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LOVE ME AS I AM INTERVIEW WITH GARCELLE BEAUVAIS
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MANIFEST WHAT YOU WANT
06. HOW TO MANIFEST WHAT YOU WANT Erin Kurt is an internationally renowned Spiritual Teacher, Founder of The Elegant Life and Creator of The Elegant Art of Feminine Confidence program and she gives us some insight into manifesting what you want and staying resilient in the face of adversity.
13. LOVE ME AS I AM Love Me As I Am is a memoir of a determined and resilient woman's journey of self-acceptance and breaking through barriers. That woman is Garcelle Beauvais and she talks about her new book, resilience and more!
15. INVESTING IN REAL ESTATE Meet Pam Hill, Harvard and Dartmouth-educated entrepreneur and CEO of a multi-million dollar real estate company, a business and money expert, a former Fortune-500 executive, and the founder of My Smart Cousin.
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04. LISTEN UP: JUNE LIVE GUESTS
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21. HOW TO REBUILD RESILIENCE IN YOUR BODY Alicia Hess is a family nurse practitioner and virtual health consultant who left conventional medicine women combat their constant battles with bloating, fatigue, inflammation, and weight gain!
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E D I T O R ' S L E T T E R J U N E ' 2 2 How do you define a resilient woman? How does she talk, walk, and act? The MerriamWebster Dictionary’s definition of resilience is, “an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change”. So the question is, how can you become a resilient woman yourself? This past month, we sat down with four amazing women who have shown resilience throughout their whole lives. They’re sharing their best advice on what it means to be a resilient woman in life, love, health and business. I believe at our core we are all resilient, fear gets in the way and fear causes us to question ourselves, and some people in our lives can cause us to cultivate doubt within ourselves. I don’t know if resilience can be taught. But, we can make choices to be resilient and believe in ourselves and it takes a great amount of faith. If you don’t believe in yourself, you can’t expect anyone else to believe in you. This month, Embrace your own resiliency. Create and find love and beauty even if the reality is ugly and messy. Carve your own space and bring your own seat to the table. You already have resilience in you — it’s in your DNA!
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PINK LEMONADE Refreshing lemonade is a must have during the hot summer months. There is just something about lemonade with it’s tart, refreshing sweetness that makes those hot days much more bearable.
INGREDIENTS 2 cups fresh lemon juice (about 12 lemons) 1 1/4 cups sugar 1 1/4 cups water 1 375 ml bottle of Moscato d’Asti 1/2 bag frozen fruit
You are a going to love this refreshing cocktail. It pairs the fresh summer flavors of lemonade and berries into a colourful, delicious, and irresistible drink. It's perfect for enjoying all season long, whether you're lounging by the pool or kicking up your heels on your patio!
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We make all sorts of variations but this easy berry lemonade is a favorite of ours because it takes no time at all.
sure you have the right balance of tart and sweetness.
When your are making lemonade, you need to juice your lemons. Concentrate just won’t do. Make a simple syrup by mixing the water and sugar. Add the syrup to the lemon juice and top it up with about 4 cups water. Add the Moscato. Mix it all together and taste to make Chill in the fridge and when you are ready to serve, drop in the frozen fruit. This will add another depth of flavour and avoid watering down your precious lemonade.
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Victoria Jenn Rodriguez
June 7 2022
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Founder and CEO of VJR Enterprises, a consulting company dedicated to elevating, enriching, and empowering people to become the best version of themselves.
Tanya Appel
June 7 2022
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VP of Axiom Mortgage Solutions and a licensed broker of 10+ years.
Terrie Schauer
June 9 2022
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20+ years experience as a Real Estate investor and property manager, Terrie is CEO & founder of MyRoom Gestion.
Christine Handy
June 14 2022
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National and International model. Best selling author of Walk Beside Me, writer, motivational speaker, social media influencer, FOX radio news breast cancer expert, nationally recognized humanitarian, mother, student at Harvard, mentor and board member of two non-profits.
DeBlair Tate
June 14 2022
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Certified Fitness & Life Coach, Master Resilience Trainer, former Professional Figure Competitor, Military Training Instructor, and the owner of the 8Figured Brand.
