Shakira and Pique: Are we all therapists?

By Dr. Nancy Alvarez

The networks are wonderful… and a disgrace. With the latest Shakira scandal, I’ve been worried. Also, when I read the “opinions” of a number of “therapists” talking nonsense about what they don’t know. And, instead of helping, they encourage confusion and the growth of emotional illiterates that occupy the planet Earth.

Saying what you think is respectable, even if it is nonsense. To affirm things from fields that you do not know and that are science is to promote ignorance, which is already a lot in the world.

I want to clarify that I am a furious fan of Shakira and that I supported her, until recently, in almost everything she has expressed. When you look up to a person who is famous, talented and reaches millions of people, it is your duty to tell her, as a behavioral professional and family therapist, if she is going astray. Not only for her but also for her children, her minor children.

Especially when I read so much stupidity and ignorance from even behavioral professionals. Enough already.When we mess with children and their mental health, by law that is abuse, and we are obligated to contribute to stop it and report it.

I explain:

I am not in favor of Piqué, and I think it should be reviewed. In addition to thinking about her children, when he does and says nonsense publicly. He is the one most responsible for all this. Although I defended him when Shakira wanted to get into what he does in the “time she shares with them.” That is sacred.

In a divorce or separation, especially when it is done due to infidelity and there is a third person in the middle, the mother or father does not get involved in what the other parent does when they are on “her time” with their children. she. Those days, hours, etc., are very important for their mental health.

You never know if from that union your children will have new siblings, with whom they “should” get along. Something difficult if they put them in the problems of adults. You also don’t know if you die or get sick. If so, it is with that “rival” that their children will live. I repeat for God’s sake, children do not get involved in adult lawsuits. If they do, they will suffer, but the ones who will suffer the most are the parents when they see how they repeat all their nonsense.

I know what it feels like in a divorce, especially when there are children in between. I lived it myself. It was like Shakira’s, of course, in a smaller dimension, with all the country’s press giving their opinion. The most important thing is not to put the children in the middle.

You have to get along with grandparents because they are decisive for the mental health of their grandchildren. I am concerned about the physical separation of fences that Shakira has built between her house and her grandparents’ house. Even if they don’t say it, children suffer. Remember, the family is an emotional unit.