Dr. Porcia Love, MD, FAAD Jo Shuford-Guice, MSN, FNP-BC
Contents February 2025
Dinner Recipe: Asian Salmon Kabobs
Grumpy But Grateful
Event: Selma to Montgomery Bicycle Ride
Event: Exile at MPAC
Event: Galentine's Workshop
Event: Caregiver of the Month
Event: Movie Night at Lorraine's Event: Wetumpka Mardi Gras Parade Event: Valentine's Cruise on the Harriott II
Publisher’s Letter
Love, Laughter, and Living Well
Founder Jim Watson (1950-2024)
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Contributing Writers
Jeff Barganier
Kimberly Blaker
Greg Budell
Margie Zable Fisher
Pam Molnar
Nancy Monson
Susan Moore
Nick Thomas
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February is the month of love, and while it’s easy to think of roses, chocolates, and candlelit dinners, love runs deeper than grand gestures. Real love—the kind that lasts—is built in the everyday moments: the knowing glance across the room, the inside jokes, the unwavering support through life’s ups and downs. Whether it’s the love shared with a spouse, a lifelong friend, or even a new connection, love is what makes these years rich and full.
One of my favorite quotes about love comes from C.S. Lewis: “Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives.” That’s a reminder worth carrying with us—not just this month, but every day.
Speaking of love and connection, we’ve got a fun lineup in this month’s Boom! that celebrates the relationships that bring us joy. Looking for a fresh way to celebrate your friendships? Our article “10 Galentine’s Day Party Themes Your Gal Pals Will Love” is packed with creative ideas for celebrating the wonderful women in your life. From closet swap nights to my personal favorite—wine and chocolate tasting—you’ll find plenty of inspiration to make February extra special.
This month’s Cover Profile features Donna Hughes, a Montgomery resident who has spent decades making a difference in our community. Through her work at John Knox Manor, she has helped families navigate one of life’s biggest transitions with care and compassion. But beyond her career, Donna’s greatest joy comes from her faith, her marriage, and raising three daughters who have made their mark on the world. Her story is a testament to the power of love and devotion, both at home and in service to others.
And for those of you who love a good dose of nostalgia, don’t miss our throwback article “Elvis, Beatles, Motown: Who Ruled the Airwaves?” We’re settling the age-old debate—but with a twist. Sure, Elvis and the Beatles were kings of their time, but Motown had a sound and a soul that shaped a generation in its own way. Whether you were twisting to Jailhouse Rock, swooning over Hey Jude, or grooving to My Girl, this article is sure to bring back some memories.
So, grab a cup of coffee, dive into this issue, and let Boom! add some ideas, laughter, and encouragement to your month. After all, love, laughter, and great music never go out of style.
Age Well, My Friends,
The Perfect Steak with Garlic Butter
Ingredients:
4 (12-ounce) rib-eye steaks, 1 1/4-inch-thick, at room temperature
4 tablespoons olive oil
Kosher salt and ground black pepper, to taste
For the garlic compound butter:
½ cup unsalted butter, at room temperature
¼ cup chopped fresh parsley leaves
3 cloves garlic, minced
1 tablespoon lemon zest
1 teaspoon each chopped fresh thyme, rosemary and basil leaves
½ teaspoon kosher salt
¼ teaspoon ground black pepper
⅛ teaspoon cayenne pepper
Preheat oven to broil. Place a large cast iron skillet in the oven. Using paper towels, pat both sides of the steak dry. Drizzle with olive oil; season with salt and pepper, to taste. Remove skillet from the oven and heat over medium-high heat. Place the steak in the middle of the skillet and cook until a dark crust has formed, about 1 minute. Using tongs, flip, and cook for an additional 60 seconds. Place skillet into the oven and cook until desired doneness is reached, about 4-5 minutes for medium-rare, flipping once. Let rest for 3-5 minutes. Serve immediately with garlic compound butter.
To make the garlic compound butter, combine butter, parsley, garlic, lemon zest, thyme, rosemary, basil, salt, pepper and cayenne pepper in a medium bowl. Transfer mixture to parchment paper; shape into a log. Roll in parchment to 1 1/2 inches in diameter, twisting the ends to close. Refrigerate until ready to use, up to 1 week.
Tips and tricks for the most perfect steak for an elegant Valentine's Day meal!
Hey BOOMers!
By Greg Budell
I February
I love February and thought I’d use Myspace in this magazine to share a few no-fib Feb thoughts on our shortest month.
My affection for February (pronounced Feb-you-ary until age 10) is largely due to the harsh winters of Chicago where I lived the first 26 years of my life. We loved the 2nd month in the 2nd City mostly because it was NOT January. It always seemed that the days February was missing were secretly added to January, the longest month in more ways than one.
The post-Christmas bills begin arriving but the money to pay them comes on 1/15 and 1/30. The math says there are 2 weeks between those dates, yet somehow it feels much longer.
My dad called it Damnuary. It started with the stark post-holiday depression. Decorations came down on 1/1. The snow that garnished and enhanced Christmastime was suddenly a dirty nuisance. It was going to be cold forever.
Enduring a midwestern winter produces some gold medal mental gymnastics.
January’s winter wasteland muted optimism felt on New Year’s Eve.
Improvement was a distant objective because spring was still 2 months away. At the dawn of February, spring was suddenly “next month.” This explains the universal embrace of Ground Hog’s Day on February 2. People desperate for the end of winter need hope. No one believes Punxsutawney Phil knows jacksquat about the weather. But if the furry rodent says spring will arrive early, there’s palpable joy in the air across cold-weather climes.
Even in Chicago, February produced the first signs of spring as the sport’s pages heralded spring training for the Chicago Cubs and White Sox. Baseball was back. Sure, they were preparing for the season
in faraway spots in Arizona and Florida, but soon they’d be playing in Chicago, and winter would be over (though you wonder while watching a game at Wrigley Field on a 34-degree April afternoon). February meant January’s snow drifts would begin, like glaciers, to recede.
My last two winters in Chicago were among the worst. In January of 78, I was literally stuck at my parent’s house. One afternoon, I was sullenly staring out their front window at yet another relentless blizzard when a dark sedan pulled in front of their house. The doorbell rang so I jerked open the front door- frozen in its frame- to discover two tall men standing there in London Fog trench coats. As the door opened, they produced open wallets featuring some serious-looking badges.
“Are you Gregory Benjamin Budell?” one asked rather authoritatively. I had no idea why I was important enough for these dudes to brave a snowstorm to seek me out. Things at that time were bad already. I was out of work. I was temporarily back with Mom and Dad. A voice in my head said, “Go ahead- ruin my day. It can’t get any worse”. But it did. After all, it was January 37th (or so it seemed in the year’s longest month.
“Yes”, I squeaked.
The men were from the FBI and US Treasury. They were investigating a drug dealer who’d found my wallet in a rental car, faked a passport, and was on the lam. When did I lose the wallet? One year previous, in Damnuary of 1977. I was traveling with Styx in Miami. It had
Brave columnist and dog during Montgomery snow: "It's pretty. Pretty dangerous!"
Punxsutawney Phil - "Winter will end! Eventually!"
fallen under the seat of our rental car. I replaced everything when I got home, but the guy who found the wallet got some serious mileage out of it. I had stopped using my credit cards, but he hadn’t, running up thousands in charges. The men left, never to return, but I suddenly had a full-time job- clearing my name!
The following winter was just as bad. My Chicago radio station was kind enough to house us in a nearby hotel because the weather in January of 1979 was that harsh. In a February miracle, I was offered a job at a radio station in Ft. Lauderdale, and I was out of there!
The 1200-mile drive was at about halfway point when the last of the snow vanished from the landscape, February in Florida was exhilarating! From that February forward, I’d only see snow by choice!
Living in the River Region has not altered my perception of January. It may not be as cold here, but as I write this, we’ve already had two snow days in 2025!
