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Honoring Black history, advocating for social justice WHAT IS PCA?

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Originally established in the early 1900s as a week-long celebration recognizing the accomplishments of African Americans in the United States, Black History Month officially received its month-long designation

by President Gerald Ford in 1976. While Black History Month is designated nationally in the month of February, it is important to honor and celebrate Black history and culture year-round. We are frequently reminded that the fight for social justice must never stop. Freedom, civil rights, and the fight for equality have no season and should always be a part of the larger narrative. Widespread, systemic change beginning with actions taken by many is part of an effective approach to social justice.

Racism, discrimination and prejudice have adversely affected our nation for far too long. Ways to combat them include embracing opportunities to share our commonalities as well as our rich cultural customs that make us unique. Embracing our nation’s diversity not only recognizes the tremendous contributions that all people have made to help shape our country, but also creates greater awareness and understanding of our ongoing efforts for true equality.

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We must live together as brothers or perish together as fools. ~ Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

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In our work to eliminate systemic racism and create a just and equitable society, using our individual and collective voices matter. Our society must continue its progress toward this goal, and we must continue to combat the wrongs that prevent all of

our citizens from experiencing their greatest opportunities at life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

Celebrations and opportunities to support Black history and culture are taking place throughout the City of Philadelphia during the month of February. I encourage you to use this month and to take opportunities throughout the year to learn about and participate in the many activities surrounding Black history in the city. (See the calendar, pages 8-9, for learning opportunities and activities in the city taking place in observance of Black History Month.)

National Caregivers Day: February 18 Caregivers deliver a variety of duties from personal care to medical services with compassion. Their days are often long and demanding, but they provide support to those who need it most. National Caregivers Day, held on the third Friday in February, honors those who provide quality, compassionate long-term and hospice care. These dedicated caregivers provide vital services, allowing older adults to remain independent for as long as possible.

If you are a caregiver for a loved one and need help, reach out to PCA’s Caregiver Support Program by calling the PCA Helpline at 215765-9040 or going to our website (pcaCares.org/caregivers) for more information.

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Black barbershops have storied history in Philadelphia

By Constance Garcia-Barrio The fame of Black barbershops as havens where African American men can get a sharp look, sage advice and a good laugh has become near legendary. Books, like “Cuttin’ Up: Wit and Wisdom from Black Barbershops” (2005) by Craig Marberry, have captured the camaraderie of these establishments that give Black men respite from the world.

The majority of barber shops in the Philadelphia region during the 18th and early 19th centuries were Black-owned and operated, according to The Encyclopedia of Greater Philadelphia, produced by the Mid-Atlantic Regional Center for the Humanities at Rutgers-Camden.

Black barbers still flourish in Philadelphia. Present craftsmen of hair cutting include Robert “Woody” Woodard, 70, owner of Woodard’s Barbershop at Bryn Mawr and Lebanon Avenues in West Philadelphia, and Bernard Washington, 84, of New Image in Germantown. With more than a century of combined experience, Woodard and Washington have much to tell about their work and the changes they’ve seen.

“Old-time Black barbershops were sociable places that often kept chessboards or checkerboards (for patrons),” recalled Washington, who was born in Rhode Island and began learning his trade at 14 from his father, a licensed barber. He earned his license at 18 and moved to Philadelphia in 1964. “Some shops had a shoeshine stand where youngsters could make a little money shining and buffing shoes.”

Woodard taught himself barbering in his youth and later attended Tri City Barber School. He became licensed in the 1970s. “I’m from a South Philly family of 10,” said Woodard, adding that he used to sweep Marian Anderson’s sidewalk to

earn money.

Washington found early on that he would have to learn to cut all types of hair. “Black men’s hair can range from straight to curly,” he said. “And in Rhode Island, I cut some Native American men’s hair, which tends to be straight. You have to look at the hair to discover the grain pattern.”

Woodard faced discrimination early in his career. “I had all white customers in my first shop, which I leased,” he said. The wife of a customer complimented him on how well he cut her children’s hair, then said, “You’ll do fine here as long as you continue to cut straight hair.”

Things changed when he bought his own shop in the 1980s. “If you have your own property, you can set the rules,” said Woodard. “For a month, I rented a portable sign and put it outside my shop that read: ‘Woodard’s Barbershop. We cut any type of hair.’”

Robert “Woody” Woodard (pictured at right in both photos), owner of Woodard’s Barbershop in West Philadelphia, has cut many celebrity heads in the past 50 years, including Michael Jackson and Charles Barkley in 1984 (above right).

Woodard’s first Black customer was the late radio personality Georgie Woods.

“He was so pleased with the haircut I gave him that he brought in the Jackson Five for haircuts before they performed at the

Spectrum,” he said. “After Nina Simone saw Michael Jackson’s haircut, she asked me to cut her hair.”

