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››LETTERS Nip Tuck Saturday, November 1st

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Hat’s Off to Ann Brebner!

Tuesday, November 18

I find myself in rare opposition to one of your recommendations [“Endorse This!”

Oct. 17]. Tom Torlakson has been a breath of fresh air: a superintendent of public instruction who actually has experience in the classroom. He has been willing to push the pause button on the insanity of high-stakes testing, even with the Feds breathing down his back.

Tuck, on the other hand, is getting major backing from corporate types like Eli Broad who got us into this No Child Left Behind mess in the first place. Looks to me like his goal will be to push a privatization agenda. I hope we can stay focused on improving our public schools, not destroying them. My vote is absolutely for Torlakson.

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Is the Richmond-San Rafael Bridge pipeline a pipe dream?

Vote Bragman for water district— he’ll make some waves!

Since 1994, the Marin Municipal Water District’s governing board has been run almost as a private club—generally unresponsive to the concerns of district customers, and itself initially appointing virtually every new board member. Larry Bragman is running to be an independent member of that board, hoping to change MMWD’s clueless policies and to confront the challenges we face from drought, climate change and state housing mandates.

Having served effectively for 11 years on Fairfax’s Town Council and various Marin governmental agencies, Bragman has a rare combination of leadership qualities: He’s level-headed, practical and attentive to detail, but also innovative and committed to implementing “best practices.” A consensus-builder, leading respectfully and collaboratively, he’s also responsive to constituent concerns and pushes for newer creative approaches where warranted, and he now wants to end MMWD’s “business as usual.”

Bragman favors: fiscal restraint, cutting district financial waste, and implementing a fairer rate structure that doesn’t penalize water-saving; increasing sustainability, common-sense environmental stewardship, and conservation; more-effective fire prevention; and increasing public access to the district decision-making process. He opposes using toxic Monsanto-type pesticides in our watershed, a horror that would degrade the habitat’s diversity, with the poison eventually finding its way into our reservoirs. Bragman also opposes a $45 million boondoggle pipe-

line across the Richmond Bridge (relying too much on unreliable Delta supply) that he calls an overpriced “freeway to more traffic jams and over-development” and that would make any water delivered be unbelievably expensive. Also, MMWD has already wasted nine years and nearly a million dollars of ratepayer money “studying” spraying the pesticides, while our residents and businesses have faced multiple across-the-board rate increases; instead, Bragman calls for a major expansion of the most-effective conservation-measure customer rebates—an area where MMWD sadly lags most other water districts.

His opponent, though well-intentioned, hasn’t displayed enough grasp of the facts to inspire confidence. As one example, she has stated (at the League of Women Voters debate and elsewhere) that MMWD’s proposal for watershed management does not call for spraying the glyphosate herbicide, and that— if it did—she would oppose it. But, actually, the MMWD plan does indeed propose repetitively spraying glyphosate using backpack sprayers, and Ms. Crosse in fact does not oppose that plan; this is a substantial—not trivial—mistake. For myself, I worry about what else she may be getting wrong.

Marin needs Larry Bragman on the MMWD board. The Sierra Club agrees; the club endorsed him but not his opponent.

Alexander Binik, Fairfax

Vote Crosse for water district—she’s making quite a splash!

The Marin Municipal Water District board has an excellent incumbent serving for the last 20 months that needs to be re-elected. Liza Crosse is an avid defender of the great quality of life we experience here in Marin. Having known Liza for many years and seeing her actions toward a better Marin, I think she should definitely be allowed to continue her good work as a member of the board.

Let me recount the ways she envisions and acts to protect our quality of life in Marin.

As a founding board director of the Marin Open Space Trust (MOST), I witnessed her solid advocacy in the community raising of $100,000 toward the county’s acquisition and preservation of 21 acres of land in the San Geronimo Valley as an addition to, and gateway to, the Giacomini Open Space Preserve. Next when I appeared before the water district board seeking assistance for MOST toward the acquisition of the 16-acre Sky Ranch adjacent to the Bald Hill Open Space Preserve, between San Anselmo and Fairfax, an acquisition supported by both towns and their respective open space committees, Liza was clearly a positive voice on the board in its motion to support the acquisition.

Other examples of her commitment to Marin’s quality of life are her serving on the Tomales Bay Watershed Council (10 years) and as a former board member on the Cordell Bank National Marine Sanctuary (5 years).

Liza also was/is a major supporter and con-

tributor to the Tamalpais Lands Collaborative, bringing together the federal, state and county parks with MMWD, to save and restore our beloved Tam watershed.

If you like living in Marin, you will do well to vote for and support Liza Crosse for the Marin Municipal Water Board.

Ralph Mihan, San Rafael

Radio Authority (MERA) hopes to get Marin taxpayers to spring for with Measure A. Much like Marin County’s $30 million computer fiasco, we would be lucky to get 15 years out of the new system before MERA goes back to the taxpayers for a new replacement. MERA still owes a couple million on its “old” system and should not be allowed to shop for new equipment unchaperoned.

MERA ignores the fact that these systems can be updated incrementally rather than junking the existing equipment just because it’s the taxpayer’s money and not their own.

Christmas may be just around the corner, but approving Measure A is inappropriate and wasteful.

Alex Easton-Brown, Lagunitas

MERA’s in desperate need of an update, folks.

Vote Newsom—good for gays, bad for best friends!

I looked at your voting suggestions and there is no logical reason to recommend a vote for Gavin Nuisance for anything.

Granted, he was brave about the gay marriage thing. Aside from that, the only thing he did was bang his best friend’s wife and pay her off with money from the Muni bus budget.

That doesn’t qualify him for even a noqualification, no-duty, job like lieutenant governor.

It appears I will vote for a Republican or two or three this year.

Whoever thought there would be Democrats as bad as Nuisance and Levine?

And Jerry Brown is getting more like “the boss” in The Great McGinty, supporting projects that use a lot of concrete to get the kickbacks.

Shame on the local Dems.

David Weinstock, Fairfax

Well, if this sign didn’t put the issue to rest, then nothing will.

Hey, it beats the emergency telegraph system they bought in 2006 ...

McClatchy News Service has uncovered an investigation by Congressman Henry Waxman and his congressional committee that shows municipalities across the country paying upward of $7,000 per radio in conspiracies of planned obsolescence for communication systems similar to the one Marin Emergency

Unsafe at any speed

The freeway cycling lane is an expansion of a visionary concept that Brad Breithaupt at the IJ edited into “protected bike paths” in my last published letter to that non-visionary rag.

I haven’t advocated building bike paths and lanes, since I originated the Share the Road meme in 1982. The Pacific Sun printed an artist’s version of the CycleTrain concept in 2006, before the final SMART vote. Velorution2020, my strategic plan to evolve toward a human powered transportation system is one chapter in my e-book Lose Weight, Save Money and Really Reduce Greenhouse Gases. Anyways, here’s an encapsulation of a portion from that chapter.

Robert Alexander logically pointed out that SMART’s proposed schedule will only carry 638 people per hour, compared to the half billion costs of a completed SMART. That’s even more per passenger than the billion dollars the Marin Sonoma HOV lane will cost, maxing out at 2,000 people an hour at 35mph, based on California’s definition of two people as high occupancy. Higher speed lowers capacity because following distances increase.

Theoretically, the carrying capacity of a standard 12-foot traffic lane, divided into cycling lanes of 15, 20 and 25mph is 6,000 riders an hour. These speeds are feasible for pelotons of pedalers, with electric motor assists for less trained or disabled. Negotiating these speeds safely requires training and predictability, not anarcycling. The outside freeway lane on 101 would need protection from impaired, distracted or aggressive motorists with overpasses at interchanges, so costs could be comparable to the HOV or SMART, but with three to nine times the capacity for our “transportation corridor.”

Put aerodynamic pelotons on rails, and CycleTrains can maintain highway speeds with 90 percent less resistance. That’s SMART, while Sub-sizing Trains Underused by People Is Dumb. Our interstate “freeways” were built with public funds for defense. If global warming, obesity and traffic jams are threats to Marin’s future, let freeways be opened here first.

Stephen Simac, Stinson Beach

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Bound to make a difference Mary Kay Sweeney honored for her humanitarian work at Homeward Bound

by Joanne Williams

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hen you’ve received numerous and they are looking for a place to call awards for public service, one home, to get back on track. That’s our more award is just ... wondermission.” ful. On Oct. 25 the International AsA twinkley-eyed woman with a ready sociation of Sufism smile, Dr. Sweeney, (IAS) honored who holds a Ph.D. Mary Kay Sweein higher educaney for her hution and social manitarian work change from the as executive diWestern Institute rector of Homefor Social Reward Bound, the search in Berkeley, Novato-based has a master’s agency that works degree in counselcountywide to ing from Loyola provide life skills University in Deto the disenfrantroit. “I also went chised. to film school for “I have been a while,” she says. gifted by service,” “But I was lucky Mary Kay Sweeney’s humanitarian work knows no ‘bounds.’ the Detroit native to have discovered said. “I spent many my real purpose years as a nun.” She wouldn’t specify early in life.” the years “because then you’ll know my Sweeney previously was assistant age,” and that issue is off the table. In executive director at Seva Foundation 2000 Sweeney took the helm at Homeand Canal Community Alliance. She ward Bound after seven years with the was awarded the Heart of Marin Award agency, now celebrating 40 years. for Excellence in Nonprofit Leadership “I’ve had people say ‘thank you for in 2005 and presented at the National saving my life,’ but I am part of their Alliance to End Homelessness convenlife,” Sweeney said. “For 21 years I have tion on “Ending Family Homelessbeen trying to figure out a better way ness” in 2006 and 2007. She received a of doing things, to discover what is North Bay Nonprofit Leadership Award important in relationships. The people last year from the North Bay Business who come here are from all walks of life Journal. The IAS award is just one more

feather in a very decorated hat.

During her tenure as executive director, Homeward Bound has opened the doors of the first homeless shelter in the nation at Hamilton Field, a decommissioned military base in Novato (New Beginnings Center) and the Next Key Center (2008), a job-training and housing site that includes 32 studio apartments, administrative offices, a training kitchen and The Key Room— an event venue with on-site catering.

And for a really good lunch at bargain prices, people flock to San Rafael’s Jackson Cafe—a collaboration with Homeward Bound of Marin’s Fresh Starts Culinary Academy and Whistlestop. The meals are prepared by Fresh Starts culinary students and served by Whistestop volunteers.

None of these stats reflect the humor that Sweeney brings to the job. “Hi, this is Mary Kay Sweeney,” her phone message says, “you’ve reached my desk before I have.”

Her desk is in a small office at Homeward Bound’s headquarters located on a onetime military airfield on North Hamilton Parkway, just off the freeway.

The area buzzes with life, from the community garden at New Beginnings to the studio apartments adjacent to Sweeney’s office, where people in transition can stay while they are in some kind of training.

“Our clients may be in culinary school, in training at a coffee shop or a market, or at College of Marin. Some are in medical respite.”

Homeward Bound also has expanded services to a total of 450 beds in 14-inter-related programs and reached the home stretch of a capital project called Oma Village that will provide 14 small rental homes available to families exiting our programs. (See Peter Seidman’s story “Oma goodness,” Aug.15.)

Targeted opening for Oma Village is next spring. “We raise all our funds in advance,” Sweeney said, “so we have no debt.” The $5 million project will have two-bedroom, two-bath, 1,000-squarefoot apartments that will be rented to qualified families at $750 a month.

As for her award from the International Association of Sufism, she said, “I have no idea why I was chosen. I have always been drawn to the mystical tradition.” But IAS had a reason to choose her. “She has done so much to aid the homeless in Marin,” said IAS cofounder Dr. Nahid Angha, Ph.D. Does the artistic ring on Dr. Sweeney’s third finger, left hand, have any significance? A life partner? “My service is my life partner,” she answered.

For more details on Homeward Bound services log on to www.hbofm. org and www.thekeyroom.com. Y Contact the writer at letters@pacificsun.com.

Sufism: An Esoteric Muslim Movement Sufism, a Muslim movement dating to the eighth and ninth centuries, arose from within Islam as an ascetic movement whose followers seek to find divine truth and love through direct encounters with God. The name may have come from the coarse wool garments the Sufis wore as a rejection of worldly things. Sufis traditionally have taken vows of poverty and celibacy.

Sufism developed religious practices focusing on strict self-control that enable both psychological and mystical insights as well as a loss of self, with the ultimate goal of mystical union with God. The Sufi movement consists of fraternal orders in which leaders train and assist disciples in the mastery of Sufism’s philosophical principles and ritual practices.

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Such rituals and practices include writing and reciting poetry and hymns. Some of the most famous and beautiful literature of the Islamic world has been written by Sufis.

