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News Notes: Regional 7 News Notes: U.S./World Briefs 18 ‘Yes, You Can Go’ initiative

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Charlotte gay wedding LGBT Sports in the South New clinic opens Tell Trinity Health & Wellness Q Events Calendar Our People: Jon Hoppel

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4 Guest Commentary 5 An hour with EEOC commissioner 5 Ask Lambda Legal

‘Yes, You Can Go’ launched!

The Freedom Center for Social Justice spearheaded an initiative to embrace the transgender community. page 18

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EEOC commissioner shares workforce and workplace guideline projects Was part of a large gathering in Washington, D.C. page 5

Gay couple marries despite Methodist church stance Charlotte’s John Romano and Jim Wilborne and their pastor defied the church rules. page 13

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Currey Cook, Tim Funk, Stan Kimer, Jack Kirven, Lainey Millen, Jesse Monteagudo, Jeff Taylor, Trinity, Jim Yarbrough

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guest commentary

by Jesse Monteagudo :: guest contributor

Jesse’s Journal: North Carolina Broke My Heart gay, bisexual and especially transgender North Carolina was one of my favorite citizens, the General Assembly met in special states. Though I never lived there, my partsession and rushed through HB2, a bill that ner Michael Greenspan is a proud Tar Heel McCrory signed on March 23. The new law who was born in Asheville, N.C., grew up in Charlotte, N.C., and graduated from the University of North Carolina in Chapel Hill, N.C. (then as now a center of progressive politics).

Before Michael got sick we used to visit North Carolina almost every year; to visit his relatives but also to enjoy all that state had to offer. And there was a lot. Vacations in North Carolina might include the Outer Banks, the Triangle (Raleigh, Durham and Chapel Hill), the Triad (Greensboro, Winston-Salem, High Point) and our favorites, the city of Asheville, the Blue Ridge and the Great Smoky Mountains.

Michael and I loved to drive Photo Credit: Olivier Le Moal via Adobe Stock along the Blue Ridge Parkway, stopping along the way to overturns Charlotte’s ordinance and bans all enjoy all of its great sights: Grandfather North Carolina municipalities from enacting Mountain, Linville Falls, Mount Mitchell, the sexual orientation and gender identity protecFolk Art Center, Mount Pisgah and the Devil’s tions. HB2 also requires trans* people to use Courthouse. bathrooms and locker rooms that do not match North Carolina’s political climate, though their gender identity. HB2 was rightly called hardly progressive, was never horrible enough “the most egregious, sweeping, hate-filled to keep us away. In spite of Sen. Jesse Helms, anti-LGBT legislation in this country’s history” North Carolina was considered moderate by though the State of Mississippi, not to be Southern standards, at least in comparison to outdone, rushed through a “Religious Liberty nearby South Carolina, Tennessee or Virginia.

Accommodations Act” that is even worse.

This blissful state ended with the Tea Party wave McCrory and his GOP legislators claim that of the last decade, which elected a Republican they rushed HB2 through to prevent men from majority to the General Assembly in 2010 and claiming transgender status in order to enter GOP Gov. Pat McCrory in 2012. Now with total women’s bathrooms or locker rooms for predacontrol of the state government, the right-wing tory purposes. This ploy worked well in the city majority began to pass a series of Tea Partyof Houston, Texas, where opponents used the inspired laws that pushed the Tar Heel state back specter of men in dresses to convince voters a few decades. High on the wish list was a voting to repeal that city’s human rights law. McCrory law that changed how, when and where voters called HB2 “common sense” legislation passed could cast ballots and also changed the limits “to stop the breach of basic privacy and etiand disclosure requirements for political donors. quette, ensure privacy in bathrooms and locker Needless to say, this law has kept from the polls rooms.” The fact that trans* women are more minority members, students and other groups likely to be the victims and not the perpetrators most likely to vote for Democrats. of bathroom or locker room crime was ignored North Carolina’s recent outrage against by the governor. humanity occurred in reaction to a LGBT rights North Carolina’s HB2 is related to the law passed by the city of Charlotte. Outraged anti-LGBT “freedom of religion” laws that by the Queen City’s protection of its lesbian,

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have recently passed or are being considered by the red states. These laws are part of a backlash against LGBT progress in America, especially the United States Supreme Court’s legalization of marriage equality in last year’s Obergefell v. Hodges ruling. Previous “freedom of religion” bills were vetoed by the governors of Georgia, South Dakota, and Virginia.

North Carolina was not so lucky. However, its new law did cause a reaction on the part of LGBT advocates, political progressives, and major corporations who threaten to move out of the Tar Heel State if HB2 is not repealed. I hope it is repealed.

Meanwhile, though I am only one person, I intend to boycott the State of North Carolina until and unless it discards this horrendous law.

This is personal. By passing HB2, North Carolina broke my heart, and for this I will not soon forgive or forget. : : About Jesse Jesse G. Monteadudo was born in Havana, Cuba. Along with his family, he immigrated to the U.S. in 1962 and has lived in South Florida since 1964. Monteagudo has an Associate of Arts Degree from Miami-Dade Community College and a Bachelor of Arts Degree from Florida International University. Since 1981, he has held the job of faculty assistant at Nova Southeastern University’s College of Law. In addition to his day job, Monteagudo has worked as a freelance writer and journalist since 1977 and is the author of two columns: “Jesse’s Journal” and “The Book Nook.” His essays and short fiction have appeared in more than three dozen fiction and non-fiction anthologies.

Monteagudo’s career as an activist dates back to 1976, when he was a foot soldier in the Dade County Coalition for Human Right’s war against Anita Bryant and Save Our Children.

Since then he has been a founder, president and/or board member for various organizations and has received a number of awards for his contributions in working for LGBT rights and inclusivity.

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BIZ Beat

An hour with EEOC Commissioner Charlotte A. Burrows Part 1 of 2: Priorities Overview

by Stan Kimer :: guest contributor

She also had a career During the week of April working for Sen. Edward M. 17, I was invited to attend a Kennedy as general council “Meet and Greet” with one of for Civil and Constitutional the nation’s five Employment Rights on the Senate Equal Opportunity Commission Committee on Health, (EEOC) commissioners, Education, Labor and Charlotte A. Burrows, in the Pensions in 2009, among EEOC’s downtown Raleigh, other posts.

N.C., office. I received the Burrows earlier work invite since I am an officer was as a trial attorney, of the Raleigh Business special litigation counsel and Professional Network, and deputy chief in the Raleigh’s National Gay DOJ’s Civil Rights Division’s & Lesbian Chamber of Employment Litigation Commerce’s affiliate chapter.

Section. And, she worked Nominated by President Commissioner Charlotte A. Burrows, as a judicial clerk. She Barack Obama on Sept. 12, Equal Employment Opportunity was an associate with 2014, Burrows was confirmed Commission.

Debevoise & Plimpton. on Dec. 3, 2014, when the Photo Credit: EEOC.gov The reception started Senate voted 93-2 in favor for with each of us 25 attendees greeting and her to serve as commissioner until July 1, 2019, introducing ourselves to Burrows in a recepwhen her term is due to expire. tion line, then introducing ourselves briefly to Burrows previously served as associate the group, this followed by a 20-minute overdeputy attorney general at the Department of view of the EEOC’s current top priorities and Justice (DOJ), where she worked on a broad a Q&A session. I was extremely impressed range of legal and policy issues, including emwith Burrows, who has her bachelor’s degree ployment litigation, tribal justice, voting rights, from Princeton University and law degree and implementation of the Violence Against from Yale University. And I came away from Women Act, among others.

the meeting proud of my country for having a body like the EEOC which is diligently and effectively assuring full rights for all workers in our country.

Burrows then quickly discussed several of the major areas the EEOC was working on: 1. R etaliation Charges. Focusing on retaliation charges since they are the largest percentage of cases brought to the EEOC at 43 percent of the total. She also stated that retaliation is most often the easiest charge for people (juries) to understand.

2. E qual Pay for Equal Work. When equal pay for women was introduced by President John F. Kennedy in 1962, the pay differential between women and men was 41 cents on the dollar. That has now been cut in half to 21 cents, but that is still too large. Even normalizing for time in the position and other factors, it is still 7 to 8 cents. The EEOC is studying lots of data to identify the hot spots or largest environments for gaps in pay so they can be addressed.

