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Time Out Youth Center Founder Tonda Taylor, center, and attorney Connie Vetter (to Taylor’s left) were among the group participants during the ribbon cutting ceremony held on Aug. 20 in Charlotte, N.C.

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Texas twin to HB2 in hibernation — for now Legislative session ended without action; Lt. Gov. vows revival

by Maria Dominguez :: qnotes staff North Carolina’s House Bill 2 may have been repealed in name, but its legacy lives on in imitation legislation pushed by conservative lawmakers in other states. The Texan version of the infamous “bathroom bill” was left unheard when the state’s House of Representatives ended its special session — but Lt. Gov. Dan Patrick hasn’t given up the issue.

“You know why it’s going to be back next session? Because the people will demand it,” Patrick told reporters after the legislative session concluded. “The issue is not going to go away.”

Despite Patrick’s claims about the people’s demands, even Republican leaders in the Texas legislature have expressed opposition to perpetuating efforts to dictate LGBTQ freedoms. Like HB2, the Texas bill requires public bathrooms and facilities to be accessed according to gender assigned at birth and nullifies all local anti-discrimination laws. It’s a repetition not lost on Texas House Speaker Joe Straus, a moderate Republican who spoke against the measure.

“Why would Texas, after seeing the example in North Carolina, want to walk headfirst into a giant cactus?

I think it’s a good question and I hope that we don’t go there,” Straus said, alluding to a North Carolina newspaper editorial.

Supporters of the Texas bill use the same line of defense as HB2 supporters did, claiming the measure would protect women and children from bathroom assault. Texas Freedom Network President Kathy Miller condemns this argument as “telling lies to justify passing laws that discriminate against people simply because of who they are.”

“This legislation has never been about protecting women in public restrooms. That’s why organizations that advocate for victims of sexual assault have strongly opposed it,” Miller told The Austin AmericanStatesman. “We’re here to say Texans across the state won’t rest until the final gavel — and beyond that, we won’t rest until our leaders recognize that discrimination is reprehensible.”

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LGBTQ North Carolinians know all too well just how such debates impact the everyday lives of queer citizens. One transgender Texan named Stephanie Martinez spoke out about the “mob mentality” that the bill has created, after she suffered an assault in Austin, Texas for being transgender.

“It doesn’t solve any problems. It will simply add to the danger the transgender community experiences on a daily basis,” Martinez said.

In another parallel to North Carolina’s HB2 debacle, corporate opposition to the discriminatory legislation has been shouted from the rooftops. GSD&M, an advertising agency headquartered in Austin, ran a social media campaign leading up to the recent legislative session meant to decide the issue.

The campaign, “Lifestyle Products for a Bathroom Bill World,” promoted everyday items like backpacks in traditionally-gendered colors with a prominent print of the purchaser’s birth certificate stitched onto the front. A curious click brings web surfers to a page designed to help voters contact their representatives.

The message is clear: if you don’t want to live in a world where a gender ID is required to pee, take action against it.

Opposition to the Texas measure didn’t stop it from being passed in the state Senate, but the bill died upon arrival in the House. Left up to Lt. Gov. Patrick and his cronies, the law could rise again like Freddy Krueger — but with the continued efforts of LGBTQ people and allies, GSD&M CEO Duff Stewart says that the battle will not be lost.

“Taxpayer dollars should be spent solving the real problems that face our state, from infrastructure to education, child protective services and more,” Stewart said in a statement. “We have an imperative to support basic human rights and legislation that limits the freedoms of our transgender community is nothing more than a solution in search of a problem…I’m not worried about the people who love. I’m worried about the people who hate.” : :

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by Rev. Dr. John Cleghorn :: guest contributor

Looking at news ways to discover or renew one’s faith Hypocritical. Judgmental. Homophobic.

Mean-spirited.

For decades, the so-called mainline church has been in decline in part because those who leave it use these and other adjectives to describe their experience with Christianity. Now, as Christendom looks itself squarely in the mirror, it faces the reality that up to one-in-three millennials do not claim a religious affiliation.

What kind of future do these trends suggest for the church at large?

But, what if?

What if churches confessed the ways Christianity has earned some of those labels?

What if they created spaces where all are genuinely welcomed, engaged, heard and invited to lead?

What if a congregation formed its identity as a widely diverse “hospital” for the wounded and the weary who have been hurt or marginalized by the church — LGTBQ women and men, people of color dispossessed in the wider society, believers who’ve been let down by the church and seekers who want to grow in faith, but question strict doctrines and dogmas?

What if these and others were surrounded by loving, committed allies?

Such churches and congregations are forming on the leading edge of the progressive church. You might call it “the intersectional church,” a place where a range of people on the margins come together for deeper mutual understanding across differences, where believers and seekers find mutual support and advocacy, where hope emerges out of hurt.

In the Presbyterian Church (USA) for example, a small handful of intersectional churches are finding new life in major cities across the country. Most of these congrega-

tions were once large, prestigious, urban, affluent and white flocks that suffered decades of decline to the point of near death. Now they thrive with new life and vibrancy in places like New York, Washington, D.C., Detroit, Denver and, yes, even Charlotte.

These welcoming congregations are defined by a commitment to social justice. They aren’t afraid to practice new styles of lively and less-formal worship. Leadership is often bottomup rather than authoritative and top-down.

They are deeply mission-minded, devoting their money and their volunteerism first to serve the hungry, Photo Credit: laurha homeless, the poor and the via Adobe Stock oppressed and others Jesus called “the least of these.”

They aren’t immune to disagreement and conflict (no congregation is), but they are committed to reconciliation and long-term relationships amidst the trials and triumphs and constructive tension that come with authentic diversity.

They practice ministry and outreach that is innovative, agile, experimental and entrepreneurial. They take risks and joyfully express their faith journeys in worship and in service to the city and the world. They draw members, visitors and other participants from across their cities.

These intersectional churches are on to something powerful, transformative and redemptive.

“We have a gathering of people who embody the beloved community of God more than any other place in my life,” says one Presbyterian pastor. “We learn empathy and perspective.”

You will see some churches that look like this at Charlotte Pride 2017, joyfully singing and marching in the parade and offering a warm welcome at their booths. Why not take a chance and try one out? : : — Rev. Dr. John Cleghorn is pastor at Caldwell Presbyterian Church in the Elizabeth neighborhood of Charlotte, N.C. Caldwell invites all to visit them, as well as to The Third Place, its non-profit coffee shop and venue space. For more information, visit The Third Place on Facebook at facebook.com/ TheThirdPlaceCoffee/ or the church website at caldwellpresby.org.

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news notes: carolinas compiled by Lainey Millen :: qnotes staff

Director resigns WINSTON-SALEM, N.C. — The North Star LGBTQ Community Center, 930 Burke St., has announced that its director Rayce Lamb is stepping down, effective Oct. 8.

“Due to my full-time gig at Wake Forest, a new and extended travel schedule and the continued growth of the center, the time has come for me to step away. I am proud of my accomplishments here, but also value this organization and its mission to the point that I do not want to hinder its growth going forward,” Lamb shared.

He added, “Although I will be stepping down as director, my time at North Star is not over. Rather, I will transition my time and energy to serving on the board of directors overseeing the larger mission and strategic growth of the organization. In addition, I will continue to serve the center as both a volunteer and through programming within its Faith Initiative.”

A job search for his replacement is underway. The board of directors are accepting applications until Sept. 1 at 5 p.m. Interested parties are encouraged to apply. Applicants should be able to commit to 20-25 hours per week. Send resumes and cover letters to info@northstarlgbtcc.com. An announcement will be made by the end of September about the replacement. info: northstarlgbtcc.com.

Charlotte Polls and Pride

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — OUT to the Polls will offer free early vote shuttle service on Aug. 26, 12-5 p.m., from Charlotte Pride’s festival to Uptown’s early voting site.

