P.E.A.S Magazine 6th Edition by Gaetane Borders

" A Mother's Day Denied " No tears fall harder, than those of a broken hearted mother, she carries her child around until it's ready to arrive She bears the labor pains no matter how long it takes, because she knows her prize is the moment she holds her child From that moment on she tries to soften each blow she knows without a doubt life will throw Yet late one night she gets that phone call every mother dreads, a bearer of bad news informs her that her child is dead, her tears sound like lead falling in an empty steel drum her legs give out her body goes numb Now every year for the rest of her life, instead of laughter she cries, because of someone's selfishness, the rest of her " Mother Days Are Denied " Poet: Tina Marie Clark @2009 2

Editor’s Message Hello Community, Were you aware that a child is abducted every 40 seconds in this country? Moreover, did you know that over 40% of these children are African American? If not, you are not alone because few people are aware of this epidemic. The truth is that African American children receive limited media coverage when they go missing. Sadly, without this exposure it is less likely that they will be safely found. The staff at Peas In Their Pods works diligently to spread awareness about this issue by alerting media outlets as needed when African American children are missing or abducted. Our mission is to make communities aware of the plight of these children, and to make them a national priority.

The school year has begun for children nationwide, some children walk to school on a daily basis, become a responsible community by making sure that every child who leaves from home are accompanied by a responsible person or persons. Each child should leave and arrive safely to their designated location. Be on the look-out for any suspicious activity, and report immediately to your local authorities. Peas Magazine; also committed in giving you additional resources, each month professionals in their field of choice will give you information that can save lives, give strength, support and encouragement, but most importantly the faces of those who are still missing. •

A four year old child is missing from a foster home for fifteen months. No one reports her missing. No one from Social Services notices she is missing. The foster “person” receives and continues to cash and spend the welfare checks sent each month for her care. Little Rilya Wilson has not been seen and is presumed dead at the hands of her foster “person”.

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The Rilya Alert is named in honor of this little child. When a child has been placed in danger, the Peas In Their Pods organization will issue the “Rilya Alert”

It still takes a village…!!! Sincerely,

Denise Bethune, Editor-In-Chief Whitesboro, New Jersey www.peasintheirpods.com hfmbc@hotmail.com

Mark Joseph Himebaugh Missing: November 25, 1991 City/State: Del Haven, New Jersey Details of Disappearance Himebaugh was last seen at approximately 4:00 p.m. near his family's home on Sunray Road in rural Del Haven, New Jersey on November 25, 1991. His mother allowed him to observe firefighters extinguishing a small brush fire a quarter of a mile from their house. Himebaugh has not been heard from again. He was reported missing at 5:00 p.m. that evening. The afternoon of his disappearance, traffic was re-routed from the fire scene past the Himebaugh residence. There are unconfirmed witness reports that Himebaugh was seen at a local park entrance with an unidentified female child around 3:40 p.m. the day he vanished. The identity of the girl has never been determined. She was nine or ten years old in 1991. Authorities believe the girl could have important information about Himebaugh's disappearance. Himebaugh lived with his mother and older brother at the time he disappeared, and was a sixth-grader at Cape May County Alternative Middle School. . Investigating Agency If you have any information concerning this case, please contact: Cape May County Prosecutorâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Office 609-465-(LEAD) 5323

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Charles Hall III Missing since December 31, 1981 from Nashville, Davidson County, Tennessee. Classification: Non-Family Abduction Vital Statistics Date Of Birth: March 5, 1966 Age at Time of Disappearance: 15 years old Height and Weight at Time of Disappearance: 5'8; 130 lbs Distinguishing Characteristics: Black male. Black hair; brown eyes. Marks, Scars: Hall has a birthmark on his right cheek. Circumstances of Disappearance Charlie Hall was last seen leaving his residence at approximately 3 p.m. to visit his girlfriend on December 31, 1981. He lived at 525 40th Avenue, North, Apt. B-8, Nashville. He never returned home. Investigators If you have any information on this case, please contact: Nashville Police Department Detective Clinton Vogel 615-862-7557 or 615-862-8600 or Nashville Crimestoppers at 615-74-CRIME

You may remain anonymous when submitting Todd Mathews Doe Network

Dr. Carl C. Bell, M.D., F.A.P.A., FA.C.P.

Presiden

For over 30 years, Dr. Bell has practiced psychiatry. As an international violence prevention, and traumatic stress caused by violence. Most recen vention research project in South Africa. He is the author of The Sanity o and Homicide Among Adolescents. Dr. Bell is also a clinical professor of his efforts to reduce violence, he became the first recipient of the America American Psychiatric Association's Presidential Award. Dr. Carl C. Bell

1. Rebuilding the Village/Reweaving the social fabric/Recreating churches, schools, and families to create networks, organize resources and establish p nity also reinforces cultural identity.

2. Providing access to ancient and modern technology to provide practical systems fo cilitate implementation of the concept or program (for example, mentoring, multi-fam ventions).

3. Providing a sense of connectedness. Creating situations, programs and relationshi common goal. This counters feelings of alienation, helps provide feelings of security, a tity and can be a platform for the delivery of cultural education. Well thought out rites have been very effective in actualizing this principle.

4. Providing opportunity to learn social & emotional skills. Providing social and emo only increases self-esteem but effectiveness in relationships as well. These include par and more.

5. Providing opportunities to increasing self-esteem. A. Giving our children a sense o tively influence their own lives. For example, adopting healthy behaviors creates both our young make sense of the world and teaching them how things work. Mentoring is tem is another.

6. Providing an adult protective shield. Providing an adult protective shield and moni These foster a sense of safety and security. The concept of the village with multiple ad is a concept that connects us to our culture and our spirituality. Wellness is also impo adult, so it is in the best interest of the adult to adopt behaviors that promote wellness

7. Minimizing trauma. Minimizing trauma - Developing an individual's spirituality, a management skills as well as psychological first aid (see attached) to encourage a sens this principle into action. 6

Carl C. Bell, M.D. President/C.E.O. Community Mental Health Council 870 www.thecouncil-online.org carlcbell@pol.net

nt & CEO Community Mental Health Center of Chicago

lly recognized lecturer and author, he has given numerous presentations on mental wellness, ntly, he has participated as the Principle Investigator with CHAMP, an HIV/AIDS youth pre of Survival: Reflections on Community Mental Health and Wellness and co-author of Suicide psychiatry and public health at the University of Illinois School of Medicine. In recognition of an Psychiatric Foundation's Minority Service Award in 2004. He is also the recipient of the l's Seven Principles for Changing At-Risk Behavior and Cultivating Resiliency Among Youth.

g a sense of community Reestablishing a sense of community by bringing together programs that provide support, safety and security for our youth. A sense of commu-

or the application of knowledge Providing models, tools, skills and techniques to family groups, how to cultivate resiliency and wellness, and manualized family inter-

ips that foster a sense of connection, attachment, and belonging to a larger group or a and increases self-esteem. Again, reestablishing the village reinforces cultural idens of passage (e.g. the belt system of progression in Japanese martial arts) programs

otional skills that people need to interact and communicate with each other. This not renting skills, refusal skills, negotiating skills, the capacity to remain calm in a crisis,

of power (self-efficacy) by showing them they can do things for themselves and posih a sense of wellness and an outcome of wellness. Providing a sense of models to help a very powerful model that can be used to achieve this. A strong cultural value sys-

itoring speaks to providing supervision, discipline, and a caring adult presence. dult figures taking responsibility for the nurture and well-being of the village children ortant in this respect. A child can be severely stressed by the illness of a caretaking s, both personally, and as a model for children to emulate.

a person's sense of self-efficacy, helping create a sense of safety, and providing stress se of self-mastery and turn helplessness into helpfulness are all examples of putting 7

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Tonetta Y. Carlisle Missing since March 16, 1989 from Chattanooga, Hamilton County, Tennessee Classification: Non Family Abduction

Vital Statistics Date Of Birth: August 28, 1973 Age at Time of Disappearance: 15 years old Height and Weight at Time of Disappearance: 5'1; 95 pounds Distinguishing Characteristics: Black female. Black hair; brown eyes. Carlisle's curly hair was trimmed short on the top and sides and longer in the back at the time she disappeared. Her eyes are large and almond-shaped. Marks, Scars: Pierced ears. Clothing: A pink and white stripped blouse, a denim skirt with white tennis shoes. â&#x20AC;˘ Dentals: She has caps on her teeth and dental fillings. Circumstances of Disappearance Police say Tonetta Carlisle was abducted on March 15, 1989, by unknown individuals outside 615 Hamilton Avenue, Chattanooga, as she was walking home from school. Chattanooga police say Tonetta left City High School at approximately 2:55 p.m. Five minutes later a witness saw Tonetta being dragged into a tan and yellow van by several unidentified suspects. The witness was able to give police the license tag number of the van. Two days later the owner of the van allegedly used in the abduction was found dead in the vehicle. Police say he had died of asphyxiation, and they believe that he killed himself. The owner was Jeffrey Jones who had just been released from prison for rape. An extensive search of the area where the van was found, by more than 300 police, sheriff's deputies, blood hounds and volunteers, failed to find any trace of Tonetta. Investigators If you have any information concerning Carlisle's case, please contact: Chattanooga Police Department 423-698-9700 You may remain anonymous when submitting information to any agency. NCMEC #: NCMC722063 NCIC Number: M-353311618 Please refer to this number when contacting any agency with information regarding this case. Todd Mathews Doe Network 8

PARENTING CORNER Gaétane is a certified School Psychologist who works closely with the inner-city youth and their parents. She is an advocate of children’s rights and strives to help parent achieve healthy, harmonious, and emotionally stable environments for their children. She is also a sought after media consultant, and is often featured in print, radio, and television. Why Children Don’t Tell

