PinkBlitz Magazine August 2014 Issue by Lilly Babineau

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Letter from the

Editor

Each time I sit to write this, I become overwhelmed with the success this magazine has had. Starting with Megan Massacre, we’ve gotten celebrities and interviews with them up until 2015!

Photo By: Dustin Hurley

This particular issue is one of my favorites, because it focuses on real fashion. At nearly every fashion week, we see clothing in the most bizarre forms. Most of them looking like they were designed specifically for Lady Gaga, and let’s face it. Real women don’t wear things like that. Every day women have no use for it. So, in this issue, our models are all wearing clothes they find fashionable. This issue is also features the beautiful and talented McKenzie Westmore. You recognize her from her past character “Sheridan Crane” on Passions, and more recently as the host of Syfy’s Face Off. McKenzie talks to us about her struggles to become an actress and how she overcame the challenges to get to where she is now. Such an inspiration! Other things you’ll read about in this issue are items worth splurging on and not worth it. And for our male readers, we know you can benefit from our article, 30 Ways To Please A Woman! As always, stay beautiful, classy, and be yourself <3

Lilly Babineau

Be All You Can Be. And Be More. EDITOR IN CHIEF / FOUNDER Lilly Babineau PUBLIC RELATIONS Ashley Merriam EXECUTIVE DIRECTORS OF OPERATIONS Kristina Mallet / Candace Bazowsky BEAUTY EDITOR Kristina Mallet FASHION EDITOR Candace Bazowsky DIRECTOR OF MARKETING & SALES Jordan White GRAPHIC DESIGN Lilly Babineau / Nikki Branch Natalia Marshall-Ryan PROJECT SUPERVISOR Sheri Collette LEAD PHOTOGRAPHER Mario-Pierre Gaudreau PHOTOGRAPHERS Dustin Hurley / Ed Bowron / Jason Lorette Kimberly-Mai Therrien / Mario-Pierre Gaudreau LEAD STYLIST Phoebe Hicks HAIRSTLYISTS Kandas Michaud / Melanie Smith-Lear Tammy Savoie / Amanda Braun MAKEUP ARTIST Kristina Mallet / Presley McGlashing Talya Morgan

Model: Stephanie Durant Hair: Tammy Savoie MUA: Presley McGlashing Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Jason Lorette

CONTRIBUTORS Scott McLean / Rachel Richard Melanie McLean / Jessy Horton Nathalie Testi-Flamin / Kristina Mallet Sheyanne Banana / Danielle Hensley Bryanna Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Donnell / Angela Vincent Tammy Malley

PinkBlitz Must Do’s With one month left of summer we’re all scrambling to do all the things we want before the snow comes! Here’s just a few things we recommend: 1. Take in some last minute site seeing. Even in your own area, you’d be surprised what little gems you can find if you just drive around looking for something. 2. Take a day and just relax. Go lie in the sunshine with some great music and an ice cold glass of lemonade, and relax. Soaking up the vitamin D will make you feel great! 3. Try something new! I recommend trying a new food. Never give Thai a try? Go for it!

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Model: Jacynthe Pelletier Hair: Melanie Smith-Lear MUA: Presley McGlashing Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Dustin Hurley

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Photos Courtesy of SYFY Network McKenzie Westmore appears courtesy of JDS Public Relations. McKenzie is the host of Syfy’s Face Off, and has also decided to write a monthly column for PinkBlitz! We welcome her as an honory part of our PB Family :)

What’s Inside? Mckenzie Westmore INTERVIEW ON PAGE 28!

on the cover! Animal Prints.....................................20 Fashion DIY..........................................22 Hair & Makeup: Girls’ Night Out............36 Natural Beauty...................................38 Handling Harassment...........................72

TO SPLURGE OR NOT TO SPLURGE What items are worth it, and which items can you do without!

REAL OR KNOCK OFF? GUCCI From tags to labels, thereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s several ways you can tell!

HAIR HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF Braids, big hair and more! All your favorite styles coming back!

13 CREATIVE DATES If you take it up a notch, you might just get a second date!

30 WAYS TO PLEASE A WOMAN All those things that women would never tell you we want!

Model: Caali Hicks Hair: Tammy Savoie MUA: Presley McGlashing Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Andrea Miszk

To Splurge Or Not To Splurge BY DANIELLE HENSLEY

As most of us girls are aware, we might have a shopping problem. This shopping problem leaves us almost, if not completely, broke. The question always becomes: to splurge or not to splurge? It tends to end in regretful splurging. While it is okay to spend lavishly on yourself once in a while, we often get hooked on things that are not worth our money. In this article, we are here to help fellow shopaholics determine what is worth splurging on and what isn’t even worth considering.

Arizona or some place that is known for its heat then this is a must have. A wool coat will keep you warm on those chilly and snowy days. It doesn’t matter if you are going somewhere special or running errands, this coat will go with anything and keep you cozy while out in the freezing cold.

We all deserve those designer jeans that we are always eyeing on a trip to the mall. They always end up staying at the store because the price is just too much. The next time you go to Shoes, shoes, shoes. The best of us have an addiction the mall, buy those jeans. Obviously, pants are to shopping for shoes. We all need a pair of black, a necessity to your clothing attire so it is not pointy toed heels. It just so happens that we think like they will be a waste of money. Designer this specific item would be ideal to splurge on. To jeans are definitely worth a splurge or two. be more specific, a designer pair would even be worth it. A pair of black pumps never go unused. A purse not only carries your important items They add a touch of class to any outfit and you but it also accents your outfit. A purse that can don’t need to worry about matching bold colors. be used for any occasion and still look great is a They are neutral which is perfect for the workplace definite must. This type of purse should be able or a dinner date. Put them together with that sexy to go to work with you or out to a club with LBD and black blazer for a chic fashion statement. you. This is the purses of all purses. The one that you don’t have to worry doesn’t go with Perfume is just as important of an accessory as your outfit. The purse that has been through any other. Every woman must have a signature so much and still looks brand new years later. scent. Instead of hunting for the right perfume to go with an outfit, you can choose a favorite scent These are some ideas for you to consider the to wear for any occasion. Trust us, it will make next time you go on a shopping spree. We all getting ready for that special date so much easier. know that you are going to end up spending majority of your money. You may as well end up As summer begins to fade away day by day, spending it on something that won’t be a waste. colder weather approaches. Unless you live in

Model: Phoebe Hicks Hair: Kandas Michaud MUA: Talya Morgan Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Mario-Pierre Gaudreau

