BOOM! October 2024

Do You Need a Personal Travel Advisor?

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Contents October 2024

Publisher’s Letter

My Breast Cancer Story

Publisher/Editor

Jim Watson

334.324.3472 cell/text jim@riverregionboom.com

Contributing Writers

Jeff Barganier

Tracy Bhalla

Greg Budell

Audrey Gillis

Jamie Goll

Michele C. Hollow

Gregory Jantz

Anne Elizabeth McGowin

Jeff Minick

Susan Moore

Leida Snow

Carren Strock

Nick Thomas

Cover Photography

Photography by DiAnna Paulk photographybydiannapaulk.com

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Jim Watson, 334.324.3472

jim@riverregionboom.com

Many of you have one. Mine began with my first wife, Marty. Each year during October I share my Breast Cancer Story with our readers. Everyone who has experienced Breast Cancer knows the bond we all share yet everyone’s story is unique. I consider my experience a blessing.

Breast Cancer’s Blessing

Could life be any better? My wife and I were truly enjoying the fruits of our labor. We were business partners; she was the boss and I was her advisor. We had been publishing Montgomery Parents for eight years and serving our community with something we thought was worth doing. We were “empty nesters”, and our schedules allowed for travel and plenty of time to love on the grandkids. Through our effort we had discovered the joy of “made for each other”, because both of us brought something to our marriage and business relationship the other didn’t have. We became a complete work of love. After a 40-year relationship stemming from a 9th grade history class encounter, Marty and I had discovered the “sweet spot” of happiness and we were enjoying the blessing of God’s design. And then we weren’t.

In April of 2003, our lives changed. Marty and I were sitting in our living room as our family doctor told Marty she had metastatic breast cancer. We were paralyzed by the thought. It’s as if our brains were frozen. It was a Friday afternoon, so we would have to spend the weekend with this intruder; we were being held hostage by breast cancer until Monday’s appointment with the oncologist. We both struggled to understand the why. I researched breast cancer and learned too much while Marty began sharing with family and friends the “news” no one wanted to hear. As an optimist I was going to get to the bottom of this problem and find a solution. Marty, who had a deep faith, knew the solution was with God. Of course, we both would press and probe our doctors for answers and hope and got some of both. But in the end, our journey with breast cancer led to God and the peace that only He can provide. Breast cancer changed our lives, but God was the director.

I became a caregiver, and like many men, was pretty unfamiliar with the job description. But when your wife has breast cancer and every day together is truly precious, you ask a lot of dumb questions and you get smart quick. I’m not talking medical stuff, I’m talking laundry and cooking and pill organizing and, most importantly, serving. Marty lived 30 months after her diagnosis and I wouldn’t trade one moment of serving her for anything in this world. The blessing of serving is hard to realize and appreciate because we all want for ourselves. Our nature is to be selfish. But when you serve someone you forget about your needs and value someone else’s. I learned that from Marty. She was a selfless, caring person and when I took on that role in our lives it was an abundant blessing. Marty showed me where to find hope and how to never lose it. Our hope was and is in God. God’s blessings aren’t about being in the best place of your life, they’re about being in the best place with Him.

The annual Breast Cancer Awareness Walk of Life fundraiser in downtown Montgomery is on October 19 so be sure and collect your friends and family and show your support, it's the best way to show your love for all those in the Breast Cancer Community, we all need hope! See page 26 for details.

Our Cover Profile this month is Audrey Gillis, a breast cancer survivor and a strong advocate for those dealing with breast cancer. Most importantly, Audrey’s faith and reliance on God have provided the strength and peace necessary to navigate the negative thoughts that can become so overwhelming. We’re proud to share Audrey’s story in hopes that her words will provide comfort and hope to others who find themselves connected to the breast cancer community. Please share her story whenever possible. Thanks for taking a few moments of your valuable time and reading our October issue, and sharing with friends and family, I appreciate each of you. Age well my friends.

Jim, 334.324.3472 cell/text jim@riverregionboom.com

Marty Watson

Porcupine Meatballs

Porcupine Meatballs are a hearty and delightful classic that blend tender ground beef with fluffy rice, creating charming spikes that resemble porcupine quills.

Ingredients:

For the Meatballs:

< 1¾ pounds ground beef (extra lean)

< 1 medium onion (finely chopped)

< ½ teaspoon poultry seasoning

< 1 pinch ground cloves

< ½ teaspoon thyme (dried)

< 1 teaspoon baking powder

< 2 teaspoon salt

< ½ teaspoon pepper

< ½ cup long-grain rice (uncooked )

< 1 cup milk

< 2 tablespoons olive oil

< 2 cans condensed tomato soup ((10.75 oz cans))

< 2 cans water ((use soup can to measure))

< 2 tablespoons parsley (finely chopped)

Instructions:

1 - Preheat your oven to 350°F (175°C).

2 - In a large bowl add the meatball ingredients, and mix well using your clean hands. The mixture will be quite soft and loose, but they will cook into firm meatballs. process shots showing how to make porcupine meatballs.

3 - Wet your hands and form the mixture into medium size meatballs. You should end up with about 30 meatballs. Drizzle the olive oil in a 9×13 inch casserole dish then place the meatballs in the dish. process shots showing how to make porcupine meatballs.

4 - In another large bowl mix the soup and water together, then pour over the meatballs. Sprinkle with chopped parsley and cover with aluminum foil. process shots showing how to make porcupine meatballs.

5 - Bake covered for 35 minutes then remove the foil and cook for another 30-35 minutes, or until the rice pokes through the meatballs.

6 - Serve with mashed potatoes and enjoy!

Source: https://www.jocooks.com/recipes/porcupine-meatballs

Finding the Right Senior Living Community: A Commitment to Your Independence

334.641.5178

5801 Eastdale Dr., Montgomery, AL 36117

Choosing a senior living community for yourself or a loved one is one of the most important decisions you’ll make. It’s not just about finding a place to live; it’s about finding a home that provides comfort, safety, and a sense of belonging. If you're looking for independent living, making the right choice can significantly impact your quality of life.

Understanding Your Needs

The first step in finding the right senior living community is assessing individual needs. Does your loved one need assistance with daily activities, or are they looking for a more active, independent lifestyle? Different communities cater to different levels of care, and knowing what type of assistance is required can help narrow down the options.

Independent living communities are designed for seniors who are mostly selfsufficient but want the convenience of maintenance-free living. Knowing the level of care needed is essential in choosing the right community.

Prioritizing Safety and Wellness

A senior living community should prioritize the safety and well-being of its residents. This goes beyond emergency response systems and well-trained team members— it includes proactive wellness programs that promote physical and mental health.

From fitness classes to nutritious meals, it’s important to find a community that actively fosters a healthy lifestyle.

When visiting potential communities, ask about safety protocols, team member-toresident ratios, and how the community handles emergencies. Communities should also have procedures in place to prevent falls, manage chronic conditions, and support residents’ overall health.

Exploring Amenities and Activities

A vibrant community will offer a range of amenities and activities that enhance residents’ quality of life. For active seniors, amenities like fitness centers, swimming pools, and walking trails can contribute to physical health. Creative programs like art classes, book clubs, and social events offer mental stimulation and the opportunity to build relationships with others.

Ask for a calendar of events when visiting a community and see if the activities align with your or your loved one’s interests. An ideal senior living community will encourage social interaction and provide opportunities for residents to pursue hobbies, learn new skills, and engage in meaningful experiences.

Considering Location and Accessibility

Location matters. Proximity to family, friends, and healthcare providers can

have a significant impact on both you and your loved one’s well-being. A nearby community allows for easier visits and keeps loved ones close, which can improve the overall experience for everyone.

Additionally, accessibility within the community itself is crucial. Are the common areas easy to navigate? Is transportation available for off-site appointments or errands? These are key considerations when evaluating whether a community meets the needs of its residents.

The Importance of Community Culture

Each senior living community has its own culture and atmosphere. Some are more formal, while others are relaxed and home-like. The right fit will depend on the personality and preferences of the resident. Take time to speak with current residents and team members to get a feel for the environment. Observe how the team members interact with residents and consider whether the community’s values align with your own.

Choosing the right senior living community is about ensuring that you or your loved one can live with dignity, independence, and joy. It’s a deeply personal decision, but with careful consideration of needs, safety, amenities, location, and community culture, you can find a place that feels like home.

I received the most incredible birthday gift from my grandkids (Eazy & Cheeky, pictured).

TWISTERED!

"A true story from the Greg files"

It was a bookThe Oak Lawn Tornado of 1967. If I were to ask you to recall the 5 most unforgettable seconds of your life, what might you reply? Watching my daughter come into the world should be my number one. Beautiful. Miracle! LIFE! Tears of gratitude followed. I felt God.

Greg's "grandkids", Eazy & Cheeky

Yet, the 5 seconds that reduced me to a quaking, terrified teenage kid, struck with the fear of God while staring at certain death, were the 5 tics that passed as I stared, jaw agape, at the Oak Lawn tornado of 1967.

I had no idea this book existed. It’s a complete text and photo compilation of that event, and I’ve devoured it twice already. Like many tornado aficionados, my fascination began with the incredibly well-produced twister scene in The Wizard of Oz. My kid brother Dave was similarly interested but in those ancient times, pictures or films of real tornados were scarce. Dave and I talked often about seeing a real tornado one day.