Free giveaways, refreshments, fun shuttle hosts and more will be available during the day.

The event is being hosted by MeckPAC and Charlotte Pride. More information is available online. info: meckpac.org. charlottepride.org.

Queen City welcomes new venues

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — The entertainment industry has new options for LGBTQ patrons in the Queen City.

On Aug. 22, Boulevard 1820 opened and became the first drag restaurant to hit the Charlotte, N.C. area. The establishment is located at 1820 South Blvd.

The venue comes complete with drag queens and food, as well as a lounge. The restaurant features drag performances, and nightly events, showcases and festivities.

Owners are Jeff Edwards and Kolby Brinkley and managing partners are Tommy Feldman and Shane Windmeyer.

Another addition to the scene in recent months is Bar Argon, a video lounge and dance bar located at 4544-H South Blvd.

A VJ/DJ spins on Friday and Saturday nights and for special events, as well as weekly standards. info: boulevard1820.net. barargon.com.

‘Christians’ comes to Queen City

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — “The Christians” will hold its North Carolina premiere during Sept.

13-Oct. 1 at the Booth Playhouse, Blumenthal Performing Arts Center, 130 N. Tryon St. Provocative questions drive the play: What do you believe? Why do you believe it? And what would you sacrifice for those beliefs?

Set in a megachurch in today’s America, this story revolves around a pastor whose mission to create a church began in a modest storefront some 20 years ago. Two decades

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later, the founder, Pastor Paul, presides over a congregation of thousands. Today should be a day of celebration. But what begins as a mortgage burning celebration becomes a firestorm that threatens to engulf everything that Paul has built as he preaches a sermon that will challenge his church, his congregation and even his own family, with a new definition of faith that no one could have predicted. “The Christians” explores what happens when a community is challenged to see the world and their faith from a radical new perspective.

The production features a live onstage choir and singers will come from multiple churches of all denominations and all faiths in the Charlotte region.

TalkBacks will follow most performances, allowing audience members to ask questions and voice their reactions to the play with the cast and guest moderators from religious and spiritual fields.

Tickets are $15-$45 and are available online or at the theatre box office. info: blumenthalarts.org. thechristiansonstage.com.

Crowdfunding effort goals met

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — Lara Americo created an Indiegogo crowdfunding page to gather funds for her Comic Girl Coffee & Books, an inclusive space for LGBTQ women, people of color and immigrants in Charlotte, N.C. As of press time she had raised $5,482, 106 percent of her projected goal.

“Building a space that is in service to the community has to be built by the community. I am really happy that Charlotte supported this space. Inclusive spaces are needed, not just in Charlotte, but in all the cities that are being gentrified, where businesses are being built by the wealthy that cater to the most privileged. This space is for marginalized people and by marginalized people. It is exactly what this city needs.”

Her full vision is available online at Indiegogo. info: bit.ly/2uDJg97.

RAIN aids youth

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care, RAIN established its Empowering Positive Youth (EPY) program 11 years ago, a specialized, holistic and effective approach to support them. It is the first of its kind in the CharlotteMecklenburg region.

The organization said that the peer-based program helps ensure that no one who is 24 or younger begins treatment for HIV without feeling like someone understands. It offers not only referrals to healthcare providers, but also help with housing and mental health services.

Led by RAIN’s EPY peer navigators Laurenzo Surrell-Page and Adrian Ross, EPY assists youth in getting medical care, transitioning from pediatric to adult care and providing psychosocial support.

“HIV is still a scary diagnosis,” said President and CEO Debbie Warren. “And there’s still a stigma attached to it. A lot of the teens and young adults we work with have no support from their families. That’s a lonely place to be. Our EPY program creates a safety net and help navigate the healthcare system for some of the most vulnerable people.”

EPY peer navigators, who are all under 30, use a medical model, providing referrals for care, housing, food, substance abuse and other necessities. In addition, RAIN offers onsite mental health counseling and social support opportunities through youth-only support groups.

Since its inception it has seen over 1,000 youth and RAIN considers EPY as one of its key services.

“It is vital for young people with HIV to feel empowered,” Warren said. Youth continue to deal with stigma and discrimination. EPY gives them “crucial coping skills,” Warren added. info: carolinarain.org.

Triad Greensboro Pride ramps up

GREENSBORO, N.C. — The 2017 Greensboro Pride celebration will take place on Sept. 16, 11 a.m., along S. Elm St. Attendees will be able to enjoy stage performances, vendors, food all day long and those with children will have a kids’ area where activities will keep them entertained.

More information is available online info: greensboropride.org.

GGF hosts bingo under stars

GREENSBORO, N.C. — The Guilford Green Foundation will hold its Bingo Under the Stars on Sept. 15, 7 p.m., at The Elm Street Center, 203 S. Elm St. Enjoy bingo on the roof deck while helping to raise funds for the foundation.

Cocktails with the Queens takes place at 6 p.m., with doors opening afterward at 6:30 p.m.

Tickets are $15/advance, $20/at the door and $12/with student and/or government ID. In other news, the foundation awarded its 2017 grants in late July to Hospice and Palliative Care ($5,000), National Conference for Community and Justice of the Piedmont Triad ($10,000) and Planned Parenthood of the South Atlantic ($10,000). info: ggfnc.org.

Youth caregivers sought

GREENSBORO, N.C. — One Step Further is searching the area for families with LGBTQ youth to volunteer for its pilot Family Factor Program.

Parents and caregivers and LGBTQ youth, ages 12-24 are invited to participate where the program will address family rejection of LGBTQ youth. Additionally, discussion will

be held to improve family relationships, the organization shared.

One Step invites those in healthy, highfunctioning, as well as struggling families to participate. Meetings will be held over a 10-week period.

For more information, call Director Jasmin Cooper at 336-275-3699, ext. 205 or email at jcooper@onestepfurther.com. info: onestepfurther.com.

Triangle Latix pageant held

DURHAM, N.C. — The Miss Hispanidad 2017 Pageant will be held on Aug. 25, 7 p.m.,at the Durham Arts Council, 120 Morris St. The event, hosted by Hola Latino, is being held to support El Centro Hispano’s LGBTQ support groups.

Competition categories are: Creativity, Evening Wear and On-Stage Question.

Participants will present fashions they made out of recycled materials in the Creativity and Evening Wear sections. The On-Stage Question stage will include two queries, one on Latinx culture and one on HIV/STD prevention.

The winner will receive $500. Second place is $300 and 3rd place is $200.

Tickets are $10 at the door. info: durham-nc.com. facebook.com/ events/1546452642063161.

Campus Scene Student org offers safety program

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — Campus Pride has announced its 2017-18 school year Safe Space program training.

Executive Director Shane Windmeyer shared that the two-day Safe Space Train the Trainer booking dates are open for appointments.

Those engaged in the program learn to identify the essential components of, understand the content of and create a learning activity to be used in a Safe Training Program, as well as the ability to describe practices for creating an inclusive campus environment for LGBTQ students.

Campus Pride provides logos, lesson plans and everything needed to launch a successful program on campuses.

Additionally, Campus Pride has Stop the Hate Train the Trainer slots available for the upcoming school calendar year. This is an educational initiative with the express purpose of supporting colleges and universities in preventing and combating hate across their campuses, as well as fostering the development of a community, the organization said.

Participants learn about hate speech on campuses, learn how to form a bias incident response team and how to prevent hate crimes, among a host of other tools.

Comprehensive training manuals are provided to each participant so that one can learn, experience and practice the skills set forth for a viable program. Also, participants will have the wherewithal to establish an action plan for a 12-month period.

For more information on both programs, email greg@campuspride.org. info: campuspride.org. stophate.org.

Western WNCAP names honorary chair

ASHEVILLE, N.C. — The Western North Carolina AIDS Project (WNCAP) has an-

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nounced that Attorney David Gantt was selected as the recipient of the Honorary Chair Award presented each year at the annual Raise Your Hand Auction and Gala slated for Sept. 23, 6 p.m., at the Asheville Event Centre, 291 Sweeten Creek Rd. The event is presented by O.Henry’s and Wicked Weed Brewing Company.