I recently saw Tyler Perry’s film titled I Can Do Bad All By Myself, which stars Taraji P. Henson. I was unaware of the rollercoaster ride of emotions I was about to experience, as the movie deals with all sorts of issues ranging from death, love, abandonment, addiction, and sexual abuse. I was very happy to see how this latter issue was handled on screen because I realize that in reality it is not dealt with in this way. Despite the fact that 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys are molested before the age of eighteen, people don’t want to recognize this epidemic. The truth is that more than 25% of you who are reading this have been sexually abused. Another reality is that only a small percentage of you disclosed this to your parents. So why don't children tell? One would think that they would run, yelling and screaming, to their parents if someone had molested them. But this is generally not the case. Here's why… Most pedophiles are known to their victims, and are very slick and manipulative in their approach. They "groom" the child into thinking that they are trustworthy, and gradually involve the child in inappropriate acts. They later often threaten to harm the child or their family members if they do disclose. Victimized children often won't tell because they are afraid that they will not be believed, or feel guilty that they may have, in some way, been responsible for the abuse. Now, all of this is compounded with the fact that more often than not, it is a parent who is committing the abuse. In this case, a child may not want to tattle. So what can you do as a parent? Be attuned to any changes in your child's behavior because this will tell you a lot! Young children will often regress by wetting the bed, sucking their fingers, not eating. Elementary school age kids often demonstrate excessive fear of certain people, masturbate excessively, have nightmares, and will withdraw from people. In the teen years, kids may become promiscuous, experiment with drugs, be depressed, and may also have suicidal thoughts. You should be concerned if you see any of these behaviors, and begin asking questions. If your son or daughter tells you that they have been abused, BELIEVE THEM! It is extremely rare for a child to lie about this. Keep in mind that the way that you react to this will help determine how your child will heal. Tell them that you are proud that they had the courage to tell you, and that it was not their fault. They really do need to hear this! In addition, make sure that they receive counseling to address their trauma because it will have life long ramifications if not treated. If you were abused, and are finding it difficult to find inner peace... just remember that you do not have to let your trauma define who you are. Despite what happened to you, it is possible to live and love without pain. Your healing process may be difficult, but happiness is attainable. Happy Parenting, Gaétane F. Borders, MA, ABD 9 Have a parenting question for Gaétane? Email her at psychologist4you@gmail.com and have your question or concern featured in our next issue!

Anthon

Missing since A Class

Vital Statistics :

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Date Of Birth: December 25, 1976 Age at Time of Disappearance: 9 years old Height and Weight at Time of Disappearance: 4'7; 55 pounds Distinguishing Characteristics: Biracial/Native female. Brown Marks, Scars: Moles on her right cheek, nose, ankle and back. Clothing: A knee-length pink nightgown

Circumstances of Disappearance : Cayedito was last seen on A told authorities that Cayedito opened the front door after an uniden that the man claimed to be their Uncle Joe. He allegedly grabbed C Cayedito has never been heard from again. Authorities questioned sidered a suspect and was never thought to be involved in her abd

Investigators : If you have any information concerning Cayedito's Sgt. Allen 505-863-9365 You may remain anonymous when subm ber: M-550277143 Please refer to this number when contacting an 10

nette Christine Cayedito

April 6, 1986 from Gallup, McKinley County, New Mexico sification: Non-Family Abduction

hair; brown eyes. She has scars on her knee and lip.

April 6, 1986 in her family's Gallup, New Mexico home. Her sister ntified male knocked at approximately 3:00 AM. Her sister reported Cayedito as she opened the door and forced her into a vehicle. d Cayedito's uncle regarding her disappearance, but he is not conduction. Foul play is suspected in her disappearance.

whereabouts, please contact: Gallup Police Department Det. mitting information. Agency Case Number: 00006-86 NCIC Numny agency regarding this case. Todd Matthews Doe Network 11

The Black Star Project Schools cannot educate children without the support of parents, families and communities. Good teachers and administrators are invaluable to the educational process, but they are not miracle workers. Schools, by themselves, do not educate children; they simply reinforce and expand what children already know when they come to school. What happens in a school is important; but just as important is what happens in the home and the community where the child lives. Societal structures, value systems, cultures, institutions, and positive environments are powerful influencers of education in children. Good schools seldom (if ever) create good communities; but good communities usually create good schools! Active and involved parents, families, communities are necessary to educate children. Founded in 1996 by Phillip Jackson, The Black Star Project is committed to improving the quality of life in Black and Latino communities of Chicago and nationwide by eliminating the racial academic achievement gap. Our mission is to provide educational services that help pre-school through college students succeed academically and become knowledgeable and productive citizens with the support of their parents, families, schools and communities. Additionally, we help students aspire to post-secondary educational opportunities and training while exploring careers that will be emotionally, intellectually and financially rewarding. Our services are available to all students, particularly low-income Black and Latino students who attend low-achieving schools in disadvantaged communities. In order to achieve our goal of eliminating the racial academic achievement gap, we concentrate on three main areas of initiative: student engagement, parental development and advocacy. The Black Star Project conducts its programming and varied approaches to closing the racial academic achievement gap primarily through parent and student leadership development and advocacy. The Black Star Project operates with a belief in the strength of parental and community involvement in education to eliminate the racial academic achievement gap. Better parents produce better communities, better schools and better students! The most accurate predictor of a studentâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s achievement in school is not income, race, language barriers, cultural background, education level of parents or social status, but the extent to which a studentâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s family is able to create a home environment that encourages learning; express high and realistic academic achievement expectations for their children; and become involved in productive ways in their childâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s education at school, at home and in the community. 12

*The Black Star Project is receiving national, state and local recognition.

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J'nai Glasker was born on June 6, 1988 in Detroit, Michigan. She was an honor student and school patrol. On August 31, 2000 J'nai's life would come to a tragic end. J'nai was violently murdered in her bed. She was 11 years. 13

John C. Roy, II – MSW

Supporting Children

I have spent over thirty years in the delivery of soci Counties in New Jersey. I became interested in the sic needs met; either because of a lack of voice or re Abraham Harold Maslow, is necessary for rudimen concept. He felt that if the initial physiological and in time. Most professional agree that it is crucial to lies other services.

We all need to feel that we are safe. Medical needs fall into Maslow the middle of whether everyone without insurance coverage should defined as “public option” coverage. Public Option is defined as: “T sured citizens can opt for over private insurers. Since the governme hospitals and doctors and can get lower rates,” it is thought that the tion. However, many forget that the government is responsible for Medicaid, Medicare, and the Veteran’s Health Care Program have b

There is much discussion about President’s Obama’s heath coverage operate it. I will highlight two government run medical insurance pr compared to the State Children’s Health Insurance Program (SCHIP lations. Consequently, the populations served, the coverage offered This policy analysis examines the similarities and differences betwe bert and Terrell’s Dimensions of Social Welfare Policy Sixth Edition Allocation – Who is eligible?; 2] Social Provision – What are the be service?; and 4] Financing – How is it funded? There will be contin approved. This policy analysis will examine and offer the reader ins President Obama’s health care package based upon the success of M the coming article offers the reader information about New Jersey’s not have or have limited access to medical coverage. It is necessary needs as defined by Maslow. 14

& Families - Family Care Programs

ial services to youth and families in the Cape May and Atlantic welfare for youth and families who struggled to have their ba epresentation. Having access to basic needs as described by ntary living. Maslow categorized basic needs in a hierarchy d safety needs were met first, the other needs could follow suit o have these two initial needs met first prior to offering fami

w’s hierarchical definition. In our current circumstances, we are in be covered under what is being grossly misrepresented and missThe federal government creates a public insurance plan some uninent has more leverage than private industry when negotiating with e plan would likely be the cheapest option available for consideraseveral “public option” insurance programs. Programs such as been active providing care to Americans.

e plan focuses on a “Public Option” and the government’s ability to rograms: Medicaid and New Jersey FamilyCare. Medicaid is often P) because programs provide health coverage to low-income popuand the structure of these programs differ in very important ways. een Medicaid and New Jersey’s FamilyCare or SCHIP using the Giln examining four concepts that all programs must answer: 1] Social enefits?; 3] Social Delivery – What are the strategies to deliver the nued discussions before President’s Obama’s health care measure is sight into both programs and discuss the viability for approval of Medicaid and New Jersey’s FamilyCare programs. Please note that s SCHIPs program and how it affected youth and families who do to have medical coverage for I view that as, again, one of the basic 15

Once these basic needs accomplished, youth and family can have ot mature. The wraparound process is defined as a way to improve the or a type of service. The process is used to help communities develo developed by a Wraparound Team; the Team must include the yout service-driven, although a plan may incorporate existing categorica consultant to Dr. John Van Den Berg when he conducted focus grou New Jersey’s Children’s Mental Health committee representing the Southern Region Children’s Coordinating Council and Planning Com and I am a member of two multi-disciplinary juvenile justice comm

As an advocate, I adamantly believer that people do want to make a cial workers who can display empathy and compassion in order for sional career to the excellence in developing a children’s system of c lenges. I continue to provide my expertise in assuring that the youth needs in New Jersey. I truly consider that children are our future an sary tools to assume their positions in society.

I am the Community Resource Administrator for Cape Atlantic Inte for New Jersey’s children’s system of care. Cape Atlantic I.N.K. prov identified as those in most need. The target population is acknowle the child welfare, juvenile justice, mental health, and/or the special treatment services.

I received my Bachelors of Science degree in secondary education fr Masters of Social Work from Rutgers, The University of New Jersey volunteer with the Atlantic/Cape May Big Brothers Big Sisters regio Advisor Council, Cape May and Atlantic Counties Children’s Interag Counties Family Support Organization; past committee chairperson Systems Coordination Committee; presented on several occasions t New Jersey Education Association Conference; and a Disaster Resp 16

* Coming Up In The November Issue - Medicaid and New Jersey’s FamilyCar

ther remaining needs Wrapped Around them so they can grow and e lives of consumers who have complex needs. It is not a program op individualized plans of care. The individualized service plan is th and the parent/caregiver. The plan is needs-driven rather than al services if appropriate to the needs of the consumer. I served as a ups in Pennsylvania’s child welfare system; I was a member on voice and perspective of the youth; I am presently co-chair of the mmittee Chairperson and coordinate the annual Aging In Forum; mittee.

a change in their lives but may require the assistance of skilled sothe families to feel comfortable. I dedicated most of my profescare for youth who experience emotional and behavioral chalh’s voice must be taken into account when planning for their unmet nd we are responsible agents to insure they are afforded the neces-

egrated Network for Kids [I.N.K.], a care management organization vides care management services to the top one-fifth of the youth edged as those youth who have a history or currently involved with l education systems and not successful in traditional out-patient

rom Alderson-Broaddus College in Philippi, West Virginia and a y – Camden Campus. I reside in Cape May County New Jersey. I onal program; serve on Cape May Department of Human Services gency Coordinating Council; a consultant to the Atlantic Cape May n to New Jersey’s Department of Children and Families Delivery the New Jersey’s Mental Health Children’s System of Care to the ponse Crisis Counselor for New Jersey. 17

re or SCHIP , John will give an analysis to this system of health care.

