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LGBTQ liberalism, loyalty, legacy and love that dare speak their names MAYBE YOU’RE OPENING THIS WEEK’S Q for a decidedly left-ofcenter political slant. Perhaps you’re in it for the companionship and kinship of queer couples. Or are you here for the legacy of your tribe? By any other name, this rose is still as sweet.
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Love is always a good a place to start anything, and with Valentine’s Day looming, it’s the foundation upon which we build this, our annual Q Love Issue. Meet six queer Atlanta couples complementing each other in contributing photographer Jon Dean’s latest photo essay. Get their advice with their mugs, and follow suit in this week’s 10 Queer Things listicle, where we list ways to be a better sweetheart.
Not to be outdone, Vince Shifflett is all up in his feelings about monogamy in Q Voices. He simultaneously questions whether it’s possible to do it without lying, whether it’s impossible to stick to it at all, and whether it even matters weighing what’s going on in his heart against what’s going on in his pants. Ain’t love grand? Well, the Big Love in our book goes beyond the heart, and Charles Stephens shows it for a fallen black gay predecessor in this week’s Q&A. The late, great Tony Daniels gets his due in our feature as Auburn Avenue Research Library prepares to induct his papers into their permanent archives. Get to know the man before the launch event, titled Architect of Black Gay Atlanta. Don’t look now, but your liberal guilt is showing. At least, some of us are so caught up in shaming ourselves and each other in a contest over who's more woke, we may be doing the equality movement more harm than good. The Q advice column meets two well-meaning queers in need of a reality check. Liberalism? Check. Loyalty, tick. Legacy? Yep. Love for you and yours? Check, check, check, check check. All that’s left are the smiles, and Q Shots has those in abundance, while the Queer Agenda calendar has your future smiles waiting to be claimed. Flip the page to keep them coming, and find new content daily on our homesite, Project Q Atlanta at theQatl.com. Until next time, hit me up if you need me via mike@theQatl.com. theQatl.com
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10 QUEER THINGS Be a Better Boo
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Everbody Say Love Queer Valentines
Q&A
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Archiving the history of Atlanta’s black gay mecca THE QUEER AGENDA
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The Monogamy
fulfilled? How many times a week are you sexual with your
CONUNDRUM
Is it possible to be in love with more than one person at a time? Or is monogamy hypocrisy? THE DIVORCE RATE IN THE U.S. IS MORE THAN 50%, and that doesn’t even include those who are separated but not formally divorced.
“monogamous partner?” If the sex with your long-term
partner ends or drastically decreases, do you just ignore that part of yourself, or do you constantly just take matters into your own hands? No pun intended.
The lack of intimate physical connection with another being would seem rather boring to me.
Sex is not love. Sex can be an expression of love, but the
two words are not synonymous with each other. Can it be
that you can have more than one sexual partner but still be in a committed relationship with that special one?
There is so much cheating, lying, hiding and
What causes it? Are we trying to put ourselves
deceitfulness in relationships. It seems as
into a box that we don’t belong in? Are we
if people pretend to be monogamous while
trying to conform to what society says is right?
sneaking around and hooking up with others. Is that healthy?
I was always taught that you find that “special one,” marry them and live happily ever
I think honesty and complete transparency
after. Well, the divorce and infidelity rates
are evidence that it isn’t working very well. We are sexual beings. We are beings that
love. Do we have control over whom we fall
are much healthier and lead to longevity in VINCE SHIFFLETT
in love with? Can you fall in love with someone else while already in love with another?
Polyamory is defined as having multiple loving, romantic relationships at the same time with the knowledge and
consent of everyone involved. It’s neither a good or bad idea. It is a choice, just as monogamy is a choice.
Unconditional love doesn’t put limitations on another person. It just loves regardless.
If monogamy works for you, awesome. If not, perhaps it’s
time to have an open, honest chat with your significant other. Secrets lead to sickness. I have friends who have been
in relationships for over 20 years, some open and some
“monogamous.” Or so they say. Those in open relationships seem to be happier allowing each other dalliances with no
In some countries like India, Philippines, Nigeria and
restrictions or rules. The ones with “monogamous relation-
ditional U.S. thinking, especially from some of the religious
What does this say?