Melissa Boggs
June 21 2022
12:30pm MST
Keynote speaker, leadership coach, and employee experience designer.
Danielle McDowell
June 21 2022
7:00pm MST
Passionate about people, dreaming big, executing well, and building sustainable and impactful businesses that serve to a strong mission.
Debra Lee Fader
June 28 2022
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Debra's mission is to educate people on the values of kindness through generosity.
Sharon Rolph
June 28 2022
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Sharon loves to empower Boomers to find a place to fit in, to matter and to make a difference.
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HOW TO MANIFEST WHAT YOU WANT AND STAY RESILIENT IN THE FACE OF ADVERSITY If you're like most women, you probably want to feel more confident. And who can blame you? Confidence is the key to success in any area of life. Whether you're looking to improve your relationships, career or business, confidence is essential. Unfortunately, many women struggle with confidence. They don't know how to tap into their inner power and radiate confidence in every situation. If this sounds like you, don't worry. You can learn how to boost your confidence and live a more empowered life with the help of Erin Kurt. Erin is an internationally renowned Spiritual Teacher and Founder of The Elegant Life. She's also the creator of The Elegant Art of Feminine Confidence. This ground-breaking program consists of a series of audio lessons that walk you through the process of boosting your confidence and feeling like the true powerhouse that you are. Whether you're looking to improve your relationships, career or business, Erin's program will help you achieve all your goals with ease. So if you want to boost your confidence and become more powerful in every area of life, check out Erin Kurt's The Elegant Art of Feminine Confidence today. Erin Kurt Spiritual Teacher and Limiting Belief Reprogrammer
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We recently interviewed Erin, a spiritual coach who gives women a superpower to live their highest life, most authentic self, to enjoy and experience joy, fulfillment and prosperity at a whole new level. Q: Share with us a little bit about who you are and what you do. A: “The thing that I am most passionate about is bringing women back home to what they are and who they are. I always say that we are spiritual beings, And if you don't have a connection with that, you can have all the wealth in the world. You can have all the successes and awards. But I have so
many multimillionaire women that come to me and they say, “So why do I feel empty?'' So when you and the two are together that is full on feminine confidence and you can go on to enjoy what I call the elegant living and manifesting with feminine energy.” Q: When you talk about this journey of finding the answers inside, to who and what you are, what are some of the strategies you use to reveal those answers within? A: “Well, one of the most powerful things is teaching what it means to actually be a female with feminine energy, because we've been raised in a society that is patriarchal. What success means, what fulfillment means, what happiness means. We've got that all from the patriarchy. This, along with the societies that we've grown up in, the countries we've grown up in, the religions we've been exposed to, and the families we've grown in. But we’re trying to find out ‘what's the truth?’ and ‘what does it mean to be a woman?’ So I introduce them to the different feminine energies. And we actually have an activation meditation. It is a full body activation of that energy within you. So it's not teaching knowledge about these things, It's
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actually having these things within you, and your body knows it, and now it can just resonate with it. I give them processes to have what I call an elegant perspective on every single situation. So this is kind of the connection with all energy.”
process. So when they feel a triggering emotion or a situation that they want to clear or they have beliefs that are coming up against something that they really want to manifest, they are empowered with a process that always works.”
Q: could you share with us a story, or journey you went on with one of your clients that stood out to you as a sort of “success story”?
Q: Why do we as humans hold on to the negative and ignore the positive? Share with me your thoughts, insight and your practices around that.
A: “Well, let's go into one of the biggest ones. Mother Trauma. I have a lot of women who come to me with a trauma of the relationship that they had with their mother; It was very abusive mentally, sometimes physically, or emotionally. One client in particular, she had been going to therapy for five years, Yet she had been in this spot of rehashing this mother daughter thing and she couldn't get past it. And she was at a stage in her life where she was like ‘I don't know if I want to be a mother can I be a mother? Should I even be a mother?’ Because she didn't want to put this stuff onto a child and keep the pattern going forward. This woman worked with me privately. First we cleared a lot of that trauma and reprogrammed her beliefs around it.
