A LETTER FROM THE EDITOR
Sherrell Straker-Valdezloqui
Editor In Chief
FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS You can ask anyone who’s been around me for a while and they will tell you that I enjoy seeing people happy and believe it’s something that everyone should experience. For years I’ve watched movies and shows that featured people being “happy.” My thoughts often drifted that the definition of “happiness” was having nice things, being able to get up and go on vacations anytime you want and more. It wasn’t until recently that the Lord began to deal with me on the true meaning of happiness. He ministered to me and told me that if I or anyone else was looking for happiness and only saw it as having the luxury of materialistic things or having a certain job, then I would never find happiness. He then continued to show me flashes of people, not anyone I know personally, but of people who have everything they want. He showed me that instead of being happy they either wanted more or still had emptiness because they did
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not understand the concept of happiness either. I’ve never been flashy or materialistic but the thought of happiness, as it relates to these things, was something that stayed on my mind but that I kept to myself. I’ve learned that we sometimes say to God, “Lord, when I get this or that I will be happy.” But God wants us to be happy where we currently are. I am blessed beyond measure to have a wonderful husband who loves and adore me. I have three beautiful children, who I get to wake up in the morning and see every day. The words ‘Thank you Lord’ just pour out of my mouth. I am blessed and happy because God chose me as His servant in ministry. He chose me to manage Promoting Purpose Magazine. He chose me to have such a loving family. Most importantly, I am blessed
because I am in a country where I am free to praise and worship God as I please without being persecuted for it. I am happy because I am me and I understand that my trust in God allows me to be happy regardless of where I am, according to society standards. If I trust and be obedient to God, then whatever plans He has for me will manifest. That’s my happiness, what’s your? I would love to know what makes you happy and how you found your happiness. When you have time, write me at promotingpurposemagazine@gmail.com.
Follow me on twitter at @ sherrellvaldez.
EDITOR IN CHIEF Sherrell Valdezloqui
CONTENT EDITOR BLI Publishing
CHIEF FINANCIAL OFFICER Felix R. Valdezloqui
RELATIONSHIP COLUMNIST Dr. Inecir Matthis
WEBSITE ADDRESS
www.promotingpurpose.com
GRAPHIC DESIGN & LAYOUT BLI Solutions
CONTRIBUTORS/GUEST WRITERS Tamiko Cuellar Rachel Moore Efrem Windom Kevin Zimmerman Shameeka Hunt Andrea R. Williams Shabarbara Best- Everette
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CULTURE| THE PRAISE & WORSHIP REPORT The Story of Sharetta-Nicole: Unimaginable Tragedy Can’t Stop an Undeniable Praise By: Andrea R. Williams
CULTURE| THE PRAISE & WORSHIP REPORT INTRODUCING DARIUS WASHINGTON: The Next Generation of Gospel Music’s Elite
CULTURE| THE PRAISE & WORSHIP REPORT THE CONRAD MILLER STORY: OVERCOMING TRAGEDY TO SING GOD’S PRAISES By: Andrea R. Williams
LIFE | THE OVERCOMERS OVERCOME
LIFE | THE OVERCOMERS OVERCOMING WHAT’S BEEN OVERCOMING YOU By: Efrem Windom, The Relationship Pastor
LIFE | THE OVERCOMERS OVERCOMING THE SHAME OF CHOICE! By: Dr. Inecir Matthis
LIFE | THE OVERCOMERS
OVERCOMING BREAST CANCER By: Shabarbara Best-Everette
LIFE | PURPOSEFUL LIVING > COVER FEATURE KEBRA MOORE
LIFE | RELATIONSHIPS ASK DR. MATTHIS
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LIFE | RELATIONSHIPS Relationships: Personality Type A, B, C or D?
LIFE | RELATIONSHIPS > DOMESTIC VIOLENCE The Bad & Ugly! By: Dr. Inecir Matthis - Relationship Counselor/ Coach/Mentor
LIFE | MARKETPLACE: BUSINESS Using Your Spiritual Gifts to Prosper and Succeed in the Marketplace By: Tamiko Cuellar, Small Business Strategist
LIFE | BUSINESS > BEAUTY BEAUTY WITH A PURPOSE By: Amber Johnson
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LIFE | PURPOSEFUL LIVING FIRST LADY MYESHA CHANEY TALKS WITH PROMOTING PURPOSE
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THE PRAISE & WORSHIP REPORT Like many, she honed her musical talents within the four walls of the church. Sharetta-Nicole, an award-winning vocalist, is preparing to release a brand new single entitled B.O.S.S., a vertically-directed praise and worship anthem, from her forthcoming sophomore CD, yet to be titled. Holy, which was released in March 2014, is a clever collage of Gospel, rap and dance music is the first song from the project scheduled to be released in late 2014. Anyone who knows where Sharetta-Nicole’s life began would have a hard time believing where she is today. Hailing from the streets of Detroit, Michigan, Sharetta-Nicole was raised by her parents with eight other siblings. Almost from the start, her childhood was a troubled one.
The Story of Sharetta Nicole: Unimaginable Tragedy Can’t Stop an Undeniable Praise
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eremiah 29:11 reminds us that God has a plan for our lives. It’s a reminder that we have to hold on when tragedy strikes. Atlanta-based Gospel artist Sharetta-Nicole is well-acquainted with grief but the experiences she’s endured have failed to take away her praise. The exceptionally-gifted musician, guitarist and singer has been singing God’s praises since she was a youngster.
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“I was molested at a very young age by a brother and an uncle. When I was 12 years old, I lost my father in an unfortunate and tragic medical accident. Responding to the screams of my mother, my brothers and I ran to the bedroom to find my father lying against the bed on one knee dying. In my heart and spirit, I felt my father’s spirit leaving the room and I knew right then and there that my father was gone. It appears as though a dental procedure that had taken place less than 24 hours earlier apparently caused a blood clot to develop, which led to a stroke,” she recalls. Unfortunately, Sharetta-Nicole’s misery did not end there. With her mother being forced into being a single mother of nine, life was tough. The cycle of loss and grief continued in Sharetta-
C U LTU R E | T HE PRAISE & WOR SH IP R EPOR T Nicole’s life with the deaths of her nieces, one who died in her sleep, and another niece, as well as a nephew, who passed away in a house fire. Her mother and sister were kidnapped, which resulted in the rape of her sister and the murder of her mother. Eventually, she would lose a brother to AIDS. After going through stages of deep depression and even suicide attempts, Sharetta-Nicole was introduced to Jesus Christ at the age of 15. That one decision changed the entire trajectory of her life. Despite enduring what few can imagine, Sharetta-Nicole quickly tells people that it was her faith that kept her going. “I know that God is in the midst of my testimony because He is the one who brought me through it all,” she says. “I tell my story because I see and feel the power behind it; I believe it’s a source of strength and healing to those who have had similar experiences. I know there are many people who can relate to physical and emotional pain, hurt, frustrations, feelings of abandonment, fears and the stresses of life. But I also know that there are many who can relate to the joy and peace that God gives you in a time of great need.” Over the years, Sharetta-Nicole has taken her gut-wrenching testimony and poured it into her music. She released her first CD, Level One: Jeremiah 29:11 in 2010. The project was diverse and Gospel infused with modern music from contemporary Christian music to worship to Holy Hip Hop. Sharetta-Nicole took to the road to share her story and to inspire others, especially young people, because she understands that God is present even in the worst of circumstances. As she finishes up B.O.S.S., which stands for Better Off Saving Souls, she’s thrilled to share it with the world.
The bold track which combines a little pop with a little electronica and a little rap, flaunts SharettaNicole’s strong vocals. “To me, a B.O.S.S. is about someone who can endure and still come out on top,” she says. “That’s exactly what Jesus Christ did on the cross,” she adds. Her talents have not gone unnoticed. Clearly gifted in the ministry of music, Sharetta-Nicole is an Urban Inspiration Award Winner and a multiple nominee for Atlanta’s Hottest Gospel Award, the Independent Gospel Artist Alliance Award and the Rhythm of Gospel Award. Having opened up for Canton Jones, Rance Allen, Earnest Pugh and Martha Munizzi, she’s been blessed to share her journey and the love she has for God.
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I’m committed to serving the Lord through the life that I am living, through my very existence and through this ministry,” she shares. “God is doing great things in my life. This journey has not been easy but through it all, God has been by my side. I will forever give Him the praise.
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INTRODUCING DARIUS WASHINGTON:
The Next Generation of Gospel Music’s Elite Darius Washington represents the true embodiment of music ministry.
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long with his career as a recording artist, Washington faithfully serves as the Minister of Music at ACOJ New Season Ministries in Tampa, FL where his father Samuel Washington presides as pastor. This music phenomenon also preaches the word of God and
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is very passionate regarding the importance of ministry. “Ministry is an absolute priority and vital piece of my music. Ministering is totally different from merely presenting your gifts/talents,” says Washington. “Good music may cause people to stand up and applaud, but good ministry will invoke breakthrough and cause people to walk in victory and freedom,” Washington goes on to say.
