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Summer Fashion Wrong solution for teens Jane’s World Tell Trinity Dishing with Buff Faye Q Events Calendar Our People: Diane Troy

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opinions & views 5 Editor’s Note 5 Spiritual Reflections 5 Guest Commentary

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As Charlotte grows, will popular neighborhoods change for worse or better? I’ve been thinking a lot about change recently. It’s nearly impossible not to. We’re seeing tremendous changes in the political sphere as we move full-steam ahead into this year’s local elections and next year’s presidential picks. There are immense changes in our movement for equality, as we stare down a future “after marriage.” There are changes in our economy, in the media, in conversations over race and inclusion and relations between police and local communities, particularly those of color. But here at home, as I look around my daily environment, I’m seeing lots of changes, too. Population estimates recently topped out Mecklenburg County at over one million residents. When I moved here in 2007, the story, or so I vaguely remember, was that upwards of 90,000 people were moving into the city each year. Newcomers are flocking to the city again. To keep up with the growth, new apartment buildings are springing up across Charlotte. Recent news reports say that 10,000 new apartment units are currently under construction with another 10,000 in store. The

massive complexes are popping up everywhere, including in neighborhoods like Plaza Midwood and Noda, communities traditionally home to low-income people, people of color and LGBT people. I’m reminded of this change everyday when I go to work. Next to my office, a new 250-unit complex is currently rising out of the flattened ground at the corner of Central and Louise Aves., where an event venue and other offices once stood. Just as we were going to press with this issue, that very same building became the butt of jokes on Facebook, where a meme defiantly declared, “The best thing about these new buildings in Charlotte is how seamlessly they fit into the neighborhoods.” Questions of neighborhood architectural integrity aside, I do often wonder just how “seamlessly” these new complexes full of new residents, many, perhaps, brand new to the neighborhoods to which they’re moving, will mesh with the pre-existing culture and climate. In short, it’s a matter of gentrification. How will these new residents — and their

spiritual reflections by Isai Efuru :: guest contributor

new ideas, new needs for services and new desires for amenities — affect the surrounding neighborhoods? Plaza Midwood and NoDa are two of my favorite neighborhoods

in Charlotte. They find themselves anchoring the 28205 ZIP code, where the most recent

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guest commentary by The Hon. LaWana Mayfield :: guest contributor

Stand Still Life has a way of stopping you in your tracks long enough for you to see that you’re headed off of the trail. If we are wise, we pause and take in the danger long enough to turn things around. Circumstances placed us in the driver’s seat and then throw a curve at us to see if we know how to pay attention. I spent most of 2014 struggling with health issues. Reports from my doctors were dismal, yet I still tried to live out my “superwoman” persona. My desire to commit and “show up” outweighed my rationale for rest and better health. I said yes when my body and soul cried no, and would find myself exhausted at the end of the evening, set to do it all again the next day. In the latter part of the year, I found myself exhausted, weak, irritable and stressed. On a fateful Wednesday afternoon in November, my body began to shut down slowly with numbness and the loss of mobility in my right arm. Two days later, I arrived at work, sluggish, drained

A recent Facebook meme from Facebook user “Charlotte Absorber.”

Equality requires commitment, diverse focus on needs and slightly incoherent. By noon, I would be admitted to the hospital and diagnosed with a stroke. I was mortified; I’d been walking around for months unaware of the symptoms. My poor health forced me to assess how I used my energy and to make my health a priority. I had to slow down, sit down and say no. Forcing myself to move instead of standing still almost yielded me a death certificate that I was not ready for. Thankfully, God intervened and blessed me with a steady recovery and minimal nerve damage. I was fortunate to walk away with not only a testimony, but a well-earned lesson. Life is not a race to the finish, but a walk through grace. If we slow down enough to inhale the awesome presence of gratitude, we are naturally inclined to better care for ourselves and the time on earth that we are given to prosper. We can then stand still, let the music of life serenade us, and saunter along joyously within all that God has to offer. : :

In March, Charlotte had the opportunity to prove we are the Big City we claim to be opposed to the Big Town we often appear to be. It is so easy to show up in front of the African- American, Women and LGBT community to smile and take pictures and receive donations and support, but when it is time to show your true support through votes some fall short. The business community in large part has learned this lesson, so as a community we all have to take a stand, stop spending our dollars where they are not wanted, and, as a collective, show the power of our votes. I have been saying for many years that people that only show up when it’s time for votes are not acceptable nor have they proven that they are worthy of support. It took a hard lesson at our Council meeting on March 2 to learn that everyone that claims support is really a supporter of full equality.

I am saddened by the results of adding protections for all of our citizens, but unfortunately not surprised. The only bright star is knowing that as a community we have a chance to build stronger relationships with those that are different from us. We must create opportunities for new and transparent dialogue. We must learn how to disagree respectfully. We must vote in candidates that get the importance of equality. What do I consider equality? Access to jobs to those formerly incarcerated, housing our poor, protecting and supporting our veterans, safe communities, the freedom to live our lives and stopping the bullying of LGBT citizens. #blacklivesmatter #LGBTQlivesmatter #latinolivesmatter #ALLLIVESMATTER. : : — LaWana Mayfield represents District 3 on Charlotte City Council. She was first elected in 2011 and is the first openly LGBT elected official in Charlotte.

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Charlotte Affinity group plans soiree

CHARLOTTE — Blumenthal Performing Arts Center’s Out on the Town LGBT affinity group will host a pre-show party for “Pippin” on May 21, 6 p.m., at Blue Restaurant and Bar, 206 N. College. “Pippin” tells the story of a young prince on a death-defying journey to find meaning in his existence. It will be held in the Belk Theatre, 130 N. Tryon St. OOTT members receive 40 percent discount on tickets in price zone 20. Call 704-372-1000 and request the “save 40” offer. Tickets need to purchased by May 13 for the May 21 performance to receive this opportunity. RSVP to bcarter@ncbpac.org to secure a spot for the party. The OOTT group has no dues or officers and offers its members a place to enjoy camaraderie at free pre- and post-performance mixers and connection with other theatre goers. Email outonthetown@ncbpac.org with name, email address and address to receive information and get on the email alerts. info: blumenthalarts.org. — L.M.

Youth org gala set

CHARLOTTE — Time Out Youth Center, will hold its Platinum Gala, “Art of Expression,” on June 5, 6:30 p.m., at The Mint Museum-Uptown, 500 S. Tryon St. The evening will be hosted by Ben Thompson, anchor and reporter for WCNC-TV. Keynote speaker is Molly Barker, founder of Girls on the Run. Enjoy food, cocktails, art auction and more will help to fill out the program. Two complimentary bevera ges are provided for each guest. Only those who are 21-years-old and above will be permitted to attend. Chaperoned youth speakers will also be in attendance.