Unidentified Black Male

The victim was discovered on February 18, 1982 in Twinsburg, Summit County, Ohio Estimated Date of Death: 1980 Cause of Death: undetermined State of Remains: Skeletal Vital Statistics: Estimated age: 20-35 years old Approximate Height and Weight: Undetermined. Distinguishing Characteristics: Slender but muscular build; subject was right-handed; at age 3-4 he had an illness with a very high temperature; also had adolescent kyphosis, Curvature of the Spine. Fingerprints: Not available Dentals: Tooth recovered had filling approximately five years old. DNA: Available Case History: The partial skeletal remains of the victim were located in a garbage bag on February 18, 1982 in a remote area of Twinsburg, Ohio. Investigators: If you have any information about this case please contact: Twinsburg Ohio Police Department 330-963 -6211. You may remain anonymous when submitting information. Agency Case Number: 19955 NCIC Number: U113758325 18

The Benefits of Antioxidants Dr. Dawn K- Aldrich Antioxidants are known to protect your cells from free radicals. Free radicals damage the cells as they are molecules that are produced when your body breaks down food, also when you are exposed to the pollutants in the environment. Free radicals are linked to diseases such as cancer, heart disease and many others. Here are the foods that contains antioxidants: Poultry, Fish, Some Meats, Fruits, Vegetables, Nuts, Grains, What substances are found in antioxidants? Vitamin A - liver, sweet potatoes, carrots, milk, egg yolks and mozzarella cheese. Retinol (Vitamin A1), 3,4-didehydroretinol (Vitamin A2), and 3hydroxy-retinol (Vitamin A3). Vitamin C - also known as ascorbic acid is found in fruits and vegetables. Vitamin E - is found in almonds, in many oils including wheat germ, safflower, corn and soybean oils, and also found in mangos, nuts, broccoli and other foods. Beta-carotene - foods that are orange in color, including sweet potatoes, carrots, cantaloupe, squash, apricots, pumpkin, and mangos. Some green leafy vegetables including collard greens, spinach, and kale are also rich in betacarotene. Lutein - green leafy vegetables such as collard greens, spinach, and kale (all linked to healthy eyes). Lycopene - tomatoes, watermelon, guava, papaya, apricots, pink grapefruit, 19

"Ideas for success without action and determination are worthless"

Hope in God

Cathy Irvin Creative Writer

How can we overflow with Hope when there is sorrow, trials, disast less? One way through God, He said we could and must only we ha

When our hearts our burdened and the load is too heavy to bear He My burden is light”.( Matt 11-28-30) I am so glad I don’t have to ca suffered a loss in a family member or a relationship, that becomes s constant friend to us all and if we lose hope we lose the ability to be ability to comfort others when we ourselves are suffering or in pain another, if it is a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, someone to tal steps forward to releasing some of the pain in your heart.

May the words of the song written below “You’ll never walk alone” it that gives you that will to persevere is HOPE. It may feel as if you can if you hope and walk just taking a step each day. Don’t think ab time because the future holds no guarantees but living each day ma

*Walk on, through the wind Walk on, through the rain Though yo your heart And you'll never walk alone You'll never walk alone W alone You'll never walk alone Walk on, walk on, with hope in your When you walk through the storm Hold your head up high And do sky And the sweet silver song of the lark*

I heard this song sung by Elvis Presley on the Internet as I began to want you to experience a glimmer of joy in the midst of your sorrow a voice to another who faces any sadness, a voice of comfort. Toda yourself breathe in some fresh hope for your day.

I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely wit flow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.

* The Christian Broadcasting Network The 700 Club Prayer Counseling 20

ters, economic problems, family distress and the list is endave to live one day at a time.

e said: “Cast your cares (burdens)on me, for My yoke is easy and arry all my problems around like a suitcase full of rocks. If we have so much more difficult to do however, God is the Comforter and a e a comfort to others or those closest to us. He alone gives us the n. Together we are a stronger link. In any kind of loss we need one lk too. Go ahead and talk, cry, pray but continue to take those

echo through your soul when you feel that way. The one word in ur heart will break and you can’t face another day but you really bout tomorrow and how you will face it, we must live one day at a akes everything bearable.

our dreams be tossed and blown Walk on, walk on, with hope in Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart And you'll never walk r heart and you'll never walk alone. You'll never walk alone on't be afraid of the dark At the end of the storm There's a golden

o write and knew the message it gave. I could feel HOPE arise. I w, a ray of sunshine for the dark cloud over your mind. We can be ay open the window of your soul just for a few moments and let

th joy and peace because you trust in him. Then you will over. Romans 15:13 (New Living Translation)

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SOUTHERN HOSPITALITY with Sharon Fox Well, school is off to a great start and Fall is officially here! Why not pick a weekend to celebrate family and friends! Togetherness is so important to us as families. Look over the year so far, and see just how blessed you really are. Then take some time out to pray for those who haven't been so blessed. Remember to teach the children about the goodness of God and how important and fragile our lives are. As we approach the holiday season, we must remember that it's not about how much money we have. It's all about the love we have in our hearts. Give a little love…open your hearts to others. Let's get in the kitchen and show our family and friends just how much we love them. Don't worry...I'm not throwing a hard task out there on you! Here is a great gourmet 5 course meal that is not only elegant, it's easy!! So get ready to impress your family and friends! Enjoy!!! And don't forget to check out more recipes each week at www.goodcookin4u2.webs.com Blessings, Sharon Fox "Southern Hospitality" SHRIMP CAKES WITH CHILI-LIME CREAM SAUCE

SHRIMP CAKES 1 pound shrimp, peeled, 1 egg 1 green onion, sliced 2 T lemon juice, 1 T dijon mustard, 1/2 t red pepper flakes 1/2 t salt, pinch of ground black pepper, 1 1/2 cups panko 2 T vegetable oil Finely chop shrimp and place in a bowl. add egg, green onion, lemon juice, mustard, red pepper flakes, salt, and pepper. add panko and mix well. Form mixture into twelve 3-inch-diameter cakes. transfer to waxed-paper-lined baking sheet. refrigerate 10 minutes. heat oil in large skillet over medium-high heat. working in batches, fry cakes until cooked through and golden brown on both sides, adding more oil to skillet as needed, about 6 minutes. spoon chili-lime cream sauce (recipe follows) onto plates and place 2 shrimp cakes on each and serve immediately.

CHILIL LIME CREAM SAUCE 1/4 cup dry white wine or chicken broth, 1/4 cup lime juice, 1 T chopped ginger 1 T minced shallot, 1/3 cup whipping cream, 2 T chili-garlic sauce 4 tablespoons butter, cut into 1/2-inch pieces Combine first 4 ingredients in small saucepan. Boil over high heat until reduced by half, about 3 22 about 2 minutes. Reduce heat to low. Mix in minutes. add cream and boil until reduced by half, chili-garlic sauce. add butter, 1 piece at a time, whisking just until melted before adding next piece.

HEARTY FALL SOUP 6 cups low-sodium chicken or vegetable broth One 2-pound butternut squash—quartered, seeded, peeled and cut into 2-inch pieces 5 thyme sprigs 2 garlic cloves, halved 2 medium leeks, white and pale green parts only, cut into 2-inch pieces 1 celery rib, cut into 2-inch pieces 1 tablespoon vegetable oil 2 thick slices of bacon, cut crosswise 1/2 inch thick 2 packed cups coarsely chopped kale One 15-ounce can pinto beans, drained and rinsed 1 medium carrot, finely diced 1 red bell pepper, finely diced 1 cup corn kernels, fresh or frozen Salt and freshly ground black pepper In a large, heavy pot, combine the broth, squash, thyme, garlic, leeks and celery and bring to a boil. Cover and simmer over low heat for 45 minutes. In a medium skillet, heat the vegetable oil. Add the bacon strips and cook over moderately high heat, turning once, until crisp, about 7 minutes. Discard the thyme sprigs from the soup. Working in batches, puree the soup in a blender. Return the soup to the pot. Add the bacon, collards, pinto beans, carrot, bell pepper and corn and bring to a boil. Simmer over moderately low heat, stirring occasionally, until the vegetables are tender, about 7 minutes. Season the soup with salt and pepper and serve. Serves 6

EASY AUTUMN SALAD 1 pomegranate 1 bunch golden beets 2 tbs olive oil 1/4 lb blue cheese Baby Romaine Lettuce Dressing 1 tbs Balsamic vinegar 4 tbs olive oil 2 tbs water 1 1/2 tbs quince paste or apple jam (I also like strawberry jam) salt and pepper Preheat your oven to 400. Cut the greens off the beets (don’t throw them out, they’re delicious sauteed with garlic). Peel the beets and cut into cubes or wedges. Toss with olive oil, and if desired, a bit of salt and white pepper. Roast on a cookie tray until tender, about 30-45 minutes (depending on how large the pieces are). Peel the pomegranate and remove the seeds to a little bowl. Cut the blue cheese into 1/4 in. cubes. To make the dressing, blend all dressing ingredients for about a minute. Toss salad with dressing and garnish with cheese, pomegranate seeds and roasted beets. 23

“Domestic Safety Compass”

Susan Murphy Milano, an Expert Domestic Violence Ad safely leave a violent relationship. Her books, “Defendi how to make the move away from abuse and deal with has two new books scheduled for release, “Time’s Up” a

Domestic violence destroys the confidence to grow, erases the color from our lives paints everything in d affects virtually all areas of your life. Given the harm that domestic v strategies to cope with inhuman and inhumane living environments My guess if you are a victim that for years you have had to adjust yo talk back, disagree with the person you already understand the heav told". If you are a friend, relative and even a co-worker please print care and they have your support whatever they decide to do.

