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Claire Elizabeth Dennis by: Lisa Dennis
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Team Trevor by: Lisa Trumbo
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SoNA Presents: The Snowman: A Family Concert
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Fatherhood at 40 by: Ben Smith
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Gift Guide 2014 by: the Peekaboo Elves
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Morgan’s Miracle by: Lacie Barens
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Winter Fashion for Kids by: Tara Gibson
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Eat and Sleep Well by: Dr. Thomas Terry Lawson
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Be Kids: Be Moved to Action by: Jennifer Cristofaro
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Amazeum for All
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20 Things to Do in December
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Dad’s View with Ben Lacy
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The Affordable Care Act with Northwest Health System
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The Christmas Gift by: Stephanie Straight
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Olivia Mae Gibson, 12 months, of Rogers, AR Cover Photo by: Maura Dawn Photography
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is the season for making countless memories you will cherish forever! The hours leading up to those photogenic moments, though, are just as important as the moment itself. You see, every photo on our mantle and every picture in the albums sitting on our coffee table has a story behind them. Not just the who, what, where, or when, but the “What bribes were made to get those smiles?” or “How much arguing between the kids occurred before they finally sat still long enough to take the picture?” ‘Tis the season for overbooking weekends, RSVP-ing “yes” to every invite and E-vite, and the promise of making homemade gifts for friends and teachers when you really only have time to order something online with express shipping. All of these things we try to do are, in theory, great and admirable. The problem is, they often come equipped with intense feelings of stress. The worst part about these over-committed days, though, is that they have a trickle-down effect. That stress, anxiety, and rushing around have the greatest and most lasting impact on our children--the little people we are doing all of the activities for in the first place. Just last week, I had the bright idea to wake the kids up early to take them to breakfast before school. As I walked up the stairs to wake them, I imagined them giving me a big hug, jumping out of bed with joy, getting their clothes on, and hopping in the car all ready for an extra-special morning they would glow about for weeks. Instead, I literally had to pull the covers from my daughter and beg her to get dressed while saying, repeatedly, “Okay, your choices are either a special breakfast this morning or an extra 30 minutes of sleep and a bowl of cereal in the car. Choose!” She finally decided breakfast was worth getting up for... mostly because she was already awake and couldn’t go back to sleep anyway. Door number 2: My boy. Pulling him from his bed was easier than Ava, but getting him to stop building with his Legos and playing with his frog, made the spare minutes I thought we had tick away. In the end, we only had enough time to do a quick drive-thru breakfast and a “You have 5 minutes to eat or you will be tardy!” followed by an, “I am going to be late anyway, Mom. Why did we even do this today?” from Ava.
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photo credit: Created For You Photography
So... memory-making experience fail. Fortunately, no one was late and their bellies were full, so the goal was still met, even if it was not exactly how I had imagined. So, this year I have resolved to taking a much more relaxed approach to the beautiful chaos. I want to attempt to make each part of the experience into a happy memory. If I have dishes to do and laundry to put away before guests arrive, but the kids want a Christmas story read instead, then I will take the opportunity to turn that into a special memory for them and me. After all, I can guarantee I can’t remember a specific time I did dishes or laundry, or do I look back on it fondly. If the kids want to wear pajamas to a fancy dress party, then that is their choice, and the stress can be applied to things that actually matter. I don’t want them looking back at a fight over something so frivolous. I want them to look back at how proud they were that they got to dress themselves, and how everyone was in a good mood and had a great time. This year, I want to look back on all the photos taken and not shudder remembering how stressful the moments leading up to, or following, them were. I want to look at my Facebook photos and remember that I made the decision to make as many memories as possible, like an extra book before bed or a secret dessert before dinner. This month I will not focus on how many things I can get onto our calendar, but will instead make it about turning the little things into cherishable memories.
Merry Christmas a nd Happy Holidays from the Peeka boo Fa mily!
Claire Elizabeth Dennis
gifted hands brilliant mind
Kind Heart
h e a lt h y .Died from a food-borne illness By Lisa Dennis
Amazing.
That is the word that comes to mind when I think of Claire’s life, cut short after only 14 years. Claire Elizabeth was not just my daughter, but my best friend. For my entire life, all I ever wanted was to be a mom. Claire made my dream come alive when she entered the world on June 22, 2000. She weighed only 6 pounds, 2 ounces and had a head full of dark hair and olive skin. She was a perfect, tiny, beautiful baby. Her early childhood was full of laughter and joy. She crossed all milestones, not just early, but significantly early. She was talking in full paragraphs when other babies her age were just forming words and phrases. She would crawl to the piano, pull herself up, and dabble on the keys when others were simply rolling over and sitting up. By the time she was three, she was like a little grown-up--not just cognitively mature, but socially as well. Over the next couple of years, her musical ability flourished,
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as she was able to play ballads by ear. By around the age of 5, she began composing her own music and memorizing the songs. I felt early on that God was going to use her for something amazing. In her elementary years, she entered contests with her music compositions and won several awards locally, statewide, and nationally. She was reading novels in kindergarten and loving it. She played soccer and took dance and gymnastics on and off, but music and knowledge were always her passion. She would play dolls, but only to put them in an imaginary hospital. She always wanted to be a pediatric researcher in medicine to help find cures for diseases. In fact, she used to read and keep issues of PEEKABOO to study about the diseases children had that she wished to cure! She even had a current issue of PEEKABOO on her nightstand at the time she passed away. In school just last year Claire wrote, “Another thing I’m obsessed with is pediatric cancer! I really want to cure it one
day--no child deserves to die at the beginning of their life!” Sadly, she won’t be able to cure cancer; she was taken to be an angel at the beginning of her own life. By the time Claire was 6, she was the big sister to three younger siblings. Alexander, Caroline, and Mary Grace were all born in a span of 35 months! Claire was the biggest help with all three of them because of her mature demeanor. She helped bathe, dress, or give them bottles when I needed her help. She was always coming up with activities outside, or dance contests, or ways to build tree houses with her siblings. She was their fearless, compassionate leader. To her father, she was a best friend as well. They could talk about stimulating and complex topics. Their bond was deep, and they were two of a kind. They would listen to music together and share new artists or performances they found interesting. He also misses her dearly. Claire’s middle and junior high years consisted, again, of all-A honor rolls, pre-AP classes, cotillion, and the achievement of first chair violin in the school orchestra. Her piano skills took off into a master concert level, all by ear. Additionally, she took gymnastics, and made the cheer team for Fulbright Junior High. She took the ACT in 7th grade and scored so high that she could have gotten in most public universities at the age of 13. She wanted to go to Harvard or Stanford, and I know she would have made it. If there was ever a goal, she would work hard and achieve it. Not only was she truly gifted, but she also had that drive and desire to
truly achieve her dreams with her talent. Although she was very accomplished, she never boasted about anything. She was truly humble. Only recently have people heard of her musical skills or intellect. Claire was modest about such things, which was her Christ-like character at work. She was kind to the weak and had charity in her heart. She would have adopted or rescued all the cats in Northwest Arkansas if we had let her! She was a major reason we adopted a family of four homeless cats (mom, dad, son, and daughter kitties) from a local shelter. Her favorite of the four, Holly, still sits each day at Claire’s bedroom door, waiting for her to come home. Another defining trait of Claire was family. We were always a different kind of family; we even called ourselves “the sensational six.” We could be seen taking family walks after dinner around the neighborhood, and weekends were mostly about family fun. We fiercely guard family time and purposefully keep our evenings free, without excessive practices or extracurricular activities, because too much distraction can separate a family. The younger children play recreational sports, but no traveling teams. We all value each other and are each other’s best friends. We raised Claire in God’s word, and we are so glad we did. Faith and family have always been our top priority, and we have no regrets. Really, what is more
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important in the big scheme of things? Even when Claire would go with friends to various activities she would make comments that she wanted to bring her family there. Of course, while Claire spent a ton of time with us, she was also very social with her friends. She had the best of friends, and they had the best of laughs. She could be seen every day getting off the bus laughing. If there was a snow day, she would be sad because she missed her friends and her teachers. She considered her teachers her friends! She treasured her friends. In fact, I have received so many cards and testimonies about how Claire changed their lives and how they miss their friendly leader. Their lives are changed, both by how she lived her life and her priorities. Some teens say they don’t take life for granted anymore, are being kinder with their family, trying to spend more time with them, and making the most of it--like Claire. For her friends, the lunch table is simply not the same anymore. Claire’s leadership ensured no one was left out or was missing. She was someone who united people. She was loyal and trustworthy. I heard of one girl who came to Claire’s funeral and said Claire was the only person who was ever nice to her... all year long. I hear stories like that over and over--how she reached out to the outsiders, to make sure everyone felt important. Love. That’s how Claire lived her life. Loving people and exhibiting joy in everything. Our entire family life was rocked to the core in August of 2014. We had just taken a family vacation to Florida where we got to spend time at the beach that Claire loved so much. We are so blessed we had that last week of family bonding and making memories with her. We had no way to know it would be our last trip as a family, and we treasure those memories and all of our last pictures together. When our plane landed, we had no idea what was in store. Over the next day or two, Claire started complaining of stomach pain and said she felt like she had a stomach virus. She worsened, so I took her to the doctor, and they sent her straight to the ER because they thought she might have appendicitis and need surgery. Since the X-rays showed swelling in her abdomen, they wanted her airlifted to the Arkansas Children’s Hospital in Little Rock to be with pediatric specialists. When the helicopter landed, the doctors mentioned she seemed to have a food-borne illness. She was given IV fluids and heavy pain medication, and they were running all kinds of test and scans. The doctors felt strongly that she had ingested a rare form of bacteria called E. coli o157, which cannot be treated with antibiotics. The E. coli was damaging her internal tissues and resulted in a syndrome known as hemolytic uremic syndrome, or HUS. Eventually, she was moved to PICU, as her blood counts were not good, and her kidneys began failing, which required dialysis. Not once did Claire complain or cry. I,
however, was a basket case, and Claire would reassure me, “Mom, everything is okay.” Even the doctors were optimistic at this point. Claire would joke and make all the doctors we met laugh. They would say, “She is a witty one; I can tell she is a leader at the house.” Claire was in such pain, but she was so strong and a fighter, like always. By the 7th day, her chest was hurting severely. After an X-ray, the doctors thought it was from the fluid that was on her lungs, so a specialist was helping her with exercises. She blew into those instruments with all her might, and she never wavered. Finally, one doctor thought to run an echocardiogram on her heart. It turned out that the pain she was feeling was her heart failing. Her shortness of breath and other symptoms were the result of her heart only functioning at 15 percent because fluid was compressing her heart. We went from total optimism to the news that we might lose her in a matter of minutes. They rushed her to surgery, while Claire was still smiling and trying to make the doctors and nurses laugh... ever Claire the optimist. During the procedure, Claire suffered cardiac arrest and had to be given CPR for over 30 minutes. Afterwards, she was put on an ECMO machine to function for her heart. We saw her all hooked up to
a ventilator and ECMO, and I still can’t describe the torture. After a seemingly endless vigil, the doctors grimly told us Claire wouldn’t survive, and we had to make to most difficult decision of our lives--to turn off the machines and let our beautiful, gifted daughter go. That day, August 8th, the sky turned black and lightning and thunder rolled in. I know God grieved with us. My husband and I still had to endure the long drive back from Little Rock to Rogers, without Claire, without our oldest child. What was left to do was still unimaginable as we had to tell our three other precious children the news. I will never forget the wailing sounds of their voices telling them their sister was in Heaven.
Claire was a gift to this earth.