Now, his customers include people of various ethnicities, including students from nearby St. Joe’s University. Sometimes, patrons ask him about matters of race. “I tell them to take the ‘RACE Test’ on my website at BarbershopTalkHFD. org, then we’ll have a basis for conversation.” This exercise is intended to help free your mind by expanding your social skills on how you view “race.”

Not only has the clientele changed over the years, but the hairstyles have, too. “In the ‘60s, the Afro or bush came into play,” Washington said. “Kids would want a big bush, but parents would say, ‘Cut it down more.’ That was hard because I sympathized with the child. Currently, there’s an emphasis on longer hair at the top of the head and shorter hair as you go down.

Men will say, ‘Give me a tapered look or a fade.’”

Woodard agrees that the ‘fade’ is a newer style. “You never saw that style years ago,” he said. “Men wanted an Afro to signal that they are Black, proud and fighting racism.”

Both men serve the community in other ways. Woodard, a widower with eight adult children, feels that the public system has failed many young people by letting them graduate without learning basics. “They feel bad about themselves,” he said. “I emphasize that they have [innate] intelligence to help instill self-worth. I also use my original poetry to get points across to them.”

He plans to step up his efforts to reach young people through podcasts. “I used to host a radio show on WURD, called ‘Barbershop Talk,’ where I interviewed many people, including some celebrities,” Woodard said. “For the podcasts, I’ll use many of those recorded shows, along

with new interviews. I have a studio on the second floor so I can broadcast those conversations to inspire people.” He’s also published commentary pieces in The Philadelphia Tribune and writes a column for Philadelphia RowHome Magazine.

Washington has helped the community by attending to men who are too sick to come to the barbershop. “When I had a car, it was no trouble for me to take my tools and travel to a hospital, nursing home or private residence to cut a man’s hair,” he said. “Even if a man is sick, he feels better when he’s well-groomed.”

Washington, who has been married for 41 years with four adult children, also drew illustrations for a book of Bible stories written by one of his sisters.

While learning barbering can be tedious, both men have passed on their craft by teaching some of their siblings how to cut hair. Woodard finds deep satisfaction in teaching and learning from his clients.

Washington describes his life’s work with fervor: “It’s been a wonderful adventure.”

Native Philadelphian Constance Garcia-Barrio writes about many topics, including Black history.

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Black community groups mentor youths, support businesses

By Jay Nachman “What they see is what they’ll be” is the tagline of 100 Black Men Philadelphia (BMP), the local chapter of a national organization that supports the city’s Black youth by mentoring these future leaders.

This illustrious national organization was founded in 1963 by former New York City Mayor David Dinkins and baseball legend Jackie Robinson, among others.

The organization and others like it are a response and a corrective to the history of mistreatment against Blacks in the United States, according to 100 BMP President and Board Chair Joel Wilson, 53, of Overbrook Park. In addition to slavery, Black people have suffered from government-sanctioned discrimination in all areas of life, including the economic, political and criminal justice systems.

“The problems are still here,” Wilson said. “So, we absolutely need civic organizations, like 100 Black Men, to try to fill that gap, to try to build that bridge, to help more Black folks so that they can actually participate in the good that America does have. This country has a tremendous amount of great opportunities. That’s why so many (people from other countries) to

this day still come here. What we want is Black citizens to be able to fully participate in the opportunities available, just like everyone else.”

In developing ideals, strategies and programs for the local chapter, 100 BMP pioneers aligned themselves with other city organizations. Philadelphia’s problems that impact the Black community, including gun violence, crime and children leaving schools, cannot be handled by 100 BMP. This thinking led to the creation of the Minority Entrepreneur Apprentice Program, where BMP partnered with Dobbins Technical and Strawberry Mansion High Schools in this exciting pilot project that will teach young men the intricacies of real estate development.

The Honickman Center, a state-of-theart community center in North Philadelphia, works with 100 BMP to provide reading programs to youngsters in the 3rd grade. Staff at Honickman understand the need to reach and develop these children at an early age.

100 BMP provides opportunities based around five pillars: • Leadership: Young men work on character, self-awareness, communication, conflict resolution, developmental and

time management skills, social engagement, networking and goal setting.

• Education: Activities are structured to facilitate intellectual growth and development.

• Health & Wellness is a vital component of a thriving community. 100 BMP is concerned about the well-being of the whole community and the whole person: physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual.

• Mentorship: Trained and dedicated mentors proudly share their expertise, time, guidance and influence to help young Black men navigate through victories and challenges on the road to adulthood.

• Economic empowerment: Improving the financial literacy of youth at an early age helps to change the course of their whole lives and can even improve entire communities. Financial programs include a junior investment program, a hands-on banking and money management class for middle and high school students, and a financial adviser training program.

