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AND JUST LIKE THAT, 2024 IS OVER HERE AT POLO LIFESTYLES. THE ICING ON OUR CAKE – THE ANNUAL HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE – HAS BEEN PERFECTED AND THE CAKE IS READY TO BE PUT ON A CRYSTAL PLATTER TO BE SERVED.
The last three weeks for me have involved countless flights, jet lag, much-need days at the beach, an unexpected medical emergency (it’s fine, now), three birthday parties, Thanksgiving, coming back to the office just in time to approve and edit the December issue and not nearly enough sleep in the last few days. The Polo Lifestyles team came together to make this year’s Gift Guide truly one for the history books. From the bottom of my heart, all I can say is, Thank you.
As we’re simultaneously launching this holiday issue and preparing for the holidays in all manner of ways, it’s occurred to me how incredibly fortunate I am and how many things for which I am deeply grateful. So if you see me out and about this holiday season, I am going to try to go out of my way to wish you a Happy Holidays, a Merry Christmas, a joyful Hanukkah, you name it! Expressions of gratitude don’t come naturally to me, so practicing that is my mantra for the next 30 days.
For starters, I am grateful for you, at home or at work or in the car, reading this. It means that somehow we’ve connected in a way that transcends the digital pages of a magazine. You’ve allowed me into your life and for that, I want to say Thank you.
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Is Easier THAN YOU THINK BUYING A PRIVATE ISLAND
From the Caribbean to New York’s Hudson Valley, having your own secluded getaway doesn’t have to be a fantasy
FEW THINGS ARE AS GLAMOROUS AS OWNING AN ISLAND— JUST ASK RICHARD BRANSON, FAITH HILL, OR JOHNNY DEPP, ALL OF WHOM PADDED THEIR REAL ESTATE PORTFOLIOS WITH SUCH SECLUDED PROPERTIES. THE NUMBER ONE LURE? “PRIVACY,” SAYS CHRIS KROLOW, CEO OF GLOBAL BROKERAGE PRIVATE ISLANDS INC., THE INDUSTRY’S LEADING SPECIALIST. “THESE BUYERS ARE LOOKING FOR THEIR OWN LITTLE KINGDOM WHERE THERE’S NO TRAFFIC AND THEY CAN’T SEE THEIR NEIGHBORS.”
But you don’t need celebrity-level wealth to enjoy a slice of paradise. While the priciest of the world’s roughly 200 available islands can top nine figures, some can be found for under $100,000—if you know where to look. Krolow’s website, along with Vladi Private Islands, offers a good start, as do worldwide brokerages like Sotheby’s and Christie’s, which have dedicated island portfolios.
The next step is to zero in on a location. Krolow cautions against buying in much of Asia (excluding Thailand) and the South Pacific due to pervasive leasehold laws that prevent land from being purchased outright. Freehold islands, meanwhile, generally appreciate in value and can be found throughout the U.S., Canada, and corners of the Caribbean,
including English-speaking countries like Belize and the Bahamas. In addition, lake islands usually go for less than those in the ocean; plus, they aren’t susceptible to salt water’s corrosive effects.
Ostensibly prized for their endless potential, undeveloped parcels should be avoided because they require a slew
of costly permits, environmental assessments, and extensive infrastructure planning. Makeup mogul François Nars, for instance, told Vogue that he and design firm Studio Liaigre faced “every challenge that you can imagine and more” to create a Tahitian fantasy on an untouched atoll in Bora-Bora.
“The best places,” says Krolow, “have an existing home with a good footprint, so you don’t need to worry about reinventing the wheel.” One such listing is the heart-shaped Petra Island in the Hudson Valley, which boasts two Frank Lloyd Wright–designed residences, the larger of which was completed posthumously by its owner, Joseph Massaro. The ten-acre isle
even features a helipad, making it possible to reach Manhattan in 20 minutes.
“It still surprises me how beautiful this place is,” says Massaro of the wooded compound. “I notice new things every day.” Island time, it turns out, might not be that far off after all.
Why Your Heart Beats in Sync with Music
MUSIC IS A POWERFUL FORCE THAT HAS THE ABILITY TO EVOKE EMOTIONS, STIR MEMORIES, AND CREATE CONNECTIONS.
Beyond its artistic and cultural significance, music has a profound impact on our physiological responses, particularly our heartbeats.
This article delves into the fascinating world of how music rhythms and heart rhythms intertwine, influencing our emotions and overall well-being.
We will journey through the intricate relationship between music and heart rate, examining how different music genres can affect our mood and physiology.
THE RHYTHMS OF LIFE: HEARTBEATS AND EMOTIONS
At the core of our exploration is the intricate interplay between the rhythm in music and the rhythm of your heart. The human heart, governed by the autonomic nervous system, responds not only to physical exertion but also to emotional cues. Music, with its rhythmic patterns and emotive melodies, has the power to modulate heart rate and evoke a range of emotions. Scientific studies have shown that listening to certain types of music can lead to changes in heart rate variability — a measure of the variation in time between successive heartbeats. This variability is linked to emotional states, showcasing the undeniable link between music and the heart.
THE ANATOMY OF RHYTHMS: MUSIC and HEART SYNCHRONIZATION
To understand how heartbeats and music can sync, it’s essential to understand the anatomy of music rhythms. Music is composed of various elements, including tempo (or speed) and beats per minute (BPM).
These elements align with the human desire to synchronize body movements with musical beats — or as we commonly know it, dancing! This natural synchronization extends to the heart, resulting in an entrainment effect where heart rate aligns with the rhythm of the music. This intriguing phenomenon underscores the deep-rooted connection between the auditory and cardiovascular systems.
GENRES, MOOD, AND HEART RATE
The intricate relationship between music and human emotions has long fascinated researchers. While individual songs can move us powerfully, the effect of music also extends to genre. At a meta level, musical genres can affect us differently due to the different spectrum of feelings they evoke within us. Let’s look at just a few:
CLASSICAL AND RELAXATION: THE SYMPHONY OF SERENITY
Classical music, characterized by its timeless compositions and elegant melodies, has a distinct ability to invoke a sense of serenity and inner calm. The slower tempos and harmonious arrangements often found in classical pieces create a sonic environment conducive to relax-
ation. As listeners immerse themselves in the soothing sounds of acoustic wood and brass instruments, heart rates tend to decrease. The gentle cadence of the music aligns with the body’s natural rhythms, leading to a state of tranquility. In a world that often thrives on rapidity, the unhurried melodies of classical music offer a reprieve — a melodic journey to a place of serenity.
Even when classical music is stirring, crashing, and upbeat, the emotions evoked are not those of adrenaline and anger, but of excitement and adventure — think The Ride of the Rohirrim from The Lord of the Rings versus Ultrasonic Sound from the Matrix.
Both are designed to create energy, but we inherently experience them quite differently.
UPBEAT AND POP: THE MELODIC UPLIFT
The vibrant world of upbeat and pop genres is characterized by vivacious tempos and infectious melodies. Songs like Chandelier by Sia have the uncanny ability to infuse listeners with a surge of energy and positive emotions. Fastpaced beats and catchy rhythms trigger a cascade of neural responses that translate into feelings of happiness and excitement. It’s no wonder that pop music often finds its place as the soundtrack to celebrations and joyous occasions. As the heart synchronizes with the energetic cadence of the music, heart rates may experience a temporary elevation — a rhythmic embodiment of the exuberance these genres evoke.
ROCK: THE SONIC JOURNEY OF REBELLION AND RESONANCE
Rock stands as a testament to rebellion, self-expression, and raw emotion. The genre’s electrifying guitar riffs, powerful vocals, and dynamic rhythms create a sonic landscape that mirrors the complexities of human feelings. Rock music has the uncanny ability to evoke a range of emotions, from introspective contemplation to spirited rebellion.
Rock’s diversity is its strength, with subgenres ranging from classic rock and alternative to punk and indie. Each subgenre brings its unique sonic elements to the table, resulting in a vast spectrum of emotional experiences. The sheer passion embedded in rock’s DNA has the potential to quicken heart rates, igniting a surge of energy and enthusiasm. Whether it’s the poetic lyrics of classic rock ballads or the unapologetic energy of punk anthems, rock music’s impact on heart rate is undeniable.
HEAVY METAL AND INTENSITY: AMPLIFYING EMOTIONS
The world of heavy metal is synonymous with intensity — a genre that resonates with those seeking emotional release and a visceral experience.
Characterized by aggressive rhythms, thunderous instrumentals, and powerful vocals, songs like Immigrant Song by Led Zeppelen are a conduit for catharsis. The loud and intense sounds trigger an adrenaline response, evoking a wide range of emotions from exhilaration to empowerment. This emotional intensity can manifest in an increase in heart rate — an automatic physiological response to the emotional and auditory onslaught.
For many, heavy metal serves as an emotional outlet, allowing listeners to navigate the complexities of their feelings through the music’s dynamic intensity.
AMBIENT AND ELECTRONIC: SONIC TRANQUILITY
Ambient and electronic genres offer a distinct sonic landscape that differs significantly from their counterparts. Music from artists like Brian Eno fosters a trance-like environment that encourages a state of relaxation and mental introspection. The gentle electronic pulses and evolving soundscapes provide a backdrop for contemplation and unwinding. As listeners become enveloped in these sonic textures, heart rates can gradually lower, mirroring the gradual unfolding of the music. It’s a sonic journey that parallels the easing of tension within the body, offering a pathway to inner calm.
THE THERAPEUTIC POTENTIAL OF MUSIC ON HEART HEALTH
Beyond its emotional and physiological effects, music has shown remarkable potential in promoting heart health. The burgeoning field of music therapy is
exploring how specific genres can aid in stress reduction, blood pressure regulation, and overall cardiovascular well-being. Scientific studies have illuminated the role of music in alleviating anxiety and depression, indirectly benefiting heart health. By integrating music into holistic approaches to health, we unlock a sonic pathway to well-being.
In conclusion, the harmonious synchronization of heartbeats and music is a testament to the interconnectedness of the human experience. As we navigate through the rhythms of life, music stands as a universal language that speaks to our hearts and souls. Whether it’s the serene notes of classical compositions, the lively beats of pop anthems, or the powerful chords of heavy metal, music orchestrates a symphony within us that transcends time and space. It’s a reminder that our heartbeats are not only our life’s rhythm but also a dance with the melodies that move us.
The 35th Annual Hadrian Gala Graces the New York Public Library
THE WORLD MONUMENTS FUND (WMF)—THE PREEMINENT ORGANIZATION DEDICATED TO PRESERVING GLOBAL CULTURAL LANDMARKS—CELEBRATED ITS 35TH ANNUAL HADRIAN GALA AT THE HISTORIC STEPHEN A. SCHWARZMAN BUILDING OF THE NEW YORK PUBLIC LIBRARY.
The evening highlighted the remarkable contributions of architect
Peter Marino, FAIA, and Dr. Marilyn Perry, Chair Emerita of WMF and President Emerita of the Samuel H. Kress Foundation, for their dedication to preserving Venice’s architectural heritage.
Since its inception in 1965, WMF has raised over $300 million, championing conservation efforts for more than 700 sites across 112 countries. This year’s gala, a Venetian-inspired celebration, garnered a record-breaking $2.1 million to support WMF’s initiatives. The night featured spellbinding performances by Grammy-winning opera singer Anthony Roth Costanzo,
accompanied by musicians from the Opera Philadelphia Orchestra, and a custom menu by renowned chef Daniel Boulud. Christie’s conducted an exclusive live auction to support WMF’s global mission.
HONORING GLOBAL LEADERS IN HERITAGE CONSERVATION
WMF President and CEO Bénédicte de Montlaur opened the evening, emphasizing the organization’s impact on a global scale: “World Monuments Fund is as much a movement as it is an organization, uniting communities and leaders committed to preserving
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cultural heritage and fostering respect for diversity.”
This year’s honorees have left an indelible mark on the cultural landscape of Venice. Peter Marino, FAIA, recognized for his extensive preservation work as Chairman of Venetian Heritage, reflected on the honor: “It’s a privilege to support WMF’s mission to protect the world’s architectural and cultural heritage, especially in Venice—a city close to my heart.”
Dr. Marilyn Perry, the longest-serving WMF Board member, accepted the 2024 Hadrian Award. With a tenure of 40 years, Dr. Perry’s visionary leadership has been instrumental to WMF’s growth.
Reflecting on her journey, she noted, “The Hadrian Award has drawn attention to our universal mission, and now, as an awardee, I celebrate World Monuments Fund as a core adventure of my life.”
A NIGHT OF LEGACY AND PATRONS
Among the evening’s distinguished guests were Prince Amyn Aga Khan, Brook Berlind, Suzanne Deal Booth, Christian Louboutin, Daisy Soros, and Lauren Santo Domingo, all of whom lent their support to WMF’s conservation mission. The event was made possible by the generosity of Gregory Annenberg Weingarten, GRoW @ Annenberg, and
the Stavros Niarchos Foundation, with additional support from Tiffany & Co.
ABOUT THE HADRIAN GALA AND WORLD MONUMENTS FUND
The Hadrian Gala honors individuals for their dedication to conserving cultural heritage. Past recipients include luminaries like His Majesty King Charles III, David Rockefeller Sr., and Her Majesty Queen Sofía. For over 55 years, WMF has led global conservation efforts, empowering communities through its World Monuments Watch program and fostering a lasting commitment to the preservation of our shared heritage.
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The Challenge to Save the Caribbean's Native Species
PHILANTHROPISTS
PATIENTLY WAIT 12 MONTHS FOR THE PHENOMENON KNOWN AS YEAREND GIVING. THE HOLIDAY SEASON REMAINS A PARTICULARLY APPEALING TIME FOR ASKING AND, IN TURN, RECEIVING SUBSTANTIAL GIFTS TO PUT TOWARD INITIATIVES AND OPERATIONS FOR THE COMING YEAR.