Sufis engage in a variety of ritual practices intended to help them realize union with God, such as distinct forms of ritual prayer (dhikr, literally “remembrance”), including the recitation of God’s names, as well as bodily rituals such as those practices by the so-called “Whirling Dervishes,” a Turkish Sufi order that practices meditation and contemplation of God through spinning.

One of the most essential yet least understood early figures in the Sufi tradition, alHasan al-Basri (728 C.E.), lived in Basra, modern day Iraq. He and his students are among the earliest proponents of asceticism (zuhd, in Arabic), and their legacy influenced the

early development of the Sufi movement.

The International Association of Sufism was established in America in 1983 by Seyyedeh Dr. Nahid Angha and Shah Nazar Seyed Dr. Ali Kianfar, with headquarters in San Rafael.

Dr. Nahid Angha, Ph.D., is the main representative of IAS to the United Nations (NGO/ DPI), and the first Muslim woman inducted to the Marin Women’s Hall of Fame. She is executive editor of the journal Sufism, An Inquiry, and (SWO).

The daughter of Moulana Shah Maghsoud, the 20th century Persian Sufi of the Uwaiysi School of Sufism, Dr. Angha was the first woman appointed to teach in her father’s school, and later the first woman ever to sit in the inner circle council with Muslim leaders from around the

world to lead meditation at the annual Sufi Symposium. In 2000, she earned UNESCO’s “Messenger of Peace” award for her work as a humanitarian leader.

The association sponsors educational programs, including the annual Sufism Symposium, publishes the Sufism Journal, hosts a Songs of the Soul festival and a Muslim non-Muslim dialogue. Ongoing classes include meditation and classes studying the Qur’an and Hadith. About 100 people in Marin attend various programs, but during annual meetings people come from all over the world, “because it’s easier to put on programs here,” Dr. Angha said.

For more on programs see its website, www.

IAS.org. IAS is a nonsectarian, nongovernmental organization of the United Nations.

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by Howard Rachelson

1. The first Catholic college in California to grant a bachelor’s degree to women, in 1917, was what school in the Bay Area?

2. Water boils at what temperatures Centigrade and Fahrenheit?

3. Boston is the home of America’s oldest public park, established in 1640 and still known by what name?

4. In 1938, Swiss chemist Albert Hofmann first synthesized, from the fungus that grows on rye, what chemical compound that his company, Sandoz Laboratories, sold as a mind-altering substance?

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5. Standing at home plate in San Francisco’s AT&T Park, and looking out toward center field, you are facing what general direction?

6. Identify these song titles starting with “Don’t” 6a. By Elvis Presley, 1956 6b. By The Beach Boys, 1964 6c. By The Human League, 1981 6d. By Norah Jones, 2002

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7. Can you name three to four titles of political or national leaders that begin with the letter “P”?

9. Words spelled with “ough”: 9a. Brain’s primary function 9b. Bread’s primary ingredient 9c. Penalty for eating too quickly 10. To celebrate the 1869 opening of the Suez Canal, the Egyptian ruler commissioned a well-known composer to write a spectacular opera, complete with elephants. Which opera and which composer?

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BONUS QUESTION: Of the world’s top four newspapers, in terms of daily circulation, one is in India, and the other three are all in what country?

HERO

From page 7 County to consider Muir Woods speed limit County officials may be putting the brakes on Mt. Tam speed demons,1.asDominican the Board ofCollege Supervisors heard a in San Rafael proposal on Oct. 28 to enforce a 25mph speed(now limit Dominican on a particularly busy stretch of University)

the Sleeping Lady.

2. 100 C /of212 degrees F The 25mph speed limit would be in place from thedegrees beginning Panoramic Highway to the northerly entrance of Santos Meadow—a 3.2-mile stretch that 3. Boston Common runs near Muir Woods. Currently, Muir Woods Road has no established speed limit, 4. LSD; in the 1950s the U.S. Central though it sees a high volume of vehicles on the road, sharing ground with pedesIntelligence Agency thought it might trians walking along the edge of the roadway. Consideration of a speed limit was be useful for mind control and chemimade at the request of state and federal parks staff; 25mph is the lowest speed cal warfare. limit that can be posted and still be legally enforceable, according to a county 5. East report.

According to a report, submitted to the Supes Senior Engineer Bob 6a. by “Don’t BeCivil Cruel” Goralka, without a specifically posted speed limit, the basic speed law applicable 6b. “Don’t Worry Baby” to the area is that “no person shall drive a vehicle highway which 6c. upon “Don’ta You Want Me” is greater than is reasonable or prudent.” Such an undefined limit asKnow that isWhy” “difficult to 6d. “Don’t enforce,” writes Goralka.

7.be President, Premier, Minister, The primary hit to the county budget would the installation andPrime ongoing Prince, Pharaoh Pasha ... others? maintenance of the signs and markings, according to Goralka’s report.—Jason Walsh 8. Naked—because ancient Olympic

Speakers included Mill Valley Police Chief Angel Bernal, who distributed gun BONUS ANSWER: Japan; No. 1 was safety locks, to Leslie Thornton, principal of Strawberry Point School, who said Yomiuri Shimbun combined lockdown drills are scheduled three times a year; Stephen Marks,with a MillaValley morning and evening circulation parent and mental health and suicide prevention professional; Mill Valley Council- of 14 million per of day. woman Jessica Jackson and Juliet Leftwich, legal director San Francisco’s Law Center to Prevent Gun Violence, who said that background checks are gaining public momentum. Most impressive was a video by Mill Valley parent Dana Spaeth, whose ‘voice’ was of grade school youngsters holding signs urging ways for parents to keep them safe.

The most encouraging word came from Jackson, who had a recent conversation with Congressman Jared Huffman about guns. Congressman Huffman said it looks positive for bipartisan support in Congress for background checks on gun sales.

The crowd dispersed with postcards in hand and a list of addresses to local and national legislators urging action on gun control.—Joanne Williams

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▼ Parents, you may want to teach your kids about the evils of alcohol and larceny, or at least warn your young kleptos about surveillance cameras. On Monday, around noon, a customer and a staff member of Mollie Stone’s in Sausalito chased down a teen who exited the store with a backpack full of stolen booze.

Though they cornered the thief, he dumped his loot and gave them the slip. Besides his pricey backpack and bottles of pilfered brandy, the scoundrel left behind a shoplifting list of liquors, enough to stock a bar. Meanwhile, back at Mollie’s, cameras caught clear images of four teenage boys in the liquor aisle.

Last we heard, the store was calling the cops.

Shouldn’t kids be eating or studying during lunch hour?—Nikki Silverstein

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▲ Ever notice the litter on the shoulders of Highway 101 and the frontage roads? Marinites Jill Whitebook and Vicky Dehnert had Kafkaesque conversations with Caltrans and government officials about cleaning it up. They learned that only Caltrans staff is permitted to pick up debris on 101, which happens four times a year. Frustrated, Jill and Vicky created Marin Clean Highways, a volunteer organization that cleans up the frontage roads and works on solving the litter problem. Research shows our litter is accidental, much of it flying from the back of uncovered pickup trucks. Similar to Sonoma and Kern counties, Jill and Vicky want Marin to create and enforce a tarp regulation, which would eliminate some of the debris. To help, visit www.marincleanhighways.org.

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athletes competed in the nude.

Mill Valley addresses gun violence at the Redwoods Everything from 9a. Thought the media to 40 years of war to the NRA was blamed for gun violence in America 9b. Dough during a presentation to Mill Valley Seniors for Peace at the Redwoods Retirement 9c. Hiccough (often spelled hiccup) Community this week.

10. Giuseppe Verdi / Aida

8. The word “gymnasium” comes from the Greek word “gymnos” (hard g), which means what: strong, agile, intelligent or naked?

Howard Rachelson invites you to upcoming Team Trivia Contests: Wednesday, Nov. 5, at 6:30pm at the Broken Drum in San Rafael and Tuesday, Nov. 11, at 6:30pm at the Terrapin Crossroads in San Rafael.

Have a great question? Send it in and if we use it, we’ll give you credit.

Email Howard at howard1@triviacafe.com or visit www.triviacafe.com.

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The West brings out the best

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East Coast foodies with clout make a pit stop in Marin County

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ecades ago, in an experimental summer school in Newton, Mass., 20 fifth graders—their eyes on a silent film—watched as a grandmother Netsilik Eskimo got left behind in the ice and snow to die. The Eskimo cultural ritual of parting ways with the elderly who were unable to travel in the search for food, was introduced to the children as part of an American humanities teaching curriculum titled, “Man: A Course of Study,” based upon the theories of psychologist Jerome Bruner, and used widely in the 1970s.

“The teacher, following the curriculum guide, would follow up and say, ‘Well, what does that tell us about the customs of the Netsilik Eskimos as compared to our customs,’” says Mark Phillips, a journalist and retired high school teacher, in between sips of tea at the Fair Fix Cafe. “Meanwhile, there are these kids who are very upset.”

Phillips, who spent years as a teacher educator, both at the University of California at Santa Barbara and at San Francisco State University, refers to Dr. Richard Jones’ observation of the classroom episode, as detailed in Jones’ book Fantasy and Feeling in Education, published in 1968. Following the vivid and powerful film, Jones finds that the children—some of whom are crying, are very concerned about what will happen to their own grandmothers.

Their strong reactions are ignored by the teacher, who, unprepared to confront emotional elements that arise, strictly follows the lesson plan. “And what Jones found,” Phillips says, “was that you couldn’t go on to the cognitive stuff unless you first attended to the emotions that were coming out.”

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The idea of focusing not only on the cognitive elements of education, but also on social and emotional learning—or SEL—is becoming increasingly important to teachers, administrators and parents in school communities throughout Marin, across the country and around the world.

Often regarded as the “missing piece” in the education of the “whole child,” SEL—as defined by the Collaborative for Academic, Social and Emotional Learning (CASEL)— includes five core competencies: selfmanagement, self-awareness, responsible decision-making, relationship skills and social awareness.

Children, at an early age, have a capacity—that’s been largely untapped—for conscious intelligence, or CQ, says Mark A. Collin, founder and executive director of The Toolbox Project, a 12-tool SEL curriculum developed by Collin, in collaboration with students at Cazadero Elementary School in Sonoma County. “We just haven’t been aware of that so much—how to mine that gold, if you will, or those pearls.”

Collin, a Marin native whose background is in Eastern and Western contemplative and developmental sciences, noticed while working as a counselor at the Cazadero school that the children were lacking tools with which to recognize, name and deal with their feelings in a constructive way. Dedicating 10 years to listening to the kids talk about their emotions, he brainstormed with them to create a common language that today includes tools such as the “Breathing Tool” (I calm myself and check-in), the “Listening Tool (I listen with my ears, eyes and heart), and the “Empathy Tool” (I care for others. I care for myself.).

By providing tools that empower them, The Toolbox Project honors children’s innate capacity for managing their own emotional, social and academic success.

Through the practice of inner skills in the classroom and at home, children gain self-knowledge and self-trust, which in turn builds resilience, self-mastery and empathy for others.

“This work really came from the kids— that’s why it’s getting so much attention lately,” says Collin, noting that The Toolbox Project, which is the flagship initiative of the Sebastopol-based nonprofit Dovetail Learning, is currently being implemented in more than 120 schools in Northern California, and serving more than 30,000 students and their families. “It’s different than it coming from an institution—you know, it didn’t come out of a think-tank.”

Deborah Kamins, a clinical psychologist with a private practice in Mill Valley and mother to a “very socially aware” firstgrader at the Wade Thomas School in San Anselmo, says that she’s been intrigued and impressed by The Toolbox Project, which has been incorporated at Ross Valley District schools in the past couple of years.

Kamins says that her daughter often comes home from school excited to tell her that she used her “Courage Tool” on the playground, or that a classmate had to go to the “Quiet and Safe Place.” And, if a challenging situation arises at home, her daughter will naturally begin to use her “Breathing Tool,” or use her “Garbage Can Tool” to let the little things go.

“She’s learning that the way that she feels and the experiences that she has can be extrapolated to other people,” Kamins

says of The Toolbox Project influence. “So she’s definitely aware of her impact on other people’s emotions, and other people’s behaviors on her emotions.”

Kamins says her daughter, who “is 7, going on 16” is naturally in tune with social dynamics, and was most likely headed in that direction anyway. “But [The Toolbox] helps put words to those experiences and helps her with that shared language so that she can talk with me about it.”

Kamins says she’s grateful that Wade Thomas recognizes the importance of social and emotional learning, and disagrees with parents who criticize SEL programs for taking time away from cognitive learning.

“There are a lot of people who want to put their kids ahead of the game so that they can get into some ivy-league college,” Kamins says. “And their belief is that academics are the way to do it. I disagree.”

