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Welcome to PrideFest! This weekend we come together to celebrate diversity and inclusion in our community. For 39 years, Pride St Louis has worked to bring people together to celebrate, educate, activate, and rise for pride. In fact, this year’s theme is “remember, rise, respect”. We ask you to remember the struggles and hard work of our community over the years. We ask you to rise in not only celebration, but also in activism towards change in our community for it’s continued betterment. And we ask you to respect those who came before us, and also those who should have our respect to be heard. While so much has been achieved, there is so much more we can do and must do in our community. From proper, equal, housing for everyone to justice reform, Pride and being “prideful” must be more then a party and celebration. It must be and also mean continued activism and involvement to make this world a better place. Reach out this weekend, learn about volunteer activities, community organizations that need your financial support, and rise up and celebrate the hard work ahead of us. Have a good time, and Monday, let’s all get back to the good work of making a difference! On behalf of our tireless volunteer Board, we wish for you a wonderful visit to our festival. Have fun and be safe! Take care of each other. Happy Pride!

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St. Louis Pride Parade Grand Marshal: Angelica Ross

he 2018 St. Louis Pride Parade Grand Marshal is Angelica Ross, a multi-talented artist. She’s the co-star of the Emmy-nominated and Gotham Award winning web series, Her Story, a leading trans activist and founder of the nonprofit, Trans Tech Social Enterprises. Ross is an accomplished writer and executive producer and the 2016 recipient of the Human Rights Campaign’s visibility award. Congratulations on being this year’s St. Louis Pride Parade Grand Marshal. Have you grand marshaled before? No, the St. Louis Pride will be my first Pride as Grand Marshall. Do you have a favorite LGBTQ Pride memory you can share? Yes. The most memorable pride for me was my very first Pride in Rochester, NY in 1998. The Song “Unspeakable Joy” by Kim English was on repeat and I was getting my first taste of freedom after graduation high school a year early at the age of 17. It was also that same Pride that a drag queen by the name of Helena Troy helped me to find my name, “Angelica”. She asked me what did I want to inspire my name. Sitting there wearing my white glittered angel wings I told her that I wanted my life to be like that of an angel here on earth. I felt like my smile was my halo. That Pride I found an unspeakable joy that “they did not give and they cannot take it away.” What makes PrideFest so special? It’s a time to celebrate in whether you’re into parades or pageants, go-go boys, house parties, or charity events; there’s something for everyone. And if there isn’t I expect somebody to be protesting and demanding that we make space so that no one feels left out. To be honest, for me and many trans women, we didn’t consider Pride to be our holiday. After years of going and seeing the focus solely on white buff gay boys it got boring for us. But the movement for trans equality has brought us together, we amplified our voices, we made the world take notice, made changes, and we just have so much

to celebrate and be proud of. Now the Pride runs deeper. What was the inspiration behind founding TransTech? It was my own struggle and marginalization in the adult industry that I found a way out that was not just about surviving, but thriving and becoming my own boss. In TransTech’s DNA is a blueprint for figuring it out. It’s not your typical nonprofit. At TransTech we help people discover how to become their own heroes. In fact, that’s the theme to our 2nd Annual TransTech Summit, “Super Power Summit” on October 20th in Chicago at the Groupon Headquarters. Tell us about Her Story. Are you surprised at how well it’s been received? Her Story will always have a special place in my heart. I was surprised and also not surprised by how well it was received. We did think it was going to be a small web series that our friends would see. But the project kept growing and growing and getting bigger and bigger as the story itself captivated our crew and cast who worked for almost nothing to tell “Her Story”. I just didn’t expect a tweet from Kerry Washington or an Emmy nomination. What does PRIDE mean to you? PRIDE is something that starts off on a basic level of being proud of yourself, to a deeper and clearer understanding of exactly what it is you have to be proud of. For many years the LGBTQ community exhibited a foolish pride, for while the parade marched on, trans women of color were being murdered, our cries muffled by house music. Silvia Rivera and Marsha P. Johnson’s voices finally broke through the crowd and folks are finally listening as we see many organizations go through name changes and organizational changes to make sure they are not leaving off the “T”. I am proud of the growth I see happening in the LGBTQ community, but specifically the growth I see happening in individual trans people’s lives who are experiencing more support, respect, love, and prosperity.

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Headlines of Hate and Hope By Steven Louis Brawley, St. Louis LGBT History Project

he St. Louis LGBT History Project always looks forward to Pride season, during which we offer new educational programs and exhibits. Over the past year, the Project has embarked on a strategic effort to diversify and expand our research and preservation efforts. The Project has recently collaborated with the Bisexual Alliance of St. Louis, the Gender Foundation of St. Louis, the Transgender Spectrum Conference, the Zebra Lounge Facebook Group, and others to further explore our hidden history. Researching St. Louis’ LGBTQIA+ heritage is complicated by the inability to use a modern lens. Sadly, negative terminology such as “degenerate, fag, freak, dyke, immoral person, pansy, pervert, queer, sodomite, undesirable,” etc., are often the best search terms to use in capturing long-lost stories about our ancestors. At PrideFest’s History Village, the Project will offer an exhibit entitled “Headlines of Hate and Hope” documenting St. Louis’ LGBTQIA+ experience via mainstream newspaper articles dating back to the mid-1800s that often used these derogatory phrases. In addition to the exhibit, learn about the following groups and organizations – each of which are making dramatic contributions to the research and preservation of our local LGBTQIA+ history. “GAY HOME MOVIE” DOCUMENTARY St. Louis filmmaker Geoff Story is producing a documentary entitled “Gay Home Movie” that tells the story of his 1990s purchase of two canisters of home movies at an estate sale on Lindell Blvd. The movie reels show gay men at pool and holiday parties at a remote location in Hillsboro, Missouri in 1945. The Project is assisting Story in his quest to find out more about the men in the movie and what gay life was like in St. Louis during the 1940s.

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GRIOT MUSEUM OF BLACK HISTORY Beginning February 2019, the Museum will be offering a special exhibition documenting the intersection of HIV/ AIDS and Black history, especially in the St. Louis. The exhibition will honor the memory of Robert Rayford (19531969), an African American teenager from St. Louis who was one of the earliest, perhaps the earliest, known AIDS fatalities in America. While AIDS affected everyone, it had an especially powerful impact on the LGBTQ community.

