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Summer Vacay!

Whether it’s a cruise, camping, LGBT resort, regional, national or global destination, the time is ripe for having fabulous fun in the sun. pages 16-21

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arts. entertainment. news. views. Briefs 13 News Notes: Regional 14 News Notes: U.S./World Briefs

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Orlando Photo Tribute Travel Destination: Asheville Asheville Vacay Resources LGBT Cruises Southern travel options Fun Travel Spots Dishing with Buff Faye Tell Trinity Q Events Calendar Our People: Kimberly Melton

opinions & views 4 6 6 7

Guest Commentary: Orlando Commentary: Conflict Guest Commentary: Orland Strong Spiritual Reflections

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What’s your drag herstory IQ? Buff Faye has a great quiz to test your knowledge of drag history. page 22

The community gathered in June to remember Orlando victims Vigils held to bring healing amidst the turmoil. page 5

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Bill Allen, Buff Faye, Maria Dominguez, Lainey Millen, Jesse Monteagudo, Bishop Tonyia Rawls, Jeff Taylor, Trinity, Jonathan Winn

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by Jonathan Winn :: guest contributor

In response to Orlando…a call for unity, love and healing I was in Orlando at Gay Days the weekend before the shooting at Pulse. There, I met Eddie Sotomayor who was one of the sweetest, brightest souls I met all weekend. Waking up to the news of the slaughter on June 12, and later learning of Eddie’s death, absolutely devastated me.

My own emotions have moved from deep sadness to fury to anger to solemness to a sense of determination. A fire that I have never felt before has been lit within me. I see this same fire within our community and in the hearts of so many others who were touched by what happened in Orlando.

As a life coach and healer who has a deep spiritual connection, I see there’s no coincidence that our community was targeted at this time of deep divisiveness in our world. It has mobilized us to levels I have never witnessed.

It’s an awakening of sorts, and my hope is that the tragedy leads to more healing, building bridges, facilitating dialogue and loving each other more. In fact, it’s the only way to truly honor the lives of those we lost.

Many of us are asking ourselves, “what can I do to help?” I want to suggest a few ways to contribute and offer you a spiritual perspective around what humanity is facing on a global scale and how the LGBTQ plays a vital role right now.

Today, we see our world splitting into two: us versus them. We see it everywhere — gay or straight, Republican or Democrat, black or white, Christian or Muslim, rich or poor. This duality is reflective of a dying belief that we are separate. However, I believe we are awakening to the knowing that we are all interconnected and one. If you are familiar with the Yin/Yang symbol, you see that the whole is composed of two opposites. To reach unity, each side must be in full expression. I believe we are seeing our world splitting into two because we are moving into the awareness of oneness.

Our role to play Unity, unconditional love, healing and compassionate understanding on a global scale is so desperately needed at this time, and I believe that our LGBTQ is uniquely positioned to help facilitate this for a few reasons. One, we are natural bridge builders. Possessing both masculine and feminine qualities, we are seen as those who go between two worlds. We literally embody two opposing forces as one, which helps us to see both sides.

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guest commentary Further, we permeate and exist within every bubble of separation that exists on the planet. Whether its’ racial, political, national, socio-economic or religious groupings, we are embedded everywhere. Therefore, we are able to reach into opposing worlds as we are at one with each of them. This natural makeup of our own community, representing all creeds, colors, shapes and sizes, gives us a natural right to advocate for unity and loving each other. Our differences are actually our most powerful gift.

It’s time to heal For us to facilitate healing our world, we must first focus on our own healing. Now is the time to turn inward and heal ourselves and our community. We’ve been hurt, castaway and persecuted simply for being who we are, and those wounds run deep. We try to mask our pain through substances including alcohol and drugs, unlimited sex and by hardening our hearts to each other (consider me guilty as charged). Healing ourselves is the only way to release the chains of our pain. Holistic methods are a powerful way to let go of our past emotional wounds, including bodywork and breathwork. In fact, your own breath is one of your most powerful self-healing tools available to you.

Love more, unconditionally I believe that our community is one of the chosen ones to help facilitate the bringing of unconditional love to our planet. Why? Because we have overwhelmingly received conditional love. It’s our lesson to learn. Further, if we are asking others to love and accept us for who we are, we must extend the same.

Unconditional love is one of the most challenging lessons to learn. It’s easy to love another when we receive love in return, however it’s work to love another who does not love us.

Strive to love without conditions.

Build bridges One of the most powerful moments at the Orlando tribute at Bar 316 in Charlotte, N.C., was when a speaker asked us to turn around, find others you may not typically speak to and tell them you love them. I was immediately confronted with my own self-imposed limitations to love. I pushed myself outside of my boundary of comfort and hugged an older

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lesbian couple. I sadly admit I may not have talked to them otherwise. It felt so good to hug them and express love. Let’s do this more, especially within our own community. Push yourself outside your comfort and build bridges to other hearts through love, whether it’s a hug or a conversation.

Claim your gifts and purpose Our community has tremendous gifts and plays an important role in facilitating more awareness, compassion and unconditional love. We fulfill archetypal roles of healer, way shower and bridge builder in disproportionate numbers to our straight counterparts. These roles are critically important, especially now during the time of global upheaval and division.

You have unmatched gifts and a profound purpose. Dig deep inside yourself to uncover where your light shines the brightest.

Advocate for, not against There’s a magical quality when opposing worlds meet. Sunsets and sunrises have this special feeling because they are the union of opposites, day and night. And, further, how incredible are sunrises and sunsets while walking on a beach, another magical place where opposites marry, land and sea. Seek the places of common good. Search for the things we agree upon. Be for something, not against something.

Mother Theresa gave us insight into this perspective when she said “I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.”

Be supported If you find yourself struggling emotionally or with gripping anxiety, reach out to me. As a gay brother and healer, I am here for you. You can learn more about my services at breatherefuge. com. If you would like to explore options to be supporting, I am happy to extend a complimentary coaching session to you to hear what you are struggling with and to see if I may be of service.

Our time is now Our Native peoples have foretold of this time in their prophecies. One Native American prophecy tells us that “when the earth is ravaged and the animals are dying, a new tribe of people shall come unto the earth from many colors, classes, creeds and who by their actions and deeds shall make the earth green again. They will be known as the Warriors of the Rainbow.”

Become a Warrior of the Rainbow, one who facilitates healing, unconditional love and deep compassion for differences. Together, we will heal our own hearts, community and planet.

Our time is now. : : — Jonathan Winn is the founder of Breathe Refuge. As a life coach and healer, he helps those who are emotionally wounded and gripped by anxiety to heal naturally. For more information, visit breatherefuge.com. Twitter: @ breatherefuge. Facebook.com/breatherefuge.

[Editor’s Note: We encourage our readers to seek professional help should the need arise if anxiety, depression or signs of post traumatic stress disorder become an issue for you.

You do not have to suffer alone and in silence.

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Carolinas pays tribute to the victims of the Pulse shootings Vigils held across two states as a nation begins to heal, advocate for safety, love

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undreds of Carolinians assembled to pay their respects and to gain comfort, consolation and community during the aftermath of the Orlando Pulse shootings. These photos share their stories.

From top left, clockwise: Latin Pride in Charlotte. Photo courtesy of Kimberly Melton.

Legends in Raleigh, N.C. Photo courtesy of Lindsay Williams.

Takeover Grandstrand in Myrtle Beach, S.C. Photo courtesy of Josh Robertson, WMBF. Northstar LGBT Community Center in Winston-Salem, N.C. Photo courtesy of Northstar center.

The Bar in Durham, N.C. Photo courtesy of Lindsay Williams.

Bar at 316 in Charlotte, N.C. Photo courtesy of Shane Windmeyer.

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Conflict within and without A Commentary

by Bill Allen :: qnotes contributor

The shock and impact of the Orlando massacre has begun to diminish some, but quickly the national discussion has turned to gun control and gun rights, ISIL and terrorism. As we bury the dead and grieve over our slain brothers and sisters, we must not forget the real issue: This was a hate crime against the LGBT community. Period.

Without a question this was an act by Omar Mateen inspired by extremist Muslim ideology. No question that he wanted this to be a terrorist act.

But his goal was to kill and hurt as many LGBT people as possible. And we cannot let anyone forget that.

This horrendous act was done at a popular gay nightclub where Mateen had visited a number of times.

National media has pointed out that he scoped out Disney World as a possible place for his attack. But what most of the media either does not know or ignores is that Mateen was at Disney World during the popular Gay Days events held in and around Disney every June. Thousands of LGBT people were there, many of them wearing red shirts noting that they were part of our community and that they were there celebrating our freedom to be.

So it is clear that this was not a random decision to kill people in a club. He wanted to kill gay people. Period.

Mateen’s father, who openly has expressed his hatred of gays, said that his son reacted violently when he saw two men kissing. He would have seen plenty of that and more at the Pulse nightclub. Mateen’s second wife said that she knew he was planning an attack, and she was aware of his plans.

So there is no question: this was a terrorist attack, but this was specifically planned against the LGBT community.

A hate crime. Yet now we are barely hearing the word gay mentioned when it comes to discussion of Orlando and Mateen’s heinous act.

As we celebrate the anniversary of the Stonewall riots, as we rejoice in the establishment of Stonewall by President Barack Obama as a national historic monument, as we rejoice in the freedom to marry whom we love, we cannot forget one thing.

Hatred is still alive and well. Homophobia still exists, both externally and internally. There are still many who hate us and want to see us pushed to the side, forgotten, or in some cases, dead. There are people who rejoice openly (like the pastors in California and Arizona who praised the killing) and others who quietly were happy for what happened to our community.

This is not the first time gay people have been targeted on a mass scale. A massive fire swept through the Upstairs Lounge in New Orleans, La., on June 24, 1973, killing 32 people. The arsonist was never caught, but it was clearly an attack on the main gathering place of the LGBT community in that city. Five injured in a bombing at a lesbian bar in Atlanta in 1997. A gunman who killed one and wanted to kill more in an attack on a gay bar in Roanoke, Va., in 2000. And the New Year’s Eve attack in 2014 on a Seattle gay club where a Muslim man poured gasoline on the steps and set it on fire. That time the 700 patrons, many of them the leadership of the LGBT community there, escaped.

The decision by Omar Mateen to attack the Pulse nightclub was deliberate. He hated gays and he understood what gay nightclubs and bars have been and still are: a safe place for the LBGT community to be who they are and not have to worry about what others think or say about them.

