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COUNTRY
Comes to Town
Out Singer Ty Herndon Hits Decatur
LGBTQ ATL Campaigners Made Dem Runoffs Tick 10 Sure Signs Your Boo is Leaving You Oh, the Tangled Web After Office Party Sex
After ALL
YOU MADE IT. The year and the election cycle are over. Q ATLus kicks off the post-2020 world with a look at LGBTQ Atlanta relationships, community and events. After everything that’s gone down in the world and in your love life, throwing in the towel still usually comes after a lot of hand-wringing. This week’s 10 Q Things raises signs that your boo is already over you. In Q Advice, literally stalking your flame is not a good look on anyone. As we prepare for the Biden era, this edition of the magazine introduces more LGBTQ people who made it happen. That includes voters like you in Q News who favored the candidate in overwhelming numbers. Coverage also identifies another deeply diverse set of queer Atlanta campaign staffers from the just-wrapped U.S. Senate runoffs. Keep flipping pages for an interview with gay country crooner Ty Herndon in this week’s cover story. He hits Atlanta this weekend with love in his heart and a song on his lips. As always, count on us for this week’s best Q Events, and find more to read and do every day on our social feeds as well as on Project Q Atlanta at theQatl.com. Don’t hesitate either to write our editor at mike@theQatl.com. He is always looking for local people to profile on our pages.
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INSIDE THIS ISSUE VOLUME 4 ISSUE 7
J A N U A R Y 7, 2 0 2 1
BREAKING UP
10 Signs They’re Over You
COVER
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Country Boy
Ty Herndon Coming to Atlanta
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NEWS
POLITICS
Georgia Hate Crime Reports are Up
LGBTQ Crew on the Campaign
Haters
Ossoff’s Gays
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Q ADVICE
Q News.........................11
Working Hard
Q Politics.......................14 Q Events.......................23 Q Map...........................26 Q Advice.......................30 6 theQatl.com
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10 THINGS
The mere thought of their arrival makes you want to bolt.
Your conversations with the dog are longer than the ones with them.
10 Signs YOUR BOO is OVER YOU They’re already gone. Here’s how you can tell. They change your name to ‘Felicia’ in their phone.
Postcards and Letters 8 theQatl.com
They start buying their own drinks without asking if you want one.
They stop texting you back.
They’re too busy with work to hang, but not too busy to stop at the bar with friends.
Friends stop inviting you out as a couple, because they’d prefer to chew glass than be around you together. They suggest seeing other people, and oh yeah hey by the way, they already have a head start. They stop leaving their stuff at your place.
You feel lonely even when they are there. theQatl.com 9
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NEWS
Tracking
HATE
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hate crime in 2019, which was motivated by the victim’s religion. The city reported 10 hate crimes in 2018. Several agencies in Georgia — including Atlanta’s — failed to report several hate crimes to the FBI in 2018, discovering the missing ones only after questions from Project Q Atlanta.
