A guide to
CeremoniesPeterborough in
Making your day truly memorable
Welcome and congratulations on your forthcoming ceremony We are delighted you are considering a ceremony in Peterborough. Whether
C o nt e nt s Welcome and congratulations...............................2 What is a civil ceremony?........................................3 Peterborough Register Office..................................4
you are… • Getting married
• Forming a civil partnership
• Becoming a British citizen
• Naming a child
• Renewing your vows …we aim to make your day truly memorable. You may wish to have a quiet, intimate ceremony or a larger more traditional ceremony. Whatever your
Licensed venues and map.................................... 5-8
preferences, whatever your choice, we are happy to discuss arrangements with
Celebratory ceremonies............................................9
you, leaving you free to enjoy the day with family and friends.
Getting married in England and Wales...............10
Within these pages you will find information on the variety of ceremonies
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and the wide range of venues available within the Peterborough registration
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district. Our registration staff will help you ensure your ceremony is conducted according to your wishes and in accordance with law. Once you have decided where to hold your ceremony, your next task is to contact us to ensure
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registrars are available for your special day at the venue you have chosen.
Suppliers............................................................... 16-17
We hope this guide will provide you with the information you will need but
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if you would like to speak to a registrar, please call us on 01733 864646.
“…From the booking to the service itself, everything was perfect. The staff on the day were brilliant and made everything run just as we wanted. Thank you so much…” 2 | Ceremonies in Peterborough
What is a civil ceremony? A civil ceremony is a non-religious ceremony. Two registrars are in attendance: one to conduct the ceremony and one to register. A civil wedding or civil partnership can take place in any register office or at any licensed venue of your choice in England or Wales. You can chose from the simplest of ceremonies in a register office with just a couple of friends or relatives as witnesses to a grand affair at a licensed venue with attendants, readings and music. The only stipulation for a civil ceremony is that there must be no religious content, including no religious music. If you choose to hold your ceremony at one of the licensed venues within the Peterborough registration district, you must contact us as soon as possible on 01733 864646 to make sure that we will have two registrars available for the big day. You will need to ask two people if they will witness your marriage or civil partnership. The witnesses must speak and understand English and be old enough to understand the ceremony and the role they play, generally considered to be 18 years or older. If you are currently in a civil partnership then you are now able to convert your partnership into a marriage. The conversion itself is a simple legal process but it can include a celebratory ceremony at our register office or at any approved marriage venue if you choose. The ceremony may also be held at a church or religious building if it has been licensed for same sex marriage. You will not need to bring any witnesses and there is no waiting period, although of course you will need to book an appointment.
“…Everything was perfect. The registrars were very professional but also very caring and thoughtful which added to the service…” “…You conducted a beautiful ceremony for us…” Marriage, according to the law of this country, is the union of two people, voluntarily entered into for life, to the exclusion of all others. It is a verbal contract in which both partners must declare their freedom to marry and then make their vows to take each other as husband or wife.
“…The registrar was brilliant and put everyone at ease. He explained what to do both beforehand and during the ceremony. It was simple and lovely…”
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Your ceremony at the Peterborough Register Office We offer a choice of three ceremony rooms in Peterborough: •
The Lawns, an elegant room which seats up to thirty guests, where you are able to include music and add your own readings. You will also be offered a choice of words for the ceremony.
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Alternatively if you are looking for a simpler ceremony without music, extra readings or choice of words, then the Thorpe room is available for you and up to six guests.
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Finally the Peterborough Register Office room itself which offers the minimum of fuss for just the couple, two witnesses and the registration staff.
13 The Lawns Maximum guests: 30 • Parking: Yes • Accommodation/Bedrooms: No
The Thorpe Maximum guests: 6 • Parking: Yes • Accommodation/Bedrooms: No
The building is easily accessible for ceremonies with all rooms on the ground floor, double doors and facilities for the disabled. The Lawns also has a loop hearing system for the hard of hearing. Please note that other than assistance dogs, we do not allow animals at ceremonies. You are welcome to bring a photographer or videographer to capture your special day and free car parking is available.
At the end of the ceremony you will be presented with your certificate. You can then make your way to the beautiful ivy-clad stone archway in the gardens, which provides a picturesque backdrop for your photographs. Confetti is allowed at the arch.
