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Welcome to your new look en MAGAZINE Over the Christmas break the team at EN Magazine have been busy creating a new look and layout for the magazine. We hope you like what we have done and would like your feed back, both positive and negative.

We have also introduced a new section in this issue ‘The End’. Here we give readers the opportunity to have their say about something which they want to get off their chest.

We hope you enjoy reading the feature and please feel free to contribute. Look out for more new features that we have planned in 2013.

Also in this issue we have articles which we hope will give you inspiration for Valentine’s Day, keeping to your New Years Resolutions, as well as news and events from the local area.

I hope that you enjoy reading this issue of EN Magazine. Please do not hesitate to get in touch with me if you have any comments on the redesign or content at dal@enmagazine.co.uk Kind regards

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Contents

Page 4 - Local News and Events

Page 12 - Legal Page - Preparing for a life together

Page 14 - Valentines - Gift ideas for your loved one

Page 17 - Health and Fitness - sticking with your resolutions

Page 19 - Showtime, What’s On and Classified Adverts

Page 23 - The End - Politeness !!!!

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We were the only girl band and trio to rank.

This feeling is absolutely fantastic. Out of 10,000 people to apply we were the top girl band. We also won an ‘exposure award’ which we were so grateful for. It goes to show hard work pays off, as we won £500 worth of studio time.”

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“The whole experience was amazing. We feel like one of our dreams have come true as a band.

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In the last few issue of EN magazine we have been following the experiences of local girl group ‘Ellamore’ as they made their way to the finals on the nationwide Open Mic 2012 competition.

So that in itself was such an amazing achievement from the competition.”

“The day was very nerve racking but so exciting at the same time. We had rehearsed and prepared as much as we could so it was down to our performance on the day.

We feel it went well and all our family and friends that came to support us, which was around 150, were all so proud. Most of them wearing a t-shirt with us on the front.”

month. The competition has opened so many doors and has heightened our exposure and support.

We have many exciting things in the pipe line, one of which could take us to America. We are so excited.”

“We are so grateful for all those that have supported and voted for us.”

Local News and Events

World ‘Standard Hard Bat’ Junior Champion Whilst many of us were reliving London 2012 in front of our televisions over Christmas, 11 year old Sam Wilson was adding to Ellenborough Table Tennis Club list of titles as he was crowned World ‘Standard Hard Bat’ Junior Champion at the WUTTU’s World Hard Bat Championships held in Hilversum, the Netherlands, on Saturday 29th December.

The format of the Hard Bat championships means that instead of playing with modern reverse rubber bats, each player is given a traditional hard bat. Not only does this mean all players compete on a level playing field, but it leads to longer rallies. This format was also used at Alexander Palace recently at an event televised by Sky Sports.

Unperturbed by a gruelling fifteen hour journey via Liverpool Street, Harwich and the Hook of Holland on the Friday, on Saturday Sam put on a fantastic display of table tennis which culminated in him beating 16 year old Brian Bakker (from the Netherlands), who he lost to in the group stage by two games to nil.

When asked for his reaction, Ellenborough TTC’s chairman, Keith Willaims said: “Everyone at the club is delighted at Sam’s world title . The junior event is open to any boy under 18 and Sam is only 11. Playing hard bat competitions is part of Sam’s many hours of purposeful practice.�

Williams went on to explain that “Sam was inspired

by London 2012 and particularly by the South Korean defender Joo See Hyuk.

He is enjoying his table tennis and we are confident that this world title will be a stepping stone in Sam’s journey to the top of the modern game. He certainly has all the ingredients to succeed. There is a tangible Olympic legacy at Ellenborough TTC�.

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Local News and Events

New local New Enfield Life website and apps Exhibition Following a year of phenomenal growth as a social community networking organisation on Facebook and Twitter, Emma Rigby and Love Your Doorstep have launched a new website, along with an iphone and Android application software.

It is now even easier for businesses and the local community to come together to celebrate all that the London Borough of Enfield has to offer in local services, shopping, events, food, going out and much more.

Emma Rigby, Founder and Director, said: “Following the trauma we all suffered after Enfield Town and Edmonton were devastated by the riots, I launched Love Your Doorstep. Since the launch, on social media sites Facebook and Twitter, I have seen the group help to rebuild and strengthen the best aspects of localism and

community spirit in the Borough.

“Love Your Doorstep has spread through Enfield simply by word-of-mouth recommendations.

People love being part of an interconnected local community network.

In fact, members of our Facebook group frequently help out strangers they haven’t even met before!

“Following the huge success of Love Your Doorstep in Enfield, we have set up Facebook groups in Haringey, Barnet, Islington and Hackney. There are also plans to launch individual websites to cover these London Boroughs. We think that there is a growing demand from Londoners to have easy and convenient access to an interactive directory of their local independent businesses.”

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Enfield Museum has doubled in size with the addition of the new, ‘Enfield Life’ gallery on the first floor of the Dugdale Centre.

Enfield Life is the first permanent, local history exhibition in Enfield and tells the story of the people who have lived and worked in Enfield, who have helped to shape the borough and in turn, have been shaped by it.

It covers the three old boroughs of Edmonton, Enfield and Southgate that now make up the current London Borough of Enfield and uses a mixture of artefacts, images and room sets to tell the

story of the area. The story of the area is told both chronologically, from the prehistory of the area to the present day, and through themes such as aristocratic life, suburbanisation, agriculture and industry. It is complemented by an art gallery called ‘People and Places’ where, on display are a large selection of works of art - paintings, drawings, photographs and prints - that feature places in the borough and people who are linked to the locality.

A rare pencil drawing by world famous artist John Constable, one of England’s most famous

Local News and Events landscape artists, is just one of the exhibits. The fascinating artwork, which is 217 years old and depicts a rural scene drawn in the style of a theatrical arch was previously stored at Forty Hall, after being purchased in the 80s. The piece is an early and unusual example of Constable’s work and was thought to have been completed when the artist was visiting his uncle in Edmonton . It is signed by Constable and dated 1796, a date when it is known that the artist was in the area.

The exhibition is also adjacent to the Local Studies Library and archive so that visitors who have further queries about the locality or who wish to do their own research are handily placed to do so. There have been many books and papers published over the years by local experts that examine the history of the area in much greater detail. These, along with a rich archival collection,

can be consulted in the Local Studies Library and Archive on this floor. In response to the development of the first floor, Local Studies now have new opening hours of 9.30am-5pm MondayFriday.