Through the years you have denied or minimized the abuse. And no there is no way out. But you are wrong. You can get help and get out be the very best actress you can. During each step, you must be ten a violent relationship and are preparing to leave to discuss any plan provoke any conflict or argument that may be going on once you ha being harmed with bodily injury. You never confront the person abu confront the person because at that moment you feel strong and em relationship, but the consequences to your actions or reactions will mother, woman or child is murdered by the husband or ex-lover bec up silenced, carried out in a body bag because the victim believed th

You have endured so much. You may be tired, feeling as though you If you have lived day in and day out with a controlling manipulative have been brainwashed to feel as though you are worthless, no good you can't be "worthless", now can you? Domestic violence has destr to develop talents. It is a toxin that has affected every aspect of your 24

* Susan will give you step by steps in “Creating A Safety Plan” in the No

dvocate, has developed specific tools and procedures the abused need to ing Our Lives” and “Moving Out, Moving On” are considered the bibles of the many confusing situations surrounding a break-up or divorce. She and “Holding My Hand Through Hell.”

to try new things, to develop new talents. Domestic violence darker and darker shades of gray. Domestic violence is a toxin that violence and stalking can cause, it is no wonder that we learn s. First, you have to understand that no one deserves to be abused. our behavior, on a daily basis in order to reduce the violence. If you vy price paid when "you do not follow orders or do what you are the information off and make sure that person knows that you

ow you may feel helpless, you are in too deep and you may believe t safely with a plan. Before you begin it is very important that you steps ahead of the person abusing you. It is dangerous when you in ns of ending the relationship with that individual. You must not ave begun the process of leaving. If you do, you take the chance of using you announcing your relationship over. You may want to mpowered to inform the abuser and let them know your ending the play a key role in your safety, as we have all seen happen when a cause the victim announced their plans for departure. Only to end he abuser would never kill her.

u just don't have the strength or the resources to leave, but you do. e individual, leaving will be difficult for you at the beginning. You d to anyone. Well reverse that thought, you are with that person so royed your confidence to grow as a human being, to try new things, r life. 25

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Moving out, Moving on , is more then a simple workbook, bu to take control of one’s life and face the future head on. This i other “divorce book” written by a so called “expert.” Moving o on , is authored by a person who truly knows…Susan Murphy

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My first memory of witnessing the cries of my mother and the television on. My sister was two and a half yea search of a husband/father who had abandoned us for and protector. The first fight I had with a man was at to be the glue and a hope to my mother, younger sister all would be well and that I would take care of my fam To battle all the demons attacking my immediate fam f ect her to this day and thus has destroyed normal r the oldest.

My sister and brother and I, went on to live a life in and out of foster homes places were cruel with the exception of the short while we lived with our gr After our grandfathers passing away (The first man I have ever personally k grandmother showed us who she truly was and kicked myself out first and t ety, programs and school failed us. The source started with my father who i day. My mother chooses to be estranged from us living on mental health as

I believe the relations with my immediate sister and brother are hindered, d their subconscious, for what I could not do on my own. I have let go of this am a man who has lived the life of the movies "Antwone Fisher" and "Good now that God placed me with a father, mother, family, circumstance and en for nor had a choice in. I speak out to help spread light not darkness. I seek knowledge of what God has designed for me. I did not ask for my environm not forsake or betray anyone, I was betrayed and forsaken. If I do not speak problem. I speak not against but for the innumerable numbers of adolescen experiences. There are many people in this world that do not relate, or cann

I have been blessed to rise above all as you have and will also. The characte men in my family. This character typifies the absent father/man/husband i ally and financially from his family and his responsibilities. This opens the initially, the man. I have witnessed the tears of many women who are frustr sent man/husband/father. The emotions come from a place where there is 30 merable ways and situationsâ&#x20AC;Ś

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was at the age of five. We were in a hotel room with the lights off ars of age; my brother was seven months old. My mother was in r his music career and to travel on the road. I became a man, counselor the age of fourteen to keep him away from my sister I tried so hard r and brother at that precise moment in time. I promised my mother that mily. I failed. I was too young, vulnerable, and not mentally mature enough mily. I was helpless. My mother went on to de velop mental illness that af relations with us. I became the brunt of her anger and abuse due to being

s, relatives and associates, between the ages of five to seventeen. All those randfather who passed away after eight joyous months of living with him. known), our stepthen my sister. Family, sociis estranged to me unto this ssistance.

due to them faulting me in guilt within myself. Today I d Will Hunting". I understand nvironment, I neither asked k no revenge but spread the ment, I was born into it. I do k out, then I am a part of the nts and adults that share my not.

er typical of my father (the absent man/father/husband) is evident in other in the world. Males that is absent physically, emotionally, mentally, spirituPandora Box for families to be destroyed by the person meant to protect us rated and hurt, mostly because of unwarranted struggles caused by the abemotional, financial, spiritual and physical abuse. They struggle in innu31

Jasmine Kirl

Missing since August 8, 199 Classification:

Vital Stat • Date Of Birth: Decem • Age at Time of Disappeara • Height and Weight at Time of Disa • Distinguishing Characteristics: Black female. B • Medical Conditions: Collins has asthma and

Circumstances of D Collins and her mother, Melissa Collins, were last seen on August 8 nearby grocery store and carried no extra clothing or personal supp of 1993, a homicide detective received information that Melissa an mine was Raymond `Sweet Pea' Smith Jr., 37, a convicted felon d sometimes stayed with a woman who had sublet her Westwood ap picked up Jasmine about 7:30 p.m. and walked to a store about fo also went away that night, returning to the apartment on Westwo bloody. Smith committed suic

Investig If you have any information concerning this case, please contact Lugenbeal 330-375-2530 All information may be submitted on an a this number when contacting any agency with informatio 32

lissa Collins

91 from Akron, Summit County, Ohio. Endangered Missing

tistics : mber 29, 1990 ance: 7 months old appearance: 1'6; 15 pounds Black hair; brown eyes. d requires medication to regulate her condition.

Disappearance : 8, 1991 in their hometown of Akron, Ohio. They were headed to a plies. Neither has been seen or heard from again. In mid-August nd Jasmine were dead. The last person to see Melissa and Jasdescribed by police as a mental patient and drug abuser. Smith partment to Melissa. Smith had told his girlfriend that Melissa had our blocks away. They never returned. According to police, Smith ood one or two days later. When he returned, his clothing was cide on February 12, 1992.

gators: t: Akron Police Department Detective G. Price/Detective M. anonymous basis. NCIC Number: M-511002678 Please refer to on regarding this case. Todd Matthews Doe Network 33

Building Self-Esteem Today Fran Mazza MA, LPC, DRCC

One of my passions in my mental health career, which has spanne self esteem. I think my interest was sparked because of my own s As a result, it instigated my journey from the business field into t my personal mission to continually be educated and pass on my e development of self esteem especially when it concerns children. information and education to all those who read this. There are se but I prefer simplicity. Simply, self esteem refers to how you feel confidence, self respect, pride, independence and self reliance. So where does it all be born. A low self esteem simply does not exist. Everything around you, including the u yourself. Although as infants we were cranky when hungry, tired or wet, we made no

As an infant then a toddler, we hold the idea that we are the center of the universe. A the positive and negative of our environment begins to impact how we view ourselves. How many times have we used the phrase, “It takes a village to raise a child.” You can ment of our children. Unfortunately, our culture has changed from the village and far

So, what can we do now, today? Education is just a click away on our computers to a v is the U.S Department of Health and Human Services, The Federal Center for Mental dren. I will share some of the information with you. No matter the age of children o self esteem and confidence. Self esteem is an indicator of good mental health. It is ho or embarrassed about. Some self-doubt, particularly during adolescence is normal. P selves and developing greater confidence. Doing this is important because children w accomplishments; tolerate frustration; handle peer pressure appropriately; attempt n others. Words and actions have great impact on the confidence of children and adoles Phrases such as “I like the way you” or “You are improving at” or “I appreciate the way wink, pat on the back, or hug to show attention and appreciation. What else can be do

Be generous with praise: Develop a habit of looking for situations in which they are d positive self statements: Redirect their inaccurate or negative beliefs about themselve cule or shame: Blame and negative judgments are at the core of poor self esteem. Tea Let them own their problems. If they solve them they gain confidence in themselves. children that you can laugh at yourself: Show them that life doesn’t need to be serious for their well being. There is an unlimited amount of information available for parent esteem building” but it’s already out there. I know that if it’s difficult for an adult to u their own issues and identity of self. I have found over the years that no one is exemp failure, self doubt and shame are pervasive. 34

The bottom line is that we all need a “village”. We all need encouragement and supp

ed over 25 years, is how we develop struggle with my image of “self”. the mental health field. It has been education, whenever I can, on the So here I am, happily sharing my everal definitions for self esteem about yourself. It includes self egin? It begins the day we are universe is simply an extension of negative judgment about ourselves.

As we grow from infant to toddler and begin to master language, it’s at this time that . In a healthy environment, it balances out and we learn from our experiences. n see why a “village” of loving caretakers could make all the difference in the developrming communities and extended families, to family units that are very independent.

vast information system. One of the sites I use the most for educational information Health Services. I came across a very helpful article “Building Self Esteem in Chilor adolescents, good parent-child communication is essential for raising children with ow we feel about ourselves. Poor self-esteem is nothing to be blamed for, ashamed of Parents can play important roles in helping their children feel better about themwith good self-esteem: Act independently; assume responsibility; take pride in their new tasks and challenges; handle positive and negative emotions; offer assistance to scents. They remember the positive statements parents and caregivers say to them. y you”, should be used on a daily basis. Parents and caregivers can also smile, nod, one?

doing a good job, or displaying talents. Praise for jobs well done and for effort. Teach es and teach them how to think positive. Avoid criticism that takes the form of ridiach about decision, making and to recognize when they have made a good decision: Take the time to answer questions. Help them think of alternative options. Show s all the time and that some teasing is all in fun. Your sense of humor is important ts, educators and professionals to utilize. I always say “I could write a book on self understand this information and help build self esteem in our children, they have pt. It doesn’t matter who you are, how much money you have, race or culture, fear of 35

port so we can not only thrive as an individual but as a society.

