Commun ty Matters Fort Scott Presbyterian Village
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February 2016
Presbyterian Village’s Art is Ageless® call for entries underway Fort Scott Presbyterian Village has issued a call for entries for the Art is Ageless® juried exhibit to be held April 13 through 20, 2016. Entries of artistic works will be accepted from any area artist who is 65 years of age or older to exhibit and/or compete for an opportunity to be featured in the 2017 Art is Ageless calendar. The Art is Ageless® Program encourages Fort Scott Presbyterian Village residents and other area seniors to express their creativity through its annual competition, as well as art classes, musical and dramatic events, educational opportunities and current events discussions throughout the year.
Having a creative outlet benefits the mind, body and spirit.
“The exhibit and competition always draw a wide array of impressive artwork from talented seniors,” said Ginger Nance, executive director. “We’re expecting this to be another great year for creativity and variety of works on exhibit.”
Local competition winners will join winners from 17 other Presbyterian Manors of Mid-America communities to be judged at the system-wide level.
Entry forms and information can be picked up at Fort Scott Presbyterian
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Village, 2401 S. Horton, or by contacting Ginger Nance at 620223-5550 or gnance@pmma.org. Go to ArtIsAgeless.org to view rules, download an entry form or enter online.
Artists may choose to enter the exhibit only. For the competition, works are to have been completed in the past five years (since January 2011). There are nine categories, as well as designations of amateur or professional. Works to be entered for judging need to be at Presbyterian Village by April 13.
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Community Matters is published monthly for residents and friends of Fort Scott Presbyterian Village by Presbyterian Manors of 501(c)(3) organization. Learn more at PresbyterianManors.org. Ginger Nance, executive director To submit or suggest articles for this publication, contact gnance@pmma.org. Telephone: 620-223-5550 Fax: 620-223-7800 Address: 2401 S. Horton, Fort Scott, KS 66701 Our mission: We provide quality senior services guided by Christian values. FortScottPresbyterianVillage.org
What to do when being the caregiver is not an option
By Phyllis Quinlan There are 66 million unpaid adult family caregivers in America — 29 percent of the adult U.S. population — providing care to someone who is ill, disabled or aged, according to the National Alliance for Caregiving and AARP. Female caregivers outnumber males two to one. In 2012, female family caregivers, on average, were 48 years old, lived alone,and provided about 25 hours of care per week.
When you cannot be the caregiver
What do you do when your own health, personal and career commitments or relationship with the person in need of care leave little room for you to take on the added responsibility that comes with the role? Many struggle with this relentless internal conflict and the onslaught of negative emotions that often result in a profound sense of isolation. The comments and judgment from outsiders add to your confusion and perhaps toxic sense of self. What is called for at this crossroad is self-compassion. Surprised?You thought that I was going to suggest that you listen to your self-criticism and find a way to be available and accommodating. Actually, I want you to honor your sense of personal limits. Committing to just one more thing could invite undue hardship or risk your health and wellbeing.
Ending negative messages
Just what is self-compassion? It is responding to yourself with kindness rather than criticism. It is stopping the loop of derogatory self-talk that often takes on the tone we imagine we would
hear from some authority figure in our life. It is the extension of kindness, care, warmth and understanding toward oneself when we are faced with the reality of our human shortcomings, inadequacies, or perceived failures. Self-compassion is not self-pity and does not mean perpetuating a sense of being a victim. It offers you the sense of objectivity and control earned by being an adult. Self-compassion is giving yourself the time and space to make a choice that honors your needs as well as the needs of others. Self-compassion provides the foundation for developing personal resilience. It helps us to maintain a healthy perspective when we are bombarded by those on the periphery of the decision. They are those who are all too often unwilling to lend a hand but are free with judgments and rhetoric designed to manipulate you into thinking that you’re the best or only person who can do the caring when others cannot. So my recommendation is to stay strong. Honor your understanding of what is best. Do not make a noble sacrifice by ignoring what you intuitively know is right, wrong, healthy or destructive. Respond to the challenge of caregiving with critical thinking rather than judgment clouded by emotion. Put your own oxygen mask on first.
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Upcoming events We will have an “Antiques Roadshow” in February, Tuesday, February 16 at 1:00 p.m. Professional auctioneer and antiques enthusiast Bill Nance will be here to talk about historical facts surrounding collectible items of past and present. This event is open to the public, and we invite all of you to bring an antique item to share. Bill can help assess the value if requested. Of course, some items hold more sentimental value than monetary value, as we hold dear many family heirlooms with personal meaning. Other featured speakers will be invited to join us to share information on different types of antiques ranging from household items to coins to military memorabilia.
Valentine’s dinner and music
During this special month, the Red Hat ladies are invited to join us for lunch and a fashion show on Feb. 25 at 11:30 a.m. Presbyterian Village will be filled with red hats and purple attire as we live it up among girlfriends in our senior years. A contest for the largest, most unique red hat will be held with prizes for the winner. Call to make reservations at 620-2235550.