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Licensed venues Listed below are the venues that are currently licensed in the Peterborough registration district to carry out civil ceremonies for marriage, Baston civil partnership, renewal of vows or naming. Langtoft Essendine L I N C O L N S H I R E A15
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Yarwell Water Newton
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Apethorpe
Nassington Woodnewton
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Elton
Fotheringhay
Deene
Deenethorpe
Southwick Warmington
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Weldon
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Marholm Upton
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Newborough
Glinton
Helpston
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on-the-Hill Collyweston
Peakirk
Etton
Bainton
Barnack
A16
Maxey Northborough
St Martin’s Without
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Crowland
Market Deeping
Ryhall
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Woodston Fletton Stanground
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Whittlesey
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Bedford Hall The Bull Hotel Farcet Hampton Burghley House The Cresset Yaxley A1M The Great Northern Hotel C A M B R I D G E S H I R E 6. Holiday Inn 7. Key Theatre Stilton Folksworth
8. The Marriott Hotel
9. Orton Hall Hotel & Spa 10. Thorpe Hall 11. The Town Hall 12. The White Hart 13. Register Office
Ashton Holme
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Polebrook Glatton
Brigstock
Barnwell Sawtry
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The Bull Hotel The Bull Hotel is the city centre’s only Four Star Hotel with a Rosette for its food. Our packages ensure your wedding day is like no other. To arrange a showground or for further information on our Exclusive Wedding packages, please contact our dedicated Wedding Coordinators. • • • • •
Civil Ceremonies for up to 120 Wedding Breakfasts for up to 140 Wedding Receptions for up to 200 118 En suite bedrooms 100 Onsite Parking Spaces Maximum guests: 120 • Parking: Yes Accommodation/Bedrooms: Yes
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The Bull Hotel, Westgate, Peterborough PE1 1RB Telephone: 01733 561364 • Email: events@bull-hotel-peterborough.com www.peelhotels.co.uk
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Bedford Hall
Burghley House
Have your ceremony and reception all in one historic building with all the facilities that enable you to have the day of your dreams, just the way you want it.
You arrive at the gates of Burghley Park and travel through the beautiful Capability Brown landscape for your wedding ceremony in either the awe inspiring Great Hall, the elegant 18th century Orangery or the delightful Summer House.
Just seven miles from Peterborough in the village of Thorney, Bedford Hall includes a fully licensed bar, large kitchen and plenty of outside space.
Maximum guests: 110 • Parking: Yes • Accommodation/Bedrooms: No
Maximum guests: 60 • Parking: Yes • Accommodation/Bedrooms: No
Bedford Hall, Tank Yard, Station Road, Thorney PE6 0QE Telephone: 0845 3311466 Email: bookings@bedfordhall.co.uk www.bedfordhall.co.uk
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Burghley House, Stamford PE9 3JY Telephone: 01780 761 992 Email: Kara.lockyer@burghley.co.uk www.burghley.co.uk
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The Cresset The Cresset is Peterborough’s foremost wedding venue, with three elegant function suites ideal for wedding ceremonies and receptions. Whether you are planning an intimate gathering of your closest friends and family, or a large celebration for hundreds of guests, we can tailor the perfect package for your special day. Maximum guests: 160 • Parking: Yes • Accommodation/Bedrooms: No
The Cresset Ltd, Rightwell, Bretton, Peterborough PE3 8DX Telephone: 01733 842515 Email: functions@cresset.co.uk www.cresset.co.uk
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The Marriott Hotel
Holiday Inn
Situated in 11 acres of private grounds, The Peterborough Marriott really is the city’s leading wedding venue.
If you are looking for a contemporary setting for your wedding, then look no further than the Holiday Inn Peterborough West. Our hotel has everything you need for your perfect wedding day.
Our experienced and dedicated wedding team will make sure that your day is the perfect expression of who you are. For intimate ceremonies or for those on a grander scale, we can cater for up to 200 of your nearest and dearest. Offering a wide range of creative bespoke menus and drinks packages to suit, along with help and guidance to make sure you have everything covered so you can have your big day, your way.
We will treat your wedding day as a special event, unlike any other day. We will provide you with the perfect venue for your wedding, from small intimate gatherings to large celebrations.
Maximum guests: 200 • Parking: Yes • Accommodation/Bedrooms: Yes
Maximum guests: 300 • Parking: Yes • Accommodation/Bedrooms: Yes
The Holiday Inn, Thorpe Wood, Peterborough, PE3 6SG Telephone: 01733 289988 Email: conferences@hipeterborough.valoreurope.com www.holidayinn.com/p’borough-west
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Marriott Hotel, Lynch Wood, Peterborough Business Park, Peterborough PE2 6GB Telephone: 01733 371111 Email: mhrs.xvhpb.conferenceandevents@marriotthotels.com www.peterboroughmarriott.co.uk
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Details of licensed venues and capacities are correct at time of going to press. Maximum guests denotes number licensed to attend the service, not the reception.