A: “We are literally biochemically programmed to hold on to the negative. So many people think, ‘why am I like this?’ And we start shaming ourselves, let me tell you, that it's actually your biology that keeps you safe, and smarter, to prevent you from being further hurt. The thing is, that you never processed whatever it was that hurt you, and you absolutely need to process it. And there are a variety of techniques for that. If you desire to have this beautiful, elegant life, which I talk about, it's your responsibility to take charge and say, ‘Okay, how can I make that meaning of that situation a positive?’ And I call that the elegant perspective on it. With this example of this woman who had the trauma with her mother, she just could not get over it until we started doing the work together. She went through this program, and within two weeks she made her mind up that she was going to get pregnant. And now she is on the road to having a beautiful baby girl.”
But the thing that I love about the program that I run, the elegant art to feminine confidence, is I'm all about empowering women to know that, because you're connected to this all, you actually have everything inside of you, and all you need is maybe a few tools or techniques. So I teach the women in the program something called the elegant clearing
Q: . What are a couple things that we could do on a daily basis, to start implementing this elegant lookout on life.
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A: “I would say, A morning routine. It is what sets the tone and just the energy for your day. Within this, number one, is some kind of alignment exercise that you can do, meditation being one of them. And I have a meditation specifically for this, I sell it on my website, if anybody is interested. It's called the ‘Start Your Day with elegance and flow’ meditation. It aligns you with what you are because of divine energy, there is no judgment, nothing is good or bad, it's neutral and it's very high vibe. So if you align yourself with that energy, you are already starting your day from a neutral energy and a high vibe energy. And then I always say be very intentional about how you want your day to go. So, you can ask yourself a variety of questions, whatever feels right to you. Let’s say you've aligned with that energy and there's not a lot of chatter going on and you're just calm. You are in touch with your soul, which is connected to divine energy. Ask this question: Who do you want to be today? And wait for a word to arise. It might be peace, it might be patient, it might be loving, it might be a bad ass. I mean, who knows what your soul is going to want that day and it will be different. Sometimes there were multiple months where the same word peace, peace, peace kept coming to me. But there are a couple of ways, even within 15 minutes, to choose who you want to be, in the life you want.” Q: Is there a central mission that you've been really focusing on these days? A: “Well, this is my utmost mission in life right now. At this time in history, more than ever, the feminine energies are needed and require cooperation, interconnectedness, flexibility, gracefulness. I want women to know that it's not something outside of themselves that they need to do to change the world. Because a lot of women who come to me want to make a huge impact in the world. But if you asked me what is the number one thing that I think every woman needs to spend time and energy on, it is learning how to have feminine confidence. What do I mean by feminine confidence? confidence in the past used to be a little bit more
concerned with ego. ‘I'm good. I am so good. In fact, I'm actually better than that person’ it's kind of this arrogance, and a little bit of ego-ness, whereas feminine confidence comes from knowing what you are, and being that. From these feminine energies, you instinctively and naturally know your value and your worth. You don't have to try to do it. This notion; ‘fake it till you make it’ You don't have to try to do that. You can just be you, just because you know your value. From that energy and that understanding, you go out and you have the ability to write that book. You have the ability to start that podcast, to put yourself on that dating app, or raise your prices, or move to a different country. You have the ability to do that because you know that you are good enough to do that. You're worthy enough to have that life you want. It's not you trying to prove or be defined or be validated from something outside of yourself.” Q: What is one quote that has greatly impacted you and your work? A: “this is one actually from Will Smith and when you hear it, you're going to really laugh every moment. “We have a choice, evolve or repeat.” And I love that quote because I, too, came from a lot of trauma in my background, very significant traumas. And I lived in victimhood for probably 30 years. And I repeated the patterns and repeated the patterns and repeated the patterns. And when I finally got what I call this elegant perspective and stopped living from victimhood. I decided I was going to evolve from this experience, I'm not going to repeat that anymore. If you want to go from just understanding universal principles to embodying them, check out Erin online. Find free resources, meditations, different guides, and masterclasses. Watch the interview now! youtube.com/c/KimTalk Connect with Erin Website: theelegantlife.com Instagram: @theelegantlifeblog YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/TheElegantLife
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WHERE'S KIM BEEN? ROAD TRIP! In order to avoid some flight issues, Kim and husband Doug decided to do the cross-country tour from Atlanta back to Calgary,
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TOO LEGITIMATE TO QUIT PODCAST How are you showing up in your business - as an expert, as an advocate, as a supernova? Or are you playing it safe?