Washington truly has a heart for God’s people. This fact is evidenced by the establishment of My Brother’s Keeper, an anonymous prayer line that seeks to put an end to silent suffering. Birthed as a result of his own personal experiences, My Brother’s Keeper provides an outlet for people to confidentially vent and obtain the spiritual support necessary to release them from whatever may be holding them bound. He or one of the appointed ministers on his staff facilitates individualized oneon-one prayer calls with anyone seeking help. Callers experience the freedom that comes with being able to express their deepest feelings and issues without fear of humiliation, persecution, or condemnation. Washington is a refreshing addition to the next generation of Gospel music luminaries. He is a young, gifted, talented, anointed, humble, transparent and dynamic vessel who is unashamed of the gospel of Jesus Christ. There is absolutely no doubt that Darius Washington will be impacting the industry for years to come.
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THE CONRAD MILLER STORY: OVERCOMING TRAGEDY TO SING GOD’S PRAISES By: Andrea R. Williams “For her, problems started in the form of panic attacks and anxiety.
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lthough it’s rarely preached about from pulpits or discussed in church meetings, Christians struggle with depression and other serious mental illnesses. Lately, the suicides of pastors and famed megachurch pastor, Rick Warren’s son have brought the topic to light in Christian circles. The loss of these precious people has left family members, congregations, and communities shaking their heads and grieving in unimaginable ways. Leaving holes in lives that will never be filled; these losses will
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During that summer, she lost both of her grandmothers – within a four-week span. A year earlier, we had moved from New Jersey to Pennsylvania, so she had been uprooted as well.” be felt for years to come. Many ask, “Why didn’t he say something?” or “I could have helped her if I had known.” Gospel artist Conrad Miller is painfully acquainted with the grief that accompanies this type of loss. He has experienced the effects of depression and what it can lead people to do. While he has never personally suffered from depression, his daughter Lauren did. The day after her 16th birthday, she committed suicide. “Around the age of nine, Lauren started to suffer from depression,” recounts Miller.
As the problem worsened, Lauren began treatment which included sessions with therapists and prescriptions from a psychiatrist for antidepressants. Shortly before her death, her psychiatrist made a medication regimen change. Based on how quickly it occurred, that change was probably the ultimate trigger when Lauren took her own life. According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, one person dies by suicide every 14 minutes. In the United States alone, over 38,000 people died by
CULTURE| THE PRAISE & WORSHIP REPORT suicide in 2010, making it the 10th leading cause of death and 90 percent of people who died by suicide had a mental illness at the time of their death. The cause of most suicides is untreated (or inadequately controlled) depression. Many Christians do not realize that they are often under attack and that the enemy wants them to commit suicide. So how would a Christian know if they are at risk of committing suicide? Miller encourages individuals to look for signs from those who may struggle with depression or another mental illness. These signs may include a fascination with death, comments about no longer wanting to be here, and what Miller calls, “mini attempts” when a person hurts themselves or perhaps takes a little too much medication. “In many instances, unless the loved one gives clues, suicide can catch people by surprise,” says Miller. “It’s unexpected, unexplained or definitely unfathomable, even with clues that are given ahead of time.” If there are signs that are clearly visible, seeking immediate medical attention such
as medication and counseling as well as praying for that loved one and spiritual counseling. A good support system of compassionate and encouraging people, who are non-confrontational, may help as well. Miller sought help through his difficult times which aided him not to go further into depression. “It wasn’t me,” he says. “If it hadn’t been for my relationship with Jesus, I would have gone stark raving mad. Even after the emergency room doctor said there was nothing else he could do, I led a group of friends and family in prayer. I just knew it was something I needed to do. It wasn’t a prayer of sadness, but a prayer of thanksgiving. I gave God the glory for allowing me to be Lauren’s earthly father for 16 wonderful years. I recognized that she wasn’t mine, but that I was a temporary caregiver.” Lauren’s sudden death was a wakeup call for Miller. He was reminded of the brevity of life and knew that God had placed the gift of music within him. The loss of his daughter spurred him on to do what he knew the Lord had been calling him to do
for years, music. He began putting pen to paper and ultimately released his 2008 debut CD entitled, My Journey. The CD chronicled his walk with God. One track, “Jesus Is the Way” was co-written by Lauren, before her passing. Miller dedicated the project to her memory. His music ministry continues to flourish. He released his second project, Keep Pressing, last year. With a theme of perseverance it contains songs of encouragement, melodies and lyrics to help the believer hold on. Two singles from the new CD, “I Need You” and “Lift Your Voices” are played on hundreds of Gospel radio stations across the country. Finding a silver lining in the worst of circumstances, Miller believes his entrance into the Gospel music industry allows him to memorialize Lauren’s life as he shares God’s Word through music. He says, “Even though I still feel the loss and the sadness, I have hope. I know I’ll get to see her again!”
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LIFE | THE OVERCOMERS Life comes equipped with disappointment, setbacks and heartache. These events spare no race, creed or gender. It favors no ethnicity over the other and is servant to the law of averages by dictating… “in each life, some rain must fall...”
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leech is defined as an aquatic or terrestrial worm with suckers at both ends. Many of the species are bloodsucking parasites and others are predators. Adversity in life can pretty much be viewed and defined as the leeches of our lives. Unless they are carefully avoided, prevented, removed and eliminated they too will become bloodsucking parasites and predators of our very Soul. Learning to prevail and come out on top of every adversity is the key to our every success in life. Fortune favors the bold, but misfortune occurs to everyone. So how do we prevail as people of God in achieving victory over adversity? What techniques of the mind and mechanisms of the heart do we employ to our necessary healing? When we first come to the awareness that adversity is a weapon of fate aimed directly at us, we must arm ourselves with an inner understanding that God will never leave us nor forsake us, and because we are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of
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OVER COME God the Word teaches us that no weapon formed against us shall prosper. We get on in the world not by ignoring the prevalence of adversity, but through applying the mental fortitude, emotional resilience and spiritual faith to carry on and persist in achieving our goals in spite of. Loving yourself and becoming stronger in your determination to overcome adversity is your key to opening doors of success. So you’ve already won by the definition of the biblical Word. You are victorious over adversity by not only speaking the Word of God over your life, but also in believing deeply in your heart as to its author, its action and its authenticity. Replace the leeches of adversity with a lease on new life, new thoughts and a new positive attitude that says I
shall prevail, I shall succeed and I shall come out on top of every situation. In doing so, by the words of your mouth and the meditations of your heart you shall most assuredly overcome. IJPN ~ In JESUS Precious Name. Copyright 2014 Man of Psalms Publishing Co. Mr. Russel Blake is the Author of “The Proverbs 31: Virtuous Woman Series…” He is also the creator and presenter of the D.I.V.A. (Divinely Intelligent & Virtuously Anointed) Workshop, which is dialogue on the perception, purpose and position of the Virtuous Woman from a Man’s perspective.
OVERCOMING WHAT’S BEEN OVERCOMING
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The world we live in is filled with people of different races and cultures all from various walks of life. All of us are unique in our own way, but one thing that we all may have in common is the desire to overcome something in our lives. The desire to overcome is most of the time, developed because of a struggle with something or someone or it can come from an inner longing to be set free from self-sabotaging habits that have been destroying healthy relationships.
LIFE | THE OVERCOMERS struggle. First, we must overcome ourselves. This means that we have to make the decision that we can and will overcome. Everything starts with a decision and we have to make a decision to confront our fears!
The desire to overcome is the starting point for the manifestation of personal victory. It is God’s desire that we overcome anything that keeps us from experiencing His best.
Second, we have to change how we think in regards to the struggle, trial, financial issues, or relationship conflict that we may find ourselves in. The Bible says in Proverbs 23:7, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” Our thinking is the birthing ground for defeat or for the tenacity to overcome the obstacles in our lives. There is always a more optimistic perspective to see, but we have to make a decision to be optimistic even when our challenges are as dark as the night sky. It is the way we think that provides a way of escape through the tunnels of our mind. Change the way you think about a situation and you will truly overcome!
However, I’ve discovered that having the desire to overcome is one thing, but knowing HOW to overcome is another. My desire is for you to know HOW to overcome your trials, habits, fears, and relationship conflict.
Third, in order to overcome any financial challenge, any relationship challenge, or health challenge, or career challenge, we must admit that we need HELP! Our greatest help comes from God.
I want to share with you some principles that will help you overcome any challenge or
Many times we fall short of overcoming those things that are blocking our victory because
we try to overcome within the limitations of our own abilities. We have to be honest with God and ourselves by admitting that we don’t have the ability to solve our problems by ourselves. The Bible says in Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me.” If we are going to overcome anything we have to tap into a source of power that’s only found in Jesus Christ. His power, His strength, His wisdom, will be the glue that seals our victory no matter what area of life we may be struggling in.
