Blue Slipper Stories
Widows’ Guild Newsletter ̵ July 2020
NO LONGER ALONE: ONE WIDOW’S STORY
Dorothy’s husband, Larry, embodied the principles of Freemasonry. “He was just really nice and easy to love,” Dorothy says. “He cared about people.” After Larry passed away in 2016 of liver failure, Dorothy opted to continue receiving the quarterly “Pennsylvania Freemason” magazine. While the magazine reminded her that her husband was no longer here, it also brought her happiness to know there was still a bond among all the “good men out there.” One day, while Dorothy was casually flipping through the articles inside the latest issue, she stumbled upon information about the Masonic Outreach Program. When Larry died, Dorothy was given her blue slipper pin and became a member of the Widows Guild. She was both surprised and relieved that she was also eligible for assistance through the Masonic Outreach Program. In her early 60s, Dorothy had gotten sick and was forced to leave her job and apply for disability. Her financial situation became even less stable after Larry’s death. “I remember it was just a really bad day when I read that article,” Dorothy said. “I was praying. I went from living on both of our Social Security checks to just mine after he was gone. I was really in a lot of trouble. Honestly, I didn’t know if I’d have a home to live in or not. Financially, I was devastated.” After hearing Dorothy’s story, the Masonic Outreach Program provided her with gift cards to Walmart to help make ends meet. “The gift cards were a blessing because I could get my groceries there,” Dorothy said. “I could also get my
glasses there and use my cards to pay my insurance co-pay. It was such a relief.” When Dorothy’s heat pump went out in her home, the Masonic Outreach Program helped her pay the bill. “I’m thankful for everything the Masonic Outreach Program and Widows Guild have given me,” Dorothy said. While it’s difficult for Dorothy to travel, she looks forward to attending a Widows Guild tea in her area, or a similar event, to build relationships with other women in the Guild. She also hopes her story will help others to realize it’s okay to ask for help in a time of need. It can be difficult to move on after losing a spouse, but there are ways for Masonic widows to alleviate the financial and emotional burdens that may be preventing them from properly grieving or healing from their loss. “When I get ‘Blue Slipper Stories,’ I realize I’m not the only one out there,” Dorothy said. “My husband and I had been together 24/7. It’s taken me years to discover who I am again. I didn’t have anyone really helping me until now. All you have to do is ask.” *Due to the sensitivity of this story, the widow’s name has been changed.