Hate crimes spike in Georgia as more agencies join reporting By Patrick Saunders
LAW ENFORCEMENT AGENCIES IN Georgia reported nine hate crimes involving anti-LGBTQ bias in 2019 as the number of overall hate crimes in the state more than doubled. There were 102 hate crimes reported in Georgia in 2019, according to the FBI’s Hate Crime Statistics Report released in November. That’s a 237 percent increase from the 43 hate crimes reported in 2018. The increase comes as six times as many agencies reported hate crimes compared to the year before. Even so, the number of Georgia agencies reporting hate crimes to the FBI remains below the national average. Some 77 of the 102 reported hate crimes — or 75 percent — were motivated by the victim’s race, ethnicity or ancestry. Nine of the crimes – about nine percent — were motivated by the victim’s religion. Four of the crimes — or four percent — were motivated by the victim’s disability. Three of the crimes — or three percent — were motivated by the victim’s gender. The remaining nine incidents –— about nine percent — were motivated by anti-LGBTQ bias, the same number of crimes reported in 2018. The hate crimes involving anti-LGBTQ bias took place in the cities of Brookhaven, Dunwoody, Glennville and Omega, and in the counties of Cobb, Coweta, Alexa Bryant, Georgia Douglas and Newton. Equality Development & Communications Coordinator The Atlanta Police Department reported just one
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Atlanta’s Beauty in Colors Rally in June 2020
NEW LAW INCLUDES REPORTING Some 50 agencies in Georgia reported hate crimes to the FBI in 2019, a nearly six-fold increase over the nine agencies that reported them in 2018. Some 13.9 percent of the roughly 15,600 law enforcement agencies in the U.S. reported hate crimes to the FBI in 2019, according to the report. Only about 10 percent of Georgia’s nearly 500 agencies reported hate crimes to the FBI. The Georgia legislature passed an LGBTQ-inclusive hate crimes law in June. The legislation enhances penalties for crimes that target a victim based on race, color, religion, national origin, sex, sexual orientation, gender, and mental or physical disability. It also calls for law enforcement agencies to track hate crimes and report them to the GBI. Municipalities throughout metro Atlanta have also recently adopted hate crime measures mandating the reporting of incidents to the GBI or FBI. They include Sandy Springs, Johns Creek, Doraville and Fulton County. Other cities — including Dunwoody, Savannah and Statesboro — required hate crime tracking and reporting in their LGBTQ-inclusive nondiscrimination ordinances. theQatl.com 11
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IN BRIEF
LGBTQ, ‘equality voters’ overwhelmingly supported Biden By Barbara Rodriguez, The 19th AN OVERWHELMING MAJORITY OF
cent of LGBTQ+ voters supported Biden and 79
percent of “equality voters” who support LGBTQ+
LGBTQ+ people and voters who support them
rights backed the president-elect, according to
2020 election, according to a new poll.
The poll represents a survey of 1,400 voters in the
cast their vote for President-elect Joe Biden in the The poll, released by polling firm GQR and the
Human Rights Campaign (HRC), shows 83 per-
The 19th news site.
2020 general election, including an oversample
of voters in Arizona, Florida, Georgia and Texas. HRC data shows 29 percent of equality voters
voted in 2018. That number increased to 37 percent in this year’s election, according to HRC.
HRC has made passage of the Equality Act its
number-one legislative priority in the new year.
Biden vowed to pass the Equality Act within his
first 100 days in office. The poll shows that equality issues ranked second as the most important
reason to support Biden. The first was coronavirus. President-elect Joe Biden during a 2019 campaign event. (Photo by Gage Skidmore)
LGBTQ pundits discuss what the U.S. Senate runoffs mean for equality WITH JUST DAYS REMAINING IN TWO critical runoffs for the U.S. Senate in Georgia, an unprecedented effort unfolded to turn out LGBTQ and progressive voters for the two candidates embracing equality issues. On Dec. 30, Q Conversations talked with advocates on the front lines about Georgia Equality’s $1.2 million plan to mobilize 650,000 voters, Fair Fight’s efforts to encourage LGBTQ voter participation, why the races were so important for equality issues, and the large number of LGBTQ people involved in the campaigns of Raphael Warnock and Jon Ossoff. The discussion also included how to move for12 theQatl.com
Equality issues ranked as the top reason that poll respondents voted against Trump.
ward after a tumultuous election cycle. The final day of voting in the Senate runoffs was Jan. 5. The panel included Andre Fields, the political director for Fair Fight, a a voting rights-based organization that promotes free and fair elections. Before that, the queer organizer served as special assistant on the Stacey Abrams for Governor campaign, worked on legislative and policy issues for the Georgia House Democratic Caucus and spent time organizing in Louisiana and New York. Also joining host Project Q Founder Matt Hennie were return guests to Q Conversations, Georgia Equality Executive Director Jeff Graham and state Sen-elect Kim Jackson. Watch a video recording of their discussion on Project Q Atlanta. Find more on these stories and other news of local LGBTQ interest at theQatl.com.