Everything shuts down at the mere mention of the “S” word because nobody born and raised here knows how to drive in the white stuff.
I asked an expert (Siri) about the origins of February and she came back with Februa- an ancient Latin festival by that name. Februa means “to cleanse”. I’m not sure what we’re cleansing- by spirit or soap- but enjoy a hot soak and celebrate. In February the bi-monthly paychecks are closer. Valentine’s Day is hence, so a ridiculously priced (but delicious) dinner is coming. The days are getting longer and Standard Time will end soon!
I love February. Indulge the optimism of winter’s imminent demise over these 28 days, BOOMer friends!
Have a Febulous month!
Chicago's Wrigley Field in January
Are you thinking about a night in for your girlfriends this month?
Hosting an at home Galentine’s Day Party is a fun way to catch up with your friends while staying in on colder nights. Valentine’s Day may be for lovers, but Galentine’s Day is for girlfriends and girlfriends like a themed party.
Check out these 10 ideas for Galentine’s Day that your friends will love!
paper money with guests' faces for guests to play casino classics such as blackjack, roulette, or craps. Your menu can include black and red desserts and cocktails such as espresso martinis or strawberry margaritas.
5. Wine and Chocolate Tasting. Offer your guests a variety of wines and chocolates (dark, white, sea-salted caramel) and let them decide which pairs well. You can also include cheese pairings if you are hosting a more savory-than-sweet crowd. Blind wine tastings are fun too. Ask everyone to bring their favorite wrapped in a canvas bag. Play a winethemed game such as Wine Wars or A Wine Tasting Murder.
clothing racks or tables for each guest to display their clothes for swapping and then start shopping. You can even have a fashion show with the guests trying on and modeling the items available to swap.
7. Chick Flick Movie Night. Who doesn't love a good romance? Invite your girlfriends for a night of shameless chick flick viewing. Whether it is a Hallmark marathon or a classic like The Notebook, this is a night everyone will love. A night of bingewatching requires binge food – pizza, ice cream, or nachos. Ask your guests to dress comfortably and bring their favorite cuddly blanket.
sandwiches or chicken salad and set up a dessert table with macarons, eclairs, and mini cheesecakes. Offer a variety of teas for tasting and enjoying. Use your best china or thrift some. Instead of games, do a tea-related activity like filling your own tea bags with loose tea ingredients.
9. Paint Your Heart Out. You don't have to be a Van Gogh to enjoy this painting party. Choose your media –canvas, wine glasses, wooden signs, fabric, or even a welcome mat. You can find kits online or pull out your Cricut and make some fun stencils. If the paint is too messy, you can use other colorful options depending on your media, including chalk, colored pencils, gel pens, or even stickers.
10. Trailer Park Barbie. If your Galentines have a sense of humor, consider hosting a Trailer Park Barbie theme. Have your guests come dressed as their version of the Barbie icon – hair in curlers, tattoos, moo-moos, and dirty tank tops – all in pink, of course. For your menu, include franks and beans or tatter tot casserole and some fun pink drinks like Cosmopolitans, Rose wine, or Starbucks Pink Drink.
6. Closet Swap. Tired of the clothes in your closet that you just don't wear?
8. Spill the Tea Brunch. If your schedules are packed this month, why not host a Sunday Brunch Tea
Pam Molnar is a freelance writer and mother
Temple Beth Or’s 20th Annual Jewish Food Festival
will be held on Sunday, February 23, 2025
~We look forward to coming every year. We get excited when we see the signs around town announcing the date.~ ~Love, love, love the food. I wish they would hold it every month!~
Comments by past visitors to Temple Beth Or’s Jewish Food Festival
The members of Temple Beth Or are ready to once again welcome our friends and neighbors to enjoy our Jewish Food Festival and Treasure Market from 10am to 2pm on Sunday, February 23rd. Year after year, visitors enjoy delicious food, wonderful bakery items and great bargains in the Treasure Market.
Choose from a variety of delicious food items available to eat in or take out. Some of our homemade, mouth-watering Jewish specialties include slow cooked, tender beef brisket, cabbage rolls (cabbage leaves stuffed with meat), noodle kugel (noodle and egg casserole made with sugar and raisins), fresh potato latkes, and Quajado (spinach, pasta, egg and cheese casserole). For lunch, choose from a hot plate consisting of beef brisket in savory pan juices, kugel, green beans and homemade Challah, or a veggie plate with Quajado, noodle kugel, a potato latke and Challah (traditional braided Jewish bread). You will love the kosher hotdogs or our new brisket sandwiches. In addition to the frozen quarts of homemade Matzah Ball soup we sell every year, this year we are offering Frozen-to-Go pans of kugel, Quajado, and cabbage rolls as well as frozen loaves of homemade Challah. Hungry yet?
Don’t forget to visit our beautiful bakery for the many homemade pastries such as strudel, rugelach, mandel bread, curabies (traditional Sephardic sand tarts) and rugelach, strudel, mandel bread, burekas. Take home several loaves of our
homemade Challah. Enjoy or take home a Carneige 4 inch or 6 inch cheesecake or a bag of cholcalte covered cheesecake bites – bet you can’t eat just one.
Our Treasure Market is full of unique, pre-loved items ready for sale at great prices. Spend time browsing our rooms of books, jewelry, silver, artwork, lamps, furniture, decorative items, and so much more.
Community as well as the sponsorships provided by the Montgomery business community. We couldn’t do it without everyone!
For a menu or information, visit Temple Beth Or’s website at templebethor.net
What: Jewish Food Festival
We will once again feature live, festive Jewish musical entertainment. And don’t miss the Sanctuary tours and discussions led by Rabbi Looper.
Where: Temple Beth Or 2246 Narrow Lane Road Montgomery, AL 36106
When: Sunday, February 23 10 am – 2 pm
Additional info: www.templebethor.net Free Admission and Free Parking
SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 23, 2025 10am - 2pm
Live Music by Miriam Wyman, Susan Youngblood & Dotan Shvorin
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Managing Medications for Aging Adults
It is not uncommon for aging adults to accumulate too many prescription medications that are to be taken daily for various medical conditions. When all the prescribed medications are not needed, it is termed “ Polypharmacy.” Polypharmacy is a growing concern in older adults. This is why it is important to review all of your medications on a regular basis with your primary care provider to make sure you are taking only what you need and understand what each medication does for your health. Some individuals have multiple medications that are prescribed more than once daily. Many aging adults have challenges with their medications. This article will identify some methods to assist with medication management.
A basic principle of medicine is to ensure the right medications are given in the right dose, at the right time, via the right route, and to the right patient. This may sound like common sense, and it is. Another principle is to ensure all medications are necessary and they do not counteract or adversely interfere with the action of other medications.
During most medical appointments, you are asked, “What medications do you take?” You should have a typed or legibly written and complete list of your medications – which includes the dosage and frequency you take both prescription and over-
the-counter medications. Over-thecounter medications include aspirin, acetaminophen, inhalers, creams and gels to help with arthritis, lidocaine patches, injectables, vitamins, and other supplements. Your list should be shared with your medical provider or medical assistant to add to your medical chart so that your provider can ensure they are compatible with your medical condition and with your other medications. Make sure to keep
your list up to date, including any dose or frequency changes. Reviewing your medications, with your primary provider is a priority, especially if you have had a hospitalization or have seen other doctors or specialists who have added or deleted medications from your regimen.
Before your medical appointments, write down any questions you want to ask or share with your provider. Tell the nurse or medical assistant that you have those questions when you first are called into the exam room so your provider will know to make time for them.
When you have been prescribed a new medication, take time to also meet with the pharmacist and ask about any side effects and if it will affect other prescribed medications/over-the-counter medications. If you use other pharmacies, show all pharmacists the complete medication list so they can review it for any interactions. Read each label carefully so you know what time of day to take the medication and any potential side effects. Never stop taking a medication without reviewing it with your primary care provider first. Following the prescribed medication regime is important to preserve health and avoid medical emergencies.
