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2018 Election

What you need to know: Primary Election, May 8 LGBTQ groups release candidate endorsements compiled by qnotes staff Primary elections for local, state and congressional races are just around the corner. Here’s what you need to know before heading into the voting booth.

We’re focusing solely on the May 8 primary, so if you’re curious about early releases for the November election, be sure to visit Equality NC online at equalitync.org and MeckPAC at meckpac.org. Endorsements in the Triad will be released by the Replacements Ltd. PAC. You can learn more about their endorsements when released at replacementsltdpac.org.

Monaghan District 39 Democratic: Chad

Mecklenburg County District Attorney Spencer Merriweather Mecklenburg County Commissioners At-Large: Pat Cotham At Large: Ray McKinnon At Large: Trevor Fuller District 3: George Dunlap At Large: Jamie Hildreth District 4: Mark Jerrell

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Election Information Primary Election: May 8 • Early Voting: April 19 -May 5 Haven’t registered to vote or need to update your registration? You can do so during the early vote period. Check your local county board of elections website for more information on early voting days, times and locations. In Mecklenburg County, visit www.mecknc.gov/BOE. In Wake County, visit www.wakegov.com/ELECTIONS. Equality NC Endorsements U.S. House District 2: Wendy Ella May District 4: David Price District 5: DD Adams District 6: Ryan Watts District 7: Kyle Horton

Stachowicz District 47: David Wheeler

District 8: Marc Tiegel District 11: Steve Woodsmall District 12: Alma Adams District 13: Kathy Manning

N.C. House District 2: Darryl Moss District 8: Kandie Smith District 11: Allison Dahle District 20: Leslie Cohen District 35: Terence Everitt District 43: Prince Christian

District 64: Cathy Von Hassel-Davies District 65: Wally White District 83: Senah Andrews District 98: Christy Clark District 101: Carolyn Logan District 105: Wesley Harris

N.C. Senate District 2: Ginger Garner District 16: Wiley Nickel District 19: Kirk DeViere

District 34: Beniah McMiller District 38: Mujtaba Mohammed District 39 Republican: Beth

New Hanover County Commissioners District 2: Julia Olson-Boseman Orange County Clerk of Superior Court Mark Kleinschmidt Wake County Commissioners District 1: Sig Hutchinson District 2: Matt Calabria

District 4: Susan Evans District 7: John Burns

MeckPAC Endorsements N.C. House District 88: Warning: Ty Turner District 98: Christy Clark District 101: Carolyn Logan District 102: Becky Carney

District 105: Wesley Harris District 38: Mujtaba Mohammed (Warning: Joel Ford)

N.C. Senate District 39 Republican: Beth Monaghan (Warning: Dan Bishop) District 39 Democratic: Chad Stachowicz Mecklenburg County District Attorney Spencer Merriweather Mecklenburg County Sheriff Garry McFadden (Warning: Irwin Carmichael) Mecklenburg County Commissioners At-Large: Trevor Fuller District 3 - George Dunlap At-Large: Jamie Hildreth District 4 - Mark Jerrell At-Large: Ray McKinnon MeckPAC gives “warnings” for candidates it believes voters should specifically avoid, due to their past records on LGBTQ issues.

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Staff changes at qnotes Change. Something some people have a difficult time with. They hate change so much they tend to get stagnant or stuck in a rut and miss out on some good adventures or opportunities.

Others want to change things all the time. They move the furniture around constantly, their dating life is a revolving door and they change up their entire style or fashion every few months.

There is always change of some kind in the newspaper business, of course. Good. Bad. Bittersweet. All this change keeps us on our feet.

The newest change for qnotes is in our staff.

Jeff Taylor has accepted a new and exciting position and I would like to thank him for all he has done here at qnotes. For about three

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years, Jeff has done great work as a staff writer and social media editor. The rest of the staff and I will miss you, Jeff, and we all wish you the best in your new position! Perhaps Jeff will still do some things for us down the road, after he gets settled in his new job. After all, who knows where life will take you and how paths may cross some day in the future!

I also want to welcome back to the qnotes family, Matt Comer. Matt joins us as a staff writer and social media manager. He will be writing for our print and online publications and managing the day-to-day activity of our social media. Matt previously served as the editor of qnotes from October 2007 to August 2015.

The newspaper is also currently looking for another part-time staff writer or freelance writer. We are particularly looking for writers with knowledge on local and state politics, as well as government reporting. Additionally, writers with an interest in arts and entertainment coverage, especially on the local and regional level, are also encouraged to reach out.

Diverse candidates are encouraged to inquire.

If interested, email a cover letter, resume and samples to publisher@goqnotes.com.

As for change — losing a good writer like Jeff is bitter and gaining a good writer like Matt is sweet. No one said change was ever easy.

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It’s About Sex

New federal law could have unintended consequences for sex workers, LGBTQ community Craigslist, other personals sites already shuttering online services; could your favorite dating app be next?

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of each ad placed on the site. The company even partnered with new federal law approved by Congress in March and law enforcement, giving them access to search for victims online signed by the president in mid April has prompted immediand enlisting users to voluntarily review ads and report possible ate concern by advocates for LGBTQ people, sex workers victims to law enforcement and child exploitation agencies. and other marginalized communities. Critics are saying FOSTA, or Still, under increasing scrutiny, Craigslist voluntarily shutthe Allow States and Victims to Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act, tered its adult services section in September 2010. will create unsafe experiences for sex workers and could foretell a panicked crackdown on private relationships conducted online.

Proponents of the new law, which is already having a chilling effect on several large and small online personals and dating sites, say it is intended to curb human sex trafficking. They say online publishers have been complicit in the sale and trade of human trafficking victims, often underage, forced into involuntary sex work.

Critics claim the law is dangerous, saying it targets not only sex trafficking but also voluntary sex work, having the unintended consequence of pushing all sex work further underground. That will put both victims and voluntary sex workers in more danger.

The U.S. Department of Justice agreed with some critics, especially scared that an expanded underground economy would make it more difficult to identify and apprehend perpetrators of sex trafficking. They even said the law was unconstitutional, and said the law’s new requirements for prosecutors would make it more difficult to hold abusers accountable.

The new law is just the latest in several state and federal actions targeting online dating and sex work, including the 2015 shutdown of Rentboy, the subsequent arrest of several of its employees and, finally, a six month prison sentence for its CEO, Jeffrey Davids.

All in all, the complex details and controversy surrounding FOSTA (or SESTA, as it was known before its final passage) and the recent history of state and federal actions makes it hard A new federal law is already having a chilling effect on online personals. to fully wrap your head around what’s at stake. Large companies like Craigslist have found the new law confusing and vague, too, erring on the side of caution and recently shutting What followed was a proliferation of erotic services ads on down its personals section in order to avoid any potential liability. sites like Backpage and a number of other online dating sites and So, too, has Reddit, shutting down some of its popular sections services, including gay sites like Adam4Adam. where sex workers and others had previously sought clients or Other websites also became popular resources for voluntary hook-ups. sex workers. Rentboy, shut down by federal authorities in 2015, had been one of the top online directories for male sex workers The background working primarily with other men. The owners of Rentboy, as well Debate over the online sale of sex isn’t new, and there’s been as men who used the site to find and filter clients, claimed the longstanding public and legal pressure to stop online publishers online service kept them safe. from offering personals or adult services listings.

The judge in Rentboy CEO Jeffrey Davids’ case agreed.

More than a decade ago Craigslist, the number-one online “The very thing that was illegal, it also did a lot of good,” New classifieds site, came under fire for its adult services section.

York Federal District Court Judge Margo K. Brodie said during Critics then used many of the same arguments being used now Davids’ sentencing. to support the passage of FOSTA. Davids was sentenced to six months in prison, less than half Craigslist at the time had implemented a number of safety the time federal prosecutors had requested. mechanisms, including phone verification and a manual review

‘Back to the streets’ FOSTA now threatens to end all use of the internet by voluntary sex workers — and even non-commercial, private dating and other sexual encounters.

As a result of the law’s passage in recent weeks, Craigslist shuttered its personals section, mirroring the preemptive, riskaverse move it made when it shut down its erotic services section nearly a decade ago. A smaller, more niche site for furries has also announced it is shutting down, at least temporarily.

More shutdowns could come soon, and that spells uncertainty for sex workers.

Those performing consensual sex work saw Craigslist, Backpage, Rentboy and other services as a sort of firewall. From the comfort of their home — or anywhere else they felt secure — they could chat with potential clients via email or other means before actually meeting them in person. Doing so allowed them to filter out those who sent up warning flags as potentially abusive or violent. The ability to screen clients isn’t guaranteed in less safer areas — bars and nightclubs, for example, and certainly not on the street.

“I felt safe with it. I choose whether or not I want to do something,” a sex worker named Natalia told TheCut. com. “The way that I work is, ‘You come here and you get a massage,’ and if I think the client is going to be cooperative and he is going to have the means to pay — if I feel like I want to do something, I will do it. If not, I will just finish the regular massage.

If I go work somewhere else, whether it is the street, whether it is for somebody else, I won’t have the freedom to do that and I won’t feel safe anymore.”

That the first major federal crackdown on online sex was directed toward primarily gay male workers and clients should raise alarm. At the time of the investigation’s conclusion, federal and New York state officials decried any suggestion they were motivated by anti-gay bias.

