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The annual NC Pride festivities are going local this year due to a scheduling issue which prompted controversy. page 5

5 NC Pride Preview & Controversy 6 News Notes: Regional Briefs 8 News Notes: U.S./World Briefs

Edith Windsor dies goqnotes.com/53130 Sept. 12

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Modern DragEntertainment Ethics Visual Artists Review: ‘The Christians’ Fall A&E Across Carolinas Bluegrass Inclusion, Diversity Dishing with Buff Faye Changing My Reflection Tell Trinity Q Events Calendar Our People: Charlton Alicea

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4 Letter to the Editor 5 Spiritual Reflections

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Ex-candidate alleges corruption arts. entertainment. news. views. goqnotes.com/53162 Sept. 13

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‘The Christians’ Review

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Performance challenges audience views and creates opportunity to have live dialogue. page 12

Business leader shares how to promote inclusion and diversity through Bluegrass Music. page 20

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Police Beat

Transgender woman Derricka Banner shot and killed in Charlotte She is the second known transgender woman of color to be murdered in Charlotte this year

by Jeff Taylor :: qnotes staff

CHARLOTTE, N.C. —Derricka Banner, 26, was found shot and killed in a vehicle around 3 a.m. on the morning of Sept. 12, in northwest Charlotte.

Banner, who also went by Ms. Bow Bow, is believed to be at least the 20th known transgender person murdered this year in the U.S., most transgender women of color, and the city’s 64th homicide of the year.

Montavious Sanchez Berry, 18, was arrested later that night and is being charged with murder, armed robbery and shooting into an occupied vehicle, the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police said in a statement.

The shooting occurred in the 1400 block of Rosetta St., not far from the Northwest School of the Arts.

Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police spokesman Robert Tufano said Berry and Banner “had communicated on previous occasions.”

A search warrant was released on Sept.

15 that revealed Banner and Berry had communicated via text message to set up a sexual encounter. Berry was the last person Banner texted before being killed, and her phone is said to have contained a video of the two “engaged in sexual activity,” taken 30 minutes prior to the shooting, WBTV reported.

Banner’s friend, another transgender woman, identified only as Tooker, was hiding in the trunk of the car, as Berry told her to come alone. She reported hearing her friend saying, “Don’t point it at me like that,” before hearing two gunshots.

“He’s a coward, he doesn’t know who he is,” Tooker said. “He tried something, didn’t like it, and couldn’t live with it.”

Police said in a statement on Sept. 14 that there has “been no information or evidence gathered at this point of the investigation to indicate” that Banner’s murder was “because of gender identity.” The statement added that CMPD was communicating with the FBI. An FBI spokeswoman in Charlotte said that

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Derricka Banner is believed to be at least the 20th transgender person killed in the U.S. in 2017.

the agency is not involved in the investigation.

As North Carolina’s state hate crime laws do not include protections on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity, the federal government has to bring charges for it to be considered on those grounds.

The murder occurred right before Charlotte hosted NC Trans Pride, where Banner was among those honored and remembered.

A number of national, state and local organizations have also marked Banner’s passing.

“A sad moment for our community. This is why we must continue fighting harder for a

more trans-affirming culture in our local communities,” said MeckPAC. Equality North Carolina noted that transgender people “are facing a national epidemic of violence.”

The Human Rights Campaign extended “its sincere condolences to Banner’s family and friends during this difficult time” in a statement mourning her passing published on its website.

Earlier this year, Sherrell Faulkner, another black transgender woman, died of injuries sustained from an assault that took place in November of 2016. : :

letters to the editor Send your letters (please keep 200 words or less) or guest commentaries (600 words or less) to letters@goqnotes.com. All letters must be signed with your first and last name and your city/state. We do not accept unsigned letters or commentaries.

In response to the article, “Charlotte mayoral candidate wants voters to know she’s white and opposes LGBTQ rights,” published online on Sept. 1 at goqnotes.com/52847.

Go ahead Charlotte and vote Kimberley Paige Barnette in as your mayor, and watch Karma engulf your town like it did Sodom and Gomorrah. These cities were destroyed for their lack of hospitality and kindness and acceptance.

You don’t have to agree with the LGBTQI community to realize you still must treat every one of them with the love Christ instructed you to. Not love you think they should have because of who

they are, but the one God gave solid description and instruction of in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. And God told us to love — even those we see as our enemy — his kind of love, his example of love.

For Kimberley Paige Barnette to say she would stand against the LGBTQI community should be an immediate vote against her, her fear and her hate. Her declaration that she is “REPUBLICAN & SMART, WHITE, TRADITIONAL.” should also be an indication of her intentions. Haven’t we had enough of these kinds of hearts and minds in our government? Let’s grow in love for once, instead of allowing others to stir our fear.

Laurie Todd, Olathe, Kansas

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Pride 2017

NC Pride alters 2017 celebration Conflict with Jewish High Holiday prompts changes, backlash

by Lainey Millen :: qnotes staff

RALEIGH, N.C. — The NC Pride festival will be held on Sept. 30 and has been dubbed NC Pride @ Night 2017. This year’s event will be held in Raleigh, N.C. and Durham, N.C. as an evening street festival from 4 p.m.-4 a.m. The 33rd annual LGBTQ celebration will be celebrated across the Triangle in Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill and Carrboro either publicly or privately.

This deviation from the normal day of a festival on Duke University’s campus and a parade followed by evening celebrations across the Triangle was a compromise by the NC Pride organizers due to the scheduled date being the same as the Jewish observance of Yom Kippur (Day of Atonement), the holiest day of the year.

For up to 12 hours, festival goers will enjoy the camaraderie of friends, food, vendors, parties and shows while having fun under rainbow night skies along Harrington St. (between Hargett St. and Morgan St.) in Raleigh and Rigsbee Ave. (between Corporation St. and Greer St.) in Durham.

In Raleigh, Legends, 330 W. Hargett St., will host the capital’s celebration with three days of festivities. And, guest host for Sept. 29 and 30 is Lance Bass.

It begins on Sept. 29 with a celebrity social meet and greet at 8 p.m., TurnUp Friday with host Jazmine Brooks at 9 p.m. with featured local entertainers, a $10K Giveaway from 9:3010:15 p.m., spotlight divas and PhiPhi O’Hara from 10:15-11 p.m. followed by pop-up performances and a Foam Dance Party at 11 p.m.

The following evening, it is partnering with NC Pride’s street festival where food trucks, vendors and more are available from 4-10 p.m. and will have its block party tent entertainment at 8 p.m. at the View Bar and Gameroom parking lot, 119 S. Harrington St. In addition to this it is partnering with Pardon Moi French as they produce live drag performances on the NC Pride @ Night street stage from 6-8:30 p.m. Admission to the stage area is $10.

At 8:30 p.m., Legends will hold its former house cast review show hosted by Jakki

Knight. Then Jaremi Carey takes the stage as he performs from his latest album and covers some favorite hits. At 10:10 p.m., stay for a spotlight divas special show with “RuPaul’s Drag Race” contestant Miss Peppermint closing out the tent stage performances.

Another spotlight divas showcase will occur at 12 a.m. followed by the N.C. major statewide titleholders review show which includes a diverse lineup. Round out the evening with pop-up performances from other entertainers.

Finish off the weekend at 10 p.m. with Sinful Sunday with GoGo Boys and special guest Pablo Hernandez at the club.

Ticket options include general admission, pit pass and VIP lounge (which is the only place to purchase liquor during the street festival). Costs range from $25-$55 to the various paid events and can be purchased online at bit.ly/2fbUOdV. Flex, 2 S. West St., will join in the festivities with an Asheville Invasion on Sept. 28, GoGoThon on Sept. 29 with eight GoGo dancers and a Pride dance on Sept. 30 with DJ Marvyy Marvv (no cover with three dog tags from September events). For more information, visit flex-club.com.

In Durham, The Bar, 711 Rigsbee Ave., will host the celebration with local entertainment,

addressing the concerns of Jewish communities, but also changes the entire tone of the event by 1) splitting the event across two different cities versus bringing everyone together, and 2) eliminating the kid-friendly Parade and the Festival on the Duke campus, making it feel less accessible to caregivers and young people. Moreover, subsequent demands for a more accountable and transparent process from the organizers of NC Pride were unheard and ignored by Mr. John Short and the NC Pride organizing committee.” The coalition also had questions about NC Pride’s 501[c] 3 tax status and how the organization is funded, among others. (see qnotes coverage on this issue at goqnotes.com/11513 and goqnotes.com/24904) It also stated that it was not happy with NC Pride’s “lack of transparency & accountability and an underrepresentation of historically marginalized communities.” It added, “We Controversy clouds believe, that it is not only possible but imperathe celebration tive that we uplift the connections between So, the celebration will go on, albeit not the lack of accountability experienced at this in the same way it has in the past: no parade, year’s NC Pride committee with years prior and no campus festival and no opportunity for begin to engage in conversations and overall the community to gather at one location for a visioning about what a more inclusive Pride portion of the day before heading to evening event can look like in North Carolina. … By events across the Triangle. abstaining from this year’s NC Pride Unfortunately, the comon September 30th, we will instead promise did not go as hoped invest in safe spaces, continued for NC Pride organizers. In conversations, and ongoing acfact, there was a backlash tion to transform ourselves, our from the Jewish and allied organizations, our communities and community, many of whom our state through this work. … We have marched in the annual look forward to working collectively parade in recent years, which with you [NC Pride] to build not prompted the formation of only a Pride event, but a state in #LiberateNCpride, a coalition which all LGBTQ people are able which includes some 30 to celebrate life free from fear and different organization and oppression.” The full text can be individuals across the state.

In a statement made by John Short read at bit.ly/2xGd2fz.

Carolina Jews for Justice Wake #LiberateNCpride it said: “The Photo Credit: Pam’s House Blend County Chair Josh Orol shared with implementation of ‘NC Pride the Durham Hearld-Sun that the compromise @ Night,’ as a possible solution to the scheduling of NC Pride on Yom Kippur offered by NC Pride’s leadership, not only misses the mark in see NC Pride on 9 food trucks, street vendors and more. At 9 .m. it will present a onehour live concert performance by Big Freedia. Tickets are available online until Sept. 30 at 1 p.m. at thebardurham.com/bigfreedia and range from $25-$250.

