January/February 2021 Pinehurst Living

The Right Shot | Healthy Choices | Local Weddings

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Features JANUARY/FEBRUARY 2o21

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14 All About the Ring

There can be challenges to organizing a samesex wedding, but the style options are plentiful with the right planning.

16 Local Weddings

Selecting the right videographer for your wedding will let you enjoy your special day again and again for years to come.

Happily ever after begins with the ring, and there are a variety of options available, from the current trends to the elegant classics.

Celebrating local weddings throughout the year and the many vendors that make each day unique and special.

30 The Right Shot 50 A Look Back

John Philip Sousa, the March King, reigned supreme as have few performers in history, and in Pinehurst he found a welcome escape from it all.

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44 12 From the Editor 36 In Vino, Veritas 38 Life Under Pines 40 Pick of the Pines 48 The Garden 56 Books ON THE COVER

58 Healthy Choices 60 On the Buckle 62 Puzzle 64 On the Green 66 Calendar 67 Sightings 72 Last Impression

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“To keep your marriage brimming, with love in the loving cup, whenever you’re wrong, admit it; whenever you’re right, shut up.”

- Ogden Nash

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Pinehurst - 675 Lake Forest Drive SE - SOLD $375,000 Custom 3 BR/3.5 BA home in beautiful location w/Lake Pinehurst across the way.

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From the Editor I

attended my first virtual wedding last weekend.

A good friend was getting married in Atlanta and, for the safety of all, she decided to stream the service and schedule a reception for the summer. My cousin had a wedding scheduled for summer 2020 in Rhode Island. Save-the-date cards went out earlier in the year and as the months ticked by there was hope, but in the end they did the smart thing. They canceled the big to-do and had a nice ceremony and reception for immediate family. A bigger celebration is scheduled for, you guessed it, this summer.

I can only imagine the stress of those who tried to plan a wedding last year. The planning, money and dreams that go into a wedding in a normal year are overwhelming. Throw in a pandemic and, well ….

I imagine wedding venues, planners and vendors are going to be extremely busy this coming summer (let’s hope). Not only will they have the holdovers from the previous year but all the weddings intentionally scheduled for 2021. The vendors in this issue are cautiously optimistic, and who can blame them? But, if all goes according to plan, we’ll be free of COVID—or at least at a place where gathering is much safer and we can start to get back to normal.

Normalcy. I wonder if we really know what that means anymore, or if that’s even what we want to strive for. Alfred Alder, a psychotherapist in the early 20th century, said, “The only normal people are the ones you don’t know very well.” I’ve always loved that quote, and as I get older, the more true it becomes. I just hope normal for me is not normal for you, otherwise life would be immensely dull.

Maybe when we mean normal, we just mean the world becomes a little more compos mentis, a little more rational again. This issue’s Sunday Supper, for example. While I’m eager to try the tagine recipe at home this winter, I’d much rather be visiting Morocco, sitting in a café looking out over the Mediterranean Sea and experiencing the flavors (and sights and smells and sounds) of North Africa. Instead of celebrating my friend’s wedding from afar, I’d much rather give a toast to her happiness in person. For that matter, I’d much rather be seeing my mother and father hugging my children without risking their lives as opposed to waving goodbye on a FaceTime call.

Our sacrifices in 2020 were necessary—for the safety of our family, friends and community—but there is extreme comfort in knowing we can finally see the light at the end of this long, dark tunnel. Maybe not the normal light we’re used to, but a light nonetheless.

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ALL ABOUT THE RING

By LISA ANDERSON, Gemma Gallery

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appily ever after begins with a ring. Well, not necessarily, but it’s a very important part of the package! Trends come and go, but you can create a specific ring to reflect your personality and lifestyle with current trends in mind.

Diamonds Always a favorite, diamonds are the hardest gemstone, which makes them ideal for an engagement ring and/or wedding band for all.

Diamonds symbolize the enhancement of love, as well as purity. Available in a variety of shapes, pear and marquise are favored almost as much as the always popular round brilliant.

And some great news: Lab-grown diamonds are a welcome addition for the environmentally conscious. They have the exact same chemical composition and structure as natural diamonds, but are grown in a lab and are considerably less costly.

Sapphire and Ruby These blue stunners make many people think of royalty (Princess Diana then Kate Middleton, to be exact). Sapphires are considered the “wisdom stone” with each color having a unique wisdom.

They calm the mind and restore balance.

Sapphires are very durable for every day wear and available in a variety of colors. Whether they are center or side stones, sapphires are a very good choice. Sapphires come in every color except red, which is sapphire’s sister, ruby.

Rubies are also a durable gemstone choice and are believed to bring energy and passion to life.

Pearls Pearls are my personal favorite and are showing up in engagement rings for actresses like Emma Stone. They symbolize grace, integrity and loyalty, and are available in many colors, overtones and shapes. Pearls are a sustainable gem that should be worn carefully due to the low hardness.

Platinum & Gold These two are traditionally the metals used in rings with platinum being the purest metal, usually 90-95 percent platinum and an alloy like iridium added. Gold is pure at 24 karat

and is alloyed to make 18 karat, 14 karat or 10 karat and the alloys produce yellow, white, rose or green gold, which can make for some very interesting designs. Mixed metals and different methods of making jewelry, like casting from a wax model or fabricating something from hand, are choices to consider, too.

Joining your life with another is a milestone that the ring or rings you choose to wear becomes something to cherish. Many options are available and each gem has a special meaning and attribute. Gemologists and jewelry designers are available to guide you, answer questions and make suggestions to help you find your special ring. PL PINEHURSTLIVINGMAGAZINE.COM 15

CELEBRATING LOCAL WEDDINGS

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A Special Day

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December 4, 2019

Luke & Elaine THE COUPLE: Luke and Elaine Kramarz THE VENUE, CATERING & CAKE: Pinehurst Resort THE PLANNER: Pinehurst Resort THE FLORIST: Jack Hadden Floral & Event MAKEUP & HAIR: Melissa Dunn • THE DRESS: David's Bridal THE SUITS: Men's Wearhouse • THE VIDEOGRAPHER: Davis Video

Productions • THE DJ: Allison Rose Entertainment THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Jennifer B. Photography

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February 2, 2020

Matt & Aimee

THE COUPLE: Matthew and Aimee Wagstaff THE VENUE: 305 Trackside THE FLORISTS: Carol Moody and Indigo Earth Creative THE RINGS: Honeycutt Jewelers THE CAKE: Deborah Moody / Chess toppers: Indigo Earth Creative THE CATERER: Elliotts Catering Co. THE DRESS: Eclectic on 5 THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Mollie Tobias Photography

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February 22, 2020

Nathan & Rosa

THE COUPLE: Nathan and Rosa Boardman THE VENUE & RECEPTION: 305 Trackside • THE CAKE: C Cup Cupcakery THE CATERER: Elliotts Catering Co. • THE DRESS: David's Bridal THE SUITS: Men's Wearhouse • THE RENTALS: Ward Productions THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Pinehurst Photography