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Participants are re-evaluated regularly to determine the effectiveness of the services and to determine whether additional services are needed to remain safe in their home environment. Using day services can support and strengthen your ability to be a caregiver, while enabling your loved one to continue to live at home. Participants are able to socialize and enjoy structured programming while the caregiver is free to take care of personal business, and shop, relax or enjoy time with friends. At the end of the day, participants return home with their caregiver. Services are offered in full and half-day options. Day services are provided as occupancy allows. Hours are 7 a.m. to 7 p.m., although special arrangements for additional hours may be made.
The respite care program provides the perfect solution for vacations, weekend getaways and more. With a respite stay, your loved one can be cared for over a weekend, for a few hours, for a few days or for up to 30 days. A physician's order is required. Participants in the respite care program have access to the same quality care and programming as campus residents in our assisted living and health care neighborhoods.You’ll rest easier knowing your loved one has 24-hour access to staff members, assistance with personal care, an active social program and housekeeping services. For more information about any of these services, contact Ginger Nance at 620223-5550.
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Where to go for help
Caring for a loved one is a full time job that requires unlimited patience, understanding and energy. The intensity required can leave caregivers in need of time to rejuvenate. Taking care of your health is a gift to the loved one for who you are caring. Fort Scott Presbyterian Village offers in-home care, adult day services and respite care for area seniors. Our home care program gives participants peace of mind knowing their needs will be met in the comfort of their own home. Our trained staff make scheduled personalized home visits to provide valuable services. Program participants will receive a nursing evaluation to determine health needs and appropriate levels of assistance.
Spouses, flames and friends are all sweethearts and the Village will hold its annual Valentine dinner with live entertainment on Feb. 11 at 5 p.m. Following the fun and playful Presbyterian Village tradition, King and Queen sweethearts will be crowned during the event. An area for dancing will be available for all who want to shake a leg and get on the floor with their sweetheart and friends. Call the business office in advance if you plan to at 620-2235550 or email gnance@pmma.org. We'd love to have you!
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February 2016 Calendar of Events 1 Monday 2 Tuesday
Ground Hog Day Donuts & Coffee Wild Hogs Comedy Movie 2nd floor “Hog Wild” Bistro
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8:30a.m. 2:00p.m.
(pulled Pork sandwiches) 4:15p.m.
Dominoes 6:00p.m. 3 Wednesday Men's Devotional Breakfast 6:45a.m. Exercise 10:45a.m. Bible Study 3:30p.m. 4 Thursday Nurses Note's 11:30a.m. Heart Healthy Wal Mart Shopping Trip 2p.m. Omelet night 4:15p.m. at the Bistro 5 Friday Wear Pink Day Exercise 10:45a.m. Bowling for Dollars 2:00p.m. Dominoes 4:00p.m. 6 Saturday Bingo 2:00p.m. Game Night 6:00p.m. 7 Sunday Rev. Kenton Van Church Services 1:30p.m. Movie Matinee 3:30p.m.
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Exercise 10:45a.m. Valentine Pucker 2:00p.m. 9 Tuesday Donuts & Coffee 8:30a.m. Make Valentine Cards 2:00p.m. “Log Cabin” fever 4:15p.m. Pancakes Bistro 6:45a.m. 10 Wednesday Men's Devotional Breakfast Exercise 10:45a.m. Vote for King & Queen 12:30p.m. Bible Study 3:30p.m. 11 Thursday Wear Red Day Valentine Card Exchange Valentine Dinner & Music 5:00p.m. 12 Friday Exercise 10:45a.m. Bubble Blowing Contest 2:00p.m. Dominoes 4:00p.m. 13 Saturday Bingo 2:00p.m. Game Night 6:00p.m. 14 Sunday Music Ministries 1:30p.m. Movie Matinee 3:30p.m. 15 Monday Exercise 10:45a.m. Baseball cards & popcorn 2:00p.m.
16 Tuesday
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Donuts & Coffee Antiques Roadshow Bistro Dominoes 17 Wednesday Men's Devotional Breakfast Exercise Paint to Music Bible Study 18 Thursday Walk a Mile In my Shoes My First Car Bistro Cards 19 Friday Exercise Walgreens shopping trip Dominoes 20 Saturday Bingo Game Night 21 Sunday 22 Monday Exercise Strawberries & Cream Social 23 Tuesday Donuts & Coffee Winter Gardening Begins Bistro Dominoes
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24 Wednesday Men's Devotional Breakfast 6:45a.m. Exercise 10:45 a.m Travel to China Lunch Bunch Outing 11:30a.m. Bible Study 3:30p.m. 25 Thursday The Farmer's Almanac Social 10:45a.m. Red Hat's Luncheon & Hat Contest 11:30a.m. Bistro 4:15p.m. Cards 6:00p.m. 26 Friday Exercise 10:45a.m. Tenant Council 12:45p.m. Balloon Volleyball 2:00p.m. Dominoes 4:00p.m. 27 Saturday Bingo 2:00p.m. Game Night 6:00p.m. 28 Sunday 29 Monday
Church Services Rev. Joan Koller 1:30p.m. Movie Matinee 3:30p.m. Leap Day Wear Green Day Joke Club- bring a joke 2:00p.m. Leapin’ Frog Legs 4:15p.m. at the Bistro