“Honoring David Gantt as a champion for social justice throughout our region is easy,” WNCAP Board President Mark Collins said.

“David is the champion for the underdog, the voice of reason, and the giver of hope. From family man to PTA president to county commissioner and just about everything in between, you’ll find David’s leadership setting a shining example of what it means to build community.”

WNCAP Community Resource Coordinator Christopher Winebrenner stated, “Where some may turn a deaf ear to the problem of HIV infection in our community, David Gantt has made no qualms about publicly advocating for HIV prevention education, testing and medical case management care for men, women and children living with HIV/AIDS. He has supported WNCAP and the work we do for years and is a terrific example of an individual using their voice to confront stigma and ignorance.”

The event includes a silent auction with donations of local art, fine wines, antiques, get away vacations and jewelry. Money raised from this event will go directly to helping finance WNCAP services, including HIV prevention and education, harm reduction, and case management services to those living with the disease across the 18 counties of Western North Carolina. Tickets are $150 and are available for purchase online. info: wncapgala.org.

news notes: u.s./world

QUICK HITS —————————— More LGBTQ individuals have been killed so far in 2017 than in the entirety of 2016, Jezebel reported. info: jezebel.com.

compiled by Lainey Millen :: qnotes staff

India’s LGBTQ community reaches milestones MUMBAI, India — The Indian airwaves are showing their rainbow colors now as the country’s first LGBTQ radio show was launched in mid-July on its commercial radio channel Ishq (“love” in Urdu).

Gay rights activist Harish Iyer, 38, has become the “messenger of love” for equality in the eastern country. His show, “Gaydio,” has become the first one dedicated to LGBTQ issues in a place that is fraught with taboos and punishment for gay sex, NBC News reported on information supplied by the Thomas Reuters Foundation.

The country’s estimated 2.5 million LGBTQ population now have an avenue to hear news and personal interest stories that are relative and relatable. The station hopes to break down barriers to discrimination and feature a variety of relationship models.

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By sharing their stories with others, interviewees help to bridge understanding for the LGBTQ community, NBC News added.

India is also addressing the issue of LGBTQ suicide by the cooperation between The Humsafar Trust’s Umang and Yaariyan groups with other leading LGBTQ groups, Outlook India reported.

The Acceptance Meet was held on Aug. 15 to deal with the issue. Iyer and Human Rights specialist Aparna Joshi were among a panel discussion which addressed the topic. This annual event brings LGBTQ individuals, family, friends, colleagues and allies together in a non-judgmental environment. This year’s theme was “Every life matters.”

The aim for the gathering is to “pave the way for acceptance and rational attitudes toward Indian LGBTQ, particularly the youth,” Outlook India added. info: nbcnews.com. outlookindia.com.

Nyle DiMarco, a hearing impaired, sexuallyfluid model and actor, is teaching the world how to use American Sign Language to stand up against Donald Trump by signing the phrase “Impeach Trump.” info: queerty.com.

Salon explored what it meant to be an LGBTQ individual and a Zionist in America today. info: salon.com.

NBC News reported that 16 LGBTQ Latin American refugees from Central America formed a caravan while seeking asylum in the U.S. info: nbcnews.com.

The Justice Department has been ordered to release 1950’s-era “gay purge” documents. info: lgbtqnation.com.

The United Methodist Church has appointed a transgender individual to a deaconship. info: washingtonpost.com.

Slate reported that there is not enough knowledge about LGBTQ health and that a new study might change that. info: slate.com.

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Election 2017

Charlotte mayoral primary preview With a hotly contested Democratic primary, the results of the Sept. 12 election are closely watched

by Jeff Taylor :: qnotes staff

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harlotte Mayor Jennifer Roberts has found herself serving her first term in one of the most turbulent times for Charlotte, N.C. As she seeks re-election, she is finding herself fending off serious challengers who hope the political moment, turbulent as it has been, is right to convince citizens that the Queen City needs a new leader.

There was the battle between Charlotte and the North Carolina General Assembly (NCGA) over the city’s non-discrimination ordinance and the resulting House Bill 2 (HB2), one of the most anti-LGBTQ laws in the country. It’s a battle that continues, in fact, with the so-called “compromise” House Bill 142 (HB142) leaving anti-LGBTQ discrimination as the law of the land.

The city was further rocked by the police shooting death of Keith Lamont Scott, and the subsequent protests that resulted in instances of police escalation, violence, property damage, and ultimately the calling in of the National Guard.

Charlotte has also been at the center of concerns over the Trump administration’s crackdown on the immigrant population.

In advance of the Sept. 12 primary, here is what voters need to know about the candidates, and where they stand on these key issues.

The Democrats It is likely that whoever wins the Democratic primary will go on to win the general election, to be held on Nov. 7.

Democrats make up nearly half of the city’s voters, outnumbering Republicans 2-1. The competition on the Democratic side is stiffer, presumably in no small part for that very reason.

Mayor Jennifer Roberts Roberts has both the good fortune and is in the unenviable position of having name recognition and experience in the role of Charlotte mayor.

She was a staunch supporter of LGBTQ rights and fought against the compromise attempts coming from the NCGA. But then Charlotte City Council finally did fold under the pressure, after Roberts agreed to hold a vote that resulted in a repeal of the already nullified ordinance in hopes of getting a repeal of HB2 in return.

What they wound up with was a deal Roberts has criticized, breaking with the city’s own statement, as it prevents cities from passing non-discrimination ordinances until 2020.

Further, it permanently prohibits them from passing ordinances or regulations impacting the use of multi-stall bathrooms in places of public accommodation.

“I am deeply disappointed that the Republican leaders in the General Assembly continue to see LGBT people as unequal and refuse to let cities like Charlotte govern themselves,” Roberts said of the move agreed to by Gov. Roy Cooper.

She was criticized by both sides for her handling of the nondiscrimination vs. HB2/HB142 debate, and was likewise met with unhappy constituents on both sides of the political spectrum over the Keith Lamont Scott police shooting death and subsequent response by the city.

Roberts seemed to try to split the difference throughout the ordeal, sometimes siding with the city and Charlotte Mecklenburg Police Chief Kerr Putney, and at other times criticizing a lack of transparency.

As for the immigration issue, she has painted herself as an ally of the immigrant population, criticizing a deportation program she helped bring to the city during her tenure as a Mecklenburg commissioner. The controversial 287(g) program, allowsthe sherriff’s office to work with Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) in order to determine if someone is in the country illegally, and then, if that is the case, to hold them until the federal government decides whether they can stay or if they should be deported. Most cities do not participate in these programs.

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If there is any phrase to best sum up Mayor Roberts, perhaps it is this: imperfect ally.

Mayor Pro Tem Vi Lyles The Charlotte City Councilmember and Mayor Pro Tem is one of two top contenders challenging Roberts.

Unfortunately for Lyles, she hasn’t done much to separate herself from the pack. As careful a politician as Roberts is, Lyles is even more cautious.

She was also even more eager to compromise over the non-discrimination ordinance, meeting with Republican members of the NCGA to discuss options, along with her city council colleagues: Republican Charlotte Council members Ed Driggs and Kenny Smith and fellow Democrat James Mitchell. Those in the LGBTQ community with long memories are not likely to reward her for that move.

Along with the rest of the City Council, minus Roberts, she signed on to a letter of support for Putney, .

Her tendency not to want to say too much was on perfect display during a debate in June when she was asked about immigration and so-called “sanctuary cities” providing shelter to undocumented individuals.

“I would say when you’re in these kinds of forums, your language really needs to be very precise,” Lyles said, according to Charlotte public radio station WFAE, “because sanctuary cities are not really defined anywhere. So we can’t be something that we don’t know what it is.”