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his definition became the sum total of my very existence when I chose to marry, to become one with a man who made it no secret to me that he had been in a monogamous same sex relationship for eight years. He freely informed me that although he knew that it was wrong according to his Christian beliefs, he loved this man with all of his being and did not want to end the relationship. I listened to him with intensity, empathy, and an instant desire to nurture him back to what was right. I was blind and naive to what I would become involved in. Once married, I felt as if I was the best thing that every happened to him and that LOVE had EVERYTHING to do with it. Nothing or no one could stop or hinder what we had. My dream state was short lived. During the course of the marriage, I isolated myself from family and friends as I lived in his shadow with hopes that he would finally come to love me. I soon became a shell of who I was and everything that he wanted me to be. I agreed to pornography, closed my eyes when he became involved with another man, the first of many, and pretended that all was well. I began to feel that I deserved the things that were happening to me as others watched the privacy of my marriage become very public. People talked, whispered, laughed, and joked about my foolishness as they waited to see the outcome of it all. I was constantly in a state of distress, shame, and humiliation. I felt
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OVERCOMING THE SHAME OF CHOICE! *Shame: a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. that I would be in that situation for the remainder of my days. I quietly accepted that I was deserving of all that was happening to me because of the foolish choice I made. I remember feeling as if I was nothing more than “Collateral Damage.” People always asked me questions about us, him, and me. But, I knew the gossip was their motive, they weren’t interested in my shame or broken heart. I was ashamed of being so naive and foolish, in the name of love, for allowing an individual to push me into a place of darkness filled with loneliness, tears, heartache, sorrow, frustration, and confusion as to what had become of my life. Then came the day when I decided to finally walk away, carrying my security blanket of SHAME along with me. It had become my friend and comforter. The road back to me was a long one; homelessness, unemployment, no money, no one to really confide in for fear of more judgment. I returned to my native home and begin to put a plan in action to salvage and overcome the shame, guilt, and what was left of me: • I moved into my mother’s home and slept on a small bed in her dining room.
• I prayerfully chose a church home - one that was small as a place of healing, growth, and strength. • I took a training course and immersed myself into volunteering to help women and children that lived in a domestic violence shelter. • I enrolled in school to complete my education. • I received the counseling and support I needed. • I began to focus on my strengths, gifts, and talents instead of my failures. I soon began to realize that my choice, which had caused me so much guilt and shame, was turning into a foundation of strength and wisdom. I realized that my personal worth was more than I had envisioned, and that my purpose was locked and interwoven into the chains of unfortunate events. As of this day, I am no longer ashamed of my choice to marry this individual. This shameful situation helped me to evolve into the trailblazing woman that I am today. Dr. Inecir Matthis
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By: Shabarbara Best-Everette My name is Shabarbara Best- Everette. I grew up in the projects where I heard gun shots so often that it became a natural sound to me. I was determined to leave the projects and become successful. I made good grades in school and I was the first person in my family to go to college. Everything was going pretty good at The University of North Carolina at Greensboro until my junior year. I was doing my monthly self breast examination in the shower and felt a lump. Long story short… I found out that I had breast cancer at the age of 21. I only told a limited amount of people about my cancer because I didn’t want anyone praying against my healing.
After going through that big scare, I was determined to live my life. I made some poor choices and became pregnant at 22 as a senior in college. However, I still walked across the stage to receive my Bachelor’s degree at 7 ½ months pregnant. My son was born a little late which was best at that time because I ended up being homeless during my ninth month of pregnancy. I lived with a stranger for several months. I had many complications during the birth of my son. After 32 hours of labor, I had to have an emergency caesarean because the doctor almost lost both of us. As a result of the long labor I contracted two infections, one in my uterus and one in the stitches and staples of the C-Section. I was finally released from the hospital a week later although still in severe pain.
A week after being released from the hospital my two week old son was admitted in the hospital for a week for seizures. I was devastated and still in having complications of my own. I went back to the doctor for additional tests and discovered that I had cervical cancer at 23 years old. I could not believe this disease had attacked my body again! It was a hard decision but I decided to keep this secret to myself because I didn’t want people treating me differently. In 2012, shortly after getting just a routine yearly mammogram, I got a call from the mammogram department telling me to call them back as soon as possible. I already knew then that the cancer had returned. I had no idea that I could bear so much. I had no idea how strong I was but God knew. I am a survivor of different circumstances, despite remaining silent for far too long.
I didn’t want people to know what I was going through. I didn’t want them to pity me or judge me. The fact is this… if I hadn’t gone through all of those tests; I wouldn’t be who I am today. I wouldn’t be able to help others in their trials and tribulations. I didn’t go through all of that just for myself. I had to do this for others too. I’m not sure why God chose me, but I’m glad that He did. I am grateful for my ups and downs. When I look at where I was and where I am now, I can say that I appreciate the pain that I’ve had to endure. It’s hard to start over after being knocked down so many times. But I encourage you to get back up because it is not the end. I have learned so many things through my life experiences. The most important thing has been…NEVER take life for granted. Death has no age limit. Promoting Purpose | 2014 15
LIFE | THE OVERCOMERS >OVERCOMING BREAST CANCER You can be here today and gone tomorrow. That’s why you have to live your life to the fullest everyday as if it is your last day. Treat people right and honor God in all you do. It has been 15 years since my first breast cancer so receiving the call absolutely blew my mind. This disease couldn’t possibly be in my body again for the third time. You don’t normally hear about people surviving cancer three times. So I thought, ‘This is it! It must be my time to go.’ I had several surgeries to remove the breast cancer but the last surgery was the absolute worst. The surgeons almost lost me three times on the table. I couldn’t even talk for two weeks because they injured my throat during the procedure. I promised God that if He would let me speak again that I would tell people about His grace and mercy and that
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I would testify how He healed my body three times from this horrible disease. God reminded me that He has a plan for my life and everything has to go according to His timing. My faith in God made me hang in there. I understand now when people say, “God won’t put more on you than you can bear.” I am now an author, publisher, motivational speaker, advocate for anti- bullying and suicide prevention, and a daycare owner. I have written 23 books and have published 14 of those books so far. I write children’s books on different topics that are sometimes difficult to discuss and I also write inspirational Christian poetry books that will encourage readers through their tough times. If I can still succeed after all of my adversities, then you definitely can too.
There is hope for everyone. No one can define who you are or who you will be, God decides that. My goal is to inspire as many people as possible to be any and every thing that they want to be. I tell people, “You can’t let anything slow you down from reaching your goals. No matter where you come from or what kind of background you may have, your destiny is still within reach!” I may have been homeless, had cancer three times, and had other life changing issues to happen but I didn’t let those situations overtake me. If I didn’t have a prayer life, relationship with God, and faith to believe that God would take care of me, I wouldn’t be here today. The question is…do you have the faith to believe that God will be with you too?
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KEBRA MOORE
By design, life wasn’t intended to be fair. Good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people.
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y human nature, if we continually do good deeds, live a life that is driven by high morals, and commit ourselves to a selfless lifestyle whose impetus is based upon altruistic and philanthropic principles then, by default, we should be exempt (or at least expect to be) from the most draconian circumstances that life has to offer. Sadly, this has never been nor probably ever will be the case. Unfortunately, it is one of those curve balls of life that we are helpless to defend against. Thankfully, what we can exert control over is how we deal with these situations. The story of Kebra Moore is a glaring example of how someone, who has been subjected to even the most inimical circumstances, can still prevail triumphantly and, in like kind, send life’s curve ball sailing over the centerfield wall. In 1999, the world was Kebra’s oyster. Vibrant, beautiful, determined, intelligent, and with a voice that could stop traffic, she was at the beginning of a singing career that showed great potential and even more promise. Then life reared its’ ugly head. On Christmas Eve of that year, as Kebra, her then 14 month old son and fiancé were returning to Arkansas from New Orleans after finalizing the details of
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their upcoming wedding, they had a devastating car accident. Miraculously her son or fiancé weren’t harmed but, unfortunately, Kebra was left a paraplegic. While others would have wanted to die Kebra took another approach to her paralysis and challenged herself to move forward by repeatedly reciting the last verse of Invictus by Sir William Earnest Henley, “I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul” and Luke 1:3, “With God, nothing is impossible.” “The devil messed up badly. He should have killed me,” she says. Kebra’s accident (or blessing as she now refers to it) in-
stilled in her an even greater resolve and determination. Failing was clearly not an option. As a matter of fact, her
accident accelerated her determined mindset to beat the odds. Today, you can find this songstress, writer, and musician traveling throughout the U.S. on various motivational speaking campaigns and singing engagements. Her slogan, Ability Not Disability, speaks to her life of not making excuses but seizing opportunities. She won the 2013 Miss Wheelchair Mississippi pageant and has been on a mission to raise awareness not only for service member or people with physical or mental disabilities, but also for addressing the youth and young women throughout America on living a God-first life. One of her debut songs, He’ll Make a Way was featured on President Barack Obama’s documentary soundtrack Becoming Barack: Evolution of a Leader and her debut single Beautiful, which has been featured on BET and TBN, captures the beauty in all humanity.
world mandates and that the mold has to be broken. “It is important to embrace the beauty, talent, style, and character that not just celebrates the uniqueness of you but, most importantly, the uniqueness of the God in you,” she shares. Her husband is her greatest supporter and often jokes about how her determination to continue to live her life as she once did keeps her extremely busy. “Keb was always a busy body and constantly on the go and now that God has replaced her legs with wheels, I often find myself completely out of breath just trying to keep up with her…and I’m a Marine Master sergeant!” he jokes. In an earlier interview Kebra, once stated, “It’s funny how life tries to grab you by the reigns and dictate the terms of your life based on a single traumatic event, but for me I am a God-fearing woman and I don’t expect life to be a bed of roses. It wasn’t for Jesus and he was perfect, so why should I be an exclusion to the rule?”
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THE ARTIST Promoting Purpose Magazine: What is a typical day like for you? Kebra: (Laughs) Wifey duties, mother duties, teaching music, church, volunteering in the community. I love keeping myself busy. PPM: Did you write all of the songs for Under the Influence yourself?