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This event combined the very best in shopping, speakers, makeovers and rejuvenation for the ultimate experience for women. Kim had a fabulous time on the road with Resilient TV, talking to women about real estate, resiliency, and more!
Putting yourself out there day-after-day is freaking HARD - it requires so much of us: courage, confidence, grit, faith. But we can so easily undermine all these traits with spray-and-pray marketing efforts and misplaced humility. What would change if you fully owned your expertise and took up more space? Kim talks Legitimacy, Tenacity & The Wizard of Oz on the Too Legitimate to Quit podcast with Annie Ruggles toolegitimatetoquit.com
GARCELLE B E A U VA I S LOVE ME AS I AM
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Garcelle Beauvais has carved out a dynamic career as a model, actress, author, producer, and humanitarian. She launched a decade-long modeling career at seventeen, which took her around the world and paved the way to her storied acting career, which includes successful television and major film roles on The Jamie Foxx Show, NYPD Blue, Tell Me a Story, Merry Happy Whatever, Coming to America, Wild Wild West, and Spider-Man: Homecoming. In 2019 Beauvais became the first Black castmate in the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills franchise. She is currently the host of the Emmy Awardwinning daytime television talk show The Real and host of the podcast Going to Bed with Garcelle. Her new autobiography “Love Me As I Am” (Amistad, 240 pages, now out) is part of her journey of selfdiscovery to reach the G-place (as in Garcell) of the actress, model and TV personality. The curtain pulls to her life and decades of career. Garcelle Beauvais, Model, Actress, and Author. For our first question, I’d like to ask: Q: How do you deal with pushback as a celebrity, and what is your advice to women who are putting themselves out there; starting businesses, etc, and are facing scrutiny? A: First of all, I want to say congratulations to all the women out there putting themselves out there. We're so brave to do that and to want to start a business, no matter how old you are. The thing is with branding, you really want to be authentic to who you are. So know your brand, know who you are, know what you want to put out there. But once you're under that fishbowl, you have to be able to discern the good from the bad. Don't listen to every comment, because sometimes for me, there can be a thousand great comments that one negative will stay with me. But you have to push through. We have to push through. And I think it's important to have a social media presence, but don't rely solely on that.
I think above all is, you know what you want to sell and go out there and do it. Don't be deterred by negatives that will happen but you just have to push through. Don't be afraid to ask for help. I feel like sometimes as women we tend to want to go, I got it, I got it, I got it. It's OK to say to a friend. ‘I saw you do that really well. How can I learn that?’” Q: What is the background story around your Book? A: My girlfriend, Nicole Smith, we ended up writing the book together, and she had never written a book before, but I knew she was capable because I've seen some writing pieces here and there. And I said to my lit agent, "will you check her out? I know you have a list of people that you want me to talk to, but will you check out my girlfriend?" She ended up being the writer for my book, and she is now writing her fourth book. I mean, it's unbelievable. And I think it's just believing and getting the opportunity and going for the opportunity. Q: What was your aha that came out of writing this book? A: I think resilience and strength. Sometimes I think we don't know how strong we are until we're really tested, and I've been tested a number of times. But my thing is, I'm not going out without a fight. So I'm going to push through because no one has a perfect life. I'm going to push through, and my resiliency is one of the keys to me being in this business so long. Q: What was one time in your life where your resilience got you through a tough situation, and helped you get where you are today? A: I would say, knowing that here I am in my late forties getting a divorce, that I have two 3 year olds that are looking up at me. I have to push through for them. I have to wake up and make them breakfast and get them to preschool and then figure out my life, you know? And that was a real struggle of rediscovering who I am outside of being married. So I had to be resilient. Connect with Garcelle Instagram: @garcelle Facebook: @GarcelleB Twitter: @GarcelleB
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INVESTING IN REAL ESTATE WITH PAM HILL Are you looking to invest in real estate, but don't know where to start? Look no further than Pam Hill. As a real estate investor with over 25 properties, Pam knows a thing or two about getting started in the industry - and she's here to share her knowledge with you. Pam began her real estate investment career ten years ago during the Great Recession. At the time, she was working as an executive at an electric utility company. However, she saw the potential for profit in the real estate market and decided to pursue it as a side hustle. Since then, Pam has become known as the 'Smart Cousin' to everyone in her family, offering personal finance and real estate advice.