Lyles said the city needed to be a “welcoming city” without violating federal or state laws.

Sen. Joel Ford Sen. Joel Ford is the most rightleaning in the primary of all the Democratic candidates. He was a strong advocate for compromise on the non-discrimination ordinance to secure an HB2 repeal, suggesting that we could circle back around to protecting transgender citizens.

That is likely to alienate the LGBTQ community even more than Lyles and Roberts managed to do with their own willingness to back down.

He has also failed to take criticism well, responding to former qnotes editor Matt Comer on Twitter with a GIF of a defecating dog after Comer criticized his stance on LGBTQ issues. Ford has since apologized for the tweet, which he called “inappropriate.” He also met with Comer, who reported that Ford is still resistant to a fully inclusive non-discrimination ordinance offering protections to transgender people who wish to use the bathrooms matching their gender identity.

If Ford can beat out Roberts, the LGBTQ community will have an even more imperfect ally leading our city.

Lucille Puckett Lucille Puckett has experience serving on Charlotte’s Housing Authority, and has previously run, unsuccessfully, for Charlotte mayor and the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Schools (CMS) Board of Education.

She attributed her current campaign in part to due to having lost a son because of gun violence. She filed to run just before the deadline and participated in the June debate.

Constance Partee Johnson Johnson also filed right before the cutoff, and just in time to participate in the June debate. Johnson called for “more compassion, more unity, more understanding,” and has previously unsuccessfully run for state senator, chair of the state Democratic party, and a position on city council in Salisbury, N.C. When she lost in Salisbury, she made headlines for comments she posted to Facebook that were anything but unifying.

“So a little Jewish candidate tried to lower my power by offering me some cash to pretend to be my sugar daddy, citing that it was personal money,” Johnson wrote. “I took it, beat the crap out of him at the next debate, and he told everybody I stole his car signs and he wanted his money back. I have never stolen anything in my life and never return gifts from cheap men.”

That statement alone, as well as the hastily organized run, makes her an even longer shot than Johnson.

The Republicans Kenny Smith Charlotte City Council member Kenny Smith is the big name running on the Republican side. He will likely take the primary, but faces an uphill battle after that, as the city hasn’t elected a Republican mayor since Pat McCrory.

Smith voted against the nondiscrimination ordinance, and was one of the loudest voices in trying to get it repealed.

While Ford would be a step in the wrong direction on LGBTQ rights, Smith would be a leap in that direction.

Kimberley Barnette Former magistrate Kimberley Barnette told Ballotpedia her main concern was seeing the completion of the “Lynx rail transportation system around the city.” She ranked civil rights as 10th on her list of most important issues, two spots behind “City services (trash, utilities, etc.).”

Barnette also said she thinks the state should set the minimum wage, and not cities. North Carolina’s minimum wage matches the federal minimum wage of $7.25.

Gary Dunn Gary Dunn has twice unsuccessfully run for governor: as a Republican in 1992, and as a Democrat, in 2012.

He said of marriage equality in 2012: “The moral or religious question is not the one for the office of the governor, as the office of governor and my position is to support and maintain the forum that allows the discussion and debate of the issue, not pick a side on this issue. Making it a personal agenda is reserved for those it affects monetarily, morally and religiously. If that is the only reason besides intolerance, then the money issue should be addressed separately from the religious, or moral. I am not the flag carrier in the cause, but will defend to the death their right to equality, under the law.” : : — Lucille Puckett photo courtesy of The Charlotte Observer.

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‘Gayborhoods’ offer LGBTQ-friendly fun Inside Plaza Midwood, NoDa and SouthEnd

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he city of Charlotte stands out in the state as not only its most populated place, but also one of the most liberal and LGBTQ-friendly. A queer visitor can find places aplenty for food and fun here in Charlotte, but locals’ loyalty lies with unofficial “gayborhoods” like Plaza Midwood, NoDa and SouthEnd. Plaza Midwood

events. Another nightlife staple is the Common Market on Commonwealth Ave., whose website labels itself “your neighborhood living room.” Relax on its two outdoor patios for craft beer, wine, local music and an absolutely mouth-watering deli.

Every dining fare imaginable lies within Plaza Midwood, from Midwood Smokehouse’s inimitable barbeque to the classic Diamond diner and Zada Jane’s imaginative delicacies. After a meal, stroll through the countless shops offering everything from vintage clothing and antiques to body piercings from SADU (this writer’s personal favorite place to punch a new hole in her face).

SouthEnd

NoDa

SouthEnd sits right on the Lynx Blueline with restaurants, bars and apartments and condos running along its track.

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Plaza Midwood is a blend of eclectic shops and food options and is blossoming with new apartments and condos throughout the neighborhood.

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The Plaza Midwood area centers on the intersection of The Plaza and Central Ave., just two miles from Uptown Charlotte.

According to a report released by the Census Bureau in 2016, the 28205 zip code — containing most of Plaza Midwood and NoDa — has the highest number of same-sex households of any other area in both North and South Carolina.

Plaza Midwood veteran Penny Craver, owner of Dish restaurant on Thomas St., has been a loyal resident and business owner in the neighborhood for decades. Having lived nearby since the 1980s, Craver said that opening Dish there in 2002 was a natural choice.

“A lot of the members of the arts and entertainment community…lived in the neighborhood and it just made a lot of sense,” Craver told qnotes. “I think it is known as an LGBTQ hotspot because our people are an integral part of the fabric of the neighborhood, both as business owners and clientele.”

In the 15 years since Dish became a neighborhood cornerstone, the Plaza Midwood area has virtually exploded with popularity and new development. Lively from dawn to dusk, as well as into the evening, the neighborhood offers food, shopping and nightlife in abundance.

“You have quaint and interesting shops, great restaurants at reasonable prices, an interesting mix of people and a healthy nightlife,” Craver said. “Petra’s as well as Snug Harbor have provided outlets for all types of entertainment included those acts geared towards the LGBTQ community.”

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NoDa, chiseled out of an industrial neighborhood, has now become an artsy and trendy place with shops, nightlife and more.

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Close by lies NoDa, an abbreviation for the neighborhood’s main street, North Davidson. Originally known as the city’s arts district, the area’s focus has shifted from galleries to nightlife.

Sink your teeth into the amazing burgers at Jack Beagle’s, stop for a drink at Solstice Tavern or purchase smoking accessories and classic posters at Sunshine Daydreams.

One signature spot in NoDa is Smelly Cat Coffee, a café and ethically-sourced coffee roaster found on 36th St. Named after the iconic song from 1990’s TV classic “Friends,” the café is an eclectic haven for many visitors and regulars. Former Smelly Cat barista Avalon Hannibal says that the neighborhood has always been attractive to those who don’t quite fit the mold.

“It’s a hotspot for artists or the different in general,” Hannibal told qnotes. “Everyone planted in that neighborhood is colorful and enthusiastic about those of a different kind.”

It’s this inclusive quality that most draws LGBTQ people to the neighborhood, Hannibal says. Her own experiences there paint a picture of a community of people who cooperate and support one another.

“I’ve definitely experienced warmer welcomes in NoDa as opposed to most places,” she said. “What I used to enjoy most when I worked there, and basically lived there, was the sense of community. Bartering was a big thing between businesses and everyone is supportive of each other in their endeavors.”

Following NoDa’s namesake street through town, on the other side of Uptown lies another of Charlotte’s best-known gayborhoods. SouthEnd centers on South Blvd. and has long given the local LGBTQ community a home. New developments continuously alter the neighborhood’s surface, but despite the addition of condos and shops, one LGBTQ landmark has remained.

The Bar at 316 stands on Rensselaer Ave. in a two-story house converted into a uniquely comfortable nightlife scene. The house was previously the site of another gay bar, Liaisons, which first opened its doors in 1989.