Rockin’ Animal Prints BY DANIELLE HENSLEY Animal prints are making a roar in the fashion Sometimes, there is no need to accessorize an world; no pun intended, with their bold colors and outfit. These outfits are beautiful the way that they designs. Cheetah print is the most popular of the are and bold enough that you don’t need much. animal prints, but there is also Zebra and others. That is unless you want to stick out like a sore It is difficult to properly pair an animal print item thumb. A form fitting, cheetah print dress with with your outfit. Sometimes it results in nothing the right heels and earrings should be a perfect more than a mess. God forbid you have too much combination. animal print going on. Moderation is key when it comes to striking With how much an animal print pattern can stand fashion designs. You don’t want to overdo it. Keep out, it is best to be paired with some neutral jeans things simple, and you will still shine. Eyes won’t or outfit. If it is the only loud item on you, it will be looking at you because of your hideous outfit stand out without becoming overwhelming. but because of its elegant and natural beauty. It is possible to pair animal print on top of more For example, tiger stripes and zebra print would animal print, and it still look good, but it is a be a big no-no. The colors do not go together, and difficult task to accomplish. you would end up the result if these two animals were together…A disaster. Take, for example, an animal print blouse and an animal print skirt. If you can find a way for these It’s all about moderation as well as a perfect two items to go together well without looking balance of the two. To find a balance between two ridiculous, then you can do anything. very different animal prints, try experimentation. If you wish to spice up a plain outfit with some Perhaps a blouse of normal animal print but a animal print then throw in a leopard print scarf. skirt of another, darker animal print. You can match your favorite black pumps with it and It adds sass to an otherwise dull look. A snakeskin accent the outfit with a belt, making it work even jacket would be great for those that love a grunge more. However, we still suggest the adage of less look, or a snakeskin purse would do well too. is more. No matter how you dress, it is critical that you Did you find a cheetah print dress that you just experiment with your style. Only then will you had to have for that night out? Does it hug you in know what goes good together and what suits all the right places? You aren’t sure though how to your fashion sense. spice it up and stand out from the crowd. Maybe try some sexy, black heels and leave it at that. 18

Model: Britt Fowler Hair: Kandas Michaud MUA: Talya Morgan Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Ed Bowron

FASHION DIY: PINTEREST

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PINNED BY: STACIE 1. Making otherwise unfashionable clothing into something trendy! 2. Revamping comfy clothes into something sexy! 3. Adding flair with a drip-paint dress!

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What’s In, What’s Out BY SCOTT MCLEAN

For this month’s edition of What’s “In” What’s “Out” I’ll be focusing on hems, rises, and the cuts of clothing. You can have a pair of pants or a top that is on trend color wise, but if the cut is too long or it sits too low on your waist you might as well wear a pair of sweats and give up. Don’t worry, I’m here to help so you won’t have to opt for the latter. Here is in my opinion What’s “In” and What’s “Out” to keep your clothes at the right level. In: High Waisted Everything – Low waisted pants, shorts, and especially jeans are out, out, out. In my opinion, low rise anything is a tired look. Think Britney Slave 4 U circa 2002. High waisted bottoms have proven that they are here to stay as a staple silhouette. Since cropped tops have taken over, our bottom half has decided to follow the top by raising their rise.

the perfect solution. It is a more fashion forward take on basic bottoms and can be very flattering when worn with the appropriate shoe.

Out:

Capris – Like every hot blooded person, I love when summer rolls around but with summer comes some major fashion misses. One huge fashion miss that is on the top of my hit list is the capris. I HATE capris. They are an extremely Not only do high rise bottoms act as the perfect unflattering length no matter how big or small you complement to cropped tops, they are also are. They have a tendency to make people look flattering on many different body types . For those shorter and stalkier which should not be a desired of you who want to show a little more skin, just look by anyone. If you feel the need for a cut off think of high rise bottoms as a chance to shorten look on your lower half than I would suggest a the length of your shorts and show a little more short that is above the knee or a pant that is cut leg. off just above the ankle. These are much more flattering lengths for everyone and also gives an Ankle Cut Pants/Denim – It seems that there is illusion of a longer leg. some kind of confusion in the summer about where pants and denim should be cut off. A regular pair Low Rise Jeans – Take a minute and think of Paris of jeans or pants that are cut off at the top of your Hilton circa 2005 with her back side hanging out foot is classic and here to stay. I feel the confusion of her low rise jeans. Not a pretty sight. Paris left begins between the knee and ankle area. this look in the past and so should you. Low rise jeans were a cute look but now are a little too In my opinion shorts should be kept above the cheap and trashy. High rise is the way to go and is knee for both men and women and pants should much more flattering in every way and definitely never go above the ankle. Everything in between less offensive to the public when bending down. is a no go zone. If you’re tired of the regular pant leg than an ankle cut off pant or pair of denim is 23

Ask the Stylist: Scott McLean A lot of people are wearing Maxi Dresses... What is your take on them and what is the best look to pull off with a maxi dress? I am definitely pro maxi dress and skirt. Personally, I feel maxi dresses are a summer must have for every woman no matter what shape, size, or age. I love how versatile they are and how they give anyone a “look” no matter how little effort they put in. There are a million different styles, patterns, and colors to choose from for every woman. Although a maxi can be your best friend in the summer heat, depending on the fabric they can sometimes be more of a frenemy showing off every crease, fold, and even VPL (visible panty line) your body has to offer. Don’t be afraid to invest in some spanx to smooth out your silhouette. As tricky as maxis can be, if you find one in a forgiving fabric and versatile style, they can easily be your go too stylish summer look for any and every occasion.

in a solid or subtle print. The key to achieving this look is by accessorizing. A large oversized sun hat in a woven or felt fabric is an easy way to add a little casual glamour to your maxi. Oversized collar necklaces are everywhere right now and can take your look from basic to chic in no time. Don’t be afraid to go big on jewelry with a simple maxi dress. A large boyfriend style watch is My favorite look for a maxi is an a perfect piece to finish off this casual effortlessly glamorous look. For this look chic look. I would go with a more simple style 24

What are some of your favorite fashion themes? A fashion theme can mean many different things to a lot of people so I hope this answers your question. To me a fashion theme is what a designer pulls inspiration from to get new trends and give a continuous look and feel throughout their collection. They often use movies, cultures, architecture, or eras to create these themes. Currently, my top themes of the moment would be 90’s and minimalism. The 90’s have been all over the runways and in every magazine this year. This trend should be easy for all the 90’s children out there to follow. Just think back to the kaleidoscope of colors we all used to wear head to toe. To get this look I’ve been loving fuchsia, with light pink, and a bright red combo or cobalt, with light blue, and teal combo in some sort of geometric pattern. These bright and somewhat clash of colors mixed with geometrics scream 90’s and when combined with the sportswear trend that is huge right now can make an on-trend look. Sporty neoprene cropped tops in these 90’s colors and prints are an amaze look for an ultra stylish ensemble. My other top pick for fashion themes would be minimalism. This theme is greatly inspired from modern architecture with clean lines, solid structure, and geometric silhouettes. To achieve this minimalist look, designers have been opting for thick fabrics that give off a sturdy and solid structure to garments. It’s all about solid colors for minimalist pieces in black, grey, white, and light cool tones. Cropped tops and tops with a high hem are perfect tops for this minimalistic look. Pair these tops with a structured short or pant that is cut off at the ankle. The cherry on top of this clean cut Sunday would be a shoe with an ankle strap and no platform.

Gucci is one of the biggest names in the fashion world. They create a number of fashion essentials such as handbags, sunglasses, wallets, and so much more. However, as with any designer brand, it is important to know the difference between real and fake. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t become a victim of a scam artist. Follow these steps to look for signs of authenticity in your Gucci item. Examine the logo If the logo is even slightly different from the original then it is not a legit Gucci item. Look at the style and the font used in the logo on your item. Ensure that you are looking at Gs and not another letter.

a high end item. Their items are not cheaply made. If the stitching is loose or flawed then it is more than likely fake. Gucci items are only made with the upmost care and best material. If there are any flaws with your item then an authenticity check should be done as this should not happen with a designer brand. Fake Sunglasses? Scam artists do not only carry fake handbags or wallets but they may also have fake Gucci sunglasses.