To become a volunteer, mentor or charter member, contact BMP at 267-238-2900 or 100BlackMenPhilly.org.

Supporting Black business growth

Pamela Thornton’s goal for her baking business, Poundcake Heaven, is simply stated: to keep a dying legacy alive.

“When we grew up, our mothers and grandmothers used to do a lot of baking and cooking,” said Thornton, 60, of Yeadon. “As I grew older, I found that was going away.”

To help her business grow, Thornton turned to the African-American Chamber of Commerce of PA, NJ and DE (AACC), which helped her with advertising, connected her with vendors and customers, and provided her with other assistance.

The AACC is among several organiza-

tions that are resources for the Black community in Philadelphia. These businesses understand the culture of the Black community and the challenges that it faces.

“In our culture, we work so very hard to get ahead, and we just don’t always get the support that we need,” said Thornton, who bakes approximately 750 cakes a month and has three stores – in Yeadon, Kensington and West Philadelphia, which is currently undergoing renovation.

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Black community resources 100 Black Men Philadelphia seeks to educate and empower our youth, their families and our community through volunteerism and charter membership: 267-238-2900, ext. 3 | 100BlackMenPhilly.org.

African-American Chamber of Commerce of PA, NJ and DE supports the economic empowerment and growth of Black-owned businesses in Greater Philadelphia: 215751-9501 | aachamber.com The Black Male Resource Finder is a digital platform to help men and boys of color in Philadelphia access City and community resources more effectively: phila.gov/obme/resources | Mayor’s Office of Black Male Engagement: 215-686-0332 Coalition of African and Caribbean Communities – Philadelphia facilitates access to health and social services, provides cultural and educational programming, promotes economic development, provides immigration legal assistance, and advocates on issues of concern for the community: 215-787-1302 |​ africom-philly. org

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Philadelphia honors Harriet Tubman with sculpture “Harriet Tubman – “The Journey to Freedom,” a 9-foot traveling monument has been unveiled on the North apron of City Hall. The statue, which will remain in Philadelphia through March 31, represents Harriet Tubman’s courageous journey to free enslaved people and beautifully illustrates her determination in the face of intense opposition.

“Harriet Tubman’s legacy as an abolitionist, political activist, liberator, nurse, hero and human rights advocate has made her an icon of courage and determination,” said Tumar Alexander, city managing director. “I hope the presence of this monument reminds Philadelphians of the importance of taking action to improve our communities and fosters a pride of place.”

Philadelphia holds a specific relevance to Harriet’s story, as she found safe harbor here after her escape from Maryland and staged many of her returning travels to free others from the bondage of slavery.

To coincide with the installation of the sculpture in Philadelphia, more than 30 virtual and in-person programs have been scheduled in partnership with local cultural organizations that will celebrate the legacy of Harriet Tubman and further spread her advocacy for equality.

For more information about the celebration of Harriet Tubman, including the schedule of programs, visit creativephl.org or call 215-686-8446.

Black history resonates at Stenton museum

By Constance Garcia-Barrio The wits of a Black freewoman, the Stenton mansion’s faithful caretaker, helped save one of Philadelphia’s oldest and best-preserved historic houses from destruction.

Built in 1730 near Germantown, Stenton was the family home of James Logan, a wealthy Irish immigrant who served as William Penn’s secretary after coming to Philadelphia. Though a Quaker, Logan had no qualms about enslaving Africans.

Stenton was built and operated using the labor of indentured servants and enslaved Blacks, said Stenton’s Executive Director Dennis Pickeral. These workers dug Stenton’s cellar, plowed, planted, harvested, cooked, cleaned, tended livestock and more. Here is the little-known story of Stenton’s most remarkable resident.

Stenton’s hero(ine) Dinah, a Black freedwoman whose surname remains unknown, arrived at the

mansion as a slave, given to Logan’s son, William, upon his marriage.

While male servants farmed, Dinah and other women cared for Stenton’s lavish furnishings. “Logan commissioned furniture from some of the most skilled craftsmen in the colonies,” said curator Laura Keim, “He imported furniture from England.

Stenton’s Yellow Lodging Room, featured in Antiques and Fine Arts magazine, has maple furniture and beautiful golden wool damask textiles, a costly colonial commodity.” On a tour of Stenton, visitors see 1700s chairs and china that Dinah herself dusted or washed.

According to family records, the Logans valued the way Dinah cared for their home and children.

Freed by her request in 1776, Dinah began to be paid for her work. She may have chosen to remain at Stenton after becoming a freewoman, because her grandson, Cyrus, also lived there.