She lived full throttle. She was exceptional in everything she did. She was a loyal friend. She was inspiring to everyone who encountered her.
Her love for Jesus was felt by everyone she met.
She never wavered in her love for others. Her determination to not sit still, and to accomplish anything and everything will continue for all the lives she touched.
She would want everyone to know life is short and to live every day like it was your last. The last thing she told me before she was rushed off to the ER was, “I’m ready.” Claire has taught us there are no guarantees in this frail life, and we should make the most of each day. Only God knows our path, and we can’t control our life like we think we can. Before this, Claire was the picture of health. All her life we took her to get immunizations right on time, and she had all the necessary checkups and physicals. She always had the top rated car seats for safety, and I would not put her in nurseries due to germs. As she got older, she still was very health conscious, trained with the cheer team, and tried to eat vegan. She used sanitizer on every object possible. She would not even swim in the lake or hotel pools due to possible bacteria. She washed all her fruits and veggies at home. When we were on vacation, she ate at restaurants just like everyone else, except she died from it. Our daughter was killed by something simple and essential, something we all do every day. It wasn’t cancer, a car wreck, or any other disease we fear. We will probably never know where the E. coli came from, and there are currently no treatments to cure it. Claire became a rare statistic and a daily reminder of the fragile and precious life we are given. The community of Northwest Arkansas, as well as many others across the U.S. who have heard of Claire’s tragedy, has been overwhelmingly kind. Words cannot express our gratitude for all the support we have received during this tragedy. Claire was so loved. We have received hundreds of cards, gifts, and letters. We have had dinners brought to us since August that
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In Claire’ s own words about herself... She drew this picture, then explained it:
Positive boat on a negative sea
I try to stay positive even if everyone else wants to be negative
Dominoes
I want to start a positive change in this world with my leadership qualities
Deep Sea
I am a very deep thinker and serious person sometimes! No one knows what animals live at the bottom of the ocean, so I made some predictions.
Light bulbs
I stand out in a crowd and am really an out-ofthe-ordinary, once-in-alifetime kind of person
Eraser
I’m not afraid to make mistakes, because that’s how you learn
Eighth notes
I LOVE music and have been pretty obsessed with my piano since I was two!
Bird
Birds see everything from a totally different perspective. I want to be able to stop looking at things so close up and capture the bigger picture.
Cross
Pencil
I’m in control of my life- its up to me what I write in the book of my life
I love Jesus and want to become really close to Him
Tie dye
I love all people, no matter what they look like, because they were made perfectly by God.
Pediatric cancer ribbon
Another thing I’m obsessed with... pediatric cancer! I really want to cure it one day--no child deserves to die at the beginning of their life!
Compass
I lead people in the right direction
Shoot for the stars
I want to dream big and accomplish amazing things. Hopefully, if I shoot for the stars I’ll land on the moon!
Claire’ s goals written by Claire:
“Don’t try be to someone I’m not. Don’t change to impress people. Just be me. Be nice to the weak and stand up for what you know is right, even if you’re standing alone. Give every class my all. No procrastinating. Don’t be afraid to ask.”
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Claire Elizabeth Dennis still continue till this day. The love lets us know we are not going through this alone. Claire has so many grieving for her loss right alongside with us--her teachers, friends, and family. Claire’s cheer squad, school, faculty, and orchestra have honored her this year in multiple ways, and we are appreciative. A fund was set up in her name at our church to replace the grand piano that she used to play in the chapel, and the exact amount needed for a new piano was raised. Amazing. Thank you to the hundreds who donated. In the future, we plan on starting a new foundation in Claire’s memory to do the good work Claire would do if she could be here with us. We have this unimaginable, evil pain from losing Claire. Even though I know where she is-- in Heaven-- we want her here now. Every day, every minute that passes gets worse and worse because it is more time that passes without her on Earth with us. We know she is happy and at peace with her Lord, but we still ache with the pain of separation. Yes, we continue to be the best parents to our little three, but we have a void for our firstborn that will never be filled. We will continue to show up for school functions and other activities for our family. We might cry a tsunami due to a reminder of our hurt, but we will fight the good fight, love our littles and find joy in them. We take comfort knowing Claire is in Heaven, but we earthly humans want her back. It is unnatural to lose a child; so many dreams are gone. There is an empty seat at our table for each meal. School days and activities are forever changed. Holiday celebrations will never be the same. Christmas will involve seeing her handmade ornaments and hanging her stocking, knowing not to fill hers. Her room with all her things still sits quietly. Her piano is silent. Her siblings cry for her daily, missing their life partner and leader. What happened to Claire is not God’s fault; we live in a sinful world. This world is full of brokenness that began with the fall of Adam and Eve. The only lasting encouragement after a loss like this comes from Jesus alone who tells us, “Yes, I am coming soon.” Our faith is in God and his son Jesus that through His promises of eternity in Heaven there will one day be no more brokenness, sin, disease, or goodbyes--and we can’t wait! Although the number of years for Claire Elizabeth on the earth was few, the impressions she left on others were far-reaching. Claire was a blessing from God. She carried out her mission in this life to brighten each day by her shining example of our Lord’s love for others. I know when she took her first breath in Heaven, she heard these beautiful words from her Savior, “Well done, my good and faithful servant.”
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Team Trevor
STory by: Lisa Trumbo
Photo by: Allison Rodgers Photography
y son, Trevor, was the kind of child people were drawn to interact with. He had a quirky nature and the ability to make you laugh by just observing his mannerisms. Many would say that he was a mama’s boy--and, boy, did he hold his mama’s heart! Trevor was the sweetest and most easygoing baby. These traits only increased as he grew. He loved playing with his brothers one minute, then fought like crazy with them the next. When Hayes was born, Trevor instantly knew that this little “bundle of joy” was going to be his next major competitor… and, boy, was he right! Trevor loved playing with trains, Hot Wheel cars, and pretty much anything his brothers had at the moment. Soon after our middle son, Trevor, turned 3, he started complaining to me that, according to him, his “hair hurt.” My ‘mom translation’ was he was complaining of a series of painful headaches. Since his big brother had just finished a bout with strep throat, I assumed he’d passed it along to Trevor, so off we went to their pediatrician to have him swabbed for strep. After all, Trevor’s six-year-old big brother, Trenton, also had complained of a headache and had been cured with the help of antibiotics rather quickly.
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Much to our surprise, however, the test came back negative for strep. What’s worse, during the next few weeks, the headaches became more severe and included vomiting, which was very, very worrisome. After Trevor vomited though, it seemed to help. He began a routine of vomiting, becoming sleepy and taking a nap, and to wake up totally fine. Suspecting migraines at this point, since the symptoms were relatively on par with what I knew, I took him back to his pediatrician and told her what he was experiencing. Since migraines are rare in young children, she became concerned and immediately ordered an eye exam to check the pressure on his optic nerve. Though the thought that something could be causing pressure on the back of his eyes gave me a bit of anxiety, I felt we were doing this merely to rule out the possibility of a major problem so we could proceed with treating the migraines. I wish that easy solution could have been the end of this story, but for us, it was only the beginning. The next few days were a whirlwind of tests, fears, and terrible news. We found out Trevor did, indeed, have something that was creating a lot of pressure on the back of his eyes. An MRI was ordered the very next day and revealed a large mass in his brain that alarmed everyone who saw it. Trevor was immediately taken
by ambulance to Arkansas Children’s Hospital in Little Rock in order to be admitted to the ICU. The doctors told us he would probably be undergoing a major surgery as soon as possible. Our families and friends dropped everything to support us in Little Rock and care for our other two sons, six-year-old Trenton and 1 1/2-year-old Hayes, in Fayetteville. In a thoughtful move by our close friends, ‘Team Trevor’ shirts were made super quickly so we could all wear them the next day. The prayers going up for Trevor, Matt, and I were astonishing. Our phones were flooded with messages and Trevor’s room was overtaken by balloons, toys, cards… you name it.
treatments. He was put to sleep every day for this and had the weekends off. Our friends and family had 33 presents for him, one for every day after he finished his treatment. We made some great memories in Houston and met many people who will be lifelong friends and a part of ‘Team Trevor’ forever. After about a week, Trevor started to really like going. He made friends in the playroom where we waited every day. The kids called it the “donut room” because of the large circular machine that delivered the radiation. Looking back, those six and a half weeks flew, but, at the time, they crept by. We were never so happy to get home and be together as a family again.
The peace dwelling in our hearts that day was unexplainable. When your sweet child is taken from your arms and into a doctor’s, only God can give that kind of peace.
Trevor underwent a successful 8-hour-long brain surgery to remove the mass, which turned out to be a large cystic tumor. We were told 100% of the tumor was resected. The Lord was with his surgeon--and us--every minute of that day. The first thing I read when I woke up that morning in our hospital room (not that I slept much, mind you) was Isaiah 43:2, which says, “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you. When you walk through the fire, the flames will not set you ablaze...for I am the Lord your God. I have summoned you by name, and you are mine.” The peace dwelling in our hearts that day was unexplainable. When your sweet child is taken from your arms and into a doctor’s, only God can give that kind of peace. Trevor rebounded from his surgery like a champ. Kids are amazing! He had no major side effects from the surgery and was determined to walk by himself less than a week after surgery. With physical therapy, we were told our boy would be good as new, and we believed it. Again, I only wish this was where our story ended. A few weeks later, as we were trying to assume a normal life again, we got a phone call from Trevor’s surgeon in Little Rock. I will never forget that moment. We were in Chuck E. Cheese’s with my dad and our three boys. The pathology came back that the tumor was malignant, or cancerous, and was a ‘grade 3 anaplastic ependymoma.’ With that type of cancer, it was imperative that 100% of the tumor be removed since it was incredibly aggressive. Trevor would need to start brain radiation within about 2 weeks to kill any remaining cancer cells. After a few days of researching options for Trevor’s treatment, we knew God was directing us to MD Anderson in Houston for his radiation treatment. God kept showing up in all of the details along the way. A family even felt led to pay for our apartment in Houston the whole 7 weeks we were staying there! Trevor was scheduled for a grand total of 33 radiation
We quickly resumed our life back in Fayetteville. Trevor was feeling great and ready to start a part time preschool. His spot in the school remained open the whole time we were in Houston, so we knew he was supposed to go there! Going to preschool was a highlight in Trevor’s life. As a mom, it felt good to know he was doing something kids should be doing, things healthy kids did. Trevor was due for a one month post-radiation MRI
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in Houston in November. We were given good news and were told everything looked great--no evidence of any cancer, and things were healing nicely. We felt even more confident now that everything was going to be okay. At the end of December, we found out our family would be moving to Memphis, Tennessee for Matt’s job. We felt very confident the Lord wanted us there. Someone had mentioned how wonderful it would be to be so close to St. Jude if we ever needed it, but that thought had not even entered my mind. At the end of February, Trevor started having some random episodes of vomiting the day the moving trucks were loading us up. He was due for his routine MRI soon enough, but we decided we would take him to LeBonnheur Children’s ER in Memphis as soon as possible. It was there, on that snowy day in March, we were told Trevor had a new brain tumor and it was again large. He would be going into surgery the next day. An MRI before surgery also revealed he had a new tumor in his spine. How could this be happening? We thought our boy was going to be fine. It was then we learned the harsh reality of anaplastic ependymoma. Trevor’s surgery was again successful, and his doctor was able to remove 100% of the tumor, with no alleged long-term side effects. To say we moved to Memphis at the right time would be an understatement. Trevor’s surgeon was the best in the world for this type of brain tumor. Re-radiating was not an option for him anymore. Although there is and was no “slam dunk” chemo for this cancer, Trevor was placed on a chemo trial at St. Jude. We stopped the chemo about four weeks later when Trevor started experiencing severe back pain. The MRI revealed the chemo was not
stabilizing his spinal tumor and that he had two new tumors in his brain. He had a surgery to remove the tumor in his spine, and we learned that “the horse was out of the barn” as far as new tumors popping up and continuing to grow with few successful treatment options. We tried a different chemo, but Trevor’s tumors continued to multiply and grow larger. Devastation doesn’t even begin to describe the emotions we felt. By July, Trevor was started on steroids to manage symptoms and we knew the hospice option was around the corner for us. Through Make-A-Wish, our family flew to Disney and attempted to ignore the reality that was waiting for us back in Memphis. Trevor still continued to make us laugh, even though he was not himself on a very large dose of steroids and was starting to experience symptoms from the cancer. Trevor was placed on hospice the day we got home from Disney. Trevor’s Team continued to storm the gates of Heaven for him. He fought a few more weeks as a sleeping angel who was unable to talk or eat anymore. Angels came to take him home on August 7, 2014. He was just four years old. We will always be on Trevor’s Team, and have made it our goal to raise money and bring more awareness to ependymoma. We pray we are alive to see a cure for these precious children one day. Any donations for Team Trevor go directly to ependymoma research at St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital. I can still hear Trevor asking people with their Team Trevor shirts on, “You’re on my team?!” Yes, honey… we’re all on your team. Forever.
