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Shining a light on mental health resources during an especially difficult year

BY LISA CUNNINGHAM // LCUNNING@PGHCITYPAPER.COM

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T’S BEEN ALMOST five weeks since our colleague and friend Alex

Gordon, Pittsburgh City Paper’s managing editor, died of suicide.

Prior to his passing, we planned to focus the Health Issue on people’s well-being during this difficult year. Now, we’ve shifted focus to mental health and suicide awareness, and dedicated the issue in his name.

Alex was one of the many Americans furloughed this summer due to financial reasons related to the pandemic. And just as job losses and furloughs can add to mental health distress, so can working during the pandemic. A behavioral health therapist shared with one of our reporters back in August that frontline workers are showing similar signs to 9/11 responders, with some therapists expecting damaging effects of working under the stressful conditions of the pandemic to remain with them for the rest of their careers.

But frontline workers aren’t just nurses — they’re also grocery store cashiers, restaurant servers, ride-hail drivers, and yes, journalists, too.

Just last week, almost four weeks after Alex died, we learned of the suicide of another reporter: Hannah Colton, a 29-year-old news director from New Mexico. Like Alex, her eulogy said she had been loved PITTSBURGH CITY PAPER by her colleagues, that she was open IS DONATING A PORTION about her depression, and that she had been eager to report on the pandemic, OF PROCEEDS FROM THIS WEEK’S ISSUE the election, and social injustice.

In Pittsburgh, our reporting on the IN ALEX GORDON’S Black Lives Matter movement has been NAME TO LOCAL MENTAL constant in the wake of the killings HEALTH ORGANIZATION of George Floyd and Breonna Taylor, STEEL SMILING. especially following last year’s report that named the city one of the worst places in America for Black women.

(For a personal essay from a local Black woman who speaks openly about her own struggles with depression, see page 16.) The city also has a long history of police brutality and racism, which has led to damaging effects on the mental health of Black people in our region.

For these reasons, Pittsburgh City Paper is donating a portion of proceeds from this week’s Health Issue in Alex’s name to the local mental health organization Steel Smiling, which aims to “bridge the gap between Black people and mental health support through education, advocacy, and awareness.” (You can read more about them in our article on suicide prevention on page 6.)

Alex was always very open with us about his struggles with depression, and he was also very open about the importance of counseling. (Read our tips for finding a good therapist on page 14.) His death came very unexpectedly, and we are still in a tremendous amount of pain from his loss. This issue was very difficult for us to put together, but as you’ll read in our story, “How to grieve in a pandemic” on page 12, we learned there’s a term called “meaning-making,” which happens when you work through something incredibly awful, and are able to turn it into something meaningful.

We hope, then, that this issue is something meaningful and that it gives everyone out there a reason to keep going. And going. And going.

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SUICIDE PREVENTION How to help those contemplating suicide and keep them safe

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understandably worried about how the coronavirus pandemic is affecting American’s mental health. During a week in late June, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported that the virus had already caused a higher number of mental health conditions in U.S. adults.

Experts predicted that the pandemic would exacerbate mental health problems and eventually lead to more suicides. School closures, stay-at-home

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orders, loss of employment, and loss of income all contributed to the erosion of social networks.

According to the CDC, these factors are contributing to more suicides nationally.

With COVID cases rising again, and an election that won’t seem to end, those stressors seem to be continuing at pace. But there are steps that everyone can take to combat this crisis. It is not hopeless.

Pittsburgh City Paper spoke to local organizations that provide suicide-prevention resources and support, and they both offered advice on how to detect

if someone is experiencing suicidal thoughts, how to help address and work through those thoughts, and how to maintain support for people so they can continue their positive mental health.

How to spot warning signs JESSE PUTKOSKI IS THE Western Pennsylvania director

for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, a nationwide nonprofit that raises funds for scientific research and provides support for those who have lost loved ones to suicide.

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Putkoski says AFSP suggests looking for three different factors in people who might be considering suicide: talk, behavior, and mood. Someone talking about wanting to commit suicide is the most obvious sign, but Putkoski says that talking about being a burden on people around them can also be a sign that they are struggling.