That wish was more than fulfilled on April 21, 1967, in Chicagoland.

interrupted the Cubs game (only 2,794 watched the Cubs lose 6-1 to the Pittsburgh Pirates). The stern voice of a WGN newsman

It was an unusually warm spring day. With temps in the low 80s, Dave and I and a mutual friend decided to spend that Friday afternoon practicing for the upcoming baseball season. The Cubs game was on our transistor radio as we whipped the ball around the backyard. A high-pitched tone

interrupted the game to announce a Tornado Watch for Chicago and Northern Illinois. Dave and I dismissed it as yet another false alarm.

Yet the complexion of that balmy, breezy afternoon began to change as the afternoon passed. By 5PM, the breeze was dead, and the sunshine gave way to an odd green scramble of clouds. A black brow of storms began advancing from the northwest horizon. 77th place had been filled with a cacophony of playing kids

but as conditions grew more ominous, concerned parents began calling them in. Mothers knew best! As the street emptied, the sky unleashed a torrent of marble sized hail, enough to cover the ground in seconds. I grabbed a handful to show my brother, who was upstairs in the room we shared. It was 5:32 when Dave said “I think there’s a tornado out there”. I moved to his window for a look.

Think? It was a tornado all right! Shock and awe sank in at the sight of this reallife monster as paralyzing fear filled my veins.

Today, of course, one can download 10,000 hours of tornado videos on YouTube. It’s not the same as seeing one with your own eyes, in 3-D. In those 5 seconds I scanned the funnela huge spinning muscle of clouds sowing death and destruction. It had a yellowish hue where it dropped from the sky.

Huge white explosions danced about the base as large objects swung about the vortex.

I wanted to watch longer but it appeared to be bearing down on our house from a half mile away. Survival conquered curiosity. I rushed downstairs, herding my Mom, 2 crying sisters and a pair of wiener dogs into the basement to our crawlspace. Dave was the last one in and latched the door.

The weather raged and raged savagely. At any moment I expected, like Dorothy in The Wizard, our house to fly skyward. I have been through several hurricanes including Andrew, but never heard a louder, more violent storm than that of 4/21/67. The funnel turned east and spared us instant demolition.

The book

By afternoon’s end, 34 were dead. It was rated an F-4 (wind speed near 200 mph). I shared this story on my Night Shift program on WLS AM & FM on the storm’s 25th anniversary. At show’s end, 3 women who were caught on a school bus in the twister’s fury were conferenced together on my phone lines, weeping at their survival and for the classmates killed on that same bus!

It’s one of my all-time most memorable shows.

The Oak Lawn tornado was witnessed by an estimated quarter-million people.

Using digital technology, the movie Twister (1996) gave tornado freaks a modern look at tornadic power but the film was bogged down by sappy love plots, while the producers overlooked one small detail- the tornados were spinning in the wrong direction! Oops.

I’ve always maintained that conveying the power of nature on the big screen would be best served in a movie that made the Tornado, the Star. Stephen Spielberg must have been listening as this past summer delivered exactly that in the huge box office hit, Twisters. Spielberg himself insisted Twisters not become a rom-com set in violent weather. The movie delivers the awesome power of the tornado in a very authentic manner. It also pays

homage to the ever-growing legion of nerds who chase tornados all over the country.

Speaking of nerds, when “Twisters” came out in July, meteorologist/best buddy Rich Thomas and I had tickets for an IMAX showing opening weekend. I invited Happy Hour (NewsTalk 93.1FM) movie maven Ellen Murray to join us. As it happened, I picked her up in a thrashing Saturday afternoon monsoon. We then, after slogging through miles of flooding streets (hazard lights flashing) picked up Rich. All 3 of us were soaked at showtime.

Imagine the irony. We drove through severe thunderstorms to pick up the River Region’s Number One weatherman so we could watch a movie about-severe weather! The circumstances put the fun in funnel.

I thought it was mighty creative of a dog, a parrot (and their Mommy) to gift me a book that details an event so deeply seared into my memory.

If you haven’t seen Twisters, check it out. I’m a little old to start my tornado chasing career but it’s tempting. I want to see another one.

Meanwhile, you’re never too old to chase memories.

Share your thoughts on my experiences or other comments via email at gregbudell@aol.com. It's always fun to hear from BOOM! readers.

Greg Budell lives in Montgomery with his wife, Roz, and dog, Brisco. He's been in radio since 1970, and has marked 19 years in the River Region. He hosts the Newstalk 93.1FM Morning Show with Rich Thomas, Susan Woody, and Jay Scott, 6-9 AM Monday - Friday. He returns weekday afternoons from 3-6 PM for Happy Hour with, Rosie Brock and a variety of sidekicks. Greg can be reached at gregbudell@aol.com

The Oak Lawn tornado as Greg saw it

F-4 Devastation

By Nick Thomas

Celebrating Food History

World Food Day falls on October 16 this year. So, it would seem appropriate to acknowledge this delectable date by highlighting some lesser-known moments in world food history:

c. 1700 BC: Unknown Babylonian cook and part-time mathematician recognizes that when baking circular fruit pasties, the ratio of their circumference to their diameter is always about 3.14, thereby creating pie.

79 AD: Lone survivor of Mt. Vesuvius eruption relocates to find work in Italian bakery and the Lava Cake is born.

1195: King Richard, recovering from a severe bout of acne, meets with the royal cook to discuss menu items for upcoming banquet. Meeting inspires cook to create popular new British dried fruit pudding dish: Spotted Dick.

1453: Chef to brutal Romanian ruler Vlad the Impaler invents the shish kabob.

Howard Taft stops by White House kitchen for evening snack, but inadvertently sits on cheese and tomato quiche left on chair. Observant staff chef immediately resigns to establish first American pizza franchise.

1919: Airline company serves first rather tasteless in-flight meal to passengers during London to Paris route creating what would universally become known as plain food.

1937: Group of US senators talk endlessly on the Senate floor during first filibuster and the waffle is invented.

1942: Moe, Larry, and Curly develop fastest known pie delivery service.

1894: Podiatrist brother of John Harvey Kellogg suggests use for his growing collection of calluses scraped from patients’ feet and Corn Flakes created.

1905: After 999 attempts to label new creamy sauce for salads, creator finally settles on name for popular mayonnaise-based tangy ‘island’ dressing.

1909: Absent-minded Idaho chef prepares the first twice-baked potato.

1805: Admiral Lord Nelson inadvertently creates name for popular breakfast meal when asked to predict the outcome of England’s naval campaign with France in the Battle of Trafalgar. “French? Toast!” he reportedly quips.

1912: Rotund US President William

1953: Swanson markets the first TV dinner ensuring the proliferation of couch potatoes for generations.

1971: Post Cereal corporation introduces Fruity Pebbles. Despite high mineral content, product largely unpopular with consumers until company replaces the small fruitinfused pieces of granite with more palatable flavored crisp rice bits.

Nick Thomas teaches at Auburn University at Montgomery in Alabama, and has written features, columns, and interviews for many newspapers and magazines. See www.getnickt.org

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Gogue Center brings Dear Evan Hansen to Auburn Tony- and Grammy-winning hit opens 2024–25 Broadway Series

The Jay and Susie Gogue Performing Arts Center at Auburn University is proud to present Dear Evan Hansen, the Tony- and Grammy -winning musical that connected the world—Friday, October 25 and Saturday, October 26—at the Woltosz Theatre in Auburn, Alabama.

Declared “one of the most remarkable shows in musical theater history” by The Washington Post, Dear Evan Hansen is the first musical to take a groundbreaking look—from the point of view of both the parents and young people—at our complex, interconnected, and social media-filled lives.

Evan Hansen is a high school student who always feels like he’s on the outside looking in. Evan finally gets what so many of us are searching for—the chance to finally fit in. What follows is a poignant, funny, and powerful musical about how even though it can be hard, we can find each other—and ourselves—along the way.

Including some of the most iconic musical theatre songs from the last decade, including “You Will Be Found,” “Waving Through A Window,” and “For Forever,” Dear Evan Hansen features an uplifting score by Benj Pasek and Justin Paul, the Tony-, Grammy- and Oscar-winning team

behind The Greatest Showman, La La Land and Only Murders in the Building, and a book by Tony winner Steven Levenson.

The cast includes Michael Fabisch in the title role of Evan Hansen, Hatty Ryan King as Zoe Murphy, Bre Cade as Heidi Hansen, Caitlin Sams as Cynthia Murphy, Jeff Brooks as Larry Murphy, Gabriel Vernon Nunag as Jared Kleinman, and Makena Jackson as Alana Beck. Alabama native and current Auburn University theatre and dance student Alex Pharo joins the national tour as Connor Murphy this year.

Dear Evan Hansen was originally produced on Broadway, in Toronto and in London by Stacey Mindich. The Broadway production opened at the Music Box Theatre to rave reviews in December 2016 and won six Tony Awards in 2017. The production’s recordbreaking North American tour launched in October 2018.

Dear Evan Hansen is presented as part of the Gogue Center’s 2024–25 Broadway Series. Tickets can be purchased online at goguecentertickets.auburn.edu or in person at the Gogue Center box office, located at 910 South College Street in Auburn, Alabama, Tuesday through Friday, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.

