HORNET’S NEST Proctor Academy | February 25, 2019| Vol. 4 | Issue 6
All Gender Dorms Coming to Proctor?
Will Eco Dorm Be Gender Neutral Someday?
By Kara Baird An all gender dorm could be coming to Proctor in the next couple of years to solve the situation of housing for non-binary students. Without the Eco Program, Proctor no longer has a coed/all gender space. What would it take to bring this kind of dorm back to Proctor? Seth Currier, a teacher who leads Alliance Club with Jill Jones Grotnes at Proctor stated, “When you come to this school as a cis male or female (a person whose sense of personal identity and gender corresponds with their birth sex), you don’t get put into a dorm of the opposite sex because you have the right to be in the dorm of the gender you identify with. Why isn’t that right offered to people who don’t identity as those two genders?” Why does Proctor need an all gender dorm? Kyle Tremblay, Residential Life Coordinator, explained, “Up until this year we did have somewhat of a coed dorm in Eco and from what I understand a lot of students landed there who needed that undefined gender space.” Gender neutral dorms could allow students a space where they are comfortable if they don’t identify with their assigned gender dorm. Gender neutral, all gender, and coed are all titles that could define this space. Non-binary is a term that describes the concept of someone who is not exclusively male or female. Cisgender is the term that describes individuals that align with the gender they were given at birth. An all gender dorm would not be just for people who are transgender or identify as non-binary, they can also serve cisgender students who would like to live with other genders. Proctor has the reputation as a highly inclusive community com-
pared to other schools but, are we behind in not having a gender neutral dorm? Phillips Exeter Academy has introduced all gender dorms on their campus and they have become quite popular. In terms of the Lakes Region Schools, Holderness and St. Paul’s have brought this idea to their board as Kyle Tremblay, Jill Jones Grotnes, and Seth Currier learned at a conference for gender neutral living situations. Kyle explained, “I’d like to think that one of the reasons it hasn’t happened here yet is because we have such an inclusive community in general that make students feel welcome in all dorms. We have diverse dorm parents and a more liberal feeling to our dorms compared to some schools.” Proctor is a community that allows anyone, faculty or students, to identify as what they want. But, do we need a space in our community that highlights these views?
Kyle Tremblay
“I think there’s always going to be controversy when people don’t understand,” stated Jill Jones Grotnes who leads Proctor’s Alliance Club. Alliance Club is a group at Proctor for allies and members of the LGBTQ+ community. Kyle noted, “I think there’s always work to do but I also think that we are a community that is willing to have these conversations.” What is the next step in this process? Kyle Tremblay, Seth Currier, and Jill Jones Grotnes want to know who is interested in ex-