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MISSOURI HISTORY MUSEUM The Project continues its strategic partnership with the Museum to offer educational programs and lectures. The Museum’s LGBTQIA+ collecting initiative will lead to future exhibits. Many of the items already donated by the Project can be viewed online at the Museum’s new website: mohistory.org. PRIDE ST. LOUIS Over the years, Pride St. Louis has generously supported the Project by providing exhibit space at the annual PrideFest. The Project is pleased to partner with Pride St. Louis, and other community leaders in planning a year-long celebration in 2019 to commemorate the 50th anniversary of Stonewall featuring St. Louis’ own historic LGBTQIA+ milestones that occurred in 1969. STATE HISTORICAL SOCIETY OF MISSOURI The Society (housed locally at UMSL) has been a pioneer in preserving local LGBTQIA+ history since the 1970s. The Project first turned the Society to help archive donated items in 2008. Their repository includes key information about the early years of many local groups and organizations. ST. CHARLES COUNTY HISTORICAL SOCIETY An UMSL intern has uncovered some fascinating lesbian and gay history in St. Charles County. The Project is excited about forging a new partnership with the Society to help learn more about LGBTQIA+ life in this historic part of the St. Louis region.

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WASHINGTON UNIVERSITY IN ST. LOUIS The Project is honored to partner with the University on a variety of programs, including the innovative “Mapping LGBTQ St. Louis” digital history initiative and a service learning course that is collecting oral histories. As well, the University is collecting, archiving, and preserving LGBTQIA+ documents and artifacts. To learn more about the St. Louis LGBT History Project, refer to stlouislgbthistory.org.

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PAIGE ALYSSA SAT. 6/23 3:45 P.M. MASTERCARD ENTERTAINMENT STAGE

Urban pop singer, songwriter and producer

Paige Alyssa proudly returns to Pride St. Louis to perform on the Mastercard Entertainment Stage on Saturday afternoon. With two EP’s and a slew of singles under her belt the soulful songstress is looking forward to showing Pride audiences what she’s all about. “Well, I can’t tell everything, because I don’t want to ruin any surprises,” teased Alyssa about her performance. “However, everyone should look forward to an upbeat performance that has a little something for everybody. I wanted to make sure that I went all out for PrideFest this year and give the audience an idea of who Paige Alyssa is as a performer and vocalist. You all won’t be disappointed.” Born and raised in St. Louis, Alyssa took inspiration from her gospel roots and earned a music degree in vocal performance from Webster University. Her two EPs, “The Wait is Over” and “Songs for Myself” draws inspiration not only from gospel and jazz, but a musical journey with pop pulling from artists from Lauryn Hill and India Arie to Prince and Madonna. An openly gay artist, her first PrideFest experience was performing at St. Louis PrideFest in 2016. It’s a moment she’ll never forget. “That was my first time ever attending pride, as well as my first time singing for the festival,” she explained. “It was great being surrounded by my LGBTQIA+ family and having the opportunity to sing

for them. That moment also taught me a lot as a band director and performer. Since that performance, I have raised expectations for myself and I’m even more excited and confident to come before you all again this year.” “PrideFest audiences are special because we’re queer,” Alyssa continued. “While being part of this community often comes with challenges, I love being queer and I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world. It’s an honor to perform for my chosen family, and this is one of the few times during the year that I get to share my music with the audience I wrote it for. My queerness has informed my music, and there’s no greater feeling in the world than being able to perform for the community who inspired me to write and produce. I can be who I am without fear, because I know there’s a crowd of people out there who see and value me.” Indeed, Alyssa continuously challenges the norms of popular music and its current state. The eclectic influences she’s derived from her training can be heard in new music like 2017’s “The Plug” and “Worth It” and some past songs she’s recorded that pays homage to earlier sounds. “Pride means freedom,” she concludes of PrideFest. “Freedom to be in this body without fear and without minimizing myself. Freedom to love whoever I want, however I want. It means everything to me. Because of that, I am going to give this performance everything I have.”

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STEVE GRAND SAT. 6/23 5:15 P.M. MASTERCARD ENTERTAINMENT STAGE

Steve Grand, the out and proud singer,

songwriter, and former thirst trap model returns to St. Louis for his PrideFest debut on Saturday on the Mastercard Entertainment Stage with a mix of old and new music. “I’m excited to be coming to St. Louis PrideFest to perform,” said Grand. “I’m going to be releasing my sophomore album early in July so I will definitely be playing some new songs off of it. I’ll also be playing some favorites of “All-American Boy” as well as some covers that should get everyone going. I’ll be accompanying myself on guitar and piano as I sing.” The Chicago native, 28, boasts over 16 million views on YouTube and a #3 album on the Billboard Independent Album Artist charts. His first of many self-funded music videos, “All-American Boy,” went viral, and was followed by one of the most successful music Kickstarter campaigns ever for his debut album of the same name. The feat has earned him the reputation as a trailblazer in the entertainment world. Grand’s music video, “All-American Boy,” released in July of 2013, tells the story of unrequited love between two men, and took the internet by storm when it was released. While the song’s country themes had some in the media dubbing Grand the “first openly gay male country singer”, it’s a label he rejects, saying he never claimed to be the first of his kind, and

frequently praises the LGBTQIA+ trailblazers who have come before him. That said, it’s no wonder Steve Grand has become one of the hottest tickets on the LGBTQIA+ Pride circuit for the past five years. “People are out to have a good time and celebrate themselves and embrace their uniqueness. It’s a colorful display in all kinds of ways,” said Grand of these annual concerts. Asked if he had a favorite Pride moment, he immediately responded New York in 2015. “I played NYC PrideFest the weekend the Supreme Court ruled in favor of same-sex marriage. That was a magical moment! Such a victorious, exciting energy in the air,” said Grand. Touring internationally and across the country since 2016, Grand has also made appearances on Good Morning America, CNN, Larry King Now, and other national outlets where he has used his platform to advocate for human rights and LGBTQIA+ equality. “Pride means not only accepting the person you are, but loving and embracing that person,” Grand explained. “We all have something unique to offer. It’s about finding that light and letting it shine through.” Grand’s most recent single, “Walking” from his upcoming album (Title - TBA) was released in June 2017. The song is available for download.