To donate to Team Trevor you can send a check made out to St. Jude, with Trevor Trumbo in the memo line, to 501 St. Jude Place, Memphis, TN 38105
SoNA Presents
‘The Snowman: A Family Concert’ on December 14
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Symphony adds special performance for kids and families to its traditional holiday lineup
ust in time for the holidays, and as part of its expanded 60th Anniversary Season lineup, the Symphony of Northwest Arkansas (SoNA) will present an exciting new concert designed especially for children and families at 3PM on Sunday, December 14 at Walton Arts Center in Fayetteville. The special family performance takes place the day after the symphony’s ever-popular Christmas Pops concert, which has quickly become one of Northwest Arkansas’ most beloved yuletide traditions.
Sure to captivate audiences of all ages, The Snowman: A Family Concert will feature a special screening of the Academy Award-nominated, holiday hit film “The Snowman,” which boasts an extraordinary orchestral soundtrack that SoNA will be performing live –
showcasing the region’s finest professional orchestral musicians, performing under the baton of acclaimed SoNA Music Director Paul Haas. “This concert captures so poignantly and poetically the beauty and powerful imagination of youth,” Haas explains. “All of us remember what it was like as a child to wish that our favorite toys or stuffed animals would come to life... in fact, to believe they would! This silent film – accompanied by an extraordinary score for virtuosic orchestra – brings that magical thought alive in a way that captivates both young people and adults alike.” “I speak from personal experience,” Haas continues. “My two young daughters have adopted this film as their holiday favorite, and my wife and I often
find ourselves drawn into the experience, stopping whatever we’re doing to watch it with them. It’s that powerful. Even if you haven’t heard of it before, do yourself and your family a favor and come to this concert. Be a part of starting yet another SoNA holiday tradition!”
Next month, the season continues with the Masterworks II concert entitled “SoNA Fairytales” on Saturday, January 31 – followed by the Masterworks III “Surf and Turf ” performance on Saturday, March 7, and the Season Finale Concert entitled “A Night at the Movies” on Saturday, April 25.
SoNA Executive Director Matthew Herren explains that programming such as The Snowman, which gives all ages the chance to experience the symphony, is a valuable resource for building appreciation for music in the community.
To purchase tickets, please call the Walton Arts Center box office at (479) 443-5600 or visit www.sonamusic. org/tickets for online ticketing options through Tickets Northwest Arkansas.
“As a former member of the SoNA cello section [prior to being named Executive Director], I’m always pleased to see families with children at our concerts,” Herren says. “The Snowman is our first family-focused concert since SoNA returned to the stage in 2011 under Paul Haas’ music direction, and it will be a very special event. It’s especially gratifying because we’re able to bring the elements of our education program to the main stage by introducing audience members to the instruments of the orchestra.” Also this month, SoNA presents A Very SoNA Christmas on Saturday, Dec. 13 at 7:30PM at Walton Arts Center. Celebrating the beauty and magic of the holidays with a blended collection of sacred and secular favorites, the Christmas concert also features the SoNA Singers – an auditioned group of choral singers led by Director Terry Hicks, one of Arkansas’ most respected choral conductors. Select area high school choirs will also perform. “This is for many reasons my favorite concert of the year,” Maestro Haas says. “It’s become a Northwest Arkansas tradition in a very short time, and I think the reason is that we bring together so many different parts of the community, celebrating through music this joyous season. Northwest Arkansas is so much more than a collection of cities and towns – it really is an organic and beautiful coming together of people from all walks of life, and SoNA’s Christmas concert mirrors that coming together with an extraordinary blend of traditional and pops programming.” Tickets for The Snowman and A Very SoNA Christmas are selling fast. So, if you haven’t reserved your seats yet, do so now! Single tickets for A Very SoNA Christmas are $28, $39 and $50, with special student/group pricing also available. Ticket prices for The Snowman start at $25.
A Very SoNA Christmas is underwritten by Bob and Marilyn Bogle. The Snowman is sponsored by The Willard and Pat Walker Charitable Foundation.
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Fatherhood at by: Ben Smith
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ne morning in October two years ago, I heard my wife, Kelly, getting ready for work as usual. I was half asleep and barely awake when I heard a squeal come from the bathroom. Before I could ask her if everything was okay, she was at my bedside whispering, “We are pregnant.” She had a pregnancy test in her hands. I’m still not sure if there was a plus sign, a circle, a dashed line, or a certain color on the test that Thursday morning--all I know was that it was positive. We were immediately overjoyed. After a few minutes of wild smiles and ‘I can’t believe it!’ back and forth, we calmed down, looked at each other, and realized...we were going to be parents. Oh my, now what?! Just to clarify, my wife and I married later in life, so we started talking about a family shortly after marriage. We knew it was early in our marriage, but we were both 38 when we started trying. Since the math would put our baby being born sometime in the summer of 2013, this would make my wife and I parents of a baby when we were both pushing 40. Even though we had been trying to get pregnant for about a year and this baby would be a total and complete blessing, we were a little more nervous than we might have been had we been younger when we were blessed with this news. After all, a pregnancy later in life came with a lot of risks. Health issues for both the baby and mother had to be considered such as genetic disorders, high blood pressure, diabetes,
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thyroid issues, and even miscarriage. We would definitely have to consider and discuss each of these.
Another thing I had to consider was the fact that up to this point in my life I had been…well, just to be honest, spoiled. Everything I wanted to do, I did, and everywhere I wanted to go, I went. For instance, since my wife and I had been together, we had traveled quite a bit. There were certain places we wanted to check off of our bucket list before starting a family. We traveled to California, Hawaii, and even Ireland, plus a few small places here and there. We knew that when we got ready to get up and go we could, so we needed to get a lot of that out of our system before our family grew. We also had to consider our finances. Could we afford a child? What would we have to give up in order to do so? There were a lot of sacrifices for me, one of which meant going out with the guys two or three times a week was going to turn into less and less. Kelly, though, is such a nurturer. Sure, she sacrificed, but having something else to love brought a whole new meaning to her world... she reveled in it. My freedom was an awesome blessing, but one that I knew was swiftly coming to an end, to be replaced by an even bigger blessing. Everything in my life would have to change, including me! Spoiled or not, up until this point I had been pretty lucky and had already experienced most of the things I had always wanted to do. Still the words, “We are pregnant,” said by my wife made me stop and think. I was now pushing 40 and must grow up.
As the months passed and the number of friends and family that knew our secret grew, we had a few baby showers, attended several doctor appointments, and turned our exercise room into a nursery. We decorated the room with all types of animals. The walls included elephants, owls, all the way to little ladybugs. With all this preparation, I started getting very excited about becoming a father. “Buddy Monster” was the name I gave to the baby-gender, as of yet, undetermined--growing in my wife’s belly. It was so neat to watch our child thrive on the ultrasound screen. Doctor visits always ended with good reports, but the conversations we had with each other between visits made us question ourselves. Can we do this? Can we change diapers? How do we prepare bottles? What if the baby cries uncontrollably? Will we be good parents? Family, friends, and doctors told us all our questions and fears were normal. We would make mistakes, learn from them, and our baby would love us no matter what. It was hard to imagine at first, but they were right.
My freedom was an awesome blessing, but one that I knew was swiftly coming to an end, to be replaced by an even bigger blessing.
One disagreement Kelly and I had during the whole process was whether or not to find out the sex of our baby. I wanted to, but she definitely did not! We were told several ways to find out the gender while still making it somewhat of a surprise. One idea was a gender cake! Kelly decided if we just had to find out then this was a fun way to go about doing it. Kelly’s sister, Anne, loves to bake, so she went to the “reveal” doctor’s appointment with us. We were told not to look at the ultrasound screen. I had no worries that Anne would be able to keep the secret from us. A few weeks later we were surrounded by close family for lunch and, after stuffing ourselves, Kelly and I cut into the cake and discovered the inside was all blue! The cake revealed we were having a boy, so “Buddy Monster” became simply Conrad. Then on June 28, 2013, I received a call at work. Kelly, wildly excited on the other end, hurriedly told me she was headed to the hospital because she thought her water had broken. This meant we were having a baby… and soon! Surrounded by family and friends, we checked into the hospital. Several hours of labor later, at a little after midnight on June 29th, I got to be the first to hold my precious son. Those eyes stared up at me almost like he was saying, with little surprise, “Hi, Dad, what’s up? My name is Conrad!” He was perfect then, and is even more perfect now.
Being Conrad’s dad is the best job in the world. It’s stressful, but hearing his sweet voice saying ‘Dada’ and feeling his tiny arms hugging me puts a huge smile on my face. Conrad is 16 months old now. We look back at his baby pictures or even pictures from a few months ago and think how he has changed so much! This tiny creature we were so scared of breaking is now walking, talking, and growing into a tiny man. We were so scared to bring him home, then we were so scared to be left alone with him, and now we look back and cannot imagine our lives without him. I have my own little Buddy Monster to play with, to go to the park with, and to teach the ways of the world. Everything I now do revolves around him. Our lives have changed. We have a responsibility we have never had before Conrad came. My priorities have changed. What was important before isn’t as important now. Conrad is the center of my world, not me anymore. Yes, he needs constant attention, food, baths, love, and so much more, but we cannot wait to do those things for him. The last 16 months have flown by. It is a little sad he isn’t a baby anymore, but every day with him is something new and exciting. I do not want him to grow, but, on the flip side, I cannot wait to see what he will show me next. Growing up, my plans were to always be a father. Not necessarily at 40, of course, but Conrad doesn’t know the difference. He definitely makes me feel younger! I am proud to be his daddy, no matter what age.
Gift Guide 2014
The elves at Peekaboo have been busy this Christmas season! Their mission? To find the perfect gift ideas for children, moms, and dads in stores and shops right here in NWA.
To: Mom
From: Dillard’s Pinnacle Hills Promenade 2101 Promenade Blvd Rogers 479-936-7984
Royal Princess Playhouse Tent 54” $29.99
Kinetic Sand 2.2 lbs 479-273-5557 The Shoppes at Pinnacle Hills 3301 Market Street, Suite 103, Rogers
MICHAEL KORS HANDBAGS What’s in a name? Quality. Luxury. Everything she wants. “Specchio” Jet Set large pocket tote. Fuchsia, luggage or signature vanilla. 16”x11.5”x6”. $198.