Tradition has it that Dinah saved Stenton from destruction during the Revolu-

tionary War. After the British trounced American forces at the Battle of Germantown on Oct. 4, 1777, a pair of British soldiers knocked on Stenton’s door, intending to burn down the mansion. When they asked Dinah, who was home alone, for fuel for the fire, she sent them to the barn to get straw. While the soldiers gathered it, British officers rode up and asked if she’d seen deserters.

“Yes, there’s two in the barn,” she reportedly said. The officers arrested the soldiers, and Stenton was saved.

A 1912 bronze plaque honors Dinah as a faithful caretaker. While Stenton remains a local, living monument of the Black experience during slavery, staff felt more should be done to elevate Dinah’s bravery and her place in history. “After two years of meetings with the community, Stenton will install a new memorial to Dinah,” Pickeral said. “(It will be) a place for reflecting on and reckoning with the hard, violent reality of slavery and its continued legacy in American society.”

*** Stenton: A house of learning, past and present, is open at 4601 N. 18th St. Tuesdays through Saturdays from 1-4 p.m. The National Society of The Colonial Dames of America in Pennsylvania has preserved and maintained Stenton as an historic object lesson since 1899.

Through tours, educational programs and special events, Stenton continues to transport visitors to the 18th Century.

For information, call 215-329-7312 or visit stenton.org.

Native Philadelphian Constance Garcia-Barrio writes about many topics, including Black history.

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Recipe Box

Enjoy these soul-filling – and healthy – African dishes These healthy recipes offer the traditional tastes and smells of African food with common ingredients. iStock

Slow Cooker Moroccan Lentil Soup Using a slow cooker gives the complex seasonings ample time to develop and allows you to do other things while the soup is cooking.

package (10 oz.) frozen chopped spinach, thawed ½ cup fresh cilantro, chopped 2 tbsp. lemon juice

Ingredients: 2 cups onion, chopped 2 cups carrot, chopped 4 cloves garlic, minced 2 tsp. extra-virgin olive oil 1 tsp. ground cumin 1 tsp. ground coriander 1 tsp. ground turmeric ¼ tsp. ground cinnamon ¼ tsp. ground pepper 6 cups broth, vegetable or reduced-sodium chicken broth 2 cups water 3 cups cauliflower, chopped 1 ¾ cups lentils 1 can (28 oz.) diced tomatoes 2 tbsp. tomato paste 4 cups fresh spinach, chopped or one

Directions: Combine onions, carrots, garlic, oil, cumin, coriander, turmeric, cinnamon and pepper in a 5- to 6-quart slow cooker. Add broth, water, cauliflower, lentils, tomatoes and tomato paste and stir until well combined.

Cover and cook until the lentils are tender, 4 to 5 hours on high or 8 to 10 hours on low.

During the last 30 minutes of cooking, stir in spinach. Just before serving, stir in cilantro and lemon juice.

To make ahead: After stirring in spinach, cover and refrigerate for up to three days or freeze for up to six months. Stir in cilantro and lemon juice just before serving.

Chicken with Onions & Spiced Butter Sauce (Doro Alicha) This milder version of the classic Ethiopian chicken stew, doro wot, trades the hot spice mix, known as berbere, for a mild turmeric sauce that’s potent with ginger and garlic.

Ingredients: 4 bone-in chicken leg quarters (2 ½ lbs. total), skin removed, trimmed 2 tbsp. lemon juice 1 tsp. sea salt 3 cups yellow onions, minced 3-5 cups warm water, divided ¼ cup clarified butter ⅓ cup fresh ginger, minced 2 ½ tbsp. fresh garlic, minced 1 tsp. ground turmeric 1 tsp. equal parts dried basil and thyme 1 tsp. equal parts ground white pepper, cardamom and cinnamon 1 cup mead or dry white wine 2 large eggs Directions: Place chicken in a large, shallow, nonreactive dish and rub with lemon juice and salt. Set aside, turning the chicken occasionally.

Place onions in a large, heavy pot over medium heat and cook, stirring often, for 5 minutes. Add ¼-cup water and continue cooking, stirring often, and adding more water by the ¼-cup as needed to prevent browning, until very soft and translucent, 15 to 20 minutes. Add clarified butter and ginger, then reduce heat to medium-low and cook, stirring often, for 10 minutes more. Increase heat to medium and stir in garlic, turmeric, two spice mixtures, then cook, stirring, for 1 minute. Add mead or wine and cook, stirring often, for 5 minutes.

Nestle the chicken (and any accumulated liquid) into the onion sauce.

Pour in enough water to almost cover the chicken. Bring to a simmer over high heat. Reduce heat to maintain a simmer and cook, turning the chicken

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occasionally, 15 to 25 minutes, until an instant-read thermometer inserted in the thickest part without touching bone registers at least 165 degrees.

Meanwhile, hard-boil eggs and peel after cooled.

Transfer the chicken to a clean bowl.