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BONNIE MCKEE SAT. 6/23 6:00 P.M. MASTERCARD ENTERTAINMENT STAGE

If the name Bonnie McKee doesn’t immediately ring a bell

her songs most certainly will. As one of the most sought after songwriters in the industry, the plucky diva has penned hits for the likes of Katy Perry, Britney Spears, Kelly Clarkson, and Jason Derulo, just to name a few. What’s more, her songs have received 6 Grammy nods, and she’s won dozens of BMI awards. But while writing ten #1 hits for other singers might satisfy most, the industry power house with her big voice and bright pop sensibilities is her own, unique artist. McKee has since put out her own single, “American Girl”, as well as an independently released visual EP, “Bombastic”, and has accumulated over 35 million views on her brightly colored, wildly original music videos. “St. Louis can expect a high-energy set full of familiar bops,” said McKee of her St. Louis PrideFest debut closing out Saturday night on the Mastercard Entertainment Stage. “Every song in the set is online so fans can stream ahead of time and sing along!” McKee is no stranger to PrideFest stages and admits they’re among her favorite gigs to perform each year. “I played Chicago Market Days festival and the crowd was incredible,” she recalled. “I love meeting the diehard fans and also making new ones. I’ve seen a few Bonnie McKee drag performances and that really makes me feel like I made it.” “Pride audiences are the best because they are such a

liberated group,” McKee continued. “They are very loyal, supportive, and they really know how to party! They’re not afraid to dance and really fan out and that’s a performer’s dream.” In June 2017, McKee was asked to pen a love letter to the LGBTQIA+ community for Billboard Magazine where she credits a childhood friend’s coming out to her with giving her the courage to do the same later on. She wrote, in part: ‘His openness inspired me to accept my own sexual identity -- and it wasn’t so scary to say out loud that I myself am bisexual... My LGBTQI fans are the most fearless, fierce, and loyal bunch. The love that I’ve felt from them at Pride shows, online, and even just walking down the street is unmatched. Their enthusiasm and heartfelt messages and support of me through thick and thin has honestly kept me going at my lowest points.’ With a string of independent singles, McKee’s electrifying live performances and carefully curated visuals have gained her a loyal online fan base, and she is currently working on her next effort, a highly anticipated full length album. “Pride to me is most importantly about not just being yourself, but celebrating who you are, and in doing that, hopefully encouraging other people who may struggle with self worth or identity issues to do the same,” McKee concluded of PrideFest. “To lead by example and be fierce, unafraid, and unapologetic about who we are.”

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SUN. 6/24 4:30 P.M. MASTERCARD ENTERTAINMENT STAGE The multiplatinum, award winning EDM duo La Bouche has

been lighting up dance floors across the globe since 1994 with over 12 Million records sold worldwide, Billboard and MTV music award nominations and an “Echo” (German Grammy award) and mega hits such as “Be My Lover” “Fallin’ In Love” and the infectious “Sweet Dreams.” Now 24 years later front man Lane McCray Jr. brings La Bouche back with a new rendition of “Sweet Dreams” and a new pairing with Hungarian chanteuse Sophie Cairo (replacing the beloved Melanie Thornton who died in a plane crash in 2001). The coupling of these two golden voices has been touring internationally, working on new material, and are set to dazzle St. Louis PrideFest on the Mastercard Entertainment Stage on Sunday afternoon. “So you ask what is in store? Well it’s a celebration of love through the eyes of our music plain and simple. No pretense, just a good, old fashioned Ho down,” said McCray. According to veteran St. Louis DJ Danny Morris, you couldn’t enter a club in the late 90’s without hearing the pounding rhythm of the dance duo La Bouche with “their bouncy beat and synthy Euro pop sound matched with Melanie Thornton’s silky vocals and Lane McCray’s rapping,” he explained. “They pretty much dominated the dance floor for

the second part of the 90’s and even into the early 2000’s,” said Morris.”La Bouche made such an impact not only in clubs but in pop music as well. Not many dance artists were being played on the radio in the 90’s. So for an artist like La Bouche to make it into regular radio rotation was a great achieve-

ment for dance music artists.” As McCray is quick to point out, La Bouche has been on the front line of LGTBQIA+ issues since their arrival onto the global stage. “I will say performing in my home state of Kentucky last year I took some time after the show and met with several audience members and the overwhelming stories told that resounded were how our music was paramount in their lives when they came out,” McCray offered. “One young transgender man told me his mother had disowned him and that it was our song “In Your Life” that sustained him through that struggle. So it is always the one-on-ones with the crowds and I love hearing their stories.” “I have always had the hugest amount of respect for the PrideFest goers and organizers because in my opinion it takes a huge amount of courage to step out into the world as your true self and I have seen men and women across the globe do just that,” continued McCray. Then there are the masses of straight people that love unconditionally - so mix all that up and that’s a whole lot of love and that is what is special about PrideFest.”

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ally-known artist, singer, songwriter, producer, dancer, actress, activist, and philanthropist, Mýa will close out St. Louis PrideFest on Sunday on the Mastercard Entertainment Stage. Her high octane performance is presented by 95.5 The Lou. “I am so excited for St. Louis PrideFest and if you know anything about me, I love giving LIFE on stage, so expect to be entertained and uplifted with classics, brand new music, and a bit of cunty hunty,” proclaimed the diva. Mýa’s remake of LaBelle’s “Lady Marmalade,” which was featured in Baz Luhrman’s “Moulin Rouge”, won the Grammy Award for “Best Pop Collaboration.” She performed with Lil’ Kim, Christina Aguilera, P!nk, and Missy Eliot for this award. Mýa has also won numerous MTV VMA awards, as well as the NAACP Image Award. In addition to her success with music, she was a finalist on season 9 of Dancing with the Stars. Mýa is deeply committed to activism and philanthropy, having founded TMATF: The Mýa Arts & Tech Foundation, which aims to provide disadvantaged youth growth and opportunity through education. She has worked to improve the lives of LGBTQIA+ people throughout her career by aiding in the global fight against AIDS, assisting homeless LGBTQIA+ youth, participating in the

NOH8 campaign, and partnering with the Human Rights Campaign for #LoveConquersHate. “PrideFest to me is a collective effort of community coming together to represent love, oneness, equality, honoring individual truth, a community of pioneers and fighters, and celebrating each victory pertaining to breaking barriers whether personally or politically,” Mýa explained. “And of course celebrating it all with amazing, vibrant beings that support each other. It’s my favorite time of year! “Pride to me means being proud of who you are, and letting nothing and no one discourage you from your truth, what feels right to YOU, what makes you feel alive,” she continued. “Living in your light and owning it regardless of what the rest of the world thinks, does, and preaches.” Earlier this year, Mýa unveiled the release of her brand new, highly anticipated 13th studio project, “T.K.O.” (The Knock Out). The sexy, sultry, and soulful R&B album is the global icon’s 9th studio album, and her very own label Planet 9’s 9th independent project, which fuses elements of 70’s & 90’s R&B with sonics from today’s contemporary urban music sound, that is proving to be a knockout smash hit world-wide. “It’s truly been an amazing, educational, and humbling journey these past 20 years in the music business and I am truly grateful for every experience, encounter and everyone who has been a part of this ride,” she writes on her website. “My passion and love for music has never been greater and I can assure you, I am just getting started and the best of me has yet to come.”