For additional information on this and all other 2024–25 season performances, patrons may contact the Gogue Center box office by telephone at 334.844. TIXS (8497) or via email at gpactickets@ auburn.edu.

This GriefShare group is offered for anyone who has lost a loved one. We use the new GriefShare 4.0 video-based curriculum followed by discussion concerning the stages of grief, the storms that come with it, and ways of dealing with loss

Contact BJ Nave below with any questions.

EVENT LOCATION

Frazer Church-East Sanctuary 6000 Atlanta Hwy Montgomery, AL

10:00 AM–12:00 PM Weekly on Wednesday until November 20, 2024 CONTACT

BJ Nave rnave@frazer.church

Fight Breast Cancer With Love & Money!

Beat the Odds Casino Night

The Beat the Odds Casino Night and Drawdown Event is an exciting party with a casino night theme, a drawdown for a chance to win $10,000, and a BIG 5 auction. The event features real casino tables, complete with dealers for blackjack and other card games, a craps table, and more. Guests will enjoy live music and a wonderful buffet. There are fantastic prizes at the end of the evening such as a pair of Iron Bowl tickets, getaways, electronics, Henig Furs vest and more. The owner of the winning drawdown ticket will go home with $10,000, which makes for an exciting conclusion to the evening. There will be a wine pull and a bourbon raffle. Enjoy an evening with us as we raise money to help local cancer patients in Central Alabama “Beat the Odds!” Date: Thursday October 24, 2024, Time: 6 P.M to 9 P.M., Venue: Wynlakes Country Club. Call the Cancer Wellness Foundation for more information 334.747.4981 or csgunter@baptistfirst.org

By Jeff Minick

Ronald Reagan

Reader, Writer, Thinker, Dreamer

Ronald Reagan’s fans often recollect him as portrayed in the recently released film “Reagan”: a one-time athlete who enjoyed horseback riding and the outdoors, an actor who became first a governor and then a twoterm president, and the “Great Communicator” whose policies helped bring about the collapse of the Soviet Union.

Reagan’s critics had a different take on the man. Democrat and presidential adviser Clark Clifford once called Reagan “an amiable dunce.” Political commentator and essayist Christopher Hitchens described him as “dumb as a stump.” Others in the media took Reagan to task as being ill-prepared for the White House, ridiculed him for his Strategic Defense Initiative, which they dubbed “Star Wars,” and were appalled when he described the Soviet Union as an “evil empire.”

On both sides of this palisade of opinion are many people ignorant of Reagan’s intelligence, honed by decades of reading and writing. Concealed behind an affable manner and an often self-deprecating sense of humor was a man who had spent countless hours with books and a pen and paper.

Childhood Heroes

In 1977, O. Dallas Baillio, director of the public library in Mobile, Alabama, asked 100

well-known Americans to name five books from young adulthood that had influenced them. In his response, Reagan displayed his characteristic humility. “I must confess your letter gave me some moments of mixed emotions,’’ Reagan wrote to Baillio. “There must be a little snob in each of us, because my first reaction was to try to think of examples of classic literature I could list as my favorites in my younger years. None were forthcoming so I decided to ‘come clean.’”

His favorites included boyhood classics from his youth: the works of Edgar Rice Burroughs, creator of the Tarzan books and the John Carter science fiction series. Most important was Harold Bell Wright’s “That Printer of Udell’s,” which as Reagan related, “made a lasting impression on me at about the age of 11 or 12, mainly because of the goodness of the principal character.” Given that his own home life somewhat mirrored that of the book’s hero—the father was an alcoholic, the mother a devout Christian—the deep impression left by this book is even more understandable. In a letter written from the White House to Wright’s daughter about her father, Reagan stated: “He set me on a course I’ve tried to follow even unto this day. I shall always be grateful.”

At the end of his letter to library director Baillio, Reagan wrote: “All in all, as I look back I realize that all my reading left an abiding belief in the triumph of good over evil. There were heroes who lived by standards of morality and fair play.’’

Ronald Reagan, Berlin

British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher sits with her friend and political ally President Ronald Reagan during a visit to the White House on Feb. 20, 1985. J. Scott Applewhite/AP Photo

(L–R) On March 1, 1984, Roosevelt (Rosey) Grier, Demond Wilson, President Ronald Reagan, and Meadowlark Lemon join in prayer after a meeting about voluntary school prayer. Public Domain

Reading His Way to the Right

The title of David T. Byrne’s 2018 work “Ronald Reagan: An Intellectual Biography” might prompt derisive laughter and snarky remarks from the 40th president’s enemies. However, through in-depth analysis Byrne reveals the importance of Reagan’s reading and its influence on his thinking, particularly in regard to his growing antipathy toward communism. Yes, he enjoyed popular fiction, like the Westerns of Louis L’Amour. When he became president and mentioned how much he had enjoyed Tom Clancy’s “The Hunt for Red October,” sales of the novel skyrocketed. “President Reagan made ‘The Hunt for Red October’ a bestseller,” Clancy later said.

In the meantime, however, Reagan was delving into more challenging literary fare that eventually led him into the Republican Party. As Byrne relates, in the 1950s he read books like “The God That Failed,” a crucial collection

denouncing communism by writers who had turned their backs on the Soviet Union. Whittaker Chambers’s classic “Witness,” an account of the author’s disenchantment with Marxism and the USSR, was a particular favorite. Reagan

was a longtime subscriber to William F. Buckley Jr.’s conservative magazine “National Review.” He read books by economists promoting democracy and free enterprise, like Ludwig von Mises, Friedrich Hayek, and Milton Friedman.

The Bible was also an influence. His mother, Nelle, a devout Christian who read Scripture to prisoners in the local jail in Dixon, Illinois, shared the Bible with her two sons too. At both of his presidential inaugurations, Reagan swore the oath of office with his hand on his mother’s King James Bible. In 1954, he read stories from the Old Testament for broadcast. As president he issued a proclamation designating 1983 as the Year of the Bible, an action that sparked a lawsuit from the ACLU, which argued that the proclamation was unconstitutional. The suit failed.

“Within the covers of the Bible,” Reagan once said, “are the answers for all the problems men face.”

With Pen in Hand

To further comprehend Reagan’s appreciation of the written word, we have only to look at the published compilations of his writing. “The Reagan Diaries” contains Reagan’s daily entries while in the White House. This book is 784 pages long. Several different

President Ronald Reagan reads while eating lunch outside the Oval Office, in 1982. Public Domain

collections of his speeches exist, many of which he wrote himself. From 1975 to 1979, with an eye on the presidency, Reagan made more than 1,000 radio broadcasts, with more than 60 percent of the scripts coming from his own hand. It’s estimated that he wrote over 10,000 letters in his lifetime, a personal correspondence rivaled only by one other president, Theodore Roosevelt. Some of these letters are collected in the 960-page book “Reagan: A Life in Letters.”

In addition, while running for governor of California, Reagan wrote his autobiography with the help of Richard Hubler. The resulting book, “Where’s the Rest of Me?” had the title taken from a line he spoke in his film “Kings Row.” Later came another self-portrait in his 1990 “An American Life,” largely ghostwritten by Robert Lindsey. Though Reagan received help in putting together these books, they again reveal his belief that words on paper possess power. It was in fact his words that first garnered the attention of conservatives and made him a political force in the Republican Party. In October 1964, in a pre-recorded session before a studio audience intended to boost Barry Goldwater’s presidential campaign, Reagan delivered what soon became known as his “A Time for Choosing” speech. It failed to turn around Goldwater’s run for the presidency, but “The Speech,” as Reagan’s supporters would soon call it, marked his political debut on the national stage.

Biographer Byrne shares this recollection from Reagan’s son Michael on being asked his most vivid memory of his father from childhood: “Easy. Back before he became governor, he did a lot of work at home. When I’d get back from school in the afternoon, I’d toss my books and go into the master bedroom to say hello. Dad had a big desk there, and he was always at the desk, writing. Not almost always. Always.”

A Sharpened Imagination

Many observers, including David

Byrne, credit Ronald Reagan with a photographic memory, a gift doubtless enhanced by having to memorize lines and scripts as an actor. He had a great store of jokes at his command, could recite reams of both poetry and statistics, and often kept his knowledge and thoughts hidden, even from White House aides, behind a screen of affability.

But as Byrne also notes: “Even more than his photographic memory, Reagan’s greatest intellectual gift was his imagination. Knowledge is important, but it’s limited. Imagination is boundless… Reagan’s imagination surpassed every other post-World War II president … he was one of the few people who could imagine a world without a Soviet Union, a world bereft of the Berlin Wall, a world without communism.”

President Ronald Reagan, commemorating the 750th anniversary of Berlin, addresses the people of West Berlin at the base of the Brandenburg Gate, near the Berlin Wall, on June 12, 1987. Due to the amplification system being used, the president's words could also be heard on the Eastern (communist-controlled) side of the wall.

If we compare Reagan to his predecessors, we find a striking difference in attitude toward totalitarian governments and communism. The presidents after World War II, for the most part, pursued a policy of containment in regard to the ambitions of Marxist regimes. Presidents Nixon and Carter aimed at accommodation by détente, particularly in regard to the Soviets.