PPM: Never Let Him Go reached thousands of views in just a couple of days of its release. Were you expecting a high number of views so quickly? Kebra: Yes, I put it out there in the intensions to bless people. It was a blessing and honor it reached so many people so fast. It even reached people in Turkey. PPM: What do you believe God will do with this single?
Kebra: Yes. I wrote and produce all the songs on the new EP, Under the Influence.
Kebra: I created the song with the intent to increase people faith. I pray God will allow it to reach those at the time they need it most.
PPM: What do you want your listeners to receive from your style of music?
PPM: Who do you pull your inspiration from?
Kebra: They do not have to conform to the traditional patterns of society (i.e. tempo, style and originality). My style is urban contemporary and is still Bible based. PPM: Can you elaborate how your accident in 1999 pushed you to do more? Kebra: Life doesn’t always go according to plan. We have setbacks, disappointments, trail and tribulations. You have two options: you can fold or increase your faith in the Lord. I chose to increase my faith in the Lord and bless others with the gift God gave me regardless of me being paralyzed. PPM: What keeps you grounded even though you’re being called all over to minister through music? Kebra: I was raised by my mother and when she moved, I moved with my aunt and uncle. I watched them and saw how humbled they remained no matter what situation was thrown at them. They taught me the same thing. I make sure I know who I am representing and it’s my love for God and my family.
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Kebra: I get a lot of my inspiration during my daily worship. I do my devotion with prayer and listening to worship songs before I start my day. PPM: I know you don’t like to brag, but let’s talk about some of your success. I’m going to brag for you. One of your songs He’ll Make A Way was featured on Obama’s documentary soundtrack Becoming Barack: Evolution of a Leader. That is amazing and an achievement not everyone can say they have experience. What was that like knowing that a song God had given you was selected for such a high honor project? Kebra: Being on the soundtrack was a blessing and an honor. When my team contacted me about being on it I was excited. The potential of going down in history with me singing on the soundtrack for the documentary of the first African American president was really exciting, and it felt good to be part of something that is much bigger than yourself.
LIFE | PURPOSEFUL LIVING > COVER FEATURE PPM: We know you’re passionate about music, what else are you passionate about? Kebra: I am very passionate about those with disabilities. I have a foundation called The Beautiful Campaign. I travel to different states and hold a pampering day. We do hair, nails and make-up for women. Self-appearance and self-esteem is very important to me, and my goal is to teach others the importance of beautification regardless if they have a disability.
PPM: What scripture do you stand firm on? Kebra: Romans 12:2, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will.” PPM: What do you enjoy doing during your free time? Kebra: During my free time I like to read, watch T.V., Martin (laughs), and write. PPM: What’s next for Kebra Moore? Kebra: WOW, that’s a great question. I will be doing a lot of traveling to promote my EP and appearing on Dr. Bobby Jones Gospel Hour. PPM: What message would you like to share with readers? Kebra: Romans 12:2 and to know that people are going to tell you that you’ve changed, but it’s okay. You’ve changed for the right reasons. You are now doing things that are right and positive in the Lord’s eye. At the end of the day you will be able to give an outstanding testimony.
Under The Influence is available on iTunes, Google Play and all digital outlets. Request the single Never Let Him Go and video on your local T.V. and radio stations.
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LIFE | RELATIONSHIPS ASK DR. MATTHIS
Why Won’t the Man I’ve Been Dating for 8 Years Ask for My Hand in Marriage? Dear Dr. Matthis,
Dear Miesha,
I have been dating a man for over eight years. Although we do not live together, he does spend a lot of time at my house whenever he comes to visit and we have been intimate from the beginning of the relationship.
It sounds as if it is time to move forward. There are several things that you have shared that confirm that you need to move forward with your life.
Although our relationship seems to be good, it does not seem as if he is interested in the subject of marriage that I have talked about many times. My friends and family question our relationship and wonder why we haven’t moved forward after all this time. Although I no longer attend church or pray, I know that this relationship is not right and I’m not sure if my guy will ever bring up the subject of marriage. He seems to be comfortable with the way things are. However, at this point in my life, I am looking for more - marriage, stability, family, etc. I’m not sure if I should hold on and wait to see what happens, if he will commit to this relationship or move on. I feel torn! Miesha, USA
You have been together for over eight years most mature and marriage minded men know within the first six months if they want to spend the rest of their lives with a woman. Beyond that time, most women become a toy in the sand box! Therein is the saying: “Why buy the whole cow when you can have the milk for free?” You immediately became intimate at the beginning of the relationship - the scripture clearly speaks against intimacy before marriage: It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4, NIV). When this happens, the foundation of the relationship is built on lust which interferes with the opportunity to truly get to know one another. Family and friends are usually good at recognizing a relationship that are going nowhere simply because they are on the outside looking in. It is their way of telling you that you should probably take leave of this never ending journey of hopes and dreams because you deserve better. You mentioned that you no longer attend church or pray which sounds to me as if some things transpired in deed or word that did not agree
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LIFE | RELATIONSHIPS > ASK DR. MATTHIS with your spiritual knowledge and understanding of God and His Word. And you also stated that you knew that your relationship was not right according to God’s word. It sounds as if you need to turn your heart and mind back to God, prayerfully seek out a church that will meet your spiritual needs and also assist and/or support you through this season of change in regards to your current relationship. Lastly, have that ONE last conversation with your guy. Let him know your thoughts, concerns and desires regarding marriage, family, stability and commitment. Be open, honest and communicative. Ask him if he has plans to marry you - I guarantee you will receive the answer that you need!
Co-Worker Issues
Three weeks after attending church, she began making excuses as to why she wasn’t available to go to lunch, our breaks or continue the scheduled play dates for our children. I asked her if I had done or said something to offend her. She assured me that I had not. She stated that she was going through some difficult circumstances and abruptly ended the conversation. However, it has been several months now and she continues to ignore and avoid having any communication with me, but continues to talk and interact with other co-workers. I want to do what is right in regards to being an example as a Christian. However, I am torn between trying to communicate with her once again or just leave things as they are. Tisha
Dear Dr. Matthis: I have a co-worker that I once considered to be a good friend. We spent time together during our lunch hour and also during the weekends so that our children could play together and I would use that opportunity to share scriptures with her in regards to the problems she was having with the father of her children. She even attended church service with me and stated that she was blessed by the service and planned to return.
Dear Tisha, I celebrate you for desiring to display behavior that models Christianity - loving your neighbor as yourself. I noted that it seems as if you have done everything possible on your end by sharing the testimony of the love of God through Christ Jesus with her, other scriptures while your children prayed together and you also invited her to your worship service.
It is possible that your coworker is being truthful in what she has stated. She may actually be going through some situations that are difficult that she is too embarrassed to share with you at this time. The fact that she communicates with other co-workers could simply mean that she wants to keep her emotional state hidden and tucked away with simple daily office communication - nothing more. Sometimes people are fearful of being judged by their choices and mistakes and are also intimidated by the strength, peace and confidence we display as a Christian. You must also remember that the enemy of our soul uses the assassin of distraction to take away our focus. Remember the scripture: You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind [both its inclination and its character] is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You (Isaiah 26:3 Amplified Bible, AMP) At this point the most you can do is to pray that God will reveal the situation to you and to open your co-workers heart and mind to a willingness to share with you if there is an issue. I pray that God will keep your mind in perfect peace!
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LIFE | RELATIONSHIPS > ASK DR. MATTHIS Cougars Go To Church Too! Dear Dr. Matthis: I have spoken with several of my friends in regards to my embarrassing problem and have yet to receive any valid answers. I want to be short and to the point, and prayed for answers before submitting my question to you. My mother is a 67 year old single woman and two adult children, my sister live in another state. I was 9 years old when my mother began attending our neighborhood church. At 22 years old, we have been a member of at least seven different churches due to my mother’s wayward behaviors with men (married or single). My mother has been called to the pastor’s office, got into physical fights in the parking lot, had at least two abortions that I know of, received death threats, and asked to leave several churches because of her disgraceful behavior. My mother insists that she is saved and loves God with all of her heart. We have been attending our new church for a few months now but I am afraid that I will once again be embarrassed by her behavior. My mother is currently dating a 41 year old deacon of this church who is separated from his wife. The world’s title for this behavior is “Cougar.” I have even heard some of the members speak of her as a cougar that should be ashamed of herself.
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They make it no secret that they are dating, and he is not the same when he comes to visit my mother. He drinks, smokes and curses. My mother has picked up some of his habits. How can I tell my mother that I do not like her behavior and that the deacon is too young for her - this is not her first cougar experience? I am desperate, please help me!
