Vince Shifflett Quotes Change

Vince Shifflett Quotes Change

By Mikkel Hyldebrandt

Vince Shifflett is an author, speaker, and registered nurse who has helped countless people evolve and transform their lives through his writing and public appearances. Following the 2021 publication of his first book Relationship or Relationshit, Vince is back again with another book filled with helpful quotes to inspire toward a better relationship. David caught up with the author to talk about his new title, Nurturing Notes.

You have just published your second, but before we get to that, tell us a little bit about how your first book did?

My first book far exceeded my expectations. The reviews I’ve received from the over 3500 people who purchased the book have moved and inspired me. So grateful to each and every one. The book also allowed me the honor of being a guest on multiple podcasts across the country as well as speaking engagements to audiences of all types.

So, your new book, Nurturing Notes, is still in the selfhelp realm, but the format is very different – can you tell us a little bit about that?

Yes, the first book was more autobiographical in nature whereas, Nurturing Notes is more a book of quotes to help us all have happier healthier relationships. The book is a book + workbook all in one. It challenges the reader to think and reflect on their own personal relationships, particularly the relationship with self. The goal of my writing is to create change and stimulate self-healing. I think this book does exactly that. There will be something in each book that will help you evolve into a be0er version of yourself.

What inspired you to write this book?

I always write from my own personal experience. The fact that it resonates with so many is an added blessing for me. Many of my readers had requested that I compile my quotes into a book. That led me to think about it more and ultimately, that is what I did. I also talk about each quote in the book as well as what the quote means to me and how I was inspired to come up with the quote. Each quote has a story. Writing is my way of getting it out. It is a very therapeutic process for me. I am always inspired to write as my way of dealing with life experiences.

Without giving too much away, what are some of the key takeaways from your book?

Every single relationship benefits the evolution of our consciousness. They all have a purpose. Sometimes they hurt. Sometimes they bring us joy. None the less, they are sent our way as part of our purposeful path. Allow your relationships to teach you something.

Relationships, especially within the LGBTQ+ community, are evolving and going beyond traditional structures. What are your thoughts about that?

I could write a book on this alone. I will try to sum it up as best I can. I say people must decide what works for them and find the person or persons that align

with that. There is no right or wrong. We each get the privilege of deciding what we want our relationship to look like void of any judgement. Ultimately, whatever works for you is the path you should follow. We’ve been indoctrinated by religion and society to believe it must be one way. You meet that one special person, have the 2 kids, house with a white picket fence, and live happily ever aXer. Sounds like a fairy tale and I believe it is just that. Again, do what feels right for you and the person or persons you are involved with.

What’s the best relationship advice you have ever heard (and live by)?

Well, I’m gonna have to say it’s one of my quotes. “Be a partner and not a parent.” Allow your partner to go, do, and be themselves without you trying to parent them. Questions such as, “I tried to call you, where were you?” “Who was that on the phone?” “Why are you 30 minutes late coming home from work?” Those are all questions a parent would ask their child and none of us are children.

What is your best relationship advice?

Love and Allow The more focused you are on your life and your evolvement, the less time you’ll have to be worried about what your partner is doing, and you can just support each other.

Finally, where can we find you – and where can we purchase your book(s)?

You can certainly find me on Facebook and Instagram as well as on my website at www.vinceshifflett.com My books can be purchased on Amazon, Barnes and Noble or anywhere you buy books. Your local bookstore is also a great way to support smaller business so you can always get the books there. If they don’t have the books in stock, they will order them for you.