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An Inside Look: Pride Compliance By Dennis Gorg, Director, Compliance

t’s our role as leaders to question ourselves, to push for more, and to push for better, to not settle, and to not be comfortable. We set the example. Last year the Board of Directors created the position of “Director of Compliance”, thereby also creating the department. The role is to oversee the organization, both internal and external, relating to policy, enforcement, and “compliance” on promises of the organization. Compliance set out to provide extensive support for the organization. Our work included reviewing agreements, settling vendor disputes, working on Board development issues, and advocating for ways to better our organization. At Festival, the Compliance team was seen monitoring first aid response, ensuring public safety in ways the festival was set up, overseeing execution of services from vendors, and coordination with City services. The volunteer crew of about 14 people worked tirelessly, as all Pride volunteers do, all weekend ensuring a successful event. We realized that much more work remained. This year we have broadened our scope to understand better our need to do more. With so many marginalized in our own community, we need to ensure broader safety and full representation. Compliance seeks to hold our own organization accountable for promises, to be non-bias, of equality, understanding, and representation of all points of view. For example, when we advocate to make sure we produce a festival that protects all, we mean “protect all”, even those who are our peers and might be there to protest us. We work to ensure things like free access to water, equitable transportation, fair security practices, organizational response to issues, and even safe weather response. Truly, Compliance works under the big tent of our community - where all are welcome and should be supported, equally. This year too, we reached out beyond our own organization sharing our work, policy, and philosophy with over 50 other pride groups through InterPride at their

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e’re honored to partner with Pride St. Louis and #Boom to bring you this combined Official Pride Guide and summer issue of Out in STL. Pride is when we take stock of where we are as a community, and while there will always be conflicts and rivalries (and shade!), I’m seeing more unity and collaboration than I ever thought possible. For starters, the acrimony and tribalism that long defined our LGBTQ media landscape has subsided, rekindling friendships and creating dynamic partnerships unimaginable a year ago. We suffered a terrible loss when Bastille’s beloved Peyton Keene was shot and killed outside of the bar last month, yet the way everyone pulled together in the aftermath was truly remarkable. For instance, a request was made to help with his final expenses, and triple the requested amount was raised in the first few days. It’s not in our civic nature to claim our community is anywhere near perfect, but we’ve no shortage of people working hard to perfect it — and we’re dedicated to covering them and their stories. In addition to all the great content in this year’s Pride Guide, this season’s issue includes features on a few of the most intriguing influencers in the city, including gay QB and activist Jake Bain. Pride St. Louis’ own Jolene Gosha shares her harrowing tale REFLEX PHOTOGRAPHY STL of hitting rock bottom and her triumphant return, and the illustrious Vincent Flewellen welcomes our masterful writer Patrick Collins to tour The College School, home of a progressive community of students who will march in the Pride Parade. Collins attended elementary school in that very structure, and his piece captures the jarring juxtaposition of the trauma and isolation he suffered with the warm and affirming environment within those walls today. Associate Editor Melissa Meinzer honors the B in LGBT with her story about Bisexual Pride, and K. Templeton gives a rundown of Black Pride, St. Charles Pride, Metro East Pride and Tower Grove Pride, which has expanded into the park. From our local stories, several which have gone viral, to our always-local covers, Out in STL is dedicated to covering the entire spectrum of this community, and proud to be part of it. Thanks to everyone for the warm welcome in what has been a terrific first year.

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hat’s unique about The College School is that we are a private, independent school for everyone,” says Vincent Flewellen, the school’s director of equity and inclusion. We’re seated in an open area that I happen to know was once used as a library. It’s next to the principal’s office and directly across the hall from the classroom where Miss Kasch taught me to read in 1972, when I was in the first grade. “We are proactive and intentional in our work around equity, inclusion and social justice.” In the fall of 1971, I started kindergarten in this building, which at the time was Lockwood School, and part of the Webster Groves School District. The first four years of my formal education took place here, and they were nowhere near what one might call “inclusive”; like the grade school experience of many queer kids then and now, they were in fact a trauma, the aftermath of which smoldered for decades and left plenty of scars. On the playground, where a beautiful greenhouse presently stands, I remember day after day of trying to render myself invisible, hoping that nobody would notice what a predicament I was in. At home I’d been doted on by older brothers and a sister and mother who thought everything I did and said was an achievement. But on the unforgiving asphalt at Lockwood, which quickly became my own personal war zone, the boys rejected me outright, swiftly and completely — I was way too much of a girl for any of them. The girls, in a way that was at once more indirect and more spiteful, regarded me with a weird mix of suspicion and hostility. The rejection was painful, of course — nobody would play with me — but what was worse was the never-ending fear that some adult might intervene on my behalf. I could think of nothing more humiliating than a teacher scolding the boys for not including me in kickball. Or my mother meeting with the principal to alert him to the fact

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that I had failed to make a single friend. Whether on its own initiative or in response to external pressure, at the end of third grade, in 1975, the school district took action to more thoroughly desegregate. That meant moving some of us pupils to another elementary school that was eight or nine blocks in the opposite direction, while others stayed at Lockwood until they completed sixth grade, in 1978. In 1979 the building was leased to The College School, which had started out not far away as an experiment conducted by idealistic educators during the heady days of the 1960s at what was then Webster College. In 1981, The College School bought the building and has occupied it ever since. Inside it for the first time in 43 years, I’m seated comfortably across a table from Flewellen, and as he tells me about the school’s plans to march in the upcoming St. Louis Gay Pride Parade to show support for LGBQT individuals at the school as well as the larger community, there’s so much full-circle moment madness inside my head I suddenly feel dizzy. I left this building for the last time in 1975 so that Webster Groves could prove how serious it was about desegregation; now it’s 2018, and I’m having a free-ranging conversation with an openly gay black man that hits on topics that would have shut the place down the last time I was here — for example, the impact of positively portrayed gay characters on popular television shows. On the iPhone I’m using to record our conversation, I have a few gay blogs favorited (even the terms didn’t exist back then) and a couple of gay dating apps that are so par-forthe-course they don’t even warrant a content warning, even as right across the hall lies the room where Dick, Jane and Spot welcomed me to the magical world of written language even as they revealed important clues about how the world was ordered, how it worked. As a gay man in his early 50s who came of age in the continued, page 58 ❱