3. P regnant Employees. Providing stronger guidance on pregnant employees since there is still too high an instance of employees being fired for being pregnant.

4. L GBT concerns. The EEOC believes that sexual orientation and gender identity are

indeed covered under Title VII, and they are vigorously addressing this kind of workplace discrimination. I’ll discuss this in more detail in Part 2 of this story.

5. Vulnerable Workers. Protection of vulnerable workers within the “underground” economy, a large number of them being undocumented immigrants working in the farming industry. She mentioned some horrific cases such as one employer routinely raping female employees with impunity since the women were powerless to report this abuse.

6. Diversity of police forces. The EEOC is teaming with the Justice Department and collecting best practices from police departments that are successfully diversifying their forces to be more representative of the communities they serve.

I am very encouraged by the work of the EEOC to ensure that every worker in our country receives fair treatment and equality under the law, which is truly the “American Way.” : : — Stan Kimer, Total Engagement Consulting

by Kimer, is a Raleigh, N.C.-based business consultant who provides corporate and organizational training on a wide range of diversity topics including transgender diversity.

Ask lambda legal

My child just came out to me, now what?

Attorney shares tips to traversing uncharted territory

by Currey Cook :: Lambda Legal Sr. Attorney and Youth in Out-of-Home Care Project Director

A. It’s likely that it took a lot of strength and courage for your daughter to come out to you, and now it’s important for her safety and well-being that you demonstrate your love and support. As the national director of Lambda Legal’s Youth in Out-of-Home Care Project, I have seen firsthand the damage that can come from parents’ rejection of their LGBT children.

LGBT youth are overrepresented in foster care, juvenile justice systems and among youth experiencing homelessness. In fact, it’s estimated that a staggering 40 percent of homeless youth in the U.S. identify as LGBT, and many of those youth have been kicked out by or run away from parents who did not accept them for who they are. I commend you for expressing your love for your daughter by accepting and affirming her.

As you may know, it’s not unusual for a person to identify as LGBT — approximately one in every four families in this country has a family member who does. This means that not only are you not alone, but also that you’ve got

a huge, supportive community around you and lots of resources at your disposal. The best place to start is your local LGBT community center. You can check Centerlink (lgbtcenters. org ) for the one closest to you. These centers can provide you and your daughter with educational resources and social events with a group of people who identify with your experience.

Another excellent resource is an organization called Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) (pflag.org). They offer a volunteer-based peer support network and have chapters all over the country.

You might have questions, you might feel uncomfortable, or you might just not know what to say. Please know that your reactions are normal and your feelings are absolutely OK. The important thing is that your daughter knows that you love her even if you may need some time to gain understanding about this aspect of her identity.

There is actually a project dedicated to this very concept called the Family Acceptance Project (familyproject.sfsu.edu). The Project’s research has shown a clear link between family rejection and negative health outcomes for LGBT youth. Conversely, the Project has found that family acceptance can actually lead to positive outcomes for LGBT youth, protecting them from suicide, depression, and substance

abuse. The Project does a lot of work with families of faith who have difficulty reconciling their child’s LGBT identity with their religious beliefs and has assisted in connecting families of faith with affirming religious groups. They have helped families of many faiths learn to Photo Credit: JackF via AdobeStock

Q. My daughter recently came out as lesbian, and while I was shocked at first, I want to be there for her and be supportive. But to be honest, I don’t know where to start, or what the best resources are for more information. There is so much online, and I’m not sure what to trust. What do you recommend?

accept and affirm their children’s identities.

Many other programs exist within organizations around the country such as The Ruth Ellis Center in Detroit, Mich., and CAMBA in Brooklyn, N.Y. It’s important to recognize that while a person’s identity as LGBT can sometimes

evolve over time, it is not something that can be changed at will. You might hear about “reparative” or “conversion” therapy, which claim to make gay people straight or transgender people identify with their sex assigned at birth.

These therapies are ineffective at best and harmful at worst. In fact, every major medical and psychological association has spoken out against conversion therapy, citing its use as leading to higher levels of depression, anxiety and self-destructive behaviors. Being LGBT is a normal part of human development and supporting your daughter means accepting her for who she is, rather than trying to make her into someone else.

I commend you for wanting to support your daughter, and I think that with time, you’ll find that her sexual orientation is an aspect of her identity just as yours is and she’s still that awesome daughter you raised and love. By letting her know you love and support her, you’ll help guarantee she is healthy and successful.

If you have any questions, contact Lambda Legal’s Help Desk at 1-866-542-8336, or see www.lambdalegal.org/help. : :

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news notes: carolinas & u.s./world compiled by Lainey Millen

Pastor to retire CHARLOTTE, N.C. — Rev. Catherine Houchins will be stepping down from her position as senior clergy at Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) of Charlotte located at 7121 Orr Rd. Her final service will take place on June 5 at 10:45 a.m.

Houchins has served as a minister with MCC for over 30 years and has spent the last eight years at the Charlotte church.

Leading up to the service, a birthday celebration for Houchins will be held on May 21, 7 p.m., at the church. Cathy Fisher and Mo Aulick will provide musicality to the event and Fisher will preach to the congregation on May 22 at its morning service. The couple are from Roanoke, Va., and are members of MCC of the Blue Ridge.

On May 7, the church had an opportunity to meet with Houchins’ interim replacement, Rev. Wanda Floyd, at a post RAIN AIDS Walk cookout. The following day, Floyd was the special guest preacher at MCCC’s morning service.

Floyd is no stranger to the Carolinas. She was the founder of Imani MCC of Durham. She has most recently served as interim pastor since May 18, 2014, at MCC Las Vegas in Nevada. info: connietwina@hotmail.com.

Charlotte Mercy celebrates 25th anniversary

BELMONT, N.C. — In 1988, a Sister of Mercy from Guam (an organized territory of the U.S. in the northwest Pacific) stood at a Sisters of Mercy chapter meeting and asked, “What are we going to do about the AIDS crisis!?”

The Sisters decided to create a home to care for persons living with AIDS. It was named House of Mercy (HOM), after the home that Catherine McAuley, foundress of the Sisters of Mercy, opened in Dublin, Ireland in 1827. The first House of Mercy was for unemployed and poor girls in need of shelter and education. The new HOM would provide a safe haven and compassionate care for persons living with AIDS. Sisters Pauline Clifford and Rosalind Picôt met with Bishop John Donoghue to propose a partnership with the Charlotte Roman Catholic Diocese to create an AIDS ministry. Although the legal partnership was not pursued, the Charlotte Diocese contributed $100,000 and lent $100,000 for the Sisters to start the ministry.

The sisters provided the land for the home on their Belmont campus and created a board of directors. After much planning and fundraising, the new facility opened its doors on May 18, 1991, to address the growing AIDS epidemic and need for compassion and care. Since then, 320 residents have made HOM their home.

Before the advent of new medications around 1996, an AIDS diagnosis usually meant death within several years if not sooner. In the 1990s, many of their residents were gay men or persons who were infected through IV drug use. In the last five years, 64 percent of our residents have been African-American and 41 percent have been female. The HOM had also had an increase in Latino residents (7 percent) which led the AIDS ministry to hire Johaly Chavez, a bilingual coordinator of resident recreation and volunteers.

Stan Patterson, House of Mercy president since 1997, said, “House of Mercy cares for some of our most vulnerable citizens. On behalf of our residents and staff, I thank our community partners for 25 years of generous support. We could not continue this AIDS ministry without you.”

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All residents of North Carolina are eligible for admission to HOM although the primary service area includes Gaston, Mecklenburg, Union, Anson, Stanly, Rowan, Cabarrus, Iredell, Lincoln and Cleveland counties. info: thehouseofmercy.org.

Youth org gears up for gala

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — Time Out Youth Center, 2320 N. Davidson St., is currently celebrating their 25th anniversary and is seeking sponsors for its “Platinum Gala: Believe in YOUth” to be held on June 3, 6:30 p.m., at Center Stage, 2315 N. Davidson St. WCNC-TV anchor and reporter Ben Thompson will host the event that will be filled with hors d’oeuvres, cocktails, a silent art auction and more. Art auction items come from local artists and LGBT artwork.

Keynote speaker will be southern comic Fortune Feimster, who grew up in Gastonia, N.C. Variety named her one of their “Top 10 Comics to Watch” in 2014. She is also an accomplished actor, writer and LGBT spokesperson. Feimster served as a performer and writer on “Chelsey Lately” and can now be seen on Hulu’s “The Mindy Project.”