Randy Doyle Parscale Jr. Missing since April 7, 1979 from Oracle, Pinal County, Arizona Classification: Non-Family Abduction Vital Statistics • Date Of Birth: January 13, 1969 • Age at Time of Disappearance: 10 years old • Height and Weight at Time of Disappearance: 4'6; 70 pounds • Distinguishing Characteristics: Caucasian. Brown hair; blue eyes. • Dentals: Not available • Clothing: Green jacket, blue pants, shoes with a bulleye sole pattern. Circumstances of Disappearance Parscale was last seen hiking with his family in Peppersauce Canyon, AZ. He became separated from his family during the trip; he was never seen or heard from again. Searches of the area turned up little evidence as to Parscale's whereabouts. Investigators If you have any information on this case, please contact: Pinal County Sheriff's Office Missing Persons Unit 520-868-6800 You may remain anonymous when submitting information. Agency Case Number: 79-02563 NCIC Number: M849822109 Please refer to this number when contacting any agency with information regarding this case. Todd Matthews Doe Network.

"No Battle, No Blessing" Life....an ever complicating thing, however, it is said to be that if there is no battle then there is no blessing. I must say that this is something that I didn't fully understand. Perhaps it is because I could n't fully fathom why it is that I've had to struggle so much and so hard. Well, the answer is clear, although is hasn't always been, that it was never said that life would be easy. We will have trials and tribulations, we will have grief, we will have pain, we will have torment, we will have disappointment, and we will have that fearful desire to give up. It is not easy to sit here and say those things, but it is the truth, life's burdens. Life's burdens were never meant to be easy to deal with, especially not when there is something more that God has for you....Cast your cares upon the Lord for He cares for you ~ I Peter 5:7. I would not be truthful if I told you that there are not times that I become consumed in the storms of my life when they hit so hard from every direction that I literally have fell to my knees in tears crying out to God, wondering what it is that I have done that has brought so much on me. The words came so clear to me as though someone was standing right there in the room with me, "Remember that I want to use you for my greater purpose, you have to stand still and allow me to fight this battle for you, working a work that is in you." I thought that I was losing my mind, and it was said again, "Did I not make the wind and the waves behave when my disciples were out at sea , did I not carry you through your storms before now, making them cease before your very eyes?" "Do you not have faith?" What could I say...had I lost my faith? Let me explain something, these battles that we experience are spiritual battles. Most of our battles are not about flesh. Sure it sure hurts as though they are, but if you look at the things that you've experienced over your lifetime you will begin to look at them differently. Many of the things that we come against sway our emotions, they sway our thoughts, they sway our attitude, and they ultimately sway the way that we act. Our perception of things change when we experience these battles. Now, think about this, when you have battled your way through spiritual battles arming yourself with the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, the sandals of peace, the shield of faith, the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the spirit being God's Word, did you or did you not find that your battle was won. It was our Father that sustained you, protecting you from the attacks of the enemy, even when the enemy tried to bring you down from every angle and at every turn. It has gotten so real for me that every time that I felt that I was about to fall, I speak the words aloud, "Get thee behind me, for no weapon formed against me shall prosper." Even when the flesh wants to take over and fight for itself, I have to sit down and speak the words aloud, "Vengeance is not mine, it is the Lord's, I'm broken, but I desire more of God, to be more like Him." "There is no blessing without a battle, and the battle is not mine." You see, every blessing that I have, my health, my strength, the fact that I am allowed to see another day, my children, my family, my job, all of it is not because of me, it is because I allowed God to work a work within me. I denied the fleshly desire to give up and allow my storm to overcome me, and went through the battle. 37

No Battle, No Blessing! Sincerely, Paula Whitebear-Burton Warriors for Christ (W.F.C) Founder, Coordinator, & Organization Manager

Missing since November 9, 1985 South Lake Tahoe, El Dorado County, California Classification: Endangered Missing

Vital Statistics • Date Of Birth: May 16, 1981 • Age at Time of Disappearance: 4 years old • Height and Weight at Time of Disappearance: 4'0; 35 pounds • Distinguishing Characteristics: Bi-racial male (black/Arabic). Curly, red hair; br his left calf. He also has a small scar on the right corner of his mouth and scars aro Roberson • Dentals: Not available.

Circumstances of Disappearance Alexander was initially abducted by his non-custodial father, Ulysses H. Roberson, mother, Rosemary Olive, went to see her son in December 1985, to have Roberson when she asked where he was. She later won a court order from a San Francisco j boy was nowhere to be found. Roberson was convicted of assault with a deadly we beating Olive. He returned to Washington and was later arrested and convicted of t

Ulysses H. Roberson, is a cult-like figure who allegedly called himself a "mystic ma women into abusive relationships, ultimately went to prison in Washington state for against Roberson in October 2001 after authorities submitted new witness testimon that Roberson beat the little boy to death and then hid the body, all because he had dence for a murder charge. But recently, FBI crime lab tests for DNA revealed that she was with Roberson when Alexander was beaten to death, then loaded into the Tahoe. Roberson could face a sentence of 25 years to life if convicted of murderin after fleeing Washington, where authorities had charged him with beating an 8-yea

Investigators If you have any information concerning this case, please contact: South Lake Taho mitted on an anonymous basis. Agency Case Number: 86-060045 NCIC Case Nu 38 information regarding this case. Todd Matthews Doe Network

Alexander Sol Olive

rown eyes. â&#x20AC;˘ Marks, Scars: Olive has a birthmark on ound both of his ankles. â&#x20AC;˘ AKA: Salaam Alexander

on November 9, 1985 in South Lake Tahoe, CA. Olive's n scream at her, then punch and kick her repeatedly judge ordering Roberson to return Alexander, but the eapon and served a year in the El Dorado County Jail for the rape and child beating charges.

aster." Roberson, who is reputed to have lured several r beating an 8-year-old boy and raping a 13-year-old girl. Murder charges were filed ny and DNA evidence. Police say the evidence confirms their long-held suspicions d soiled his pants. Without a body, prosecutors didn't believe there was enough eviAlexander's blood was on some clothes found in Roberson's van. A witness said van and dumped at a remote location -- a two or three-hour drive from South Lake ng Alexander. Roberson came to Sacramento, and then South Lake Tahoe, in 1985 ar-old son from another relationship.

oe Police Department Sgt. T. Conner 530-542-6100 All information may be subumber: M-663230139 Please refer to this number when contacting any agency with 39

Rev. Ora Stearns Smith

Someone wisely said that we can determine very lives of our children. What a profoun our times today. Gross darkness is permea tate ing, annihilating our babies, our childr is coming oftentimes through the blackened wickedly evil parents who are calloused fro in degradation, unnatural self-gratification

Parents are supposed to be the caregivers, n the most precious treasure there is, Our Ch immeasurable treasure that God has person

Parents on a daily basis are committing hideous, unspeakable crimes again manner of evil, too horrendous to even make note of. Are you hearing me? I mean, are you really hearing me?

Our children are the very lifeblood of our nation! Without our children, ou parents) without us, our children do not stand a chance, either! It’s time to bies! It’s calculated! It’s demonic! And far, far too many of them are losin

When our beautiful little darlings should be cherished and celebrated, loved and tossed aside as if they are nothing, mean nothing! And our society has of Christ are no different. They too are no different at all. And this is a very

God has given His Church power over all the power of the evil one. And He from their apathetic ways and do something about this gross evil against ou alarm! No longer can we keep our heads buried in the sand; no longer can unified against this genocide. It’s time to arise in the glorious power that th for our children. Yes, it’s time to make it right for our children, indeed!

Blessings, Rev. Ora

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e the future history of our nation by the nd and sad truth, especially in light of ating our land and is violating, devas ren, our youth. And this gross darkness d minds of twisted, distorted, om their own personal, continual feasts n and disgustingly vile behaviors.

nurturers, protectors, and guardians of hildren. But what are we doing to the babies? What are we doing to this nally entrusted into our hands?

nst their very own innocent, lovely children, and they are using them for all

ur nation does not stand a chance, and parents (Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m speaking of the Godly o wake up and do something about this all pervading evil against our bang their lives.

d and respected, they instead are being tortured, brutalized, murdered s become numb, unaffected, uncaring. And sadly, a great many in the Body y sad indictment against the Body of Christ!

e is commanding His people who are called by His Name to repent, to turn ur children in20our land. Yes, this God of all creation is sounding His n we keep our hearts closed in our personal agendas. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s time to become he Lord our God has entrusted to us and invested in us and make it right

ed woman of God remember: As A41 Women Thinketh, So Is She!

Keeping on the Alert â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Flu Season & Swine Flu (H1N1 Virus) Dr. Kirnon - CEO/President Solutions Health & Wellness. Solutions Health & Wellness Inc., focuses on promoting and maintaining a healthy life.

Back in the early spring, there were reports on the news where Mexico was experiencing quite a major health scare which caused a lock down. The reported deaths were climbing, tourists were sent back, and some were not allowed to travel either to Mexico or enter their country. While many people who did not live or visit Mexico felt safe, things quickly changed. The high alerts were suddenly in effect all over the world. New cases were reported and the death tolls were also rising. The initial reports seemed to indicate that those who died were as a result of preexisting conditions which means they may have had other diseases/illnesses (diabetes, heart diseases, asthma, HIV/Aids,etc.). There is also a weekly report that follows the cases of the flu. Most of these cases are reported as the H1N1 Virus also known as the Swine Flu. http://www.cdc.gov/flu/weekly/index.htm#MortalityData The symptoms are very similar to the seasonal flu which includes fever, chills, cough, sore throat, runny nose, stuffy nose, fatigue and headaches. However, a significant number of people have reported diarrhea and vomiting. Keep on the alert! Your child has returned to school, you have returned to work, you are exposed to various environments â&#x20AC;&#x201C; taking public transportation, others who may be sick at work and are coughing unaware that they have the virus, you shake hands, you may share food (breaking off a piece of a sandwich/direct hand contact with the food), children share drinks, and most importantly a lack of washing hands consistently. All of the situations mentioned may be the cause of spreading the H1N1 Virus. Most recently, over 500 students were ill with flu like symptoms on the Cornell University campus in Ithaca, NY. There was one death reported of a 20 year old student. A 5 year old boy from Antioch, Tennessee died 4 days after being ill. The concern is that this 5 year old boy was not known to have any preexisting conditions, yet he succumbed to the virus. His parents followed the correct guidelines as reported/suggested. In addition, 42 the cases of children who have been considered high risk are said to be less than 5 years old. The point is this is all based on the current cases and no one really knows for sure.