Year-end giving, however; is neither democratic nor equitable for all charities, foundations and organizations. Giving patterns are not predictable and when dollars are down, the ripple effects can reach around the world and into the homes and shelters of the world’s most-desperate geographies. This year, particularly in Haiti, organizations are suffering under the duel crush of gangbased violence and international pressure to cut off the flow of aid into the country until a semblance of order can be restored. Meanwhile, Haiti’s population will suffer; of that, there is no doubt.
From the traditionally well-funded, large-scale programs to smaller collectives focused on low-access, high-risk service delivery, we’re not talking about who’s getting an iPhone for Christmas; rather, who will go back to school in January, what will be planted, harvested and sold in the marketplace; will the tree in the front yard be chopped down to make charcoal?
The answer to that last question is near and dear to the heart of Haiti National Trust’s executive director, Anne-Isabelle Bonifassi. “Every day, millions of Haitians depend on forests, clearing land for agriculture, grazing, urbanization, and charcoal, but this reliance is driving the rapid loss of forests and biodiversity,” she said when we spoke over the phone. Deforestation is a massive problem in a country fraught with difficult access to stable (not to even mention renewable) energy sources. Hand-in-hand with deforestation, Haiti, a rich biodiversity hotspot in the Caribbean, is home to thousands of native and endemic species, including more than 500 plants and animals (280 plants and 233 animals) now threatened with extinction—numbers that are increasing at an alarming rate.
Haiti National Trust, under Bonifassi’s guidance, is dedicated to saving and protecting Haiti’s biodiversity for future generations by restoring and safeguarding high biodiversity hotspots across the country. Working closely with local communities, the organization reforested over 60 hectares and actively protects 370 hectares within Grand Bois National Park, located precariously on the Massif de la Hotte, at the western tip of the Tiburon peninsula. Read: hard to access.
Haiti’s natural and difficult geography, which proved helpful to rebellious slaves who hid in the vast ranges to plan and
launch attacks against Napoleon’s forces during the Haitian Revolution, is literally the last horizon on the path to save access to basic needs. As any natural environment is depleted, water sources dry up, animals seek shelter elsewhere, crops fail and people give up on the land. Bonifassi says “We are determined to change that, and with the right support, we can.”.
Bonifassi spoke to Polo Lifestyles from her office in Port-au-Prince, where she is now stranded since the FAA grounded air traffic into and out of the capital’s only international airport. From Port-auPrince, she manages and maintains close
communication with her team and field staff, who work on various project sites to ensure the successful implementation of activities. Despite the challenging conditions, their commitment has driven remarkable progress, showcasing the resilience and impact of Haiti National Trust’s efforts.
“Growing up in multiple different countries, I have always loved nature, creatures and the environment… The species we fight to protect don’t recognize borders or care about politics—they can’t afford to wait for stability. The race to prevent them from going extinct is urgent, and our
work focuses on creating the conditions they need to thrive and ensuring their survival,” said Bonifassi. She makes it sound simple, but it requires park rangers, native plant nurseries, staff, logistics, security forces, administrators and a whole lot of technology to keep everyone connected. Simply put, it’s expensive to restore the ecosystem. But the alternative is a complete loss of native species within our lifetime. One of Haiti National Trust’s most significant and appreciated donors is Re:wild, founded by Leonardo DiCaprio. In the early days, their generosity provided a transformative investment that helped lay the foundation for Haiti National Trust’s work, and their continued support remains invaluable, said Bonifassi. She expressed deep gratitude for donors like Re:wild, whose vision aligns with Haiti National Trust’s goals, and highlighted the importance of remaining faithful to the organization’s mission. “I’ve learned to say ‘No’ to donors,” she added, referring to times when a donor’s objectives didn’t support the organization’s core values. She highlights examples of other biodiversity hotspots
where international organizations made significant investments in programs and activities. However, unresolved land tenure issues before the projects began and a limited understanding of the country, its people, and the underlying challenges led to significant obstacles, ultimately preventing these initiatives from achieving meaningful restoration.
So what actually works? Haiti National Trusts believes in understanding local communities, resolving land tenure challenges before projects begin, and partnering with the government through management delegation contracts. This collaborative approach, as demonstrated in Grand Bois, has been successful. By uniting efforts to restore forests, protect biodiversity, and support local communities, the organization is paving the way for a more sustainable future in Haiti. Bonifassi shares, “I am so proud to say that the work we’ve been doing has led to a profound transformation. The same people who once cut down trees and damaged the forests are now their most passionate protectors. It’s proof that, with
the right approach and the necessary funding, we can empower communities to take ownership of their natural heritage and create a lasting impact.”
In the end, Bonifassi defines success as the resilience and collaboration of communities working together to restore Haiti’s natural heritage.
By restoring forests and protecting biodiversity, Haiti National Trust is not only safeguarding endangered plants and animals or protecting primary forests but also building a foundation for a brighter, greener future for generations to come. “Every tree planted, every species saved, and every community empowered brings us closer to a thriving Haiti,” Bonifassi says. She emphasizes that with the right support, this vision is within reach and underscores the importance of preserving Haiti’s forests and wildlife as enduring treasures that inspire hope and pride for generations to come.
WHY WE LIE TO THOSE WE LOVE
After betrayal is discovered, continued secrets and lies are agony.
FOR MANY CHEATERS, THE IMMEDIATE AND SEEMINGLY BEST RESPONSE TO THE DISCOVERY OF THEIR BETRAYAL IS TO DIG IN WITH MORE SECRETS AND LIES, BUT THIS TIME TO DO IT MORE EFFECTIVELY. SO THEY CONTINUE TO KEEP SECRETS, THEY CONTINUE TO TELL LIES, AND SOMETIMES THEY EVEN CONTINUE THEIR INFIDELITY. FOR A TIME, MANY OF THEM EVEN GET AWAY WITH IT. IN SUCH CASES, THEY TEND TO THINK, “GREAT, PROBLEM SOLVED.”
Unfortunately, that is not how it works out over time. Relationship issues (all sorts, not just betrayal) are most definitely not solved by “getting away
with it.” Instead, relationship issues are simply swept under the rug and ignored until they can no longer be overlooked—usually because the cheater eventually gets caught (again) in this pattern of secrets, lies, and continued infidelity.
When this happens, of course, the condition of an already fragile relationship will deteriorate even further. And at that point, the only way forward is for the cheating partner to stop keeping secrets and telling lies. The good news is that trust can be rebuilt, and relationships can heal and maybe even become better than ever.
For that to happen, however, the secrets and lies must stop. For cheaters, that process starts when they stop lying to themselves.
DENIAL
When cheaters engage in denial, they lie to themselves about what they are
doing and the impact their behavior is currently having and might have in the future. They do this as a way to rationalize and justify their obviously hurtful behavior in their own mind. And then, over time, they come to believe their own lies. With that, the internal lies and deceits are externalized with lines like:
• If I had more/different/better sex at home, I wouldn’t need to cheat.
• All I’m doing is looking at a little bit of porn. Everyone does it, and nobody thinks it’s cheating.
• Sure, I go to strip clubs, but I never have sex with the workers.
• My entire world is take, take, take. Nobody appreciates me. So I deserve to have a little fun.
• What my partner doesn’t know can’t hurt him/her.
As stated above, cheaters come to believe their own lies, no matter how
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outrageous. And with that, their behavior seems utterly reasonable to them in the moment of obsession. Sure, a betrayed partner and even an impartial observer can easily see through this smokescreen. But cheaters who want to continue cheating will still stick to their guns anyway. Often, it is only in a crisis (getting caught red-handed, for example) that cheaters will finally examine their denial and the reality of their behavior—and sometimes even that is not enough.
GASLIGHTING
Gaslighting is denial taken to such an extreme that it qualifies as a form of psychological abuse. When cheaters gaslight their partners, they present false information and insist that the information is true. Often, betrayed partners are blamed for misunderstanding a situation, causing a situation, or just being crazy. However it occurs, gaslighting flips the script on relationship strife by insisting that the
betrayed partner is at fault. The betrayed partner’s thinking and behavior are to blame, not the cheating.
• She’s just a coworker. When she calls here, it’s because we have a project to finish.
• Why are you always so jealous?
• Why do you keep asking me if something is going on? You’re completely paranoid. It’s really annoying.
• I would never do that. I don’t even look at other women.
• You’re just being crazy, and it really upsets me that you don’t trust me.
Over time, gaslighting causes betrayed partners to question their own reality. They start to wonder if maybe their perception of the situation really is askew, despite the ever-growing pile of evidence to the contrary.
Sadly, even the most intelligent and emotionally well-adjusted partners can be taken in by gaslighting. In part, this is because our tendency as human beings is to believe what the people we love tell us. At times, as a way of protecting our connection with a loved one, we will defend, excuse, and flat-out overlook their obviously problematic words and behaviors—especially when their lies and excuses seem sincere.
In larger part, a betrayed partner’s vulnerability to gaslighting is linked to the fact that gaslighting starts slowly and builds gradually over time. It’s like placing a frog in a pot of warm water that is then set to boil. Because the temperature increases only gradually, the innocent frog never even realizes it’s being cooked. In short, lies start small and are believable, growing slowly over time into whoppers that the betrayed partner has been conditioned to believe.
HOPE CAN BE MORE POWERFUL THAN MINDFULNESS
IN DIFFICULT TIMES, A FORWARD-LOOKING MINDSET MAY BE ESPECIALLY HELPFUL. IN TROUBLING TIMES, HOW DO WE MOVE FORWARD? WHAT MINDSETS HELP US BOUNCE BACK FROM ADVERSITY?
When the world ground to a halt because of the COVID-19 pandemic in 2020, few industries felt the impact quite like the performing arts. Venues shuttered and crowds dispersed. Musicians, actors and production crews faced an unprecedented challenge: they needed to stay resilient despite the fact that their livelihood had vanished overnight.
Along with my colleagues at Clemson University and North Carolina State University, I wanted to explore what helps people persevere through such moments, so we partnered with MusiCares, a nonprofit that supports music industry professionals, to study how artists maintained their resilience during the pandemic’s darkest days. We were particularly interested in two mental approaches: mindfulness (being present and aware in the moment) and hopefulness (believing in and working toward a better future). In
psychology, these concepts can be used to describe a general state of being, one that reflects both personality (some people are naturally more mindful or hopeful) and actions, such as regularly practicing meditation to improve one’s focus on the present. Many researchers also view mindfulness as a metacognitive process, that is, something that enables people to consciously monitor and modulate their attention, emotions and behaviors to attend to the current moment in an open and curious, nonjudgmental way. Hope, meanwhile, functions as a future-oriented state that helps people to reflect on one’s perceived ability to generate pathways around challenges.
Mindfulness—a buzzword in wellness circles—might seem to be the obvious key to weathering a storm such as the pandemic. After all, staying grounded in the present moment seems like a good way to avoid spiraling into anxiety about an uncertain future. But our research tells a different, somewhat surprising story. Although mindfulness is a powerful tool for well-being, it does have limitations—and learning to cultivate a hopeful mindset is another critical strategy.
Our study followed 247 performers for 18 months, much of which was spent in lockdown. We asked them about their
mindset and well-being at different stages of the pandemic. As part of this effort, we gathered data through questionnaires that we sent out in 2021. People told us about their early experiences of the pandemic and their level of work-related tension and resilience. We also asked them about how much they agreed with various statements related to mindfulness or hopefulness in relation to the pandemic specifically. A higher state-of-mindfulness score suggested someone working to maintain awareness of their experiences in a nonjudgmental way, and a higher hopefulness state indicated someone who was actively envisioning potential solutions to pandemic-related obstacles. This allowed us to assess people’s mental strategies and better understand how each approach had helped people navigate the unprecedented challenges of COVID-19.
We found, unsurprisingly, that these artists were indeed adversely affected by COVID-19’s challenges. More intriguingly, we did not find evidence that mindfulness was particularly helpful to them as a pandemic coping strategy. Although it wasn’t harmful, it also didn’t significantly help artists bounce back or stay engaged with their work during this prolonged period of stress.
Instead hope was the real superstar. Those
Clinging to hope could be more effective than practicing mindfulness this holiday season
who maintained a hopeful outlook reported higher levels of work-related resilience and engagement, even as their industry remained in limbo. They were also more likely to experience positive emotions, which in turn boosted their ability to cope with the ongoing crisis. Hopefulness also contributed to their ability to stay productive by exploring new ways to deliver their craft, such as virtual performances and online collaborations.
A few things may help to explain this finding. First, mindfulness requires effort. And in periods of substantial or prolonged stress, people may lack the mental energy to effectively engage in self-calming techniques. In line with that, one study found that people struggle with mindfulness techniques when they lack quality sleep.
are, without any belief that they can get better, it’s hard to find the motivation to keep going.
This doesn’t mean mindfulness is pointless—it just might not be the best tool for every situation. When researchers pooled together data from 23 other studies of mindfulness in the workplace, they discovered that even though this mindset helped people with anxiety and distress in general, it did not have clear benefits for problems such as job-related burnout.
better future. All of these practices can give you something to focus on beyond your current circumstances.
Our study found that hope worked in part by increasing positive emotions, which in turn boosted resilience. That means that harnessing the power of positive emotions—by making time to engage in activities you enjoy, connect with loved ones or practice gratitude— can be essential to our tool kit for trying times.
Another factor to consider is what researchers call the “mindfulness paradox.” Although being present and aware can be incredibly helpful in many situations, it may actually backfire during extended periods of adversity. When your present reality is bleak and shows no signs of immediate improvement, too much focus on the “now” might leave you feeling stuck or overwhelmed. If you’re constantly aware of how bad things
Meanwhile, when you’re facing a prolonged, difficult situation—whether it’s unemployment, a health crisis or any other major life challenge—actively working to maintain hope can be a powerful coping strategy. Much as people are encouraged to practice mindfulness, they can also benefit from cultivating hope. This doesn’t mean indulging in blind optimism but rather having belief that things can improve, coupled with the motivation to work toward that improvement.
