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December 2013

What’s Inside 44

Making Our Own Merry little Christmas by: Shelley Beaudoin

|Tears for Taylor

| Peekaboo’s Annual 46 |Humor Through

| Mama Carmen’s

by: Ella Shelton

Gift Guide

Espresso Cafe by: Frances Wilson

| Holidays with

Children with Special Needs by: Becky Carney

| Dad’s View

with Ben Lacy

I Never Heard Him Say I CAN’T by: Susan Templeton

The Holidays by: Carla Brown, LCSW

| A Dream Restored by: Susan Roberts

55 20 Things You Should Do In December

| Noninvasive

Stories From Our Online Peekaboo Partners

Prenatal Testing by: Jason Hurt, MD, OB/GYN

|Shop Smart Toys

Support Our Survivors Put Yourself Back On Your To-do List by: NWA Plastic Surgery

For the Holidays by: LearningRX

On the Cover

Caden and Anniston, son and daughter of Zach

and Jade Rundle of Fayetteville and Kallie Ayla Roach, daughter of Tonya Hines of Farmington.

Christmas Pjs from Sara’s Prints. Shoes from the Winter UGG Collection. Clothing from

3 Monkeys in Fayetteville. www.3monkeysboutiquenwa. blogspot.com Cover photo and 3 Monkeys ad photos by Sweet Portrayal Photography www.sweetportrayal.com Photo taken at the NWA Mall in Fayetteville

have a very specific vision of my children’s future. It doesn’t include them living in a large house, driving expensive cars, or making a lot of money-- even though all of those things would be great perks. My wish for them is that they have giving hearts and a drive to help others. Compassion, love, understanding, caring, and a kind nature are all qualitites that I hope I can successfully instill in my three little people that I get to spend my day with. This time of year, these traits are more evident than any other time of year. Coat drive boxes are filled to the top with new and used coats for families in need of a little warmth. Toys are bought, wrapped and then donated in toy drives all across Northwest Arkansas. Canned foods are taken to schools by the bagful to fulfill a food drive donation goal. I am confident that it isn’t a coincidence that these same people who are giving are also walking around with a little extra bounce in their step. They smile more and wave good-bye and hello when they pass by a stranger. When a person makes a difference in another’s life, it makes a big difference in their own outlook... and “inlook.”

I want Ava, Holden and Grant to have a desire to give and to help others not only during the time of year when it is popular to do so. Instead I want them to care about people 365 days a year. I will never forget the time when I was sitting in the playroom with Ava. She was about 4 and had just become a big sister with the birth of Holden. We were going through her old toys and picking out which ones to give to the Children’s Shelter. I explained to her about the shelter and the children there. Her response made my heart fill with pride. She asked if we could give them all of her toys, and then she paused. “More than just these toys, I hope they all have a sister or a brother to give them lots of hugs and kisses. Can we get them a brother or sister?” Her heart was, and still is, so precious and pure. Children have the gift of innocence, and I hope that Ava and her brothers carry this innocence and pure heart into their adulthood. Merry Christmas, from our family to yours! P.S. - I also love how kids have amazing imaginations and love anything with a bit of magic. Watch for Elf on the Shelf ideas to pop up throughout this issue! Adam the elf reading our Christmas cards while using the potty. - Olivia, Andrew, Isaac and Eloise Beaudoin.

T E A for R S Taylor A

pril 10th of 2012 was a highly anticipated day for both the Shelton and Bebow families. My husband Wes and I were opening another chapter in our lives with the birth of our first son, Taylor McKeen Shelton. The nursery was painted and decorated exactly like I always imagined it would be, with my collected Dr. Seuss prints and old framed photographs of those whom Taylor was to be named after. We had worked hard and were so proud of the end result. After many hours of labor, Taylor entered the world a healthy, beautiful baby. Both sets of our parents as well as Wes’ brother Ben and his wife Mandy were there with us, and the joy we experienced could never be explained in words--though I’m sure every parent reading this understands exactly what I’m referring to. Up until that very moment when I first saw him, when I heard his small cry, when I was able to cradle him in my arms for the first time–-I had no idea the true capacity my heart had for love, a love like no other love, a love that only exists between a parent and their baby. Of course, I had heard about this, but until I experienced it I had no idea how true it was. From the very beginning, it was obvious to everyone who saw him: Taylor had a special spark–-a touch of magic only God could give. He was not your typical baby! He had his own personality and we loved watching it develop. He was quick to smile and found humor in almost everything. His laughter was

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infectious, so much so that just being around him had the ability to make a day brighter. As he grew, his personality grew bigger along with his body. Taylor had style, and style he had in abundance. Unlike most toddlers, Taylor loved wearing his hats and getting dressed up. Whether it was a fedora, a beanie or a newsboy–-he looked great, and he knew it! He liked going out and seeing people, and he had friends everywhere we went. Whether we were attending his activities or running my errands, he wanted to be front and center, seeing everything and interacting with the world around him. Changes were witnessed in not only Taylor but in both Wes and me. With the birth of Taylor, a part of our God-determined destiny was fulfilled. From the second Taylor was conceived, both Wes and I became singularly focused on what we could do to best provide for him. Our lives took on new meaning and we embraced those changes with a vigor like nothing we had previously experienced. Things that once seemed so important no longer held the same importance. Our lives had new meaning and it could be summed up in being the best parents we could be for Taylor-and we worked every day to achieve that goal. Whether it was researching and feeding him only the best organic foods, taking him to The Little Gym or toddler music classes at Little Giggles, or planning for his bright future, we did everything we could think of to provide him the very best we could every day. My days were filled from early in the morning to late

at night, and by the time the house was quiet, Taylor was asleep for the night and I had gotten things ready for the next day, I couldn’t do anything but join him in rest. It seemed I was always on the go! I had so much to do and I was busy all the time but my life had never been so fulfilling. I knew I was doing what I was always meant to do. I was a mom and I loved every minute of it. As Taylor grew, Wes and I became more and more secure in knowing that all of our plans were coming together. Our life as a family was as close to perfect as we could possibly make it for all three of us, and from our point of view we were achieving many of our long-sought goals. After many years of classes and hard work Wes had made it through, first, dental school, and then decided to specialize in periodontal surgery. Everything came together and Wes joined a periodontal practice in NW Arkansas, allowing us to move back to the area we had always loved since college. Having Taylor was the last piece to complete the puzzle that was our family. However, as Robert Burns wrote in 1785, “The best laid plans o’ mice and men often go awry.” On Saturday, June 15th, 2013, all of our plans came to a sudden crossroads that no one could have ever predicted. Taylor had been struggling with what was presented as another ear infection, of which he had had several in the preceding months. I took him to his pediatrician’s office the day before where he acted as if he felt fine, playing all the while in the waiting room. I felt a bit foolish even being there, as he was acting like he felt great, but I knew I would rather be safe than sorry and I would feel better to have him checked again.

“The best laid plans o’ mice and men often go awry.” - Robert Burns

He was prescribed another round of antibiotics and I was told to monitor his temperature, appetite and behavior. We returned home and had a relaxing night as a family. He ate well, had a bath and went to bed. By bedtime his fever had dropped to near normal. We were relieved that Taylor was once again on the mend. At 3:00AM I awoke and watched Taylor through the video monitor playing in his crib, which he often did at that time of the morning. He had turned on his mobile and was just entertaining himself. Knowing

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T E A R for S Taylor that if I went in there he would just stay up longer, I watched him until he fell back asleep, which was only a matter of minutes. When Wes went to get Taylor up at his normal time the following morning, he immediately knew something was terribly wrong. Taylor was not breathing. The unimaginable was happening. I pleaded with him to please wake up. I begged God to not let this happen. Wes and I frantically worked together to perform CPR and I called the paramedics. We knew what to do in this situation, but no amount of knowledge can ever prepare you. This can only be described as the worse possible nightmare. The feeling of helplessness was complete and all-encompassing. The paramedics arrived, assessed the situation and determined that there was nothing more they could do. Taylor had died earlier in the morning, and too much time had passed for there to be any chance of resuscitation. The police came to conduct their standard investigation anytime someone dies unexpectedly in a home. All I can remember is watching all of the activity going on around me and thinking “This can’t be real. I’m sure I will wake up soon.” In the blink of an eye, our dreams seemed to transform into nightmares. The center of our world was taken, only to be replaced with an empty pit filled with sorrow. The “perfect life” we were so comfortable in the day before was no more, and now we were beginning the hardest journey of our lives’. The following days became a blur of frenzied activity. Friends and family came from near and far to be close to us and support us in any way that was possible. Our house was filled with out-of-town family, and local hotels housed family and friends who had traveled to Bentonville to be with us. Our house quickly started filling with food, plants, flowers and, most of all, people. Although I don’t remember many of the

details from that time, I remember the incredible love and support Wes and I were shown. So often in the midst of grief like ours there simply are no words, but just having someone who will hold you and share your grief is the best possible medicine. The memorial service was held on Friday, June 21st, 2013 at Central United Methodist Church in Rogers, AR. Our pastors, Carness Vaughn and Dawn Spragg, officiated it and did an amazing job. It was a beautiful service where several of our family members spoke. We had pictures and videos of Taylor and the service truly celebrated his life. The following weeks brought incredible grief and pain as the reality of Taylor being gone began to set in--disbelief, confusion, anger. Each day the fog that set in over me that initial Saturday morning began to dissipate. I was forced to face that my new reality was one that no longer included Taylor. I would look at the clock and think, “It’s 11:00AM! I need to fix Taylor his lunch and get him down for his nap,” or “It’s time for us to go to the Little Gym,” or any of a thousand other activities I did with Taylor, and each time I would have to face the same unbearable realization again-–that chapter of our lives was closed. We each struggled to find anything that we could hold on to that might comfort us, that would ease the overwhelming pain that had settled into our souls. During that process, we reflected on our good friends, Patrick and Meredith Woodruff and how they had taken the tragedy of the death of their son Miller and made something wonderful in the “Miller McNeil Woodruff Foundation.” Miller Woodruff, Patrick and Meredith’s son, was born with Spinal Muscular Atrophy, often a fatal disease that destroys the nerves controlling voluntary muscle movement, which affects crawling, walking, head and neck control and even swallowing. Miller lived for 87 days, but, through Patrick, Meredith and the “Miller McNeil Woodruff Foundation, his life continues to touch and help others, in ways that he could never have imagined. Patrick and Meredith are wonderful friends and great examples of one way to turn the worst of tragedies into something positive. It was from that perspective the Taylor McKeen Shelton Foundation was born.