Kurt Ronald Newton Missing since September 1, 1975 from Chain Of Ponds, Maine. Classification: Non-Family Abduction Vital Statistics Date Of Birth: June 28, 1971 Age at Time of Disappearance: 4 years old Height and Weight at Time of Disappearance: 3'8; 45 pounds Distinguishing Characteristics: White male. Blonde hair; blue eyes. Clothing: A navy blue jacket, a blue sweatshirt, multi colored cordaroy pants, mismatched socks and brown high shoes. Circumstances of Disappearance Newton's family was camping at the Natanis Campground in Chain Of Ponds, ME on September 1, 1975. Newton was last seen riding his Big Wheel near his family's site; he wandered away from the road and has never been seen nor heard from since. His tricycle was found at a dump site eight-tenths of a mile from his family's campsite. Investigators If you have any information concerning Newton's whereabouts, please contact: Maine State Police Detective Mark Lopez 207-657-5710 You may remain anonymous when submitting information. NCIC Number: M-000164660 Please refer to this number when contacting any agency with information regarding this case. 43 Todd Matthews Doe Network

HalleluYAH, It’s Harvest Time! Jill S

Beloved, from all of the world events of wars and rumors of wars, attacks on children in school, and people falling away from the fa appearance of holiness rather than living godly lives), we know tha is coming soon! There is an urgency to bring the harvest - to win s to faith. Therefore, we must bear good fruit; not only by what we s and how we live. We must lovingly plant the seed of truth in non-b battling cults, Paul sends a letter teaching about thanksgiving and for living holy. He says,

“We pray that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may ple ing in the knowledge of God…” New saints must mature quickly in must continue to hold fast to the fulfillment of your calling. We ten obedience and absolute trust that our God will complete the work H and over again. Our Father is developing us quickly. We have to lea our purpose. While many of us are reaping personal/business har dom. It’s time to bring people into relationship with our Father. P to have unwavering heart knowledge of Who He is. Developing an time with Him in prayer, and seeking Him through studying Script ning…” God’s Word is the seed of truth. He spoke, and everything m Eden, God blessed every living creature and told them to be fruitfu

The fifth day, God told Adam and Eve to do the same. Some genera ful.” We must not only multiply our families, but the Family of God 29 says, “For you are the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus. F Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor fr Jesus. And if you be Christ’s, then are you Abraham’s seed, and he ham’s seed is all people who repent and call on the name of the Lor fruitful is ours. 44

St. James

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, natural disasters in alarming frequency, aith (choosing to pacify themselves with the at these are the final hours. Our Lord, Jesus, souls for the Kingdom, and restore the lost say, but by what we do, how we treat people believers. While the Colossians were prayer, the dominance of Jesus and rules

ease Him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, grown faith in order to do what God called you to do. Mature saints nd to let life’s issues get us off the path. We all need to continue in He began in us. The trials we go through are games to played over arn the lesson the first time, and move forward in faith toward rvests, God says it’s time to begin reaping a harvest for His KingPeople have head knowledge of Who God is, but it’s time for them intimate relationship with God mainly comes from spending tures. Sowing and reaping goes all the way back to “In the beginmanifested. During the fourth day of creation in the garden of ul and multiply.

ations later, God told Abraham, “I will make you exceedingly fruitd. We believe we are the seed of Abraham because Galatians 3:26For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on ree, there is neither male nor female: for you are all one in Christ eirs according to the promise.” Jesus is Abraham’s seed. Abrard. Since we are Abraham’s seed, the promise to be exceedingly 45

We are living promises of fruitfulness, with roots delving into the in love. It’s time to continually thank God for everything He has d fruit bears witness to the truth of the Savior. Elder Renee McGhe stay focused. FOCUS is: Fixed On Cultivating Undeveloped Seed. fruit that needs to be developed in your life. What is yours? Mine ping out of His will and doing things on my own.

For the result of my impatient actions could cause delayed fulfillm was created.After we’ve checked ourselves and made sure that all we are able to plant the seed of righteousness in others. We can si move of God, and trust Him to manifest growth in them for whate sen them for. As we wait, let’s pray and give praise for the work th them. Many of our Christian family, friends and co-workers go to Most have lost the importance of building a relationship with God intimacy with Him in order to establish a relationship, and to mat been led to simply tell people to read/study their Bible so they can ises He gave us. A lot of people say they don’t think about reading stand what they read. It’s our job to teach them, or refer them to a a small Scripture-study group.

They must grow in faith by studying His Word, as we all must do. mitment. He will cultivate the seeds you plant in other people. He sprout come up and a garden causes seed to grow, so the Sovere all nations.” Isaiah 61:11 “Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a 2009 birthing/manifestation season is here! As we live holy unto personal and professional lives, and especially for the Kingdom of time!

*YAH is the abbreviation of Yahweh, the Hebrew name on-line ministry, and author of the Urban Christian nov 46 Again…Now What? - A guide for new Believers.

richness of God’s Word – planted firmly in faith and grounded done in our lives…but, mainly because of Who He is. Our good ee from Mountaintop Faith Ministries in Las Vegas reminds us to In these times, everyone must remain focused. Think about the is PATIENCE. I’m learning to trust God completely by not step-

ment of promises, and utter disaster for the purpose to which I nine of the components in the “fruit” are operating in our lives, it back and watch a mighty ever purpose He has chohat’s being completed in church out of tradition. d. Again, we must develop ture in faith.Lately, I’ve n know/believe the promg, or they just don’t undera Bible teaching church or

. God will honor your come will bring their faith to fruition. “For as the rich soil makes the eign Lord will make righteousness and praise spring up before a harvest of righteousness.” James 3:18 Brother's & sister's, our the Lord, let’s bear good fruit and reap bountiful harvests in our f God. Now, send up some praise. HalleluYAH! It’s harvest

e of God. Jill St. James is the founder of Wings of Grace vel, God’s Love, and the ministerial booklet, I’m Born 47

Left: Dansby in 1989; Right: Age-progressed image of Dansby at age 11 (circa 1998)

Christopher Milton Dansby Missing since May 18, 1989 from New York City, New York Classification: Non-Family Abduction Vital Statistics Date Of Birth: March 30, 1987 Age at Time of Disappearance: 2 years old Height and Weight at Time of Disappearance: 2'6; 30 pounds Distinguishing Characteristics: Black male. Black hair; brown eyes. Marks, Scars: Dansby has a figure-eight ("8") shaped birthmark on his neck. Clothing: A floral-print shirt; blue jacket; jeans; and blue and white sneakers. Circumstances of Disappearance Dansby was last seen at his family's home on West 113th Street and Lenox Avenue in New York City. Police suspect that Dansby was abducted by a non-family member. Dansby was abducted from the same neighborhood as Shane Anthony Walker. Walker disappeared from a location near Dansby's residence in August 1989, a mere three months after Dansby's disappearance. Authorities do not believe that these two cases are related. Investigators If you have any information concerning Dansby's whereabouts, please contact: New York City Housing Department Police Det. Michael Moore 646-6106914 NCIC Number: M-377468704 Please refer to this number when contacting any agency with information regarding this case. Todd Matthews Doe Network 48

Jarkeius Adside Adside's parents were both in jail in October 2001, and he was be-ing looked after by a babysitter. The babysitter told police that he was abducted by three unidentified men during an early morning rob bery of her home near southwest 296th Street and 158th Avenue in Miami, Florida on October 18, 2001. The robbery, she said, took place while she walking her daughter to the bus stop. The babysitter was confronted by the three armed suspects and she and her husband were tied up. When they were able to free them-selves, the house had been ransacked and Adside and several items were missing. The baby has never been seen again. Composite sketches of the three abductors are posted below this case sum-mary. They should all be considered armed and dangerous. A bloodstained mattress was found in the home after Adside's abduction; investiga-tors believe he may have been injured during the home invasion. Adside has never been heard from again and his abductors have not been identified. The child's case remains unsolved. have any infor-mation concerning this case, please contact: Miami-Dade Police Department 305-471-8477 OR 305 -418-7200 Last updated October 4, 2005; picture added, details of disappearance updated.

Charley Project Investigating Agency If you have any information concerning this case, please contact: Miami-Dade Police Department 305-418-7200 49

Halloween Safety Tips By *Pattie Fitzge

Trick or treating is one of the great American traditions and, de out celebrating the Great Pumpkin. Maybe you’ll be accompa perhaps they’re venturing out on their own, trick or treating wi savvy safety precautions, there is no trick to enjoying a safe an

Halloween Safety for Kids & Grownups Plan your route ahead of time and che If there is an offender living in your neighborhood, be sure to skip that house or te f they ask why, let them know the person who lives there is not a “safe grownup.”

Children under 12 should be accompanied by a responsible adult. 3. Teens should trick or treat with at least one or two other friends – never 4. Plan your route ahead of time and stick to it. Stay in familiar neighborh 5. If a child gets lost, or feels scared or threatened for any reason, ask a MO 6. No child or teenager should ever enter the home of someone they don’t 7. Be very wary of any stranger who tries to accompany you as you trick o that person quickly. 8. Stay in the open, don’t take shortcuts through alleys or unlit backyards. 9. Kids on their own should never get into a car with anyone…unless they 10. Visit only houses that are well lit. 11. Carry a flashlight, a watch, and a fully charged cell phone. (Make sure 12. All kids should have some form of identification with them, even if it’s side their costume. 13. If older kids want to change their plans, they must CHECK IN with a p 14. Set a firm time limit on how long kids can be out on their own. 15. All treats must be inspected by a parent first. Do not eat any unwrapped 16. Wear brightly colored clothes or use some reflective tape on your costum 17. Openly discuss appropriate and inappropriate behavior at Halloween. 2.