Cover to keep warm. Bring the sauce to a boil over high heat, and cook until reduced by about half, 15 to 20 minutes. Reduce heat to a gentle simmer, add eggs and simmer, gently turning once or twice, for 4 minutes. Cut the eggs in half and serve with the chicken and sauce in shallow bowls. This dish can be refrigerated for up to three days.

Source: EatingWell

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Events

BLACK HISTORY MONTH

Send your calendar items to MilestonesNews@pcaCares.org by the 25th of the month (for publication in month after next) Questions? 215-765-9000, ext. 5081

FEBRUARY 12 BLACK FAMILY STORIES

Storytelling workship for all ages, hosted

by Keepers of the Culture, Inc. 1-4 p.m.

Stenton museum. 215-329-7312

*CONTACT THE EVENT ORGANIZER FOR FACE MASK AND/OR COVID-19 VACCINATION REQUIREMENTS.* FEBRUARY 1 LUNAR NEW YEAR FEBRUARY 1, 8, 15, 22 CERAMICS CLASS

Clay hand-building for all levels. 12:302 p.m. Journey’s Way. 215-487-1750, ext. 1101. (Cost: $10-$14 per class)

THURSDAYS STARTING FEBRUARY 3 POKENO Just like bingo, but with bigger rewards.

11 a.m. St. Edmond Senior Center.

215-790-9530. (Cost: $0.50 cents per card)

THURSDAYS STARTING FEBRUARY 3 THE MEN’S GROUP Informal discussion group for men 55+ to explore, learn & share about healthy living, transitions, retirement, loneliness & survival. 12:45-1:45 p.m. Journey’s Way. 215-487-1750, ext. 1001

FEBRUARY 4 WORLD CANCER DAY

WEEKDAYS FEBRUARY 1-28 (QUILT) PIECES OF BLACK HISTORY Create a unique paper quilt square featuring your favorite Black authors, books or quotes. Nicetown-Tioga Library: Monday to Thursday, 2-5 p.m. & Friday, 1-4 p.m | 215-685-9790.

Philadelphia City Institute: Monday to Thursday, 2-6 p.m. & Friday, 2-5 p.m. | 215-685-6621

FEBRUARY 14 VALENTINE’S DAY

SATURDAYS, FEBRUARY 5 TO MARCH 12 A TASTE OF AFRICAN HERITAGE

Join Philadelphia Senior Center – Arts and Bonnie Harmon from Friends of the Avenue of the Arts in this virtual community outreach event. 10:30 a.m.

Zoom – Meeting ID: 871-2863-9762 | Dial-in by phone: 929-205-6099

FEBRUARY 17 AUTHOR EVENT: JABARI ASIM “YONDER”

Author discusses new novel about a group of enslaved Black people seeking love, friendship & independence in the 19th century United States south. 7:30 p.m. Parkway Central Library. 215-5674341

FEBRUARY 14 BE MY VALENTINE CUPID POLLYANNA FEBRUARY 8 VALENTINE’S COOKIE DECORATING

Noon to 2 p.m. Lutheran Settlement House. 215-426-8610, ext. 1206. ($2-$5)

FEBRUARY 8, 9, 10 I LOVE JEWELRY SALE

Assortment of costume & handmade jewelry & other decorative gifts for sale.

Proceeds benefit the center. 9:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. Journey’s Way. 215-4871750, ext. 1101. (Items cost: $1-$10)

FEBRUARY 10 ‘MEET JAMES FORTEN’ PERFORMANCE & DISCUSSION

Explores Forten’s life as a free Black Philadelphian, Revolutionary War privateer & stalwart abolitionist. A discussion about how & why this piece was created & why Forten’s story continues to resonate with audiences today will follow.

5:30-7:30 p.m. Online or at the Museum of the American Revolution. Register: 215-253-6731 or amrevmuseum.org

Bring a wrapped gift ($10 value) & take a gift home with you. Label gift for male, female or gender neutral. 10 a.m. St. Edmond Senior Community Center. 215790-9530

FEBRUARY 16 VIRTUAL BLACK HISTORY MONTH CELEBRATION

Participants will engage in conversations regarding local Philadelphia pioneers & historical locations, inspiring young adult African American poets, & share information about genealogy & ancestry projects. 11 a.m. To register, contact Wynnefield Library at 215-685-0298

FEBRUARY 18 NATIONAL CAREGIVERS DAY

FEBRUARY 18-20 DANCIN’ IN THE STREETS

The Philly POPS perform “The Music of Motown.” 8 p.m. (Feb. 19 & 20 at 3 p.m.)

Kimmel Center, Verizon Hall. Tickets: 215893-1999 or PhillyPops.org. ($41+)

Virtual conversation by notable artists will explore the impact of the Harriet Tubman statue & other public art in Philadelphia, how public art can effectively tell our histories, & how to evaluate our public art to ensure it reflects the values of Philadelphia.

