St. Irenaeus Parish School teacher Catherine Flores reflects on her career choice.
INVESTING IN SAINTS
Philanthropy is one of the cornerstones of Catholic faith and education.
A MARIAN LESSON IN PRAYER
The wedding at Cana demonstrates Mary’s intercession with Jesus.
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READINGS FOR THE WEEK
MONDAY
HEBREWS 9:15, 24-28; PSALM 98:1, 2-3AB, 3CD4, 5-6; MARK 3:22-30
“ Go forward with courage despite every adversity.”
— Pope Francis
SAINT PROFILE
ANTHONY OF EGYPT 251-356
ASSOCIATED WITH THE beginnings of monasticism, Anthony gave his inherited lands and wealth in Egypt to the poor. From the age of about 20 until his death at 105, he lived as a hermit in remote hilltop and desert locations. What is known about him comes from a life written by St. Athanasius of Alexandria. Around 306 he began to accept disciples, founding his first monastery as a collection of hermits' cells. He cultivated a garden, wove rush mats, and fought many temptations and demons. Visitors sought his wise counsel, collected in the sayings of the “desert fathers,” and the bishops of Alexandria summoned him at age 87 to help refute Arianism. He is the patron of basket and brush makers, butchers and gravediggers.C
TUESDAY
HEBREWS 10:110; PSALM 40:2, 4AB, 7-8A, 10, 11; MARK 3:31-35
WEDNESDAY
HEBREWS 10:1118; PSALM 110:1, 2, 3, 4; MARK 4:1-20
THURSDAY
HEBREWS 10:1925; PSALM 24:1-2, 3-4AB, 5-6; MARK 4:21-25
FRIDAY
HEBREWS 10:32-39; PSALM 37:3-4, 5-6, 2324, 39-40; MARK 4:26-34
SATURDAY
HEBREWS 11:12, 8-19; LUKE 1:69-70, 71-72, 73-75; MARK 4:35-41
SUNDAY
MALACHI 3:1-4; PSALM 24:7, 8, 9, 10; HEBREWS 2:14-18; LUKE 2:22-40 OR 2:22-32
PHOTO COURTESY OF KATHY KUSTURA
CATHOLIC SCHOOLS WEEK 2025
BY STAFF
THIS YEAR, CELEBRATING Catholic Schools Week — an annual event to promote Catholic education and recognize the many values it provides — take place Jan. 26 through Feb. 1. Initiated by the National Catholic Educational Association (NCEA), this year’s theme is: “Faith. Excellence. Service.”
In honor of this special week, several Diocese of Orange educators share how their schools celebrate Catholic Schools Week.
ST. BONAVENTURE CATHOLIC SCHOOL CELEBRATES CATHOLIC SCHOOLS WEEK: FAITH, ACADEMICS AND COMMUNITY
Catholic Schools Week highlights the core values of academic excellence, spiritual growth and community service that define Catholic education.
At St. Bonaventure Catholic School, the week begins with a special Mass and Community Open House where students actively participate as readers, ushers, greeters and gift bearers, demonstrating their leadership and faith. The Open House welcomes both current and prospective families to explore the campus, meet teachers and learn more about the school's programs, with Student Council members leading campus tours.
Throughout the week, daily themes emphasize the school's Catholic mission. Vocations Day, for instance, features a school-wide assembly with the pastor, Fr. Vincent Pham and Religion teacher, Sr. Christin, sharing their personal callings to religious life, encouraging students to reflect on their faith journeys.
Service to Others Day brings the school community together for a service project. Students will collaborate in
small groups to create blankets for those in need and write appreciation cards for community members such as police officers, firefighters, healthcare workers, priests and sisters, fostering empathy and community spirit.
The week-long celebrations conclude
with Grandparents and Special Persons Day, where guests enjoy a breakfast program followed by Mass, recognizing the significance of family and mentorship in students' lives.
Additional highlights of the week include School Spirit Days, a Pep Rally,
an Alumni Coffee Social and a visit from the In-N-Out Food Truck, adding festive elements to the celebration.