To put this into practice, try journaling about what you’d most like to do in the future. To combine thinking with action, connect with others to share those hopes and create a strategy, setting small, achievable goals to move you toward a
The key takeaway here isn’t that mindfulness is useless or that hope is a magic bullet. Different strategies work for different challenges. And particularly in dark times, when the present feels unbearable and the future uncertain, cultivating hope can give us the push we need to keep going. It provides a light at the end of the tunnel, even when we can’t see the full path forward.
As we navigate uncertainty and face new challenges, we can take a cue from the resilient artists in our study. By nurturing hope, setting our sights on a better future and taking small steps to get there, we can find the strength to persevere through even the toughest of times. And who knows? We might just emerge on the other side stronger and more resilient than ever before.
LUXE SKI RESORTS WE LOVE
YOU COULD EASILY ARGUE THAT SKIING, IN AND OF ITSELF, IS A LUXURY SPORT. THE GEAR IS EXPENSIVE, AS ARE ALL THE ASSOCIATED ACCOUTERMENTS LIKE SEASON PASSES AND LESSONS.
Some destinations take this foundational element and run with it, housing enormously fancy hotels with fine-dining opportunities to match. These are five of the most luxurious ski resorts in North America.
1. YELLOWSTONE CLUB, MONTANA
High-class lodging: The Yellowstone Club Who’s it for: Almost no one. The
Yellowstone Club is so exclusive that only the ultra-wealthy can gain access to it.
Talking about luxury and skiing—at least in the North American context—without mentioning the Yellowstone Club, a fully private ski resort in Montana, is impossible.
Known for being the stomping grounds of the elite, notable current and former
members of the Club include Justin Timberlake, Bill Gates, Tom Brady and Jessica Biel. The Yellowstone Club doesn’t share membership requirements, but in 2022, The San Francisco Standard reported that entrance fees cost $400,000, followed by $60,000 annual fees—and you need to purchase a property within the Club to become a member.
The high barrier to entry nets unfettered ski resort access with unparalleled service (according to an anonymous Club member who spoke with The Standard, concierge members will actively prevent you from carrying your own skis). These private slopes feature more than 100 runs across 2,900 acres—they say money can’t buy you happiness, but it can certainly help you avoid lift lines.
2. DEER VALLEY, UTAH
High-class lodging: Stein Eriksen Lodge, The St. Regis Deer Valley
Who’s it for: Groomer and glade hounds who appreciate the finer things in life.
Amongst the dense collection of Salt Lake City, Utah, area ski resorts, Deer Valley is often considered the most luxurious—with pristine groomed slopes and
numerous nearby five-star hotels, it’s easy to see why.
One of these establishments, the St. Regis, has its own funicular cable car that connects the Snow Park Residences with the upper resort building. The hotel’s reservable Wine Vault dining location houses a 10,000-plus bottle wine collection. Topnotch amenities don’t mean much if the skiing isn’t great, but Deer Valley has that
base covered, too.
Its already large terrain footprint—2,342 acres—will expand in the coming years to encompass a new base area, the East Village, eventually reaching 5,726 acres. For early risers, the resort offers exclusive mountain access between 8 am and 9 pm at the starting cost of $10,000 for up to 20 skiers. If riding the lifts with just you and your crew isn’t luxurious, we aren’t sure
what is.
3. ASPEN SNOWMASS, COLORADO
High-class lodging: The Little Nell
Who’s it for: Aspen can be over the top and a bit flashy, but that’s part of the fun—particularly if you have a penchant for people-watching.
Studded with multi-million dollar slopeside homes, numerous luxury stores (Moncler or Prada, anyone?), and a renowned music venue that draws popular headlining artists, Aspen, Colorado, is the pinnacle of skiing glitz and glamor.
Aspen Snowmass, the town’s ski area, covers four mountains—Buttermilk, Aspen Mountain, Highlands, and Snowmass— which, together, encompass over 5,700 acres of skiing, all accessible with a single lift ticket. At Highlands, the Cloud 9 Bistro is famed for its swanky champagne-spraying parties.
For ski-in ski-out access, there’s the Little Nell, a hotel established in 1989 that sees a rotating cast of upper-crust skiing clientele dressed in designer clothes. One
of the hotel’s restaurants, the Ajax Tavern, has a menu item that perfectly encapsulates Aspen’s blend of high luxury and ski culture: a Wagyu double cheeseburger.
4. VAIL MOUNTAIN, COLORADO
High-class lodging: Four Seasons Resort and Residences Vail, The Arrabelle at Vail Square
Who’s it for: They say everything’s bigger in Texas—that rule also applies to Vail Mountain. You can’t go wrong here if you’re serious about skiing and top-notch accommodations.
It might be fair to say that the titular Vail Mountain is the blueprint for Vail Resorts’ wide-reaching resort empire. Jam-packed with enormous luxury hotels and sprawling lift-accessed terrain to match, this destination pushes the snowsports resort ethos to its limit. Upon visiting, you may even find yourself overwhelmed.
The Arrabelle at Vail Square is smack in the middle of all the action—and only a few steps away from the Eagle Bahn Gondola, which transports skiers to the
Eagle’s Nest restaurant. From there, the mountain’s your oyster.
While Vail Mountain offers plenty of terrain for beginner and intermediate skiers hoping just to cruise, the Back Bowls are a paradise for those seeking
more challenging fare. This 2,785-acre zone (that footprint is larger than many ski areas) has seven bowls and 47 trails, all ripe for exploration. Once the day is done, lounge by the pool at one of Vail’s many accommodations before hitting the town: given the breadth of options on tap,
you’re sure to find something you’ll like to eat and drink.
5. WHISTLER BLACKCOMB, BRITISH COLUMBIA
High-class lodging: Four Seasons Resort and Residences Whistler, Fairmont Chateau Whistler
Who’s it for: Whistler Blackcomb features some of the best and gnarliest big mountain skiing on the planet, so serious skiers will thrive here—especially if they like to pair on-slope action with real luxury.
Whistler Blackcomb mirrors Vail Mountain’s on-and off-the-slope maximalist tendencies, so it should come as no surprise that, several years ago, Vail Resorts acquired the Canadian destination which, by almost every metric, could qualify for a “best of” list (Whistler Blackcomb also made our best
of aprés-skiing list). So, unsurprisingly, high-class accommodations and dining opportunities also make the resort a standout in the luxury ski resort market
The Four Seasons Resort and Residences and the Fairmont Chateau Whistler boast numerous amenities and a range of suites for ski travelers pursuing ultimate comfort. The base village-slash-town matches this high bar with standouts like the Araxi Restaurant and Oyster Bar, which serves up local ingredients alongside a towering list of wine with over 11,000 bottles.
The thing about Whistler Blackcomb, though, is that, despite its proximity to serious money, the resort remains a skier’s mountain with a thriving big mountain and park scene composed of hardcore ski bums. On any given day, you might catch the next big name in freeskiing as they float a backflip—or two—below the Peak Express.
GIFT GUIDE HOLIDAY Eighth Annual
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Baccarat Rouge 450 Extrait de Parfum
Baccarat Rouge 540 extrait de parfum intensifies the radiance of the three auras found in the eau de parfum without betraying the original inspiration. The perfumer’s mastered craft and the wisdom gained with time gave birth to this woody extrait de perfume, an ultimate accomplishment for Francis Kurkdjian.
$945
Cartier Le Voyage Recommencé
A High Jewelry collection from the Maison’s Parisian ateliers, Le Voyage Recommencé presents an ensemble of unique creations that represent a journey into the heart of Cartier style.
$310,000
The limited-edition STUART POWER SHINE pump, created in collaboration with Swarovski, delivers a high-shine, highglam take on our new icon, the STUART POWER 75 pump. Meticulously crafted by our expert artisans in Spain, each pair is adorned with over 6,000 tonal Swarovski pavé crystals.
$995
Louis Vuitton Petite Malle Malletage
This Petite Malle handbag is part of the House’s Exceptionnal collection, which celebrates Nicolas Ghesquière’s ten-year anniversary at Louis Vuitton. Revisiting iconic shapes with striking embellishments, it is crafted from calfskin leather and metal in the signature Malletage motif that depicts quilting. A statement choice for dinners and parties, it will elevate any look and opens to reveal the Petite Malle Anisette sheepskin lining.
$18,700
Dr. Barbara Sturm’s Advent Calendar
Re-imagined, this year’s Calendar is housed within a beautiful, jewelry armoire-inspired gift box which opens to reveal two tiers, each containing individually numbered skincare surprises for the 24 days leading up to Christmas. The Advent Calendar features a selection of Dr. Sturm’s most loved products, as well as her latest innovations, in full, deluxe and miniature sizes and makes the perfect holiday gift, for either yourself or your loved ones.
$669
Tiffany HardWear is an expression of love’s transformative strength. These statement-making 18k white gold earrings are defined by the collection’s signature gauge links with pavé diamonds. $18,000
Pomellato Nudo Petit 18-karat rose gold multistone ring
This ‘Petit’ ring is the daintiest in Pomellato’s ‘Nudo’ collection, lending itself beautifully to stacking alongside your favorite bands. Made from polished 18-karat rose gold, it’s set with rose quartz and chalcedony. Brown diamonds add a chic finishing touch.
$3,000
Choo Micro Bon Bon Handbag
Our signature Bon Bon handbag is crafted in silver crystal mesh. A statement accessory to love forever, it is finished with a sparkling crystal top handle and a sleek drawstring chain that cinches the supple shape. Designed with chain strap for versatile styling.
$1,200
Louis Vuitton Malle Fleurs Trunk Vase
A romantic piece rooted in Louis Vuitton history, the Malle Fleurs is a reinterpretation of an iconic piece created in the 1910s for their very best clients: the flower trunk. The water-resistant metallic tray and Vuittonite lining mean that flowers, water, or soil can be put in the tray without damaging it.
$7,450
Pasotti Vogue Umbrella
The Vogue umbrella from Pasotti Ombrelli is a truly handmade work of art. Crafted in Italy, it featuring hundreds of Swarovski Crystals embroidered on the canopy and prong set within the carved handle. This functional piece of art both protects and delights with every use.
€1150
Opus Sound Bed
SoundBed™ is the premier hardware product designed for the OPUS Emotional Fitness Platform. Delivering 7 channels of spatial sound and vibration from head to toe, SoundBed can both immerse you in a cocoon of sensation and focus on a specific area of the body. The OPUS platform gives you at-home access to leading experts in personal development and proven healing practices, and intelligently personalizes your experience to meet your exact emotional fitness needs and goals.
$1,999
Aromatherapy diffuser, with multiple timer settings, high & low heat options, hooks for drying towels
Fits 3 towels or 2 bath sheets at a time in a stainless steel tub
$179
Unexpected Friendships in the Animal Kingdom: Love Stories by James Coles
This book is a collection of 15 heartwarming short stories of unexpected friendships in the animal kingdom for children learning that diversity and differences can find love under any circumstances. Available in paperback.
$12
Church’s X Miu Miu Brushed Leather Double Monk Brogue Shoes
The iconic contradiction between masculine and feminine and between classic and modern becomes a harmonious dialog between two aesthetically different worlds. Church’s X Miu Miu Double Monk Brogue shoes have an iconic design and finely crafted artisan finishes paired with Miu Miu’s rebellious soul to create an original look that encourages unconventional combinations untethered from classic style.
$1,420
Harry Winston Cluster Ruby and Diamond Pendant
3 marquise and pearshaped rubies weighing a total of approximately 2.50 carats and 4 marquise and pear-shaped diamonds weighing a total of approximately 2.21 carats, set in platinum.
Price Upon Request1
Erode Soap by Ume Studio
Luscious soap and unique shapes, form and function work together to add a different kind of beauty to the daily ritual of bathing. Created with an abundance of unique botanicals, antioxidants, mineral rich clays, and skin-nurturing essential oils to cleanse, hydrate and nourish all skin types. Perfect for daily use.
Each Erode Summit is poured and cast by hand. As each batch is unique for each pour, no two are the same.
As the soaps use and form are unique, the Bouton plate was designed hand in hand to serve as the Erode Summit’s designated dish.
A limited-edition now out of circulation, available only at auction to the highest bidder for the most-unique Birkin bag this season
$400,000
$73
Return to the sumptuous fantasy world with the second chapter of L'OBJET Haas Brothers, filled with uplifting collectibles that transform ordinary, everyday moments into the extraordinary. This cheerful domed cake stand measures 16.5" tall and is suitable to present a 9" diameter / 5" high cake.
$3,800
Bentley Continental GTC Speed
The ultimate luxury grand tourer is now even more powerful – and the fourth generation of this iconic car introduces a revolutionary new design. With a unique Ultra Performance Hybrid V8 powertrain that can generate 1,000 Nm (738 lb ft) of torque and 782 PS (771 bhp), the new generation Continental GT can go from 0-60 mph in just 3.1 seconds (0-100 km/h in 3.2 seconds) and reach a phenomenal top speed of 208 mph (335 km/h). In short, it raises the bar for the grand tourer, yet again.
$385,000
Andy Warhol’s Ladies and Gentlemen (Ivette and Lurdes)
Signed twice, dedicated and dated twice 'To Paulette with love Merry Christmas 75 Andy Warhol Andy Warhol 75' (on the overlap), acrylic and silkscreen ink on canvas, 14 x 11 in. (35.6 x 27.9 cm.), executed in 1975
Provenance:
state of Paulette Goddard, New York Her sale; Sotheby's Arcade, 10 October 1990, lot 427
Anon. sale; Sotheby's Arcade, 7 February 1996, lot 268
Acquired at the above sale by the present owner
Estimated $100,000 to 150,000
Jo Malone 12 Days of Ornament Gifts
Start a new tradition with 12 scented surprises of ornament gifts. Uncover a selection of miniature colognes, travel candles and bath & body treats individually wrapped in decorative, luxury ornaments. Enjoy over 12 days, hang on the tree, dress the dinner table or surprise someone with an unexpected gift, just because.