Some behaviors that people should monitor are issues with sleep, sudden withdrawal from activities, and the overuse of alcohol and drugs, says Putkoski. This can also mean asking about noticeable differences in people’s social media use. People setting up ways or methods in which to harm themselves is also something to look out for. And overall, Putkoski advises people to generally monitor people’s behavior and moods to see if they are consistently acting out of the ordinary.

“Paying attention to differences in people’s mood is important,” says Putkoski. “Anything dissimilar from their normal behavior. Even unexplained happiness, it can indicate they are going to act on a plan.”

Some might think this comes across as paranoid, but it’s not as if noticing how people are acting differently is the same as policing a loved one’s behavior.

And opening up a dialogue about these warning signs doesn’t have negative consequences, as some people might assume.

“Talk to them, show them that you care,” says Putkoski. “You can ask them directly [about suicide]. Studies show that asking people who aren’t thinking about it is not going to put the idea into their heads.”

Julius Boatwright, founder and chief executive officer of local mental health organization Steel Smiling, says crises can look different for different people.

And that understanding the disparate ways people are in pain can help identify the ways loved ones can help.

“We might think a crisis is always yelling and screaming, and is visible,” says Boatwright. “But I like to think of the crisis spectrum.”

What to do when loved ones are contemplating suicide STEEL SMILING FOCUSES on education,

advocacy, and awareness of mental health, particularly within Pittsburgh’s Black community. Boatwright says acknowledging people’s suicidal thoughts is paramount in directing them to the help they need.

“The first thing that I always keep in mind, if and when someone says they

are thinking about suicide, is that we, the collective we, have to acknowledge that as being valid,” says Boatwright.

Boatwright has dealt with his own suicidal thoughts. He says he still calls suicide hotlines maybe a few times a year, and recommends that for those in need. He says that receiving an authentication acknowledgement of those thoughts goes a long way.

“For the times I have had my own suicidal thoughts, just that simple acknowledgement is big,” says Boatwright. “Someone sees me and hears me in this time of turmoil.”

He says that sometimes acknowledgement from a family member or friend is enough to help start people on a path to better mental health, but also reminds people that there are some instances where deep issues and chemical imbalances are too severe and there might only be licensed and trained professionals who can help.

Putkoski agrees that talking directly to people having suicidal thoughts is important, as is listening to them and not trying right away to fix their concerns. Just listen.

“Avoid minimizing their feelings.

Avoid advice to fix it,” says Putkoski.

“They need to be heard, and they need to

Julius Boatwright the Black mental health support group Steel Smiling is optimistic about the state of Black mental health. He says that his organization has been growing over the last five years, and many clients are expressing excitement about seeking out mental health support, despite what was widely believed as an historical aversion to mental health treatment among Black people in America.

“For a long time, we as a society, thought Black people have a stigma towards mental health, that Black people want to pray it away, but that is false,” says Boatwright. “I don’t know how that narrative got spread. They are confronting these challenges and wanting to heal.”

To further spread this message and inform the Black community about mental health, 1Hood Media has recruited Boatwright for Facebook search a new podcast “1Hood Media” called On Tilt: The State of Black Mental Health and Policing in America.

According to a press release, the podcast is meant to create a space for African Americans to share and heal, as well as spark conversations about healing, justice, and peace.

Boatwright’s co-host on the podcast is mental health advocate Dannielle Brown, who has gained national attention for her protests against Duquesne University, demanding more information about the death of her son, Jaylen Brown. Recent podcasts have discussed the use of social workers as first responders to mental health crises, and how police involvement can still be problematic in those situations.

The show tackles tough topics, but focuses on constructive methods to help the Black community heal.

“Instead of shining a glaring spotlight solely on racial injustice across the country, the show will also help people embark on the journey toward better mental health and self-care, especially when participating in protests or experiencing excessive police force,” reads a press release.

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be listened to.”

But acknowledgement and listening is just a first step. Boatwright says that putting together a crisis plan with the person struggling with mental health issues can be a powerful tool to use any time that person has suicidal thoughts again.

These crisis plans should provide several different avenues for people to turn to when individuals are suffering from suicidal thoughts or loved ones notice that others might be contemplating suicide. Plans should be written down and shared with several people, but Boatwright says that those struggling with mental health should be in control of the crisis plan process. He says that might mean that individuals share parts of the plan with family, and other parts of the plan with friends.

