Marlburian Club Magazine 2021

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Malaysia Review ‘The bamboo that bends is stronger than the oak that resists.’

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utside the kitchen of the Master’s Lodge in Malaysia is a virtually impenetrable wall of bamboo that sways and rustles in the occasional cooling breeze that rises from the playing fields. This old Japanese proverb came to mind as I watched it swaying as my wife’s favourite mixing bowl slipped from my soapy fingers and disintegrated on the kitchen tiles. The bowl was bright red and one of the few remaining meaningful pieces that my wife had brought from the UK to personalise our new home in Malaysia four years ago. It was the eve of Chinese New Year and preparations were afoot across Marlborough College Malaysia and in the homes of our parents for the noisiest night of the year. Being February 2021 and mid-lockdown again, many boarders were

spending yet another holiday at school and the aim, as ever, was to make it pleasant, fun and memorable. The slower pace of the holiday, however, was making space for painful reflection that we and our many expatriate colleagues had not seen our families for over 18 months in most cases. My thoughts were on the pressures being faced by my staff and pupils, not on washing the bowl that had recently contained dumpling filling. I was immediately struck by how much I had heard and read recently about bending and bouncing and rebounding, particularly for those in leadership positions – all the qualities that my wife’s lovely bowl did not possess as it lay in pieces. As individuals around the globe face what, to many, are unprecedented worries

‘I was immediately struck by how much I had heard and read recently about bending and bouncing and rebounding, particularly for those in leadership positions.’

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about their families, health and income, Beaks often find themselves sharing these empathetically, along with the full weight of their own concerns; others shoulder the full weight of corporate success or failure. Since early 2020, organisations everywhere have been in continual crisis management and the fight or flight response has become an almost permanent and unsustainable state for many of those who work overseas. Resilience – the ability to bounce back and carry on – is the Churchillian quality that can be achieved by self-mastery to fortify the mind, body and spirit. We know the importance of setting aside time for mindfulness, gratitude, appreciating nature and people, exercise, diet and sleep. We can certainly build resilience by making healthy choices to cope with and control our stress, rather than choices that ultimately deplete and control us. Good choices make us healthier, happier, more efficient and have even been shown to have significant influence on antibody response levels during vaccinations. However, the 1st-century Stoic, Epictetus, advised that one should ‘on the occasion of every accident that befalls you, remember to turn to yourself and enquire what power you have for turning it to use.’


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Reflection

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pages 107-109

On the Shelves

12min
pages 103-106

Financial Help for OMs

1min
page 102

Sports

15min
pages 97-101

Looking Ahead

2min
page 92

Malaysia Review

5min
pages 90-91

Academic Results and Admissions

4min
page 96

Valete

11min
pages 93-95

Master’s Review

6min
pages 88-89

Thank You from the Club

2min
page 87

Professional Groups

1min
page 83

Diary Dates

1min
page 82

Events

20min
pages 74-81

Deaths

2min
page 62

Legendary Wicket

7min
pages 72-73

Engagements, Marriages & Births

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Letters to the Editor

17min
pages 55-60

Growing a Baby Food Unicorn in China

8min
pages 45-47

Finding Form

6min
pages 48-51

Pandemic Perspectives

6min
pages 42-44

Cycling Pilgrimage

3min
pages 40-41

Mentor for Mutual Gains

10min
pages 32-34

The Forgotten Genius of Gordon Welchman

9min
pages 37-39

unemployedspy

7min
pages 24-26

Salem to Marlborough and Back Again

4min
pages 35-36

A Lifetime of Scientific Invention and Innovation

8min
pages 29-31

A Secular and Godless World?

5min
pages 27-28

OM News

27min
pages 14-23

Contributors

2min
page 5

My House

2min
page 8

I’ll Never Forget

3min
page 9

From the Chair

2min
page 7

This Year

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page 6

Upfront

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page 4

OM Entrepreneurs

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pages 12-13

Totally Inspirational

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