But it is true that LGBTQ people, and other marginalized groups, often overlapping — including people of color — find themselves disproportionately reflected in the numbers of people who engage in voluntary sex work. With the closure of more online personals sites, many of those people will be forced back onto the street.

“I am thinking about going back to the streets, but it is just so dangerous, and the police don’t understand getting a job isn’t easy for everyone,” a transgender sex worker named Trinity also told TheCut.com. “New Orleans has just installed a bunch of new crime cameras. They are criminalizing ev-

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news notes: carolinas compiled by Lainey Millen :: qnotes staff

ENC names new executive director RALEIGH, N.C. — Equality North Carolina has announced that it has appointed Kendra R. Johnson as its next executive director. She will begin her new position on May 7.

Johnson’s direct responsibilities are to implement the organization’s strategic vision and to lead staff, volunteers, partners and allies in advancing its mission.

Prior to her appointment, Johnson worked as the Arkansas state director for the Human Rights Campaign, where she led the organization’s Project One America effort across the state to bring equality to LGBTQ people.

“I am honored to fight for fairness and equality for the people of North Carolina,” Johnson said. “Equality NC has accomplished a lot even in the face of strong opposition. I am excited to join this passionate group of people and work alongside coalition partners and advocates in North Carolina.”

Johnson received her Bachelor of Arts degree from Spelman College, in Atlanta, Ga. After working over a decade as a journalist in Brazil, she obtained a Master of Public Administration degree from the University of Arkansas-Little Rock. Her capstone project was entitled, “HIV/AIDS Prevention Programs in Arkansas: A Needs Assessment.” Johnson also serves as chair of the board of Southerners on New Ground. info: equalitync.org.

Charlotte TOY seeks prom support

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — The Time Out Youth Center’s MasQueerade Prom will be held on April 27 and is searching for supporters to contribute monetarially to the event.

Support levels are: $100 (will send 10 youth to prom for free), $250 (will help purchase refreshments, and materials youth need at the center), $500 (will help pay for security and entertainment for the event and programs) and $1,000 (will help cover the venue fee, or staffing at the center). To contribute, visit bit.ly/2H4chOi. info: timeoutyouth.org.

Alliance observes awareness month

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — SafeAlliance has announced local activities in observance of Sexual Assault Awareness Month during the month of April.

On April 21, 2 p.m., take a self defense class at Kismet Fitness, 640-D Matthews-Mint Hill Rd., in Matthews, N.C. Then on April 25, wear jeans as a way to protest sexual violence on Denim Day 2018. The event is a rape prevention education campaign that raises community awareness about the devastating impacts of sexual violence and how to prevent it. The campaign originated as a response to a ruling by the Italian Supreme Court where a rape conviction was overturned because the justices felt that since the victim was wearing tight jeans, she must have helped her rapist remove them, thereby implying consent. Learn more at safealliance.org/saam.

Walk A Mile In Her Shoes follows on April 28, 10 a.m., at NoDa Brewing Company, 2921 N. Tryon St. The national event was brought to Charlotte as a playful opportunity for men to raise awareness in their community about men’s sexualized violence against women. Men (and their families) walk a mile in heels in solidarity with the women SafeAlliance serves daily, organizers said.

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Registration begins at 9 a.m. At 11 a.m., awards will be presented, followed by an after party at 12 p.m.

Prior to the walk, participants are encouraged to ask friends and family for support by hosting a garage sale, bake sale, game night, cornhole tournament or other fundraisers.

Register to walk at bit.ly/2H2Xdoa.

Sponsorships are also being accepted from $100 to $2,500. info: safealliance.org.

Choir presents ‘Big Sing’

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — Carolina Voices MainStage Choir will present its second audience-participation concert, “The Big Sing: Animated!,” on May 11-12, 7:30 p.m., as well as a one-hour “Big Sing: Animated for Kids” on May 12, 3 p.m., at Spirit Square, McGlohon Theater, 345 N. College St. “The program is specifically designed to get the audience to participate,” said show director John Quillin. “We’re featuring really well-known songs that everyone can sing along to. These songs are popular as stand-alone hits, not just as part of a movie soundtrack, so you don’t have to have spent time in a dark theater to know and love the music.”

“It’s not just a stand-and-sing kind of show,” said assistant director Matt Hinson.

“We’re making use of projections to display the words for the sing-alongs, we’ve got a great emcee who will keep everyone in stitches, and the top show choir in the state as our special guests. Think ‘Glee’ but real-life.”

Songs are mostly from the past 20 years or so of animated blockbusters, but some go back even further, Quillin shared, including “A Whole New World” from “Aladdin,” “Let It Go” from “Frozen,” and a medley of cartoon theme songs that stretches from “Mighty Mouse” all the way to “The Simpsons” and “Spongebob Squarepants.”

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parents, Carolina Voices Executive Director Sue Wheldon said.

Tickets range from $10-$25 and are available online. info: carolinavoices.org/bigsing.asp.

Band to hold concert

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — The Charlotte Pride Band will conclude its current season with its “Out of This World” concert on May 19, 5 p.m., at Myers Park Baptist Church, 1900 Queens Rd. Featured television and movie themes explore the final frontier with music from science fiction favorites such as “Star Wars,” “ET,” “Star Trek,” “Stargate,” “Back to the Future,” “Guardians of the Future,” “Doctor Who” and “Battlestar Galactica.”

Tickets are $15 and are available for purchase online or at the door. info: charlotteprideband.org.

TOY Cabarrus meals requested

CONCORD/KANNAPOLIS, N.C. — Concord/ Kannapolis PFLAG provides a meal each month for Time Out Youth Center Cabarrus County satellite participants during their meeting time.To that end, volunteers are being sought to help feed approximately 12-18 youth and a few adults.

Dates that need to be filled are May 22, June 26, July 24, Aug. 28 and Oct. 23, 6-6:30 p.m., at McGill Baptist Church in Concord.

Email chapter President Joan Gale to learn more or to prepare and serve dinner to those who attend. info: ckpglag@gmail.com.

AIDS Walk moves to new location

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — AIDS WALK Charlotte will begin on May 12 at 11 a.m. at its new Uptown Charlotte location, the Wells Fargo Atrium and Plaza, 301 S. Tryon St. An expected 1,200 walkers will venture out on the 1.8-mile route to raise money for RAIN. The organization’s goal for the event is $160,000.

The walk takes an average of 30 minutes to complete and those who wish to be part of it should register beginning at 9 a.m. AIDS WALK Charlotte is open to all who wish to join in, and kids and pets are welcome too. Anyone can sign on as an individual or develop a team. There is no fee to register for “Walking

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Boy George tour hits Carolinas

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — Boy George and Culture Club will make a stop in the Queen City on July 21, 7 p.m., at the PNC Music Pavilion, 707 Pavilion Blvd., on their “Life Tour” across the southern U.S. Joining them are the B-52s and Thompson Twins’ Tom Bailey.

Boy George is an iconic Grammy-nominated performer who has been involved in the music industry for 30 years. His theatrical stage presence and creative costuming brought him to the forefront in his early career. Besides singing, he also is a consummate and sought-after DJ, spinning at venues around the globe. Charlotte LGBTQ club goers may remember him when he brought his sound to the dance floor at the now-closed Velocity nearly a couple of decades ago. And, fans lined up overnight in 39 degree weather for tickets for his first Culture Club concert in Charlotte in the 1980s.

Not only is he a singer, but he is also an author, columnist and fashion designer, as well as being named in the top 50 of the BBC’s Greatest Britons of all time. He has also been photographed widely by noted photographers.

Tickets are $18-$125 and are available online at livemu.sc/2IYuDRc. Other Carolina stops and ticket sales websites are: July 17, 7 p.m., Koka Booth Amphitheatre, 8003 Regency Pkwy., Cary, N.C., $45-$69.50, bit.ly/2IUMTv2 and July 20, 7 p.m., Volvo Car Stadium, 161 Seven Farms Dr., Charleston, S.C., $25-$95, bit.ly/2vjkCMv. info: boygeorgeuk.com.

Triangle CMF host party held Saturday

RALEIGH, N.C. — The 2018 Crape Myrtle Festival Host Party will be held on April 21, 7 p.m., at the home of Jessica and Chris Gotwalt, 401 E. Jones St. The organization’s board and court shared that an RSVP is requested via email to info@ crapemyrtlefest.org, as well as a minimum contribution made online at crapemyrtlefest. org/contribute.html, via snail mail with form to Crape Myrtle Festival, Inc., P.O. Box 12201, Raleigh, NC 27605, or brought to the party. Full details on sponsorship and donor levels are available online.

Dress is cocktail or semi-formal attire. info: crapemyrtlefest.org.

Youth hosts awards banquet

Strong,” but to receive an official AIDS Walk T-shirt, a participant must raise at least $25.

Contributions can be made to individual or team pages available online.

There will also be family-friendly activities, such as music and dancing and the Tap Snap photo booth inside the Atrium.

Prior to stepping off, participants will be part of a morning program and awards presentation at 10:30 a.m. At the end of the walk, a closing ceremony will take place at noon and announced totals from organizers.

Visit aidswalkcharlotte.org for more information. info: carolinarain.org.

DURHAM, N.C. — iNSIDEoUT has announced that it will hold its Twelfth Annual Awards Banquet and Gaiety on May 12, 12 p.m., at The Scrap Exchange, 2050 Chapel Hill Rd. The event celebrates LGBTQ youth activism and it has opened up nominations for friends, teachers or anyone else to be recognized for their contributions toward supporting queer youth. Visit the website for a nomination form.