“The address 316 Rensselaer has long been a historical landmark for our LGBTQ community,” Co-owner and Manager Kolby Brinkley told qnotes. “The South End area has been home to queer nightlife, bars and restaurants dating back several decades.”

Brinkley and his partner, Jeff Edwards, have expanded their commitment to the neighborhood by opening another LGBTQ venue; Boulevard 1820 on South Blvd. is the city’s first drag dining restaurant “[Boulevard 1820] will have nightly shows and entertainment plus fabulous food,” Brinkley said. “We love giving back to the community and creating ways for everyone to celebrate and be proud of who we are. Boulevard 1820 will further highlight this by having entrées and food named after many legends in our drag community over the years.”

Past, present and future The years have been kind to Charlotte’s LGBTQ community, as the growth of the city’s gayborhoods attests. For a queer visitor to the Queen City, these neighborhoods offer a fun time — but more than that, they represent our history and progress.

“I think it is important that we hold on to these local neighborhoods as part of our LGBTQ and Drag history in the Queen City,” Brinkley said. “Our history is the reason why we should be proud and we must never forget it.” : :

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or many students, arriving at college is a first taste of independence. Upon graduation, students are thrust into the adult world with little more than a degree to help them move forward. Administrators at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte (UNCC) weren’t satisfied with that, so the school’s alumni association was founded.

Now, university leaders are developing another group to assist their graduating students: an LGBTQ Alumni Association.

Campus leaders like UNCC Assistant Director for Sexual & Gender Diversity Joshua Burford and Student Affairs Leadership Gift Officer Drema Craft are working to organize the LGBTQ board to address the needs of these vulnerable graduates.

“Many students hope their experience after high school will allow for a better experience based on their identity,” Craft told qnotes. “As an institution, we must create a climate for LGBTQ students to have a feeling of inclusion and safety.”

This goal may be a long-term one, but building a community organization to strive for it is the first step. However, the association’s success depends on its members — alumni who are driven to improve their alma mater and make it a more welcoming place than it may have been for them.

“Queer and trans graduates feel disconnected from campus life because their experiences are so different,” Burford told qnotes. “Many have negative experiences, and others merely finish and move on.”

The alumni who move on are the ones the university and its students most need to get involved, Burford says. By engaging past students in leadership roles, LGBTQ alumni are able to make a positive impact on the campus environment for future queer students — as well as gain access to resources that can benefit students’ transition to professional life.

“Visibility will be crucial to this for certain, as well as identifying the skills that our graduates possess,” Burford said. “An engaged group of current and past students can be a catalyst for change in Charlotte by pulling together knowledge and resources in ways never before imagined.”

Pulling together resources for the project is where Craft comes in. She raises funds for student and alumni organizations and events at UNCC. This, of course, includes the ever-growing efforts to support the school’s LGBTQ community.

“Not only am I an ally of the LGBTQ community, but in my role I support their efforts as an advocate for funds to operate and continue to award scholarships to LGBTQ students each year,” Craft said. “[Also] events held for students and alumni, and discretionary support for LGBTQ activities on campus and students in need.”

The alumni board consists of members appointed for two years, and the executive director of the LGBTQ alumni board sits on that of the university. Meeting at least twice yearly, the board manages the direction of efforts to serve UNCC

see UNCC Alumni on 13 University of North Carolina at Charlotte Student Affairs Leadership Gift Officer Drema Craft embraces her work with the university’s alumni association.

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Arts Actor’s Theatre of Charlotte atcharlotte.org.

Big Mammas House of Burlesque bigmammasproductions.com.

Charlotte Pride Band charlotteprideband.org.

GayCharlotte Film Festival charlottelgbtfilm.com.

Advocacy

Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte gmccharlotte.org.

ACLU of North Carolina acluofnorthcarolina.org.

One Voice Chorus onevoicechorus.com.

Campus Pride 704-277-6710 campuspride.org.

Queen City Theatre Company queencitytheatre.com.

StillOut LGBT Photography Club stillout.org.

Charlotte LGBT Chamber of Commerce clgbtcc.org.

Affinity Groups

Elder Law Clinic at Wake Forest University elder-clinic.law.wfu.edu.

Equality North Carolina equalitync.org.

HRC Carolina hrccarolina.org Mecklenburg Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Political Action Committee (MeckPAC) meckpac.org.

North Carolina Gay and Lesbian Attorneys 919-834-6861 ncgala.org.

North Carolina Transgender Unity nctgunity.org.

The Freedom Center for Social Justice fcsj.org.

Safe Schools NC safeschoolsnc.com.

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Bank of America Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Employee Network Group tracy.d.boyce@ bankofamerica.com LGBT Pride Resource Group kelly.e.sapp @bankofamerica.com Duke Energy We Are One for LGBT Equality (WeR1) ERG_WeR1 @duke-energy.com duke-energy.com/diversity/ ergs.asp.

IBM Eagle home.earthlink. net/~eagleibm.

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Wells Fargo PRIDE Team Member Network wellsfargo.com.

Media Creative Loafing clclt.com.

Charlotte Observer charlotteobserver.com.

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Visit Gay Charlotte visitgaycharlotte.com.

Faith Caldwell Presbyterian Church 1609 E. Fifth St. Charlotte, NC 28204 704-334-0825 caldwellpresby.org.

Charlotte Atheists and Agnostics charlotteatheists.com First United Methodist Church 501 N. Tryon St. Charlotte, NC 28202 704-333-9081 charlottefirst.org.

Havurat Tikvah 2821 Park Rd. Charlotte, NC 28209 980-225-5330 havurattikvah.org.

Holy Covenant United Church of Christ 3501 W. WT Harris Blvd.

Charlotte, NC 28269 704-599-9810 holycovenantucc.org.

Holy Trinity Lutheran Church 1900 The Plaza Charlotte, NC 28205 704-377-5439 htlccharlotte.org.

Interfaith Equality Coalition facebook.com/ InterfaithEqualityCoalition.

MeckMin 3900 Park Rd. Charlotte, NC 28209 704-565-5455 meckmin.org.

MCC Charlotte 17121 Orr Rd. Charlotte, NC 28213 704-563-5810 mymcccharlotte.org.

Myers Park Baptist Church 1900 Queens Rd. Charlotte, NC 28207 704-334-7232 mpbconline.org.

New Life MCC 1900 The Plaza Charlotte, NC 28205 704-334-0350 newlifemcc@bellsouthnet newlifemccnc.org.

Park Road Baptist Church 3900 Park Rd. Charlotte, NC 28209 704-523-5717 parkroadbaptist.org.

Piedmont Unitarian Universalist Church 9704 Mallard Creek Rd. Charlotte, NC 28262 704-510-0008 puuc.org.

ReBirth Cathedral 2229 Village Lake Dr. Charlotte, NC 28212 980-819-2636 rebirthcathedral.org.

Seigle Avenue Presbyterian Church 600 Seigle Ave. Charlotte, NC 28204 704-338-1914 seigleavenue.org.

Sacred Souls Community Church 2127 Eastway Dr. Charlotte, NC 28205 980-237-0260 sacredsoulschurch.org.

St. John’s Baptist Church 300 Hawthorne Ln. Charlotte, NC 28204 704-333-5428

stjohnsbaptistchurch.org.

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church 1510 E. 7th St. Charlotte, NC 28204 704-376-8441 stmartins-charlotte.org.

St. Peter’s Catholic Church 507 S. Tryon St. Charlotte, NC 28202 704-332-2901 stpeterscatholic.org/index. php/community-outreach/ gaylesbian-ministry.

St. Peter’s Episcopal Church 115 W. 7th St. Charlotte, NC 28202 704-332-7746 web.st-peters.org.

The Spiritual Living Center of Charlotte 650 East Stonewall St. Charlotte, NC 28202 704-665-1886 slccharlotte.com.

Temple Beth El 5101 Providence Rd. Charlotte, NC 28226 704-366-1948 templebethel.org.