Diane Woodfill, parent of fourth and seventh grade students, shared her thoughts on the importance of Catholic
ST. BONAVENTURE CATHOLIC SCHOOL TEACHER SENORA JONES AND STUDENT LYA ELLISON. PHOTO COURTESY OF ST. BONAVENTURE CATHOLIC SCHOOL
Schools Week, stating, "This week truly embodies what St. Bonaventure stands for—faith, service and togetherness. It’s a time when our entire community comes alive, and you can see the joy in the students' faces as they live out the values we cherish."
At St. Bonaventure Catholic School, we proudly say, "It is always a great day to be a SAINT!" Catholic Schools Week serves as a powerful reminder of the faith, academic excellence and sense of family that define our community. It offers a meaningful opportunity to celebrate the school's mission while uniting students, families and staff in shared values and purpose.
— Vanessa Frei
HOW MISSION BASILICA SCHOOL CELEBRATES
CATHOLIC SCHOOLS WEEK
One of the most anticipated events of the year at Mission Basilica School is Catholic Schools Week, an annual celebration of what makes Catholic education truly special. Schools throughout the Diocese come together to showcase their unique qualities and foster community spirit among students, parents, alumni and the wider community. This week is a joyful time filled with faith, service and fun, as we live out our Student Learning Expectations (SLEs) and reflect on what it means to be part of a Catholic school.
At Mission Basilica School, Catholic Schools Week is a time of gratitude, celebration and reflection. The week begins with a beautiful Family Mass in the Basilica, uniting our parish and school communities to celebrate our Student Learning Expectations (SLEs), particularly the call to be life-long learners. This opening Mass sets a reverent and joyful tone for the week, emphasizing our shared faith and commitment to Catholic education.
The festivities continue with Celebrating Community and Vocations, a day dedicated to recognizing our commu-
FEATURE
nity members. Our priests are honored during a morning assembly with a special prayer and a spiritual bouquet, a heartfelt expression of gratitude for their guidance. The Carmelite Sisters enrich the day by leading a retreat for parents and engaging with students, offering a deeper connection to their faith and vocation.
Midweek, the spotlight shifts to Celebrating Students, emphasizing their role as self-respecting individuals. Free Dress Days, live music at lunch and other classroom celebrations help students celebrate their Catholic school community. Catholic Schools Week also includes our highly anticipated Open House, where current families, alumni and prospective families explore classrooms, meet teachers and experience the vibrant energy of our campus.
ST. BONAVENTURE CATHOLIC SCHOOL'S ZOLI TEGLAS AND ELLA DUNCAN BRING UP THE GIFTS TO FR. VINCENT PHAM DURING A SCHOOL-WIDE MASS. PHOTO BY ALAN WENDELL
DURING CATHOLIC SCHOOLS WEEK, GRANDPARENTS AND SPECIAL FRIENDS ARE INVITED TO MASS TO HONOR THEIR FOUNDATIONAL ROLE IN CATHOLIC EDUCATION. PHOTO COURTESY OF MISSION BASILICA SCHOOL
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On Celebrating the Nation Day, students focus on being globally aware citizens. Activities like learning about different cultures foster empathy and understanding, while appreciation cards for parents highlight gratitude and family values.
As the week progresses, we honor our faculty, staff and volunteers, celebrating their dedication through teamwork-focused activities like Sports Day, where everyone wears their favorite team jerseys or tees. This day reinforces the SLE and emphasizes the importance of teamwork and collaboration.
The week concludes with Celebrating Families, honoring their foundational role in Catholic education. Grandparents and special friends are invited to Mass and enjoy a warm morning on campus. Students express their love and appreciation by writing thank-you letters to their parents, focusing on the SLE of being faith-filled Catholics.
Catholic Schools Week at Mission Basilica School is more than a celebration—it’s a reaffirmation of the values that guide us daily. It brings our community closer, nurtures faith and highlights the lasting impact of Catholic education on students, families and the world. This spirit-filled week is a testament to
our shared mission and the enduring strength of Catholic schools.
—Gina Kersten
SAINTS SIMON & JUDE CATHOLIC SCHOOL—FAITH, KNOWLEDGE, SERVICE
Catholic Schools Week is celebrated annually during the last week of January—a dedicated time to honor our Catholic faith and highlight the remarkable contributions Catholic schools make to their students and communities.