‘Enfield Life’ also complements the Museum exhibition area on the ground floor of the Dugdale, which will continue to put on a series of temporary exhibitions on local themes. The current exhibition, which runs until 24th February, is ‘Our Sporting Life’ that looks at sports and sports clubs in Enfield and the 3 Olympic games held in London and includes material from the 1948 London Olympics and recently acquired material from 2012.

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Local News and Events

Catching up with our Competition Winner Last September EN magazine ran a competition with local plumbing company Associated Response to give away and install a brand new combi boiler from Vaillant. We went along to meet up with the winner, Ms Lee to find out how the installation of the boiler had gone.

“It was last September when I was reading a copy of this magazine, EN Magazine, that I came across a competition to win a new combi bolier. I am sure like most people,

I do not usually enter competitions, as I never win, but I knew that my boiler was getting on a bit and I did like the idea of having hot water whenever I want, rather than having to wait for the tank to heat up, so I gave it a go.”

“So it was a very pleasant shock when in October I got a call from Hugh Doyle from Associated Response to tell me that my name had been drawn from the back of his motor bike and I had won!”

“Hugh came round to my flat to see what system

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I currently had and to advise me on the type of boiler they could install.

Then a week later his team turned up to install my new combi boiler.”

“I have to say how good they where, from laying dust sheets throughout my property to protect my carpets and work surfaces. This was done with out any prompting from me. Throughout the day they kept me informed of the progress, in fact I hardly noticed they were their and was able to sit and watch some TV while they were working away in the other room. The guys proceeded to take away the old boiler and tanks from the loft, great I thought, extra storage space, a benefit I had not thought of until I took a peek at the space they had created. One thing that I had not expected was the state of the inside of the water tank, that was full of lime scale and dirt. Hugh told me this was normal as we live in hard water area, but with the new system the water comes straight from the mains.

He also said he had seen a lot worse even finding skeletons of animals in the system before ..Uck.” “By the end of the day I had a brand new boiler installed with hot water, almost instantly, and cold water that had not been sitting in a tank!”

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“I have now been living with my new boiler for a few months including the recent cold spell and snow. I have really enjoyed the fact that I have had hot water whenever I want it. I can now come in from the cold and have a hot shower to warm up without having to wait for the tank to warm up. It may seem a bit

indulgent but coming in on a cold day its lovely.

I have also noticed that since the new boiler was installed the water pressure in my shower is a lot stronger. Hugh had mentioned I would see an improvement but I did not realise how much I would notice it. As for the central heating unit the system is simple to use.

The remote control timing system is simple to set up for heating to come on each morning and evening and if I want a boost, at the twist of a dial I am soon sitting in warmth and comfort.

I am really glad that I took the time to enter the competition in EN Magazine and would like to say a big warm thank you to the magazine, Hugh and his team at Associated Response and Vaillant.

I will be looking out for more competitions to enter in the future!

Look out for your chance to be a winner with more EN Magazine competitions coming in 2013.

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Local News and Events

Planning for Enough Room to Live Residents in Hertsmere are encouraged to have their say on new guidelines which determine how a range of future developments are assessed.

Hertsmere Borough Council has updated Part D of its Planning and Design Guide, which deals with guidelines on planning and design for a range of developments from single houses to large-scale building work in the borough.

Among the revised guidelines are minimum internal space dimensions for residential properties to ensure people have enough room inside their homes to live, work, study and relax, and clarification on the standards that garden land developments have to meet.

There is also updated guidance aimed at protecting people’s privacy, their right to light and the outlook from their homes, and ensuring people living in flats or maisonettes have access to enough private green space.

Residents have until 5pm Friday 8 March to comment on the changes.

The revised document, along with people’s comments, will be presented to the council’s executive committee later this year.

Councillor Dr Harvey Cohen, Portfolio Holder for Planning and Localism, said: “We are constantly trying to strike a balance between the growing need for decent homes in the borough, and the need to protect the character of Hertsmere’s towns and villages, and the Green Belt.

“These proposed changes to this part of the council’s Planning and Design Guide will help us achieve that difficult balance.”

“It spells out exactly what we would like to see from developers to ensure that people have enough space within and outside their homes, and that they have enough light, privacy and a decent outlook.”

“We welcome people’s comments on these changes in this document, which helps us as a council review and assess all planning applications in the borough.”

Copies of the guide are available to view at the Civic Offices in Elstree Way, Borehamwood, the area offices in Potters Bar and local libraries. It can also be downloaded from Hertsmere Council website www.hertsmere. gov.uk/

Comments can be emailed to local.plan@hertsmere. gov.uk or by writing to Planning Policy, Hertsmere Borough Council, Civic Offices, Elstree Way, Borehamwood, WD6 1WA.

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How Much Is Your Financial Advice is Going To Cost A financial adviser can help you make the most of your money but you need to be confident you are getting advice that is right for you.

(RDR) and took effect on 31 December 2012 - but what has actually changed?

To help make sure this happens the Financial Services Authority (FSA) have implemented new rules on how advice is paid for. EN Magazine investigates what these are and how they affect you.

Advice has never been free. If you received financial advice before these changes you were probably paying commission to your adviser. Commission was usually a percentage of your investment – typically 1% to 8%, or sometimes more on a lump sum. So for an investment of £10,000, your adviser could have

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However you pay for advice, your adviser should set out the charges in a clear and transparent way and make sure you understand how much you are paying. You can even negotiate with the adviser on the amount you pay depending on your advice needs.

The trouble with commission was the potential for advisers to be influenced by what they would receive for recommending a particular product or using a certain provider.

For example, if one investment plan paid commission of 5% some advisers might have been tempted to recommend that over one that paid them just 2%.

Instead of the adviser being paid commission, they now have to explain to you how much advice will cost and together you will agree how you will pay for it.

This can be a set fee paid upfront or you may be able to agree with your adviser that they can take their fee from the sum you invest.

This could be charged as: - an hourly rate; - a set fee according to the work involved; - a monthly retainer; - a percentage of the money invested.

This way you know exactly what you are paying and that the advice you receive is not influenced by how much your adviser could earn from the investment.

Your adviser may accept payment in installments if you have a regular contribution contract with them, but this is not allowed with lump sum investments.

The amount you owe could be paid upfront or you may be able to agree with your adviser that they can take it from the sum you invest. The fee

Fees may vary from adviser to adviser, depending on their qualifications and location, so it may be worth shopping around, if you can, to compare fees and confirm the cost before you see an adviser.

The changes mean you can be sure the advice you receive will not be influenced by how much the adviser could earn from the investment.

