CECILIA HABGOOD

Sister, daughter, self, me

Be careful of who is thinking. This is what we believe. To stand for good and moral. No lying, no cheating, be honest, do honest work. Solve problems and first be SURE to identify them. Be funny be fucking jarring and hilarious. It can’t always land but when it does oh when it does. Not just the laugh though but the poignancy is most important. But be sure to use love. Mean well at your core. Point out errors with humor. Shortcomings with humor. Critique only where critique is necessary. Or if it is funny but you are sure it is not harmful. Or you don’t think it is. Who can be sure of anything? It is best to not be sure actually because if you’re waiting to be sure you will never say anything. But mostly oh dear god mostly never forget to critique yourself. Develop. Develop constantly and vastly. I mean like 5+ times over. You don’t know what you think of something until you’ve tried it 17 times. Text someone to apologize if you think about it again. Love strongly and carefully and imagine yourself in their shoes. Put yourself in their shoes where you can (when it will not cause extensive harm to you). But you will never learn more than their shoes and even then remember it is incredibly limited. So ask them. If you think they will be honest. Try to think as much as you can with that brain but give it rest. Never give IT a rest. Even when they tell you to. When they think you’re harping on. Say but is it different? And they will say no. Keeeeep harping on until you’ve squeezed the sponges bone dry. Remember what your little you said to you about Pink and Justin Bieber. And mostly remember that being a little girl is not inherently naive and stupid and incapable. It does not need assistance. It means that you indulge unabashedly where it feels right. It means you are meaning well from your core in the most genuine form. But also remember that you don’t know what you’re talking about. Because you can never know actually. And if you want to know actually (as close as you can) you must look with your own eyes and borrow the eyes of others.