Sponsors are needed to secure the success of the gala and the center. They can be individuals, couples or corporations. Monetary levels start at $500 and go up to $10,000. A sponsorship commitment form is available online. Deadline is May 31.

Tickets are $100 and can be purchased online. info: timeoutyouth.org.

Partnership hits trails

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — Carolinas CARE Partnership is hosting their Carolina Pop! Run 5k/10k on June 4, 9 a.m., at McAlpine Creek Park, 8711 Monroe Rd. Participants will be able to enjoy jaunting along trails and enjoying treats along the way courtesy of The King of Pops.

Medals will be awarded to top category winners.

On-site registration begins at 8 a.m., followed by the run. The event will complete at 11:30 a.m.

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All proceeds go to benefit the work of Carolinas CARE Partnership.

Registration is available online through June 2. The fee is $25/5k and $35/10k plus signup fees. info: carolinascare.org.

PowerHouse seeks participants

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — The PowerHouse Project, 1420 Beatties Ford Rd., has announced that its “PowerHouse in the Park” will be held on June 25, 3 p.m., at Marshall Park, 800 E. 3rd St. It is asking the community to get involved by becoming an exhibitor or vendor. More than 500 are expected to attend. Cost is $50/non-profit organizations, $75/for-profit businesses and $100/food vendors.

Performers are also being solicited. Send a 60-second clip to djohn210@uncc.edu.

Visit goo.gl/forms/m1XUbggjbs to download a participation form.

Deadline is June 10. info: powerhousecharlotte.org.

Triangle Youth prom, banquet approach

DURHAM, N.C. — iNSIDE oUT’s “interGAY-lactic Prom” will be held on June 3, 7 p.m., at Calvary United Methodist Church, 304 E. Trinity Ave. Those who are 18 years-of-age and younger are invited to attend. Attendees can dance with friends and sweethearts, swap clothes with other youth and hang out in the photo booth.

The group’s 10th Annual Banquet and Gaiety will be held on June 5, 12 p.m., at the LGBTQ Center of Durham, 114 Hunt St. The event’s tickets are free of charge, however, a suggested contribution of $5-$10 will be appreciated to help the organization continue its service to its youth programs.

Email insideoutamy@gmail.com to learn more. info: insideout180.org.

Fest raises funds

RALEIGH, N.C. — The Crape Myrtle Festival’s recent host party helped to raise over $25,000 with less than $2,000 in expenses.

Nearly all of the contributions will go to those in the Triangle who are living with HIV/ AIDS or LGBT causes.

Contributions are still being accepted.

The organization seeks to raise $100,000 after expenses. info: crapemyrtlefest.org.

Western Volunteer training available

HICKORY, N.C. — AIDS Leadership Foothills-Area Alliance (ALFA) has announced that it will hold a volunteer orientation on May 26, 6 p.m., at the Unitarian Universalist Church of Catawba Valley, 833 5th St. S.E. Participants will learn the basic facts of HIV/ AIDS, transmission modes and how the stigma affects those living with the virus, as well as those most at risk for acquiring the disease.

Volunteer activities include office support, serving on committees, transportation of clients to medical appointments, teaching and testing guidelines and assisting in the fundraising events scheduled throughout the year for ALFA. Following training, internships are available for

students of human services and other related degree programs.

“Through the education and action of our volunteers, we at ALFA look forward to the day when we will no longer be needed to provide services to the community,” Volunteer Coordinator Thom Hutchens shared.

“While medications are available to manage the disease, the only way to create a generation without AIDS is to get the message of prevention to all members of local communities by empowering volunteers through education,” he added.

Dinner will be provided.

Organizers shared that sessions fill up quickly. Interested parties should call 828-3221447, extension 233, to secure a spot no later than 5 p.m. on May 24. info: alfainfo.org.

Sirens hit High Country

BOONE, N.C. — Sirens on the Mountain will be held on June 18, 12 p.m., at the High Country Fairgrounds, 748 Roby Greene Rd. The festival features performers Ruthie Foster, Chastity Brown, Melissa Reaves, Laura Blackley, Diane Durret and Megan Palmer Duo. The Sirens is a Sonic Yonic Productions event. It is held to support women in the arts, as well as celebrate the Summer Solstice with family and friends.

Tickets are $22.76-$30 and are available for purchase online. info: sirensonthemountain.com.

South Carolina Youth org makes safe space statement

CHARLESTON, S.C. — Melissa Moore, executive director of We Are Family, shared a statement as advocates working to ensure a safe space for LGBT youth on the Lowcountry’s Giving Day on May 3.

It reads: “As a teenager, Andy Barrera lived in a tent city in Charleston. He felt rejected and alone. Andy sought out support from We Are Family and found a stable home. He now lives in Chicago and works in a small mom and pop café in the city. He is happy and has a strong network of friends.

“Andy was able to turn his situation around, but LGBT young people don’t have many places to turn. We Are Family gets calls every week asking about resources for kids who are currently or who are about to become homeless.

Right now, we have to rely on individual, oneoff arrangements to help them because there is no stable place for young people to go.

“We Are Family is working with local businesses and individuals to open a drop-in center where LGBT youth can be safe and can be matched with resources and support. Today, May 3rd is Lowcountry Giving Day, a day to donate to local organizations who are making a difference.

“A slew of bills have been introduced in recent weeks attacking the health, rights and dignity of LGBT people. It is not enough to simply say ‘we are not this.’ We need to help push for positive solutions to support young people in South Carolina to not just survive, but to thrive.”

To learn more about the services that the organization provides, email info@waf.org or visit its website. info: waf.org.

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Regional Storrow selected as fellow

WASHINGTON, D.C. — The Human Rights Campaign Foundation has announced that the executive director of the North Carolina AIDS

Storrow is a graduate of the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. He previously worked for the North Carolina Alliance for Health, as well as Ipas. Beginning in 2011, Storrow served four years on the Chapel Hill Town Council. He currently serves on the board of directors of the Strowd Roses Foundation and Youth Empowered Solutions.

He is also a member of the American Heart Association’s National Advocacy Coordinating Committee. info: hrc.org.

Global Quick Hits

Action Network (NCAAN), Lee Storrow, has been selected as one of 10 “outstanding, young community-based leaders” for a nine-month fellowship providing high-level training to elevate their work ending HIV in hard-hit U.S. communities through the HRC HIV 360º initiative.

“We are thrilled to begin working with this highly-committed and talented group of young leaders who are absolutely critical to ending the HIV epidemic,” said Mary Beth Maxwell, Human Rights Campaign senior vice president for programs, research and training. “Their efforts in American communities hardest hit by HIV are already changing and saving lives. The HIV 360° program invests in helping them develop management and strategy skills, as well as make valuable contacts in the advocacy world to elevate their work back home.”

Three organizations, GLAAD, Freedom for All Americans and Family Equality Council, are teaming up to ask the community to stand in solidarity with Target, who has taken a strong stance for the LGBT community, on June 1, the first day of LGBT Pride Month. info: target-gladd.nationbuilder.com.

Transgender National LGBTQ Task Force’s Barbara Satin has been appointed to President Barack Obama’s Advisory Council on Faithbased Neighborhood Partnerships. info: the taskforce.org.

In advance of LGBT Pride Month, Marriott Rewards is launching a creative movement to turn up the volume on support for the LGBT community through an art installation, #LoveTravels. info: marriottrewards.com.

Author, scholar, dancer and activist Aaron Belkin was inducted into the Hall of Heroes

at the 5th Annual LGBT Military Leadership Conference held in Washington, D.C. sponsored by OutServe and SLDN. Other inductees were Iraq war veteran and LGBT activist Eric Alva, “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy repeal leader Paula Neira, Policy challenger Dr. Grethe Cammermeyer, Ph.D., and Thomas T. Carpenter, Esq., forum co-chair on military chaplaincy. info: lgbtmilitary.org. outserve-sldn.org.

For the first time in history, Asian parents are throwing a lifeline to their LGBT children through a family acceptance media campaign produced by The National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance. info: nqapiq.org.

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Montréal, Québec, on Sept. 16. info: theglobalfund.org.

