favorite summer sassy recipes. I have always loved introducing new and exciting flavors to my family. And in addition to new flavors, I love the presentation! Get in the kitchen with your family this month and create some new dishes, plate them up on a fancy dish, deco rate it with a little parsley or mint leaves and watch their eyes light up! So many memories are made right in our kitchen. That's a great time to talk with your kids and share some intimate moments together. The closeness of family is so important, especially now. There is so much stress in our lives from economical issues, health problems, and just everyday challenges.. Why not use a litle time each day to share some quality time cooking together or just sitting down to enjoy a wonderful meal in a pleasant atmophere. Light a candle or two..yes, even for the kids! Thank God for the times that you have together and make some intimate memories with your family. Forget about the bills for an hour or two, and tell your family how important they are to you. Give everyone a hug! Watch the tension leave as the light of love begins to shine in your hearts. I pray that you have a blessed month and so many wonderful meals together with your families! Sharon Fox www.southern-hospitality.org SPICED CHICKEN BREASTS 4 chicken breasts, butterflied and pounded thin, 2 tsp. coriander, 2 tsp. cumin, 2 tsp. garam masala OR allspice, 1 tsp. crushed red pepper, 2 handfuls fresh cilantro or Italian parsley, chopped 2 cloves garlic, minced, zest of 2 lemons After beating chicken breasts, set them aside. Mix all remaining ingredients in a bowl big enough to hold the chicken. Take one breast at a time and press it down in the spice mixture. Set all chicken aside after it is seasoned. heat a skillet on medium high heat. Add 2 Tbsp. olive or vegetable oil to skillet. When it is hot, add chicken. Cook 3 minutes on one side without turning. Now turn it over and cook until done. If you pounded it thin enough, it should only take about 3-4 minutes on each side. Cook until the juices run clear. Serve with buttered white rice or noodles. Serves 4. EXOTIC CARROT SALAD 3 carrots, ribboned with a potato peeler and blanched for 3045 seconds, 2 Tbsp. olive or vegetable oil juice of half a small lemon 1 tsp. honey or maple syrup, 1 medium clove garlic, minced, pinch of allspice, pinch of coriander, pinch of crushed red pepper 1/3 cup slivered almonds, toasted on medium heat 2-3 minutes 1/2 cup fresh parsley, chopped salt and pepper to taste Shredded cheese of your choice 16
*You also my want to have your favorite dressing availableBlanch the carrots ribbons in boiling salted water for 30-45 seconds. Immediately drain them and put them in ice water to stop the cooking process! Drain when completely cool. In a large bowl, mix all ingredients except almonds and parsley. Allow to marinate for about 15 minutes. Add the almonds and parsley when you are ready to serve the salad, so the nuts are crunchy and the parsley is fresh. STRAWBERRY ALMOND CANNOLI 2 cups ricotta cheese, 1/2 cup marscapone cheese, 1 cup strawberries, halved, 1/2 cup powdered sugar, 1/2 tsp. orange zest 1 Tbsp. orange juice, 1/4 cup chopped almonds, toasted, 1/4 cup grated white chocolate, 16 canolli shells, from your grocery store or bakery. Separate 1/4 of the berries and cut them into small pieces, reserve. Heat the remaining strawberries, sugar, orange zest, and orange juice until sugar melts and strawberries soften. Cook until syrup thickens a little. Allow to cool slightly and pour into a blender to puree. Strain with a fine sieve to remove excess liquid. In a bowl, beat together the marscapone and ricotta cheeses. Fold in strawberry puree. Taste. If needed, add some powdered sugar to sweeten. Make sure it is not too runny because you will need to fill the cannoli shells. You want it to be the consistency of Cool Whip. Add powdered sugar if needed to thicken. When you have reached the desired flavor and consistency, carefully fold in the chopped strawberries that you have set aside, grated chocolate, and chopped almonds. Cover with plastic wrap and refrigerate for 1 hour. Spoon mixture into a piping bag or into a sanwich bag with the corner cut out of one end to pipe the mixture into the cannoli shells. Dust with powdered sugar and serve immediately. *Save your strawberry juice that you strained off! You can cook it down and make a strawberry syrup for ice cream...or add a little pancake syrup to it and serve it with pancakes for breakfast!!!