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We recently connected with Pam Hill, founder and CEO of My Smart Cousin; a self-made successful real estate investor, and inspiring resilient woman. Q: What was your beginning like? Were you raised in a well-off family? A: “I grew up probably like most folks with a working class, but the hard working, set of parents. I would call my childhood home ‘loving’, but peanut butter and jelly jars were we're drinking vessels, right. So certainly no precious China type family. My mom worked for the airlines as an agent on the phone and my dad was a taxi driver. When I got to college, when I got to Dartmouth, which is in New Hampshire, I was blown away by what normal looked like for a lot of my classmates, which was a private school; very wealthy. I was a public school kid. Dartmouth certainly reaches out to develop its minorities, but the year I was there, our freshman class had about 1060 or so kids that were admitted and attended. And of that about 57 were black. So that was new for me; to be in such a dramatic minority. And all of that really motivated me to make sure that if I had this privileged position as someone who had higher education and learned how to really navigate in a world that was heavily privileged, I also had the obligation to share my knowledge with others; my family, friends, etc. I got the chance to see how important real estate was from a young age, because it was the thing that my parents aspired to; to own their very own home. I watched how the children didn't always hold on to the real estate as parents moved on. And that seed was planted early on of how important it is to have the mindset where you can continue to hold on to that wealth and build that wealth So, I became that cousin that would always reach out to family saying ‘Remember that for one key investment you told me you were going to make last
year at the family reunion. How's that coming?’ Or ‘I remember that you said you want to move out of your apartment and begin to buy something. How can I help you?’.” Q: How did you fuel your drive, as a young woman, to get into Harvard? A: “So I always have to start off with thanking my parents, but as far as how I motivated myself and what I filled myself with, I'd say I always had the entrepreneurial bug from when I was young. As I got older at school time, my classmates and I would buy and sell candy, and those sorts of things straight through college and out of college. So I always look for opportunities to be an investor and not just someone who works. I can remember two books from when I was very young, The Millionaire Next Door. And of course, Rich Dad, Poor Dad, which most everyone knows. And when reading these books, in your twenties or thirties, it's monumental. And so I made up my mind then and there that I would be that millionaire next door. And I certainly would follow the principles and rich dad, poor dad to build up real estate.” Q: What do you do, and how did you get started? A: “So how I got started in real estate as an investor as opposed to as a home buyer was about ten years ago when my husband and I were dating. He was looking for his first house here in the U.S. and we lived in Delaware. And so I went with him to look at houses, just kind of tagging along for fun. And we were blown away by how cheap houses were. I would have never, ever guessed that a house could be bought for less than six figures. So we saw houses not just five figures; like 90,000, but straight on down to 20,000. And once I saw it, I couldn't unsee it. These were homes in probably the kind of neighborhoods I grew up in, working class neighborhoods, majority black, but also majority hardworking folks. So I decided then that I was going to start to buy these kinds of homes
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Some of them I bought through auctions and was able to buy several at once. For instance, about three years ago I bought four houses each for $7,000 in a county auction. Two were great. Two were duds. And so I learned from that as well. The two that were great, I had them rented out in a matter of months. So this is why I focus on houses that are that price of a car because you really can't lose in my view. You can't lose for two reasons. One, because you have an annuity, an annuity just meaning something that's going to pay you month after month after month, kind of like a bond. The second way you can't lose is by buying it so low, you're really not going to cry into your glass of wine. If the house goes from $7,000 to, gee, only worth 5000. And moreover, the likelihood of it doing that is minuscule. At least two of the things that you can control for a tenant because there's really three things I tell my tenants that they should look for and consider. One is the neighborhood, too, is the house. Three are the landlords. So I can certainly control being a great landlord and giving them a great house. I can't always control the neighborhood, so I look to treat the neighborhood like I live there; calling police when there's noise complaints, broke down cars parked in someone else's spots, etc, because I don't want to be afraid when I'm there, and I don't want them to be afraid when they are there.” Q: Are there any grants or programs to help people without a lot of money to get a matching investment? A: “Yes, so if that person was my client, the first thing I would do is find out where it is that they live so that we could begin to investigate first time homebuyer funding, which is not matched based; it is simply for your first time. Let's say this person was looking in a large city like Philadelphia; I would ask if they ever owned a home before in Philly? And if they say no, great, you're going to qualify. If they say yes, I owned one, but not in Philly. I owned one in another part of Pennsylvania or elsewhere. I'd say, you know what? As far as Philly is concerned, you're new to them, so you're probably going to qualify.