*Pattie Fitzgerald has been successfully teaching child predator safety a 50 keynote speeches and parent education seminars. For more information

erald, founder Safely Ever After, Inc.

espite media scares, we can still enjoy a safe night anying your hobgoblins door to door this year, or ith friends. With a little common sense and some nd fun Halloween. So relax, and have fun!!

eck your stateâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Meganâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Law Sex Offender register. ell your child and their friends not to ring that doorbell. In California, the website is www.meganslaw.ca.gov

alone. hoods. OM WITH KIDS for help. know. Accept all treats at the doorway only. or treat. If kids are on their own, they should say NO and get away from

y have already gotten permission from their parents ahead of time. kids on their own do so as well.) just a slip of paper with their name, address and phone number pinned in-

parent first. (That cell phone sure comes in handy!)

d or partially wrapped treats. me or bag.

and awareness since 2001 with her child-friendly school curriculum, 51 n, visit www.safelyeverafter.com

Missing Mothers: Ida Dean Richards By: Delilah, Co-Founder, Peace4 the Missing

When I started writing “Mothers Are Vanishing” I found severa continuing to search for a missing mother. My first encounter w was putting together a repository of all the missing persons in M was able to contact Ida’s only son, Danny Borgers.

In 1995 three siblings were reunited, along with other family members who for 51 years wer why she hasn’t been heard from since. Through the years many avenues have been taken to t Florida and soon were the parents of three children. It’s stated they had a troubled marriage. Ida let it be known to her family back in Florida that things weren’t working out in her marri At that time, her husband was unable to care for the children and placed them in a boarding h State of Michigan. When Ida was released, she and her husband attempted get them back, an ber, 1958. A plane ticket home to Florida was purchased for her and the children, however, th

The children were adopted by new families, Danny and a sister with one family from Fraser, lived in the Upper Peninsula area of Michigan. After they were reunited in 1995, it became a ily members the search for Ida began. Danny related to me that most of the information gath missing persons report were greeted with complacency and they were told that because the c nected with Chad Scott, they went to police headquarters in Ann Arbor, Michigan and convin into the NCIC database so that her information became available to any other agencies that c swabbed for DNA samples. All the case details can now be entered into the government spon data with data entered about unidentified remains by coroners, medical examiners and law en

Ida is now 72 years old, her sister, Belle, around the same age, has a burning desire to know “Aunt Belle” were guests on the Kim and Kjel Show, Crime and Mystery, where “Aunt Belle fact one of the last people to see her, has been located, however, for her own reasons, stated s suade her to rethink her position. The family now has a renewal of hope that answers will co

One of the things I’m always curious about when researching cases of missing mothers is, w it affect their lives. Danny Borgers was so kind to give me a glimpse into what it’s like. Altho love for music as his father and others on his father’s side of the family. His musical career le playing as a studio musician, and now he is living his dream of writing and producing his ori related some good times, especially the fact that he was able to reunite with his father, Gerry mid 80’s and happened to see a news report of someone that robbed a bank with a squirt gun At the time he laughed and said, “What kind52of dumb person would rob a bank with a squirt

son Anderson, (pictured) Missing 51 Years

al cold cases, but never did I think I would run across a case this old, with family members with the case of Ida Anderson was through Chad Scott whose organization, Track Missing, Michigan that they could find. Like me, Chad was also surprised to find a case this old and

re left with the unanswered questions about what happened to Ida September 18, 1958 and try and locate her, all fruitless. Ida and Kenneth “Gerry” Richardson married young in Gerry was a musician, an avid piano player, and landed his family in Detroit, Michigan. iage, but before she could return home to them she was hospitalized. home which housed indigent children and as a recourse they became the custody of the nd after 6 months, Ida was scheduled to receive custody in Septemhey were never used and Ida has not been seen since.

, Michigan, and the youngest sister adopted by another family who a mission for them to find the answers. With the help of other famhered over the years led to dead ends. Attempts made to file a case was so old, there was no need. However, once Danny connced authorities there to take the report and enter the information could assist in finding information on Ida. The family was also nsored NamUs database which works to match missing persons nforcement agencies.

what happened, especially if Ida is still alive and living under another name. Danny and e” enthusiastically relays the need to know about her sister. A former roommate of Ida’s, in she doesn’t want to be involved. Attempts are being made, through a third party, to perome.

what happened to her children, how did they grow up, what were their feelings and how did ough adopted and raised by another family when he was 3, he somehow inherited the same ed him down several different paths, including writing and arranging for Broadway shows, iginal music in Nashville. Life somehow goes on, even with a missing mother, and Danny y Anderson. The way it happened was quite remarkable. Danny was in Ann Arbor in the n, took the money down to a nearby bar and started buying rounds of drinks for the crowd. 53 gun!?” He later found out that person was his father.

The C.U.R.T. Foundation

the Rev. Patricia A. Anderson. It wa Curtis F. Davis, who was hit by a car foot instead of using an overhead wa

Rev. Anderson created this foundatio C.U.R.T. Foundation was establis County region of Southern New Jerse Mother's Day Fashion Show Luncheo Walks. These programs give youth a of life by focusing on the positive ene

In life, we must learn that we are our phy at its center. The C.U.R.T. Fou up our youth spiritually. We hope to give our community the tools t believe the spirit drives the physical being, thusly, if we build positiv munties as well as the broader society in such a manner that induce and the like.

The C.U.R.T. Foundation, however, needs your help in this ende your ideas, comments, & suggestions with positve intent. You can f purpose. We are not trying to endorse our particular religious belie they believe to positively contribute to the upbringing of our youth a what they've learned to become successful contributing members of

*Reverend Patricia A. Anderson is the CEO & founder of the C.U.R.T. Foundat Curtis F. Davis in the winter of 1993. After battling depression she saw a light at th tragedy into a triumph. She created an organization that seeks to empower our yo Anderson has done just that. She along with her husband, daughters, extended fam munities. She has opened the eyes, hearts, and minds of many youth, who without k fullness of spiritual awareness and richness. Reverend Anderson's journey has just

*Melisha Anderson is the President of The C.U.R.T. Foundation. She is also the y member of the C.U.R.T. foundation since its inception. Upon her 18th birthday, Me 54 all direction of the organization. Currently she serves as an outreach coordinator f edge, wisdom, and resources to the CURT Foundation. Ms. Anderson believes in co

n is a non-profit organization.

The foundation is the brainchild of as established in the wake of the terrible tragedy of loosing her son r after making a hasty decision to cross the Garden State Parkway on alkway.

on so that her son's life & death would not be in vain. The shed in 1994 and has since served its community, The Cape May ey. The foundation has sponsored many youth events from ons to Youth Conferences, from Black Tie Events to Humble Prayer and adults, alike, the opportunity to unite and resist the temptations ergies of life, including community service and serving one another.

r brothers & sisters keepers. This organization keeps that philosoundation is an interfaith organization whose main focus is to build to be able to constantly rebuild and renew their inner-selves. We ve spirits, we become postive people contributing to our local comes caring, sharing, peace, social change, success

eavor. No matter your faith or religion, we invite first help by believing in this organization and its efs, we are simply trying to get people to use what and communities so that they in turn will use f society.

tion. She founded the organization after the loss of her son, he end of a long dark tunnel that would restore her hope and her faith. She turned a outh through spiritual strenghtening and guidance. For the last 14 years, Rev. mily members, and church family have contributed greatly to the surrounding comknowing are blind or ignorant to their personal voids, to allow them to recieve the t begun and she will continue with her efforts until she is called home.

youngest daughter of Reverend Patricia Anderson. Melisha has been an active elisha took the office as President and has since been an influential force in the overfor a law enforcement organization, thusly55contributing a vast amount of knowlommunity and her efforts are reflective of that belief. http://curt2000.webs.com/

HAIR CARE by Eddie

When I was about 10 years old or so, I got my first relax by no means condemning anyone who chooses to relax believe that every person has a right to wear their hair h see fit, but I also believe every person also has the right what their choices may be doing to their hair and bodies

Relaxers are made with extremely strong and toxic chemicals and are form bonds), which give Black hair its curl pattern as well as its strength. So of co weakened and more susceptible to damage and breakage. Relaxers also ro brittleness and hair discoloration.

As we age, it's a normal for the hair to be used a relaxer, chances are that by 40, y had not. Also remember that most peop laxers for well over 25 years, which may

Sodium Hydroxide is an extremely stron drastic. However, this same sodium hyd the hair that clogs the sink...which demo ers are not safe for our skin, which is wh these chemicals to our hair, which most of the times, inadvertently end up o

Several studies have shown that, much like a birth control or nicotine patch through the scalp in sufficient enough amounts to increase the risks of adve limited to premature births and low birthrates. A recent report shows that c carriages.

Many of us relaxed our hair because it was the in thing to do, kind of like sm that cigarettes account for an alarming amount of cancer cases. Like cigare I know that being natural isn't the easiest thing to do and for many MANY y relaxing my hair because I am educated...Now I want you to be as well. If yo 56 sistance, let me know...I'll help you or find a fanatic natural who will.

xer, so I am their hair. I however they to know s.

mulated to obliterate the outer layer of the hair shaft or cuticle (peptide ourse, when you destroy this layer, your hair is straight, but it is also ob the hair of essential fatty acids which can result in permanent damage,

e somewhat thinner and not as strong or grow as long, but if you have you will experience much worse thinning and damage than someone who ple relax their hair as a pre-teen, so by the age of 40, many of have used rey lead to irreversible follicle damage as well as health issues.

ng chemical used in some relaxers because it's effects are permanent and droxide is found in drain cleaners which are primarily used to break down onstrates the strength of this chemical. The majority of chemicals in relaxhy it is recommended to use gloves when applying them. Yet, we apply on our scalps.

h, toxic chemicals from relaxers and other hair products may be absorbed erse health effects in women and their unborn infants including, but not cosmetologist who regularly use hair chemicals are at higher risk for mis-

moking was in the early days, but now, it's not so cool as we are finding ettes, relaxers have several toxic chemicals that have been linked to cancer. years, I couldn't even wrap my mind around it, but today, I can't imagine ou are interested in going natural and 57need some encouragement and ashttp://www.fabulousblackwoman.com/

TEEN L.U.V.E. Program

Gabriela R. Chavez founder of the TEEN L.U.V.E Pro considered "low-incomeâ&#x20AC;? which is a breeding ground for was considered an "at-risk" teen. By age of 13, most of my ting arrested, ditching school, doing drugs and the list goe staying away from trouble.