CAKE~N~CUSTARD SHOOTERS 2 cup milk, 5 slightly beaten egg yolks, 2/3 cup sugar, 1/8 tsp. salt, 1 tsp. vanilla, rum, or sherry, 1 store bought pound cake cut in 3/4 inch cubes Scald milk in top of double boiler. Stir in eggs, sugar, and salt. Stir constantly in double boiler and cook until it thickens. Remove from heat, stir to release steam. Add vanilla, rum, or sherry. May be served warm or cold. Dip tall shot glasses in water, then powdered sugar for garnish on rims of glasses! To make shooters, put about 1 Tbsp. custard in each big shot glass, then 1-2 pieces of cake cubes, then fill with custard. Makes 20-24 shooters! Your family will really enjoy this treat! They are also great for holiday paries, wedding showers, baby showers, etc! If you don't have much luck on making homemade custards, you can purchase Vanilla-Bourbon sauce ready made at the Central Market in the bakery! Or just make Jello pudding and add a little vanilla, rum, or sherry to kick it up! I sure hope you enjoy the recipes this month. If you want to see more, go to my website www.southernhospitality.org . Thanks and may God bless you!!! 17
HOW TO REMAIN PHILANTHROPIC DURING TOUGH ECONOMIC TIMES
Kimberly Sellars-Bates President, KSTB Enterprises, LLC
I have a good friend that helps a charity that she likes help keep their books in order since she is an accountant. If you're a mechanic, offer to service cars for a specific charity. If you're skilled in construction, volunteer for Habitat for Humanity. If you have a skill, ask the charity if they could use it. If you participate in a number of online forums, place a link to the charity in your signature that will show up each time that you post on those forums. This is a free form of advertising and exposure for the charity.
Perhaps for years you have been a consistent donor to your favorite charity. Their work is worthwhile and programs are vital to the community. They work hard to represent and advocate for causes that make our community and the world a better place. However, they can’t do it alone. You have been a loyal supporter for the past few years. The organization depends on your and other annual fund gifts to sustain their general operating fund. This year, however, is different. As economic downturns reduce household incomes and lower investors' and consumers' confidence in the economy, nonprofits face especially troubling times. Layoffs, higher gas and utility prices, foreclosure rates, etc. have all had a tremendous impact on our “giving.” That’s where you come in. All hope is not lost. There is more that you can do besides donating your money to your favorite charity. Although you are unable to support your favorite non-profit with a monetary donation, there are other ways to show your commitment and dedication to their cause. With a bit of creativity, there are a lot of ways that you can help your favorite charity without spending a lot of money. CREATIVE WAYS TO SUPPORT YOUR FAVORITE CHARITY YOUR SKILLS Sometimes what a charity needs are your special skills. If you're good at management, consider donating your time as a chairperson. If you're good at writing, volunteer to write their newsletter or blog. If you're good at sewing or some other craft, donate mittens for children, or blankets for the homeless.