A private showing of fashion designer Roy Halston Frowick and pop artist Andy Warhol exhibits will help to fill out the evening’s program. The Gala will also feature a silent auction where artwork from LGBT artists will be up for bidding. Attendees will be able to relax with cocktails and hors d’ouevres. Tickets are $75 before May 15 and $100 afterward. They are available at eventbrite. com/e/platinum-gala-tickets-15163523507. info: timeoutyouth.org. — L.M.

Theatre group mounts comedy

CHARLOTTE — Queen City Theatre Company will bring the comedic “Buyer and Cellar” to the stage from May 14-16 and 19-23, 8 p.m., at Duke Energy Theatre at Spirit Square, 345 N. College St. “Buyer and Cellar” is a fictional account of one man’s experience working in the basement shops of Barbra Streisand’s home. Alex More, a struggling actor, takes a job in the cellar of Streisand’s Malibu home. One day she ventures downstairs and the two bond for a short time. Oddly, Streisand actually does have a shopping mall in her basement residence. Tickets are $22 and are available online. info: blumenthalarts.org. queencitytheatre.org. — L.M.

Fundraiser a success

CONCORD — PFLAG Concord/Kannapolis held its Social Connection fundraiser on April 24 at Carms’s Café, 42 South Union St. Forty six people attended the event at which $1,890 was raised after expenses. In other news, the organization’s president, Joan Gale, signed a four-year commitment for its group to be on the Teen Advisory Council with Cabarrus Health Alliance. It’s mission is to improve health outcomes for Cabarrus County adolescents. PFLAG’s objective is to assure that LGBT youth are represented in the planning and implementation of programs.

The Power of One fetes leaders in June

PowerHouse Project event to award Charlotte City Council member, bar owner and pastor CHARLOTTE — Powerhouse Project returns with its Power of One Community Awards & Gala event on June 13, 5 p.m., at Fairfield Inn & Suites Charlotte Uptown, 201 S. McDowell St., honoring African-American, same- gender-loving men making an impact in the greater Charlotte community. This year, honorees include Charlotte City Councilmember Al Austin, Nickel Bar owner Milton Howard and the Rev. Clifford Matthews, Jr., pastor of St. Luke Missionary Baptist Church. Austin is the second openly gay man to sit on Charlotte City Council, where he took a leading role in attempting to pass LGBT inclusive non-discrimination ordinances earlier this year. Austin, a Democrat, was elected to represent District 2 in 2013. Organizers request cocktail attire for the event, which is free to attend with a complimentary buffet. RSVPs are not required, but those attending in large groups can email Jermaine Nakia Lee at glee.php@ Charlotte City Councilmember Al gmail.com to reserve space. Austin will be among three award Entertainment at the event will feature Illumination winners at the June 13 event. Chorale Ensemble, Johnson C. Smith University’s D.O.P.E., R&B crooner KEON, Carolinas PRIDE Theatre Ensemble, Visual Art exhibit by Sarah Stephens Fial, songwriter Star Willson Mufuka Dance Works, gospel quartet The Exaltations and others. info: powerhousecharlotte.org. — M.C.

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Gale has been closely tied to the county’s school system. “Gale has counseled students in Cabarrus County schools for more than 20 years and taught for more than a decade before that. Her experience working with youth has given her perspective on the coming out process in young people. Several students have come out to her in her role as school counselor,” a Charlotte Observer article reported. It added that all but two high schools in the district have Gay-Straight Alliance groups and some middle schools offer similar programs. info: ckpflag@gmail.com. — L.M.

Triad Prom slated

WINSTON-SALEM — An alternative prom, “A Love Story,” will be held on May 15, 8 p.m., at Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of WinstonSalem, 4055 Robinhood Rd.. UUFWS, PFLAG and Interfaith Voice serve as sponsors. High school students (9th-12th grades) from Winston-Salem/Forsyth County are welcome to attend the prom. Refreshments will be served and a photographer will be available to capture participants’ memories. Casual through dressy attire is encouraged. Organizers want attendees to be comfortable. Students may bring guests. Admission is $5 at the door. Volunteers are being sought to help with chaperoning, setup and cleanup. Email dre@ uufws.org to learn more. info: 336-259-3688. uufws.org. — L.M.

Film series screening approaches

WINSTON-SALEM — OUT at the Movies will screen “Matt Shepard Is a Friend of Mine” on May 18, 8 p.m., in cooperation with Apeture Cinema, 311 W. Fourth St. On Oct. 7, 1998, University of Wyoming student Matthew Shepard was brutally beaten, tied to a fence and left to die because he was gay. Years later, Michele Josue, a close friend of Shepard’s, revisits the case with neverbefore-seen photos, rare video footage, as Matt’s all-too-brief life is remembered through the vivid testimonies of those whose lives he touched, from the friends and family who knew him best to the bartender who saw him on the night of the attack. New revelations emerge in one of the most notorious hate crimes in U.S. history, leading to a multi-layered biographical and sociological portrait. In the end, the notion of forgiveness — embodied in the final act of Shepard’s parents — takes on heroic proportions, the theatre shared. Immediately after the showing, there will be a panel discussion with Suzanne Reynolds and Shannon Gilreath of the Wake Forest School of Law and Mary Dalton, professor of communication, film studies and women’s and gender studies at Wake Forest University. Ticket price is $9.50/regular, $7.50/seniors, $8.25/students with college ID and military and students and are available online. info: outatthemovies.org. apeturecinema.com. — L.M.

Minister tenders resignation

WINSTON-SALEM — On April 26, Rev. Ron LaRocque notified his congregation at Metropolitan Community Church WinstonSalem, 4105 Patsy Dr., that he would be leaving

the ministry and his “pastoral responsibilities” at the church. His last date will be June 14. He shared in an email message to congregants and others that the decision “was not made hastily or easily. It is the result of a long process of discernment about where God is leading me and this church. The decision was a difficult one. I … love MCCWS and the people who make up the church. I want only the best for you.” He added that he was fully committed to his duties until his last day as pastor. LaRocque even offered to be available to congregants individually via email at pastor@mccws.org through the process. He expressed his gratitude to the church and said that his time there was transformative. Vice Moderator Merri Byrd shared in an email that members and friends of MCCWS might serve as guest speakers in the interim. The board of directors and transition team, along with Rev. Tony Freeman, director of church life and health for the Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches, will ensure a “healthy separation agreement” for all involved. info: mccws.org. — L.M.

Triangle Theatre brings ‘Hedwig’ benefit

RALEIGH — Raleigh Little Theatre, 301 Pogue St., will present a midnight performance on May 16 of “Hedwig and the Angry Inch” at its Gaddy-Goodwin Teaching Theatre. The special presentation benefits the LGBT Center of Raleigh, 324 S. Harrington St., and is held in partnership with the theatre. Tickets are $32.79 and include one drink. info: raleighlittletheatre.org. lgbtcenterofraleigh.com. — L.M.