Reagan continued to apply some of these policies, yet he also envisioned a world free from totalitarianism. He was more of an optimist and an idealist than his immediate predecessors, a romantic of sorts, as Byrne describes him, in his views about life and about politics. As others noted, his temperament was that of an artist, shaped by his boyhood in Dixon and his student years at Eureka College, followed by his work in film. The

“abiding belief in the triumph of good over evil” that he had gained from his adolescent reading never left him.

The Backstage Reagan

So, was Ronald Reagan an intellectual? Not at all—at least, not in the way we commonly use the title. Note, for example, that even Byrne recognized that fact by the title of his book “Ronald Reagan: An Intellectual Biography.” It is in no way the biography of an intellectual.

Different advantages and circumstances helped carry Ronald Reagan into the White House. His natural physical attributes—his 6-foot-1-inch height, his Hollywood good looks, and his mellifluous voice—these and his generally sunny personality were valuable political assets. His years of experience as a film star made him a natural in front of an audience or a camera. “How can a president not be an actor?” he once said. His persuasive abilities, which he developed from his youth and which came to the fore time and again in his life, were also put to good use in the political arena, whether from behind a speaker’s podium or seated at a negotiating table with worldclass figures.

Yet certainly in times of solitude, when Reagan gave himself over to the pursuits of reading and writing, pondering ideas, and dreaming of a better world, when he considered how he might help bring such a world into being, these underpinned all his gifts and talents. When we realize what occurred behind the curtain before this actor stepped onto the world stage, we better understand the man.

Jeff Minick has four children and a growing platoon of grandchildren. For 20 years, he taught history, literature, and Latin to seminars of homeschooling students in Asheville, N.C. He is the author of two novels, “Amanda Bell” and “Dust On Their Wings,” and two works of nonfiction, “Learning As I Go” and “Movies Make The Man.” Today, he lives and writes in Front Royal, Va.

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By Carren Strock

Making New Friends at 80

Finding that my social life was lacking, I took matters into my own hands and made connections

As I passed retirement age, my close friends began to relocate — some with aching bones moved to more moderate climates, and others moved to be nearer to their children. And by the time I reached 80, all of the women I could call at the spur of the moment to join me for a movie, or a cup of coffee, or even just a walk, had all either passed away or become geographically disconnected.

Coordinating our occasional visits with travel plans became the norm but that didn't help. It wasn't the same as sharing intimacies over a cup of coffee.

Only much later was I to realize that I was not alone. As we age, even women who have grown up in the same childhood homes and maintained friendships throughout their entire lives find their circle of friends decreasing through attrition.

According to Abby Smith, communications coordinator for the Mayo Clinic, "While loneliness can occur in all age groups, people over the age of 60 have been shown to have higher incidences of both loneliness and social isolation. Health risks associated with loneliness can include depression, anxiety, heart attacks and more. The

health risks of a lack of social connection can be just as high as the health risks of obesity, smoking, physical inactivity or excessive alcohol consumption."

As a camp counselor many years ago, I explained to a group of four-year-olds that they had to have a buddy to go into the pool. One little girl asked me what a buddy was. I said, "It's like a best friend." "Oh," she said and walked over to another little girl. "Will you be my best friend?" The other little girl took her hand and the two were inseparable for the rest of the summer.

I always marveled at how easily these two children connected and how, somewhere along the way, we, as adults, lose that ability to be so open.

Finding New Friends

I realized that days would go by without my phone ringing. Some days I didn't

even get out of my pajamas. While it was easier for me to stay home and binge watch my favorite shows, I was so lonely that I found myself becoming more and more depressed. Remembering the female friendships and companionship l once enjoyed, I set about to find new friends. What I found was that finding friends or even just acquaintances as an 80-yearold was difficult, but not impossible.

My local library had a bulletin board that listed all kinds of activities, so I forced myself to get dressed and go there. I found a notice for a writers' workshop and, although I was a published author, went to it.

When the workshop ended, a group of women decided to go for pizza and I joined them. Afterward I offered to drive Huey-Min, a woman in her forties, home as she lived nearby. I never thought I would connect so totally with this woman 25 years younger than me. But we have become good friends.

She tells me I enrich her life with my wisdom and advice, but really it is she who enriches mine with her fresh perspectives and her insights. She also keeps me up to date about current trends, technology and social changes.

Huey Min, left, and Carren Strock | Credit: Courtesy of Carren Strock

And I learned an incredible lesson. Age is just a number, and it is totally irrelevant where friendship is concerned.

Research suggests that engaging with others across generations can lead to better health, happiness and possibly longer lives. I know Huey-Min energizes me. We run to all kinds of classes and events together and we're slowly eating our way through all of the Asian restaurants in Brooklyn.

Connecting over something you have in common, like Huey-Min and I did, isn't the only way to make new friends, but it's a dependable method for a reason. Your passion or hobby gives you a builtin safety net. You have something in common.

I met another new friend, Ellen, while waiting for a bus. She was reading and we began talking about books. I mentioned that I'd just finished my manuscript for a book about a ghost. Her eyes opened wide. "I believe in spirits," she said, "and I have so few people to talk to about that."

While younger people might turn to Instagram or Facebook, many older women are more comfortable with the telephone, so if you strike up an interesting conversation with someone, and you want to chat more with them, say so! Ellen and I exchanged phone numbers, and I am looking forward to meeting her for dinner soon. One note: Just be flexible and try not to read too much into a cancellation. People cancel for a number of reasons. Put yourself in their shoes — you know life can be super busy and unpredictable.

Consider a Senior Center

Not everyone meets at a bus stop. The ideal friendships happen when you pursue activities that genuinely interest you. If you attend classes, join clubs or participate in community events related to your passions, you'll meet like-minded individuals.

I recently spoke with my doctor, a geriatrician. I said I was looking for a place where I could get some physical therapy to improve my balance. He suggested that I join a senior center.

At first, I was hesitant about going to my local center thinking that people my age would be old and sedentary. I was wrong. While some people who come are sedentary, most are active and taking advantage of the activities offered — and there are many.

Initially I thought I'd just go for the exercise class they offered. I have since joined a chair yoga class, a book club and a crafts group. I am also playing mahjong.

My calendar is filling up with new friends I've met there, too.

Carren Strock has often been called a Renaissance woman. Equally at home with a paintbrush and canvas, a needle and thread, or a hammer and nails, she is as eclectic in her writing as she is in her other interests. The author of seven books, she is best known for her ground-breaking book Married Women Who Love Women, now in its third edition.

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By Gregory Jantz

How to Calm An Anxious Mind

Let me state the obvious: The world we live in provides countless reasons to feel anxious every day. It’s no wonder that anxiety rates continue to rise year after year in the United States and around the globe.

You can regain peace with the right strategies.

There’s certainly a long list of things to feel anxious about: the economy, health concerns, political unrest, personal finances, relationship troubles, and much more. Feeling anxious in stressful situations is normal and hard to avoid. Most people experience a jolt of anxiety when starting a new job, enduring an audit with the IRS, or giving a speech. Who wouldn’t?

But for millions of people, persistent anxiety does much more than cause stomach upset or tension headaches—it becomes a significant problem that affects many aspects of life. For these people, anxiety is a debilitating presence that affects performance and quality of life on a daily basis.

“For many, anxiety is an ever-present uninvited guest; in our circle of friends, among family members, and in communities at large,” a recent article in Medical News Today began. “It seems to be rampaging through society like a

noncontagious cognitive plague, forming a low-level hum that hides in the corners of our collective minds.”

At the mental health clinic I direct, I regularly hear clients say:

“I don’t sleep at night because I can’t turn off my racing brain.”

“I constantly worry about the future. Where will I end up? What will the world be like for my kids?”

“When people talk about peace of mind, I can’t imagine what that’s like—I’m stressed out every day.”

Perhaps you have said things such as this yourself or heard a struggling loved one say them. No one is immune to the havoc and hardship caused by unrelenting anxiety—and that includes people we

consider to be successful, accomplished, and highly respected.

Steps Toward

Peacefulness

Living with anxiety, panic disorders, or phobias makes you feel that your life is spiraling downward, robbing you of joy and contentment. But even in our furiously fastpaced and worrisome world, you can live a more peaceful, purposeful, and productive life. You can be free from thoughts, feelings, and habits that drag you down rather than lift you up.

Here’s how to get started on the right path:

Intentionally limit your information intake. Every day, we are bombarded with stats and stories, research, and reports—most of which are totally useless and much of it disturbing. It’s good to be informed about the world around us, but enough is enough. If you want to calm your anxious mind, filter out some of the negative noise.

Choose to be thankful. The anxiety churning in your mind will be put in perspective—and likely be eased—when you regularly recall the blessings in your

life. Consider starting a gratitude journal. Each day, list five things that you are grateful for. The more you look, the more you'll see opportunities to give thanks. Story continues below advertisement

Go against the frantic flow. The dizzying pace of modern life foils a calm spirit and feeds an anxious mind. Ponder these questions: Why do so many people allow themselves to be hurried and harried by endless demands? Why do you succumb to pressures that lead to a frantic pace? Write down the reasons you come up with and explore each in turn.

Stop procrastinating. We all procrastinate sometimes—but for some people, procrastination is a way of life. Whether you are an occasional procrastinator or a perpetual procrastinator, your delays and avoidance amp up your anxiety. The more you procrastinate, the more anxious you become. There is probably something in your life right now that’s causing you to fret—not because you can’t change it, but because you keep putting off doing what is needed to be done to resolve the issue.