Accommodations are being handled for out-of-town guests and those who want to party without worrying about driving home at: Raleigh — Sheraton Raleigh Hotel., 919-834-9900; Durham — Double Tree Hilton, 919-941-6000 and Millennium Hotel, 919-383-8575; and Chapel Hill — Hampton Inn, 919-968-3000. Be sure to ask for NC Pride rates at each property.

spiritual reflections

by Bishop Tonyia M. Rawls :: guest contributor

Adam was a girl and other musings “God made Adam and Eve and Not Adam and Steve” is a line that many gay men and lesbians heard at some point in their life journey. It was used to suggest that same-gender love was against the male dominate/female subordinate relationship. As simple as that phrase may seem, it has caused so much pain in a community already pained by the ignorance, fear and mean spirit of many within the Christian community. Well, I am here to set the record straight…Adam was a girl.

In Genesis 5:1-2 there is a hidden gem that we rarely hear clerics talk about or preach on. The scripture reads: 5:1 “This is the book of the generations of Adam. In the day that God created man, in the likeness of God made he him;” 2 “Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.”

It is understandable why this passage is rarely used. If we embrace this text then we have to rethink gender justice and the very image of God. God, both womb and seed; God, both masculine and feminine. While I am using gender in this reflec-

tion to disrupt the narrative that Adam was only an expression of the maleness of God, God is a Spirit and that Spirit cannot be understood in simple human binary terms like male and female.

The gender box we use is too limiting when thinking of God, however, if we must use gender, let us use it in a manner that reflects more than just a white haired, old, straight white man, sitting on a throne waiting to pass harsh judgment on anyone who messes up.

“The Benson Commentary” states that, “He gave this name both to the man and the woman. Being at first one by nature.”

There was no separation between God and humanity or humanity with itself.

In this current environment where Christian text is used to build wedges and the religious “right” often lands on the wrong side of justice and equality, I encourage my LGBTQ family to hold your head high, and celebrate the fact that we are all children of God in equal standing with all of our other siblings in the human family.

When Jesus died on the cross, He rebooted humanity’s relationship with God. Apostle Paul said it best in his letter to the church in Galatia, “The law was our guardian until Christ came; it protected us until we could be made right with God through faith.” 25 “And now that the way of faith has come, we no longer need the law as our guardian.” 26 “For you are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus.” … 28 “There is no longer Jew or Gentile, slave or free, male and female. For you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

While Christian scripture and references were used in this reflection, it is important to note that God is bigger than any one religion or school of thought. The principals of Divine love and acceptance are universal, so go on out Adam, and be your fierce, free self! : : — Bishop Tonyia M. Rawls is the pastor of Sacred Souls Community Church (United Church of Christ) in Charlotte, N.C. and founder/executive director of The Freedom Center for Social Justice.

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news notes: carolinas compiled by Lainey Millen :: qnotes staff

Senior cohousing progress noted DURHAM, N.C. — Village Hearth Cohousing is moving closer to becoming a reality now that it has completed design workshops and met its new neighbors.

The 28-home development is the first 55 plus cohousing community for LGBTQ individuals, friends and allies in the U.S., its founding member Margaret Roesch said. It received city council approval in June.

Completion of the six design workshops is a benchmark along the road to the actual construction of the neighborhood. They included detailing the community’s site plan, common house plans, private home floor plans, and a variety of shared spaces dotting the land such as art studios and gardens.

Roesch shared, “We can already see ourselves stepping onto the pedestrian walkway and greeting our neighbors on the way to have morning coffee, pull weeds in the garden, exercise or take a stroll around our 15 acres.”

To that end, in late August cohousing architect Charles Durrett presented a public talk on cohousing, and in the final workshops, recommended products from door handles to solar panels and floor tiles to HVAC systems were presented to members. Features were prioritized to make the community fully customArchitect Chuck Durrett discusses ized, reflecting the values in what and how develophousing issues at a recent public talk. ers plan to build the community. Roesch added that on the top of the list were enhanced energy and sound control, fiber-optic Internet, solar panels and electric car charging stations. Other items more along the vein of “creature comforts” will be offered as optional upgrades.

Currently, there are 10 fully invested households and six on the exploration level. Cohousing enables its residents to have a blend of privacy while fostering camaraderie among its community members. The site consists of single-story attached homes nestled on a 15-acre wooded plot of land. It is located 20 minutes from downtown Durham, N.C. and a quarter mile from the Eno River recreational area, connected by a foot path.

The next steps on the list to tackle include completion of construction drawings by the architect, partnering with a developer, obtaining a construction loan, choosing a builder and beginning construction. Groundbreaking is expected next spring with move-in the following year. info: villagehearthcohousing.com.

Charlotte Faith event planned

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — NC Faith Forward will be held on Oct. 7, 9 a.m-12 p.m., at the Holiday Inn Charlotte University, 8520 University Executive Park Dr. This event brings LGBTQ-affirming individuals of faith in Charlotte, N.C. and North Mecklenburg County to strategize about the future of the community.

Included in the activities will be relationship building, storytelling skills tips and faithful action taken.

The NC Faith Forward Coalition is an LGBTQ-affirming faith coalition working to make North Carolina a more just and inclusive home for all LGBTQ individuals. The coalition consists of seven organizations: Believe Out Loud, Equality North Carolina, Faith in Public Life, The Freedom Center for Social Justice, Many Voices: A Black Church Movement for Gay and Transgender Justice, More Light Presbyterians and the National LGBTQ Task Force.

Registration is available online. info: bit.ly/2haiHzz.

Future put ‘on the table’

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — On Oct. 25, the On the Table CLT will take place across Mecklenburg County in order to discuss how to collaboratively build and maintain a more connected,

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inclusive and opportunity-rich community, organizers Community Building Initiative and Foundation for the Carolinas announced.

The event will bring thousands of individuals together in small groups to “generate ideas, inspire solutions and cultivate relationships and collaborations to strengthen Mecklenburg County.”

The initiative is a partnership with the John S. and James L. Knight Foundation and the Foundation for the Carolinas. Charlotte was one of 10 cities from across the U.S. chosen to replicate the On the Table initiative this year with funding from the Knight foundation.

The target goal is to have 5,000 individuals of all ages participate in more than 500 small groups on the event date. Social media will serve as a connection point as well at #OnTheTableCLT. Area companies, organizations, etc., are encouraged to become a host. Details on how to accomplish this are available online.

At the events’ conclusion, participants will be asked to complete a brief email survey to learn more about their experiences in the project. info: onthetableclt.org.

PFLAG sponsors cookout

CONCORD/KANNAPOLIS, N.C. — Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays Concord/ Kannapolis will welcome MTV’s “Promposal” couple Brandon Caddell and Noah Ambrose who reside in Moore County at the Oct. 10

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meeting at 7 p.m. at Trinity United Church of Christ, 38 Church St., in Concord, N.C. The couple will share their story with attendees.

The following day the organization will sponsor a cookout for Cabarrus County and Kannapolis City Schools Gay-Straight Alliances (GSA) on Oct. 11, 3 p.m., at Frank Liske Park, 4001 Stough Rd., in Concord, N.C. All GSAs, their advisors and Time Out Youth Cabarrus County staff are welcome to attend. info: ckpflag@gmail.com.

Freedman-Gurspan has worked in non-profit and government sectors for nearly a decade.

A graduate of St. Olaf College in Minnesota, she was adopted from Honduras and grew up in Brookline, Mass.

The event includes awards presentations, dinner and dancing.

Tickets are now available online and are going quickly. Visit one.bidpal.net/encgala/ ticketing to learn more. info: equalitync.org.

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AIDS walk registration opens

Center awardees named

RALEIGH, N.C.. — The LGBT Center of Raleigh, 324 S. Harrington St., has released four of the six 2017 award recipient names for its Oct. 6 awards gala.

Mayor Nancy McFarlane has received the LGBTQ Ally of the Year award. She has “been there for us,” the center shared, when it needed to file for a new permit or secure other services for Out! Raleigh. “Because she believes in the value of every individual in Raleigh, we’ve always known that she has our back for important issues that affect our community,” the center added.

Planned Parenthood South Atlantic has been given the designation of Organization of the Year. The organization has been at the forefront of providing compassionate care for everyone in a judgment-free environment, especially the LGBTQ community, the center shared.

Holly Owens has been named Program Volunteer of the Year. She has run and maintained the Raleigh Allies program at the center and has shown commitment to it, the center and the community.

Alex Thomas will receive the Center Volunteer of the Year award. His tenure with the center began in 2013 fresh out of college from the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. He chose to volunteer to “learn how to be more gay,” he shared.

As of press time, the recipients of the Distinguished Service Award and Rising Star of the Year had not been released. qnotes will provide updates as they are received.

Tickets are $125 through September and go up to $150 in October. They are available for purchase online. The gala to be held at the Sheraton Hotel Downtown Raleigh, 421 S. Salisbury St., beginning at 7 p.m. info: lgbtcenterofraleigh.com.

Gala tickets go live

RALEIGH, N.C. — The annual AIDS Walk & 5K Run will take place on Oct. 21, 8 a.m., at Dix Park and registration is now open for those who participate in the fundraiser for the Alliance of AIDS Services - Carolinas, the LGBT Center of Raleigh, Crape Myrtle Festival and NC AIDS Action Network.

All fitness levels are welcome to participate individually or as a team. Additionally, organizers “encourage everyone to participate in non-traditional running/walking attire. Don’t want to get dressed the morning of the Walk?

Wear your pajamas. Always wanted to run as your favorite Super Hero? Go for it. Tutus and Tiaras? Of course. Into the onesie craze? Wear it to the Walk. Drag? Yas Kween!” Prizes will be awarded to the best Individual Alternative Apparel and the Best Team Alternative Apparel. info: bit.ly/2hbvXYu.

Triad Pride fest around corner

WINSTON-SALEM, N.C. — Pride WinstonSalem Festival, Parade & Food Truck Rodeo will be held on Oct. 14 and is in its final preparations for the celebration.

The festivities begin on Oct. 13 with a kickoff party at 7 p.m. at the Kimpton Cardinal Hotel, 401 N. Main St. Attendees will be able to enjoy live performances, hors d’oeuvres, cocktails and silent auction. Tickets start at $40 and are available online.