This was an attack on all of us. And we cannot forget. This was a hate crime, and there are plenty of people who still hate us.

Many politicians immediately turned the Orlando incident into talk about terrorism, Muslim extremism and guns. Some of them can’t even bring themselves to say the “g” word, as if saying the nightclub was gay will cause them problems. And we saw that our own state legislators couldn’t see that laws such as Hate Bill 2 are part of the problem of hatred expressed in Orlando.

What is even worse is that this was a deliberate attack on parts of our community that are even more marginalized: Latinos and blacks. For many of them, it has been doubly hard being LGBT within racial and ethnic groups who in many cases still openly reject them. Some of those killed were on the “down low” or were more closeted. Pulse was a place where they could be free from hate.

As we look at the external hate, we cannot forget that much of this comes from internal hate. Hatred of themselves. The FBI is saying there is no indication that Mateen was gay, but there have been reports of men having had sex with Mateen and even a possibility that Mateen was afraid that he had contracted HIV from one of his sexual partners.

Whatever the case, it is clear that Mateen was conflicted within. As we know, men experiment, and he may have some samesex attraction. Something within him was creating extreme anger.

Those who attack someone most vehemently are usually those who internally struggle with it. Examples abound from Jimmy Swaggart to former U.S. Speaker of the House Dennis Hastert to evangelical leader Ted Haggard, Ppoliticians and religious figures who rail against gays and promote anti-LGBT laws.

All of them dealing with internal struggles and finding the best way to deal with it by lashing out and attacking others to avoid dealing with their own pain and feelings.

The reality is that many of us in the LGBT community can identify. Often we were the biggest bullies of gays, lesbians and transpersons because we were ashamed or afraid of what we were. Only when we began to accept who we were and found acceptance by others were we able to shed that hate within.

That is why the attack on the Pulse nightclub was so horrific.

It was not only an attack on LGBT people, but an attack on one of the few places we feel safe and secure.

And that is why we must speak up now and remind people every day that even though Mateen committed a terrorist act, he did it deliberately against the LGBT community. He did it against all of us. We must stand up and speak up, otherwise the haters will continue to erode what safety and security we do have.

And we must never forget Orlando. This should be a wake-up call that we need to raise our banner high again and push for equal treatment, equal opportunities and equal rights. : :

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Orlando Strong Remembering those lost amidst bigotry and hate

by Jesse Monteagudo :: guest contributor It has been a couple of weeks since Omar Mateen went on a shooting spree that killed 49 men and women, mostly LGBT Latinxs, and tragically made the Pulse night club in Orlando the most famous LGBT bar since the Stonewall Inn. In the days after June 12, millions of words were written and published which described or explained or condemned this event; grief-stricken families and friends buried or cremated their loved ones; survivors recovered at home or in hospitals; communities held memorials; and politicians acted like, well, politicians. As with previous mass shootings, politicos from all sides discussed ways and means of preventing future killings without accomplishing anything. Conservatives screamed about “radical Islam” and progressives pleaded for gun control while, in the real world, in Orlando or elsewhere, there are spouses, partners, children, parents, siblings and friends left behind who will now have to learn to live without their loved ones, because they are no longer with them.

Conservatives like Donald Trump condemned the Pulse massacre as the work of radical Muslims. Though Mateen, who I keep mentioning even though I hate to give him more posthumous infamy than he already has (we should remember the victims instead), pledged allegiance to ISIS between murders, there is no proof that he had any connection to that or any other terrorist group. ISIS or not, the Pulse massacre was basically one big

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hate crime, the mass murder of innocent people at an LGBT club who were brutally killed just because they were LGBT or supportive allies. There was an online discussion of whether or not Mateen was himself a closeted gay, in turmoil over his sexuality.

Closet or not, the fact remains that Mateen hated us and killed as many of us as he could, before he himself was taken down by law enforcement. Those politicians who describe the Orlando killing as a “terrorist” attack on an “Orlando club,” without mentioning the fact that Pulse is an LGBT club and the victims were LGBT or LGBT-friendly, do themselves and us a great disservice.

Texas Congressman Pete Sessions (Rep.) described Pulse as a “Latin club,” ignoring the fact that many of us are both Latinx and LGBT. Politicians who deny the LGBT component of the Pulse massacre do so because of their own anti-LGBT records and opinions. Rick Scott and Pam Bondi and Marco Rubio are not our friends, no matter what they say.

Before the Pulse massacre, the largest killing of gay people took place on June 24, 1973, at the Up Stairs Lounge in New Orleans, La. There an arsonist started a fire that killed 32 people, mostly gay men and many of them members of the local chapter [church affiliate] of the Metropolitan Community Church. Though MCC founder Rev. Troy Perry and other gay activists gave the victims their due, the largely homophobic world outside ignored them, except for a few jerks who made

tasteless comments like “let the faggots burn.” This type of behavior would not be tolerated 43 years later, when more LGBT people have come out of their closets and more non-LGBT people have learned to know and love at least one LGBT family member, friend or loved one. Of course, there will always be assholes among us, like the members of the Westboro Baptist Church who, as expected, showed up to protest the funerals of the massacre victims. Radical Christians like Pastor Roger Jimenez of Verity Baptist Church in Sacramento, Calif., went so far as to praise the Orlando massacre which reminds us, as if we need a reminder, that homophobic bigotry and hatred is not exclusive to any one religion.

The Pulse massacre happened at the beginning of LGBT Pride Month and in the wake of a wave of Pride celebrations across the globe. Some of our people are now reluctant to attend Pride events, fearing that they and their communities might also be targeted by another mad murderer. Though a copycat killer is always a sad possibility, we must not let fear keep us from doing what we do so well: living and loving one another in a community with other LGBT people and our allies. If we surrender to fear we will be giving the murderer a posthumous victory and gladden the hearts of Muslim and Christian and Jewish zealots who want us to die. Like Orlando, we must be strong, and continue to love one another, for we are greater than any of our enemies. : :

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by Bishop Tonyia Rawls :: guest contributor

Last night a DJ saved my life: Sanctuary reimagined On June 12, 2016, a lone gunman entered the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Fla.,and killed 49 people and injured 53 others. It was our country’s deadliest mass murder and the largest terrorist attack since 9/11. This incident has left many in our country and around the world reimagining many things, but the thought weighing heaviest on my mind is what does sanctuary truly look like today? In a world where people can get shot in Bible study, first grade school rooms and yes, in nightclubs, what is safe?

Some may take issue to me grouping the 26 lives lost during the Dec. 12, 2012, Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting and last year’s June 18 mass murder at Charleston’s Mother Emanuel AME Church with the Orlando massacre. Let’s look at what makes them different and what makes them the same. What makes them different is the populations impacted and the location; young, predominantly white children and their teachers in Newtown, Black church goers in Charleston and predominately Black and Latino LGBT people and allies in Orlando. What makes them similar is much more compelling. They were all killed in places considered sacred.

There is a song I have not been able to get out of my head since the Orlando shootings. The song was written in 1982 by Michael Cleveland and it was titled, “Last Night A DJ Saved My Life.” While the original lyrics were about a woman who was

bored and goes to the club and is revived, the song became so much more for so many in the LGBT community. It was an acknowledgement that while the church may not be safe, home may no longer be safe, school and the streets were not welcoming, in the club, that place of refuge and sanctuary, one could find comfort, companionship and a degree of peace and acceptance not found many other places. I know this firsthand.

As a young lesbian, I lived the first part of my life deeply closeted. I was in the church and was clear that while God accepted me and my family did, however, I knew my conservative church would not, so I hid my authentic self to please them and protect myself. The only authentic sanctuary I could find was the gay clubs in my community. They were so much more than just a place to dance; they were the places where I could be fully accepted, or at least not rejected, based on whom I loved and who loved me. How grateful I was to see others, like myself, dancing to Diana Ross’ “I’m Coming Out,” or BeBe and CeCe Winans singing “Addictive Love,” a testament to their great love for God. I did my own version of a Holy shout through my dance to Bob Marley’s “One Love” and Carl Bean’s “I was Born This Way.” Those songs were like hymns to me and so many others.

They bought comfort in a world that often seemed all too cruel and unjust. How does that translate to today?

As a pastor, I have to own that the church has a ways to go in terms of its welcome of LGBT children of God. It has not always been a kind, generous, welcoming or safe spaces for many. I believe what is now called for, while the church is getting itself together, is a reimagining of sanctuary. How do we support and consider sacred, non-traditional spaces like coffee shops, community centers, parks, Internet sites and yes, night clubs? Jesus spent very little time in the synagogue. He spent most of His time among the people, meeting them where they were to share the Good News.

While we can agree that schools and churches should remain spaces that people can come to connect, feel accepted and affirmed, why not gay clubs? For those who take exception with this thought, then open your hearts and your minds to the possibility that God just may be using this tragedy to force us all to think about ways we can create a safer, more just world for all. As a society, we must find ways to allow ourselves to be stretched so we may grow in our understanding and welcome of those different than ourselves.

Until that day comes, then go on and play that funky music DJ! : : — Bishop Tonyia Rawls is Pastor of Sacred Souls Community Church and executive director of The Freedom Center for Social Justice in Charlotte, N.C. She works toward culture shifts at the intersection of faith, gender, sexual orientation and social justice.

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Charlotte TOY adds counseling to services

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — Time Out Youth Center, 2320 N. Davidson St., has announced that it will begin to offer free individual, couples, family and group therapy in the summer of 2016.

The center will be able to provide these therapeutic services at no cost to LGBT youth ages 11-20.

“In our LGBTQ youth needs assessment, it was very clear that therapeutic services were at the top of the list,” said Executive Director Rodney Tucker. “After a lengthy search process, we are pleased to announce Courtney Hudson as our new therapist.”

Courtney has called many states home, from Texas to Minnesota, and landed in North Carolina in May of 2012. Since then, Hudson has established themself as an outpatient therapist and currently practices in Mooresville, N.C. They graduated from the University of Minnesota with a Bachelor’s degree in Family Social Science and a Master’s of Social Work.

Hudson specializes in multiple modalities, using a systems perspective, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, and other mindfulnessinformed practices, all in effort to create a balance between mind, body and spirit. Hudson’s philosophy is simple: “never stop seeking your joy, your authentic self.”

“I am ecstatic to join Time Out Youth Center in their quest to create positive space within the LGBTQ community. When we learn to take care of ourselves on an individual level, we become more prepared to care for the collective,” said Hudson. “I can’t think of a more perfect space to create that type of positive momentum within society as a whole.”