The Human Rights Campaign lauded the suspension of Alabama Supreme Court Chief Justice Roy Moore who has been a stalwart opponent of pro-marriage equality. info: hrc.org.

Many Voices, A Black Church Movement for Gay & Transgender Justice has launched a video campaign spotlighting LGBT life at historically black colleges and universities. info: manyvoices.org.

The Federal Drug Administration launched its “The Free Life” LGBT health initiative against tobacco usage. info: lgbthealthlink.org.

The Harvey Milk Foundation Medal was presented to Bollywood and human rights activist Celina Jaitly at the Second Annual Diversity Honors. info: diversityhonors.com.

The ILGA-Europe’s equality index revealed that the U.K. has slipped to third place.

Scotland has maintained its first place position. info: rainbow-europe.org. equality-network.org.

New York’s U.S. Rep. Jerrold Nadler has called for a new national monument commemorating the 1969 Stonewall uprising to be erected at Christopher Park. info: nadler.house.gov.

The Prime Minister of Canada, Justin Trudeau, announced that Canada will host the Fifth Replenishment Conference of the Global Fund to Fight AIDS, Tuberculosis and Malaria in

The historical “Meet My Child” ad was released by the Trans United Fund as a way for parents of transgender children to speak out against hostile rhetoric and attacks faced by the transgender community. info: bit.ly/1rWndWp. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services has announced that final regulations have been spelled out as it relates to the nondiscrimination section of the Affordable Care Act. info: hhs.gov.

With the doors open between the U.S. and Cuba, Americans can now walk in the historic Cuban Pride Parade. This is being made possible through travel agency Cuba Inspires. info: cubainspires.com.

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Charlotte gay wedding defies United Methodist Church rules Pastor, retired bishop marry same-sex couple at Charlotte’s First United Methodist Church, could result in reprimand or a church trial if complaints are filed

by Tim Funk :: The Charlotte Observer

Rosenquist and Talbert said they both alerted complaints filed against her, and I could, too.

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — They knew it could Goodpaster before the wedding that they planned … But it’s the right thing to do. If it costs us, if mean a reprimand or even a church trial that to go ahead with it, whatever the consequences. there are consequences, so let it be.” might end their careers.

First United Methodist Church has long Reached by The Charlotte Observer, Still, the pastor of Charlotte’s First United been among Charlotte’s gay-friendly churches.

Michael Rich, communications manager for Methodist Church and a retired bishop who It was the first Charlotte once did jail time with Dr. church, in 2014, to join the Martin Luther King Jr. decided Reconciling Ministries to go ahead over the [fourth] Network, a national coaliweekend and preside at the tion of United Methodist wedding of John Romano and groups that advocate for Jim Wilborne.

LGBT persons and others The two Charlotte men “pushed to the margins,” became the first same-sex in the words of the uptown couple in North Carolina to get Charlotte church’s thenmarried — at least publicly — pastor, the Rev. Jonathan in a United Methodist church.

Coppedge-Henley.

But the mainline denomiThe Book of Discipline nation’s Book of Discipline could be changed at sanctions only marriage bethe denomination’s next tween a man and a woman. So General Conference, set there could be consequences for May in Portland, Ore. for the Rev. Val Rosenquist But the global denominaand Bishop Melvin Talbert — tion is divided on same-sex the clergy who performed the marriage, with opposition wedding — if any complaints from churches in Africa are filed with Bishop Larry as well as from conservaGoodpaster, who leads the tives in the United States.

Western North Carolina There has even been talk Conference of the United in recent years about the Methodist Church. denomination splitting over Rosenquist, senior pastor John Romano (L) and Jim Wilborne, both 52 and both of Charlotte, were married the issue. since last July at First United on April 23 at First United Methodist Church in Uptown Charlotte, N.C. In 2012, at the General Methodist, the Uptown Photo Credit: Tim Funk, The Charlotte Observer Conference in Tampa, Fla., Talbert Charlotte church where the stood up to say that the church marriage took place, said that needed to practice biblical obedience by strikthe Western North Carolina Conference of the Book of Discipline has “institutionalized ing language in the Book of Discipline that he the United Methodist Church, released a brief oppression and discrimination.” said “criminalizes clergy for ministering to gays statement on behalf of Goodpaster.

Last August, she said, the leadership board and lesbians.”

“We are aware of the wedding at First United at First United Methodist voted that any member Since then, he has been taking that mesMethodist Church on Saturday,” it read. “Bishop of the church could get married in the sanctusage around the country, urging progressives Goodpaster will follow the procedures in The ary, even if that defied the Book of Discipline. to stand up and tell conservatives that “it’s Book of Discipline if a formal complaint is filed.”

“These folks are our brothers and sisters,” our book, too. We can read it and interpret it.”

Goodpaster is scheduled to retire in Rosenquist, 59, said about LGBT members. “It’s In 2013, Talbert married a same-sex couple in September. just a matter of obeying our covenant with one Alabama. A complaint was filed and, a year A U.S. Supreme Court ruling last year another throughout the church, that we are to later, there was a settlement without a trial. legalized same-sex marriage in all 50 states. minister to all and to treat all the same. I’m just The most famous case of a Methodist minMainline Protestant denominations such as following what I was ordained to do, what I ister defying the same-sex marriage ban came the Episcopal Church, the Presbyterian Church was baptized to do.” in 2007, when the Rev. Frank Schaefer, then of U.S.A. and the Evangelical Lutheran Church in The 81-year-old Talbert, a retired United Pennsylvania, officiated at the wedding of his America have given their clergy the green light Methodist bishop based in Nashville, Tenn., and gay son. A church court later defrocked him, to perform gay weddings in their sanctuaries. a one-time leader of the Student Non-Violent though he was subsequently reinstated.

But the United Methodist Church, the counCoordinating Committee, spent three days and Romano and Wilborne, the Charlotte couple try’s largest mainline denomination with about 7 three nights in a jail cell with [Dr. Martin Luther] married at First United Methodist, said they million U.S. members, remains officially opposed King [Jr.] in 1960. He called his disobedience of wanted to be married in the church where both to “same-gender marriage,” as do some other Methodist rules against same-sex marriage an have been active — Wilborne for 20 years. denominations — including the Southern Baptist act of “biblical obedience.”

“It was just so amazing to us to be married Convention and the Roman Catholic Church.

“Discrimination is discrimination, no matter in our own church,” said Romano, 52, a furniture Just weeks after North Carolina’s ban on where it is, and it’s wrong,” Talbert said. “I hope sales representative, “and not do it under the same-sex marriage was thrown out by a lower that what we did here yesterday will be an act radar, but do it in a way to promote change.” federal court in 2014, Goodpaster sent a letter to of evangelism for people … who are looking for Wilborne, 52, who has been with Romano clergy in his conference reminding them that the safe places to come because they don’t want to for more than five years, said the couple felt it United Methodist Church’s rules had not changed. be identified with anti-gay (sentiment).” was important to stay in their United Methodist Ministers can attend same-sex weddings, Talbert delivered the sermon at First United Church. “We didn’t leave it to go where it was Goodpaster said in his letter. But, he added, any Methodist Church, telling about 150 people in easier [to get married],” he said. “We stayed who preside at a same-sex marriage ceremony the pews that, like African-Americans, women here because we love this church. … It’s our or sign the marriage certificate could face posand other past victims of discrimination, LGBT home. We just feel blessed. We’re at the right sible reprimand or even a church trial. persons are being ridiculed and ostracized place at the right time to have this opportunity.”

Goodpaster told the clergy then that he “simply because of the way God created them.” could not permit “actions counter to the Book He also pointed out what the congregaof Discipline,” the denomination’s rule book. tion already knew: “Your pastor could have see Methodist on 20

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LGBT Sports in the South

Enthusiasts take to the court, field and more in pursuit of healthy fun Carolinas’s sports teams provide camaraderie, great exercise

by Jeff Taylor :: Social Media Editor

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ports, like art, is one of those activities almost everyone takes part in during childhood only to drop it upon entering adulthood. Especially when it comes to organized sports, many believe if they are not in the pros, or if they do not fit a certain jock stereotype, there is no place for them. That is not the case.

The LGBT sports communities in Charlotte, N.C., and beyond offer such a wealth of options that no matter your interest or skill level, you will have no excuses for living your glory days on the court or field back in grade school.