Dear Desperate: I am sorry to hear of your plight and embarrassment. I appreciate you submitting your issue and question to our magazine. In reading your letter, it sounds as if there are some deep seated issues and emotions that your mother will need to resolve in order to have a greater spiritual success and quality of life. I want to make several observations/suggestions to you: *Prayer. Continue to pray for your mother to gain a willing heart and mind to recognize and acknowledge issues that she has not dealt with. *Schedule an appointment to meet with your Pastor. Not to talk about the well known issue regarding your mother, but about your plans and goals. *Seek for and join a support group that is specific/unique to your situation and circumstances. You can start and end most support groups whenever you are ready. This will assist you in regards to your feelings and emotions that
seem to be scattered. It will also allow you to see that you are not alone and that this is not an isolated scenario. *No matter what others say within the four walls of the church, or among your family members in regards to your mother’s behavior and/or dating choices, you must remember that nothing will change until your mother acknowledges and recognizes the need for counseling and takes the necessary steps of action for change. *Lastly, write a letter to your mother letting her know your true thoughts and feelings. This will allow you to say what is truly on your heart without interruption or retaliation. Remember that this is your mother, so be tactful and respectful. Also, ask your mother if she would be willing to go with you to family therapy. It is my prayer that this would be of great assistance to you.
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Test Your Relationship Savvy! By: Dr. Inecir Matthis, Biblical Life Coach, Visioneer Mentor Most, if not all, consider themselves to be somewhat savvy, smart or knowledgeable when it comes to relationships. Try answering the following quiz questions with friends or a group to see what you know! 1. W hat is YOUR definition of a relationship? 2. W hat do you feel is the average length of dating or courtship before deciding to marry? 3. C an an unequally yoked relationship be a successful road to marriage? 4. H ow long should one wait before dating again after an unsuccessful relationship? 5. D o you feel that it is proper dating etiquette to date your friends ex who attends the same church as you? 6. H ow do you feel about online dating for Christians/believer’s? Do you think it is safe and/or okay as a choice in marriage? 7. D o you feel that once engaged it is okay to become intimate?
8. I s it okay to date/court more than one person at a time when considering marriage?
1. The way in which two or more people or organizations regard and behave toward each other - (In regards to family, friends, co-workers, dating, etc.) 2. Statistically the average couple date 3 to 3.5 years before marriage. However, there are also other variables/factors that are taken into consideration while dating before marriage: Age, cultural background, religious preferences and beliefs, education, careers, family matters -aging parents, and finances.
3. Consider this: When unequally yoked in marriage, you have two different mindsets, two different natures (Spiritual & Religious), two different Spiritual fathers. Instead of leading the spouse to Christ, one could become spiritually lazy, inhibited from freely worshiping and praising God, forced to leave your church home and fellowship with husband’s church, can become disobedient to God’s word, experience anger, bitterness and frustration, become unhappy, indifferent toward mate. Overall, being unequally yoked can be full of challenges and difficulties. (2 Corinthians 6:14)
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LIFE | RELATIONSHIPS 4. Relationship break-ups are handled and dealt with differently therefore it is difficult to place a timeline in regards to this. The priority is to ensure that one continues their Covenant Relationship with God, allow time for personal healing and growth, seek wise counsel and guidance if needed and focus pursuing and/or completing the goals and plans that may have been placed on hold. The following are just some of the signs that reveal you have healed and are ready to enter the dating scene again: You have a created a list in what you want, need and expect in a relationship, you can speak about the break-up without displaying anger or bitterness, and you are excited about the prospect of meeting someone new. 5. Whenever you ask a friend if they mind or have a problem with you dating their ex - you all attend the same church you are risking the demise of your friendship and possibly viewed as a betrayer. Even though they are no longer together, it can be painful to watch a friend and your ex pick up where you left off, or reap the benefits of what you were trying to accomplish or receive in the relationship prior to the break-up. It is important to understand that within the church there are
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those that are supporters of both sides. Therefore, EVERYONE is involved in the breakup, feelings of anger, bitterness, betrayal and hurt which can sometimes affect the Praise & Worship component of service. 6. Statistics reveal that more than 50% of Christians believe that there is nothing wrong with online dating for Christians and most have tried online dating at least once, and many others were successful in finding someone that was a Christian as well. While there is obviously no clear scripture in regards to online dating, the basic principle is to honor one’s body which is the temple of God. It is also wise to stay away from online dating sites for Christians that can lead you to other sites that encourage sexual sins. 7. Engagement with or without a ring does not give us a spiritual license for intimacy. Christian marriages that are leaning toward divorce (Although this is NOT always the case/reason), were intimately involved with one another before getting married. We must remember that our bodies are the Temple of God and sexual improprieties cause spiritual pollution’s that will lead us to make choices
and decisions as a result of our emotions, will and intellect due to distraction in regards to the relationship without earnestly seeking God for His divine will concerning our lives. 8. Dating and Courting have two different meanings. Unfortunately, the cultural dating norm of the world today is mimicked by many that attend church on a regular basis and/ or consider themselves to be Christians. They consider dating as a way of getting to know someone of the opposite sex and possibly as a partner(s) for intimacy. It is also considered to be okay or the expected norm to date more than one person at a time. However, one never comes to a decision of marriage simply because they never really get to know the individual(s) they are dating. King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines who ALL led him astray from God to serve their gods. Courting which is much more serious - is also considered to be a form of dating; however, there is only one individual and it is in preparation for getting married.
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Relationships: Personality Type A, B, C or D? Have you ever considered signing up for online dating? Or perhaps you have done so and found it to be no greater than the traditional way of dating which could be inclusive of but not limited to: blind dates set up by friends and family or meeting someone in the grocery store, coffee shop or at your local church.
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ore often than not you may find yourself repelled instead of being attracted to that individual and make great strides to disconnect from any further communication. And alas, most repeat another cycle of dating simply because we know that there is a particular type of individual that we are interested in but can only describe this individual by way of outer appearance. However, when we meet someone that fits our desired and expected outer appearance there still seems to be something that doesn’t seem to fit or meet your expectations. How about the personality type? We all have personality’s that are unique according to our DNA and blueprint that is hard wired within our chemistry and genetic makeup.
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Therefore, our personality types play a key and significant role within a relationship. This is a very well known fact of relationship researchers and online dating/match services. Take a look at the following personality types and consider which one you would accept and/or decline:
Type A Personality Traits: Type A personalities are competitive, high achievers and have a high sense of time urgency. As a result of these combined traits Type A individuals are always found to be busy working on their own projects. Many people with the Type A personality felt insecure at one point of their lives and so they decided to fight the insecurity by changing their lives and making achievements as fast as they can.
Type B Personality Traits: Type B personalities are the opposite of Type A. They are relaxed, laid back and not easily stressed. While the Type B individual can be achievers too still they won’t be as competitive as Type A. Type B personalities can delay work and do it in the last moment, some of them can turn into procrastinators which is something that a Type A personality can never do.
Type C Personality Traits: Type C personalities love details and can spend a lot of time trying to find out how things work and this makes them very suitable for technical jobs. Type C personalities are not assertive at all and they always suppress their own desires even if there is something that they dislike.
The lack of assertiveness results in tremendous stress and sometimes in depression. Type C personalities are very vulnerable to depression compared to Type A and Type B personality traits.
Type D Personality Traits: D stands for distressed. Type D personalities have a negative outlook towards life and are pessimistic. Type D personalities often allow small events to ruin their day, whereas a Type A personality may not even notice it. Type D personalities might become socially withdrawn as a result of fear of rejection even if they like to be around people.
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Type D personalities are famous for suppressing their emotions and this makes them the most vulnerable type to depression. *NOTE: During your season of dating it is imperative that you remember to maintain your spiritual integrity, keep your temple holy unto God and have the mindset of marriage according to God’s divine NOT permissive will.
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LIFE | RELATIONSHIPS > DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS
The Bad & Ugly!
By: Dr. Inecir Matthis - Relationship Counselor/Coach/Mentor
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ctober is the month for Domestic Violence Awareness. It was adopted and evolved in 1981 by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence in order to connect battered women’s advocates across the nation to continue working together to end domestic violence. The fight against domestic violence and awareness is continuing to grow from what seems to be in its infancy with yet a long way to go. Like everything else, domestic violence/abuse has its foundational beginnings of the bad and the ugly that has continued on throughout history. The word of God gives us some insight into the bad and ugly of relationship abuse which can take place in regards to family, spouses, friends, neighbors or enemies as we see in Genesis 4:8-9 in the New King James Version.
The below scriptures relates to family relationship abuse due mainly to jealousy, anger and bitterness that ended in the death of an innocent person that did not anticipate this attack or the outcome. 8 Now Cain talked with Abel his brother; and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother and killed him. 9 Then the Lord said to Cain, “Where is Abel your brother?”
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He said, “I do not know. Am I my brother’s keeper?” More scriptural references of abuse are read in Judges 19:25-28 (NKJV). These scriptures reference relates husband - concubine abuse as a result of outright cruelty and self-preservation that resulted in the concubine experiencing physical assault, beatings, rape with no protection or regard for her life. The end result was loss of life. The husband took her home, chopped her body into
LIFE | RELATIONSHIPS > DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS twelve pieces to share with Israel which started a war.
family members as it relates to abuse.
25 But the men would not heed him. So the man took his concubine and brought her out to them. And they knew her and abused her all night until morning; and when the day began to break, they let her go.
• Middle Ages (900 - 1300) - Church continues to sanction the subjection of women. Man is given permission to “castigate (reprimand severely) his wife and beat her for correction…”
26 Then the woman came as the day was dawning, and fell down at the door of the man’s house where her master was, till it was light.
• “ Rules of Marriage: …When you see our wife commit an offense…scold her sharply, bully and terrify her….if this doesn’t work… take up a stick and beat her soundly, for it is better to punish the body and correct the soul than to damage the soul and spare the body.”