On Oct. 14, the Pride Winston-Salem Festival and Parade will be held from 10 a.m.-5:30 p.m. on Trade St. in the Downtown Arts District.

Keep the festival spirit going and head out to the After Party at 9 p.m. at Hawthorne Inn and Convention Center, 421 High St. Admission is $15/advance online and $20/at the door. Enjoy music, drinks, pop-up show, Girl Squad and special guests.

Applications for parade spots and festival vendors are still being accepted to Oct. 1 and are available online. info: pridews.org.

RALEIGH, N.C. — The Equality North Carolina 2017 Equality Gala will be held on Oct. 21 at the downtown Raleigh Marriott, 500 Fayetteville St. Keynote speaker for the event is Raffi South Carolina Freedman-Gurspan, director of external relations at the National Center for Transgender Org hosts gala Equality, where she oversees CHARLESTON, S.C. — The 2017 public education and field orgaAlliance for Full Acceptance Gala, nizing operations.

Together for Equality, will be held Freedman-Gurspan was on Oct. 14, 6 p.m., at the Charleston the first openly transgender Gaillard Center Grand Ballroom, 95 staff person to work at the Calhoun St. White House.

Attendees can enjoy a cocktail She has also served as a sereception, silent auction, seated dinnior associate director for public ner, entertainment, live auction and engagement, where she served after party. as the primary liaison to the Tickets are available online.

LGBTQ community, and outreach Raffi Freedman-Gurzpan info: affa-sc.org. and recruitment director for Pride fest to hit Columbia presidential personnel at the White House from COLUMBIA, S.C. — South Carolina Pride, 2015-2017. She currently sits on the United States Famously Hot!, will be held from Oct. 20-21 in Holocaust Memorial Council as an appointee the states capital. named by former President Barack Obama.

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The event kicks off with a preliminary party on Oct. 19, 10 p.m., at PT’s 1109, ,1109 Assembly St., hosted by Veronica La Blank. A $10 contribution is welcome at the door and goes to support the organization.

Then, on Oct. 20, head out to the new lighted Nighttime Parade down Main St. which begins at 7 p.m. Bring a group and march or watch from the sidelines.

Afterwards, join the Get Lit After Party at the Capital Club, 1002 Gervais St., with a musical performance by Lil’ Kim. Keep the rhythm going with a street dance at the festival in downtown Columbia, DJed by Mimi Imfurst. The evening’s entertainment also includes fireworks.

The following day, the festival heats up at 12 p.m. and continues to 9 p.m. Participants can see Betty Who at 4 p.m., Jody Watley & Shalamar Reloaded at 6 p.m., “RuPaul’s Drag Race” personalities Phoenix, Detox, Latrice Royale, Trinity Taylor and Kennedy Davenport at 7 p.m., plus enjoy Sabrina Johnston at 12 p.m. and Paris LeFaris at 1 p.m., Debby Holiday at 2 p.m. Additionally, on-stage speakers and other performers will entertain.

Ultra VIP Pride Passes are available for $100 and entitle festival participants to an open bar and catered food, entrance to Aftermath and more. Tickets are available online.

The Aftermath will take place at 10 p.m. at the Main Street Public House, 1556 Main St., with “RuPaul’s Drag Race” performances and music by DJ Mimi Imfurst. Cover is $15 or free with a Pride Pass.

Prior to the Pride festival, community events will take place across the area: Oct. 15, open house and volunteer reception, 2 p.m., at Harriet Hancock LGBT Center,

1108 Woodrow St.; Oct. 16, Transform Forum & Reception, 7 p.m., Columbia Museum of Art, 1515 Main St.; Oct. 16, Pride Day at SC State Fair, all day, 1200 Rosewood Dr.; Oct. 17, LGBTQ Film Festival, 7 p.m., “Who’s Gonna Love Me Now?” and Oct. 18, “The Torchsong Trilogy” at Nickelodeon Theatre, 1607 Main St.; and Annual Pride Picnic, 12 p.m., Reformation Lutheran Church, 1118 Union St. info: scpride.org.

Upstate sets Pride date

SPARTANBURG, S.C. — Upstate Pride SC has announced that its Pride March & Festival will be held on Nov. 4, two months later than last year, for safety reasons.

Organization President Isaac Mintz said, “A few people left last year with heat exhaustion and bad sunburn. We don’t want to risk that again.”

This year’s event will feature food trucks, community vendors and stage entertainment, as well as a march through the city’s downtown area. There will also be areas for those who are 18 years of age and older, as well as one for a Kids’ Zone.

“Our goal is to double last year’s attendance, and we think it’s possible considering what we have in store,” Mintz noted. “We’re implementing a lot of the community’s feedback and adding in some ideas of our own, and we really can’t wait to share the excitement.”

“RuPaul Drag Race” stars Alexis Michelle, Nina Bonin Brown, Bebe Zahara Benet, Yara Sofia and Kimora Blac, plus other performers will entertain at the After Party sponsored by Pardon Moi French at the Spartanburg Marriott, 299 N. Church St. Doors open at 6 p.m. and showtime is 9 p.m. Music will be provided by

Scott Robert from Orlando, Fla. Tickets are available online at ticketor.com/pardonmoifrench.

Email the festival committee chair Rodney Tow at rodney@upstatepridesc.org for more information on vendor space and sponsorships. info: upstatepridesc.org.

Campus Scene ‘Shame’ list released

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — Campus Pride has released its annual Shame List which highlights for the second year in a row “The Absolute Worst Campuses for LGBTQ Youth.”

Of those documented, 139 campuses were tagged as unsafe for LGBTQ students and discriminated against them through policies, programs and practices.

Especially vulnerable are transgender students, staff and faculty. In fact, 32 campuses have Title IX exemption requests pending and 70 have received religious exemptions which allows them to discriminate.

“The Shame List uncovers the religionbased bigotry that is unsafe, harmful and perpetuates harassment toward LGBTQ youth.

Everyone has a right to know that these ‘absolute worst campuses for LGBTQ youth’ do exist and what they are doing to discriminate in policies, programs and practices,” said Shane Windmeyer, executive director of Campus Pride. “That is what the Shame List does as a resource for youth and families — it gives them all the information to make the best decision for their young person, where they will be safe and feel welcomed.”

Campus Pride said that attempts have been made to shut the list down by those

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who appear on the list or have an association with them. Others have attempted to thwart efforts to receive information from the U.S. Department of Education or have tried to disassociate from the listing, the organization added.

Windmeyer shared that a letter sent to the Department of Education in the past year from an organization representing some of the campuses cited the negative public attention of lists which shared the kind of information the “Shame List” does.

According to Windmeyer, a legal inquiry to the Department of Education has asked if campuses could withdraw their Title IX exemption and then ask for the same exemption at another time in the future.

“That is when you know you are doing something important and begs the question: ‘Why are these campuses concerned about letting people know that they have a Title IX religious exemption that discriminates against LGBTQ people or anti-LGBTQ actions, programs and practices. Why?,’” Windmeyer said.

Carolina campuses on the list are: Belmont Abbey College, Charleston Southern University, Charlotte Christian College and Theological Seminary and North Greenville University. info: campuspride.org.

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Catholic seminary nixes priest’s talk WASHINGTON, D.C. — Theological College has cancelled Jesuit Fr. James Martin’s presentation due to criticism on some social media sites of his LGBTQ book, “Building a Bridge.”

This was a devastating blow to the Catholic Church, academic freedom and pastoral outreach to LGBTQ individuals, New Ways Ministry Executive Director Francis DeBernardo shared in a public statement.

“The decision is an impotent one in which the Fr. James Martin, S.J. seminary’s leaders reveal that they are powerless to stand up to commentators whose views are beyond the mainstream of Catholic thought. It reveals cowardice on the part of the seminary’s administrators who do not have integrity to withstand pressure from outside forces, and instead opt for censorship instead of discussion,” he added.

DeBernardo said that the college’s renown as an academic institution would be “irreparably damaged” unless the decision was reversed. He added that the decision did damage to the already-tenuous relationship between the Catholic Church and the LGBTQ community

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strengthened by Fr. Martin’s book. Parishes and colleges have welcomed the priest to speak since his book was published.

“It is astonishing that the seminary leaders did not side with the two cardinals and a bishop who praised Fr. Martin’s book as it was being published,” DeBernardo said.

He also said that the decision was “ludicrous” for two other reasons: Fr. Martin was not speaking about the book or LGBTQ issues and the book is considered mild by comparison to others on the market.

Fr. Martin’s book has reached a broad audience since its publication earlier this summer and has been seen as one of value.

“Fr. Martin is experiencing the rejection of many who speak out prophetically. It is the same rejection experienced by millions of Jesus’ followers and, indeed, by Jesus Himself.

For the sake of Fr. Martin, for Catholic academics, and for LGBT Catholics, we pray this sorry and shameful action by Theological College will soon be reversed,” he concluded. info: newwaysministry.org.

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QUICK HITS —————————————————————————————— The Equality Forum’s 25th anniversary celebration will be held on Oct. 1 at the National Museum of American Jewish History in Philadelphia, Pa. info: equalityforum.com.

The Treatment Action Group will hold its 2017 Research in Action Awards fundraising event on Nov. 16 in New York. info: treatmentactiongroup.org.

Equality Florida announced the launch of its HIV Advocacy Project, a new statewide initiative to combat the spread of HIV across the state. info: equalityflorida.org.

The Hollywood Reporter posted a story that said that Donald Trump is the most anti-LGBTQ president in U.S. history. info: huffingtonpost.com.

orientation and gender identity, The Williams Institute reported. info: williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu.

New York Comic Con will present “Queer Culture: LGBTQ Presence in Pop Culture” on Oct. 6. info: newyorkcomiccon.com.

Christin Baker, owner of tello Films, released the first of the final two episodes of her lesbian-focused web-series “Riley Parra” on Sept. 17, with the finale slated for Sept. 24. info: tellofilms.com.

GayRVA reported that the West Point Association of Graduates correctly identified a transgender graduate’s chosen name and gender. info: gayrva.com.

The Miss Gay America pageant will be held from Oct. 4-7 in New Orleans, La. info: missgayamerica.com.