Know what you are paying for

Financial advisers can either advise you on all products that may be right for you or focus on certain areas, such as pensions.

Following the changes, financial advisers that provide ‘independent’ advice now have to consider all types of investment areas. They can also consider products from all firms across the market.

An adviser that has chosen to offer ‘restricted’ advice can only consider certain products, product providers or both.

Your adviser has to clearly explain what they can advise you on.

Financial advisers now have to offer either ‘independent’

Local News and Events or ‘restricted’ advice and explain what this means for you. Find out what you can expect from independent and restricted advisers and some key differences between them.

might be something like pensions, meaning the adviser will be able to recommend products from all providers that operate in this market.

But what are the key differences between independent and restricted advice?

Whether you deal with an independent or restricted adviser, they can no longer be incentivised to recommend one product over another.

Whether your adviser offers independent or restricted advice can have a big impact on the type and range of advice they can offer.

Independent advice

Advisers that provide ‘independent’ advice are able to consider all types of retail investment products that could meet your needs and objectives.

Independent advisers can also consider products from all firms across the market.

Restricted advice

A ‘restricted’ adviser can only recommend certain products, from product providers, or both. This means they might only offer products from one company, or just one type of product.

An adviser offers restricted advice where they work with or for a product provider and only offer advice on the products that company offers.

Restricted advisers can also choose to focus on a particular market. This

Restricted firms are not allowed to use ‘independent’ to describe the advice they offer.

It should be made clear to you if you are receiving restricted advice and what that means in practice.

This means they can not be paid commission through product providers, so you are charged a fee for advice and know how much you are paying.

You get improved professional standards Some investments can be hard to understand.

So we have increased the minimum professional standards of qualification that advisers have to meet, to ensure their knowledge is up to date.

What should you do now?

Next time you see your adviser you should ask how much you have been paying for their advice and how much that same advice now costs.

They should also be able to explain how the changes to the way you get and pay for financial advice affect you, and whether they offer independent or restricted advice. for further information speak to you financial advisor or visit www.fsa. gov.uk

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Valentine’s Day can lead to a lifetime of love An engagement or a wedding is a milestone in a person’s life. The start of a new era.

Planning for a wedding can take as long as you like, a few weeks to a few years depending on the grandeur of the occasion and the desires of the couple. A commitment to live together whether in matrimony, civil partnership, a long term engagement or a mutual commitment to each other also has legal implications and consequences. It is just as important to sort out where you are going to live and property ownership as it is to plan the colour schemes and place settings.

It’s not all chocolates and roses!

Often, one or both of the couple already own a property before meeting or living together. Additionally you may have an established career or savings or have received an inheritance. It is possible to protect those pre-owned assets by entering into a Pre-nuptial agreement.

Currently under UK Law each case of a Pre-nuptial agreement is decided individually. The following are the criteria currently taken into consideration; so long as each party has had independent legal advice, they have given to each other through their solicitors full details of their financial circumstances, the agreement was entered into freely and a reasonable time before the ceremony plus nothing significant has occurred which cannot be ignored or was not taken into account in the agreement, such as a birth of a child or receipt of an unexpected windfall, the court may be willing to uphold that pre-nuptial agreement.

Such agreements are more likely to be upheld after the break down of a short marriage rather than a long one but only time will tell as the acceptance of pre-nuptial agreements in English courts is relatively recent. The legal costs in preparing an agreement are far less than the average cost of a wedding.

If there isn’t going to be a legal ceremony the start of living together can be heralded by a Cohabitation Agreement clearly setting out the arrangements for property ownership and the other assets, such as, savings and investments. It can also set out how each person will contribute towards the payment of the mortgage and the bills and how the property and assets will be divided on a separation.

An agreement concerning the ownership of property can be recorded in a Trust Deed. This can apply to a situation where a property is owned in one person’s name and the other has contributed towards the purchase by paying some or all of the deposit but is not going to be on the title deeds. This can be because they already own a property with a mortgage or they have a poor credit rating or do not earn enough to get on the mortgage. The Deed records the contributions towards the property and who will be responsible for the payment of the mortgage and sets out how the proceeds will be divided on a sale. A Trust Deed can be set up for a property that is already owned and one person is moving in or for a joint venture whether the property is bought in joint names or in just one name. A jointly owned property does not have to be owned equally and where there are unequal contributions towards the purchase of a jointly owned property the Trust Deed will state the shares each owner has. A property can be registered in the names of up to 4 people.

A Helping Hand

Mediation can be used to help in reaching the terms of a Pre-Nuptial agreement. Mediation is where the couple meets with an impartial solicitor to help them reach an

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agreement. All the negotiations are confidential and if an agreement is reached it is not binding until it is recorded in a Pre-Nuptial agreement. Agreeing terms in mediation can be far quicker and cheaper than using a solicitor.

Another option is to use a Collaborative lawyer to help reach an agreement. The couple each appoint a Collaboratively Trained lawyer to help them in a series of meetings between the couple and their lawyer s and they help each other to come to an agreement.

The traditional route is using a solicitor to assist in the negotiations and the exchange of information. After mediation the agreement will have to be prepared by a solicitor.

Whilst love is in the air and you are floating on clouds it seems very unromantic to be thinking about sorting out property ownership and wills. It is. But it is sensible. Unfortunately, it is a fact that half of marriages currently end in divorce and with more and more couples choosing not to enter into a legal ceremony the importance of recording your intentions at the start of a relationship cannot be over stated. A new relationship can be embarked upon at any time in our lives so just because it is the first time round doesn’t mean that you have to make a mistake and ignore the advice and learn that you definitely have to do it the second time around!

You should not rely on the advice in this article but take your own advice as each person’s situation is unique.

Instructing a local solicitor will give you a personal service suited to your needs and requirements.

Antoinette Doyle of Martin Shepherd Solicitors is a Specialist Family Solicitor , Mediator and Collaborative Lawyer

Till Death do us Part

Marriage revokes a Will unless the Will is made in contemplation of marriage. Making a Will should certainly be on the To Do List of all those intending to marry or enter into a Civil Partnership.

Buying a property is another time to make a Will or update an existing one. A Will is essential if a Trust Deed is obtained as it makes sure that the property passes in accordance with the terms of the Deed. For example, David owns a property in his sole name, he has children from a previous relationship who do not live with him and he has a Trust Deed saying he owns 70% and, his new partner Nick, who is disabled and housebound, owns 30% . David and Nick both want Nick to stay in the property until he dies. If David dies first and has not made a will leaving his share of the property to Nick, David’s children will inherit their father’s share and can make Nick homeless if David dies without making a Will at all. If they had lived together for more than 2 years Nick may have a claim against David’s estate but that will mean making an expensive application to the court which will be time consuming and stressful and is a situation which could have been avoided if David had made a Will setting out his wishes.