Guild hosts Shepard

RALEIGH — The Raleigh Business and Professional Network will hold its monthly meeting on May 13, 6:30 p.m., at Coquette Brasserie, 4351 The Circle at North Hills St.. Guest speaker will be Ellen Shepard who is an award-winning filmmaker, screenwriter and assistant professor at St. Augustine University. Her new film, “Sitting at God’s Table,” debuts this month. It is a full-length documentary featuring local religious leaders who tackle with candor, respect and personal insight the most controversial subjects of the day. Reservations are available online for the meeting at raleighnetwork.org/meeting-schedule-reservations.html. A free screening of the film will take place on May 16, 10 a.m., at Full Frame Theatre, 318 Blackwell St., in Durham, N.C. Seating is limited. RSVP to sittingatgodstable@gmail.com to reserve a seat. A Q&A with Shepard follows. info: raleighnetwork.org. — L.M.

‘Tootsie’ fundraiser around corner

RALEIGH — The Alliance of AIDS Services - Carolina will celebrate the efforts of its organization and the Crape Myrtle Festival by having

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Out and about in the Carolinas RALEIGH — The LGBT Center of Raleigh, 324 S. Harrington St., announced that its Out! Raleigh festival broke its previous records and saw 32,000 at its May 2 event. info: lgbtcenterofraleigh.com. CHARLOTTE — Time Out Youth Center, 2320 N. Davidson St., shared that its ’90s-themed prom welcomed over 220 youth to its April 25 soiree. Organizers said it was the largest youth event that they had produced. info: timeoutyouth.org. HICKORY — King Law Office, 200 1st Ave. N.W., Suite 506, is gifting $1,000 to a non-profit in Catawba County and OUTright Youth of Catawba Valley wants to be the recipient. In order to receive the contribution, participants are needed to cast votes for the youth organization through the month of May. Voting is available online at on.fb.me/1F0v4ae. The winner will be announced on Facebook on June 1. info: outrightyouthcv.org. RALEIGH — The Crape Myrtle Festival’s 35th host party held at the home of Chris and Jessica Cotwalt raised $23,1000 on April 11. Expenses were kept at a minimum at $2,622 with 88.7 percent of contributions going to HIV/AIDS or LGBT causes. Funds are still being accepted online. Organizers want to reach a goal of $100,000 after expenses. info: crapemyrtlefest.org. CHARLOTTE — LGBT Aging Solutions Network celebrated its first anniversary on April 20 with 17 people attending the party. Cake and coffee were provided by AARP. info: clt.lgbt.elders@gmail.com. DURHAM — The Jack Crum Conference on Prophetic Ministry was held on April 18 at Epworth United Methodist Church, 3002 Hope Valley Rd. Theme was “Love Thy Neighbor: The Church and Welcoming Persons from the LGBTQ Community. During the day-long conference, Rev.Gil Caldwell, upon calling Jimmy Creech to the podium, acknowledged Creech’s tenacity in challenging the church on LGBT issues. Creech is a defrocked UMC minister and co-founder of Faith in America. info: rum-nc.org.

a fundraising screening of “Tootsie” on May 14, 8 p.m., at The Rialto Theatre, 1620 Glenwood Ave. Doors open at 7 p.m. This classic and iconic film stars Dustin Hoffman in the title role. Full concessions, including beer, wine, popcorn and sweets, will be available. Admission is free with a $10 suggested contribution. info: aas-c.org. — L.M.

treasurer Michael Bookout, case manager Bryan Gilliland and a number of other participants. Preparations are underway for the 2016 Hike for Hope +5k. Organizers want feedback on the event. Visit surveymonkey.com/r/8MT7HCK to participate. A drawing for two prizes, a five-class pass to Hickory Girls Fitness or a $25 Hickory Tavern gift card, will take place when the survey closes. info: alfahikeforhope.org. — L.M.

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Run/walk nets funds

HICKORY — The AIDS Leadership Foothills Alliance (ALFA) held it’s 6th annual AIDS awareness walk and run, Hike for Hope +5k, at Union Square on April 11. The event has raised $16,194 to date. The funds will be used to assist with medical case management, education and outreach in ALFA’s nine-county western North Carolina service area. The top individual fundraiser, Mark Bernard, of Hickory, N.C., raised nearly $1,000 of the event’s total. There were 50 participants. Donald Keller of Hickory, N.C., was the winner of the 5k with a time of 18:49.3. Female winner was Agnese Barnett, Hickory, N.C., who finished with a time of 22:18.8. The youngest participant was 10-year-old Joshua Lancaster who finished the race at 29:45.1. Belly dancing by Rhythm Essence, dance routines from Hickory Girls Fitness and a High Heel Dash helped to fill the day’s activities. The dash included, board president Leslie Cothren,

Left to right, Joshua Lancaster and Don Keller netted best times at the Hike for Hope +5k.

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news notes: u.s./world. Supreme Court hears marriage cases WASHINGTON, D.C. — The Supreme Court heard historic oral arguments on four marriage equality cases on April 28, with advocates and opponents of same-gender marriage each claiming they were encouraged by the court’s hearing. The four combined cases from Michigan, Ohio, Kentucky and Tennessee could bring full marriage equality across the country when the court releases its ruling, expected sometime in June. Mary Bonauto, the lead attorney arguing in favor of the changes, praised the arguments. “Today was a great day for equality at the U.S. Supreme Court,” Bonauto told reporters following the hearing, according to the Washington Blade. But opponents of marriage equality were equally pleased. “I am extremely encouraged by the questioning, especially from Justice Kennedy, because it focused on what marriage is,” John Eastman, chairman of the anti-LGBT hate group National Organization for Marriage said in a release. “It shows that the justices realize that marriage has existed for millennia and they have no constitutional basis to redefine it.” Eastman had been brought on to continue defending North Carolina’s anti-LGBT marriage amendment last fall. Observers at the court reported that questions from justices seemed to offer equally challenging questions for attorneys on both sides of the issue. Justice Anthony Kennedy, who

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authored three landmark gay rights opinions for the court including an historic decision overturning portions of the federal Defense of Marriage Act in 2013, pushed back against Bonauto’s arguments, expressing concern. “This definition has been with us for millennia, and it’s very difficult for the court to say we know better,” Kennedy said, regarding the definition of marriage. More conservative justices, including Samuel Alito and Antonin Scalia, similarly offered questions on tradition, as well as the effects of an affirmative ruling on the religious liberty of those opposed to same-gender marriage. More liberal Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg spoke briefly on the changing nature of marriage, citing past examples of how the institution had been redefined in American law. Two questions are being considered by the court — first, whether to extend marriage across all U.S. states and, second, whether a

A man waves a rainbow flag in front of the U.S. Supreme Court the morning oral arguments were held on marriage equality cases on April 28, 2015. Photo Credit: Ted Eytan, via Flickr. Licensed CC.