Stonewall Sports provides opportunities to play in four North Carolina cities and beyond When Jason Boone traveled to Raleigh, N.C., to visit a friend, he had no way of knowing what he would see there

The North Carolina Stonewall Sports Commissioners meet to go over league issues and help to create a more broad sense of connectedness. Those who serve are (left to right) Frank Wolfgram, Wilmington; Jason Boone, Charlotte; William Fisher, Greensboro; and Jonathan Melton, Raleigh.

Roller derby is physical and challenging and teams, such as the Charlotte Roller would have a lasting impact on his comGirls, find it to be rewarding while making friends and doing charitable deeds. munity back in Charlotte.

Photo Credit: Fotobossi Photography His friend, Jonathan Melton, founded So Boone took action.

Stonewall Sports Raleigh and when he was “I put up a post on Facebook and said, ‘Hey, anybody in there he said he, “happened to take in a game” and Charlotte interested in helping me form a kickball league?’ And said to himself, “This would go over well in Charlotte. we had our first board of directors really come out of that one “Especially when I saw the amount of money that Facebook post,” he said. they were bringing in for local charities,” Boone said.

They formed the kickball league in the fall of 2014, and later “They benefit the LGBT Center of Raleigh.” followed it up with dodgeball, volleyball and bowling. In that time, Stonewall Sports, which was formed in 2010 in they have raised over $40,000 for charities such as Time Out Washington, D.C., has had fundraising for local nonYouth Center. profits as a major principle since the beginning. They In addition to Raleigh, which offers kickball, dodgeare currently in nine U.S. cities and have collectively ball, volleyball, bowling and flag football, Stonewall Sports raised over half a million dollars for charities. leagues have formed in Greensboro, N.C., and Wilmington, Stonewall Sports has also always strived to be as N.C., as well, both of which have kickball leagues. inclusive as possible.

Boone noted that the league offers the community a Boone found that inclusiveness attractive, and noted chance to meet and interact outside of the bar and club scene. that this included members of the ally community.

“I think that’s really important,” Boone said. “Not that there’s “The number of straight allies that they had anything wrong with the bar scene.” brought in to an LGBT sports league, I was blown He said that he noticed the cliques that one generally sees away by that,” he recalled. in that world, as well as in society in general, tend to break down once one gets out on the field and starts to play together as a team.

Stonewall Sports is also dedicated to ensuring that players of all skill levels are accepted and encouraged. No one sits on the bench, everyone plays and is welcome.

“It is a way to meet people outside of the bar and club scene, which is generally where (the gay community coming together) happens,” Justin Crego, who plays in the Charlotte kickball league, said, adding that it had somewhat unexpectedly offered the opportunity for personal growth.

For more information on Stonewall Sports go to stonewallsports.org. Also visit the Charlotte site at stonewallcharlotte.leagueapps.com, the Raleigh site at stonewallraleigh. leagueapps.com, Greensboro at stonewallkickballgreensboro. leagueapps.com and Wilmington at stonewallkickballwilmington.leagueapps.com.

It’s not school yard kickball anymore. The Stonewall Sports league offers an adult version of the game, along with other sporting options which provides good exercise nad opportunities to make lasting friendships.

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The Charlotte Roller Girls welcome all When the discriminatory HB2 passed, the Charlotte Roller Girls were among those upset and looking for a way to speak out in favor of LGBT rights.

The DC Roller Girls were also unhappy with the development and contacted their upcoming opponent, The Charlotte Roller Girls, to voice this displeasure. The two teams came up with a way to speak out against the bill, without, as Charlotte Roller Girls President Kathryn Thomas emphasized, pushing so hard as to alienate those who may disagree.

The two teams did a solidarity lap together while holding the transgender flag.

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It was a way, Thomas said, to show that the Roller Girls are an inclusive and welcoming group and do not stand for any form of discrimination. They also released a statement saying as much, which read: “The Charlotte Roller Girls are committed to fairness and to treating all members of the community with dignity, regardless of race, religion, or sexual orientation. We embrace the diversity of roller derby and of Charlotte, and we stand with members of the LGBT community.

Dragon boat racing has become a popular sport for those who love ‘taking to the water.’

In this spirit, we ask you to do the same. #WeAreNotThis.”

Photo Credit: Denise Bauer The Charlotte Roller Girls are currently looking for players, through love, kindness, visibility, and outreach.” Says organizers, “The referees, coaches and volunteers and are also looking to start Honey Badgers DBC was formed because each of us learned first hand a junior derby team made up of boys and girls ages 12-17. that it is not enough to say you are inclusive, you must be inclusive.”

For more information and to learn more about the sport, visit They value creation, connection and commitment a common purpose charlotterollergirls.com. and goal. They have an experienced coach to help paddlers achieve proper Other teams across the Carolinas are: Blue Ridge Rollergirls, form and with practice and dedication, can become an efficient and powerAsheville, N.C.; Appalachian Rollergirls, Boone, N.C.; Race City Roller ful paddler. Beginners are welcome.

Derby, Charlotte, N.C.; Rogue Rollergirls, Fayetteville, N.C.; Greensboro Practices are held at noon on Saturdays at Latta Plantation, 5200 Roller Derby, Greensboro, N.C.; Coastal Plains Derby Dames, Greenville, Sample Rd., in Huntersville, N.C. Signup is available online. Cost is $5 which N.C.; Onslow County Derby Dames, Jacksonville, N.C.; Jacksonville Roller is used to cover boat and equipment rental.

Derby, Jacksonville, N.C.; Kill Devil Derby Brigade, Kill Devil Hills, N.C.; Email honeybadgersdbc@gmail.com to learn more or visit Catawba Valley Roller Girls, Morganton, N.C.; Carolina Rollergirls, Raleigh, honeybadgersdbc.org/.

N.C.; Collision Men’s Roller Derby, Raleigh, N.C.; Mad Divas Junior Roller Derby, Waynesville, N.C.; Cape Fear Roller Girls, Wilmington, N.C.; and Softball Camel City Thrashers, Winston-Salem, N.C. Those looking to play softball in Charlotte can check out the Carolina Softball Alliance, who play their games at Revolution Park, Clanton Road Park, Ferguson Park and Veterans Park. More information is available at carolinasoftball.org.

Raleigh also has an LGBT softball league, called the North Carolina Softball League. They play their games at Millbrook Exchange Park and can be found at ncsoftball.org.

Tennis The Queen City Tennis Club offers competitive and social matches for those at all skill levels. They play on Sundays, 10 a.m. to noon, April through October, at Park Road Park and sometimes at Veterans Park.

Learn more by visiting qctc.org.

The Triangle Tennis Club was founded in 2004 and meets every Friday evening, weather permitting, from 7-9 p.m. at the Millbrook Exchange Tennis Center. For more information visit triangletennisclub.com.

Rugby is a tough sport, but players, like the Charlotte Royals, enjoy the physical rewards it presents, as well as the opportunity to play on the global field in the Bingham Cup. Photo Credit: Alex Aguilar

Rugby The Charlotte Royals were founded in 2004 and are a non-profit organization affiliated with both the North Carolina Rugby Union (NCRU) and International Gay Rugby (IGR). They “seek to break down perceptions of masculinity within the gay and straight communities by demonstrating the legitimacy of a gay men’s rugby team,” as stated on their website, charlotteroyalsrubgy.com.

They are not alone in the Carolinas. The Charleston Blockade was formed in 2012 in Charleston, S.C. They too are members of IGR. For more information visit them online at charlestonblockaderugby.com.

Bowling The Charlotte Rainbowlers are an LGBT bowling league, part of the International Gay Bowling Organization (IGBO) and the United States Bowling Congress (USBC). They play Monday nights at AMF Centennial Lanes, 4501 South Blvd. To find out more about leagues and schedules, visit charlotterainbowlers.com.

This year also marks the first annual Charlotte Invitational Bowling Tournament, an IGBO tournament to be held June 17-19, also at AMF Centennial Lanes. For more information or to register visit bowlcharlotte.com.

The Triangle Rainbow Bowling League was founded in 2010 and continues to this day at AMF Pleasant Valley Lanes, 5501 Commercial Ave., on Wednesday nights in Raleigh. For more information visit trianglerainbowbowling.org.

Front Runners International Front Runners offers LGBT community members and allies to meet up for fun runs, as well as walks, in cities throughout the world. The Charlotte Front Runners hold two weekly runs and welcome those at all skill levels. Find out more at charlottefrontrunners.com.