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May2, 2020

Jarad & Danielle

THE COUPLE: Jarad and Danielle Smith THE WEDDING: Sacred Heart Catholic Church THE FLORIST: Lavender Restyle Market THE CAKE: C Cups Cupcakery and Joyous Cakes THE CATERER: Elliotts Catering Co. • THE DRESS: Lucy's Bridal THE HAIR: Emily Johnstone • THE RINGS: Atelier 131 THE BARTENDING: J and J At Your Service THE INVITATIONS: Kaitlyn Stone Design THE PHOTOGRAPHER: JE N N I F E R B. Photography

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July 12, 2020

Addison & Kellie THE COUPLE: Addison and Kellie Buss THE VENUE: Wilkins Farm • THE FLORIST: Sarah Whiteaker THE RINGS: Jared • THE HAIR & MAKEUP: Bride and Mallory Parker THE CAKE: Burney's Sweets and More • THE DJ: Perfect Events THE CATERER: Sammio's Italian Restaurant THE DRESS: New York Bride & Groom of Raleigh THE SUITS: Crown & Ivy • THE INVITATIONS: Charis Miller THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Jennifer B. Photography

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July 18, 2020

David & Kayla

THE COUPLE: David and Kayla Gilinsky THE CEREMONY: The Village Chapel THE CAKE: C Cup Cupcakery • THE CATERER: Southern Q Catering THE HAIR & MAKEUP: Karma Spa Lounge & Beauty Bar THE TRANSPORTATION: Kirk Tours & Limousine THE FLORIST: Jack Hadden Floral & Event THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Pinehurst Photography

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October 10, 2020

Troie & Michelle THE COUPLE: Troie Barker and Michelle Schmitt THE CATERER: Rocky Top Catering • THE PLANNER: Vision Events THE BAR: Barbox Bartending • THE DRESS: Madi Lane Bridal THE FLORIST: Jack Hadden Floral & Event THE SUITS: Men's Wearhouse • THE VIDEOGRAPHER: Story

Focused Media • THE MUSIC: Melon Belly Music THE RENTALS: Ward Productions, CE Rentals and Greenhouse Picker Sisters • THE HAIR AND MAKEUP: Bella Rae Beaute THE TRANSPORTATION: Kirk Tours & Limousine THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Jennifer B. Photography

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October 11, 2020

Jon & Amanda THE COUPLE: Jon Nagle and Amanda Cox THE VENUE: The Fair Barn • THE FLORIST: Trader Joe's THE RINGS: Honeycutt Jewelers • THE CATERER: Elliotts Catering Co. THE CAKE: The Bakehouse • THE DJ: Ward Productions THE DRESS: Lucy's Bridal • THE TRANSPORTATION: Kirk Tours & Limousine THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Brandie Ballard Photography

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LOVE IS LOVE

By KENDRA LEE, Pinehurst Photography

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et’s talk about love. To us, love is love. Quite simple, really. In the days of social media and the ease of unleashing opinions freely and without care, we have seen many ideas on the subject of same-sex marriage. But really, in our humble opinions, we don’t care about those notions. When a couple reaches out to us, they all have the same concerns: hair, makeup, transportation, cake or cupcakes, old traditions, new ideas, etc. But there are times when a couple reaches out to us and asks the humbling question, “Are you OK shooting a same-sex wedding?” When I hear that, my heart sinks. The answer is always a resounding “Yes!” Our same-sex couples are so fun. Sometimes it’s two wedding dresses, sometimes two tuxedos. We love the unique touches our same-sex weddings bring. There are so many creative options to consider to spice up your wedding, make a statement, and still have the most elegant day celebrating your love. Some of our favorites include: Creative formal wear. Two white dresses are gorgeous, but what about a fun and modern twist? What about pairing a black dress with a white dress? A feminine pantsuit paired with a long and flowy wedding dress? A white suit and a black suit?

A set of bow ties: one white, one black? There are so many options to make the formal wear of your choice a statement, and complement your unique love quite perfectly.

Cake toppers! Same-sex wedding cake toppers are the absolute cutes—like two beautiful brides sitting on the top of a cake! On Etsy there are many options for creative and cute clay models made to look just like the couple.

Or you can go with two cupcakes, decorated like tuxedos, sitting on top of a cupcake tower of perfectly decorated cups. The internet is an amazing place for custom toppers, and they are sure to make your guest all resound with a collective “Aw!”

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Signs. The signage at same-sex weddings is sure to make your guests smile. One of my favorites is “Pick seat, not a side, either way, it’s for a bride.” Or simply two signs, both reading “Groom’s side” with arrows in both directions. The signage doesn’t have to be elaborate to stand out. Just a subtle reminder that two people who really love each other are getting married and you were invited to help celebrate!

Photography. We can’t forget the most important part.

Once you’ve decided to say “I do,” remember to find a photographer that matches your unique vision. Find someone that will jump to the occasion to tell your story the way it deserves to be told. Photography for same-sex weddings can be classic or it can be spicy and fun. Find a photographer who can portray the essentials: highlighting the fact that your love deserves celebrating and documenting your magnificent story.

There are so many options that will make your same-sex marriage unique. It’s easy to worry about what people will say or how they’ll react. But know that there is an entire community of wedding vendors out there ready to jump in and make your day perfect. You are supported and your love story and commitment to each other is a celebration. Your love is unique, and we can’t wait to help you tell your story. PL

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THE RIGHT SHOT

By JOHN VAUGHN, Story Focused Media

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’m going to let you in on a little secret: Your wedding video is not about your wedding day. It won’t make your wedding day better. Your wedding video is not what you will be thinking about as you walk down the aisle staring at the love of your life. So, if your wedding video isn’t about your wedding day, what is it about?

It’s about every day after your wedding! Months later, maybe even on your first anniversary, when your new life together has become normal, that’s when your wedding video will become important. When the excitement of your wedding has long faded, you can sit down with your partner and watch your wedding day with new eyes.

That’s when you’ll suddenly and pleasantly be reminded of the butterflies you had while getting ready.

Or the first time your father saw you in your wedding dress. Or how your husband's eyes watered as he saw you come down the aisle.

You will hear the vows that you spoke, and see all the family members who made an effort to be there on your special day. It’s a chance to experience everything that passed around you like a whirlwind. This is what your wedding video is about.

Video Style When I talk to couples I ask what is important to them and then incorporate it into their video. Many times it’s the family who are going to be there, but it could be anything, from a special dance number prepared by the groom to the decorations that were made especially for the celebration. Whatever it is, the video should be about what’s important to you, not what’s important to the videographer.

Personality You should interview videographers as much for their personality as for their work. You will be around them your entire wedding day. Also, other vendors have to work with them and this can impact your wedding day experience. Your videographer needs to be able to work closely and well with your photographer and other vendors.

Having someone with a nice, easygoing personality can make the day run smoothly.

Deliverables My clients get a 5–7 minute video that tells the story of their complete wedding day. This is great because it’s easy to share with family and friends who were not able to attend. No matter how “small” your wedding is, you can share how it felt to be there

on that day with everyone through social media. Having the ceremony to watch again in its entirety is definitely nice and should be included as an option. Most couples, however, have told me that it’s the highlight video they watch over and over.