Handpainted Pottery - Personalized Gifts Imagine Studios, Village on the Creeks http://imagine-art-studio.com/ Everyone loves a gift from the heart, and that is exactly what you can create with a trip to Imagine Studios in Rogers. Personalized plates, mugs, banks, and so much more. Plus, the experience of making each gift is priceless!
Caboodles
With a blend of timeless styles and trendy prints and patterns, there is a Caboodle for every girl on the shopping list, no matter the age. Moms can breathe easier knowing that Caboodles is an easy go-to gift that can keep the clutter in check during the holiday chaos. Caboodles was inspired by a picture of Vanna White using a Plano Molding Company plastic tackle box to house her makeup, in People magazine in 1986, the gift of a Caboodle is a right of passage for a young girl and this year’s styles add the perfect amount of bling to anyone’s holiday wish list. Available at Walmart.
MICHAEL KORS SLIPPERS Keep her feet toasty and chic with the “Cori” moc slipper. In luggage suede, red plaid or logo jacguard. 6-10, whole sizes only. Imported. $99.
A Wearable Mini-Masterpiece
This is a necklace from a local sensation, HipToBeMe!You just send your child’s artwork or handwriting, and they put it on bronze or silver, creating a wearable keepsake! www.HipToBeMe.com
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Gift Guide 2014
Cute Animal Storage
Cute gifts to help organize the rest of their Christmas goodies. Help your kids clean up with this cute animal storage box from 3 Sprouts. Well-sized for storing toys, books or laundry, the cotton canvas bin is tough enough to hold whatever you throw in it.
3D Play Rug Available in four styles, 3-D Play rugs stimulate and encourage childrens play in an imaginative and creative way.
The Baby’s Room (479) 631-6001
Children can recreate activities from The Little Gym’s movement-based classes at home with these great toys. Wrap up with a gift certificate for classes to make it extra special. Perfect gifts from parents or grandparents!
http://thebabysroomnwa.com 3301 Market Street, Rogers
Gift Cards to Northwest Center for Plastic Surgery + Buy $100 Gift Certificate and receive a FREE trial size Theraderm Skin Renewal System. Plus: 12 Days of Christmas Specials - Follow them on FB (479) 571-3100 nwacenterforplasticsurgery.com
www.thelittlegym.com/rogersar (479) 636-5566 Pleasant Grove, Rogers, AR
Laser Pegs
Easy Rider Bike
Play on the iPad with Real People and Real Objects!
www.playosmo.com Osmo is the must have gift this season. It creates a new play movement to unleash the boundaries of the screen. It allows any object - pen and paper, you name it - to interact with the digital device. Your kids will learn while they play.
Rollie Pollie 112 East Central Ave Bentonville (479) 866-9057 NEW to downtown Bentonville! Rollie Pollie carries a carefully curated selection of toys & clothing. Stay tuned for activities & workshops!
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100 W Center St # 101 Fayetteville (479) 444-7778
Shwings.
Makes old shoes new. Makes new shoes fly. Fun gift for anyone on your list.
Mother’s Rings at David Adams Fine Jewelry www.davidadams.com
3854 N. Front Street . Fayetteville
A must-have for any mother or grandmother. This unique piece of jewelry is engraved by hand with your child’s name to make it look as though your child wrote their name themselves. One ring per child, and designed to be stackable.
Tyler Candles
Available at the fabulous Belle Boutique. 3.4 oz $8.00 11 oz $16.00 22 oz $22.00 Fragrance Warmers $30.00 Mixer Melts $7.00 Votives $4.00
www.amazeum.org
Sleepsacks by Cowgirlzzz www.cowgirlzzz.com
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Cowgirlzzz is a South African company that deals in sleepsacks, blankets and skirts. When one of the Cowgirlzzz founders moved to Bentonville, they started selling their range in the USA as well. The Cowgirlzzz sleepsack is safe, beautiful and has an extra long zip that makes it easy to change nappies. It’s a perfect gift for a precious little boy or girl! 479-273-5557 The Shoppes at Pinnacle Hills 3301 Market Street, Suite 103, Rogers
Squigz Started Set $24.99 (Fat Brain Toys)
Frozen Spot it game $12.99 (Blue Orange Games)
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You can shop online or buy your item at Little Giggles; 3301 S Walton BLVD, Bentonville. It will be wrapped as a gift wherever you buy!
Gift Guide 2014
Little Giggles Indoor Creative Play
Customize your iPhone or iPad
www.littlegigglesplay.com 3301 S Walton Blvd, Bentonville This year is all about gifts of time and making memories together. Northwest Arkansas’ favorite place to play can be wrapped up and found right under your Christmas tree with a Little Giggles gift card. Can be bought for any amount that you wish. Gift card can be used for entry, classes, or snack items. Or gift a punch card! ($75 for 10 visits or $130 for 20 visits + tax).
Custom colors, covers, and accessories Locally owned and operated.
www.thephoneguysnwa.com
Shweshwe Skirts . www.cowgirlzzz.com Cowgirlzzz is a South African company spreading her wings in the USA. They’re selling sleepsacks, blankets and skirts. These double sided skirts are made of traditional South African Shweshwe fabric. It’s beautiful, durable and a unique gift for your little princess! You can shop online or buy your item at Little Giggles. 3301 S Walton Blvd, Bentonville. It will be wrapped as a gift wherever you buy!
Spherovelo
Rollie Pollie 112 East Central Ave, Bentonville (479) 866-9057
To: DAD
It’s a teeny tiny ride-on bike for one to two year-olds---sure, they can barely walk... but have you seen them ride?
Ozark Christmas Don’t miss this awesome book, Ozark Christmas. It is a rendition of ‘Twas the Night before Christmas... Hog style! Perfect for recipients of all ages! Ozark Christmas is available at Belle Boutique or Walmart or online at ozarkchristmasbook.com.
The best gifts are the ones that are both unique and guarenteed to create fun, lasting memories. Hogshead Tours is the first and only beer, wine and culinary tour company in Northwest Arkansas. www.hogsheadtours.com
Fun Station Solo - www.lucaandcompany.com Fabulous and functional toddler desk to get your child excited about learning. Your little one will love a dedicated space to create, learn and explore. designed for budding artists and for parents who want a toddler desk that is contemporary in their home. This is just one example of the great, innovative gifts for children this season that will inspire them! www.lucaandcompany.com
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Lights of the Ozarks All month long Historic Fayetteville Downtown Square 450,000 lights illuminate nightly carriages, pony rides, fresh hot chocolate and festive holiday cheer.
Annual Block Street Holiday Art Sale The Shirkey House 12PM-4PM Now in its 14th year, this year’s lineup celebrating the arts includes some of NWA’s most respected visual artists, from painters, jewelry-makers, photographers, woodworkers, and more. Gardenland Winter Festival Botanical Garden of the Ozarks 1PM-4PM Great display of model trains, santa visits and hayrides. $5 adults, $3 kids
Rogers Christmas Parade 7:00 PM Downtown Rogers MainStreetRogers.com Downtown Rogers Holiday Hoopla continues with the annual Rogers Christmas Parade through the downtown streets.
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Little Gigggles Every Monday 10:30AM: Enrichment Monday Class Free with admission: Ages 2+ Monthly themes and weekly subjects explored in an interactive, play-based learning environment. Run by Miss Lori, a preschool teacher and mom of two.
Fayetteville on College and 6th St. Bentonville on Walton Rogers on Walnut and Pleasant Grove
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Little Giggles Every Tuesday 10:30AM and 3:45PM: “Little Artist” art class with Crafty Cottage $8 for the class, discounted entry into Little Giggles if you stay to play, $5.50 (+tax) A fun 45 minutes with 2-3 art projects completed, taught by Miss Gigi
Family Night Events - Every Tuesday at Chick-fil-A in Rogers and at Bentonville location from 5:30 p.m. - 7 p.m.
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Gardenland Winter Festival Botanical Garden of the Ozarks 1PM-4PM Great display of model trains, santa visits and hayrides. $5 adults, $3 kids The Snowman: A Family Concert Baum Walker Hall at the WAC 3PM The Symphony of NWA provides a live soundtrack to the award-winning animated film. The Snowman.
Little Gigggles Every Monday 10:30AM: Enrichment Monday Class Free with admission: Ages 2+ Monthly themes and weekly subjects explored in an interactive, play-based learning environment. Run by Miss Lori, a preschool teacher and mom of two.
21 Winter Break Wonders Crystal Bridges Sat., December 20 - Sun., January 4 Join us at the Museum during your school break— we’re making special plans for family-friendly activities each afternoon, including art-making, live music, puppets, and more! Check our website for details. Free, no registration required. www.crystalbridges.org
28 Visit downtown Fayetteville’s Lights of the Ozarks n addition to the over 400,000 LED lights in the display, Lights of the Ozarks also includes nightly carriage rides, camel and pony rides, hot chocolate and coffee vendors, and other activities. The display will remain lit nightly through Dec. 31.
Little Giggles Every Tuesday 10:30AM and 3:45PM: “Little Artist” art class with Crafty Cottage $8 for the class, discounted entry into Little Giggles if you stay to play, $5.50 (+tax) A fun 45 minutes with 2-3 art projects completed, taught by Miss Gigi
22 Little Gigggles Every Monday 10:30AM: Enrichment Monday Class Free with admission: Ages 2+ Monthly themes and weekly subjects explored in an interactive, play-based learning environment. Run by Miss Lori, a preschool teacher and mom of two.
Baby Bookworms Fayetteville Public Library 9:45AM
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Family Movie: The Hero of Color City Fayetteville Public Library 2:00PM Each night, when Ben falls asleep, his Crayons’ magical Crayon Bo transports them to Color City, a world of dazzling hues. Yellow, a crayon, learns about courage and friendship.
23 Little Giggles Every Tuesday 10:30AM and 3:45PM: “Little Artist” art class with Crafty Cottage $8 for the class, discounted entry into Little Giggles if you stay to play, $5.50 (+tax) A fun 45 minutes with 2-3 art projects completed, taught by Miss Gigi
Pre-School Storytime Fayetteville Public Library 10:30AM
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Family Movie: How to Train Your Dragon 2 Fayetteville Public Library 2:00PM Set in the mythical world of burly VIkings and wild dragons, the action comedy tells the story of Hiccup and his pet dragon.
Christmas Eve
Pinnacle Hills Promenade and the NWA Mall
Preschool Art Class 1 to 2:15 pm Crystal Bridges For ages 3 to 5 with an adult. Gallery conversations and art-making activities each week to explore color in select artworks from State of the Art: Discovering American Art Now.
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10 Shaky Bugs at Little Giggles! ($5.50 per child for the class only + $5.50 per child to stay to play)
17 Shaky Bugs at Little Giggles! ($5.50 per child for the class only + $5.50 per child to stay to play)
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Around the World in 80 Days Nadine Baum Studio Thru Dec. 21 at Nadine Baum Studio The original amazing race, starring Phileas Fogg and his clever servant Passepartout. Danger, romance, comedy and theatrical magic mix in this whirlwind adventure for audiences of every age. www.theatre2.org or 479.571.2785
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The Little Craft Show Fayetteville Town Center 5PM-9PM $10 in advance, $15 at the door, but free Saturday Dec. 6 A wide variety of local, handmade and original goods. Exclusive Friday night giveaways including gift certificates to local business, a photo booth and more surprises!