Then we look to see what it takes to get that money. Often it's a class, some kind of budgeting class. And once they pass that, which is not terribly difficult, that's going to be about four or $5,000 that's in their pocket. That can be used towards down payment and closing costs. Second thing I would do if they are receiving any kind of assistance, let's say a housing choice voucher, which is a Section eight kind of voucher. I would work with the person who is their case manager to see how they can qualify to receive mortgage assistance rather than renters assistance. And then the third thing is I would ask if they were wedded to a location. So if she's really looking at Philly, let's explore why. You know what? Maybe they don't need to live in Philly. Maybe we move 100 miles to the west in some cities that are a little more rural. You can qualify for a zero money down loan through the USDA if your economic circumstances are quite harsh.” Q: With all your success in owning and renting so many estates, you surely have a great deal of steady income. Why start a coaching program? A: “I do this for a couple of reasons. One is because I feel I am called. I am obligated. I am required. I love to help others. The tent is big enough for us all. There's more than enough cake for everyone. And it's no fun to just have the cake all to yourself. And it's just something that I think has always been within me, this notion of being a light in this world. So that's one reason I do it, because I feel I must a second reason that I do it is because I know that most people want to own their own home and just don't know how or just even if they're not thinking about the house, they want to be in charge of their life a bit more. They don't want to break out into a hot sweat when they open up the latest round of bills that have arrived. So I want to help them do that, that's really it, fundamentally I love it and I would do it no matter what. I see this as the sort of thing I would do straight till my last breath. When I hit retirement years, for sure, I will still be doing this because I enjoy it. I really do. It gives me satisfaction”
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Q: I've heard of a program that can be set up where when people pay their rent on time, it can actually go towards rebuilding their credit. From a landlord's perspective, how can that be a benefit? A: “So what a landlord can do is contact the credit bureaus. So there are three principally three credit bureaus in the U.S. And report that their tenant is making payments on time. They can do that each month or they can do it at the end of, let's say, a lease period. The landlord would provide how much the rent was, whether the payment was made on time and any other issues or positives associated with that. And then the credit bureau would incorporate that into the tenant's record that the tenant's credit record, and that would then improve their credit score. So a credit score is in the U.S. based on FICO. So that could increase their FICO score by several points.” Q: What was a moment in your life where your resilience pushed you through a hard time, and got you where you are today? A: “So many moments of resilience, I'd say. I can think about when I was eight years old, my mom was instrumental in having me bus out of the neighborhood to a better school district. So for the parents who are out there who do that, or some other form of advocacy for their child, for them to remind their child, ‘this is a resilient moment for you.’ And it was a resilient moment for me, because I was leaving all my school friends to go to a different school district, and yet I persevered and knew that there was something better ahead. Another time, in my adulthood, resilience would be as I moved from one job to another, each time wondering what I'd be able to take on this new role, especially if I had zero experience in it or felt I didn't have in some way I wasn't enough The resilience to persevere and continue on and to believe that you have what it takes, even if you are doubting yourself in that moment.”
