Just Being Ruthful

BY Ruth McDonald

“Well, that was awkward.”

When was the last time you said those words? Maybe you’d stuck your foot in your mouth or had an uncomfortable conversation with someone you don’t really “click” with.

I’m not an expert at many things, but living in another country for decades brought me expertise in one thing: being awkward! Language bloopers, cultural faux pas, and frequent conversations with people who were not at all like me … I got pretty comfortable with being awkward. I wanted to wear a big placard that read, “I’m not as stupid as I sound!”

And, you know what? I learned that awkward situations don’t hurt you. As a matter of fact, I think that all of us who are “in the world but not of it” should strive to become comfortable with being awkward.

The culture around us is changing in ways that make us increasingly uncomfortable. Spending most of our time with those we agree with is pleasant. We naturally seek out those who believe as we do, have the same background, and enjoy the pastimes and hobbies we choose.

I read the words of Paul recently, “I have become all things to all men that by all means I might win some” (I Corinthians 9:22). As we read about the predicaments Paul got into as he shared his faith in various cultures, we must admit that he was often awkward … and even downright uncomfortable and in danger. What is it that we fear about awkward conversations? Rejection? Embarrassment? The possibility that we will look foolish and be laughed at? Been there. Done that. Many times. And you know what? It didn’t kill me.

I have a sneaking suspicion that our awkwardness can even be endearing. Like when you see a child wearing a ridiculous, self-chosen outfit. Most onlookers don’t judge but instead think, “Awww!”Authenticity and bravery are both virtures respected by most. And as for those who judge, reject, or ridicule ... again, it won’t kill us! Paul suffered much worse as He “became all things to all men.”

So, the next time we have an opportunity to reach out in love to someone who makes us a bit nervous for whatever reason, let’s take a deep breath and interact with them anyway. We can have a greater impact when we learn to get comfortable with being awkward.

With love, Ruth