This year’s theme embodies the mission of Catholic schools: to live out faith and service every day. At our Catholic schools, students learn the importance of giving back as an integral part of their education and spiritual growth. Acts of service, such as food and toy drives, collecting donations and supporting those in need—become second nature, just as faith is a natural and essential part of each school day.
At Saints Simon & Jude Catholic School (SSJ), Catholic Schools Week is a highly anticipated celebration. The week begins with Open House and Mass, where families are invited to tour our campus and witness the incredible learning happening in our classrooms.
This year, SSJ is thrilled to unveil our brand-new library and our “Alumni Wall,” showcasing composite photos of graduating classes dating back to 1968. A ribbon-cutting ceremony will mark the library’s grand opening, and alumni are invited to celebrate the unveiling of this special tribute.
To honor our students and families, SSJ will host a Family Night in the church featuring musicians from the Pacific Symphony and performances by our talented student musicians. On Monday, as a gesture of gratitude, students will take community walks to thank local businesses and community workers in Huntington Beach. The week concludes with Special Person’s Day, where students and their special guests come together for Mass, followed by a picnic-style lunch.
As part of our celebration, students will write letters to honor and thank those who protect our nation, expressing their appreciation for the freedoms we hold. Additionally, thank you cards, heartfelt stories and creative drawings will be presented to our dedicated priests as a token of gratitude for their guidance and commitment to the Catholic faith—a tradition cherished by our students.
Catholic Schools Week is a time to reflect on the blessings of Catholic education and celebrate the vibrant communities that make it possible. We are proud to join the Diocese of Orange in sharing the gift of Catholic education and ensuring that our students continue to grow in faith, knowledge and service.
—Becky Chacon C
THE WORDS FAITH, KNOWLEDGE AND SERVICE ARE DISPLAYED IN THE SCHOOL HALLWAY AT STS. SIMON & JUDE CATHOLIC SCHOOL. PHOTO COURTESY OF STS. SIMON & JUDE CATHOLIC SCHOOL
YOUNG STS. SIMON & JUDE STUDENTS ATTEND A SCHOOL-WIDE MASS. PHOTO COURTESY OF STS. SIMON & JUDE CATHOLIC SCHOOL
GRANDPARENTS AND SPECIAL PERSONS DAY IS CELEBRATED AT ST. BONAVENTURE CATHOLIC SCHOOL DURING CATHOLIC SCHOOLS WEEK. PICTURED: ERIN PAGANO AND HER GRANDPARENTS MICKIE AND TONY PAGANO. PHOTO COURTESY OF ST. BONAVENTURE CATHOLIC SCHOOL
WHY I TEACH IN CATHOLIC SCHOOL
BY CATHERINE FLORES
MY NAME IS Cath -
erine Flores, and I have been a teacher at St. Irenaeus Parish School for three years, and in Catholic education since 2018. I have been fortunate and blessed to teach in both the Diocese of Orange and the Archdiocese of Los Angeles for the past seven years. As a product of Catholic education, I have always appreciated and admired the sacrifice my parents made to put myself and my two siblings through Catholic education from kindergarten through 12th grade. I always
knew as I was on my education journey as a teacher that I would always want to be a Catholic school teacher. My lifelong dream of wanting to be a Catholic school teacher was to give back to the Catholic faith and education that has made me the woman I am today. Being fortunate to teach in a Catholic school, I am able to live out my faith each and every day with my colleagues and students. Being able to incorporate God’s love in all subjects is one of the things I love about teaching in Catholic school. I can teach patience if students do not understand a math problem, God’s forgiveness if there's a disagreement and taking care of the earth that God created for us through our recycling program. As a Catholic teacher, attending Mass weekly with my second graders gives them the opportunity to grow in their faith and also to prepare for their First Holy Communion in May. As a whole school community, being able to attend student body
Masses and watch different grades lead the Mass shows how the youth of our parish are growing in God’s love.