Budget Just like everything, there is a broad range of wedding videographers out there with a range of prices. If a video is important to you, spend the money to have it done right. Similar to a professional photographer, you should budget between $1,500 and $3,000 for a professional videographer, depending on the services you want.PL

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SundaySupper

by ROBERT NASON

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oroccan cuisine brings together the flavors of its region: a culinary mixing pot of African, Middle Eastern and European dishes that culminate in a wonderful blend of spicy, sweet and savory dishes. As part of one of the ancient spice routes (the distance from Tangiers, Morocco, to Algeciras, Spain, is only 58 miles), Moroccan food is influenced by the traders who trekked from East to West and back, and who introduced a plethora of unique cultures to the small North African nation. It is no wonder that spices are a staple of most Moroccan recipes: Cumin, saffron, turmeric, cardamom and paprika are just a few of the main spices used to prepare Moroccan food.

Moroccan dishes often have a layered profile of

flavor, with couscous, garlic, onions, olives, lamb and chicken providing the foundation. Tagine is perhaps the most famous Moroccan dish. The word tagine has two meanings: it refers to the unique coned, ceramic cookware used in North Africa and the slow-cooked dish made in the cookware. Tagine is often made with meats and fish, but there are also delicious vegetable tagine recipes. Kefta (seasoned ground meat), pastilla (meat or seafood pie) and mint tea are some other Moroccan favorites.

While we certainly recommend you travel to Morocco to experience the cuisine firsthand, here are some recipes that will offer a taste of this fabulous culinary country.

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Traditional Lamb Tagine with Apricots ethnicspoon.com / Serves 4

Ingredients

Seasoning for marinade 1 tablespoon olive oil 1 ½ cloves garlic, minced 1 ½ teaspoon Kosher salt ¼ teaspoon cracked black pepper ¾ teaspoon ground cinnamon 1 teaspoon ground coriander 1 teaspoon paprika ½ teaspoon ground ginger

Remaining ingredients 1 ½ pounds lamb shoulder, cubed into 1-inch pieces ½ large onion, sliced ½ cup vegetable broth 5 saffron threads 1 tablespoon tomato paste 1 teaspoon cornstarch 2 cardamom pods

Directions

1 tablespoon chopped parsley 5 dried apricots, cut in half 1 ½ tablespoon shelled pistachios 1 baking potato, sliced thin

For the seasoning and marinating the lamb: In a small bowl mix together all the spices. Place the cubed lamb in a glass dish and drizzle with the olive oil. Mix thoroughly with your hands. Sprinkle the spice mixture evenly, and again, mix thoroughly with your hands. Place in the refrigerator for three hours.

To prepare the lamb: Place the onions on the bottom of the tagine dish, and sprinkle with salt. Sweat them down for about 20 minutes on medium. Slowly add the meat and break up any pieces that are stuck together. Cook for about 20 minutes, uncovered, and stirring often.

In a bowl, whisk together the broth, tomato paste and cornstarch, and add to the meat. Add the saffron to the tagine. Stir to combine. Wrap the cardamom pods in a piece of cheesecloth and tie with a piece of cooking twine. Add to the meat and broth mixture.

Stir in the apricots and pistachios. Cover, and cook for 1 hour on low. Feel free to ladle out and excess liquid; keep it warm and save for later when serving. Line with the potato slices, forming concentric circles over the simmering lamb. Cover again, and cook for an additional 30 minutes, or until the potatoes are soft. Sprinkle the parsley on top. Serve with couscous.

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Maaquoda Potato Fritters 196flavors.com / Yields 25

Ingredients 2 pounds potatoes 2 eggs, beaten 4 tablespoons breadcrumbs ½ teaspoon garlic powder ½ teaspoon onion powder 3 tablespoons finely chopped parsley

½ teaspoon turmeric ½ teaspoon cumin Flour (for coating) Salt Pepper Oil for frying

Directions

Bring a large pot of salted water to a boil and cook the potatoes with their skin for at least 30 minutes or until tender. Peel the potatoes and mash them. Add the breadcrumbs, garlic, onion, cumin, turmeric, parsley, beaten eggs, salt and pepper. Stir to incorporate all the ingredients. If the mixture is too firm, add some breadcrumbs. Shape 2-inch diameter patties.

In a large saucepan, heat enough oil for deep frying to 350 F. Drench maaqouda in flour to cover both sides. Remove excess flour and deep fry on one side, then the other. Drain on paper towels and serve with freshly squeezed lemon.

Kefta Kabab tasteofmaroc.com / Serves 4

Meskouta Orange Cake thespruceeats.com / Serves 10–12

Ingredients ½ cup freshly squeezed orange juice Zest of 1 or 2 oranges 4 large eggs 1 ½ cups sugar

Directions

½ cup vegetable oil 2 cups flour 4 teaspoons baking powder ½ teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon vanilla

Heat the oven to 350 F. Grease and lightly flour a tube pan or loaf pan. Zest the oranges and then juice them.

In a large bowl using an electric mixer or by hand, beat together the eggs and sugar until thick. Gradually beat in the oil.

In a medium bowl, whisk together the flour, baking powder, and salt and then add it to the egg-sugar mixture. Add the orange juice and beat until smooth. Mix in the zest and vanilla until they are thoroughly incorporated.

Pour the batter into the prepared pan of choice and bake for about 40 minutes or until the cake tests done when a toothpick inserted into the center of the cake comes out dry (it's fine if a few crumbs cling to it).

Remove from the oven and allow the cake to cool in the pan for 7 to 10 minutes. Turn it out of the pan onto a rack to finish cooling completely.

Serve cooled cake dusted with confectioner's sugar if desired.

Ingredients 1 pound beef or lamb or a mix of the two, finely ground 4 to 5 ounces beef or lamb suet (recommended for classic flavor and texture) 1 medium onion finely chopped or grated ¼ cup chopped fresh parsley ¼ cup chopped fresh cilantro 1 tablespoon chopped fresh mint leaves (optional; great with lamb) 2 teaspoons sweet paprika

1 teaspoon ground cumin 1 teaspoon salt ¼ teaspoon black pepper 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon (optional) 1 teaspoon ground ginger (optional) 1 teaspoon ground turmeric (optional) ½ teaspoon ras el hanout/Moroccan spice blend (optional) ¼ teaspoon cayenne pepper (optional)

Directions

In a large bowl, combine the meat with the herbs and spices. Knead by hand for a minute or two to ensure the seasoning is evenly distributed. Shape the kefta into small sausage-like logs. Arrange the logs in a grill basket or thread and mold them onto skewers.

Grill the kebabs over medium-hot coals several minutes per side or until evenly browned and cooked through but still juicy. Moroccan preference is for little to no pink so watch carefully to avoid drying out the meat.

Alternatively, the kefta can be baked in the oven. Preheat the oven to 350 F. Arrange the shaped meat on a rack set over a pan and bake until browned and cooked through, approximately 15 to 20 minutes. Time will depending on how thick the kefta was shaped. Wrap the cooked kebabs in foil to hold warm until serving. Serve with couscous, vegetables and flatbread.