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Preschool Playdate Crystal Bridges - 11:30 am to 2 pm Performances, art projects, story time, and creative play based on themes from our artwork. Activities are geared for children ages 2 to 5 with an adult. Free. Polar Express Night [All Ages] 5:30 to 7:30 -Rogers Public Library Watch the movie, play games, make crafts, and more! Light refreshments will be served. Children under age 7 must be accompanied by an adult at all times. For more information call 621-1152 ext. 26.
MYTHBUSTERS: Behind The Myths 7:00 PM - 9:00 PM Walton Arts Center Jamie Hyneman and Adam Savage, hosts of the Emmy® nominated and enormously popular Discovery series “MythBusters,” come to the WAC stage for a fantastical night of experiments, audience participation, rocking video and behind-the-scenes stories that prove or disprove urban legends and popular misconceptions.
18 Baby & Toddler Pajama Party [Ages 0-3] 10:00 to 11:00 Rogers Public Library We welcome babies and toddlers ages 0-3 years to a special holiday program! Come and play games and activities, make crafts, eat snacks and have fun with friends! We encourage you to wear your holiday pajamas or festive wardrobe! For ages 0-3 years and their caregivers. Children under age 7 must be accompanied by an adult at all times. For more information call 621-1152 ext. 26
19 Moscow Classical Ballet’s The Nutcracker Walton Arts Center Matinee and Evening Shows The beloved holiday tradition The Nutcracker is a must-see for teh whole family! The venerable Moscow Classical Ballet gives a stunning performance of Tchaikovsky’s masterpiece.
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26 Family Movie: Maleficent Fay Public Library 2PM The untold story of Disney’s most iconic villian from the 1959 classic “Sleeping Beauty.”
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Light Up Siloam Springs Main Street Siloam Springs mainstreetsiloam.org Experience the magical illumination of historic downtown during the annual Light Up Siloam Celebration and Christmas Parade. The mayor waves a magic candy cane at dusk to illuminate thousands of Christmas lights and 60 decorated lampposts. Santa also makes his first appearance of the season in the parade as lighted floats, bands, dance troupes, fire trucks and antique cars travel through downtown.
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Drop-In Art Making: Art Craft-Stick Puzzle 1:00pm - 4:00pm Crystal Bridges Museum Drop in anytime between 1 and 4 p.m. for a free, guided studio session. Spend time creating and designing your personal puzzle with craft sticks. Materials are provided and all ages are welcome! Free, no registration required.
20 Visit Santa on the Caboose Walnut and S. First Streets MainStreetRogers.com 10 a.m.-2 p.m. Boys and girls are invited to visit Santa on the Frisco Caboose. Take family photos and deliver holiday wishes to Santa on a real caboose. A special mailbox next to the caboose is a great place to drop off your letter to Santa at any time. Admission: Free
27 Ice Skating The Rink at Lawrence Plaza in Bentonville will be open daily until Jan. 21, except Christmas Day. The cost to skate is $3 per session and skates are available to rent for $2 per session. Skating lessons will be offered throughout the season.
Morgan’s Miracle by: Lacie Barens
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he story of Morgan, my daughter, and our family is unique to say the least. By that, we mean the symptoms of her illness made it difficult to find her diagnosis. We endured months of agonizing pain, sleepless nights, and discouragingly negative results to numerous tests. We had to sit, powerless, watching her literally lose the feeling and functions of the lower half of her body. As a parent, you feel like it is your job to be strong, and to see your child be strong, maybe even stronger than you. To see your child go through something as difficult as this is something you never forget.
even that she may be just looking for attention. Despite having multiple blood and urine tests, X-rays, CT-scans, ultrasounds, MRIs, and a hida-scan, everything was coming back normal. After each ER visit, we would follow up with her pediatrician who would suggest other tests as well. We saw a urologist and a GI specialist in Little Rock, and both visits were very painful for Morgan. The car rides and tests were all incredibly distressing. We took her to see an allergist to have her tested; all results once again came back with this frustrating diagnosis: normal. Morgan would also complain of weakness and feeling like her legs were going to give out on her. To watch her walk through the house was different than it used to be. I would catch her using the wall and chairs to keep her balance. Dressing was also very difficult for her. I remember this particular moment exactly. I went into her room one night to have her do different movements with her body. She could hardly pick either knee up or lean at the waist in any direction. She couldn’t lie flat or lift up her legs. I began to uncontrollably shake because I knew in my heart and gut that something was truly wrong with my daughter.
To see your child go through something as difficult as this is something you never forget.
Our journey started in December of 2012 when my daughter started complaining about her lower back hurting. I scheduled an appointment with her pediatrician, and he suggested an X-ray. The results were she had a small stress fracture, nothing serious, and he suggested we start weekly physical therapy to strengthen the muscles around it. We began the physical therapy and, after about four visits, Morgan’s back pain began to worsen. Even things such as riding her bus to and from school and hitting bumps on the road were too painful. When I would wake her up in the mornings, I also began to notice she would be propped up in the corner of her bed. I asked about it, and she said it hurt too bad to lay flat at night. I mentioned these things to her doctor, and he sent us to have a CT-scan done. Results from that were normal. In fact, those results did not even show Morgan had the stress fracture shown in the previous X-ray. He then suggested we see an orthopedic doctor, who observed nothing of concern and said to continue with physical therapy. Morgan’s back pain was increasing though, and she was now beginning to have some stomach pains, especially at night. I ended up taking her to the emergency room a total of five times throughout all of this. The doctors could not determine Morgan’s diagnosis. First it was her appendix, then kidney stones, constipation, gallbladder problems... and
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There is nothing more painful and stressful for a mother than to watch her child lose weight because her stomach hurt too bad to eat, or to have to find her rides home from school every day because she couldn’t ride the bus, or to have her sleep in the recliner because she couldn’t lay flat in her own bed. We’d be up all night long with her because her stomach and back were hurting so bad that she’d cry for hours in pain. All I could do was hold her hand and silently pray for God to make it all stop. Then, after our long, painful nights, I would watch her get up and go to school the next day, running on a few hours of sleep from the previous night. It was terrible. Not knowing what was wrong, or how to fix it, was heartbreaking. I would cry during our visits with her doctor because things were just getting so much worse for Morgan. He
said, considering all the tests we had done, that we should think about taking her to Arkansas Children’s Hospital in Little Rock. A few days prior to making our trip, Morgan put on a strong face and set aside all her pain and leg weakness to go to the bowling alley with her yearbook class from school. She was unable to participate or even really enjoy herself at all. She just sat there at the tables, visiting with friends. The next day, Morgan’s pain was so bad she was unable to go to school. Throughout the day, her legs had become so weak that we had to get out a walker to help her walk to the bathroom on her own. By the next morning, she could hardly walk at all. She had gotten so much worse. We began to pack our bags. None of us knew what to expect, but I knew I had no other choice. I remember putting a pool mattress in the front seat of my car to try to help cushion her ride down to Little Rock. We got from Rogers to Fayetteville, about 30 to 45 minutes into our trip, when Morgan couldn’t bear the pain from the car ride any longer. My heart nearly broke. How was I going to get her there? I was helpless and
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Morgan’s Miracle didn’t know what to do. I called ACH and explained the situation to them. They told me to go to the nearest emergency room, and maybe they could life flight her there…so that’s what I did. We made it to our hometown hospital. The doctor did an X-ray on Morgan, and again, nothing was found. “So,” I asked, “What am I supposed to do now?” There was no way I was going to be able to drive her down there. It caused her too much pain. Since we had Morgan comfortable at the moment, the doctor told me to go ahead and drive because she might sleep the whole way there. They discharged us from the hospital and sent us on our way to Little Rock. I drove the whole way without stopping just to get her there as soon as I could. We finally arrived at ACH at around 3:00am on Sunday morning. We wheel chaired my daughter into the ER and explained her symptoms and pains to them. I also had a folder of all the reports and results of the past tests performed on Morgan. They did yet another X-ray and once again found nothing. After being in the ER for 12 hours, they finally admitted us into a room. I cried and hugged the doctor and hoped we were finally going to get an answer. We got settled in our room for the night and prepared for an
MRI the next morning. Morgan was going to have to be put to sleep for the MRI because she was unable to lay flat. Everyone was so good to us; they even assigned Morgan a ‘team’ of doctors to work on her case. After the MRI, we continued to make the best of our stay. Days and nights in a hospital seem so long, especially when you have a sick child. You hope and pray you get answers soon. I felt like she was in good hands there. The next morning, on May 21st, a doctor came in at about 7:00AM and asked if anyone had talked to us yet. We said no, and he proceeded to explain the results. “We found a mass in Morgan’s spine,” he said, “pushing on her spinal cord. It’s a tumor.” They were unsure as to whether it was malignant or benign. Regardless, she was going to require surgery soon. My heart stopped. I just sat there, speechless and scared. He then asked if I wanted to see the tumor on her MRI, so I followed him. Morgan’s tumor was the size of a Jolly Rancher, at the T-10/T-11 area of her spine; just above her bra strap... nowhere near where anyone else had been looking. Since Morgan’s pain had been in her lower back, her stomach pains and leg weakness had been throwing everyone off. Morgan had an Intradural Extramedullary Spinal Cord Tumor. ACH brought in counselors to help Morgan and the rest of us process all of this as well as to help us prepare emotionally for her surgery. All surgeries are risky, but Morgan’s was dealing with a tumor pushing on her spinal cord which made it a very delicate situation. Morgan’s team of doctors called in a special neurosurgeon, Dr. Cai, to remove the tumor, and an orthopedic surgeon, Dr. McCarthy, to assist him in getting to the tumor. Surgery day was May 22, 2013. You can’t sleep. You can’t think. You’re absolutely helpless. All you can do is put your child in the hands of God and the surgeons, beg for them to make her better, and then pray they will give her back to you. They wheeled Morgan back to the surgery center. We all gathered to kiss and hug her, tell her we loved her, and that we’d see her soon. As a parent, you keep your strong face on so your kids don’t see how absolutely terrified you really are. The surgery took about 4 ½ hours. We were seated in a private waiting area. A nurse would call me every hour with an update on how she was
and the progress they were making, which is honestly so great for a parent. Then, we saw the surgeon! He said they were finished, it all went very well, and that they’d found a benign tumor. A “meningioma tumor,” to be exact, and we’d be able to see her soon. This time, as a parent, your heart stops, but you cry tears of joy. It was such relief. Since we didn’t know what to expect, seeing her after surgery was scary. She was lying on her stomach, and the doctors said she would have to stay in the ICU for the next three days. The first words out of her mouth were, “Look, Mom, I can feel and move my legs! And I’m lying flat!” That first night, I didn’t sleep a bit. I had too much excitement and adrenaline built up. While in the ICU, a nurse was monitoring her very closely and was so wonderful to her. During day 3 in the ICU, they put a back brace on her and sat her up. It was so nice to see her sit up! Over the next two days, the folks at physical therapy would come in and work with her. It was so wonderful to see her walk to the restroom on her own and down the hallway. To see her get stronger, instead of weaker, was the best feeling. We were able to go home on Monday, May 27th, Memorial Day. I was excited and scared all at once. Excited because we were finally able to go home...but scared because we wouldn’t have all the great nurses to help us make sure she was okay. Our car ride home was completely different than when we were going to ACH. Not a single bump in the road bothered her--incredible! Our attitudes were so much better since we knew were finally on the upswing of things. Morgan wore her back brace all of that summer to help her heal. We made another trip to Little Rock to see her surgeons. After that, we were able to have regular checkups at the clinic in Lowell. We are now on a once-every-six-months schedule and will be transitioning to once a year pretty soon. Morgan is doing fantastic, with no serious side effects. I couldn’t be more grateful and thankful for her recovery and for all the great treatment we received at ACH from the doctors and staff. I was even more proud of how extremely strong she was, and still is, for taking that situation and making the best of it. Listen to your heart, go with your gut. As a parent, you know when something is not right. Pay attention to that feeling. We had things happen along the way, like doctors saying she was faking all of her pain, that it was all in her head, and even being accused of just wanting pain medication. You have to stand strong, be strong, push through it and, most importantly, pray.