SELL GOODS FOR THE CHARITY If you have old items lying around the house, consider selling them on eBay and having the income generated go to the charity of your choice. EBay has Giving Works, a system that allows you to do this. Most of us have things in our home that we no longer use or need that we can use to help others. Another suggestion is to have a yard sale with a few of your friends or colleagues and then donate the money to charity. You not only help the charity with cash, you can still deduct the amount donated off your taxes. WRITE A BLOG POST Blogging is one of the easiest ways you can help a charity or cause that you are passionate about. By writing about issues that you care about, you help to spread awareness among your social circle on MySpace, Facebook, Twitter, etc. Because your friends or readers already trust you, what you say is influential. Also, consider taking part in Blog Action Day, a once a year event in which thousands of blogs pledge to write at least one post about a specific social cause (last year it was fighting poverty). Blog Action Day will be on October 15 this year. FOLLOW YOUR FAVORITE CHARITY ONSOCIAL NETWORKS Follow the charities you support on social networks including Facebook and Twitter. When your charity posts a tweet or information about a campaign, cause, statistics, link to a good article, or an announcement of an event, consider blogging about it or forwarding it to your “friends.” Following charities on social media sites is a great way to stay in the loop and get updates. It’s also an innovative way to increase the charities reach by spreading information to your friends and followers. 18
ADDRESS LABELS If you give to certain charities, they will send you address labels and other small items to try and get you to donate each year. Instead of purchasing address labels for $10 through the Internet, simply make a $10 donation to one of your favorite charities. This way, you are not spending any more money than you would have been, but the $10 goes to charity rather than to a printing company. This way, you will get address labels while donating to the charity. VOLUNTEER While this may seem an obvious solution, many people do not consider this option. Because of downsizing and increased duties, there are several functions that need to be done to keep your favorite charity going. Volunteer to organize files Make phone calls on behalf of the organization Host a book or clothing drive /swap Address envelopes- My clients know that I believe in the personal touch. Therefore, mailing labels are not utilized when we do our Annual Fund mailings. We hand address envelopes. That can be a little taxing so we depend on trained volunteers to help us out. Most organizations welcome volunteers with open arms and embrace any volunteer help they can get. Call the organization and ask for the Volunteer Coordinator or simply ask if there is anything that you can do to help out. As you can see, there are several ways to continue to help your favorite charity besides writing a check. I applaud those of you who continue to remain committed and dedicated to your favorite charities by considering non-traditional ways to remain philanthropic. Follow us on Twitter at: http://twitter.com/KSTB For additional information about our services, please contact us at: www.kstbllc.com or kstb@bellsouth.net Kimberly Sellars-Bates, President KSTB Enterprises, LLC Grants and Scholarships www.kstbllc.com 404 861-9927 770 969-1165 FAX
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Chioma Ezronesha Gray Date Missing: 12/13/2007 Missing From: Ventura, CA DOB: 4/27/1992 Age at Disappearance: 15 years old Sex: Female Race: African American Height: 5'4" Weight: 115 lbs. Eyes: Brown Hair: Black Circumstances: Chioma was abducted by Andrew Tafoya on Dcember 13, 2007. A felony warrant for Child Stealing was issued for Andrew on December 14, 2007. They may have traveled to Mexico in a white 2008 Acura TSX with California license plate # 6AXX928 If you have information concerning this case, please contact: Ventura Police Department (805) 650-8010 The Polly Klaas速 Foundation (800) 587-4357 20
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Jahi Marques Turner
Last seen in San Diego, California on April 25, 2002 Vital statistics: Black male. Born on February 10, 2000. Black hair; brown eyes. Turner is ambidextrous. He has a light complexion and suffers from eczema in the creases of his body. Was two when last seen. Circumstances: Jahi was last seen in Balboa Park in the Golden Hill area near 28th Street and Cedar Street on April 25, 2002. The playground is near the 2800 block of Beech Street. His stepfather, Tieray Dewayne Jones, said that he left Turner near the sandbox while he purchased a soda from a nearby vending machine. Tieray stated that a woman and two children were near the area at the time. Turner had vanished by the time he returned. Turner has never been heard from again. He was last seen wearing a long-sleeved blue shirt imprinted with images of Winnie The Pooh and Tigger, blue nylon cargo pants with an orange drawstring and gray Air Jordan shoes. The woman has been identified; she provided Some believe that Jahi was murdered by his stepfather or otherwise acid entally killed due to diary entries Tieray had written at the time. No evidence has been unearthed that Jahi met with foul play, however. His stepfather is currently imprisoned on an unrelated drug charge. Classified as a Non-Family Abduction by most agencies. Reason for inclusion: Jahi's case was closed in January 2004 for unknown r easons. He remains missing. It was opened again several years later, but he remain ns here as our inspiration. Contact info: FBI San Diego at 858-565-1255