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The Great Northern Hotel The Great Northern Hotel has been welcoming guests for over 150 years and is an oasis of historical charm right in the heart of Peterborough. A traditional venue with a modern touch, with excellent location and transport links. The venue has ample car parking facilities and is able to accommodate an initimate ceremony, or a more grand affair. The hotel can provide, exclusively for your use, a private hotel entrance, a ceremony room, garden, bridal suite and ballroom for up to 150 people for the evening reception. We offer a unique experience with either set or bespoke packages which are tailored to exceed your expectations. Our dedicated wedding team will be on hand to provide a personal service and work with you to create the style and ambience you wish for your special day. Maximum guests: 90 • Parking: Yes Accommodation/Bedrooms: Yes
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The Great Northern Hotel, Station Approach, Peterborough PE1 1QL Telephone: 01733 552595 • Email: events@gnhotel.co.uk www.gnhotel.co.uk
BEST WESTERN PLUS Orton Hall Hotel & Spa is a stunning location for your special day. Set in 20 acres of mature parkland, with easy access from Peterborough and its surrounds, this hotel has 70 bedrooms and combines elegant reception rooms with fine food and a professional service. Licensed for civil ceremonies, the hotel offers a unique combination of modern stylish rooms in a historic setting. Whatever you wish for, be it a lively celebration for over 100 guests or an intimate gathering for 40 or so of your closest friends, the hotel is the perfect venue for your perfect day – all year round. Maximum guests: 140 • Parking: Yes Accommodation/Bedrooms: Yes
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The Village, Orton Longueville, Peterborough, Cambridgeshire, PE2 7DN Telephone: 01733 391111 • Email: conference@ortonhall.co.uk www.abacushotels.co.uk
Details of licensed venues and capacities are correct at time of going to press. Maximum guests denotes number licensed to attend the service, not the reception.
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Thorpe Hall
The White Hart, Ufford Each wedding is unique and as such we take pride in spending time with you to ensure that all your requirements are met.
This 17th century Grade I listed mansion house and gardens provides an ideal wedding backdrop. Your ceremony takes place in the historic Great Hall with the marble hallway and Parlour open for you and your guests.
We can hold up to 50 guests for a ceremony, 60 for a wedding breakfast and up to 130 guests for an evening reception.
By holding your wedding at Thorpe Hall you are supporting Sue Ryder Thorpe Hall Hospice. Maximum guests: 75 • Parking: Yes • Accommodation/Bedrooms: No
Thorpe Hall, Thorpe Road, Longthorpe, Peterborough, PE3 6LW Telephone: 01733 225900 Email: thorpehall@sueryder.org www.sueryder.org/thorpehall
Maximum guests: 50 • Parking: Yes • Accommodation/Bedrooms: Yes
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The White Hart, Main Street, Ufford, Stamford PE9 3BH Telephone: 01780 740250 Email: info@whitehartufford.co.uk www.whitehartufford.co.uk
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The Town Hall The Town Hall in Bridge Street offers a unique setting for your ceremony in the heart of the city. There are a number of licensed rooms available from the intimate Members’ Lounge overlooking the marbled staircase to the grand Council Chamber itself. All rooms are accessed through the historic atrium. Bishops Road gardens are located 200 metres behind the Town Hall for those scenic garden photographs.
The Key Theatre For a venue with a difference, the Key Theatre provides a stunning location for your ceremony on the banks of the River Nene and only a stone’s throw from the city centre.
It is a spectacular venue, with all the period décor you would expect from a civic building dating back to the 1930s.
As well as the main stage, the Key has a variety of rooms available for your ceremony, some with river views. Maximum guests: 360 • Parking: Yes (pay and display) Accommodation/Bedrooms: No
The Key Theatre, Embankment Rd, Peterborough PE1 1EF Telephone: 01733 207239 Email: key.theatre@vivacity-peterborough.com www.vivacity-peterborough.com/roomvenue-hire
Maximum guests: 200 • Parking: Yes (pay and display) Accommodation/Bedrooms: No
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The Town Hall, Bridge Street, Peterborough, PE1 1HG Telephone: 01733 747474 Email: ask@peterborough.gov.uk www.peterborough.gov.uk
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Details of licensed venues and capacities are correct at time of going to press. Maximum guests denotes number licensed to attend the service, not the reception.
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Celebratory ceremonies Renewal of vows A renewal of vows ceremony offers a way to once again say “I do” and reaffirm your love and commitment towards each other. Some couples choose to renew their vows to commemorate an important anniversary but of course it is equally appropriate for any stage of marriage. These ceremonies are also becoming increasingly popular with couples who have married abroad and wish to have a ceremony with all their friends and family present. The renewal of vows ceremony can be as unique and individual as the couple arranging it. We will guide you through the options available. For instance, you may choose to exchange new rings or gifts to mark
the occasion and you may decide to acknowledge your children or involve friends or family members by including non-religious readings. Two people will witness the signing of a commemorative certificate of the event and this will be presented to you along with a personalised copy of your unique ceremony script as a memento of the occasion. If you would like a private ceremony between the two of you with just the celebrant present, please ask. Please note that neither the renewal of vows nor any document issued following the ceremony has legal status.