Plans can provide suggestions of who people can seek out when they are struggling. It might mean a therapist one time, or a crisis call line another time, or just a chat with a family member.

Boatwright is very bullish on crisis plans and hopes they become a national movement to prevent suicides. (People can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 “TALK” or text 741-741.)

“Crisis plans for everyone. This should be a thing that sweeps the country, where everyone makes a plan,” says Boatwright.

Other actions people should

take when loved ones share suicidal thoughts include taking measures to remove or secure dangerous items, like firearms, knives, and drugs. Boatwright says suicide is often impulsive and so making it more difficult to access dangerous items can help prevent people harming themselves.

Boatwright also says just being around people can be powerful in preventing suicides.

“Having someone there decreases the probability of dying by suicide,” he says. “People have to be engaging in a way that is supportive.”

Being supportive can mean being a good listener, but also being aware of how your body language affects the conversation. Posture, hand movements, etc. are things that can determine how accepting you come across. And Boatwright says initially avoiding the “jump to fix it” mode is crucial in letting people really express themselves.

“Humanize that person in that moment,” he says. “For me, personally, it has allowed me to be in my body, and maybe it allows in a little bit of hope.”

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plethora of resources available — like at AFSP’s website afsp.org — and that helping to break the stigma of mental health is important. She says it’s important to let people know about available resources, remind them there is nothing wrong with seeking them out, and make sure you keep in touch with them.

“Continue to check in on them,” says Putkoski. “If you know they had a therapist appointment, ask them about it. Just make sure you are staying connected with them.”

Boatwright agrees and says this extends to those who have lost loved ones to suicides.

“Know that people will be mourning for the rest of their lives, and so being intentional to maintain relationships, particularly to those who have lost loved ones and friends to suicide, is very important,” says Boatwright.

He also says ending the stigma is important, and has noticed that Pittsburgh’s Black community is showing encouraging signs of just that. Steel Smiling has been growing over the last five years, and many clients are expressing excitement about seeking out mental health support. This is

despite what Boatwright says is a historial aversion to mental health support in the Black community.

“For a long time, we as a society, thought Black people have a stigma towards mental health, that Black people want to pray it away, but that is false,” says Boatwright. “I don’t know how that narrative got spread. They are confronting these challenges and wanting to heal.”

This gives Boatwright hope for the future, and a hope to address big underlying causes of suicide that have disproportionately affected Black Americans: institutional racism and income inequality. Boatwright says Pittsburghers and Americans need to ask how to address these structural problems.

“What are we doing collectively?

Where were we when that person was facing eviction, or even simple things like a break-up?” says Boatwright.

“And that is what is happening in the pandemic, people are having all these issues all at once. We need to have this discussion. Instead of just self-care, it is called collective care. How are we tending to the mental and social needs of our neighbors?”

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HOW TO GRIEVE IN A PANDEMIC

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ACK IN MARCH, when the pan-

demic first spread across the U.S., we all knew this would be a year unlike any other. But what we didn’t know, or were maybe in denial of, was how much 2020 would be shaped by grief. Grief over the hundreds of thousands dead. Grief over losing jobs and homes, of not seeing family and friends for months at a time. Grief over favorite restaurants and concert venues closed for good. Grief over people whose mental health collapsed under the weight of it all.

Grief is as common an emotion as any other, but it looks different now.

Funerals, memorials, wakes, shivas, and other gatherings of mourning are dangerous. So is hugging. If someone you love dies, how do you grieve when you can’t gather with the only other people

who know what it’s like to lose this person? How do you work through a kind of loss in a situation that no pamphlet or article about the five stages of grief could prepare you for?

Allison Spinneweber, a therapist and the clinical director of East End Therapists, describes grief as a nonlinear process of “moving through loss and experiencing it.” Grief, she says, is unavoidable, and the best way to get through it is to face it head-on. Not dealing with grief as it’s happening can result in greater damage down the line.