South Africa, polyamory is acceptable. It goes against tracorners, but Psychology Today reveals that 9.8 million Americans allow satellite lovers in their relationships. So is monogamy hypocrisy?
ships” are always trying to get in my pants on the down low. Why put limitations on our normal desires? Why not
express yourself fully including your sexual self? Why not
open up to just loving? Why limit your love to one person?
I think the idea of a monogamous relationship sounds
I am not advocating for one way or another. I am just
person sexually for our entire lives? For me, monogamy
infidelity and divorce. I know this article is full of ques-
great, but is it reality? Were we created to be with just one was a possessive, controlling experience. I have come to the
conclusion that I would rather date someone who is openly polyamorous than to date someone who is cheating.
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EMBRACE DIFFERENCES
All your interests won’t match. Be excited simply that they are excited, and let them have their “thing.”
KINDNESS OVER ‘WINNING’ Arguments come and go; superior stubbornness is forever.
How Valentines can extend the Season of Love through the whole year
WAYS TO BE A BETTER
Sweetheart By Mike Fleming
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Their friends were there long before you, and will still be there whether you are or not.
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BE A FRIEND FIRST
Start and keep up your end of intellectual, stimulating conversations.
Ask your friends what “needs work,” take what they say to heart, and apply it to your relationship.
ADD TO, NOT ‘COMPLETE’
You’re both “complete” as you are, or should be. Find ways to enhance each other’s experience.
LISTEN
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‘Phenomenal Georgian’ Q ueer lawmaker honors Miss Lawrence By Patrick Saunders QUEER STATE REP. PARK CANNON honored gender nonconforming actor, entertainer and activist Miss Lawrence with a proclamation on the floor of the Georgia House on Jan. 30.
Project Q Atlanta. “It just feels good being affirmed in that way.” It was also a full-circle moment for Miss Lawrence — he was a House page when he was around 10 years old. “I’ll never forget running back and forth on that floor down there getting the officials their coffee and tea and papers,” he said. Cannon said that through Miss Lawrence’s work on Atlanta Mayor Keisha Lance Bottoms’ LGBTQ Advisory Board, he “continues to show his dedication to making his home city and home state better places for all.”
Cannon cited Miss Lawrence’s role as Miss Bruce on the Fox series Star, as well as his appearances on Empire, Real Housewives of Atlanta and Fashion Queens. Cannon called She also said the proclamation was about Miss Lawrence, who was sitting in the From left: Rep. Park Cannon and Miss Lawrence House gallery, a “phenomenal Georgian.” LGBTQ visibility. Miss Lawrence said he got emotional after Cannon notified him about the honor. “What it confirmed was that while we’re all here on borrowed time, that you utilize your time wisely and make sure that you walk in full honesty and authenticity of who you are,” he told
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INVISIBILITY
Atlanta activist Charles Stephens on the legacy of Tony Daniels and ‘elevating the dignity’ of black gay men
What I couldn’t fully appreciate then, that I have a better grasp
By Patrick Saunders
to do with the contributions of black LGBTQ folk. And [the
ATLANTA POET AND COMMUNITY ORGANIZER TONY Daniels died almost 20 years ago, but his spirit lives on in a number of local black gay men today. Charles Stephens, founder and executive director of Atlanta’s Counter Narrative Project (photo), talked with Q about Daniels’ impact and the Feb. 7 event at the Auburn Avenue Research Library set to honor his legacy titled Architect of the Black Gay Mecca. What is the Counter Narrative Project? The Counter Narrative Project was founded in 2014 as a love letter to black gay men such as Tony Daniels and his contemporaries. These courageous, brilliant and daring black gay men saved my life, saved so many of our lives, through their writings, their artistry and their activism. I wanted to build not just an organization, but an institution, that was grounded in that legacy and that history.
of now, is that when I came into the community, Atlanta was still very much grieving. So many black gay men of that gen-
eration died, and Atlanta has failed to honor them. My belief is that the creative energy that fuels this city has everything
Architect of the Black Gay Mecca event] will hopefully be the first of many programs to honor that spirit.
Additionally, so much of HIV and LGBTQ movement history
is whitewashed. There are figures like Tony Daniels that were instrumental in advancing HIV and LGBTQ justice in the South that have been completely ignored. This event corrects that. What’s the most important lesson you learned from reading Daniels’ work?