27 When her master arose in the morning, and opened the doors of the house and went out to go his way, there was his concubine, fallen at the door of the house with her hands on the threshold. 28 And he said to her, “Get up and let us be going.” But there was no answer. So the man lifted her onto the donkey; and the man got up and went to his place. Relationship abuse has continued to cause havoc of the bad and ugly of relationships throughout the history of church and state. In the excerpt from the timeline history of abuse the church played a pivotal role in the treatment of women and/or
• 1767 - British Common Law allows for a man to chastise his wife with a stick no greater than the length from the last joint to the end of the thumb. Thus the creation of the rule of thumb.
in their adult lifetime • 1 in 3 teens and young adults will experience abuse in a dating relationship • 2 8 percent of marriages contain physical violence - half of this percentage pertains to Christians • 5 0 percent of marriages experience some form of abuse. With regards to child abuse - over half of this pertains to Christians. Children who witness any form of abuse or violence in the home between parents and/or caretakers have the strongest risk factor of transmitting violent behavior from one generation to the next.
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Boys are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and girls are twice as likely to be victims of abuse at the hands of their own partners.
grabbing, restraining, hitting, kicking or pulling hair. Any touch against a person’s choice. Financial abuse can also be a form of physical abuse.
The above statistical data helps create indicators for helping reduce and eliminate the generational cycles of all forms of domestic abuse. There are five forms of domestic abuse that individuals must be made aware of.
Sexual Abuse. This abuse is often denied or hidden for years and includes forcing or coercing sexual acts, which are unwanted or declined; viewing or forcing the other to view pornography; making degrading and/or demeaning sexual comments. Sexual comments about children’s’ bodies or development are also common.
Verbal and Mental/Psychological Abuse. This is one of the most common type of abuse and includes name calling, demeaning in private or public, threats of harm, using intimidation, isolating from family and friends, forcing financial dependence, and controlling where the other person can go and what s/he can do, denying access to help (including 9-11). Also includes stalking and cyberstalking. Physical Abuse. This abuse is most noticeable and includes shoving, pushing, pinching,
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Property and Pets. Usually used as retaliation includes destruction of property, which may include household objects or treasured objects, hitting or punching the walls, or abusing or killing beloved pets or giving them away. Spiritual Abuse. A form of abuse that includes misuse of Scripture and Biblical teachings to justify abuse; tells her that women are less than or not as important as men, or that God does not care or that
she is not a good Christian; says she is abused because she is not submissive enough (based on his definition of submission, not God’s), or that the Bible justifies abusive treatment; interferes with her ability to worship God and/or her relationship with the Lord. With children, it is also using Scripture or Biblical teachings to degrade, punish or justify cruel or excessive discipline. While there are many other forms of abuse, these are the types that are most commonly reported or recorded. Now that the types of abuse are identified, understanding the signs of abusive behavior can help you or your loved one avoid these types of individuals. • E xtreme Jealousy - sign of insecurity and lack of trust. • C ontrolling Behavior - one that completely rules the relationship, decision making, as well as choosing who their partner can talk to or deal with, includes friends and family.
LIFE | RELATIONSHIPS > DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS • Q uick Involvement - Although this IS NOT always the case and/or scenario for ALL Bad & Ugly or even Healthy Relationships, some individuals agree to move in with or marry their partner within the first few days, weeks and/or months of dating without taking the time to get to know more about that individual simply because they are romantically showered with love, care, kindness and attentiveness that had not been their experience in previous relationships. This is often (in the bad & ugly relationships) - but not always - a red flag of concern and caution simply because this individual may later display behaviors of jealousy, control and unrealistic expectations of their spouse that may prove to be difficult, confusing and challenging.
concerns in regards to an individual or situation that require some investigation or questions for clarification. • Unrealistic Expectations - expects partner to be perfect in all things, to meet all expectations. • Isolation - keeps partner from friends and family, and/or keep partner from working or going to school. • Cruelty to Animals or Children - brutally punishes animals or has unfair expectations of children when they cry. This month make a firm decision to become aware and empowered!
NOTE: Red Flags simply means that there are some negative and/or questionable issues and
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LIFE | MARKETPLACE: BUSINESS Using Your Spiritual Gifts to Prosper and Succeed in the Marketplace By: Tamiko Cuellar, Small Business Strategist to follow you, the gift of leadership is in you to give you the divine enablement to guide, direct and develop others.
If you are a born again believer, then you are automatically endowed with spiritual gifts. Spiritual gifts are given to us by God to edify the body of Christ and they can be used anywhere that a believer goes. Unfortunately, most believers are not being taught about spiritual gifts like how to identify them, how to activate them, how to nurture them, or how to use them. As a result, they are missing out on how to be powerful and successful in doing what God has put them on this earth to do. This includes those who are believers called to excel in the marketplace. Spiritual gifts will set you apart from the world, but you have to know what yours are and how to effectively use them.
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Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 12:1, “Now concerning spiritual gifts, brethren, I would not have you ignorant.” So let’s cover just eight of the spiritual gifts found in the Bible and how you can use them to excel, prosper, succeed, and be powerful in your calling to serve people in the marketplace.
2. E xhortation (Romans 12:8) – You’ll need the ability to strongly urge or persuade others in the marketplace. This is especially vital in sales, which every business owner and entrepreneur needs to do to convey their services and products in a way that appeals to potential customers to buy. It also encourages others to do their best or to do the right thing. This type of gift also helps when leading staff or coaching people into their greatness. It instills confidence in others by encouraging them in a supernatural way.
1. L eadership (Romans 12:8) - If you are called to be a business owner or entrepreneur, you are automatically called to be a leader. If God has called you to business, you will have to lead others. Whether you have employees to delegate to or to develop, or you have to set and articulate the vision for others (customers or staff)
3. P rophecy (Romans 12:6) - Many people do not see prophecy as a gift that’s vital to use in the marketplace. The gift of prophecy speaks life and reveals the heart and mind of God to people. People in the marketplace who are business owners, employees, clients, and potential customers can all benefit from this gift. In
LIFE | MARKETPLACE: BUSINESS my business, I coach and consult with clients using prophecy all the time. I don’t end a prophetic word with “thus saith the Lord,” but God reveals things to me about what the direction of a business should be and strategies on how to get a desired result all the time. I can easily identify strongholds and barriers to their success and deal with their concerns and issues from the root rather than just dealing with them on the surface. This sets me apart from other business coaches and it blesses people because they can encounter God and His will for their business. 4. Service (Romans 12:7) The gift to serve needs to operate in every business owner’s life. We were all created to serve, but the gift to serve will allow you to meet the needs of staff and clients in a supernatural way. Service is motivated by love. When you see people the way God sees them, you can’t help but to do what’s in their best interest, even it causes you to make sacrifices. Always remember that a leader is the chief servant. 5. Apostolic (1 Cor. 12:28) - Do you find yourself drawn to other business leader, entrepreneurs, and CEOs to train, disciple, develop, and help them to grow personally or professionally in their
businesses? Then you might have an apostolic gift in operation. You also set the standard for how businesses should operate with excellence and administer correction and coaching when necessary. 6. Discernment (1 Cor. 12:10) - Ever wonder if you should partner with another business? Take on a certain client? Entertain a certain business opportunity? Well the gift of the discerning of spirits, when in operation, will enable you to know what opportunities are coming from God versus those that were sent by the enemy to ensnare you. It will also give you insight on when people you interact with in business are under the influence of God or the enemy. 7. Faith (1 Cor. 12:9) - It takes a tremendous amount of faith to fulfill the will of God for your business. If you know He’s called you to your business, then you have to believe at all times, regardless of what it looks like, that God wants you to be and will help you to be successful. When the going gets tough, the gift of faith will carry you through. During those times where your business is not profitable or seemingly taking a turn for the worst, the gift of faith will keep you from fainting and giving up or shrinking
back. It takes faith to see things through until the end and to endure the pressures that go along with being a business owner. 8. Wisdom (1 Cor. 12:8) - The gift of wisdom will enable you have supernatural insight to make decisions that will cause great benefit and increase to come to you, your business, your customers, and your staff. You will be shrewd in your business dealings and avoid doing things by trial and error. When you seek the Lord for wisdom, He will gladly give it to you. Being led by the Spirit of God is the best business strategy that you can have. These gifts of the Holy Spirit will always lead you to the right place.
Tamiko Cuellar is the CEO & Founder of Pursue Your Purpose, a small business strategist, speaker and author. She is gifted to provide strategies that catapult their businesses to the next level.
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LIFE | BUSINESS > BEAUTY
BEAUTY WITH A PURPOSE egories including skincare, color, fragrance, and body.