Naming ceremonies A naming ceremony is a very special way of celebrating the birth of your child and welcoming your new arrival into your family if you do not wish to have a religious ceremony. It is also the perfect opportunity to announce the names you have chosen for your child. Children of any age may have a naming ceremony and they can also be used as a celebration to welcome adopted or stepchildren into your family unit. As parents you are able to create your own personal ceremony by selecting readings from a number of choices. You may also choose those closest to you to pledge their love and support for your child’s future. If you would like to include older brothers and sisters in the
ceremony this can be also be arranged. A commemorative certificate is presented at the end of the ceremony along with a personalised copy of your unique ceremony script as a memento of the occasion. Please note that neither the naming ceremony nor any document issued following the ceremony has legal status. The ceremony is simply a way that parents can make a public gesture of love and commitment to their child. The record of the ceremony cannot be used as a legal document or as proof of identity and neither is the ceremony legally binding on those who take part in it.
Citizenship ceremonies in Peterborough The citizenship ceremony is the final stage for anyone taking British citizenship. This ceremony marks the end of a long journey for people from many parts of the world and is both a celebration of their new status as British citizens and a warm welcome from the local Peterborough community. Group ceremonies are held in the Council Chamber at the Town Hall or alternative arrangements may be made for a private ceremony at Peterborough Register Office.
The playing of the national anthem concludes the ceremony. Other leading members of the community and guests also attend ceremonies and join new citizens, their guests, the dignitaries and registration staff for refreshments in the Town Hall’s reception room afterwards. We value these ceremonies as important community occasions for Peterborough.
In Peterborough the emphasis is on providing a warm welcome for an enjoyable occasion. The Mayor, a dignitary and the superintendent registrar makes a grand entrance to music and there are speeches. After the oaths or affirmations and the pledge of loyalty, each new citizen is presented with a naturalisation certificate by the Mayor and photographs are taken by the official photographer. A quality gift is given to each adult and children receive a Union Jack flag to wave. Details of licensed venues and capacities are correct at time of going to press. Maximum guests denotes number licensed to attend the service, not the reception.
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Getting married in England and Wales Legal preliminaries
and your partner. They will ask you to give your full names,
If you are marrying or forming a civil partnership in a register
occupations, ages, addresses, nationalities and whether you have
office or a licensed venue, you must give notice of your intention
been married or been in a civil partnership before.
to the registrar in the district where you live. If you and your
The registrar will also ask you to provide written evidence of
partner live in different districts, you must each give a separate notice to the registrar of your own district.
your full name, nationality, age and proof of current address. Acceptable documents are listed below:
Giving notice means making a legal declaration that you are both free to marry or form a civil partnership with each other. You can
Identity / Nationality
only give notice of your intention once you have booked the venue
• Current passport in your current name or EEA national ID card
where the ceremony is to take place since information on the
• Full UK birth certificate showing parents’ details (in certain
venue is included on your legal notice. If the venue should change
circumstances we may also require your parents’ birth certificates)
after you have given notice, a new notice will need to be made.
• Evidence of changes to your name such as a deed poll
Notice must be given at least 28 days before the ceremony although in certain circumstances this may be extended to 70 days. It will then be valid for one year. There is a statutory fee for giving notice of intention to marry or enter into civil partnership. Please see our website for the current fees and charges.
certificate or marriage certificate
Current address • A valid UK driving licence showing your current address • A utility bill dated within the last three months • Your last council tax bill
At Peterborough Register Office we take marriage and civil
• A bank statement dated within the last month
partnership notices by appointment. Please call us on 01733 864646
• A letter signed by your landlord to confirm your residence
to make an appointment. A booking fee is payable at the time of making the appointment and this fee is then used to cover the
If you’ve been in a marriage or civil partnership
cost of the notice when you attend for your appointment.
If you have been in a previous marriage or civil partnership,
The ceremony fee is usually collected at the notice appointment.
you will need to bring documentary evidence to show that the
If you are subject to immigration control
marriage or civil partnership has ended and that you are now free to marry or enter into a civil partnership.
If either or both of you are subject to immigration control i.e. non-
• A decree absolute (following divorce)
British or not a national from within the EEA, you will need to follow
• A dissolution certificate (from a previous civil partnership)
special guidance which can be obtained from the Home Office
• A death certificate (if your husband/wife or former civil partner
website. The Superintendent Registrar at Peterborough Register
has died)
Office may also be able to advise. Please call us on 01733 864646.