$240
The Power of Faith
by Erika Vaval Rosenthal
Embark on an inspiring journey of self-discovery within the pages of 'The Power of Faith.' This captivating book will take you on a transformative journey, revealing the remarkable strength that faith can infuse into your life. Grounded in the author's gripping personal experience of miraculously surviving a life-threatening aneurysm and aortic dissection last year, this gripping account is a testament to the profound wisdom that comes from such trials.
La Mer The Complete Genaissance de la Mer™ Collection
Indulge in the exquisite with our most potent collection. Sumptuous textures accelerate renewal to help visibly reverse virtually all signs of time.
Set of handmade wine glasses, perfect for wine lovers who value a wine’s best possible sensory experience.
$360
The Traditional Christmas Collection celebrates the season with a joyful red roof and red and green accents. It’s sure to bring Christmas spirit to the whole family! Light up the night with this Manor featuring a lit fireplace and windows.
$1,675
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Patek Philippe 7118-1453G-001 Nautilus
Dial White Gold Bracelet
Self-winding mechanical movement, paved with diamonds, “wave” pattern, ogival-shaped white gold hour markers set with emeralds.
18K gold dial plate.
Diameter (10–4 o’clock): 35.2 mm. Height: 8.65 mm. Water-resistant to 30 m. Sapphire crystal case back.
Total of 1,500 diamonds (6.53 cts) and 876 emeralds (3.68 cts).
$815,000
Verone Long Down Jacket
Innovation takes center stage in the Moncler Verone long puffer. Crafted using cutting-edge artificial intelligence, the long down jacket is made from soft and tear-resistant coated nylon with a matte finish. A truly transformable style, the down coat boasts a detachable double collar and removable sleeves, allowing it to be styled as a vest as well. Logo canvas yoke provides the finishing touch to the 2-in-1 style.
$3,500
Cartier Santos de Cartier Ball Point Pen
Santos de Cartier ballpoint pen, small model, body in gold-finish metal with gadroon motif, gold-finish details and screw. Dimensions: 125 x 8 mm. Accompanied by a ballpoint pen refill, blue ink, medium size. Cartier offers you the opportunity to have your writing instrument personalized.
$500
Loewe Puzzle Bag
Loewe “Puzzle” large shoulder bag with signature puzzle-piece stitching, approximately 7.5”L x 14.4”W x 9.1”H with rolled top carry handle; 4.7” strap drop
$4,100
Creed Silver Mountain
A cool, clean and mentholated fragrance, Silver Mountain Water is reminiscent of sparkling icy streams coursing through the snow-capped Swiss Alps.
$1,685
Prada Suede Gloves
These warm sheepskin gloves with a timeless design are decorated with the iconic enameled metal triangle logo.
$1,490
Brushed leather, an emblematic material of Prada collections, appears in an original version that gives the design a unique shaded finish. These minimalist slippers stand out for their tapered silhouette completed with thin rubber soles supported by insoles for greater comfort. The lettering logo screen-printed on the upper, completes the style with contemporary elegance.
$1,070
Gucci Bee Ring
The historical GG motif appears alongside a favorite House symbol, the bee. The contemporary feel to the design echos the gender-fluid approach that is seen throughout the collection. The two engraved emblems feature as the defining design detail of this sterling silver ring.
$330
CURATED BY CHRISTINA ALBINA
Finished in black, white and green with a front touch-strap over lace-up fastening, stealth marathon rubber outsole, EVA midsole, color-block paneled design, logo print to the side and an embroidered logo to the side with a round toe
$160
Eton Pocket Square
Indulge in Eton’s curated collection of exquisite accessories for men. Each elegant pocket square is a testament to Eton’s commitment to craftsmanship, expertly made in collaboration with artisans in Italy.
$90
Add a sophisticated flair to your outerwear collection with this blouson jacket from Miu Miu. Expertly made from wool with a Prince of Wales pattern, the style features multiple pockets and comes in an oversized silhouette.
$3,100
Bottega Veneta Intrecciato Duffle
Archetypal duffle bag realized with Intrecciato craftsmanship in calfskin leather
with all-over stitching detail. Single exterior side zipped pocket, one interior zipped pocket, double phone pocket and zip closure
$5,900
The mini portable lamp, copper finish: the new light from the Folia collection by Saint-Louis.
The Folia mini portable lamp embodies the luminous signature of the Maison: a light magnified by cut crystal.
The modern Folia crystal lamp comes in three aluminum finishes: copper, gold and silver. Three colors of a polished material that will add a refined touch to any interior, evoking the patterns found in the natural world, particularly the bark of certain types of woods. There are two light temperatures and three levels of intensity to choose from depending on its use.
$1,200
Bifold coin wallet in classic calfskin embossed with a chevron pattern, with four card slots, two large note pockets, one coin compartment with snap button closure and silver embossed LOEWE
$590.00
Few patterns conjure up images of the UK Mod scene quite like the Price of Wales check - TOM FORD’s much-anticipated capsule with us is inspired by the precise suiting of the ‘60s movement. This soft cashmere scarf, woven with the plaid, is just the right width for looping over a blazer from the edit.
$650
The Virgin Galatic Journey
Fewer than 700 people have ever flown to space. As a Virgin Galactic Astronaut, you will become part of a new era of commercial space travel, where leaving Earth’s atmosphere is an experience no longer reserved for professional astronauts.
From the moment you join our global community of pioneering adventurers, to the day you earn your astronaut wings, to your post-flight years of telling the greatest story off planet Earth – your spaceflight will change your perspective and transform your life.
$600,000 per person
Lalique Limited Edition
Mirage Scented Candle in Crystal Vessel
In this majestic shade of purple, with its subtle variations, the limited-edition candle orchestrates a poetic dance of shadows and light captured within a crystalline embrace. Evocative of the naturally occurring optical illusion of the same name, Mirage similarly arouses a sense of enchantment and wonder.
$3,250
With a special edition of the Vintage 2015, Dom Pérignon pays tribute to an artist deeply rooted in his origins, who formed one of the most iconic and powerful artistic expressions of our time: Jean-Michel Basquiat.
$300+ at fine retailers
The long, thin shape of the Cornetto makes it perfect for both decanting young wines and removing sediment from older wines. The slim design of this decanter means there is a smaller surface area exposed, so fragile older wines are not over exposed to oxygen. This decanter is designed for a single bottle of wine.
$400
Gucci Savoy Medium Duffle Bag
Inspired by the summer spirit and beach clubs on the Italian coast, this item is part of Gucci Lido. Reflecting the Creative Director’s contemporary vision, the Ophidia lines come to life with a pop of fluorescent orange. Combining the GG motif and Web stripe with a modern hue launches signature travel pieces into the metropolis, such as this Gucci Savoy duffle bag.
$2,750
Tom Ford lends a contemporary elegance to all things sartorial. Raised in Santa Fe, Ford made a name for himself as creative director at Gucci. Today, Tom Ford is coveted for everything from its statement sunglasses and fine leather accessories to its glamorous dresses and impeccably tailored suits. A Tom Ford design is an exquisite balance of timelessness and modernity.
$4,000
Cliff Lede Vineyards
A Taste of Platinum
Our three most critically acclaimed Cabernet Sauvignons are aptly named our Platinum Wines. Enjoy a taste of Platinum with one bottle each of 2021 Cliff Lede “Poetry” Cabernet Sauvignon, Stags Leap District, 2021 Cliff Lede “Songbook” Cabernet Sauvignon, Napa Valley and 2021 Cliff Lede Beckstoffer To Kalon Cabernet Sauvignon, Napa Valley
$885
The Rolls-Royce Cellarette
The Rolls-Royce Cellarette, the latest addition to the Connoisseur’s Collection, enhances clients’ lifestyles beyond their Rolls-Royce motor car. Historically used to store wine and spirits, this bespoke chest can be configured to stow aperitifs or digestifs, along with prized cigars. Epitomizing true RollsRoyce style, the Cellarette combines precision engineering, exquisite craftsmanship, and breathtaking luxury. Its polished aluminum chassis is wrapped in embossed Rolls-Royce Havana leather. When opened, the Cellarette emits a warm ambient glow, with Armagnac leather accents highlighted by soft light, evoking a distinguished members’ club atmosphere. Clients are presented with hand-blown lowball glasses, finished with the ‘RR’ monogram, which rotate outwards to add a touch of theatre. Alongside the glasses, a leather-lined bottle pannier is revealed. At the other end is a humidor, which opens to offer a cigar tray. Cigars are kept in Spanish cedarwood at the ideal humidity, monitored by a hygrometer that echoes the Rolls-Royce clock. The humidor includes accessories for cigar enthusiasts magnetically held containers for an S.T. Dupont cigar cutter and lighter, engraved with the Spirit of Ecstasy, and an ashtray. For easy transport, the ashtray’s cigar cradles extend only when opened. The Rolls-Royce Cellarette is available through the Rolls-Royce online boutique and authorized dealerships. Like any Rolls-Royce product, it can be tailored to the client’s specifications.
Starting price: $67,000
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Fine Linens by Abyss & Hibedecor are more than just practical, they are art. Thoughtfully designed and woven to withstand heavy usage, each is unique in its own making. Giza Egyptian Cotton allow for the machine washing capabilities paired with a fine style for your bathroom.
Up to $608
Sullivan Rutherford 2021 Estate Collection
Savor the unparalleled richness and complexity of Sullivan Rutherford Estate’s 2021 vintage. Perfect for collectors and connoisseurs alike, it offers a tasting journey that includes one bottle each of the 2021 Merlot, Estate Cabernet Sauvignon and Heart of the Vineyard, Cabernet Sauvignon presented in an elegant box. $450
In signature gift box, we celebrate a truly world class experience by bringing together 50g each of Royal Ossetra, Royal Baika, Royal Sevruga and Royal Daurenki caviars.
$690
An iconic object of traditional bedroom decor, the valet has been revived as useful accessory for both man and women. This reinterpretation by Arcahorn maintains a classic silhouette, enriching it with precious details. The square base and hanger are crafted of wood with black glossy finish, while the vertical structure is made of dark horn. Accessorized with stainless steel shoe rack and trouser bar, the structure has stainless steel edges with exposed pins that add a modern edge. Extra detail: a stainless steel, catch-all tray lined with black Saffian leather (finely tanned goatskin).
$3,800
Aroma360 SPKR™ XL
Scent Diffuser
SPKR™ XL Scent
Diffuser—the towering masterpiece that takes your sensory experience to unparalleled heights. With all the advanced features of the original SPKR™ Scent Diffuser, this XL version makes a bold statement in any space, combining luxurious aromatherapy with immersive sound in an elevated design.
$799.95
WINE AND TRAVEL FRANCE AND ITALY GIFT SET by Assouline
The Wine and Travel Gift Set is a musthave for those who dream of sipping their way through the rich histories and landscapes of France and Italy. Featuring expert insights from World’s Best Sommelier Enrico Bernardo, these stunning volumes guide readers through the most renowned vineyards, hidden gems, and cultural treasures of both countries. Perfect for wine aficionados and lovers of travel, this gift set is an invitation to explore iconic regions, uncovering stories of tradition, innovation, and timeless beauty. An exquisite set for those who savor the finer things in life and seek inspiration from the world’s most celebrated wine regions.
Compose your MOOD Coffee tray, for a successful coffee break. Pair the new stainless steel coffee tray with the 6-pieces silver-plated espresso spoon set, and complete your set with porcelain espresso coffee cups. Not just for coffee lovers; use the MOOD tray for small bites, aperitifs, toppings... and make it yours!
$1,440
Hand crafted in France, this 8lb work of crystal artistry is designed to surprise and bringing joy, light and pleasure into the world of our four-legged friends. The iconic Louxor pattern pays tribute to the pyramids and architecture of ancient Egypt. Each piece in the collection showcases intricate diamond-cut crystal motifs radiating a captivating light.
$1,700
CURATED BY MICHAEL SNELL
Beosound 2 Riva by Bang & Olufsen
The sound of the sea meets a sea of sound. Designed in partnership with Riva, the Navy blue aluminum exterior compliments the Deckshaking bass experienced while Beosound 2 brings a level of power, elegance and smarts that leaves other speakers in its wake.
$5,499
Mackenzie-Childs x Bialetti Moka Flower Pot
Designed to elevate the daily coffee ritual, the MacKenzie-Childs Courtly Flower Market Moka Pot taps into the brand’s Courtly Check and Flower Market colorways, featuring a signature black and white checkered pattern adorned with fanciful florals to add a playful touch.
Created in collaboration with Bialetti, the Italian coffee icon, the nature of the design ensures that every moka pot is unique to each customer, yet seamlessly merges the routine of daily coffee and tea moments together.
$119
The Write Away Collection from Dempsey and Carroll
The Write Away Collection with matching leather enclosure features 5 stunningly hand-painted correspondence cards paired with 5 envelopes, handlined with tissue, inside a leather Write Away. The cards are trimmed with our wider, more distinctive borders.
Our goatskin leather correspondence envelope with a snap closure is the perfect way to travel to work, a weekend getaway or abroad.
$115 for 5 cards, 5 envelopes and the leather enclosure.
- Limited Edition and Candle Snuffer
The Bois des Rêves candle is a luxury limited edition that celebrates the holiday spirit, so dear to the House of Dior. A new act of creation by Francis Kurkdjian, this scented candle with woody facets infuses your home with a warm and cozy ambiance - embodying the art of fragrant living that Christian Dior so adored.
This candle comes to glowing life and diffuses its holiday magic the moment you light the wick. Transporting you to the heart of a starry winter night spent in front of a crackling fireplace.