At St. Irenaeus Parish School, I am blessed to have wonderful colleagues who show their love and dedication to their students every day. As teachers, they go above and beyond what they need to do for their students. As a school community, we teach our students about God’s word, especially in scripture. Our Bible verse for this year comes from The First Letter of St. Paul to the Corinthians 13:13. As St. Paul states, “The greatest of these is Love.” Especially in our world today, it is important to teach our students that we all, as brothers and sisters in Christ, need to respect all in this world. I see this every day at St. Irenaeus through the amazing students and colleagues. I thank God each day that He has truly blessed me with being a Catholic school teacher at an amazing Catholic school. C
CATHERINE FLORES IS A TEACHER AT ST. IRENAEUS PARISH SCHOOL IN CYPRESS. PHOTO COURTESY OF ST. IRENAEUS PARISH SCHOOL
HOLY TRINITY BRINGS A LITTLE PASSION (OF THE CHRIST) TO 20TH ANNIVERSARY
BY MEG WATERS
ON FRIDAY, FEB. 7, Holy Trinity parish in Ladera Ranch kicks off a speaker series celebrating their yearlong Jubilee with a keynote speech by actor and Catholic activist, Jim Caviezel. According to Holy Trinity pastor, Fr. Michael St. Paul, the speaker series is part of several events designed to highlight the parish’s 20th anniversary and any proceeds from these events will go directly to the church’s building fund.
Caviezel’s speech titled “Freedom” will center on themes of family, freedom and pro-life values. Since the release of “Sound of Freedom,” Caviezel has delivered inspiring talks to Christian organizations with many diverse backgrounds, including Catholic parishes, men’s and women’s conferences, pro-life galas, business networking groups and more. He gained popularity by being the first Catholic ever to headline
the famous Promise Keepers conference in 2024. His popularity among these audiences stems from his steadfast emphasis on Catholic principles and his remarkable acting career. Known for selecting roles that honor God, Caviezel consistently prioritizes his faith, never compromising his relationship with Him.
The event will be held at Holy Trinity parish in Ladera Ranch, so seats are limited to the church’s 1200 seat capacity. Tickets are $50 and may be purchased online through eventbrite.com then searching Holy Trinity Catholic Church. All proceeds will go directly towards the church’s building fund.
According to Fr. Michael, “This is all a part of Holy Trinity’s 20th Jubilee Celebration, a time of spiritual renewal to restore all things in Christ.” (EPH 1:10)
Holy Trinity’s Jubilee dovetails nicely with Pope Francis’ designation of 2025 as a Jubilee year for all Catholics as “Pilgrims of Hope.” According to the U.S. Conference
of Catholic Bishops, Pope Francis stated in his February 2022 letter announcing the Jubilee 2025: "We must fan the flame of hope that has been given us and help everyone to gain new strength and certainty by looking to the future with an open spirit, a trusting heart and far-sighted vision. The forthcoming Jubilee can contribute greatly to restoring a climate of hope and trust as a prelude to the renewal and rebirth we urgently desire..."
The speaker is part of the Spiritual Renewal Workshop series that includes a year-long calendar of Jubilee events. In March, there will be a second talk given on “Restoration with God.” Another keynote speaker will address “Pilgrims of Hope,” the Holy Father’s Jubilee theme. These and possibly other speakers will be announced at a later date.
Fr. Michael said, “I’m working with an incredibly talented events team, including Daniel Catania, Jennifer Cahuantzi, Steve Day, Rick Volpo, Ellen Vinck and Missey
Moe-Cook. Together, they decided that a high-profile Catholic speaker would provide a unique opportunity for the parishioners. Jim Caviezel being among the top of the list.”
A few days before Christmas, Fr. Michael and the team reached out to find the agents for several mainstream Catholic speakers. Caviezel’s representative was the first to respond.
“By the end of the first night, I had an exciting conversation with his agent, which led to a Zoom meeting with the event team to begin special invitations to our parishioners,” recalled Fr. Michael.
The team began selling sponsorships to underwrite the event so that all proceeds could be applied directly to the building fund.
“Every parishioner I called to underwrite the event jumped at the opportunity,” said Fr. Michael. “We also have sponsorship partners in the general Ladera Ranch community who want to participate in this event.”