All divorce and dissolution documents must have the original stamp of the issuing court and some overseas documents may
Documents you will need to provide
have to be referred to the General Register Office for clearance
When you give your notice of intention to marry or enter into
(with a certified translation, if appropriate). This may take some
a civil partnership, the registrar will ask questions about you
time, the registrar will be able to advise.
All documents must be original and in English or accompanied by a translation. Photocopies will not be accepted. If you are under 18, you will need to bring proof of your parents’ or guardians’ consent. Please contact us for a form of consent, which they will need to complete before your notice can be given.
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Marriage in the Church of England If you have not been married before (and in some circumstances if you have) you have a legal right to be married in the Church of England parish church where you live. You may also be able to get married in other churches if your family has historic links with the church. The vicar will be able to advise you of the legalities and the calling of banns.
Marriage in any other church or religious building Many religious buildings and churches can be used for marriages; please contact the minister to discuss this further. Usually you or your partner must live within their district, although some exceptions apply if, for instance, you worship there regularly. However, the minister will not be able to call banns and you will need to give notice of marriage at the register office of the district where you live. Some churches also require the attendance of a registrar at the wedding ceremony; please check with the minister to see if this is the case and contact us on 01733 864646 to ensure a registrar will be available for your ceremony.
Getting married or forming a civil partnership abroad If you are thinking of going abroad for your ceremony we advise you to contact the appropriate country’s embassy in England for advice on the formalities and documentation required. You may still be required to give notice of marriage or civil partnership in order to obtain a certificate of no impediment. Please contact Peterborough Register Office if you need this document and live in our district.
“…If we had been the King and Queen of England, I doubt very much if we could have been treated any better than we were! Please congratulate everyone concerned…”
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On the day Arrival Please enter the building by the main entrance where you will be greeted by a member of staff and directed to the waiting room. It is very important that you and your guests arrive in good time for your ceremony. As the registrars will probably have other ceremonies to attend on the day. It is important that you, your witnesses and your guests arrive 10 minutes before the start of the ceremony. If the bride does not want to be seen by the groom, he should arrive 15 minutes before the start. It is a good idea to check local travel news on the day and make allowances for road-works, football matches, etc. Please be aware, if you are late we may not be able to proceed as planned: the wedding may be postponed until later in the day, if that is possible, or it may have to be rescheduled for another day which may then require a new notice of marriage/civil partnership and a repeat notice of marriage fee. Before the ceremony can begin, you must both be ready for a private pre-ceremony interview by the registrar. This is essential to ensure all your personal details are correct for the registration of your marriage or civil partnership. You will both be asked for your full names, ages, occupations and residence together with the full names and occupations of your natural or legally adoptive parents and whether they are retired or deceased.
Witnesses The law requires that you bring at least two other people aged 18 or over who are willing to witness the ceremony and sign the register. They may be relatives, friends or colleagues and they must be able to speak and understand English well and be able to hear what is taking place.
Number of guests In addition to your witnesses, you may wish to invite your family and friends to the celebration. Each ceremony room will be licensed for a particular number of guests and you must adhere to these numbers to comply with fire regulations. Children who are able to sit on their own unaided are counted within the number of guests. The Lawns ceremony room can hold 30 guests and the Thorpe room can hold six guests. Please check capacity numbers for licensed venues with the venue itself.
“…A lovely, simple, intimate ceremony conducted in a small friendly environment. Many thanks for making it so enjoyable…” “…Thank you for making our special day even more special!…” “…We were really nervous, but we were helped along during the service to relax and enjoy it. We loved the music. We couldn’t have asked for a better ceremony…”
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The ceremony If you are using The Lawns ceremony room and you wish to make a grand entrance either together or individually with escorts, then you are very welcome to do this and we can arrange it so that your guests are ready waiting in the room for you. The ceremony is conducted by the Registrar and you will be given a choice of ceremony wording. The Registrar will enter your details into the register or schedule and you will be asked to check that these have been correctly recorded. You will need to check this carefully as you may be put to some inconvenience if errors discovered later have to be corrected.
The Registrar will then ask you both to sign the entry in the names which you used during the ceremony. Your two witnesses will then be asked to sign the register or schedule. The ceremony (including your interview) takes approximately half an hour.
celebrations. At Peterborough Register Office we are happy for your guests to use confetti by the stone archway in our gardens. You will need to check the policy of your chosen venue if you are being married elsewhere.
Recording the event
Interpreter
A wedding album is a very special memento and we are happy to allow photography at particular points in the ceremony: as the guests take their seats, as the main entrance party arrive at the doors to the ceremony room and walk up the aisle, during the exchange of rings (by the official photographer only) and after the signing of the register. How much time can be taken for photographs will be at the discretion of the Registrar. At the end of the ceremony, photographs can be taken at the official presentation of the certificate and as the couple leave the ceremony room. Afterwards more photographs can be taken in our gardens by the stone arch.