state that does not recognize same-gender marriages must be required to recognize those legal unions performed outside of their jurisdiction. For more on the cases, read this report from the Washington Blade: bit.ly/1HZM7K1. — Matt Comer

National museum picks New York, appoints N.C. native as co-chair NEW YORK CITY — The National LGBT Museum has chosen New York City as its permanent host city and elected a North Carolina native as its board co-chair. The museum, founded by Tim Gold, husband of North Carolina furniture maker and philanthropist Mitchell Gold, announced April 29 that it had chosen the Big Apple as the location of its forthcoming museum facility. The museum, Gold said, examined a number of possible sites and held meetings with elected officials and LGBT community leaders. “[New York City] is both the site of many pivotal events in the history of the U.S. LGBT civil rights movement as well as a top destination worldwide for LGBT tourists. We are excited about siting the museum in this great world city,” Gold said in a release. The group also announced that Kevin Jennings had been elected as its board co-chair. “A New York City resident, a historian by training, and a long-time leader in the LGBT

movement, Kevin is the perfect partner to help lead the effort to establish this museum in New York City,” Gold said. Jennings is a native of Winston-Salem, N.C. He is the founder of the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, currently serves as executive director of the Arcus Foundation and served as assistant deputy secretary for the Office of Safe and Drug-Free Schools at the U.S. Department of Education from July 2009-June 2011. “I am honored to join Tim and the Board in this important work,” Jennings said in the release. “Tim and the Board have done significant work in envisioning what a national LGBT museum might look like and I am excited to join them in helping turn that vision into a reality.” The museum said it will now work to identify funding sources, staff and a physical location in the city. The group wants the museum to be open in time for the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots in June 2019. : : — M.C.

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A sizzling, sexy summer in the city Local boutique owners, fashion experts dish their tips to get your wardrobe in shape for the coming summer season What are three must-have items for any person’s summer wardrobe? This summer everyone, male or female needs: great shorts, tank tops that are long enough to layer with, a statement necklace.

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What are the hot color trends for this season? What is your favorite color? My favorite colors for the season are true blue, canary yellow and any white. My favorite colors are grey and camo, year round. What’s the best kind of outfit for a casual, summer night out on the town? Wide leg pants, a simple tee or tank and chunky jewelry and flat sandals. What is your favorite fashion designer? Thom Browne What’s your take on Charlotte’s local fashion scene? Charlotte’s fashion scene is very diverse. As always, artists and musicians and young people are driving the trends up to designers. People who have the least money are showing the most creativity in what they wear on a daily basis. ——————— The House of LeMond 510 E. 15th St. 704-712-9531 instagram.com/thehouseoflemond/ Expert: LeMond Crayton-Hart About: There are several components of my business that keep me heavily involved in fashion in Charlotte and around the World. I have walked many runways around the country and world. I am a member of the Charlotte Fashion Guild and even operate a small local agency. I work with many designers as a creative director and a photographer. What are three must-have items for any person’s summer wardrobe? My three must haves would be a nice summer shoe, a nice straw or summer hat and arm candy (bracelets and cuffs)!

Expert: Nicole About: We brand ourselves to bring our customers unique, custom selections and to always set ourselves apart from other boutiques. What are three must-have items for any person’s summer wardrobe? Denim, Light Chambray Shirt, Shorts, Sneakers, Loafers What are the hot color trends for this season? What is your favorite color? We don’t really focus on a particular color. We encourage our customers to “BE THE COOL.” Blue is my fave color. What’s the best kind of outfit for a casual, summer night out on the town? A nice chambray shirt, denim and loafers. What’s your take on Charlotte’s local fashion scene? It’s very trendy. We try to remain timeless with our selections, so that our selections never go out of style. ——————— Boris + Natasha 1214 Thomas Ave. 704-375-0079 instagram.com/borisnnatasha/ Expert: Hope Nicholls About: Boris + Natasha has been open in Plaza Midwood for over 16 years. I have been a boutique buyer since 1990. I design a line of sterling silver jewelry called Hope & Anchor. Our customer is anyone and everyone who likes fun and has a bit of personal style. Our customer buys $10 things and $200 things. Our customer does not need a logo or label to know what they like, what is cool for them.

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What’s the best kind of outfit for a casual, summer night out on the town? I think that the best casual ensemble would be some tailored raw denim jeans, some awesome wing tips, a colored or white V-neck T-shirt, plenty of arm candy, a nice fedora and a custom tailored blazer with a lapel flower and vibrant pocket square. Of course, there must be jewelry and sunglasses.

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What are the hot color trends for this season? What is your favorite color? I say that floral is the new black and I guess that my favorite color is Carolina Blue.

What is your favorite fashion designer? I don’t have a favorite designer. I like creating looks, and I can use anyone’s clothing. As a true stylist, you have to be able to. I think that the garment, its characteristics and details, make the piece as opposed to the label or name that is on it. I am inspired by many. What’s your take on Charlotte’s local fashion scene? I think that its growing by leaps and bounds, and provides ground floor opportunity for many that are interested or just getting started in the industry.

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What are the hot color trends for this season? What is your favorite color? Aquamarine is a trending color for fashion and I’m partial because I can pronounce it and I know generally what shade it is; who knows what the hell coquelicot is? Aquamarine works well with denim, khakis, and just about everything. For shoes and boots, brown is the new black. What’s the best kind of outfit for a casual, summer night out o n the town? Parke & Ronen 2-inch, 4-inch or 6-inch shorts are perfect for the Carolina heat. Scotch & Soda button-ups are stylish and all your friends won’t be wearing the same thing. The stylish leather Hari Mari flip flops have arch support, are made responsibly and dress up the summer outfit. Hari Mari’s flops even fight cancer! For every pair purchased, $3 goes to help support children battling pediatric cancer. What is your favorite fashion designer? My favorite new line is OPNK — Original Perspective New Khaki. The line started in LA and has an innovative and contemporary approach to khaki. It’s a modern twist on a wardrobe staple. When customers come to SILVERFLY and try on shirts, pants or shorts by OPNK, they’re sold on style and comfort. Expert: Raheem Smalls About: Life Support NC is a street, skate, surf and contemporary men’s boutique located in the heart of the artsy NoDa community of Charlotte, North Carolina. The name “L.I.F.E.” is an acronym for Love, Influence, Fashion, and Education. We look to influence our customer’s by encouraging them to “be who you are” and love the diversity that is all around you. At Life Support NC, we strive to carry unique brands and styles that you can’t typically find in your local mall. We cater to a customer base that loves to express themselves through quality, style, originality and comfort. Our goal is to connect with our customers on many different levels and be their first line of education in the fashion world, therefore helping them to express their unique style. What are three must-have items for any person’s summer wardrobe? A nice heather V-neck T-shirt, a pair of ripped indigo jean shorts and a clean pair of white sneakers. What are the hot color trends for this season? What is your favorite color? White, red, blue and yellow are the hot colors for this spring and summer. My favorite color is blue. What’s the best kind of outfit for a casual, summer night out on the town? The best casual outfit for a summer night out on the town would be a nice lightweight V-neck T-shirt with a small logo or nice plain pastel color, a pair of slim-cut jean shorts with some tears in the front, a nice pair of rubber loafers with no socks and a smooth bucket hat to match the shoes. What is your favorite fashion designer? One of my favorite fashion designers would have to be Ralph Lauren. He has pieces for every season and every age that always trancends. What’s your take on Charlotte’s local fashion scene? Charlotte’s local fashion scene is evolving at a steady pace. I have been seeing more fashion designers and shows emerging over the past few years, along with local boutiques and large retail chains. They now have a Charlotte Fashion Week that clearly shows how the city is progressing and how the people of Charlotte are paying more attention and creating their own lane in the fashion industry. ——————— SILVERFLY 1111 Metropolitan Ave., Suite 150 980-819-7216 silverflybrands.com Opening May 2015: SILVERFLY Sport-Lifestyle Clothing for Men 1426 S Tryon St. 704-376-6612 Expert: Fidel Montoya About: Voted Best Clothing by Charlotte Magazine three consecutive years. What are three must-have items for any person’s summer wardrobe? 1. A pair of modern fit Hudson or Joe’s light weight jeans (light weight means less than 12 oz.). Dark wash denim is more versatile and minimal fading, whiskering & tears is better. Less is more. Forget the big pockets, large labels and bling. 2. T-Shirt, named after the T Shape of the body and sleeve. A tee shirt does not have a collar and