Biblically, a Jubilee Celebration is about observing an extended Sabbath and honoring a year of rest. (Lev. 25)
A Jubilee Year is consecrated when liberty is proclaimed to the land and all its inhabitants. It is also a year of blessings when God restores and reconciles all things in Christ! (Eph. 1:10)
The 20th Jubilee of Holy Trinity Catholic Church is a significant milestone celebrating divine life, blessings and service to the faithful people of God for the past two decades with fond memories starting from “Mass on the Grass” to the present day where we worship God in a beautiful church building. This time is also a call to trust the Triune God more in moving forward as a parish community, seeking His abundant blessings on all our parish community members as we journey as “Pilgrims of Hope” honoring our parish mission to put God first above all things. Like the Israelites, together let us sing, “He is good, and His love endures forever.” (2 Chron. 7:3) C
CATHOLIC EDUCATION AND PHILANTHROPY: INVESTING IN SAINTS
BY KATHLEEN HURTT & ANTHONY VULTAGGIO
CATHOLIC education has long been a cornerstone of the Church's mission, shaping generations of faithful individuals who contribute to the moral and intellectual life of society. In a rapidly changing world, the sustainability and growth of Catholic education rely increasingly on strategic philanthropy, which not only preserves this tradition but also enhances its impact for future generations. This is particularly significant for the 36 Catholic elementary and high schools in Orange County.
THE MISSION OF CATHOLIC EDUCATION
Catholic education goes beyond the mere transmission of knowledge. It aims to form the whole person—intellectually, morally and spiritually—guided by the teachings of the Church. This holistic approach prepares students not only for professional success but also for a life of service, rooted in the Gospel values of love, justice and the common good. St. John Paul II emphasized this mission, stating, "Catholic education aims not only to communicate facts but to transmit a CONTINUES ON PAGE 12
THANKS TO THE GENEROSITY OF A DONOR, MORE STUDENTS WILL HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO ATTEND LA PURÍSIMA CATHOLIC SCHOOL IN ORANGE, PART OF PAX CHRISTI ACADEMIES. ANTHONY VULTAGGIO, OCF’S PHILANTHROPY OFFICER, PROUDLY PRESENTED THE CHECK ON THE DONOR’S BEHALF. PHOTOS COURTESY OF THE ORANGE CATHOLIC FOUNDATION
STUDENTS AND STAFF AT ST. JOSEPH CATHOLIC SCHOOL IN SANTA ANA, PART OF PAX CHRISTI ACADEMIES, ARE GRATEFUL FOR A GENEROUS TUITION ASSISTANCE DONATION DELIVERED BY KATHLEEN HURTT, OCF’S VICE PRESIDENT OF PHILANTHROPY & OPERATIONS.
coherent, comprehensive vision of life, inspired by the Gospel."
THE ROLE OF PHILANTHROPY
In this light, the role of philanthropy becomes crucial. As educational costs rise and resources become stretched, philanthropic efforts provide the necessary support to ensure that Catholic schools and institutions can continue their mission without compromising on quality or accessibility.
Cardinal Timothy Dolan, Archbishop of New York, in discussing the importance of Catholic education, once remarked, "We must be bold in our
efforts to ensure that Catholic education not only survives but thrives. It is the most effective way we can form future generations in the faith."
Strategic giving, therefore, becomes a means of investing in the future of the Church by ensuring that Catholic education remains vibrant and accessible to all who seek it. This can take various forms, from scholarships and endowments to funding for innovative programs that integrate faith and learning. The establishment of endowments, for instance, offers a sustainable financial foundation that can support Catholic schools, elementary and high school, in perpetuity.
INVESTING IN THE FUTURE
The impact of Catholic education extends far beyond the classroom. Graduates of Catholic schools often become leaders in their communities, professions and parishes, carrying with them the values and principles instilled through their education. By investing in Catholic education, philanthropists are contributing to the formation of future leaders who will influence society in ways that reflect the teachings of Christ.
Moreover, philanthropy in Catholic education also addresses issues of social justice. By supporting scholarships and financial aid programs, donors help to
ensure that a Catholic education is accessible to students from all socioeconomic backgrounds. This inclusivity enriches the educational environment and reflects the Church’s commitment to serving the marginalized and vulnerable.
If you feel called to help shape the future of Catholic education and society or would like more information, contact The Orange Catholic Foundation (OCF) philanthropy team at (714) 282-3021 or info@OrangeCatholicFoundation.org.