Participants can enjoy brunch and music for the event will be supplied by Emily Musolino.

Admission to the banquet is free, however, a contribution of $25 for adults and $3 for youth is appreciated. Visit insideout180.org/banquet-2018 to make donations.

Also, the event coordinators are seeking volunteers. Email insideoutamy@gmail.com to learn more or to sign up.

Additionally, the organization is holding its Queer Prom on April 28, 7 p.m., at Calvary United Methodist Church, 304 E. Trinity Ave. DJ Vespertine will spin. The organization is seeking adult chaperones. Visit the website to sign up.

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Carolinas News Notes continued from page 6 Earlier that day, there will be a middle and elementary school Gay-Straight Alliance meetup at 1 p.m. at Pincho Loco Ice Cream, 1918 Perry St. Attendees will learn how to form an alliance and will have time to meet other youth who have active participation in such a group. iNSIDEoUT has also announced that it has opened up submissions to its Backwords magazine. Email contributions to boardinsideout@gmail.com.

The organization is also seeking board members for its 2018-2019 calendar year, in addition to adult volunteers to handle accounting and bookkeeping, youth advising, and other event support. Expected volunteer commitment is five hours per month. Email insideoutamy@ gmail.com to learn more. info: insideout180.org.

Senior expo slated

RALEIGH, N.C. — SAGE Raleigh, the LGBT Center of Raleigh and Resources for Seniors will hold their first ever Triangle Expo for LGBTQ Aging Adults on June 23 at Five Points Center for Active Adults, 2000 Noble Rd., as part of Pride Month celebrations.

The Expo brings together providers of vital resources and consumers who are 50 and older. It will highlight and feature agencies, organizations and businesses across the Triangle area that are welcoming, respectful and willing to reach out to LGBTQ seniors. “While the impetus for creating this event is to especially reach out to the LGBTQ senior community,

the information on services and resources is appropriate to the entire senior community, as well as caregivers who work with seniors,” organizers said.

The event is open to the public.

As part of the Expo, non-profit service agencies, LGBTQ-affirming health care professionals, housing providers, businesses and many others will be on hand to showcase themselves to the LGBTQ community. This is also an opportunity for those who have felt marginalized to feel included and welcomed by affirming providers of services and goods.

Likewise, Expo exhibitors will gain the opportunity to connect with the LGBTQ community and receive valuable exposure.

As of press time, sponsors who have signed on for the event are: Presenting, American Airlines; Gold, Transitions Life Care, Gilead Sciences, Carol Woods Retirement Community and Reachout NC; and Silver, Meals on Wheels of Wake County, Overture Crabtree, WakeMed, Waltonwood, Wells Fargo, Cameron Financial Services and Lifetime Asset Management.

More information will be provided to qnotes readers as it is made available. In the meantime, interested parties can email sage@lgbtcenterofraleigh.com to learn about the Expo’s exhibit space, volunteer greeters, exhibitor support and ways to connect with the community.

Exhibition space is available until May 1 at $95/for-profit and $50/non-profit. And sponsor-

ships are being accepted ranging in cost from $500 to $10,000.

Applications and donor forms can be secured by email to sage@lgbtcenterofraleigh.com.

In other news, Meals on Wheels of Wake County is always looking for volunteers to shepard meals to their client base. And SAGE members are forming a team and will rotate delivery of meals, be it a few times a year, one day a month or more often. Send an email sage@lgbtcenterofraleigh.com for more information.

Out! Raleigh will be held on May 5. In its eighth year, attendees are treated to concerts, vendors, food trucks and more.

The event coordinators are seeking volunteers to staff the SAGE table. Shifts can be as short at two hours. Email sage@ lgbtcenterofraleigh.com for more information.

Additionally, the festival organizers also need volunteers, as well as welcome sponsors, vendors and guide advertisers. Contact the center for more information. info: lgbtcenterofraleigh.com/sage-expo.html.

Kimer closes out skating season

RALEIGH, N.C. — Business consultant Stan Kimer finished his U.S. Figure Skating’s 2017-2018 competitive adult series, placing fourth place in the pre-bronze level skater for the Eastern U.S. The Eastern US Adult Figure Skating Championships were held in Philadelphia, Pa. from March 16-18.

Kimer has posted his “I’m Too Sexy” light entertainment program to his skating blogs and video page.

info: totalengagementconsulting.com/blog/ skating-blogs-videos.

V-baller celebrates win with a cookie

WILSON, N.C. — Justice Lord, an out men’s volleyball team member for Barton College, celebrated his team’s Conference Carolinas regular season title win on April 7 with a chicken pesto sandwich, BBQ chips and a chocolate chip cookie from Which Wich, Outsports reported.

The team’s coach Jeff Lennox allowed players to select whatever they wanted to eat as a reward.

Lennox, 21, is a native of Hawaii and is a 6-foot-7, 240-pounder. info: bit.ly/2qhlb4q.

Western Wine, cheese tasting celebrates youth

HICKORY, N.C. — A celebratory wine and cheese tasting of OUTright Youth of Catawba Valley will be held on May 10, 5:30 p.m., at Trade Alley Art, 25 2nd St. NW. The free event is sponsored by Beverly Biser and Christle Teague, Jim and Evan Ellis-Raymer, Ed Farthing, Richard and Kathy Greathouse, Trade Alley Art and the 25 artists of Trade Alley Art. info: outrightyouthcv.org.

South Carolina AFFA hosts trans program

NORTH CHARLESTON, S.C. — Alliance for Full Acceptance will host “Trans Talk: Uncensored” on April 29, 6:30 p.m., at Commonhouse Aleworks in Park Circle, 4831 O’Hear Ave. The event is for those who have questions regarding such topics as what it is like to be transgender, when one discovers their true self, dating issues, name choices, clarity on being genderqueeer or non-binary, what it means for one’s sex life, proper pronoun usage, transgender community support and more. Listen to local transgender individuals talk about their experience in a casual conversational space and pose questions to them one was afraid to ask.

All ages are welcome with the understanding of the range of topics that may be discussed based on questions asked. Admission is free. info: affa-sc.org.

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Travel map details LGBTQ (in)tolerance worldwide SYDNEY, Australia — Global travel insurance provider World Nomads has released a map of (in)tolerance — revealing which countries are potentially dangerous for LGBTQ travelers because of legal status and societal attitudes. The company said it is important for gay travelers to make conscious and informed decisions about the places they choose to travel.

Seventy-two countries and territories worldwide criminalize same-sex relationships, including 45 in which sexual relationships between women are outlawed. In eight of those countries being gay can result in a death penalty, and there are dozens more in which gay sex acts can result in a prison sentence.

Rainbow flag colors are used to classify the levels of tolerance. Information is available online. Color codes are: Red: Being an LGBTQ individual is illegal. The death penalty may apply.

Orange: In these countries being gay is legal, but by default.

They have never enacted legislation specifically outlawing it. Its perhaps more accurate to describe the legal situation as “not officially illegal.”

Yellow: Have legalized being gay, but there is no other protection

for the LGBTQ community, and there is often open hostility from the majority of the population.

Green: Have legalized gay acts, but have a very limited number of other protections against discrimination.

Blue: Have legalized being gay and have a wide range, but not all, protections in place.

Purple: These countries have legalized and codified same-sex marriage and offer (generally) a full suite of protection of rights.

“Of course you may still encounter individuals with intolerant attitudes in those countries, but mostly the society is accepting and inclusive,” said World Nomads travel safety expert Phil Sylvester. He pointed out that there was no coverage under World Nomads policies if a traveler was arrested, detained or fined under anti-gay laws. “As much as we abhor these laws, all travel insurers are prohibited from covering illegal activity,

and legality is defined by the laws of the country you’re in.” he said, adding, “It pays to be aware of these places of intolerance so you can avoid falling foul of discriminatory laws by mistake.

Better to be informed and safe.”

Pink News reported that LGBTQ people spend almost $100 billion on travel just in the U.S. alone that Grindr found in a study it conducted. Globally, LGBTQ consumer spending numbers top $5 trillion. info: worldnomads.com. bit.ly/2IZgqnj.

QUICK HITS ——————————————————————————————————————————————————————————————————————— The Columbus Pride Festival drew a large crowd in its first event in Mike Pence’s hometown in Indiana. A Pence lookalike, Glen Pannell, also captured attention during his visit.

Pannell is known as Mike Hot-Pence and flew in from New York, N.Y. He raises money for LGBTQ youth charities and accepted contributions for Indiana Youth Group. info: bit.ly/2IWg14R.

olds to voluntarily and confidentially disclose their sexual orientation and gender identity on the National Crime Victimization Survey. info: law.ucla.edu.

ANI reported that gayborhoods are still facing a subtle form of discrimination from straight individuals. The information for making that claim stems from a study conducted by the University of British Columbia who interviewed 53 participants who lived in two Chicago, Ill. gayborhoods — Boystown and Andersonville. info: bit.ly/2H3P7rv.

David Ermold, who was denied a marriage certificate by Kentucky’s Kim Davis, is running against her for the country clerk position. info: victoryfund.org.

The Black AIDS Institute and St. John’s Well Child and Family Center in partnership with Paramount Pictures and Car Pros Kia Carson announced that it is opening a new comprehensive health clinic, A Clinic for Us, in Los Angeles, Calif. info: blackaids.org.