The social-emotional component of development, Kamins believes, comes before the ability to effectively integrate and apply academic skills. “There’s always time to build academic skills,” she says. “But there is a limited period that the social-emotional development is being solidified, and that people are creating habits that they will utilize for their life.”

Dr. Roberta Seifert, another Marinbased clinical psychologist, says that a big component of the therapy work she does is helping adults tune into their bodies and their emotions, and learn how to self-regulate. “I see a lot of adults who are struggling to learn to be emotionally competent,” she says. “And who are kind of alienated from what’s happening internally.”

Kamins believes that her daughter’s ability to learn and practice social and emotional skills from a young age will benefit her later in life in countless ways, and will complement her cognitive skills. “The two are not mutually exclusive,” she says. “The two work together.”

Dr. Seifert agrees. “There’s all this research now on learning and what enhances learning, and how learning connected with emotion is a big piece,” she says. “On the bad end of it, it creates trauma. It’s hard to get over things that are learned with negative emotion. On the good end of it, not only does emotion motivate kids in one way or another in terms of what they want to study, but it reinforces learning. So things that are learned with an emotional component to them are really learned better.”

Teachers, traditionally, are not trained to reach students emotionally, Phillips says.

If he were to train a teacher to come into Marin, the first thing he would want that teacher to do, he says, is to learn as much as they can about the social environment and the family environment of the homes of the kids that they’re working with. “Who are my kids, what kind of environment do they come out of and what do they bring into the classroom with them as a function of that?”

The exercise would be essential to his teaching equation, he says. “It’s not just about the curriculum,” Phillips says, adding that sometimes he gets the feeling that the

amount of time spent worrying about test scores, as relative to the amount of time spent about thinking about who the kids are, what they really need, and how the teachers are really going to serve them, is a ratio of around 80 percent to 20 percent.

A question we must ask is, he says, is “What value is placed on social and emotional learning as compared to on test scores?”

“Our kids are really under a lot of pressure to not just succeed, but to excel,” says Lisa Schwartz, of the Marin County Office of Education, referring to young men and women growing up in Marin. “And sometimes that pressure can be overwhelming. It’s critical, she says, for teachers and administrators to have a heightened awareness of the social and emotional needs of the students because “we really can get kids who are pushed too far, too hard, too fast.”

The concept of incorporating SEL in Marin as equally important as academic rigor is something that Schwartz says she’s grateful for. “I’m glad that this focus has been something that we expect in our schools for all of our kids.”

Collin says that in the case of schools opting not to incorporate SEL, sometimes there are challenges that make the adoption of “a new movement in education” difficult.

Time, funding, academics, test scores and systems that have been in place for years can be at play. Some schools are still being funded by academic standards and testing,

which are backed up by a billion-dollar industry.

“And it’s hard—I really feel for the teachers because they still have a lot of pressure to get those test scores up—because that’s

how the school’s rated; that’s how they’re rated,” he says.

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these people information and then they need to give it back to me on a test, right?’

I mean, that’s their job.” They haven’t been there to develop a kind of a social emotional learning, Collin says, so many are not accustomed to a change in the relationship with students that can create a kind of intimacy. “A lot of people are uncomfortable with that. So it’s a lot to ask.”

But the SEL movement, Collin says, is in an evolutionary stage right now. “It’s going to move from a nice-to-have program to a must-have program.”

Randy Taran, founder of Project Happiness, a nonprofit that has, like The Toolbox Project, implemented SEL curriculums in Marin and across the world, says that it’s not enough for children to learn social and emotional elements. Like Kamins, who practices “The Breathing Tool” and others with her daughter, Taran emphasizes the importance of parents reinforcing the skills that children bring home.

“This is a human conversation,” Taran says. “And we all need these foundational skills if we want to create a society where everyone thrives.”

Taran’s work with SEL has taught her, she says, that it’s absolutely critical that we now, more than ever, address the inner life of children. Guiding children in areas that include recognizing and managing emotions, making responsible decisions and solving problems, caring for others and establishing positive relationships, she says, help the children discover strengths within.

“And they use those strengths to help others and to see that they can make a difference in their own community and in the world.”

Eight years after Collin worked with the children at the small rural school in Sonoma County, colleagues encouraged him to reach out to the grown children to inquire about what The Toolbox Project had meant to them. Hesitant at first out of fear of hearing from them that the tools had not made a significant impact, Collin was happy to find that every single student he interviewed told him that the project had deeply changed their lives. That they used the tools “every single day” as they got older, because the tools “were a part of them.”

Collin refers to what James Hillman called the “acorn theory”—that every child is born with a uniqueness that wants to be lived. “And that’s, of course, what education means,” Collin says, “to bring out what is within.”

And The Toolbox Project, Collin says, brings out what is within. “But we’ve been doing it in the wrong order,” he says. “We haven’t invited children to discover what makes them come alive.

“And once you do,” Collin says, “You can’t stop ’em. And you can never take it away—it’s always there.” Y Teach Molly a lesson or two at moleson@pacificsun.com.

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Dawn of the Dead Martin Scorsese set to produce Grateful Dead documentary

by G re g Cahill

“T

he Grateful Dead were more than just a band—they were their own planet, populated by millions of devoted fans,” filmmaker Martin Scorsese notes in a recent press statement that he’ll be executive producer of an upcoming documentary about the Grateful Dead. “I’m very happy that this picture is being made and proud to be involved.”

The Dead have risen. And the Marinbased band that rose to celebrity in the 1960s is celebrating several anniversaries in 2015.

May 5 marks the 50th anniversary of the band’s predecessor Mother McCree’s Uptown Jug Champions at Magee’s Pizza in Menlo Park; on Dec. 4, 1965, the band, renamed the Grateful Dead, played one of Ken Kesey’s first Acid Tests.

Next year also brings the 20th anniversary of Dead guitarist, singer and songwriter Jerry Garcia’s death at age 53 of a heart attack at a rehab clinic in Forest Knolls. Bob Dylan, who toured and recorded with the band, attended his funeral at St. Stephen’s Episcopal Church. His death signaled the official end of the Dead as a performing band.

Last week, the Dead announced its first official career-spanning documentary to coincide with the band’s

50th anniversary celebration. Awardwinning documentary filmmaker Amir Bar-Lev (Happy Valley, The Tillman Story) will direct the as-yet-untitled documentary. Executive producers are Scorsese, Emma Tillinger Koskoff, Andrew Heller, Sanford Heller and Rick Yorn. Longtime Grateful Dead archivist David Lemieux will serve as the film’s music supervisor (he took charge of the Dead’s vault after the 1999 death of the band’s tape archivist Dick Latvala, of Petaluma, who compiled the ambitious live concert CD series known as Dick’s Picks).

Alex Blavatnik is financing the documentary through his AOMA Sunshine Films. Eric Eisner (Hamlet 2), Nicholas Koskoff, and Justin Kreutzmann, the son of Grateful Dead drummer Bill Kreutzmann, will serve as producers.

According to a press statement: “This monumental documentary will meld a cornucopia of never before seen performance footage, vintage interviews, and other candid moments unearthed from the Grateful Dead’s vast vaults along with newly captured conversations with surviving members Mickey Hart, Bill Kreutzmann, Phil Lesh, and Bob Weir, as well as many other characters and pranksters from the Dead universe.

“Millions of stories have been told

about the Grateful Dead over the years.

With our 50th anniversary coming up, we thought it might just be time to tell one ourselves and Amir is the perfect guy to help us do it,” said surviving members Hart, Kreutzmann, Lesh, and Weir in a joint statement. “Needless to say, we are humbled to be collaborating with Martin Scorsese.

From The Last Waltz to George Harrison: Living In The Material World, from Bob A little ‘Throwback Thursday’ Grateful Dead action, if you will.

Dylan to the Rolling Stones, he has made some of the greatest music documentaries ever with some of our Vol. 5: December 31st, 1975, Keystone favorite artists and we are honored to Berkeley (hey, I snuck into that show). have him involved.

Meanwhile, from Nov. 5-8, San Jose “The 50th will be another monuState University will host the sympomental milestone to celebrate with our sium, “So Many Roads: The World fans and we cannot wait to share this in the Grateful Dead.” The event will film with them.” feature 50 speakers including an inThe upcoming anniversaries already ternational roster of academics, band have prompted the release of Live family members and associates, journalDead; The Grateful Dead Photographed ists, artists, musicians, and authors of

by Bob Minkin, by the Novato shutbooks about various aspects of the Dead terbug and longtime Dead follower; phenomenon. Panels will explore the Aces Back to Back: The History of the band’s influence in such diverse areas as Grateful Dead (1965-2013), by Scott W. politics, business, journalism, religious Allen; and The Haight: Love, Rock & studies and other topics.

Revolution, with text by Joel Selvin and On Friday, Nov. 7, the conference photographs by Jim Marshall. At least hosts a celebration of San Francisco another half dozen new books about poster art, featuring such artists as the Grateful Dead are set for release Stanley Mouse, David Singer, and Chris in coming months. And there are new Shaw, in conjunction with a major CDs, including the recently released exhibit of Dead posters in the SJSU concert recording Wake Up to Find library. Y Out: Nassau Coliseum, Uniondale, NY, Ask Greg if he’s a friend of the devil at gcahill51@gmail.com 3/29/1990, from the Spring 1990 (The Other One) box set, and Garcia Live,

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Beating the Karan Clock Fall wardrobe staples to get to you dressed and ready for the weekend

by Kat ie R ice Jone s

The Jean

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ashion designer, Donna Karan once said something to the effect of, if you spend more than 10 minutes staring into your closet for something to wear; there isn’t something wrong with your clothes, but rather something wrong with you. Her voice rings in my head each time I am confounded by my closet (and its contents).

I am not proud to admit, for a variety of reasons, that most Saturdays and Sundays I spend more than the prescribed amount of time noodling over what to wear. To me, a casual weekend look has always proven more elusive than that of a buttoned-up weekday one.

To squelch my closet confusion, sure, I could just throw on something from Lululemon. However, choosing to wear black easy-on, pull-up athletic pants with no plans to sweat at best feels disingenuous and at worst, like a fashion copout. This fall I endeavor to beat the “Karan Clock”. If I can incorporate some of this fall’s most wearable trends into my wardrobe, I just might have a chance of getting dressed in under 10 minutes. Since time is of the essence I decided to shop the one place for slick weekend wear: J.Crew. Here are just a few of its clock-beating pieces. To my mind, owning chic, easy pieces (as those to the right) are key to beating the “Karan Clock” and starting your weekend off right. Y

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The Boot

The Scarf

Chelsea boots

Honeycomb infinity scarf

The Pullover

Collection bonded Merino sweater

The Trouser

Pixie snap-front pant

The Denim Jacket

The Leather Jacket

Vintage denim jacket in patina wash

Collection quilted-leather motorycle jacket

The Sweater

Roll-sleeve sweater

The Sweatshirt

Boiled wool sweatshirt

The Sunglass

Ray-Ban® meteor sunglasses with green lenses

The Hat

Bailey® for J.Crew felt hat

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F R I D AY O C T O B E R 3 1 — T H U R S D AY N O V E M B E R 6 Movie summaries by M at t hew St af fo r d Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day (1:21) Disney version of Judith Viorst’s classic children’s tale about a singularly crappy day in the life of an 11-year-old boy stars Dick Van Dyke, Jennifer Garner, Steve Carell and young Ed Oxenbould. l Art and Craft (1:29) Documentary focuses on embarrassingly successful art forger Mark Landis, whose faux masterpieces can be found incognito in many an American museum. l Awake: The Life of Yogananda (1:27) Biodoc of Paramahansa Yogananda, the Indian yogi who brought meditation and yoga to the West in the 1920s; Krishna Das and Deepak Chopra share insights. l Before I Go to Sleep (1:32) Trauma victim Nicole Kidman suffers zero recall whenever she awakes, making her understandably suspicious of the biographical details hubby Colin Firth has been feeding her ... l The Best of Me (1:58) Nicholas Sparks tearjerker abut high school sweethearts who reunite, reignite and regress. l Birdman (1:59) Offbeat comedy from 21 Grams director Alejandro González Iñárritu about a onetime movie superhero (Michael Keaton) trying to get himself some thespian cred by starring in a Broadway play. l The Book of Life (1:25) Dazzlingly colorful Latinaccented, Day of the Dead-themed animated musical features vocals from Zoe Saldana, Hector Elizondo, Cheech Marin, Plácido Domingo and other luminaries. l The Boxtrolls (1:40) Stylish yet quirky stop-motion bonbon from LAIKA animation about a boy raised by trolls who tries to fit into human society. l Boyhood (2:44) Richard Linklater’s intimate epic, filmed with the same cast over the course of 12 years, focuses on one boy’s evolving life from age 6 to 18; Ellar Coltrane, Ethan Hawke and Patricia Arquette star. l Citizenfour (1:54) Documentary follows investigative filmmaker Laura Poitras across the globe in search of budding whistleblower Edward Snowden. l Dear White People (1:46) Bitingly satirical Sundance sensation about racial identity in the Obama era follows four black students at the sort of Ivy League college where white students host African-Americanthemed frat parties. l Diplomacy (1:28) Gripping true story of the battle of wills between Swedish diplomat Raoul Nordling and German commandant Dietrich von Choltitz over the fate of occupied Paris. l Dracula Untold (1:40) Prequel stars Luke Evans as a peace-loving Transylvanian count whose deal with the devil turns him into the bloodthirsty vampire we all know and love. l The Equalizer (2:11) The 1980s TV series hits the big screen with Denzel Washington as a former commando who comes out of hiding to take on the Russian Mafia; Antoine Fuqua directs. l Fury (2:14) WWII action flick about a Sherman tank, its five-man crew and their impossible mission behind the German lines; Brad Pitt leads the charge. l Gone Girl (2:28) David Fincher filmization of Gillian Flynn’s best-seller stars Ben Affleck as a seemingly stable family man who becomes a murder suspect when his wife goes missing. l The Good Lie (1:52) A young orphaned refugee from Sudan’s brutal civil war finds a home in the U.S. with no-nonsense hausfrau Reese Witherspoon. l Interstellar (2:49) Spacey Christopher Nolan sci-fi drama follows a troupe of hungry astronauts through a newly discovered wormhole to the far reaches of the galaxy; Anne Hathaway, Michael Caine and Matthew McConaughey are among the crew. l John Wick (1:41) Retired hit man Keanu Reeves goes gunning for the punks who ruined his life, wreakl