It is essential that you fully understand the content of your marriage or civil partnership ceremony, the vows you will be taking and therefore the full legal implications of such a celebration. If there are any language difficulties, you must provide a suitable interpreter to attend the ceremony. The interpreter will have to sign a declaration to confirm they have translated the legal words for you and they are satisfied that you understand the nature and purpose of the ceremony. They will also be asked to sign the register.
Music Music can be played at ceremonies in the Lawns room and at licensed venues. We have a selection of music available or you can provide your own on CD brought to us at least one week ahead of the big day. Try to provide different pieces for the arrival of the guests, the bridal entrance party, the signing of the register (this might require two tracks) and the exit. Remember that as this will be a civil ceremony, there must be no religious content or connotation in your chosen music. In the approved venues you may of course arrange live music, once again with no religious content.
Flowers The Lawns ceremony room is decorated with seasonal displays of silk flowers.
Parking The Peterborough Register Office has ample free parking. Please be aware that Peterborough City Council does not accept any responsibility for damage to or theft from vehicles whilst parked at the office.
Confetti Confetti is a traditional part of many marriage or civil partnership
Fees There are legally set fees for giving notice of marriage or civil partnership and there are additional costs for the attendance of registrars to perform your ceremony. You will be advised of these costs when you book your registrar attendance, alternatively they can be found on the Peterborough City Council website, please visit www.peterborough. gov.uk/residents/births-deaths-and-ceremonies/marriages-and-civilpartnerships/
Cancellation policy In the event that you need to cancel a ceremony for which you have already paid, you will be required to provide your request in writing and it will be subject to the following guidelines: •
Six months or more notice of cancellation – full refund (less a £20 administration fee).
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Three to six months notice of cancellation – 50 per cent refund (less a £20 administration fee).
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Less than three months notice of cancellation (or failure to cancel or show) – no refund.
In the event that you need to change the date of your ceremony, a £20 administration fee will be payable. In the event that you need to change the time (but not the date) of your ceremony, no fee will be payable.
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Wedding traditions Roots and rituals The origins and meaning behind some of our most cherished wedding traditions may surprise you. Many of the traditions associated with modern day weddings can be found to have their roots in the customs and rituals of our ancestors.
The bride stands on the left and groom on the right It is believed the practice goes back to times when the groom would ‘capture’ his bride by kidnapping her. Should the groom have to fight off other men who also wanted her as their bride, he would hold her with his left hand whilst leaving his right hand free to use his sword.
Third finger, left hand Engagement and wedding rings are traditionally worn on the third finger of the left hand. The Romans believed that the vein in that finger runs directly to the heart. The wedding ring represents a never-ending circle, symbolising everlasting love.
Throwing confetti Originates from the ancient pagan rite of showering the happy couple with grain to wish them a fruitful union.
Tossing the bouquet In days gone by, women would try to rip pieces of the bride’s dress and flowers in order to obtain some of her good luck. To get away from the crowd the bride would toss her bouquet and run away. Nowadays the bouquet is tossed to single women with the belief that whoever catches it will be the next to marry.
Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue, and a Silver Sixpence in Your Shoe ‘’Something Old’’ signifies the bride’s link to her family and the past. The bride might, for example wear a piece of family jewellery or her mother’s/grandmother’s wedding dress. ‘’Something New” reflects hope for good fortune and success in the future. The bride often chooses the wedding gown as the ‘new’ item. ‘’Something Borrowed’’ is often an item already worn by a happy bride at her
“…The register office staff made us feel comfortable and relaxed. It was a really special day…”
wedding, such as a handkerchief or item of jewellery. ‘’Something Blue’’ dates back to biblical times when the colour blue was considered to represent purity and fidelity.
“…The registrars were very welcoming, made us feel at our ease and explained what would happen. The ceremony felt very personal and relaxed and we never felt rushed…”
Over time this has evolved from wearing blue clothing to wearing a
“…A great experience: well organised, friendly… just wonderful!…”
bride’s left shoe is a symbol of wealth, not simply to bring the bride
blue band around the bottom of the bride’s dress and more modern times where the bride wears a blue coloured garter. ‘’And a Silver Sixpence in Your Shoe’’ - the placing of a silver sixpence in the financial wealth but also a wealth of happiness and joy throughout her marriage.
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Readings and music If your ceremony is to take place in the Peterborough Register Office’s Lawns room or at a licensed venue, you will be able to personalise it by including music and/or one or two short pieces of verse or prose read by you or your guests. We have included a selection of readings on these pages but you are welcome to choose your own as long it contains no religious references or connotations. The same applies to any music that you would like to use to enhance your ceremony so please ensure that you do not include any hymns or sacred choral works or arias. If you would like to include music, record it on to a CD and label it to show which pieces are to be used when your guests are being seated, for the entrance of the bridal party, the signing of the register and when you exit the ceremony room. We will need to review your choices of music and readings in advance of the ceremony so please remember to provide a copy of your reading(s) when you return your ceremony information sheet at least four weeks before your big day.