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Safe-Smarts For Our Children by Pattie Fitzgerald, founder Safely Ever After, Inc Who's afraid of the big, bad wolf? How about the boogeyman? Okay, good--so we've got those two covered! But how about the ice cream man, or the next door neighbor, or the after-school sports coach? Now, before you get mad at me for picking on those three, let me just say I have nothing against any of these community members. So why bring them up? Because...as a child safety advocate and sexual abuse prevention educator, it's my job to make sure that we are teaching our kids the right information about personal safety in the most effective, up to date manner. By now,
many parents know that the "stranger-danger" concept is outdated and doesn't serve our children. In fact, it actually does a disservice to our kids. The truth is that 90 percent of childhood molestation occurs by someone the child knows, and has some kind of a relationship with – NOT by a stranger. And even when the offender is a “stranger”, children just don’t have the same understanding of who a “stranger” is. That means that anyone who approaches them with a smile, perhaps introducing themselves or offering an enticing treat, is no longer viewed as a stranger by that child. A Better Way To Start The “Safety Dialog” Throw out the word “strangers” and replace with “tricky people”. A tricky person can be someone you know, don’t know, or know just a little bit. A tricky person tries to get you to break a safety rule (*see below). A tricky person may even give you a yucky or “uh-oh” feeling. It’s a concept kids can understand. And… it works for kids of all ages, even your teenagers. By talking to children specifically about tricky people, we are covering all our bases and empowering kids to trust their instincts – even when it comes to “good, old Uncle Joe.” Teaching our children about “tricky people” does not mean scaring them until they are fearful or suspicious of everyone. Rather, it enables them to strengthen that inner barometer that can help them identify a "thumbs up or thumbs down" situation or spot a potential red flag in another person's behavior.
Sadly, we do live in a world where childhood sexual abuse exists and the best way to protect kids is to EMPOWER them with the right kind of information. The *Super-10 Safe-Smarts Rules is a great way to start because it creates specific rules and boundaries that are clear. These rules work for kids at every age, whether they are 4 or 14 years old. You can even role-play or create specific "What If...?" scenarios with your children and apply one or more of the Super-Ten rules as the response. Begin the dialog early in your child’s life; review often, clarify and update as your child matures. *The Super-Ten Safe-Smarts Rules For Kids and Grownups! I am the BOSS OF MY BODY and I have the right to be SAFE! I know my name, address and phone number... nd my parents' cell phone number, too. I know how to spot a TRICKY PERSON… It’s not what they look like, it’s what they say or want me to do. Safe Grownups Don't Ask Kids for Help. (They go to other adults for assistance.) I don't keep SECRETS from my parents – especially if it’s about my body. I never go ANYWHERE or take ANYTHING from someone I don’t know...no matter what they say. I always ASK FIRST and get permission before: I go anywhere, change my plans, or accept something… even if it's from someone I know. Everybody's bathing suit areas on their body are private. No bathing suit area games allowed. I don't have to be POLITE to anyone who makes me feel scared or uncomfortable, or just plain “yucky”. It's okay to say NO! even to a grownup or a bigger kid if I have to. It's not my fault if someone tries to touch me in a "weird" or uncomfortable way. I will always tell a safe grownup if I feel scared or confused about any touches. And I will keep telling until I get help. Pattie Fitzgerald is the founder of Safely Ever After, Inc. and is recognized as a leading expert in the field of childhood sexual abuse prevention. She is a child safety advocate and certified educator specializing in child predator safety. Ms. Fitzgerald’s workshops, seminars, and school curriculum are used throughout the United States. Her published works have appeared in newspapers , national magazines, and trade journals across the country, and she has been featured on Good Morning America, CNN Headlines News, MSNBC, and local Los Angeles television and radio news programs. For more information, please visit www.safelyeverafter.com 23