What’s your take on Charlotte’s local fashion scene? The Charlotte fashion scene is embracing diversity and lifestyle. When I buy for SILVERFLY and SILVERFLY Sport, I look for the best in “lifestyle” and “athleisure” apparel. It’s great to have options for the gym, travel, beach and work. Charlotteans no longer have to travel to New York to define their style! ——————— White Rabbit 920 Central Ave. 704-377-4067 WrabbitNC on Instagram, Twitter and YouTube Expert: Kode Brown About: Our involvement in the fashion community has to do with under garments and fashionable mens swimwear. We have one of the largest collections of different brands and cuts on the southeast coast. Customers can expect friendly faces and knowledge of what fits them best from different types of underwear brands. What are three must-have items for any person’s summer wardrobe? Three must haves this summer are a cute pair of trunk-style swimsuit (Andrew Christian or Ruffskin), a pair of black or clear frame sunglasses and, of course, your Pride wear jewelry. A little rainbow can go a long way. What are the hot color trends for this season? What is your favorite color? From what I can tell, neon colors are still in. Mix it up with you basic colors like red, black or navy blue. Let your basic color be your primary color and the neon accent colors. That way there’s a balance between colors and you don’t stick out like a sore thumb. What’s the best kind of outfit for a casual, summer night out on the town? For your night on the town go for simple. A nice shirt and your tightest jeans. Then pair it up with your favorite, colorful underwear. Make sure you match your socks to pull it all together. Just because other people can’t see under your underclothes, doesn’t mean the guy you take home won’t. What is your favorite fashion designer? Junk Underjeans and Andrew Christian. They have a unique way of making you feel sexy and comfortable. What’s your take on Charlotte’s local fashion scene? When it comes to Charlotte’s fashion scene, people are stuck in their own heads. Take a risk and pair things that you would not usually pair. If you don’t like it, you can always change.

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Making felons of troubled teens is not the answer Commentary: The experiences of Charlotte teacher’s brother informs his opposition to legislation currently under debate by Scott Yamanashi :: Progressive Voices Commentaries [Ed. Note — The commentary below, provided courtesy NC Policy Watch and Progressive Voices Commentaries, is an important reminder of our communities’ and schools’ needs to properly address the issues faced by young people. The issue is of import to LGBT youth, who often face higher rates of bullying and disciplinary infractions at school.] State senators in Raleigh are currently pushing a proposal (Senate Bill 343) that would make it a felony for a student to assault a teacher. As a 12-year veteran teacher and Charlotte native currently enrolled fulltime as a graduate student in Educational Administration in order to become a principal, I certainly appreciate the intentions of the sponsors. Unfortunately, the proposal would ultimately cause many more problems than it would solve. First, it should be acknowledged that violence is a genuine problem in our schools. Often, “tough love” is needed to address the decline in attentive parenting and two-parent homes and the lack of academic and behavioral integrity these trends help breed within our student populations. I should also add that I have never been attacked and only threatened a couple of times in my career. But I am also six feet five inches tall, almost three hundred pounds and have been a parttime bouncer for 24 years. Needless to say, students don’t even try it with me, and they know I will defend myself and my colleagues with any and all necessary WWE moves I have at my disposal to end the threat in the safest manner possible. That said, through my years of experience as a “go to” school peacemaker, it’s become clear to me that the best and safest campuses are those in which the school administration and teaching core work to effectively instill a school-wide set of effective and consistent discipline policies and procedures, as well as adequate counseling. These kinds of policies, programs and structures (and the budgetary resources to make them possible) are what our schools desperately need from state leaders more than anything else in order to handle violent, misguided students. Turning more young people into convicted felons won’t help. On this latter point I speak from direct experience. My younger brother was a

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sophomore in high school when he got mixed up with the wrong crowd and in June 1988 was prosecuted as an adult and convicted of a felony for possession of marijuana with intent to distribute. He was and is non-violent and was a rather small kid that got bullied a great deal. I did what I could to fight battles for him and defend him, but when he got in with that crowd (and the school did nothing to try to help), he was on his own and sold drugs to use those delinquent bullies for protection. After his conviction, our family rallied together, separated him from that group and withdrew him from school. We essentially got him to drop out of the high school, one of the top 100 in the nation, to save him. Ultimately, he worked his way through community college and the University of North Carolina, made great grades and became an upstanding citizen. Today, he is a highly paid computer programmer and the financial leader of our family. Unfortunately, for all his hard work, that 27-year-old felony in which he was tried as an adult continues to hold him back. I cannot tell you how unfair, inappropriate and unethical this type of prosecution was for my brother and children like him. To this day, he cannot legally buy a gun to defend his home and must disclose his juvenile act to every employer and on every application he fills out. Yes, he made a terrible mistake — just as most of the troubled children targeted by the Senate bill have. But neither he nor they deserve a felony. Current laws regarding assaults by minors are just and adequate to treat and hold these students accountable. Felony convictions often amount to “cruel and unusual punishment” that lasts far longer than it should. Yes, there are occasionally special cases that deserve severe punishment, but to use such a broad stroke against all children is illogical. These students need mental health assistance, not a long prison sentence or felony conviction label. That’s why the juvenile justice system was created in the first place. How many of the students responsible for the mass school shootings of the last 20 years had mental health issues and how many of them got the professional help they

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needed before committing their heinous acts? We would do much better to provide more alternative schools and to expand mental health screening and counseling for students and parents before we go down the felony conviction road. Unfortunately, budget cuts continue to reduce our capacity to explore and provide such creative programs. On this count, I also speak from experience. In 2011, I was hired for a teaching position at Samarkand Youth Development Center in Carthage, N.C., through the Department of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention.