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In Vino, Veritas

Organic, Natural and Biodynamic

By Sassy Pellizzari

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he complexity of the wine market continues to evolve; in some ways advancing, and, in other ways, reverting to historic, traditional and even spiritual winemaking techniques. It’s not just red, white, rosé and sparkling anymore. Now you have options of buying organic, natural and even biodynamic. In general, these words usually mean they are healthier for you, but also possibly more expensive, so how do you weigh your options and make a decision?

Organic wine certification differs from country to country. Overall, the EU countries have much stricter regulations than the U.S. In some regions, you can only receive organic certification if the farms surrounding you also have organic practices. This means no pesticides, no chemical fertilizers and no herbicides.

The U.S. requires that, in order for a wine to be organic, they may not include sulfur dioxide, which is a preservative

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that prevents oxidization and fermentation in the bottle.

This is not to be confused with sulfites, although it is a closely related chemical. Organic wine regulations do permit the use of some additives such as sulfites and yeast, as well as other winemaking aids and processing, such as filtration and pasteurization. Organic winemaking rules are very strict, however, not as strict as natural winemaking.

All natural wines are organic because the first step in producing a natural wine is to grow organic grapes.

However, not all organic wines are natural wines.

In theory, a product that is completely natural should be just that, grown on its own, unassisted and untouched by humans, in a completely natural environment. Obviously wine does not grow on trees (one can only dream), so what exactly does it mean to have a “natural” wine? Wine is not simply produced by grapes, there is a seriously important procedure after grape harvesting that includes chemical,

biological, enological and geographical aspects.

Natural wines are considered “low intervention,” which means literally fermented grape juice with nothing more added. So no added oak, no additives, no chemicals, no sulfur, no filtering, no cultured yeasts and less manipulation overall.

Supporters consider natural wines more alive, thrilling and passionately unpredictable. Many winemakers have always upheld this technique without naming it “natural,” so critics consider it more of a marketing term. As a consumer, I find it helpful to see it printed on the label to know what to expect.

Biodynamic is interesting because it is a very spiritual take on winemaking, stemming from philosopher Rudolf Steiner. It views the vineyard as a whole, not just the grapevines, but the earth around them and the soil beneath them.

Biodynamic farmers believe in the importance of spiritual forces of the cosmos in their winemaking, such as the phases of the moon. In the winter, they might bury a cow’s horn filled with cow manure, then in the spring they dilute the aged manure in 34 liters of water and spray the mixture over the vineyards. Whether you believe in the spiritual philosophy or you believe it is just a load of cow dung, you can’t deny how biodynamic winemakers produce their wines with such impeccable importance and attention to detail, going above and beyond investing time and love into their winemaking.

Personally, I love trying natural wines. As mentioned, natural wines lack consistency, so each bottle is different, even of the same brand.

If you find a producer that you like, however, you can be sure you’ll enjoy the wines, even if they’re all slightly different. I like the surprise factor and that they are as close to nature as possible, with only the soil, the sun, the seeds, the wind and the weather as the main winemakers.

One of my favorite natural wines is Calabretta from the island of Sicily. You can almost taste the tropical climate, volcanic soil, salty air and Mediterranean sunshine in Massimiliano’s wines. The wines may not be predictable, but they are predictably cheaper than a plane ticket to Sicily. PL

Sassy Pellizzari lived in Italy for more than 13 years, where she developed a passion and knowledge of Italian wines. She and her husband, Paolo, are the owners of Bacco Selections, a Pinehurst-based company specializing in fine wine importing and distributing.

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Life Under Pines

These Old Walls

By Sundi McLaughlin

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his Valentine’s Day I am sending some love to my little shop. She is needy and difficult. Her bones are old and imperfect. The heat works when it wants and the AC is fed up with our constant demands on her year after year to combat this relentless Southern weather.

The building has hosted myriad delights through the years. It has been a shoe store, a bakery (next time you are in, notice the big round burn marks on the floor), but for the last 11 years, it has been my second home, disguised as a gift shop. The shop’s air is infused with the sweet scents of hundreds of tester candles burning, the walls hold years of memories of people laughing at cards, books, kitchen towels, etc.

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In March the shop was whisperquiet as the country shut down during the pandemic. The back rooms are in tatters from years of abuse. There is a leak that just cannot be fixed, and when the heavy rains come we have a water feature where the mops and brooms normally lean. The floors creak and, every once in a while, the walls crack, but somehow that just lends a charm that cannot be manufactured.

For me these signs of aging are like the wrinkles of a favorite aunt, born from years of laughing, loving and, of course, tears. These old walls took me in when no one else would hire me. (Try putting corrections deputy and shell diver on a resume for fun sometime.)

Mary (the previous owner) hired me to manage the shop and that is what I did. I cared for it like it was my own. I would sit behind the counter during those quiet afternoons and chat with customers who would wander in off Broad Street and I found I really enjoyed the work. Twelve years ago our town looked very different. The country’s economy was struggling, as was our beloved downtown. Sunrise Theater was only showing movies three nights a week, the shop next to me, which is now Swank, was empty—in fact the only thing after you crossed the street from the Ice Cream Parlor was a large furniture store on the corner called Lyne’s Den and the Masonic Lodge (which is still here, of course).

Our block on Broad was deadly quiet.

I would rearrange the clothes and jewelry, tidy up around the register, dust when needed and then not have much more to do. I got to where I would go to the Southern Pines library before work and play Russian Roulette with their front table of “New Releases.” I would close my eyes, grab one, check out and not read the title until I got to work. I would sneak a chapter during lunch or between customers and I read so many wonderful books I would have never normally chosen.

One time I read a book that changed everything. I read a novel about a quirky shop owner in a small town.

That book, Blue Christmas by Mary Kay Andrews, sparked an idea. What if I had a shop of my own? What would it look like? What would I sell?

How would I begin? It was and is a sort of outlandish dream, but just a month later Mary of Mary Contrary announced she would be closing the shop and did I know of anyone wanting to take over the lease? I went home and talked it over with my man and he thought it was a wonderful idea. Long story short, a few weeks later I took over the shop and the inventory. I had absolutely no idea what to do (not much has changed really).

At first, the shop remained Mary Contrary as I didn’t have money for new signage or even for a

“

One time I read a book

that changed everything. I read a novel

about a quirky shop owner in a small town.

That book, Blue Christmas by Mary Kay Andrews,

sparked an

idea. What if

I had a shop of my own?

What would it

look like? What would I sell?

new phone number—we still get calls for Mary every. single. day. But eventually my friend and local artist Gwen Dumas painted a sign with a new name for the front of the shop (which is now hung inside on the back wall), as well as a sandwich board (which I still use every day), and ever so slowly Mary Contrary became Mockingbird on Broad. It would be years before I could pay myself or hire any staff and for a while it looked like I would need to close the doors for good.