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mber is the wife of Dr. Edward Johnson. She has two children, Krystal Edward III. Both Amber and her husband are both business owners. She developed her love for fashion and beauty at the age of 10. As a teenager, Amber began working as a freelance model, and while traveling she decided that her true passion was in cosmetics. In 2014, Amber became a certified and licensed makeup artist and with the love of cosmetics, she created a cosmetic company, CliQ Cosmetics, which is sold online and in stores nationwide. CliQ is a visionary beauty-retail concept, Amber created the company with the vision of developing a leading brand in cosmetics. CliQ’s unique, opensell environment features an ever-increasing amount of classic and emerging brands across a broad range of product cat-
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Today, CliQ is not only a cosmetics company, but they manufacturer their own product in their own outsourced factories in Canada and China. To build the most knowledgeable and celebrity make up artist, top beauty gurus and leading experts in skincare. CliQ is quickly becoming highly regarded as a beauty trailblazer, thanks to its unparalleled assortment of prestige products, unbiased service from experts, interactive shopping environment, and innovation. “My love of cosmetics dates back to when I was a child,” she shares. “I can recall observing my older siblings utilizing make up and from that point it sparked an interest in me, and as I grew up I developed a greater love for makeup as well as fashion. Later in life, I used my love for makeup and I attended cosmetic school where I obtained my license and certification as a makeup artist.” Amber is not just a businesswoman, but a woman of faith as well. She learned to be suc-
cessful in her personal life and business by placing God in the center of it all. She realizes that when she incorporates God in everything she does that the road is less difficult to travel. Amber credits God for teaching her how to have a proper balance and knows that without His guidance she would not be where she is today. In today’s society, sometimes family time can get lost or placed on the back burner when it comes to ensuring a financially stabled home. But for Amber and her husband they make sure that they do not neglect their personal time and understand that it’s critical to keep family time and the bond of the family togetherness before business.
“I cherish my husband and my two adorable children and I ensure that work or meetings never supersede our quality time,” says Amber.
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KEEP ME TIGHT FOUNDER SHAMEEKA HUNT Wow, nobody said that walking in your purpose and fulfilling your destiny was going to be like this! There are so many emotions and I have learned so much about myself and other people. It is fascinating and a headache all in the same breath.
“Where am I going?” “How did I get here?” “Why me?” are just some of the questions I ponder over. I don’t ponder too long because I have to keep it moving. There is no rest for the weary. I was
a young Black woman who graduated from Virginia Tech in Electrical Engineering. I was engaged shortly after I graduated and looking for a new home for after I was married. I thought that establishing myself on the job was going to get me to where I was supposed to be in life. Wrong! Fast forward seven years in marriage and three jobs later in which I have achieved more things, such as earning a Master’s of Science in Electrical Engineering from George Washington University, passing the PMP exam and becoming a certified Project Management Professional through the well-respected Promoting Purpose | 2014 37
LIFE | BUSINESS Project Management Institute (PMI), and working for the government and highly respected consulting firm and engineering companies. But in all of that I always felt a tug, a yearning like there was more. So I got my real estate license and began helping family and friends find and sell homes but most importantly help my husband and I find investment properties for our future. That was fun, I did it well, but something was still missing. I did not enjoy working for other people, especially if I disagreed with the work ethics and how things were done. If I smelled something fishy I had to keep it moving. I am not the one to keep my mouth shut and sit back because that was a sign of agreement. And more times than not my husband would tell me that I would not be happy until I was the boss and ran my own business. Man that husband of mine is full of wisdom and he always hits the nail on the head. After seven years of marriage we had two children within a three year timeframe. Both of our kids were delivered via C-section and during my first child’s delivery the doctors had to remove one ovary that had a cyst on it. Now with two babies there was more noise, more activity, more things to juggle with work and home. But
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most importantly, I was disgusted with my post-pregnancy body as I had gained over 80 pounds within those three years. I wanted my body back, and fast. Once I was cleared by the doctor I hit every fitness class available - Zumba, pole dancing - almost every night of the week faithfully for at least an hour. And also got on a strict nutritional regimen and walked 3.5 miles every morning pushing my kids in the stroller. Before I knew it, I was back to my desired weight. However, that belly was accentuated even more and I looked like I was pregnant again. Oh NO!!! It looked like, and still looks like a little round basketball is hiding under my shirt. This belly of mine continues to be a very difficult part of my body to lose weight, tone and turn into a washboard. What is a girl to do? Now, another challenge faced me in order to get into my pre-pregnancy clothes. And I tell you that I refused to buy a whole new wardrobe. I was wearing my pregnancy clothes almost a year after having my second child. Laugh if you want but that was my motivation. With so much talk in the media and society with compression shapewear I figured why not give it a try. It has to work like the commercials say, right? Well wasn’t I rudely awakened. I
wanted something that cinched my abs in, not accentuate my rolls and curves. And there was no way that I was going to wear something continuously that took my breath away, made me sweaty by the time I put it on, and was unsightly under my clothes. It was a disaster and I was spending an enormous amount of money in the process. There seemed to be no solution in sight and I refused to get surgery for a quick fix. One morning I was getting ready and going through my typical frustration of finding the perfect outfit that would hide my belly. And again my husband, the man full of wisdom, said to me as I was filled with disgust, “If you can’t find it why don’t you create it.” Ding ding ding. The light bulb went off and I went running out the gates to create my own shapewear. The days were long and rough but I was determined to find a solution. Between getting two babies ready for school and daycare in the mornings, commuting an hour for drop off in the mornings, working full-time as an electrical engineer, commuting back home to spend another hour picking up kids, and then getting home for dinner and the nightly routine. Man I tell you I must have been desperate because I would keep going like the energizer bunny. My phone,
LIFE | BUSINESS iPad, and laptop were always by my hip or in close proximity. I ran everyone in my household ragged just by watching me go go go. Over a year’s period I went through my daily routine, including weekends to work in as much as possible to create a masterpiece, the Hour Glas by KeepMeTight. Well this masterpiece was getting bigger than me. Other women started asking about what I was doing. And how could I keep it to myself if there was some way I could help another woman. I started merging my engineer mind with my business mind and soon I was turning this product into a business. Man oh man what did I get myself into? I have learned so much from the legal aspects of owning and operating a business, customer service, financial management, product development, building a team, time management, the harsh realities of how much I have to reach outside of my inner circle for my greatest support (other than my husband and kids), and so much more. But in all of this, God has been so faithful and gives me the strength to keep pressing forward. I continue to do my part and even through the trials, headaches, tears, and frustrations, there is always joy,
satisfaction, another accomplishment, recognition, satisfied client, and doors opening that I didn’t foresee. The journey has been tiring, but now I know I am fulfilling my purpose and I am getting closer every day to helping not only myself but other people in the process. Fulfilling my purpose has allowed my product to include men. When clients provide feedback that my shapewear provide them relief from back pain and helps with their posture, I know that I am on to something bigger than imagined. This was no longer just shapewear, but an undergarment. We offer something for everybody, no matter your age, ethnicity, or gender. But wait! That’s not it. I am always thinking of bright ideas that I love personally. And my personal needs drove me to start the KMT Posh Club, which is an exclusive club for all women to come together in order to invoke lifestyle changes from the inside out in the areas of fitness, food and nutrition, and fashion. I started this club because I felt that there wasn’t a place where a woman can come for a short time, have an upscale experience, receive expert advice and education, eat nutritional foods, network, have a fun time, while enjoying personal shopping from other business owners and creators.
I receive great feedback from the women who attend, so there is no way I could stop now. The KMT Posh Club meets every quarter and we are continuously looking for sponsors for the presentations, food, Posh bags, venues, and more. In all of this I have also learned another important lesson: ask and you shall receive. When people know that you are doing something positive to give back to the community there is a positive response to support. I must continue along this journey that God has created me for. Everything that I have been through and people I meet are for a purpose. I just have to listen to God speak to me and move when He says to move. If I could tell anyone that listen… my words of encouragement would be that nothing in life is an accident. It is how you take that life lesson and use it to help yourself and the community at large. You will know in your heart when you are walking in your destiny as it will feel right and you will bring about change. And in all things give 110 percent energy, focus and dedication, and level of excellence. So think big, dream big, do big.
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LIFE | PURPOSEFUL LIVING FIRST LADY MYESHA CHANEY TALKS WITH PROMOTING PURPOSE
Myesha Chaney, a Long Beach native, is a pastor’s wife, mother, motivational speaker, worship leader, recording artist, entrepreneur, author, and radio personality. She is executive director of Antioch Church of Long Beach, California, where her husband serves as senior pastor. Myesha, who is a licensed and ordained minister, shares the ministry with her husband, Wayne, both at the church and in their travels throughout the city and around the country. Under their leadership, the congregation has grown exponentially.
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Worship is central to Myesha’s core. It is no surprise that she leads worship every Sunday morning. She has ministered in song both in church and at community events. Amongst a host of events, she was a featured performer at the 2009 California Women’s Conference, hosted by Maria Shriver, where she captured the hearts of the 25,000 women who attended the conference. She sang on the Empowerment Stage at the 2010 Essence Music Festival in New Orleans, which draws over 400,000 people. She has also taken her music ministry to Israel and New Zealand.
LIFE | PURPOSEFUL LIVING PPM: How does a typical day begin for you? Myesha: My day usually starts with quiet reflection and meditation. It is really important for me to center myself, spend time with God, and determine the priorities of my day. Music is a big part of my life, so I fill the morning with a continuous flow of worship. I read my Bible and pray. PPM: You’re a wife, mother, first lady, artist, author, on reality television and traveling for Hiding Behind the Lipstick the Experience. How do you manage all of this and still remain humble and energetic? Myesha: I truly enjoy what I do and find satisfaction in all of it. I do feel that when God has uniquely created you for something, He graces you to handle it all. I have a very close relationship with God and that helps me stay balanced and grounded. I try my best to go to sleep before 1:00 a.m. and to eat clean as often as possible. PPM: What do you love to do when you’re able to catch a breather and relax? Myesha: When it’s time to chill, I love going to the spa. Pampering of any sort totally relaxes me. I get to turn my phone and email off and just get lost in the moment. It feels good every now and then. When things get really hectic, I am easy to please. A movie night at home with my family or even sleeping in is enough for me to catch a breather.