About the Taylor McKeen Shelton Foundation The Taylor McKeen Shelton Foundation was established in loving memory of Taylor with a goal of increasing awareness of, and research into the cause of Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood incidents by supporting the SUDC Program via financial contributions. In addition to supporting the SUDC Program, goals of the Taylor McKeen

Shelton Foundation include supporting families who are living through similar tragedies and helping to provide healthy, physical activities for children in the NW Arkansas region. The most common response people have when learning of Taylor’s passing at 14 months old is: “He was too old for it to be SIDS.” What we learned is after the age of one, SIDS cases still occur but are then classified as SUDC, Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood. Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood (SUDC) is defined as “the sudden and unexpected death of a child over the age of twelve months, which remains unexplained after a thorough case investigation is conducted. “

About the Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood Program In 1999, a small group of parents affected by unexplained toddler death attended a presentation at the SIDS Alliance national convention in Atlanta, GA. The presentation by Dr. Henry Krous was entitled “Post-Infancy SIDS- Is it on the rise?” Following the presentation, Dr. Krous agreed to review the childrens’ records of those families present to learn more about them. Over the following two years, more families who had experienced an unexplained childhood death were discovered and the beginning of the San Diego SUDC Research Project began. Laura Crandall, a Neurological Physical Therapist by training, and Chelsea Hilbert, an ER Social Worker by training, brainstormed together to create the mission of the Sudden Unexplained Death In Childhood Program. A proposal was submitted to the CJ

T E A R S Foundation for SIDS to support this new program and it was granted. The CJ Foundation for SIDS is a U.S. national non-profit 501c-3 health organization meeting the needs of the SIDS community through funding SIDS research, support services and awareness programs. In the fall of 2001, as part of the CJ Foundation, The SUDC program was created to be a centralized resource for Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood providing information, support, advocacy and research. Each year, the SUDC Program provides more support services to more and more families. The program is entirely run by private donations to the CJ Foundation that are designated to SUDC. For more information on the Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood Project visit www.sudc.org. For more on Taylor’s foundation and how you can get involved, please go to www.taylormckeen.com or find us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ TaylorMckeenShelton.

Gift Guide 2013

The elves at Peekaboo have been busy this Christmas Season! Their mission? To find the perfect gift ideas for children, moms, and dads in stores and shops right here in NWA.

Let’s Ride! Duck Dynasty ATV is the ultimate 12-volt rechargeable ride-on toy! Boys and girls alike will be happy, happy, happy! Made of molded plastic, it is built tough and looks tough. It has large, oversized wheels with exclusive camo colors and a fun overall design. That’s what I’m talking about, Jack! Only at Walmart

A Wearable Mini-Masterpiece

This is a necklace from a local sensation, HipToBeMe! You just send your child’s artwork or handwriting, and they put it on bronze or silver, creating a wearable keepsake! www.HipToBeMe.com

479-273-5557 The Shoppes at Pinnacle Hills 3301 Market Street, Suite 103, Rogers

Choon Designs Rainbow Loom $14.99

Gift with a Purpose - $20 nehemiahs-wall.blogspot.com

HOT ITEM!!!! Rainbow Loom® is a kit for making super fun rubber band links for bracelets of any size. Keep your kids busy for hours being creative and having fun!

Each of these handmade ragdolls represents a child at Esther’s House Orphanage in Malawi, Africa. Each has the name of one of the children at Esther’s House so that you can teach your child about orphan care and pray for that child. When you purchase one of them, you are directly supporting the care and feeding of these wonderful kids. Nehemiah’s Wall is a venue through which we raise funding for and market the products made through a sewing apprenticeship there. For more information, you can like the FB page “nehemiahswall”.

Gift Guide 2013 Lollacup - $16 Little Giggles Indoor Play and Boutique Innovative infant/toddler straw sippy cups that are BPA-free and made in the USA. Lollacups are a stylish and smart alternative to the traditional sippy cup. Their valve-free, weighted straw allows infants as young as 9 months old to easily and effectively drink from a straw, even if the cup is tilted.

Little Giggles Gft card - for any amount that you wish. Can be used for entry, classes, our boutique or snack items. 3301 S Walton Blvd, Bentonville

www.littlegigglesplay.com

Green Toys Terra Tots www.terra-tots.com Green Toys! Made in the USA from recycled plastic bottles. Goldie Blox! Created by an engineer at Stanford University to engage more girls in the field of engineering! Haba wooden train Colorful, wooden train made in Germany of only the safest material. Perfect for little hands!

http://imagine-art-studio.com/ Everyone loves a gift from the heart, and that is exactly what you can create with a trip to Imagine Studios in Rogers. Personalized plates, mugs, banks, and so much more. Plus, the experience making each gift is priceless!

Handpainted Pottery - Personalized Gifts Imagine Studios, Village on the Creeks

Order a custom piece or paint your own. Great gift for everyone on your list!

Gift Guide 2013

Disney Mater Boys’ 6-Volt Batter-Powered Quad Ride-On Disney Fairy Girls’ 6-Volt Battery-Powered Quad Ride-On Lets your little one safely enjoy an adventurous ride around the corner or in the backyard. Only at Walmart

Gifts with a ‘Stache

www.shopthemustache.com

You’ll have trouble finding a shop as fun as The Mustache, which carries unique and trendy gifts for everyone on your list--from baby to Mom and Dad and everyone in between. Stores in downtown Fayetteville and downtown Bentonville.

Mother’s Rings at David Adams Fine Jewelry www.davidadams.com

A must-have for any mother or grandmother. This unique piece of jewelry is engraved by hand with your child’s name to make it look as though your child wrote their name themselves. One ring per child, and designed to be stackable.

100 W Center St # 101 . Fayetteville . (479) 444-7778

Corolle Baby Dolls The Perfect “My First” Baby Doll This cuddly, lightweight 12-inch baby doll is designed to be loved and cared for by little mommies. Elf Cotton Flower An ideal first doll for ages birth and up, Elf Pink Cotton Flower has a plump, ultra-plush body that’s easy for tiny fingers to grasp and perfect for hugging and cuddling! This charming 9.5-inch Elf’s soft vinyl face is delicately scented with vanilla -- a Corolle signature.

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3854 N. Front Street .

Fayetteville, Arkansas 72703

Gift Guide 2013 Hot Hugs

3854 N. Front St. Fayetteville

With these cuddly Hot Hugs animals, you can send your little one to rest for their own dreamland safari adventure on the African Savannah. Simply heat the removable insert in the microwave for lasting warmth and let the aroma of lavender soothe, calm and gently rock them to sleep.

Gift Cards to Northwest Center for Plastic Surgery + 50% off medical microdermabrasion until the end of the year! Only $70 for brighter skin! (479) 571-3100 nwacenterforplasticsurgery.com

Nightbird Books 205 W Dickson St Fayetteville AR

Customize your iPhone or iPad

The Christmas Wish: $17.99 In the tradition of The Snowman and The Polar Express comes a Nordic tale about a brave little girl named Anja who wants to be one of Santa’s elves. She heads out into the snowy landscape where a menagerie of winter animals help her make her way to Santa.

Zach’s Wax Perfect Stocking Stuffer! - Extreme Color Gel Push team spirit into overdrive. Color goes on in minutes, and washes out with one shampoo. Just Add Hair®. Pigtails and Crewcuts, 100 East Joyce Boulevard Suite 105, Fayetteville (479) 935-4121

3329 W. Sunset, Springdale Custom colors, covers, and accessories. 4500 W. Walnut, Rogers

Magformers WOW vehicle Set

Design your own vehicles for hours of fun. Build mini vehicles with magnets of all shapes and sizes. Use squares, triangles and then add the wheels. Build multiple sets in multiple colors.

Ages 3+

$49.99

479-273-5557 The Shoppes at Pinnacle Hills, 3301 Market Street, Rogers

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Mama Carmen’s Espresso Cafe: Hidden Gem, Global Advocate

by: Frances Wilson

ne of the biggest hearts in NWA is, except for a tiny little neon sign, all but hidden, tucked away off one of the main roads in Fayetteville. If you blink as you zoom down College Avenue towards the Hill, you might miss one of the most inspirational stops in town (excepting that hallowed ground of sporting Hogs, the Donald W.

Reynolds Stadium, of course). Even if it’s just to snag a quick latte to go on your way to watch the Razorbacks stomp the latest out oftowners, Mama Carmen’s is absolutely worth your while. The coffee is fantastic— unapologetically rich and black, roasted onsite, with an impressive array of options should you prefer to dress it up. The food is from the local Fayetteville Stone Mill Bread and Flour Company, which, as Peekaboo can personally attest, is responsible for some of the most delicious comfort food around. The atmosphere is quiet, the design comfortably industrial, and the proceeds will go towards supporting the reallife Mama Carmen and her coffee plantation in Guatemala, as well as providing assistance to orphans and communities in need worldwide. Mama Carmen, a Guatemalan woman who is the inspiration for and main beneficiary of the café, is a mother in every sense of the word. After her son was rescued from narcoterrorists over twenty years ago, she promised herself that she would never again allow a child to be abandoned if it was in her power. With very little support, she has given shelter and love to over 300 children, usually at least 80100 at a time. Most of these children have been abandoned because they either have disabilities or medical issues of varying degrees of seriousness.

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About six years ago, an anonymous donor heard about the orphanage and gifted Mama Carmen with a coffee plantation, complete with an on site coffee processing warehouse and a clean freshwater river. The Fayetteville nonprofit heard about Mama Carmen’s situation and, when they realized she was at a loss as to how to properly run a coffee plantation without help, they sent over a coffee expert to help run and train employees in the business of creating coffee. Today, Mama Carmen’s coffee is its own successful brand. The shop in Fayetteville purchases all of her

by: Frances Wilson coffee at a fair trade price to provide the best possible wage for the farmers, then roasts it and sells it, as mentioned, right on site before selling to customers. The business is a part of a local nonprofit called Global Restoration Trading Company, which serves basically as an umbrella organization dedicated to supporting community development projects. Mama Carmen’s promise has now, with the help of Global Restoration, spread all over the globe. A new addition to the coffee shop is the addition of the Global Shoppe, located just to the right of the register when you walk into Mama Carmen’s. The Global Shoppe contains handmade, fair trade products from countries and peoples all over the world. The goal is to facilitate responsible economic growth and raise awareness of the worthy craftsmanship and plight of the artisans in underdeveloped places like Nepal, Uganda, Honduras, and India. The items are beautiful, interesting, practical, and of a uniquely fine quality, perfect both as Christmas gifts and yearround. A personal Peekaboo favorite is the rack of JOYN’s impossibly soft handknit scarves that line one side of the wall, as well as the large, soft woven bags right next to them, all in beautiful bright Chevron patterns. You can find both, and much more, at the Global Shoppe blog: http://theglobalshoppe.com/. For the people that have made Mama Carmen’s a reality, Isaiah 61, which states, “He sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives... and to bestow upon them a crown of beauty instead of ashes,” applies not only to the orphans that Mama Carmen has taken on, but to all of the impoverished people of the world that they can possibly reach. They are truly an inspiration, and have created a local business with true heart. So, next time you’re motoring down College in Fayetteville, don’t blink, and don’t miss Mama Carmen’s. Check out their website for more information at http://mamacarmen.com/, and follow them on Twitter for news and deals at @mamacarmens. Their phone number is (479) 521-MAMA (6262), and they are located at 2850 N. College Avenue in Fayetteville, across from Shake’s.

Holidays with Children with Special Needs

by: Becky Carney, Children’s Therapy T.E.A.M. www.childrenstherapyteam.com

or many, holiday noises, lights and crowds are synonymous with the Christmas season. For some children, however, the holidays can be an overwhelming sensory challenge. TEAM Pediatric Occupational Therapist Abby Snyder not only works with children with sensory challenges, but her own daughter experiences sensory difficulties due to spending her early developmental years in an Eastern European orphanage. Abby and her husband adopted their daughter Eva when she was three and a half years old. After years of medical isolation at the orphanage, Eva’s under-developed self-regulation and language skills make the holidays particularly difficult. While Eva’s needs are acute, the insights we glean from her experiences can resonate with many children.

their children also reap the evident benefits.