From my very first year, I had a website, but it was such a monster to keep track of, by the time I got all of the items online the first 30 would have already sold. The poor thing limped along for a couple of years until I found software that integrated online and in-store inventory as one, and then things started happening. Social media began hitting its stride and all of the sudden I could post a photo of an item from my little shop in Southern Pines on Facebook or Instagram and have an online order from across the globe within a few minutes! Truly remarkable!

So, as we move into 2021, I do so with a deep gratitude for my customers who have watched Mockingbird on Broad change and grow. I also find myself walking into the shop each morning inhaling the mixture of candle fragrances— each one unidentifiable unto itself, now only an amalgam of many throughout the years—and find I can’t remember what the shop smelled like before. I see the cracks and the sagging floors. I know the back wall in the store room will leak with the next hard rain, but I also know it took me in when I had nowhere else to go. It helped me grow friendships and a sense of purpose. I got a chance to become a part of this wonderful community of small-business owners. Last year showed us all how vulnerable we are and how much we take for granted. So for right now, in this moment, I am sending big love and a great big Valentine to the historic building that holds my little shop right here Under the Pines …. PL Sundi McLaughlin is a proud military wife and small-business owner of Mockingbird on Broad in Southern Pines.

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The Garden

Star Magnolia

BY DOLORES MULLER

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winkling stars scattered across the ink blue night sky have seemingly dropped down on to a shrub called star magnolia.

Magnolia stellata, called star magnolia, is a slow-growing shrub or small tree native to Japan. It bears large, fragrant, showy white or pink flowers in late winter or early spring that are scattered among the bare branches before the foliage emerges.

In our area, warm January or February days will find this thriller blooming. It grows to a height of 15–20 feet and a spread of 10–15 feet at maturity. It is a deciduous, open-branched, multitrunked plant with showy 3–4-inch fragrant white flowers.

This hardy magnolia can easily be used as a single specimen or a foundation planting. It adapts to rich, slightly acidic soils. In our area, it is best planted where it gets morning sun with filtered afternoon shade.

In autumn, the foliage turns yellow then transforms to bronze, and the shrub’s twiggy, many-branched shape provides nice winter interest. As an added bonus, the buds, which appear in late winter, are fat and fuzzy, just like pussy willows.

Generally, the more exposed the location, the earlier the flowers open. This plant especially pops against a dark background such as arborvitae or even a dark brick house. The beautiful ribbon-like flowers “pop” just like the stars in the night sky.

Some of the most popular cultivars are reliable and require low maintenance. “Centennial” produces fragrant, waterlily-shaped blossoms often having a pink tinge at the base of the petals. “Royal Star” has pale pink buds that open to pure white flowers. In particular, this cultivar is known for its almost 5-inch wide flowers having up to 30 petals. Royal Star blooms later than the species.

The only down side of this plant is that star magnolia flowers are vulnerable to damage by frosts, so it’s best to plant the trees in a sheltered spot. But it is worth it when you see it blooming in the early months of the year. PL

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A Look Back

The March King John Philip Sousa in the Sandhills

By Ray

Owen

Images courtesy of the Moore

County Historical Association

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othing better reflects American patriotism than the music of John Philip Sousa. Rising to international fame at the turn of the 20th century, as our nation was emerging as a global power, the musician was one of the most celebrated guests in the early years of Pinehurst, where he was a frequent visitor for more than two decades. Known the world over as the March King, the clear brass call of his oompah-pahs touched the lives of millions.

The March King reigned supreme with few performers in history matching the size of his audience. A bandleader to five presidents, he served in all three branches of the military. As conductor of the U.S. Marine Band and leader of the Sousa Band, he wrote about 150 marches, songs that became our nation’s calling cards, including “Hail to the Spirit of Liberty,” “The Invincible Eagle” and “The Stars and Stripes Forever.”

A superstar of his generation, Sousa was a showman who electrified his listeners. The picture of dignity and grace, he was resplendent as an ornamental penguin in a military coat with braids framing his chest, sparkling

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with fiery medals. It is said that he wore a new pair of white gloves at almost every concert, his audience often numbering in the tens of thousands. He waited for his jeweled baton to be delivered on a silver platter before commencing a performance that was once described as “the American eagle shooting arrows into the aurora borealis.”

Behind his regal persona was a modest man with a high, squeaky voice who was blind without thicklensed glasses. He liked boxing and baseball, which he considered the greatest game on earth. His handwriting was nearly illegible and for some odd reason he always wrote on the extreme right side of a sheet with most of the left side free. When asked to name life’s greatest rewards, he said: “a horse, a dog, a gun and a girl—with music on the side.”

Landing in the Sandhills during the early 1900s, Sousa found his freedom in the sporting life. A champion horseman and skilled hunter, he became part owner of a 2,000-acre hunting preserve near present-day Foxfire, where he raised grouse, quail and partridge. There was a

John Philip Sousa commemorative stamp from 1940 and trapshooting in the Sandhills.

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Sousa and the U.S. Marine band.

large kennel for his dogs and stalls for horses. Known to travel great distances on horseback, his longest journey was a nearly 1,000 miles.

Regarded as one of the best American trap shooters, Sousa registered more than 35,000 career targets and headed the newly founded American Amateur Trapshooting Association in 1916. During an Army versus Navy contest held at Pinehurst in 1919, he was the mainstay of the Navy team with the top individual score for the competing trio.

As for golf, the musician never succumbed to the lure of the game. On his first and only day on the links, he played so badly that it was written up in the local paper, with complaints lodged against him by golfers playing neighboring fairways. Sousa broke windows out of a farmhouse and lost so many balls that it was necessary to keep two caddies going all afternoon.

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Sousa catapulted to fame through a national obsession with bands that took place between 1890 and 1910.

Before radio, television, movies or cars, communities were isolated and people “belonged� to a place. More than popular entertainment, music was the rallying point for civic identity. No event was observed without fanfare with bands springing up by the hundreds of thousands.

At the forefront of the movement was Sousa and when his band came to town businesses closed, schools were dismissed, flags were flown, and people came from miles around. Sparked by growing national pride, the pulse of his military rhythms inspired unparalleled patriotism, catapulting him to international stardom. Traveling over a million miles by land and sea, with European tours and worldwide travel, the March King was everywhere.

A man from humble beginnings, he was born in 1854 in Washington, D.C., in the shadow of the Capitol dome.

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Sousa (right) with Charlie Chaplin and sheet music for The Stars and Stripes Forever.

Growing up in a modest house in a section of town known as the Navy Yard, he was the third of 10 children to immigrant parents. His childhood was spent along marshes of the Potomac River, where he liked hunting and fishing with his dad, and playing at the baseball lot.

The Civil War changed everything, pointing the way to his musical future. In the streets were the whistling fife, roll of drums and the sound of tramping boots. At times, cannons boomed a few miles away, as every man capable of bearing arms went to battle. Sousa attributed his ability to write a march to these experiences and the fact that he had personally known war.