Atlanta’s Spelman College announced that it is opening its doors to transgender female students, Patch reported. info: patch.com.

Tidal is celebrating Latinx Heritage Month with the help of the LGBTQ community in support of inclusiveness. info: tidal.com/latinx17.

Refinery29 reported that an American University study shed light on how “double discrimination” from both straight and LGBTQ communities affects bisexuals’ mental health. info: refinery29.com.

Nearly 70,000 LGBTQ individuals in Idaho, Montana and Wyoming lack state-level protections from discrimination and are vulnerable to discrimination based on sexual

The Miami police now has an out 21-yearold public information officer, Christopher Bess. info: miamiherald.com.

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Kind of a Drag 2.0

Entertainment ethics and modern drag Industry professionals discuss duties and nuance

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rag entertainment has exploded in popularity in recent years, but the transition from niche market to international industry hasn’t been entirely smooth. Professionals across the board disagree on ethical issues in drag, and even its very purpose as an art form. There are definite advantages to the growing legitimacy of drag performance, as agency owner Michael-David Carpenter knows well after founding Ashevillebased Michael-David Entertainment.

“Drag has historically been a taboo underground art form, and is now being recognized with respect,” Carpenter told qnotes. It warms my heart that my clients’ hard work and talent isn’t limited to the small stage of a nightclub, but is now being enjoyed on the main stages of city festivals and on television.”

The growth of the industry presents new opportunities; some drag performers seek to make their art a full-time career, and Carpenter works to enable this goal. However, as qnotes columnist and resident queen Buff Faye reflects, the history behind drag performance has little to do with financial gain.

“I don’t see drag as just a job or a hobby for that matter,” said Faye, whose off-stage name is Shane Windmeyer. “It is a way of activism: to send a message, stand up, to act, to inspire, to lead and to create change. That is what drag queens have done throughout history. I worry that is getting lost in the mainstreaming of drag.”

Windmeyer himself performs frequently in various venues, but by day works as executive director of Charlotte, N.C.-based non-profit Campus Pride. Windmeyer is particularly passionate about one ethical issue within the drag industry: contracts and explicit terms.

“Contracts are mutual agreements between the entertainer and the venue, meant to ensure the common investment on both sides,” Carpenter explains. “All sides need proper communication and protection.”

This communication and protection isn’t common practice, according to Windmeyer. In his experience, most local venues do not use formal contracts signed by management and entertainers in mutual agreement. Except for pageant winners contracted to promoters, most performers receive “nothing in writing, and [restrictions] by word of mouth.”

“The only place in North Carolina where I know has written contracts is Legends [a nightclub in Raleigh, N.C.],” Windmeyer told qnotes. “The biggest problem is that a club that has restrictions needs to put those in writing…What happens is that a club books an entertainer and then tells her after the fact that she can’t do X, Y and Z.” The advantage of written contracts is that the terms are clearly laid out to prevent miscommunication between the parties. This makes it easier for everyone to avoid breaching contract terms — and easier to avoid unfortunate ramifications.

“If an entertainer breaches contract, for whatever reason, they could lose payment, lose future bookings at that venue

from venues (particularly ones that require exclusivity), perform(and others depending on reasoning), gain negative reputation ers receive the short end of the stick. and can include unseen consequences, including legal issues,” “I don’t know any drag queen in Charlotte who has Carpenter explained. successfully made drag a full-time career,” Windmeyer These consequences become complicated when said. “The queens at Legends who have written the contract is oral as opposed to written — a comcontracts do make good money, but I believe they also mon practice, according to Windmeyer’s experience. have day jobs.”

A particular conflict arose in past years surrounding For the entertainers who do want to make drag entertainer exclusivity, the requirement that performers a career, what terms are fair and ethical to require in cannot serve a venue’s competitors. a contract? Carpenter’s clients have the resource of an The business logic behind entertainer agent who draws firm lines in terms of what is fair, as exclusivity is to preserve a venue’s unique well as one who has worked on all sides of the indusappeal; if a specific performer has many try and knows its nuance. fans and can only perform in one local “Unless the club is willing to invest in the art of place, then the venue with exclusive the entertainer, the entertainer is independent and rights financially benefits from that free to seek bookings wherever they wish,” entertainer’s fame. However, ethical Carpenter believes. “Club owners also need problems and outright conflicts can to understand that the more an entertainer arise without these terms being clearly works, the more they will build a fan base set in writing. and the more patrons they bring to the The flexibility of verbal agreevenue when booked, resulting in more sales.” ments allows for frequently changing The agent’s argument against exclusivity terms — a feature that may cause claims that all parties benefit from entertainconfusion, miscommunication and ers who perform in many locations, even at ethical breaches leading to negative local competitors. For example, a queen who stuns repercussions. the crowd at a one-night appearance for one club Another ethical issue for drag profestends to bring those new fans to her home club, sionals is compensation. Carpenter notes that where she may appear weekly or in regular rotain decades past, venues customarily invested tion. That queen has the benefit of extra booking in the material costs of an entertainer’s show. income, and the contracted venue draws new Now, conflicts arise when performers often visitors from her diverse fanbase. spend more money preparing for a show Of course, performers themselves may behave than they receive to perform it. unethically in many ways as well. One performer’s bad “Any respectable entertainer has a experience with a venue can have very different results; small fortune invested into pantyhose and if handled gracefully, the performer may continue in an nails alone,” Carpenter said. “I’ve had to upwardly mobile career. Unfortunately, that isn’t always the case. educate venues on fees and why they “I’ve seen entertainers turn on club owners due to disagreeare what they are. Drag is very expenments, and post videos to vilify the establishments,” Carpenter sive art form. Club owners consider the said. “Professionalism is the key to getting booked, so an enterentertainer as an independent contractainer should always reflect a positive nature and refrain from tor and have stopped investing, but any negativity.” are still expecting the same outdated The unspoken law of success in the entertainment industry standard, causing a lot of negativoften comes down to reputation. News of unethical behavior ity between certain venues and spreads like a virus, souring both current and prospective entertainers…this rule is no longer business relationships. Awareness of these common ethical acceptable or ethical.” issues is the key to a successful career in drag, whether partThe financial issue can be a complex one, time or full-time, whether entertainer, agent or venue. In the particularly for venues with Photo Credit: Discovod via Adobe Stock words of the immortal Ru Paul: pre-determined budgets and “True wealth is having the knowledge to maneuver and for drag entertainers who seek navigate the mental obstacles that inhibit your ability to soar.” : : a legitimate career in the industry. Without a livable level of pay

NC Pride continued from page 5 was not enough, that it was a “Band-Aid solution that doesn’t systemically change things,” and called for a collectively-just Pride that represented the needs of many minority groups.

Jewish Federation of Durham Chapel Hill’s CEO Jill Madsen told Forward, “We are disappointed with this year’s planning of NC Pride on Yom Kippur. What deepens these feelings is the lack of communication, outreach, or partnership from NC Pride, to work to find a solution and plan for years to come, despite our efforts to continue to connect with them.” qnotes attempted to reach Short repeatedly by phone but did not receive a requested returned call to address this year’s changes,

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However, qnotes was able to reach Skye Wilson, student development coordinator at Duke’s Center for Sexual and Gender Diversity (CSGD) who said, “We are extremely disappointed in the NC Pride Committee. A number of students have expressed their sorrow and disappointment that there will be no Pride Parade and Festival or presence on Duke’s campus this year.” She also added that NC Pride sets the date and the CSGD works with the appropriate scheduling department on the university’s campus. “When we realized the scheduling conflict with Yom Kippur, we provided alternate dates that Duke University’s East

Campus was available and offered them to the NC Pride Committee,” she related. Those dates were within a couple of weeks of the orginally scheduled date, but NC Pride declined.

In a statement that Wilson’s department made on their Facebook page on July 6, they shared, “We reached out to the NC Pride committee advising them to change the date and suggested alternative dates. Unfortunately, we learned the NC Pride committee made the decision to keep the original date despite the conflict with Yom Kippur and asked for forgiveness for the conflict and resulting exclusion.

Duke continues to honor the NC Pride committee’s existing reservation of Duke University’s

East Campus. We believe that holding an event such as NC Pride during the Jewish High Holy Days only works to divide our communities.”

The center expressed that the celebration of Pride is an important date to observe and was born out of resistence and a fight for equality. They added, “Prides that hold intersectionality as a core value and seek to end all forms of oppression do not ask people to prioritize or sacrifice any aspect of their identity over another.”

To add to this, the center acted as a coauthor of the #LiberateNCpride press release and petition.

For more information, visit ncpride.org. : :

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Visual artists depict trials and talents of LGBTQ community Three upcoming exhibits celebrate creative diversity

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n the ever-fruitful world of the arts, LGBTQ people are front and center in the effort to portray the unending diversity and the exceptional talents of our community. Charlotte, N.C. will welcome a number of queer-identified artists in the coming season, and among them, visual artists whose works challenge the cis-het norm.

Expuesta/Exposed Through Oct. 13 The Light Factory One such exhibition already opened on Aug. 24 at The Light Factory, 1817 Central Ave., and will be on display until Oct. 13.

The collection, Expuesta — meaning “Exposed” — features the work of 10 different Mexican photographers: Luis Arturo Aguirre, Ana Casas Broda, Carol Espíndola, Carlos Leon, Antonio Lozano, Nelson Morales, Diego Moreno, Luis Enrique Pérez, Roberto Tondopó and Andrés Juárez Troncoso.

Several of these photographers spoke to qnotes about their work’s inspiration and purpose, particularly themes that reveal a unique cultural difference in the way gender is perceived in Mexico compared to the U.S. Nelson Morales Photographer Nelson

Morales hails from Unión Hidalgo, Oaxaca in Mexico, and his work focuses on sexual diversity, gender and identity. His home region, the isthmus of Tehuantepec in Oaxaca, is also home to one of the most inclusive cultures in the nation, recognizing the culture of the “Muxe” — a label with which Morales himself identifies, describing a mix of traditionally feminine and masculine characteristics within an individual.

“There exist different types of muxes. One of them dresses as a woman and wants to be a woman. The other type of muxe does not dress like a woman, like me,” Morales said. “Photography was the means to approach the muxe community, over time I became friends with them, somehow I became their accomplice, at the same time I also accepted my own identity.”