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for example, quickly noticed that they were missing books 1980s, I’m used to being awestruck by momentum. But be- delving into gender roles, so they began exploring ways ing in a physical space where the dark ages and whatever to fill the void. In partnership with the Novel Neighbor, era it is we’re in today sit side by side, literally, takes “mind located a few blocks down the street, a list of books was blown” to a whole new level. curated, purchased and then sold to families, who bought While Flewellen and I haven’t shared a journey, exactly, them for their homes and individual classrooms based on we have traveled a few of the same roads. With a list of creteachers’ wish lists. The students also invited the executive dentials that includes a Master’s of Social Work from Wash- director of the Metro Trans Umbrella Group to visit the ington University and many years of teaching, consulting class and made and sold t-shirts and buttons emblazoned and leadership in both public and private schools, Flewellen with slogans about feminism and gender, the proceeds from decided to proactively out himself as gay during his initial which were donated to the Transgender Memorial Garden interview at The College School a couple of years ago. in the Grove. It was a departure. In previous positions, he’d come out And then there’s Scout. selectively and gradually to colleagues and in some cases to In kindergarten, Scout shared that she sometimes feels families, a move he admits he sometimes felt “burned” by. like a girl and she sometimes feels like a boy. I can certainly So when he interviewed at The College School he decided relate to that conflict. When I was in kindergarten, right to talk about his sexuality on the front end as an important down the hall from the table at which Flewellen is telling part of his identity. “I read on the website that all voices me Scout’s story, I came to school on Halloween dressed were welcome, so I decided to challenge that and see how as Cinderella. I hadn’t given this particular incident any it felt,” he says. “My being gay was a blip in the conversathought in many years — it’s cringe-inducing, even now tion, which was wonderful.” — but I do remember being thrilled, Last year, for the first time, about 70 having just discovered Cher, to be going Kids at The College people marched with The College School to school wearing a dress and a plastic School are engaging in in the Pride parade, which Flewellen conmask and carrying a little wand. And conversations with people from there the day went rapidly, irrevosiders a means of honoring the school’s DNA. “In a lot of ways we were, and still cably downhill. who come from different may be, the hippie of local independent It was different for Scout. What she backgrounds, who have schools,” he says. “With that comes a conveyed was not lost on Uchenna different life experiences. Ogu, who teaches kindergarten at The certain openness to individuals’ otherness. That openness gives us the ability to College School. After talking with Scout celebrate and welcome that otherness. We are a community and her parents, Ogu facilitated a classroom discussion in that I do believe really celebrates our differences, identity which Scout told her classmates about her perspective. The and makeup.” result of that discussion wasn’t name-calling or threats or Kate Polokonis currently has two children enrolled at The ridicule, but the creation of a booklet entitled “Wishes for College School. She marched in the Pride parade last year Scout,” a collection of pages on which students colored and plans to do so again this year. A former St. Louis Public pictures and wrote messages. I hope that no one ever laughs Schools teacher, Polokonis is pursuing a Master’s in Social at you because you are a boy and a girl, reads one. We love you Work at Washington University and currently serves on the a whole bunch. And: I love you no matter what. You’ll be my equity and inclusion committee at The College School. friend forever. And: You are special, Scout. Like Flewellen, Polokonis believes that the Pride parade On my way out of the building, Flewellen tells me that is an ideal opportunity to not tolerate differences but to cel- “Wishes for Scout” is shown to parents who are considerebrate them. “Kids at The College School are engaging in ing sending their children to The College School. conversations with people who come from different back“We find that the younger families that are new to our grounds, who have different life experiences,” she says. “I community are looking for and wanting a school that’s think that’s very valuable. Kids are learning to say, ‘These intentional and proactive about identity,” Flewellen says. are my core values and they may not align with yours – “So we show them who we are. We make sure they know how do we talk about that?’ They are learning to have this what they’re signing up for. We show them the book that conversation. Our kids will leave this school knowing who was created for Scout to let them know we’re a community they are and how to articulate it.” of families building a climate and culture that are as bold as The school’s participation in Pride is but one component what they’re looking for.” of the school’s commitment to LGBQT+ individuals and issues, Polokonis and Flewellen say. Patrick Collins recently returned to St. Louis after living for many The middle-school students in the gender studies class, years in Portland, Oregon. Reach him at pword313@msn.com

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fter Jon, an eighth-grade student at a St. Louis area private Catholic school, heard about how a star football player at John Burroughs School had come out and managed to remain calm despite being put on blast by the infamously hateful Westboro Baptist Church, he decided to reach out to the player. His Instagram conversation with Jake Bain, a senior running back and former Class 3 offensive player of the year, is “one of the reasons I came out of my depression,” says Jon. The fourteen-year-old had come out as gay to some friends and family and experienced bullying in school. He told Bain that he was scared to reveal his identity to more people. He asked Bain what he thought he should do. Bain, who'd announced publicly in October that he is gay, told him that other students from Jon’s school had reached out to him as well: “I think if you feel comfortable enough to not worry about what others might say, then you should just be you and be open with your school.” “He’s been really nice along the way,” Jon says. While Bain has served as a role model for other LGBTQ students like Jon, the response he received upon coming out may be different than what they face. The football team captain in both his junior and senior years as well as a basketball and baseball standout, Bain has enjoyed a uniquely affirming environment at the school in Ladue. “When I came out, my school and everyone was very supportive and very loving of me, which is really nice,” says Bain, whose mom is white and dad is black. “I’m lucky, and I’m fortunate to be able to go to a school like Burroughs, where people are accepting of me.” Bain’s family has a long history at the private school, one of the area’s most elite. His grandfather Jim Lemen spent 34 years as the school’s football coach and won eight state championships. Bain, who captured the state title his sophomore year, grew up around the team and attended day camp there. He and others recall a phrase that Head of School Andy Abbott frequently says to students and parents: “I want you to bring yourself and all of your things with you. I don’t want you to leave any part of you at the door.” “They grow up in such a utopian situation that you just kind of hope that Jake can take some of that with him and spread it around a little more,” says his grandmother Carole Lemen. Outside of school, Bain has not only faced protests from Westboro Baptist Church, which uses the slogan “God hates fags,” but also had slurs tossed at him on athletic fields and social media. “I get messages pretty much every day from people who are just trying to tear me down for who I am, but I have such a great support system around me — and there is so much more overwhelming support than there are people trying to hate on me,” says Bain. outinstl.com

The local chapter of the NAACP has taken note of Bain’s resilience and plans to honor him with its Jackie Robinson Award for Sports Activism in June. At a kickoff event on the roof of the Four Seasons Hotel downtown in May, Bain projects a quiet confidence, happy to sit down for an interview, but careful not to take attention away from other honorees. The organization decided to honor Bain because its members could not “fathom how an outside hate group can come to where you go to school and how you can still be able to be who you are and go and give it your all” on the field, says John Gaskin III, a member of the NAACP national board of directors. “That to me is the kind of courage that Jackie Robinson had to integrate Major League Baseball.” So what might life be like for Bain outside of Burroughs? A 2017 study from the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health, the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation and NPR found that LGBTQ people of color were twice as likely as their white counterparts to say they have been discriminated against because of their gender identity or sexual orientation in applying for jobs or interacting with people. In the fall, Bain will start playing football at Indiana State University, an NCAA Division I school in Terre Haute. When you think about being gay in Indiana, a person who might come to mind is former governor Mike Pence. His presidential running mate reportedly joked that people shouldn’t ask Pence about gay rights because “he wants to hang them all.” A Burroughs graduate who now coaches at Indiana State first made the connection between Bain and Head Coach Curt Mallory. Bain says he had “long conversations” with his family about attending school in Indiana, but knew “the school itself would be a good fit.” Mallory also assured him that the football team would be as “open and accepting” a team “as I have ever had,” Bain recalls. “The town, from what I have heard, is a pretty progressive town and a welcoming environment for everyone,” he adds. “Obviously there are going to be some people there who aren’t very accepting, and I’ll have to deal with that when it comes.” And maybe, as his grandmother puts it, Bain will be able to take some of Burroughs’ utopia with him. Bain mentions that Indiana State has a strong education program and that he wants to be a teacher. But he also admits that he would like to make it to the NFL. As for the legendary Jim Lemen, the former coach credits Bain’s success to his speed, work ethic and sportsmanship. But he also knows enough about high school sports to acknowledge a certain X factor. Bain, he says, has benefited from “luck, in who his teammates are, in who his coaches are and in the kinds of people he has been able to associate with.”