Temple Or Olam 5300 Poplar Tent Rd. Concord, NC 28027 704-720-7577 or-olam.org.

Trinity United Church of Christ 38 Church St. N. Concord, NC 28025 704-782-1024 commachurch.com.

Unitarian Universalist Church of Charlotte 234 N. Sharon Amity Rd. Charlotte, NC 28211 704-366-8623 uuccharlotte.org.

Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Lake Norman 135 Woodlawn School Loop Mooresville, NC 28115 704-765-6088 uulakenorman.org.

Unity Fellowship Church 2508 N. Davidson St. Charlotte, NC 28205 704-567-5007 ufccharlottenc.org.

Wedgewood Church 4800 Wedgewood Dr. Charlotte, NC 28210 704-523-6108 wedgewoodchurch.com.

Philanthropy Charlotte Lesbian and Gay Fund 704-973-4500 fftc.org/clgf.

HIV/AIDS Ballantyne Family Medicine 6010 East W.T. Harris Blvd.

Charlotte, NC 28215 704-208-4134 ballantynefamilymedicine.com.

Carolinas Care Partnership 5855 Executive Center Dr. Suite 101 Charlotte, NC 28212 704-531-2467 704-531-2467 carolinascare.org.

Different Roads Home 2320 N. Davidson St. Suite B Charlotte, NC 28205 704-237-8793 differentroadshome.org.

Hearts Beat as One Foundation 888-349-5558 heartsbeatone.org.

House of Mercy 701 Mercy Dr. Belmont, NC 28012 704-825-4711 thehouseofmercy.org.

Mecklenburg County Department of Health 704-336-6500 PowerHouse Project 1416 Beatties Ford Rd. Charlotte, NC 28216 704-334-6076 powerhousecharlotte.org.

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Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN) 601 E. 5th St., Ste. 470 Charlotte, NC 28202 704-372-7246 carolinarain.org.

Rosedale Infectious Disease 103 Commerce Centre Dr. Ste. 103 Huntersville, NC 28078 704-948-8582 rosedaleid.com.

Social & Support Charlotte Black Gay Pride charlotteblackgaypride.org.

Charlotte Latin Pride charlottepride.org/latin.

Charlotte Trans Pride charlottepride.org/trans.

Charlotte LGBT Chamber of Commerce clgbtcc.org.

Charlotte Pride charlottepride.org.

Charlotte Tradesmen charlottetradesmen.org..

Genderlines paige.dula@gmail.com.

PFLAG Charlotte pflagcharlotte.org.

Prime Timers of Charlotte primetimersww.com/ charlotte.

GLoBAL Winthrop University winthrop.edu/studentorgs/ default.aspx?id=6197.

PRISM prismcharlotte.org.

Pride JWU Johnson and Wales University facebook.com/pride.jwu.7.

Queer People of Color Collective queerpoccollective.com.

PRISM LGBT young adults facebook.com/prismcharlotte

Transcend Charlotte transcendcharlotte.org.

Queers & Allies Davidson College davidson.edu/student-life/ multicultural-life/lgbtqacommunity-resources.

Youth African-American Alliance for Gay & Lesbian Education Johnson C. Smith University a3gle.tripod.com.

CPCC Spectrum Club facebook.com/groups/ CPCCSpectrum.

LGBT Legal Society Charlotte School of Law bnicholson@charlottelaw.edu.

LGBTQ Caucus Davidson College gecampbell@davidson.edu.

Gender Equity Center Johnson & Wales University jwu.edu/content. aspx?id=62480.

Queens Friends of Lesbians and Gays qflag.tumblr.com.

Safe Queens University safequeensgsa.wordpress. com.

Spectrum UNC Charlotte unccspectrum.wix.com/ spectrum.

Time Out Youth Center 704-344-8335 timeoutyouth.org.

UNCC Alumni continued from page 11 graduates — now, the needs of LGBTQ graduates are a particular focal point.

“There are social opportunities with brown bag lunches and potlucks throughout the year,” Craft said. “All faculty, staff, students and alumni are invited to attend these events to interact and provide support to one another. This allows for an opportunity to build a social and professional network for LGBTQ and straight allies.”

Networking is a powerful tool for any professional, but especially so for a population that faces outright discrimination and even violence. A queer person arriving for a job interview could feel a little less apprehensive if associates have shared their own positive experiences with a certain employer.

Providing a space to make professional contacts with similar people gives alumni an extra edge they might have missed if they were going it alone in a challenging — but changing — world. Craft said that the momentum towards

acceptance of the LGBTQ community in larger, off-campus society raises hopes for the success of improving university inclusiveness.

“While there is still discrimination and harassment, there is less overall,” said Craft.

“As society is slowing changing, awakening, so are universities and colleges.”

Burford, Craft and the UNCC LGBTQ Alumni Association organizers want to contribute to this awakening. It all starts with making connections, and demonstrating to alumni that their input is a key tool to make a difference.

“It is important to connect with this population because their input about life on campus, their knowledge as professionals, can help us engage LGBTQ undergraduates in various ways,” Burford said. “The goals are to create an engaged alumni in order to support the continued work of making UNCC an affirming and empowering space for queer and trans individuals.” : :

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February Human Rights Campaign Carolina Gala hrccarolina.org.

An annual black-tie fundraising event, the largest of its kind in the Carolinas.

April Gay Charlotte Film Festival gaycharlottefilmfestival.com.

An annual festival of established and up-and-coming LGBTQ films.

House of Mercy AIDS Walk thehouseofmercy.org.

Hosted annually in downtown Belmont, this fundraiser provides support for House of Mercy’s clients.

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Pride in Business Expo & Career Fair clgbtcc.org.

Charlotte LGBT Chamber of Commerce hosts a chance to showcase your local business or find new career opportunities.

May The Happening fftc.org/clgf.

Annual Charlotte Gay and Lesbian Fund luncheon.

Forté! gmccharlotte.org.

A fundraising dinner for the Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte.

Queen City Drag Race queencitydragrace.com.

Local drag stars perform at this annual team relay drag race.

RAIN AIDS Walk carolinarain.org.

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ness and fundraising event is the largest of its kind in the Carolinas.

Speed Street 600festival.com.

Uptown Charlotte is transformed by this celebration of motor sports featuring endless entertainment on two stages and countless vendors.

Queen City Stomp (on hiatus) southerncountrycharlotte. com.

Organized by Southern Country Charlotte. An an annual country dance hoedown weekend festival benefiting various LGBT organizations in Charlotte.

June Taste of Charlotte tasteofcharlotte.com.

This foodie’s heaven event features a sampling of local culinary arts in Uptown Charlotte.

Time Out Youth Gala timeoutyouth.org.

An evening of music, food and fun benefiting Time Out Youth.

bands, organizations, businesses, arts groups, politicians and more that march down Tryon St. in Uptown Charlotte.

UNC Charlotte’s annual LGBTQ speaker series.

July Charlotte Black Gay Pride cbgp.org.

Annual event celebrating the diversity of the LGBT community. Pride festivities, expos, town halls and events.

Flourish Queer Arts Consortium queerartsconsortium.com.

A “Festival within a festival,” Flourish showcases Charlotte’s rich LGBTQ arts and cultural community during Charlotte Pride.

Dinner With Friends carolinarain.org/dinnerwithfriends.

An annual collection of private and public parties raising funds for the Regional AIDS Interfaith Network.

August Charlotte Pride charlottepride.org.

Charlotte’s annual Pride festival takes Uptown Charlotte by storm. Latin Pride and Trans Pride (programs of Charlotte Pride) are also part of the annual event and have their own separate programming in addition to participating during the festival’s celebration.

Bank of America Charlotte Pride Parade charlottepride.org/parade.

Community-wide event with

LGBT-Friendly College Fair campuspride.org.

Campus Pride hosts its regional LGBTQ-Friendly National College Fair in Charlotte.