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POLITICS
Elias Duncan, digital director for Jon Ossoff’s U.S. Senate campaign
#teamos Jon Ossoff tapped talents of diverse set of LGBTQ staffers By Mike Fleming NINE OF THE LGBTQ STAFFERS ON THE campaign to elect Democrat Jon Ossoff talked about what made their candidate the right man for the job. “Jon is an incredibly kind boss, a compassionate leader and an ally who cares deeply about understanding and fighting for LGBTQ issues,” said Elias Duncan, digital director for the Ossoff campaign. Ossoff pledged “unwavering” LGBTQ support 14 theQatl.com
early in the campaign, and the Human Rights Campaign endorsed him in July.
The stakes were rarely higher for LGBTQ residents to help turn Georgia blue in both races, Duncan asserted. “It means having leadership in Georgia and in the Senate that will defend and expand the rights of LGBTQ Americans,” Duncan said. “Many LGBTQ people across Georgia and America, especially LGBTQ people of color, still face discrimination in employment, housing, heath care and policing, and it’s important to have leaders that’ll call it out and do something about it.” Shayna O’Reilly, the Ossoff campaign’s deputy operations director for community mobilization,
agreed. She said that being part of inclusive campaigns was as personal as it was political for her. “As a queer black woman, I’ve found my experience working on campaigns to be very affirming,” O’Reilly said. “I’ve been very lucky to work for candidates and organizations that not only care about the lived experiences and struggles of various demographic communities, but make them central to their policy positions and campaign rhetoric.” “Feeling not only seen by my employer, but also encouraged to voice my specific perspectives, has been extremely fulfilling,” she added.
EQUALITY RISING The chance to flip the Senate for the Democrats meant hope for the Equality Act. The measure, which would add LGBTQ protections to the Civil Rights Act of 1964, passed the House last year but failed to gain traction in the Senate.
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Duncan pointed to Ossoff ’s commitment to the measure, and Ossoff himself included the Equality Act on his list of priorities. That’s exactly the kind of personal allegiance that drew O’Reilly to the campaign, she said. “The team has been so welcoming, kind and passionate, and I really believe that stems from our candidate’s character,” O’Reilly said. “Jon Ossoff is on a mission to fight for the welfare and prosperity of everyone, not just the wealthiest and most privileged, and I’m so proud to be doing what I can to help.” Driving voter participation was expected to play a definitive part in the election result. Overseeing digital fundraising, organizing and content programming, 25-year-old Duncan saw the role of younger voters as key. At 24, O’Reilly tracked the campaign’s hiring, employees and internal processes. She also managed a team of administrators to support community mobilizers.
Shayna O’Reilly, Ossoff’s deputy operations director for community mobilization
Duncan and O’Reilly were just two of nine LGBTQ Ossoff team members who jumped at the chance to tout their candidate. We asked each of them about working for the campaign. Read their responses at theQatl.com. theQatl.com 15
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COVER
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Out country music singer Ty Herndon returns to Atlanta for a live performance on Jan. 9.
His RULES
Out country crooner Ty Herndon opens New Year with Atlanta stop
AHEAD OF HIS LIVE SHOW in Decatur on Jan. 9, out country music singer Ty Herndon talks faith, collaborating with Kristin Chenoweth, coming out and going to Swinging Richards as a closeted man. ď ľ
Atlanta Eagle Owner Richard Ramey
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TY HERNDON continued
By Matt Hennie OUT COUNTRY MUSIC SINGER TY HERNDON — who has headlined Atlanta Pride and experienced the fineries of Swinging Richards — returns to Atlanta for a live performance on Jan. 9. But rest assured: the self-described “clean freak” makes sure coronavirus protocols are followed. “I’m very strong-willed. That’s just who I am. But I have really specific rules to, number one, keep the people safe,” Herndon said in a new episode of Podcast Q. “If you’re going to come to the show, you’ve got to play by my rules. Period,” he added. The Grammy-nominated singer appears with James David Carter on Jan. 9 at Ponko Chicken Decatur. Herndon said to expect socially-distanced tables, masks, open windows and doors (weather permitting), no meet-and-greet and plenty of good music. “I’ve got family and an 80-year-old mother, so I’m just very aware. I think that’s what we’ve all become. And if somebody doesn’t respect that, it can get me upset. If you don’t respect it for yourself, respect it for other people,” he said. Herndon’s latest stop in Atlanta comes just six years after the now 58-year-old became the first 20 theQatl.com
male country star to come out as gay. He once struggled to reconcile his faith with being gay, but once he stopped letting the opinions of others stand in the way of his connection to God, that opened the pathway to his coming out, Herndon said. “It’s been magical, quite honestly. It’s been not looking over my shoulder — looking straight ahead and being focused on music, helping others and my foundation. Just putting good things out on the planet. And actually, for the first time in my life, these six years have been — my bones are very authentic. They cohabitate with my skin very well,” he said. During the Podcast Q interview, Herndon also discussed visiting Swinging Richards before coming out, working with Kristin Chenoweth and his upcoming new album and biography. “I’ve been to Swinging Richards one time and it was with Leslie Jordan on, I think it was his 50th birthday. It was crazy. I was not out at that time. I was highly anticipating paparazzi to come out from behind a swinging somebody,” Herndon said. Listen to the podcast above, and subscribe to Podcast Q with your favorite podcast app. Catch up on past episodes.