We are a nation with a high proportion of property ownership but only 70% of the population have Wills.

It isn’t expensive to make a Will and it is worth seeking legal advice from a Solicitor who is legally qualified to give advice on wills and trusts and the tax consequences of arising on death and how they can be reduced with careful tax planning.

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Valentines

Dare to Bear (your emotions) Valentines Day is approaching, and you know what you have to do: step up to the plate and tell your loved one that you, well, love them. Of course, it’s easier for some of us than others.

The traditional British male, for instance, has a bit of a reputation for being buttoned up and not readily given to exposing his emotional side (unless he’s talking about a missed penalty at last week’s match, in which case, pass the tissues and look aside until he’s finished sobbing).

Others have no trouble expressing their feelings. Take bears, for instance. Have you noticed? They are all over the shop these days, cuddling up, looking winsome and making big lovey-dovey eyes at each other. And when I say ‘All over the shop,’ I mean it literally. Check out those Valentines cards stacked in racks in the card shops, all hearts and ribbons and bows and… bears. Bears holding hands. Bears gazing mistily into each other’s eyes. Bears cuddling up on window seats, staring out at the stars and making little, whiskery wishes. When it comes to romance, the bears have it all sewn up.

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Not that bears have exclusive dibs on the love action; mice also get a look-in. Peer at the back rows of the Valentines cards and you’ll find plenty of romantic rodents wearing floral dungarees, ambling arm-in-arm through fields of February snowdrops and whispering sweet nothings into each other’s gently quivering ears.

And then there are the hedgehogs, all rosy-cheeked and cheerful, bearing bottles of champagne and boxes of chocolates and telling their best-beloved hedgehog how much they love them. Here at EN magazine we make no claim to be David Attenborough, but even we can tell that there are entire other species out there with more successful romantic lives than some of us.

Still, Valentines Day is probably not that complicated.

You did, I hope, have a toy that you loved as a child.

Maybe it was a teddy bear. Perhaps, when you think about that teddy bear, you feel warm and happy and able to tell someone you love them. So go on, embrace your inner bear and give that someone a hug. And here are a few suggestions on other ways to express your affection this Valentine’s (and do remember, love isn’t just for Valentines Day…)

How about waking up on Valentines day and serving your loved one a cup of tea. Making tea time as romantic as can be, the tea for 2 set includes two cups and a small teapot which stack on top of each other. The teapot reads ‘we love each other’ and inside the cups are the words ‘you love me’ and ‘me love you’.

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What women can resist flowers and on Valentines Day you can not go wrong with Red Roses! But why not delight her and know that at the same time you have helped to raise some worthwhile funds for Cancer Research.

12 Red Roses from Cancer Research UK Price - £27.99 (20% goes to Cancer Research UK) www.Flowershop. cancerresearchuk.org Delivery – included in price, next day delivery available.

With the Roses sorted why not win your way into your loved ones heart with Chocolates?

Valentines Are you having a Valentines Day dilemma? Buy your girlfriend chocolate or flowers? Flowers or chocolate?

If budget is tight and you can’t afford both, BabyBlooms has the answer to your romantic prayers.

The Chocolate Flower Bouquet is priced at just £34.00 and at first sight looks like a stunning floral display but the delicate leaves and foliage are actually interspersed with chocolate flowers and delicious heart dragees. The gorgeous flower arrangement comes beautifully gift boxed in three different shades – pink, cream and stylish black.

Available exclusively from BabyBlooms www. babyblooms.co.uk Or if your looking for a more traditional chocolate treat to say I love you why not go for Guylian I Love You Hearts - Individually wrapped in luxurious golden

foil within an eye catching red box, these romantic heart shaped chocolates, filled with roasted hazelnut praline are the perfect way to say ‘I Love You’ this Valentine’s Day. The 50g box (RSP £1.49) which contains four praline filled hearts is the ideal love token, whilst the 125g heart shaped box (RSP £3.99) makes a more substantial Valentine’s Day present.

If you don’t want to join other diners celebrating at in restaurants why not create an aphrodisiac-filled feast at home this Valentine’s Day Set to get your chef on and cook up a storm in the kitchen for your other half this Valentine’s Day? You’ll need a hint of lust, a splash of romance, and probably some ingredients as well then...

We all know that using asparagus, strawberries and chocolate are tried and tested ways to stimulate your senses, but did you know that olives are equally as effective? True story; the black olive increases desire and passion in ladies, while the green variety improves the strength and energy of men.

Don’t believe us? Try it for yourself with leading olive brand, Fragata. The Spanish foodie favourite has created an aphrodisiac-filled three course dinner with an extra helping of olives - perfect for a romantic night in with your other half.

Here are the three dishes that are guaranteed to get hearts racing...

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Valentines Starter: Roasted Tomato Salad with Asparagus and Black Olives

- Aphrodisiac one: 6 garlic cloves peeled and halved.

Improving blood circulation, garlic makes erogenous zones more sensitive.

- Aphrodisiac two: 24 asparagus spears. A well-known mood-boosting food, asparagus stimulates both mind and body in both men and women.

- Aphrodisiac three: a handful of chopped, pitted black Fragata olives. Encourages energy and makes women feel more passionate.

Main: Fillet Steak with Green Olive Tapenade - Aphrodisiac four: 60g pitted green Fragata olives.

Proven to make men stronger and more energetic.

- Aphrodisiac five: 1 crushed garlic clove

Dessert: Millionaire’s Shortbread with Black Olive Caramel

- Aphrodisiac six: 100g pitted black Fragata olives Chocolate topping - Aphrodisiac seven: 200g plain chocolate. Full of moodlifting agents that cause an increase in heart rate and feelings of well being, chocolate provides feelings of euphoria associated with love.

- Aphrodisiac eight: a handful of strawberries.

Containing essential vitamins and minerals, strawberries boost libido. They’re the food of love, after all!

For the full recipes visit www.fragata.co.uk

Keeping with a Spanish theme why not try Barcelona’s finest cava producer, Codorníu’s, two limited edition bottles, especially for Valentine’s Day. The ideal gift for that someone special, these bottles of best-selling Codorníu Vintage Brut will be exclusively available in all Tesco stores.