The U.S. Department of Justice announced that it will seek to stop asking 16 and 17 year

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Joy MacPhail has been elected chair of the board of trustees of Adler University, Canada’s only university dedicated to social justice. info: adler.edu.

GLSEN has released its Breaking the Silence Letter Generator, a three-minute questionnaire about the climate of local schools that automatically outputs a custom letter that senders can share with a school or district administrator as part of the organization’s Day of Silence. Its purpose is to advocate for LGBTQ-inclusive support. info: glsen.org.

Lizard Hazard Games, a small indie studio from Finland, has launched its Kickstarterfunded PC game called Your Royal Gayness.

The game is a story-driven parody game with a

message about acceptance of sexual diversity. info: visionist.fi/companyinfo.

Miami Beach, Fla. was named as the Best LGBTQ Destination in 2018 for the third consecutive year by the Travvy Awards. info: miamibeachapi.com.

San Diego Pride has announced that through a grant received from the American Consulate General in Tijuana it will take part in hosting a LGBTQ Binational Summit, Orgullo Sin Fronteras, on May 19. info: sdpride.org/binacional.

The National LGBTQ Task Force announced that it has selected Andy Garcia as the next director of Creating Change. info: thetaskforce.org.

The Point Foundation bestowed honors on journalist Ronan Farrow with the Point Courage Award and actor and singer Laura Benanti with the Point Impact Award. “Empire” actor and musician Jussie Smollett performed at the event. info: pointfoundation.org.

Blake’s Hard Cider is introducing Rainbow Seeker on April 27. Proceeds from Rainbow

Seeker, the first of Blake’s Kinder Cider Series, will fund a $40,000 direct donation to advance civil rights and equality programs spearheaded by the Human Rights Campaign. info: blakeshardcider.com.

Transgender activist Rachel Lauren Clark announced her intention to seek the Ontario Liberal Party Nomination in the provincial riding of Toronto Centre. She formerly served in the U.S. military before immigrating to Canada. info: rachelclark.ca.

“Out of the Closet,” an all-new digital series launched on April 17 on LogoTV, is featuring the homes of Acid Betty, Aja, Alexis Michelle, Kimora Blac, Manila Luzon and Sasha Velour to explore their wardrobes and learn what inspires their fashion, as well as the process that went into some of their most iconic and “wig-snatching” looks. info: logotv.com.

The Arcus Foundation has announced its 2018 grant recipients who will use their funds to support LGBTQ education, litigation and religious voices, among others. Among them is North Carolina’s Freedom Center for Social Justice. info: arcusfoundation.org.

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Sex Trafficking continued from page 5 erything … They have always criminalized being transgender and walking the streets late at night.”

The use of online ads and personals acted as a way to reduce harm and allowed sex workers to keep themselves and their friends and family safe.

“The most disturbing aspect of the legislation is its very broad definition of ‘the promotion of prostitution,’ which could definitely be read to sweep in some of the harm-reduction tactics that sex workers rely on,” Ian S. Thompson, an American Civil Liberties Union legislative representative told TIME. Sex trafficking is a serious issue, say advocates. But FOSTA was the wrong solution.

“This was a sloppy effort at addressing a very serious problem,” Thompson added to TIME. “It’s going to harm some of the very individuals that well-meaning members of Congress were actually trying to protect.”

FOSTA changes those standards. Not only can online personals and dating sites and apps be held responsible for the actions of their users, the new law also creates more stringent legal liability for online publishers who take efforts to edit or moderate the content on their systems, even if doing so is meant to weed out inappropriate content.

That means efforts used by dating apps to screen out inappropriate words or photos could create more, not less, liability.

Ironically, advocates say, the only option online publishers will have in order to avoid this particular liability is simply to give up on any content moderation at all.

Some are saying FOSTA — however well intentioned — has the potential to create a panicked crackdown on the private, consensual relationships of adults.

“More people should care about sex workers’ rights,” wrote

Guardian columnist Steven W. Thrasher. “But if you think none of this applies to you because you’re not queer or into kink or sex work, think again: the U.S. Congress wants to further regulate sex by way of the internet, and most people’s modern sex lives interact with the internet.”

Thrasher added, “Craigslist shut down its entire personal section because of the overreaching congressional desire to control sex work. And there’s no reason Congress couldn’t similarly intimidate Tinder or Grindr to remove you or shut down entirely as it has Craigslist – and then where would you be?”

It remains to be seen exactly how FOSTA will be enforced.

It could go easy, with the Department of Justice, already inclined to dislike the law, taking a light enforcement approach.

Or, it could lead to a sort of moral panic.

With such a new law, only time will tell the true story. : :

Are dating apps next?

Other online dating services — including popular apps like Grindr, Tinder and others — haven’t weighed in yet. But the new standards in FOSTA could spell trouble for these services, too.

What has scared Craigslist and other sites so far is a drastic change in current federal law. Previously, online publishers were protected from liability for the content their users posted, since the content wasn’t actually created by the publishers themselves.

What are we talking about?

FOSTA has opened wide a debate on sex work and human trafficking. Here are some key terms, phrases and facts you need to know.

Terms Human Trafficking: The forced trade of humans for labor, sexual slavery or commercial sexual exploitation.

Involuntary Sex Work: Commercial sex work performed by force or coercion.

Voluntary Sex Work: Commercial sex work performed by choice.

Facts Voluntary Sex Work: Comprehensive studies are few and far between, but one 2012 study by Fondation Scelles estimated there are 1 million sex workers in the U.S. Human Trafficking: The National Human Trafficking Hotline reports 8,524 total cases of human trafficking of all varieties in the U.S. in 2017. More than 22,000 sex trafficking cases, specifically, have been reported since 2007, according to the Polaris Project.

Want more information?

A coalition of advocates and sex workers have created a website with in-depth details and resources on FOSTA. Learn more online at survivorsagainstsesta.org.

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Blooming Spring

Fourth Ward tour showcases gardens LGBTQ homeowners and others share their ‘secret gardens’ with public

by Lainey Millen :: qnotes staff

The garden of John Causby and Randy Cernohorsky are among those Secret Gardens of Fourth Ward Tour participants can enjoy.

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he Secret Gardens of Fourth Ward Tour will be held May 5-6, 12-4 p.m., in Uptown Charlotte.

This annual event features visitation of private residences showcasing a mix of private gardens, courtyards, rooftop terraces and unique outdoor living spaces. This walkable, self-guided event allows tour-goers to explore these hidden oases while strolling the neighborhood in full bloom, complete with free food and beverage tastings at gardens and restaurants along the way.

Tour-goers may also choose to tour via complimentary B-Cycles or horse-drawn carriages (first-come, first-served). In addition to the featured gardens, the tour will highlight public art, historic homes and special points of interest along the tour route, effectively making all of Historic Fourth Ward part of the tour.

Tour Chair Heath Knott, a long-time resident of Fourth Ward with his husband, Adam Schooler, says: “Fourth Ward has always been welcoming to the LGBTQ community, and we wanted Secret Gardens to reflect that. It’s so much more than just a garden tour — it’s a glimpse of how we live in this beautiful, tightknit urban community. You can explore the neighborhood on foot, sample craft cocktails and food, and meet the neighbors! Our event planning committee is largely comprised of gay men, and several of our featured gardens belong to gay couples.”

Hospitality sponsors include Gilded Beverage, The Asbury, Poplar Tapas, Doc Porter’s Distillery, Zia Pia, Rock Bottom, Potts Chocolate, Sea Level (complimentary oysters) and more.

Tickets are $20 and are available online.

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Summer Travel

Tour and travel resources for the LGBTQ sojourner Take wanderlust across the globe with ‘family-friendly’ operators and lodging

by Torie Dominguez :: qnotes staff

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GBTQ travelers are always on the lookout for cool places to go and companies that are focused on their needs in mind. Take a look at a sampling of resources to plan a trip domestically or abroad.

Source Events Land tours, river and ocean cruises, with upcoming destinations including Cambodia, Greece, Iceland, Peru, South Africa, Zambia and Zimbabwe. Private tours are available.

Prices range from $3,349 to $7,989.

888-768-7238 sourceevents.com.

Atlantis Events Offering cruises and resorts, primarily catering to men but welcoming women.

Upcoming cruises include Greece, Italy, Mexico and Spain; resort vacations will take place in Cancun and Puerto Vallarta, Mexico.

Guests must be 18 years of age or older. Those between 18 and 21 must be accompanied by a guest age 25 or older. Cruises range from $699 to $11,500 for a penthouse suite with butler service. Resort packages $1,499-$4,949.

310-859-8800 atlantisevents.com.

Brand G Vacations River cruises and land tours for LGBTQ travelers and allies ages 21 plus. Upcoming destinations include Albania, Bhutan, Cambodia, Croatia, the Czech Republic, Greece, Hungary, India, Ireland, Italy, Japan, Montenegro, the Netherlands, Nepal, Peru, Portugal, Romania, South Africa, Spain, Tanzania and Vietnam.

Prices range from $3,899 to $11,899.

800-433-4303 brandgvacations.com.

Coda International Tours Luxury small-group tours for gay and lesbian travelers, emphasizing expert guides and a lack of ageism, with most guests in their 40s-60s. Upcoming destinations include Armenia, Botswana, Colombia, Cuba, Denmark, Egypt, England, Greece, Iceland, Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Norway, the Republic of Georgia, Russia, Sweden, Tajikistan, Turkey, Turkmenistan, Uzbekistan, Zambia and Zimbabwe. Prices range from $2,995 to $14,895.