“If you want to deal with grief in a healthy way, you will let yourself sit in your emotions, you will get help to be able to process some of these things, and you just let it occur,” says Spinneweber. “The people that avoid it, it

gets stored in their bodies and comes out down the line in more uncontrollable ways, which could be anger, it could be chronic health issues, it could be a chronic stress response. It could be an emotional response to something that really shouldn’t be a big deal, but because all this grief is stored in the body, it comes out in really extreme ways.”

A few weeks ago, after the death of my close friend and coworker Alex Gordon, I didn’t have any choice but to face the grief head-on. Work wasn’t a distraction because all of my work was tied to him. I couldn’t go to a bar to be sad with everyone else and talk about favorite memories. I couldn’t go to a funeral or give his friends and family a hug. This is the scenario millions of Americans are dealing with; regardless

“THE PEOPLE THAT AVOID IT, IT GETS STORED IN THEIR BODIES AND COMES OUT DOWN THE LINE IN MORE UNCONTROLLABLE WAYS, WHICH COULD BE ANGER, IT COULD BE CHRONIC HEALTH ISSUES, IT COULD BE A CHRONIC STRESS RESPONSE. IT COULD BE AN EMOTIONAL RESPONSE TO SOMETHING THAT REALLY SHOULDN’T BE A BIG DEAL, BUT BECAUSE ALL THIS GRIEF IS STORED IN THE BODY, IT COMES OUT IN REALLY EXTREME WAYS.”

of whether or not a death is caused by COVID-19, the pandemic has impeded our ability to grieve in the ways that feel most familiar.

Spinneweber describes a step of grieving called “meaning-making,” a way of making sense of the loss when it doesn’t feel like there’s a reason. This feels especially useful now when so many people who were healthy one year ago are now gone.

“Because [someone] experienced this and moved through it, now [they] see how [they are] able to help other people in the same situation,” says Spinneweber.

“It’s taking it and making good in your life because of what happened.”

I wrote an obituary for Alex just a few days after he passed, and it was extremely painful, but it helped me come to terms with it in some ways. But what created the most meaning for me was hearing from Alex’s family and friends who read the obituary and told me how much it meant to them. Several people said it captured Alex exactly as they knew him, and that it took the place of the funeral they couldn’t have. To be able to help other people with their grief made it feel like my grief had a purpose beyond just being sad alone

and crying every day.

It takes longer to move through grief under the current circumstances, Spinneweber notes, when the usual means of closure aren’t possible. It also creates a greater risk for depression because of the isolation. It’s especially important, then, to lean on support systems like family and friends, and to get help from a therapist, which Spinneweber strongly recommends.

While there might be a waitlist for some therapists’ offices due to the overwhelming current demand, there’s also increasing accessibility to therapy with more offices hiring telehealth therapists.

“If somebody is grieving and is able to get good social support, and they’re able to talk to a therapist that is equipped to help them, they have a really good chance after this pandemic of moving on in a healthy way,” says Spinneweber.

There are also other ways to manage grief, like making sure to take a walk every day, even if it’s short, and connecting with people, even if it’s virtual. Leaning on the people you are able to see in person is useful — sometimes, you just have to let your friend make dinner and do the dishes. Personally, I’ve found writing through it to be helpful.

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“The personalities just don’t match up,” explains Geandreau. “It’s important to just keep talking and have an open dialogue. If the client feels like it’s not a good fit either, say that it’s not working out. It’s kind of like breaking up with a significant other. It’s like a feeling you’ll get; if you feel like you can open up to this person, then it’s a good fit.”

TIPS FOR FINDING A GOOD THERAPIST

Researching a therapist

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F THERE’S ONE positive thing that has come from the coronavirus pandemic, it’s that Americans are realizing the importance of mental health. More and more people have started going to therapy, and there are likely many others who would like to start but don’t know where to begin.

Pittsburgh City Paper chatted with Elizabeth Geandreau, a clinical psychotherapist who is a Licensed Professional Counselor and a National Board Certified Counselor, about how to find a good therapist.

Because finding the right counselor is a little like dating — not every therapist is for everyone.

“It’s nerve-racking and anxietyinducing,” says Geandreau, “but remember that getting in there is the hardest part.”

The first session: Intake The first meeting with a therapist is called an intake, and it’s where the client and therapist simply chat and get a feel for each other.