Set aside daily time for stillness and silence. Whether you call it meditation, contemplation, or reflection, you should also call it essential for peace of mind. What we call “daydreaming” or “zoning out” is actually spontaneous meditation. The trick is to do it on purpose. With practice, you can learn to consciously alter how you think and achieve a state of relaxed and effortless awareness.

Make a small change to alleviate big stress. Think of one aspect of your life that you’re concerned about that is a source of anxiety. It might be your finances, career, parenting, friendships, education, or physical fitness. What can you do right now—even a tiny change— to initiate improvement? Consider specific ways that your attitudes and actions can enable you to shed anxiety.

Steer clear of negative people. You know the type—they’re sure the world is going to hell in a handbasket, and they share their cynicism with everyone within earshot. Avoid these pessimists, and surround yourself with optimistic allies. Optimism is contagious, so bring together your group of positive people.

Unplug for a while. Lots of people in our constantly connected society would panic at the thought of having no access to their smartphone, Wi-Fi, or computer. But a little discomfort can be instructive and helpful. Set aside a day to disconnect from electronic devices and enjoy bike riding, a hike, or reading a book.

Write in a journal or notebook. Psychologists recognize the power of journaling to relieve stress by clarifying your thoughts, identifying what is troubling you, and getting your concerns down on paper. You don’t need to write for more than 10 or 15 minutes, but it’s essential that you record your honest thoughts and feelings.

Take a nap. The legendary football coach Vince Lombardi said, “Fatigue makes cowards of us all.” Put positively, “Feeling rested gives you strength to withstand adversity.” Ample sleep helps you feel more energetic and cheerful, which will reduce anxiety.

Retrain your brain. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) exercises help challenge and reframe negative thought patterns, promoting a more balanced perspective. Positive affirmations use self-talk to counteract negative thoughts, fostering a more optimistic mindset. Mindfulness practices encourage staying present and focusing on the current moment, preventing anxious thoughts about the past or future. Problem-solving techniques break down problems into smaller, manageable steps, reducing feelings of being overwhelmed.

Stay connected to friends and family.

Living with persistent anxiety can make you feel isolated and alone, but there are an array of people all around you who know what you are going through. Numerous studies have shown that social support can help you build resilience against stress and provide you with practical ideas for dealing with anxiety. Do not hesitate to reach out to a close friend, counselor, or mentor for ongoing help and mutual support. Supportive relationships give you a healthy outlet to process your emotions and strengthen you for the challenges ahead. Talking to someone you trust about your feelings can provide relief and support.

Maintain activities that replenish you. If you’re not careful, experiencing anxiety can preoccupy you to the extent that you forget the activities that used to bring you relaxation and joy. Take a moment to identify, in writing, at least five activities that bring you joy. Going to a movie? Lunch with friends? It could be a day at the museum or the zoo, a picnic at the park, or a weekly round of golf. Then begin scheduling these activities and following through.

Express yourself creatively. Creative expression is a powerful tool for alleviating anxiety by providing an outlet for emotions and thoughts that might otherwise be difficult to articulate. Engaging in creative activities such as drawing, painting, writing, or playing music allows you to channel your feelings into a tangible form, offering a sense of release and relief. By focusing on the act of creation, you can shift your attention away from your worries and immerse yourself in a joyful activity.

Gregory Jantz, Ph.D., is the founder and director of the mental health clinic The Center: A Place of Hope in Edmonds, Wash. He is the author of "Healing Depression for Life," "The Anxiety Reset," and many other books. Find Jantz at APlaceOfHope.com.

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By Leida Snow

Surviving Grief

Going through grief is moving through a process, in which you begin to engage proactively with life, while still involved with profound loss

Lou said often that he knew we would be married from the moment he saw me. I had no such flash. When we met, I was involved with someone else.

"What would you have done if I'd married Ted?" I asked him once. "Oh, I knew you wouldn't," Lou quipped. "He wasn't right for you." None of that made sense to me. That kind of thing only happened in movies.

When Lou proposed marriage after I broke off with Ted, I blurted out, "Marry you? I don't even know you!" Lou was indignant. "Not know me? I'm the guy who's waited more than two years for you. I'm the guy who wants to spend the rest of my life with you."

When I agreed to marry Lou, a colleague asked if I loved him. "I don't know about love," I answered slowly. "What I know is, we fit together." I linked my fingers to show her. I never experienced — believed in — his feelings. Until Paris.

The trip with Lou wasn't my first to Paris, but it was his. "It's silly for you to wait while I go to my meeting," I said. "I know

you'll want to visit the Eiffel Tower." I carefully wrote out directions. Meeting up later, he beamed, "Just how I'd always dreamed it would be."

I couldn't keep from laughing, catching his delight. "What do you want to do now?" I smiled up at his 6'4" tallness. "Let's go to the Eiffel Tower," he enthused. Whaaat? "But you were just there!" I was puzzled Lou said: "I wasn't there with you."

The Force of Love

That was when the force of his love hit me, enfolding me, making me whole. So we went to the Eiffel Tower, to be there together. We were inseparable for more than 41 years. I was a New York theater critic, and Lou was my plusone. Later, when I worked for a national

trade organization, my husband came to all the conferences. I joined a chorus, and Lou picked me up after every rehearsal and was in the audience for every performance.

As a citizen activist, Lou's passion was transportation, and I went with him way uptown, deep into Harlem, and miles underground, to follow what was happening with the Second Avenue subway. I marveled at local parks that he helped turn into reality.

We explored New York, our city, together. We found special restaurants. We walked everywhere, holding hands. We'd sit at our partners' desks, facing each other in our shared home office, commenting offand-on all day.

Or we'd take what we called a lap break: he'd sit on the sofa in the living room, and I'd find my spot in the crook of his arm, and we'd lie there, sometimes talking, sometimes not saying a word. It was in the sharing that our love lived.

We didn't travel much. Sometimes this was frustrating. I had to convince him to go outside our bubble. When I

Lou and Leida earlier in their marriage | Credit: Courtesy Leida Snow

insisted, we did get to roam — to Italy, England, Israel, China and Japan, and back to Paris. But any voyaging was to accommodate me. Lou would look up from his desk across from mine, and as long as I was there, he didn't want or need to be anywhere else.

Our Time Was Limited Lou died after a years-long cancer battle on September 18, 2023. Cancer with unknown primary (CUP) affects 2% to 5% of diagnosed malignancies. Doctors throw multiple tests and hard to pronounce chemicals at their patients, but it's all guess work. In Lou's case, there were ghastly side effects, but no cure.

I knew our time was limited. I thought I was prepared for the end, but somehow I didn't expect to miss him so much. The grief is like the undertow in the ocean, pulling me down, engulfing me in waves.

I am so much better now. I am functioning, spending time with friends, relatives, and clients. They no doubt believe I'm well past the worst of the bottomless sadness. They don't see me at home when I collapse, when the despair grabs me by the throat, threatening to drown me, leaving me gasping for air.

Folks mean well when they suggest that I keep busy. They don't understand that I can enjoy being in others' company, that I can laugh with a smart comedian or lose myself in a Broadway show. But I miss talking about the world with Lou. I miss sharing breakfast with him. How he would putter in the kitchen and make a pot of loose tea for us, keeping track of the brews I preferred. Missing the sharing is one of the gut-tearing truths about losing a life partner.

closet. I have photos of him from when he was dying and I can't delete them; but the photos I display show him healthy and us, so much "we."

There is a Zen understanding that says there may be sadness when there's a loss, but there is grief only where there is love. I want to believe, that it is because my love is so strong that the hurt is so deep.

The one certain thing about all of us, is that we are all going to lose someone we love.

The help needed is more than/different from that offered by family and friends. The search for comfort is boundless. Music, art, and poetry are the go-to's for some. Others find that therapy helps. Still others hook up with like-minded travelers in support groups offered by hospitals, hospices, funeral homes, and Zen teachings. Or in books or articles. I was fortunate in finding someone to talk to.

The reality is that going through grief is moving through a process, in which you begin to engage proactively with life, while still involved with profound loss. It's the integration of grieving and living. It is knowing that the pain will always be there even as there is a merging, a blending, with life.

There's an essay by the American journalist and author Emily Hahn, published long ago, about her decline into opium addiction and her emergence from that poison. I've never been into drugs, yet her words resonate for me. The opium had dulled the ache of living for her. At the end of her article, Hahn acknowledges there is no cure. She writes: "The pain has always been there, and now it hurts again. That is all. It is supportable."

It is the same with grief. There is no getting over, or beyond, it. I have trouble believing so many months have passed since Lou died. The wound feels so fresh. If the experience of others proves true for me, the heartache will always be there and will stab again and again.

Lou's wristwatch is where it always was, on the table on his side of the bed. His razor is in the medicine cabinet. His certificates hang on our office walls. And the fire engine red windbreaker that he wore constantly hangs in the foyer

Every loss is unique. Every mourner grieves differently. I've checked with quite a few taking this unwelcome journey through mourning. Some lost their loved ones recently. For others, the abyss opened years, even decades, ago. Some remain alone, others have found new partners, some are remarried. Every one, without exception, shared an ongoing partnership with felt loss.

Navigating Grief

So how do we navigate this voyage?