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To one St. Louis woman, that presented a problem and an opportunity. Justine Collum’s booth had nothing for sale. She was handing out information, pins and a zine, all celebrating the bisexual experience. She was filling a void, as well as affirming her own identity — something she intends to do again at Tower Grove Pride this year. “I didn’t realize I was bi until I was like fifteen years old,”

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bi until his twenties, he says. For him, bisexuality brings a certain amount of coming-out fatigue. How many times do you have to bring it up, especially if you settle down in a relationship that presents a certain way? “If you get married to an opposite-sex person and you have kids and you end up in the suburbs, you don’t talk about it much and you’re just another person in the subdivision,” Cain says. “Depending on who we’re with or what context we’re in, we can easily be assumed to be either straight or gay, just because people find it simpler to say one or the other. That’s part of the reason bi invisibility happens — you don’t know the whole history of someone’s sexuality.” Samati Niyomchai, 30, came out as bi in high school, after some uncertainty related to knowing that he was attracted to both men and women but not quite knowing what that meant. He says that he expects a certain amount of ignorance related to his bisexuality. As he’s gotten older, it bothers him less. “When people are like, ‘That’s not real,’ OK, that’s stupid.

“Depending on who we’re with or what context we’re in, we can easily be assumed to be either straight or gay, just because people find it simpler to say one or the other. That’s part of the reason bi invisibility happens — you don’t know the whole history of someone’s sexuality.” – Chet Cain In a 2014 presentation at the National LGBT Health Education Center, bisexual activist and educator Robin Ochs identified plenty of eye-rollingly familiar stereotypes about bisexuality: “in denial,” “bi now, gay later,” “greedy” and “just experimenting.” Bisexual people, she said, are sometimes told by gay men and lesbians that they have it easy, and that their pain is less real. As for Collum, she realized she’d never seen a bi-specific booth in her years of attending the region’s various Pride celebrations. Her next step was clear: In 2017, she created a booth of her own for Tower Grove Pride, celebrating and informing attendees about bi- and pansexual people. She did a little bit of fundraising to cover booth fees as well as buttons, magnets and a zine for handout. “I just went and threw up some flags,” she says. “There were people who saw the bi and pan flags flying and, like, ran across the street. They were like, ‘Those are our flags!’” Claiming a queer identity that’s neither gay nor straight is a challenge in a world that prefers the binary: gay or straight, male or female. Rejection and erasure can come from straight and queer people alike. Chet Cain, 48, is one of the main facilitators for BASL, the Bisexual Alliance of St. Louis. He didn’t realize he was outinstl.com

I know who I am and what I want.” He says that perhaps the mix of his Asian heritage and lack of hypermasculinity are what cause people to read him as not straight, but he still finds it important to be out as a bisexual person all the time, both to claim space on a personal level and to challenge society’s assumptions. “That means fielding some ignorant questions, but it also means being able to be radically authentic,” he says. Yet Niyomchai still gets extra frustrated with institutions, even well-meaning ones. He points to the Human Rights Campaign’s “gay marriage” crusade, which erased the desire for matrimony from anyone besides two lesbians or two gay men. “I’m tired and frustrated,” he says. “We know better — in theory.” And we’ve known it for years. In fact, a bisexual woman named Brenda Howard was instrumental in deciding that every June, the riots at Stonewall should be commemorated. Keep that in mind when you pass by Justine Collum’s booth at Tower Grove Pride this year. She’ll be there with a dose of truth — and a reminder that it’s not just L, G and T we’re celebrating. “B” is right there in the midst of the party.

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A bevy of Pride celebrations keep the festivities going all summer long across the metro area By K. Templeton

very June, millions of people across the United States and the world celebrate LGBTQ Pride Month. Through marches, picnics, parades and festivals we remember the 1969 Stonewall Riots that started it all. One thing rings true: It is a time for community, a time to come together. So in addition to the massive Pride St. Louis downtown, we rise to celebrate through the entire month with multiple celebrations. May your community cup runneth over this PRIDE season.

Metro East PrideFest Belleville Saturday, June 9 Noon to 10 p.m. “Diversity. Equality. Inclusion.” WWW.METROEASTPRIDESWI.ORG Metro East PrideFest added a slew of freshness to its festivities this year: a family-friendly Kid Zone, several inflatables and a hotly competitive Corn Hole Tournament. Hilarity ensued with the first annual High Heel Drag Race down Belleville’s Main Street. Festies came dressed to the nines in hopes of being voted “Best Dressed” by the crowd. The main stage was packed with the must-see lineup of local favorites Summer Osbourne, Kristen Goodman, Superfun Yeah Yeah Rocketship and the classy Gateway Men’s Chorus, to name a few. The evening rounded out with the much-anticipated Metro East Pride Drag Show, hosted by 2017 Queen of Metro East Pride Ravyn Winters. 2018 Royalty: Queen Tassandra Crush and King Zane Mazzaratie Steele graced the stage along with a star studded list of 70

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St. Charles Pride Frontier Park Saturday, June 16 11 a.m. to 10 p.m. “Building Bridges. Building Community.” WWW.PRIDESTCHARLES.ORG Pride St. Charles came back this year, bigger and better than ever. Celebrating the fourth year of the festival, organizers proudly announced a new permanent location: the riverfront backdrop in historic downtown St. Charles’ Frontier Park. Festival-goers enjoyed a host of family-friendly activities, including lawn games, origami, live music, two show-stopping drag shows and the PRIDE season favorite St. Louis Balloon Brigade, as well as an interactive activity hosted by Anime St. Louis. In addition to its new elements, Pride St. Charles brought back live art, the popular tie-dye shirt station, free on-site STD testing, and the Doggy Drag Show and dog adoption area. More than 100 businesses and organizations offered booths and resources, and the expanded food section had something for everyone. Pride St. Charles, born from PFLAG and a mother’s love, again shows all ages how to gather and empower our community.