Please note The Orange Catholic Foundation does not provide tax, legal or accounting advice. This material is prepared and made available for informational purposes only. C
STUDENTS FROM CRISTO REY ORANGE COUNTY HIGH SCHOOL AND MATER DEI HIGH SCHOOL VOLUNTEERED AT THE ORANGE CATHOLIC FOUNDATION'S 21ST ANNUAL CONFERENCE ON BUSINESS & ETHICS, WHICH BROUGHT TOGETHER HUNDREDS OF PROMINENT BUSINESS, RELIGIOUS, ACADEMIC AND PHILANTHROPIC LEADERS IN FEBRUARY 2024. PHOTO COURTESY OF THE ORANGE CATHOLIC FOUNDATION
COUPLES IN CRISIS FIND HEALING AND RENEWAL THROUGH RETROUVAILLE
GARY AND BERENICE MASCIEL WERE ON THE VERGE OF DIVORCE IN 2017 WHEN, AS A LAST RESORT, THEY ATTENDED A RETROUVAILLE RETREAT IN ORANGE COUNTY. A YEAR LATER THE COUPLE DISPLAYED AND SHARED THEIR REDISCOVERED LOVE AT THE
BY GREG MELLEN
BERENICE MASCIEL HAD THE completed divorce papers in her purse. She was done. It was over.
As a last-ditch effort, her husband, Gary, and a priest, convinced her to try one more thing.
It was called Retrouvaille. She wasn’t even sure what that meant and pretty
sure it wouldn’t help.
“I was ‘whatever,’ she said. Well, what ever it was, it worked. The weekend retreat was enough for Berenice to keep the papers in her purse.
It didn’t cure everything. That would be a months-long process involving a number of follow-up meetings. The wounds which she and Gary keep to themselves were too deep.
However, Berenice said the break -
through came several months later. She was listening to a presentation by a couple of volunteers that had gone through almost identical travails and managed to save their marriage.
“I was bawling,” Bernice recalled, her voice quaking, “I couldn’t stop crying. A miracle happened.”
It broke her down all the way, but once the dam was broken, the way to true healing opened.
SAVING A MARRIAGE
The union of marriage is one of the most sacred and important covenants and sacraments in Catholic life. Sadly, it has also become one which is too easily disposed of.
In an effort to strengthen marriages and families, the bishops of the California Catholic Conference launched the “Radiate Love Initiative” in July.
SOUTHWEST GATHERING. PHOTO COURTESY OF BERENICE MASCIEL
In the spirit of the initiative, the Diocese of Orange highlights a program called Retrouvaille, an effort started in Canada in 1977 to save faltering and broken marriages. From the French word for reunion, Retrouvaille has become an effective and popular Catholic ministry that helps couples discover healing and hope in their marriages, whether they are in the beginning stages of cracking, well down the road to divorce or already divorced and seeking reconciliation. Couples do not have to be Catholic to benefit from this ministry.
“They’re a ministry to save couples in crisis,” said Linda Ji, director of the Office of Family Life for the Diocese.
“It’s something not a lot of people know about but has helped save many marriages. It’s only fitting to promote such a healing ministry during the bishops’ Radiate Love Initiative when we are called to show the world the truth and beauty of married love.”
RECOVERY IN THREE STAGES
Retrouvaille is a three-fold process. It begins with a retreat weekend. Guided by trained volunteer couples that have gone through the program, the retreat helps couples rediscover God’s love and purpose for them in challenging times. Through the weekend the couples learn about tools they can use to begin to learn and heal.
After arriving on Friday night, couples go through two days listening to presentations by a priest and the volunteer couples and are given tools and strategies to improve communication and a chance to work on them together. Couples begin the bonding process in private and are not required to share their experiences or participate in group discussions
The goal, said Fr. George Blais, who conducts the Retrouvaille seminars and programs for the Diocese, is to start building trust between husband and wife through sharing feelings, talking and listening.
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“For me the lack of communication had me misreading where our marriage was,” said Gary, who with Berenice volunteers registering couples. “In my view, I was providing for my family. But I wasn’t open.”
Fr. Blais added: “It’s about developing trust, in each other, in the process and in God. It is also about regaining self-esteem that can become bruised and broken. We teach to love thy neighbor as thyself, but you have to like yourself. So, we start with the self.”