“Typically, I always say to clients, ‘You might not know until three or four sessions in if it’s a good fit,’” says Geandreau. “And all along, I’ll be assessing too to see if I’m a good fit for my client.”

What that means on Geandreau’s

FINDING THE RIGHT COUNSELOR IS A LITTLE LIKE DATING — NOT EVERY THERAPIST IS FOR EVERYONE. side is that each therapist has their own niche. For Geandreau, she focuses on dialectical behavior therapy, a specific intervention she can use with clients, usually for people with borderline personality disorder, addiction, bipolar disorder, etc.

“Most clinicians can treat depression and anxiety because they’re the most common,” says Geandreau. “If you’re coming in with a specific problem that

you don’t really know what it is, it’s up to the therapist through sessions to figure out what’s going on and how they can help. If they don’t have the background and the knowledge, then they should refer out. They should help the client find a good fit for them.”

Sometimes, even with the right background knowledge to assist the client, the relationship just doesn’t work, and that’s OK.

There are a few ways to find a therapist.

The first and easiest way is to ask around for recommendations — from friends, family, a health professional you already know.

If that is not an option, go online. A simple “therapy near me” search will result in a list of agencies and private practices in your area. This is where the research part comes in, where you should pay attention to details like insurance versus private pay and the therapists’ background and degrees.

Like online shopping, you can browse different therapists until you find one that fits your needs.

So what exactly should you look for in a client-therapist relationship?

One, the client should feel like they can connect with the therapist and have an open and honest conversation without fear of judgment.

Two, the therapist should have the tools and background knowledge to assist with the client’s problem.

And if a therapist isn’t working out?

You can say, “After having a few sessions, I recognize that maybe I feel more comfortable talking to someone else.”

“And it’s not hard feelings,” says Geandreau. “You’re not going to click with 100% of people.”

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Parents don’t need to worry about safety concerns — all letters will be reviewed by staff, and no last names or addresses will be revealed to participants.

Spread some love online Search “Healing Over Everything (H.O.E.)” on Facebook Healing Over Everything (H.O.E.) is a virtual support group on Facebook that

provides a safe space for people to openly discuss whatever issues they’re currently facing. The group is led by Ta’lor Pinkston, owner of the Heart Advocate, a nontraditional therapy practice rooted in the concept of self-love. At a time when many in-person support groups are shut down because of the pandemic, Pinkston’s group has remained constant, with 1,400 current members.

People share openly on the private Facebook group, cheer each other on, and offer advice, since some can’t afford a therapist. Pinkston started the group, she told Pittsburgh City Paper in May, because at one point in her life, it was the kind of space she wished she’d had.

Now, Pinkston helps both herself and her clients get through the pandemic by reminding them that they are not alone, encouraging “transparency, a strong focus on mental health, self-worth, and mindfulness.” Boosting others while also helping yourself in the process: Win win.

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WAS IN A GOOD SPACE last week, focused and motivated, and had been steadily

plugging away at various projects. Since then, my mood has completely shifted.

As I type this, I haven’t yet been able to get out of bed or shower. I ate only because my newest medication, the seventh one I’ve tried since March, requires it.

I had to rely on my 9-year-old to prepare breakfast for her younger sister, and hope that they are able to occupy themselves because, as shameful as it is to admit, today is one of those days I can’t stand to be around them.

I’ve had mental health struggles since my teens. I consistently engaged in self-harm and dealt with inconsistent moods and depressive episodes, all things I never received adequate support for because my parents characterized it as “white people shit.”

I don’t blame them. My mother was a child of the ’60s, when — despite movements towards deinstitutionalization, and a shift in how women’s mental health was discussed — there was still a stigma attached that I’m quite sure she just didnt know how to deal with as a parent. In my father’s case, mental health was something that was simply never discussed or even acknowledged in the Black community for most of his lifetime, despite the increased rates of anxiety and depression amongst Black adults, and the staggering inequities in diagnoses and access to care.

Living as a Black woman with symptoms of both bipolar and borderline personality disorder, I am hyper-aware of how those inequities increase, especially with regard to seeking treatment.

For many years, I went without seeing a regular therapist or psychiatrist, even after having dealt with severe postpartum depression. I think I convinced myself that I had things under control, and whatever I was dealing with could be attributed to personal weakness, and I had to fight through it. I wanted to be a mother and a woman who could balance working two jobs and being an artist and maintaining a relationship.