ing havoc on the borough of Manhattan in the process. l The Judge (1:42) Courtroom dramedy finds usedup lawyer Robert Downey Jr. defending small-town judge/estranged father Robert Duvall against a murder charge; Billy Bob Thornton co-stars. l The Maze Runner (2:00) Sci-fi nightmare about a group of teenage boys trapped in a maze and the fragmented memories that sustain them. l The Metropolitan Opera: Carmen (3:40) Bizet’s sexy saga of a saucy, spirited señorita is presented direct from New York in glorious big-screen high definition. l Muscle Shoals (1:51) Documentary look at the fabled Alabama recording studio and the musicians who made it great; Mick Jagger, Aretha Franklin, Gregg Allman and other legends bear witness. l My Old Lady (1:47) Maggie Smith and Kristin Scott Thomas as expat Parisians who refuse to be ejected from their beloved apartment by ugly American Kevin Kline. l National Theatre London: Frankenstein (2:30) Oscar-winning filmmaker Danny Boyle stages a spectacular version of Mary Shelley’s horror classic, broadcast from London on the big, big screen; Benedict Cumberbatch stars. l National Theatre London: Of Mice and Men (2:30) Steinbeck’s gripping tale of friendship and dashed dreams in Depression-era Salinas stars James Franco as George and Chris O’Dowd as Lenny. l Nightcrawler (1:57) Lean and hungry Jake Gyllenhaal stars as a Weegee-type tabloid photographer specializing in crime and catastrophe; Rene Russo costars as a seen-it-all TV newshound. l The Nightmare Before Christmas (1:15) Strikingly executed Tim Burton cartoon about a Halloween pumpkin who discovers the joys of Joyeux Noël. l Ouija (1:30) Clueless girl fools around with Ouija board, dies mysteriously, posse of friends investigates, Ouija board gets mad. Duh. l Pelican Dreams (1:20) Documentary follows a brown pelican from capture on the Golden Gate Bridge to rehab at San Rafael’s WildCare; Judy Irving (The Wild Parrots of Telegraph Hill) directs. l Pride (1:59) Feel-good true story about a group of gay and lesbian London activists who supported a tiny Welsh chapter of the National Union of Mineworkers during a nationwide strike. l St. Vincent (1:42) Unwitting single mom Melissa McCarthy leaves her 12-year-old son in the questionable day-care of neighbor Bill Murray, who mentors the kid in the art and science of playing the horses, tipping the strippers and shooting the whiskey. l Saw (1:43) 2004 horror flick about a fiendishly inventive serial killer and his hapless victims. l The Skeleton Twins (1:31) Estranged twins Kristen Wiig and Bill Hader reconnect after both survive neardeath experiences on the same day and try to come to terms with their out-of-control lives. l Terminator 2: Judgment Day (2:30) The Arnold is (indeed) back as a futuristic cyborg sent backwards to the 20th century to preserve, protect and defend humanity’s savior-to be; thrills and wit galore. l A Thousand Times Good Night (1:57) Juliette Binoche stars as a war correspondent torn between her duty to her profession and the love and safety of her family. l The Two Faces of January (1:38) Patricia Highsmiths’s classic thriller hits the big screen with Kirsten Dunst and Viggo Mortensen as American tourists caught up in a web of intrigue in Greece and Istanbul. l Whiplash (1:46) Indie sleeper about the edgy, ferocious mentor-pupil relationship between a gifted young jazz drummer and his exacting taskmaster.

k New Movies This Week Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day (PG)

Fairfax: Fri-Sat 12, 2:15, 4:25, 6:45, 9 Sun-Wed 12, 2:15, 4:25, 6:45 Northgate: Fri-Wed 12:20, 2:35, 4:50, 7:05, 9:20

Art and Craft (Not Rated)

Lark: Tue 3:30

Awake: The Life of Yogananda (Not Rated)

Rafael: Fri 4:30, 6:45, 8:45 Sat-Sun 2, 4:30, 6:45, 8:45 Mon-Wed 6:45, 8:45 Thu 8:45

k Before I Go to Sleep (R)

Marin: Fri 4:20, 7:30, 9:50 Sat 1:10, 4:20, 7:30, 9:50 Sun 1:10, 4:20, 7:30 Mon-Wed 4:20, 7:30 (times may change Sat and Wed) Northgate: FriWed 12, 2:30, 5, 7:30, 9:50

The Best of Me (PG-13)

Northgate: Fri-Wed 7:40, 10:30

k Birdman (R)

Cinema: Fri-Wed 1:10, 4, 7, 9:50 Thu 1:10, 4 Regency: Fri-Sat 10:30, 11:50, 1:25, 2:50, 4:25, 5:50, 7:25, 10:25 Sun-Thu 10:30, 11:50, 1:25, 2:50, 4:25, 5:50, 7:25 (times may change Fri-Sun and Wed-Thu)

The Book of Life (PG)

Fairfax: Fri-Sat 12:10, 2:20, 4:35, 7, 9:20 Sun-Wed 12:10, 2:20, 4:35, 7 Larkspur Landing: Fri, Mon-Wed 7; 3D showtime at 9:30 Sat-Sun 11:30, 7, 9:30; 3D showtimes at 2, 4:30 Northgate: Fri- Wed 11:15, 1:40, 4:15, 6:45, 9:15; 3D showtimes at 12:30, 3, 5:30, 8, 10:30 Playhouse: Fri 5, 7:15, 9:30 Sat-Sun 12:15, 2:30, 5, 7:15, 9:30 Mon-Wed 5, 7:15 Rowland: Fri-Wed 12:10, 5:05; 3D showtimes at 2:40, 7:30

The Boxtrolls (PG)

Northgate: Fri-Wed 11:55, 2:20, 4:45

Boyhood (R)

Lark: Thu 3:45

k Citizenfour (R)

Rafael: Fri 4, 6:30, 9 Sat-Sun 1:30, 4, 6:30, 9 Mon-Thu 6:30, 9

Dear White People (R)

Regency: Fri-Sat 10:50, 1:40, 4:20, 7:10, 10 Sun-Thu 10:50, 1:40, 4:20, 7:10 (times may change Fri-Sun and Wed-Thu)

Diplomacy (Not Rated)

Rafael: Fri-Sun 4:15, 8:15 Mon-Wed 8:15

Dracula Untold (PG-13)

Northgate: Fri-Wed 11:35, 5:05, 10:30

The Equalizer (R)

Northgate: Fri-Wed 1:55, 7:25

Fury (R)

Fairfax: Fri-Sat 12:30, 3:50, 6:50, 9:45 Sun-Wed 12:30, 3:50, 6:50 Larkspur Landing: Fri, Mon-Wed 6:45, 9:50 Sat-Sun 12:35, 3:40, 6:45, 9:50 Marin: Fri 4:05, 7:15, 10:15 Sat 12:55, 4:05, 7:15, 10:15 Sun 12:55, 4:05, 7:15 MonWed 4:05, 7:15 (times may change Sat and Wed) Regency: 12:30, 3:45, 7 (times may change Fri-Sun and Wed-Thu) Rowland: Fri-Wed 1, 4, 7, 10

Gone Girl (R)

Fairfax: Fri-Wed 1, 4:30, 7:45 Larkspur Landing: Fri, Mon-Wed 6:30, 9:45 SatSun 12, 3:15, 6:30, 9:45 Marin: Fri 3:50, 7, 10:10 Sat 12:40, 3:50, 7, 10:10 Sun 12:40, 3:50, 7 Mon-Wed 3:50, 7 (times may change Sat and Wed) Northgate: Fri-Wed 12:25, 3:45, 7, 10:15 Playhouse: Fri, Mon-Wed 3:50, 7:30 Sat-Sun 12:30, 3:50, 7:30 Rowland: Fri-Wed 12:40, 3:55, 7:10, 10:30

k The Good Lie (PG-13)

Northgate: Fri-Wed 11:20, 2, 4:40, 7:20, 10

k Interstellar (PG-13)

Northgate: Thu 8 Rowland: Thu 8

John Wick (R)

Northgate: Fri-Wed 11:50, 2:25, 4:55, 7:35, 10:10 Rowland: Fri-Wed 12:20, 2:50, 5:20, 7:50, 10:20

The Judge (R)

Northgate: Fri-Wed 11, 2:10, 5:20, 8:30

The Maze Runner (PG-13)

Northgate: Fri-Wed 11:05, 1:50, 4:30, 7:10, 9:55 Rowland: Fri-Wed 9:50

k The Metropolitan Opera: Carmen (Not Rated)

Lark: Sat 9:55am Wed 6:30 Marin: Sat 9:55am Wed 6:30 Regency: Sat 9:55am Wed 6:30 Sequoia: Sat 9:55am Wed 6:30

Muscle Shoals (PG-13)

Lark: Tue noon (lunch, film and discussion with music critic Paul Liberatore, Studio D president Joel Jaffe and a lineup of roots-pop musicians)

My Old Lady (PG-13)

Lark: Sat 2:30 Mon 6

National Theatre London: Frankenstein (R)

Lark: Fri 8:30

k National Theatre London: Of Mice and Men (PG-13)

Lark: Thu 7:30 Regency: Thu 7

k Nightcrawler (R)

Fairfax: Fri-Sat 1:15, 4:15, 7:15, 9:50 Sun-Wed 1:15, 4:15, 7:15 Larkspur Landing: Fri, Mon-Wed 7:15, 10 Sat-Sun 1:25, 4:20, 7:15, 10 Northgate: FriWed 11, 12:15, 1:45, 3:05, 4:30, 5:50, 7:15, 8:40, 10:05 Playhouse: Fri 4, 7, 9:45 Sat-Sun 1, 4, 7, 9:45 Mon-Wed 4, 7 Rowland: Fri-Wed 11:05, 1:50, 4:35, 7:25, 10:10 Sequoia: Fri 4, 7, 10 Sat 10, 1, 4, 7, 10 Sun 1, 4, 7 Mon-Wed 4, 7 Thu 4

k The Nightmare Before Christmas (PG)

Regency: Fri 7 Sun 2 Wed 2, 7

Ouija (PG-13)

Northgate: Fri-Wed 11:10, 1:25, 3:40, 5:55, 8:10, 10:25 Rowland: Fri-Wed 11, 1:15, 3:30, 5:45, 8, 10:25

Pelican Dreams (G)

Rafael: Fri, Mon-Thu 6:15 Sat-Sun 2:15, 6:15

Pride (R)

Lark: Fri 3 Sat 5 Sun 5:30 Mon 12:35 Wed 3:30

St. Vincent (PG-13)

Fairfax: Fri-Sat 1:10, 4:05, 6:55, 9:40 Sun-Wed 1:10, 4:05, 6:55 Regency: Fri-Sat 11:30, 2:15, 4:55, 7:45, 10:25 Sun-Thu 11:30, 2:15, 4:55, 7:45 (times may change Fri-Sun and Wed-Thu) Rowland: Fri-Wed 11:45, 2:15, 4:45, 7:15, 9:45 Sequoia: Fri 5, 7:30, 10 Sat 2:30, 5, 7:30, 10 Sun 12, 2:30, 5, 7:30 Mon-Tue 5, 7:30 Wed 3:45 Thu 5

k Saw (R)

Northgate: Fri-Wed 12:10, 2:45, 5:15, 7:50, 10:20 Rowland: Fri-Wed 11:55, 2:30, 5, 7:40, 10:15

The Skeleton Twins (R)

Lark: Fri 5:45 Sun 8:15 Thu 8:30

k Terminator 2: Judgment Day (R)

Rafael: Thu 7 (special effects expert Dennis Muren in person)

k A Thousand Times Good Night (Not Rated)

Lark: Fri 2:15 Mon 3:20 Tue 5:45 Thu 1

Two Faces of January (PG-13)

Lark: Sat 7:45 Mon 8:30 Wed 1:10

Whiplash (R)

Regency: Fri-Sat 11:20, 2, 4:45, 7:35, 10:20 Sun-Thu 11:20, 2, 4:45, 7:35 (times may change Fri-Sun and Wed-Thu)

Showtimes can change after we go to press. Please call theater to confirm schedules.