Although Berenice said she went in feeling bleak, there was just enough to give her an inkling of hope.
“You have to go in with a feeling of hope,” Gary said, “but there’s still a lot of work that needs to be done. As a male I’m guarded, but they start knocking down the walls.”
On Sunday of the Retrouvaille weekend, an afternoon Mass is held, and the differences can be remarkable.
Couples that had been closed off
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from one another are often found sitting close together and even holding hands.
“A miracle happens on Saturday,” Berenice said.
CONTINUING THE WORK
As transformational as the weekend can be, it is only the start.
Fr. Blais says marriages that have taken years to unravel are not repaired in a weekend, no matter how hard participants work.
The second phase consists of six post-retreat weekend sessions in which couples put their newfound tools to work, refining communication, rediscovering each other and examining their lives together in positive ways.
According to Fr. Blais it happens with “baby steps,” with the goal of couples to find their way back to the early days of their relationship.
Finally, couples attend monthly support meetings, called CORE for Continu-
ing Our Retrouvaille Experience. These can be anything from formal presentations and conventions to more informal gatherings and parties.
Retrouvaille literature states that of 5,000 participants surveyed, 75 percent who completed the course were together five years later.
Through the “Radiate Love” marriage initiative by the California Catholic Conference, our bishops “invite every Catholic to celebrate the beauty and goodness of marriage and family.” This may feel like a tough call for couples struggling in their marriages, but ministries like Retrouvaille invite such couples to hope and provide tools and support to radiate love too.
For all the hard work, Berenice said the reward can be overwhelming when she sees couples on the road to recovery.
“I’m overjoyed when I see that spark in their eyes.”
The next Retrouvaille weekend in Orange County is Feb. 21-23. For more information visit helpourmarriage.org
RETROUVAILLE COMMUNITIES
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PASADENA, CALIFORNIA - JANUARY 11: ARAXY MANOOKIAN STANDS IN FRONT OF HER HOME WHICH WAS DESTROYED IN THE EATON FIRE AS WILDFIRES CAUSE DAMAGE AND LOSS THROUGH THE LA REGION ON JANUARY 11, 2025 IN PASADENA, CALIFORNIA. SHE HAS LIVED THERE SINCE 1997. MULTIPLE WILDFIRES FUELED BY INTENSE SANTA ANA WINDS ARE BURNING ACROSS LOS ANGELES COUNTY. REPORTEDLY AT LEAST 10 PEOPLE HAVE DIED WITH OVER 180,000 PEOPLE HAVING BEEN UNDER EVACUATION ORDERS. OVER 9,000 STRUCTURES HAVE BEEN DAMAGED OR BURNED WHILE MORE THAN 25,000 ACRES WERE BURNING FROM THE FIRES. (PHOTO BY MARIO TAMA/GETTY IMAGES)
DIOCESE OF ORANGE SUPPORTS VICTIMS OF L.A. COUNTY WILDFIRES
BY BRADLEY ZINT
THE ROMAN CATHOLIC
Diocese of Orange is donating $1 million toward relief efforts to help victims of the devastating Los Angeles County wildfires, and is promoting a new collaboration with The Orange Catholic Foundation to gather additional funds.
As a faith community of more than one million strong in Orange County, diocesan leaders hope this concerted effort will aid our Southern California neighbors and families in need who have lost their lives, their homes and businesses or been displaced.
The Orange Catholic Foundation, a well-established nonprofit founded in 2000, will be collecting the funds on behalf of the Diocese and working closely with Los Angeles Catholic parishes, the Knights of Columbus and other trusted ministries to identify and support those in need within the affected communities.
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“We here in the Diocese of Orange pray that the Lord give strength to all those who have been affected by these wildfires,” said Bishop Kevin Vann. “As the magnitude of this tragedy presses on, many here at the Diocese of Orange have been wondering how to help. We are pleased and grateful to announce that, in addition to the special collection that is being taken up in our parishes, there is yet another way for us all to aid the afflicted.”