I’ve always occupied a unique position in the
HIV and LGBTQ rights movement, because I am first and foremost a cultural worker. I believe in the power of culture and story-
telling to advance social change and social
justice. I believe in the importance of media
and narratives to not only change hearts and minds, but to also shift policy. And in Tony Tony Daniels
What is Tony Daniels' legacy? Tony Daniels was a black gay man living with HIV who dared to tell the truth about his life and his experience. He also dared to challenge racism, sexism, homophobia and HIV stigma through his writings and organizing work. His writings, in particular, sought to elevate the dignity and humanity of black gay men, at a time when so many of us were invisible. He was also an early force in providing an intersectional framework for how we think about HIV. Unfortunately, I never met Tony Daniels. I entered community and movement work in January 1999, when I attended my first My Brothers Keeper meeting, at the Atlanta Lambda Center. Tony had died the previous spring in a car accident.
Daniels, I see an example of how to do that, how to be all the parts of myself. What can people expect at the event? In so many ways, I hope this event is not only about celebrat-
ing Tony as an incredible individual, but it also creates a space
for community healing and restoration. My hope is that people
will experience joy from the program. Anyone who attends will
certainly learn quite a bit about Tony Daniels, his life and legacy, and his contributions to Atlanta’s black LGBTQ communi-
ty and movement. I’m very excited that Tony’s brother, Freddy, will be present to share stories about him.
Tony Daniels: Architect of the Black Gay Mecca takes place Feb.
7 from 7 p.m. – 8:30 p.m. at Auburn Avenue Research Library. RSVP for the free event on eventbrite.com.
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THE QUEER AGENDA The Best Queer Things To Do in Atlanta This Week
February 7 — February 13 THURSDAY, FEB. 7
FRIDAY, FEB. 8 Hanna Thomas
The lesbian songstress throws her own birthday bash with full band accom-
paniment @ Eddie’s Attic, 9:30 p.m. eddiesattic.com
The Beat Goes On
A 1960s musical revue helps run the queer-inclusive programs of the
queer-inclusive congregation @ Saint Mark UMC, 8 p.m. stmarkumc.org
FRIDAY, FEB. 8 The Other Show
They’re ba-aaack! Edie Cheez-
Architect of the Black Gay Mecca
burger and her cast return
The Counter Narrative Project remembers poet, activist and Adodi
to the weekly drag scene
Muse co-founder Tony Daniels (photo, left) as his work and legacy
in their new home @
become a permanent part of the African American Culture & History
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exhibit @ Auburn Avenue Research Library, 7 p.m. afpls.org/aarl Read
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midtownmoon
AIDS Watch Georgia
Free training on how to educate state legislators at the capitol on HIV policy with Georgia Equality @ Atlanta City Hall, 8:30 a.m. georgiaequality.org
Atlanta G2H2 Arica Love Royal hosts “Gay Guy Happy Hour” with fabulous door prizes and a 50-50 cash raffle @ Tiki Aniki, 6 p.m. facebook.com/ atlanta-g2h2
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Film Love at the High
The latest collaborative screenings between
HRC Beach Bowl
premiere museum is entitled light motion
equality knocks down pins @ Mid-
the gay-run arts cinephiles and Atlanta’s
HRC Atlanta’as annual bowling for
surface depth screen room viewer projector @
town Bowl, 12 noon. hrcatlanta.org
Woodruff Arts Center, 7 p.m. high.org
HeartBtz with Aja
THURSDAY, FEB. 7 Porcelain
A Chinese-British gay
man faces an uphill battle in the latest compelling queer drama @ Out
Front Theatre, 8 p.m. outfronttheatre.com
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Wussy’s annual V-Day
party @ Heretic, 10 p.m. wussymag.com
Gays For Plays
Theater queens gather before and after a show, this time for Next to Normal @ The Windmill, 7:45 p.m. facebook.com/gaysforplays
SUNDAY, FEB. 10 Naughty Cupid & Beer
Beer bust with the More To Love charity boys @ Woofs, 2 p.m.