KENDRICK JACKSON DOB: Mar 16, 2003 Missing: Apr 7, 2006 Height: 3'0" (91 cm) Eyes: Brown Race: Black Age Now: 6 Sex: Male Weight: 35 lbs (16 kg) Hair: Black Missing From: HOUSTON TX Kendrick was last seen at home on April 7, 2006. When he was last seen, he was wearing a white t-shirt and pajama shorts with pictures of baseballs and footballs on them. ANYONE HAVING INFORMATION SHOULD CONTACT National Center for Missing & Exploited Children 1-800-843-5678 (1-800-THE-LOST) Houston Police Department (Texas) 1-713-731-5223
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Monthly Tasty Treat—by Pat Holmes CHOCOLATE SNICKERDOOLES…!!! 1 1/2 c sugar ½ cup margarine 1 tsp. vanilla 2 eggs 2 1/4 c. flour ½ cup cocoa 1 tsp. cream of tartar ½ tsp. baking soda ¼ tsp. salt Cinnamon-Sugar Mix: 2 tsp. sugar 2 tsp. cinnamon Cream sugar and margarine until light and fluffy. Blend in vanilla and eggs. Add flour, cocoa, cream of tartar, baking soda and salt to creamed mixture. Combine sugar and cinnamon. Shape dough into balls. Roll in sugarcinnamon mixture. Place 2 inches apart on ungreased cookie sheet. Bake at 400 for 6 to 8 minutes. Remove from cookies sheet immediately
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Christian Ferguson Date of Birth - 10/9/93 Date Missing - 6/11/03 Missing from - St. Louis, Missouri L.E.A. - St. Louis Police Department Contact - Lieutenant Ronald L. Henderson Telephone Number - (314) 444-5371 ID Info - NCIC # M-133310381. Christian is a black male, 4' 0" tall, weighs 75 pounds, has black hair and brown eyes. He was last seen wearing a diaper with a multi-colored blanket. Circumstances - Christian is severely mentally-challenged and requires medication twice a day, or he is danger of becoming comatose. He is also on a special diet. The vehicle he was taken in was allegedly stolen. The car has since been recovered, but Christian's whereabouts are unknown.
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Peace4 the Missing by Delilah We are often asked the question “How did Peace4 the Missing come about?” Here is a short history lesson, for those who may be curious. Back in October of 2007, Stacy Peterson went missing and all over the internet forums and discus sion boards were formed to discuss the case and all the latest feeds from the news circus.
The sense of family and community has been a thread that was woven into Peace4 the Missing from the beginning. Membership grew and so did our connections with people and organizations, including Peas in Their Pods, who could really do something for those looking for help. We have been fortunate to connect with many of the best in the country so that if someone has a specific need for their case, we can turn them over to those who have proven track records and are reputable.
The best description of Peace4 the Missing is a “haven” for It didn’t take long for all of these various personalities to explode those who need a place to come to daily and communicate all over the place, and in the aftermath people who felt comfortable with others in similar situations, a place for support and with each other gathered together in their respective groups. encouragement. Peace4 the Missing is not an organization that “works” cases or goes through clues and speculates on That’s how “Delilah” and “January” met and soon afterwards bewhat could or would have happened. There are many good came online friends. We often IM’ed each other with ideas on forums and blogs out there for that. We are more of an how to build a better mousetrap, a place we didn’t have to see the “awareness” site and we try to highlight and bring attention bickering and backbiting when opinions disagreed. That is how to cases and issues that are important to our members. Peace4 the Missing, the idea, was born. We shopped around the internet for the best platform and made a decision that NING had everything we needed to create what we dreamed about, and the best part was, it’s free! We often discussed what content to offer, who to invite, what cases to highlight, but soon discovered that Peace4 the Missing was taking on a life of its own. One day we said to each other, “We will build it, they will come” and they did, much to our surprise! Family members with missing loved ones, friends, victims of crime, all came together, bonding and making new friends. Over the last year there have been many changes, and Peace4 the Missing continues to evolve. As we have grown we added several Groups that would highlight not only missing persons and awareness for them, but victims of domestic violence and other crimes soon needed a place to exchange idea and resources, so areas were provided for them, also.