Some older adults (and some younger adults as well) need help organizing or remembering when to take their medications. When multiple medications are prescribed, the following are some suggestions that may help:
Utilizing A Medication Box
A variety of medication boxes are available in stores. Some have a box for each day of the week. Others have morning and evening boxes for each day of the week Preparing the appropriately designed medication box will organize the medications and assure that the proper medications are taken at the right time.
Prepackaging Medications by Dose by a Pharmacy
A pharmacy that provides a prepackaging service will prepare and send in a blister pack (a safety feature focusing on dosing to make it less likely for a patient to double dose) for each day of the month on a card.
Medications for different times of day are blister-packaged on separate cards that are color-coded and clearly labeled. For example, morning medications on one card, noon medications on another, after dinner on a third, and evening medications on a fourth card. PRN (take only when needed) medications are blister packaged on another card.
Automatic Pill Dispensers
The dispensers are available with alarms to alert you when to take medications. Some can be monitored remotely. Some can hold a month’s supply of medications. Any of these options can be set up by you and/or a family member.
Home Health Agencies
A medication nurse can be hired to set up your medication boxes or dispensers and monitor that you have taken the medications. This service can be weekly, monthly, or as otherwise needed.
Personal Emergency Response Systems
Personal emergency response systems allow you to press a button for help in an emergency situation. Some of these systems offer a service of a phone call at medication times to serve as a reminder to take the dose of medication at the prescribed time. Times can be set up with the provider for each individual need.
Following the prescribed medication regime is important to preserve health and avoid medical emergencies. Regularly reviewing your medications with your primary care provider, ensuring you are taking only necessary medications, and having a system to ensure you are taking your medications as prescribed will help maintain a healthy life.
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Let’s take a trip back to the golden age of music. The big question on everyone’s mind back then wasn’t what was for dinner or who was going to win the next game—it was this: Are you an Elvis person or a Beatles person? This debate wasn’t just about music; it was a lifestyle, an attitude, a vibe. But here’s a twist: What if the question is missing something… or someone? While Elvis and the Beatles were stealing the spotlight, another sound was shaking up the world and giving Black listeners their own powerful anthem. That’s right—what about Motown?
Elvis Presley: The Hip-Shaking Heartthrob
Elvis wasn’t just a musician; he was a movement. From the moment he swiveled his hips on The Ed Sullivan Show (and scandalized half the nation’s parents), Elvis was unstoppable. With hits like “Hound Dog” and “Jailhouse Rock,” he made rock ‘n’ roll explode onto the scene. Teens couldn’t get enough of him, and their parents couldn’t handle him—a win-win for a rebellious generation looking for a hero.
the look, and the voice to make him a global icon.
The Beatles: Mop-Topped Musical Mavericks
Then came the Beatles, flying in from across the pond like a British invasion—literally. These four lads from Liverpool redefined music in the ’60s. With catchy hits like “I Want to Hold Your Hand” and later, mind-bending albums like Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band, the Beatles didn’t just ride the wave of pop culture; they were the wave.
But let’s not forget where Elvis got a lot of his sound. His music was deeply inspired by Black artists and the blues—even if the history books didn’t always give credit where it was due. Still, Elvis had the charm,
With acts like The Supremes, Marvin Gaye, Stevie Wonder, and The Temptations, Motown gave a voice to a generation during a time when it was desperately needed, uniting people across backgrounds with its soulful sound.
They weren’t just musicians—they were trendsetters. From their haircuts to their message of love and peace, they became the poster boys for a generation that was tired of the old ways. Suddenly, it wasn’t just about music. It was about art, rebellion, and making a statement. And boy, did they make one.
What About Motown?
But while Elvis was swiveling and the Beatles were harmonizing, there was another sound that was turning heads and moving feet. Motown. Founded by Berry Gordy in Detroit in 1959, Motown wasn’t just a record label; it was a revolution.
Songs like “My Girl” and “Ain’t No Mountain High Enough” weren’t just hits; they were cultural moments. And let’s not forget those snazzy coordinated outfits and slick dance moves. Motown acts were the epitome of cool. They brought soul to the masses and proved that music could break down barriers and bring people together—even if the world wasn’t quite ready for it.
Picking a Third Option
So, if Elvis was the King of Rock ‘n’ Roll and the Beatles were the architects of modern pop, who’s the face of Motown? That’s a tough one because Motown wasn’t about one star; it was about a galaxy of talent. But here are some standout contenders:
Smokey Robinson: The smooth crooner who gave us “Tracks of My Tears” and helped write a gazillion hits for other artists. If Smokey’s voice doesn’t make you feel something, check your pulse.
Marvin Gaye: The man behind “What’s Going On,” Marvin wasn’t just a singer—he was a storyteller. His music tackled love, heartbreak, and the big issues of the day.
Diana Ross and The Supremes: The queens of Motown. With hits like “Stop! In the Name of Love,” they brought glamour, drama, and unforgettable melodies to the world.
Motown didn’t just compete with Elvis and the Beatles; it held its own and carved out its own legacy. And let’s face it: no one else had a bass line as funky or a groove as tight.
A Musical Showdown
Thinking about Elvis, the Beatles, and Motown is like trying to pick your favorite dessert: they’re all amazing in their own way. Elvis made you want to dance and maybe break a few rules. The Beatles made you think and dream a little bigger. And Motown? Motown made you feel—deep in your soul.
For many listeners in the ‘60s, Motown wasn’t just music; it was a cultural force that represented pride, unity, and progress. It was proof that their voices mattered and that their culture could take center stage. And for everyone else, Motown was a gift that brought people together, one irresistible groove at a time.
The Final Word
So, are you an Elvis person, a Beatles person, or a Motown person? It’s not an easy question to answer. But maybe the real answer is this: Why pick just one? Each brought something special to the table, and together, they created a soundtrack for a generation.
Next time someone asks you to pick a side, just smile and say, “What about Motown?” Because really, when the music’s that good, why not enjoy it all?
“When one month to live was almost two years ago.
Dave—Leukemia Survivor
Learning you have a rare type of leukemia can be among the worst moments in your life. Learning you used to have it can be one of the best. With the latest medical therapies and a compassionate heart, Dr. Avery and his care team were beside me every step of the way—fighting, encouraging, healing. My personal journey at Montgomery Cancer Center was so powerful, it led my heart to volunteer there. Because you see, I want to be a part of the incredible healing moments that other patients will remember.
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Founder Jim Watson was one of the nicest men I’ve had the privilege of calling a friend. He was also, at times, a mentor. In his honor and memory, hereinbelow is the first feature that I submitted (and he graciously accepted) back in June 2016.
The Chief Ladiga Bike Trail begins in Anniston. But I chose to depart from Jacksonville because I was visiting relatives there. My original goal was to bike 75 miles from Jacksonville to Hiram, Georgia, west of Atlanta, spend the night in a hotel, and return the next day via the same route. That was pretty ambitious given the fact that, prior to this adventure, I had not ridden a bike in fifty years.
phone in the backpack. Round trip: 20 miles. Fairly winded, I started out a third time—two hours behind schedule.
I trained mornings before work, biking 8 to 10 miles every other day, getting used to the bike. The day before my trek, I took a practice run 7.5 miles up the trail and back for a round-trip of 15 miles. No sweat.
The weatherman forecasted 100 degrees, so I left at 5:30 AM to take advantage of the cool morning hours. Traveling light, I took only the clothes on my body plus a few extra items in a backpack: sunscreen, a can of sardines, a pack of saltine crackers, spare water, a change of clothes, two candy bars, some Ibuprofen, my cell phone. After less than a mile, I decided to ditch the pack. I figured I’d be able to find plenty of
food along the route, and I already had two bottles of water in special holders on the bike. I returned to the house and hung the backpack on a gate under the carport, sticking the candy bars in a zip pocket of my biking pants. Thinking my cell phone was in another pocket, I set out again.