To set an appointment, call Hudson at 704-344-8335, ext. 606, or email chudson@ timeoutyouth.org. info: timeoutyouth.org.

‘Oz’ party slated

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — Blumenthal Performing Arts’ LGBT Out on the Town affinity group will hold its “The Wizard of Oz” pre-show party on July 7, 6 p.m., at Blue Restaurant and Bar, 206 N. College St. Members are able to take advantage of this opportunity by emailing their RSVPs to Brandon Carter at bcarter@ncbpac.org.

To sign up for the group, email name, email address and address to outonthetown@ ncbpac.org. No dues are required, nor are there any officers or membership requirements.

Limited tickets are still available for the performance which begins at 7:30 p.m. at the Belk Theatre, 130 N. Tryon St. Other Out on the Town soirées this summer are on July 14 for “Dixie’s Never Wear a Tube Top” for a post-show party in the Upper Booth Playhouse lobby, 130 N. Tryon St., (free drinks and apps) and July 21 for “If/Then” at a location that will be announced soon. Join the group now and save $5 on tickets for the performance. info: blumenthalarts.org.

Church to install pastor

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — The Metropolitan Community Church of Charlotte, 7121 Orr Rd., will officially install Pastor Wanda Floyd as its interim clergy on July 31 at its Sunday service at 10:45 a.m.

Floyd is no stranger to the Carolinas and to the denomination. She was a founder of Imani Metropolitan Community Church in Durham, N.C. She has most recently served as interim pastor at Metropolitan Community Church Las Vegas in Nevada. info: 704-563-5810.

Center seeks volunteers

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — The Freedom Center for Social Justice is searching for summer volunteers to help educate and disseminate information to local businesses and faith communities, in addition to promoting safety.

Volunteers will work on one or both of two campaigns, “Yes You Can Go” and “Do No Harm” campaign.

“Yes You Can Go” was commissioned by the center to serve as a direct affirmation for transgender individuals to use the restroom facility of their choice and according to their gender identity and expression. Volunteers would sign up businesses, companies, places of worship and organizations to make a longterm commitment to ensure the safety of transgender people who frequent their facilities.

“Do No Harm” campaign was launched last year as a way to ask clergy, lay persons and members of the community to pledge to Do No Harm through interpretation of holy text or other religious writings. This includes harm caused on the basis of sexual orientation, gender expression, race or other faith tradition. It also asked people to not obstruct the right of other citizens to have equal protection under the law.

The center hopes to gather several hundred volunteers for its outreach efforts.

Email A.J. Williams at ajwillians@fcsj.org to learn more. info: yesyoucangohere.com. donoharmpledge.org. fcsj.org.

Gubernatorial debate held

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — It was a showdown, but not in the OK Corral, as Gov. Pat McCrory and Attorney General Roy Cooper went head to head in their first debate of the election season on June 24 at The Westin Hotel. It was held by the North Carolina Bar Association in conjunction with their annual meeting.

The two clashed on issues such as HB2, teacher pay, the economy, education, political parties and more.

Prior to the debate, LGBT advocates picketed the event. Signs said, “Repeal HB2,” “Y’all means all,” “We Are Not This,” “We Came to Slay Hate Bill 2,” among others urging lawmakers to repeal HB2. The protest was organized by the Human Rights Campaign who call the law “far-reaching.”

Scott Bishop shared the sentiments of protestors. “I think it’s sending the message that he [McCrory] actually agrees with HB2. It’s very contradictory.

He’s on ‘Meet the Press’ saying that its badly crafted and it should be repealed and yet he’s doing nothing about that,” WCCB-TV reported. info: hrc.org.

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PAC goes statewide CHARLOTTE, N.C. — The Mecklenburg Political Action Committee (MeckPAC) announced on June 28 that it is changing its operational model.

The organization, which up until just this past week had operated on a county level, has now gone statewide.

At its “Mingle with a Purpose: Remembering Stonewall. Moving Forward.” held at Cathode Azure, MeckPAC representatives explained the new structure. Jamie Hildreth, chair, shared that with the change the organization could now endorse candidates anywhere in the state, but its main focus would be on Mecklenburg County.

He also said that it seemed fitting to be doing this on the Stonewall Riots anniversary.

With so much on the line this election season, and with the political climate that exists in a post-HB2 state and with the aftermath of the Orlando shootings, things could not be more crucial.

“People have been asking us to have a complete list of candidate endorsements,” Hildreth said, adding “Now is the time to do it.” MeckPAC’s goal is to have representation from Mecklenburg County in the North Carolina General Assembly.

He also said that the organization was unyielding in its attempts to support pro-equality Charlotte City Council members, pushing back against representatives like Greg Phibbs who voted against the non-discrimination ordinance.

Additionally, MeckPAC will begin preparation for the 2017 Charlotte city elections and will push for a progressive candidate to run in Phibbs district.

One key element of the change is that the organization’s priority is to work on “intersectionality of the LGBT community.”They are also working on ways to encourage the County Commission to provide funds to help reduce HIV/AIDS rates through providing for free PrEP for those with HIV/AIDS and more access to treatment.

During the meeting, attorney Connie Vetter shared MeckPAC’s historical approach.

Afterward, a video by N.C. Rep. Chris Sgro was shown and Chaz Beasley highlighted the group’s state expansion efforts. Chelsea White with the Regional AIDS Interfaith Network discussed HIV/AIDS funding and City Councilmember LaWana Mayfield will review the 2017 city elections’ season.

With restructuring the organization, new leadership had been announced as well. Board members are: Hildreth, chair; Emily Plauché, vice chair; Natalia Diez, treasurer; Ryan Morrice, director of communications; and Chris Turner and Jai Green, at-large board members. There is a vacancy on the board and it seeks to fill it once a viable person has been identified. For those who wish to serve, visit the MeckPAC website to apply.

Working to repeal HB2 while keeping the non-discrimination ordinance intact is necessary, Hildreth said, and advocacy and inclusion are a top priority. info: meckpac.org.

Triad ‘Birthday’ movie screening upcoming

WINSTON-SALEM, N.C. — Out at the Movies Winston-Salem will screen “Henry Gamble’s Birthday Party” on July 9, 7 p.m., at the University of North Carolina School of the Arts ACE Theatre Complex, 1533 S. Main St. In this drama, teenagers and their parents struggle to reconcile their sheltered Christian lifestyles with the complexities of adulthood, sex and the secular world.

Tickets are $7/general and $6/seniors and are available in the lobby beginning at 6:15 p.m. Cash, checks and credit/debit cards are accepted for payment.

In other news, the Third Annual Out at the Movies International LGBT Film Festival will return from Oct. 6-9 at a number of venues across the city. On the radar is the eastern U.S. premiere of Byrum Geisler’s “Before the Fall.”

The organization is now accepting sponsorships which begin at $100. Packages include tickets and/or festival passes, preferred seating, sponsors’ party, celebrity receptions and more.

All-access passes are now on sale for $60.

More information will be made available as the event organizers firm up the schedule.

For sponsorships and/or passes, call Rex Welton at 336-918-0902 or email outatthemoviesfest@gmail.com. info: outatthemovieswinstonston.org.

Triangle Org raises funds

RALEIGH, N.C. — The Crape Myrtle Festival’s Drag Brunch, held on June 19 at Indio Lounge, 222 Glenwood Ave., was able to contribute $1,000 from the money that was collected at the event to go to the GLBT

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Carolinas News Notes directory ($25) and/or perform (free).

Two hundred swag bags will be give to the first 200 attendees. Promotional items are encouraged, as well as other items. Deadline is Aug. 30.

The directory will be 10 color pages of diversity-friendly business supporters. For $25 individuals, businesses or organizations can place an ad, coupon, announcement or memorial in a business card size .JPG format.

Note: a front page ad is included with top-tear sponsorships. Deadline is July 23.

Singers, poets, dancers, drag performers, balloon artists and magicians are needed to supply entertainment during the event.

Email pridepalooza@gmail.com to learn more. info: facebook.com/Pridepalooza.

terry@takeovergrandstrand.com. Assistance is available for ad creation through a guild graphic designer whose name is available online on the guild’s website. All copy and ad materials are due by July 15.

An additional perk for sponsors includes a guild membership through September 2017 and an invitation to a special sponsors’ only appreciation party on Aug. 17.

Exhibitor space is still available.

More information, including sponsorship and exhibitor space forms, as well as membership application, is available online. Additional Pride events will be announced as they become confirmed.

For accommodations, call 843-913-1333.

Takeover Grand Strand rates are $161/grande guest room and $249/two-bedroom suite. Cutoff date is July 20. info: coastalbusinessguild.com.

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continued from page 13 Community Center of Central Florida as part of support recovery efforts in Orlando, Fla. The monies will go toward ongoing assistance to the local community and set aside funds to help the survivors and families of the Pulse shootings. info: crapemyrtlefest.org.

Western McGillis attacked at home

HENDERSONVILLE, N.C. — Lesbian actress Kelly McGillis shared in a Facebook post that she was attacked on June 17 in her home by a stranger, USA Today reported.

The assailant, Laurence Dorn, was arrested and was charged with second-degree burglary, misdemeanor larceny, misdemeanor stalking, assault and battery and interfering with emergency communication. She was being held on a $60,000 bond in a Henderson County jail.

McGillis said when she returned home that she found her front door unlocked and a light on. She was then “confronted by a screaming woman who accused her of stalking her and attacked her when she ran outside to call 911.

She and the woman fought; the woman grabbed her cellphone and threw it on the ground.”

Injuries sustained by McGillis were scratches and bruising and she said she was otherwise okay.

USA Today also reported that since the attack she has obtained a concealed-carry gun permit which she uses to protect herself. Her decision was not taken lightly. She had previously been the victim of a gang rape when she was 12 years old.

With the two incidents, she decided to exercise her Second Amendment right to bear arms. info: usatoday.com. ap.org.

Pride org seeks sponsors, more

HICKORY, N.C. — Catawba Valley Pride, Inc., is gearing up for its Pridepalooza celebration to be held on Sept. 3 from 4-8 p.m. at Club Cabaret, 101 N. Center St., and is asking the community to consider being a sponsor ($50$1,000, four levels), vendor ($40/10’ x 10’ space with flame retardant tent with tag/anchored), speak (a variety of topics available), donate to a swag bag (free), advertise in the business card

Guild hosts member meeting

MYRTLE BEACH, S.C. — The Coastal Business Guild will hold its members’ meeting on July 6, 5:30 p.m., at Grand Strand Law Group, 401 Broadway St. Participants are encouraged to bring a guest, as well as business cards to use during networking.