Q: If you had to pick one book to recommend to women over 40 who are looking to build their wealth, or that really speaks to you? A: “Well, first of all, it would be a good time to mention my book, its called “how to buy a house for the price of a car”, but besides that, I would recommend a book that I go back to, it is a classic called The Tipping Point by Malcolm Gladwell, who I believe is a Canadian. His book would have been written probably about 20 years ago. But why it speaks to me even as a woman and as a woman of color is that it talks about those dynamics that aren't always clear to you in the moment, but show you when you're about to reach a tipping point.” Q: What is one quote that has really resonated with you throughout your life? A: “There's two people that I have always looked up to, and been a huge fan of, and that is Oprah Winfrey, and Nelson Mandela. One of the things that Oprah Winfrey has said is that ‘it always looks impossible until it's done.’ And that speaks to me because it tells me that you can't give up too soon because success is always right around the corner. Another quote, by Neslon Madela is ‘if you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together’” Watch the interview now! youtube.com/c/KimTalks Connect with Pam Website: www.MySmartCousin.com Instagram: @mysmartcousin Twitter: @mysmartcousin Other: Tik Tok: @mysmartcousin
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HOW TO REBUILD RESILIENCE IN YOUR BODY
When it comes to our health, we often think of resilience as something that we need to develop in order to bounce back from setbacks. However, resilience is actually much more than that – it’s about having the strength and flexibility to withstand challenges in the first place.
And when it comes to our bodies, developing resilience is key to maintaining our health and preventing disease. There are many things we can do to build resilience in our bodies, but one of the most important is to eat a nutritious diet. Eating a variety of nutrient-rich foods helps to ensure that our bodies are getting the nutrients they need to function optimally. We recently welcomed Alicia Hess on the Kim Talks podcast, to talk about physical resilience. Alicia is a family nurse practitioner and virtual health consultant, who is dedicated to helping women all over the world combat things like bloating, fatigue, inflammation, and weight gain. Alicia has taken her expertise in medicine and utilized it as a holistic and non-traditional health consultant, allowing her to help people all around the globe get healthier without the drug-centered mindset of the western healthcare system.
Alicia Hess APRN and Founder/CEO of ‘I Am Wellness’ health consulting
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Q: What is your approach to holistic and non-traditional health coaching? A: “So that's basically the first thing that I do is after I have my initial conversation with a client and get and engage what exactly their main concerns, I send them a very detailed health history form going back to their birth; their health history, their habits, their sleeping, their stress levels, their lifestyle. Just kind of getting a bird's eye view at their lifespan, on what things may have happened as they were growing up. getting a more holistic view or whole body view of what's going on. My main (concerns involve, like) are you hydrating well? Are you eating the right foods? Is there something you’re having an intolerance to? Are you sleeping well? How are your stress levels? All these things that you don't really get the chance to explore in the traditional doctor’s visit because you're so limited on time. You get a 15, 20 minute visit to explore part of the issue, and then they say try this pill, which is kind of like a band-aid for your symptoms; It doesn't really take care of the root cause of the problem.” Q: What is something that is a cost effective healthy food that we could incorporate into our diet? A: “Think whole, clean food. Your fruits, your vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins. It's also a good idea to go organic, mainly because you're limiting the pesticides and herbicides that are exposed in those farms that those fruits and veggies are growing. So if you're eating them, you're probably also getting traces of those pesticides and herbicides that can mess with your gut. Now, on that note, I know organic foods can be expensive. There are ways to work around it. There's a really good resource by the Environmental Working Group that gives you some more cost effective options” Q: I’ve heard a lot of rave around home-made hummus and chickpeas being super healthy for you, is it really that good for you? A: “Definitely not a bad food. A lot of the time my therapeutic nutrition for clients have chickpeas; they're definitely on that list.