We have just passed over the 500 mark in membership and continue to welcome new people every day. We are delighted to see the interaction, the help, and the participation of members, old and new, and hope that we have created a place where everyone can feel comfortable being who they are. We are not everything to everybody, we realize that, but we continue to strive to be the best that we can be and offer a hand of hope to those who need one, solace during dark times, and celebration, laughter and friendship to all. ImaginePublicity marketing.promotions.publicity http://imaginepublicity.com http://peace4missing.ning.com http://mothersarevanishing.blogspot.com
Although Co-Founded by Delilah and Sara (once known as both “January” and “MaggiesRose”) we have so much great backup from all of our Group Leaders and Administrators. We often wondered how the two of us would take care of all the daily business of Albert Einstein: a site that was growing by leaps and bounds, but what we found was that Peace4 the Missing tends to run itself, fueled by the memImagination is more important than knowledge. For bers and their willingness to be a part of a community. while knowledge defines all we currently know and understand, imagination points to all we might yet discover and create. 27
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Parenting Corner I recently met with a client who had come to me for counseling. She stated that her husband encouraged her to come in because he had concerns about her emotional stability. In listening to her describe her weekly routine, it became clear that this young woman spent all of her waking hours taking care of her two young children and husband. She typically did not go to bed at night until three in the morning because she would do housework after her children had gone to bed. I asked her if she ever spent time with friends, or by herself out of the house. She reflected momentarily, but eventually responded in a soft voice, “no.â€? In fact, she was unable to share what her favorite pastime is. Remembering who you are is something that all parents have to remember. I have found, both personally and professionally, that women seem to have more difficulty with this concept. Our personal goals, interests, and passions are frequently halted once we have children. We immerse ourselves in being mommy, and taking care of all of those around us. It is critically important that we nurture our children by being present emotionally, spiritually, and physically. However, we simply have to remember to nurture ourselves as well. Sometimes we feel guilty or selfish if we say that we need time apart from our children or spouse. But guess what? That individual time may very well help you maintain your sanity. Whether its fifteen minutes a day, or two hours a week‌make sure to take your me time. Do the things you once enjoyed like painting, socializing, playing an instrument, and going to the movies or plays. This will help you to feel more fulfilled, and will ultimately help you to be an even better parent! Happy Parenting, Gaetane Borders, MA, ABD President, Peas In Their Pods
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Reginald Lamar Kirtdoll Above Images: Kirtdoll, circa 2001; Age-progressed to 22 (circa 2005) Vital Statistics at Time of Disappearance Missing Since: January 23, 2001 from Dallas, Texas Classification: Endangered Missing Date Of Birth: May 12, 1983 Age: 17 Height: 5'11" Weight: 145 lbs. Hair Color: Black Eye Color: Brown Race: Black Gender: Male Distinguishing Characteristics: Scar under right eye. His initials ("RLK") are tattooed on left arm. Pierced left ear. Clothing: Black and blue polo shirt, jeans, and black and white Reebok tennis shoes.AKA: "Lil' Man" NCIC Number: M-901638257 Case Number: DPS: M0102005; NCMC903752 Details of Disappearance Kirtdoll was last seen leaving school during the afternoon hours of January 23, 2001 in Dallas, Texas. His vehicle was discovered abandoned at approximately 1:15 AM on January 25 in Kaufman County, Texas. The car had been burned and there was no sign of Kirtdoll at the scene. In March 2001, Veronica Greenlee and her brother, Terrel Weisse, were arrested on capital murder charges. Police found Kirtdoll's blood and DNA inside the siblings' apartment. Kirtdoll reportedly went to the siblings' apartment in the 4600 block of Pioneer Road in Balch Springs to collect money they owed him for drugs. Kirtdoll has not been located. Investigating Agency If you have any information concerning this case, please contact: Dallas Police Department (214) 670-4426 OR Texas Department Of Public Safety (800) 346-3243 Source Information - National Center for Missing and Exploited Children Texas Department of Public Safety Dallas Morning News - March 30, 2001 30
Cerebal Palsy - Getting Justin Ready I have a son who has special needs. My son's name is Justin and he has Cerebral Palsy.
8:45 A.M. stop Justin's feeding pump.
I always call him my miracle baby. Doctors said that he was not going to live when he was first born but he has continued to prove them wrong. Justin is now two years old and is still hanging in there. He is my little trooper. We are a family of five with two boys and one girl. Our typical day can be quite chaotic. Often times I literally feel like a drill sergeant getting the kids ready for school.
8:50 A.M. Suction Justin out to clear his airway. 9:00 A.M. Give Justin his morning breathing treatment.
9:15 A.M. Put Justin on his lung vest (Airway Clearance System). 9:45 A.M. Wash Justin up, brush his teach, brush and moisturize his hair. 10:00 A.M. Get Justin dressed. 10:15 A.M Pack Justin's diaper back make sure everything he needs is there (Diapers, wipes, medicines, formula, extra outfit, and etc.