He felt music calling from deep within and created songs without the aid of a musical instrument of any kind. Imagining the “atmosphere” of a piece, melodies came upon him at such speed that he often struggled to capture it on paper. Only after he had finished with a song would he play it, and many times pieces went to print without his ever having heard a note. He believed the songs were living things whose source was beyond

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him and that the music would find a way to reach the hearts of others.

“The Stars and Stripes Forever” was his masterpiece.

He said he heard it in his head at Christmas 1896 while on a ship traveling to New York. Day after day the music forced itself upon him, growing beyond his control. Entering the harbor, he looked up to see the American flag waving in the breeze and the song surged through his mind. He made it to his desk and transcribed the piece note for note, producing the world’s greatest march.

His last visit to Pinehurst was in 1929, a few short years before he passed away. Looking back, he said, “no one has had a richer, happier life than I have had and there is nothing I would rather do than what I am doing.” Sousa conducted “The Stars and Stripes Forever” for the last time on March 5, 1932, and died early the next morning. In 1987, the song was named the National March of the United States, designated as an imperishable reflection of our national spirit. PL

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Books

Go West

By Robert Gable

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here’s something appealing about riding the open range, seeing mountains along the horizon, fording a river and watching the antelope roam the prairie.

Why not escape the computer maze of modern-day life and just hop on your horse as you trot away from stuffy offices filled with fluorescent lights and faceless bureaucrats. That allure of the cowboy taking to the wide-open spaces is what endears readers to author C.J. Box and to his character Joe Pickett. Long Range is the latest novel from Box featuring the adventures of his favorite character.

Joe Pickett has been the good guy in a series of 20 novels. In Long Range, he’s 50 years old and doing his job faithfully for a nasty governor and a grumpy judge in Twelve Sleep County, Wyoming. He’s an unsung game warden, keeping the wildlife safe, living in the friendly, small town of Saddlestring. (Author Box knows a little something about Wyoming—he and his wife live on a ranch out there.)

The novel starts off with a bang, and it really is a bang.

A shot fired from a high-powered, long range rifle misses the judge of Saddlestring and gravely wounds his wife instead. The investigation to find the shooter, and the reasons behind the shooting, drive the story. Box takes some twists and turns to make the tale interesting. He keeps you guessing while the pieces fall into place. Who can Joe trust? Who has something to hide? Box drops clues all through the narrative, and Joe has to figure out which are viable leads and which are dead ends.

Joe has a good friend, Nate Romanowski, who has a checkered past, although he’s gone “legit” now. (But Nate’s past is haunting him; Mexican drug cartels figure in his history.) With Nate’s help, Joe uses common sense, a keen eye and good judgment to figure out where the shot came from, while the new sheriff in town has no clue. Marybeth, Joe’s wife, also helps track down leads and serves as a vital partner in testing out hunches.

Box has won numerous mystery-writing awards, so he knows how to keep the suspense going. This is a “whodunnit” filled with believable characters. Foremost is Joe, with old-fashioned horse sense gleaned from hardearned experience on the job. Joe is easy to root for—an “on the up and up” kind of guy. You could sit down, have a

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Long Range: A Joe Pickett Novel

By C.J. Box 368 pages, G.P. Putnam’s Sons / $28.00

beer with him, and swap some stories. He’d have lots of tales, yet you know he wouldn’t be making them up.

During the course of the story Box takes time to share some interesting information. Villain Orlando has tangled with ruthless drug cartels in Mexico, so Box gives a little backstory about how the cartels operate, malicious and malignant as they are. Character Nate is into falconry, so Box adds some history about falconry—how the birds fly, how they are trained. He also gives some psychology into the shooting of a target (read: person) from 1,600 yards away (over a mile). High-tech rifles can calculate wind direction, gravity, air density, elevation change—in effect, they’re computers with a barrel attached.

The plots twists throw a little mystery into the events and keep you guessing. How is Nate going to beat this bogus rap? Will he be able to survive Orlando’s treachery?

How do you deal with a sniper so far away that you have no chance to see him? Box ties all the various side-plots and side-stories together at the end. The good guys have some perils to get through and have to use every ounce of their wits. The bad guys don’t go down without a fight, but they do earn a fitting demise.

Reading this novel takes you out to Wyoming for a while, riding the open range, going up into a mountain meadow, tracking down a villain. Box is not attempting to write high-brow literature here, just a good old-fashioned yarn. His writing might tend to appeal more to a male readership. Guns, mountains, ranches, open country, cowboy hats and ammo—all these play a prominent part in the story. A rollicking fast read filled with thrills and high-country escapes, this novel makes for good entertainment. PL Robert Gable worked in book publishing for 18 years before going into the golf industry. He lived and worked in Pinehurst for five years and still misses it. He currently lives in Queens and works as an assistant golf pro at Metropolis Country Club in White Plains, New York.

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A Healthy Wedding

By Amelia kirkland

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lanning for your wedding day requires a lot of time.

So much so that your normal health, nutrition and fitness routines may suffer.

While you know these things are important, it’s easy to overlook while you’re busy planning for the big day.

There are the pressures of things like work and school, and the thousands of errands you have to run. All this can erode your willpower to stay on track with your health and fitness goals.

You know the saying: “Fail to plan means you are planning to fail.” This is especially true during busy times. You’re planning everything for your wedding day with infinite detail, so why not plan your health and nutrition strategy so that you will look and feel amazing and be in optimal health on your big day? Here are some tips:

can make your body think it is truly starving and will harbor calories, which can actually lead to weight gain.

Secondly, being in extreme caloric deficit can keep you from thinking clearly and optimally.

Healthy dieting. This is a big one. Even if you’re hoping to lose a few pounds before your wedding, extreme calorie-restricting can be counterproductive. For one, it

Quality foods over processed foods. Just as skipping meals can sabotage your health, so can foods high in sodium, fat and additives. These foods will make you feel

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Eat on the big day. While you’re running around, checking on your caterer, calling your bridesmaids, deciding on flowers and picking out recessional music, make sure to eat. If you don’t have time for a meal, grab a snack so that you won’t be ravenous the next time you can sit down for a meal. Grab a healthy snack, something filling like a handful of nuts or a fruit and veggie smoothie or a cup of yogurt with fresh fruit. There are many local establishments where you can stop in to grab something like this, such as Clean Juice, Nature’s Own or Harris Teeter.

sluggish and bloated. Try to keep fresh fruits and veggies on hand in single serving packages. You can spend an hour slicing fresh produce and storing it in pint-sized mason jars.

You can grab one of your jars as you dash out the door. Most things will store well for a couple of hours in your tote or purse. You can also choose shelf-stable snacks such as nuts that you can keep in your car in case of emergencies.

Pace yourself. Be careful of all the events leading up to the wedding. Bachelor and bachelorette parties, wedding showers, rehearsal dinners, brunches—these situations can be challenging in terms of sticking to your nutrition plan. Parties are tough at any time of year, but during your special season, it’s easy to let down your guard. Things that help include eating a small, healthy snack such as half an apple and an ounce of cheese prior to the celebration so that you won’t feel empty and starving when the party begins, tempting you to gorge on foods that are not as nutrient dense.