6 p.m. 215-686-8446

FEBRUARY 23 CRITICAL RACE THEORY

Join WHYY & the Kingsessing Library for a virtual community conversation.

How does CRT inform Black history?

How does it change our understanding of the entire history of this country?

How & why has the term been misused? 6 p.m. 215-685-2690

FEBRUARY 26 VIRTUAL SCREENING OF ‘HARRIET’

Rev. Mark Tyler of Mother Bethel AME will introduce the film & give remarks about church’s the storied history in the abolition movement & its connection to Harriet Tubman. 215-686-8446

ONGOING BLACK HISTORY EVENTS & EXHIBITS

FEBRUARY 16 LEARN HOW TO MAKE SUSHI

Participants will receive the recipe, ingredients list & supply list before the event.

7:30 p.m. Virtual program presented by The Congregations of Shaare Shamayim Sisterhood. For ZOOM or dial-in details, call 215-677-1600. Cost: $5

FEBRUARY 23 THE POWER OF PUBLIC ART: CONNECTING PEOPLE, PLACE & STORY

FEBRUARY 21 PRESIDENTS DAY

The African American Museum in Philadelphia preserves, interprets and exhibits the heritage of African Americans from pre-colonial times to the present. Hours: ThursdaySunday,10 a.m. to 5 p.m. 7 ​ 01 Arch St. 215-574-0380 | aampmuseum.org

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The complexities of dating, relationships during a pandemic

By Jay Nachman Dating for older adults amid a pandemic can be especially difficult but doable, say local relationship experts.

During a pandemic there are fewer avenues for meeting people and a greater reliance on technology, but it all boils down to trust, said Sara Kasey Mairs, a licensed social worker at the Philadelphia Institute for Individual, Relational & Sex Therapy (phiirst.com, 267-519-0241).

“Trust specifically pertains to your individual COVID risk profile,” Kasey Mairs said. “Some folks prefer to quarantine before a date, some prefer to stay in state or in their germ ‘bubble’ and others don’t have a strong preference. You need to be able to trust that your date is within your risk profile or agreeing to the parameters you set beforehand.”

Two people may meet for a date in the park or for coffee. But the implications of such a meeting go beyond each person’s health risks. If there is exposure to COVID-19, a person may not be able to

visit a grandchild or go to work.

For those unwilling to meet in person, there are local meetup groups that specifically cater to older adults who are dating and only host virtual gatherings.

Eman Almusawi, a licensed marriage and family therapist with A Better Life Therapy in Center City, said she has seen a spike in use of dating apps among older adults. Many of them are isolated because they are at a higher risk of severe illness or death from the coronavirus.

The top-rated dating websites and apps for seniors, according to U.S. News and World Report, include Senior Friends Date, Silver Singles, Singles50, MatureDating and OurTime.

We are capable of giving and receiving affection at any age. “If you want to date, go ahead and date,” said Almusawi. “If you need that connection, go ahead and look for it. If you’re ready, just go for it. (Your age) doesn’t matter. That person is there somewhere. There’s a person for anyone.”

Older adults who date should do what feels comfortable to them when it comes

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to safety measures, which can include wearing a face mask in person. “Be clear and set boundaries,” Almusawi said. This can involve anything from talking on a video call before meeting in person to deciding if you want to bring condoms with you. It’s about your comfort level.

Once in a relationship, whether new or longer-lasting, therapists agree that communication is key for sustaining it.

Kasey Mairs has seen couples, some who have been married for more than 50 years, complain that the spark has gone from the relationship or that things just

Tips to protect yourself while online dating People who are looking for love online are seeking companionship and an emotional connection. That need can be preyed upon and makes them susceptible to online fraud, said Philadelphia Police Department (PPD) officer Tracy Lewis.

Lewis, who works in the PPD’s Victim Services Unit, offers these tips to keep yourself safe while online dating.

Vet the dating apps or sites you plan on using. Only use the ones that are legitimate and have a good reputation. Ask friends about their experiences with sites they’ve used. Do research before joining a site.

Scammers tell people what they want to hear. For example, if you have a family member in the military, a scammer may

claim to be a veteran or use the information to manipulate you. “If it sounds too good to be true, it is,” Lewis said. “Nothing is as good as it sounds. There’s always a catch somewhere.”

Don’t share personal information, such as your income, your financial institution or where you live, even if you feel comfortable talking to the person online.

“When they start to ask for personal information, that should be a red flag for you,” Lewis said. “You still don’t know who they really are.”

If you do decide to meet with someone, do it in a public place. There is safety in numbers, Lewis said, and people are less likely to be aggressive when there are other people around.