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Unfortunately, right after I was hired, state budget cuts led to the closure of the school that had been used to mentor and enrich troubled youth since 1918. This example was and is sadly typical of the shortsighted policies our elected officials have been pursuing in this area. We need more efficient, more insightful and less retributive leadership from our state government when it comes to children and public education. Reversing course on this latest proposal from the state Senate would be a good place to start. : : — Scott Yamanashi is an educator who lives in Charlotte.

Editor’s Note continued from page 5 U.S. Census data says the highest number of same-gender couples live in the state. The area is also home to the highest concentration of LGBT organizations in the city, ranging from three out of four of the city’s LGBT churches to organizations like Time Out Youth Center and Charlotte Pride. QNotes’ office and White Rabbit are just two blocks from the 28205 line, technically in Elizabeth, but growing ever more closely linked to an expanding Plaza Midwood. Charlotte’s LGBT community has long been plagued with a lack of any true “gayborhood.” It’d be sad to see the two ‘hoods that come closest to it transformed into more bland, less accepting and less eclectic versions of their former selves. I often wonder particularly how smaller businesses will fare. We’ve already seen some changes, with new restaurants, for example, serving more affluent customers in Plaza Midwood, a neighborhood long known for its diversity of small business owners, including those owned by LGBT people and people of color. Will they stand the test of new competition, find new customers and thrive? Or will they be pushed out, their former locations traded for even more residences, national chains or businesses serving entirely different clientele? It is possible Plaza Midwood and NoDa will stand the test. These neighborhoods’ reputations, histories, cultures and traditions could be strong enough to attract new, but likeminded residents who cherish, patronize and champion the small business owners, culture and diverse communities of current residents keeping these neighborhoods unique. That would certainly be my wish, and it’s entirely possible.

But for other neighborhoods, gentrification will be a hard force to stop. Neighborhoods like Cherry, situated right next to booming Midtown developments, will find it difficult to assimilate new residents and businesses into their historic, traditionally African-American, middle class neighborhood. These questions and challenges are natural — regularly faced by cities across the country. As Charlotte continues to grow, I hope we’ll take the time to ask hard questions, examining the wisdom in rezoning petitions and soughtafter developments. Maintaining the unique natures of neighborhoods that, collectively, make this city a unique home for all of us needs to be a priority, and I believe it’s entirely possible to balance growth with respect for the people that call each of these neighborhoods home. : :

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Cheating: Give in or get out Hello Trinity, In your last few columns, you talked about “cheating” as if it was OK. Why do you make it seem acceptable and common? Cheating Etiquette, Tulsa, OK Hello Cheating, Relationships are long, tumultuous journeys, which will almost always have issues of monogamy, fidelity and sexual promiscuity, especially in today’s sexually charged culture. So sorry to burst your bubble, but while cheating is very unacceptable, it is, however, very real and something that must be discussed. While I do not advocate cheating at all, I do say, never “simply” give up five, 10, 15

or 20 years of work just because of a biological desire or human error. Honey, all I’m saying is if the one you love, “screws up,”, don’t be so quick to “give up.” Hey Trinity, I’m thinking of joining a dating service, but what should I ask a date besides, “What do you look for in someone? Confused Applicant, Coral Gables, FL Hey Applicant, Most dating services have forms with lots of other questions besides “beauty or beast?” A good question you can ask an applicant (but never in person) is “income.” But, pumpkin, when

you’re face to face, you’ll have to x-ray his/ her surroundings to figure out their dollar amount! (I look inside to see what’s up with my dates like the cartoon shows.) Dear Trinity, When I was 25, I always dated my own age group. Now, I’m approaching 50, but my taste hasn’t changed. Is it immature to date people half my age? Young At Heart, Reno, NV Dear Young At Heart, Wanting and having it all is what life’s all about! And healthy, harmless attractions that make two people happy are worth toasting to! Be young and free for as long as you can. My ex’s grandmother of 50 married herself a 25 year-old-man and, sweetie, 30 years later she still smiles with a twinkle in her eye! Dearest Trinity, It’s been six years and our sex life has become sexless. Have you some suggestions? Sex Lifeless, Charlotte, NC Dearest Sexless, Baby, ask and you shall receive with: Trinity’s Alternative Tips For Keeping The Flame Burning In Your Relationship 1. Foods like chocolate sauce, whip cream, honey, plus flavored lubricants, give “eating out” a whole new meaning! 2. Adult videos have been around since Disney videos and for a reason. Watching people do what you are trying to get in the mood to do helped even Snow White get up and off to work. 3. Setting the mood with a massage, hot bath, sensual music and candles could turn a moody day into a sensually moon filled night. 4. S&M doesn’t only mean straps and muzzles. Light role playing, leather accessories and alluring undergarments could give a boring, “Friday Night at the Movies” it’s academy award. 5. “ Our best sex was after a big fight!” doesn’t mean create a fight. But creating

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fiery, exciting, hot and sweaty fantasies or situations may give you something worth fighting for! 6. Some couples practice threesomes or even invite other couples to “play” with them. It’s been done, it’s being done and it may stop you from saying, “I’m done!” 7. T oys keep kids occupied and free from boredom for hours, sometimes even days. So guess what it can do to your sex life for hours, and if you’re lucky, sometimes days! 8. Medical or psychological problems really do exist which means getting medical or psychological help really can cure sexual problems. 9. Researching other couples to see what they do to keep their sex life alive, as well as reviewing books or tapes like the “Joy Of (any) Sex” can keep you informed and in bed. 10. Lastly, healthy, happy couples need sex or, at least, to be touched, so if you’re not giving a little then your partner may need to get a little… somewhere else. : : info: With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama performed globally, and is now minister of sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings, wigministries.org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.

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To Boom Boom with love: Get well soon This month’s column is special and it goes out to someone extra special in our Queen City drag community — Boom Boom LaTour. For those who have not heard, Boom Boom recently had a heart attack and is currently recovering in the hospital day by day. Boom Boom (aka Ricky Carter) is a living legend in the Queen City doing drag for decades dating back to the late ‘60s. Her name alone brings memories and smiles to faces across the South. Boom Boom was an early pioneer for drag, becoming a staple and one of the memorable faces at Charlotte gay bars like Blue Note, Oleens, Chaser’s and The Scorpio. You could find her still today greeting patrons at The Scorpio. When her cousin Ron Deese posted on Facebook about Boom Boom’s health, not surprisingly, the news of her heart attack created an outpouring of emotion and well wishes. Having had my father recover from a heart attack, I know how difficult and tedious it can be. So I asked Facebook friends to send messages for my column. Indeed, love can heal the heart from friends in times like this. “To Boom Boom with Love” — Boom Boom, read and listen to what your drag family and friends have to say, their stories, how you have made a difference in their life and their love for you.