CinéArts at Marin 101 Caledonia St., Sausalito • 331-0255 | CinéArts at Sequoia 25 Throckmorton Ave., Mill Valley • 388-4862 | Cinema 41 Tamal Vista Blvd., Corte Madera • 924-6505 | Fairfax 9 Broadway, Fairfax • 453-5444 | Lark 549 Magnolia Ave., Larkspur • 924-5111 | Larkspur Landing 500 Larkspur Landing Cir., Larkspur • 461-4849 | Northgate 7000 Northgate Dr., San Rafael • 800-326-3264 | Playhouse 40 Main St., Tiburon • 435-1234 | Rafael Film Center 1118 Fourth St., San Rafael • 454-1222 | Regency 80 Smith Ranch Rd., Terra Linda • 479-5050 Rowland 44 Rowland Way, Novato • 800-326-3264

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Pacific Sun‘s Community Calendar

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Highlights from our online community calendar—great things to do this weekend in Marin.

Check out our Online Community Calendar for more listings, spanning more weeks, with more event information »pacificsun.com/sundial

Live music 10/31: Sixth Annual Thriller Costume Bash with the 85’s 80s covers. With Monroe Grisman, Adam Berkowitz and Django Bayless. 8:30pm. $20-25. Fenix, 919 Fourth St., San Rafael. 813-5600. fenixlive.com

10/31: An Evening with Wonderbread 5

Annual Halloween party show. 9:30pm. $21. Mystic Theatre, 21 Petaluma Blvd. North, Petaluma. 707765-2121. mystictheatre.com.

10/31: Damir and Derek Folk. 5pm. No cover. Peri’s Silver Dollar, 29 Broadway Blvd, Fairfax. perisbar.com.

10/31: Funky Halloween Costume Ball and Dance Party with Fenton Coolfoot and the Right Time, Sol Doc and The Optimystics 8pm. Free. 19 Broadway, 17

Broadway, Fairfax. 459-1091. 19broadway.com.

10/31: Halloween Bash with the Cole Tate Band Blues. 8pm. Smiley’s Saloon, Wharf Road,

Bolinas. 868-1311. smileyssaloon.com.

10/31: The Mother Hips Halloween Party Lazyman opens. 8pm. $27-32. Sweetwater Music Hall, 19 Corte Madera Ave, Mill Valley. 388-1100. swmh.com.

10/31: New Monsoon: Bolinas Halloween Ball 4-6pm early spaghetti dinner bar by Stinson

Beach Preschool. 7:30pm Doors and bar openHigh Tide Collective opens followed by a costume contest with KWMR. At 9pm New Monsoon plays until midnight. 8pm. $15-20. Bolinas Community Center, 14 Wharf Road, Bolinas.

10/31: The Rowan Brothers 6-9pm. No cover.

The Trident, 558 Bridgeway, Sausalito. 331-3232. swmh.com.

11/01: 30th Anniversary Show: Mitch Woods and His Rocket 88s Blues rock, boogie

woogie. 8:30pm. $20 -35. Throckmorton Theatre, 142 Throckmorton Ave., Mill Valley. 383-9600.

142throckmortontheatre.org.

11/01: Audrey Moira Shimkas Trio With Gaea Schell and Kurt Ribak. 6pm. No cover.

Trident Restaurant, 558 Bridgeway, Sausalito.

847-8331. audreyshimkas.com.

11/01: Sara Laine and Friends Country/ folk. With Mark Karan, guitar/ vocals; Robert M. Powell, guitar, pedal steel, sitar and vocals; Susie Davis, vocals, keys; Andius Jent, bass; Eddie Berman, drums; Steve and Ella Steinberg, saxophone and trumpet. 9:30pm. $15. The Sleeping Lady, 23 Broadway Blvd, Fairfax. 4851182. sleepingladyfairfax.com.

11/01: The 7th Sons Rock and blues. 7pm. No cover. A Taste of Rome, 1000 Bridgeway, Sausalito.

847-2670. the7thsons.com.

11/01: Wall Street Blues rock, funk, soul. 8pm. $18. Fenix, 919 Fourth St., San Rafael. 815-5600. fenixlive.com.

11/02: Caminos Flamencos Music director/ guitarist Jason “El Rubio” and choreographer Yaelisa

ViDEO Rock bottom Two awesome flicks to fright your heart: Neil Marshall’s THE DESCENT is a girls-own adventure into the purest claustrophobia, depositing six British BFFs deep within the caverns of Appalachia. Fresh off an unspeakable tragedy back home the year before, the women hope to repair their frayed lives and friendships on this spelunking expedition to one No wonder spelunking is usually categorized as an ‘extreme sport’ ... of the deeper and more remote parts of the famous cave system. But troubles with their return route out will make that difficult—and then there are those sounds ... Or opt for the eerily romantic Swedish vampire film LET THE RIGHT ONE IN, the critically-acclaimed story of young love battling the odds—school bullying, serial murder, hunger for human blood—while staying one step ahead of the grown-ups who would keep them apart. Seventh grader Oskar (Kare Hedebrant) forms a crush on his new neighbor Eli (Lina Leandersson), a brooding girl who’s arrived in his building with her father right about the time a series of gory slayings has struck Stockholm. As the two get closer Oskar begins to understand Eli is a strange being, much older than her seeming 12 years. Nothing can quite prepare you for this disturbing, affecting tale. (The DVD defaults to a bad English dub that you can change to subtitles in setup.)—Richard Gould create contemporary, traditional and theatrical flamenco dance programs. 6:30pm. $15-20. Fenix, 919 Fourth St., San Rafael. 813-5600. fenixlive.com.

11/02: Darryl Rowe Vocal jazz. 11:30am. No cover. Fenix, 919 Fourth St., San Rafael. 813-5600. fenixlive.com.

11/02: Kurt Huget and Friends Original Americana. With Pat Campbell and Julia Harrell.

6pm. Panama Hotel, 4 Bayview St., San Rafael. 6372496. panamahotel.com.

11/04: Swing Fever The Wizard Of Ahhs, Songs of Harold Arlen. 7pm. No cover. Panama Hotel and Restaurant, 4 Bayview St., San Rafael. panamahotel.com.

11/05: Rusty String Express String band traditions stretched out into the future. 7pm. No cover.

Panama Hotel and Restaurant, 4 Bayview St., San Rafael. panamahotel.com.

11/06: C-JAM Jazz Trio Jazz, pop, rock, blues.

Connie Ducey, voice; Jay Stapleton, guitar; Andy Dudnick, bass. 6pm. No cover. Bio French Organic Creperie, 2633 Bridgeway, Sausalito. 324-7080. cducey.com.

11/06: Kirtan with Uma Reed and Friends

7:30pm. $10. Open Secret Bookstore, 923 C St., San Rafael. 457-4191. opensecretbookstore.com.

11/06: Narayan and Janet Original, folk, world.

7pm. No cover. Panama Hotel and Restaurant, 4 Bayview St., San Rafael. panamahotel.com.

11/07: Music at the Elk: Flanelhed and Phoenix Uprising Doors at 7pm. Show at 8pm.

All ages. $10. Tickets are available at the door, cash only. Parking available behind the Lodge. Food and full bar available. 8pm. San Rafael Elks Lodge, 1312 Mission Ave., San Rafael. 721-7661.

11/07: The 7th Sons 60s-70s pop, rock. 8:30pm. $10. Presidio Yacht Club, Travis Marina, Fort Baker, Sausalito. 847-2670. the7thsons.com.

Comedy 11/04: Tuesday Night Comedy with Mark Pitta and Friends Established headliners and

up-and-coming comics drop by and work on new material. $16-26. 142 Throckmorton Theatre, 142 Throckmorton Ave., Mill Valley. 3839600. throckmortontheatre.org.

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11/06: Mort Sahl: Social Satire Provocative humor and engaging conversation. 7pm. Free.

Throckmorton Theatre, 142 Throckmorton Ave., Mill Valley. 383-9600. 142throckmortontheatre.org.

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Actors and musicians create a completely improvised, and frightfully fun, full-length improvised musical. Everything from the plot, to the score, the lyrics, to the characters created on the spot. 8pm. $17 20. Bayfront Theater , B350 Fort Mason Center, S.F. 474-6776. improv.org.

11/02: ‘Mummenschanz’ Innovative Swiss performing group. Mummenschanz has enchanted audiences for over 40 years with a clever mix of strange creatures, colors and shapes. Utilizing theatrical elements of mime, acting, dance and magic, they turn ordinary materials into giant balloons, huge slinkies, gargantuan potato heads and accordion pleated tubes. 3pm. $20-60. Marin Veterans’ Memorial Auditorium, 10 Avenue of the Flags, San Rafael.

473-6800. marincenter.org.

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11/07: Soul-O: Solo Performances by Iconic Artists Nina Wise and Jane Siberry Pioneer-

ing performance artists Nina Wise and singer-songwriter Jane Siberry join forces for a cool sounding evening of theater and music. Both performers have works seeking to unearth and explore our expansive human condition. Presented by Motion Institute and Lloyde Barde Productions. 8pm. $27.50. Marin Showcase Theater, 10 Ave. of the Flags, San Rafael.

459-3766. marincenter.org.

Through 11/09: ‘Avenue Q’ Novato Theater Company presents the Tony Award-winning musical. The adult Sesame Street comedy is directed by Carl Jordan with musical direction by Monica Norcia. It features puppets and human actors. Not recommended for children under 13. 8pm Fri.-Sat.; 2pm Sun. $22-25. NTC Playhouse, 5420 Nave Dr., Suite C, Novato. novatotheatercompany.org; 883-4498 for information only.

Through 10/26: ‘The Whale’ Jasson Minedakis directs. By Samuel D. Hunter. 8pm Thurs.-Sat.; 2pm Sat.-Sun.; 7pm Sun. Marin Theatre Company, 397 Miller Ave., Mill Valley. 388-5200. marintheater.org.

Concerts 11/01-02 and 07: College of Marin Fall 2014 Contemporary Opera Marin: Devilish Delights Eight family friendly micro operas for Halloween and Dia de los Muertos. 7:30pm Nov. 1 and 7; 2pm. Nov. 2. Performing Arts Building PA72, Lefort Recital Hall, College of Marin, 835 College Ave., Kentfield. 485-9460. marin.edu.

11/05: Noontime Concerts Chamber works. Noon. Free. 142 Throckmorton Theatre, 142 Throckmorton Ave., Mill Valley. 383-9600.

142throckmortontheatre.org.

Dance 10/31: Visions: Fall Dance Concert Presented

by College of Marin. Guest performance by Branson Dance Ensemble Oct. 31 and Nov.1; with San Domenico Dance Ensemble Nov. 7-8. 8pm. Oct. 31, Nov.1, 7-8. $10-20. College of Marin Performing Arts Bldg. James Dunn Theatre, 835 College Ave., Kentfield. 485-9555. marin.edu

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11/04: Staged Reading: ‘In Dubious Battle’ Steinbeck’s lesser known precursor to Grapes of Wrath, adapted for the stage by Playwrights’ Lab member John F. Levin. 7pm. Free. Mill Valley Public Library, 375 Throckmorton Ave., Mill Valley. millvalleylibrary.org.

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10/31-11/01: Improvised Horror Musical

Novato Theater Company takes a stab at an adult ‘Sesame Street’-style production.

Art 11/01-30: Neon Fiction New abstract paintings.

Reception 6pm Nov. 1. Free. The Wounded General 12315 Sir Francis Drake Blvd., Inverness Park.