What I hold onto is that, as the months and years pass, as I continue the journey, it will become bearable. It will be supportable.

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Lou and Leida in Paris | Credit: Courtesy Leida Snow

By Michele C. Hollow

Add Art to Your Medicine Cabinet

Programs like ArtsRx offer caregivers the chance to participate in the arts and boost their overall wellness

Caregivers tend to put off going to shows, concerts and museums. We postpone taking drawing or other arts-related workshops. Our free time is limited and often we're exhausted, especially when the patient is a family member.

My mom, age 92, lost most of her hearing and exhibits signs of dementia. My husband has heart problems and recently fractured a bone in his foot. Any art-related activities were on hold until we went to see "Beautiful," the Carole King musical. It surprised me how energized I felt during and after the production.

workload as a hairstylist from full time to part time.

"He's getting better," she said. "I am too thanks to the recommendations from medical doctors who suggested I do something for me."

I'm usually in bed right around the time the show was ending. That night it didn't matter. I felt invigorated. My husband did, too.

Art for Caregivers

Lenza Lettley understands what it means to take time to care for herself. Her life dramatically changed four years ago when her husband had a stroke. The couple, who reside in Orange, New Jersey, recently celebrated 34 years of marriage.

After her husband left the hospital, Lettley became his primary caregiver at home. She also accompanies him to speech therapy sessions, memory care and other medical appointments. Multiple caregiver activities fill her days. Their daughter, who lives nearby, often helps. Despite that, she reduced her

'It Brings Me Joy'

They told her to visit a museum, attend a show or a concert. Art classes — even glassblowing — were an option. When asked by her doctors what she truly loved, she answered, "dance." Lettley said, "It brings me joy."

She takes dance classes at Newark Symphony Hall. "It's time that lets me escape for a little while," she said. "I recharge and feel good." Classes are once a week for a couple of hours. The classes are free thanks to ArtsRx, a program overseen by Horizon Blue Cross Blue Shield of New Jersey and Rutgers University-Newark; New Jersey Performing Arts Center (NJPAC) runs the program. Participants (caregivers and patients) need a referral from their health care provider.

"ArtsRx was created in response to research demonstrating engagement in the arts increases positive health outcomes," said Alyson Maier Lokuta, senior director of Arts & Well-Being at NJPAC. "ArtsRx offers free arts programs to those coping with anxiety, depression, loneliness and caregiving stress."

In addition to programs and shows at NJPAC, other participating nonprofits include Newark Symphony Hall, GlassRoots, Newark Public Library, The Newark Museum of Art, Clement's Place Jazz, Newark School of the Arts, Luna Stage, and Newark Arts. Residents of Newark and its neighboring cities who are members of Horizon Blue Cross Blue Shield of New Jersey and receive a referral from a medical professional qualify. Students at Rutgers University-Newark can participate at no cost.

"The program launched in July of 2023 with Horizon as our key partner," Maier Lokuta said. "In 2024, it expanded to Rutgers University-Newark. This fall, we'll expand the referral sources to include the City of Newark Department of Health and the Division of Cultural Affairs, and we are in conversation to expand to RWJBarnabas Health." She noted that all of NJPAC's Arts & Well-Being programs, including ArtsRx, are made possible by foundational support from RWJBarnabas Health, Horizon and a grant from the National Endowment of the Arts.

According to Maier Lokuta, "It's the state's first arts prescription program and the first social prescribing program in the country to have an insurance carrier (Horizon Blue Cross Blue Shield of New Jersey) as a key partner."

"It's the state's first arts prescription program," | Credit: NJPAC/Instagram

Art Boosts Mental and Physical Health

Numerous studies show art and cultural programs reduce stress, anxiety and depression and boost well-being. Lettley said, "Line dancing for a couple of hours a week makes me feel refreshed even the next day. I've lost weight and am less anxious."

The Journal of Pain and Symptom Management published 27 scientific studies between 2001 and 2022 that found participants in arts workshops and those who attended a performance reported improved social and mental well-being, reduced stress, increased confidence and improved coping skills. Going forward, the World Health Organization (WHO) is looking at the role art may have in promoting overall good health, preventing illnesses, and treating acute and chronic conditions.

Participation Makes a Difference

Helene (who asked not to use her last name for privacy reasons) reports that her mom who participates in interactive art workshops through Arts for the Aging (AFTA) at the Kensington Clubs in Gaithersburg, Maryland, "doesn't have a lot of other adult interactions outside of her caregiver and me. AFTA workshops have her do things she wouldn't normally do, which stimulates not only her mind, but also her heart. She feels connected and productive."

Janine Tursini, director and CEO of AFTA, explains, "AFTA was founded on a premise, which scientific studies now prove, that regular participation in the arts by older adults helps to minimize the effect of physical and cognitive conditions in aging. We know from seminal studies when older adults participate in arts programs, they see improvements within a few weeks. Their depression lessens."

AFTA brings its arts programs to a diverse group of older adults with varied health issues. Sarah House, AFTA's program director, says its most popular programs involve music and that its opera program is a definite favorite.

"'La donna è mobile' from Verdi's much-

loved opera "Rigoletto" brings tenors and a pianist to engaged older adults," she said. "The song's title translates to 'Woman is fickle.' The song is well known and that phrase gets people talking. It's good seeing so many people participate and voice their opinions."

AFTA, which has programs in Washington, D.C., Maryland and Virginia, gets many inquiries from outside the region. "These programs are important,"

Tursini said. "Science backs up what we do. One study found prolonged social isolation and loneliness, which many older adults experience, are equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. That's why we need the arts. It benefits all who participate."

Michele C. Hollow is a freelance writer, editor and ghostwriter specializing in health, climate, social justice, pets and travel. Her book, Jurassic Girl, about the life of paleontologist Mary Anning, comes out in September 2024.

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Opportunities for AUM OLLI Members in the Fall 2024 Term

The 2024 Fall Term for AUM OLLI began in mid-September, so regular classes have met several times. It is still worthwhile registering for some of the limited enrollment classes to get on wait lists. Being on these lists can be important in future terms because members on the wait lists get priority registration when the classes are offered again.

Even though the classes have already been in progress for several weeks, there is a wealth of opportunities available in October and November –workshops, lunch presentations, and field trips.

Workshops:

• Thursday, October 03 – Barbara Davis, Oil Painting

• Thursday, October 10 – Muffin Hand, “Dot” Painting

Lunch Presentations:

• Wednesday, October 02 – Dr. Carl Stockton (AUM Chancellor), Update on AUM

• Tuesday, October 15 – Chief Brenda Mitchell (AUM Campus Police), “Safety Tips for Seasoned Citizens”

• Tuesday, October 22 – Valerie Castanza (Raptor Ridge Wildlife Education), “Raptors of Alabama”

Field Trips:

• Wednesday, October 09 – Preview Night at the Cloverdale Playhouse

• Friday, October 11 – Tour of Hyundai Motor Manufacturing Alabama

• Friday, October 25 –Tour of Montgomery Whitewater

• Tuesday, October 29 – Wine and Food Tasting at Peppertree Steak N’ Wines

• Wednesday, November 13 –Exhibition and Reception at the Montgomery Museum of Fine Arts

Full details (descriptions, times, fees) are available in the AUM OLLI catalog, which is available at www.aum.edu/ olli. Individuals must join AUM OLLI and register for the Fall Term in order to register for these activities.

Join to challenge your minds, exercise your bodies, and meet new friends.

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Seeking Calm in the Chaos

Is the world collapsing into chaos? “Wars and rumors of war … nation will rise against nation … famines and earthquakes … tribulation … many will fall away … false prophets … lawlessness is increased … love will grow cold.” These words from the Bible (Matthew Ch. 24) describe today’s world in which lawlessness and callous disregard for life is epidemic. Why? “In the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy; Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good; Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof … Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.” (2nd Timothy 3 KJB)

We recently visited the Billy Graham Training Center at The Cove near Asheville, North Carolina with friends. One of our favorite Bible teachers, Pastor Gary Hamrick of Cornerstone Chapel in Leesburg, Virginia, was the conference speaker. The Cove’s website www. thecove.org features the words: Retreat,

Rest, Relaxation and Renewal, perfect words to describe this sanctuary of calm in a chaotic world.

I met the late Dr. Graham in Montreat, North Carolina many years ago. He was standing amidst throngs of people at a 4th of July Parade. Standing alone but easy to approach, he was calm like a man who possessed a peace that passes all understanding. That same peace is exactly what one experiences at The Billy Graham Training Center at The Cove. When the Graham’s first visited this scenic mountain property, they dreamed of a place where people could escape the chaos of daily life, connect with God through His word and learn to reach others for Jesus. The Billy Graham Evangelistic Association purchased the property in 1972. Today,

programs are offered throughout the year, and attract thousands of visitors from around the world. In fact, people from 28 states and 4 foreign countries were in attendance during our recent visit. What one experiences here is akin to a mental and spiritual massage.

The accommodations are simple, clean and comfortable. The food is amazing and part of the package. There are hiking trails, a museum of Graham memorabilia, a bookstore, prayer gardens, a chapel, wide decks for visiting with friends, nature trails, scenic mountain views, benches,

streams, and more. No TV’s, boom boxes, gunfire, sirens, traffic, children or pets.