Morales’ muxe identity interacts with his label as an openly gay man. His identity inspired his art and was influenced in turn.

“The strength and courage of women has always been a great feature of our culture,” said Morales of Oaxaca. “I hope to inspire the LGBTQ community of the United States to see other communities where freedom of expression exists a little more, and also that the general viewer can confront a bit with himself to see images that can be a little challenging.”

Another photographer of the Expuesta exhibition, Luis Arturo Aguirre, travels from Acapulco, Guerrero in Mexico to display his work at The Light Factory. Aguirre is no stranger to travel; he has exhibited his work in Belgium, Spain, Brazil, Uruguay, Venezuela and France, as well as his native Mexico.

Aguirre said that a central theme of his images can be traced back to a childhood memory. Around seven years old, Aguirre remembers visiting the central market in Acapulco to shop with his aunt. It was the first time he saw a person he calls a “transvestite.” The word, sometimes thought slanderous, in this

case is a more direct translation from the Spanish “vestida,” a commonly-used term for those who are pronounced male at birth, but whose gender presentation is distinctly female.

Young Aguirre asked his aunt about the person, and she replied that the individual was “a boy-girl.” The moment was one of confusion — but also inspiration for adult Aguirre to depict gender-bending themes in his photography. His contribution to the Light Factory show is called “desvestidas,” which translates to “undressed.”

“We passed a fruit stand and there ‘he’ was with his curly hair, profound dark skin, strong arms, eyelids painted with electric blue eye shadow and his red lips,” Aguirre said. “A game of double identity between masculine and feminine is generated…

Making use of cliché and obviousness, I have represented different stories about real and utopian women.”

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North Carolina native and award-winning William Ivey Long has been at the forefront of costume design for shows from the big lights of Broadway to the small screen of television such as ‘The Rocky Horror Picture Show: Let’s Do The Time Warp Again.’

Mexican photographer Nelson Morales brings his focus on sexual diversity, gender and identity to his artistic approach as depicted in his ‘Queen on Board’ pictured above.

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William Ivey Long: Costume Designs 2007-2016 Sept. 23 through June 3, 2018 Mint Museum Uptown at Levine Center for the Arts Visual art doesn’t always have to be twodimensional, and costume designer William Ivey Long’s work proves that beautiful and provocative art comes to life on a stage. The six-time Tony award-winning designer appears in person at the Levine Center for the Arts, 500 South Tryon St., for his exhibit’s Sept. 23 opening day. Long will participate in exhibit tours at 11 a.m. and 1 p.m., give a lecture at 2:30 p.m.,

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Indigenous artist and lesbian Linzy Sides (pictured above) brings her American Indian heritage to her work as she breaks with tradition and portrays fellow American Indian women in powerful, traditionally male roles. Sides is of Lumbee descent.

and sign copies of his book at 4 p.m.

Long has decades of theatrical success under his belt, and a cabinet of awards that is likely overflowing. His recent work include the 2013 Broadway musical “Rodgers and Hammerstein’s Cinderella” and 2016 television specials “Grease Live!” and “The Rocky Horror Picture Show: Let’s Do the Time Warp Again.”

Though undeniably sucWilliam Ivey Long cessful on a national level, Long’s roots lie in Raleigh, N.C., where he was born before growing up in Rock Hill, S.C. Beginning his education at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and ending with an MFA from the Yale School of Drama, Long said that the biggest influence on his career was his apprenticeship under couturier Charles James.

“Fashion design and costume design are similar in that both involve mounting shows whose story is told through clothing,” said Long. “Mr. James was both my fashion mentor and hero, and he taught me a great deal about how to tell a very effective story through garments.”

American Indian Artist Showcase Oct. 7 McMahon Fine Arts Center at Providence Day School The inauguration of a new annual showcase takes Charlotte by storm on Oct. 7 at Providence Day School’s McMahon Fine

Arts Center, 5800 Sardis Rd. The event, sponsored by the American Indian Party, features authentic traditional and modern American Indian styles, food, pottery, paintings, leather goods and other crafts. An artist and cultural presentation is slated to take place from 1-2 p.m., with the arts and crafts sale scheduled from 2-5 p.m.

Indigenous artists flock to display and sell their work at the showcase, including Charlotte LGBTQ advocate and photographer Linzy Sides. Sides, of Lumbee descent, identifies as a lesbian who has a powerful message to communicate through her art.

“I want, need, my art to speak loudly and make people listen,” Sides said. “But also, to make them think outside the norm. We all have been brainwashed with this idea of normalcy, of traditional standards that if broken, should be hidden and censored and apologized for.”

The photographer’s resistance of conformity and censorship led her to portray fellow American Indian women in powerful, traditionally male roles.

“The majority of my projects and photography series are based around subjects playing roles that are wildly considered ‘inappropriate’ for that specific gender,” Sides said. “I also find that my mind likes to revel in the beauty in darkness, so my images tend to have a bit of a morbid or gothic feel…Twisted and tied, mangled and torn, dark and disturbing, but wildly beautiful with a life-altering message.” : :

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Blumenthal’s ‘The Christians’ inspires introspection, conversation Catch the thought-provoking play until Oct. 1

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Spiritual suffering is front and s a queer pagan, anxiety gripped center in the play, as two key actors my guts at the idea of viewing vividly portrayed in different ways. a play called “The Christians,” Actor Brian Robinson’s Pastor Paul had lauded by critics as an examination of the emphatic voice of a TV evangelithe definition of faith. My experiences cal, with his emotions ringing loud and of Christianity have not been entirely clear through his tone, enunciation positive — a reflection that many LGBTQ and breath. Although the early Pastor people can share to some degree.

Paul had a virtually unreadable face, Although LGBTQ issues were not directly Robinson made Paul’s introspective discussed in the play (a possibility I’d journey come to life throughout the play honestly feared, given the triggering naas the character’s facial expressions ture of those discussions), the questions opened up — until at last, the strong, raised are relatable to virtually anyone, unmovable leader is brought to tears. with or without religious practice.

Next to Robinson’s Paul, actor Playwright Lucas Hnath’s “The Jonavan Adams’ portrayal of Associate Christians” found its home in the pristine, Pastor Joshua had a striking emointimate setting of Blumenthal Performing tional impact. As the two leaders clash Arts’ Booth Playhouse. Director Steve ideologically, Joshua’s face positively Umberger leads the way for shows runvibrated with tension from his internal ning Wednesday-Sunday until Oct. 1, with struggle. Although his character is an two performances every Saturday. antagonist of sorts, the actor’s interpreThe story takes place in a “megatation ensured that the audience would church,” beginning on the day that the not fail to see his humanity, his sincerity congregation’s enormous building has Actors who brought the thought-provoking ‘The Christians’ play to the stage are (left to right) Graham Smith, Chandler and his pain. been fully paid off. On that day, head McIntyre, Brian Robinson, Jovavan Adams and April C. Turner. The presentation challenged viewers to look at their own For me personally, the absolute Pastor Paul encourages his flock to adfaith and how it intersects with being an LGBTQ individual and Christian. best part of “The Christians” was the dress a different kind of debt: what duties Photo Credit: Donna Bise supporting choir. Full of powerful voices true Christians owe to humanity at large. and even clumsy…until I discussed it with my guest of the and hair-raisingly emotive notes, I was Paul’s dilemma seems a dichotomous evening, theatre veteran and my father, Frank Dominguez. Dad reminded of why gospel music has immortal appeal even apart choice that many people of faith undertake; should the different be pointed me towards the concept of “Brechtian alienation,” from devoutly Christian audiences. As for the bearded soloist of condemned, or redeemed? Is Hell a literal place of punishment, or through which playwrights deliberately distance viewers from two particularly memorable hymns: if you’re into women, call me, are all sinners redeemed regardless of conversion or repentance? the world onstage. The purpose of this is to encourage the hon. That voice had the depth and dynamism of Jesse L. Martin Although these are the central questions that characters audience not to be swept up in the story, but to reflect on its (forever my Broadway crush). Enough said. directly ask themselves and one another, other conflicts spring relevance to themselves.

The cast and crew have the ability to make or break any to mind throughout the show. What is the relationship between In that sense, both Hnath’s writing and the technical team who play, and it was clear that the Blumenthal’s team made this one. similarity and love? Why does humanity insist on perpetuating hierdesigned Blumenthal’s depiction were faithful to the goal: make the Although the action itself was neither energetic nor visually archies, claiming a faction as “the one true” and others as aliens or audience think. Instead of dynamic, shifting sets and multitudinous engaging, it did not lessen the play’s impact. LGBTQ Christians “the fallen?” How does anyone entirely know themselves and their props, there were few distractions from the words and emotions — and former Christians — will find compelling questions for beliefs, separate from cultural context? actors portrayed. conversation and introspection. For audiences like me, with a As the congregation of thousands fractures and disintegrates Although the setting was subtle, it was by no means minimal. lack of interest in “Jesus talk,” the message may be different: around Paul’s revelation, the vast majority of the play’s action In particular, creative lighting lent emotional weight to the scenes.

Despite dogmatic restriction, individual spirituality and refleccomes in the form of direct dialogue. Although characters speak A tall wooden cross at center stage was backlit in a gentle, tion are the true foundation of faith. with eloquence and emotion, one technique Hnath used in his ethereal blue, as if illustrating the serenity that many find in that Even those who have been taught to condemn are capable script was a bit off-putting — yet, perhaps, purposefully so. symbol of sacrifice. As conflict seeped into the church commuof questioning and reimagining their concept of God, and of Throughout Pastor Paul’s dialogue, he narrates the interacnity, so did hotter colors begin to tint the curtained background themselves. tions with interjections of “he said,” “I said,” and “she said.” into the regal purple associated with spirituality and suffering.

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Concerts, plays and more usher in fall season Arts as colorful as autumn leaves brush the Carolina landscape

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ith the advent of the fall, LGBTQ arts organizations, theatre groups and concert halls are warming the cooler air with a cornucopia of offerings to satisfy even the most discerning palettes. qnotes shares a few “leaves” to enjoy.