Hello Peekaboo Readers!
I am so excited to be teaming up with Peekaboo Magazine this month to talk about Winter Fashion for your child! My name is Tara Gibson, and I am a full time professional residing in Northwest Arkansas. I am a wife to my husband, Drew, and a first-time mom to my daughter, Olivia. Olivia recently turned one, and it is an absolute joy being her mother. When I am not working or chasing a one-year-old, I author the style blog, Jimmy Choos and Tennis Shoes, which is my creative outlet for fashion inspiration, attainable for the everyday woman.
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Photos by: Maura Dawn Photgraphy
Dressing your child for the colder months can be quite the challenge. You do not want to overdress them, but you also do not want them to be cold. My solution? Dress your child the same way you dress. Chances are, if you are comfortable, so are they. I have a few more fashionable pointers to keep your baby warm (and adorable) during these frigid months:
2. outerwear 1. Layers If your child is like my Olivia, he/ I love mixing prints when I dress, she does not like wearing coats. My and I do the same when it comes solution during the fall and early to dressing winter is a faux fur vest. They add that Olivia. I layer extra layer of warmth but give the printed long child more freedom to move around sleeve tops comfortably. Coats, though, are still with her a true necessity as much as they are sweaters. I a huge pain to get your child to wear usually roll up them. I try to make the process a the end of the bit easier by purchasing coats that sweater to let are lined with soft, kid friendly the print show fabrics. a bit more-very cute! I 3. holiday wear also like to Dress-up for me began at an pair printed ” w from the boys early age, and I can already ro or “b I tights with r boy see the twinkle in Olivia’s and buy toddle socks that yer eye when she sees a sequin. plaid shirts to la peek out of for rs te ea sw r Sequins, however, are about de un her boots. as comfortable as wearing a my baby girl. Layering is also brillo pad. When purchasing a great way to
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extend your child’s wardrobe. Children grow quickly, so getting the most out of each piece of clothing is important.
holiday wear, I inspect the garment to make sure the “sparkle” will not harm or annoy my child. I always layer solid tops and tights/leggings underneath all holiday dresses to prevent scratches and a fussy attitude. After all, no one wants an angry elf on Christmas Day! 4. Money doesn’t grow on trees Dressing fashionable does not mean you have to break the bank. #babyneedsacollegefund, am I right? I buy basic tops and leggings from Wal-Mart and always check eBay for deals. Old Navy is a great retailer to replicate a high end look, too.
When dressing your child fashionably, it is important to remember that they are, indeed, kids. Clothing can be fashionable, but it also needs to be functional and comfortable. I hope my tips and tricks will alleviate some stress this holiday season!
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Eat and Sleep Well
om Landry, coach of the Dallas Cowboys, once said, “My job is to convince each one of my players to do what they don’t want to do in order to achieve what each one of them has wanted to achieve their entire life…. win the Super Bowl.” Psychologists often do the same thing: ask people to do what is hard, what is repetitive, what is grueling, and what is not fun in order to achieve what they have wanted all their lives… good physical and mental health. In practice, we constantly remind people of the need to use three basic building blocks for good physical and mental health: eat well, sleep well and exercise well. Calling these three areas of life building blocks is simple enough, but stacking them can be exasperating. In this article, we will address the first two: eating well and sleeping well.
Eat Well A cousin begged to drive my motorcycle. I knew it was a mistake when she started off so slowly that she wobbled and fell over. On her second try, she overcompensated and gave the bike too much gas and managed to ride three feet up a large pine tree. Sadly, our relationship with food is a little like my cousin’s motorcycle skills. Many children and adults wobble from the extreme of anorexia (refusal to eat due to extreme fear of becoming overweight) to gorging the gullet into obesity (weight that is 20% higher than is recommended for your height). It is easy to see America’s obesity crisis, but the not-so-subtle message that you are not valuable unless you are super slim has also created its own crisis--a crisis of fear of eating. Eat responsibly. Watch your calorie intake. Children typically gain about a half-pound to one pound per month until puberty. Depending on age, gender and activity levels adults typically need to consume approximately 2000 to 2500 calories per day to maintain weight. The lowest possible calorie intake to
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remain healthy as a young woman is 1200 calories --an ABSOLUTE minimum. If you wobble to anorexia, you can lose your hair, decrease the size of your heart, eliminate your menstrual cycle or even die. Overeat, and you risk heart problems, high blood pressure, diabetes, and stress on your back and joints. So, eat well to live well.
sleep Well Sleep is a wonderful thing, and so important to our physical and mental wellbeing. A young patient once complained of not sleeping well. When he wasn’t drowsy at bedtime, he would play video games until he fell asleep in the early hours of the morning. This strategy resulted in arguments with his parents when he couldn’t get up easily the next morning for school. He also found that he was tired and inattentive all day. When he got home, he took a 2-to-3 hour nap after school. This nap disrupted his sleep cycle and again resulted in inability to fall asleep that night. It’s easy to spoil your sleep cycle, and twice as hard to regain it. Good sleep habits begin with common sense behaviors. Watching your caffeine and liquid intake late in the evening prevents over-stimulation and the need to go to the bathroom frequently throughout the night. Eat smaller meals at dinner to help with sleep, and reduce your digestive system competing with the body’s need to settle down. A consistent bedtime builds routine and allows your body to prepare for sleep. Tone down excessive lighting and remove electronics from your bed to help your mind settle rather that remain alert and concentrating. Find ways that help you return to sleep, like reading, rather than turning on the TV if you wake in the night. Newborns and infants need 12-16 hours of sleep. Toddlers and Preschoolers need 11-12 hours. School age children require 9-11 and adults 7.5 to 8 hours sleep. Energy levels, concentration and mood are all intertwined with good sleep, so... good night, and sleep tight.
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Amazeum uy one, give one opportunities have become quite popular over the years, and they offer a great teaching moment for kids – especially during the holiday season.
Just in time for gift giving needs, the Amazeum has made memberships available for purchase while simultaneously launching the “Amazeum for All” campaign. Now through January 15th, when you purchase a membership, the Amazeum will donate a day pass to a free pass pool that will be distributed to children and families who otherwise would not be able to visit the museum. The Amazeum will also match additional day passes purchased for donation to the pass pool. “With the opening of the Amazeum scheduled for the second half of next year, 2015 will truly be an amazing year for families in this region,” says Amy Stockton, the Amazeum membership manager. “From the beginning, our goal has been to make this museum accessible to everyone. Regardless of a family’s ability to pay, each and every child is a unique individual who needs a secure, caring, and stimulating atmosphere in which to grow and mature emotionally, intellectually, physically, and socially.” In addition to contributing to the “Amazeum for All” pass pool, a membership makes a great gift for a child or family on your list. In this age of families seeking to minimize and teach their kids good stewardship, this is a wonderful alternative to disposable toys that contribute to clutter and are quickly tossed aside.
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“We’ve already had interest from parents and grandparents who want to give the gift of the Amazeum for the holidays, and this day pass matching program adds another element through which to teach your child or grandchild the importance of giving back,” Stockton says. There are even more incentives to buy this holiday season. Charter member benefits are available to those who purchase a 2015 membership now for the handson, interactive museum for children and families. As long as they renew each year, those who purchase memberships now will enjoy those charter member benefits for the life of their membership. Benefits include museum access before it opens to the public, unlimited admission all year, discounts on birthday parties, and free or discounted admission to more than 550 science and children’s museums across the country. There are several levels of family and contributing memberships beginning at $95 for a family of four. In addition to charter member benefits, members will
enjoy advance notice and early camp registration, special members-only hours, a 10 percent store discount, special pricing for educational programs and camps, and an invitation to membersonly events and exhibit previews. The museum is also offering contributing memberships to those who would like to support the museum’s annual fund along with their membership gift. Full details of membership levels are available at
www.amazeum.org
The Amazeum-- a hands-on, interactive museum for children and families in Northwest Arkansas --is scheduled to open in the second half of 2015. The nearly 50,000 square foot space, located at the entrance of Crystal Bridges Museum of American Art, is designed to engage the imagination of children and their families through hands-on activities and interactive exhibits. Experiences will include a tinkering studio, climbable tree canopy, indoor caves, an art studio, and more. Exhibitions will extend to the museum grounds where approximately one acre of land will provide the background for more learning and fun. The Amazeum will also feature an indoor and outdoor event space. The Amazeum recently announced plans for the General Mills Lift, Load and Haul exhibition and plans to release details of additional exhibitions as they are finalized leading up to the museum’s grand opening. In addition to General Mills, the museum’s signature sponsors include Walmart Stores Inc., the Hershey company, and Nickelodeon. The Walmart Foundation,
The Walton Family Foundation, and The Willard and Pat Walker Charitable Foundation are also major donors, as well as The Lee and Linda Scott Family which is the museum’s presenting sponsor.
Memberships can be purchased online at Amazeum.org, by calling 479-696-9280, extension 202, or by emailing membership@amazeum.org. The museum must raise an additional $1.3 million to meet its initial capital campaign fundraising goal. Donations are being accepted at all levels and permanent recognition opportunities are still available. For more information on giving opportunities, contact Molly Rawn, the Amazeum development director, at 479-696-9280 or mrawn@amazeum.org. “This is a gift that will be enjoyed throughout the year with benefits going well beyond that length of time,” Stockton says. “We believe encouraging imagination and learning from an early age is among the most valuable gifts we can give families.”
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A Visit and Photo with Santa at the NWA Mall!
Don’t miss your chance to let your little ones share their Christmas list with NWA’s favorite Santa.
NWA Circle of Friends Santa’s Workshop December 6 | 9-11 am St. Thomas Episcopal Church 2898 S. 48th Street Springdale Benefiting the Arkansas Children’s Hospital. $20 per child. Crafts, Games, Photos with Santa. Collecting unwrapped gifts for ACH Kids.
Here Comes Santa Claus Rogers Historical Museum Through January 3 Learn how other cultures view the image of Santa Claus and how it has changed over the centuries on this guided tour of the Hawkins House. Each room tells the story of Santa Claus from a different time and place, culminating in our current view of Santa Claus.
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Winter Camps at The Little Gym The Little Gym (479) 636-5566
Dec 22, 23, 29 and 30th: 9am-12 or 1pm-4pm Dec 24, 31, and January 2: 9am-12 With fun themes such as superheroes, fantasy castle, dinosaur ice age and New Year’s beach bash. Camps combine physical activity and games with arts, crafts and special events!
SoNA Presents ‘The Snowman: A Family Concert’ Sunday, December 14. 3pm. Walton Arts Center
To purchase tickets, please call the Walton Arts Center box office at (479) 443-5600 or visit www.sonamusic.org/tickets for online ticketing options through Tickets Northwest Arkansas.