If you are the victim of a scam, especially if there is money involved, report it to the police by calling 911 or visiting your district headquarters. Pennsylvania’s Victims Compensation Assistance Program (215-685-1158) provides cash grants to help victims offset costs associated with a crime, including medical expenses, counseling, lost earnings, stolen cash and travel expenses.

The Federal Trade Commission also has resources dedicated to older consumers. To learn more about scams, go to consumer.ftc.gov/features/scam-alerts.

To report a suspected scam, fraud or a bad business practice, go to ReportFraud. ftc.gov or call FTC’s Consumer Response Center at 1-877-382-4357.

aren’t the same anymore. The emotional connection – or the lack of a connection – between partners is a symptom of trouble in a relationship, she said.

“The reason people come in (for counseling) is they often feel disconnected from their partners,” Kasey Mairs said.

“They don’t know how to communicate.

And it becomes extremely frustrating. Resentment builds. Sometimes one will say, ‘I don’t understand. We had such a great relationship and all of a sudden everything is bad. Why did this happen?’”

The reason is often that “one partner feels underappreciated by the other partner and/or they don’t feel heard by their partner, which then decreases intimacy.”

Find out what’s most important to your partner and continue to carry that out throughout the relationship.

After a while, or even after 20 years, they feel like they know everything about the other person. But that’s just not so.

“There’s always something to know,” she said. “We grow every single day. It doesn’t matter if you’re 50, 60 or 80. If the person that (you’ve) chosen to spend your life with is not interested in (you), then there’s no relationship.”

The good news is that everyone is capable of sustaining relationships, Almusawi said. “You can grow. You can change. You can have passion every single day.”

Jay Nachman is a freelance writer in Philadelphia who tells stories for a variety of clients.

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Managing your medications

By Kathleen Harte Simone When taken properly, medications can effectively treat a condition or help cure an illness. But problems can arise when medications are not administered or prescribed properly. And, the more medications you take, the more likely you are to have a side effect or drug interaction.

Older adults are more likely than their younger counterparts to take multiple prescription medications, known as polypharmacy. According to data from the Kaiser Family Foundation, more than half (54%) of adults 65 and older and more than one-third (32%) of adults 5064 take four or more prescription drugs each month. “Those taking six drugs have a 50% chance of a harmful effect,” said Patrick J. McDonnell, who holds a doctorate in pharmacy and teaches clini-

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The key to managing your medications effectively, according to health care experts, is to clearly communicate with a pharmacist and follow the recommendations accordingly. “Engage with your pharmacist,” McDonnell said. “Of all your health care providers, it’s really the pharmacist who is educated and trained in medication management. Pharmacists are on the same team with your doctors making sure that you receive optimal care.”

What to tell your pharmacist

For starters, tell your pharmacist what other medications you are taking, including prescription and over-the-counter drugs, dietary supplements, and herbal medicines. In a recent study conducted

by WebMD, 53% of respondents get their

prescription medications from more than one health care provider. This increases the risk of adverse drug effects. So, whether your prescriptions were written by one doctor or several, your pharmacist should be in the loop to assess them all

for potential adverse drug interactions.

An example of two prescription medications that are contraindicated are amiodarone (taken for atrial fibrillation) and the blood thinner coumadin (also known as warfarin), because the first

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drug can block metabolism of the second. “However, it doesn’t mean they can’t be used together,” McDonnell said. “The risks of the two drugs together does not override the benefits of them (with) increased monitoring and more blood tests.”

Inform your pharmacist of all allergies.

You may be surprised that some medications, particularly herbal supplements, are derived from common allergens. Making your pharmacist aware of any herbal remedies you take is essential also because some interact with prescription drugs.

Be sure to inform your pharmacist of your health conditions – both short-term and long-term – such as heart disease, diabetes and even a cold.

Side effect or medical problem

The easiest way to tell if a new symptom is a drug side effect or a medical problem is to ask yourself: “Did the symptom(s) start with the initiation of the drug? Did

they get better when the drug was taken away?” If so, then, McDonnell says that it’s likely a side effect of the new medication.

He also noted that medication side effects can appear at any time, especially if the dosage has been changed.

“A good example is if you’re taking the drug Lipitor and three weeks into therapy – during which you haven’t increased your physical activity – you can’t explain achiness, then it’s probably (from) the medicine,” McDonnell said. “But don’t just guess; consult with your doctor and pharmacist.”

Over-the-counter medicines

Surprisingly, common medications that bring people into the hospital because of adverse drug reactions include Motrin, Advil and Aleve, which are nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs, or NSAIDs, McDonnell said. When taken with certain Continued on page 14

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Seven questions to ask your pharmacist when prescribed a new medication 4What specifically is this medication

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4How should I take this medication?