How do you tell if sunglasses are fake? One would think that it would be more difficult to authenticate a pair of sunglasses but the process These two Gs would be facing each other. is relatively the same. The sunglasses have their Compare the original logo to the logo engraved on own key identifications. your item. It is easy for the logo to be manipulated by scam artists. Made in Italy The logo is one of the easiest things to change when it comes to designer bags. Many of the changes are subtle and not easily noticed unless you thoroughly examine the item. Study your logo with the logo of another, authentic version of your item. Serial Number

Look on the inside of the sunglasses for a â&#x20AC;&#x153;Made in Italyâ&#x20AC;? engraving. Each and every pair of Gucci sunglasses is only made in Italy, the same goes for any other items. What did they come with?

Just like an authentic Gucci handbag comes with a dust bag and other things, so do their sunglasses. Many Gucci handbags and possibly some other To find out if you have ordered a legitimate pair of items contain a serial number. This serial number Gucci sunglasses, you should receive the following will let you know if it is authentic as many fake items with your order: handbags do not have a serial number. If they do, you can always check it out with Gucci themselves. - Brown cloth - Gold Gucci box Most of the bags will have two sets of numbers - Protective plastic bag with the manufacturer to prove authenticity. If your bag does not have name on it a number then it could potentially be a fake bag. - Certificate of authenticity Research your bag and compare it to others to find - Warranty out. Another item that has a serial number would be Gucci wallets. By looking for these signs in any Gucci item you may have, you will find out if they are real Examine Hardware or inspired. No one wants to spend over $200 on a fake item but most scammers will price the The metal hardware on a Gucci bag or any item, item lower to get it to sell faster. Obviously, any for that matter, will not chip or have any flaws. legitimate designer item will be worth a lot of Some of the hardware may be engraved with the money. Gucci logo. This is part of the reason that Gucci is 26

Identifying Real From Knockoff: Gucci BY DANIELLE HENSLEY

Model: Elise Fougere Hair: Kandas Michaud MUA: Presley McGlashing Stylist: Phoebe Hicks 31 Photographer: Dustin Hurley

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Model: Sam Comeau-Lavigne Hair: Kandas Michaud MUA: Kristina Mallet Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Jason Lorette

Hair & Makeup: Girls’ Night Out! BY KRISTINA MALLET

Alright! It’s finally the weekend, or even just a girls night out and it’s time to get ready. Whether you have been in the office all day, or had a fun day out, ready below to get quick, easy tips for getting the perfect look for girls night out! First and for most, decide where you plan to go, and dress accordingly. Nothing is more terrifying than being over/under dressed when going out. 5 inches heels and a tight mini dress is fun and all, but you wouldn’t want to wear that to a bar where a heavier metal band is playing. Choose your makeup next. Want to keep it simple and still daring? Try just cat eye liner and a bright red lip. Looking for more of a bold look, go with heavier colors. Black, blue and purple are gorgeous for night outs, and go with a lot of colors. They make a great Smokey eye, and it’s a super-hot effect. Hair. What can I say about hair? To make sure it’s perfect, do some prepping beforehand. Have straight hair and want it curly, wash it the night before. This will allow the oil in the hair to hold better. Curly and you want straight. Take time to do it, don’t rush it. Grab good products you know and trust. Tonight is not the night for tying a new mousse. Next, make sure your hair, makeup and outfit are well put together. Fix any broken zippers, cut out any noticeable tags, and make sure your bra isn’t showing, as much as possible. Get a mini can of hair spray and a comb for smoothing out your hair, and always bring your powder and lipstick. This may seem like a lot of items, but it’s necessary. Now you’re ready to have the perfect night out! You’ll look great and feel great knowing what looks are best! 36

Model: Kimberly-Mai Therrien Hair: Kandas Michaud Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Mario-Pierre Gaudreau

Model: Becca McCabe & Monica Melanson Hair: Kandas Michaud MUA: Brooke Anderson Wardrobe: Vixens Boutique Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Mario Gaudreau

Model: Lindsay Isenor Hair: Amanda Braun MUA: Kristina Mallet Stylist: Phoebe Hicks 33 Photographer: Jason Lorette

1. Tinted moisturizer instead of those heavy powder concealers. 2. Banish tired, puffy eyes with cooling eye cream (Sephora hydrating gel eye cream C$47) 3.

Moisturize, sunscreen, moisturize!

4. Instead of using box dye, treat yourself at the hair dressers and try for some highlights that frame your face and give you a more natural look. 5. Yoga! Including a daily yoga routine into your hectic schedule will help to rejuvenate your body and mind. Include some relaxing music and aim for 30 minutes a few times a week. You’ll notice a difference in your daily outlook on life and how you feel! 6. Enjoy the outdoors for at least 20 minutes a day. Take the dog for a walk, enjoy your garden, read a book in the park. Being outdoors with the fresh air will give you a nice break from the fluorescent lights in the office and give your mood that pick me up you needed.

25 Ways To Be A Natural Beauty BY SHEYANNE BANANA

7. Skip the blow dryer and give your hair a tousled look or embrace your curls! Try the Ion Curl Solutions line – they have a product for every hair type. And they’re vegan! 8. Exfoliate! Remove those dead, flaky skin cells and try Sephora’s all natural Natures Gentle Dermabrasion (C$48) 9. Bring out your hairs natural shine with a Mayo Mask! Leave it on for as long as you can handle and prepare yourself for some majorly soft locks! It’s great for strengthening your hair too. 10. Remove makeup at the end of the day! Free your pores and try out Clinique Naturally gentle eye makeup remover (C$20) 11. Sleep! Aim for the 8 hours a night and feel the difference. Model: Caali Hicks Hair: Tammy Savoie MUA: Presley McGlashing Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Andrea Miszk

12. Lots of sex! Sex gets the blood supply flowing, your lips lusciously red, brings a nice glow about you. No time? Try for a quickie before you run out the door. 13. Cut out the cigarettes. No explanation needed!

18. Take a day to relax! Turn off all electronics and spend the day catching up with old friends, reading that book you haven’t started yet, and snuggle up with your significant other. You’ll feel refreshed and ready to start over the next day. 19. Try a body lotion that has a subtle self tanner. Skip the harsh tanning beds and long days sitting in the sun at the beach. Try Jergens natural glow daily moisturizer. 20. Skip the dark eye makeup and go for a more natural look. Try for a medium brown liquid eyeliner, or a natural black mascara instead of the jet black and the Smokey eye. Instead of eye shadow try to put a small amount of concealer on your eye lids to hide the redness and blend it in with your skin tone. 21. Banish blackheads. Try Biore Deep Cleaning Pore Strips for those extra tough blemishes. 22. Try Visine bright eyes to wake up your eyes after a rough night. 23. Drink lots of water. It adds elasticity to your skin and prevents wrinkles. 24. Say no to that extra glass of wine, and say yes to that herbal tea. Your body will thank you for saying no to all that extra sugar. 25. Dress for your body type! Embrace your curves, your waistline, your long legs or short legs. Your body is beautiful! No matter what shape you are.

14. Lemon juice to brighten your skin tone. Mix equal parts lemon juice and water into an old spray bottle and spritz some on your face whenever your skin tone needs a boost. 15. Get a pedicure! Fix up those dry heels and go for a natural hue for the toes.