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Cooking fresh is always best, especially when it comes to condiments and spices, dressings, a lot of those condiments at the store are loaded with, you know, high fructose corn, syrup and preservatives. So when you can make your own dressings and seasonings, that's really beneficial.” Q: One thing that I think about when you talk about homemade foods, is community gardens. It is an increasingly common thing in Canada, but, are there many opportunities for you clients in the U.S. to participate in them? A: “That might be less of a thing over here. In Florida, we have local farms, but unfortunately, I don't see a lot of community, or freshly grown produce stands around here. We do, though, have what we call a Saturday morning market, and on occasion we have vendors that sell fruits and veggies from their farm.” Q: So, you're all about helping women to align their health, their life, and to become more resilient. So when we think of all the stressors of life, our finances, our love life, our work life, etc, what are some side effects that we can easily identify in our bodies
that are being triggered by stress? And what can we do to deal with all this built up stress? A: “So stress is a very psychological, neurological thing. And the first thing I believe that it affects is our gut. Our gut has a lot of neurotransmitters and what we call the enteric nervous system. And when that's affected, it can throw off a lot of things. It can cause, for example, irritable bowel syndrome. Think of when you're nervous for a test, You kind of get those butterflies and your stomach. You just feel like you're running to the bathroom or you feel sick to your stomach, kind of the same concept. So if you're exposing yourself to stressful situations or exposing yourself to environmental toxins those are the symptoms that you will feel first from the gut. You might feel bloated all the time, your energy levels may be down, etc. If your gut is irritated, angry, or inflamed, it's not going to absorb the nutrients that you have. You could be eating the healthiest things, and being very active, you may feel that you're doing all the right things. But if your gut is not in the right place,
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you may not be absorbing all those nutrients. So healing your gut is a big thing.
with somebody, whether it's a doctor or practitioner, to identify any possible nutritional deficiencies and then looking into what supplements you may need.
Other symptoms like depression, anxiety, ADHD, have all been linked to impaired gut health as well. Joint pain is another big one. A lot of autoimmune conditions can be related to or can be worsened by stress or poor eating or gut health.
Q: What is your personal perfect, super satiating dinner?
So that's why my focus is on taking that deep dove into a client's history and seeing what it's going on that might be affecting that gut and other things that can be causing inflammation in the body.” Q: There is a lot of information on Facebook, and other social media platforms about gut health. One common one is that apple cider vinegar works wonders on improving your gut health. What are some things that are actually medically founded that can help with restoring gut health? A: apple cider vinegar is actually a good routine to do in the morning. You can put one or two tablespoons into a glass of warm water, maybe with a little bit of lemon. It helps with satiety. There are a lot of benefits to it, but the same benefits can be found in other probiotics that can come in many forms. You can get live refrigerated probiotics. There's one I recently discovered called Dr. D's down here. It's at a store called Publix. It helps support the normal micro-biome in your gut. So if those bacteria get out of whack because of the way you're eating, or stress, the probiotics can help support and keep those good bacteria from overgrowing and causing a lot of those symptoms. So prebiotics, probiotics, and apple cider vinegar, Those are some well known studied supplementations. Supplements are only beneficial if you're absorbing them well and if you're taking them correctly. . The best source of supplements, all your nutrients, minerals, vitamins. It's going to be from eating a rainbow of colors from your fruits, your veggies. I call it the phytonutrient spectrum so you can get tons of nutrients from blueberries, spinach, strawberries, blueberries have been shown to benefit those with arthritis or joint pains. And then working
A: “So perfect dinner for me is a portion of protein about the size of your palm. So whether that's chicken or salmon or once a week red meat if you'd like, and then you want to add a vegetable. So I would say broccoli or Brussels sprouts. We call these cruciferous vegetables; ones that have strong odors. Those are all great for helping with your hormone balance. And then, of course, you want a healthy carb. So say sweet potato, a bit of olive oil, sometimes, I'll sprinkle a little cinnamon on there, add a little sweetness. Just having those three; your macronutrients, your proteins, your carbs and your fats, because fats are not a bad thing. Just make sure they are healthy fats. So things like avocado or omega threes from salmon What some people call the standard American diet or the sad diet because it's full of this process of artificial foods and that's just wreaking havoc on our bodies. I'm learning more about how, you know, this fast food and packaged processed foods, how terrible they are for you, and so I'm trying to get away from that.” If you're looking for a simplified one-on-one, personalized approach to help you get back to a balanced lifestyle, improve your gut health, combat stress, and help you get your momentum back, connect with Alicia. Watch the interview now! youtube.com/c/KimTalk Connect with Alicia Website: www.aliciamarienp.com Instagram: _iamwellness Other: Tik Tok: aliciamarienp
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