There is a choice of two romantic designs, the Codorníu Vintage Rosado Brut which features a stunning pink design splashed with elegant pink hearts and the Codorníu Vintage Brut, which has a classic cream bottle design with sophisticated gold hearts.

So whether you are planning a romantic night in with a loved one - or simply looking for a unique Valentine’s Day gift - Codorníu’s bespoke bottles are a must-buy, guaranteed to bring extra sparkle to this 14th February.

For Her: Codorníu Vintage Rosado Brut Available exclusively at Tesco (RRP £10.49 on promotion at £6.99 from 30th January until 19th February). The perfect Valentine’s Day tipple, this vibrant cava is a delightful soft pink colour.

Oozing with strong summer flavours, this cava will bring a touch of Barcelona to your celebration.

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on promotion at £6.99 from 30th January until 19th February).

Soft, fresh and elegant, this delicate cava combines fruity flavours with a crisp, dry finish. This stylish cava can be enjoyed served chilled on its own as an aperitif, or with a selection of tapas

Or if taking your loved one out is what you have in mind to celebrate Valentine’s why not go to your local theatre.

Love is in the air at the Millfield Theatre and Dugdale Centre and to celebrate we have a whole host of events coming up to celebrate St. Valentine’s Day.

On Valentine’s Day itself, we have the perfect drama: Illusions, an exploration of the nature of true love for the older generation. Written by Ivan Viripaev, Russia’s foremost contemporary playwright, and directed by Ramin Gray, two couples look back at their lives, at roads taken and those passed by, of understandings and misunderstandings and of the dangers of voicing certain thoughts and leaving others unsaid. Illusions is at 8pm on Thursday 14th February at the Dugdale Centre, Tickets: £15 / £12 concs (Online £14 / £11 concs) After sell-out shows last year, Lover’s Rock Monologues return to the Millfield Theatre on Friday 15th and Saturday 16th February. Live on stage, three of the most important influences on the British Black Music scene perform the very best of Lover’s Rock, sure to spark fond memories for fans who first enjoyed the Lover’s Rock genre decades ago. Janet Kay, Carroll Thompson and Victor Romero Evans will share their stories of growing up, going out and hitting the dancefloor when the genre first came to be in the 70s.

The perfect evening for romantic reggae lovers. Tickets: £22.50 / £18 concs (Online £21.50 / £17 concs) Further Information: Box Office on 020 8807 6680 online at www.millfieldtheatre.co.uk or www. dugdalecentre.co.uk

Then how about ending the day snuggling up with Dreamland’s deluxe heated faux fur throw, a quirky, fun and luxury item that any woman (or man!) would love to receive on Valentine’s Day.

The throw costs from £99.95 and is available from Lakeland and John Lewis.

Health and Fitness

Keeping Resolute With Your Resolutions Imagine. You’ve decided you want to move abroad, to Australia. You tell everyone, you buy all the surfing gear, you start looking at property on the internet, and checking out flights. That’s when you discover that you need a visa. One that you don’t have.

Of course this is an exaggerated scenario, but think about it for a moment, this is how many of us deal with change. We state our goal (I’m emigrating; I’m going to lose weight), then rush headlong into a brief period of activity, before we realise we haven’t really thought it through, or worked out how to get to where we want to be. At that point we think ‘I can’t do this’, and give up.

Does this ring any bells with you? Did you start 2013 with great intentions for health and fitness but now find yourself struggling to carry on? Have you given up your diet, stopped going to the gym, already left the running group you joined and decided exercise doesn’t work for you?

At this time of the year, many thousands of people find themselves in exactly that situation. Waking up on new year’s day full of enthusiasm for what we are going to achieve this year somehow turns into selfdoubt, boredom, disappointment, embarrassment and self-loathing; the end result being that we feel we have failed, are never going to achieve our goals and we give up. Or we do the same thing next year. And the year after...... doesn’t sound great does it?

So why do we fail and what can we do to change that?

There are some key reasons why things don’t go as we had hoped.

Find your own reason for change…

One of the most important things we need to do is to understand the ‘why’ of behaviour. Your starting point has to be why you are making a change. It could be you want to lose weight or perhaps for your heart health or to reduce your risk of cancer. Perhaps you are worried about diabetes and obesity. Maybe you want more energy, or plan to run a half marathon. Perhaps you’ve had a baby and you want to lose the baby weight.

Whatever it is, it has to be genuine and personal to you and only you.

In addition, there is an enormous difference between changing behaviour out of a sense of duty or guilt and starting something new because you love the activity. Wanting to lose weight is fine, but it’s pointless spending money on a gym membership if you hate the

gym and will give up after a couple of weeks. …and chose your activity accordingly

You’ve heard it many times before, but it really is important to find something you like to do. Perhaps try an activity you used to take part in when you were younger, or something a friend does, or something you‘ve always been interested in but haven’t tried. What about the 2012 Olympics – did you see anything that you’d like to have a go at?

Make your goals SMART and personal to you.

Equally important is goal setting. ‘I want to lose weight’ I want to bulk up’ and I want to tone up’ are some of the most common health and fitness goals. But they mean totally different things to different people, and are effectively meaningless without being more specific. ‘I want bigger arms’ is great, but how will you know when you have achieved your aim? ‘I want to increase the circumference of my upper arms by 3 cms in six months’ is a much better goal. Its specific (3cms growth), measurable (by a tape measure), agreed (by yourself, or between yourself and your trainer), realistic and within a time frame.

The same goes for weight loss; choose a target weight that is realistic (plan for 1-2 kilos or 2-4 lbs. weight loss per week and no more than that) and give yourself a target time frame. Three months is long enough to make serious changes but not too far in the future that you might be tempted to think you have plenty of time and can put things off.

Make small manageable changes

‘I want to eat more healthily. I will not eat any biscuits or cake and only have one small piece of chocolate a week. I am going to cut out tea and coffee, and only drink alcohol at the weekend. I will have breakfast every day and have fruit as a snack in the morning, afternoon and evening. I will eat three vegetables with my evening meal and will not have a bedtime snack.’

Does this sound vaguely familiar? One of the main reasons we fail to make successful change is that we try to change too many things at once. Tackling several

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Health and Fitness issues together is confusing and very difficult, and usually results in failure. Instead, only change one behaviour at a time; once you have done it successfully for a week or two it will become your new behaviour and then you can move onto the next change you would like to make.

have ever made.

With exercise and activity, we often try too much too soon. Be kinder to yourself. This means that you might only do bodyweight exercises before you move onto the barbells and dumbbells. Try a low intensity class before moving onto cardio-kick or combat training.