16. FLOSS! Flossing can keep your smile whiter longer and keeps the mouth feeling fresh and smelling fresh. No one wants to smell that burger you had last week on your breath. They don’t want to see it in your teeth either. 17. Exfoliate your lips! Dry, peeling lips are not sexy. Beat the peel by using Lip Scuff by The Body Shop (C$13)

Time and time again, hair trends change into things that may have otherwise seemed strange. Who would have thought that shaving one side of your head would ever become a thing? Now, it’s time to look at the facts. The hair trends we’re starting to see were all hairstyles from the past. Here’s a few of the styles I’m talking about: 1. Crowning braids. These used to be done on women back in the early days. From peasants to ladies in waiting, these styles have made an appearance many times throughout the years. Most recently, it was brought back by the Hunger Games. Main character Katniss Everdeen wears her braid around the bottom and to the side. 2. Big hair. Back in the 80’s, big hair was all the rage. The bigger your hair, the more popular you were. Thanks to Jersey Shore’s Nicole ‘Snooki’ Polizzi, big hair is coming back. Girls everywhere are bumping up their hair and adding volume like nobody’s business. 3. Hair glitter. Back in the 90s, hair glitter was what all the stars were into. Thanks to Kesha, glitter on everything is back in action. One of the most fashionable things right now is to put glitter in your hair, and that’s a trend that just might be around for a while. 4. Hair mascara used to be big in the 90s. It allowed you to put multiple colors in your hair that were bright, bold and daring. No, hair mascara itself is not back in, but getting the same effects with the use of hair color is. Products like Manic Panic and Elumen have become readily available to do pretty much the same thing for your hair. 5. The high ponytail. Back in the 50s and 60s, and again in the 80s, the high ponytail was in. Now, its starting to come back. Not because of any movie or celebrity wearing their hair like that, but because it’s just plain adorable! So there you have it. Some great hair trends making their way full circle as everything usually does. Enjoy them and remember, everything goes full circle eventually! 40

Hair History Repeats Itself BY LILLY BABINEAU

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Model: Ailatan Modele Hair: Tammy Savoie MUA: Kristina Mallet Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Mario-Pierre Gaudreau

Model: Whitney Budd-Irving Hair: Melanie Smith-Lear MUA: Talya Morgan Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Dustin Hurley

Model: Sarey Arsenault Hair: Melanie Smith-Lear MUA: Talya Morgan Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Dustin Hurley

Model: Meghan Rochford-Reid Hair: Melanie Smith-Lear MUA: Talya Morgan Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Andrea Miszk

Model: Candace Bazowsky Hair: Kandas Michaud MUA: Kristina Mallet Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Dustin Hurley

Model: Emily Reade Hair: Tammy Savoie MUA: Presley McGlashing Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Wardrobe: Emily Readeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Own Creations Photographer: Andrea Miszk

Models: Alex Roberts, Joanny St-Onge Andre Atrsenault-Thibodeau, Trinity Augustine Julie Michon, Nicholas Landry Caleb Flanagan, Katherine Legault, Doug Smith, Valerie Diotte Hair: Kandas Michaud Makeup: Melissa Gauthier Wardrobe: Nathalie Testi Photo By Mario Gaudreau

Model: Alyssa Gould Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Mario-Pierre Gaudreau

Model: Miranda Lindsay Hair: Amanda Braun MUA: Presley McGlashing Stylist: Phoebe Hicks Photographer: Andrea Miszk

13 Creative Dates! (We Bet You Never Thought Of!) BY ANGELA VINCENT

Whether you’re going on a first date or a date with a partner of 20 years, I think we can all agree that the classic dinner and/or movie date has been done to death. Sometimes, it can be fun to do an activity together that is more reflective of your interests and personalities. It can also allow you to get to know more about your partner, such as how they respond to various challenges and situations. Here’s a list of some possible outside-the-box date ideas:

piles of junk and look for treasures together. 7. Take a cooking class: Many grocery stores offer weekly cooking courses. These can be inexpensive and fun. Bonus: You get to eat and learn something new. 8. Try geocaching: Install a geocache application to your cell phone and follow the coordinates to find little treasures. This will require teamwork and provides an opportunity to get some exercise.

1. Give back to the community: Volunteer at a food bank, soup kitchen or nursing home. It can be fun 9. Have a baking competition: Look up recipes to get to know each other while doing something together, pick up the ingredients and see who to help others. does it better. A little friendly competition can be fun! Have someone judge your baking after you’re 2. Go fishing: You don’t need to be a professional. done. It can be fun and relaxing to spend some time in the great outdoors. 10. Ugly sweater dinner: Go to a second hand store and buy the ugliest outfits you can find. Wear 3. Try rock climbing: There are indoor and outdoor them out to dinner. I’ve done this. It was hilarious. places to climb or repel. Make sure that you have the necessary safety equipment, though. A trip 11. Get artistic: Pick up some cheap art supplies to the local ER may make for a good story, but and paint portraits of each other. You can find probably a lousy date. canvases and paints at most dollar stores. 4. Go to real estate open houses: Check the local paper for open houses in your area and check them out. Talk about what you like and don’t like about the various homes. You can learn a lot about someone’s tastes, values and style this way. 5. Go green!: Plant a tree or a little garden together.

12. Fly a kite: Make or buy a kite and fly it at a local park...preferably away from power lines. 13. Try paint-ball: There are indoor and outdoor versions of this game. What could be more fun than trying to shoot each other?!

Giveen these helpful date ideas, there’s no need 6. Hit up yard sales: These are usually advertised for your dates to ever be anything but great! in the newspaper or online. Go wade through

Model: Chanelle Manual Photographer: Kimberly-Mai Therrien

30 Ways to Please A Woman! (You’re Welcome!)

BY ANGELA VINCENT

Girls, we’ve come a long way. Over the years, we’ve become pretty darned good at going after what we want, right? So, it’s surprising to hear so many women complaining about lousy sex. For some reason, there are lots of women out there who are still squeamish about telling their partners what they want in bed. This is for you, ladies. Guys, pay attention! 1. Know her body: Guys, you’d never pop the hood of a sports car and just bang a wrench around and hope for the best. You need to have some mechanical knowledge, right? The same goes for a woman’s body. Learn a bit about female anatomy. We’re not asking you to go to medical school, just to know where things are and how they work. 2. Foreplay: Rubbing your erection against her back while she’s washing the dishes does not qualify as foreplay. Kiss, touch, talk dirty, undress each other...This is your opportunity to make her want you! Not only are you preparing her body for sex, you’re also preparing her mind. 3. Undressing: Sometimes, a woman will want her clothes ripped off in a fit of passion. Sometimes, she might want to be slowly and sensually undressed. Other times, she may want you to cut her clothes off with a Bowie Knife. The point is, undressing can be a sexual experience in itself. The way you choose to undress can set the tone for the entire session. 4. Use all of your senses: There are 5, count ‘em 5 senses. Use them all! Sight, sound, touch, taste, scent. Find fun ways to incorporate them all into sex; videos, strip tease, scented oils, music, dirty talk, and experimenting with texture and touch can make her sexual experience more fulfilling. 54