Custom tours are also available.

888-677-2632 coda-tours.com.

Detours Travel Specializing in adventure trips for gay men, with less rigid itineraries to encourage spontaneity and exploration. Upcoming destinations include Costa Rica, Croatia, Greece, Israel, Peru, Spain, South Africa and Thailand. Prices range from $1,920 to $3,420. Custom trips available for $2190-$4583.

1-800-680-8066 detourstravel.com.

GaySail Sailing cruises for men complete with gay skipper on board. Three levels of service up to GaySail Exclusive, which features a gay cook and luxury accommodation. AdonisGaySailing cruises are a more upscale option, boasting high-end sailing yachts and personalized service. GayNudeSail vacations cater to the naturist crowd. Upcoming destinations include the Bahamas, the British Virgin Islands, Croatia, Greece, Puerto Rico, Saint

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Toto Tours Welcoming gay men, lesbians, friends and adult family members. Upcoming tours include Greece, India, Italy, Madagascar, Mexico and Russia. Special events are available including a summer tour passing through Prague and Dresden before celebrating Berlin’s Christopher Street Day gay pride festival, as well as a Christmas getaway to Montreal and Quebec. Prices range from $1,900 to $9,900.

Custom trips are also available.

773-274-8686 tototours.com.

Travel to exotic, global destinations using gay travel resources can make vacationing less stressful and more enjoyable.

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Martin, the Seychelles islands and Thailand.

Current prices range from $1105 to $1969 USD. Based in Amsterdam, GaySail quotes prices in euros, and the US dollar equivalent will change based on international exchange rate. +31(0)625091498. gaysail.com.

Go Gay Japan Offers a selection of small group and custom-designed tours, as well as LGBTQ weddings in traditional Japanese style. Tour prices range from $1,524 to $7,841 USD, but may change based on international exchange rate. gogayjapan.com.

HE Travel In addition to classic cultural, luxury and custom tours, offers active adventure trips including biking, hiking, cycling, kayaking, horseback riding, climbing and whitewater rafting for gay men, lesbians and allied family and friends. Upcoming destinations include Australia, Botswana, China, Croatia, Cuba, the Easter Islands, Ecuador, Egypt, France, the Galapagos Islands, Greece, Iceland, India, Israel, Italy, Japan, Mexico, Morocco, Portugal, Peru, Slovenia, South Africa, Spain, Switzerland, Tanzania, Turkey and Zanzibar, as well as domestic excursions to Alaska, a Colorado dude ranch, the Florida Keys, Montana’s Glacier National Park, the Grand Canyon and New Orleans. An Antarctica adventure is planned for 2019. Prices range from $1,998 to $10,250.

800-825-9766 hetravel.com.

Olivia Travel Offering cruise, riverboat, resort and adventure trips for lesbians. Upcoming offerings include cruises to Bermuda, Costa Rica, Greece, Iceland, Italy, Monaco, Norway and Tahiti; resort vacations in the Bahamas and

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Mexico; riverboat tours of Cambodia, the Czech Republic, France, Germany, Hungary, the Netherlands, Switzerland and Vietnam; and adventures in the Galapagos Islands, Kenya, Peru and Tanzania. A six-day familyfriendly event will take place in July 2018 at Club Med Sandpiper Bay, Florida. Cruise prices range from $999 to $15,469. Resort vacations $1,599-$5,999. Riverboat tours $3,299-$12,699.

Adventure vacations $3,299-$17,448. Early booking discounts are available.

1-800-631-6277 olivia.com.

OUT Adventures Cruises, tours, and a range of adventure and luxury packages, with custom-planned vacations also available. Destinations include Antarctica, Canada, Chile, Croatia, Iceland, India, Laos, Morocco, Nepal, Peru, Scotland, Slovenia, South Africa, Sri Lanka and Thailand.

Prices range from $1735 to $13,500. outadventures.com.

Outgoing Adventures Guided groups of 18 people or fewer, offering a choice of “classic,” “tramp,” and “posh”-style trips as well as three categories based on levels of physical activity involved.

Destinations include Argentina, Bolivia, Chile, Colombia, Costa Rica, Croatia, Cuba, Greece, Iceland, Italy, South Africa, Spain, Tanzania and Vietnam. Prices range from $2,200 to $5,210.

800-225-1589 outgoingadventures.com.

OUTstanding Travel Expertly curated Mediterranean vacations and day trips in Greece, Israel and Italy. Prices for some major upcoming events to be determined.

646-630-8765 outstandingtravel.com.

Zoom Vacations Group tours and private events, with upcoming tour destinations including Argentina, Bhutan, Brazil, Cambodia, China, Colombia, Cuba, Egypt, India, India, Israel, Japan, Laos, Morocco, Myanmar, Nepal, Peru, Rwanda, South Africa, Sri Lanka and Vietnam. Tour prices range from $2,999 to $13,999.

773-772-9666 zoomvacations.com. misterb&b Airbnb-style homeshare resource connecting travelers to gay and gay-friendly hosts. Listings have included properties in more than 130 countries. Top destinations include Amsterdam, Barcelona, Berlin, Chicago, Lisbon, London, Los Angeles, Lyon, Madrid, Montreal, New York, Paris, Rome, San Francisco and Toronto. misterbandb.com.

Purple Roofs Lists gay-friendly accommodation options including inns, hotels and intimate familyowned B&B retreats, as well as travel agents and tour operators. purpleroofs.com.

For more information on global LGBTQ travel and tourism, including resources and recommendations, consult the International Gay and Lesbian Travel Association at iglta.org.

Leading publishers of guides for LGBTQ travelers, with a particular focus on individual destination guidebooks, include the Damron (damron.com) and Spartacus (spartacus. gayguide.travel) series. : : This list is not fully comprehensive and qnotes welcomes input so that the list provides accurate information and current resources to maintain its integrity. Email editor@goqnotes. com to make changes or additions.

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International travel and the LGBTQ community Tips for making it easier while abroad

by Jessica Yañez :: guest contributor

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nternational travel brings with it a sense of adventure and excitement. As we step off the plane and into a new country, we are exposed to new sights and sounds — from the languages we hear to the new foods we try, the experiences that await us are limitless. While everyone must plan ahead to make their travels as successful and stress-free as possible, the LGBTQ community and the immigrant community have additional considerations to take into account when planning to travel abroad.

First Things First: What Documents Do You Need?

United States citizens are required to have a valid, current passport to travel internationally and to return to the United States after traveling abroad. The Department of State is the government agency that processes passports. You can find the application and requirements at travel.state.gov. The processing fees are $145 for adults and $115 for children. It will take about 4-6 weeks to receive the passport in the mail or 2-3 weeks if you want to pay extra for expedited processing.

Permanent residents, also known as green card holders, must also have a valid passport from their country of citizenship. Mexico and Guatemala have consulates in North Carolina to assist individuals with passport applications and renewals. Those from other countries will typically have to travel to Atlanta, Ga. or Washington, D.C. to obtain their passports. Every embassy has a website with instructions on how to schedule an appointment, as well as the required documents and fees. In addition to a valid passport, permanent residents must have a current green card to return to the United States after traveling abroad. It takes a very long time to renew a green card, so be sure to apply for the renewal six months before expiration. Those who are waiting on their green cards to arrive can also schedule an appointment at their local U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Service (USCIS) office to request an “I-551 stamp” in their passport as proof of permanent resident status.

Some individuals can also apply for Global Entry and TSA pre-check to go through airport security and immigration faster. You can find the details on these programs at the U.S. Customs and Border Patrol website, cbp.gov.

Those who are not citizens or permanent residents, such as those who have work visas, student visas, TPS (Temporary Protected Status) or DACA status must consult with an immigration attorney to determine whether they can travel abroad and, if so, what type of documents they will need. Failure to do so can result in drastic consequences, including being stuck abroad for weeks or even years!

Finally, regardless of your citizenship or immigration status, you must confirm whether the country you are visiting has a visa requirement. A visa is a document that is stamped in your passport and grants temporary entry to another country for a specific purpose, such as tourism. To determine whether the country

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Jesse’s Journal

Off my bucket list My first gay sea cruise

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he first all-gay RSVP “Cruise to Remember” sailed out of New Orleans on Feb. 15, 1986, with 750 gay guests on board.

So what took me so long? 1986 was not a good time to be gay. The devastation of AIDS was on everyone’s mind, as was the Reagan administration’s neglectful response. “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” was in the future, and marriage equality was even further away. I had just started a new relationship, and a week in a gay love boat was something that I was not interested in. So I put a gay cruise on my bucket list, where it stayed for over 30 years.

Since then, the LGBTQ travel industry has flourished, with Atlantis, Pied Piper, Brand G, Source Events and Aquafest — not to mention the all-lesbian Olivia cruises — joining RSVP in a quest for the queer vacation buck. RSVP itself, like the community it serves, had its ups and downs before it was bought by competitor Atlantis Events in 2007. Now part of Rich Campbell’s gay vacation empire, RSVP cruises seem to take a back seat to Atlantis’s floating circuit parties. There was even a rumor going around that this year’s RSVP Caribbean Cruise would be the last one; a rumor that Campbell hotly denied. In fact, even as we speak, Campbell and Co. are busy planning a Southern Caribbean Cruise for February 2019, and an Alaska cruise later that year.