But eventually, something had to give.

I’ve always had suicidal tendencies and a preoccupation with death. Someone close to me went so far as to suggest I have a death wish, as I tend to be a bit reckless. But in March of this year, I was quite sure I didn’t want to live anymore, after having been stuck in one of the worst and longest depressive episodes I had ever dealt with. I felt incredibly lonely and isolated, and I didnt know where to go for help. There’s a quote from the author Jeffery Eugenides I always think about that refers to “the outrageousness of a human being thinking only of herself.”

From there, I started an intensive outpatient program and was immediately connected with a therapist and a psychiatrist, and I began group therapy sessions four hours a day, three days a week. Things have been better since then, but there are definitely still ups and downs.

I also know that there are millions of people who face the same struggles I do, and despite the fact that I am predisposed to deal with many of the issues I’ve had based on my race and gender, my experience is unique in that I am very fortunate to have a support system and friends who knew of options for treatment.

In addition to that, I’m insured, and I have a job that was incredibly understanding of my struggles, which gave me all the time that I needed for my recovery. Many others are not in the same place, and as hopeless as I have felt at times, I imagine it’s so much worse for others.

I’m here now because when I’m clear-minded enough, I can believe

A CLOSE FRIEND REFERRED ME TO WESTERN PSYCH, AND I HESITATED FOR MORE THAN A WEEK BECAUSE FRANKLY, I WAS TERRIFIED OF HOW A BLACK WOMAN IN A MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS MIGHT BE TREATED. Suicide is by no means a selfish act, but in moments of consideration, I can only focus on how much of a burden to others my existence is, and what a relief it would be to simply not be here anymore, not have to think or feel or be in so much pain. None of these things are true. Outside of these moments, I am very aware of the fact that I’m not a burden, and that ending my life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Not only that, but I would be deeply missed.

A close friend referred me to Western Psych, and I hesitated for more than a week because frankly, I was terrified of how a Black woman in a mental health crisis might be treated. I put things off until one night, I couldn’t take feeling like this anymore. The only thing that stopped me from doing something I might regret was the idea of my children finding me like that, and the way it would traumatize them. So instead, I called someone to come over, and I went ahead and admitted myself.

that my existence serves a purpose. My hope is for anyone who thinks they are a burden, or feels as though they are unsupported, to have moments where they are able to realize how much they are loved and valued.

My hope is to see a continued destigmatization of discussions about mental health, with more resources for Black mamas, Black youth, and the Black queer and trans community, as they are the most at risk.

My hope is to see an increase of support for the organizations in the city who are providing mental health services for our marginalized communities. My hope is for my experiences to help someone make the right decision, or push them to ask for help, and in turn have that help be readily accessible.

My hope is that we have more grace and understanding for others, and especially for ourselves, because none of us are alone in our struggles, no matter how deeply we feel otherwise.

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HE LAST FOUR YEARS have taken their toll on the mental health of LGBTQ people in the United States. There have been ups and downs.

LGBTQ people received workplace protections thanks to the U.S. Supreme Court, but the Trump administration has also rolled back federal health care protections for trans people, banned trans Americans from serving in the military, and allowed adoption and foster agencies to discriminate against gay and lesbian couples.

This, in addition to the distress caused by the COVID-19 pandemic, has contributed to a mental health crisis throughout the country’s LGBTQ community, particularly among young people.

In July, The Trevor Project, an organization focused on suicide prevention and crisis intervention, released the findings of a 2020 national survey of 40,000 LGBTQ youth. The survey found that 40% of respondents “seriously considered” attempting suicide in the past

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12 months, and 68% reported symptoms of generalized anxiety disorder.

The survey also reflected that many LGBTQ people, particularly those who are trans or nonbinary, attribute mental health decline to discrimination, harassment, threats, or violence they had experienced, as well as current events (an overwhelming 86% said politics negatively impacted their well-being).

In a press release from October, Dr. Amy Green of The Trevor Project, says the higher rates of “suicidal thoughts, plans, attempts, and serious injuries” among Black LGBTQ youth was especially alarming.