There is also a group in the Triangle. Their website is trianglefrontrunners.wordpress.com.

Dragon Boat One World Dragon Boat is a non-profit LGBT dragon boating team formed in Charlotte in 2013 by Denise “Dee” Bauer. A dragon boat is a Chinese design, which is powered by a group of paddlers and is often decorated to resemble a dragon. The group recently participated in the Charlotte Asian Festival, and have races upcoming at High Rock Lake, Carolina Beach and Lake James.

Visit oneworlddragonboat.org for more information.

The Honey Badgers Dragon Boat Crew, a newly formed dragon boat team, is another option for dragon boat racers. The organization is an open and inclusive LGBT group who seek “to make a positive difference

Doing community service is something that Stonewall Sports strives to provide as seen here with ‘Aunt Flo’s Night Out’ where they collected feminine hygiene products and distributed to local women and homeless shelters.

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New clinic’s aim is to be a one-stop shop for HIV/AIDS patients Other services round out offering to the LGBT and allied community

by Lainey Millen :: qnotes staff

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he brain child and dream of its medical director Wes Thompson, PA-C, and in partnership with Dr. Richard Wynn, Ballantyne Family Medicine (BFM) opened its doors to patients at one location in December 2015 and another in April 2016 to provide comprehensive healthcare services for those affected by HIV/AIDS. Simply put by Thompson, “Our vision is to provide a ‘safe place’ for our patients to receive comprehensive care that ensures long-term treatment success for patients and the community through clinical expertise, access to clinical research, and partnership with the community.”

The practice has two offices — its flagship facility located at 6010 E. W.T. Harris Blvd. and a satellite in South Charlotte at 16147 Lancaster Hwy. Thompson shared that he had always envisioned having his own practice since graduating from college, but the reality could not even begin to be brought to fruition until North Carolina changed its laws in 2004 with regard to a physician assistant owning a practice. However, the following year saw his husband Trey being diagnosed with leukemia and dealing with treatment, etc., financially wiped resources away. The dream had to be furloughed till another day.

Now, in 2016, things finally aligned themselves for the dream to become a reality. Wynn had left a position with Cotswold Family Practice in 2015. Then a three-year-old South Charlotte practice was available and it was procured and clientele began being developed, as well as purchasing an empty medical clinic in North Charlotte.

He and Thompson, who had known each other for a number of years, found that their philosophies were similar and they both were passionate about providing excellent patient care. They had already been colleagues, mutually deferring cases to each other based upon each other’s expertise. Combined, they bring 50 years of experience to the table. Wynn’s specialization was in diabetic and LGBT care within a primary care model. Thompson’s expertise in HIV/AIDS and LGBT care, helped round out the offering. Most of all, they were already professional colleagues and friends, so the transition of their relationship into partners was seamless and simply “gelled.”

To bring the dream into focus, Thompson had to reach out to the community and collaborate. “Once I put the word out, the community has been wonderfully supportive in helping me to bring it to reality. I have been honored and humbled by this resounding support.”

Since the Ballantyne name was already insurance credentialed, it was kept for now. Thompson shared that a name change was coming soon.

When asked how BFM differs from other practices, Thompson said, “That’s a difficult question as there are so many wonderful

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practices providing excellent care in the Metro area. I think being an independent clinic not associated with a corporation allows us a certain agility to change as our patients need us to change. We do provide a significant number of services under one roof that does distinguish us from many other practices.”

BFM provides comprehensive primary care; HIV/AIDS comprehensive care including Ryan White and AIDS Drugs Assistance Program (ADAP); PrEP care (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis); specialized diabetic care; LGBT care including WPATH (World Professional Association of Transgender Health) Standards of Care for transitioning patients; an onsite pharmacy with clinical pharmacists providing medication adherence counseling and free delivery of medications; onsite radiology/XRay; onsite laboratory; onsite space for community case managers to use as needed; psychological services; annuDr. Richard Wynn al Medicare Wellness; and continuing patient education on multiple subjects.

It also provides these services in English, Spanish, French, Arabic, and American Sign Language.

Its patients come from diverse backgrounds including various race, ethnic, and national origins, males, females, and transitioning people, as well as a variety of religious and spiritual backgrounds, Thompson added. “BFM is also very multi-cultural; we reflect both our patients and our community!”

But BFM does not stop there with its determination to serve the community. “Our clinic motto is a ‘Community Collaboration in Care.’ We are collaborating with all ASOs (AIDS Service Organizations) and CBOs (CommunityBased Organizations) and have an ‘open space’ policy that we will provide Wes Thompson, PA-C any agency that wants to use our space to meet with a mutual client, anytime we are open,” Thompson shared. As these collaborations blossom and the practice grows, it hopes to open up more locations to better serve the community and patients.

Although not actively engaged in specific clinical research currently, Thompson has previously served as a co-investigator in more than 60 clinical trials for new medications to treat HIV. He looks forward to the possibility of working with pharmaceutical

companies to explore new therapies in treating HIV/AIDS. BFM receives funding through the Ryan White grant and the PrEP initiatives, and Thompson is actively applying for more grants to shore up the needs of the practice’s patients. They are already receiving referrals from private practices, ASOs and CBOs, the University of North Carolina at Charlotte and the Mecklenburg Health Department.

In an earlier interview, Thompson shared that Charlotte was one of the top 25 largest cities in the U.S. And, until the clinic opened it did not have a one-stop-shop that catered to the whole person’s healthcare. BFM’s expectations are to provide to the community, along with partnerships with agencies in areas with which Thompson and Wynn are already familiar, a place where resources can be tailored to meet a patient’s needs.

Thompson said it wants to perform what it does well and that is medical care. “There are plenty of community partners that provide the other services, and I don’t need to ‘reinvent the wheel,’ so my goal is create a space, a ‘One-Stop-Shop,’ where those other providers are welcome to use and supply those services. I want HIV care to be a seamless play for the patient with no concerns about what is going on behind the curtain.”

The biggest thing that they want to achieve is to empower their patients by resurrecting a patient’s self-worth. “You empower them to care about themselves again.” Being able to support a patient’s housing and food “security,” are also important to the practice.

But, all of this can not be achieved without a supportive, caring and experienced staff. Some of them are: April Hill, practice manager; Kristi Dougan, AGNP; Rita Riddick, FNP; Candy Livingston, LPN and nurse manager; and Cindy Thompson, front desk manager. BFM does not have a mental health and substance abuse counselor presently, but are in the process of bringing a therapist onsite to handle those needs.

BFM welcomes volunteers to assist with HIV/AIDS programs, in addition to students from all disciplines in the medical and ancillary services.

The W.T. Harris facility has a second floor that has not been finished out. Expansion and services can easily be added there. Some ideas that BFM has are a place for physical therapy, a healthy cooking kitchen, OB/GYN services, dental care, as well as providing a place for educational classes.

As a final word, Thompson said, “I am excited for what a

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HB2 Spotlight

New campaign supports trans community Spearheaded by The Freedom Center for Social Justice

by Jim Yarbrough :: qnotes managing editor & publisher In the light of passage and implementation of North Carolina’s House Bill 2 (HB2), there have been a number of organizations, programs and campaigns started in support of transgender people or to fight for the repeal of HB2. Some are designed to shame those involved with the passing and signing of the bill by Gov. Pat McCrory.

The newest initiative was launched on May 12 at a press conference at the CharlotteMecklenburg Government Center located at 600 E. 4th St. The campaign entitled “Yes, You Can Go,” was started by The Freedom Center for Social Justice, a Charlotte-based LGBT advocacy group, to focus on restroom safety for transgender individuals. The Freedom Center, citing statistics from the National LGBT Task Force, reported that in 2015, there was a transgender person murdered every 29 hours and that 78 percent of transgender individuals experienced harassament in their daily lives. They also reported that 72 percent of hate crimes against LGBT individuals were against those who are transgender or gender-nonconforming — 90 percent of them being people of color.

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College in Charlotte, N.C., “Yes, You Can Go” by school security on is a way for busiMarch 18, 2014. nesses, organizations James Funderburk, and places of worship speaking as a business to demonstrate that the owner, said, “If you are a transgender or genderbusiness owner like me, nonconforming patrons you just need to let trans may use the restroom people use the bathroom of facilities with which their choice.” they identify.