Lavender Pen Tour The Queen City is gearing up for a national chorus stop on Oct. 14, 7:30 p.m., at Ovens Auditorium, 2700 E. Independence Blvd., with the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus and Oakland Interfaith Gospel Choir Lavender Pen Tour, a soul-affirming, life-changing journey supporting LGBTQ+ brothers and sisters, fighting bigotry, and spreading love and hope through music.

The tour’s organizers shared, “With a divisive political climate in the U.S., marked by an increase in dangerous and hostile rhetoric against the LGBTQ and other marginalized communities, [we] take its message and music on the road to promote universal equality and inclusiveness, and the value in treating all individuals — irrespective of differences — with dignity.” It is their hope that the voices heard will empower LGBTQ youth and Americans to “come together and provide conversations and action around civil liberties for all.”

Under the artistic direction of Dr. Timothy Seelig, the massive concert features not only singers, but musicians as well as it tours southern states where discriminatory laws aimed at the LGBTQ community exist.

The tour will also welcome One Voice Chorus and Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte as its special guests on stage during the Charlotte, N.C. concert.

“It is our hope that the music will encourage LGBTQ+ people and our allies to come together, provoke conversations and action around civil liberties for all, while raising funds for local LGBTQ+ organizations. We are not looking to argue, to preach or anger, but rather raise awareness, spread tolerance and bring harmony through song,” tour organizers shared.

They will make stops in Jackson, Miss., Birmingham, Ala., Knoxville, Tenn. and

Greenville, S.C. before arriving in Charlotte.

The tour will join with local non-profits and LGBTQ groups to help raise much-needed funds so they can continue doing their vital work to dismantle these biased and discriminatory laws. And, they will also visit schools, churches, government buildings and more to spread the message and share the meaning of The Lavender Pen Tour.

“As has been evidenced in the recent weeks, we as a country have a long road to travel. After spending a week in the South last

month with our beneficiaries and community partners, I learned that hope — the unbreakable and audacious idea that Harvey Milk built his life on and inspired us to do the same — is very much alive,” said Chris Verdugo, San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus executive director. “We will amplify the work of these organizations across the South, raise tens of thousands in additional funding so they may continue their vital work and empower and inspire them with our music and mission. We believe this tour is another step in the right

direction that will build bridges of understanding, compassion and empathy.” In 1977, a year before his death, Supervisor Harvey Milk sponsored a gay civil rights bill. Mayor George Moscone signed that bill into law with a lavender pen given to him by Milk. The lavender pen remains a symbol of the fight for equality for all, and the reason for the tour’s name.

The San Francisco chorus was founded in 1978 and has been performing to audiences

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The Oakland choir is a community comprised of diverse races, cultures and faiths who inspire joy and unity among all individuals through black gospel and spiritual music.

Beneficiaries for the Charlotte stop will be Campaign for Southern Equality, Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays Charlotte, RAIN, Transcend Charlotte, One Voice Charlotte, Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte and Time Out Youth Center.

Tickets range from $19-$49 and are available online at bit.ly/lpt-charlotte.

For more information, visit sfgmc.org.

Shout & Shine: A Celebration of Diversity in Bluegrass During the International Bluegrass Music Association’s World of Bluegrass business conference, Raleigh, N.C. audiences will be treated to the Bluegrass Situation and PineCone’s Shout & Shine: A Celebration of Diversity in Bluegrass on Sept. 26, 10 p.m., at The Pour House, 224 S. Blount St. Selection of acts was based upon the celebration and encouragement of diversity within the bluegrass and roots community, organizers said.

The showcase includes Tyler Williams Band, openly gay Sam Gleaves, Cathy Fink & Marcy Marxer, The Otsuka & Watanabe Brothers’ Japanese Jam, The Ebony Hillbillies and Alice Gerrard. The Shout & Shine

SuperJam will be hosted by Emerging Artist of the Year nominees Front Country.

Equality North Carolina, Triangle Friends of African American Arts and NC Asian Americans Together, among others, will be on hand to provide voter registration information.

Working closely with the Raleigh community, the showcase was born in 2016 as a direct response to the North Carolina General Assembly’s controversial “bathroom bill,” HB2.

“We’re proud to support ‘Shout & Shine’ again and build off of last year’s successful theme of inclusiveness and diversity,” said Loren Gold, executive vice president of the Greater Raleigh Convention and Visitors Bureau. “Raleigh is a thriving Southern capital city that’s shaped by the passionate minds of its inclusive and welcoming residents. The mission of this showcase could not align more with that core value of our community.”

Admission is $10 at the door, space permitting. For those unable to attend, the event will be live streamed on the Bluegrass Situation’s Facebook page.

For more information, visit pinecone.org.

‘Pricilla, Queen of the Desert: The Musical’ Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance, 1047 W. Northwest Blvd., presents “Priscilla, Queen of the Desert: The Musical” based on the 1994 popular movie of the same name from Oct. 13-22.

For more information, visit wstheatre alliance.org.

‘The Cake’ Written by NBC’s “This Is Us” writer Bekah Brunstetter, “The Cake” is currently being staged at the Playmakers Repertory Theatre, Paul Green Theatre, 250 Country Club Rd., in Chapel Hill, N.C. through Oct. 1.

The story follows cake decorator Della who must figure out how her faith and her love for her family can co-exist when she refuses to bake a wedding cake for a same-sex wedding for her best friend’s daughter.

This tension is not new to Brunstetter.

Her father, former N.C. Sen. Pete Brunstetter supported the 2011 Defense of Marriage Act (aka Amendment One). In fact, he voted for the legislation which passed, but was later overturned by the courts. The partial inspiration for “The Cake” came from the circumstances, the Raleigh News & Observer reported, and added that the father and daughter continue to disagree on same-sex marriage.

Tickets range from $15-$57 and are available online. Students with valid University of North Carolina photo ID can get tickets for $10.

For more information, visit playmakers rep.org.

‘Perfect Arrangement’ Raleigh Little Theatre, Cantey V. Sutton Theatre, 301 Pogue St., will bring Topher Payne’s “Perfect Arrangement” to the Triangle from Oct. 27-Nov. 12.

For more information, visit raleighlittle theatre.org.

Across the State Lee Theatre, 329 N. Lee St., has two plays that are centered around LGBTQ themes.

“Mothers and Sons” will be presented from Sept. 28-30 and Oct. 5-7. “Next to Normal” will be performed from Nov. 2-4 and 9-11 and is a team effort between the theatre’s CataLST intership program and Catawba College. Visit leestreet.org for show times and ticket information.

Charlotte Pride Band will perform in concert on Oct. 28. More information about tickets and location will be available online in the future at charlotteprideband.org.

Cantaria, The Gay Men’s Chorus of Asheville, along with The Knoxville Gay Men’s Chorus, will be in concert on Sept. 30, 6 p.m., in Pack Square during Asheville Pride and on Oct. 14, 7:30 p.m., at Hendersonville Unitarian Universalist Church, 409 E. Patterson St. For more information, visit cantariaasheville.org.

Common Woman Chorus will present “No One Is Alone” on Nov. 18, 7:30 p.m., at Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship, 4907 Garrett Rd., in Durham, N.C. Admission is free. For more information, visit commonwomanchorus.net.

“Rent” is being performed at Blumenthal Performing Arts, Belk Theatre, 130 N. Tryon St., from Sept. 26-Oct. 1. Visit blumenthalarts.org for showtimes and tickets.

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Promoting diversity and inclusion through Bluegrass Music!

Opening up new possibilities for acceptance broadens world view

by Stan Kimer :: guest contributor

Bluegrass Music is considered a form of American roots music with its own roots in English, Irish and Scottish traditional music. …

Inspired by immigrants from the British Isles (particularly the Scots-Irish immigrants of Appalachia), as well as the music of rural AfricanAmericans, jazz, and blues.

••••• As a business oriented diversity consultant, I work mostly within the workplace setting. However, I am always pleased to discover and support activities in all areas of life that promote diversity and inclusion of all people. We need to see increased diversity and inclusion across all aspects of daily life — work, sports, education, politics and, indeed, in the arts — including music.

One wonderful expression of diversity in music is the upcoming second annual “Shout and Shine: A Celebration of Diversity in Bluegrass” being held in Raleigh, N.C. on Sept.

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Each artist and production member was carefully chosen to celebrate diversity within the bluegrass and roots community. These diverse musical artists include: • Tyler Williams Band, whose lead singer was born with cerebral palsy and was blind from an early age • Sam Gleaves, an openly gay musician from rural Virginia (see bit.ly/2flCPyP to listen to a very touching song “Ain’t We Brothers.”)

• The Ebony Hillbillies, a prominent AfricanAmerican string band • The Otsuka & Watanabe Brothers’ Japanese

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Out gay bluegrass artist Sam Gleaves Photo Credit: Susi Lawson, via samgleaves.com

Jam which shows how Bluegrass music is now appreciated worldwide.

So how did this innovative celebration come to be? It was born in 2016 as a direct response to North Carolina’s oppressive HB2 “bathroom bill” which discriminated against and stigmatized our state’s LGBTQ citizens. There were a variety of performance artists’ reactions to HB2, from several boycotts to Cyndi Lauper who came to the state and specifically engaged with the community on this issue.

It is now fantastic to see another organization, “The Bluegrass Situation,” making this positive move of involving its entire community to oppose discrimination and fight for a fully inclusive society where all people are welcomed and valued. : :

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The Battle Against Childhood Obesity Following Simple Steps Can Bring About Better Heath for You and Your Children The month of September has been designated as National Childhood Obesity month. This designation shows the impact of childhood obesity in our society and our communities.

According to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), the number of youths ages 6-19 with obesity has more than tripled over the past few decades leading to approximately one in five youths in this country being obese. There are many theories concerning the sudden rise of obesity but the facts are that each child facing obesity is at an increased risk of significant health and social conditions and concerns. The CDC lists causes of childhood obesity as genetics, metabolism, eating and physical activity behaviors, and environmental factors, to name a few. For each of these concerns, there is a counter tactic which will encourage health among the youth of our communities.

The Risks Children diagnosed with obesity are at risk of developing asthma, type 2 diabetes, bone and joint disorders, as well as sleep apnea and adult obesity. Unfortunately the environment surrounding these children is often not supportive, which can lead to body shaming, teasing or bullying, depression, low self-esteem, and even suicide. A majority of these health and social concerns follow

the child into both adolescence and adulthood causing lasting mental, emotional, and physical distress. In adults, obesity increases the risk of heart disease, type 2 diabetes, metabolic syndrome, and some forms of cancer the CDC indicated.