11/02: Object Lessons with Ying Zhu Join Fall Project Space artist Ying Zhu for an afternoon exploring pre-existing and untapped perceptions of space, materiality, the body and the reflexive boundaries between each. Stop in at the Mess Hall for coffee, tea or a treat. 3pm. Free RSVP required. Headlands Center for the Arts, 944 Fort Barry, Sausalito. 331-2787. headlands.org.

11/04: Mill Valley First Tuesday Art Walk

Mill Valley downtown art galleries, stores, city hall and community center will all have art exhibitions on the first Tuesday of the month. Come view the art, meet the artists and enjoy a libation. 6pm. Depot Plaza, Throckmorton Ave, Mill Valley. 383-1370. cityofmillvalley.org.

11/05: First Wednesday Art Talk: Houghton Hall Illustrated lecture led by docent,

Marsha Holm, of the Fine Arts Museums of San Francisco on Houghton Hall, a spectacular English country house built in the early 1700s by Sir Robert Walpole, the first Prime Minister of Britain. 1pm. Free. San Rafael City Hall, 1400 Fifth Ave., San Rafael. 485-3321. srpubliclibrary.org.

11/06: Art Date Night at O’Hanlon: With Christine Francisco An informal evening for

couples to get a break from the shorties, make art and enjoy. Art materials and music provided. Optional project/instruction with artist on hand to work with you, if desired. No experience necessary. Order your own take-out or food delivery. Wine is welcomed.

6pm. $40 per couple. O’Hanlon Center for the Arts, 616 Throckmorton Ave., Mill Valley. 388-4331. ohanloncenter.org.

Through 11/04: Annalisa Vobis, Candace Loheed and Will Thoms “Orangeland.” Candace

Loheed, paintings. “pH 8.1: Denatured Conditions.”

Annalisa Vobis, multimedia installation. “This Is Just To Say Exhibition .” Will Thoms, paintings.

Salon/ reception 4-5pm Nov. 2. 11am-5pm everyday except Tuesday 11am. Free. Gallery Route One, 11101 Highway One, Point Reyes Station. galleryrouteone.org.

Through11/10: Mi Polin: From Poland Art

from Warsaw-based art duo of Helena Czernek and Aleksander Prugar. Free. Osher Marin JCC, 200 N San Pedro Road, San Rafael. 444-8000. oshermarinjcc.org.

2x Grammy winning Jazz legend, considered top living saxophone player and winner of 2014’s prestigious Frankfurt Music Prize.

Renowned master magician, Jay Alexander, is considered one of the top high-society entertainers in the country. He has performed at private events for U2’s Bono and The Rolling Stones members.

This is the ultimate post-Thanksgiving family event!

Kids Events 11/01: Bay Area Science Festival Discovery Days North Bay Interactive exhibits, experiments, games and shows. 11am. Free. Sonoma County Fairgrounds, 1350 Bennett Valley Road, Santa Rosa.

894-0545. northbayscience.org.

11/04: JymBABIES Birthday Party with Miss Kitty Complimentary kid friendly snacks and cof-

fee will be available. 9:30am. Free. The Osher Marin JCC, 200 North San Pedro Road, San Rafael. 4448000. marinjcc.org.

11/07: Dia de los Muertos Bilingual Altar Making Event Explore Day of the Dead cus-

toms with native Spanish speaker Luz Elena Castro, listen to traditional healer Micaela Sanchez play a ceremonial flute, and then make a Day of the Dead altar to honor a loved one. For 5 and up, families welcome 3:30pm. Free. Mill Valley Public Library, 375 Throckmorton Ave., Mill Valley. 389-4292 x4741. millvalleylibrary.net.

11/07-16: Seussical the Musical Presented by the Throckmorton Youth Performers. 7:30pm Nov. 7; 2pm Nov. 8. $14-$35. 142 Throckmorton Theatre, 142 Throckmorton Ave., Mill Valley. 383-9600.

142throckmortontheatre.org.

11/07: Tawni Waters Special event for young adults. “Beauty of the Broken” is a story about a forbidden first love, and how a teen seeks the courage to care for another girl despite her town’s bigotry and her father’s violent threats. 6:30pm. Free. Book Passage, 51 Tamal Vista Blvd., Corte Madera. 927-0960. bookpassage.com.

Film 11/05: Military Plane Crashes in Marin with Matt Cerkel MMWD park ranger and historian Matt Cerkel will present an illustrated program featuring some of the local warplane crashes that

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454-8538. marinhistory.org.

11/07: Film: ‘Death Makes Life Possible’

Transformative Cinema presents. Post-screening Q&A with producer, writer, co-director and narrator, Marilyn Schlitz. 7pm. $10. Unity in Marin, 600 Palm Dr., Novato. 475-5000 ext. 121. unityinmarin.org.

Tuscan-Style Seafood 10/31 9pm HALLOWEEN PARTY WITH THE MARIN FIDELS – $12 11/1 9pm LUMANATION roots! rok! ska!

Dance up the Jam! – $12 11/2 4pm Salsa Class: ORQUESTA LA MODERNA TRADICION – $10 11/3 7pm CROSSROADS MUSIC SCHOOL FALL CONCERT – Free event 11/4 7pm JAZZ W/ NOEL JEWKES & Friends (no cover) 11/5 7:15pm TANGO WORKSHOP W/MAT MAMOODY – Class, 3-course dinner: appetizer+salad+pasta, live music Milonga: $20, Chicken $25, Seafood $30. Drinks not included.

8:30pm TANGO: Marcelo Puig & Seth Asarnow & guest DJ ($10 min. food or bev. choice) 11/6 8pm JAZZ WITH JUDY HALL: Judy Hall & Lovin’ Harmony

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Outdoors 11/01: Big Rock Ridge to the Summit Walk

from Lucas Valley to the 1,895-foot summit of Big Rock Ridge, the second highest peak in the county after Mt. Tamalpais. Walk involves a 1,200-foot elevation gain, but doesn’t involve any particularly steep sections. Bring extra water and food. This walk is for ages 15 and up. No pets (except service animals) please. Rain may cancel. 9am. Free. Big Rock Ridge, meet at trailhead , Lucas Valley Road West approx. 5.5 miles, San Rafael. 893-9508. marincountyparks.org.

11/01: Broom Buster Work Day Learn about the importance of invasive species removal and lend a hand. Work involves bending, pulling and kneeling.

Dress in layers you can get dirty, wear sturdy shoes and bring water. 9am. Free. Tiburon Peninsula Club Parking lot, 1600 Mar West St., Tiburon. 473-3778. marincountyparks.org.

11/01: Fun Family Mile This is a Healthy Parks, Healthy People event. Come out and enjoy a fall morning while participating in an easygoing, onemile walk with your family. Dress in layers and wear sturdy shoes. Water and healthy snacks will be provided. Friendly, leashed dogs are welcome. 10am.

Free. McInnis Park Dock, 310 Smith Ranch Road, San Rafael. 446-4423. marincountyparks.org.

11/01: History of the Headlands Hike

Fri 10/31 • Doors 8pm • ADV $27 / DOS $32

The Mother Hips Halloween Party With: Lazyman Sat 11/01 • Doors 8pm • ADV $30 / DOS $32

Super Diamond

Wed 11/05 • Doors 7pm • ADV $22/ DOS $27

Johnette Napolitano of Concrete Blonde With Flamenco LA

Fri 11/07 • Doors 8pm • ADV $14 / DOS $17

Jerry Joseph & The Jackmormons With Ashleigh Flynn

Tue 11/11 • Doors 7pm • $20

Kiddo! Fall Music Series featuring: Erik Yates of Hot Buttered Rum & Friends Fri 11/14 • Doors 8pm • ADV $22 / DOS $25

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Sat 11/15 • Doors 8pm • ADV $22 / $24

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Explore the natural history of the Marin Headlands. Halloween costumes encouraged. Naturalist led hike. 11am. Free. $8-12 for lunch, if wanted post hike. Point Bonita YMCA, 981 Ft. Barry, Sausalito. 331-9622. ymcasf.org/ptbonita.

11/01: REI Ridge Trail Service Day REI is partnering with land management agencies throughout the nine-county Bay Area to promote a morning of service on the Bay Area Ridge Trail. Help maintain the 680 Trail, which offers incredible views of Marin and the Bay Area and is an important connection linking Fairfax to Terra Linda. You will use hand tools and work on uneven terrain. The work is recommended for people ages 12 and older with a moderate to high level of fitness. Chipotle is providing burritos for lunch. We provide snacks, drinks, tools, extra gloves, and training, and we will also have a raffle with prizes. Dress in layers you can get dirty, wear sturdy shoes and bring water.

To participate, you must register for the event on the Bay Area Ridge Trail website. Heavy rain and/or high winds may cancel. Rain date is Nov. 15. 9am. Free. 680 Trail -Meet at the roadside parking top of White Hill Grade, off Sir Francis Drake Blvd, Fairfax. 473-3778. marincountyparks.org.

11/02: Fitness Hike: Indian Tree Join Ranger Christin Lopez for a fast-paced adventure on a fourplus mile loop. The emphasis of the hike is to get your heart pumping and burn calories. Wear comfortable athletic clothing, extra layers and sturdy footwear.

Plenty of water and high energy snacks are strongly recommended. No pets (except service animals) please. This is a rain or shine event, but high winds will cancel. 9am. Free. Indian Tree Preserve, Vineyard Drive - Meet at the trailhead, Novato. 473-2816. marincountyparks.org.

11/06: Birds at Bothin Marsh Along the west shore of Richardson Bay, Bothin Marsh is an example of what the wetlands surrounding San Francisco Bay and San Pablo Bay looked like before they were channeled, diked and filled. During fall and winter, migratory waterfowl thrive in the open water and sandpi-

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It’s not all about the trick-or-treaters this year, Marin. There are plenty of other options and happenings taking place this weekend! pers and other shorebirds feast on the invertebrates that are found in the mudflats. Walk is for ages 15 and up. No pets (except service animals) please. Rain may cancel. If questionable weather, call 893-9527 after 7am on the morning of the walk for a recorded message to see if the walk is cancelled. 9am. Free. Hauke Park parking area, Roque Mores Dr. right onto Hamilton Dr., Tiburon. 893-9508. marincountyparks.org.

Readings 10/31: William Gibson “The Peripheral.” 1pm.

Free. Book Passage, 51 Tamal Vista Blvd., Corte Madera.

11/01: Mario Batali “America: Farm to Table.”

Part of the Dominican University’s Fall Author Series. In conversation with Liam Mayclem.

Mario Batali knows the importance of ingredients to any worthy dish and sees farmers as the rock stars of the food world. 1pm. $40 ticket includes signed book. Dominican University, San Rafael.

927-0960. bookpassage.com.

11/01: Peg Conley “Imagine the Life You’d Love to Live, Then Live It: 52 Inspired Habits and Playful Prompts.” 1pm. Free. Book Passage, 51 Tamal Vista Blvd., Corte Madera. 927-0960. bookpassage.com.

11/01: Tommy Rosen “Recovery 2.0.” 4pm. Free.

Book Passage, 51 Tamal Vista Blvd., Corte Madera.

927-0960. bookpassage.com.

11/02: Corki, Lori, Tracy and Dana Pollan

“The Pollan Family Table.” Pull up a seat to the table that inspired Michael Pollan’s worldview and passion for food. 6pm. $95. The Spinster Sisters, 401 South A St., Santa Rosa.

11/02: John Byrne Cooke “On the Road with Janis Joplin.” 7pm. Free. Book Passage, 51 Tamal Vista Blvd., Corte Madera. 927-0960. bookpassage.com.

11/04: Stephen Seager “Behind the Gates of Gomorrah.” 7pm. Free. Book Passage, 51 Tamal Vista Blvd., Corte Madera. 927-0960. bookpassage.com.

11/05: Bryan Stevenson“Just Mercy.” 7pm. Free.

Book Passage, 51 Tamal Vista Blvd., Corte Madera.

927-0960. bookpassage.com.

11/05: Colm Toibin “Nora Webster.”1pm. Free.

Book Passage, 51 Tamal Vista Blvd., Corte Madera.

927-0960. bookpassage.com.

11/06: Heather Greene “Whiskey Distilled: A Populist Guide to the Water of Life.” 7pm. Free.

Book Passage, 51 Tamal Vista Blvd., Corte Madera. 927-0960. bookpassage.com.

11/06: John Brooks “The Girl Behind the Door.”

7pm. Free. Fairfax Library, 2097 Sir Francis Drake Blvd, Fairfax. 453-8151.

11/07: Books and Bites: Heather Greene Whiskey Distilled: A Populist Guide to the Water of Life Cavallo Point pairs a meal to go

along with this special brown spirit. Greene is the current director of the Whiskey School at the Flatiron Room in Manhattan and the first American woman to serve on the Scotch Malt Whiskey Society tasting panel in Edinburgh. Seats are limited—attendees must be 21 years or older. Ticket includes copy of the book. 6:30pm. $125 person.