Business organizations A.J. Williams, a or places of worship that transgender individual want to support the effort and campaign organizshould contact The Freedom er, said, “The goal is to Center which will provide a explain, in the simplest free starter kit that includes terms, why transgender clinging window stickpeople using the bathers, placards, educational room is no big cause for materials and even training uproar, and, in fact, is absolutely normal.”

Bishop Tonyia Rawls addresses a news for those who want it.

To sign up for a package, Also speaking on conference gathering on the launch of the email the “Yes, You Can Go” behalf of the campaign ‘Yes, You Can Go’ campaign. team at communications@ was Andraya Williams, fcsj.org or call 980-729-8454. More information is a transgender woman, who shared that she available by visiting facebook.com/yesyoucango had been removed from a women’s bathroom and yesyoucango.com. : : on the campus at Central Piedmont Community

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Clinic continued from page 16 community collaboration in care can achieve if we truly all work together. I want to hear ideas, so don’t hesitate to let me hear from you.” He added, “I wish to leave a legacy of improved healthcare for patients living with HIV, as well as unconditionally affirming care for the LGBT and HIV communities. I have often said I do not just want to be accepted. I want to be affirmed. There is a difference.” By adhering to the clinic’s slogan, “a community collaboration in care,” exercising patience and persevering against challenges that come along, BFM should make a lasting impression for years to come. It’s part of the dream.

Being involved in professional organizations is something that Wynn and Thompson have made sure to do. Wynn belongs to the Academy of Family Practice, American Pain Society, American Society of Obesity and Society of Diabetic Educators. Thompson, PA-C belongs to

the American Academy of Physician Assistants, North Carolina Association of Physician Assistants, Metrolina Association of Physician Assistants, American Academy of HIV Medicine, World Professional Association of Transgender Health, Gay and Lesbian Medical Association, Charlotte Transgender Health Care Group, North Carolina Medical Society, Mecklenburg Medical Society and Infectious Diseases Society of America.

Ballantyne Family Medicine is exploring involvement with organizations such as Independent Physicians of the Carolinas and Community Physicians of the Carolinas, both of which exist to support independent practices who wish to remain independent and avoid becoming part of hospital-based corporations.

New patients are being accepted.

To learn more about the clinic, visit ballantynefamilymedicine.com. : :

Methodist church gay wedding continued from page 13 They said the wedding was attended by more than 250 people — including about 30 supportive United Methodist clergy. Also in attendance: Charlotte Mayor Jennifer Roberts, who is a friend of the couple’s.

Not everyone was pleased. After Talbert’s sermon at the 11 a.m. service, a former member of the church stood up at his pew to object to the same-sex wedding and to Talbert’s justifica-

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tion for it. His words competed with an announcement that the collection would be taken up, so few in the church heard him.

Former teacher Charles Walkup later told the Observer he said that “as one who’s personally dealt with homosexuality, I affirm that the Methodist [Book of] Discipline is correct.”

Walkup, who ended his membership in the church after it joined the Reconciling Ministries Network, added that he tried to speak up because “Jesus warned of false shepherds who mislead his precious sheep.”

But the church members who attended seemed happy about the marriage and what they called the courage of their pastor.

“Val is doing what the church needs — going out on a limb without complete support from the church hierarchy. But it is the right thing to do: We’re all God’s children,” said Patricia Ingraham, a retired banquet manager who has been a church member since 2006. “Some of my dearest friends are gay. Why should they be treated differently than I’m treated?” : : — qnotes is a Charlotte News Alliance partner [Ed. Note: At press time, the United Methodist Church 2016 General Conference was still in session and decisions about same-sex marriage, ordination of gay and lesbian clergy and other issues relative to the LGBT community. qnotes will provide more coverage as it is made available.].

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by Trinity :: qnotes contributor :: trinity@telltrinity.com

Will I ever see my ex with someone else and not want to barf?

Hey Trinity, I see my ex-lover around town from time to time. But this time, I saw her at a party passionately kissing someone else. Now, its been bothering me for days. I can’t get the picture of them out of my head. And it’s been three months since we broke up! Does that feeling ever go away?

Stuck In The Past, Provincetown, MA Hey Stuck, It’s normal to want to barf, I mean bolt, when you see your ex kissing someone else. Yes, it takes time to heal, however, the process could be dramatically accelerated if you’d just allow yourself to date again, maybe even feel love for someone else! It’s time to move on by meeting and dating others idiots, I mean individuals ASAP! Even if you fail 100 times, pumpkin, there’s still 101. Thomas Edison failed over 5,000 before getting the light bulb to work right but eventually he found that spark and you will too!

Now, stop wasting time!

Listen Trinity, Looking one’s best is important, but I’m sick of high heels, whether it looks good or not. I’m transsexual and my straight BF now “strongly suggested” that I wear heels when we go out and sometimes when we make love. Do I have

to change my sex again in order to be free from high heels?

Hell On Heels, Asheville, NC Listen Hell On Heels, Don’t change anything just yet. Relationship life is not fair we all know that so if you want to keep your BF, you may have to doll it up now and then, and we transsexuals know all about that. Seducing your mate is part of every animal culture. And remember, sister, beauty is in the eyes of…whoever is paying the bills. (It’s all about style and grace, along with some primping. See how I get all spiffed up to attract “suitors” when you check out my cartoon.)

Hello Trinity, I’ve always dated very handsome men. But I can’t seem to keep one for very long. Do you have any secrets for keeping very handsome men?

Gorgeous or Nothing, Boston, MA Hello Gorgeous, There’s one thing my rabbi always said, which I never understood until I got older, “The gorgeous ones are always trouble unless they don’t know they’re gorgeous, and if that’s the case, then don’t let them in on that secret!”

Thus, to you I say the same. The gorgeous ones

a&e

are almost always going to at least flirt or be flirted with whether you like it or not. So, sweetie, don’t act jealous, keep your self-esteem high, be yourself and don’t try to compete. Otherwise, it’s time to start tasting a new type of meat.

Dear Trinity, My partner and I of 15 years just added a third partner to our lives.

Contrary to popular belief, it’s really great. But do you have any specific suggestions for couples becoming throuples?

Throuples, Indianapolis, IN Dear Throuples, I used to think that it was crazy, but after much research, I came to the conclusion that there definitely are perks to a third person. And, honey, that’s when I decided to write: Trinity’s Thrusty Tips For Having A Threesome Relationship 1. A king size bed with lots of pillows and a spare bedroom is a must.

2. Make friends (just friends) with other threesome couples.

3. Honor each other’s secrets and privacy!

Adults have secrets! Children tell their parents everything!

4. Always cook extra.

5. A ccept that all of your family may not understand your relationship.

6. Every three months, sit down and re-negotiate the rules.

7. T ake vacations, as well as personal time alone.

8. Communicate everything so that no one (or two) is ever left out.

9. Stay in the moment, the future is not here yet.

10. T ake plenty of notes for our, I mean, your book! info: With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama performed globally, and is now minister of sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings, wigministries.org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.

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by Jack Kirven :: personal trainer, qnotes contributor

Stacking, Part 2 of 4: Energy and muscle gains In part one of this series I described the importance of knowing what is in your food and products. As a recap: Making your food from simple ingredients gives you a much better controlover what you ingest. Similarly, creating (or stacking) your own combinations of single-ingredient components allows you to make supplements that do what you actually intend. The same is also true for beauty products. This entry will break down the ingredients (as well as the functions of these individual products) to make an energizing, muscle-building stack. The recipe included in this article will address energy and focus, protein supplementation, and protecting hard-won muscles from breaking down.

aren’t proven to work as advertised (e.g., Carnitine,“nitric oxide”/NO, etc.). If you tolerate caffeine well, this may not be an issue; however, if you contend with anxiety or other conditions that are exacerbated by caffeine, you will need to avoid it. If you do add caffeine to your stack, use a tablet that has nothing but caffeine in the ingredient list. Note: The energizing components of these mixes and stacks can give you the jitters or induce aggression. It is for this reason that you should practice stacking: You can leave this part out, should you so desire.