Focus for the meeting will be on the details of the upcoming 2016 Business Expo Business Expo & Gala on Aug. 20, at the Marina Inn at Grand Dunes, 8121 Amalfi Pl. This is being held in conjunction with Takeover Grand Strand’s Pride celebration from Aug. 18-21.

The Business Expo is free and open to the public and runs from 4-7 p.m., along with a cash bar. Beginning at 7 p.m., the Gala will take place. Attendees will enjoy a plated dinner, musical entertainment by Too Much Sylvia, dancing and more.

Event organizers are seeking sponsors.

Opportunities close on July 15. Program booklet ads for Presenting, 20/20 Vision and Visibility Sponsors receive a full-page ad with measurements of 5.25” wide x 8.25” high, with .25” bleed and .5” away from the edge.

Exposure and Not-for-Profit Sponsors receive a half-page ad measuring 4.5” wide x 3.8125” high. All ads are printed in color and submitted in high resolution .JPG format and sent to

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Stonewall monument designated

WASHINGTON, D.C. — On June 24, President Barack Obama announced the designation of the Stonewall National Monument — the first national monument dedicated to telling the story of the LGBT community’s struggle for equal rights.

Obama talked about the importance of preserving and sharing this significant part of the American story.

Although the U.S. has seen true progress over the years, the president acknowledged that the LGBT community still faces discrimination to this day. In an address, he emphasized that as a country, “we must continue to push for equality, acceptance and tolerance — because that’s what makes our

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country the greatest nation on earth.”

The dedication was made on June 27 at Christopher Park in New York City’s Greenwich Village and was designated as the Stonewall National Monument using Obama’s authority under the Antiquities Act. “The National Park Service is marking its centennial anniversary this year with a renewed commitment to tell a more complete story of our nation, and we are incredibly proud to be entrusted with the responsibility to share the story of LGBT Americans through this historic new national park site at Stonewall National Monument,” said National Park Service Director Jonathan B. Jarvis. “We will work closely with the com-

CHARLESTON, S.C. — We Are Family has announced the launch of its transgender South Carolinian grant program, the Trans Love Fund.

The summer 2016 cycle will award small, need-based grants to support transgender lives in the Palmetto State.

According to Lambda Legal, transgender people are four times more likely to live in poverty than non-transgender, or cisgender individuals. Transgender people experience unemployment at twice the rate of the cisgender population and transgender people of color experience unemployment at more than four times the national rate.

Transgender people often incur expenses that non-transgender people do not. These can include things like medical care (doctor’s visits, medications), legal fees (name changes, gender marker changes), counseling costs and the cost of new clothing, We Are Family shared.

They added that many transgender people lack access to basic necessities like rent, food and transportation.

The ultimate goal of Trans Love Fund is to finance the cost of any goods and services relevant to supporting the lives of transgender South Carolinians. At this time, Trans Love Fund is not funding surgeries, revolving debt (i.e., credit card bills) or vehicle purchases. Trans Love Fund can only issue checks to vendors, not individual applicants.

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Applications are available online and printed applications are available at the We Are Family office by appointment by calling 843-637-9379 or email info@waf.org for more information. info: waf.org.

Bingo raises funds for ASO

CHARLESTON, S.C. — Lowcountry AIDS Services (LAS) will hold its “That ’70s Bingo: It’s Not Your Grandma’s Game!” fundraising event on Aug. 9, 6 p.m., at Memminger Auditorium, 56 Beaufain St. Gay bingo has not been seen in the Lowcountry since 2001 and this is a revival of it.

It was originally known as Bubba Bingo which honored Atlanta drag queen Bubba D. Licious who served as emcee.

The evening is slated to be filled with fun and frivolity and will pair with an important message: “The HIV/AIDS epidemic is still affecting many in our community, LGBT and straight alike.”

Patti O’Furniture, a local drag icon who performs regularly at Dudley’s, will provide entertainment throughout the signature event and participants are encouraged to don costumes.

It is being held in conjunction with Charleston Pride from Aug. 6-14.

“We know gay bingo is going to be a truly fun evening and a wonderful fundraiser for our agency,” said Bradley Childs, LAS executive director. “But just as important, we see this event as an exercise in awareness, tolerance and advocacy for our entire Lowcountry community. We want people to pause and realize the very real HIV epidemic sweeping our community and how they can join in our fight.”

Included in the evening’s fare are six games of bingo with prize packages for winners, a raffle, special guests, local beer, food trucks and more.

Early general admission tickets are $20 through June 30; then $25 for advance general admission tickets thereafter.

Reserved tables, VIP tickets, host committee tables and sponsorship are all available. For information on tickets, sponsorship and event details, call Jason Kirk, director of development, at 843-747-2273, ext. 216 or email jkirk@ aidsservices.com. info: charlestongaybingo.org.

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munity to ensure that the history we share at this site is inclusive and gives a complete perspective of the historic events that happened there.” It is seeking to raise $2 million to support the park. info: nationalparks.org/Stonewall

community centers from 40 states, the District of Columbia and Puerto Rico.

The full report is available online at bit. ly/295x18e. info: lgbtcenters.org. lgbtmap.org.

Report depicts center service

WASHINGTON, D.C. — The Pentagon has announced on July 1 that it is putting an end to its ban on transgender service members.

The Department of Defense announced last year that it would update its outdated regulations that prevented open service by transgender service members. info: militarypartners.org.

DENVER, Colo. — The “2016 LGBT Community Center Survey Report: Assessing the Capacity and Programs of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Community Centers” has been released.

Authored by CenterLink and the Movement Advancement Project, it surveyed 143 LGBT

Trans military ban ends

QUICK HITS —————————————————————————————— The Italian government has pledged a significant sum in the fight against AIDS. info: theglobalfund.org.

The Family Equality Council has hired Stan Sloan as its new executive director. info: familyequality.org.

Melissa Etheridge has released a song, “Pulse,” as a way of honoring the memory of those lost in the Pulse shootings in Orlando. It is available on iTunes and Spotify. The artist is contributing all proceeds to Equality Florida. info: bit.ly/294Vw7W.

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Mountain LGBT mecca offers an array of enjoyable vacation options Asheville, N.C., is eclectic, warm, welcoming

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hen one thinks of gay destinations, immediately San Francisco, Calif. and Key West, Fla. are two places that come to mind. The excellent food, the funky neighborhoods and the welcoming atmosphere have made them places to get away and make memories.

But as both cities are becoming more gentrified and losing much of the charm that made people want to visit, a new city is becoming a top place for LGBT people to visit: Asheville, N.C. Only a few hours away, the fresh air and beautiful mountain landscapes beckon gay travelers to come and explore an area that greets the LGBT community with open arms.

Traditionally, people think of Asheville as a good place to visit for two reasons: viewing fall foliage and touring the iconic Biltmore House and estate. But Asheville is also one of the best places to get away for a weekend of romance and fun.

Asheville offers in the downtown area more than 45 dining establishments, eight of which are James Beard-nominated restaurants for their The Reynolds Bed and Breakfast is gay-owned and is rich with history and elegance. excellent cuisine. For the theatre and concert Photo Credit: Reynolds Bed and Breakfast lovers, there are eight performing arts venues, one of which was just doing the famous gay play For those wanting to stay close to the downtown area, the “La Cage Aux Folles.” For those who love to drink beer, there are Carolina Bed & Breakfast is a great choice. Along with elegant now 24 microbreweries in town with a wide range of offerings. and well-appointed rooms, it offers the chance to walk through But first and foremost, a great visit starts with great lodging. a historic neighborhood to the restaurants and attractions of the If you are looking for an unforgettable place to stay, skip the bordowntown area. Along with a delicious breakfast, inn owners ing hotels and go to one of the more than 24 bed-and-breakfasts James and Susan Murray also offer a cocktail hour with Biltmore in the Asheville area. The B&Bs offer incredible breakfasts, exwine and scrumptious finger foods. This provides a chance to quisite accommodations and at the same time privacy for those meet a diverse group of people there, or a chance to grab somewanting a break from the rat race or for those who want to share thing to go back to your room for some more intimate sharing of intimate moments that will provide memories forever. hors d’oeuvres.

For those who want breathtaking views and luxurious rooms in a historic mansion, the Reynolds House Bed and Breakfast is just the ticket. Gay partners Billy Sanders and Michael Griffith bought the place in 2009 and have restored this brick antebellum home to its former grandeur. The house was once the home of the owner of the famous Hope Diamond, the Star of India and the Star of the East, and is a worth a visit simply because of its rich history.

But the inn has much more, including 16 bedrooms, the largest dining room in the county (seating 34), a 1919 spring-fed pool and even two secret passageways. At sunset and fall, the views of Mount Pisgah and Cold Mountain (from book and movie fame) are spectacular. The breakfasts are sumptuous and one offering is delicious honey from Sanders’ own beehives.

No wonder this gay-owned home has won the Trip Advisor Award as the second best bed and breakfast in the U.S. and twelfth in the world.

Equally spectacular but lesser-known is the gay-owned Engadine Bed and Breakfast. Situated in Candler, N.C., Rick Bell and his longtime partner Tom Watson Guests are Raynolds Bed and Breakfast are bought the inn 18 treated like royalty in this well-appointed inn. months ago and Photo Credit: Reynolds Bed and Breakfast are in the process

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hinking about a trip to Asheville? Here are suggestions of things not to miss:

Bed and Breakfasts Here are several places where you will want to stay: Reynolds House Bed & Breakfast 100 Reynolds Heights, Asheville thereynoldsmansion.com.

Gay-owned historic antebellum brick mansion restored to its grandeur, offering 16 wellappointed rooms and wonderful views of Mt. Pisgah and Cold Mountain. Trip Advisor award as one of best B&Bs in U.S. Offers venues for events.

Engadine Bed & Breakfast 2630 Smoky Park Hwy., Candler engadineinnandcabins.com.

Gay-owned inn on 12 acres offering luxurious rooms and fully-equipped mountain cabins.

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Very romantic. Spectacular mountain and sunset vistas. Offers venues for weddings and other events. Pets welcome. Fifteen minutes from downtown.

Carolina Bed and Breakfast 177 Cumberland Ave., Asheville carolinabb.com.