Chinese Poem
I Will Be Here
From: ‘Captain Corelli’s Mandolin’
Author unknown
Steven Curtis Chapman
Louis de Bernieres
I want to be your friend forever and ever
If in the morning when you wake, If the sun does not appear, I will be here. If in the dark we lose sight of love, Hold my hand and have no fear, I will be here.
Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your root was so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.
When the hills are all flat and the rivers run dry When the trees blossom in winter and the snow falls in summer, when heaven and earth mix – not till then will I part from you.
I Can Promise Author unknown I cannot promise you a life of sunshine; I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold; I cannot promise you an easy pathway That leads away from change or growing old. But I can promise all my heart’s devotion; A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow; A love that’s ever true and ever growing; A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow.
Scaffolding Seamus Heaney Masons when they start upon a building
I will be here, When you feel like being quiet, When you need to speak your mind I will listen. Through the winning, losing, and trying we’ll be together, And I will be here. If in the morning when you wake, If the future is unclear, I will be here. As sure as seasons were made for change, Our lifetimes were made for years, I will be here. I will be here, And you can cry on my shoulder, When the mirror tells us we’re older. I will hold you, to watch you grow in beauty, And tell you all the things you are to me. We’ll be together and I will be here. I will be true to the promises I’ve made, To you and to the one who gave you to me. I will be here.
Are careful to test out the scaffolding; Make sure that planks won’t slip at busy points, Secure all ladders, tighten bolted joints. And yet all this comes down then the job is done Showing off walls of sure and solid stone. So, if my dear, there sometimes seems to be Old bridges breaking between you and me Never fear. We may let the scaffolds fall Confident that we have built our wall.
Eskimo Love Song You are my husband, you are my wife My feet shall run because of you My feet dance because of you My heart shall beat because of you My eyes see because of you My mind thinks because of you And I shall love, because of you.
From ‘The Bridge Across Forever’ Richard Bach A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for whom we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life.
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Suppliers Lakeside Kitchen & Bar Lakeside Kitchen & Bar offers a magical and unique setting for your special day. Though you’ll feel a million miles from the hustle of the city, this unique venue is located less than five miles from the centre of Peterborough and easily accessible by road. Our newly refurbished venue provides all the flexibility you could need, with each room offering terrific views of the lake. What’s more, we cook all our delicious food on site in our amazing kitchen. Whilst we are not licensed for civil ceremonies, our unique and beautiful setting is the perfect backdrop for a very special reception. You can be sure that our venue will provide the most stunning and serene of settings. During the warmer months, you can enjoy a picture-perfect al-fresco drinks reception on the external lakeside deck, which
overlooks the beautifully landscaped setting. Or how about a cosy crackling fire to warm those chilly toes? Whatever the weather, you could not ask for a more stunning backdrop for a wedding reception. We know that this is the most important day in your life and we are happy to tailor your wedding to your exact requirements and we can build your own dream day. You will be delighted with a level of service that exceeds your expectations.
Lakeside Kitchen & Bar, Ferry Meadows, Nene Park, Ham Lane, Peterborough, Cambridgeshire PE2 5UU Telephone: 01733 233218 • Email: raj.regmi@meadowbrownrestaurants.com www.lakesidekitchenandbar.com
Intermezzo String Quartet
Intermezzo String Quartet is the perfect choice for your Civil Wedding Ceremony or Church Service, for your Drinks Reception, and your Wedding Breakfast. We play beautiful string arrangements, from classical to easy listening through to modern songs, which give a gentle background and sense of occasion throughout your day.
Thairapy
Bridal hair stylist
Bridal and Vintage Hair Stylist Becks Simpson, has been creating beautiful hair styles for many brides for over 10 years.
To chat about what we can give to you and for our reasonable rates and special offers, do not hesitate to phone Helen or to email.
Her work can be found in all the major wedding magazines and blogs.