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Energy & Focus Most pre-mixed products will include a wide range of ingredients, many of which bolster metabolism and prolong or intensify focus and exertion. The problem is that proprietary blends aren’t

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What’s more, most of these ingredients (e.g., green tea extract, coffee extract, etc.) are essentially sources of caffeine, and others

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Protein & Amino Acids Protein is the building block of muscle. You must have it. Your own dietary restrictions and preferences will dictate which products you will add into your stack. Complete protein is gained from animal products. For pre- and post-workout supplementation, you will need a fast absorbing protein. Whey is the

best option. Casein, egg and beef proteins are slow digesting, and soy is incomplete. A note for vegetarians: The only plant I am aware of that is truly a complete protein is quinoa.

Also, you will need to decide if you want your stack to provide calories or not. If you are keeping your calories controlled, you will not want to add protein itself, but it’s components (amino acids). If you use a whey protein powder, these products already contain Branch Chain Amino Acids (BCAA), so you will not need to add more to your stack. Check your protein’s label for more information.

Anti-catabolization Once you have invested all this effort and work, you’ll want to make sure your gains are protected. When your body doesn’t have enough calories, or if it senses your muscles are either unnecessary or too expensive calorically, it will break muscle fibers back down for energy. This process is called catabolization.

To avoid this, you can add anti-catabolization ingredients to your stack.

Recipe Choose one product from each row to create your stack. Please note that some of these ingredients have not been approved or confirmed by the FDA to provide the results

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claimed on their labels. Also, I suggest ďŹ rst using each supplement alone to see if you tolerate each individual component of your stack.

Once you feel comfortable that your system can handle each ingredient, then put them together into your personalized stack. : :

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Energizing, Muscle Building Stack Energy & Focus

100 mg caffeine

1 cup black coffee

1,000 mg L-Carnitine

Protein & Amino Acids 25 g whey isolate powder 25 g soy powder 5 g BCAA (100 Calories) (vegetarian, 100 calories) (0 calories)

Anti-catabolization 6,000 mg Glutamine 1,000 mg Hydroxy

Methylbutyric Acid (HMB)

3,000 mg Beta-Alanine

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EVENTS May-June 2016 SlamCharlotte Poetry Slam Booth Playhouse at Blumenthal Performing Arts Center 130 N. Tryon St., Charlotte 8 p.m.

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A night of slam poetry with Charlotte’s two-time national championship team of spoken word poetry, hosted by Bluz, ranked 13th individual poet in the world. The monthly competitions aim to build community, poetic growth and performance enhancement. Tickets are $10. More information and tickets are available online. blumenthalarts.org.

Triad LGBT Expo 2016 SEP MAY MO 119 W. Main St., Gibsonville 10 a.m.-2 p.m.

Alamance Burlington LGBT Resources presents an LGBT expo where local organizations share information about their work and upcoming events. A DJ will be on hand to provide music throughout the day. Attendance is free, including for vendors. Attendees are encouraged to bring dog food for the Alamance County Humane Society. For more information email triadlgbtexpo@gmail.com.

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The Human Rights Campaign Charlotte hosts a day of music and art in multiple venues in the NoDa neighborhood, including The Evening Muse, Hattie’s Tap & Tavern, The Neighborhood Theatre and The Company Store. Featured bands include Dust & Ashes, Henry River Honey, DJ Little Betty, Christy Snow and Radio Lola. Passes cost $20 in advance, $25 at the door. More information and tickets are available online. facebook.com/ events/1705909856288220/.

–––––––––––––––––––– Montford Music & Arts Festival Montford Ave., Asheville 10 a.m.-7 p.m.

Asheville’s largest and longest running single-day street festival, featuring music, art, crafts, food and more. Vendors will be set up on both sides of the street offering their creations, as well as nonprofit organizations with information about their work. The event is familyfriendly and brings out community members of all ages. More information is available online. montfordfestival.org.

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Voter Registration Training SEP MAY MO Asian Library 1339 Baxter St., Charlotte 6:30-8 p.m.

Democracy NC’s upcoming Mecklenburg County Coalition Meeting will function as a voter registration training, where citizens can reflect on the March primary and learn how to get involved in future election efforts.

Food will be provided. RSVPs requested but not required. RSVP to mel@ democracy-nc.org.

The Jazz Room with Jason SEP JUN MO Marsalis The Stage Door Theater 130 N. Tryon St., Charlotte 6 p.m. and 8:15 p.m.

A special edition of The Jazz Room Series at The Stage Door Theater will feature internationally renowned vibraphonist Jason Marsalis playing a tribute set to Country music legend Dolly Parton the music of Lionel Hampton. There will comes through North Carolina on her Platinum Gala for SEP JUN MO be two shows, one at 6 p.m. and one at “Plain and Simple Tour.”

The eight-time Time Out Youth 8:15 p.m. Tickets are $12 in advance and Grammy Award winner will perform her Center Stage $15 at the door. More information and hits as well as songs off her new double 2315 N. Davidson St., tickets are available online. album “Plain & Simple.” Ticket prices Charlotte jazzarts.org. vary.

More information and tickets are 6:30-10:30 p.m. available online. greensborocoliseum.com.

Beatles Tribute Night SEP JUN MO Knight Theater at Levine Tony Awards Viewing Party Center for the Arts SEP JUN MO McGlohon Theatre at Spirit 430 S. Tryon St., Charlotte Square 7:30 p.m.

345 N. College St., Charlotte Experience a night of music from The 7 p.m.

Beatles by a variety of acts, each perCelebrate theater’s forming one or two songs by the band. big night by watchA gala to support the work Time Out The concert is presented by Tosco Youth does for the LGBTQIA community, ing the Tony Awards Music Party, which specializes in eclechosted by NBC Charlotte anchor and re- on the big screen at tic shows, often featuring singalongs. porter Ben Thompson and with keynote McGlohon Theater.

Tickets range in price from $19.80-$30. speaker Fortune Feimster. Feimster, who Complimentary Reduced rates are available for groups non-alcoholic bevercomes from Gastonia, N.C., works as of 10 or more. More information and an actor, comedian, and writer who has ages and snacks tickets are available online. will be provided and worked on the show “Chelsea Lately” blumenthalarts.org. there will also be and is currently in the role of Nurse prize giveaways.

Collette on “The Mindy Project.” Food Attendees will also get to walk the red and drink will be available, including carpet and have their photo taken with two complimentary beverages. Tickets cost $100 per person. More information a real Tony Award. This is a free event.

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Q&A with Jon Hoppel Sports enthusiast, former qnotes contributor

by Jeff Taylor :: Social Media Editor

Jon Hoppel is the last remaining original Charlotte Royals player and continues to enjoy the sport.

Photo Credit: Zechariah Sanders

This being our LGBT Sports in the South issue, we thought we would check in with someone who should be familiar to many of you from stories he has written for us in the past on the topic. Look for him at local sporting events and perhaps on a big screen someday, if they ever get around to finishing a certain would-be horror trilogy. We can always hope!

What’s your favorite time of day?

Early evening, just before sunset.

Are you from Charlotte? If not, where are you from and what brought you here?

I was born in Missouri, but grew up in Florence, S.C. I started dating my boyfriend while I was in college, and he lived in Charlotte. We moved to North Carolina after graduating.

What’s your favorite sports memory from when you played?

Winning the Under 19 State Championship in soccer in South Carolina.

What’s something people would be surprised to learn about you?

I once won a walk-on role for “Blair Witch 3.”

Sadly, they never made the movie.

What’s your favorite food?

Bread. All types of bread. And the steamed pork dumpings from Wan Fu.

What’s your favorite sport to play?

Basketball What’s your favorite sport to watch?

Basketball

What’s your favorite sports memory as a fan/ viewer?

Going to old Three Rivers Stadium in Pittsburgh and watching a double header against the Mets for my first Major League Baseball game.

I understand you play for the Charlotte Royals Rugby team. How did you join the team?

I joined the team in 2004, the year the team was founded. I did not play rugby until moving to Charlotte. I’m the last original player from that first year.

What do you get out of being on the team?

There’s a great camaraderie that comes with a rugby team. It’s a very physical game, so you have to have a lot of trust in your teammates. We will be going to Nashville [during] Memorial Day weekend to play in the Bingham Cup, the biggest international rugby tournament in the world.

Do you play on any other teams?

I also play softball with a team out of Knoxville, Tenn. We came in fifth out of 65 teams in the Gay Softball World Series last year in Columbus, Ohio. : : Jon Hoppel gets a kick in during regulation play with the Charlotte Royals rugby team.

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