Ty Herndon plays Ponko Chicken Decatur on Jan. 9. Visit tyherndon.com. Listen to our full interview on Podcast Q at theQatl.com or on your favorite app.
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Q Events
Q Events The Best LGBTQ Things to Do in Atlanta This Week
SUNDAY, JAN. 10 Sunday Funday
Gather on the refreshed patio and re-branded
THURSDAY, JAN. 7
corner hotspot for food
and drinks @ X Mid-
town (formerly Ten At-
lanta), 4 p.m. - 12 midnight.
facebook.com/xmidtownx Booze & Beats
MSR does what they do with a few extras for
Sunday funday. Knock back $3 mimosas and enjoy Djs and brunch @ My Sister’s Room, all day. mysistersroom.com
Southern Fried Queer Pride
Spark Game Night
DJ Darlene finds you playing games with the
Jameson Wheel of Prizes and other surprises @ Hideaway, 8 p.m. facebook.com/atlantahideaway
Time to talk about 2021 and make plans with
SFQP. All are welcome @ Zoom, 4 p.m. southernfriedqueerpride.com
TUESDAY, JAN. 12
FRIDAY, JAN. 8 Fem Friday
The backyard and patio are open for women
who love women who love open-air parties,
with two socially distanced
and masked levels indoors @ My Sister’s Room, Fridays and Saturdays 8 p.m. – 3 a.m. mysistersroom.com
SATURDAY, JAN. 9 Glitz & Glam
Charlie Brown and her girls give you dinner and a show in Atlanta’s drag restaurant and bar.
Make reservations @
Lips Atlanta, 6 p.m.,
9 p.m. and the Taboo
Show at 11:30 p.m.
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The Prophets Novelist Robert Jones Jr. discusses his debut work about the forbidden union between two enslaved young men on a Deep South plantation. Online discussion sponsored by Charis @ Crowdcast, 7:30 p.m. charisbooksandmore.com Trivia Tuesday
Drop in on a full afternoon and evening of spe-
cials, and don’t forget Trivia Tuesdays with a $50 bar tab prize @ Hideaway, 9 p.m. Happy Hour
specials every weekday, 2 p.m. – 6 p.m. facebook. Visit Project Q Atlanta for com/atlantahideawaymore weekend events every Thursday at theQatl.com. Find dozens of LGBTQ weekend events every Thursday at theQatl.com.