1. Take Time to Relax

Allowing children to help decorate allows them to be involved with the changes taking place in their home. Try to choose comforting decorations. For example, blinking, colored lights can easily overstimulate some children, while soft white lights can be comforting. As an occupational therapist, Abby knows that all children, regardless of their special need, can appreciate having their very own holiday art work displayed in their home.

Abby’s best advice for the holidays came from fellow TEAM therapist Kym Hannah. Kym recommended that when Abby senses Eva’s elevated stress, she should hold her close because deep pressure can be calming. Abby carefully watches her daughter for signs of fatigue and is quick to redirect with something comforting, like reading a book, singing a song or relaxing in a rocking chair. For some children, practicing deep breathing or listening to soft music is particularly beneficial. As an added benefit, parents who model relaxation strategies with

2. Carefully Consider the Travel Vs. Stay-Home Conundrum Carefully weigh the pros and cons of traveling vs. staying at home. If choosing to stay home for the first time, establish special family traditions. To connect with extended family, make an effort to enjoy a festive holiday Skype, Apple Face Time, or the like. Children may enjoy preparing a special carol to sing for relatives in a video message. If choosing to travel, have honest conversations with relatives beforehand about what to expect.

3. Deck the Halls “Like a Kid”

4. Designate a Safe Place Until communication skills are firmly developed,

paying close attention to body language and facial expressions is important. For example, children may not be able to say, “My uncle is getting a little too loud for my comfort. I need a break.” When Abby observes her daughter beginning to get stressed, she simply carries her to a less crowded area, preferably a room that is quiet and dimly lit. Once her daughter is reassured and feels safe, they slowly make their way back. It can be beneficial to prep a calming “safe space” at your holiday destination.

8. Make Sleep a Priority

5. Tis the Season to Prep Ahead

While Internet-based shopping definitely decreases the need to face holiday crowds, Abby also suggests targeting shopping times that tend to be less crowded. If she and her daughter are out shopping and the store becomes crowded and noisy, she keeps Eva close to her so that she feels safe. Even if she’s riding in the shopping cart, Abby slows down and gets close enough so that she and her daughter are touching. If it gets really loud and overwhelming, Abby stops, bends close to her daughter’s ear, and whispers a familiar and comforting phrase, “You are my beautiful baby, and I love you.”

Abby tries to prepare Eva in advance. She tells her that the family is going to get in the car and go see family. She tells her who she is going to see and talks about what they are going to do. Children can benefit from building a social story about the upcoming holiday that is designed specifically to fit a child’s area of need. For example, if transitions are difficult, the story may include packing for a holiday trip, travel to the airport and arrival at a holiday destination. Knowing in advance what to expect helps to ease anxieties. Also consider making a visual countdown chart as children’s sense of time is still developing. For a young child, the difference between a week, a day and an hour is likely not clear.

6. The Special Needs Diet

All children benefit from a consistent sleep schedule. It is easy to over stretch children over the holidays, allowing later bed times and skipped naps. However, making sleep a priority dramatically decreases the chances of having tantrums, and any tantrums that do occur will be less severe.

9. Shopping with Kids

10. Enjoy the Season! Take time to treasure these precious holiday moments with your child and family.

The fact that many holiday gatherings revolve around food can be difficult for people with special dietary needs. It can be helpful to consult with a child’s nutritionist about what level of “forbidden items” can be safely consumed. They may have ideas about the use of probiotics, enzymes or other supplements than can be incorporated to help counteract the rare addition of forbidden items. Because gluten-free and allergen-free recipes and products are becoming more readily available, modified holiday foods are easier than ever to serve. If traveling, consider shipping a “care package” of items to your destination in advance. Some gluten-free bakeries ship items directly through on-line ordering.

7. Simplify Gift Giving Abby acknowledges that fostering an atmosphere of “less is more” is ideal but challenging. She and her husband recognize that it is a joy to give, and they do not want to take that joy away from family members wanting to give gifts to their daughter. They encourage giving a single gift and making that gift a book, music or adaptive art supplies. These items are relatively inexpensive and leave the giftgiver some room for thoughtful and individualized choices. However, if more than one or two gifts on Christmas morning is too overwhelming, parents can chose to have children open just a few gifts at a time throughout the 12 days of Christmas.

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Good ol’ Santa Dad’s View with Ben Lacy

ou know, I think Santa gets an unfairly bad rap these days. Think about it! Most movies (Example: “Bad Santa”) portray the jolly old elf as a bumbling buffoon–-or worse! He doesn’t even get any respect in the classics: No screen time in “It’s a Wonderful Life,” nada in “Christmas

Vacation” and really poor pontificating in “A Christmas Story” (“You’ll shoot your eye out, kid…. ho….ho…ho...”). Mall Santas are by and large, well, creepy. What is up with all the dissing of Mr. Kringle? What has he done to you? Doesn’t anyone dig him anymore? We like what he gives us, but man, we don’t seem to give him many props for the effort. I’ll bet I know someone who really likes Santa; and it’s the same someone who routinely gets bumped out of the limelight, on his birthday or all days, when Santa does his thing. Yep, that someone is Jesus. Sounds odd, but here’s why: Let’s look at Santa Claus, the one that hails from the North Pole. Not any of the look-a-likes that hang-out at food courts, or at pancake breakfasts, or on floats, or on the tube. What does Santa really do? What is he like? First off, he has a large number of employees that appear to have full health benefits, job satisfaction and life-time employment. Have you ever heard of an elf calling in sick? Ever seen an elf unemployment line? Ran into any retired elves lately? Surely with the economy as it is these days and with the overexposure of everyone on the planet by all the various media meddling, we would have seen a Tweet or an expose’ on CNN about poor toy-making conditions, unpaid overtime or management abuse. Sounds like the big man is all in on the Golden Rule (Matthew 7:12).

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He’s also good to his animals and respects the environment. Haven’t seen any sleighs pull up to the local Casey’s, and I’ve never smelled diesel in or around the house after he visited, so I would have to assume he’s running his magical chariot on something other than fossil fuels. Yes, Santa occasionally cracks the whip to get the reindeer moving, but I’ve never seen or

heard of him actually hitting Dasher or Dancer. Also, the herd looks well fed and in great physical shape. Yes, Mr. Claus takes his stewardship seriously (Genesis 1:28). How about his main function, which is to provide all the children of the world with toys on Christmas morning? Fairly certain nobody has ever received a bill from Elf Enterprises or found an entry on the Master Card statement which required full payment to S. Claus Inc. That would lead me to believe that Santa gives freely without any expectation of reciprocation! Ok, yes, he gets to chomp down on some homemade(ish) cookies and lukewarm milk. But I think we can all agree we’re getting the best end of that deal. Chalk that up to ol’ Kringle knowing that it is better to give than to receive (Acts 20:35). Have you ever been to the North Pole and seen his factories? Ever found his production facilities on Google Earth? Ever “caught” him leaving presents for you? Nope. You know why? He doesn’t want to make a show of what he does. Santa simply wants you to enjoy your gifts, but doesn’t need any fanfare, accolades, thanks or press. Looks like Mr. Claus has read Matthew 6:2-4. What about Mrs. Claus? In terms of notoriety, she

takes a back seat to her sleigh ridin’ stud, but she obviously is very loving, very patient and very kind (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). Kris Kringle has to be pulling some incredibly long hours in order to manufacture enough gifts for the nearly 2 billion children on this rock and I bet she sometimes feels lonely. But, she’s been with him all these years, through thick and thin (mostly thick if we’re being honest about Santa’s physique). Santa’s no dummy--he knows that Mrs. Claus is an amazing catch and like most of us fellas, he outkicked his coverage (Proverbs 18:22). So, there’s my case for why Jesus probably is cool with Santa’s encroachment on his birthday. If anyone’s going to be casting a shadow over his day, at least it is someone who follows his lead. Not to speak for him, but Jesus probably isn’t all that big on receiving gifts or blowing out candles anyway. That would be receiving instead of giving, and he’s not really into showing off. But, I do feel Jesus would appreciate a little pause during the Christmas morning mayhem to remember the best Christmas gift ever; the gift he gave us all. It won’t be wrapped under the tree and you won’t find it in your stocking. This gift is found in your soul and was and is freely given to all.

God Bless and Merry Christmas.

I Never

Heard

Him Say I Can’t.

by: Susan Templeton

“I have never heard him say ‘I can’t,’” were to think about. He has seen more doctors than I even the words spoken to us recently by an athletic coach about our son. These simple words filled our heart and have stuck in our minds, leaving us with hope. Have you ever met a person who smiles despite everything they have endured in this world? When you think of someone like this, who comes to mind? Let me introduce our little example of this, our warrior. Myles Templeton was born in 2009 after a very scary pregnancy. He came early, but other than needing a little bit of oxygen, everything seemed normal the first days. “Normal” is a word I once used, and now makes me cringe. Who decides what normal really means, after all? Myles just turned four years old. In his first years of life he has been a sick little boy. He has had tests after tests. He has been put to sleep more times than I like

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knew existed. He has experienced several hospital stays, had stomach surgery, a feeding tube keeps him alive, a drain bag keeps high levels of acid out of his body, and still he continues to smile and be so happy. This little boy is a true treasure. Myles has a condition in which his stomach does not function. It is called “gastro paresis,” which means paralyzed stomach. If he eats something, it will sit in his stomach until it is vomited back up or it poisons his little body. There is no cure, there is no set treatment, and there is very, very little medical research. If you see Myles out and about, you will see that he wears a backpack all the time. This backpack holds a feeding pump and feed bag in it. This feeding pump sends medically calculated formula into his intestines. The port it hooks to was surgically placed into his body. It bypasses his stomach completely. His pump runs at a

very slow rate over the course of a day. This is essential because the intestines cannot handle large volumes like the stomach can. Too fast of a flow will make him ill, but too slow of a flow will make him regress in his growth and development. There is a very fine line to get it just right, keeping us on constant watch. There are clinical trials and studies going on at the Nationwide Children’s Hospital and Cincinnati Children’s Hospital for stomach motility. Myles has just been accepted by one of the top stomach specialists in the world! Kids who have feeding tubes tend to have a lot of medical complications. These little warriors have been through the unthinkable. Plus, they have to handle not only the physical side of having medical complications, but also the social complications. When Myles had to begin 20 hour feeds each day, he was given a solid black backpack for his pump and supplies from the medical supply company. Every time we went outside our home strangers would always ask “What’s wrong with him?” and I would have to fight back tears. Myles wears a backpack and has a visible feeding tube and drain bag, but his ears work and he has feelings just like everyone else. As hurtful as some comments are, I always remind myself that it’s just ignorance, the act of not knowing or understanding. When people talk to Myles, we always turn the conversation positive no matter how a

stranger approaches us. Myles has a quote that we love. He says, “Everybody likes me.” These simple words let us know we are doing something right. We are taking a situation that is out of our control and turning it into something positive. We do, of course, worry about other kids as well. A boy at the park told Myles he couldn’t play unless he took his glasses and backpack off. Holding back my emotions was a struggle. But, our three year old smiled, looked at these kids and said “It’s my feeding, silly, and I have a Hulk backpack!” The kids checked out his Hulk backpack, and all began playing together. We don’t know how his conditions will affect him socially. We do know there are times we all get our hearts broken. Some things can’t be prevented. What we can do is take every piece of our soul and create a positive atmosphere for all those who wear feeding backpacks and drains. There are approximately 500,000 people who use feeding tubes to survive. We have lain awake many nights thinking about how to make life better for them. These people’s lives depend on these backpacks and the pumps and machines inside them. I was laying in bed around midnight one night crying about comments someone made to Myles at Walmart one day. It was in that moment I decided I was done