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Hotlanta Softball Open House
New player recruitment and some
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Comedy & Cocktails in the den
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Every Voice Matters
Advocacy training hosted by JumpSpark ATL and Southern Jewish Resource Network for Gender and Sexual Diversity @ Congregation Bet Haverim, 2 p.m. jumpspar-
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Just A Femme Presents:
City Winery Cabaret
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Gospel Brunch has a whole new look @
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TUESDAY, FEB. 12 Our Founding Valentines
Atlanta Pride honors this year’s recipients of legend love with a panel and an Armorettes performance @ Out Front Theatre , 7 p.m. atlan-
Sip, Paint & Socialize feb
Books & Booze
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If Beale Street Could Talk by James Baldwin – Presented by Posman Books
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PALS Stupid Cupid Bingo
Pets Are Loving Support benefits from this quarterly game of drag bingo @ Lips, 7:30 p.m. palsatlanta.org
WEDNESDAY, FEB. 13 SFQP Self Care
Southern Fried Queer Pride asks and answers, “What is ‘-are’ and how
can you practice it?” @ The Bakery, 6:30 p.m. southernfriedqueerpride.com
Romeo + Juliet
The beautiful, quirky ’90s version of the classic tale on the big screen @ Plaza Theatre, 7 p.m. and 10:30 p.m. wussymag.com Women’s Wednesday
A female faction from Metro Atlanta Area Professionals hosts niche networking @ Parlor, 7 p.m. maapatl.org
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Six queer Atlanta couples serve sweet Valentine love
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t’s that time of year. Whether you are snuggling up to somebody special, practicing self-love for Singles Awareness Day or doing up Galentine’s with friends, you gotta love this year’s Q Love Issue couples. Love is Love Meet six pairs of LGBTQ Atlantans who found a complement in each other, shot lovingly by contributing photographer Jon Dean.
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Kate @eveh0lt Kristen @krissen_ Years Together We have been together for a year and a half, but we have been in love for much longer than that. How They Met We met over the phone after we had already agreed to live together. We had been roommates for a year when Kate needed to move back north. As we said our goodbyes, we realized all the gay sexual tension between us was actually a deep love that we didn’t want to let go. And who knows how many times we’ve met before in our infinite lives. Ideal Date Night Our favorite dates have been the nights we go to an unreasonably fancy place to get a cocktail, go see a movie, and then find a dead bar and play pool or something, and then go home and make love all night. Advice for the Queer Lovelorn Be kind to yourself, and maybe kiss all your friends until it stops feeling weird. theQatl.com
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Corian Ellisor @cel1984 Hussain ‘Cheero’ Askree Years Together: 9, married for 3 How They Met We met at Maryoke (Karaoke at Mary’s) Ideal Date Night Our ideal date usually consists of trying out new restaurants here in Atlanta. We both love good food, and Atlanta is a place where it is easy to find. Advice for Queers Looking for Love The best advice we
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can give for queers looking for love is to meet people with an open heart and mind and acceept people on their own terms. We as a society have been conditioned to think that romance has to look a certain way and that is simply not true. When you get rid of the preconceived notions, you are available for so many more possibilities.
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Mark Morin @markmorinii Tyler Scruggs @scruggernaut Years Together: 3 and some change How They Met We met one night in a bar, and after a couple nights, we just...never stopped wanting to see each other. Ideal Date Night Managing to get to every Facebook event on the calendar, but equally also quiet cuddles on the couch. Advice for Queers Looking for Love Face pics.
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Delton Moore @deltonscott Clint Zeagler @clintzeagler Years Together We’ve been together 6 years in May. We were married in May 2015. How They Met The gag is we met at Church, but we mean Sister Louisa’s Church of the Living Room & Ping Pong Emporium. Ideal Date Night Patronizing some artist’s event or show, preferably something lifting queer voices. Also dinner at a favorite
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spot like Wisteria for something intimate, or Highland Tap with friends. Advice for Queers Looking for Love Love yourself and nurture yourself so that you have something to say and know your worth, and give yourself freely to those who deserve you. This will also help to build friendships, folks you trust to call you on your bullshit and pick up the pieces when you fall short.