A lovely inn in the historic Montford district near downtown with king and queen beds, plus a cottage available. Some rooms with whirlpool or Jacuzzi tubs. Great gourmet cooking and scrumptious social hour.

Dry Ridge Inn 26 Brown St., Weaverville dryridgeinn.com.

Delightful small-town inn with eight well-appointed bedrooms, delicious breakfasts and lovely patio and gardens. Great for couples and families, accepting environment, attractive for bikers and those seeking a quiet getaway.

Along with these, there are many other good choices for bed and breakfasts. The Asheville Bed and Breakfast Association website has helpful information and is a great place to check out the variety of inns available. Visit them at bit.ly/28VwJzw. Nightlife There are three good places for LGBTowned nightclubs that traverse a wide palette of options: Tessa’s Jazz and Blues Club 28 Broadway, Asheville tressas.com Lesbian-owned bar with great live music.

Scandals Nightclub 11 Grove St., Asheville scandalsnightclub.com.

Long-standing gay dance club with drag shows.

O’Henry’s Bar/The Underground 237 Haywood St., Asheville ohenrysofasheville.com.

Gay bar with pool, games and drinks, plus dance club in back.

Dining and Drinking With more than 45 places to eat downtown in Asheville and a plethora of microbreweries, there is something for everyone. Here are a few suggestions: Carmel’s Kitchen and Bar 1 Page Ave., Asheville carmelsofasheville.com.

Describes itself as serving eclectic Southern-influence comfort food plus specialty cocktails. Largest outdoor dining patio in city.

Dog friendly.

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Indeed, the growing arts comof updating the home built in 1885 by Confederate Navy Captain munity in Asheville is one of the hallJohn Hoyt. This B&B is unique in that it has a wonderful mix of marks of the city. Artists from all over historical and modern accommodations. Fireplaces and classic the country are moving to Asheville clawfeet bathtubs adapted to showers for a wonderful intimate and offer something to visitors that experience can be found in the five gorgeous bedrooms. The top can be rarely experienced: a visit to floor is modern and has wonderful furnishings from Florida, where studios where the artists are actually Bell and Watson used to live. But the truly unique part of Engadine producing their work. is that dotting the areas where the vineyards used to be are wonThe best place to experience derful well-appointed cabins that include kitchens and allow those this is the River Arts district, home to wanting complete privacy and intimacy to have a wonderful romanmore than 200 studios and 300 artists. tic experience. The largest cabin, the Cherokee, boasts a wonderful The area is an old warehouse district king-sized bed and a two-person spa bath. It is a wonderful place to that continues to be transformed begin or renew romance.

Engadine is also in the process of becoming a great venue for weddings and other events and is a wonderful place for those who just want to get away from it all, yet is only 15 minutes west of all of the attractions of Asheville. And the food is also good (make sure to ask about the Applewood smoked pecan bacon!).

Both Reynolds and Engadine are ideal locations for couples, friends or groups who want to get away to memorable locations which are gay-owned.

For those on a tighter budget and who want a small-town getaway, the Dry Ridge B&B in Weaverville, N.C., offers a lot of amenities. Only 15 to 20 minutes north of the city, the inn offers lower prices than many other B&Bs while not skimping on the quality. The 1888 home has eight bedrooms and is a good place for couples, families or singles. Bikers will find Howard Kristen Dusenbery a wealth of information about places to ride in the area, and will especially love the Harley bedroom and Davidson bedroom on the top floor along with the motorcycle art. The breakfasts are quite good, especially the breads The classic Engadine Bed and Breakfast is steeped with southern history and hospitality. and the blueberry pancakes, and the seating Photo Credit: Engadine Bed and Breakfast allows people to sit by themselves or in a way into the home of one of the most vibrant arts communities in the to meet others. Howard also plays bagpipes and is known to United States. It is worth a trip to drive down to this district (don’t frequently serve breakfast in a kilt! try to walk it). From ceramics to oil painting to welding art to glass The greater benefit of staying at Dry Ridge is that you can blowing, this district has something for everyone. The artists alone walk a few blocks into downtown Weaverville and find several are fascinating to meet, and the work is simply spectacular. great places to eat, including Blue Mountain Pizza and Brew Pub. There are so many interesting studios that it can be overThis is one of the friendliest restaurants you will find anywhere whelming, so make sure you hop on one of the trolleys and get around, and the food is very good. The restaurant is known for one of the Artists 2016 Studio Guides to help orient yourself. brewing its own beer downstairs, and the light, dry Saison and Nonetheless, several artists are definitely worth a visit: Michael the aggressively hoppy North Main beers are quite delicious.

Hofman, whose handcrafted plates and tableware using lace are Also you will hear great live music here, especially on weekends. spectacular; Stephen St. Claire and his “dialuminism” technique A few minutes away by car also is the Stony Knob Café, which in which metal leaf and oil paint are embedded within layers of has wonderful food and a great Sunday brunch. resin, making it appear that light is shining through the back of In town during the day you will also find wonderful places to the painting; and the Asheville Glass Company where various view and buy art. A must stop is Mangum Pottery which mixes glassblowers are creating fabulous pieces of glass (this is a heritage and contemporary designs, and is known for its heron great place to get something to take home!). Also, a visit down to sculptures.

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Private cabins, such as the Cherokee, are part of the charm of the Engadine Bed and Breakfast.

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the Wedge brewery is a good stop on a hot day. Make sure you ask and see the metal dinosaur sculpture welded by late artist John Payne.

For those looking for more traditional mountain arts and crafts, there are a number of stores in downtown Asheville to visit, and local people often sell their crafts outside the historic Grove Arcade. There are several good shops inside the wonderfully restored arcade, an architectural jewel worth visiting just for its structure and design. Do visit the Mountain Made shop and the Asheville NC Homecrafts store.

Any time of the week, but especially Sunday morning, there are several wonderful places to visit in downtown Asheville. For a unique experience, you must imbibe at the gay-owned and operated Battery Park Book Exchange and Champagne Bar at the Grove Arcade. With two floors of used books to peruse and purchase, you are encouraged to browse, find a book you love, and settle down to read while sipping on one of the three champagnes you can order by glass or 10 others that you can order by half bottle. Do check out the literary drinks such as the Great Gatsby, which is a classic champagne cocktail, or their delicious mimosas. They also offer draft beer and very good coffee.

LGBT people will also want to know that many restaurants, shops and B&Bs are friendly to their four-footed children. It is not uncommon to see people in outside seating in restaurants and in

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Hit the high seas with LGBTs Gay cruising on LGBT-friendly cruise lines

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Atlantis atlantisevents.com 310-859-8800 Atlantis Events is the largest provider of gay and lesbian cruises. They are celebrating 25 years and offer cruises throughout the year. Upcoming cruises include: Venice to Barcelona, July 29-Aug. 6; Barcelona to Athens, Aug. 15-25 and San Diego to Mexico, Oct. 29-Nov. 5. Entertainment ranges from comics, singers, drag queens, DJs, cabaret acts and more. Past performers include Patti LuPone, Idina Menzel, Kathy Griffin and Jennifer Hudson.

RSVP rsvpvacation.com 310-432-2300 RSVP Vacations has hosted gay and lesbian cruises for over 30 years. They are credited with creating the all-gay cruise concept.

RSVP was acquired by Atlantis Events in 2007.

They have three upcoming cruises scheduled: Legendary Danube River Cruise, from Budapest to Prague, July 19-26; European Splendor River Cruise, from Prague to Amsterdam, July 26Aug. 2 and Koningsdam Carribean Cruise, Feb. 5-12, 2017. RSVP cruises have long featured not only entertainment but also presentations,

panels and Q&As with various notable personalities and professionals in both the arts and entertainment and political worlds.

Olivia olivia.com 800-631-6277 Olivia Travel offers cruise, riverboat, resort and adventure vacations specifically for lesbian clientele. The company was founded in 1973 and offered its first all-women cruise in 1990.

Upcoming cruises include the Tahitian islands, Aug. 20-27 and the Pacific Coast, Sept. 25-Oct. 2. Sarah McLachlan will provide entertainment

on the Pacific Coastal cruise. Previous entertainers of note have included Patti LaBelle, Whoppi Goldberg, Lily Tomlin, Indigo Girls, Melissa Etheridge and Margaret Cho. Olivia Travel/R Family Vacations rfamilyvacations.com.

Olivia Travel and LGBT vacation entertainment company R Family Vacations are teaming up for a Hard Rock Vallarta cruise July 9-16.

R Family Vacations has also announced the upcoming Broadway Cruise V for sometime in 2017, with a date yet to be announced. More information is available online.

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LGBT Resorts offer respite and community for vacationers Southeastern resort locations where you can feel at home while you’re away

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weekends, since both had fulltime jobs in Charlotte, N.C. They brought it back to life and now are able to devote themselves fully to the campground, where they also live in a house on the property.

RV and tent campers are welcome at Starlite, which also features park models, a type of resort style home similar to a cabin, cottage or bungalow.

The grounds feature a pool, and they often hold events, including music festivals, and celebrations for major holidays like the Fourth of July, Labor Day and Halloween. They have also hosted several weddings since same-sex marriage was made legal.

Borders reports that they have noticed an influx in new campers lately, but cannot say whether or not it is related to HB2 and the climate surrounding LGBT rights. He says they are always happy to see new faces at Starlite.

Families are welcome, but they focus on adult guests.

Borders said they work hard to make the campground an enjoyable place for both men and women.

aking time out to relax and get a reprieve from the world in a friendly and accepting setting is important for everyone, but perhaps especially for members of the LGBT community.

LGBT-owned and -friendly resorts offer vacationers a safe space to spend time together among members of their own community.

While a recent survey conducted by Community Marketing, Inc. on LGBT travelers found that the perception is that most hotels and resorts are LGBT-friendly these days, those specializing in the community are still attractive.

Nearly 90 percent of the over 4,000 respondents in the survey said they supported travel bureaus maintaining LGBT information on their websites.

Safe, affirming spaces for the LGBT community may be even more important post-HB2 and the Orlando shooting.

These Southeastern resorts and campgrounds offer that sanctuary and are worth your consideration if you need some time away.

From the top clockwise: Timberfell Lodge, Metropolis Entertainment Complex, In the Woods, Starlight Lodge and The River’s Edge each provide visitors and residents a great option for relaxation and a break from city life, including outdoor living, resorts and more.

Timberfell Lodge timberfell.com.