At that early hour, the trail was deserted, cool, and serene. I had almost run over a groundhog during my previous day’s practice run. But I encountered only squirrels and rabbits this June morning. For the most part, they stayed out of my way. Ten miles out, I paused to remove a twig from my spokes. Out of habit, I reached for my phone. It was missing. My first thought was that I might have dropped it at an earlier rest stop several miles back. I raced back to that site as fast as my legs would take me. But no phone. If my wife couldn’t reach me, she’d activate the National Guard. I continued on to the house and found my
The first little town after Jacksonville is Piedmont, 12 miles north. It’s a small, pleasant community that provides restrooms for bikers right on the trail. A nice surprise! At Piedmont, the trail continues east toward Georgia and gets scenic, crossing quaint creeks with mountain views to the south. As I approached the Georgia line, the trail became slightly steeper. But the lush forests and mountainous terrain made that part of the trail a highlight. I paused for a much-needed water break and stretch at the Georgia line. There are picnic tables there and a can for disposing of trash. Nearby, cows grazed in a fenced pasture. The trail changes from asphalt to concrete, widens by a few feet, and becomes the Silver Comet Trail.
My brother, who has traversed the entire trail from Anniston to Smyrna, Georgia, began to text me weather warnings. I checked my weather app, and sure enough, a strong storm was rapidly approaching the Cedartown, Georgia, area from the north. Cedartown was my next stop. Well into Georgia, I noticed storm shelters every few miles on the left side of the trail. As the sky filled with clouds, I contemplated the possibility that I might, indeed, need shelter. But I chose to bike on. When I finally rolled
into Cedartown, I was so exhausted from roughly 60 miles on the trail—I had added about 24 miles to my trip going back and forth from the house that morning—I scarcely realized I had made it that far.
The first Cedartown landmark I encountered was the old Depot Welcome Center. It was about 1:00 PM Georgia time. I stopped heavy traffic in both directions at the crosswalk on Main Street. Courteous Cedartown drivers refused to budge until I had safely crossed the street. The welcome center was closed, so I rested outside on a bench and checked the Internet for hotels. The storm was pretty vocal at that point. Still, no rain. I clicked on the first hotel that came up and typed in the address on my map application for directions. The nice virtual lady giving me directions sent me on a two-mile escapade through Cedartown to a vacant lot in a not-so-cool area, saying, “Your destination is on the right.” Amidst the thunder, exhausted and hungry, I decided to ask a real human. I pulled a hill back to Main Street and turned left. I asked the first kind person I came upon where a decent hotel was. “Straight ahead on the left. A Quality Inn. About a mile,” he said.
It was 1.7 miles. I was within twenty feet of the door when the bottom fell out. Minutes later, hail was falling. But I didn’t care. They had a vacancy. The lady at the desk was wonderfully hospitable. Not only did she give me “the biker rate,” but she escorted me to a clean, comfortable room, opened the door, helped me get my bike in the room, and handed me the key with a smile. I ordered a medium pizza and a bottle of Sprite from Dominoes, took a long, hot shower, and then relaxed in a chair by the bed and watched the crashing rain outside my window. My pizza arrived hot. I savored every bite. Falling asleep was tough. I felt like I’d been hit by a truck. And the Ibuprofen was in the backpack. The rain subsided at 9:00 Georgia time. The sky turned pink, and fireflies blinked at me from the dusk.
The next morning, I ate a hardy breakfast—part of the deal at the hotel—and was back on the trail heading west by 7:30 AM CST. The storm had cooled the trail. Heavy clouds blocked the scorching sun. I made excellent time, arriving back at the house at 11:30 AM Alabama time. (It’s 37.6 miles from Cedartown to Jacksonville, but my round trip was more like 95 miles.) It’s not for sissies. But there were all ages out biking—some speedsters and some poke-a-longs. You shouldn’t be intimidated if you’re in good health and fairly active. But I recommend you don’t do it alone. Make lodging reservations in advance and know where your hotel is. Use a soft bike seat. And, whatever you do, don’t forget your cell phone!
Miss you, Jim. It’s been a good ride.
Jeff Barganier is a novelist, travel writer and speaker. He travels far and wide upon the slightest excuse for something interesting to write about. His novels include Lawson’s Bluff (2021); The Slash Brokers (1998). He also manages Cindy Barganier Interiors LLC (www.cindybarganier.com) at The Waters in Pike Road, Alabama. Contact Jeff at Jeffbarganier@knology.net. You may print out his features at www.jeffbarganier.com and take them with you when you travel!
Everyone who has ever lived has a story to tell. As you approach mid to later life, you may find yourself reflecting on your past. Perhaps you realize you've lived through significant or relatable events, experiences, choices, and changes that would be fascinating or helpful to others. This is what leads many people to write a memoir. But how do you go about telling your story?
1. Decide what to write about and why.
A memoir differs from an autobiography in that it focuses on one aspect of or time from your life. So before you get started, reflect on the reason you want to write a memoir. Then, to find your focus, write down your ideas using methods such as a mind map or stream-of-consciousness writing. Typically, memoirs that do best have a takeaway for the reader. Although your story can and should be unique or unusual, it should also have a core to which the reader can connect.
2. Define your theme and stick to it.
Once you've decided what your memoir is about, find its theme. A clear theme like coming of age, dealing with loss, friendship, determination, or overcoming adversity will help you focus your story and connect to readers. Of course, life doesn’t fit easily into a clean theme or narrative. So try to separate the relevant and extraneous details.
3. Refresh your memories.
Write down all your relevant memories with as much detail as you can remember. Include not only events but also senses and emotions you experienced. Throughout the memoir, remember to show, not just tell, to evoke a more authentic, emotional connection with the reader. If possible, talk to others who were involved in the memories to get their perspective or to trigger memories of details you may have forgotten. Looking at old pictures or journal entries or visiting significant places can also help refresh your memory. If you find this step too challenging, you might not be ready to write about these memories. Perhaps pacing yourself would be easier to manage emotionally.
4. Be authentic.
In a memoir, being honest and authentic is essential. If you're not, it will reflect in your writing and result in disengaging the reader. When sharing part of your life with others, vulnerability is necessary, so they'll care about what you're writing. If you hold back, readers can't get a full sense of who you are and why your story matters. Keep in mind that no one is perfect. If we were, we wouldn't have learned or grown. So don't hide your flaws or bad decisions if they're part of your story.
5. Develop a structure.
Based on your memories and theme, think about how to structure your story. Memoirs often have a personal growth
arc, where you learned something or something happened that changed your life. Think about your theme and what you want your reader to get out of your story. An outline can help you stay on the theme while laying out a clear structure that the reader can follow. Find an interesting way to structure your story; you don't necessarily want to start at the beginning. Look for an exciting or notable moment to hook your readers and get them wanting more.
6. Get writing.
Putting the first draft down on paper can be the hardest part because you're starting from nothing. It may seem intimidating. But remember that no one ever has to see the first draft. It's just you telling yourself the story. Also, don't worry too much about grammar, spelling, structure, or other elements at first because they can distract your train of thought and the flow of writing. Just get your story written down and worry about revision and editing later. If you're really struggling, try recording yourself telling the memories you want to include, or use a talk-to-text converter. Talking may feel more natural and be a less intimidating way to get started. If it helps, ask someone close to you to be in the room while recording and speak directly to them, so it feels more conversational and natural.
7. Put your personality into the writing. You're telling your own story, so it should sound like you. Do you often tell jokes? Swear? Use a particular phrase? Include
those quirks from your normal speech into your writing. Pay attention to how you talk in your daily life or ask those closest to you for their observations of how you speak. If you use talk-to-text or a recording to do your first draft, that's a great way to notice what your natural speech is like.