September Festival in the Park festivalinthepark.org.

Charlotte’s annual arts festival overtakes Freedom Park.

October OUTSpoken outspoken.uncc.edu.

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took a vacation with my girlfriend, Rachel, to her hometown of Cleveland, Ohio right at the time I started hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Rachel has been a wonderful place of support during all this. She and I communicate a lot and it’s what makes our partnership so strong.

We met last summer, and it was only a couple weeks in that I told her about what I was planning to do with my life and what it would mean for us to be a couple, that she would be dating a man actively transitioning into a woman. By then I’d figured out how to make a difficult conversation routine. Until beginning transitioning, I never shared this aspect of myself with anyone except relationship partners. Out of respect for the person I’m attracted to, it’s only fair for them to know the direction my life is headed.

I used to start with sharing that I’m “a person living with dysphoria and still figuring out what that means.” I chose not to adopt labels until recently, having started transitioning. I tried to be detailed about my side, but also give the other person every chance to express their feelings, and always heard them out. I’d give the opportunity to ask any questions they have, and respond as openly as possible. If I don’t know something, I’d answer, “I don’t know, but I’ll let you know if that changes.”

Rachel was inquisitive and got to know me better through this. Because we shared this early, our relationship had a stronger foundation. She was supportive in helping me find a great insurance plan, which was a huge quality-of-life improvement.

The best plan we came up with was that she would go as quickly as she could, if I could go as slowly as I could.

As we explored Rachel’s city of origin, I couldn’t help but think on the relationships I’ve built, and how I would approach telling people about changing my reflection. It was a new experience, sharing this side of myself with strangers.

I start with sharing my name, that I’m a transwoman, that people are free to ask questions, and that if there are no questions then there’s no need to discuss it further. This seems to make people more comfortable as they get the bare details necessary to interact, the conversation isn’t really forced on anyone, and the door is open should people want to know more.

Relationships between myself and some family members have been toxic throughout my life. My family is pretty scattered for various reasons. I recognize that it’s healthy for me to sever toxic relationships rather than nurture something that would impact my life negatively.

In telling family about transitioning, I do so out of obligation. I feel a sense of neutrality about how they react. I told my older brother and sisterin-law, whom I hadn’t seen in years. We were at a park, with plans to go to dinner together. I said I had big news (a terrible thing to say to family when standing next to your partner).

The revelation went smoothly. By the time we got to the restaurant, they had told their children, my nephews and niece.

My sister-in-law reacted with excitement in a doting, cute kind of way, while my brother reacted with neutral indifference. To him, our relationship overcomes the skin I live in, and that realization has made it easier to reconnect.

I’ve had to tell friends I hadn’t seen in a long time, and sometimes they’ve understandably been a little weirded out. I get as a member of less than half a percent of the population, that being trans isn’t the norm. I see a propensity in the world

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to lash out in offense when people trip up, make mistakes, or don’t know how to act.

In my view, it’s not fair that the conversation should be treated like minefield, with the smallest misstep unleashing an explosion of words on how wrong they are. As I share this with the world, my goal is to build a bridge of neutrality between those who aren’t familiar with what I’m going through, and those who are. As I interact and share this experience with my partner, with friends, with family, and in day-to-day life, I do my best to educate and to remain neutral.

Being yourself doesn’t need validation or approval :) Cheers! : :

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Another common symptom of these infections is itching.

Thankfully, over-the-counter products are often sufficient for treatment.

Common products like Lamisil, Lotrimin Ultra, miconazole, and Tinactin can be used to treat some of these infections. The length of treatment may vary, but is typically four weeks, depending upon the product and the location of the infection. Hydrocortisone or other agents can be used to help with the itching. Feel free to consult your pharmacist if you have any questions, or if you would like a recommendation. Pharmacists are a great resource and are always willing to help.

Fungi thrive in moist environments. People may be at a higher risk if they have wet skin, such as from sweating, for a long period of time. Other risk factors include minor cuts or nail injuries, not showering or washing hair often enough, or sports such as wrestling where people come into close contact. Some ways to decrease the risk of these infections are to wear shower shoes when using public showers, avoid going barefoot in locker rooms, and avoid sitting in sweaty clothing for long periods of time. Using a new towel or washcloth each time you bathe will help prevent the spread of these fungal infections. Re-infection is common with jock itch and athlete’s foot. Using a drying powder may help to prevent this. Also, remember that pets can be carriers, so be sure your pet is washed when recommended.

Early detection is key.

If left untreated, the skin can also become infected by bacteria when too much scratching of the skin occurs. As with any other skin-related condition, be sure to monitor your skin for any changes. When self-treating a tinea infection, be sure to contact your pharmacist or doctor if the infection does not improve or resolve within four weeks. This may be a sign of a more complicated infection. Practicing proper hygiene and having an increased awareness of these infections can help prevent them from occurring.

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by Trinity :: qnotes contributor :: trinity@telltrinity.com

Threesome Relationships: Are they really possible?

Dear Trinity, I recently read your comments on threesome relationships, and you seem to defend them.

Now, really Trinity, aren’t threesome relationships guaranteed scenarios for trouble, jealousy and eventual failure?

Three’s Troubles, Albany, NY Dear Three’s Troubles, Now, really, isn’t it true that relationships between two people also have troubles, jealousy and failures? If you talk to threesome “couples,” which you probably haven’t, then you’d find that their troubles are not very different from those of “conventional” couples? Many that I’ve talked to say, “There are benefits, like always having someone around who’s willing to do the chores that the others won’t, there’s always someone to hang out with, bills are always cheaper and there’s always someone in the mood to have sex!” Oh, and by the way, pumpkin, aren’t two scoops of Ben and Jerry’s so much more delicious than just one?

Hey Trinity, I’m dating a guy who likes to do drugs, “crystal methane” to be exact. It makes him crazy sometimes, but other times he’s great. Am I crazy for dating him?

Crystal Crazed, Boston, MA

Hey Crystal Crazed, “Crystal,” a.k.a. “Tina,” not only takes your happy cells away, but also very often leads to the onset of mental illness issues. I’m also finding that most people who enjoy crystal today become committed to a life of antidepressants tomorrow. So if you decide to continue dating him, which I can’t understand why you would, then try getting him interested in healthier options or recovery or, darling, start buying your roller coaster tickets in bulk!

Good luck.

Hello Trinity, When I first met my partner, we used to have very romantic times together. Now after four years, I can barely keep his attention, and I used to get lots of that. We both love each other, but I can tell he’s bored. Is it him, me or us? What can I do?

Unnoticed, Indianapolis, IN Hello Unnoticed, Whether it’s him, you or the both of you, many couples get less sexual as time goes on; people do too. That’s life! Most “successful” couples face this issue at least a few times throughout their relationship. You’re not alone, honey, at least on this issue. Instead of wasting time thinking about how it was, start taking action

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with romantic evenings, wine with dinner, early nights to bed and smart getaways. And if that doesn’t work, try a romantic day… at the therapist’s office! (Oh, let the angst begin? I dare not think so. Take a look at my cartoon to see how I cope with this kind of dilemma. Or not.

Dearest Trinity, I love dating and meeting new people, but I can’t seem to hold on to a date. Even worse is getting dumped each time. Why do nice guys always get dumped?

Constantly Dumped, Louisville, KY Dearest Constantly Dumped, There are many reasons why you’re getting dumped. Besides asking friends to “tell you the truth” about what may be causing this, sweetie, try memorizing: Trinity’s Eye-Opening Reasons You Keep Getting Dumped 1. You try too hard to be liked by being too pushy, too needy, too willing and/or too aggressive!

2. You’re unable to let someone else be right, be quiet, prove you’re wrong, disagree with your opinion or have an opinion of their own!