Timberfell Lodge, located in Greeneville, Tn., is an adult men’s resort and campground that was started after David Yoder opened his house to gay guests for the 1982 World’s Fair. It was such a success that he decided to start a business with the concept, opening in the summer of 1985.

Timberfell offers tent camping, RV sites, cabins and more. The grounds feature a pool, pool house, sauna and steam room and a beer bar. They are a clothing optional resort.

Some of their upcoming events include a Fourth of July Weekend celebration, a Uniform-Fetish Weekend, July 15-17, and Domination 2016: The Leather Experience VIII, July 22-24.

Metropolis Entertainment Complex metropoliscomplex.com.

Metropolis is an exclusively-adult-male, members-only resort located in Augusta, Ga. They occasionally hold mixed gender events, such as their CLAWS Leather Run Weekend event, coming up in August.

The complex is comprised of Parliament Resort, Executive Inn & Suites, Capri Lounge and The Edge Nightclub.

The resort features 130 guest rooms, a campground, a pool, where nude sun bathing is allowed, and hosts numerous events throughout the year.

In addition to the CLAWS event, in August they will have their Bear Fest activities and will hold a Labor Day weekend celebration during the first week in September.

Metropolis also features a café that is open on weekends, a steam room, hot tub, maze and novice dungeon. It is considered to be the largest gay resort in the Southeast and certainly the most unique.

In The Woods inthewoodscampground.com.

Located in Canon, Ga., In The Woods is a clothing optional, gay and lesbian members campground. The property features walking trails, a swimming pool, a hot tub, a gym and a clubhouse.

Upcoming events include “Chubuddies: A Chubs ‘n Chasers Weekend” for bears and cubs, July 15 and 16, and a luau bash, Aug. 5 and 6.

RV and tent sites are available, as well as RV rentals and individual room rentals and cabins.

In The Woods also plays host to both outdoor and indoor weddings.

Starlite Lodge starlitelodge.com.

Clay Borders purchased the Starlite Lodge campground, in Lenoir, N.C., in the late 1990s with his partner Terry. They decided to take it on as a rehab project.

“It was pretty run-down, pretty dilapidated,” Borders said.

For the first several years they were only able to be there on

The River’s Edge camptheriversedge.com.

Located in Dewy Rose, Ga., The River’s Edge is a 21-and-over, members only, clothing-optional campground. Founded over 20 years ago, it was sold in 2005 when the original owner passed away, and then again in 2013 to a group of annual site members.

The campground features cabins, as well as RV and tent sites and is located along Beaverdam Creek. There is also a pool, hot tub, game room and clubhouse.

“Any time you can get away from the ‘real world’ and have a good time, I think that’s always important. No matter where you’re at or who you are. That’s why it’s important to maintain what we do here,” said Sean Cassidy of The River’s Edge.

“When you come here, you become part of the family. We try to include everybody.” : : — Photos credit to each resort listed.

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Summer Travel

Fun spots to have a fabulous time LGBT travel and tourism sites key to finding little nuggets

by Lainey Millen :: qnotes staff

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hen it comes to having a “gay” old time, the LGBT community is never at a loss for locating amazing travel destinations. From mountain retreats to the sandy shores, there are lots of ways to settle back, relax and simply enjoy the scenery.

Hot Spots For LGBT travelers, key U.S. spots of interest are plentiful no matter what coast or anything in between one wishes to explore.

First off is, of course, New York City’s West Village where rests the iconic and historical site of The Stonewall Inn and the Christopher St. area. This location was the site of the most crucial jumpingoff point in LGBT history, the Stonewall Riots, where a group of patrons who had been harassed, arrested and more, finally said that enough was enough and took to the streets in protest. The clarion call set a tsunami across the U.S. and the world, setting the stage for the Gay Liberation Movement and its decendants.

On June 24, President Barack Obama announced that for the fist time in history, the Stonewall Inn and the area would become the first LGBT monument to be erected in its honor. This move was unprecedented. No other sitting president had ever done such a noble act.

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Besides the West Village, New York City has a plethora of incredible sites and other options for the LGBT traveler — Broadway, the Fashion District and Fire Island to name a few.

Of course, Provincetown, Mass., is a must to for the LGBT traveler. The Ptown was voted a Best LGBT Destination and is packed with so much to do that it can’t be contained here. One can dine, shop and play in this coastal resort that does not disappoint — bars galore, theatre, afternoon tea dances, plus a multitude of themed weekends complete the offering.

One last note, do not forget their week-long Carnival

that is replete with music, dance parties, inn strolls, boat cruises and more.

Key West, Fla., sports a plethora of activities year round in a tropical setting that is laid back and simply a charmer. Rent a bike and tour around the island, snorkel, fish, scuba dive, party, dine out, visit historical site and more.

Rocking across the U.S. to California, one can never miss San Francisco and Castro St. This area is replete with so much history and such a large concentration of LGBT individuals in one geographic area. The city is also the place where Councilmember Harvey Milk was killed and he has forever stood as an example and as a hero for justice. Don’t forget to visit Fisherman’s Warf to sample great seafood. And, be sure to get an iconic shot or selfie with the Golden Gate Bridge.

South of San Francisco is West Hollywood in Los Angeles. This urban location is filled with eclectic shops, residences and a young, energetic LGBT community who are trendsetters. In fact, it is considered one of the top LGBT vacation spots and is central to California nightlife. Nearly one-third of its population identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. It’s chock full of history, events, and its library hosts an LGBT literature and history archive. It’s a real emersion experience for any traveler.

For those who want a more laid back and cozy experience, Eureka Springs, Ark., is the place to go. It’s a bit like Asheville, N.C., in that it is filled with artsy folks and is nestled in the Ozark Mountains. What it does not have, however, are gay bars. The community is so welcoming and open that there is no need for them. The area is considered a mecca

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Travel and Tourism The International Gay & Lesbian Travel Association is a great place to gather information, as well as tour options. iglta.org/tours.

The Travel Channel has some great tips for making one’s vacation more pleasurable. bit.ly/294B85q.

for the LGBT community where acceptance comes with the “welcome package.” The LGBT community hosts four Diversity Weekends during the year where there is a parade, a Public Display of Affection (PDA) in the Park, parties, bar events, a lesbian motorcycle riders’ countryside bike tour, rainbow flags hanging off storefronts and businesses galore and more.

And, there are a host of gay-owned bed and breakfast options, as well. See our previous coverage on this area at bit.ly/28V08K2.

Resources Want to connect with LGBT travel agents, tour companies, etc.? Then look no further.

Here is a list of some that should make travel and vacationing a real pleasure. Please note: we neither endorse nor certify these sites, locations, etc. Travelers should exercise caution whenever using any travel site, booking agency or tourism resource. Be sure to vet them first.

Foreign Travel For information on vacationing abroad, visit the U.S. Department of State site at 1.usa. gov/278ZZfE for tips and requirements for LGBT travelers.

Others are: travelgayeurope.com, travelgayasia.com, furtherafield.com, ebab.com, gayhomestays.com.

Domestic Travel There are a number of sites that feature and are dedicated to LGBT travel as listed below: outtraveler.com, mrb&b.com, bnbfinder.com, purpleroofs.com, gayhomestays.com, airbnb.com.

Tour Books/Groups gogirlguides.com, damron.com. hetravel.com, outadventures.com, ellgeebe.com, tototours.com.

LGBT and LGBT-friendly travel agencies: queertrip.com, discoversweet.com, cruisingwithpride.com, gogirlfriend.com, rfamilyvacations.com, olivia.com, manntravels.com, expedia.com, hotels.com, gayorbitz.com.

Photo Credits: New York City, Yevgenia Gorbulsky, and Key West, virsuziglis, via Adobe Stock. Eureka Springs, Lainey Millen, staff photo.

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dishing with buff faye

by Buff Faye :: qnotes contributor :: info@bufffaye.com

Drag Herstory: How much do you know about Drag Queens?

Photo Credit: Cody Perry Photography

Do you know your Drag Herstory? Well for a drag queen it is essential that you know something about the roots of drag, how drag played a role in the LGBT movement and some fun facts. Test your “IQ — Intellectual Queerness” in this Drag Herstory Quiz. How much do you know?

1. Name the transgender activist and drag queen who was a founding member of both the Gay Liberation Front and the Gay Activists Alliance and who once said: “You go to bars because of what drag queens did for you, and these bitches tell us to quit being ourselves!”

A. Sky Quinn B. Nadia Rain C. Sylvia Rivera D. Janet Mock 2. W hat is the name of the New York bar that has become the focal point for igniting today’s modern LGBT civil rights movement?

A. Blue Bar B. Liaisons C. Mattachine Society D. Stonewall Inn 3. O rigins of the term “drag” are debated, but “drag” first appeared in print as early as: A. 300 AD B. 1870 C. 91 BC D. 1912 4. T he origin of the word “Drag” comes from “Dressed as girl” in 1941 by Shakespeare?

A. True B. False 5. W hat is the dance move done by drag queens where a dancer dramatically falls or drops backwards into a struck pose on the ground, usually to end a dance?

A. Chasse B. Dosado C. Heel Pull D. Death Drop E. Rond 6. I n the 1950s and 1960s, drag was underground and criminalized?

A. True B. False 7. J osé Julio Sarria was the first openly gay person to run for public office in 1961 campaigning for San Francisco City supervisor, the same postition that Harvey Milk would win 16 years later. He didn’t win, but came in ninth out of 32, which was a great accomplishment. He was also a well-known drag queen named Empress José I and went on to found what system?

A. Miss Gay America Pageant System B. Imperial Court System C. Entertainer of the Year

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D. USofA Pageant System 8. T he true-story book of “Fanny and Stella”

by Neil McKenna the Victorian England was about the trial in the 1870s of: A. o ne drag queen who stole clothing B. two drag queens who fell in love and owned a fashion apparel company C. t wo men who were arrested for being in drag D. a young boy who grows up losing his parents and becoming a drag queen 9. K nown for her scarily arched eyebrows, this drag queen became famous after appearing in a variety of John Waters’ films and is one of most popular drag queens in Western culture. She died prematurely from a hidden heart condition.

A. La Rue B. Terri Gardener C. Alan Haynes D. Divine 10. W hat is the name of the local Charlotte drag queen who recently passed away. He was a pioneer back in the 1970s and 1980s for the gay movement in the South, helping to raise money for HIV/AIDS and supporting gay military officers?