“It is clear that youth who hold marginalized identities, like those who are Black and/or LGBTQ, are particularly susceptible to poor mental health outcomes and suicidality, and deserve increased attention from prevention and response programs,” says Green.

These statistics are worrisome, not only on a nationwide level, but on state

and local level, as Pennsylvania still lags in terms of LGBTQ rights and protections.

As a result, many organizations and nonprofits, including The Trevor Project, are addressing the mental health issues affecting the LGBTQ community by offering access to therapy, counseling, suicide prevention services, and more.

Others help by giving LGBTQ people the resources and support to escape or avoid situations that directly contribute to thoughts of suicide or self harm.

Mental health resources for LGBTQ Pittsburghers Planned Parenthood of Western Pennsylvania offers confidential therapy and services for everyone through The C.A.R.E Program, with the website ensuring an inclusive space for “trans individuals,” “nonbinary folks,” and people who identify as gay, bisexual, pansexual, lesbian, and queer. Sessions are offered at a sliding scale for those without insurance or with limited means.

There are also a number of local and national hotlines LGBTQ people can call for help, especially if they’re experiencing suicidal thoughts. Through a partnership between Allegheny County and UPMC Western Psychiatric Hospital, a free crisis service line can be reached at 1-888-7-YOU-CAN (796-8226) that puts Allegheny County callers in touch with trained clinicians. Resolve also offers a walk-in center and mobile crisis team.

The national Trans Lifeline offers emotional and financial support to trans people in crisis by putting them in touch with trans peers (877-5658860). The Trevor Project has a few safe, confidential ways for LGBTQ youth under the age of 25 to find help, including the TrevorLifeline (1-866-488-7386), TrevorChat instant messaging service, and TrevorText (text START to 678-678).

A variety of local organizations specialize in mental and behavioral care for LGBTQ individuals. Persad Center (persadcenter.org), Central Outreach

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Wellness Center (centraloutreach.com/ services/mental-health), and Allies for Health and Well-Being (alliespgh.org/ clinic-services) all focus on the mental health and well-being of Southwestern Pennsylvania’s LGBTQ population.

Black people in the LGBTQ community can also find Black-led services more tailored to their mental health needs and concerns. Duane Binion and John Easter, co-founders of True T PGH (truetpgh.com), say that offering specialized spaces is essential, adding that “seeking therapy as an LGBTQIA+ person of color in Pittsburgh can often feel like such a daunting and impossible task.”

“Therapy is something that is not publicly talked much about and/or frowned down upon across most communities of color, as we have been socially trained to believe that the mere thought of one seeking mental and/or therapeutic treatment is a sign of weakness,” they explain in a joint statement.

In addition to arts and entertainment and social activism, Binion and Easter stress that True T PGH serves LGBTQ communities of color through “meaningful resource sharing,” as well as providing emergency support with care packages and financial assistance.

Additionally, True T PGH has also “established strong relationships with some of Pittsburgh’s top LGBTQIA+ friendly health care providers.” They also highlight Trans YOUniting (trans-

younitingpgh.org), a Black and trans-led organization focusing on emergency services for trans and nonbinary people, and PROUD Haven (proudhaven.org), which finds emergency housing for LGBTQ youth.

Housing is also a priority for SisTers PGH (sisterspgh.org), a local Black and trans-led organization that serves transgender and gender non-conforming youth, with a focus on transgender women of color. Lack of stable or safe shelter is a major stressor for LGBTQ people, with circumstances ranging from being discriminated against by rental companies or landlords, to not feeling welcome in homeless shelters.

Many LGBTQ youth are also kicked out of their homes or leave because of homophobic or transphobic family members or caregivers.

True T PGH addresses the issue with its OPTION-U emergency housing program.

Binion and Easter say while the LGBTQ health care in Pittsburgh has broadened over the past few years — pointing out how the city went from one provider to several — more still needs to be done.

“It is important that we start to intentionally diversify our medical centers,” they say. “Community members need to see people who reflect on themselves to sometimes feel more comfortable and engaged when entering these spaces.”

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HE CORONAVIRUS PANDEMIC has been hard on the entire country, especially for those experiencing homelessness. The loss of income related to the pandemic has led to increases in homeless populations across the country, and social-distancing requirements have made it difficult to house large groups of people together.