Aasha @aashaadore Sheena @shebankz Years Together: 6 How They Met We met in Miami. Sheena interviewed me for a magazine article. We met up in person at an event, and it’s been us ever since. Ideal Date Night Anything having to do with good food and good music. We often frequent Ponce Cty Market for ramen. If we’re in the mood for drinks, we go to Friends on Ponce. Any festival in town, we’re also all over that. Advice for Queer Lovers Respect and communication. Always find ways to connect with your partner. With our different backgrounds, Sheena being an engineer and Aasha being a DJ, we find our balance through logic, art and creativity. Give lots of kisses, and get a cat! theQatl.com
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Kristina Brown @kristinabrownie
Liliana Bakhtiari @lilianabakhtiari
Years Together: 6 How They Met In the days before Tinder and OKCupid, we met the old-fashioned way — at a bar! Mary’s to be specific. Ideal Date Night We tend to fill up our calendars with arts events, political activism, local performances, benefits and fundraisers, so on the rare night that we have a night alone, we tend to do dinner and a movie in bed. Advice for Lovelorn Queers Don’t just sit around on social media waiting for love to find you. Get out and do the things that you love to do, and you’ll meet the people that you share common interests with. We have an amazing community in this city. If we get out of our comfort zone and explore it, we’ll open ourselves to new opportunities. 30
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Is the queer Left ‘shoulding’ each other into oblivion?
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My partner and I adopted a newborn over the holidays, and I am already mortified over a situation that I fear I created.
Moments after a black colleague told me that babies love him, my two-month old broke into screams and tears when he leaned over her crib. It’s the first time she’s seen a black person, and even though I made an excuse about her being tired, the truth couldn’t have been more obvious that she was afraid of his dark skin. I’m even more worried because my baby’s birth parents are Asian. As white mothers, I fear we’ve made a mistake by not exposing her to more folx of color before now. How should I follow up with the colleague, and what should I do about my racist baby? Dear White People: You created a situation alright, but not the one you think. Too many caucasian queers are so focused on intersectionality in society that we forget to get our own house in order. Your discomfort with people of color and issues of race sends chills up my spine, and I wasn’t even there. While it is outdated to ask you to be “color blind,” it’s also wrong to be so “color aware” that you come off as awkwardly as any racist would in that situation. A two-month old cried when a stranger stuck his head in her crib. It is a total non-event — except for your reaction. At that age, everyone she sees brings new stimuli. Apart from lining up people of different races to file past her crib on a daily basis, you’ve exposed her to various people as they cross your path over the last couple of months. Now, if you anticipate that having your infant around only white people is going to be an actual problem rather than an invented one, please do diversify your circles. It might do you as much (or more) good as your daughter. You’re not even a little bit ready to address this with your colleague. He understands it better than you do, and catching you up is not his job. Let this one go, and concentrate on staying out of your own way. 38
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There is this guy in my friend group who won’t let anyone say anything bad — ever. I get it when others are catty behind people’s backs. This is a whole other level.
One friend was talking about how his ex-boyfriend hurt him. This guy interrupted to say, “but we don’t talk bad about our exes.”
When I was asked my opinion on a local queer play that was so bad it sent people bailing at intermission, this person said, “but we keep our opinions to ourselves and support all queer arts.” When confronted, he says that bullying suffered by disenfranchised people leaves negativity unacceptable in all forms. I don’t even know where to begin. Dear Peppy Patty:
Teaching other people lessons has become a hallmark of liberal existence. Not only is it presumptuous, it’s often pretentious to engage in a sanctimonious game of Who’s Most Politically Correct? What’s worse, such infighting and zero tolerance divides us against our enemies. Your acquaintance is hurting over discrimination and inequality, but passing judgments about your behavior misdirects his emotions. Acting like negativity isn’t there doesn’t make it go away, and it’s rude to shut people down.
Even when we understand him, don’t let his issues become your problem. Conflict avoidance on his part does not create “should” on your part. Grownups get to pick their battles and can choose whether to engage each other about them. When he pulls these disruptive tactics, have some statements prepared. “I disagree, and as I was saying…,” or “You’ll get your turn,” or “Let me finish.” Give zero more fucks about his judgments, and give him an earful if he persists. The Q is for entertainment purposes and not professional counseling. Send your burning Qs to mike@theqatl.com. ILLUSTRATION BY BRAD GIBSON
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