Woman of Faith PPM: You’re the First Lady/Executive Director of Antioch Church of Long Beach, California, where your husband Wayne Chaney Jr. serves as senior pastor. How does having faith and a close relationship with God help you manage your role as Executive Director among other projects you have?
PPM: Tell us about your conference Hiding Behind the Lipstick the Experience and how it got started? Myesha: When we awake in the morning, we not only decide what kind of skirt, shoes, and purse we are going to wear, but also the mask we’ll put on. Hiding Behind the Lipstick is an experience designed to help women embrace who they are and to live free. We, as women, tend to become whatever someone else needs us to be and who we are is lost somewhere deep inside. This ministry was birthed as an answer to prayer. Early in my ministry journey I was vulnerable and wanted to allow people to get to know me, but didn’t know how to break the cycle of everyone hiding behind their perfectly created personas. I asked God to show me a way and at our annual women’s retreat I spoke the Hiding Behind the Lipstick message. It changed all of us. It was so amazing and refreshing. We took off our masks and cried with one another. We have been sharing this experience with women from all walks of life ever since. PPM: You’re an artist; tell us about your music career? Myesha: Music is definitely a big part of who I am. I lead worship at Antioch Church of Long Beach, and I am currently writing my second album. I feel that music touches a sacred place of our souls and is a tool to heal us in places we didn’t know hurt. Music is a universal language. I can’t wait to share the depth of my being through songs, melodies, and inspiring lyrics. PPM: Would you like to leave our readers with a few words of encouragement? Myesha: The change you are looking for is in you. Be undeniable in all you do. Allow your faith in a God to guide your direction in life and never stop. You are powerful and beautiful.
Myesha: Faith is everything for me. God is the basis by which I exist. There are times in my life when I feel insecure in a particular area. My relationship with God is what keeps me and reminds me that it is Him that gives me the ability and strength. I take my role as executive director very serious. Sometimes it causes me to make tough choices so I can give my very best to the people I serve.
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LIFE | PURPOSEFUL LIVING > HEALTHY EATING THE AFROPOLITAN CHEF One of the many things that bring joy to Taiwo is cooking with a purpose. She cooks meals inspired by Africa. “I am very passionate about Afropolitan Chef, because when I think of food, most of what I remember is my mother in the kitchen when we lived in Nigeria,” shares Taiwo. “She would be in there for hours cooking for the family. Every other Sunday, we had at least 25 family members at our home eating, chatting, kids running around, adults laughing and being highly engaged in issues that mattered. It makes me feel and be happy thinking of those times. I wanted to figure out a modern African girl’s way to do that in Miami. So I launched Afropolitan Chef to share the love and power of food to bring people from different cultural backgrounds, religions, and beliefs together.” Taiwo believes that her culinary and PR skills are purposed for her life in order to connect and inspire the next generation of leaders, using images, words, and food. What better way than the highest expression of God? Doing it all with LOVE.
Yetunde Taiwo tells Promoting Purpose what inspired her to become an Afropolitan chef! Yetunde Taiwo is known for her hard work in the PR industry. She is the owner and founder of ICY Public Relations and resides in Miami, Florida. Taiwo is all about living on purpose and enjoys pushing people to strive and do their best while being happy.
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Check out this great and delicious recipe. We anticipate the release of her first cookbook that will include rich recipes and healthy nutritional facts.
LIFE | PURPOSEFUL LIVING > HEALTHY EATING RECIPE
SPINACH (EFO in Yoruba) WITH QUINOA – Prep Time: 45 minutes | Serves 2
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1 cup Quinoa 1 red bell pepper 1 medium sized tomato 1/4 small red onion 1 or 1/2 habanero pepper 10 ounce of spinach ¼ cup of vegetable oil 1/2 tsp ground crawfish 6-8 large shrimp 1 ½ cup of water 1 ½ cup of broth 1/4 tsp of dried curry 1/4 tsp of dried thyme 1/2 tsp of salt or to your taste
Get comfortable cooking multiple foods at the same time. This goes so well with a nice glass of White Wine.
PREPARATION: 1. Pour 1/8 cup of oil into a pot. Set to medium heat (throw in a piece of onion, it helps to test the heat of the oil) Pour in your blended peppers. Add spices and ½ cup of broth, let it cook for 15 minutes 2. Chop up your Spinach (note that spinach shrinks under heat)
6. To get a nice shape, take a small container or even cookie shape and stuff it with Quinoa, then put on the plate 7. Serve with Cucumber or add some cooked sweet potatoes. 8. Done
3. In another pot add 1 ½ cup of water under medium heat. Add your Quinoa. Then add 1 cup of broth and ¼ tsp of salt. Cook for 15-20 minutes. Quinoa should be firm not soft or soggy. 4. Season the shrimp with bouillon cube and curry, let it seat for 5 -7 minutes. Heat a small frying pan. Once hot, add shrimp and pan sear for 3-5 minutes. 5. Open the pot of blended peppers, add crawfish, stir then add your spinach. Let it cook for 5 minutes add your shrimp (pan searing the shrimp gives the spinach a different taste than frying or even steaming) and you are done
Spinach: Rich in Vitamins it’s a power food and a great source of Omega 3. Quinoa: (pronounced –kinwa) is very rich in protein and iron.
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BOOKS | CHRISTIAN LITERARY WORLD HURTING WOMEN
her current relationship, ignoring the timeless principle, that “before destruction there is a warning.”
Sherrell Straker- Valdezloqui releases her novel Hurting Women, a book she says is a mirror image to some and a cautionary tale to others.
Tracy married her high school sweet heart, but the high school fairy tale ending she imagined warped into a nightmare of physical abuse.
TRICE, TRACY OR SHARON ~ One or more of these ladies will have a hard pill to swallow… Trice, Tracy and Sharon have been through a lot as friends. Although, nothing could have prepared them for what they are going to go through as adults.
Sharon wanted the lap of luxury - a handsome man, big house, nice cars, money, money and more money. What she found was an unending chase for superficial happiness. Consumed by lust and her past demons, the elusive Mr. Right seems all but impossible to find.
The trio separate, and decide to seek out their respective prince charming. Trice, reared in the church, disregarded several warnings from God concerning
While the ladies resolve to shape and mold their men in their image, they realized that these men are molding them into something they won’t soon
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be able to recognize. These ladies will find themselves struggling and fighting not only for their lives, but for the lives of their children as well. When a man finds a wife, he finds something good… but when stubborn will and insecurity surface, the ladies find themselves chasing the wind. What they find is a far cry from a “good thing…” A look in the mirror to some and a cautionary tale to others, the Hurting Women share messages of the importance of waiting on God for the right person, as well as understanding when you value yourself, then others will value you as well… Available on Kindle and Amazon. Get an autograph copy at www. promotingpurpose.com.
BOOKS | CHRISTIAN LITERARY WORLD Nika Corbett: 30 Days of Positivity ‘Live Life Positively’
You’re In The Driver’s Seat, Why Are You Lost? provides readers with a roadmap to an amazing life!
30 Days of Positivity goal is for everyone to be “Purposefully Positive.” Daily, we are faced with challenges that we cannot always control. What we do have control of is how we respond. So, let us begin today to be more positive in all situations. All that is required is your decision to take this journey with us. This daily journal gives you the guidance you need, along with scriptures to stand on as you begin your life transformation.
Dr. G. is a speaker, trainer, author and the CEO of her own company, Emotional Wellness. She has presented speeches and training sessions both nationally and internationally. She has worked with many Fortune 500 companies and her clients include IBM, Pitney Bowes, AT&T, Aetna, Brinker International, Pepsico, Freddie Mac, U.S. Department of Defense, Zig Ziglar Corp., and TI just to name a few. She has been featured on Michael Baisden, Tom Joyner Morning Show, Sway in the Morning and many nationally broadcasted and syndicated radio and television shows across the country.
This book is available on Amazon and at website www.30daysofpositivity.com
Dr. Lawana Gladney New Book: If You’re In The Driver’s Seat, Why Are You Lost? A Roadmap To An Amazing Life Dr. Gladney or Dr. G. is an emotional wellness doctor, who can help you achieve the life you want and deserve. Her expert advice and inspiration has reached more than 22 million individuals. Her latest book, If
We’ve all blown it; we all error in our ways. We have hurt ourselves, others and have been victims of hurt. Because of sin, each of us needs repentance and the tenacity to endure the season our sin brings us to… more less our transformation. Whether our stronghold is emotional, financial, relational, spiritual, and sexual or whatever at some point we have to face our demons. Behind the Wall of Grace is a testimony of spiritual recovery and is available at www.somiandco.com
Available on Amazon and on her website www.creatingamazinglives.com
Stephanie Davis: Behind The Wall Of Grace We may think that recovery is only for drug addicts and alcoholics—people whose lives seem out of control. Sin itself is addicting, and the word of God says, “We all have sinned”…not one of us is perfect. Promoting Purpose | 2014 47