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5. Kissing: So important, fellas. Don’t just kiss during foreplay. Keep the kisses coming throughout. Sometimes hard, furious kisses are appropriate. Sometimes slow, gentle kisses are better. Kiss her neck, collarbone, breasts. Kiss her ankles and behind her knees. Kisses help to create and maintain intimacy. Don’t just go in hard, leave her face covered in spit and move on. 6. Compliment her: Tell her how good she looks and how good she feels. Tell her how badly you’ve wanted her all day. Compliment the parts of her body that you love the most. Make her feel sexy and beautiful. Women can be self-conscious. Help her to let go of that. 7. Fantasies: A woman’s number one erogenous zone is her mind! Have you ever wondered what possessed millions of women to lock themselves away with the 50 Shades of Grey books? It’s because imagination and fantasy factor heavily into a woman’s sexuality. Tapping into her imagination through role-play can be hot. 8. Quickies are for both of you: Like a quickie, I’ll make this short and sweet. Be attentive and get her off. 9. Plan: As fun as quickies can be, women typically take longer to reach orgasm than men...and can physically have MANY. For that reason, try to plan for sexual encounters when you have lots of time to engage in foreplay then ring her bell a few times. 10. Get rough: Some women like to have their hair pulled, be called dirty names, get spanked, etc. I know a lot of men have a hard time doing this, but if she’s begging you to pin her down and take her roughly, go with it. 11. Vary your rhythm: While it’s fun to hammer away, there is something to be said for a man bringing you right to the point of orgasm, then pulling back and slowing the pace a bit. Focus on other parts of her body, kiss her, slow down...Make her want it more. 12. Listen to her body: Entire conversations take place during sex without words. Pay attention to her body language. Is she tensing up? Squirming? Arching her back? Drawing you in deeper? Clawing the skin off of your back? If you pay attention to the way her body is responding to yours, you can learn a lot about how to please her. 13. Go down on her: ‘Nuff said. 53 57

14. Clitoris! Let me put it this way. There are twice as many nerve endings in a woman’s clit as there are in a man’s penis and it is MUCH smaller. It is the most sensitive part of her body. Just remember that after a clitoral orgasm, the area can become so sensitive that touch can be painful. You may need to allow a few minutes for the sensitivity to subside before going back. 15. Don’t forget the G-spot! : A woman’s G-spot is located on the front wall of her vagina, about two inches in. You can stimulate her G-spot by rubbing it with your finger (hooked toward her belly button). The G-spot can also be stimulated when she is on top. A G-spot orgasm is very intense. 16. A-spot? Whaaaat? Yes! Another little gem of a spot is located on the inside wall of her vagina. It’s about 4 inches in, on the same wall as her G-spot. Use the same technique, only as far as your fingers will reach. 17. No pressure or guilt: Pointing out how long it’s been since you’ve done the nasty or pressuring her into sex will pretty much guarantee a less than pleasurable experience for her (and by extension, you). Make her WANT to get it on, not feel that she HAS to. 18. Talk dirty: Tell her what you’re going to do to her, describe how she feels, curse like a sailor. Listening to her partner use salty language is often a huge turn-on for a woman. 19. Give up control: As much as you like being in the driver’s seat, sometimes you need to relinquish the reins. Encourage her to get on top and control the pace and intensity. 20. Be clean and well-groomed: Guys, this should go without saying. If you just finished playing hockey or doing 6 hours of yard work, wash your balls. Geez.

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21. Don’t be a show-off: As much as you may want to switch positions and show off your entire repertoire during sex, changing from position to position in rapid succession can inhibit her ability to experience an orgasm and cause major frustration. 22. Breasts: Did you know that the nerve endings in the nipples are connected to the genitals? Tip: Her tits are not jars of pickles that need opening. The famous “grab and twist” technique is not every woman’s cup of tea. Try a gentle touch. Use your mouth. 23. Get kinky: Sometimes its fun to spice things up a bit. Roleplaying, blindfolds, using toys, tying each other up, or playing sexual board games can be a welcome change of pace. 24. COMMUNICATE: I can’t state this enough. Be open to having discussions about what’s working and what’s not. Don’t be offended or take it personally if she tells you something doesn’t feel good. 25. Never. Stop. Experimenting: We human beings are creatures of habit. We have a tendency to stick with what “works”. However, we also have a tendency to get bored as hell over time. Never stop trying new things. Sure, some of your experiments will be sensationally terrible, but some things will be great. 26. Lube: Sometimes, a woman can be completely aroused but not wet. Have lube on hand. Dry penetration can create small tears on the vaginal wall which can make sex painful. 27. Romance: Yeah, yeah...cliché time! The fact is, a lot of women like to be wined and dined, walk into a candlelit room with rose petals on the bed and romanced like a character in a cheesy movie. 28. Massages: Yes. Massages are good. Use scented oils, massage her neck, shoulders, back, legs, and feet. Helping her to relax and let go of any tension or stress before the main event starts will probably pay off for you, big time. 29. Eye contact: Look at her. I’m not talking creepy, sustained, unblinking eye contact the entire time you’re screwing. I just mean to check in once and awhile. There is something incredibly intimate about looking into your partner’s eyes during sex. 30. Be spontaneous: Life is busy. Between work, kids and all of the other responsibilities that you have to juggle on a daily basis, sex sometimes ends up taking a backseat. Don’t let it! Just grab her and make your move when the mood strikes!

Relationship Problems Discussed Too Late BY ANGELA VINCENT If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times: communication is integral to the maintenance of a healthy relationship. Being comfortable and open to discussing hot-button issues is a feature of happy marriages. Sometimes, allowing too much time to pass before addressing issues can have a damaging effect on a relationship...Damage that often is difficult to reverse. The following are some potential problem areas that might have negative consequences for your relationship if not addressed.

taken advantage of. If one person pays much less, he/she may begin to feel like a burden. Be honest about your financial situation. If you can’t afford to go on extravagant dates or vacations, let your partner know.

4. Division of labour: Who is responsible for which household chores? Who does the grocery shopping? Cooks? Bathes the children? If one person feels that they are pulling all of the weight involved in running a household and childrearing while the other person sits on his/her ass, 1. Communication: Sometimes it’s necessary to then that person may begin to harbour feelings of communicate about HOW you communicate! resentment. Clearly defining who does what can Constant bickering about silly, minor things can go a long way in preventing conflict. indicate the existence of a more pervasive problem. When anger, name calling, yelling, or sarcasm 5. Trust/Jealousy: Nothing can cause a relationship regularly find their way into your arguments, to self-destruct as quickly as the green-eyed one or both partners may start to avoid conflict or monster. First of all, if you don’t trust your partner, confrontation by not raising concerns. If problems there’s a pretty decent chance that you shouldn’t aren’t discussed, they tend to bubble under the be with him/her in the first place. Jealousy, more surface, creating resentment and tension. More than many other emotions, often causes us to act often than not, a boiling over occurs when negative irrationally. Rather than succumb to your feelings, feelings are bottled up for too long. Setting ground try to view the problem objectively. Maybe the rules about how to fight fair and how to raise your issue has less to do with your partner and more to concerns in a timely and respectful manner can go do with your own hang-ups and insecurities. Talk a long way. about how you feel and why instead of blowing the situation out of proportion. 2. Sex: If you aren’t ringing each other’s bells in the bedroom, being honest is the only way to The most important thing to remember is to improve things. Tell each other what you like, communicate with your partner. Talk. Bring what you don’t like, where and how you want up any concerns calmly and respectfully. Raise to be touched, your sexual fantasies, etc. Your concerns as they arise. My ex-husband would partner isn’t a mind reader. If you don’t tell him/ lose his temper and bring up everything that he her how to knock your socks off, you may end up felt I had done wrong over a six-month period. It hopelessly frustrated. seemed unfair to me that I was supposed to discuss things that supposedly happened so long ago and 3. Money: Who is expected to pay for what? How that, for the most part, I couldn’t even remember. are household bills divided? Who pays when out Don’t avoid having awkward conversations to on dates? Finance-related stress often adversely avoid an argument. This avoidance could result impacts romantic relationships. If one person on the ultimate destruction of your relationship. pays constantly, they may feel that they are being 60