Steve Cameron, executive director of The Orange Catholic Foundation, shared his thoughts: “With the leadership of Bishop Vann, we have come together to create the Help L.A. Fund. Through our collaborative effort, we’re embracing the principle of subsidiarity, equipping local parish pastors in L.A. to identify and respond to the unique needs of the men, women and children within their communities as they rebuild their lives after the fire.”
Bishop Vann added: “With so much information out there, some of it false or unreliable, we here in the Diocese want to ensure that through the trusted, faithfilled partner that is the Orange Catholic Foundation, all acts of generosity will truly benefit those in need.”
To donate and learn more, please visit www.rcbo.org/Help-LA C
WE HAVE NO WINE — A MARIAN LESSON IN PRAYER AND COOPERATION
BY DEACON KEVIN DUTHOY
WHAT DOES THE Wedding Feast at Cana tell us about our spiritual mother, Mary?
Mary takes notice of our issues; intercedes with Jesus; trusts and obeys. While it may not seem necessary in the view of many for Mary to intercede on our behalf with Jesus, it is Jesus, Himself, who allows, if not wills this role for Mary. The mission of Mary as the first disciple is to bring souls to her son. As theologian Peter Kreeft states: “Mary is the neck that can turn the head of Jesus;” she is the highway to the heart of Jesus.
What has the Wedding Feast at Cana to do with us in the here and now? How can we make sense of this miracle ending with abundant blessings and extravagant generosity by Jesus, especially in our families, community and world where we see material and spiritual poverty all around us? Each of us, at one or more times, even perhaps now, has cried out: we have no wine; my son is an addict; I am unnoticed and unloved; we have no joy; we are empty and downhearted; our world is without flavor; our relationships have run dry; all is not well. We do not want poetry, songs, or stories – we want wine! We want wholeness! We want spiritual connection to God! The best wine in our lives.
On those days when the wine runs low, we can begin to doubt our faith. The blessings of God may appear to have left us, that God is absent. Perhaps it happens after someone’s death, a serious health problem, a troubled
relationship. We sense a lack of meaning and purpose, longing for something we cannot name. But it need not be so if we seek the wholeness Cana offers.
First, consider why we run out of wine, why our spiritual condition is less than fully alive. Have we chosen self-centeredness, control, attachment to material goods over a relationship with and dependent upon, God? The Wedding Feast at Cana is premised on anything but self-reliance. Have we forgotten, as one Gospel commentator put it, we are the recipients and not the creators of our lives? Nothing is sure to deplete our wine faster than fighting against our dependence upon God, our Creator, in whose image we are made, not the other way around. It seems we sometimes need to run out of wine to remind us to turn to Jesus who gives us beyond what is needed, the best wine, the wine turned to Blood in the Eucharist, that which “eye has not seen nor
ear heard (1 Cor. 2:9)” – a continuous flow of grace.
So pray, talk to God, name your intention; describe the problem; express your desire but refrain from directing the means of resolution; all without argument, control or demands. Exercise that liberating power of telling God the truth. Ask, but do not specify the how or the when. Then be willing to cooperate, like Mary and the servants at Cana, to “do whatever he tells you.”
Model Mary’s continuous fiat, her “yes,” “thy will be done,” and participate in bringing the wine to others when they run low.
Our lives as disciples are lived in the tension between Mary’s two statements: “they have no wine” and “do whatever he tells you.” One day, our wine may run out; let that day become the day the miracle of Cana begins anew for each of us. The poem, “Wedding Toast,” by Richard Wilbur, extends this apt blessing: “May you not lack for water and may that water smack of Cana’s wine.” C
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Current Opening: Assistant to the Life, Justice, and Peace and Mission Offices
Are you passionate about evangelization and the social mission of the Church, locally and globally? Would you like to make a difference by helping in the mission to train, equip, and organize leaders as missionary disciples to follow Jesus in solidarity with the poor and vulnerable. The Life, Justice, and Peace Office helps lead our community to affirm a consistent ethic of life and promote the common good through public policy advocacy, prayer, education and pastoral care. Formed by the Gospel. Organized for Action. Rooted in Prayer. The Mission Office promotes mission outreach and awareness among all age groups in order to support the world’s Mission churches, organizations and communities. We are looking for a qualified applicant with some knowledge of Catholic Social Teaching and passionate about engaging Catholics in global evangelization and social mission.
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