8. Be consistent.
If you're serious about writing your memoir, it's important to intentionally carve out time to write and work. Writing your memoir will take time and dedication, and likely won't be easy. A memoir requires an in-depth, sincere look into your own life and the choices you made. There are also more tedious aspects to writing, such as writer's block, rounds of editing, trying to find a publisher, or figuring out how to self-publish. So it may be helpful to join a writing group or find a writing partner to keep you accountable for making progress. This kind of support can also serve as a resource when you feel stuck or need an outside opinion.
Realize that no matter how interesting or tedious you think your own life has been, you've followed a unique path with a variety of experiences. You're the only one who can tell your story – but there are likely many who will find it fascinating, useful, or be able to relate.
Kimberly Blaker is a freelance writer. She also owns an online bookshop, Sage Rare & Collectible Books, specializing in out-of-print, scarce, signed, and first editions; fine bindings; ephemera and more at sagerarebooks.com.
"Remote Control Roulette"
Ah, the remote control—a device meant to make life easier but somehow capable of unraveling even the most patient among us.
Let me set the scene: You’re ready to relax. The snacks are prepared, your drink is at the perfect level of condensation, and you’ve claimed your favorite seat. It’s time for your show. You grab the remote, press the power button, and... nothing happens.
No problem, right? You jiggle the batteries like a shaman summoning spirits. Still nothing. You press the button harder, as though increasing the force will send a stronger signal. The TV remains dark, mocking your efforts.
Fine. Maybe it’s the wrong remote. You dig through the collection on your coffee table. There’s one for the cable box, one for the soundbar, one for the Blu-ray player you haven’t used since 2012, and a mystery remote that no one remembers buying. None of them work.
“Why do we even have so many remotes?” you mutter, shaking your fist at the heavens. Somewhere, a tech executive laughs.
Next step: the universal remote. You know, the one that promises to control everything but has more buttons than a NASA control panel. You try to remember how to switch the input, but the only thing you accomplish is accidentally setting the TV to Spanish and turning up the volume to ear-splitting levels.
At this point, your partner walks in. “What’s wrong?” they ask.
“I’m trying to turn on the TV!”
“Did you check the batteries?”
Of course, you didn’t check the batteries. That’s too logical. But now you do, and surprise—the batteries are fine. The remote just hates you.
You try the final option: downloading the TV manufacturer’s app on your phone. Now you’re Googling your Wi-Fi password while the kids ask, “Is the TV broken? Can we watch on my tablet instead?”
No. This is a matter of principle now. You will turn on the TV. After 20 minutes of troubleshooting, you accidentally hit a button on the original remote, and suddenly, the TV roars to life. You stare at it in disbelief.
“What did you do?” your partner asks.
“I don’t know,” you reply, clutching the remote like it’s a sacred relic. “But it’s working, and I’m never touching it again.”
And yet, I’m grateful for this ordeal. Why? Because the struggle with remotes is the great equalizer. It reminds us that, despite all our modern technology, we’re still at the mercy of tiny plastic rectangles.
So here’s to you, remote control. You’ve kept me humble, tested my patience, and ensured that my kids think I’m a technical wizard every time I figure you out. But seriously, if you could work consistently, that’d be great.
- Archie Grumbleton
Puzzle Hour @ Things We Like
Recurring on the last Saturday of each month, 1-3pm 1617 Graham Street Montgomery, AL 36106
Puzzle Hour is a way to bring the puzzle community together for a friendly competition. Two teams of up to four persons each, 100 to 300 pieces. The 1st team to complete the puzzle or the closest to completion wins a gift card. Visit https://www.thingswelikemgm.com/ for more information.
MBC 60th Anniversary Selma to Montgomery Bicycle Ride
February 22, 8am at Union Station
In 2025, the Montgomery Bicycle Club will commemorate the 60th Anniversary of the Selma to Montgomery Voters Rights March. While riding the Selma to Montgomery National Historic Trail, we encourage riders to stop and see the sights, envision the march, feel the tension, cross the bridge, follow the paths of the foot soldiers, and end in triumph. It will be an unforgettable day full of sights and memories we will never forget. Watch this page for more information about the 60th anniversary supported ride on February 22, 2025 to be once again put on by our club. In the mean time, we are leaving the links to the course route so that anyone who wishes to make the historic trek by bicycle will have the routes available to them. Register at https://www.bikereg.com/65093.
Exile at the MPAC February 22, 7pm
Exile formed in 1963, looking to play small clubs in Richmond, Kentucky, but managed to top both the pop and country charts during their 60-year-long career. Their most successful hit, “Kiss You All Over” spent four weeks at the top of Billboard’s pop chart in 1978. In the early 1980s Exile started to focus on country music. During their run on the country charts, Exile has successfully had ten No. 1 singles, including “I Don’t Want To Be A Memory” and “Give Me One More Chance.” Tickets available at https://mpaconline.org/exile/.
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Galentine’s Workshop at TEES by Taylor February 8, 9:30am-11:30am
Gather your best gals and join us for a fun, creative morning! You’ll learn the art of hand embroidery on a sweatshirt, design a darling mini bouquet, and enjoy delicious snacks. Bring your besties and your creative spirit—we’ll provide the rest! Event will be held at 134 W 3rd St - Prattville, AL.
Visit Facebook to register: https://www.facebook.com/customteesbytaylor/
Caregiver of the Month Spotlight: Kaderius Hill
KD has been with Home Care Assistance since October 2024, and in this time KD has displayed an abundance of compassion, empathy, and a true desire to help our seniors live better at home. He has made a huge impact with our clients by showing his determination, consistency, and passion of being a caregiver.
HCA is honored to have KD on the team!
We appreciate your hard work and dedication, thank you for a job Well Done!!
For more information visit www.homecareassistancemontgomery.com.
Movie Nights at Lorraine’s Bake Shop
Come and enjoy a classic rom-com, popcorn, exclusive movie desserts & drinks. Located at 22 Dexter Avenue, Montgomery, AL 36104
February 7: 50 First Dates February 14: Sleepless in Seattle
February 21: When Harry Met Sally February 28: You've Got Mail https://experiencemontgomeryal.org/event/movie-nights-at-lorraines/751/
Wetumpka Mardi Gras Parade
March 1, 2025
Welcome to the home of the River Region's largest and best Mardi Gras parade and festival! The 2020 parade had over 15,000 people in attendance and over 200 parade participants and vendors! The Order of Cimarrón hosts this community event in the beautiful city of Wetumpka, Alabama each year. Come join the excitement and be a part of a fun family friendly parade and celebration. https://wetumpkamardigras.com/
Masterworks 3: Heritage & Harmony
Monday, February 10 at Troy University's Davis Theatre
Johannes Brahms – Double Concerto Soloists: MSO Violin and Cello Fellows
William Dawson – Negro Folk Symphony
Part of the Alabama Composers Project
Alton Brown Live on March 4
7:30pm at Montgomery Performing Arts Center
Alton Brown Live: Last Bite, the famed foodist reflects on his decades in food media, presents several of his favorite culinary mega-hacks, sings some of his funny food songs, and in general offers a culinary variety show the likes of which human eyes have never seen. https://mpaconline.org/alton-brown-live/
Valentine’s Day Cruise on the Harriot II February 13-15, 7-9pm
Enjoy a romantic dinner and dance the night away on our beautiful Harriott II riverboat. Our Valentine's Day Cruise includes your choice of entrée a 14 oz. Ribeye Steak & shrimp cocktail or vegan lasagna, served with sides of baked potato, steamed whole green beans, salad, a roll, and Black Forest cake for dessert. Each couple will receive a dozen roses and a complimentary glass of champagne. Please note that this event is ticketed for couples. Boards at 6:30 pm and Cruises 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm. Tickets can be purchased online, in our office, or over the phone. Our address is 200 Coosa Street and our Phone Number is 334-625-2100. We hope to see you there!