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in Weird Places BY ANGELA VINCENT

Let’s face it. We all have fantasies that involve doing the nasty somewhere other than in the bedroom. The term “weird” is relative, in this case. For some couples, the kitchen table might seem risqué. For others, a romp in a movie theatre might seem like a total bore. Breaking the rules, engaging in dangerous behaviour, and the thrill of potentially being discovered in the act enhances the sexual experience for some. That being said, it’s important to remember that there are some adverse consequences that can arise from having sex in strange or public places. First of all, there are potential legal issues involved. You can be arrested if you are caught...Imagine explaining that one to your co-workers or children. Also, we live in a digital age. Every Tom, Dick, and Harry carry devices that can take pictures and videos. Many businesses are equipped with indoor and outdoor security cameras. Do the math. If you don’t want a photo or a video of your naked ass all over the Web, practicing a little discretion may be a good idea. Another problem associated with public romps is an elevated risk of infection and disease. For example, sex on the beach can result in multiple types of infections from sand entering the vagina (sand contains a lot of gross stuff...including a LOT of faecal matter). Sex in a pool or the ocean can force water deep into the vagina. Any bacteria or chemical agents in the water would thus be

forced in there as well. Since water is a TERRIBLE lubricant, small tears in the vagina can result from underwater penetration. These tears make infection and disease more likely. Bacteria LOVE water...especially warm water. Screwing in a public hot tub is probably slightly dirtier than going at it in the dumpster behind a fast food restaurant. Sex in public washrooms, movie theatres, and taxis carry a high risk of infection as well due to the sheer volume of people who use those areas. Believe it or not, couples have been killed or injured in accidents resulting from doing the deed in moving cars, on train tracks, or on roofs. Even sex in parked cars has caused deaths from carbon monoxide poisoning. I know this all sounds very “doom and gloom”, but the fact is, when you’re lost in the throes of passion, you may be less aware of your surroundings and thus, more likely to be injured. Be smart. There’s a difference between having sex in a way that is “risqué” and in a way that’s just plain “risky”. Getting it on in weird places can be lots of fun. You just need to remember to be safe. Don’t put yourselves or other people in danger. You also need to consider cleanliness and take steps to prevent the contraction of infection and disease... think about how many people sat on, touched and spilled things on that park bench! Shudder! 63

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Jessy’s Life in the City A COLUMN BY JESSY HORTON

I have recently been doing a lot of reflecting about life and success. It’s funny how when we are on top of the world, we seem to get accustomed to a certain lifestyle and take things for granted occassionally. I at one time, had the job of my dreams in my home town, an amazing boyfriend, a loving family, money to burn and a brand new car. I was laid off from that dream job, found out some startling medical news, and my grandmother had a stroke all in the same week. It was a devastating blow to my emotions and my confidence. I’ll admit I almost let recent events defeat me, but now I’m glad I am an example of why not to give up, that life goes on and days get brighter, you just have to want them to bad enough. There will always be days where you consider giving up when things you strive for are out of reach, but hope is a powerful force.

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COUSCOUS SALAD How easy is that …? Mix all together with your soup blender: 1 small box of diced tomatoes 1 garlic clove 1 handful of basil (or your choice of favorite fresh herbs) half a cup of olive oil 1 lemon juice Salt and pepper

Pour the liquid , on 1 ½ cup of couscous placed in a large salad bowl add diced tomatoes, black olives, and leave it in the fridge for at least one hour , 1 night would be the best. The liquid will be absorbs by the grains, and will “cook” them Stir and serve with your favorite barbecued pork chops, or chicken breast!

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7 GYM BEHAVIOURS YOU MUST STOP

By: TAMMY MALLEY Community Health graduate, former food law consultant, gym addict and health nut. Can cook a carrot 101 ways while wondering the origin of growth of said carrot. I’m a gym addict, and my gym addiction has helped me drop 100lbs and get me in the best shape of my life. Over the past few years that I’ve been a gym member, I can’t help but notice other members doing some things that make me and every other member in the gym cringe. Here’s a short (I lie, it’s long) list: 1) NOT WIPING OFF EQUIPMENT AFTER YOU USE IT This is, quite possibly, the most irritating thing I’ve come across. If you’re on a stationary bike or a weight machine, your butt is touching a surface, and so are your sweaty hands. It takes a few seconds to go grab a paper towel, some cleaner, and clean off the equipment so the next person doesn’t have to touch your sweat. It’s not only a courteous thing to do, but also hygienic. 2) SITTING ON EQUIPMENT AND USING A PHONE/IPOD AND NOT USING THE EQUIPMENT I’ve noticed this problem is more common with the younger crowds. Someone will sit on a weight machine, whip out their phone and start texting and not even use the equipment; they also disregard the people who are waiting for the machine that they are not using. Please, please don’t do this. 3) COMPETING WITH OTHERS I’ll be on a treadmill, keeping my jogging pace (5 miles/ hr) and someone beside me looks over, sees my speed and increases their speed to 5.1 miles/hr. Don’t think what you did goes unnoticed. The gym is about YOUR workout, not competing with others who are at a different place in their fitness. 4) SPRAYING A YEAR’S WORTH OF PERFUME 70 62

OR HAIRSPRAY IN THE CHANGE ROOMS The gym I frequent (Women’s only Goodlife) has very clear signs in the change room that, due to allergies, spraying of perfume or hairspray is forbidden. I have asthma, and when someone sprays that garbage, I have an asthma attack which isn’t always able to be treated with just my inhaler. I have screamed at a member who started spraying it right beside here the sign is. My motto: If your irresponsible actions cause me to have an asthma attack, I will destroy you. 5) ARRIVING LATE TO CLASSES This only applies to those who frequent the classes, which are scheduled at specific times. Don’t arrive late and then expect to squeeze in and cause other members to move to accommodate you. The instructor and everyone else was there on time; if you’re late, don’t come. 6) SELFIES IN THE CHANGE ROOM I’m guilty of doing this a few time, but I do it when the change room is vacant. I see plenty of young girls taking selfies with a full change room. Don’t do that. Someone might accidentally get in your picture. 7) BODY SHAMING I don’t care what your opinions are on people of a certain weight, shape, size, etc., if I see someone saying something negative to another member about their weight, I speak up. Have any questions? E-mail me: canadiancritic86@ gmail.com

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“Don’t Talk to Me”: Experiencing Street Harassment BY RACHEL RICHARD « Nice tits! » « How much do you go for? « Smile! You’re so pretty. » Honking. Whistling. Barking. These are just a handful of jeers women have the unfortunate privilege to be at the receiving end of on a daily basis when they are out in a public space. This all too common phenomenon is known as street harassment. Do any of them sound familiar? They should. According to a study conducted in Canada back in 2000, over 80 percent of women have experienced street harassment by male strangers.