Tower Grove Pride Tower Grove Park Saturday, June 23 Noon to 8 p.m.

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Those who miss the comfort and shade of Tower Grove Park (home of Pride St. Louis from 1998 to 2012) will be able to enjoy it this year, as Tower Grove Pride expands into the park. The festival will encompass the Sons of Rest Pavilion, the main outdoor stage, and the Stupp Center, boasting two stages, 150 booths, activity zones, a pet play area and even a career fair this year. Organizers are also offering a new backstage indoor/outdoor set-up for added enjoyment. Tower Grove Pride is a free, diverse, open, and community-centric festival dedicated to bringing people together for fun and mutual support. The festival offers live music, performances, activities and a unique twist this year with Backstage Pass @ Tower Grove Pride. The Backstage is a way for Tower Grove Pride to both raise money and highlight local artists and entertainers who perform best on a more intimate stage. Complimentary drinks and a snack bar will be available. Tickets for the Backstage Pass are $15.

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fter years of volunteering in other capacities, Jolene Gosha will be running the 2018 St. Louis Pride Parade. The board’s big vote of confidence comes on the heels of many personal and professional triumphs for Gosha in the past year, after reclaiming her life from alcoholism that once felt all-consuming.

A One-Woman March A few short years ago Gosha orchestrated her own one-woman march nightly from her Grove apartment to her favorite haunts along the strip. There, the laughter and good times would often devolve into angry tirades as the night wore on. She’d shut down the bar and stumble home — and rarely remember the journey. Sometimes she’d wake up outside, and it was one of those mornings she considers her rock bottom. The sun had been up for a while when Gosha came to in the front yard. People were walking their dogs, and through a plate glass window she could see an employee in the paint store across the street. She had no memory of continued, page 77 ❱

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column Continued, from page 75 ❱ anything past midnight. The lack of clarity on what transpired the prior evening spurs a sense of dread familiar to every heavy drinker, where your stomach sinks as you wonder what you said, did, or (shudder) posted. She scrambled to find her phone only to discover the battery was dead. “I flailed to the paint store, half drunk, and asked if I could plug my phone in,” she recalls. When she was able to review the drunken conversations, it wasn’t pretty. “That was the moment my friend group fell apart,” Gosha says.

Devoted to Drinking Gosha says she left her day job in 2015 to become a fulltime partier. “I surrounded myself with alcohol 24/7. It was my work, my play and my life. I lived to drink and drank to survive. I wasn’t living though, I was existing.” Years earlier she saw a friend posting on Facebook about sobriety, and after that rough wake-up call, found herself contemplating it. “Until that post I had

is, but if you don’t like the choices you’re making, then every day is a new day to make better choices.’” On April 9th, 2017, Gosha woke up knowing she’d had her last drop of alcohol. “I called my friend and went to her place for a couple of days because I couldn’t be alone,” she says. “I regrouped, went back home and began focusing on what I wanted in life instead of focusing on my toxic best friend, alcohol.”

Gosha’s Favorite Day Gosha first volunteered for Pride in 2010, and developed a passion for its behind-the-scenes action. “I’m very excited to continue working with the parade; it’s my favorite day of the year,” she says. “To see thousands of humans come together is a beautiful sight.” Expect some “new and exciting stuff” from Pride’s Parade Committee, headed by Marty Zuniga. Gosha says, “We’ve listened to the community & we’re actively changing some things up after taking into consideration

“I surrounded myself with alcohol 24/7. It was my work, my play and my life. I lived to drink and drank to survive. I wasn’t living though, I was existing.” – Jolene Gosha no clue that was even a thing,” says Gosha, a native of O’Fallon, Illinois. “Where I came from you were either in church, and didn’t drink because of Hell, or out of church and did whatever the hell you wanted.” She knew she needed to quit drinking at some point, but deluded herself into believing she was effectively maintaining. Meanwhile, the alcohol was talking a severe toll on Gosha’s health, with worsening kidney issues, visibly thinning hair and thoughts of suicide. Gosha’s rock bottom lasted for weeks. On May 5, 2016, she was hospitalized for a variety of issues, from severe back pain to kidney problems to dehydration. After being released May 8, she made a beeline for the bar, despite strict orders not to drink while on pain medication. “I went hard, blacked out, woke up on my porch the next morning, called a friend and moved away from the Grove and the city,” Gosha says. The long climb back wasn’t easy, and wasn’t out without setbacks. “I struggled for months,” she says. “I’d make it 15-20 days but I could never make it to the three-week mark without a weekend of binge drinking. I lit my cigarette and messaged someone I looked up to who had been sober for decades. I asked, ‘Is it normal to relapse? I’m really struggling.’ She said, ‘Oh kid, yes it outinstl.com

suggestions from parade participants, spectators and volunteers. Many volunteers from previous years will be returning so there’ll be a lot of familiar faces.” For nearly a decade, despite her personal struggles, Gosha was able to deliver during Pride. But she’s finally got the rest of the year covered as well, with a spacious flat where she regularly hosts big dinners for her many friends, just a block from Tower Grove Park, and a job she loves managing an upscale apartment building. “This has been a year of growth and promotion for me,” she says of what is now fourteen months — and counting — of sobriety. “It’s a lot to take in, but very exciting at the same time. I still can’t believe this is my life.” Chris Andoe is the editor of Out in StL and the writer of this column

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The Human Rights Campaign Foundation honored 25 Missouri companies in 2018 for their policies on LGBTQ inclusion, including fifteen St. Louis firms that earned a perfect score. The foundation is the educational arm of the nation’s largest lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer civil rights organization. Its hotly anticipated Corporate Equality Index, or CEI, assesses major employers and law firms across the nation – and this year found a record number of companies earning high scores. A total of 609 companies nationwide earned a score of 100, an eighteen percent increase from 2017. “At a time when the rights of LGBTQ people are under attack by the Trump-Pence Administration and state legislatures across the country, hundreds of top American companies are driving progress toward equality in the workplace,” says HRC President Chad Griffin in a prepared release. “The top-scoring companies on this year’s CEI are not only establishing policies that affirm and include employees here in the United States, they are applying these policies to their operations around the globe and impacting millions of people beyond our shores.” Companies that score well on the index have tended to become allies in the fight for full inclusion, Griffin notes. “Many of these companies have also become vocal advocates for equality in the public square, including the dozens that have signed on to amicus briefs in vital Supreme Court cases and the 106 corporate supporters of the Equality Act,” he says. “We are proud to have developed so many strong partnerships with corporate allies who see LGBTQ equality as a crucial issue for our country and for their businesses.” The Human Rights Campaign Foundation gave Missouri companies an average score of 96 percent. Of the 25 companies ranked across the state, 20 earned 100 points, one earned 90 points and above, and three earned 80 points and above. The Missouri companies included in the index, as well as their location and scores, are listed to the right. pridestl.org

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Fleishman-Hillard Inc.