What Can We Do? In a society where our lives are inundated with work, stress, and responsibilities, we have to make an effort to support our youth. Here are some ways we can increase the battle against childhood obesity.

1. Promote healthy eating Healthy living is more than a diet and starts at home. If you

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have children in your home, encourage healthier food choices that are a balance of protein, grains, fruits, vegetables, and dairy (for bone support). Also, decreasing the consumption of candy and carbohydrate-rich snacks can promote better food choices. Increasing the intake of water and limiting the volume of sugary drinks can promote good habits, as well as healthy kidney function. Encourage adults around you to teach their children healthier eating habits.

Teach children that eating healthy can be fun and tasty.

2. Promote physical activity Challenge yourself and those in your family to move the body more. Host a community fun day or grab the families in the neighborhood for a quick football or basketball game. Teach children around you or those in the area how exercising can be fun. Urge them to put down their phones, tablets, and video games, and play outside or get moving.

3. Say no to bullying Many overweight children face constant bullying at school and in their community. Encourage children to support each other and embrace differences. Promote self-love in your communities, and stop any bullying that you encounter.

Adopt a “no bullying” policy, and remember how it felt to be teased as a child. Educate bullies on how their antics affect those around them.

Use everything you have learned to educate others and join the battle against childhood obesity.

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by Buff Faye :: qnotes contributor :: info@bufffaye.com

My 10 Year Drag-versary: 10 Things I Love about being a Drag Queen

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ou should always count your blessings in life, no matter what they are or how they come to you. Some drag queens may see the life of a drag queen as a curse at times, but I only see it as a blessing that keeps on giving.

This fall 2017 marks my 10 year anniversary doing drag, my “Drag-versary.” So to honor each of the years, I want to share 10 of the things that I love about being a Drag Queen.

10 Things I Love About Being a Drag Queen 1. Giving Back to Charity. I love the fact that on a moment’s notice I can donate my tips or do a fundraiser for a charity. It is a privilege to be able to give back to your community and drag queens have always helped in times of need.

2. Lipstick. I love lipstick, especially leaving a lip imprint on a cheek. Its like planting your flag: “I have been here! — Muah!”

3. Self-Expression. You get to be whoever you want to be. Drag queens can play with the social construct of gender. And we can use our imagination to evoke an emotion. It’s the ultimate thrill.

4. Getting Paid. Sometimes this is taken for granted. But to get paid to perform is a big deal. Not everyone who does drag cares about the money, but it does help make it more than a hobby.

5. Entertaining the Masses. When you do it right, the best thing about being a drag queen is watching the crowd get excited. Seeing them watch in anticipation and truly appreciate what you are doing as a performer.

6. Growing & Growing. I love looking back and seeing how far I have come each year.

How I have changed and grown as a drag queen. This can be in my makeup, my hair, my costumes, my performance value, whatever. Growth is essential to living.

7. Sending a Message. Drag queens have always stood for something greater.

Whether standing up against discrimination, acting up against HIV/AIDS or forging

the Stonewall Riots, drag queens have led revolutions and still do. I love the times I have to say something, do something and be an advocate for something bigger than myself as a drag queen.

8. Sisterhood. Drag queens are vastly different in how they perform and in who they are. One thing that pulls all drag queens together, though, is the sisterhood it offers and the experience of being a drag queen.

I love the sisterhood I have with many drag queens in the city of Charlotte and beyond.

9. Breaking Down Barriers. I love breaking rules as a drag queen. There are no rules when it comes to drag. And those that say there are, are merely afraid of exploring gender fluidity.

10. F inding & Exploring Myself. I never thought I would be a drag queen. My femme characteristics were never embraced when I was a young man.As a result, drag has made me a better person. I am more whole and comfortable in my own skin. Drag has allowed me to break the shackles of manhood and just be me. I can explore without fear and find myself every time I put on a wig to be a drag queen.

Ten years and I have fallen in love with being a drag queen. I am fortunate to be able to share with all of you my love on a weekly basis across the Queen City. If you love being a drag queen, please write why in the comments.

If you are not a drag queen, then share in the comments about what you love about drag queens. You don’t always have to tip a dollar to spread the love.

DRAG TIP: Drag queens love hugs too!

— Buff Faye calls the Queen City her home and likes to kiss Canyon in drag (and raise money for charities). Find her at your favorite bars and hotspots. Plus don’t forget her monthly Sunday drag brunch and regular Friday night party bus.

Learn more at AllBuff.com.

Follow on Twitter @BuffFaye

SHOUT OUTS: OMG. Check out the Rocky Horror Movie Night that a cast of drag queens are doing at the new Boulevard 1820 on Halloween night, Tuesday, Oct. 31. Learn more online at Boulevard1820.net.

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changing my reflection

by Lynette Matusik :: qnotes contributor

A tale of transition

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very 30-60 days, it’s important for me to see my doctor for a routine check in. I know my body quite well, but during transition I am by no means an expert. It’s important to keep up with visits even if I’m noticing progress and feel everything is fine. There, I get a blood tests to evaluate my hormone levels, and more importantly, if I’m a healthy human being. I won’t compromise my health and safety because of this transition. In my first follow-up after starting medication, the results of my test were interesting.

My blood showed a significant leap in estradiol, from 28 to 78.5 pg/ mL, three times what it was before starting! This is significantly higher than the average levels for cisgender males and females, because large quantities of estrogen trigger the body to change. The medical experts have noted that this excess is safe, as tests of my cholesterol and heart rate show. Estradiol levels have definitely changed, but testosterone is a different matter.

My testosterone level is unchanged. This makes sense, because I haven’t experienced many side effects of testosterone loss. I feel no physical losses in strength yet, which I had anticipated. As a performing artist who deals with feats of strength, I worry sometimes about the potential for sacrifice in

that area. In my desire to be the best version of myself, I have to maintain realistic goals and accept the losses that may come.

The lack of change in testosterone is amazing to me, because in just 40 days I look in the mirror and see changes. I’ve gained a little weight, especially in my lower body.

My partner has definitely noticed physical changes. She knows me better than anyone, and it’s actually been pretty fun on a weekly basis to discover occurring changes. I’m more shapely in subtle ways despite my unchanged testosterone levels.

My libido is unchanged as well, but a real side effect I may face is a decrease in sexual desire and function — a scary prospect. As I progress, I make sure to discuss this with my partner. We feel that our relationship can tackle any problem, and this is just one more hurdle to face together. I’m prepared to deal with changes as they come, but as of now, my strength, libido and testosterone remain constant.

Emotionally, I’m not sure what feelings can be attributed to what chemical balance in my brain, but I don’t feel any more emotional than pre-transition. It’s not as much about being “more emotional” as it is how I process the emotions I’ve always felt.

The best way to describe it in a word is “heightened.”

Negative things sometimes feel like a big deal, even though I know and recognize that they aren’t in the grand scheme of things. At times, regardless of rationale and reason about the situation, the feeling doesn’t subside.

Several weeks into starting hormones, I was at an afternoon practice and I couldn’t land a new aerial rope trick I was working on. It really threw me off. Through the whole group practice, all I could think about was how I need to make changes in my life to be more on time. Through the evening this intensified until it was all I could think about.

I felt distracted and didn’t express this to my partner. At work that night, the feeling had evolved into complete despair. All I could think about was how awful a performer I am, asking myself why I don’t give it up, and how much I was letting her down in our art.

I couldn’t shake that irrational feeling. Despite knowing the feeling was misguided, it wouldn’t subside. My girlfriend asked via text if I’d eaten since practice; I had not. I ate, and all was well.

The real problem was a basic necessity that I hadn’t even noticed.

I’m still processing my responses to emotions during this transition, and basic drives like hunger are important to keep an eye on as things progress. After discussing the possibility of testosterone blockers with my doctor, we’ve decided to instead double the dosage of estrogen that I take orally: from 4mg daily, to 8mg.

Progress so far has been subtle, but my body is definitely changing. As I make steps toward my goals to live as I want, I remind myself that my ideal body image and where I end up may differ. I make conscious decisions to strive for an identity, but in a way, I’m just along for a ride. My anatomy is in the driver’s seat, with medications giving directions to the destination that is my female body. : :

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by Trinity :: qnotes contributor :: trinity@telltrinity.com

Gays or homosexuals: What’s the difference?

Dear Trinity, You often refer to gay men and homosexual men as if they were different. What’s the difference?

Technically Confused, St. Louis, MO Dear Confused, When a man lies with or lies about sleeping with another man, then goes home to his wife, mother or closet, to represses his sexuality, he’s a “homosexual.” But when he finally smells the latte, accepts himself with pride and lives openly with his homosexuality then he’s “gay.” You see, pumpkin, some homosexual men don’t realize their gay gift of divine sexuality until late in life because they’re trapped inside the morals of an archaic heterosexual history. Also, Republicans still call us “homosexuals” because Reagan told them to.

Dearest Trinity, I’m a gay man with a healthy dating life. I try not to have sex before the first few dates, but no matter what I do, I find that inevitably gay men don’t want companionship or a relationship — they just want sex! Are all men rogues, or is it just a gay thing?

Gay Rogues, Eugene, OR Dearest Gay Rogues, Yes, gay men love sex. Some even “live” for it.

But it’s that way with all monsters, I mean men.

Straight women don’t let their men get away with it as much as gay men do. But, honey, keep being you, keep holding out and keep getting back on the horse when you fail. Oh, and try to accept men for what they are…oink, oink!

(Check out my cartoon on this and see how I handle this dilemma quite like a good neighbor!)

Hello Trinity, I was dating a great guy who didn’t tell me he had a partner “for 10 years,” even though his partner lets him have affairs. Since I found out, I haven’t talked to him in months. But he keeps emailing and texting me. What should I do or not do?

Married Date, Toronto, Canada Hello Married Date, Just when you think you’ve found “the one,” you suddenly discover “the spouse!” It seems that all the really good single men are also really married. Sweetie, if you’re up for it, why not just email him back with a “last good-bye” vowing to have “no more drama in my life!”