Also, ask your hostess to include healthy noshes such as a crudité platter or shrimp cocktail.

Empty calories alert! Things such as alcohol or highly processed carbs satiate for only a short period of time and then your stomach is begging for more. Alcohol is a notorious diet saboteur. Indulge moderately and with care. Don’t waste calories consuming drinks you don’t love and alternate one alcoholic beverage with one glass of water. At parties, when

you are the center of attention, which you inevitably are when you are the bride or groom, everyone will want to talk to you, which may make it difficult to break for a sip or a snack.

It’s fine to excuse yourself for a few minutes to gather your thoughts, drink some water and nibble a few bites.

Make a plan. If you have a trusted friend, sister, brother, groomsman or bridesmaid, solicit their help. Tell them where you might need some sage advice to stay on track. Discuss your health goals and them remind you if you drift away from the goal. You can also help yourself! Write yourself notes and stick them on your mirror, on your refrigerator and in your shoes. Tell yourself how healthy and happy you are; this will remind you how you want to look and feel on your big day.

Lastly, give yourself some grace. Every day is a new day and a chance to recommit to your health and nutrition goals. With a little time, planning and help from a friend, you will arrive at your wedding day feeling healthy, happy and ready to start your new life! PL

Amelia Kirkland has been an advocate for good health for more than 30 years. She is the founder of The Helpful Plate (thehelpfulplate.com), a company committed to empowering people to lead fulfilling, healthy lives. She is an avid cyclist, runner and student of Pilates.

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On the Buckle

My Pony Club

By Whitney Weston

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rowing up in rural southern Oregon, horses were not the fancy display of sport we see today on TV. Instead, it was a rough and tumble way of life, with inexpensive horses of nondescript breeding and training, ridden by kids with even less formal training. I remember my first pony, Cocoa. We found him in a field for a few hundred bucks. What could go wrong? Well, there is a saying: “The closer to the ground, the closer to hell,” which holds true for small ponies being stubborn and sassy. Cocoa was a very small pony.

I remember arriving late to our first Pony Club lesson, Cocoa slick with mud and in western tack. I was wearing jeans and clunky rubber boots. We were late because the pony did not want to be caught nor be loaded in the rickety trailer.

He also turned out to be a terrible student. My mom recalls me falling off in front of jumps as Cocoa did not want to go over them. Instead, he would stop suddenly, sending me flying over his head like a lawn dart. She said it was like seeing a repeated car crash in slow motion.

Needless to say, my family and I knew nothing about horse ownership and were not prepared for its inherent responsibilities, but Pony Club and our chapter’s trainer,

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Nancy Hart, welcomed us with open arms. To this day I firmly believe I only survived that pony because of Pony Club!

It wasn’t long before Pony Club was the calendar our lives revolved around. Every Thursday, like clockwork, the town’s scruffy riders on fuzzy ponies gathered to learn. In the winter, we met at the local fairgrounds. If there had a been a motocross derby in the arena the weekend before, we picked up big rocks that were drug up by bike tires to toss them out so as not to bruise the horses’ hooves. In the summer, we rode at Nancy’s farm after the hay fields were mowed and baled. The kids and families would gather to paint decadesold jumps, then haul them from the fairgrounds to the fields.

There were knowledge contests (affectionately called “KnowDown”) where Pony Club chapters gathered to test our prowess of horse care, anatomy and equine trivia.

All the kids were at different skill levels and ages, yet all felt welcome. The younger kids learned by watching the “big kids” and, in turn, they helped out the littles. At ratings, we were tested in both horsemanship (care of horses, knowledge of anatomy, poisonous plants, bandaging skills, triage) and our riding technique. We were expected to completely care for our horses without adult help. As a 7 year old, I remember

how big and heavy a 5-gallon bucket full of water was, but we figured it out! With teamwork, four hands on one bucket seemed to do the trick.

Our Pony Club leader Nancy had ridden at elite horse training schools in Europe, and also was a student of Sally Swift, author of Centered Riding. This compassionate approach to horse training has become a classic in its own right. Through visualizing techniques and training the rider to have good balance while guiding the horse, Nancy was teaching me to be a more effective rider than forceful training could ever accomplish. For example, when teaching the rider to have a relaxed hand yet still firmly grip the reins, imagine instead of reins you are holding baby birds. You don’t want to drop them, or squish them either!

I always loved horses, and the bond we had, but Nancy ignited my love for the sport of dressage. When done correctly, dressage is a silent communication between the horse and rider, where it looks like the rider isn’t moving yet the horse seems to glide across the arena with grace and balance. The rider, in actuality, is using their training to signal the horse, but it comes down to an ounce of pressure imperceptible to the human eye watching on the ground. By training my body to allow certain joints to be loose, certain muscles to be firm, and each limb operating independently (imagine rubbing belly and patting head times 10 while on top of a moving baby elephant). I learned the balance and precision that is needed to hold a posture while influencing the horse’s movement, guiding them through a series of complicated patterns, in the correct order and perfect harmony.

My next pony, Buddy, and I had a special connection, but dressage training was peeling off layers of the onion that is horses. Nancy showed me that through training and understanding, I could not only bond with horses emotionally, but we could speak the same language. My horses and I would learn to perform athletic feats and dances together as a team, through a silent communication. Nancy piloted Le Saut Cheval Pony Club for more than 30 years. Despite the humble circumstances of our area, Nancy and her team produced several equestrians who went on to become upper level riders, travel the globe, compete among the best, and create their own training and lesson programs for the next generations. Nancy, we appreciate you, love you, and will always miss you. PL

Whitney Weston is a professional horse trainer who has been riding for more than 30 years and competing at the international level of eventing for 14 years.

She trains out of her Southern Pines farm through Valkyrie Sporthorses, and runs Southern Pines Riding Academy.

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On the Green

A Return to Normal

by Helen Ross

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e’re done with 2020, thank goodness. But that doesn’t mean we’re returning to normal—yet.

The precautions put in place by the PGA Tour and other sports leagues will extend into the new year as the pandemic continues. Masks and hand sanitizer will remain a part of the daily routine. And while pro-ams are being cautiously reintroduced, don’t expect to see many fans, if any, at events on the Tour’s West Coast swing—although the Waste Management Phoenix Open is hoping to have a scaled down “stadium” experience at TPC Scottsdale’s famous 16th hole.

The golf calendar is getting back to normal, though, which is good for all of us who love the game. This year, there will be 50 events on Tour, which is the most in a season since 1975. Some of that is due to the schedule changes made in the midst of the COVID crisis, including playing the last season’s U.S. Open and Masters in the fall as part of the 2020–21 wraparound schedule.

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of 2020—don’t expect anything different this year. And they couldn’t be more opposite in the way they handle the limelight, either.

Johnson, who has spent more than 100 weeks as world No. 1 during his career, prefers to let his clubs do his talking.

That’s why seeing him wipe away tears and struggle to compose himself during his interview with Amanda Balionis on CBS at Augusta National was so extraordinary.

“It’s hard to talk,” he told her, surprising even his newly green-jacketed self with that rare display of emotion after setting the tournament record of 20-under par.