St. Louis

100

H&R Block Inc.

Kansas City

Edward Jones

St. Louis

100

Saint Louis

100

Monsanto Co.

St. Louis

100

Laclede Group Inc., The

St. Louis

Ameren Corp.

St. Louis

100

Anheuser-Busch Companies Inc.

St. Louis

100

Centene Corp.

St. Louis

100

Federal Reserve Bank of St Louis

Cerner Corp.

North Kansas City 100

Express Scripts Holding Company

St. Louis

Reinsurance Group of America Inc.

Chesterfield

Polsinelli

Kansas City

100

Armstrong Teasdale LLP

St. Louis

100

Bryan Cave LLP

St. Louis

100

Husch Blackwell LLP

St. Louis

100

Shook, Hardy & Bacon LLP

Kansas City

100

Stinson Leonard Street LLP

Kansas City

100

Thompson Coburn LLP

St. Louis

100

Emerson Electric Co.

St. Louis

100

Nestlé Purina PetCare Co.

St. Louis

100

Mallinckrodt LLC Caleres Hallmark Cards Inc. Enterprise Holdings Inc.

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THE JIM HOEFER AWARD Camp Rising Sun The Jim Hoefer Award is presented to an organization that best exemplifies what it means to serve St. Louis’ LGBT Community.

THE FELTON T. DAY AWARD Dr. Christopher Lewis The Felton T. Day Community Service Award is presented to a person – not associated with Pride St. Louis – whose service to the LGBTQIA+ community has gone above and beyond, exemplifying the spirit of leadership and service in one’s community.

CAMP RISING SUN IS A YOUTH-RUN CAMP based out of St. Louis designed to empower Queer and Trans youth in Missouri through community building and skill-based programming. Campers who attend learn how to combat oppression from an intersectional lens in their communities all while healing and learning about themselves and others. This camp was created to provide LGBTQIA+ youth with a place to learn and grow on their own terms. “We greatly appreciate being chosen to receive the Jim Hoefer Award by Pride St. Louis this year,” said Devin Gordon, Member of Camp Rising Sun’s Organizing Team. “Being a new start-up organization, to receive this award means quite a great deal to us as organizers.” “We hope that Pride continues to become more community focused and continues to empower more organizations like ours tackling a diverse range of issues,” continued Gordon. “Pride has the financial power to become one of the most sustainable resources for our community and we look forward to growing with them as we graduate from their fiscal agency to gain our own sustained independence as an organization.”

DR. CHRIS LEWIS, A PEDIATRIC ENDOCRINOLOGIST in St. Louis, is one of the driving forces behind the Washington University Transgender Center at St. Louis Children’s Hospital. Working with the division of pediatric endocrinology, he was able to cultivate his passion for transgender health and lay the groundwork for the Center, a first of its kind in the region. The idea was planted early during his child advocacy rotation when he attended a support group for parents of transgender youth and witnessed the significant health disparities transgender adolescents and adults face. Lewis has given myriad lectures to promote LGBTQIA+ health equality at leadership and academic institutions as well as at national conferences. In 2017, his work was honored by the Human Rights Campaign with its annual Equality Award. Lewis obtained his B.S. in microbiology at Texas A&M University and earned his M.D. at University of Texas Medical Branch in Galveston, Texas. He went on to begin a residency in pediatrics at SUNY Stony Brook and completed his residency at Washington University. “I am honored to be accepting this award on behalf of the Transgender Team whose endeavors have been the foundation the clinic has been able to grow upon,” said Lewis. “The clinic has passed the 250 unique patient milestone and this growth highlights the previously unmet need that the St. Louis and surrounding area has lacked in terms of transgender health. We strive to provide gender-affirming care and education to our community and continue to work towards improving transgender health awareness and competency.”

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THE LISA WAGAMAN LIFETIME COMMUNITY SERVICE AWARD Karen Schmale The Lisa Wagaman Lifetime Community Service Award is presented to an individual who has spent much of their life to further the pride movement and LGBT causes.

THE WASHINGTON UNIVERSITY TRANSGENDER CENTER at St. Louis Children’s Hospital opened on August 1, 2017. A first of its kind in the region, the Center has already seen tremendous growth with patients coming from over 300+ miles away, as far as central Arkansas. This highlights the overwhelming need for the type of affirming and supportive care the clinic aims to provide. The goal is to be a center of excellence that provides high-quality, multi-disciplinary, full-spectrum care for every aspect of transgender health from childhood to throughout their adult lives. Dr. Chris Lewis, a member of the Transgender Team and driving force behind its creation, hopes to continue to raise local and national awareness, contribute to the body of literature for transgender health research and create much needed improvements in medical education as it pertains to all of LGBTQIA related healthcare. “St. Louis Children’s Hospital is honored to accept the 2018 Community Proud Award from Pride St. Louis,” said Joan Magruder, President, St. Louis Children’s Hospital. “ As longtime supporters of our LGBTQ+ community, we are excited and pleased to offer specialized care for children, adolescents, and families who are seeking support and gender identity services at the St. Louis Children’s and Washington University Transgender Center. The act of accepting all individuals is part of our culture, along with celebrating and embracing diversity through an inclusive environment. It’s vital to our mission to do what’s right for kids, and it’s the right thing for our community.” KAREN SCHMALE, 60, HAS BEEN CHAMPIONING THE LGBTQIA+ sports movement in St. Louis for over 25 years and is still going strong. In 1992, Schmale got involved in the local LGBTQIA+ bowling community by joining the Monday night league at Western Bowl, which later moved to Tropicana. She served as president of the league for 10 years and now volunteers for its Labor Day Weekend Tournament, The Show Me Classic. Schmale got involved with Team St. Louis around that same time and has served as vice president or secretary for a total of 14 years. She is still an active volunteer for the organization and has represented St. Louis in three Gay Games: New York (1994), Sydney (2002) and Cleveland (2014) where she won gold in her age group for discus. Schmale was instrumental in reestablishing the LGBTQIA+ Kickball league in Tower Grove Park, now run by Team St. Louis, and has been the coordinator for Sand Volleyball since 2006. “When I was told I was being honored by Pride St. Louis I have to tell you I cried,” said Schmale. “I was very surprised and felt very honored. My response to the person that told me was thank you, but I can think of many other people who deserve this honor.” “I have volunteered or attended fundraisers for many years and will continue to do so as long as I can,” Schmale continued. “ If you are able to help in some manner whether with time or money I think that is what we were put on this earth to do.”

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