3. You’re a slob at home and in public, with no manners and nothing kind to say about anyone.

4. You’re a rageaholic, alcoholic, drugaholic, sexaholic and/or jealousaholic.

5. Y ou’re selfish, inconsistent and non-committal! In other words you’re still a child.

6. Y ou date losers because you think you’re a loser!

7. Your idea of a good night out is a boring night at home watching TV! 8. Y ou don’t stay focused on your date because you’re too busy looking at or “cruising” every “thing” that walks by.

9. You keep dating tourists who only visit for a week at a time.

10. L astly, you act too tough, too self-assured, too upper class and/or too macho when you really just need to act humble! : : info: With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama performed globally, and is now minister of sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings, wigministries.org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.

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August-September 2017 Pride Takeover at Craft City Social Club 555 S. McDowell St., Charlotte 7-11 p.m.

Takeover Friday hosts a Pride takeover event at the Craft City Social Club, inside the Sheraton Hotel. It will be a night of music, fun, and fellowship. There will be no cover entry to get into the event. More information is available online. facebook.com/events/1215299568506241.

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‘Edge of Summer’ White Affair Fashion SEP AUG MO Show & Tea Dance Freedom Factory 200 E. 36th St., Charlotte 3 p.m.

Hot Fudge Sundays! are the last Sunday of every month.

Featuring the DJs, guest speakers and special dress themes. August’s theme is “Edge of Summer” White Affair Fashion Show & Tea Dance! Wear summer whites with a splash of orange. Contributions from events go to the Avon 39 Breast Cancer Campaign and Charlotte Black Gay Pride. For more information, call 704-315-1388. squareup.com/store/jdeppncevents.

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The second annual Burke Pride will once again celebrate the LGBTQ and ally community, promoting acceptance and fellowship. This is a family friendly event. More information is available online. facebook.com/events/1277864348969848.

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Continues through Oct. 1 SEP SEP MO ‘The Christians’ Booth Playhouse 130 N. Tryon St., Charlotte Times vary 2017 Pridepalooza SEP SEP MO What do you believe? Why do you believe it? And what Club Cabaret would you sacrifice for those beliefs? Those questions 101 N. Center St., Hickory drive the provoca4 p.m. tive play of the North Carolina premiere of ‘The Christians,’ presented by the Hickory’s pride celebration returns, with vendors, fun, entertainment and fun for the whole family. Club Playworks Group LLC Cabaret will provide a hub for the events, which will in association with The Pine Hill Project, after productions in multiple cities a performance by special guest comic, musician, around the country. Tickets are $15-45. Senior/student/ and actor Sandra Valls. More information is availgroup discounts are available. able online. blumenthalarts.org/events/detail/the-christians. facebook.com/events/1215299568506241. thechristiansonstage.com.

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Potions & Pixels SEP SEP MO Petra’s 1919 Commonwealth Ave., Charlotte 7 p.m.-12 a.m.

Charlotte’s gamer night, featuring a wide variety of video games and board games various decades, returns to Petra’s. Those of all skill levels are invited. The cost is $5 for five hours of gaming.

More information is available online. facebook.com/events/353591431729882.

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Catawba Valley Pride returns. Food, fun and community will be shared in this free, kidfriendly event. It will also feature what the organization terms the “world’s shortest Pride parade.”

Vendor and non-profit applications are being accepted for the event at bit.ly/2tALPJo. Vendor cost is $50 and non-profit space can be secured at $25. More information is available online. catawbavalleypride.org.

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NC Pride at Night returns with street festivals in both Raleigh and Durham. There will be food, vendors, entertainment and more for this event open to all LGBTQ individuals and allies. More information is available online. ncpride.org.

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by Buff Faye :: qnotes contributor :: info@bufffaye.com

Drag queen story time?

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over. Nevertheless, we cannot be careless and reckless with how we approach anything we do.

This gets to my final point and my largest concern surrounding the safety of transgender people in our community. Every time there are negative stories like this, especially those not involving a transgender person, but provoking the radical religious fanatics, we put transgender young people and their lives at risk. This was not a story that had to be negative. Many coffee houses and restaurants would have gladly held a story time for children with drag queens month after month. There would have been a great crowd, and you could’ve used those experiences to share with the public library as you went through the process to hold an event there. But instead approaching the public library, and then broadcasting to media outlets that you were “denied,” only created a false narrative and stoked the flames of hate mongers and bigots.

This story became a national headline and reinforced Charlotte’s as an unsafe place. It could have played out in the media far worse. It was a dangerous situation with online comments, photos and posts about the drag queen in question and about all Charlotte drag queens in general. Many could have been harmed, especially transgender youth who take the brunt of this harassment daily.

Luckily, just like a children’s book, this story did have a happy ending. Common Market did hold the event and there was a positive outcome. I am very happy about that.

As a Charlotte drag queen, I take great pride in what many queens before me created for us today in the Queen City. It is special and demands we do better.

Please know that I am not assigning blame here. I am just trying to get us all as drag queens to think through what we do and the repercussions before we do it.

Drag queens have tremendous power and with that comes tremendous responsibility in how we use that power. I was really concerned about what could’ve happened with the escalation of the hate and how that might spill over in impacting LGBTQ young people.

Let the reading continue. I want to see drag queen story time happen more and with more drag queens, representing the diversity of our drag queen community. And don’t give up on the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Public Library. Go through the process. In the meantime, read wherever and whenever you can. : :

DRAG TIP: Google your name every once in awhile and see what comes up. You might be surprised and want to delete a photo or two.

— Buff Faye calls the Queen City home and is a best-selling author of six books (plus she loves to raise money for charities). Find her at your favorite bars and hotspots. Plus don’t forget her monthly Friday & Saturday night shows, Sunday drag brunch and regular Friday night party bus. Learn more at AllBuff.com.

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eading is fundamental. The last few weeks, there seems to be a lot of talk about reading children’s stories. Who knew? And seemingly, some controversy was stirred up and lots of media attention ensued. Drama.

There’s nothing wrong with some thoughtprovoking controversy. I applaud it actually.

However, we must also think about how unnecessary drama impacts our broader LGBTQ community. And to be specific, whether we have thought it out beyond our names being in the media headlines.

I am not going to question motives or authenticity. But let’s take a moment to talk about our approach to what we choose to do as drag queens, especially as cisgender men who are drag queens.

Put plainly, we as cisgender men have tremendous privilege as drag queens. We do not live our lives as transgender women, nor do we face the discrimination, harassment and violence that transgender people face in their daily existence.

I personally believe this should always be at the forefront of what we do and how we choose to take actions publicly.

Drag queen story time is an awesome idea and it can happen anywhere. The idea of drag queens reading to kids is magical and heartwarming. But here is the deal. Before you scream foul, I think a drag queen should build momentum for the idea and do the story time at different coffee houses and venues. Sure, public libraries should be considered as a venue; however, as with all public venues there will be processes.

Saying one was “denied” doing the event because there are rules and a process is not accurate.

Put bluntly, creating controversy over the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Public Library was not the safest or most appropriate way to build an audience. Plus, painting the CharlotteMecklenburg Public Library as against LGBTQ activities like this is not fair. The library has many LGBTQ themed books, activities and supportive functions annually. Don’t cry wolf because there are rules and a process. Follow the procedures and make it happen.

A drag queen should also consider her name and image before asking to read to a children’s audience. Does your brand or who you are fit? If your name is “sexually explicit,” think about how to change or adapt it. If you have photos on your social media of you naked or in bondage, maybe take those down. Not thinking, or ignoring the obvious, is dangerous to our LGBTQ community, especially after HB2 and all the harm that our transgender community has faced recently.

Please do not get me wrong I have no problems with nudity or sexuality. However, if you’re wanting to read to children, I think it is pretty much a no-brainer that this would not work out and would be highly criticized — unless you just wanted the media attention and for the pot to boil

SHOUT OUTS: Exciting news! Charlotte has its first and only drag queen dining restaurant and bar. It opened this week. Check it out at Boulevard1820.net.

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