Shen Yun at Montgomery Performing Arts Centre on February 13, 2025
Shen Yun invites you to travel back to the magical world of ancient China. Experience a lost culture through the incredible art of classical Chinese dance, and see legends come to life. Shen Yun makes this possible by pushing the boundaries of the performing arts, with a unique blend of stunning costuming, high-tech backdrops, and an orchestra like no other. Be prepared for a theatrical experience that will take your breath away!
Visit www.shenyun.com/montgomery/montgomery-performing-arts-centre for more information and to purchase your tickets!
By Nick Thomas
Arabia Mountain, Georgia
Montgomery's central Southeast location makes it an ideal launching point for day or weekend adventures to nearby metropolitan destinations such as New Orleans, Nashville, or Atlanta. If your plans include a visit to the Georgia capitol, don't miss the opportunity for some outdoor exploration with a hike up Arabia Mountain, located just 20 minutes east of Atlanta along I-20.
But don't let the 'mountain' designation concern you. Named a National Heritage Area in 2006 to help preserve the pristine region, Arabia's barren summit is quite accessible despite projecting some 950 feet above sea level – the elevation gain is actually only around 200 feet starting at the Nature Center trailhead (South Parking Lot) on Klondike Road.
The modest incline up the mountain's exposed granite provides a steady and
the way, we also added terms such as "monadnock" and "rock cairns" to our vocabulary.
We began the trail at the car park adjacent to the Nature Center of the Davidson-Arabia Mountain Nature Preserve (the 2,550-acre area's formal title). The initial path is fairly level and passes through a former granite quarry dotted with craters – large and small –that form charming pools after heavy rain. Pine and oak forests surround the initial path towards the summit. Take note of a path on the right that splits off to a small lake that could be a secondary hike (see below).
manageable climb. The rock surface is rather coarse, worn down by erosion over the millennia, providing reliable traction for walking. Nevertheless, it's always a good idea to wear non-slip footwear and carry a hiking pole.
We completed the invigorating 1.3-mile out-and-back hike in about 75 minutes, taking our time at the rocky summit to enjoy the 360-degree view stretching across DeKalb County. Along
As the surrounding tree line disappeared, we began climbing the granite outcrop known as monadnock – an "isolated hill of bedrock standing conspicuously above the general level of the surrounding area," according to Britannica. Although the lunar-like surface may seem desolate of life, especially in the dry summer when we visited, vibrant plants flourish seasonally, including shallow pools of red diamorpha in the early spring and carpets of yellow daisies in the fall. Follow the rock cairns to the summit – piles of rocks that are used to mark a trail.
The region offers other trails of various lengths to explore. After descending Arabia Mountain and returning toward the car park, we ventured onto the previously mentioned second trail, marked by a blue blaze on a tree (now to the left). This 2-mile loop, while mostly flat, winds through diverse landscapes, including open fields, lush forests, manageable rocky terrain, and around Mountain Lake before circling back to the car park. Remember to bring plenty of water, especially during warm weather. For a third hike, check out the Klondike Boardwalk Trail (also accessible from the car park). It runs alongside Klondike Road and is a level path with excellent views of the mountain summit from its base.
Although the origin of Arabia Mountain's name remains uncertain, it possibly dates back to 19th-century quarry workers who endured the blistering summer heat while laboring on the exposed rock and described the intense conditions as being "hot as Arabia." Having climbed the mountain in July, with temperatures soaring to around 95 degrees, other vivid idioms for the heat certainly come to mind! Regardless of the season, a trip to Arabia Mountain – just a couple of hours from Montgomery –promises to be a memorable experience.
Nick Thomas teaches at Auburn University at Montgomery and has written features, columns, and interviews for many newspapers and magazines. His hiking column describes short trails, hikes, and walks from around the country that seniors might enjoy while traveling. See www.ItsAWonderfulHike.com.
Donna Hughes
For over five decades, this Montgomery resident has called the city home, building a life rooted in faith, family, and community. Her career at John Knox Manor has been a testament to her passion for helping senior adults and their families navigate the emotional journey of transitioning to senior living. Equally central to her life is the joy of being a wife to Scott and together raising their three daughters, celebrating their accomplishments, and supporting them as they’ve ventured into adulthood. Her story is one of devotion—to her family, her faith, and the community she’s served so well.
BOOM!: How long have you lived in Montgomery, and what did you enjoy most about your early years here?
Donna: I have lived in Montgomery for 53 years. I loved growing up here with a lot of neighborhood friends. I grew up going to Ridgecrest Baptist Church, which was right in my neighborhood. I went to Montgomery Public Schools and cherish the many teachers and friends from over the years. I recently enjoyed celebrating my 40-year class reunion with the Jeff Davis High School Class of '84.
BOOM!: What life experiences have shaped you the most and influenced the person you are today?
Donna: Being a mother and a wife are the biggest life experiences that have shaped me into who I am today. Being a mom is the most rewarding experience of my life. After years of fertility treatments, we were blessed with twin girls and again six years later with another sweet girl. God truly has been good to us, and all three girls continue to bless us as adults.
BOOM!:Helping families transition their loved ones to senior living must be both challenging and rewarding. What's the most fulfilling part of your role at John Knox Manor?
Donna: When Scott and I first married, I worked in medical supply sales. I sold to nursing homes, which is where my
love for working with senior adults began. I volunteered at various facilities, and spending time with seniors was very rewarding. My goal was to get into pharmaceutical sales. When an opportunity came available, I was able to work part-time in pharmaceutical sales; this helped during fertility treatments and when the girls were young. It gave me the flexibility to be an active mom. I was able to go on field trips, to class parties, volunteer at the schools, etc. After a brief time in advertising sales, I decided to go back to work fulltime. I enjoyed calling on area physicians
and was blessed to do so in the senior adult world. As a marketing liaison for a local nursing home, I was renewed in my love for senior adults. In October 2014, I started working at John Knox Manor II. Being able to help families navigate going into a nursing home was challenging but also rewarding. Loving on our residents and our families was such a blessing to me. I started as admissions director of the nursing home, and being in a smaller facility allowed me to help in other areas, such as activities and social services. My administrator, Terri Howell, helped me learn every area of nursing homes. She mentored and taught me everything I know today. I am blessed to still be able to work with her in my current role. At the nursing home, I helped navigate families into long-term care.
In 2020, I had to leave JKM, due to having a sick parent. After leaving JKM, I worked at an in-home caregiver agency and assisted living. Learning other aspects of senior care was a blessing, allowing me to better help families. In August 2022, I was asked by our new Executive Director, Eddie Cummings, to come back and be director of sales and marketing for all of John Knox Manor. We are a complete Senior Retirement Community offering independent living, catered living, assisted living, in-home caregiving, short-term rehab, and longterm skilled nursing.
John Knox Manor has been in business for over 50 years and just feels
Donna and Scott met at Auburn in 1987 and still love being there together after 33 years of marriage.
like home to me. Whether you come to John Knox Manor or somewhere else, I am happy to help you. I work with some of the best people in the business and have lots of great resources.
BOOM!: What advice do you have for families who are just beginning the process of moving their parents into a senior living facility?
letting your loved one live there.
BOOM!: How do you help families and residents cope with the emotional challenges of this transition?
Donna: I listen to their needs and aim to see each and every one in their own unique position. I try to help them find a place that will best fit their needs, be available to answer questions, be a shoulder to cry on, and encourage them in any way possible.
BOOM!: You've had a bit of a transition of your own over the past few years with your three daughters out of the house. How did you and Scott adjust to becoming empty nesters? Were there any surprises in this new phase of life?
Donna: I always tell people to look before they need a facility. Do your homework and tour the different facilities. Make sure you feel comfortable
Donna: Wow, going from a house full of kids and their friends, lots of activities, etc., to having so much free time and "just us" was a huge adjustment. It has given Scott and I a chance to enjoy each other's company and time to find new interests on our own. I started working out at Center Personal Training, which has been very beneficial to my life. I've worked out for many years, but the oneon-one attention has helped me greatly as I continue to focus on my health and fitness.