————————— The thing I love most about her — her ways of being loving, and always 100% real. I want her to get well, which I know will happen, because she’s a trooper. I can’t imagine entering Scorpios without my lovable read. — Aiesha Paris Boom Boom is my drag grandmother. She was very instrumental in getting me started in my career as a female impersonator. She helped guide me as I created my character and honed my craft. Boom Boom’s sharp wit and kind, generous heart are what I love most. A true mentor and friend to me! I love you Boom. — Kerri Nichols Always sweet to me. When I was having a bad start to the weekend Boom Boom always got me laughing. — Nadia Rain “Boom Boom is legendary — the Queen of Queens. Being fresh out of the closet in the ’80’s was fantastic! Scorpios was alive and leading the way was Boom Boom and I will never forget. Her shows had just the right mix of talent, great costumes and that added touch of humor that I looked forward to each and every Sunday night. I still tell stories. You are a legend here in the “Queen City” and always will be. You are one amazing “queen.” — Lynn Griffin-Roberts Every time I walked through the doors at Scorpio, she would say, “Hey golden arches.” And we’d both look at her picture next to her stand. It would just make my night.” — Lakeisha Paris Without Boom Boom there would not be me or my drag family. — Sierra Santana I remember meeting Boom Boom LaTour while we both worked at Chasers. I loved how her voice boomed over the loud music. Boom Boom and Tina Terell were the first people who told me I could do drag. I was especially fond of Boom Boom because she had a way of

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ary Charlotte royalty! Your light shines bright! — D Perris Floyd-Bloxsom I am Blessed to know the alter ego of Boom Boom (the real man) and I can tell you that never does he meet me without a smile, a hug, or words of encouragement. I love you, Rick (Boom Boom) ‚ the man, the legend, the friend. Get well! — Dale Pierce As most everyone knows, coming out was a big issue for me. Immediately after coming out, my friends took me out to Scorpio to just take my mind off things. With the obvious look of “emptiness” that had overcome my face due to the rejection I faced from my family, the first person to ask if I was okay that night was Boom Boom. Although I shrugged it off and said, “Oh, nothing, baby.” I am so thankful that she took that moment and just asked. — Hunter Lynn Eagle making you feel comfortable enough to tell her your deepest darkest secrets, after all she was one of the first non family members that I told I was HIV positive, and the way she grabbed my hand and reassured me it was going to be alright, she actually encouraged me to go get treatment. I just wanted Boom Boom to know that her words of wisdom back in the day were great and I love her — all that Boom Boom was and is. I love you Gal hurry and get well! — Gregory Terry-Patton Boom Boom is a wonderful person inside and out. I always looked forward to the annual Christmas show at Scorpios and her 12 days of Christmas performance. I’ve never met a kinder more compassionate person than Boom Boom. Here’s wishing you a speedy recovery. — Tony Baker Quoting Rod Stewart, “You’re ageless and timeless, You’re in my heart, you’re in my soul.” Boom Boom, come home. — Walter Adams I remember being really young and watching Boom Boom perform in the late ’90’s. I moved away for about four years at one point and when I came back for the first time, I heard, “Hey bitch where you been?’”Always so funny and that smile. Get well Boom Boom, the 12 days of Christmas needs you! Charlotte needs you! — Eric Strube Thank you for always being my protector… love you, get well soon. — Michael O Brailey The way you make someone proud to be who they are, no matter what the meanies say and do. You are such a beautiful person and I expect to see you soon stamping this massive hand of mine and telling me to stay out of trouble! I love you! — Jacinto De Leon Boom Boom, has always stood the test of time. And there’s no one greater! You can overcome this. I know you can! Your time is not up! Get well, get stronger. You are legend-

Boom Boom is not only a legend in the drag community, but, someone whom I truly admire and adore. For many years anytime I needed a shoulder, an ear, or a dose of reality, Boom was the person I would turn to. I have had the honor of being mentored and shown the ropes in Charlotte by this amazing person and I cringe at the thought that we might not have Boom forever. Playing a big role in bringing drag to Charlotte, we all have so much indebted to people like Boom Boom and Brandy Alexander that we tend to take for granted on a daily basis. They’ve paved the way for acceptance in this community and I, for one, am eternally grateful for the laughs, the tears, and the sacrifices I’ve shared with her. Boom, keep fighting and we will keep praying. Love and prayers! — Robert Porter Boom Boom was the first person I met the first time I went to Scorpios. I was so nervous and he immediately made me feel at ease. Over the many years, he has been a friendly face both at Scorpios and Chasers and no holiday was complete without his Christmas numbers. Much love and well wishes to Boom Boom! — Brian David Coone ————————— My apologies to those who were not part of this column. There were so many wonderful stories and well wishes for Boom Boom. On behalf of all of us, Boom Boom, get well soon. You mean the world to each of us. You make a difference in our life, just by being yourself and we need you. Soak up all that love. : : Fundraiser: The Scorpio will host a benefit show for Boom Boom on May 17, 7:30 p.m. Proceeds will benefit Boom Boom’s recovery. — Buff Faye calls the Queen City her home and does drag to end world hunger (and to raise money for charities). Find her at your favorite bars and hot spots. Plus don’t forget her monthly Sunday drag brunch and regular Friday night party bus. Learn more at AllBuff.com. Follow on Twitter @BuffFaye

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Ladies and Gentleman start your Stilettos! Organizers promise a fun afternoon of competitive racing, in high heels and a wig, of course! Teams compete to win cash prizes for charities of their choice. queencitydragrace.org. –––––––––––––––––––– Royals Prom Dress Match Tuckaseegee Recreation Center 4820 Tuckaseegee Rd., Charlotte 6 p.m. The Charlotte Royals take on the Nashville Grizzlies in their annual Prom Dress match. Tickets are $10. charlotteroyalsrugby.com –––––––––––––––––––– ‘Life Out Loud’ Myers Park Baptist Church 1900 Queens Rd., Charlotte 5 p.m. The many voices of the LGBT community share their stories in Charlotte Pride Band’s final concert of the season, “Life Out Loud.” Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte and One Voice chorus join the band in telling this musical narrative of self-discovery. Tickets are $13 for individuals or $22.50 for a family pass (two adults, all kids under age 12). Information and tickets available online. charlotteprideband.org.

Including LGBTQ People and their Families in Faith Communities Myers Park Baptist Church 1900 Queens Rd., Charlotte 8:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m. Sister Jeannine Gramick of New Ways Ministries joins PFLAG Charlotte for a morning workshop and seminar advocating justice and inclusion for LGBTQ people and their families. Free.