When my friends were running away from home because of abuse and neg and godmother allowed me to them to stay in our home. One of my closest stayed with us often, had one of the hardest upbringings I've witnessed. Eve beautiful, smart, down to earth and popular, her parents caused her much p this pain and neglect, she felt inadequate and inferior, which clearly lead to and self-respect. Her lack of self love and self esteem caused her to get invo of long term physically and emotionally abusive relationships.

One day, the last relationship she became involved with was with an extrem two children with him. Because she had the two children, she stayed with h her funeral, my mission was strongly reinforced - that I needed to continue what my friend Theresa Crawther went through. Now her two children are lifestyles, made me realize that I wanted to help other at risk children. I kne own youth center that would provide a warm and welcoming place for runa for programs that coincided with own my long-term goals and vision for my

The Teen L.U.V.E Program is a not for profit program, created by Beaut with Listening (L), Understanding (U), and a wide range of confidence buil couraged (E). Because of my background along with the startling statistics o are in dire need of emotional support and a strong environment. Just like LUVE Program are raised in challenging situations such as poverty ridde unique talents and skills, which directly affects their self-esteem negatively

This significantly hurts their potential to maximize on their talents and furt learn self-acceptance, self-esteem, and self-love through workshops and cla ers again. Many of our teens in our 58 program have mentioned being raped, m experiences, they don't trust others.

ogram and Beauties on the Go. I grew up in an environment that was r at risk teens. I went to school with many at risk teens and in some cases, I y friends were in gangs, selling drugs, having sex, pregnant, stealing, get es on. However, I tried to focus my energy on school by doing well and

glect, my mother t friends, who en though she was pain. Because of o low self-esteem olved with a series

mely irate and abusive man. Even though he beat her constantly, she had him. One day he grew so angry with her, he killed her. The day I attended e my mission of helping at risk teens. No one should ever have to suffer being raised by her family. Witnessing my friends experience unstable ew by age 13, with the support of my Godmother, I wanted to manage my away, molested, abused, and neglected children. By age 16, I volunteered y own organization, the TEEN L.U.V.E Program.

ties on the Go to empower and mentor at-risk teens. Providing our teens lding experiences will give them a Vision (V), while constantly being Enon child abuse, the TEEN LUVE Program was created. These children many of my friends growing up, our teens that are part of the TEEN en and abusive environments that don't support the development of their y.

ther develop their skills. Our teens come to our program and feel safe, asses. They become strong communicators while learning how to trust oth59 molested, physically and emotionally abused. Because of these traumatic

When our kids first start the program, they are shy and feel awkward. Some teachers, which leads to loneliness and getting bullied. Some of our other te other parent or family member and in some cases, theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve even witnessed m ror and dysfunction our teens have experienced, their love tanks are empty created the Teen L.U.V.E Program to provide our teens with nurturing, acceptance through holistic classes, workshops, and mentoring services.

Here are statistics on child abuse and at risk teens throughout the USA rep

*Administration for Children and Families, Children's Bureau: *Child Pro of child abuse or neglect per week *Astonishingly, more than 895,000 chil *Nearly 20% suffer from physical abuse, while 10% suffer from sexual abu and ridicule *An average, 4 children die per day due to parental or careta

Ford Motor Company recently donated $500 to our program and we plan t our family. The two new teens have experienced and/or suffered from runn school as well as molestation.

The Teen L.U.V.E Program will sponsor the two teen girls for the 2009/ will provide them with after school mentoring, self-esteem building experie ing and exposure to crime and violence, I should be another statistic, but th thing in my power to keep growing the TEEN L.U.V.E Program.

To support us, contact www.beautiesonthego.com and click on the Teen L.U gabriela@beautiesonthego.com

Works Cited 1. Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Adm ment 2002. Washington, DC: U.S. Government Printing Office. Available online a tional Clearinghouse on Child Abuse and Neglect Information at (800) 394-3366.

*Gabriela R. Chavez Founder & Director of Business Development 30

e lack the interpersonal skills to develop relationships with classmates and eens have witnessed drug dealing, their parents have been beaten by anmurder, which causes long term psychological damage. Because of the hory and they do not know how to love and respect themselves. As a result, I artistic, and holistic environments. We provide love, care, nurturing, and

ported from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services,

otective Service agencies receive more than an estimated 50,000 reports ldren were found to have suffered from some form of neglect and abuse use and 7% suffered from emotional abuse including criticism, rejection, aker neglect or abuse (1)

to make that go a long way. We have two teens that have become a part of ning away from home, bad grades/problems with peers and teachers in

/2010 school year with the hopes of continuing it through high school. We ences as well as many other fun-filled experiences. Because of my upbringhanks to my determination and my strong beliefs in faith, I will do every-

U.V.E program banner or contact me directly at

ministration for Children and Families, Children's Bureau. (2004). Child Maltreatat http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/pubs/cm02/index.htm or by calling the Na-

05.299.3008 Direct "Promoting Women's Inner & Outer Beauty"

Missing since August 28, 1986 from Nashville, Davidson Co Classification: Involuntary

Vital Statistics: Date Of Birth: August 3, 1966 Age at Time of Disappearance: 20 years old Height and Weight at Time of Disappearance: 5'2; 98 lbs Distinguishing Characteristics: Black female. Black hair; Clothing: Black jeans; a white shirt; and a black silk jacket.

Circumstances of Disappearance: Sullivan was a student at Tennessee State University in 198 was living at Town Terrace Apartments with her young son a seen leaving her home on August 28 of that year at approxi school. It is known that Sullivan attended classes in the mo room in Hankle Hall at approximately 10:00 AM. Her friend when she left for her own classes. Sullivan was scheduled t rived and has not been seen since. Foul play is suspected i

Investigators: If you have any information concerning Sullivan's whereabo Detective Clinton Vogel OR 615-74-CRIME All information ber: M-217357334 Please refer to the number above when case. Todd Matthews Doe Network 62

ounty, Tennessee

brown eyes.

Alice Mae Sullivan Sullivan, circa 1986

86. She moved to Nashville from Gallatin, Tennessee and at the time of her disappearance. She was last imately 8:00 AM when her boyfriend arrived to take her to orning hours. She was last seen in a girlfriend's dormitory told investigators that Sullivan was alone in her room to return home around 1:00 PM that day; she never arin her disappearance.

outs, please contact: Metro Nashville Police Department n may be submitted on an anonymous basis. NCIC Numcontacting any agency with information pertaining to this 63

Marlon Devine Santos

Contact Person: Worcester Police Departm Phone: 508-799-8651 Date Missing: November 5, 1998 Date of B 1998 Age:: 5 months old / Now 11 Hair:: Br Now Unknown Height:: Now Unknown Weig Unknown Eye Color:: Now Unknown Sex:: Number:: N/A

Details of Disappearance: Santos was placed ter,Massachuetts in August 1998; his caregivers w homeless and frequently left him with others for d father was seeking custody of him when he disappeared. Santos was last s report him missing for two days. Yolanda claimed her husband was on a d tos and two other foster children, aged 2 and 3, in the house alone betwee and 2:00 p.m., while she drove to East Middle School eight miles away to gone. She drove to New York to pick up Jose before she notified police of baby was the Castillos' seventeen-year-old biological child, who saw him a

After Santos was reported missing, the Castillos' other foster children wer ment of Social Services. Six weeks later, their biological children were also both ministers in 1998 and had cared for 51 foster children since 1993. Mu tos's disappearance, but none of the accounts were substantiated at the tim Santos's disappearance. Jose has an extensive criminal record in his nativ male children, one of them his stepdaughter and the other two his former Authorities stated the sex abuse allegations came to light when they were saulting one of his former foster daughters and was sentenced to term of f information that Santos's remains were buried on the banks of the Wachu the area and found torn baby clothing, a diaper and some pieces of plastic indication of human remains was located, and laboratory analysis of the it fluids.

64 Authorities stated there were inconsistencies in the Castillos' story. Althou vestigating Santos's disappearance as a possible homicide. His biological p

ent

Birth: June 5, rown / ght:: Now Male Race:: Hispanic Complexion:: Medium Police Case

in a foster home in the 100 block of Eastern Avenue in Worceswere Jose M. Castillo and Yolanda I. Castillo. His biological mother was days at a time, and Santos tested positive for drugs at birth. His biological seen at his foster home on November 5, 1998. His foster parents did not day trip in New York on the day Santos disappeared. She said she left Sanen 1:00 pick up her two biological children. When Yolanda returned, Santos was the baby's disappearance. The last person besides Yolanda to see the at noon on November 5, but left the house before Santos disappeared.

re immediately removed from their home by the Massachusetts Departo removed, though they were later turned to the home. The Castillos were ultiple reports of neglect and abuse were made against them prior to Sanme. Both Jose and Yolanda have refused to cooperate with the police in ve Puerto Rico. In 1999, he was charged with sexually assaulting three fefoster children. A photograph of Jose is posted below this case summary. investigating Santos's disappearance. In 2000, Jose was convicted of asfive to seven and a half years in prison. In October 1999, police received usett Reservoir off Route 70 in Boylston, Massachusetts. They searched c. They believe the baby's body may have been wrapped in the plastic. No tems located did not turn up any clues, such as hair, blood or other body

ugh there are rumors that the child was65 sold in New York, police are inparents have both been ruled out as suspects in his case, which remains

Peas In Their Pods

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