Freedom Wall: In moments of uncertainty, we thrive

written by Joy Daguiso

As 2020 ends, we look forward to a better future – a more humane society where kindness, compassion, and respect exist unconditionally. Where one can live with peace within themselves. Where the community fosters a safe and nurturing environment for all its members. Where everyone cares for each other’s welfare. Where equality and justice always prevail. (Aha! Wishful thinking!)

It is safe to say that the year 2020 taught us a lot of lessons. Since the beginning, it has taken us on a roller-coaster ride of uncertainties. We took some detour from our usual daily route and along the ride, we experienced overwhelming forces that led us to where we are at this very moment. These included emotions that initially spurred through isolation then later, we realized that it is a collective feeling of grief, fear, frustration, and longing. In grief, we learned that it is not just about losing someone we love but it can also be a sudden change in our environment. Fear occurs because we are unaware of what might happen to us which leads to feeling frustrated with the things happening beyond our control such as being distant from the people we usually interact with every day, or the mere fact of going out of the house simply because we want to.

Thankfully, we are not alone in times of difficulty and uncertainty because, during the moments when feelings of helplessness occur, we learned how to thrive. We made ourselves informed and assessed our situations leading to responses that addressed our needs. As the months passed by, we slowly adapt and navigate our lives into something meaningful such as re-connecting with one another, expressing ourselves, appreciating the little things we can do, and re-establishing ourselves little-by-little. We also learned that there are like-minded individuals and organizations that have the same intentions and mission – to help. Through this, we were able to gather our strengths, resources, and thus, survive together. And when we say survival it is not about the fittest but how much we care for one another.

Our thriving journey does not end here. It is perhaps taking another detour where we choose another path to take. In the choices we make for ourselves, it is also sweet to consider the welfare of others as well. There are three questions we can always ask ourselves on this journey. First, ‘where have you been?’ Let yourself answer, and hopefully, it will be filled with memories that allowed you to grow and recognize your younger self. Second, ‘Where are you?’ At present, acknowledge your thoughts, feelings, surroundings, relationships, and current options. Lastly, ‘where do you want to go?’ In the next few months, know the places you want to visit, situations that you want to see yourself in, and the people who stand beside you. Hopefully, we can all choose a life worth living because we believe in our own strengths and our ability to thrive as lifelong learners and travelers.