Candle $115 and Candle Snuffer $35
Grand Vase by Lalique – limited edition
In 1927, René Lalique’s boundless imagination and creative genius led to the creation of the Bacchantes vase. The iconic design features the young priestesses of Bacchus with their voluptuous beauty and curves. The extra large version of this iconic vase is intended for collectors worldwide. Its meticulous detailing, carved by hand, adds a playful use of light and dimension.
$5,600
Braid Platinum-Plated Salt and Pepper Shakers by L’Objet
Masterfully crafted with woven metals, hand-gilded in platinum, these salt and pepper shakers of distinction pair beautifully with Braid Napkin Jewels for magnificent table settings.
$190
Jura Z10 Espresso Machine
The JURA Z10 automatic coffee maker is a masterpiece of engineering and raises the bar for premium home brewing. From the Product Recognizing Grinder (that adjusts the consistency of the grind according to your beverage choice) to the Cold Extraction Process (that pulses cold water at high pressure through the coffee for the ultimate cold brew), this innovative machine features state-of-the-art technology. It also boasts sleek, sculptural lines, including a convex-concave aluminum front panel and an elegant wave design on the water tank.
$3,999
Palace Throw Blanket by Frette
Immerse yourself in opulence with the Palace Throw. This pure cashmere throw is double faced and has a classic look to it that will make you want to wrap up in it. Pair it with the Palace Cushion or display it on its own to let its chic style shine through.
$3,500
The box features the Golden ‘H Rond’ stamped design on the lid made of inlayed Swift calfskin. Complimented by the dark walnut exterior, the velvet lambskin-lined interior holds 8 watches, 6 watches and cufflinks, 4 watches and jewelry and 2 watches and jewelry.
$13,200
Le Creuset
Dutch Oven Tote Bag
The Round Dutch Oven Tote Bag is the ideal way to safely transport Le Creuset Dutch Oven. It’s designed from premium heavy-duty cotton canvas with a double-reinforced top handle and a rugged zipper – a convenient pocket inside holds utensils for serving. It’s perfectly sized to hold up to 5.5 qt. Le Creuset Round Dutch Ovens. $75
CURATED BY MICHAEL SNELL
Gulfstream G800
Take it to the limit. The G800 is a marvel of performance and efficiency as it cruises for a globe-sweeping 8,000 nm/14,816 km1 at Mach 0.85. Extend your reach to more people and places around the world in a single flight.
The G800 links you nonstop to more destinations around the world than any other business aircraft. As you fly greater distances at top speeds, you gain time, the most precious commodity of all. Gulfstream’s highspeed range advantage can save you up to 1.5 hours9 on flights longer than 6,500 nm/12,038 km.
Enjoy the freedom of a cabin that accommodates all your moments, from focused work to relaxation and sleep. An elegantly appointed interior outfitted with the finest materials surrounds you in comfort and convenience. Breathe easy in an environment of 100% fresh air, renewed every two to three minutes and purified by our plasma-ionization clean air system.
$72 million
Nanga Cashmere Pillow by Loro Piana
In the rich tapestry of the interior collection, textiles are the golden threads that weave together comfort and style, each piece subtly symbolizing the brand’s century-long commitment to uncompromising quality. This sumptuous cushion cover is meticulously hand woven from soft cashmere yarn and features a chevron border in exquisite contrasting nappa leather. The intricate basket weave design adds exceptional texture. $1,200
Circa Mid 20th century, these vintage candlesticks have all the signature elements George Jensen is admired for. Lightly hammered featuring the Jensen blossom design, they are sure to delight any antique silver lover!
$4,100
Designed and crafted exclusively by Pinetti, this striking leather basket offers a luxurious and practical solution to storage around the house. Beautifully handwoven leather strips in richly textured, tan-colored, eco-friendly leather that is durable and easy to clean make this basket as stylish as it is functional. Its large size makes it ideal as a container of various objects, such as towels or laundry, but also outdoors on a patio or by the pool.
$1,115
CURATED BY MICHAEL SNELL
Every tool in the kitchen has its own value, and represents an essential ingredient in the ideal recipe for the perfect dish. Available in black walnut or oak wood, it includes every essential technical and professional tool, made of stainless steel with POM resin handles.
The set includes a curved paring knife, two straight paring knives (9 cm and 10 cm), a bread knife, a salmon knife, two carving knives (19 cm and 26 cm), a spatula (26cm), three chef’s knives (15 cm, 20 cm and 26 cm), a carving fork, a tomato knife, a potato peeler, a bottle opener, an oyster knife, a Parmesan knife, a lemon zester, kitchen shears, nut cracker, a double-lever corkscrew and a knife sharpener.
€2,587
$8,400
The Pietra L07 Umbrella Stand transforms a classic household item into a modern masterpiece. Its Bianco Carrara natural stone base is topped with a sleek steel supporting structure, defined by simple, understated lines. Combining natural elegance with modern styling, this unique umbrella stand makes a refined addition to the hallway or porch. $1,255
GIFT GUIDE HOLIDAY for polo players
Jaeger-LeCoultre Polaris
Timepiece
Luxury watches designed specifically for polo, such as the Jaeger-LeCoultre Polaris, are timeless gifts.
$9,500 -$52,000
Tato's Leather Polo Belt
A high-quality leather polo belt by Tato’s with its vibrant designs adds a touch of tradition and style to any player’s wardrobe.
$65
A timeless gift, the iconic Hermès scarf elevates any polo outfit. With elegant designs, it’s a musthave accessory.
$550+
A perfectly tailored saddle can elevate a player’s comfort and performance on the field. Ainsley Saddlery offers bespoke options that are handmade with high-quality materials.
$3,300
Safety meets style with custom helmets from Casablanca, a brand revered for their premium safety gear.
$600-$1,100
18ct white gold cufflinks, hand carved and hand-painted with polo players. Elegant yet subtle, polo-themed jewelry is a great way to celebrate the sport. Deakin & Farancis offers beautifully crafted cufflinks and jewelry pieces for men and women, inspired by the equestrian world.
$8,640
La Martina Bespoke Polo Whites
A custom set of whites—breeches and shirts—is a stylish and functional gift. La Martina offers high-end options tailored for both men and women.
$176
Made from the finest leather, a pair of custom-made boots from Casa Fagliano is essential for serious polo players.
$1,000-$1,200
4 Star Luxury Horse Trailer
Transporting ponies in style is essential. 4-Star Trailers offers premium horse trailers that combine durability with elegance.
Price Upon Request
For a touch of glamour, consider Swarovskiembellished gloves from Equestrian Chic Boutique, known for their comfort and durability.
$69
Equine Spa Treatment Package
Treat both horse and rider to luxury with a spa package for the player’s ponies. Equine Wellness Centers offers treatments such as massage and hydrotherapy.
Cost Varies by Location
Equestrian Noire Boot and Helmet Carryall
Made from the finest leather, a boot and helmet carryall by Equestrian Noire offers a stylish solution for carrying polo gear.
$690
A custom polo saddle pad set made from luxurious materials can be an elegant addition to any player’s collection. PoloGearusa offers premium-quality options.
$70-$90
CURATED BY JAMILLAH SCOTT
Tato's
Mallets
Personalized Mallet Set
Every player needs a high-quality mallet. A set of custom-made mallets from Tato’s Mallet’s adds that personal touch.
$120 per mallet
GMC Sierra 2500
For those needing a powerful yet stylish vehicle, the DutyGMC Sierra 2500 Denali 4WD Diesal is ideal for hauling horse trailers. It combines luxury features with the power required to tow.
$85K-$100K
Polo Match Weekend Getaway
Treat your polo enthusiast to a luxury polo weekend at a worldclass venue like Santa Maria Polo Club in Spain, complete with accommodation and match tickets.
Costs Vary
Saddle Trail Park of Wellington 4775 Equestrian Way
Wellington, Florida, 33414 United States
$21,500,000 USD
With the nicest barn in Wellington, La Victoria Farm, a 7.3 acre equestrian property has it all! Located only a short hack to the show grounds this 28 stall equestrian
property with main residence is designed for the ultimate equestrian lifestyle.. Custom built with no expense spared using only the finest materials. Access to the stables and 3,600 sf. main residence is through two (2) separate gated entrances. The stables have two (2) 16' wide center aisles each with 14 stalls. Each private aisle is complimented with separate tack rooms, lounges, laundry,
feed, bathrooms, six wash racks and grooming stalls. The four bedroom main residence is a private and quiet refuge with spectacular pool and lanai.
Built in 1987.
Marketed By Equestrian Sotheby's International Realty
FASHION & STYLE
JEWELRY TRENDS FOR 2025
NYC'S 57TH STREET NORDSTROM GETS DECKED OUT
ALL ABOUT FRINGE
HIGH JEWELRY TRENDS FOR 2025
Paris sparkled with the latest haute joaillerie collections delighting in themes as varied as architecture, wildlife, rouleau collars and big gemstones.
EXPLORE OUR CURATED SELECTION OF THE LATEST HIGH JEWELERY TRENDS FOR 2025, FEATURING EXQUISITE COLLECTIONS FROM RENOWNED BRANDS.
Soon to be cherished by their fortunate owners, these pieces offer a glimpse into a world of beauty and craftsmanship.
BEASTS
The call of the wild was heard by Cartier and De Beers who rounded up diamond and black lacquer zebras
and golden lions at De Beers and a diamond panther bracelet from Cartier that stretched from wrist to finger. There were snakes, leopards, kudu and giraffes from the plains of Africa and forests of the Amazon. Chanel’s emblematic lion roared as a diamond coat of arms brooch.
Yet there was joyful whimsy amongst the wildlife with Chopard and Dior offering scampering bunnies, deer, swans and frogs. Dior’s fox, deer and squirrel were carved in chrysoprase and an enchanting ring with emerald-set titanium frogs supporting a gold crown appeared in Chopard’s Fairy Tales collection.
ARCHITECTURE
From the skyscrapers and brownstones of New York to the palaces of the Silk Road and the steel girders of the Eiffel Tower architectural forms and structures were redrawn in diamonds and precious-colored stones. Vuitton discovered a rare and mesmerizing 56.23ct fancy deep orangy-pink square emerald-cut diamond for its Coeur de Paris pendant inspired by the Eiffel Tower. Boghossian drew exotic motifs from the palaces of Qianlong, Jaipur and Persepolis to create mosaic settings of turquoise, lapis and colored gemstones. A contrast to the modernist constructions of New York architecture sparkling
in diamonds with sapphire windows from Harry Winston, or Pomellato’s monochromatic treasures inspired by its home city, Milan.
Similarly, the Back Bay Queen’s Necklace by Surat Jewels draws inspiration from the vibrant cityscape of Bombay. Featuring a central diamond and exquisite gemstones, the design reflects the sunset over Marine Drive and captures the essence of Bombay’s skyline.
GRAPHIC
Designers drew straight lines, crossbars and circles to produce graphic geometric patterns to encircle necks and wrists. Chanel’s sporty collection while coinciding with the Paris Olympics this summer toyed with stars, squares and circles in primary-color gemstones and playfully rearranged Chanel’s typography. It’s equally delightful to get lost in Gucci’s Labrinati (Labyrinth) collection
with linear pathways connecting emeralds with opals, and aquamarines with Paraiba tourmalines on cuffs and bracelets. Chaumet ’s rhythmical collection had a jazzy, graphic onyx and diamond bracelet reminiscent of a keyboard. Elsewhere, Hermes drew rainbows of wavy lines for necklaces and rings that explore the color spectrum and amorphous forms, and Linkage, one of Tasaki’s three 70th anniversary high jewelry sets, was inspired by the pearl oyster baskets
- square outlines set in diamonds and highlighted with tanzanite, aquamarine and grossularite garnet.
BI-COLOR PRECIOUS METAL
We’ve seen this trend of mixing white and yellow gold in the watch world and now it’s inspiring jewelry designers with Tiffany & Co, Piaget and Louis Vuitton experimenting with a platinum and yellow combination. Tiffany & Co’s celestial theme paired platinum with yellow gold for starburst pendants and constellation earrings. Vuitton uses bi-color platinum and gold for rounded collars. Amongst all the colorful gemstones at Piaget is a collar in yellow and white gold combining engraving, rope twists and diamond settings, although yellow gold generally predominates their Extraleganza collection.
FANCY CUTS
Aside from the artistry in the designs and settings of high jewelry there is an opportunity for Maisons to present magical gemstones, like Vuitton’s spectacular large, colored diamond in the Eiffel Tower-inspired pendant. Graff secured two rare Colombian emeralds, one in a kite shape for a bracelet and the other, an elongated lozenge for a ring. Their eye-catching cuts make them a focal point, like Gucci’s floral geometry necklace, featuring a 53.25ct lagoon tourma-
line and a 19.68ct Ethiopian opal, accented by mandarin garnets and opals in a sleek, diamond-set design. The Mimosa collection at Damiani features necklaces and bracelets in a mosaic of precious stones in various cuts and shapes artfully arranged that highlights a trend for fancy cuts in several collections.
ROULEAU COLLARS
Smooth, voluminous rolls or cord-twisted torques present a refined modern look to grace the neckline. These collars, like padded Renaissance-style rouleaux, are appearing more frequently in collections from Messika, Bvlgari and Louis Vuitton, with Messika’s snow-set diamond collar featuring a yellow diamond centerpiece and their pavé-set diamond torques dangling interchangeable diamond pendants. De Beers’ bold interpretation in gold and diamonds is fringed with tiny gold beads while Bvlgari’s Terra Mater Serpenti coiled collar interpretation draws on its Tubogas bracelet technique and dangles an enormous emerald cabochon.