Have a go at a 5km run before you buy a book on marathon training. If you go in all guns blazing at the start, but don’t yet have the strength or fitness to last, you’ll be forced to stop, probably think ‘I can’t do this, it hurts’ and give up. It’s very important to build up your strength and stamina gradually to avoid injury. There is no shame in starting at the beginning and working up.

• Keep an exercise log. It shows progress and reminds you that you do have time for exercise!

Start slowly and build up slowly.

You wouldn’t miss a meeting with your boss or a doctor’s appointment because you were ‘too busy’; make the same true for your workouts.

Many of us make statements such as ‘I’m going to go running once a week and to the gym twice a week. Then we find work, family, friends, household chores and many other things get in the way, and we never quite make it. The answer to this is simple - always put your planned activity in your diary and treat it like any other meeting or event. If you plan to go to the gym every Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 7am, then book it in and don’t miss it. It is incredibly helpful to see it written down, and when you treat your exercise sessions as you would work meetings or social gatherings you will find it much easier to stick to.

Find someone else to do the thinking and planning for you so that you can just get on with the doing.

Changing behaviour takes planning and lots of thought.

These take time, and aside from cost, time is cited as the biggest barrier to exercise there is. If this rings true for you, think about working with a personal trainer and nutritionist. They are trained and experienced in helping you work out what you want to achieve, and how to do it. You need a plan, but if you don’t know what healthy eating actually is, or the science behind fat loss or muscle gain, how will you even begin to design that plan?

Trainers can design programs; nutritionists can help with your eating habits, but both offer much more than just that. They provide support, motivation, knowledge, tools, tips, guidance, science, encouragement and even fun. They can review your progress, tweak and amend, deal with times when the weight loss stops, or your muscles just aren’t growing, or your energy is flagging once again. It isn’t necessarily the cheapest option, but it if works for you, and the weight stays off for good, it becomes the most value for money decision you may

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If you still need further inspiration to keep you going, here are a few more ideas to help you keep up the good work:

• Reward yourself for your achievements. Buy those fab shoes when you have stuck to your plan for six weeks!

• Find a class or an exercise buddy. If you need extra motivation to get going, another person can provide that for you. If your running buddy can get up and go, you can too!

• Plan ahead how to deal with setbacks or barriers. If you know there is something that might prevent you from exercising, have a contingency plan ready and make sure you make up the time lost.

• Write your training plan down, and write in detail how you will achieve it. This helps your brain to visualise your results, and gives you a proper road map of how to actually do what you say you are going to do!

We all know that good nutrition and exercise are vital parts of healthy living, and by following these suggestions they can become part of your healthy living too. Remember that you have probably gained weight and developed poor eating and exercise habits over many years, so don’t expect to change overnight. Small steps and manageable changes made over a period of time may not be the magic bullet that you wish for, but they are the most likely to succeed, to get you where you want to be, and to stay there.

Good luck!

Denise Chester Jan 2013

Denise studied nutrition at the Institute for Optimum nutrition, and graduated with a foundation science degree and a diploma in nutritional therapy from the University of Bedfordshire. She qualified as a personal trainer with YMCAfit and is on the Register of Exercise Professionals. For more information on Denise please visit www.bodyconpt.co.uk

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What’s On

SHOWTIME Magic of Motown

Sat 16th Feb 8.00pm Tickets: £20, £19 concs Wyllyotts Theatre Box Office: 01707 645005 This is an all-new show for 2013, packed with 36 back-to-back massive Motown hits.

Five-star performances authentically revive the style and sophistication of the Temptations, Supremes, Four Tops, Jackson 5, Stevie Wonder, Marvin Gaye, Lionel Richie and more. Starring dazzling dance moves, glittering costumes and the incredible Magic of Motown band..... the Magic of Motown will be there.

Danny has been delivered a story telling kit in a crate. All the props for the story are contained within ... or are they? Danny has to try against the odds to enact the story without making a pig’s ear of it! With his inimitable and hilarious physical comedy, circus skills and sheer pig-headedness, join Danny as he recounts the curly tale in true pig style! The audience will squeal with delight.

Age suitability 4+ Running Time: 50mins approx

An Evening of Burlesque

Friday 8 February 8pm Millfield Theatre Tickets: £20 (Online £19) Prepare for an enchanting evening of mischief, magic, music, frivolity and fun as Britain’s biggest burlesque spectacular direct from the West End comes to Edmonton. Burlesque all-stars invite you to immerse yourself in vintage eras of elegance, glamour and glitz. Sultry vocals, couture costumes, mesmerising fan dances and breathtaking choreography collide in a stunning kaleidoscope of the best of burlesque. Wickedly witty and stunningly sensuous in equal measure, an all-new cast and all-new production is presented for your delectation. Treat yourself to a ticket! AGE RESTRICTION: 18+ Box Office: 020 8807 6680 or visit www. millfieldtheatre.co.uk

Three Little Pigs - Circo Ridiculoso

Thursday 21 February 2pm Dugdale Centre Tickets: £6 (Online £5) An innovative re-telling of the classic Three Little Pigs.

The Pied Piper of Hamlin

Friday 22nd and Staurday 23 Feb Shows at 11am, 1pm 3pm Skewbald return to the Dugdale Centre with another of their popular interactive storytelling adventures for young audiences and their families.

When a mischief of ravenous rats run roit in the sleepy town of Hamelin nobody knows

what to do!

Luckily a strolling ministrel with a magic pipe agrees to help, but at what price? Join us to see what happens when the Pied Piper plays his tune, the rats run, and the children dance a merry dance. Skewbald bring this fun fairytale to life using their famous blend of toe tapping music and songs, puppetry and storytelling that will keep audiences young and old entranced.

Running Time: 1 hour Tickets £7 - Online £6 To Book www.dugdalecentre.co.uk Tel: 020 8807 6680

Yolanda Brown

Thursday 14 March 8pm Millfield Theatre Tickets: £20 / £17 concs (Online £19 / £16 concs) A captivating artist, Double MOBO Award Winning Saxophonist YolanDa Brown will be returning to Millfield to wow audiences with her world-class saxophony and stunning vocals. Since her last visit to

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What’s On Millfield, YolanDa’s debut album April Showers, May Flowers reached No.1 in the iTunes and Amazon jazz chart. A first-class tenor saxophonist, YolanDa’s style is a low and soulful sound. Her tracks range from easy-listening, mellow numbers such as Dear John to up-tempo funkier tracks like Fine Line, and others, such as TokYo Sunset, with strong Reggae influences.