It’s Not Complimentary, it’s Insulting I do not know which part of this following scenario is supposed to be complimentary: an older man commenting on the size of a girl’s breasts as he passes her on the street. Is it the fact that a stranger felt so compelled by the apparent allure of her body to verbalize his opinion? Or is it the fear he instilled in her when he followed her for three blocks, forcing her to duck inside a convenience store in the hopes of fending him off? Or perhaps it is the fact that she was only 13-years old? The answer to that question is that there is no part of this scenario that is complimenting to that young girl.

A recent segment on The Daily Show with Jon What is street harassment? Popularly known Stewart illustrated how women navigate an « as catcalling, it is a term that refers to range of obstacle course of sexual menace » on a daily actions—such as leering, groping, whistling, basis by tackling the issue of sexual harassment sexually explicit comments and vulgar gestures— on college campuses. This is an excellent way perpetrated by strangers in public. In reality, it is to demonstrate how street harassment is a daily just another form of sexual harassment that takes hurdle women have to overcome. place in public without the consent of the victim. While I am sure a small percentage of women Street harassment does not include striking up a enjoy the unsolicited attention they receive on the conversation with a women, but it does include streets, most of them are disheartened by the fact jeering at a women while she hurries away from they cannot walk down the street without fear you. What worries me the most is that most men of harassment—and it is virtually impossible to cannot tell the difference, and as a consequence, distinguish between the two. are indifferent to using both tactics. Street harassment largely goes unpunished since 72

in most cases, it is not a criminal offence. I’d go so far to say that there is a sense of entitlement men feel that stems from the seeming acceptance of such an act. In their opinion, women’s bodies exist sorely for their pleasure; they are theirs to be commented on, leered at, groped, fondled, and enjoyed.

because it can quickly lead to physical or sexual assault if the perpetrator does not approve of the response he receives. If a man believes he is entitled to a woman’s body, his voice may not be the only weapon used against them. If catcalls were truly complimentary in nature, they would not leave women feeling angry, upset, anxious, fearful or disgusted. It is bad enough to experience street harassment as women, imagine the factor of your gender being exacerbated by racism, homophobia or classism, and ask yourself, is it still complimentary?

In many cases, these men do not believe catcalls to be derogatory, but complimentary in their intention. However, when a man states his unsolicited opinion on a woman’s body without their consent, is it not meant to be complimentary nor respectful in nature, but it is an exertion of their supposed power over the woman. The « Nice Guy » Myth The female body in not thirsting for a man’s words—especially a strange man’s opinion— whenever a man finds it appropriate to verbalize them. Women do not dress or exist sorely for the appraisal and analysis of the men that surround them. The only person who is entitled to woman’s body is the woman herself. Since when is a man’s opinion on a woman’s body more important than their own? Here are definitive ways street harassment is not considered to be appreciative:

Yes, there are still some « nice guys » out there, and I am privileged to know some of them. But it’s hard to remember they still exist when a man says he wants to slap my ass while I’m walking to work at 9 in morning. The answer is an unequivocal « no », whether I’m wearing a skirt or a pair of sweatpants.

Street harassment is not an indictment of the entire male sex, but the perpetrators make up a big enough percentage to make most women weary of interacting with them in public spaces. Humiliating: Despite the fact that the crude Men of the world (yes, all of you, even the selfbehaviour is coming from someone else—it is professed « nice » ones), take heed: never the woman’s fault—one cannot help but feel shame, especially if bystanders witness the Women don’t owe you their time. encounter and do not react. Women don’t owe you their smile. Women don’t owe you their body. Controlling: Men feel entitled to control women’s bodies. If women fail to respond adequately to If you experience street harassment, the burden is their advances, they are moments away from being not on you to respond. Silence is an appropriate insulted. It was never meant to be complimentary, answer if you do not feel comfortable confronting it was all about generating the right response. your harasser. However, if you want to respond, Women shouldn’t be required to smile when a by all means SHOUT BACK. man feels the need to bark at them, or whistle in their direction. The best way is to reverse the situation in the following way: make him the target by direction Objectifying: Women are more than the sum of the attention to his action. Other tactics include their parts. Stop objectifying their bodies; they are taking down his license plate if he is in a car or not yours to comment on. Wearing a shot skirt is taking his picture, both of these can be helpful to not an open invitation for open commentary from you if you choose to press charges against them in strangers. the future. Violent: Sexual harassment is scary, especially 65 71

Signs of An Abusive Relationship BY RACHEL RICHARD

Whether your partner is your wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend, abuse transcends all barriers of age, sex, ethnicity, and sexual orientation. Unfortunately, domestic violence is as pervasive as it is frequent. If you are a victim of abuse, know that you are not alone. According to a recent study by Statistic Canada, ÂŤ in 2011, at least 631 women per 100,000 unmarried population were victims of dating violence, 60% higher than the spousal violence rate (395 women per 100,000 ever married population). Âť (Sinha, 2013) The data also shows us that there were 139 male victims per 100,000 population. In terms of self-reported crimes, 6% of Canadian women have experienced domestic violence in the last five years. For these crimes, 83% of the abuse perpetrated against women were men. (Sinha, 2013) As we speak, an average of 3,300 Canadian women sleep in shelters every night to escape abuse. (Burcycka, 2011) These facts and figures represent no small number. What exactly constitutes as domestic abuse? Domestic violence implies any act perpetrated by an intimate partner that results in physical, sexual or psychological harm to an individual. It is important to note that domestic violence is not a sign of a bad relationship, but it is a criminal offence. Despite the fact that the majority of victims are women and the majority of abusers are men, domestic abuse is an issue that reaches across the identity spectrum. Despite its pervasiveness, an abusive relationship does 74

not have to be a death sentence. Having the ability to recognize abuse is the first step to getting help. You do not have to have any physical evidence of abuse on your person to be a victim of domestic violence. The media has conditioned us to believe we must be victim to physical violence for the act to be considered abuse. In reality, there exists five types of abuse that do no vary in severity; a type of abuse is not worse not does it merit greater intervention than another. Oftentimes, victims of abuse are afraid to come forward because they are not able to provide proof of their abuse or even able to identify the type of abuse to which they were subjected. This article will provide you with the necessary information to understand and identify all types of abuse, it will help you identify an abusive relationship, and provide resources to allow you to receive the help you need and deserve. The information included therein is not exhaustive or conclusive, it is only intended to be informational in use. Types of Abuse Physical violence is the use of physical force against a partner, or the intentional or accidental threat of harm. Even if the act of violence is not expressed continuously, it is abuse if the partner modifies their behaviour in response to the assault (or the potential abuse). It has the intended effect of exerting power and control over a partner. Examples of physical violence include: hitting,

