Everyone knows that guy or that girl who always shows up to the bar tanked out of their minds virtually every night of the week. They ask strangers for shots, they're loud, and they always seem to be enjoying themselves. Some have had multiple DUI's while others have skated the system; some brag about the amount of alcohol they can consume and others just drink without saying a word. The descriptions are endless. Has it ever dawned on you that these types of people might need an intervention as opposed to having another shot?
Sure, talking to someone in a bar about their alcoholism isn't a comfortable thing to do. But you could be a lifesaver just by casually mentioning to these people that addiction treatment isn't all that bad. Below are some surefire ways to help someone curb their unhealthy behavior in the least embarrassing way possible, for both of you.
Speak To The Bartender On Duty
Alert the bartender on duty whenever someone's behavior concerns you. Say something like, "I'm worried about John's drinking habits. I think we need to host an intervention." He or she will definitely respond to this. By law, the bartender is responsible for what happens in the establishment when they are working. Don't be afraid to let them know what your intentions are. Better yet, invite them to your planned intervention.
Setting up the Intervention: Discreetly Talk to Your Friend
When John walks into the bar ready to party, take him to the side and offer him a cold glass of water. Start your conversation along the lines of, "John, how are things?" He will most likely tell you "Everything's fine." But we know that's not true. Let him know that you're concerned with his excessive drinking, and then invite him over for dinner.
The Intervention The bartender knows, your friends know, and now it's time for you to know what to do next. You don't want John to feel like all of his drinking buddies have plotted against him, so make sure to invite his parents, his siblings, and other close members of his family. Explain to them beforehand how addiction treatment might help John. Lastly, don't be surprised if John gets upset once he realizes what you've done. He'll appreciate you for it in the end. Make sure you've proctored a comfortable environment. Pizza, pitchers of iced tea, and his favorite music in the background should alleviate any animosity he may have towards you at first.
Explain the 'Why' Addiction treatment centers can be expensive, but if you think the cost of saving a friend's life is high, think about how much a year's worth of bar tabs can run you. Avoid phrases like, "The party's over," and "You're a wreck." Being sensitive and consciously thinking through each and every word you plan on saying beforehand will go a long way in convincing John that you are all acting in his best interest. Sharing fond memories can help set a more somber tone, thus increasing the probability of him checking into a treatment center. Begin with, "Remember the time when... " and just allow the truth to flow. You want John to know you care, because it's about saving his life, not yours.
Just because alcoholism is classified as a disease doesn't mean there's no cure. If you witness changes in behavior in your friends and loved ones because of their drinking, consider an intervention. Someone's life may depend on your actions.
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