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feeling sorry for us, and I was going to do something to change it. The next few days I worked on making Myles a superhero backpack, the one that he would show the kids at the playground in the aforementioned story. He was going to have the coolest, most amazing tubefeeding backpack. Strangers would be seeing this awesome backpack and have only good things to say, and... It worked! Our son no longer has to experience so much negativity. He loves his backpacks and drain bag covers now. About a week later, a friend told me about a 10 year old who hated school because of his black medical feeding tube backpack he had to wear. I contacted his mother and made them a backpack in her son’s favorite sport, football. I shipped it across the country to them. This mom and son are still thanking us almost a year later. This is where Myles’ Mission began. Because of Myles we began Tube Feeding Friends. We are creating backpacks for kids who have feeding tubes. The special part of these backpacks are that they are totally kid-focused! They are made of kid-friendly prints and designs, are created for their little bodies, are soft and comfortable, and the kids get to pick their design, making it personalized. They are fun, and

Jada, James, Jessa and Jorja’s elf Krispy got a touch of the flu last year! Poor Krispy:(

everyone LOVES them. If you were a child, would you want to be stuck to an IV pole or wear something that looks like a medical backpack when you had the option of having a backpack that you could enjoy? Tube Feeding Friends backpacks make people say things such as “Wow, that’s a cool backpack!” insead of “Why are you wearing that?” We receive messages daily from these tube feeding families telling us what a difference these backpacks are making in their lives. Myles gets so excited to see each and every backpack we make. He knows all the people at the fabric stores and post office by now! You can learn more about us, or even become a sponsor, by looking us up on Facebook. Our page is called Tube Feeding Friends. Myles is thriving in this world, despite having a non-functioning stomach, and all his other medical complications. We have tried our best to teach him that his illnesses do not define who he is. We watch him for the little signs that mean he is getting ill, little things most people would never notice. Thankfully, we have an amazing team of doctors and therapists. We have learned so much in how to care best for Myles at this point in his life. Myles has a bond with Dr. Bryan Harvey and Steven Fiedorek, and of course his girls at POST, who all help us tremendously. Myles recently had a chance to play flag football with the Arkansas Guardians. This was such a wonderful experience for him. These adult men are football players who mentor young athletes. They were so wonderful to Myles, and the hour they spent letting Myles be an active little boy playing football with them has inspired him to love sports. This is fantastic because physical activity helps with stomach motility and overall body health. Myles has a life full of fun ahead of him. He just completed soccer with the Rogers Activity Center. Of course, you always find Mommy and Daddy on or near the field. He loves to wear motor cross helmets and drive anything that moves. He finds joy in watching races, and he talks about what he will race when he grows up. There are not enough studies to know what his future will look like. People are losing battles daily to this terrible digestive tract illness that is severely unstudied. We have made a choice for our family to focus on making the best out of our situation. If you see Myles, you will always see his awesome little backpack! You will also see his mommy or daddy close by. In addition, Myles is blessed to have the most protective and loving big brother, Max, who is always watching over him. You will not be able to miss that contagious little smile and sense of true happiness that Myles has. Myles is a warrior, our warrior, and warriors never say “I can’t!”

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Pinnacle Hills Promenade and the NWA Mall

Ice Skating The Rink at Lawrence Plaza in Bentonville will be open dailyuntil Jan. 21, except Christmas Day. The cost to skate is $3 per session and skates are available to rent for $2 per session. Skating lessons will be offered throughout the season. Lessons are currently open for registration until Dec. 2.

15 The Best Christmas Pageant Ever www.artscenteroftheozarks.org In this hilarious Christmas tale, a reluctant volunteer mom struggling to put on a church Christmas pageant is faced with casting the Herdman kids-- probably the most inventively awful kids in history. Admission: Adults $20; students $10

Moscow Classical Ballet The Nutcracker. December 20-22 Walton Arts Center Get your family into the holiday spirit with The Nutcracker Ranger’s Pantry Pet Food Drive Fayetteville Public Library From December 2 until December 23, the library is taking pet food donations for the Ranger’s Pantry.

Toddler Time Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m. Ages 2-3 years old

Ranger’s Pantry Pet Food Drive Fayetteville Public Library From December 2 until December 23, the library is taking pet food donations for the Ranger’s Pantry.

Rogers Christmas Parade mainstreetrogers.com 7 p.m. Nearly 100 floats, marching bands, decorated cars, scouts, dogs, choirs and kids take part each year in this extra-special event - each covered with bright Christmas lights!

Imagine That Imagine Studios, Rogers K - 3 Grade - 4:55 and 3rd - 6th Grade - 5:55

Toddler Time Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m.

Imagine That Imagine Studios, Rogers K - 3 Grade - 4:55 3rd - 6th Grade - 5:55 Rogers Public Library 6:30 PM – Colorin, Colorado Explore a new language in a fun way at Spanish Storytime! Stories, songs and rhymes in Spanish for the entire family.

The Letter to Santa program Participants can drop their letters off at the North Pole Express Hut located at Lawrence Plaza in Bentonville. All letters should be in a sealed envelope with a return address and dropped off by Dec. 14. Children who participate can expect a return note from Santa before Christmas. Santa Claus himself will be present for pictures on Dec. 14, from 2:00 p.m. - 5:00p.m.

Ranger’s Pantry Pet Food Drive Fayetteville Public Library From December 2 until December 23, the library is taking pet food donations for the Ranger’s Pantry. Baby Bookworms Fayetteville Public Library 9:45 a.m. Infants to two years old Toddler Time Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m. Ages 2-3 years old

Toddler Time Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m. Ages 2-3 years old

29 Happy Birthday Holdee Bear! -Love, Mom, Dad, Ava, and Grant

Rogers Public Library 6:30 PM – Colorin, Colorado Explore a new language in a fun way at Spanish Storytime! Stories, songs and rhymes in Spanish for the entire family.

Sugar Plums Story Time Fayetteville Public Library 6:30 p.m. Come in your pj’s for a special storytime!

Giggles CLASSES!! Little Giggles www.littlegigglesplay.com 10am Children’s Yoga (3yrs+) $6.25 per class, $12.50 Class + Open Play 11am Story Time 3:30pm Story Time

Cherish the Ladies: A Celtic Christmas Walton Arts Center 7:00pm ONE NIGHT HOLIDAY SHOW AT WALTON ARTS CENTER! Cherish the Ladies has grown from a one-time concert concept to an Irish traditional music sensation, literally the most successful and sought-after Irish-American group in Celtic music. Rogers Public Library 6:30 PM – Colorin, Colorado Explore a new language in a fun way at Spanish Storytime! Stories, songs and rhymes in Spanish for the entire family.

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Fayetteville on College and 6th St. Bentonville on Walton Rogers on Walnut and Pleasant Grove

Rogers Public Library December 4th and 18th Reading Adventures with Scout Grab a book and read to Scout—a Mastiff who loves

New Year’s Eve

Preschool Storytime at the Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m. Designed for kids ages three to five.

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Thurs

ed to be read to! Scout and his owner Wendy Teach will be here to provide a non-judgmental opportunity for your child to practice his or her reading skills.

11 Preschool Storytime at the Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m. Designed for kids ages three to five.

Elementary Storytime at the Fayetteville Public Library 1:30 p.m. Add some literary fun to your afternoon and join us in the Wal-Mart reading room for some high-interest books! Individuals and school groups welcome.

Toddler Time Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m. Ages 2-3 years old

Ranger’s Pantry Pet Food Drive Fayetteville Public Library From December 2 until December 23, the library is taking pet food donations!

Gingerbread House Decorating Workshop - Fayetteville Public Library 4:00pm to 5:00pm This workshop is a holiday favorite! Families are invited to bring their imaginations as well as loads of candy and other decorating materials to create the most awesome gingerbread houses ever! The library provides cardboard house forms and icing. Come to the Children’s Desk or call 856.7170.

A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens December 5 - 29th Newly reimagined for the stage by TheatreSquared in a holiday gift for Arkansas audiences of every age.

Toddler Time Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m. Ages 2-3 years old

Preschool Playdate Crystal Bridges 11:30 AM - 2:00 PM Winter Monthly Preschool Playdates feature performances, art projects, games, and storytelling based on themes from our collection. Activities are geared for children ages 2 to 5 with an adult. Free, no registration required.

Baby Bookworms Fayetteville Public Library 9:45 a.m. Infants to two years old

Toddler Time Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m. Ages 2-3 years old

26 Toddler Time Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m. Ages 2-3 years old

Polar Express PJ Night Imagine Studios, Rogers Village on the Creeks 6-8:30pm

The Best Christmas Pageant Ever www.artscenteroftheozarks.org In this hilarious Christmas tale, a reluctant volunteer mom struggling to put on a church Christmas pageant is faced with casting the Herdman kids-- probably the most inventively awful kids in history. Admission: Adults $20; students $10 Mark O’Connor & Friends; An Appalachian Christmas www.waltonartscenter.oom

Ranger’s Pantry Pet Food Drive Fayetteville Public Library From December 2 until December 23, the library is taking pet food donations for the Ranger’s Pantry. Moscow Classical Ballet The Nutcracker. December 20-22 Walton Arts Center Get your family into the holiday spirit with The Nutcracker

Holiday Drop-n-Shop at Imagine Studios in Rogers 5-8pm

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Fri

27 Ice Skating The Rink at Lawrence Plaza in Bentonville will be open dailyuntil Jan. 21, except Christmas Day. The cost to skate is $3 per session and skates are available to rent for $2 per session. Skating lessons will be offered throughout the season. Lessons are currently open for registration until Dec. 2.

Sat 7

Celebrate Hannukah! Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m. Everyone is invited to come celebrate with the Temple of Shalom! Stories, puppets, games and food.

Annual Light Up Siloam Springs Downtown Siloam Springs Light Up Siloam Celebration and Christmas Parade. The Mayor waves a magic candy cane at dusk to light the town with over 30.000 lights and 60 decorated lamp posts. Santa makes his first appearance on one of the more than 50 floats in the parade down Broadway. How the Grinch Stole Christmas Storytime Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m.

Mrs. Santa’s Kitchen Sequoyah United Methodist Church 1910 Old Wire Rd, Fayetteville 9 a.m.-noon. Homemade cookies, candy, bread, and gift sale. All proceeds go to local missions supported by Sequoyah United Methodist Church.

Christmas Concert with Brian and Terri Kinder Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m. Families are invited to celebrate the sounds of Christmas with Brian and Terri Kinder of Kindersongs! Moscow Classical Ballet The Nutcracker. December 20-22 Walton Arts Center Get your family into the holiday spirit with The Nutcracker

28 Story Time with Philip and Vanessa Rouse Fayetteville Public Library 10:30 a.m. Authors Vanessa (also an illustrator) and Philip Rouse will present their newest children’s book, Crazy Town, Upside Down.

