Dear David Q & A

Dear DAVID Q A

I am seeing this great guy, and we are really moving ahead in terms of dating more seriously. But one time, after having what I thought was mind-blowing sex, I asked him about the best sex he ever had (hoping he would say the sex we had just had), and he proceeded to give me detailed description about how him and his ex would always climax at the exact same moment. Obviously, I am upset, and I don’t even know if I want to continue dating him because how can I never reach that kind of sexual perfection? Should I just dump him?

Hold your horses! Although it was clearly not the cleverest move by your lover to recap a past sexual encounter when you both were in post-orgasmic throes, you clearly had ulterior motives with your question as well –and now the lack of validation stings! Sure, it’s understandable, but instead of painting all of the future black, why don’t you take the opportunity to talk about what you can do together to create your own fireworks. Most of the time, it takes a while to hit that perfect sexual groove, and that’s obviously what he had with his ex. But now he is with you, and the two of you have the chance to hit your own stride in the bedroom! So don’t pout, get over yourself, and go and seduce this guy right now!