A. Grand Prix B. Tracy Morgan C. Roxy C. Moorecox D. Brandy Alexander DRAG TIP: Be sure to not get caught with your wig off. How well do you know your “Drag Herstory?” You must always know the heels you stand in from the drag queens of the past who paved the way.

— Buff Faye calls the Queen City her home and loves cuddling her puppies (plus she loves to raise money for charities). Find her at your favorite bars and hot spots. Plus don’t forget her monthly Saturday night shows, drag brunch and regular Friday night party bus.

Learn more at AllBuff.com.

Follow on Twitter @BuffFaye Answers: 1. C., 2. D., 3. B., 4. B., 5. D., 6. A., 7. B., 8. C., 9.

D., 10. D.

Come out to give support on Saturday, July 9 at The Bar at 316 for the “SHOW LOVE FOR ORLANDO” Benefit Drag Show. All proceeds will be donated to victims and the families of the Orlando shooting.

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by Trinity :: qnotes contributor :: trinity@telltrinity.com

Being single: Is it a curse or a blessing?

Dearest Trinity, It seems like all my friends are in relationships and me, I’m still a bachelor. Why are some people doomed to being single forever?

Unhappy Bachelor, Montreal, Canada Dearest Bachelor, Being alone, paying bills alone and going to bed alone can get depressing, day after day, night after night, hour after…damn, now I’m depressed. Listen, some people are single because they haven’t found the right problem, I mean person, or it’s their “spiritual timeout” from relationships to discover just how miserable, I mean wonderful, they are. Being a healthy bachelor means going to single events, parties, socials, as well as joining a religious, athletic, intellectual and/or special interest groups. Remember, pumpkin, if you keep trying, eventually your odds will change. That’s the thrill of dating.

gay. They do, however, choose to be open about it, to be comfortable with it and to be proud of it. Yes, being gay is hard, but no harder than being a… Republican. Eventually, sweetie, we all have to be true to ourselves or die. And once someone gets used to something difficult, it’s no longer difficult. It’s as easy as…voting on Nov. 8th. Vote! (Choosing to be gay is certainly easier than picking out the right outfit, as my cartoon shows.)

Dear Trinity, Is love itself enough of a reason to start a relationship? And is love enough to keep a relationship going?

What’s Enough, Tucson, AZ

Hey Trinity, Why would someone choose to be gay if it’s so hard? Why wouldn’t they just be quiet about it or go straight?

Confused, Montgomery, AL

Dear Enough, Yes, love is a great reason to start a relationship and yes it’s enough to keep it going, but unfortunately not forever. Love changes every day, forcing the relationship itself to take over where love started. Always work on the love, but work even harder on the relationship. In other words, darling, let love inspire you to start a relationship, but let your relationship inspire you to be in love! XOXO to love!

Hey Confused, You are confused! People don’t choose to be

Hello Trinity, If another telemarketer calls me, I’ll jump out a

a&e

window. Do you have any suggestions for dealing with those inhumane pests?

Tele-Troubles, Boston, MA Hello Tele-Troubles, Before you start jumping, drinking or driving off the road, honey, put your cell or home phone down and read: Trinity’s Terrific Tips For Dealing With Telemarketers (The phone rings and you pick up) 1. The Direct Approach: “I’m not interested!” Followed by a polite, “Thank you.

Good-bye!”

2. The Hurried Approach: “I only have a moment.” Followed by, “Sorry, honey, I’m out of time!” (You click.)

3. The Sexual Approach: “You’re voice sounds hot! Can you send me a picture of you first?

I’m really not that unattractive!” (They click!)

4. T he Religious Approach: “Jesus doesn’t let me take these calls.” Followed by a sweet, “God bless you dear!” (You click.)

5. T he Disaster Approach: “Oh God! I’ve been in and out of hospitals! My lover left me! Can you take care of me?” (They begin to cry.)

6. T he Giddy/Overzealous approach: “I love that…ha…! I…ha, ha…love, love, I love everything you’re saying! (Uncontrollable laughing) Haaaaa, ha ha…!” (They click.)

7. The Childhood-Regression Approach: “My mommy doesn’t let me buy things on the tel-e-phone. Can you play with me?” (Begin crying until they hang up.)

8. The Deceased Approach: “Oh, she died months ago. Would you like the person handling her estate? Thank you for calling!”

(Funeral parlor music plays in background.)

9. The Paranoid Approach: “Why must you call me? Why do want to hurt me? Hello!

Have you hung up on me again?” (They start therapy.)

10. The Confused Approach: “I don’t understand what you want from me? I need more time to figure it all out! Where am I? Who am I?” (They quit their job!) info: With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama performed globally, and is now minister of sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings, wigministries.org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.

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High Country Resources continued from page 16 Tupelo Honey Café 12 College St., Asheville tupelohoneycafe.com.

Original restaurant (now one in Charlotte as well), but food quality is better here at the original, though always good. Southern homemade food and craft beer.

Salsa Mexican Caribbean Restaurant 6 Patton Ave., Asheville salsasnc.com.

A local favorite, serving funky traditional Mexican dishes with a twist along with Caribbean dishes. Try the empanadas and molcajetes.

Universal Joint 784 Haywood Rd., Asheville ujasheville.com.

Cozy burger and sandwich place in converted gas station plus some Mexican dishes.

Great choice of craft beers. Indoor and outdoor seating. Dog friendly.

The Wedge Brewery 37 Paynes Way, Asheville wedgebrewing.com.

Great brewery in 19th-century warehouse in the River Arts District, good craft beer on tap, food trucks outside.

Blue Mountain Pizza and Brew Pub 55 N. Main St., Weaverville bluemountainpizza.com.

Great pizzas, pastas, salads and wraps. Brews own great tasting beer downstairs.

Asheville Food Park and Market 219 Amboy Rd., Asheville ashevillefoodpark.com.

Great food truck park and bar with wide variety of culinary delights. Open all the time.

Check out the LGBT-run Deli Llama truck (Wednesday nights for now).

You can’t leave the High Country without visiting these places:

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River Arts District off Clingman Ave. and Haywood Rd., Asheville riverartsdistrict.com.

More than 200 working artists from all over the U.S. in 22 buildings in a one-mile square area, ranging from ceramics to paintings to glassblowing and more. Stroll, watch, converse with artists and maybe even try out glassblowing. Great place to find art pieces to buy. If overwhelmed by the art, you can get a tour from a working artist, John Miguel Almaguer.

Asheville Bee Charmer 38 Battery Park Ave., Asheville ashevillebeecharmer.com.

Specializes in honey from N.C. and around the world, plus bee and honey-related products. Sit down at the honey bar and sample a few varieties.

Malaprops Bookstore/Café 55 Haywood St., Asheville malaprops.com.

Nice selection of books and coffees and teas to be found in this delightful gay-owned store. Quaint, locally-owned store that hosts book signings.

Battery Park Book Exchange and Champagne Bar 1 Page Ave. #101, Asheville batteryparkbookexchange.com.

Two floors of wonderful used books, a great selection of champagnes and coffee to drink while you browse or read, plus an espresso dog bar.

French Broad Chocolate Factory and Tasting Room 21 Buxton Ave., Asheville frenchbroadchocolates.com.

Delicious hot chocolate, chocolate bars and truffles and created here and to die for.

Go hungry.

Want more information? Check out exploreasheville.com for more places to see and things to do in the Asheville area! : :

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Mountain mecca continued from page 17 many indoor establishments for their dogs, and to see the dogs greeted warmly by the owners and workers in the establishments.

Another don’t miss place for coffee, juice and a good read is the Malaprops Bookstore. Known throughout the Southeast, the gay-owned shop offers a good variety of books, including eclectic books and a great section of LGBT books and novels. It definitely has one of the best selections of lesbian fiction in the South.

One of the more unique places to visit in Asheville is the Carolina Bee Charmer.

Asheville was certified as the first Bee City as being a pollinator-friendly location. This small store offers information on honey and even a honey tasting bar before you take home one of the many varieties of honey and bee-related products. Definitely try the buckwheat, the cranberry and the light wildflower honeys, and

check out the other many varieties they offer.

Talking about honey probably makes you hungry and there is no shortage of places to eat in downtown Asheville. There are few chain restaurants, meaning that there is a wide range of quality places to eat with cuisine for every palate. And another wonderful quality is the number of restaurants with outdoor seating.

A few of the great restaurants to visit are Carmel’s Kitchen and Bar (burgers and salads to delicious locally sourced steaks), Salsas (a wonderful mix of Mexican and Caribbean food), the Tupelo Honey Café (soul food) and Rosetta’s Kitchen (flavorful vegetarian food).

There are truly too many good places to eat to go into more detail here, and it is worth walking around a bit to explore and find that unique dining experience you are looking for.

One place that cannot be skipped is the

French Broad Chocolate Factory and Tasting Room. You will know where it is because of the line of people waiting to get one of the rich chocolate drinks. The place is also known for its wonderfully decadent chocolate-based desserts and especially the truffles. You must indulge here!

Another good restaurant ,which is as funky as the area in which it is located, is the Universal Joint. Created out an old gas station, it has delicious sandwiches and is located in West Asheville. That area is attracting a large number of LGBT couples and singles who are moving into the area for its eclectic feel and for the inexpensive housing. Another good place worth visiting there is the Asheville Sandwich Company.

For nightlife, check out Tressa’s Downtown Jazz and Blues, a lesbian-owned bar with wonderful live music. For the younger crowd, the gay bar of choice is Scandals, and the traditional

choice for a good bar and drag show is O’Henry’s, which includes a separate venue for dancing and has themed dance nights and events.

And for healthier activities, one cannot forget the original and best draw of Asheville: the mountains. It is an easy drive to jump on the Blue Ridge Parkway and see the mountains or to go rafting, kayaking, tubing, hiking, biking and so many more outdoor activities.

In short, there is so much to do in Asheville that one weekend does not suffice. Being such a short drive away from the Charlotte, N.C. area, there is no question: the best place to get away and enjoy a weekend in a community which embraces diversity and where LGBT people are warmly welcomed is Asheville.

The weekend is coming and you don’t have anything to do. What are you waiting for?

Asheville is waiting for you. : :

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Submit your event to our calendar!

You can submit your event to our comprehensive community calendar presented by qnotes, the Charlotte LGBT Chamber of Commerce and Visit Gay Charlotte. Submit your event at goqnotes.com/eventsubmit/ and get a three-for-one entry. All Charlotte-area events will appear on each of the three calendars at qnotes (goqnotes.com), Charlotte LGBT Chamber of Commerce (clgbtcc.org) and Visit Gay Charlotte (visitgaycharlotte.com).