Stamford, Peterborough, Rutland and beyond Telephone: 01780 752114 Email: info@intermezzostringquartet.co.uk www.intermezzostringquartet.co.uk
Telephone: 07817 751129 Email: thairapyfreelance@gmail.com www.thairapy-freelance.co.uk
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Suppliers Normanton Park Hotel Best Western Normanton Park Hotel offers a beautiful backdrop to your wedding day. We are situated within 5 acres of gardens and parkland overlooking Rutland Water. The perfect surroundings for those all important pictures! The 18th century courtyard hotel boasts excellent food, beautiful water view accommodation and attentive service. The perfect venue whatever your occasion, a weekend break, dinner for two or your perfect wedding day. At Best Western Normanton Park Hotel our emphasis is always focused on quality of service, whether we are helping to arrange your wedding plans or simply hosting your reception. Our dedicated and experienced wedding co-ordinators will help guide you through planning your big day so it’s everything you ever wished it could be. Best Western Normanton Park Hotel, Rutland Water, South Shore, Rutland LE15 8RP Telephone: 01780 720315 • Email: info@normantonpark.co.uk www.bw-normantonpark.co.uk
Steve Bean Classical Guitarist
Beautiful, captivating music for weddings and special occasions. Music can play a very important part in creating the right ambiance for any special occasion. For your wedding, Steve is able to offer a bespoke service to suit you wishes. From playing the entrance music for the bridal party, to providing background music during the reception drinks and wedding breakfast, creating the perfect atmosphere. Telephone: 07709 772269 Email: info@stevebean.co.uk www.stevebean.co.uk
Nene Valley Weddings Classic luxury: Your vintage wedding car arrives for your special day, polished to a brilliant shine and beautifully decorated with ribbons to match your chosen colour scheme. The traditionally-attired chauffeur welcomes you, opening the doors for you and ensuring that you are comfortable. Your journey to the church is driven at a leisurely pace so that you can enjoy the sights and your surroundings. With a modern twist: Our industry first technology will give you a unique view and memory of your special day. Throughout the journey photographs are captured subtly at regular intervals. The process is automatic and results in a selection of perfectly natural, relaxed and beautiful memories of your special day. 16 Pembroke Grove, Glinton, Peterborough, PE6 7LG Telephone: 01733 253776 Email: tim@nenevalleyweddings.co.uk www.nenevalleyweddings.co.uk
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Wedding planner As soon as possible
Two months before
Agree a rough budget, style of ceremony and number of guests.
Send your ceremony arrangement form to Peterborough Register Office.
Consider a few dates then contact Peterborough Register Office to check availability and book the registrar.
Confirm final arrangements with the venue and plan the reception seating arrangements.
Book the ceremony/reception venue.
Arrange final fitting of dress.
Book photographer and/or videographer.
Finalise groom’s and attendants’ outfits.
Book musicians and entertainment.
Choose gifts for the bridesmaid(s) and best man.
Check on wedding insurance.
Twelve months before Contact Peterborough Register Office to arrange to give notice of marriage. Decide on the bridesmaids, best man and ushers (if required). Plan bridal dress, bridesmaids’ dresses, groom’s and his attendants’ suits. Arrange any transport you may need to get you or your guests to and from the wedding. Plan and book the honeymoon. Book caterer, if required.
Six months before Book florist – decide on the flowers for the bridal party, buttonholes and corsages, ceremony room (if you are using a licensed venue) and reception. Order wedding cake. Order invitations/other stationery. Speak to hairstylist/make-up artist to plan for your day. Start thinking about your gift list.
Three months before Finalise guest list. Finalise menus and make wine/drinks selections. Send out invitations. Send lists of local accommodation to guests who may need it. Buy ring(s). Have a first fitting for the wedding dress. Plan hen/stag nights. If you are honeymooning abroad, check your passport is up to date and arrange vaccinations and visas if required. If you plan to change your name in your passport please contact the Peterborough Register Office. Book hotel room for your first night if necessary.
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Four weeks before Collect rings if you have not already done so. Decide on hairstyle and have a practice run. Order currency for honeymoon. Check transport arrangements. Confirm all bookings: photographer, entertainment, florist etc.
Two weeks before Advise the venue/caterer of final numbers of guests. Confirm final arrangements with hairdresser/beauty salon. Collect dresses and get advice about storage of them before the big day. Pick up currency and tickets for the honeymoon. Prepare speeches. Run through a rough timetable of the day with bridesmaids, best man and ushers, to make sure they know what they’re doing and at what time of day. Write things down and give them a copy if you feel you need to! Try on wedding shoes and wear them in!
The week leading up to the wedding Time the journey to ensure that there will be no unexpected delays en route. Take the cake to the venue. Ensure all hired clothes are collected on time. Arrange that presents will be packed up and taken home after the wedding. Start packing for your first night/honeymoon. Remember your passports if you are travelling abroad!
On the day This is your day so relax and enjoy your wonderful wedding!
“…The registrars made everything run smoothly and put the bride at ease! They had a lovely, friendly nature throughout…”
Making your day truly memorable
Peterborough Register Office 33 Thorpe Rd, Peterborough PE3 6AB. Telephone 01733 864646 | Email peterboroughregisteroffice@peterborough.gov.uk www.peterborough.gov.uk/registeroffice
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