December 2013

Making Our Own Merry Little Christmas! By Shelley Beaudoin

y husband and I relocated to NWA from Massachusetts in 2004. With our two young kids and one big dog in tow, we set out across the country, excited for the adventure that lay ahead. In the months leading up to the move, we carefully considered everything: what would be different, what would be the same. We considered the idea of living in a brand new house in a real neighborhood instead of our 200-year-old Victorian (have you seen the movie “Money Pit”? Yeah… that house)! We wondered what it would be like to shop only at Walmart, if people would understand our fast-talking Yankee accent, and if we could adapt from fastpaced Boston driving to slow country roads. Perhaps the biggest question mark was how we would adapt to life “on our own”. After all, we were so used to long-standing family holiday traditions. We never had to worry about holiday traditions, just whose house we were going to go to. Everyone has holiday traditions from their childhood. I remember spending all the holidays and birthdays with all the lunatics and the couple of sane family members. (We all have them!). When it was time for my mother to host, she always opened up the house to

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neighbors to ensure some level-headed conversations that could buffer the crazies! I remember all of my childhood Christmas Eves at the midnight candle light service. My sister and I would sit, laughing at the terrible singing being belted out by our family members, all while trying to stay awake! I always got teary eyed when the last song, Silent Night, played on acoustic guitar by candle light at midnight. I wanted my family to have those cherished memories, our own special traditions that we look forward to year after year. I struggled with what I was going to do with 2, then 3, then 4 children so far from extended family and all that I hold as my favorite traditions. With our move, I suddenly became the matriarch of my own family! Without the instructions from my grandmother, mother, mother-in-law, and aunts, I had to become the one in charge of our holiday traditions. The first Christmas came quickly after our August move as we settled into our new life. I started slow-in those pre-Pinterest days, inspiration was a little harder to come by. Thankfully Olivia and Andrew were too young to know what was going on. We made Christmas cookies and decorated a gingerbread house. We hung our old childhood ornaments on the tree, mixed in with some new one’s the kids had created. I even made a Christmas meal, which seemed like a lot of work for only two adults and a couple of toddlers.

As the years have gone on I am becoming more comfortable with my matriarchal role, and have added a little bit every season. We have met people from all over the country, and they have shared their traditions and celebrations with us and we have taken from those and made ourselves our own merry little christmas. One the biggest changes for me happened unexpectedly, as it often does. We went to see Santa in Christmas of 2007. We always buy the candid photo of the kids dressed neatly in their “Christmas best” as they smile, sitting on the lap of a white bearded stranger. Eloise was about 9 months old, Isaac was 2, Andrew 4 and Olivia was 6. This particular year we were not dressed up or really ready to meet the big man but, since it was Olivia’s birthday, we figured we would fulfill her request to visit with Santa. We waited in line for quite some time. I watched children cry, some were happy, lots were overwhelmed and shy. As the time came for our turn, we quickly moved the kids into position; the little ones, one on each knee and the older kids on the outside. We moved quickly hoping to catch smiles before the inevitable meltdown. As we both backed away we found the “littles” were not so thrilled. As a matter of fact, they were full on screaming and doing their best to make a break for it! The photographer did their best to capture a moment full of smiles. Alas, there were none to be had. Oh well, we already paid! When a dear friend came over later that week, I showed her the photo with frustration. I didn’t expect her response at all. “This is perfect. This is so your life right now.” She laughed and laughed. Which made me look again; I am not sure if it was the hysterical babies, the fact that Olivia looked so pleased with herself, or if it was Andrew looking completed star struck as he was sitting next to the-real-Santa. But it was indeed true. It was perfect. That picture became our family’s Christmas card that year. I realized in those moments, in every moment, I need to cherish their little selves, just the way they are. I don’t need to try so hard to make every memory. Sometimes, the best ones just happen. Gone is the perfect-looking picture of my

family at Christmas or any other time of year. That stress has been released! We all love when the advent calendars come out to count down the days till Christmas. Our elf on the shelf, “Adam,” makes his appearance every December to watch over the kids and report to Santa. We decorate the house and listen to Christmas music together as a family. We watch Christmas movies with hot chocolate and marshmallows. All wonderful, but our favorite tradition came out of realizing we were all too busy to really enjoy the season to its fullest! Everyday routines made even more hectic with holiday choir concerts, Christmas plays, parties, rehearsals and performances AND trying to get Christmas traditions in has become overwhelming! I realized this when I found myself yelling “We only have an hour to make these sugar cookies, or we won’t get to them before Christmas!” How silly is it that I am yelling at my kids to make memories?! So, several years ago I decided we needed a day! I did all my Pinterest research, bought everything I needed. I put out my kids’ festive jammies, and when I tucked the kids into bed, I whispered in their ears that they were taking the next day off... And my “rule following” children freaked out! I kind of thought they would be excited! Oh well, the next morning, after everyone slept in, they woke up to a hot yummy breakfast. I made sure I was all ready to make it a day they would always get excited about. We did just about everything on my list that first year. We made my aunt’s incredible fudge and my memere’s delicious cookies that took me a long time to master. We made ornaments to decorate everyone’s packages. We sang Christmas songs, danced in our jammies, watched a few Christmas movies snuggled on the couch! It was the most fantastic day of the year! That night when putting them to bed, we named it “holiday hooky day”.

The world gets a little too frantic to not stop and take a time out to really make your memories!

HUMOR THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS

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re you looking forward to a relaxing and joyous holiday celebration with family and friends? Or do you dread the stress of the season, feeling pulled in too many directions, wondering what drama will ensue at your in-laws yet again this year? With everyday stressors it seems like a miracle to get a dinner on the table, much less a clean house that is ready for visitors and a feast that has something to satisfy the whole family’s appetite. Rather than feeling like a Scrooge and wishing you could just “bah humbug” the holidays away, choose to see humor in the chaos we have come to know as the holiday season.

responses to use to manage common stressors of the holidays. For example, if your child complains “I didn’t get anything on my list”. Rather than going into a rant about the ungrateful little scamp, perhaps you can chuckle (on the inside) about the fact that your child believes you can afford all the things on the list and that you would actually buy them all.

Choose to laugh

A study showed that the average five year old child in our country laughs out loud about 25 times more than the average adult. Being an adult can be serious business. We all have to do things just because they have to be done. Doesn’t that make it more important to identify what makes us laugh and choose to take advantage of the opportunities to find humor in a situation? Identifying things that you find humorous and make you happy is half the battle. The other half is choosing to replace a negative response with a healthier response. What things stress you about the holiday season? What are some more healthy responses to those stressors? Make a list of things that Research shows that there are many health related you enjoy or makes you chuckle, and when stress pops benefits of laughing. A few are: up, pick something from your list to help you manage • Secretion of enzymes that protect against stomach the stress in a healthy manner. ulcers • Decreased heart rate and blood pressure The holidays can be stressful, and oftentimes the • Higher mental functioning stressors can’t be eliminated, but you can choose a • Production of endorphins that aid in natural pain healthier response to those stressors--one that helps relief you feel in control, calm, and happy. This year while • Increased blood flow to major organs you are celebrating the holiday season with family that you are glad you only see once a year, remember Some research suggests up to 80% of doctor’s visits a quote from Alan Alda: “When people are laughing, are related to how we manage stress. How we respond they’re generally not killing one another”. to stress could be responsible for our physical and emotional health, at the very least exacerbating the Carla Brown, LCSW -- Center for Psychology and problems. Counseling.

Laughter really is the best medicine

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hen I was younger, I dreamed, as many young women do, of “living the dream”. I wondered who God was going to send to be my spouse, how many kids I would have and how wonderful my life would be. In 2007, my dreams began to come true as I married Tim and we welcomed our baby girl Emilie 10 months later. We decided not to wait too long to try for another child and we were thrilled to learn we were expecting again when our daughter was 9 months old. In the midst of my joy, I never imagined just how much my view of “living the dream” was going to change. TJ was born a healthy, full term baby on Nov 6th, 2009. During the first few months of his life, he appeared to be thriving. We had episodes of screaming to deal with but, as with most babies, it was labeled by his doctor as colic and reflux. However, there were a few little things that in the back of my mind seemed odd. He constantly threw his body and head back in an arched position. We laughed it off and told others that TJ loved to view the world upside down. Another strange

This is Zuzu. She could tell that Isabella wasn’t quite understanding why she was there, so she brought her the movie. - Jessie Earley

thing was that his hands were clenched much of the time. By the time he was 5 months old, I was growing increasingly concerned about these things because now they were affecting his milestones. He didn’t roll, reach out or grasp objects yet, and he also only made one sound. Additionally, unfortunately I was worried that some other movements were seizures. I brought all of this to his pediatrician’s attention, and he was also concerned and ordered some testing. In May of 2010, our journey into the world of having a special needs child began. TJ had some developmental testing done and was found to be significantly delayed in all areas. He began to receive occupational, physical and speech therapy immediately under the Arkansas First Steps program while we waited on medical testing. He underwent an EEG, and it did show that he was having abnormal brain activity. In late June of 2010 an MRI revealed that the brain malformation polymicrogyria was covering at least 90% of TJ’s brain. Instead of the normal fold pattern, TJ had many small folds. Since they were in every region of the brain, it meant that most areas of his development would be negatively affected in some way. The doctor’s official diagnoses were spastic quadriplegia cerebral palsy, epilepsy and swallowing disorder. So now that I was armed with all of this information, I did what most moms do, I set out to “fix” the problem. We opted for as much therapy as we could. I was determined that TJ was going to overcome this and be “fine” with hard work in therapy. So, every weekday, for 10 hours a week, I hauled my infant son and his 2-year-old sister to private therapy sessions. At home, after sessions I would have to continue to work on

stretching his muscles and practicing his skills. After about 5 months of watching him struggle and seeing little progress, my hope began to fail. Eating was our most serious battle at this point, and TJ was now steadily losing weight. He was labeled failure to thrive at 10 months old. Tim and I had to make the decision to have a feeding tube placed shortly after his first birthday. Now, on top of attending as much therapy as we could and following a medication schedule, I had to figure out how to fit in a strict feeding schedule. It was at this time that I hit a wall. Depression quickly took over me, and although I could function on the outside, on the inside I felt like a complete failure as a mom. I was angry and bitter and couldn’t imagine how our life was going to be if we continued to live on such a crazy schedule every day. It was now apparent that TJ was going to be our “forever boy” and that this wasn’t a problem that I could just “fix.” It was time to face the reality that our dreams were going to have to change.

I did what most moms do, I set out to “fix” the problem.

Tim and I began to evaluate what we wanted for TJ. Both of us agreed that the most important thing was to give him the highest quality of life we could. We knew that TJ was very motivated by being around other kids, and also that he was very intelligent. He was showing us that he completely comprehended what we were saying to him, and also had a great interest in the world around him. It made sense to look at our options for schooling since we knew he had a great potential to learn. We had heard about Sunshine School and Development Center before from a family that attended our church. Their daughter was born with Down’s Syndrome and was a student there. The mom spoke about the caring and nurturing program and also shared that enrolling her in the school was life-changing for them as a family. Because she spoke so highly of the school, I quickly called and got TJ put on the interest list for when he turned 18 months old. In August of 2011, we got the call that there was a place for TJ at the school. I was so nervous that first day. Here I was, dropping off my immobile, non-verbal, tube fed, seizure prone child who had only been with me since birth! I handed him over to his teachers Ms. Jenny and Ms. Lety and was soon bawling in my car in the parking lot. I drove home and was on standby all day, just waiting for the call to come that he was too much to handle medically, and I should come get him.