XXL STONES
High jewelery is a Maison’s showcase for rare and impressive precious gemstones like the enormous cabochon emeralds, rubellites and tourmalines for which Bvlgari is famed and Dolce &
Gabbana’s super-sized amethysts, kunzites, green beryls, and aquamarines in their lavish baroque-style gold filigree settings. However, the collections are now presenting large colorful ornamental hardstones as well including coral, opal, carnelian, and turquoise, notably at Bucc ellati, Damiani and Piaget. One standout piece was Boucheron’s Iceberg necklace with enormous drops of frosted white quartz and diamond.
GARDENS/FLORAL
Nature has always offered designers an abundance of inspiration with flowers adorning women since ancient times. There is something fascinating about reproducing a subject as fragile and transient as a flower in a material as hard and enduring as a gemstone. This is why gardens and prettily colored blooms have been a recurring theme in jewelry over the centuries. Anna Hu has long been drawn to flowers with orchids and roses a current favorite shaped in colored titanium with a ceramic finish and colored gemstones. Chopard’s fairytale flowers feature oak leaves, a rose trapped in crystal and lots of tiny pavé-set blooms and Christian Dior’s jewels are a bucolic setting of shrubbery and trees with fauna hopping through its midst.
ALL ABOUT FRINGE
The fringe has entered the mainstream for 2025 fashion
FRINGED FINISHES WERE TRENDING FOR SPRING 2025, WITH EVERYTHING FROM EARTHY RAFFIA TO DISTRESSED DENIM TO FLUFFY KNITS TO ART-DECO TINSELS AND BEYOND BRINGING VOLUME, MOTION, AND TEXTURE TO THE RUNWAYS OF PARIS, MILAN, LONDON, AND NEW YORK.
Fringe is often associated with boho-chic, and Chloé and Isabel Marant have certainly made a case that it should come back, while Gabriela Hearst also tapped into a sense of earthy freedom while taking it in a distinct direction.
But many other brands used the dynamic and voluminous qualities of fringe finishes to evoke the theme of expressive luxury that seems to be taking over from quiet luxury as designers embrace a new balance of sensibility and creative freedom. At Bottega Veneta,
for example, Matthieu Blazy made an unexpected and playful exploration of textural interplay and unique volumes. 16Arlington and Sportmax demonstrated that fringe can bring liveliness and motion while still fitting within a vision of minimalist elegance. With his second runway collection at McQueen, Seán McGirr refined and reintroduced his vision for the brand, balancing tailoring with craft techniques – with fringe foremost among them – to drive opulence and drama.
SEVEN DAYS WITHOUT SUGAR
BY NOW, WE ALL KNOW IT: AN EXCESS OF SUGAR IS THE ENEMY OF HEALTH. IT’S BAD FOR THE BODY, THE SKIN, AND THE BRAIN, AND ELIMINATING—OR AT LEAST REDUCING—AS MUCH ADDED SUGAR FROM OUR DIET AS POSSIBLE CAN MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE.
I can hear this a hundred times and it won’t stop me from grabbing an ice cream cone on my way home. So how can I give it up? Until recently, it was totally unthinkable. Then, I read a Harvard study that found refined sugar consumption can contribute to the risk of developing cardiovascular diseases, as well as another study that highlighted that prolonged sugar consumption can lead to the development of diseases like Crohn’s disease, ulcerative colitis, or thyroid problems.
The final straw was when a doctor pointed out my clear dependence on sugar. That’s when I decided to try out a 7-day cleanse. Now, on the other side of it all, I have some good news: It is possible to live without eating added sugar, and you can feel really good—that is, once you’re finished detoxing. More on my experience, below.
HOW MY SUGAR-FREE WEEK WENT
To eliminate sugar from your diet, you can go one of two ways: The drastic one, where you just go cold turkey or the easier one, where you gradually remove it from your life. The first one can lead to side effects
like headaches or a feeling of tiredness, which feel dramatic at the time but will only last for a handful of days. The latter is certainly simpler, but is slower (and there’s more temptation along the way).
That’s why I cut it all out cold turkey, eliminating all sugars for 7 days immediately.
DAY 1: I’LL NEVER MAKE IT
From the moment I woke up, my mind was trying to sabotage me. I kept hearing this little voice saying “what about a little treat?” It was obviously difficult. When you’re avoiding a food like sugar, you have to change both your habits and even more so your way of thinking. First, I removed all the sugar that was easy for me to eliminate—like from my coffee—then I took a look at the hidden places where it might be lurking (think salad dressings and premade pasta sauce).
At the end of the day, I simply tumbled into bed. Apparently, all my energy had been used on hunting down sugar.
DAY 3: I FEEL MORE ENERGETIC, HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE?
I had been told that without sugar you’ll feel better and more energetic. Obviously, in my mind, that just made absolutely no sense. It was therefore a great surprise to see how immediately I started to wake up fresher and more rested, less tired. In the morning I didn’t drag myself around like a zombie, but I started to get going quite quickly. I had no dark circles under my eyes and my skin was luminous. A miracle!
Starting on day three, I began to notice changes on my face. It was less full and more defined—I was surprised to see the
change after just three short (though the felt long) days. Other people commented on them, too, so I knew they had to be real.
Day 5: Feeling more focused
You might be familiar with brain fog if you love sugar—it’s difficulty concentrating— when your thoughts feel heavy and your mind is crowded. Eating sugar makes you feel that way, and giving up sugar makes it even worse. After eliminating sugar, you’ll free your mind of this brain fog… eventually, making it easier to concentrate, work better, and rest better. On day five, I finally started to turn this corner and my mind felt so much better.
DAY 7: A LIGHTER BODY
Water retention is something I have always battled. So when my legs felt slimmer—like I had just had the best lymphatic drainage massage—it was a welcome benefit. By eliminating sugar, I got rid of these stagnant fluids built up in my body.
WHAT NEXT?
A challenge like this, even of such a short duration, has the power to open your mind and program it differently: I decided to extend my no-sugar experience beyond the 7-day challenge, and I have now made it 5 months. I can’t say I don’t like sweets—or that I literally never eat them—but I can say that removing them from my diet has changed how my brain works.
I no longer feel the urgent call from my brain for a cookie or piece of chocolate. And on the occasion that I do have a treat—my birthday, a holiday, or special occasion—I truly enjoy every bite of it. No guilt involved.
11 SPIKE MOSS
$45,000,000 USD
IMANSION OF THE MONTH
SHADY CANYON
11 SPIKE MOSS, IRVINE, CALIFORNIA, 92603 | $45,000,000 USD
N THE PRESTIGIOUS ENCLAVE OF SHADY CANYON, 11 SPIKE MOSS STANDS AS THE UNDENIABLE CROWN JEWEL OF THE COMMUNITY. THIS MAGNIFICENT ESTATE SPANS 17,660 SQUARE FEET ON A RARE 1.33-ACRE BLUFFTOP LOT, THE LARGEST SINGLE LOT IN THE ENCLAVE.
The residence’s exterior is a masterful display of timeless design with Romanesque thick stone walls and reclaimed Tuscan terra cotta brick and roof tiles, while the
estate’s pièce de résistance is the awe-inspiring operating 35-foot stone bell tower, crowned with an exquisite Italian bronze bell. Entering the estate through its gated driveway sends one back in time. Upon entering the grand foyer, the sense of another era remains, as you are greeted with soaring fresco-painted ceilings and an opulent Carrera marble stairway that ascends to the private primary suite. The assembly room, with its soaring ceilings and grand fireplace, sets the stage for sublime gatherings as it melds with the dining room’s 20-person antique table and authentic main chef’s kitchen and secondary catering kitchen. The primary suite is
an inviting and restful retreat, featuring a reclaimed Tuscan fireplace, a hand-carved stone bathtub, and a private fitness suite.
The separate family wing ensures comfort and privacy with four additional bedrooms, four bathrooms, and a private kitchenette. The lower level is an unparalleled realm of entertainment and leisure, transporting you back in time with each step down the stone and brick-clad stairway.
Emotions strengthen as you enter a subterranean world with brick-clad walls and groin vault ceilings, and a wine tasting room. Adjacent is the Tuscan cistern-style
game room, illuminated by a glass skylight, same as the wine tasting room and the 2,500-bottle wine cellar.
A 150-inch screen theater and performance stage deliver an immersive entertainment experience, while the Taverna, with a stylish bar, epitomizes refined relaxation. Outdoor entertainment options are not ignored with a 48-foot infinity pool and private spa, offering a
sunny sanctuary of unparalleled peace and indulgence. The meticulously curated grounds feature a full-size bocce ball court, a pizza oven, and a cozy fire pit, all surrounded by manicured landscapes.
A professional workshop, three-car garage and six-car “auto barn”, bookend the entry courtyard. Located within minutes of the best beaches, dining, shopping, top schools, and transportation hubs, this estate is a
embodying the
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VILLA NEO ST-JEAN ST-BARTHÉLEMY
ST-BARTHÉLEMY
EMBRACE THE VIBE OF ST-JEAN BEACH
SET HIGH ABOVE THE ICONIC ST. JEAN BEACH, VILLA NEO IS AN AWARD-WINNING SIX-BEDROOM ESTATE OFFERING PANORAMIC VISTAS AND UNPARALLELED LUXURY. IDEAL FOR EXTENDED FAMILIES OR GATHERINGS OF FRIENDS, THIS TWO-LEVEL MASTERPIECE SHOWCASES AN EXPANSIVE MAIN-LEVEL DECK BOASTING OUTDOOR LIVING SPACES, A MOVIE SCREEN, AND ONE OF THE
ISLAND'S LARGEST POOLS—A SPRAWLING 108-FOOT OASIS, COMPLETE WITH AN OVERFLOWING JACUZZI.
Villa Neo is fully air-conditioned and thoughtfully designed. The first floor hosts two kitchens, one of which is a chef's dream, a spacious living room, a media room, and a dazzling entertainment room. Two bedrooms, including one of the premiere suites, open onto the deck, while a third enjoys a tranquil garden view. An elegant glass staircase leads to the upper level, home to an office, an additional premier suite and two connecting guest bedrooms with ocean views and private
terraces. Each of the six bedrooms boasts a beautifully appointed en-suite bath, with soaking tubs and generous dressing rooms in the premier suites.
Additional features include a fitness room, hammam, ample parking, and an elevator servicing both floors. Enjoy state-of-theart technology, including Home Assistant control via iPad.
This incredible villa is conveniently located just minutes from the beach, shopping and restaurants and can only truly be appreciated in person. Villa Neo is your gateway to a lifestyle of sophistication and serenity, offering the epitome of luxury living in the heart of St. Barthélemy's paradise.
PRICE 47,000,000 €
BEDROOMS 6 / BATHROOMS 6 FULL / 2 HALF
EXTERIOR 0.63 ACRES
LOS ANGELES LUXE
An extraordinary estate perched atop Bel Air, it redefines luxury living with unparalleled sophistication and breathtaking views of Los Angeles and Century City. This meticulously crafted residence, which took over five years to complete, epitomizes opulence with 12 bedrooms and 17 baths.
Every corner of La Fin exudes extravagance, from its grand glass-walled entryway and a majestic 44-foot crystal chandelier to a sprawling formal living room adorned with shimmering chandeliers and hand-carved stone latticework around a monumental fireplace.
The estate’s lower level dedicated to entertainment and wellness, featuring a state-
of-the-art wine cellar with a stunning Murano glass installation, a climate-controlled cigar lounge, and a sleek vodka tasting room. A fully equipped fitness center includes a climbing wall, Peloton bikes, steam room, and a spa, while a sound-proof cinema with motorized Belgian leather seating promises cinematic indulgence.
Upstairs, the private quarters offer respite with a lavish primary suite boasting floor-to-ceiling lacquered Italian oak walls, a Portuguese marble fireplace, and boutique-worthy walk-in closets. The spalike bathroom showcases bookmatched Calacatta gold marble, and a soaking tub carved from a single block of stone.
Outdoors, La Fin transforms into an oasis of relaxation and entertainment with motorized Fleetwood pocket doors blurring the line between interior and exterior spaces. The infinity-edge pool overlooks a 23-foot retractable LED screen and an outdoor bar with swing seats, while a fire pit lounge provides warmth and ambiance.
On the rooftop, a deck with built-in seating, a fire pit, and a spa offers panoramic views, ensuring every moment is a celebration of luxury and privacy. Security features such as fingerprint technology, an on-site caretaker residence, and a dedicated security command center provide peace of mind in this unparalleled retreat in the heart of Bel Air.
In Search of Solace
Wines for NYE Delightful Sparkling
IWILLIAM SMITH @willismith_2000 COPY EDITOR & CONTRIBUTOR
T IS THAT TIME OF THE YEAR. AND PERHAPS LIKE YOU, I HAVE BEEN COUNTING MY MANY BLESSINGS AND RECOUNTING THE PLETHORA OF THINGS FOR WHICH I AM DEEPLY GRATEFUL. WHATEVER YOUR OWN PRACTICES FOR USHERING IN THE NEW YEAR, IT SHOULD BE ACCOMPANIED BY SOME POMP AND CIRCUMSTANCE, EVEN IF PRACTICED SOLO IN THE COMFORT OF YOUR LIVING ROOM WHEN THE MIDNIGHT HOUR TOLLS.
Part of that ritual for me always involves the celebratory pop of a bottle of champagne or sparkling wine. This month, I recommend a few of my favorite bottles to consider for your own enjoyment and
festivities, some of which are obscure finds and others, more well-established bottlings.
OFF THE BEATEN PATH
VARA NEW MEXICO SPARKLING BRUT
Nearly a decade after the sale of the winery bearing his family name to Precept Wine & Spirits, Laurent Gruet is back at the helm as a partner and as the sparkling winemaker for New Mexico-based Vara, where he and an all-star team are continuing to build upon the state’s nearly four-century history of wine making.
