F E AT U R E
A rainbow at the end of a storm
BY JAYME JOHNSON GARCIA, CALIFORNIA LAMBDA
Today, I’m sitting with my daughter in my arms and my five-year-old son who dotes on her and shows all the love and excitement you could hope for from a big brother. The road to get here—to this beautiful moment—was the most painful, exhausting experience of my life. And I’m not alone. One in five women face infertility while trying to build their families, and I’ve found that many in the other four are largely unaware of how common this painful process truly is.
After more than a year had passed without getting pregnant again, our OBGYN recommended a fertility specialist; frankly, I thought that was absurd. I’d had no problems the first time and was still young. After another six months passed without conceiving, we went to the fertility specialist. Walking in was a shock to my system. Was this our life now? It felt like an extreme jump from my first experience and completely jarred me. To top things off, none of our tests came back with an indication as to why I wasn’t getting pregnant.
We welcomed our son, Isaiah, in 2016 after trying to conceive for about a year. I was 27 years old, married to my high school sweetheart, Jeremi, and had recently completed my residency in pharmacy. I’d done everything I’d hoped to do, and starting our family was the next step. Conceiving within a year is considered common, so my first pregnancy didn’t indicate to me that I’d have trouble conceiving when we started trying again after Isaiah's first birthday.
When we first tried intrauterine insemination (IUI), I was hopeful; I had follicles, and everything looked great. But, after three rounds of IUI, I still didn’t conceive. Going into the clinical setting, I thought we’d found our answer. I had hopes that IUI—an expensive but more accessible option— would work, but by February 2020, the disappointment, as well as the emotional and financial burden, had taken a toll. We opted to take a break after the third failed cycle. I consider this break a blessing in disguise. With the onset of the pandemic shortly after, many couples and individuals were forced to halt treatment, but we’d had the blessing of making that decision for ourselves. It broke my heart to know others were still trying and were forced to stop, and I was grateful we’d taken a step back rather than lose our opportunity due to circumstances outside of our control. Then, another blessing came. I got pregnant in April 2020, three years after we started trying and two since we’d first tried IUI—it felt like a miracle.
Infertility, cycle of wait 18