shoving, grabbing, chocking, assault with a weapon, slapping, arm twisting, stalking, reckless driving, forced substance use, damaging the partner’s possessions, and the threat of use of a weapon against the partner. Sexual violence is a forced or coerced sexual act without consent. Even if you enjoy a consensual relationship with your partner—such as a domestic partnership, marital relationship or a courtship—it is still considered to be sexual assault. Any previous sexual agreement between partners does not imply consent or permit their control over a partner’s bodily integrity. It has the intended effect of exploiting a partner through humiliation and shame. Examples of sexual violence include: coerced sexual contact (with your partner or others), rape, force prostitution, sexual harassment, exposure to a sexually transmitted disease, limiting reproductive rights (preventing access to contraception, forced abortion) Psychological abuse is instilling fear in your partner through forms of intimidation, threats of harm, and/ or isolation. This type of abuse is often a precursor to physical abuse or used as a threat. Psychological abuse can be expressed through isolating a parter from family, friends, and work. It has the intended effect of exerting control by manipulating a partner through psychological means. Examples of psychological abuse include: intimidation, threats of physical harm to self or partner, harassment, blackmail, constant supervision, stalking, forced imprisonment, withholding access to communication devices and/or transportation, and controlling relationship with others. Emotional abuse is demeaning a partner’s self-esteem and confidence. This type of abuse is more difficult to identify because insults and personal offences are often shared between partners. Emotional abuse has the distinction of being continuous in the attempt to exert control over a partner. It has the intended effect of destroying a partner’s self-confidence, making them more vulnerable to be more accepting of other types of abuse. Examples of emotional abuse include: name-calling, obsessive jealousy, insults, playing mind games,

ridicule, mockery, humiliation in private or in public in front of peers, constant criticism, embarrassment, monitoring methods of communication, stalking, threatening a partner’s family and friends, and demanding an account of a partner’s daily activities. Financial abuse is misusing a partner’s monetary resources without their consent or exerting a control over their finances by making them financially dependant on them. It has the intended effect of feeding a partner’s dependancy on the abuser for their survival and financial security, limiting their choices to end the relationship. Examples of financial abuse include: controlling a partner’s finances or shared resources, forbidding employment/education, stealing property, requiring justification for money spent, harassment at workplace, refusing to work, and forging partner’s identity on financial documents or credit card. Signs of an Abusive Relationship - Does your partner excessively text you? Demands you become serious before you are ready? Impose unrealistic expectations on you and your relationship? - Does your partner’s excessive jealousy prevents you from seeing family and friends? Get angry for speaking to the opposite sex? Resent you for spending time away from them? Always checking up on you? Demands to know what you did, who you saw? - Does you partner tell what to wear and how to act? Harass you at school or at work? Makes you feel bad about yourself? - Does your partner insult or ridicule you in public/private? Make you feel inferior? - Does your partner make you feel like you are not good enough, like it is always your fault? Blame you for the they treated you? - Does your partner make excuses for their abusive behaviour? I was joking! It’s because of the alcohol. - Does your partner threaten you with violence? Overact to small problems or has violent mood wings? Unrelentlessly picks fights for no reason? Maybe it’s time to get help.

Many Shades of Grey:

An Identity Spectrum Guide BY RACHEL RICHARD It is not unusual to spot the celebrated rainbow flag flying above a building or pinned on a wall in solidarity with the LGBTQ cause these days. It is easy to take the leaps and bounds we have taken as a society and as a country in the matter of the LGBTQ cause for granted. Equality may have been reached in law, but not necessarily in practice. Even though marriage equality became law on July 20, 2005 in Canada—the fourth country in the world to do so—and the fact we prohibit hate speech and hate crimes in both our Criminal Code and the Canadian Human Right Act, discrimination and violence are still perpetrated against the LGBTQ individuals in our communities. Millennials have not had to put so much of their lives on the line to achieve the equality their forefathers worked so hard to reach. As a result, many have become despondent with the current state of affairs and they have mistaken acceptance for understanding. True acceptance does not merely imply the lack of discrimination, but requires a greater understanding of the issue. As it has been made clear to us over the years, sexuality is not a black and white issue, but it is shared between various shades of grey. When it comes to their own identity of the identity of their peers, many were confused as to where they stood on the identity spectrum. Having the ability to identify and understanding and individual’s sexuality (or your own) does not restrict that individual’s identity.

Rather, this capacity allows us to better understand their identity and therefore extend them the right of being understood in the same way most of us enjoy as cis men and women. The Identity Spectrum The spectrum of identity is neither extensive nor conclusive, yet it allows us a greater understanding of human sexuality, such as differentiating « sex » from « gender ». Many people are afraid to find out where they fit on the identity spectrum because they fear being labeled out of the spectrum of normalcy. I have bad news for them: there is no normal, there is only singularity. All of us have a place on the identity spectrum, and it goes much further than physical attraction. Let us delve into the spectrum, which I have divided into easy to understand categories corresponding to different parts of our body. Each facet of our identity interacts with one another without determining each other’s outcome. For instance, your gender identity does not determine your sexual orientation, but your biological sex can influence your gender identity. Head: Gender Identity Gender is distinguished by one’s actions and thoughts according to the sociological construction of masculinity and femininity. In turn, gender identity is the recognition of one’s identity alongside gender norms. These are commonly known as male and female. If one’s gender identity matches the sex they were assigned to at birth, they are referred to as a cisgender

(cis female or cis male). If one’s gender identity does not match their assigned sex, they are transgender. In common terms, this means one identifies with being a man or a woman despite the fact they have the sexual organs of the opposite sex. The transgender identity exert no influence on sexual orientation. There exists more gender identities outside the male to female spectrum: Genderqueer: People who do not comply with the social norms of the gender associated with their biological sex. Agender: Without a gender. Gender Fluid: A fluctuating gender identity. Heart: Sexual Identity Sexual orientation define one’s sexuality. It is primarily divided between two distinct types of attraction. Heterosexuality (straight) is manifested through a sexual attraction to the opposite sex, and homosexuality to the same sex (gay for men, lesbian for women). Between these two pillars lies a third sexual identity, bisexuality, which refers to sexual or romantic feelings for both sexes. Unbeknownst to many people, there are other sexual identities that do no correspond to the commonly accepted sexuality spectrum: Pansexual: Sexual attraction for all gender identities and expressions. Asexual: A lack of interest or desire for sex. Does not necessarily negate all feelings of arousal or imply a lack of sexual activity. However, it is important to distinguish sexual identity from sexual behaviour. One’s sexual attraction to a particular gender does not require you to act upon their identity. You can identify as a heterosexual, but engage in homosexual behaviours.

important to make the distinction between sex and gender because they are independent component of one’s identity. An individual’s « sex » refers to their biological and physiological characteristics defined by science while their « gender » refers to their behaviours as determined by society. There exists a third type of biological sex known as intersex. The commonly used term is « hermaphrodite », which is a misconception because being interesex does not necessarily indicate the presence of both sexual organs. Intersex implies a variation of sexual characteristics that transcends the distinctions between male and female that can manifest through genital appearance or hormonal insensitivity for example. This ambiguity is often evident at birth, leading doctors to « choose » the child’s sex without knowledge of their sexual or gender identity. Behaviour: Gender Expression Gender role is the way one externally displays a particular gender in society. This behaviour can be different from one’s gender identity. Despite the way one feels, they can choose to express that gender outwardly as they see fit. In most cases, it is possible to measure gender expression on a scale between masculinity and femininity. If one does not wan to be associated with either expressions, they can choose to be androgynous, which is a composite of both gender expressions. Individuals who wish to refrain from determining their gender roles based on sex may refer to themselves as being gender neutral. Instead of associating with either genders, they prefers just being themselves.

Sexual Organ: Biological Sex An individual’s biological sex is usually the easiest to identify because it refers to their physical anatomy and gendered hormones. The majority of the population fit between two different sexes, male or female. It is 77

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