The Gruet label’s success and expansion meant that the original vision of wines made from New Mexico grown grapes had given way to sourcing fruit from other places. At Vara, Laurent Gruet has led the release of their very first all New Mexico grown sparkling, a non-vintage Brut crafted in the traditional méthode champenoise style. Here, Gruet forgoes the typical grapes, deploying Chenin Blanc, Pinot Meunier, and Listan Prieto
for this bottling. The addition of the mission grape is a nod to New Mexico’s history of grape cultivation and the blend yields a beautiful wine.
Bright aromas of lemon rind, apple, and pear on the nose, the bubbles are also fine, active, and voluminous. On the palate, there is a depth of complexity beyond the typical fruit that includes honeycomb and salinity. This is a very food-friendly sparkling to pop and enjoy with a favorite cheese plate.
$27 USD www.varawines.com
WILLOW MOUNTAIN WINERY SAPPHIRE SPARKLING
If New Mexico is not among the growing regions that come to mind when you consider sparkling wine, hold your hat… on recent travels, I found a sparkling wine in Montana – yes, Montana – that was truly delicious and worthy of attention. While Montana has a small number of producers across its vastness, many make wine from fruits other than grapes and those producers making wine from
In Search of Solace Sparkling Holidays
grapes most often import fruit from other states, such as Washington, Oregon and California.
Willow Mountain’s Sapphire Sparkling is 100 percent grown in Montana near the town of Corvalis, about an hour’s drive south of Missoula. The namesake Willow Mountain hovers in the backdrop of partners Roxanne’s and Brain’s vineyards of volcanic ash and gravel soils where the growing season is short and hang time each year is maximized to the hilt. They are true artists working with relatively unknown terroir for viticulture, leaning constantly into testing and learning, and allowing their experiences to create further evolved wines. This is certainly the case with their Sapphire Sparkling.
A blend of relatively obscure St. Pepin, Prairie Star, and Fontenac Blanc grapes – hardier vines that do well in cold weather climates – the sparkling is done in the traditional méthode champenoise style. This is only the second bottling of this wine, but having tasted both the first and the second, the evolution of the blend is splendid. Golden-straw hued in the glass, with tropical notes on the nose with just a hint of earthiness on the palate, it is wonderfully dry, with well-balanced acidity and notes of vanilla, almond, and crisp apple. I was so taken with this wine that I wanted to
double-check my experience and a few fellow wine friends tasted both vintages with me and concurred – wow.
$44 USD www.willowmountainwinery.com
THINK PINK
LAURENT-PERRIER CUVÉE ROSÉ
Rosé is all in vogue. And I, too, will own my obsession. But it wasn’t always so. When Laurent-Perrier first offered up this exquisite champagne in 1968, it was very much a novelty. Extended maceration time of select Pinot Noir grapes from multiple Crus creates a bold, fruit-forward wine with salmon-colored hues.
Herbaceous and floral aromas dominate on the nose, with a textured palate full of ripe red berries like raspberries and cherries with a crisp and dry finish. This bright and juicy and luscious and anything but hum-drum.
If there is a standard for rosé champagne, this is it, and an exemplary wine to usher in the blessings of a new year. If you want to take it next level, a reusable metal “robe” was launched in 2017, decorated in a flower petal abstract, that encapsulates the uniquely shaped bottle, elevating the luxury experience.
Approx $100 USD Widely Available
RAM’S GATE BRUT ROSÉ
From the Old World to the New, I recently happened upon the posh and welcoming Ram’s Gate Winery, which sits almost directly opposite the road from the Sonoma Raceway and at the entrance to Sonoma County wine country. Rest assured, the view from the vineyard’s gorgeous tasting room faces away from the racetrack, offering some stunning views. I am so smitten with the place, their hospitality, and of course, their wines, that I wanted to make a return trip to see if my fondness was more than fleeting… it is.
The first vintage of Ram’s Gate’s Brut Rosé was in 2010 and it continues to be a special treat with only a few hundred cases produced each year from 100 percent Pinot Noir. Ram’s Gate’s winemaker, Joe Neilsen, has been with them since 2018 and is a thoughtful steward of the estate’s legacy, creating exceptional wines of increasing variety from both estate-grown fruit and growers with whom he has an abiding regard. The attention is evident in his wines and the Sonoma County Brut Rosé is no exception.
Pale pink in the glass, with floral and red fruit aromas, dry and slightly saline on the palate with notes of currants and brioche. It’s long and compelling finish
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is wonderful and leaves you wanting to open yet another bottle.
$55 USD www.ramsgatewinery.com
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DOM PERIGNON’S TRIBUTE TO JEAN-MICHEL BASQUIAT
For the release of its 2015 vintage, champagne house Dom Perignon released a tribute to the late Jean-Michel Basquiat, utilizing Basquiat’s 1983 piece, In Italian, as the inspiration for both the bottle labels and their boxes. According to the Maison:
The series includes three different boxes, each depicting a part of Basquiat’s paint-
ing, which can be reassembled by bringing the coffrets together. The design was imagined according to this principle of assemblage, dear to both Dom Pérignon and Basquiat.
To further strengthen the sense of the encounter between Dom Pérignon and Basquiat, each of the three parts of the artwork was studied in its components so that the name and emblem of the Maison harmoniously inscribe themselves on the box within the color fields of the painting, maximizing the sophisticated interplay of its forms and lines.
A true seal to this tribute, the label on the bottles, also created in three color variants, bears the hybrid emblem of the
three-branched crown superimposed on the shield.
As for tasting notes, well, its Dom Perignon vintage champagne and garnered typically high scores including a 97 from James Suckling. The real treat here, in addition to the wine, is the labeling tribute that creates something truly unique with exceptional artistry and style.
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As always…Salud! And Happy New Year!
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UNITED NATIONS HUMAN RIGHTS COUNCIL:
“BREAKING THE CYCLE: ENDING THE CRIMINALIZATION OF HOMELESSNESS AND POVERTY”
“The criminalization of homelessness and poverty has a long history, rooted in various forms of structural discrimination and oppression. The laws have historical markers that are linked to laws and policies of industrializing states which sought to regulate and punish the activities of marginalized people for reasons related to the availability of cheap labor, crime prevention, morality, and public health…To justify such inhuman and degrading treatment, those deviating from prevailing social norms were often accused of being the source of disease, deviance, or crime…
Persons experiencing homelessness and poverty are extremely vulnerable to human rights violations. Homelessness is, by itself, an affront to human dignity and a serious violation of the right to adequate housing and other human rights. States have an obligation to prevent and eliminate homelessness, including by guaranteeing access to safe, affordable, and adequate housing...
Human rights law requires States to take all possible measures to eradicate extreme poverty and to prevent and end homelessness. Homelessness reflects the failure of the State to
guarantee the human right to adequate housing. Criminalizing homelessness does not address this human rights violation. Instead, it makes it worse. It punishes people for behaviors they cannot avoid, further undermining their ability to survive or access housing.
Relying on the criminal justice system to address the consequences of poverty and homelessness serves only to penalize individuals for structural inequality, social exclusion and their fundamental denial of rights. Criminalization further entrenches inequality, reinforces social stigma, and undermines the dignity of persons experiencing homelessness or poverty. A punitive or carceral approach that penalizes persons in precarity for begging, sleeping, or working in public spaces also poses a significant economic cost to the State that should be redirected to measures that are effective in preventing and ending homelessness and reducing poverty.
Such a punitive approach leads to a cycle of circular movement of individuals through poverty, homelessness and the criminal justice system and cannot be seen as justifiable. Penalizing the conduct of people who rely on the use of public spaces for their surviv-
al will not achieve the objectives of combating homelessness and poverty when the conduct that is prohibited is something the affected person cannot avoid, such as sleeping somewhere or gaining sufficient income for their own survival through informal work or begging. In addition, criminalization results in discrimination on grounds of socio-economic status or other prohibited grounds, such as race, national origin, or health, in violation of human rights law. Homelessness and poverty can be addressed through transformative approaches that facilitate access to adequate housing, decent work, healthcare, training and social protection, not by making being homeless or living in poverty a criminal offence.
The Special Rapporteurs recommend to States, including local governments, to ensure full protection of the right to an adequate standard of living, including the right to adequate housing, for everyone who is within their jurisdiction or control. This implies eradicating poverty, ensuring access to affordable housing, and preventing and ending homelessness, so that no one is forced to sleep or survive in the street without access to adequate housing.”
The Celestial Mandate for a Radical Transformation in Devotional Living
“Then the angel revealed the river of the water of life, shining clear as like crystal, flowing from the throne of God and of the Lamb down the middle of the great street of the city. On each side of the river stood the Tree of Life, bearing twelve crops of fruit, yielding its fruit every month. And the leaves of the tree are for the healing of the nations. No longer will there be any curse. The throne of God and of the Lamb will be in the city, and his servants will serve him. They will see his face, and his word shall illumine their foreheads. Darkness shall be no more. They will not need the light of a lamp or the light of the sun, for the Lord God will give them light. They will rule with him, age after age after age.”
– Revelation 22:1-5
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ILLUMINED BY A HEART-FELT MISSION, ARTISTS OF THE SOUL HEED THE CALL OF THE RESOUNDING TRUMPETS TO PIERCE INTO THE FUNDAMENTAL STREAMS OF CONSCIOUSNESS AND REVEAL THE HIDDEN TAPESTRY OF OUR SOUL’S COLLECTIVE UNITY, BIRTHING INTO REALITY THE BRILLIANCE OF AN ENLIGHTENED HUMANITY IN SERVICE TO THOSE IN GREATEST NEED OF SPIRITUAL COMPASSION AND EMPATHY.
This month, we honor the efforts of Monarch Visionary Lena Miller, Ph.D, recently adorned by the San Francisco Chronicle as one of the most influential people of the city. Miller is the co-founder and CEO of Urban Alchemy, a nonprofit employment social enterprise that provides returning citizens with meaningful and impactful roles in addressing homelessness and its resulting chaos in city neighborhoods through a peaceful transition to spiritual empowerment.
From the feces on the streets, to hardened hearts fallen out of tune with their cosmic beat, the will to abundantly transform the darkness of San Francisco into the brilliant vision we all live for, started with one simple step: Self-Belief. As a messenger of Peace, Justice and Liberty, accepting her gift to harness the force, initiated Miller upon a path of profound inner transformation and spiritual realization that has vastly impacted the city of San Francisco.
THE PHILOSOPHER’S STONE
“What you seek is seeking you.” - Rumi
For millennia, alchemists and mystics have enduringly sought out the secrets to the Universe, namely the power to harness the primordial elemental forces in pursuit of spiritual mastery. In alchemy, which studies our divine relationship with nature, the philosopher’s stone is a mythical substance believed to have the ability to transform base metals into gold or silver, and to generate the elixir of life, honored as Amrit in Sanskrit. Alchemists see it as the most perfect substance attainable and a symbol of divine illumination, heavenly bliss, and perfection of the human soul, capable of curing illnesses, prolonging life, and inspiring spiritual revitalization.
The philosopher’s stone, first mentioned
4,000 years ago in ancient stone carvings, is believed to be a common substance, to be found everywhere in plain view but hidden from common sight. The quest for the stone, described in the Magnum Opus, encouraged alchemists from the Middle Ages to the end of the 17th century to examine in their laboratories numerous substances and their interactions. This quest thereby provided a deep body of elemental wisdom that ultimately led to the sciences of chemistry, metallurgy, and pharmacology.
Within the delicate balance wherein worlds collide is where the hidden power lies, for secret wisdom is bestowed upon those who devotedly serve its intention to harmonize. As the resonance of our living word attunes to the radiance of the heart, that is when the veil between worlds shall part. Urban Alchemy was founded in 2018 to deliver a longterm, enlightened approach to cure the soul-wrenching paradigm of homelessness, crime, and challenging street conditions faced by communities throughout the nation.
Urban Alchemy’s Ambassadors program places high numbers of practitioners with lived experience and trauma-informed
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conflict de-escalation training on some of the neighborhood’s most problematic blocks to help mitigate conflict, keep streets and sidewalks clean and passable, and connect the homeless to housing and services. More than 90% of practitioners are formerly long-term incarcerated and/or have experienced homelessness themselves.
Revitalizing those in need through purpose in service, Urban Alchemy provides a pathway for opportunity. As a bridge between two extremes, Urban Alchemy serves as a conduit for the alchemical transformation of the human soul. Urban Alchemy Practitioners leverage their ever-evolving emotional intelligence and leadership skills to empathize and de-escalate, helping create safe, clean and housed communities, while developing their own personal spiritual growth through embodied compassion in the toughest neighborhoods and streets. Miller sensed the calling as early as she can remember: “I always felt a clear signal, a presence, a knowing. I was fascinating by anything spiritual.” Miller shares that “to pick up the pattern is the presence, and in the presence is the communication.” Which made her question: “What is this? What is this that we are all feeling?”
Miller started her first nonprofit at 23-years old, and at the inception of Urban Alchemy, she states: “I felt like I wanted to come out of the closet. Everything I touched turned to gold… We have lost our ability to attune, to receive our messages, the ongoing intelligence and consciousness of the creator. This is where our power comes from. It’s out there.”
A RENAISSANCE OF HOPE
The phoenix hope can wing her way through the desert skies, and still defying
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fortune’s spite; revive from ashes and rise.
- Miguel de Cervantes
Envision an awakened species biorhythmically orchestrated in sacred heart service to actualize Universal Harmony, fueling an Inner Flame that unleashes the dormant powers of the divinely inspired mind to psychically penetrate into the cosmic mysteries of Mother Earth’s ancient Kundalini Shakti bio-resonance celestial frequencies.
The Middle Ages of the Medieval Period, known as the Dark Ages, was marked by difficulties and calamities including famine, plague, and war, which significantly diminished the population of Europe. Yet, from the accumulated suffering of the many centuries of profound strife sprung a seasoned heart rooted into the depths of the Earth to fruit the wisdom to carry us forth. Following the Middle Ages, the Renaissance was a fervent period of European cultural, artistic, political and economic flourishing that promoted the rediscovery of classical philosophy, literature and art, including the restoration of Hermetic and Platonic foundations to European Alchemy.