Meanwhile, I had to overcome my inhibitions (and financial limitations) before I finally decided to go on a gay cruise. I was deterred by the Atlantis ads online, which featured young muscle boys in Speedos, frolicking by the pool. Though Atlantis does attract a youthful crowd, my friends assured me that RSVP cruises are full of men my age. So I finally took the plunge (so to speak) and booked passage on RSVP’s 2018 Caribbean Cruise, sailing from Fort Lauderdale from Feb. 11-18 on Holland America’s Koningsdam. With my friend and cabin mate Barry, I boarded the dam ship only to find 2,500 men (and a few women) representing the diversity of queer humanity: young boys, old men, bears galore, muscle marys, couples, singles, all races and religions, colors, shapes and sizes. That’s when I knew this was my kind of cruise. The fact that many of my South Florida friends were on board only made it all that much more fun.

Those of you who expect me to tell all will be disappointed.

I will say that RSVP’s 2018 Caribbean Cruise was the most fun I ever had with my clothes on. Though the destinations — Charlotte Amalie, St. Thomas; Amber Cove, Dominican Republic; and Half Moon Cay, Bahamas — were OK, most of the fun happened on the ship itself. Even the biggest gay landlubber knows that what makes

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New Beginnings

Asheville 83-year-old former minister makes adult film debut He says he is having the best sex of his life

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orm Self, who lives in Asheville and has said his sex life has never been better than at 83, recently made his adult film debut.

Self filmed a solo masturbation scene for Davey Wavey’s Himeros.tv, an adult website for gay and bisexual men that has the stated goal of “reinventing gay porn.” (More on that later.)

One way the site is breaking boundaries is by embracing a fuller spectrum of eroticism, including spotlighting the beauty of the longevity of sexual desire, as well as the power of self-love and acceptance.

It is a topic on which Self is something of an expert.

Self described, in a promotional video, how when he first masturbated at the age of 12, “the doors of heaven opened up, and then all of a sudden, WHAM! The gates of hell opened up.”

Self, who was raised religiously and who for a time served as a campus minister, recalled praying, asking for forgiveness, and pledging never to engage in that sort of self-love again.

“And a few days later, as you might guess…” he said, laughing.

Eventually, he realized he couldn’t keep praying, asking for forgiveness for an act he knew he would not be ceasing anytime soon.

Self struggled for decades to kick sex-negative messaging, picked up during his childhood, out of his head.

“Religion has some wonderful truth in it and can steer you into some great places of nourishment, and enrichment and expansion,” he said. “But if you want to complete, to perfect and consummate, a spiritual question to communion with God, you’ll have to transcend any religion you come up against.”

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Now, Self, who also served in the Navy during the Korean War, works to help others become more sexually liberated themselves, and to have healthier, more integrated sex lives and partnerships.

His unofficial titles are “minister of erotic education” and “a sacred intimate.” He has said those titles were given to him by others, and he has accepted and begun self-applying them.

On his website, edgeofthevillage.org, Self describes himself as a “practitioner of transformational healing via the body,” with specialties in “sacred intimacy, tantra, and personal growth.”

His work, done in person or over the phone, is intended to create “an opportunity to share of yourself from your heart, receive guidance and feedback for your life’s path, and to discover or re-discover the ecstatic connection between your sexuality, your spiritual awakening, and your sense of purpose.”

As for labels regarding orientation, he said he tends to “feel hemmed in by trying to answer questions about my ‘sexual identity,’ since my identity is so much more than how I ‘do’ sex. I don’t really like to pen it down to a ‘sound bite.’”

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“My personal preference for a sex partner for my own pleaDavey Wavey has said that he thinks gay and bisexual men sure is usually a man,” he continued. “But I have all the equipwould be better at sex if the porn they were watching was up to ment for human sex, and if I’m with a woman and our engagement par, instead of skimping on emotion, connection and sensuality. calls for erotic play, I let her decide what she wants us to do.”

“Most of us learn about gay sex from the porn we watch, but More important than his orientation to him seems to be his porn isn’t created to teach you about pleasure, connection or age, and showing that those of all ages can, and do, enjoy sex. the power of your sexuality,” he said during the initial launch of “I think it’s sad and destructive that our society has an image the site, back in December 2017. “We created Himeros.tv to enof elder human beings as ‘sexless,’” he told HuffPost. “I have been hance your experience of sex and sexuality through juicy erotic a facilitator with at least three women and a great many more men videos, co-created with a team of sex coaches and talented in the recovery/restoration of their erotic/sexual response and their cinematographers.” joyful delight at the discovery that ‘it ain’t over until I say it is!’”

Self has said that he would “absolutely” do another adult “I’m proud to have been in this video. But if any reader thinks scene if given the opportunity, “until the sex-negative norms are [it’s] exceptional, I can refer you to lots of men who will testify it’s removed from our society’s vocabulary and replaced with the imalso their story!” he added. plicit message that our birthright is to enjoy erotic joy and bliss.”

It is a point Davey Wavey also made salient in a blog post he To watch the censored promo video, go to youtube.com/ wrote to accompany the video’s release (himeros.tv/blog/newwatch?v=DP1dJJPfWm4. video/blessing-of-the-elder).

To watch Davey Wavey talk about Himeros.tv, go to youtube.

“I understand that most people aren’t accustomed to seeing com/watch?v=O9I5GMjQzCs. : : an 83-year-old in an erotic film,” he wrote. “Most of us aren’t accustomed to thinking about our elders in a sexual context at all. It’s why people laugh at Betty White’s comedy. If she were 20 or 30, her sex jokes wouldn’t work in the same way; the humor is only funny coming from the mouth of a 96-year-old. The implication is that seniors don’t think about sex, aren’t sexy and surely aren’t having sex.”

“Of course, none of that is true,” he continued.

“Seniors, just like everyone else, think about sex.

In fact, some of the horniest people I know are elders.

And I can promise you that they are having sex. In some instances, wonderful, mind-blowing sex from which the rest of us could learn. And even though our culture places an emphasis on smooth skin and youth, our elders are valuable human beings with tremendous gifts Norm Self spent time in the Navy during the Korean War, and now works as a including wisdom, experience and yes, beauty.” sex advice and healing expert.

It fits into the overall intended appeal of a site like Photo Credit: Screenshot/Himeros.tv) Himeros.tv.

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Summer Travel

Appetite for adventure Following some basic ‘rules of the road’ keeps travel more enjoyable

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rom your own hometown to the far reaches of the globe, there are thousands of destinations just waiting to be discovered by adventurous souls. Satisfying your itch to get out and explore may take you across town or across the ocean, but adhering to some common principles can make your travels extra rewarding.

• Step outside your comfort zone and try new things, be it zip lining or sampling an unfamiliar food.

• Follow your instincts, though, and keep safety first and foremost. Be wary of places that generally make you question your well-being, and never travel alone.

• Capture the memories, whether in a journal or in pictures, so you can reflect and reminisce when you return back home.

Gearing up properly is essential no matter where your travels take you. Make sure you’re well-prepared for your next epic journey with these must-haves for adventurous travelers and find more travel-friendly advice at eLivingToday.com.

Let it roll Taking to the trails may mean you’re traveling by foot, but bicycling is another exciting way to explore. However, an average street bike isn’t appropriate for most trails. A mountain bike outfitted with rugged tires designed for optimal traction and superior suspension is a much safer option. If you’ll be primarily on trails or doing downhill treks, a bike specifically geared for those conditions is best. Fat bikes are a good alternative for riders who want more year-round versatility.

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Lay your head If you’ll be sleeping outdoors, a tent is a must to protect yourself from inclement weather and the less hospitable of Mother Nature’s creatures. The sizes, styles and options are plentiful, but features like rainproof material and ample ventilation are top picks for most adventurers. Other important considerations: seasonality, sleeping capacity and ease of assembly. Also keep transport in mind, and be sure your tent is no larger (or heavier) than what you can comfortably carry to your destination.

Explore new lands The excitement doesn’t need to stop even if you need a break from the action. Escape into the thrilling world of bestselling author James Rollins’ “The Seventh Plague.” An archaeologist, missing for years, stumbles out of the Egyptian desert. He dies before he can explain, but his autopsy reveals his body began mummifying while he still lived. In an adventure stretching from a lost desert tomb to an Arctic engineering complex Sigma Force must confront an ancient biological threat made real by modern science. Find more at harpercollins.com.

Protect your feet Proper footwear is vital for an active traveler, and hiking boots are among the leading choices for an adventurer. Proper fit and size are critical, as this affects whether your boot is providing adequate support without friction that can result in painful blisters. A good rule of thumb is to shop near the end of the day

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when your feet are most likely to be swollen and wear socks comparable to what you’ll wear on the trail.

Pack it up Wherever your adventures take you, having someplace to store your essentials is a must. Backpacks are a practical solution because once slung over your shoulders, your hands are free to aid your exploration. The distribution of weight also makes for a more comfortable journey. Particularly if you’ll be loading up your pack, you’ll want to shop for quality over cost and find a bag with strong, reinforced seams, sturdy straps and durable zippers or clasps. : :

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LGBT Elders are being BOLD! Brewery brings inclusive environment for aging seniors

by Erin Barbee :: guest contributor

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he Charlotte LGBT Elders Group is partnering with the new Charlotte brewery called Bold Missy to prove that breweries are for more than millennials.