Scott and I now have time for afternoon walks and time with friends. We recently started taking care of my mom and the challenges that entails. We are now doing all the things I have been helping others navigate.
BOOM!: You recently had one daughter marry, and another getting married this month. Your youngest attends Ole Miss. How has your relationship with your daughters (and sons-in-law) evolved as they've stepped into adulthood?
Donna: Hannah and Cameron got married in August 2024 and live in Birmingham. They recently moved into their new home and are doing great. They both love their careers and are enjoying Birmingham.
Haley and Mario are getting married this month in Salt Lake City, Utah. They moved out to Utah after Mario's brother Sebi graduated from Auburn. Along with Mario, we have also welcomed his brother Sebi into our family. They decided to move to a place with adventure last June and are enjoying snow skiing and mountain biking in the area. We miss them all but love seeing them have so much fun!
Thank goodness for Facetime, which we do every day! It's common to Facetime all three girls together daily. Well, when Olivia has time for us. She is a junior at Ole Miss and active in her sorority, Chi Omega. We are just so proud of all of them! They are truly a blessing to us!
John Knox staff: Joyce Robinson, Eddie Cummings, Terri Howell, Mark Pate and Donna Hughes.
Daughter Olivia with boyfriend, Johnathon McCormick, Jr.
Hannah and Cameron
Haley and Mario will marry this month in Salt Lake City, Utah.
We are very close to all three of our girls and have loved welcoming the guys into our family. They have been a definite asset and are what we prayed for all our girls' lives.
BOOM!: As die-hard Auburn fans and tailgaters, how did you and Scott adjust to cheering for Ole Miss when two of your daughters chose to attend there? Was it difficult to embrace the Rebels, or did you find a way to balance your loyalties?
Donna: Scott and I met at Auburn, and we raised our girls as Auburn fans, taking them to tailgating and athletic events for many years. We even had three of our nieces and nephews graduate from Auburn after us. In 2016, Haley went to Auburn, but Hannah decided it was time to go away. She chose Ole Miss, and it was perfect for her. Olivia followed Hannah to Ole Miss in 2022. We love Auburn, and there is nothing like it, but we also adore Ole Miss. The friends we have met there throughout the years are some of the best in the world. Oxford is a beautiful town and so much fun anytime we go. But it will never be in our hearts like Auburn.
We are blessed to have two Rebels and thankful for their times at Ole Miss. Having Haley and Mario at our alma mater was wonderful! We got to see them every tailgate and football game. This year, we also added a son-in-law, Cameron, who graduated from Alabama! We have many family members who are
Bama fans, so we are used to the fun rivalry. One thing we agree on is Hotty Toddy! Everyone's second favorite!
BOOM!:You spent years supporting your daughters in sports and school activities. Do you see the investments you made in their activities paying off in their lives today, either personally or professionally?
Donna: The years of organized sports and school activities were indeed something we enjoyed. We have made many great friends over the years through different events. The girls learned so much about discipline, determination, and sportsmanship. I feel this was definitely worth all the time spent. Scott was able to coach many of their sports. They have great memories of their time on the softball fields and volleyball courts. I am thankful for each and every coach who devoted time to our children, and I believe each helped mold them into who they are today. They made friends with girls from not just their own schools but also other schools and other cities along the way.
and just have a lot of fun together. It is always good for the heart! I also enjoy reconnecting with friends from the years over wine, dinner, lunch dates, etc. Friends are very important to me. Whether I have known you since birth or just met you recently through work, I love spending time with my friends.
BOOM!: Taking trips with your long-time girlfriends is something you've always done. What do those trips mean to you, and how have they helped you thrive in this 50+ phase of life as an empty nester?
Donna: I love keeping in touch with lifelong friends. It has been a great way to catch up and renew these friendships. I am so fortunate to still go on trips with my high school friends, and we always pick up right where we left off. We laugh, reminisce,
BOOM!:You and Scott have been longtime members of First Baptist Church. With your children now grown, how has your approach to church and faith changed? Has it shifted the way you engage with the church community?
Donna: We are still members of FBC. Having Jay Wolf officiated Hannah and Cameron's wedding was such a
In front of Montgomery's First Baptist Church.
Beach trip with high school friends.
Always a fun day on the Plains.
blessing. Our Sunday school class has been together since our children were babies. We have gone through all of life's events together. We have lost members to death, supported each other in bad times, cheered each other on, prayed for each other when sick, and watched our children grow up.
Some of the sweetest people in my life have been in our Sunday school class. I thank God for our church. We also attend the Church of the Highlands and enjoy the praise and worship service there. It's nice to go to our neighborhood church and worship with many people from different denominations.
BOOM!: What role does faith play in the work you do at John Knox Manor, particularly when working with families during emotional times?
Donna: John Knox Manor is a faithbased facility, which makes it easy to share your faith with those at work. I don't know how you could go through life without faith. We pray for each other, the residents, and family members. Working at JKM is more of a mission for me than a job. I love helping people find a place for their loved ones and supporting them through the process. Even if we can not help them at JKM, I am going to help them find the best place for their family.
the lake and beach. And close enough to take quick trips to Auburn. Scott and I also appreciate being so close to our extended families.
I think need more restaurants and entertainment, and we also need a safer community. But that is a much larger discussion for some other time. I am thankful for developers like Jerry Kyser and others who keep putting more into our town.
BOOM!: When you think about the future, what excites you the most about this phase of your life?
Donna: I look forward to the future, but I am enjoying this phase of our lives. Seeing our girls fall in love and get married brings us such joy as does knowing they are happy and successful in their careers. Their happiness helps us know we did good!
We look forward to seeing how the future unfolds for Olivia as she graduates May 2026 from Ole Miss. We wonder where she will end up and pray for her future as well. As for my future, I look
BOOM!:What do you enjoy about living in the Montgomery/River Region area? What do we need more of?
Donna: I enjoy living in Montgomery and seeing so many people I have grown up with throughout the years. I like the downtown area's entertainment and have enjoyed raising our family out east. It's wonderful living so close to
forward to traveling to see our children and spending time with Scott as we approach retirement age and, hopefully, grandchildren. Until then, we will enjoy our time with our children, extended families, and friends. We thank God for being so good to us!
We want to thank Donna for sharing some of her life's story with us this month. If you have comments or suggestions about our cover profiles, including nominating someone, please text Jason Watson at 334.328.5189 or email jason@riverregionboom.com.
Lake days with family are the best days!
Sister love
Hannah and Cameron wedding day, August 2024.
It's ironic: As a travel writer I've been to all 50 states and many countries, but I am getting more and more anxious about traveling as I get older. I recently went to Bali (lucky me!) and I was anxious about it for months beforehand.
I knew from experience that I'd be OK once I got on the plane, but other people have anxiety while on the plane. Some, like my friend Sheryl, experience anxiety over long road trips and the prospect of renting an Airbnb home.
As much as she looks forward to escaping the cold, Sheryl worries about whether she'll be able to sleep comfortably in the rental home's bed, if it will be stocked with the kitchen appliances and gadgets she's used to and if she'll feel safe in the neighborhood.
My friend Connie is concerned that her dogsitter won't be able to handle her 100-pound dog while she's away on vacation. My sister, Linda, worries about traveling alone, and my hairdresser worries about unruly passengers.
Many of us worry about what a destination will be like and if it will live up to our expectations and if we'll feel comfortable in a foreign country or be able to communicate. We may fear, too, that we won't know how to cope if we get ill or hurt.
Experts tell us that travel is good for the soul, although hectic airports aren't. The key is to plan ahead.