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all under the same roof is a tremendous answer to our prayers. Without the Sunshine School, I would still be an emotional wreck, balancing taking care of my medically fragile son, trying to give Emilie a normal sense of childhood, keeping my marriage intact and taking care of the normal household duties.

A Dream Restored

However, that call never came and later that same week, my fears were gone. I remember walking into school on the third morning and every adult we ran into on the way through the building said, “Hi, TJ!” Everyone, from the teachers to the kitchen staff and bus drivers knew him by name already! My heart was so full of joy! From that day on I decided that I needed to relax and trust that God had led us to this school for a reason. Here we are, 2 years later, and our lives have done a complete 360. I wish that I could share a miraculous story about how my son is now walking and talking, but I can’t. What I can tell you is the change that it has done for our entire family emotionally to have him at Sunshine School. TJ went from being a boy who whined and cried a lot daily to a child who now squeals with excitement as he sees the school bus pulling up. He loves all of his teachers, nurses and therapists so much, and the care and love that everyone shows to him and to our family just blesses me so much every day. Having therapy, education and nursing services

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TJ is slowly but consistently making advances in his skills. His greatest accomplishment so far is learning how to grasp objects, and he is working hard to release them. He uses his newfound skill to be a little prankster. He loves to pull people’s hair, throw papers and toys on the floor, and of course, yank out his feeding tube during a feed and give everyone a formula shower. And, even though he’s a bit ornery, his teachers still meet him with a smile and cuddle time every morning. As for me, Sunshine School has given me back my hopes and dreams. They have made me realize that I can care for my son and give him the quality of life that he deserves. They have given me the opportunity to be the wife and mother that my family deserves. The time that he is at school learning allows me time to grocery shop, run errands, do chores and take care of myself more. For other families, it means that they can work while their child is at school. As I walk through the halls every afternoon at pick up time, and see parents with their children who are also developmentally delayed in some way, I know that they too feel the hope for the future that Sunshine School gives us. It’s truly a place where dreams can be restored! About Sunshine School & Development Center: Since 1958, Sunshine School & Development Center has served people in Northwest Arkansas who have developmental disabilities and those who are considered “at risk” for disabilities or delays. The growing therapeutic preschool center is a nonprofit agency offering physical, occupational, and speech therapies to children with special needs. For more information please visit http://www. nwasunshineschool.org

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things you should do in

december

A Visit and Photo with Santa at the NWA Mall!

Don’t miss your chance to let your little ones share their Christmas list with NWA’s favorite Santa.

An Old World Christmas A must-tour this holiday season. One of our family’s favorite Christmas traditions, the Rogers Historical Museum is a great way to spend a morning or afternoon with your entire family learning and exploring. www.rogersarkansas.com/ museum

Watch The Nutcracker Walton Arts Center, December 20-22 The Moscow Classical Ballet returns for the third year in a row with an invitation to experience the sweetest of holiday traditions, The Nutcracker. Get your family into the holiday spirit with The Nutcracker. Suitable for all ages. All patrons must have a ticket regardless of age.

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with Santa december Breakfast Rogers Public Library

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Saturday December 7. 9 - 10:30am

The whole family is welcome to join us for a continental breakfast with Santa! Come enjoy pastries and juice or coffee, visit with Santa, and color a picture to take home! For more information: 479-621-1152.

Winter Preschool Playdate Crystal Bridges Thursday, December 12. 11:30am to 2pm Playdate features performances, art projects, games, and storytelling based on themes from our collection. Activities are geared for children ages 2 to 5 with an adult. Free, no registration required.

See a Fabulous Light Display 10th anniversary of the light display at 4423 E Wyman Road in Fayetteville. 124,000 lights and 80 plus inflatables. Display runs every night from 5:30-9:30 until January 1.

Little Giggles Christmas Thursday, December 12. Little Giggles Christmas Event: free with entry will be games, crafts, a chance to mail a letter to Santa and a chance to receive a gift from Santa’s magical sack! www.littlegigglesplay.com

How the Grinch Stole Christmas Storytime Rogers Public Library December 19. 10-11:30 and 6:30 to 7:30pm Fun for the whole family! Watch the classic cartoon! Make an edible craft! Bring your camera, and take your picture with the Grinch! For more information call 479-621-1152.

Holiday Fun at Imagine Studios imagine-art-studio.com / Village on the Creeks, Rogers Holiday Drop-N-Shops at Imagine Studios December 13 from 4-7 and December 19 from 5-8 Polar Express PJ Night December 6th 6-8:30pm Santa’s Workshop - December 15. 2-4pm Our elf, Marvin, got into all kinds of things last year. From dates with Barbie, to roasting marshmallows on the kitchen counter, and drawing silly faces on the kids’ pictures. My kids, Brian & Rylee loved seeing where he would be next and are anxious for his return this year! - Misty Duncan

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things you should do in

december Mrs. Santa’s Kitchen

Saturday, December 14, 2013 Sequoyah United Methodist Church 1910 Old Wire Rd, Fayetteville 9 a.m.-noon. Homemade cookies, candy, bread, and gift sale. All proceeds go to local missions supported by Sequoyah United Methodist Church.

School of Rock Holiday Charity Showcase 2013 Come rock out for a great cause! All of the net proceeds will go straight to the School of Rock Scholarship Fund 501(c)3. Doors @ 5:30, Music @ 6, Show Ends by 8. Tickets are a suggested donation of $10 at the door, and this event is ALL AGES! JRs Lightbulb Club www.schoolofrock.com

Breakfast with Santa Saturday, December 14. 8am to 10am Mariachi’s Grill in the NWA Mall Enjoy a traditional hot breakfast and visit with Santa. Every child will receive a special gift. Seating is limited. Purchas tickets at Mariachi’s Grill or by calling (479) 718-0002

Write a Letter to Santa

Participants can drop their letters off at the North Pole Express Hut located at Lawrence Plaza in Bentonville. All letters should be in a sealed envelope with a return address and dropped off by Dec. 14. Children who participate can expect a return note from Santa before Christmas. Santa Claus himself will be present for pictures on Dec. 14, from 2:00 p.m. - 5:00p.m.

Camp at Bricks 4 Kidz Kids Night Out: Holiday Party : Dec. 13th from 6pm-9pm Kids Night Out: New Year Celebration : Dec. 27th from 6pm-9pm Camps: Bricks for God: Building with the Bible Dec. 23rd, 26th, 27th Winter Wonderland Camp Dec. 30th, 31st and Jan. 2nd, 3rd

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{Camp times are from 9am-12pm or 1pm-4pm}

W O N EN OP Call us @ (479) 268-4345

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Village on the Creeks

5208 Village Pkwy #5 Rogers

ricks 4 Kidz classes provide an extraordinary atmosphere for children, where we learn, we build, we playâ&#x20AC;Ś with LEGOÂŽ bricks. Programs are designed by engineers and architects with themes from space exploration to animal science, remote control mania, robots and even games such as Minecraft! Founded by an engineer and Mom to 2 kids who loved playing with LEGOS. Based on the principles of STEM. All models and curriculum were designed by architects and engineers!

Classes Designed to create a time of fun, learning and bonding. Using large soft blocks, DUPLOS, animals, songs and movement, this class will focus on fine and gross motor skills, shapes and colors, letters, numbers and how to be creative with LEGOS! Baby Bricks for ages 18-36 months. Jr. Engineers for ages 3-5 years. Home-school classes for ages 5-13.

Camps Fun, high-energy experience offering model building featuring working motors. Games and challenges using LEGO Bricks. Many specialty camps to choose from including Minecraft! Experience the Campers will face new challenges each day, building motorized Bricks 4 Kidz models.

After School Program Bricks 4 Kidz after-school classes build on the universal popularity of LEGO bricks to deliver a high quality of educational play. Kids construct a new model each week based on exciting themes from space to sports, amusement parks to animals.

Birthday Parties Give your child the best birthday party on the block! Using theme-based project kits, kids can play and learn using LEGO Brick Model Plans! Every house has LEGOS. Now kids can learn how to really use them to bring them to life!! And all while using engineering and architecture principles

Benefits of the Bricks 4 Kidz Program Introduce engineering and architecture principles and explore math and science concepts Enhance selfesteem by solving problems and completing projects Teach important classroom skills such as organization and following directions Social-emotional skills such as patience, communication and cooperation are exercised in the process of completing a build.

Improve fine-motor skills as children manipulate small components

Develop social/ emotional skills such as patience, teamwork and communication.

Completing a model nurtures process-oriented thinking and abstract though, challenging students to envision the project before it is complete.

Hands-on classes engage visual, auditory and kinesthetic learning styles.

Utilize multiple learning modalities to engage visual, kinesthetic and auditory learning styles

Students retain more of what they learn when lessons are delivered in the context of something that interest them like playing with LEGO Bricks!

Hands on class where students build machines, buildings, vehicles and other structures out of Lego bricks! Ask about our field trips where we go to your classroom!

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Flatline: by: Leslie Sisti

Hello, Peekaboo readers! I’m back and… drumroll please… no longer pregnant! Say hello to Caroline Rose, born October 14th at 8:30 a.m. on the dot. I know I’m partial, but come on… with those little cheeks? She is a

PEEKABOONWA.COM JOY and I’m honored to be her momma. In my short two weeks as a new mom, I’ve learned a few things, one of which is the importance of comfy shoes. When you’re required to spend a great deal of time hauling a baby carrier and carseat, and unloading/reloading a stroller, heels just don’t cut it. Well, I’m sure it’s possible to do this in heels, but I haven’t been crazy enough to try just yet. So, I thought it high time to add a few cozy flats to my shoe rotation. Now, don’t get me wrong, there is still plenty ‘o space in my closet for my beloved heels, but a few autumn flats can’t hurt, right? Favorites: Corso Como Fabia flat -- as chic as the name itself. Gale flat by French Sole in animal print. Darsi Black Suede flat, a luxe take on the standard ballet flat - from COACH Until next time, stay stylish, ladies! online at www.peekaboonwa.com under “Because I Said So”

Win, Lose, or Give Up by: Rhonda Bramell

Hello, my name is Rhonda… and I have a problem. I am too competitive. There, I said it.

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In this example, I’m afraid that I’ve pushed my children into playing sports before they are ready. In my defense, I come by it naturally. I come from a family of sportsloving, competitive people. Family

holidays aren’t complete without some type of competition or game. Even my 85+-year-old grandmother will challenge you to a foot race across the yard. I’m not kidding. So, it’s really no surprise that as soon as my children were old enough to join sports leagues, I ran to sign them up. In each case, my poor husband just rolled his eyes at me. In the most recent case, he rolled his eyes while giving me the “I told you so” look. For shame. We are wrapping up soccer season with the three-year-old twins. In ten games, we clocked about five minutes of playing time combined. They just flat out refused to get on the field. They had no problem suiting up, or even practicing, but playing a game was not happening. Here’s the ugly truth: I begged, pleaded and offered bribes if they would only get out on the field and run around. No dice. We went through the same thing with my older daughter at age four and five, with soccer and tee-ball, respectively. I had such high hopes that she’d get out there and have some super athletic abilities, or at least have some fun. Instead, she would stand in the middle of the field like she was glued to the ground. Every.