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Platinum Gala SEP JUN MO Mint Museum Uptown 500 S. Tryon St., Charlotte 6:30 p.m. Annual gala fundraiser for Time Out Youth Center, featuring keynote speaker Molly Barker, founder of Girls on the Run. Evening includes dinner, cocktails, art auction and more, The Mecklenburg LGBT Political Action including a private showing of the Committee hosts its first fundraiser exhibit “Halston and Warhol: Silver and of the year to promote LGBT equality Suede.” Tickets are $75 if purchased and non-discrimination in Charlotte. before May 15, $100 afterward. Featuring DJ Little Betty. General admis- timeoutyouth.org/platinum/. sion at the door is a suggested contribution of $25-$50. All door proceeds benefit MeckPAC. Host and sponsor levels are still available, ranging from $150 to $350. Contact meckpac@gmail.com for more information.

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A one-night only screening of the documentary film “Matt Shepard is a Friend of Mine,” with panel discussion following the film, including: Suzanne Reynolds (dean of the Wake Forest School of Law), Mary Dalton (professor of communication, film studies and women’s and gender studies at Wake Forest University) and Shannon Gilreath (professor of law and professor of women’s, gender, and sexuality studies at Wake Forest University). Tickets are $11.50 at aperturecinema.ticketmob. com. Presented in part by OUT at the Movies-Winston-Salem. outatthemovieswinston.org.

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Janice’s 19th Annual SEP MAY MO Backyard Cookout Petra’s 1919 Commonwealth Ave., Charlotte 2-6 p.m. Rescheduled from April 25, the event is back on! Janice provides all the hamburgers, hotdogs, sides and fixings. All you bring is you! Free and open to the community. RSVP for an accurate headcount at Facebook. facebook.com/events/822742711106918/.

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The Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte presents its sixth annual festive gala with food, drinks, auctions, all with fabulous friends! It’s a new day and new feel, but the same fun and frolic! Doors open at 3:30 p.m. $65. gmccharlotte.org.

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Continues through June 20 SEP JUN MO ‘Hollywood Squares: The Speakeasy Edition” Charlotte Ballet 701 N. Tryon St., Charlotte Honoring 8 p.m. AfricanOne Voice Chorus returns with American, Hollywood Squares, this time taking sameus back to genderthe age of the loving men Speakeasy — making an era which an impact in the greater Charlotte brought us secommunity. Presented by PowerHouse cret passwords, Charlotte. 2015 honorees include: back-room Charlotte City Councilmember Al Austin, indulgences Nickel Bar owner Milton Howard and and NASCAR! Come celebrate some of the Rev. Clifford Matthews, Jr., pastor the greatest musicals like “Showboat,” of St. Luke Missionary Baptist Church. “42nd Street,” “Cabaret” and more. Cocktail attire. Complimentary buffet. Performances at 8 p.m. on June 18, 19 Free. and 20. Tickets on sale online. powerhousecharlotte.org. onevoicechorus.com.

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Q&A with Diane Troy President, PFLAG Charlotte by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com less. I still volunteer there every Monday, but, at first, I volunteered two or three times a week. It’s just one day now that I’m more involved in PFLAG. When did you get involved in PFLAG? I became president at the end of 2012, beginning of 2013. Someone asked me to step up as PFLAG’s president. I can’t tell you what a huge leap that was for me. I was thinking to myself, “How in the hell am I going to do this?” The scariest thing in my life is being in a meeting talking in front of people, but as time goes on I feel more and more comfortable doing it. It’s the passion in me. It fosters me and it empowers me to grow as a person. Diane Troy with her son, Michael, last Labor Day. Photo Courtesy Diane Troy.

Diane Troy says she’s an “unconventional learner.” She tells me she’s dyslexic and an ADHD adult. “I’m a fireball with all this energy,” she says. And if you know Diane or have worked with her in the local community, you know she’s telling the absolute truth. Sit with Diane for a while in a PFLAG Charlotte meeting or as she’s helping to organize other events and activities, you’ll soon find out that her bubbly, positive energy is contagious — it’ll brighten your day and send you away from the meeting with a smile. Originally from Kansas City, Mo., Diane, 59, made her way to the South and to Charlotte by way of South Jersey. She’s been in the area for 30 years, where she raised her son Michael, who attended local Catholic schools and is now in medical school in Chapel Hill, she tells me. Diane recently made waves when she was sucked into controversy with the local Roman Catholic bishop, who prohibited PFLAG Charlotte and St. Peter Catholic Church from hosting an event on LGBT inclusion in faith communities. But in her time away from community work — where she first got involved to support other people like her own gay son — Diane’s life is as diverse and compelling as any other. We took a bit of time to chat with Diane to get to know her a bit better. Our Q&A is edited for clarity and length. How do you find the energy to do all that you do? Unfortunately, I’ve been separated from my marriage for about two years, after 31 years of marriage. I was completely devastated. But, I thought, I can feel really sorry for myself and mope around or I can dig deep down and figure out what I can do with my life and how I can use the gifts and skills I have to make a difference. There are things I could never do before that I can do now. What do you enjoy doing to make a difference? I started volunteering with Urban Ministries, which is a huge passion of mine, the home-

Outside of your community work, what kind of hobbies do you have or what do you do for fun? I love to run. I love to be outside and walk, hike. I love to ride my bike. Have any pets? Yes, I do. After I separated, I had never lived alone my entire life. I come from a large family, one of six kids. Even in my 20s, I lived in an apartment with friends. I called my sister and said, “Find me a foster dog right now or else I’m going to get a foster child!” They sent me a picture of my white golden doodle Ellie. She has been my companion for the last two and a half years. I take her for walks and we do a lot together. What’s your favorite genre of music? I love Broadway musicals. Any favorite musical? That’s an ugly question to ask! (laughs) How can you answer that question?! If you’re a true musical lover, there’s no one that stands out. It’s always just what you’re in the mood for sometimes. Have you done any traveling abroad? Oh, yes! Last year, Michael was in the middle of taking his step one, the first huge test after the second year of medical school. He said let’s go do something fun. I thought it might be a long time before we could do something like this again, so we ended up going to Bali, Indonesia. It was amazing. It was just one of those oncein-a-lifetime trips and I got to take it with my son. I can’t even explain how incredible it was — the culture, the beautiful scenery and the great hotels we stayed in. It seems like you’ve had lots of ups and downs — both triumphs and challenges — over the last few years. What have you learned from it? Sometimes when something bad happens in your life, you have to make a choice. You have to make a choice to really put yourself out there and grow from the experience, which is something I’ve done in my life. You can get so many incredible things out of it. I’ve learned so much about myself and my strength. : :

May 8-21 . 2015

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May 8-21 . 2015