There is no doubt that we are now amidst a collective rebirth as global emotional and mental instability as well as economic and planetary resource inefficiencies
guide us inwards to leverage the ancient wisdom stored within the Earth’s crystalline memory streams, the planetary field of consciousness, that was harnessed by ancient civilizations to wield the intelligence of the cosmos.
“In alchemy, all things are evolving but considered to be exposed to a wave of energies becoming involved in matter as well, and thus subject to hindrances and impurities from matter not ready or mature enough to evolve beyond a certain level (corruptible matter). As a result the energies of life are weakened and the energies of matter predominate when it is the energies of life which should predominate. The alchemist believed that by understanding Nature’s laws and applying them with Art, that it is possible to remove hindrances to the evolutionary wave so that the energies of life can predominate and lift the subject toward perfection.” – “Real Alchemy A primer of Practical Alchemy” by Robert Allen Bartlett
The Urban Alchemy Ambassadors program empowers resurrected souls to walk the streets as stewards of hope, with the level of compassion of those who have been risen to guide fallen spirits through the fire of transformation. A spiritual organ, the heart is replenished with the as-
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tral light of the Heavens, received through the pineal gland’s inner eye, channeled as we root into the Earth to deliver power to the people. Radiantly embodying the sweet nectar of our transfiguration, we nourish those in need with the ancient wisdom to inspire illumination. Sealed on the forehead by the illumination of inner sight, we transform the darkness of our environment through the power of the Cosmic Christ.
Emotional frequencies of love and truth are a contagion that threaten the collapse of hierarchies that feed off the soul’s division, for once kindled, the flames of hope alchemically reveal the true reality of our glorious unity. As the frequency bandwidth expands between our collective heart’s current, our senses expand to reveal the mystical mysteries hidden within and before us. A wealth of wisdom flows beneath our feet, accessible to those whose hearts beat with the rhythm of the Earth’s celestial bio-frequencies.
Currently operating in the San Francisco Bay Area, Los Angeles, Portland, Austin and Birmingham, Urban Alchemy’s unique approach supports the formerly incarcerated in transforming the stone in their hearts to gold, engendering a deep sense of worthiness that radiantly beckons others forth to question their
darkened reality as a deeper truth is risen from within the Earth to uplift them. Hope cries out for love and acceptance from the depths of every soul.
As more cities investigate Miller’s success, the police force has become her greatest advocate. In January 2024, the Stanford Ethnography Lab published a report celebrating the drop in crime in the UrbanAlchemy-served neighborhoods of San Francisco where Urban Alchemy marches in-step with law enforcement agencies, city departments and community organizations to harbor peace amongst the chaos in the streets. The study reported that crime rates at Urban Alchemy-served intersections dropped by 52% over the course of the year, and drug crime rates dropped by 80%.
“The flip-side of trauma, is that as you survive, you develop this super power, called emotional intelligence. The more that you have to learn to read your environment, so that your survival is dependent upon it, the better you get at it. People in prison, in particular, are able to develop this skill, to be able to read people’s energy. People have become so good at concealing their intentions, but your life could be in jeopardy if you can’t read it.”
Miller continues: “We are the largest community-based public safety, also known as alternatives to the police, in the country. We are employing individuals returning home from former life sentences. The symmetry of the organization is mind-blowingly beautiful, and our largest supporters are the police. We are going to use our gift, because these are the times we are living in, and we know how to use it.”
THE EVOLUTION OF EMPATHIC INTELLIGENCE
“My sense of God is my wonder about the Universe.” –
Albert Einstein
From the Latin ‘in’-‘telos’-‘gero,’ meaning “to accomplish the inner goal,” the evolution of intelligence is contingent upon spiritual service. Our self-awareness and higher comprehension evolve as we develop conviction in the voice that speaks from the depths of our heart, surrendering our resistance to the power of love as we come together for the values that drive our existence. The self-fulling prophecy of the Second Coming of the Christ is birthed inside as we rise in alignment with the fire-born vision that is our birthright.
The Sanskrit word for the heart chakra is Anahata, meaning unstruck sound. As the heart expands into fulfillment, it’s beat stills to an effervescent electromagnetic auric pulse of golden radiance from which seeds the tree of life overflowing with healing frequencies to activate the gifts of heightened awareness and divine senses in service of humanity’s peaceful co-existence. Rising to higher states of evolution perceivable only to those whose senses are in attunement, we rapture through our Solar Heart’s Ascension into a Universe illumined by spirit.
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According to the Ideos Institute of Pasadena, California, Empathic Intelligence is “a pursuit of knowing. It is a practical and powerful process of gaining new insights and empathic understanding that leads to ideas unconsidered or deemed impossible in its absence. Unlike other intelligences, it relies not only on the accumulation of data or knowledge, but the unique ability to understand, and then act upon, the experiences and perspectives of others without negating one’s own in the process.”
The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus believed fire to be the fundamental material that united all things, including all other elemental forces, and saw the world, itself, as an “ever-living fire.” Indeed, it is the electrical fire of the heart, risen by the Passion of the Christ, known as the Kundalini Shakti in Sanskrit, that activates the cosmic bio-frequencies of the organ system, the chakras in Yogic philosophy – each relating to a different elemental aspect. Empaths, who are activated by service, ascend into higher consciousness states to penetrate the many veils of perception. The nectar of illumination, Amrit, also known as the spirit molecule, DMT, is synthesized and metabolized in the brain as the body’s electrical system rises to higher vibrations. The spiritual gifts of service are rewarded to those who are devoted to the transformation of spiritual planes from terrestrial to celestial.
Guided upon a blossoming vision, the golden hearts of empaths can sense those in kind, as, endowed with a divinely inspired mind, we perceive through each other’s inner eye. To cross the veil to the higher realms, in receipt of our divine inheritance, we must walk a path of celestial resonance, for it is the will to serve that activates our divine intelligence.
Urban Alchemy’s HEART program, which stands for “Homeless Engagement Assistance Response Team” is a community-based public safety initiative designed to respond to non-emergency situations involving homeless individuals, often by deploying practitioners with lived experience of homelessness to de-escalate situations and connect people to necessary resources; essentially acting as an alternative to police intervention in such scenarios. Rather than aggressively combating homelessness, the program prioritizes compassion and understanding to connect with people in crisis on a deeper level.
Dr. Lena Miller shares: “Our strength in rapid implementation came from the prison experience, from people having structure and knowing how to work together. We have transferable skills, meaning that you don’t have to throw away your past, you don’t have to be ashamed of it, or pretend it didn’t happen. Everything that happened to you made you who you are today. In prison, structure keeps you alive.”
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“I have been evangelizing to everybody who will listen, and we are working on this, I believe that the social services system is outdated, it is a 40- to 50-year-old model that no longer works particularly when it comes to homelessness, that the shelter model is outdated, it no longer works, and that what we need to have are healing and recovery centers.” – Dr. Lena Miller
Whether we are born into wealth or despair, within every soul’s vessel rests an unrealized purpose that, as actualized through selfless service, becomes our life’s greatest affair. To realize one’s eternal
mission is the greatest experience; to bestow this gift marks the characteristics of true leadership. Guiding souls out of their darkness, wayshowers establish a path for salvation through spiritual empowerment. Illuminating the demonic cords of spiritual enslavement, flamebearers awaken higher sense within the blind-hearted, inspiring the alchemical transformation through the embodiment of ancient spiritual wisdom for the healing astral light to liberate their anchored perspectives.
Those whose hearts are pure serve as a portal through which others can soar, to pierce the veil and sense beyond their sickness and behold the glory of their true condition, their true wealth as the Lord’s golden cherubim. “There’s a way we can all do better and it’s out there, it’s no longer a secret. I asked myself all the time ‘Why are they so disrespectful, so greedy and so ugly about things?’ It’s bad, we shouldn’t be doing stuff like this. There are better ways to do things, and I do not know why we are not doing a better job. The alarm has been sounding for a long time. Treat people with respect, when people have been affected by trauma, don’t scare them more or yell at them; be kind, be patient, make their surroundings beautiful,” shares Miller.
Righteousness is contagious. Dr. Rupert Sheldrake introduced the concept of morphogenic fields to describe the gravitational, electromagnetic, and quantum matter fields that emanate from every cell, organ, and organism. These fields are interconnected across all space and time, all sentient creation. Through acts of kindness, love and compassion, the genetic cellular structure of humanity rises across the fields of the Earth, creating ripples across space-time. This resonant field activates our genetic expression, including collective thought fields, even
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across the fluid structure of time. This field, which many feel as their calling, resonates through the senses, permeating through dense matter to gradually shift structures. As one steps forward, many shall be called to follow.
Ancient civilizations harnessed this field of consciousness that runs through the Earth’s ley lines as power generators and consciousness field amplifiers, witnessed in the remnants of ancient temple and pyramid sites, which were also in alignment with the celestial consciousness of the star system, channeling divine cosmic frequencies into the Earth’s planetary intelligence. As our etheric spirit emerges from the carbon structure of our form, we connect with this rich resource of power, wisdom, consciousness – the planetary kundalini shakti - that flows throughout
time as a rainbow river of cosmic light, evolving with the universal orchestration of life.
Through valiancy and righteousness, as we attune to this field, not only do we heal, we evolve, not only within ourselves, but across our ancestral lineages and across the planetary kingdoms. The further we transgress from the source of Universal unity, the more powerful the calling draws us, creating emotional and mentality calamity until we tear down the walls between us, clearing the resistance for the force to work through us.
Will we learn how to carry ourselves? Will we remember the teachings stored within our flesh? Will we harness the power we stand on to serve those who cannot yet behold their worth to witness
the glory of an illumined Earth? As hearts unite, invisible walls dissolve. As the will to serve is realized, the force within creates through our eyes. For more information on Urban Alchemy visit: https:// urban-alchemy.us
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SIX QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF - AND ANSWER TRUTHFULLY -AS WE CLOSE OUT 2024
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AS THE YEAR 2024 COMES TO AN END, THIS IS THE TIME WHEN WE LOOK TOWARD 2025 AND WHAT WE WANT TO ACCOMPLISH. HAVING AMBITIONS AND GOALS IS A FANTASTIC WAY TO ENHANCE MOTIVATION, TO PROVIDE DIRECTION, AND ALLOWS YOU TO START THE NEW YEAR OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT.
However, we often overlook the past in our attempt to set ourselves up for the future. In order to build a strong 2025, you must look back on what happened during 2024 so that you do not make the same mistakes and that you carry over any momentum that you gained during the year.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
Below are several reflection questions
that I ask myself at the end of every year to help me wrap up the last 365 days and prepare me for the upcoming 365. There is not a right or wrong way to answer each question; nor is there a specific order you have to go in, the intent is to get your mind thinking and to develop a deeper understanding of who you are and how you operate.
What am I grateful happened this year?
I am grateful that I had the ability to travel and experience a variety of different areas. This year I was able to travel to the Cayman Islands, Nashville, and various cities within the state of Texas. I am grateful for these experiences because I have not been able to travel since becoming an adult due to financial restrictions. Being able to experience different cities, different cultures, having conversations with different individuals has open my eyes to how fun and amazing this world really is.
What hard things did I overcome this year?
Something difficult that I had to overcome this year, and I am still trying to overcome, is a variety of professional challenges. I have faced conflict in the workplace, being overwhelmed with posting personal content on social me-
dia, and making progress in the consulting world, I have yet to find an effective way to manage these challenges. While I am better at managing my schedule and having conversations when faced with conflict, this is an area that will always be a work in progress.
What do I need to start doing?
I would like to start building social connections within my community. Not necessarily to build my business, which would be great, but to have people a part of my support system that are local. I have a great support system back home in California, but it has been difficult to establish a support system moving to a new city that is in the middle of nowhere. Enhancing social connection will allow me to enjoy my area a little bit more and open me up to new experiences.
What do I need to stop doing?
I need to stop giving into desires, specifically with nutrition. Before I moved to Texas, I went on a six month nutrition plan that helped me lose 30 pounds and feeling the best I have felt in the last 15 years. Over the last year, it has been hard to remain consistent with my nutrition because I give in to the temptation of sweets or any indulgent
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of delicious foods. Moderation is fine, but when it is closer to the norm, that is when things need to change. One thing that could help is setting reminders on my phone or in my kitchen that remind me of what I want to get back to.
What do I need to keep doing?
I need to keep experiencing life. What keeps me going is knowing I have a trip right around the corner or that there is some event that I can go to. I believe that life is about experiences and enjoying your time while you are here, so that is what I am going to keep doing. Whether that be taking weekend trips to nearby cities and states, trying out new restaurants or food festivals, or attending nearby sporting events, taking time for myself and enjoying new things is going to give me the motivation I need to keep
going.
What’s one thing I can do to get 1% better every day?
One thing I can do every day is getting back into the practice of journaling and gratitude. This is something I did a couple years ago, but it has fallen off since I moved to Texas. Practicing gratitude allows me to identify the good things that are happening in my life, when it is so easy to focus on the things that are not going great, and journaling provides me an outlet to get my thoughts out of my brain and onto a piece of paper.
The key with answering these questions is to provide some detail because that is where the learning happens. I can say what I am grateful for, what challenges I overcame, what behaviors I want to
change or carry with me into the new year, but if I do not understand why those things happened, how I am going to make those changes, or what those changes are going to do for me, then I am going to be less likely to make those changes.
FINAL THOUGHTS
While setting goals is important, it should not be done without self-reflection. Self-reflection allows you to build awareness on what strategies worked for you, what strategies do not work for you, and allows you to learn about yourself as a person. All of this information can be used to help propel you forward in the upcoming year. So before you set your goals, take the time and self-reflect so you can build a better future.
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Perfection in every detail. Pour l'éternité.