July 2016 Miss Charlotte Pride Pageant Chaser’s 3217 The Plaza, Charlotte 10:30 p.m.-2 a.m.

The 2016 Miss Charlotte Pride Pageant, “Once Upon A Pride,” hosted by Charlotte Pride, will take place at Chaser’s in NoDa and will honor 2015 Miss Charlotte Pride Buff Faye. Former winners will also be featured, before a new Miss Charlotte Pride is named. $10 cover charge at the door. More information and registration are available online. charlottepride.org/pageant.

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Continues through July 24 SEP JUL MO ‘Dixie’s Never Wear a Tube Top’ Booth Playhouse at Blumenthal Performing Arts Center 130 N. Tryon St., Charlotte Times vary The queen of Tupperware Dixie Longate returns to Charlotte, this time swapping it out for a mechanical bull, in her new show “Dixie’s Never Wear a Tube Top While Riding a Mechanical Bull: And 16 Other Things I Learned While I Was Drinking Last Thursday.”

The fast talking, tell-it-like-it-is dragqueen star shares her favorite life lessons learned after a hard night of knocking them back. Tickets range from $24.50-$44.50. More information and tickets are available online. blumenthalarts.org.

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Carrie Newcomer Stage Door Theater at Blumenthal Performing Arts Center 130 N. Tryon St., Charlotte

7:30 p.m.

Singer and songwriter Carrie Newcomer will perform her powerful, insightful music at the Stage Door Theater at Blumenthal Performing Arts Center for one night only. Newcomer has released 15 solo records and eight collaborations. She is also an author and is further known for her work in charitable organizations. In 2009 and 2001 she traveled to India as a cultural ambassador. Tickets are $22 in advance, $25 day of the show. More information and tickets are available online. blumenthalarts.org.

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Continues through July 10 SEP JUL MO ‘Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dream Coat’ Fletcher Opera Theater 2 E. South St., Raleigh Times vary The NC Theatre Conservatory present “Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dream Coat,” the musical telling the Biblical story of Joseph and his coat of many colors. When Joseph, who is his father’s favorite son, is sold into slavery by his jealous brothers and taken to Egypt, his character and humanity are challenged. Music composed by Andrew Lloyd Webber with lyrics by Time Rice. Tickets range from $25-$50.

More information and tickets are available online. dukeenergycenterraleigh.com.

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Mr. Charlotte Latin Pride SEP JUL MO Chaser’s 3217 The Plaza, Charlotte 10 p.m.-2 a.m.

Charlotte Latin Pride presents the Mr. Charlotte Latin Pride event, a Latin Pride extravaganza! Contestants will be judged on creativity, adherence to the carnival theme, onstage question, evening wear and talent. For more information, email Jaime Crespo at charlottelatinpride@gmail.com.

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Continues through July 15 Charlotte Black Gay Pride Various locations and times This year Charlotte Black Gay Pride will host a series of events over the July 13-15 weekend with the theme “Step Up, Charlotte.”

The weekend will kick off with a Pride Revival Service at Caldwell Presbyterian Church, 1609 E. 5th St., on Wednesday, July 13, with doors opening at 6 p.m. and a services beginning at 7 p.m. A Step Up Town Hall event will take place the following day, Thursday, July 14, from 6-7 p.m. at the same location. On Friday, July 15, there will be a meet and greet at L4 Lounge, 2906 Central Ave., from 7-9 p.m.

More information is available online. facebook.com/CharlotteBlackGayPride.

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The Jazz Room: Victor SEP JUL MO Atkins Performs the Music of Horace Silver The Stage Door Theater Blumenthal Performing Arts Center 130 N. Tryon St., Charlotte 6 & 8:15 p.m.

Pianist Victor Atkins will perform the music of Horace Silver as part of Charlotte’s Jazz Arts Initiative’s Jazz Room series.

There will be two performances, one at 6 p.m. and one at 8:15 p.m., as is the case with all of the shows in this series.

Tickets are $12 in advance and $15 at the door, with a limited number available online or by calling 704-372-1000. carolinatix.org.

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Campus Pride Homecoming and Awards Banquet Johnson & Wales University Wildcat Center 235 S. Cedar St., Charlotte

7 p.m.

Campus Pride celebrates the 15-year anniversary of their organization’s founding and the 10-year anniversary of their Camp Pride signature event, the nation’s LGBT student leadership academy. Jasika Nicole, “Scandal” and “Fringe” actor and artist, and Miss Lawrence, fashion icon, celebrity stylist and actor from the Golden Globe nominated TV series, “Empire,” “Fashion Queens” and “The Real Housewives of Atlanta” will be the featured speakers at the celebration. Cost is $42.50/camp alumni/current students and $85/general admission. Table sponsorships can be purchased as well at $650 for a table of 10. Tickets and more information are available online. campuspride.org/homecoming.

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Puerto Rican Festival 2016 Marshall Park 800 E. 3rd St., Charlotte 12-8 p.m.

The annual Puerto Rican Festival, hosted by the Puerto Rican Cultural Society of Charlotte, is the largest in the Carolinas. The event features live music, dancing, food, games and more.

Guest artist this year include NG2, Odilio Gonzalez and DJ Carlos Lebron.

Admission is free. More information is available online. prcsc.org.

Rowan Chamber Dragon SEP JUL MO Boat Festival High Rock Lake, Salisbury 9 a.m.-5 p.m.

The third annual Rowan County dragon boat race will be held in Salisbury, where local and regional teams of all skill levels will compete against one another in a series of heats. Food vendors and entertainment throughout the day. There will also be a drummer parade. Families are welcome but pets are not. More information is available online. rowanchamberdragonboat.com.

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Q&A with Kimberly Melton Newly-appointed executive director of Charlotte Pride

by Maria Dominguez :: qnotes contributor Kimberly Melton has long been a proud participant of the LGBT community as well as an active business and nonprofit professional, so her recent appointment to the executive director post with Charlotte Pride is a natural next step.

The Charlotte native has worked with the YMCA of Greater Charlotte and the Hospitality House of Charlotte, and brings extensive experience to Charlotte Pride’s ever-growing organization. qnotes is no stranger to this upbeat professional with her warm smile.

Melton was once featured on the cover of qnotes in the spring of 1992, while pregnant with her daughter, Casey, now 23.

What was your experience in making that cover story?

The reason why we did it was that Demi Moore did a very then-scandalous cover [for Vanity Fair] of her being pregnant. It was a very tasteful cover, but it was before the advent of women being pregnant and wearing whatever they wanted to wear. . . [qnotes’ publisher] approached me and said, “well what do you think about doing a cover like that for qnotes?” And I was like, “are you kidding? I mean me, and Demi Moore? Give me a break!”

And he said, “I promise, it’ll be tasteful, and if you don’t like it, we don’t have to use it. But let’s just see.”. . . I made Demi Moore look like she wasn’t pregnant, I was so big. What it did was, it came out as such that, “lesbians get pregnant?” It was a really interesting article.

What’s one of your most treasured memories of raising your daughter?

In ’93 there was a march on Washington, and we went. We were coming up the escalator, and Casey was in Lisa’s backpack in front of us, and I was behind her. D.C. was a throng of LGBTQ people. . . everybody was around and looking and saw this baby. And they all chanted at one time, “kiss the baby, kiss the baby!” And so I reached up and kissed her, and she was clapping. Then they said, “kiss the mommy!” so I reached up and kissed Lisa and [Casey] clapped and everybody clapped. That was pretty cool. I don’t think I’ll ever forget that.

How do you see the development of Charlotte and of the LGBT community in Charlotte over the course of your life?

The profound change I’ve seen is the difference between the secretive and the un-secretive. And I think that’s really a very dramatic difference. It used to be that you hung out with a certain crowd. The only time that you were “home” in public was at the bar. When you engaged, it was never physical with your partner. There was no way you’d be walking down the street holding hands. So your affection or your communication with other LG — it was only lesbian and gay back then — and now, 25 years later, you have out, proud, and doing it.

You’re walking down a mall and you can hold your partner’s hand, and you can be married to them, and all those kinds of wonderful things,

and you can say in a business meeting at work, you can say, “my wife.”

What was your involvement in the LGBT community before this appointment to Charlotte Pride?

I was on the board of MCSP [Metrolina Community Service Project], which was an umbrella organization in the 80s and 90s that housed the switchboard — and I mean housed, not as in physically, but as in an umbrella organization — and the QCF (Queen City Friends) was a lesbian organization . . . Then I was one of the founding members of One Voice, and I also assisted with Out Charlotte, which was more of a cultural event in Charlotte that was held in the spring. I was also on the committee of individuals that brought the Pride march to Charlotte in 1994.

Do you have a certain idea of how you want Charlotte Pride to grow?

Well, the board has brought me on to assist them in having us move from only being a weekend festival and parade — which is very important and is our pivotal event — but moving from only that to engaging, empowering and educating the LGBT community, also creating partnerships within our own community, but also in the non-gay community There’s been a lot of concern about the safety of gathering the LGBT community since the Pulse nightclub attack. Is there something you want the readers to know about what you’re doing to protect attendees at Charlotte Pride?

The one thing that I can be perfectly clear about is that there is no difference in the level of seriousness that we take security. This year, last year, the year before, our police department and city officials take it very seriously, every event that happens in Charlotte. . . and security has always been an issue. We take it very seriously, and our police take it seriously, but we aren’t going to let individuals rule our lives by what they may or may not do. I highly encourage everybody to come out. It is a wonderful event. It is for families, for youth — we have several things we’re going to do specifically for youth this year — and, of course, the wonderful parade, the largest parade in Charlotte. It’s going to be a lot of fun.

How do you feel about the visibility of the LGBT community and Charlotte Pride at this point in time?

I think it’s important that we show love over hate, and doing that is saying, “you will not defeat me.” You know, Pulse will reopen, and I’m sure that the walls will not be able to hold all the people who will walk into Pulse to show support. I think that will happen to Charlotte.

I’m not sure the streets will be big enough, because not only the LGBTQ community, but also our allies will be out, being there with us. They were there for the march in ’94. We had allies then and we have allies now. . . I think that this horrific event has given even more reason for them to come out and support.

What’s something about you that most people don’t know?

I am semi-fluent in American Sign Language. : :

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