Hospitality is a ministry at The Cove. The staff is gracious and helpful beyond measure. The maids pray for guests as they clean rooms. But you don’t have to be in ministry to go there. We got to know the nicest ordinary folks from all over. Programs include excellent,

Jeff and Cindy at Montreat, North Carolina

well-known speakers like Anne Graham Lotz, Ron Hutchcraft and Gary Hamrick. The Cove also offers special retreats for active-duty military personnel who have been or about to be deployed. These special programs are funded by donations and are all-expensespaid for qualifying service men, women and spouses.

The Cove is an enchanting mountain lodge with giant stone fire places and comfortable seating in the common areas. It’s all so wonderful that, once there, one doesn’t want to leave. From the River Region, it’s about six hours. But the drive is worth the transforming ambience of tranquility; especially, if you’re seeking a respite away from the bedlam of the world. Here’s what some conference attendees had to say: Michelle and Mark Kiser, who drove through Hurricane Debbie all the way from Maryland where they attend Gary Hamrick’s church in Leesburg, Virginia, said, “This is our first visit and won’t be our last. This is an amazing place. I think (the purpose) Ruth and Billy have stated on the banner is what it’s all about— renewal, relaxation, inspiration—yeah,

it’s all there. That’s what this place is.”

When I asked what she liked about The Cove, Denise Allen of Montgomery said, “What is there not to like? I think the thing I love the most is these older people who are working here. Obviously, The Cove has had an impact on their lives and they’re coming back to give back. Wouldn’t it be fun to do something like that?”

Her husband, Micky, added, “It’s the setting; and getting away from distractions.”

Lee Meriwether of Matthews, Alabama: “It’s the professionalism here. Attention to details. No TV. No phones.” His wife, Carrie: “Everybody is here for the same reason. Everybody is seeking the Lord. It’s like a microcosm of

more woke—they tiptoe around, don’t want to offend anybody.”

Her husband, Mark, chimed in: “And they won’t give an election sermon like Gary does.” The Fischer’s likened Gary to one of the Black-robed Regiment of the American Revolution—pastors who gave fiery messages and led the men of their congregations off to war to fight against British tyranny.

One of the staff—a student—said, “I love working here. It’s the people, the community.”

heaven. Everyone is friendly, like we’ll see each other in heaven— gracious. It’s the beauty, the people, the feast!”

Heather Fischer from Ohio, speaking about Gary Hamrick: “He teaches the truth. Tells it like it is. I always take notes. I always learn. Other pastors have, like, these series. I don’t know. It’s almost like motivational preaching. And they’re

A question or kind word may sometimes yield the unexpected. This seems especially true at The Cove where people are lovers of God, friendly, and anxious to know you and your story. For me, something serendipitous happened during a conversation with a gentleman named Jim Malcolm. I realized Jim and I had been classmates at the USMA Prep School, and later, at West Point. We enjoyed catching up after 50 years! I guess it’s the sort of thing that naturally happens when one seeks calm in the chaos.

Jeff Barganier is a novelist, travel writer and speaker. He travels far and wide upon the slightest excuse for something interesting to write about. His novels include Lawson’s Bluff (2021); The Slash Brokers (1998). He also manages Cindy Barganier Interiors LLC (www.cindybarganier.com) at The Waters in Pike Road, Alabama. Contact Jeff at Jeffbarganier@ knology.net . You may print out his features at www.jeffbarganier.com and take them with you when you travel!

Worship Leader Marty Goetz

Alabama Friends with Pastor Gary Hamrick and Cornerstone Church Intern Caleb

Jeff and Cindy with Jim and Diana Malcolm

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Auburn OKTOBERFEST, October 19th

AU Oktoberfest began in 2008 and has grown to be one of the largest beer festivals in the Southeast. There is live music, contests, educational presentations, stein hoisting, and food trucks, along with a multitude of breweries and beer. AU Oktoberfest hosts some of the best breweries in the country. Homebrewers from central Alabama will be competing for your vote to name them the best! Come try brews from more than a dozen homebrewers. From the crowd-favorite Stein hoisting competition to wiener dog races, Mr. And Miss Oktoberfest competition, and more, there’s something for everyone at Oktoberfest! With live music and all the best college football games streamed live, there’s no shortage of entertainment at AU Oktoberfest. Music & Entertainment: Join Norris Jones’ Soul Band on the main stage and entertainment from Norris Jones & Company featuring La’Roy Bodiford throughout the festival. Food Trucks: German Food and Gifts, The Fry Guy Chris, Rollin Pepperoni, Frankie Junes, Dani’s Cheesecakes, St. Bernardo, Las Cantinas, VV's Sweet Treats. For tickets and more info visit https://auoktoberfest.com/

Parade of Pumpkins, Prattville's Historic Downtown

Join us for the 6th Annual Parade of Pumpkins in Historic Downtown Prattville from October 18th-October 31st. Festive storefronts, seasonal displays, thousands of decorated pumpkins from citizens and local schools, carved pumpkin exhibits, and food trucks will transform Historic Downtown. We are excited to announce the new addition of the Harvest Haven to join the Butterfly Garden, the expanded GLOW Trail, and the Pumpkin Barrel Trail. This family-friendly event is free and open for all to participate. Grab a pumpkin, get in the spirit, and share your creativity at the Parade of Pumpkins! To participate: Carve, decorate, or paint your pumpkin. Bring your pumpkin to Historic Downtown Prattville. Place it on display along the parade or leave in a designated Pumpkin Drop-off area beginning October 17th. The City has lights set for your pumpkin each night. (Candles are prohibited.) Enter your pumpkin in the “Best Pumpkin” Contest. Registration opens on October 17th. For more info visit https://prattvilleal.gov/departments/special-events/parade-of-pumpkins/

Alabama National Fair

Since 1954 the Alabama National Fair has been fun for all with the numerous different activities. No matter where you come from, there is an event, exhibit or vendor for you! We want to ensure you enjoy all these opportunities safely and have provided you with the safety plans. Unsure of when a certain event is happening and don’t want to miss it? Check out the daily schedules! 1555 Federal Dr, Montgomery,, AL 36107. Formore info visit https://alnationalfair.org/

Caregiver of the Month Spotlight: Lakeisha Jackson

Home Care Assistance is proud to announce Lakeisha Jackson as the caregiver of the month for September. She joined our team in February and since then she has displayed an unmatched work ethic, enthusiasm, grace and kindness. Lakeisha is known by her clients and their families as encouraging, hard working and her being a great chef is always a plus. She is currently enrolled into the nursing program at South University and has worked alongside a Neurology specialist and is certified in Enhanced Dementia Education. Home Care Assistance is honored to have Lakeisha represented as a model caregiver.

“ A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees.”

-Amelia Earhart

We appreciate your hard work and dedication, thank you for a job Well Done!! For more information visit www.homecareassistancemontgomery.com

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Montgomery Botanical Gardens Presents "What Do I Do with All This Rosemary" Class

Janell Diggs, Master Gardener, will present the October class, What Do I Do with All This Rosemary, sponsored by the Montgomery Botanical Gardens at Oak Park, on Saturday, October 12. The class, to be held in the Wisdom Wood outdoor classroom, will begin at 10:00 AM. Mrs. Diggs, a past president of the Capitol City Master Gardeners, will offer tips on using rosemary when it flourishes more than usual. Once rosemary becomes an established plant, gardeners may be at a loss as to how to use it when it produces more than expected. An expert on herbs, Mrs. Diggs lives on a farm in Hope Hull. She currently grows flowers, vegetables and herbs and teaches a variety of classes, from herbs to raising chickens.Upcoming classes include Making Holiday Arrangements with Ferns, taught by Maggie Stringer, Saturday, November 9 at 10:00 AM.Classes are free and open to the public. Water is provided. Visit https://www.montgomerybotanicalgardens.com/

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Capital City Master Gardeners Association Lunch & Learn @ Montgomery Cultural Arts Center

Capital City Master Gardener Association presents Lunch & Learn, the 1st Wednesday of Every Month from 12-1 pm. They will meet at Montgomery Cultural Arts Center (Armory Learning Arts Building), 1018 Madison Ave., Montgomery 36104. Mark your calendars, October 2, 2024 “Creepy Critters” Dr. Wesley Anderson, AU Wildlife Specialist, will present “Creepy Critters”. Do spiders and snakes give you the creeps? What about those small lizards that crawl into our houses? Are moles, voles, and armadillos tearing up your yard? Don’t call Ghostbusters, come to the October Lunch and Learn program instead! November 6, 2024 “Pruning Pointers for the Alabama Gardens” Mary McCroan, Advanced Master Gardener, will present “Pruning Pointers for the Alabama Gardens”. When is the best time to prune trees and shrubs in the yard? What tools do I need? Can I cut back a lot of the plant? Will pruning kill my trees or shrubs? Mary will have lots of answers! BRING A SACK LUNCH, FREE PROGRAM, WATER PROVIDED, For information, please contact the Montgomery County Extension Office (334) 245-8053. Also visit www.capcitymga.org.

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RESTAURANT WEEK SEPTEMEBR 27 - OCTOBER 6!