In pre-pandemic times, those experiencing homelessness might have already had a hard time finding meaningful social interactions or leisure activities. Now, COVID has exacerbated those problems and has been extremely difficult on their mental health.

With gathering places largely shuttered and the weather getting colder, there is even more demand to provide for Pittsburghers who are currently without shelter. Donations to homeless advocacy organizations were increasing even before the pandemic, but there is still a huge need.

Pittsburgh City Paper has compiled ways to donate and help groups that serve people currently suffering from homelessness. It’s best to donate goods

• Hats, scarves, gloves • Boots (men’s and women’s, all sizes) • Socks • Winter coats (men’s and women’s, especially sizes 1X-3X) • Personal hygiene kits (toothbrush, toothpaste, dental floss, deodorant, soap, washcloth, hand sanitizer, etc.)

Bethlehem Haven (bethlehemhaven.org/donate) are asking for donations, but can only accept a limited amount due to storage:

and money that shelters and organizations are specifically asking for.

Financial donations are always encouraged, since that provides the shelters the flexibility to purchase what they need, when they need it. Some shelters and organizations to donate include: Northside Common Ministries, Women’s Shelter of Greater Pittsburgh,

Bethlehem Haven, East End Cooperative Ministry, and Pittsburgh Mercy (which operates a winter shelter at Smithfield United Church of Christ in Downtown).

If you want to give in-kind donations, you should purchase new items.

Here are some details about the most necessary items some shelters are currently requesting.

• Flip flops (used as shower shoes) • Full-sized toiletries for men, women or neutral-smelling items — body wash, conditioner, deodorant, lotion, shampoo, soap, toothpaste • Gift cards to purchase groceries, household items, or personal care items • Grab-and-go snacks (cereal bars, granola bars, cracker packs, etc.)

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ACROSS 1. Skirt below the knees 5. “Preach, brother!”

9. Wax collectors 14. Adjusted the levels, as with music 15. Model Delevingne 16. “Nice place you got here, it’d be a pity if anything happened to it” speakers 17. “Party’s just started” 18. Without much content 19. Tripped 20. Singer-songwriter Randy in squalid digs?

23. Compass dir.

24. Poetic rage 25. Hundreds and hundreds of wks.

26. Tramp stamp, e.g.

28. Watch part 30. Somewhat controversial 32. Sarah McLachlan single with the lyrics “I do believe I’ve failed you” 33. French religious title: Abbr.

35. Cowboy Prescott 36. Exam for sophs. and jrs.

37. “There’s one way into the sewer!

And another!”?

42. “Home Sweet Home” hair metal

band, for short 43. His No. 8 is retired by the Bosox 44. Lolcat greeting 45. Memorouting abbr.

46. Hearty bowlful 48. Old-school dual-purpose drive 52. “Aye” 53. Cost of business 54. “That feels good” 56. Volte-face in a Volt 57. Flustered states caused by an intestinal ailment?

61. Annapolis newbie 62. ___ the kicker (calls a time out just before a 3-point attempt) 63. Dirty tank collection 64. Prove to be false 65. Yale Bowl boosters 66. Joy of MSNBC 67. Dumps at church 68. Empire State school syst.

69. Seaside aerie builder

DOWN 1. Intertwines together 2. Measure of sharpness 3. He’s got a lot to offer 4. Country poem 5. She’s just pretending 6. “Das klagende Lied” composer Gustav

7. Northwest Pennsylvania county 8. Nursery installation 9. Diving ducks 10. Friendly 11. “Hate to break it to you” 12. Like House races 13. Down in the dumps 21. Aware of 22. R&B singer Badu 27. Bag maker Spade 29. Scared-looking 31. In ___ (bumfuzzled) 32. Sap-sucking insect 34. ___ Palace (Macron’s home) 37. Exam you might practice for before starting a practice

38. Congressdefining section 39. Where Thumbelina sleeps 40. Places to grab a bite 41. Tag’s opposite 47. Enter up to your shins 49. Pacer?

50. One who never got busy 51. Infamous Marquis 53. Leaves the scene 55. ___ fit 58. Closing paragraphs?

59. Voting rights org.

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