Bold Missy is tucked away in East Charlotte just beyond the center of NoDa. This unassuming brewery is unlike other breweries in Charlotte because there is a message with every beer offered. A message of empowerment, women’s education and light-heartedness. This is what attracted the Charlotte LGBT Elders group to make this the first venue for their social offerings.

I am co-chair of Charlotte LGBT Elders, and I had the opportunity to sit with Bold Missy Brewery owner Carol Waggoner to talk about why this partnership is so important. Waggoner recalled the reason for opening the brewery. She said, “Our goal is to highlight the accomplishments of women in history…Bold Missies! We are all Bold Missies and Misters. My joy is to provide an environment where everyone feels welcome, included and empowered.”

Currently, Bold Missy is featuring the following beers: • Solo Flight Brown Ale in honor of Amelia Earhart • Git Yer Gun Golden Ale in honor of Annie Oakley • Tripel Toe Loop Belgian in honor of Michelle Kwan • Rocket Ride American IPA in honor of Sally Ride Waggoner shared that having the Charlotte LGBT Elders at her brewery means that she is fulfilling on her promise that everyone is welcome.

For me, this is more than a social outing for the group. This event is significant for two reasons. First, by encouraging people ages 55 and older to come together in a social setting, it is fighting social isolation.

According to a recent publication by SAGE, social isolation affects many LGBTQ older individuals around the country as they deal with stigma and discrimination in their daily lives and in our country’s aging system.

The primary risk factors for social isola-

tion affect LGBTQ older adults in unique and disproportionate ways. LGBTQ elders are more likely to live alone and with thinner support networks. Additionally, the research shows that LGBTQ elders face higher disability rates, struggle with economic insecurity and higher poverty rates, and many deal with mental health concerns that come from having survived a lifetime of discrimination.

Location-related barriers, coupled with stigma and discrimination, can make it difficult for LGBTQ older individuals in many parts of the country to find the LGBTQ-friendly community support they need to age successfully and avoid social isolation. As adults near retirement age, they may become isolated over time from their broader communities (places of worship, work settings, etc.), as well as from friends and family.

This phenomenon means, among other consequences, smaller and lower quality support networks, debilitating feelings of loneliness and depression, and at its worst, a life of estrangement where one’s physical and mental health deteriorates.

Secondly, we can proudly show that breweries are not just for millennials! Both Waggoner and I laughed about this. Bringing generations together over beer and good food means that everyone involved has the opportunity for building new friendships, as well as, fun.

Charlotte LGBT Elders and Bold Missy Brewery invite you to join them on April 26 from 5-8 p.m. Drop in, bring a friend and make a new one.

If you are or you know of an LGBTQ elder that is suffering from social isolation and needs help, they have a place to call for peer counseling, information and local resources. The SAGE LGBT Elder Hotline is live and ready to take calls at 1-888-234-SAGE. The hotline is open Monday through Friday from 4 p.m.-midnight and on Saturday from noon to 5 p.m. All times are Eastern. Prefer to use email? Reach out at SAGE@GLBThotline.org. : :

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International Travel continued from page 12 you will visit requires a visa, check out the “International Travel” page of the Department of State website and then complete the visa application with the appropriate embassy.

Special Considerations for the LGBTQ Community Now that you know what documents you need, let’s discuss special circumstances that can arise for members of the LGBTQ community.

The Department of State has a section dedicated entirely to the LGBTQ community that can be found at travel.state.gov. The Department of State confirms that “Laws and attitudes in some countries may affect safety and ease of travel.

Legal protections vary from country to country.

Many countries do not legally recognize samesex marriage. More than seventy countries consider consensual same-sex sexual relations a crime, sometimes carrying severe punishment.” Unfortunately, this is the reality that we face, and until societies and laws change, the best way to avoid finding yourself in a country that is not LGBTQ-friendly is to research prior to planning your trip. In addition to the Department

of State website, the International Gay and Lesbian Travel Foundation (igltfa.org) is a great place to start when looking for travel companies that support the LGBT community.

In addition, the National Center for Transgender Equality provides excellent resources, including a feature article titled “How to Mitigate the Stress of Flying While Trans” (transequality.org). Transgender individuals are advised to select the gender that corresponds with their identity documents. In addition, transgender individuals may ask TSA officers for a private security screening. Anyone who encounters issues during the security checks should ask to speak with a supervisor right away.

Traveling abroad is a privilege and an opportunity. We learn about new places and new people, and often about ourselves in the process. Taking time to plan ahead will lead to a better travel experience. Now go out there and see the world! : : — Jessica Yañez is an attorney in private practice at Yañez Immigration Law in Greensboro, N.C. She is a North Carolina board certified specialist in immigration law.

Visit yanezimmigrationlaw.com to learn more.

Bucket List continued from page 12 gay cruises special are the onboard parties. This RSVP cruise had plenty of them: several afternoon tea dances and a theme party every night.

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RSVP threw out all the stops when it hired world class DJ’s to spin the disks. And the costumes!

Though I did my best to wear the proper color or costume, I could not keep up with the elaborate (and expensive) outfits many of my fellow travelers wore to the parties. Even my friend Barry wore some of his award-winning costumes, and was even kind enough to lend me some of them.

Gay cruises like Atlantis and RSVP have been criticized for their cost. Though they are more expensive than your garden variety cruise, the money goes toward providing us with a week of unique tricks and treats. In addition to Holland America’s regular entertainment, RSVP’s 2018 Caribbean Cruise featured shows by gay favorite Jackie Hoffman; comedian Jessica Kirson; jazz singer Soshana Bean; singer Branden James and his cellist husband James Clark; the Boy Band Project; and the duo of Amy Armstrong and Freddy Allen, a gay cruise favorite. There were events for guests in recovery, deaf guests, bears, singles, single bears, a Jewish service Friday afternoon, an art auction (with champagne!) and nude sunbathing on the top deck (you knew I was going to find it). In fact, there was something going on the Koningsdam all day and most of the night to please even the grouchiest traveler.

Though RSVP vacations try their best to give us the best cruise experience, it was far from perfect. Some of my fellow travelers complained about the high decibel level at the parties; the quality of the food; or the lack of opportunities for singles. Though I agree somewhat, I had such a good time that I forgot to complain.

The RSVP staff, especially Cruise Director Brad Loekle, did a great job accommodating 2,500 demanding guests, some of who have been on every RSVP cruise since 1986. Many of them signed up for the 2019 Cruise even before they left the ship on Feb. 18. Though I did not do so, there is a strong possibility that I will return to the high seas next year, if not on RSVP then on Atlantis or another gay cruise. And, if I do, you know I will write an article about it.

For more about RSVP Vacations, visit rsvpvacations.com. : :

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The true confessions of a…bottom Dearest Trinity, After eight years, my boyfriend and I get along in every way except sexually. See, I’m not a bottom, yet 100 percent of the time he only wants to top me. So, I’ve been “taking it” for eight years with nothing in return. Basically, I’m married to my hand. And complaining about it only makes him horny. Help!

Bottomed Out, San Diego, CA Dearest Bottomed Out, It’s hard to teach an old relationship new tricks, unless you start tricking him. So, let’s try offering him a before-bed back and butt massage then adding some kisses to his neck, ears, lower back and butt. Then gently start rubbing your pelvis up against his butt cheeks. If he likes the massage he may let you get away with some slight between-the-cheeks action. Otherwise, honey, after eight years of pillow biting, it’s time to either accept it, find a part-time playmate or find a full-time new mate who has your pleasures on his mind, not just on your behind!

Dear Trinity, I work in a bar, have been single for most of my 35 years, and now I’m dating someone who wants monogamy. But monogamy for me is new. What do I do?

Monaga… Me?, Dallas, TX

Dear Monaga…Me?, Depending on your upbringing and sexual history, monogamy is easy for some and torturous for the rest of us…I mean them.

However, if you stick with it, you will find that the lessons of self-control often surpass the pleasures of cheating. Monogamy has two rules: look but don’t touch, and take it one day at a time! Some succeed, some fail and everyone else, pumpkin, just keeps their mouth shut (hint, hint)! (My cartoon shows you how I pick flower petals to know whom to choose in the monogamy game! Hey, it almost sounds like a Broadway musical, doesn’t it? “No I can’t.” “Yes, I can.” Besides, jewels and bling always get my attention, too!) Good luck.

Hey Trinity, Three weeks ago, I got dumped. Now I’m starting to see a few guys. Is it wrong to “rebound” (date right after a breakup) so fast?

Back In Action, Boston, MA Hey Back In Action, Soon after a breakup, it’s actually healthy to get right back into the ring of “rebound” dating (think rebounding off of the ropes in a boxing ring)! When one is dumped, sweetie, it’s best to suffer for no more than two weeks, then let the games begin! XOXO…

a&e

Hello Trinity, I met someone special, but from the next state. Any tips on long distance relationships?

Far From Heaven, Peoria, IL Hello Far From Heaven, Long distance relationships have their troubles, darling, but if you really must try it, then start by reading: Trinity’s Positive Tips For Long Distance Relationships 1. You’ll not only have someone special to spend time with, but you’ll also have your own private time too.

2. You’ll be able to keep your own place as clean or messy as you like until she or he comes to visit.

3. You’ll have more romantic dates together, as well as honeymoon-style weekends, which wouldn’t be the case if you lived together.