Winter Break Wonders at Crystal Bridges
Crystal Bridges Saturday, December 20 - Sunday, January 4 Join us at the museum during your school break— we’re making special plans for family-friendly activities each afternoon, including art-making, live music, puppets, and more! Check our website for details. Free, no registration required. www.crystalbridges.org
Little Giggles Holiday Event! Wednesday December 17th Free with admission: activities run 9:30-12:30 Holiday craft, live music, mail a letter to santa! Dip into Santa’s magical sack for a treat! www.littlegigglesplay.com
Holiday Fun at Imagine Studios imagine-art-studio.com / Village on the Creeks, Rogers Mom and Me Snowman Workshop - December 6th 10am to 12pm. Each pair will paint a canvas. Polar Express PJ Night: December 5th 6-8:30pm - Read a book, decorate cookies, drink hot chocolate, make a special ornament, and other crafts. Santa’s Workshop - December 13th 10am - 12pm or December 16th from 5-7pm.
Children’s Christmas Train http://childrenschristmastrain.org This year, Children’s Christmas Train riders will depart from the Emma Street Depot in Springdale on Saturday, December 6th aboard a restored 1940s era train. The 40 minute ride to Johnson and back will include carolers, humorous skits, and even a visit with Santa himself! Although the event has “train” in its name, it is much bigger than that! After returning to the Springdale depot, families can enjoy holiday games and entertainment – ride ponies dressed as reindeer, operate a model train, write a letter to Santa or just enjoy the characters. Tickets may be purchased by calling 479-725-4017
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december Visit Santa on the Caboose Downtown Rogers www.mainstreetrogers.com
Boys and girls are invited to visit Santa on the Frisco Caboose. Take family photos and deliver holiday wishes to Santa on a real caboose. A special mailbox next to the caboose is a great place to drop off your letter to Santa at any time.
Project Christmas Tree Facebook: Project Christmas Tree projectchristmastreenwa@gmail.com Be a part of making this season a little more special for a family in need of a little extra touch.You don’t have to spend tons of money to pass on the magic, just pass on those holiday decorative items you no longer use to Project Christmas Tree. In a child’s eyes that Christmas tree is magical. Project Christmas Tree is in need of artificial trees, ornaments, lights, garland, ribbon, tree toppers, mesh ribbon, pipe cleaners to decorate trees to give to low income families who can’t afford to provide a tree and gifts for their children.
Visit the Bentonville Square Downtown Bentonville /
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Kick off the holiday season with a Christmas parade on the Bentonville Square on December 13 at 11am. Catch a Frosty Flick on the 6th, 13th, and 20th at Lawrence Plaza from 6:30 to 8:30. Grab your skates and take the entire family to the ice rink in the middle of the square.
Breakfast with Santa ACO Saturday, December 06, 2014 www.acozarks.org
Santa and Mrs. Claus visit the ACO for breakfast. Seatings at 8:30, 9:15 and 10:00 a.m. Crafts and a picture with Santa is included. Admission: $15 children, $5 adults Rogers Public Library Saturday December 6. 9 - 10:30am The whole family is welcome to join us for a continental breakfast with Santa! Come enjoy pastries and juice or coffee, visit with Santa, and color a picture to take home! Children under the age of 7 years must be accompanied by an adult. (479) 621-1152, ext. 26. Northwest Arkansas Mall Saturday, December 13, 2014 NorthwestArkansasMall.com Enjoy a traditional hot breakfast and visit with Santa. Each child will also receive a special gift. Mariachi’s Mexican Grill. 8-10am. Seating is limited and reservations are required.
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Christmas in New York Figure Skating Show www.ozarkfsc.org The Ozark Figure Skating Club will be presenting Christmas in New York Figure Skating Show December 13, 2014. 1pm and 5pm. After the show, all ticket holders are invited to the ice to skate with Santa and the cast. Sleigh rides and concessions will also be available. Tickets are $8 for adults and $5 for children.
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Okay, fair warning: This article has nothing to do with Christmas. I’m guessing some/ most/all of you are already on Yule overload and will be thankful for a non-crazyKringle-column. Well... there is actually an elf reference or two in here so technically there is a seasonal tie-in. Okay, I’m rambling, here we go. Today’s topic is business travel or, as my wife incorrectly calls it, “vacation.” It isn’t vacation; it’s a soul-sucking, mind-numbing, diet-wrecking, lifeshortening, plague-filled world of temporary living. Yes, business travel may seem to those left behind to man the fort a lighthearted scamper in and across these lovely 50 states of ours... but it isn’t. No way, no how. Let’s start with the business traveler’s flight. Because of the cartel that is affectionately known as the airline industry, you must fly between the hours of 10:00PM and 6:00AM lest you be hit with a fare equivalent to the GNP of Nicaragua. These days, anything within a 2-hour delay is loosely considered on-time and your reward is entering a 50-person capacity plane that happens to have 100 seats. Upon boarding this chemically enhanced metal tube, you get the opportunity to snuggle with a person you wouldn’t come within an acre of in the wild for 2-3 hours in a seat that could simply be described as “medieval.” I measure in at 6 feet tall and have the body proportions of an orangutan--short legs, long arms, lots of hair (sorry for the visual), and I can’t fit into these dang things. The internet tells me the average American male is 5’8”. I find this odd and unusual, as I’m tied
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for shortest amongst my clan of close compadres and rarely have I come across a gent under 5’5”. Anyhow, if the average U.S. man is truly 5’8”, then Santa’s elves number in the millions and all are American citizens. Why? Because that is the only way I can get the math to work. Millions of those short little buggers must be around somewhere to average things out. Airplane folk, or, as “Fight Club” called them “single serving friends” are everyday folk just like you and me, right? Nope. Anytime someone boards a plane their demonic evil twin takes over; it must have something to do with that blue toilet water. Anyway, this is the only explanation as to why anyone would lean their seat back. Given the third-world prison conditions already present in this environment, is leaning back really going to make or break your comfort? Seriously, if you lean back into my lap, I will make and break your neck! See, the evil twin comes out! Plane restrooms. Again, there have to be millions of elves around flying the not-so-very-friendly skies, otherwise why in the world would the bathrooms have these dimensions? This is a family magazine, but I’ll just say if you happen to desire to join a certain club these days on an airplane, then you are either the size of an action figure or a ridiculously flexible Cirque de Soleil performer. It is also obvious to me that stewardesses are hardcore criminals that were given a choice--a lifetime of servitude at 30,000 feet or the electric chair. They all have the same look that says the same thing, “I should have taken the chair.” Also, the captain likes to tell you “the stewardess’s main priority is your safety.” Really? Then why do they push a cart with two wonky wheels loaded with 500 degree Sanka down an aisle full of knees and elbows at 50 mph? I swear they keep score. One final word on air travel--have you ever met anyone
you would trust to build or fly a plane? Hmmm, let that one sink in. Side-story: My father-in-law used to work for Boeing in the 60’s. He absolutely will not get on a plane. He is also the President of the Water Board in my hometown and exclusively drinks bottled water. Kids, don’t do what experts say, do what they do. After the plane trip, I often find a cab since I’ve quickly learned every city has different driving rules. I’m not talking about driving on the left side of the road, I’m talking about the fact that everyone in New York ignores lane lines and in North Dallas the speed limit is however fast your car can go. I’ve also found after traveling to dozens of cities in a number of countries that taxi drivers all share a similar trait--a total disregard for human life. I’d bet good money I’ve ridden with at least one blind cabbie. Spooky stuff. Occasionally, I foolishly forget and attempt to rent a car, and that’s where I find the people who finished last in law school. They tell you very sternly that if you don’t buy the extra insurance and actually put a chip in their precious Hyundai they will hunt you down, chop off your fingers, lay siege to your hometown, and slay
Mississauga in the Fall sci-fi movie city once the nuke hits. Always read the fine print on the ol’ itinerary. Sometimes, though, you will hit a good city, but the timing is a bit off. Walmart execs are the ultimate Jedis at this. Hey y’all, let’s head to Houston (in August where it is hot enough to melt steel at midnight), or Kansas City (in January when you can’t put your arms down or feel your toes), or Orlando in March. If you haven’t been to Orlando in March then you should renounce your U.S. citizenship. It’s kind of like Hell Week for the Navy Seals, but not quite as comfy. I triple-dog dare you. But you get to stay in a nice hotel! Sometimes, yes--but come on. That’s just an old pig in a new dress. Do you really feel good about the sheets in any hotel room? I’m currently on a 15 hotel streak of non-working TV remotes. That’s just cruel. Dining options. Yes, there are some incredible choices in this great nation of ours, but too often high-rated restaurant means eclectic food, code for you getting to spend the last few hours before your flight expelling wasabi encrusted ostrich with a delightful white wine reduction from your system. Ouch. Also, hotel restaurants are usually the food de jour. Ever seen a hotel restaurant written up in Urban Spoon? I can’t tell you how many nights I would have happily paid $100 for an 8-count of Chick-Fil-A nuggets.
your pets. Wonderful chaps. “But, honey you get to go to such awesome places!” Location, location, location, right? That’s what they teach you in real estate school. Often I will say “Hey, I’m going to Toronto,” or “Tomorrow I head out to New York.” That isn’t accurate. Toronto is actually Mississauga, which is like Pineville without the dining options and culture. New York is actually Long Island City, Queens, which looks like the “after” version of a
So, I’ve ranted and rambled enough about terrible travel travesties; let’s get to the point. The loser in business travel isn’t the business traveler and it isn’t the spouse left home to defend the Alamo and it isn’t the kids missing their parent. It’s the family. There is a reason the almighty threw you all crazies together, just like there is a reason for all those parts under the hood of your car. They need to be together to work properly. So, when the travel gods summon, remember it’s not “Oh, woe is me”, it’s “Oh woe is we.” Safe travels, my friends.
The Affordable Care Act Northwest Health System Seeks to Educate and Enroll Uninsured Community Residents
At Northwest Health System, we are offering area residents the following information related to the next enrollment period coming up with the Affordable Care Act: As part of the Affordable Care Act, most U.S. citizens were required to have health insurance beginning in 2014. In 2015, there is a penalty if you’re not excluded for a particular reason. Wondering why health insurance is so important? Here is some information that may help. What is health insurance? Health insurance is a contract between you and an insurance company. When you buy a plan or policy, you pay a monthly fee, and in return, the company agrees to pay part of your medical expenses if you get sick or hurt. Is having health insurance mandatory? Yes, with few exceptions, most U.S. citizens are required to have health insurance under the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act which was signed into law in 2010. Those who do not have minimum essential health coverage through an employer and don’t qualify for an exemption will have to pay a penalty fee.
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What is that penalty? If you can afford health insurance coverage in 2015 but don’t sign up, you will have to pay a penalty ($325 per adult, $162.40 per child – up to $975 per family or 2% of income whichever is higher). Without insurance, you’ll be financially responsible for all of your medical costs. Who is exempt from having to get health insurance? The list is long, but here are a few reasons why a person might be exempt: Coverage is unaffordable (more than 8% of household income) You are a member of federally recognized Indian tribe You are below the tax filing threshold and are not required to file taxes You have been uninsured for less than three consecutive months during the year
When can a person purchase health insurance? For the Health Insurance Marketplace, enrollment periods are only for a specified time during the year. The next enrollment period is from November 15, 2014 through February 15, 2015. You can only purchase insurance outside of that time period if you have a qualifying life event such as a marriage,
divorce, new baby, and/or change of income, to name a few. You are considered covered if you have Medicare, Medicaid, CHIP, COBRA, retiree coverage, Tricare, VA health coverage, or any job-based or self purchased plan. What if you have a pre-existing condition like cancer, a diabetes diagnosis, or are pregnant? You cannot be excluded from coverage for any pre-existing condition. Equally important, Open parents can cover their children up to age 26 on enrollment their own insurance plan. for health
coverage runs Nov. 15, 2014 to Feb. 15, 2015
What do I need to do if I enrolled last year and have coverage?