And after that, go celebrate life again.

Hey Trinity, I thought I knew good from bad and sane from insane. But recently, I met this gorgeous girl

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Date Crazy, Charleston, SC Hey Date Crazy, Isn’t dating, being single and life itself often just one big psych ward! Listen, darling, after interviewing many professional daters and asking them how they detect “crazy” here are: Trinity’s Sane Tips For Knowing When You’re DSC (Dating Someone Crazy) 1. When sudden change in plans turns a rational Dr. Jekyll into an outraged Mr. or Miss Hyde. DSC 2. When he is overly, unimaginably, inhumanly picky! DSC 3. When she gets very upset over the simplest acts of kindness! DSC. 4. W hen you yourself begin to think that your own sense of judgment and reality has become distorted, irrational and crazy. DSC 5. W hen a night on the town means six hours in a nightclub, high on drugs! DSC 6. W hen he constantly questions your loving acts i.e., “Why are you kissing me?” or “Why are you bringing me to French restaurants?“ DSC 7. When you say, “Look at that nice tree.” and she says, “Honey, do you think I’m blind?” DSC 8. When you say, “Want some more coffee?”

and he says, “Sweetie, if I wanted more coffee I’d ask!” DSC 9. When you say, “I’d love to meet for dinner.” and she (seriously) says, “What’s wrong with lunch?” DSC 10. Lastly, when you say, “I’m running late (for the first time in months).” and he replies, “Why must you always torture me?” DSC info: With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama performed globally, and is now minister of sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings, wigministries.org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.

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September-October 2017 Twisted Dance Collective’s SEP SEP MO 9th Annual Project Shimmy Greensboro Cultural Center The Van Dyke Performance Space 200 N. Davie St., Greensboro 7:30-10 p.m.

Experience a world of dance with the annual Project Shimmy, presented by Twisted Dance Collective, to benefit Triad Health Project.

Over a dozen performers will entertain, while funds go to help the local HIV/AIDS services organization continue to do their important work. Tickets are $20 for general admission, $15 for students and seniors, and $10 for children ages 5-12, when you buy online at projectshimmy. brownpapertickets.com. More information is available online. twisteddance.com. triadhealthproject.com.

–––––––––––––––––––– Charleston Pride Various locations & times The 8th annual Charleston Pride will bring the community together for a parade and festival. The parade kicks off at 9 a.m., with a route from Ann St., down King St. to Broad St., and then down Colonial Lake. The festival starts at 11 a.m. at Brittlebank Park, 0 Lockwood Blvd. Enjoy music by headliners Big Freedia and David Hernandez, as well as vendors, food trucks, and more.

More information is available online. charlestonpride.org.

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2017 Pride Family Picnic SEP SEP MO Weaver Park 200 Murdock Ave., Asheville 3-7 p.m.

LGBTQ Elder Advocates of Western North Carolina present a Pride Family Picnic for the community.

Hot dogs and drinks will be provided, and attendees are encouraged to bring a side dish or dessert to share if they are able. Musicians are encouraged to bring their instruments as well to help provide entertainment. More information is available online. lgbtelderadvocatesofwnc.org.

Aja from ‘RuPaul’s Drag SEP SEP MO Race’ Chaser’s 3217 The Plaza, Charlotte 9 p.m.-2 a.m.

Aja, who appeared on the ninth season of “RuPaul’s Drag Race,” will perform at Chaser’s, along with fellow queens Amber Rochelle, Skylar Michele-Monet, Jinx Matthews and August Phillippe-Monet. Doors open at 9 p.m., with the show kicking off at midnight. More information is available online. chaserscharlotte.club.

–––––––––––––––––––– Gay Face Dance Party & Queereokee The Pinhook & The Armory 117 W. Main St. & 220 Foster St., Durham Miss Blue Ridge Pride SEP SEP MO 4 p.m.

Asheville Masonic Temple Two events for the LGBTQ community will 80 Broadway St., Asheville benefit Queer Oriented Radical Days of 7 p.m.

The Blue Ridge Pride Center Summer’s Rock Camp, both to be held Sept. 30. and Michael-David Entertainment present the 9th Annual Miss Blue Ridge Pride A 21 and over dance party will be held at The Pageant. Miss Blue Ridge Pride 2016 Pinkhook, 117 W. Main Ginger Von Snap will perSt., and a karaoke and queer youth dance form, and Miss Blue Ridge party at The Armory, 220 Foster St. More Pride alumni will serve as information is available online. judges and entertainment facebook.com/events/1977148175898088. for the show. Doors open –––––––––––––––––––– at 5 p.m., with a meet and NC Pride at Night greet slated for 5:30 p.m.

Harrington St. in Raleigh & and cocktail party at 6 Rigsbee Ave. in Durham p.m. Contestants will be judged on the categories of: Interview, Creative Evening 4 p.m.-4 a.m.

NC Pride at Night returns Gown and Talent. Tickets are $12/floor with street festivals in both and $8/balcony. Meet and greet tickets Raleigh and Durham. There are an additional $5 and include a photo will be food, vendors, enopportunity with Von Snap and alumni. tertainment and more for this event open Day-of tickets are $15/floor, $10/balcony to all LGBTQ individuals and allies. More and $10/meet and greet. More informainformation is available online. tion and tickets are available online. ncpride.org. missblueridgepride.com.

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Drag Trivia The Peace Pipe 204 W. Woodlawn Rd., Ste. H, Charlotte 8:30 p.m.

Join drag queens Ilean Dawn Dover and Onya as they kick off their bi-monthly drag trivia event at The Peace Pipe.

Prizes will be presented to first, second and third place finishers. $1 at the door covers you for a year-long membership.

More information is available online. facebook.com/events/833301790183507.

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Lavender Pen Tour SEP OCT MO Ovens Auditorium 2700 E. Independence Blvd., Charlotte 7:30 p.m.

San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus and Oakland Interfaith Gospel Choir bring their soul-affirming, life-changing Lavender Pen Tour to the Queen City to raise awarness and support for the LGBTQ community, as well as to help raise funds for local area organizations. Special guests One Voice Chorus and Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte will join this performance.

Tickets are $19-$49 and are available online. bit.ly/lpt-charlotte.

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Winston-Salem Festival, SEP OCT MO Parade & Food Truck Rodeo Downtown Arts District Trade St., Winston-Salem 10 a.m.-5:30 p.m.

Winston-Salem Pride returns, with a festival, parade and food truck rodeo theme. Join the LGBTQ community and allies for a celebration of Pride, with eats, drinks, entertainment and more. More information is available online. pridews.org.

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Queen City Unity presents the Charlotte UNITE Festival, a multicultural event open to all, in celebration of diversity and community. Local artists will provide entertainment, food, and vendors will be on hand, and a newly released NoDa brew will be presented. More information is available online facebook.com/events/460136731026871.

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Q&A with Charlton Alicea Getting to know Mr. National Entertainer of the Year 2017

by Maria Dominguez :: qnotes staff As a Charlotte native, do you have a favorite part of town?

I love living in Southend. The restaurants are great and there is always something to do. It is so close to Uptown and I love city life. Watching all the growth is amazing. My favorite part is the light rail trail; being a runner, it’s perfect.

Which is more important to you and why: Financial success, or personal pride in your work?

Personal pride in my work, because when you take pride in what you do and do it well, everything else will fall into place.

What’s the best part about being on stage, in any type of role?

The reactions from the audience; whether they laugh, cry or applaud, I love the interaction where I can feel their energy.

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native Charlottean and self-identified “Renaissance man,” Charlton Alicea shone in the spotlight as he was named 2017 Mr. Entertainer of the Year at the national level. Also recognized locally, Metrolina Theatre Association nominated Alicea for Best Supporting Actor as Angel in “RENT” (Angel is a supporting character? Seriously?

He makes the entire show, in my humble opinion). A performance artist with a diverse background, Alicea moved to California in his youth to train with top Latin dancers before returning home as an instructor and professional performer of ballroom, Pro-Am, rhythm and Latin styles.

Apart from Alicea’s performance résumé, his truest mission is as founding owner of Jeffre Scott Apothecary on Providence Rd. in Charlotte, N.C. The apothecary is as acclaimed as its owner, receiving Charlotte Magazine’s 2017 award for “Best Beauty Shop.” Alicea’s passion for hair, skincare and cosmetics — on top of extensive experience and being quite photogenic — has landed him regular spots on local news as a beauty guru.

Alicea’s appearances include WCCB “News Rising,” WCNC “Charlotte Today” and WBTV “Morning Break.” ​Despite a list of professional experiences and accolades as long as 525,600 minutes, Alicea’s personal life is equally fruitful, and equally dedicated. We don’t all get as lucky as to be born gay in a welcoming home, but the multitalented performer was raised to show the same unconditional care as he received. Constantly smiling, friendly and helpful, this performer is as energetic and enthusiastic in everyday life as he is onstage.

Working your way to your current success, what was the biggest roadblock you came up against?

My internal fear of what others think.

Sometimes worrying about what others think can hold you back. When it comes to male pageantry, it can be subjective, deciding whether or not something might look too feminine. But you have to stay true to yourself and follow your vision. Even in life, we can let that fear overwhelm us. I decided to do EOY for the creative outlet, and I wasn’t going to let what other people think sway me not to do it. The EOY System provided me that outlet for selfexpression. And now with the National title, I can be a little more fearless.

Who has been an essential support system for you, personally and professionally?

Personally, my parents. They have been my role models and my rock. They totally accept me for who I am, both personally and professionally. When it comes to my parents, they love all LGBTQ people, they have no problem with it. The fact I’m gay, they think it makes me that much more special. They celebrate it, and they love hanging out with all my friends (and sometimes I think my friends like hanging out with them more than me). I wouldn’t be who I am without my parents.

How would you describe your ideal threecourse meal in an ideal restaurant environment?

Actually I’m not a big fan of three-course meals. I like more of a tapas situation, like Soul Gastro lounge. [Places] where everyone orders a bunch of things and shares. Cocktails are just flowing, and I get to taste a lot of things. I’m the guy who usually wants to try a bite of everyone else’s meal.

If you were to meditate, what would you picture as your “happy place”?

I always meditate about being in a field of green grass, laying down, looking up at the blue sky. : :

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