Cavallo Point Cooking School, 601 Murray Circle, Sausalito. 927-0960. bookpassage.com.

11/07: David J. Haskins “Who Killed Mister Moonlight?” 7pm. Free. Book Passage, 51 Tamal Vista Blvd., Corte Madera. 927-0960. bookpassage.com.

Community Events (Misc.)

10/31: Halloween Fun at Novato Theater Company Come in costume to the and get dis-

counted admission. Costume contest with prizes and more. Not recommended for children under 13. 8pm. $19-25. $5 discount for costume. Novato Theater Playhouse, 5420 Nave Dr., Novato. 925672-8717. novatotheatercompany.org.

10/31: North Bay Singles Halloween Costume Party Costumes are optional, but prizes

will be awarded to the best. Adults of all ages welcome. 8pm-midnight. $10-20. Embassy Suites Hotel, 101 McInnis Pkwy, San Rafael. 507-9962. thepartyhotline.com.

11/01: Fish & Farm: with Fish Restaurant and Marin Roots Farm Get in the kitchen along

with Chefs Douglas Bernstein, Jesse Kuhn and Moira Firmin 5:30pm. $125 person. The Cooking School at Cavallo Point, 601 Murray Circle, Sausalito. 1-888-651-2003. cavallopoint.com.

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When life gives you a wedgie, you can mitigate the hurt by reframing it as a protective experience—one that keeps you from falling into a similar hole in the future. Maybe you can use this to be mindful of asking questions, early on, about the kind of lifestyle and temperament a guy’s most comfortable with, which could help you spot the red flags instead of using them as bedsheets. Weeding out the wrong guys fast will keep you on track to finding the right one—the man who @ca420md wants a woman who’s breaking through the glass ceiling instead of just getting up 420MD.org on a stepstool and Windexing it.

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I’m really into this beautiful, funny girl I’ve been dating for three weeks. I think she likes me, but my gut says she’s pulling away a little. If this fizzles, I’ll be heartbroken. She’s leaving on a 10-day business trip to Europe in two days.

Should I get her a gift or a card to let her know I’m really into her (and to not fall in love with any European dudes while she’s away)?—Worried

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WHAT’S YOUR SIGN? WEEK OF OCTOBER 31 - NOVEMBER 6, 2014

BY LEONA MOON

ARIES (March 21 - April 19) Need a hint for the latest Groupons to hunt for, Aries? Here’s a clue: therapy! Your eighth house of soul-searching is highlighted this week causing a bumpy road. You may find yourself feeling alone and blaming your partner on Nov. 5, but do your best to use your vulnerability to your advantage. You may just grow closer with your partner.

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20) No more people-pleasing, Taurus! The full moon on Nov. 6 is in Taurus and will open your eyes to any unhealthy, draining relationships and situations. It’s time you put yourself first—how does that sound? To do so, you’re going to have to speak up for yourself.

No one else in the office is going to voluntarily trade desks with you.

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20) Did you binge-order seven filing cabinets, Gemini? It’s that time of year—your sixth house of details and organization is popping out of hibernation. It’s time for a change and you’re sick of all of those half-eaten chocolate croissants and old mochas filling up your work space. You have it in you to be clean so grab a pair of gloves and get to it!

CANCER (June 21 - July 22) Dust off your party hat, Cancer! It’s time to hit the town. Party-hopping will be the main event of your crustacean life come Nov. 1. The stars will be there to assist—your comedic timing will be on point, your conversation starters will be engaging and you’ll manage to bump into the perfect CEOs to bring your latest dream to fruition.

LEO (July 23 - Aug. 22) Call it quits, Leo! Put the party shoes away; who are you kidding? Your domestic fourth house is screaming for ice cream and a down comforter. Sometimes no plans are the best plans— even for a socialite like yourself. Spend the weekend with some very important ladies in your life—think mom and sister. There will always be other parties next week for you to perform that karaoke power ballad.

VIRGO (Aug. 23 - Sept. 22) Take a risk, Virgo! You’re about to blow your own mind. Ready to finally go bungee jumping? Maybe try escargot?

“Risk” is your middle name this week and you are turning heads left and right. Put energy into dreaming big and surrounding yourself with loved ones of a like mind.

LIBRA (Sept. 23 - Oct. 22) Ever wonder when that trust fund would kick in, Libra? The time is now! Well, even if you’re not looking at a six or seven figure security blanket, expect money to flow. Your daily routine is about to go on a joyride. You might finally get that golden toilet you’ve always dreamed of.

SCORPIO (Oct. 23 - Nov. 21) Talk it out, Scorpio! It’s time to let your partner know how you’ve really been feeling. I know it’s felt like a drag and more of a burden to let your partner know that you’ve considered sleeping in another bedroom due to snoring, but you’re going to have to tell him or her sooner or later. The biggest shocker of it all is that your reveal—whatever you may have been carrying—will only bring you two closer.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22 - Dec. 21) Lay down, Sagittarius! You’re overdue for a little healing and relaxation. Maybe you’ve been yearning to go on a meditative retreat, or you’ve been resting up in the hospital. Whichever way your twelfth house of healing has affected you, it’s time to give in and rest up. Maybe change your default Pandora station from deadmau5 to Mozart.

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22 - Jan. 19) Remember in fourth grade when someone put that “Kick me” sign on your back, Capricorn? Well this week is a little like that, except the sign reads, “Kiss me.” Your heart is on your sleeve and you don’t care who notices—in fact, the more the merrier.

You’re looking for love and trust me, it’s going to find you.

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20 - Feb. 18) Housing is ridiculous these days, Aquarius! That’s no surprise, but except a breakthrough come Nov. 5. A roommate may move out, move in or it could be you doing the moving. A housing matter (possibly of deep irritation) will be resolved. Start collecting extra cardboard boxes just in case.

PISCES (Feb. 19 - March 20) The stork is delivering a new brainbaby on Nov. 6, Pisces! You’ve got big ideas and you’re finally making big moves! Nothing can stand in your way—not even that Negative Nancy boss of yours. Go for the gold, but save your elevator pitch for the right set of ears. Your power of persuasion is on fire.

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RELATIONSHIP CHALLENGES? Tired of endless relationship or marital challenges? Or single and sick of spending weekends and holidays alone? Join coed Intimacy Group, Single's Group or Women's Group to explore what’s blocking you from fulfillment in your relationships and life. Weekly, ongoing groups or 9-week groups starting the week of Nov. 3, 2014 - Mon, Tues, or Thurs evening. Space limited. Also, Individual and Couples sessions.

Central San Rafael. For more information, call Renee Owen, LMFT#35255 at 415/453-8117.

A safe, successful GROUP for FORMER MEMBERS OF HIGH-DEMAND GROUPS (Religious, New Age, Eastern, Philosophical, Large Group Awareness Programs, etc.) is held every other Saturday in Marin, now in its 10th year. Participants include those born and/or raised in such groups espousing a “good”/ “bad” ideology with a leader(s) who encourages greater degrees of dependency and conformity at the price of individual personal rights, goals, and development. Participants address relevant issues in their lives, receive acknowledgement, gain insights, pursue individual goals, learn how others have negotiated challenging situations, with opportunities to heal from loss and trauma. Individual, Couple, and Family Sessions also available. Facilitated by Colleen Russell, LMFT (MFC29249) Certified Group Psychotherapist (41715). Contact: crussellmft@earthink.net or 415-785-3513

To include your seminar or workshop, call 415/485-6700 x 302.

COMMUNITY PET OF THE WEEK

Sweet and loving, Missy will provide you with excellent company for a lifetime! Meet Missy at the Marin Humane Society or call the Adoption Department at 415.506.6225 SPANISH LANGUAGE LEARNING CENTER IN DOWNTOWN SAN RAFAEL www.spanishindowntown sanrafael.com

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5 1/2 year old Domestic Short Hair Mix Missy is a beautiful polydactyl girl with lovely green eyes and a body built for lap sitting. She is an inquisitive, playful cat who seeks affection and attention. She likes to be groomed and will climb into your lap when she decides the time is right.

She is a little picky about how much handling is acceptable, so a home with older teenagers would be best.

Missy loves looking out the window, but needs to do that solo as she does not enjoy the company of other cats.

We are now hiring EXPERIENCED CAREGIVERS for Live-In & Hourly Shifts. Top Pay! Flexible Hours! 401K, Health Insurance and Signing Bonus!

Best Training! Requirements: 3 professional references, Proof of eligibility to work in the US. Interested candidates should apply in person on weekdays between 9am and 5pm at: Home Care Assistance, 919 Sir Francis Drake Blvd. Ste. 107, Kentfield, CA 94904. Contact Francie Bedinger 415 532-8626.

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IRISH HELP AT HOME CAREGIVERS WANTED High Quality Home Care. Now hiring Qualified Experienced Caregivers for work with our current clients in Marin & North Bay. Enquire at 415-721--7380. www.irishhelpathome.com.

MIND & BODY HYPNOTHERAPY Thea Donnelly, M.A. Hypnosis, Counseling, All Issues. 25 yrs. experience. 415-459-0449.

BUSINESS SERVICES TECHNOLOGY SERVICES

GARDENING/LANDSCAPING GARDENING MAINTENANCE PLUS OSCAR - 415-505-3606

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v general Yard & Firebreak clean Up v complete Landscaping v irrigation systems v commercial & residential Maintenance v patios, retaining walls, Fences For Free Estimate call Titus 415-380-8362 or visit our website www.yardworklandscaping.com

We provide IT support & managed services to small & medium sized businesses.

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Office and Traffic Coordinator Job Description The office and traffic coordinator (OTC) position is a part-time 20 hours per week job that reports to the ad director. OTC plays two roles. First, the candidate coordinates the advertising services between the sales and production departments. Second, the candidate answers our phones, processes our mail and performs other office duties.

Traffic Coordinator responsibilities include: • Manages inventory of digital ads for our daily email products and websites • Trafficking ads and providing liaison between production and sales departments • Proofing ads, making corrections and keeping sales reps up to date • Dummying the weekly print product and special publications • Assists reps when they call from the field • Liaison between sales and production/printer for Preprints Office responsibilities include: • Answering phones • Processing mail both in and out • Processing over the counter legal advertisements •Updating Circulation & Subscription lists Skillset: Good multi-tasking, Webmaster skills, Proficient in Excel and Word. To be trained in Pre 1 accounts receivable.

Please send resume to: Ad Director Meredith Griffin mgriffin@pacificsun.com

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Decks • Bathrooms Car Decks Termite Damage

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30 Years in Business • Lowest Rates

View Video on YouTube: “Landscaper in Marin County” youtu.be/ukzGo0iLwXg 415-927-3510

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HARNESSING THE HORSE-HUMAN CONNECTION !!

Saturday and Sunday, November 1 & 2, 2014 For anyone looking to try psychotherapy work outside of an office setting – deepen their connections with animals - OR – interested in the horse-human connection. Over two days we will introduce you to the unique treatment modality of Equine Facilitated Psychotherapy – PLUS - the fields of Animal Communication and Horse Massage (beneficial to humans as well!) Each participant will be offered the experience of connecting with our horses for their own personal growth process.

Open to anyone interested in learning more about EFP - animal communication or the horse-human connection!

Workshop will be held at our private space on the grounds of Willow Tree Stables, Novato.

No horse experience necessary. Please see our website for pricing and sign ups – www.equineinsight.net. – email us at equineinsight@ aol.com. - Or call 415-457-3800.

This workshop is presented by Equine Insight and Judy Weston-Thompson, MFT (license #MFC23268), CEIP-MH. Judy has been using Equine Facilitated Psychotherapy since 2006.

FURNITURE REPAIR/REFINISH FURNITURE DOCTOR Ph/Fax: 415-383-2697

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Rosa & Marino's We provide good house cleaning services inside and outside including yards. Call 415-618-9513 All Marin Housecleaning Licensed, Bonded, Insured. Will do Windows. Ophelia 415-717-7157

HOME MAINTENANCE AND REPAIR Carpentry • Painting Plumbing • Electrical Honest, Reliable, Quality Work 20 years of experience

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Home RepaiR Carpentry, Electrical, Plumbing Handyman w/30 Yrs Experience

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AFFORDABLE DECKS Kitchens • Baths General Remodels • Additions Carports • Concrete

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Water, Gas, Sewer Leak Detection using the latest Technology

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PLUMBING Plumbing Specialist We offer professional service at fair prices.

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PSYCHIC SERVICES

REAL ESTATE HOMES/CONDOS FOR SALE AFFORDABLE MARIN? I can show you 40 homes under $400,000. Call Cindy @ 415-902-2729.

Christine Champion, Broker.