4. Y ou’ll have all week long to do anything you like when he or she is gone. Couples who live together don’t have this luxury.

5. Y ou’ll never get tired of seeing each other since it’s not every day.

6. Y ou’ll always be going on some sort of trip or vacation together, especially if you meet in different exotic places.

7. You won’t have to groom, shower, wash your hair or brush your teeth as often since no one will see or smell you.

8. You won’t have to answer to, be responsible

for or pick up after someone on a daily basis. (Hey, this doesn’t sound so bad.)

9. You’ll rarely have to fight over decor, TV shows, radio stations, houseguests or lighting. (Wow, this really sounds great!)

10. Lastly, you’ll be able to learn about your own selfishness, self-righteousness and self-control. (Well, maybe that’s taking it a bit too far.) info: With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama performed globally, and is now minister of sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings, wigministries.org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.

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EVENTS April-June 2018 Continues through Apr. 22 BOOM Festival Various locations in Plaza Midwood, Charlotte Times vary The annual BOOM Festival returns, Apr. 20-22, with performance arts events taking place across a number of venues in the Plaza Midwood neighborhood of Charlotte, including Petra’s, at 1919 Commonwealth Ave., Open Door Studios, at 1318-D Central Ave., and Snug Harbor, at 1228 Gordon St. There will also be multiple art installations taking place around the area as part of the festival, as well as a performance inside an inflatable igloo off Pecan Ave. Performers include Sinergismo, Mall Goth, XOXO, TAPROOT CLT, Aerial Charlotte, Tosco Music Party, Loren Fletcher Dance, Quentin Talley, Lofidels and more. Many performances are free and tickets for the festival are $10. Tickets and more information are available online. boomcharlotte.org.

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Time Out Youth MasQueerade Prom Time Out Youth Center 3800 Monroe Rd., Charlotte 7-10 p.m.

Time Out Youth Center will hold its annual LGBTQ and ally prom, for those ages 13-20, and it anticipates this will be its biggest and best one to date. The event will be held in its new home, at 3800 Monroe Rd., and organizers have shared that it will feature “entertainment, food, music, photography and fun in a safe, chaperoned environment.” Tickets are $5 and can be purchased at bit.ly/2pldIRr. More information is available online. timeoutyouth.org/youth/prom. facebook.com/events/204052130341715.

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AIDS WALK Charlotte SEP MAY MO Two Wells Fargo Center 325 S. Tryon St., Charlotte 9 a.m.-1 p.m.

AIDS WALK Charlotte will take place in uptown, after a morning program and awards, presented by advocacy group RAIN. “The walk is 1.8 miles long and takes the average person about 30 minutes,” organizers said. “AIDS WALK Charlotte is a family affair (kids and pets are welcomed) and open to all who want to participate.” More information is available online. carolinarain.org. facebook.com/events/138214016825867.

McColl Center’s SEP MAY MO “Studio Party” McColl Center For Art + Innovation 721 N. Tryon St., Charlotte 6-11 p.m.

McColl Center hosts its annual fundraiser and artist-focused evening, “Studio Party,” with a chance to meet and dine with renowned alumni artists-in-residence, both national and local. Artists include Shaun Cassidy, Andrea Chung, Carlos Estévez, Dustin Farnsworth, Maja Godlewska, Marek Ranis, Hongsock Lee, Anne Lemanski, Rashaad Newsome, and Fahamu Pecou.

Attendees will also enjoy a contemporary art sale and live auction and an after party with drinks, dessert, and dancing. mccollcenter.org/events/studio-party/214.

Time Out Youth’s Platinum Gala Le Meridean Hotel 555 S. McDowell St., Charlotte 6:30-10:30 p.m.

The Charlotte Lesbian and Gay Fund Happening The Westin Charlotte 601 S. College St., Charlotte 12 p.m.

The Charlotte Lesbian and Gay Fund will host its 11th Annual Happening luncheon.

The event offers a chance to meet and mingle with community members, and also serves to showcase the fund’s 2018 grant recipients.

Individual tickets are available for purchase for $45 online at bit.ly/2InMTmR. Table captains are also being sought to commit to filling a table of 10. The cost is $425 and those interested can sign up and purchase the table reservation online at bit.ly/2J917cm. More information is available online. fftc.org.

St. Vincent, “Fear the Future Tour” The Fillmore Charlotte 820 Hamilton St., Charlotte 8 p.m.

Queer musician and singer-songwriter St. Vincent will come to Charlotte on her Fear the Future Tour, in support of her album “Masseduction,” which came out late last year. The criticallyacclaimed album is her sixth, including a collaboration with David Byrne in 2012.

St. Vincent has partnered with PLUS1 to ensure $1 from every ticket goes to support leading organizations providing prevention, treatment and resources for opioid addiction. Tickets and more information are available online. fillmorenc.com.

Outfest Columbia Senate St. and Park St., Columbia 12-8 p.m.

Outfest Columbia is a new event, hosted by South Carolina Pride, focusing on the LGBTQ community of Columbia, S.C., showcasing local talent, vendors, and businesses. Steve Grand will headline the event, along with Robin Adell. The event will also feature several local stars, including Miss Outfest Emeritus Paris Lefaris. More information is available online. scpride.org/outfest.

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2132 Radcliffe Ave., Charlotte Join the Various days and times players and A couple struggles to navigate their tween volunteers daughter’s transition, especially given her of Stonewall precocious nature and their opposing pa- Sports rental styles. The tension increases when Charlotte for drinks, fun, and a chance their daughter makes a YouTube video to pick up shirts for those participatthat upsets many and leaves them trying ing in the upcoming bowling season. to reconnect in order to see their family Those interested in learning more through an unprecedented time. Tickets about the league are also encouraged range from $25-$44. More information and to attend. More information can be tickets are available online. found online. atcharlotte.org. stonewallcharlotte.leagueapps.com.

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by Jack Kirven :: personal trainer, qnotes contributor

Outdoor Workouts What you should remember while exercising outside

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ould it be that Spring is finally going to pack a lunch and stay a while? Winter 2018 seems to be clinging on for dear life, but I think we can finally look forward to more consistently beautiful weather. That means it’s time to spend more time outside!

If you’ve never done it, I strongly suggest you give outdoor workouts a try. I don’t like them all the time, but they can really invigorate your passion in exercise. Given that you’ll be moving out of a controlled environment and into the midst of nature’s random moods, here are some considerations.

I have a list of reminders I send to my clients before their outdoor sessions. Sometimes I wonder why I bother, since nearly every time they ignore at least a few of the suggestions. I just smile and nod when they realize they’re missing something they need, and that it’s something I told them to bring. What can you do?

Alright, let’s make sure you don’t find yourself in the same boat. Remember, it’s better to have and not need, than to need and not have.

It may feel like it’s a hassle to lug gear around, but I promise you’ll be glad you did when the unexpected happens.

Water. Water, water, water. Let me repeat that: water. Whether it’s cold, mild, warm or hot you need to hydrate. The whole point of exercise is that it burns calories. It ignites your metabolism, which has a whole host of health benefits. Even if you don’t sweat, you’re still using up water to process all that energy. You really must bring water. Please stop forgetting to pack it.

Sunscreen is almost as important as water.

The general suggestion is to avoid being in the direct sun from 10 a.m. until 2 p.m. If you do exercise outdoors at that time, look to do as much of it as possible in the shade. Regardless of the time, be sure to apply sunscreen. This is especially important on overcast days. The clouds block visible light, but they don’t filter UV rays. I forgot this recently during a stroll along the beach in Oregon on a typically cloudy day. I was wearing sunglasses, because there was still a bit of glare. I got back to the house looking like a raccoon, and then my nose and

cheeks immediately began peeling. Yes, you can definitely burn on cloudy days.

Along the same lines, I highly suggest a hat with a brim and sunglasses. Your eyes need protection from UV light as much as your skin does. I was training someone outside yesterday. She didn’t have a hat or sunglasses. While she was doing supine bridges, I had to place myself strategically, so that my shadow fell across her face to shield her from the glare.

Bring these items!

Towels are very helpful. Obviously they are great for sweat, but you can also use them to wipe wet or oily substances off equipment. This makes it safer to grip bars and other surfaces.

You can also lieon them. All of this may seem totally elementary, but I still keep towels in my backpack. Clients often forget. Of course they forget them specifically on the days when I need them to lie back to perform a portion of the workout.

Bug repellent is something I strongly suggest, but some people are very sensitive to it. I have to wash it off as soon as I get back inside, or I can develop a rash. However, it’s worth it to minimize attacks from biting insects. Ants, mosquitoes, flies, gnats and other pests are distractions that you can easily avoid.

One last suggestion. I was caught by surprise a week ago. The weather had been gorgeous for days, and it was bright leading up to the session. I left my light jacket in the car. The weather suddenly turned windy and cold. It was pretty miserable for me, because my body fat is low enough that I sometimes need a jacket when it’s 65 degrees. As you can imagine, 58 degrees was not cool (except that it was far too cool). During the transitions out of winter into spring, and again from summer into autumn, keep a light jacket on hand just in case. They can be a lifesaver when you’re sweaty and the wind picks up. : : info: Jack Kirven completed the MFA in Dance at UCLA, and earned certification as a personal trainer through NASM. His wellness philosophy is founded upon integrated lifestyles as opposed to isolated workouts. Visit him at jackkirven.com and INTEGRE8Twellness.com.

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