Understand when, how often, under what conditions, and how long to take the medication.

4 Where should I store the medica- 4What side effects might I encounter? tion?

Some medications require refrigeration. Others should be stored at room temperature.

4Is this safe to take with my other

medications and supplements?

Consider all other prescriptions, herbal supplements and over-the-counter medications that you’re taking.

4Should I avoid certain foods and/or alcohol while taking the medication?

Know what to expect and what to do if you encounter side effects that may require medical attention. Mention any allergies that could be worsened by the drug.

4What should I do if I miss a dose?

Get guidance on how to get back to proper dosing, which may vary depending on the drug. Seek assistance if forgetting to take medication becomes routine.

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prescription meds, these pills can cause a potentially serious bleeding issue called gastric ulceration (commonly known as a stomach ulcer).

Common drugs for heart failure and blood pressure, angiotensin receptor blockers (ARBs) and angiotensin-converting enzyme (ACE) inhibitors, can also interact with NSAIDs and affect kidney hydration. Someone who is taking the ACE inhibitor lisinopril and is not feeling well or not eating may decide to take Motrin. This combination can block the kidney from functioning optimally or even cause acute kidney failure, McDonnell said.

“This is a case where Motrin is the straw that broke the camel’s back,” he said.

“Sometimes the anti-inflammatory drugs can cause more harm than good. It’s really the fine balance of drug therapy – risk versus comfort.”

Vitamins and supplements

Dietary supplements and herbal medicines can be very beneficial for reducing symptoms or treating conditions, but they

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the Underground Railroad and who is considered the founder of Black journalism, and Civil Rights activist Fannie Lou Hamer, Kind calls her shop a window and catalyst for the Black community, as well as other marginalized peoples.

“There are not a lot of places that are openly Black spaces,” Kind said.

With its African-inspired textiles, the names she gives her lattes and the music she plays, Kind creates a space of representation. “It is a place for the other, as well as a joyful place and a place of acceptance,” she said. “People are here to be happy.”

Jay Nachman is a freelance writer in Philadelphia who tells stories for a variety of clients.

can also be problematic when taken with certain prescription medications.

“For example, many older people take glucosamine and chondroitin to help with osteoporosis pain,” McDonnell said.

“Glucosamine is actually derived from shellfish. Patients with severe allergy to shellfish, such as shrimp, may unknowingly be predisposed to an allergic reaction. St. John’s Wort, another common supplement, which can be contraindicated with certain drugs, including those used after an organ transplant.”

Some prescription medications can cause cross-reactive allergies to the dyes in supplements and herbal remedies, so patients should be careful, read the label and consult with a pharmacist if they notice an adverse reaction.

Medication management can be very overwhelming, but knowledge is key.

“Polypharmacy is clearly a reason to communicate with the pharmacist,” McDonnell said. “And, in some cases, to have a family member serve as an advocate, especially if (the patient’s) cognitive function is compromised.”

Kathleen Harte Simone is a Philadelphia-based journalist.

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Health Brief

Strategies for a hearthealthy lifestyle American Heart Month in February is the perfect time to commit to a heart-healthy lifestyle. When you choose healthy behaviors, you can lower your heart disease risk while also preventing other serious chronic conditions, like type 2 diabetes and some forms of cancer. Here are seven simple strategies that your heart will love.

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Eat healthy

Take your meds

If you take medicine to treat high cholesterol, high blood pressure or diabetes, follow your doctor’s instructions carefully.

Always ask questions if you don’t understand something. Never stop taking your medicine without talking to your doctor, nurse or pharmacist.

Make healthy food choices. Eat more fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean meats and low-fat dairy products. Eat foods with low salt, saturated fat and added sugar.

Rethink your drink

Move more, sit less

Monitor blood pressure

Get at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic activity every week. Take a brisk walk for 10-15 minutes twice a day.

In addition, aim for muscle-strengthening activities at least two days a week. Consider arm curls with bottles of water while watching TV or doing household chores.

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Know the risks High blood pressure, high cholesterol and smoking are key risk factors for heart disease. Other medical conditions and lifestyle choices that can put people at a higher risk for heart disease include diabetes, obesity, unhealthy diet, physical inactivity and excessive alcohol use. Consider your risk factors, learn your family history of heart disease and talk with your doctor about changes you can make to improve your health.

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Substitute water for sugary drinks to reduce calories. If you drink alcohol, do so in moderation.

If left uncontrolled, high blood pressure can increase your risk for heart disease, stroke, heart failure, kidney disease, and cognitive decline later in life. Self-measured blood pressure monitors are easy and safe to use at home for regular monitoring. Your doctor can show you how to use one if you need help.

Learn more at cdc.gov/Heartdisease/ prevention.htm or cdc.gov/HeartMonth.

Source: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention

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