Single. Time. For this mama, there was no worse torture. I really thought it would be different with the twins. I thought it would be easier and more fun since they would have each other for support. What I have learned is that they just aren’t ready. Three and four (and arguably, five) is such a young age to expect them to excel, or even participate, in sports. I’m finally OK with it. I realize that one day not too far from now, I will have three teenagers. Those three teenagers will likely have us running all over town (or worse?) to watch the extra-curricular activities of their choosing. We will probably spend more time and money than I can imagine right now. They will probably win a lot, and lose a lot, but I know that one day they will find their “thing.” For now, I’m going to be glad to have my evenings and Saturdays at home taking long walks and playing ball in the yard with them… as long as I win.

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Noninvasive Prenatal Testing: Prenatal testing

with fewer risks by: Jason Hurt, MD, OB/GYN

5330 Willow Creek Dr, Springdale 479-582-9268 Creeksideobgyn.com

oninvasive prenatal testing, also known as noninvasive prenatal diagnosis, is a screening method for detecting certain specific chromosomal abnormalities in a developing baby. This testing modality can be performed as early as 10 weeks gestation, which is six weeks earlier than traditional second trimester testing. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recommends that women, regardless of maternal age, be offered prenatal assessment for certain chromosomal abnormalities. Noninvasive prenatal testing could help avoid other more invasive tests that might put your pregnancy at risk. Noninvasive prenatal testing is a sophisiticated blood test that examines fetal DNA in the maternal bloodstream to determine whether your baby is at risk of Downs Syndrome, extra sequence of chromosome 18 (trisomy 18), extra sequence of chromosome 13 (trisomy 13), or a sex chromosome abnormality such as Turner syndrome. Noninvasive prenatal testing can also be used to determine a babyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s sex and rhesus (Rh) blood type. Currently this testing is only available for women who have certain risk factors. Risk factors that might warrent such testing include: maternal age 35 years or older at delivery, fetal ultrasonographic findings indicating increased risk of a chromosomal abnormality, history of a prior pregnancy with a trisomy (such as trisomy 13, trisomy 18, or Down syndrome), positive test result for chromosomal abnormality in the second trimester, or if you have a Rh negative blood type. Noninvasive prenatal testing is much more sensitive and specific than traditional first and second trimester screening.

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This testing offers advantages that could help women who have certain risk factors avoid invasive testing, such as chorionic villus sampling (CVS) or amniocentesis. Chorionic villus sampling is an invasive procedure where a small sample of the developing placenta is removed for genetic testing. An amniocentesis is an invasive test in which a small sample of amniotic fluid is removed from the uterus for testing. Chorionic villus sampling and amniocentesis both carry a slight risk of miscarriage. Noninvasive prenatal testing poses no physical risks for you or your baby. During noninvasive prenatal testing, a small sample of maternal blood is taken and sent to lab, as in other blood tests performed during pregnancy. Typically test results are available within two weeks. Although noninvasive prenatal testing might cause anxiety, it might help you avoid the need for more invasive tests, treatment or monitoring during your pregnancy. Noninvasive prenatal testing has great potential for diagnosing some chromosomal abnormalities, keep in mind that it doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t screen for all genetic conditions. If youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re interested in noninvasive prenatal testing, talk to your health care provider about its availabiltiy. Your health care provider or a genetic counselor will explain the results of nonivasive prenatal testing. Keep in mind that regardless of the results of noninvasive prenatal testing, if you have risk factors that suggest your baby might be at increased risk of a chromosomal condition you have the option of undergoing more invasive tests such as amniocentesis or chorionic villus sampling. Follow Dr. Hurt on Facebook at www.facebook.com/jasonhurtmd

Season of Giving

SOS: Support Our Survivors “To have a victim say... Now I know I can have a life again. I am a survivor.’ is an everyday miracle we are blessed to be a part of.” - Anne Shelley, Executive Director, NWA Rape Crisis Center

“Dare to reach out your hand into the darkness, to pull another hand into the light” – Norman Rice

calls. A common reaction is that they feel completely alone,” states executive director Anne Shelley. “We do our work with the mantra and the promise: Because You’re Not Alone.” NWARCC makes this promise to the community through its core commitments:

magine being at your darkest, most broken moment. Now imagine at that moment, you become shrouded in fear, hurt, shame, and anxiety. Now imagine that you feel completely alone.

Because You’re Not Alone... and every 2 minutes someone is sexually assaulted in our country, we are here every minute of every day to assist survivors in Northwest Arkansas through personal advocacy and group support.

The feeling you have conjured is just a minor glimpse of what most survivors experience after being sexually assaulted. Now imagine in that broken moment of darkness you find a safe haven of healing and hope—a place where compassionate, caring people surround you in kindness and stand with you every step of the way as you find your own road path to the light. No matter how long it takes. Because you’re not alone. For 31 years, the Northwest Arkansas Rape Crisis Center (NWARCC) has made it their mission to be that safe haven of healing and hope, offering FREE comprehensive services to any adult survivor of sexual assault while constantly working toward a safer future for all through education and awareness. “Each year, through our individual advocacy, therapeutic counseling, support groups and forensic exam clinic, we work with about 1,000 new clients who have survived sexual violence and answer 325 hotline

Because You’re Not Alone... in having heard the myths and misconceptions about rape, we educate our youth, communities and officials about the facts of sexual assault, so that we may all be better advocates in preventing sexual assault. Because You’re Not Alone... in wanting to make a positive difference in the lives of survivors, we invite you to become a Volunteer Ally and join us in our advocacy work. Because You’re Not Alone... in not knowing what to do if you are raped, our advocates will be with you through every step of the medical and legal process— answering your questions and providing emotional support. Because You’re Not Alone... our hearts and our doors will stay open to support you. “It is a true gift to witness the light coming back into a victim’s eyes as they become more empowered on their road to healing,” Shelley notes. “To have a victim say, as one young woman did just this week, ‘Now I know I can have a life again. I am a survivor.’ is an everyday miracle we are blessed to be a part of.” Every day the staff and volunteers at the Rape Crisis Center see the strength it takes to pick up the phone and ask for help. They witness the bravery it takes to go through a forensic exam after being assaulted. They see the courage it takes for someone to face their perpetrator (frequently a friend or family member) in court. They work side-by side with colleagues in law enforcement and healthcare who dedicate themselves to helping victims find their strength. Through every

step, we work to support our survivors,” Shelley adds. “We hope that others will join us in supporting our survivors and helping them move from the darkness back into the light.”

friends and family to donate to NWARCC in your honor, instead of buying you more stuff that you won’t wear or use. Donating can make you feel so much better than buying.

Show Up to 1 in 3 – the Concert that Cares: Join NWARCC for a fun evening featuring the awardwinning band Big Bad Gina at 6:30 p.m. on Saturday, January 18th in Bentonville. Tickets are $25 and are available at www.nwarapecrisis.org (click on Events) or by calling 479-445-6448, sponsorship opportunities available.

n this season of thanks and giving, the Northwest Arkansas Rape Crisis Center invites the community to join its SOS: Support Our Survivors Campaign to help insure that these important services of healing and hope remain strong. Here are just a few of the ways that you can give: Online: Join the SOS: Support Our Survivors Campaign! Make a donation to NWA Rape Crisis Center at www.nwarapecrisis.org.

Pass the Plate: Engage your place of worship, school or civic organization to donate to NWARCC as part of its commitment to our community. Organize your own fundraising effort on behalf of NWARCC and share the joy of giving!

Old-Fashioned: Find it exhilarating to write a check? Then mail one to NWARCC, 2367 N. Green Acres Road, Suite 1, Fayetteville, AR 72703.

Corporate Giving: Ask your employer to support NWARCC. If they are making year-end charitable donations, be sure they are including NWARCC!

Give the Gift of NWARCC: In lieu of giving a holiday gift, make a donation to NWARCC in honor of your friends and family members. NWARCC will send them a card acknowledging the impact that will be made in their name. Add NWARCC to Your Gift Wish List: Ask your

Volunteer: NWARCC needs volunteers to help answer calls on our hotline, supporting survivors through forensic exams, and visiting survivors in hospital emergency rooms and police stations. To apply to become a Volunteer Ally, click on VOLUNTEER at www.nwarapecrisis.org.

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Live Beautifully at Any Age

Put Yourself Back on Your To-Do List

479.571.3100

hile the holiday season is one of the most joyous times of the year, it can also be the most frenzied. Shopping, cooking, entertaining, gift wrapping, decorating…our to-do lists seem to get longer as the days grow shorter! Why not put yourself at the top of your to-do list for a change? At Northwest Arkansas Center for Surgery. Dr. Heath Stacey and staff are here to help! Treat yourself to a rejuvenating aesthetic treatment or body contouring procedure to add some special “sparkle” to your holidays. Several recent studies suggest that people who undergo aesthetic enhancements - either through plastic surgery or less invasive procedures - not only are satisfied with how they look, but also feel better about themselves, too. And the other studies affirm what plastic surgeons have known all along – that patients who undergo appropriate plastic surgery feel good about themselves. No time? No problem! You may be thinking, “I can’t be sidelined right now with a lengthy recovery. The holidays are right around the corner.” With today’s advances in skin-tightening technology, dermal fillers, and other low- and no-downtime procedures, you can be looking your youthful best in virtually no time. You’ve dieted. You’ve worked out. And you’ve lost weight. But there’s still an area or two of stubborn body fat that just won’t budge despite your best efforts. And that special holiday outfit would fit SO much better if those areas were just…gone.

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Luckily, with the array of kinder, gentler body contouring options now available, you can spotreduce localized areas of unwanted body fat faster and more easily than ever before. Dr. Stacey uses the latest advanced technique in liposuction, Power Assisted Liposuction. Power assisted liposuction is performed using a special cannula that uses tiny, rapid vibrations to break up fat cells so that they can be suctioned out of the body. By using this technique, Dr. Stacey is able to remove more fat in a shorter period of time, which leads to enhanced results, a safer procedure, and faster recovery, so that you are able to get on with your holiday festivities. Dr. Stacey and his staff of experienced registered nurse injectors, Annie and Leah, offer many different minimally invasive procedure options in order to get you ready for big holiday gatherings. Popular procedures of these types include Botox Cosmetic or Xeomin injections, dermal fillers (such as Juvederm, Belotero, Radiesse and Sculptra), and light chemical peels or laser treatments. These non-surgical treatments provide dramatic results, with little or no downtime involved, for patients wanting to look their best at big holiday parties, events and family gatherings. Most of these treatments offer immediate results! In this season of gift giving, give yourself the present of self-care. It’s not being selfish - rather, it’s an investment in your own well being. The staff at Northwest Arkansas Center for Plastic Surgery is here to help your achieve your aesthetic goals. In addition, gift certificates are available for purchase.

New Location suppliers will be present, including: Botox, Juvederm, Sculptra, Radiesse, Xeomin, Latisse, Obagi Skin Care Products, Ulthera, and Lumenis Laser. Additionally, a percentage of all profits from sales the For that new or expecting mom, we are the exclusive night of the open house will go to benefit retailer in Arkansas of MamaMio skincare products! Hope Cancer Resources, a local charitable For that man in your life, 6 quick treatments of organization. Some gift ideas for the ones you love include facial treatments from one of our amazing aestheticians, Krissa and Angela, laser hair removal with our quick and virtually pain-free laser, or any of our wonderful skincare products.

laser hair removal and no more worrying about that stubborn hair on the back of his neck (and the laser treats folliculitis, too). And for your best girlfriend, how about treating her to a facial, or, better yet, some Botox or Xeomin? D. Heath Stacey, MD and Northwest Arkansas Center for Plastic Surgery opened the doors to a new, stateof-the-art clinic on October 14. The new facility is located at 137 W. Van Asche Loop in Fayetteville, directly behind the former location. The 4,500-square-foot facility includes a vaulted lobby with picture windows, four general patient exam rooms, a state of the art procedure room, an aesthetic room for spa treatments, in addition to a conference room and other administrative offices. The relocation will accommodate growth, and also offers a spa-like atmosphere for patients’ privacy and comfort.