RETAIL/OFFICE SPACE FOR RENT RETAIL OR OFFICE SPACE Lease available for 3450 sq feet in downtown San Rafael. Two bathrooms, kitchen, 4 offices, with balance for open space planning.

Carpet throughout. High ceilings.

Retail windows face street. 1 year, 2 year or 3 year lease available. Near restaurants and transit.

415 485-6700 x315

RETAIL/OFFICE SPACE WANTED THE PACIFIC SUN IS LOOKING FOR A HOME FOR OUR COMPANY. We need 1100 to 1400 sq feet, internet, free parking, preferably in San Rafael for less than $2k/month.

Contact bheinen@pacificsun.com

ENGLISH HOUSESITTER Will love your pets, pamper your plants, ease your mind, while you’re out of town. Rates negotiable.

References available upon request.

Pls Call Jill @ 415-927-1454

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PUBLiC NOTiCES

FICTITIOUS NAME STATEMENT

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 135805 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: WEARLYNX, WEARLINGS, 204 BUNGALOW AVE, SAN RAFAEL, CA, 94901: SHIMENAWA, INC, 204 BUNGALOW AVE., SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901. This business is being conducted by A CORPORATION under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein.

Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on October 6, 2014, 2014. (Publication Dates: Oct. 10th, 17th, 24th & 31st of 2014.)

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 135813 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: MERIDIAN COMMERCIAL, 68 MITCHELL BLVD, SAN RAFAEL, CA 94903: MCII, INC, 7 BROOKSIDE DRIVE, SAN ANSELMO, CA 94960. The business is being conducted with

by A CORPORATION. Registrant is renewing filing with changes and is transacting business, under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on October 8, 2014, 2014(Publication Dates: Oct. 17th, 24th, 31st & Nov. 7th of 2014.)

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 2014 -135806 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: KIDSCONTENT, 118 CYPRESS AVENUE, KENTFIELD, CA 94904: CLAIRE COMINS, 118 CYPRESS AVENUE, KENTFIELD, CA 94904.

This business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on October 7, 2014. (Publication Dates: Oct. 17th, 24th, 31st & Nov. 7th of 2014.)

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 2014135847 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: HANDYMAN REPAIR SERVICE, 239 D ST, #1, SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901 : PETER B RICE 239 D ST #1, SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901. This business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on October 14, 2014. (Publication Dates: Oct. 17th, 24th, 31st & Nov. 7th of 2014.)

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 135781 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: COLLABORATIVE COMMUNICATION COACH, COLLABORATIVE MEDIATION COACH, MEDIATION COACHING, 1115 THIRD STREET , SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901: HAYLIE CHRISTANTE, 4 CIRCLE DRIVE, APT G, BEL TIBURON, CA 94920. This business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein.

Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on October 2, 2014. (Publication Dates: Oct. 17th, 24th, 31st & Nov. 7th of 2014.)

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 135876 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: THE MONETA ACADEMY, 15 SCENIC ROAD, FAIRFAX, CA 94930 :KATHERINE ANGELA WEIKEL, 15 SCENIC ROAD , FAIRFAX, CA 94930. The business is being conducted with by AN INDIVIDUAL . Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on October 17, 2014, (Publication Dates: Oct. 24th, 31st & Nov. 7th , 14th of 2014.)

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 2014135765 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: MARIN CHIROPRACTIC STUDIO , 7 MT. LASSEN DR, SUITE C 134 , SAN RAFAEL, CA 94903: KAREN JOSEPHS D.C. , 7 MT LASSEN DR, SUITE C 134 , SAN RAFAEL, CA 94903.

This business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on Sept 30, 2014. (Publication Dates: Oct. 24th, 31st & Nov. 7th, 14th of 2014.)

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 135874 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: ARCHITECTURE FOR ADVANCED MEDICINE, 115 CORTE ANITA , GREENBRAE, CA 94904: WILLIAM H . FOSTENBERG, 115 CORTE ANITA , GREENBRAE, CA 94904.

This business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on October 17, 2014. (Publication Dates: Oct. 24th, 31st & Nov. 7th, 14th of 2014.)

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 135856 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: CAFE LOTUS, 1912 SIR FRANCIS DRAKE, FAIRFAX, CA 94930 : JOTI LLC ,704 4TH ST, SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901. This business is being conducted by A LIMITED LIABILITY COMPANY .Registrant is renewing filing with changes and is transacting business, under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein.

This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on October 15, 2014. (Publication Dates: Oct. 24th, 31st & Nov. 7th, 14th of 2014.)

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 2014135885 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: M1 AUTO REPAIR, 53 MARK DRIVE #3, SAN RAFAEL, CA 94903: MARVIN E ESTEBAN 2640 ANDRADE AVE , RICHMOND, CA 94804.

This business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on October 20, 2014. (Publication Dates: Oct. 24th, 31st & Nov. 7th, 14th of 2014.)

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 2014135908 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: AGINGINVESTOR.COM, 930 IRWIN STREET, SUITE 215. SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901: MIKOL DAVIS, 930 IRWIN STREET, SUITE 215. SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901; CAROLYN ROSENBLATT, 930 IRWIN STREET, SUITE 215, SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901.The business is being conducted by JOINT VENTURE . Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County ClerkRecorder of Marin County on October 22, 2014, (Publication Dates: Oct. 31st & Nov. 7th , 14th , 21 st of 2014.)

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 2014135875 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: FILIGREE, 4302 REDWOOD HIGHWAY, SUITE 200, SAN RAFAEL CA 94903 : KHUSHALI PATEL, 39034 GUARDINO DRIVE , APT 301, FREMONT, CA 94538.The business is being conducted by AN INDIVIDUAL. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County ClerkRecorder of Marin County on October 17, 2014, (Publication Dates: Oct. 31st & Nov. 7th , 14th , 21 st of 2014.)

FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT File No. 135835 The following individual(s) is (are) doing business: KIMCYN CLEANING SERVICES, 2303 RUMRILL BLVD, SAN PABLO, CA 94806: ALICIA ESCOBAR, 2303 RUMRILL BLVD, SAN PABLO, CA 94806. The business is being conducted

by AN INDIVIDUAL. Registrant will begin transacting business under the fictitious business name(s) listed herein. This statement was filed with the County Clerk-Recorder of Marin County on October 10, 2014, (Publication Dates: Oct. 31st & Nov. 7th , 14th , 21 st of 2014.)

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OTHER NOTICES

ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME SUPERIOR COURT OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA FOR THE COUNTY OF MARIN. No. CIV 1403735. TO ALL INTERESTED PERSONS: Petitioner MABI HUANG ELLIS filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: HUANG ELLIS, MABI TO ELLIS, MABI HUANG. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition for change of name should not be granted. Any person objecting to the name changes described above must file a written objection that includes the reasons for the objection at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and must appear at the hearing to show cause why the petition should not be granted. If no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing. NOTICE OF HEARING: 11/17/2014 9:00 AM, ROOM L, Superior Court of California, County of Marin, 3501 Civic Center Drive, San Rafael, CA 94903.

A copy of this ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE shall be published at least once each week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in the county of Marin: PACIFIC SUN. Date OF FILING: OCT. 2, 2014, (Publication Dates: Oct. 10th, 17th, 24th & 31st of 2014.)

ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME SUPERIOR COURT OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA FOR THE COUNTY OF MARIN. No. CIV 1404023. TO ALL INTERESTED PERSONS: Petitioner MARK ROBINETT, BETH CASSEL filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: RUDI CASSEL ROBINETT TO RUDY WILLIAM ROBINETT. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition for change of name should not be granted.

Any person objecting to the name changes described above must file a written objection that includes the reasons for the objection at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and must appear at the hearing to show cause why the petition should not be granted. If no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing. NOTICE OF HEARING: 12/22/2014 9:00 AM, ROOM L, Superior Court of California, County of Marin, 3501 Civic Center Drive, San Rafael, CA 94903.

A copy of this ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE shall be published at least once each week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in the county of Marin: PACIFIC SUN. Date OF FILING: OCT. 21, 2014, (Publication Dates: Oct. 31,Nov 7, 14, 21 of 2014.)

ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME SUPERIOR COURT OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA FOR THE COUNTY OF MARIN. No. CIV 1404032. TO ALL INTERESTED PERSONS: Petitioner VALERIE NICOLE RODGERS filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: BARRETT ALAN COSTELLO TO BARRETT ALAN RODGERS. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition for change of name should not be granted.

Any person objecting to the name changes described above must file a written objection that includes the reasons for the objection at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and must appear at the hearing to show cause why the petition should not be granted. If no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing. NOTICE OF HEARING: 12/11/2014 08:30 AM, ROOM B, Superior Court of California, County of Marin, 3501 Civic Center Drive, San Rafael, CA 94903.

A copy of this ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE shall be published at least once each week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in the county of Marin: PACIFIC SUN. Date OF FILING: OCT. 22, 2014, (Publication Dates:Oct. 31, Nov 7, 14, 21 of 2014.)

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I just had the humiliating experience of being dumped via email. I’d been seeing the guy for three months. Just days before, we had a romantic date, and he kept saying things like, “We’re so good together” and was very lovey-dovey. In the email, he said he realized that we aren’t compatible, because I’m too driven and career-focused and he needs a more traditional woman. Why did he never mention this before? How does a guy who was very affectionate for months suddenly take to the computer to send you a quick note that it’s over? I’m so hurt and confused by how he handled this.—Devastated

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Unfortunately, personal disasters like getting dumped get none of the funding and attention of natural disasters. There’s no early warning system to make that annoying sound on your TV, and FEMA doesn’t show up the day after with pallets of Kleenex and vodka.

Making matters worse, this guy didn’t just dump you; he robo-dumped you.

It’s OK to take to the Internet to break up with your cable company or somebody you’ve gone out with a few times. But once you have a relationship with a person, you owe it to them to sit down with them and tell them it’s over; you don’t get to shove your dirty work off on their phone, their computer or their vacuum cleaner.

Being willing to put yourself in misery’s way and break up face to face preserves the other person’s dignity—their feeling that they have value. “Subj: we r thru,” on the other hand, suggests that they don’t matter; their feelings don’t matter; all that matters is discarding them in the most expedient way. The pre-Internet equivalent would be breaking up via postcard—maybe “Scenic Lake Minnetonka: Wish You Were Here!” but with the “Here!” crossed out and replaced with “Beer!”

As for how a guy can be all snookieloviepoo one day and all “go away, career lady” the next, chances are, he fell in love—with the feeling of being in love. Early on, with all the sexytime hormones rushing, it’s easy to forget to step back and do the, “Hey, wonder whether we’re compatible” check. Eventually, the hormone high wears off, and incompatibilities get highlighted instead of blurred. It’s normal to feel guilty for not noting them sooner. But it’s a stew of guilt and bad character that has a guy taking the e-weenie way out—telling you it’s over with a bonus link at the bottom informing you that there’s never been a better time to enlarge your penis.

When life gives you a wedgie, you can mitigate the hurt by reframing it as a protective experience—one that keeps you from falling into a similar hole in the future. Maybe you can use this to be mindful of asking questions, early on, about the kind of lifestyle and temperament a guy’s most comfortable with, which could help you spot the red flags instead of using them as bedsheets. Weeding out the wrong guys fast will keep you on track to finding the right one—the man who wants a woman who’s breaking through the glass ceiling instead of just getting up on a stepstool and Windexing it.

Q:

I’m really into this beautiful, funny girl I’ve been dating for three weeks. I think she likes me, but my gut says she’s pulling away a little. If this fizzles, I’ll be heartbroken. She’s leaving on a 10-day business trip to Europe in two days.

Should I get her a gift or a card to let her know I’m really into her (and to not fall in love with any European dudes while she’s away)?—Worried

A:

What kind of gift were you thinking of giving her—the duct tape you’d use to strap her to a chair in your den? When somebody you’re interested in seems to be backing away, it’s natural to want to chase them. It’s also the most counterproductive thing you could do. (You look desperate, and they look for doorways to hide in.) Your best bet is to remain present but be minimal about it, like by texting her on the morning she leaves, “Hey, have a safe trip and a great time.” While she’s away, keep seriously busy, both to stay OK in the head and so, when you do see her, you won’t come off like you spent 10 days in your bunk bed drawing sparkly hearts in a notebook with her name on the cover. Upon her return, wait at least a few days, and then ask her out. Give her the space to miss you and she just might do that, and you just might find yourself showing her the American version of “if the gondola’s a-rockin’, don’t come a-knockin’.” Y ©Amy Alkon, all rights reserved. Got a problem? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave, #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or e-mail AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com). Amy Alkon’s Advice Goddess Radio—listen live every Sunday—http://www. blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon/—7-8pm, or listen or download at the link at iTunes or on Stitcher. And watch for her new book: “Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck.”

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