Box Office: 020 8807 6680 or visit www. millfieldtheatre.co.uk

Three Billy Goats Gruff

Sun 24th Feb 11.00am Tickets: £5.50 Wyllyotts Theatre Box Office: 01707 645005 Garlic Theatre creates a magical world to entrance and delight a young audience. With puppets, live music, storytelling and singing. Running time 40 mins. Ideal for age 3 – 6 year olds.

Cleo Laine and

Friends

Wednesday 6 March 8pm Millfield Theatre Tickets: £26 (Online £25) Jazz legend Cleo Laine comes to Millfield Theatre for one thrilling night of musical excellence.

Dame Cleo Laine is the only female performer to have received Grammy nominations in the jazz, popular and classical music categories. With a multi-octave voice, incredible scatting ability, and ease of transition from a throaty whisper to high-pitched trills, she is still the first lady of Jazz. Her prolific career has seen her play all over the world from English dance halls to London’s Royal Albert Hall, Carnegie to the Blue Note Cafe.

Cleo’s records continue to be distributed worldwide. Her Woman to Woman album merited “five stars out of a possible four” according to the US magazine Jazz Times. An Evening with Cleo Laine and Friends is a must-see

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for all lovers of live music, quality jazz and world-class entertainment.

Box Office: 020 8807 6680 or visit www. millfieldtheatre.co.uk

Anything Goes

Local musical theatre society the Finchley and Friern Barnet Operatic Society are it once again with their forthcoming production of the Cole Porter classic ‘Anything Goes’. Set aboard an American ocean liner on its way to London, the show tells the story of nightclub singer Reno Sweeney whose world is turned upside down when Wall Street broker Billy Crocker comes back into her life after sneaking himself upon the liner. A romantic comedy full of farce and mistaken identity, the show contains classic well known songs such as “DeLovely”, “I Get A Kick Out Of You” and of course the title song “Anything Goes”.. Certain to be a hugely enjoyable evening of family fun, the society will being making it’s maiden voyage when the show sets sail for the Intimate Theatre in Palmers Green on Green Lanes from the 5th of March to the 9th of March. For this show, they cast have been out amongst the community spreading the word about ‘Anything Goes’ with a number of members recently at ASDA Southgate shopping centre assisting local shoppers whilst also raising funds for the Ruth Winston over 50s centre in Palmers Green.

FFBOS presents Anything Goes at the Intimate Theatre, Palmers Green, N13 4DH. Performances at 7.30pm with Saturday matinee at 2.45pm. To buy tickets call 020 8482 6923 or online at www.ticketsource.co.uk/ffbos

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N21 Film Festival ‘Some Like It Hot’ Saturday 9th February at 7.30pm, comedy classic (PG) sees Tony Curtis and Jack Lemmon star as two jazz musicians who join an allfemale band to escape the mob, then both fall for the beautiful lead singer, played by Marilyn Monroe. The event is kindly sponsored by Vic Smith Beds, and all proceeds will go to the Samaritans.

students, unemployed), available at www.aroundthecorner. eventbrite.co.uk, or at Hunters Newsagents, 2 The Green, N21 1AY. Enfield Chamber Orchestra Conductor: Martin Smith Leader: Sarah Colley Saturday 2nd March at 7.30 pm Beethoven- Symphony No. 7 Weber - Bassoon Concerto (Soloist: Joshua Wilson) Schubert: Incidental Music from “Rosamunde” United Reformed Church, Fox Lane, Palmers Green, London N13 4AL Tickets: £11; concessions £9; children under 16 free Available on the door or tel. 020 8360 4980

A Song of Two Humans’ (U) on Wednesday 13th February at 7.30pm, with live, improvised piano accompaniment from BFI silent film pianist Costas Fotopoulos, and introduced

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in A minor; “Scottish”. Along the way they play the Scottishinfluenced world première of local composer, Roderick Elmer: ‘Scherzo, The Uistman who couldn’t tell a story’. The concert takes place 7:30pm on 24 November 2012 at Southgate Methodist Church, The Bourne, Southgate, London, N14 6RS. Tickets cost £12 and £10 (concessions) with £1 off all tickets purchased at least 1 week in advance; children under 16 pay a flat fee of £5. Tickets can be purchased from www. southgatesymphony.co.uk or by calling 020 8363 9029.

The Battle of Barnet: a guided walk. February 24th 11am Meet at junction of Great North Rd and Hadley Green Rd. 020 8440 6805 www.barnetwalks.talktalk. net High Barnet Ghost Walk.

March 9th 7.30pm Meet at High Barnet tube station. 020 8440 6805 www.barnetwalks.talktalk. net

Regular Events and Clubs

Enfield & District Fuchsia Society Now in our 45th year.

Meet at Capel Manor, Bullsmoor Lane, Enfield. 2nd & 3rd Wednesdays of each month 7-45 - 9-45 pm. Demonstrations, talks, advice, regular speakers.

Beginners warmly welcomed.

Free entry to our show, in July.

Christmas party in December.

For further information tel: Roy Fenwick 020 8292 6965 orMark Mendes 020 8368 6670 Enfield National Trust Association meet twice monthly, one afternoon at Holtwhites Sports & Social Club and one evening at either Enfield Grammar School or Enfield County School, Holly Walk, Enfield. We have summer outings, London outings, concert & theatre outings as well as lectures.Please ring Peter on 020 8363 1568 for details.

Enfield RSPB meet once a month at St Andrew’s Church

Do you need space for your pilates and yoga groups, bridge clubs, social groups, private functions?

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Gold Table has been helping its members achieve greater business success for over 4 years. Founded by a small group of professionals & skilled trades people, on the ideals of reciprocity. If you are looking to maximise your business potential and are willing to share your expertise with other local businesses then Gold Table is for you. It is low cost; all fees paid are ploughed back into group; high value.

Why not come and see what we can do together and join us every Wednesday at Enfield Golf Club before your working day?

For further info contact: Andrew Ryde on 020 8366 3551 or visit www.goldtable.co.uk

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What’s On Hall, Silver Street, Enfield @ 7.45pm for lectures, quiz evenings, etc & have monthly mid week walks, coach outings & two “birding” holidays a year.