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Q Atlus Map Directory The businesses on the preceding pages are integral parts of Atlanta’s LGBTQ landscape. Those listed in boxes are consistent Q partners and community allies. BARS, CLUBS & RESTAURANTS Amsterdam Cafe 502 Amsterdam Ave. NE Atlanta Eagle 306 Ponce De Leon Ave NE BJ Roosters 2043 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Blakes on the Park 227 10th St. NE Bulldogs Bar 893 Peachtree St NE Felix’s on the Square 1510 Piedmont Ave NE Friends on Ponce 736 Ponce De Leon Ave NE Future 50 Lower Alabama St SW, Suite 180 Henry’s Midtown Tavern 132 10th St NE The Heretic 2069 Cheshire Bridge Road NE The Hideaway 1544 Piedmont Ave NE Joe’s on Juniper 1049 Juniper St NE Las Margaritas 1842 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Lips Drag Show Palace 3011 Buford Highway NE Mama’s Cocina 1958 Piedmont Road NE Mary’s 1287 Glenwood Ave SE Midtown Moon 1510 Piedmont Ave NE My Sister’s Room 84 12th St Oscar’s 1510 Piedmont Ave NE
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Sequel Bar 1086 Alco St. NE Sister Louisa’s 466 Edgewood Ave SE Swinging Richards 1400 Northside Dr NW The T 465 Boulevard SE Tripp’s Bar 1931 Piedmont Circle NE Woof’s Sports Bar 494 Plasters Ave NE X Midtown 990 Piedmont Ave. NE Zocalo Mexican Kitchen & Cantina 187 10th St NE
RETAIL & SERVICES 2Qute Hair Salon 1927 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Barking Leather 1510 Piedmont Ave NE Barking Leather After Dark 306 Ponce De Leon Ave NE (inside Atlanta Eagle) Boy Next Door 1447 Piedmont Ave NE Brushstrokes 1510 Piedmont Ave NE Equilibrium Fitness 1529 Piedmont Ave NE Lost ’n Found Youth Thrift Store 2585 Chantilly Dr NE Urban Body Fitness 500 Amsterdam Ave NE
ADULT Flex 76 4th St NW Southern Nights 2205 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Starship Galaxy/Starship Novelties 2273 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Tokyo Valentino 1739 Cheshire Bridge Road NE
Q Advice
Sex at
WORK
The tangled web of sex with co-workers
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Things got a little out of hand at our office holiday party. Next thing you know, I’m sucking the chrome off this “straight” coworker’s trailer hitch. He texted me that weekend, and I met him to do it again. Come Monday, I tried to let him know it’s cool and he can get it whenever he wants, but he acted like nothing happened. When cornered, he asked me to respect his privacy and leave him alone. I think he’s gay, obviously, but I’m not sure how to proceed. Dear Thirsty: There’s nothing obvious about his sexual orientation, but you have more dilemmas than whether he’s gay, bisexual, questioning or just into good blowjobs. Welcome to the obstacle course of hurdles and hoops that is sex with a co-worker. The distraction during work will occupy both of you for a while, but you aren’t the first or last to deal with it. He shut you down, so the next move, if any, is his. Step away from the penis, and find a new trailer hitch to polish. Maybe one who doesn’t work with you.
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I’m a doctor in a local clinic. My personal and professional ethics make it pretty easy to avoid relatively regular advances from patients,
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but flirting with this new, hot, sexy fellow doctor is tempting. The nurses and office staff are giggling, but I can’t help myself. He really has it going on, and the flirting is a real rush. Is it acceptable to go for it, or am I crossing a line? Dear Sup Doc: We can earn degrees, but it’s tougher to educate our libidos. Consider yourself back in school, and this is the principal’s office. Sure, a gay Grey’s Anatomy fantasy in the janitor’s closet is hot. But being fodder for gossip is especially troublesome in an office where patients and staff depend on your public image and having your brain on task. This kind of kid stuff not only shows your ass, but is telling. Two doctors really interested in each other could grow up and go out for drinks, but something else is up if you’re conducting your foreplay with an audience.
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I’m 22, and I started sleeping with an older coworker when I was 19. I quit so we could date in the open, but now they just want a physical relationship and insist it’s still not a good idea to let anyone know we’re together. Dear Player 1:
This may be tough to hear. They are relationship material for you, but you are a plaything for them. While you fretted the drama of hiding, they feasted on it. For people like this, forbidden sex is more interesting than having everything above board. If you can’t get on the same page, turn to your next chapter. Q Advice is intended for entertainment, not professional counseling. Send your Qs to mike@theQatl.com. ILLUSTRATION BY BRAD GIBSON