Travel Anxiety Symptoms
Psychologists say anxiety is common, especially among older adults, and travel can intensify it. Approximately 25 million Americans report a fear of flying, according to the Cleveland Clinic, and may experience panic attacks during a flight. Overall, too, about 40 million adults suffer with an anxiety disorder like a phobia or generalized anxiety disorder, reports the National Alliance on Mental Illness.
Travel anxiety can manifest in many different ways. Common symptoms include worrying, sweating, experiencing a rapid heart rate or shaky hands, and feeling nauseous or faint, panicky or irritable. It does share a common denominator, however: We feel a lack of control, which can be heightened by aging concerns, says Laura Sgro , a Los Angeles therapist in private practice who works with anxious adults.
"In general, people become more susceptible to catching an illness as they age, and they may be struggling with a chronic condition or a mobility issue that can create anxiety. They also become more aware of risks and the things that can go wrong with travel. Teens and 20-year-olds don't think about the possibility of their plane crashing," she says.
There's also the fact that travel today doesn't look like it did when we were 20, she adds. We have to be technologically savvy to make reservations online, check in for our flight and download our boarding pass. All of that may cause undue stress.
Some Solutions
As with most forms of anxiety, there are proven ways to soothe yourself. Top among them:
Identify the trigger for your travel anxiety and control what you can.
If you know what is sparking your fear reaction, you can find ways to counter that fear, Sgro says. "[If] you're afraid of turbulence," she explains, "I would recommend researching what turbulence is and the statistics about it. Spoiler alert: There has never been an accident because of turbulence." There have been some recent episodes of severe and unexpected turbulence, though, where passengers have been injured, so on a practical level be sure to wear your seatbelt whenever you're seated and avoid opening the overhead compartments.
Don't blame yourself for your anxiety. Anxiety is a physiological reaction and once it is triggered, the train has left the station and you need to learn how to ride it out. Whether it's real, your nervous system is reacting to a perceived threat. Use logic to reassure yourself that the feeling will pass, Sgro
advises. "When we are feeling anxious, we are time traveling either to the past where something scary happened, or to the future, where we think something catastrophic is going to happen," she says. We need to come back to the present moment.
Learn calming techniques to soothe your body and distract your mind. Try doing a simple meditation to ground yourself in the present moment and distract your brain from the discomfort you're feeling. Alternatively, do some deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation or count five things you can see around you.
Focus on something you enjoy. Write or doodle in a journal, play a game on your phone, watch a movie or read a book. Also think about why you wanted to go on a trip in the first place — what are you most anticipating seeing or experiencing? Excitement about your trip may override the fear.
Consider traveling with a group. This might not work for everyone, says Sgro, but being in a group can be reassuring for some people. You don't have to worry about planning a trip or figuring out logistics; you can simply rely on your group leader and follow the pack.
If you prefer to go it on your own, do plenty of research so you know what to expect, where you're going to stay and eat, the activities you'll do and how you'll get there. Also consider calling on a travel agent to help you make your arrangements; these experts have been
to many destinations and can steer you in the right direction, easing fears.
Seek out a therapist or group class for phobias and anxiety. Some therapists specialize in helping people get over travel fears, and even run group classes or offer individual sessions. For example, Washington, D.C.'s Center for Travel Anxiety offers fear-of-flying workshops for their clients. A therapist may also be able to prescribe antianxiety medications, which can be particularly helpful if you must travel, say to a funeral or wedding, or if you have to travel for work.
Believe that you can handle whatever comes your way. "When you feel anxious on a plane, remember this moment is temporary," Sgro says. "It sucks, but you will get through it. Build trust in yourself that you can survive the anxiety."
I sometimes start to feel intensely hot and nauseous on planes when the air becomes stale and warm. I used to catastrophize and worry I would have a full-blown panic attack and humiliate
myself, but I've learned that I can help these moments pass by bringing a personal fan with me and using it to cool my face and neck. I also repeat the simple meditative phrase "I am cool and I am calm" silently until it passes. It does within minutes and no one usually seems to notice that I'm in the process of melting down.
Limit travel. While you ideally want to learn to manage your fear so you can explore the world, ultimately the anxiety you feel just might not be worth the trip. I'm wondering about that myself. I'm fine traveling in the U.S. and Canada, but I'm not sure I'll travel again to far-flung places in Africa, Asia and the Middle East. After years of "feeling the fear and doing it anyway," those kinds of trips might be more than I can handle emotionally, and that's OK. Sgro says you have to analyze your priorities — does exploring the world outweigh the fear you feel? If it does, you might seek help to manage the anxiety better and ease your discomfort. If it doesn't, limiting your travel can be a healthy choice.
And yes, by the way, I did have a wonderful time in Bali. The longhaul plane ride turned out to be more manageable than I anticipated: I purchased a roomy premium economy seat and took a sleep aid, resulting in a solid eight hours of rest. The remainder of the time, I ate, watched movies, read and talked with my friend.
Once in Bali, I realized the country was more modern than I thought it would be — and staying at four- and fivestar resorts helped soothe my anxiety even more (although I sometimes felt like an over-privileged American). I never needed to take the anti-malaria pills a travel medicine doctor had prescribed for me; in fact, I only got one mosquito bite while I was in Asia.
I was careful with what and where I ate, and although I sampled the very spicy Balinese cuisine, I was happy to see that the hotels offered as many familiar Western dishes as Asian entrees. Best of all, the people in my group were fun and relatable, and we all had quilting in common to talk about. Fear averted (at least for now)!
Courtesy of nextavenue.org.
Maximizing Your Social Security Benefits
There are big changes to Social Security in 2025. Congress passed a law called the Social Security Fairness Act which could increase Social Security benefits for many Americans, which President Biden signed into law. If some of your career was spent working in non-Social Security covered employment, you are probably eligible to collect higher, sometimes substantially higher Social Security benefits, which are based on your own covered work or that of a current or ex-spouse, living or deceased.
The Act eliminated both the GPO (Government Pension Offset) and the WEP (Windfall Elimination Provision). Those provisions previously reduced retirement benefits and either reduced or eliminated spousal, divorced spouse, widow or widower, and divorced widow or widower benefits of those with pensions or retirement accounts resulting from non-covered employment. If you are in this position, you probably know who you are.
In addition, more than 95% of Social Security recipients don’t maximize their benefits, according to a study by the Center for Retirement Research at Boston College. Over 40% of Americans file at age 62, minimizing their benefits if they live into their eighties. By minimizing their benefits, Americans are missing out on tens of thousands or hundreds of thousands of dollars of benefits, if not more, according to Larry Kotlikoff, author
Financial Thoughts with Susan Moore
By Susan Clayton Moore, J.D. Principal of Moore Wealth Management, Inc.
of a best-selling book on maximizing social security benefits that was published in 2015. The problem with maximizing Social Security benefits is how complicated it has become and is likely to remain so for the next several years.
On Wednesday, February 26, 2025, from noon to 1:30 p.m., Susan Moore of Moore Wealth Management, Inc. (MWM) will conduct a complimentary and without obligation “Maximizing Social Security” webinar. There will be both a live and recorded version. If you would like to be included in the webinar, please call the Moore Wealth Management office for further information or reservations at 334.270.1672, or email sarah@
moorewealthmanagement.com. If you miss the webinar, we also offer free consultations that are without obligation. In addition to explaining the new Social Security Fairness Act, the workshop will also cover how the Social Security system works in general. Specifically, the workshop will discuss different techniques to maximize Social Security including when and how to file, how to lessen taxes on Social Security, and special rules that impact widows and widowers, divorcees and spousal benefits. It pays to know how to maximize your benefits.
Susan Clayton Moore, J.D., is a financial advisor and wealth manager of Moore Wealth Management, Inc., with offices Montgomery and Alexander City, AL. Susan has under advisement over $150 million (as of 9.1.24) in brokerage and advisory assets through Kestra Financial and has been a financial planner for over 40 years. Contact Susan at 334.270.1672. Email contact is susan@moorewealthmanagement.com.
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