Check our website; rspb.org. uk/groups/enfield/news or ring Pauline on 020 8363 1568

Cuffley Floral Art Club We are a friendly flower arranging club meeting every 2nd Tuesday in the month (except January and August) at Cuffley Hall, Maynards Place from 8pm-10pm. Doors open from 7pm, visitors always welcome. For more information ring Jackie 020 8441 3663 or Val 01707 889447

Enfield Woodcarving Club meets every Tuesday evening 7.30 to 9.30pm in the technology room at Chace Community School, Churchbury Lane EN1

3HQ. Please join us! Beginners welcome. Ring George 0208 363 2529 or Paul 0208 363 9223

Oakmere Bridge Club Held at Wyllyotts Centre, Darkes Lane Potters Bar every Monday, 7.30 p.m. to 10 p.m. We are a small friendly club and would welcome new members. We have vacancies for improvers and intermediate players We play Chicago Bridge. Interested?

Then contact either:Janet (on 01707 651461 Eleanor on 01707 650376 Charles on 0208 449 8448

Potters Bar Film Makers Wyllotts Centre, Potters Bar Alternate Thursdays 8.00pm Contact Penny 01707 656446 or John 01707 872210 www.pottersbarfilmmakers.com for amateur cinematographers.

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Useful Contact Numbers

Enfield Borough Police Crime Prevention Office Crimestoppers Neighbourhood Watch Anti Terrorist Hotline Hertfordshire Police

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filming techniques, competition evenings, social functions

Grange Park (Evening) W. I. would love you to come and join us at 7.30pm on the first Monday of every month at The Orchard Room Grange Park Methodist, Church Old Park Ridings, Grange Park N.21, when we have a speaker or a quiz and make bookings for social events such as theatre outings etc. If you are interested please phone Jan Barker on 0208 367 0988.

Enfield Camera Club meets at Trinity Church Hall Thursday evenings at 8 pm. New members are always welcome.

Alternatively they can contact the club through the website www.enfieldcameraclub. co.uk or email to mail@ enfieldcameraclub.co.uk. The subscriptioin rate is £32 for the full season - Visitors are asked to pay a £1 visitor’s fee, The Rotary Club of Enfield Chase Meets on Thursday mornings from 7.30am until 8.30 am in the Coffee Lounge, Enfield Baptist Church, Cecil Road, Enfield Town. For more information call 020 8366 4046

Dance Classes

Latin and Ballroom Combining the elegance of Ballroom with the dynamic Latin American dances these nice ‘n’ easy fun introductory classes will ease even the most hesitant first-time dancer floor with confidence. WEDNESDAYS 8:00 – 8:45 Improvers/Intermediate Class8:45 – 9:30 Beginners Class 9:30 – 10:15 Social Dancing for all levels St Thomas’ Hall 79a Prince George Avenue Oakwood N14 4SN Car park is at the rear of the building. Call 07960 736925 for details Winchmore Folk Dance Club meets every Tuesday morning in term time in the lower hall at Grange Park Methodist Church N21 2EU between 10am and 12 noon to enjoy English Country Dancing. Led by experienced callers, dances range from the 17th Century until modern times. Each session costs £2.50 which includes refreshments.

Beginners welcome. For more information contact John Wood on 020 8926 7293

Got an Opinion?

Get it off your chest here

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Oi you! Yeah, you, plonker. Read this; it’s about your manners. Yes, I’m talking to you Miss Carry-on-withyour-ever-so-important-mobile-conversation while being served by a shop assistant. And you, Mr Revving-your-car-aggressively behind a learner driver. Young Mr Spitting-like-a-footballer-as-you-walk-down-the-street and Miss Using-your-pram-as-a-weapon-in-the-shop? This is for both of you, too.

In fact, I’m talking to everyone, myself included.

Here’s the thing: the deterioration in consideration for others has gone epidemic. And no-one is immune. Just look at the papers. Sixty-year-olds are getting ‘trolleyed’ in M&S aisles. That is to say, having their hips and wrists broken by being struck by a wheeled, wire and plastic grocery-carrying battering ram while they do their shopping. (Don’t worry though, you’re safe. The 30-year-old ‘grown-up’ responsible has been arrested.)

And then there’s ‘Plebgate’. Leaving aside whether the word ‘pleb’ was ever actually used, we still have the small matter of a grown man, educated (probably), intelligent (presumably) and rational (possibly) admitting to swearily ‘losing it’ with some diplomatic coppers because they wouldn’t let him leave Downing Street by the gate of his choice. They forced him to use the one next to it! Forget the politics. Just concentrate on the politesse.

But rudeness isn’t just in the media. It’s everywhere.

It’s there in the way we all try to shut out the rest of the world, as if by making sure we can’t see or hear it, it ceases to exist. As soon as the earphones go in, the lights go out and no-one’s home.

It’s also there when we get into our cars. Modern engines purr on the inside, even as they growl outside.

Well-engineered suspension smothers every minor obstruction, which lets us ride over the outside world, roughshod. So why should we let any other road-user, pedestrian, or petty rule-of-the-road impinge upon this portable personal paradise, with its own micro-climate and soundtrack? The gurning fury I see carved into the faces of countless drivers answers that.

Even when we’re surrounded by, or on the phone to, people we actually like the coarseness no longer stops.

Every conversation has become a right royal swear-fest.

‘King this, ‘king that and ‘king the other. The kind of language that would have made your gran blush is the lingua franca of today’s grans.

Apparently, your average Brit says ‘Sorry’ eight times a day. If that’s the average, then some folk utter almost nothing but apologies. Because plenty of people never

offer any form of contrition. Now, as I said, I’m not immune to all of this. I know that there are a number of individuals who we all encounter who are just asking for it. But, like kids, just because they ask for it doesn’t mean you should give it to them.

So let’s start a revolution. A movement based on the power of politeness, driven by high impact acts of niceness. We’ll be able to identify fellow revolutionaries simply by the way they look you in the eye, smile, and say hello. Just like we do.

The kind of language that would have made your gran blush is the lingua franca of today’s grans.

Truth is, we need manners now, more than ever. Far from being the steps to a complicated, atavistic dance, courtesy is the only way we’ll manage to get along together in this ever more hassled, chaotic and crowded country of ours.

Is this a doctrine of doormats? A cri de coeur for turnthe-other-cheekiness? No. This is a call-to-arms for me, for you, and for anyone who’s sick of seeing rudeness everywhere they look. It requires you, me, us to stand up for what is right. It also means that we can no longer hold others to standards above those we apply to ourselves. But fundamentally, it means that we have to stop looking for winners and losers in every situation.

In the new age of politeness we’ll all win together.

Are you with me?

Have you got something you want to get off your chest an opinion or just want to rant?

Then why not write it down and send it to editorial@ enmagazine.co.uk or EN Magazine, 63 High Street, Potters Bar, EN6 5AS

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