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Rite to Life Celebrating Our Children’s Journey to Maturity An interview with Brian Molitor BY DAVID ZIMMERMAN

“He will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children and the hearts of the children to their fathers.” Malachi 4:6

Molitor and his wife, Kathleen, had long anticipated the need to signal for their children a change of status at age 13 as a means of fostering maturity, but neither had their own childhood rites to draw on. “I had good parents and grandparents and coaches and so on who spoke into my life and helped me with transitions,” explained Molitor,“but the lack of an event left a void in me that I didn’t understand until I actually began to do this for my son. I tried to fill that gap with all kinds of things that a young man might get into.” Molitor imagined an experience for his eldest son, Christopher, that could be tailored specifically to Christopher’s personality and developmental needs. But once his plane touched down in Benin, Molitor did some research and was surprised to discover how closely his son’s ceremony lined up with the ceremonies practiced by cultures and communities around the world and throughout history. “The Masais have a marvelous circumcision ceremony that helps young guys transition into manhood. Some Native American tribes practice vision quests; the ancient Romans

rian Molitor likes to think big. He works as an international business consultant, helping, for example, the president of the African nation of Benin not only build an infrastructure and stabilize an economy but “tangibly show the love of God to 5.5 million people.” And that’s just his day job. Ask Molitor what he’s most excited about these days, and he’ll talk at length about changing the way Americans parent their children. Molitor has taken the brainstorming he did about his son’s 13th birthday party (during a 30-hour plane ride) into two books and a wide-ranging ministry to institute rites of passages and intentionally shepherd children as they grow up. “In our ‘modern’ society we have absolutely ignored the concept of a transitional event or rite of passage into adulthood,” Molitor told PRISM. “That missing ingredient is perhaps the cause of some of the problems our young people and—since this abandonment stretches back several generations—some of our older people as well are having with issues of identity and purpose in life.”

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