The federal government has announced that those consumers who are already enrolled in a marketplace plan in 2014 will have an automatic enrollment option to select the same health plan coverage in 2015. Of course, these individuals and families have the option to shop for other coverage choices as well.
The marketplace enrollment tools spell out the steps consumers will need to take for the option to either auto-enroll in the same health insurance coverage or to shop for other choices. How can local, uninsured residents find help with enrollment? As a service to our community, Northwest Health System hospitals can help uninsured residents review coverage options on the Health Insurance Marketplace or determine eligibility for Medicaid. We can also assist with re-enrollment or with special enrollment if someone has had a life change such as a marriage, divorce, job loss, etc. To enroll, just call to schedule an appointment with one of our application coordinators by calling: 479-553-4551 NMC-Bentonville 479-757-3101 NMC-Springdale 479-684-3069 NMC-Willow Creek Women’s Hospital We also have Spanish speaking representatives available to assist.
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Bright, glistening lights that light up the nights , people hurrying about to find just the right gift for those they love, moms dressing their little blessings for recitals, pageants, and plays, and bright shiny packages wrapped in colorful bows are all sights and sounds of Christmas. Christmas is a magical time of the year and the time of year we celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ... who is the greatest gift of all.
This Christmas, you may feel there is no hope for you, your dreams, or for living the life you desire to live. My friend, there is hope, and it is found in Jesus and Jesus alone. Jeremiah 29:11 says “For I know the plans I have for you, saith the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Do not let the Christmas season be one where your pain, loss, and the ‘once was’ become magnified. We have a choice this season as to which “gifts” we will unwrap the “gifts” of fear, anger, depression, discouragement, loneliness, and general unhappiness, or the “gifts” of faith, peace, love, forgiveness, contentment, sound mind, joy, and general happiness. I know what it feels like to suffer loss and be in emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual pain. This last year and 2 months have been very difficult and challenging, but God has been there with me guiding my every step and He has never forsaken me. He is a friend that sticks closer than a brother. I was blessed to grow up in a Christian home where my parents led me to Jesus Christ at the early age of five. They gave me every opportunity they possibly could, and many times it was through making great sacrifices. I was always a daddy’s girl, and felt very protected, loved, and provided for by my daddy. There was not anything he would not have done for me. I was the apple of his eye and I was treasured by him. He was always proud of me and told me I could do anything I set my mind to. He was my biggest fan and always encouraged me when I was down. After a major disappointment or painful experience in my life, Daddy would say “Stephanie, remember who you are - you are a child of the most High King - you were bought with a price by Jesus and you are His masterpiece. Now pick yourself up and ask Jesus to redirect you and commit your activities to Him and they will succeed.” On September 29, 2013, my precious daddy’s race ended here on earth. He was carried on an angel’s wings to Heaven that day where he met his Lord and Savior face to face and I know Jesus said, “Well done my good and faithful servant. You ran the race well and now you are home.” My daddy’s death left me feeling unprotected, scared, and not provided for. I had lost one of my best friends and mentors and I felt like melting away, as the snow does when the sun warms it, and just drawing into myself, but I knew I could not. I was his legacy... and what a legacy to live up to.
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He built a very successful business from scratch, helped others in every way he could, and opened his heart to others as well. I could have just opened the “gifts” of fear, anger, sadness, discouragement, and depression but I decided not to open those “gifts” and honor my daddy by doing what he always told me to do. I got up and committed my own work and activities to the Lord and asked Him to use the talents and gifts He gave me to bless others. Thus, “The Christmas Gift” CD was made a reality. Christmas is the season when Christ became flesh, and He then grew up and served others. He came to seek and to save those who were lost, and I want to tell others the good news of what Christmas means through my music. For unto us a child is born - “That means you, Stephanie,” Daddy would say - a child is given and His name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Almighty God, Everlasting Father, and the Prince of Peace. “He is the gift of all gifts and the giver of all gifts,” Daddy would say. His name is Jesus and He is the light of the world. He is brighter than all the Christmas lights strung together and He will never leave you nor forsake you. He loved you so much that when He grew up He died on an old rugged cross for you and for everyone in the world. He paid the price so that we might talk with Him while we are still here on earth and ultimately have eternal life. All we have to do is accept His free gift of salvation - this is what Daddy would say that Christmas was all about. If you are facing giants in your life this Christmas, give them over to Jesus and He will guide you and satisfy you with good things, He will help you and make you strong, and you will be like a garden that has plenty of water and like a spring that never runs dry. He will open doors for you that no man can shut and He will help you overcome the obstacles that seem insurmountable. His goodness and grace never cease to amaze me. Remember to open the “gifts” that the Lord has for you this season, which include hope, joy, love, peace, sound mind, and happiness found in Him.
God Bless You All This Christmas, Stephanie Straight
A magical mix of Christmas Favorites such as Jingle Bells, I’ll Be home For Christmas, O Holy Night, Joy to The World and many more! $9.99 per CD or you may purchase Stephanie’s Gospel Favorites CD “We Bow Down” and “The Christmas Gift” for $17.99 Stephanie Straight is the owner and one of the operators of
Stephanie’s Musique Music Studio
3218 North Thompson St. Springdale, AR 72764 e-mail: stephanies_musique@yahoo.com
479-756-0740 www.stephaniestraight.com
At a Glance ARTS and MUSIC
Abrakadoodle (Pg. 32) (479) 856-6651 abrakadoodle.com Crystal Bridges (Pg. 42) (479) 418-5700 crystalbridges.org Imagine Studios (Pg. 17) (479) 619-6085 imagine-studios.com SoNA(Pg. 62) www.sonamusic.org Stephanie’s Musique (Pg. 73) www.stephaniesmusique.net The Walton Arts Center (Pg. 74) (479) 443-5600
At a Glance
BANKS
First Security (Pg. 46) www.fsbank.com; www.onlyinark.com
CHILDCARE/NANNY SERVICES
ABC Happy Kids (Pg. 57) (479) 202-5691 abchappykids.com Better Beginnings (Pg. 48) (800) 445-3316 arbetterbeginnings.com Bright Haven (Pg. 62) (479) 717-2344 The Kid’s Studio (Pg. 23) (479) 268-6675 www.thekidsstudio.com Larson’s Language Center (Pg. 26) (479) 633-9900 Mary’s Little Lambs (Pg. 65) (479) 273-1011 Seeking Sitters (Pg. 24) (501) 203-3097 www.seekingsitters.com
CHURCHES
Unitarian Universalist (Pg. 29) www.uubcar.com
CLOTHING
The Baby’s Room (Pg. 65) (479) 631-6001 thebabysroomnwa.com Belle Boutique (Pg. 15) (479) 249-9013 shopbelleboutique.com Dillard’s Department Store (Pg. 13) (479) 936-7984
DANCE/CHEER/TUMBLE/STRETCH
The Little Gym (Pg. 35) (479) 636-5566 tlgrogersar.com
DENTIST
Delta Dental (Pg. 55) deltadental.com Smile Shoppe Pediatric Dentistry (Pg. 4) (479) 631-6377
DERMATOLOGY
Hull Dermatology and Aesthetics (Pg. 36) (479) 254-9662 hullderm.com Kiehl’s Skin Care (Pg. 13)
NWA Center for Plastic Surgery (Pg. 2) (479) 571-3100 nwacenterforplasticsurgery.com
(479) 936-7984
EDUCATION/TRAINING
Imagine University (Pg. 27) imaginativeu.com Larson’s Language Center (Pg. 26) (479) 633-9900 Shiloh Christian School (Pg. 75) (479) 756-1140 Walnut Farm Montessori (Pg. 77) (479) 271-9424 walnutfarmmontessori.com
FAMILY FUN / ENTERTAINMENT
Fast Lane Entertainment (Pg. 61) (479) 659-0999 www.fastlanebowl.com Little Giggles (Pg. 35) (479) 268-4949 Starlight Skatium (Pg. 25) (479) 444-STAR The Walton Arts Center (Pg. 74) (479) 443-5600
TCBY (Pg. 3) (479) 636-8229 (TCBY)
FOOD / DRINK
FURNITURE
Bassett (Pg. 49) (479) 571-0200 bassettfurniture.com
HEALTH AND WELLNESS
Dr. Jim Elkins (Pg. 67) (479) 636-0300 Northwest Primary Care (Pg. 9) nw-physicians.com Tate HealthCare (Pg. 47) (479) 271-6511 www.tatehealthcare.com
HOME and YARD
Carpet Smart (Pg. 39) (479) 750-0117 / (866) 795-8520
JEWELRY AND GIFTS
David Adams (Pg. 31) davidadams.com
At a Glance LEARNING CENTER
ABC Happy Kids Learning Academy (Pg. 57) (479) 621-6126 www.abchappykids.com Larson’s Language Center (Pg. 26) (479) 633-9900
MARTIAL ARTS ATA (Pg. 78)
Bentonville: (479) 273-1212 / Fay: (479) 443-5425
MUSEUMS Amazeum (Pg. 11)
www.amazeum.org Rogers Historical Museum (Pg. 57) http://rogersar.gov/220/Historical-Museum
OPTOMETRIST
Pediatric Vision Development Center (Pg. 73) nwavisiontherapy.com (479) 795-1411
PEDIATRICIAN
Best Start Pediatric Clinic (Pg. 19) (479) 575-9359 Bentonville Pediatric Clinic (Pg. 8) (479) 273-5437 The Children’s Clinic at Springdale (Pg. 21) (479) 751-2522 Harvey Pediatrics (Pg. 67; 71) (479) 254-1100 harveypediatrics.com MANA NWA Pediatric Clinic (Pg. 60) (479) 443-3471
Sweet Emotions Counseling (Pg. 45) (479) 770-4673 se-counseling.com Tate HealthCare (Pg. 47) (479) 271-6511
Dilly Dally’s (Pg. 79) (479) 273-5557 Rollie Pollie (Pg. 20) (479) 866-9057
TOYS
WOMEN’S HEALTH
Life Spring Women’s Health (Pg. 32) (479) 271-0005 lifespringhealthcare.com Northwest Primary Care of Springdale (Pg. 9) (479) 927-2100 Northwest Women’s Health Center (Pg. 7) (479) 503-2525 Northwest Willow Creek Women’s Hospital (Pg. 5) (479) 684-3000 Parkhill Clinic for Women (Pg. 25) (479) 521-4433 Siloam Springs Women’s Center (Pg. 43) (479) 524-9312 siloamwomenscenter.com
PLASTIC SURGEON
NWA Center for Plastic Surgery (Pg. 2) (479) 571-3100 www.nwacenterforplasticsurgery.com
PRESCHOOL/ PRE-K
TALENT
ABC Happy Kids Learning Academy (Pg. 57) (479) 621-6126 www.abchappykids.com Kindergrove (Pg. 31) (479) 936-2155 Larson’s Language Center (Pg. 26) (479) 633-9900 Ozark Kids, Inc. (Pg. 59) (479) 935-9992 ozarkcca.org The Kid’s Studio (Pg. 23) (479) 268-6675 www.thekidsstudio.com Mary’s Little Lambs (Pg. 65) (479) 273-1011 Walnut Farm Montessori (Pg. 77) (479) 271-9424 walnutfarmmontessori.com N.C.K. Talent Academy (Pg. 38) (479) 445-6000 thenck.com
THERAPY
ABC Happy Kids Learning Academy (Pg. 57) (479) 621-6126 www.abchappykids.com Dr. Thomas Terry Lawson (Pg. 53) (479) 444-1400 www.terrylawson.com
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