Johnson would later tell the scaled back group of socially distanced reporters that the Masters was always the tournament he had wanted to win. While he now calls south Florida home, the 2016 U.S. Open champ grew up in Irmo, South Carolina, which is about an hour away from Augusta.

“I had a tough time speaking with Amanda on the putting green just because it means so much to me,” said Johnson, who won the 2020–21 FedExCup along with Player of the Year honors. “It means so much to my family, Paulina (Gretzky, his fiancée), the kids. They know it’s something that I’ve always been dreaming about and it’s why I work so hard.

“I put in a lot of work off the golf course, on the golf

course and it’s just something that you push yourself for.

That’s why I work so hard is to be in this position. And to finally have the dream come true—I think that’s why you see all that emotion.”

DeChambeau, on the other hand, is very comfortable in front of the microphone. His answers are almost always thoughtful and definitely expansive, which isn’t surprising for a man who studied physics at Southern Methodist and has earned the nickname of the “Mad Scientist.” He thrives in the spotlight.

His most recent experiment saw DeChambeau add 40 pounds of brawn and muscle to his body. He started the transformation in the fall of 2019, but the new physique was particularly stunning to see after he returned from the three-month COVID hiatus, when he estimated he added half that weight.

With the added muscle, DeChambeau is regularly driving the ball into the stratosphere. He’s experimented with the 48-inch shaft that the guys competing in those long-drive competitions use, too, but seems to be doing just fine with his normal clubs.

Consider this: The man who ranked tied for 34th in driving distance at the end of the 2018–19 season with an average of 303 led the Tour last season with at 322 and had upped that to 338 when the fall portion of the 2020–21 season ended. His longest drive is a 428-yarder at the Traveler’s Championship.

You can argue whether all those protein shakes and the 5,000-plus calories he consumed each day are healthy, but DeChambeau did pick up his first major championship at beastly Winged Foot, beating Matthew Wolff by six strokes. And he closed with a 67—the only round under 70 shot all day.

After the victory, DeChambeau said he thinks he is changing the way people think about the game of golf.

He looked at the COVID break as an opportunity to eat healthier, get fitter and change his lifestyle.

“I hope I can inspire some people,” he said. “My goal in playing golf and playing this game is to try and figure it out. I’m just trying to figure out this very complex, multivariable game and multidimensional game, as well.

It’s very difficult. It’s a fun journey for me.

“I hope that inspires people to say, hey, look, maybe there is a different way to do it. Not everybody has to do it my way. I’m not saying that. I’m saying in general there are different ways to do things. If you can find your own way, find your passing, like Arnie said, swing your swing.

That’s what I do.

“That’s what Matthew Wolff does. That’s what Tiger does. That’s what Phil does. That’s what everybody does, and we’re all trying to play the best golf we can.”

Well said. But we expected nothing less from him. PL Helen Ross is a freelance golf writer who spent 20 years working for the PGA Tour and 18 more at the Greensboro News & Record. A UNC-Chapel Hill graduate, she has won multiple awards from the Golf Writers Association of America.

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Shaw House Tag Sale Benefitting the Moore County Historical Association Southern Pines October 17

Top, from left: Kenneth Almos, Mia Hurd and Cara Fifield; Christy Mickle / Bottom, from left: Shoppers; Brooke, Savie & Rosalee Prest; Izzy Herd and Rachel Jordan with Scout; and Linda Dellinger and Tina Sheppard.

Women of the Pines Annual Bake Sale Pinehurst

October 17

Top, from left: Cochair of the sale Laurie Michelich with Joyce Pilewski and Tina Arno; Carol & Bob Henderson with Joan Barrett / Bottom, from left: Duke & Jackie Cramer; Debbie & Pat Owen; Pattie Corbin, Glenda Kirby, Amy Walters and Marie Carbrey; and Jim & Shelly Artman.

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Sandhills Sightings 42nd Annual Holly Arts and Crafts Marketplace Pinehurst

October 17

Top, from left: John & MaryBeth Malone; shoppers / Bottom, from left: Debbie Jordan and Heather Girard; Petra Moore and Anke Wallace; Works of art fashioned from gourds; and Tammy Tollison and Sheila Putman.

Sandhills Community College Outdoor Concert Pinehurst

October 24

Top, from left: Dean & Lori Prince with Judy Silver; socially distancing on a beautiful day / Bottom, from left: Mike & Libba Thomas; Aaron Burdett; Jennifer Dail and Heather Lyons; and Walter Snyder and Sidley Payne.

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Sandhills Sightings Brunch on the Grounds Weymouth Center Southern Pines November 1

Top, from left: Susan & Dale Henn with Sue Huston; Lindsay Rhodes and Fletcher Parks / Bottom, from left: Glenda Kirby with Bill & Valorie Mountcastle; Ry Southard and Kathy Wright; and Carol Westerly, Joyce Pilewski and Bev Reynolds.

Artists League of the Sandhills 26th Annual Fall Show & Sale Aberdeen

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Top, from left: Joanie & Tom Moynihan with Martha DeVault; Cele Bryant and Bob Darst / Bottom, from left: Tiffany & Philip Bailey; Judy Brown, Natasha Essed & Jean Lu; and artwork on display.

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Sandhills Sightings Holiday Open House & Bread Bowl Walking Tour Aberdeen

November 7

Top, from left: Mason Lonnen and Melissa West of Workshop Tavern; Emma Rogers, Betsy Saye and Deborah Hersh / Bottom, from left: Dana Bowen, Pat Epperly and Marti Campbell; Kirstin Grant and Lauren Saltamachia; and Donny & Janet Dustin and Gary & Debora Robertson.

Sandhills Children’s Center 24th Annual Festival of Trees Carolina Hotel Pinehurst

November 18–22

Top, from left: Sandhills Children’s Center CEO Melanie Gayle and event chairman Jeanie Eastman; Patrick, Ann & Jacob Sloan / Bottom, from left: Dorothy Myerson and Keith Gubourn; Jim & Maureen Mannix; Peter & Megan Crimmins; and Marilyn Fitzgerald and Don Torppa.

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Sandhills Sightings Breakfast with Santa

Sandhills Woman’s Exchange Pinehurst

December 5

Top, from left: Santa is here!; Caroline & Ryan Oakley / Bottom, from left: Jack, Mardy & Aden Bell with Hudson Deese; LeeAnn & Evan Johnson with Lollipop (Peggy Sue Hawkins); a festive tree; and Santa’s helpers: Barbara, Beth, Chef Katrina Talyor, Marie, Elizabeth, Barb with Mrs. Claus (Cav Peterson).

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Last Impression

Snowed In photograph and caption courtesy of Moore County Historical Association

Many Northerners traveled hours to winter in “the Mid-South Resort” of Southern Pines. On occasion, Mother Nature teased them with a Southern snowstorm. This is Our Lady of Victory Catholic School, which was on Pennsylvania Avenue from 1942–1961. The building is now owned by the town of Southern Pines and is the Douglass Community Center, named after the town’s first Black mayor, Emmanuel Douglass.

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