My other children Autumn (age 11) and Austin (age 6) are now able to pretty much get themselves ready on their on; luckily I space each of my children five years apart. But I have to make special preparations for Justin especially with having to leave and go places. The typical schedule that my husband and I would have to prepare for Justin in the morning is the following:
10:30 A.M. Makes sure his equipments are packed and ready to go (feeding pump, suction machine, breathing treatment machine). 10:35 A.M. Load up Justin's equipment and diaper bag to van. 10:40 A.M. Load up Justin's wheelchair.
8:30 A.M. prepare Justin's medicines. 11:00 A.M. Justin is now ready to go! 8:35 A.M. give Justin his medicines through his GJ-Tube.
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Endangered Missing
JYRINE HARRIS DOB: Dec 15, 1999 Missing: Jun 23, 2002 Age Now: 9 Sex: Male Race: Black Hair: Brown Eyes: Brown Height: 3'0" (91 cm) Weight: 32 lbs (15 kg) Missing From: IRVINGTON NJ United States Age Progressed Jyrine's photo is shown age-progressed to 9 years. He was last seen sleeping in his bed at 1:00 am on June 23, 2002. He has not been seen since. He was last seen wearing a diaper with Muppet characters. Jyrine has a scar above his right eyebrow, a scar on the inner part of his right arm, a scar on the inner part of his upper left arm, and a birthmark on his back. When he was last seen, Jyrine had a cast on his right leg from knee to toe with writing on it. ANYONE HAVING INFORMATION SHOULD CONTACT National Center for Missing & Exploited Children 1-800-843-5678 (1-800-THE-LOST)
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Reprinted with permission from Cathy Irvin. Originally published as the daily devotional on CBN.com, the official website of Christian Broadcasting Network.
The Growing Pains of Our Faith By Cathy Irvin Staff Writer
CBN.com - Is it painful to grow as a Christian? Have you ever said in the natural that it hurts to grow up? Or ‌ when will it all end? How many times have you heard someone say, "We must grow up in Christ," or "Let us move on to maturity in the things of God?" Other times we may have heard, "These trials help you to grow." I have heard these questions so much in sermons and books that it seems like it is a never ending process. When I asked the Lord about this, God's response to me was, "It is." I think I was hoping that some day I would feel like I had arrived. Because of the daily struggles caused from the pressures of life, and the trials that help to build character, I felt like I should be one of the best characters anyone could meet (just kidding). I have been through so much that I understand what it means to go through the growing process. The fruit of the Spirit will be evident to those around people who allow the Holy Spirit to deal with their imperfections. He will change them by helping them to have godly attitudes. They will find that they are more kind, patient, loving, and selfless. They will not be so critical or judgmental of others. The list goes on and on. If at this point you feel you haven't arrived, don't worry. We are all making this same pilgrimage. The journey will end when we cross to heaven's side and the Lord says, "Well done, my good and faithful servant." Because you endured, took up your cross, denied yourself, and followed Him, you will enjoy the rewards of the kingdom. I remember when my grandson was young that he needed to have his mother rub his legs. He said that they hurt. She knew it was because he was a growing boy. She also understood that her touch made him feel better. There was nothing physically wrong with him, but he obviously felt pain until his mother ministered to him. When we allow the Lord to minister to us, His touch is so soothing. Like the loving touch from my daughter to her son, we can feel God helping us to feel better too. These strokes of love are causing us to be healed and to grow to be more like Him. We must come to him during those times when we need Him and let Him pour in His grace, love, and peace. The journey may seem to be too hard. But if you allow the Holy Spirit to deal with you in certain areas, the process will be easier. In spite of all the trials, growing pains, or whatever you choose to call them, thank God there is a way out. The way out is Jesus. He promised that He would make a way of escape through every trial. It is like going from kindergarten to the first grade, and then on to middle school, then to high school, and finally to graduation day. We don't want to stay behind a grade. We don't want to be like the Israelites wandering in the desert for 40 years, going around the same mountain over and over again. Let us tell the Lord that He has permission to teach us and we will do our best to get it right and eventually graduate. DEVOTION 33
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