A grand opening celebration will be held Thursday, January 16 from noon until 7 p.m. and will include event-only pricing on products and procedures, hourly door prize giveaways, refreshments and hors d’oeuvres and tours of the new building. Representatives from all major

“When we opened NWACPS in 2010, it was our vision to eventually build a plastic surgery clinic building that would align with the excellent quality of care that we provide each and every patient. We are excited to be able to offer an enhanced patient experience, and we believe that our clinic space is now the best there is to offer. We see this as an investment in our patients and their comfort in this amazing facility, “ said Dr. Stacey. D. Heath Stacey, MD, is a board certified plastic surgeon and a member of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons. In 2010 Dr. Stacey and his wife, Adriana, founded Northwest Arkansas Center for Plastic Surgery, a full service plastic and reconstructive surgery clinic. He approaches each patient with individualized care and customizes each surgery according to the patient’s surgical goals.

Visit www.nwacenterforplasticsurgery. com or call 479.571.3100 for more information. Call us today to schedule a complimentary consultation… and let’s decide together how to put your best face forward this holiday season.

Shop SMART TOYS for the Holidays.

It’s even a Junior Olympic sport now called Sport his holiday season I want to share Stacking. Cost varies with size and number of cups with you some favorite toys. No, not in the set. my adult favorites! I like playing with these kids’ toys as much as kids do.

Wedgits—These

are the most requested blocks at our center. Purchase a basic set of large-size Wedgits for your toddler or a basic regular size set, or even two, for your child who’s four or older. And for your older child, go all out and get a set with wheels, extenders, and mats on which to build. This will take him or her into their teenage years. Yes, girls love these too. And don’t forget the Wedgits Design Cards for those four and up. This is where the fun comes in. Working to build the designs shown will develop your child’s brain skills—and yours too—of attention, visual processing, planning, logic and reasoning. You can even use a stopwatch to encourage faster completion, and increase attention and processing speed. Price ranges from $19 - $45 depending on size of set. You can’t go wrong with these.

Blink—This fast-paced card game for 2 players is

one of my favorites because of what I see when we take it on the road to events and teach it to children. While they’re learning, I easily beat them in the game; then they catch on and are soon beating me with my aging processing speed. Blink is great for building memory, attention, and processing speed in children ages 7 and up. It’s a great stocking stuffer at prices that range from just over $5 and up to $10, depending on the seller and whether or not cards are in a tin or a cardboard box.

Speed Stack Cups

—This fun, simple game is a favorite of boys who come to our events. They have fun and compete while building speed, planning, and eye-hand coordination. Set size varies for these plastic cups with holes for air to flow through so it doesn’t slow down stacking the cups.

Pick and Draw Cards

—I’m always happy to promote local artists, and this set of cards was developed by Rich Davis, an illustrator of children’s books who lives in Siloam Springs. They’re designed to teach children drawing much like the how-to-draw books. However, with Pick and Draw Cards, they’re drawing cartoon characters in a fun way as they develop visual processing, memory, planning, and creative thinking. A great stocking stuffer at $10 or pair with a pad of drawing paper and colored pencils for your budding artist. If you ever have the opportunity to see Rich demonstrate his Pick and Draw Cards, be sure to go and take your children. He’s great! Meanwhile, the cards are available at: www.pickanddraw.com

Logic Links

—This one was a winner when displayed during First Friday as a toy to develop math skills, specifically the logic skills needed for math. In this game, players follow a series of clues to learn where to place colored chips to solve one of the 166 puzzles that become increasingly more difficult. The Beginner puzzles are designed to challenge children as young as 6 years, and I’ve seen adults challenged by the Advanced and Expert puzzles. This game for one or more players builds logic, sequential thinking, deductive reasoning, visual processing, and you’ve gotta keep paying attention to solve the puzzle. A stocking stuffer at $10, Logic Links will keep your family challenged throughout the holiday season. So when you head out to the toy store or get on-line to order, check out these toys and others that develop brain skills. Get something that’s fun and good for your child, something they’ll keep on playing with, maybe for years to come. And if you want to take a look at these before buying, visit us at LearningRx in Bentonville where you can play with the toys and also pick up a handout with other games and toys that build brain skills.

Call 479-715-6870 or email smiltich@ learningrx.net to arrange a visit.

72 December 2013

Suzanne Miltich, Ph.D. Center Director, LearningRx

At a Glance At a Glance

ARTS and MUSIC

Imagine Studios (Pg. 17) (479) 619-6085 imagine-studios.com

BANKS

First Security Bank (Pg.30) www.fsbank.com

CHILDCARE/NANNY SERVICES

Bright Haven (Pg. 26) (479) 717-2344 The Kid’s Studio (Pg. 31) (479) 268-6675 www.thekidsstudio.com Larson’s Language Center (Pg. 52) (479) 633-9900 www.larsonslanguagecenter.com Mary’s Little Lambs (Pg 25) (479) 273-1011 Seeking Sitters (Pg. 45) (501) 203-3097 www.seekingsitters.com

CLOTHING / FURNITURE

3 Monkeys (Pg. 78) (479) 271-0701 Northwest Arkansas Mall (Pg. 42) northwestarkansasmall.com Terra Tots (Pg. 57) (479) 587-TOTS www.terra-tots.com

DANCE/CHEER/TUMBLE/STRETCH

Academy of Dance (Pg. 28) (479) 966-0579 ; theacadademyofdanceandmusic.com Aspire (Pg. 19) (479) 464-9993 aspiregymnasticsacademy.com The Little Gym (Pg. 37) (479) 636-5566 tlgrogersar.com

DENTIST / ORTHODONTIST

Dr. Brown - Orthodontics Exclusively (Pg. 59) www.drbrownbraces.com Smile Shoppe Pediatric Dentistry (Pg. 4) (479) 631-6377

DERMATOLOGY

EDUCATION

Homeschool Tuesdays (Pg 34) (479) 935-9992 Walnut Farm Montessori School (Pg. 79) (479) 271-9424 walnutfarmmontessori.com

FAMILY ENTERTAINMENT

Fast Lane Entertainment (Pg 9) (479) 659-0999 www.fastlanebowl.com Mad Science (Pg. 61) (479) 444-0303 www.madscience.org/nwa Malco (Pg. 67) www.malco.com The Party Place (Pg. 48) thepartyplacear.com (479 ) 230-9494 Rogers Historical Museum (Pg. 73) rogersarkansas.com/museum Starlight Skatium (Pg. 69) (479) 444-STAR Walton Arts Center (Pg. 75) www.waltonartscenter.org

Our elf Criddle playing a little Angry Birds - Ashley Rust

Hull Dermatology and Aesthetics (Pg 21) (479) 254-9662 www.hullderm.com NWA Center for Plastic Surgery (Pg. 2) (479) 571-3100 nwacenterforplasticsurgery.com

FITNESS

Fayetteville Athletic Club (Pg. 64) (479) 587-0500 www.fayac.com Terra Tots - Terra Fit (Pg. 57) (479) 587-TOTS www.terra-tots.com

FOOD / DRINK

Cherry Berry (Pg. 53) (479) 876-8085 Mariachi’s (Pg. 42) (479) 718-0002 TCBY (Pg. 3) (479) 636-8229 (TCBY)

HAIR / NAIL / SALON

Mommy and Me Nail Salon (Pg. 26) (479) 903-7033 Pigtails and Crewcuts (Pg. 21) (479) 935-4121

HEALTH AND WELLNESS

Tate HealthCare (Pg. 51) (479) 271-6511 / tatehealthcare.com WellQuest (Pg. 74) wellquestmedical.com (479) 845-0880

HOME and YARD

Arkansas Relay (Pg. 8) www.arkansasrelay.com Carpet Smart (Pg. 39) (479) 750-0117 / (866) 795-8520 Encore Flooring and Building Products (Pg. 29) encoregroupusa.com (479) 361-8900 Hero K-9 Consulting - Dog Training (Pg. 33) hero-k9.com 1-855-Dogs-Rule

INSURANCE

Delta Dental (Pg. 43) deltadentalar.com MOMS Direct (Pg. 11) 1-800-461-5257 www.moms-direct.com

SURROGACY SERVICES

Gifted Journeys (Pg. 80) (818) 505-3026 www.giftedjourneys.com

THERAPY

Dr. Thomas Terry Lawson (Pg. 47) (479) 444-1400 www.terrylawson.com Tate HealthCare (Pg. 51) (479) 271-6511

JEWELRY AND GIFTS

LEARNING CENTER

WOMEN’S HEALTH

David Adams (Pg. 37) davidadams.com

Brick by Brick (Pg. 22) (479) 582-LEGO Bricks 4 Kidz (Pg. 57, 60-61) (479) 268-4345 Gideon Math and Reading Center (Pg. 25) (479) 521-6500 gideonmathandreading.com Happy Kids Learning Academy (Pg. 69) (479) 621-6126 Kumon (Pg. 77) www.kumon.com Larson’s Language Center (Pg. 52) (479) 633-9900 www.larsonslanguagecenter.com Learning Rx (Pg. 73) Fay: (479) 695-1234 and Bentonville: (479) 715-6870

Creekside Center for Women (Pg. 7) (479) 582-9268 Life Spring Women’s Health (Pg. 35) (479) 271-0005 lifespringhealthcare.com Parkhill Clinic for Women (Pg 22) (479) 521-4433 Siloam Springs Women’s Center (Pg. 64) (479) 524-9312 siloamwomenscenter.com

ULTRASOUND / BABY SHOWER

Baby Face and More (Pg. 63) www.babyfaceandmore.com ; (479) 270-7391

MARTIAL ARTS ATA (Pg. 41)

Bentonville: (479) 273-1212 / Fay: (479) 443-5425

OPTOMETRIST

Pediatric Vision Development Center (Pg. 32) nwavisiontherapy.com (479) 795-1411

PEDIATRICIAN

Best Start Pediatric Clinic (Pg. 15) (479) 575-9359 Bentonville Pediatric Clinic (Pg. 38) (479) 273-5437 The Children’s Clinic at Springdale (Pg.5) (479) 751-2522 Harvey Pediatrics (Pg. 53, 67) (479) 254-1100 ; harveypediatrics.com MANA NWA Pediatric Clinic (Pg. 18) Wellness: (479) 443-3471 Urgent: (479) 442-7322

PLASTIC SURGEON

NWA Center for Plastic Surgery (Pg. 2) (479) 571-3100 www.nwacenterforplasticsurgery.com

PRESCHOOL/ PRE-K

Bright Haven (Pg. 26) (479) 717-2344 Happy Kids Learning Academy (Pg. 69) (479) 621-6126 The Kid’s Studio (Pg. 31) (479) 268-6675 www.thekidsstudio.com Larson’s Language Center (Pg. 52) (479) 633-9900 www.larsonslanguagecenter.com Mary’s Little Lambs (Pg. 25) (479) 273-1011 Walnut Farm Montessori School (Pg. 79) (479) 271-9424 walnutfarmmontessori.com