Get ready for a feast of flavors because Montgomery Restaurant Week is making a comeback! Circle your calendars from September 27 to October 6, 2024, and prepare your taste buds for an adventure. Dive into delectable lunch and dinner specials from Montgomery's dining scene. Whether it's a duo of dishes for lunch, a trio for dinner, or a flight of beers that make you cheer, there's something for everyone. So, take a culinary tour, revisit some old flames, or spark new ones. And hey, give a nudge to your go-to spots to join the party! Visit here for details https://experiencemontgomeryal.org/montgomery-restaurant-week/

Saturday, October 19, 9am - 5pm. Join us for day of tailgating fun and follies: a yummy assortment of food trucks, beer and wine vendors, live bands and entertainment, large lawn games to play, and much more. Featured Food Trucks: Fiery Fowl, Fork in the Road, La Raza, Shalom V Designs, Top Notch BBQ, Woody’s Italian Ice. Beverage Vendors (beer and wine): Trim Tab Brewing, Bama Bud, United Johnson Brothers. Live entertainment: 10am - 11am: Erica Burke, 12pm - 1pm: Mackenzie Battaglia, 2pm - 3pm: Reese Graydon. Large lawn games: Giant Jenga, Connect 4, Cornhole, Putt Putt Golf, Bowling, Ball toss. Fees: Regular zoo admissions, games and entertainment free with admission, food and beverages are available for purchase. Funds raised during this event will be contributed to the zoo's Animal Conservation and Endowment Fund.

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Annual Riverwalk Wine Festival, October 11th

Now in its 14th year, the Riverwalk Wine Festival has become the premier wine event for central and south Alabama. Featuring the state’s top wine importers and distributors and offering up a great selection of wines for sampling, this event has quickly become a hit with wine novices and connoisseurs alike. With live music provided by local and regional artists, and food vendors, this event is limited to 1,000 participants and draws wine enthusiasts across the South. Union Station, 300 Water Street, Montgomery, AL 36104. Price:$40, Time: 6:00 PM to 9:00 PM. For tickets visit https://experiencemontgomeryal.org/event/annualriverwalk-wine-festival

2024 Alabama Fall Color Trail

Alabama is beautiful throughout the year but especially in the fall. As the greens of summer surrender to glittering yellow poplars, scarlet dogwoods, orange maples and golden hickories, Alabama unfolds its patchwork quilt of color. This blend of brilliant autumn foliage, coupled with cooler temperatures and an occasional gentle breeze, makes for an unforgettable experience. Fall colors will begin showing in the mountains of North Alabama in early October and then sweep across the region. Colors will be at their peak from late October to early November.

At Oak Mountain State Park (1) in Pelham, take in the view from Peavine Overlook and Peavine Falls. Head north to Oneonta/Blount County (2) and enjoy the color from Horton Mill, Old Easley or Swann covered bridges and Palisades Park. Take the drive on I-59 up Whitney Mountain near Oneonta, and proceed up U.S. 231. In Cullman/Cullman County (3), the Ave Maria Grotto and the 277-foot-long, 90-foot-high Clarkson Covered Bridge offer excellent views, as do scenic drives U.S. 31 and 278. From Bankhead National Forest, (4) take AL 195 to Double Springs, to AL 33, then take Forest Service roads 249, 262, 245 and 255 to CO 63 and back to AL 33.

Developed from a network of Indian trails between Natchez, Miss., and Nashville, Tenn., the Natchez Trace (5) cuts diagonally across the northwestern corner of the state. Follow the entire 33 miles of the Trace through Alabama and head to Joe Wheeler State Park (6). Admire the view from the Joe Wheeler Dam near the cabin area on the Lawrence County side. After leaving U.S. 72, take a four-mile scenic drive into the park's resort area on the Lauderdale County side. In Huntsville, Monte Sano State Park (7) offers beautiful foliage on Warpath Ridge Trail and its overlooks. Take scenic drives U.S. 72 out of Scottsboro and U.S. 431 out of Guntersville. A recommended viewing spot in Scottsboro/Jackson County (8) is Russell Cave National Monument. Scenic drives: AL 79 across Skyline Mountain, AL 279, AL 65 through the Paint Rock River Valley, and U.S. 72.

See Lake Guntersville State Park (9) from the lodge atop the mountain, then take AL 227 through the park and into Buck's Pocket State Park and nearby DeKalb and Etowah counties. In Gadsden/Etowah County (10), Noccalula Falls Park provides a bounty of fall color, as do drives on US 278, 11 and 411. Head to Ft. Payne and check out DeSoto State Park and Lodge, DeSoto Falls and Little River Canyon (11). Lookout Mountain Parkway, DeSoto Parkway and Old DeSoto Parkway provide lovely views. AL 176, part of Lookout Mountain Parkway, includes scenic overlooks of Little River Canyon. Finally, Cheaha State Park (12) is the highest point in the state at 2,407 feet above sea level. Enjoy fall color from Bald Rock and Pulpit Rock trails as well as Talladega Scenic Drive, Skyline Drive and Skyway Motorway. For info visit https:// alabama.travel/trail-details/fall-color-trail

How to Choose a Facility

When choosing an alternate place of residence for a loved one there are many important considerations. First, you want to determine what kind of facility best meets your loved one's needs. Types of facilities to consider include Independent Living, Assisted Living, Memory Care or Skilled Nursing Facility. Each type of facility has different requirements that a resident must be able to accomplish on their own i.e., the activities of daily living ("ADLs") to reside in that environment.

may give a best overall view of how things run on a daily basis, especially if you can visit at mealtime.

In this article we will discuss some of the items to look for when beginning your search for the best place. There are many different ways to approach this topic. Some are most concerned with aesthetics of the location. Some prioritize food or activities and for others, safety is paramount. Whatever your highest priority is, we hope this article will shed some light on things to consider in each category.

Before you visit a facility, it is important to develop a list of considerations that you want the facility to address. Center for Medicare, Alabama Department of Health and Alabama Nursing Home Association websites often have checklists available for choosing a facility, and you can take the checklists with you to each facility you visit. Keep in mind that you will likely visit at least twice. The first may be a formal visit/tour at a scheduled time so you can gather information and form impressions. An unannounced visit is also helpful and

Some questions to ask before taking a tour consider:

• Is there a bed available?

• Is the facility Medicaid certified?

• Does the facility provide the level of care your loved one needs (e.g., ventilator, dementia, rehabilitation, etc.)?

• If a loved one needed hospice, how is that handled?

• Is the facility staffed with a Registered Nurse (RN) on each shift? If not, is a RN present for at least 8 hours per day, 7 days a week?

• What activities are available to residents?

After the facility addresses your initial questions, it is important to tour the facility. As you tour, some things to look for include:

• Are the staff friendly and warm to the residents?

• Do the residents appear to be clean,

well-groomed, and dressed appropriate?

• Does the facility's staff greet the residents by name?

• Is a calendar of facility events and activities posted and are residents participating?

• Does the facility appear clean and the noise level at an acceptable level (are there screaming residents)?

• Is the facility free of overwhelming odors?

• If visiting during dining hours, observe what is being served to the residents. Does it look and smell enticing? Are the residents enjoying their meals?

After your visits make sure to check the nursing home compare page on the Medicare.gov website. This page will allow you to compare nursing homes in a certain area and to see overall ratings, health inspections, staffing and quality measures to name a few.

When it comes to placing a loved one in a facility with people you do not personally know, you can never learn too much.

Senior Law Solutions, LLC offers a variety of opportunities to assist individuals and their families with aspects of Elder Law Care, Estate Planning, and Life Care Planning with individualized plans. If you have questions or want to learn more visit www.seniorls.com or call 334.758.9400

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Audrey Gillis A Strong, Resilient, Survivor

When I meet someone newly diagnosed with breast cancer, I can relate in a very personal way because I’ve been in their shoes. That’s why I’m passionate about continuing to share my story—I want women to know that there is life after breast cancer.

This month’s cover profile is Audrey Gillis, teacher of the year at Highland Avenue and Halcyon Elementary Schools. Audrey was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2021 after she discovered an unusual lump in her breast through a self-exam, and fortunately, she has not been on this journey alone. Her husband Steve has been her best friend, unwavering in his commitment to do what it takes to support Audrey’s needs. Her school, Halcyon Elementary, where she is a PE teacher, has provided the kind of support we all would want from our co-workers. Most importantly, Audrey’s faith and reliance on God have provided the strength and peace necessary to navigate the negative thoughts that can become so overwhelming. We’re proud to share Audrey’s story in hopes that her words will provide comfort and hope to others who find themselves connected to the breast cancer community. Please share her story whenever possible.

BOOM!: Please give us a brief biography, i.e., where you’re from, your education, what brought you to the Montgomery area, your children, your family, etc.

Audrey: Growing up in the small town of Heflin, Alabama, I never imagined I’d end up living in Montgomery, let alone for over 30 years. After earning both my undergraduate and master’s degrees from Troy State University, my husband

Steve, a Montgomery native, and I decided to put down roots here, both of us pursuing careers in elementary physical education. A few years into settling down, we were blessed with two daughters, now 28 and 25 years old.

Some of the most cherished moments of my life were spent at home with our girls, watching them grow and witnessing God's faithfulness in our family. Our eldest daughter, Mary Kathryn, now lives in Mobile, where she works part-time as an ER Nurse, with

Audrey and husband Steve at the Lionel Ritchie concert

My husband shaved my head about 3 weeks after my treatment started. We tackled my cancer journey together and this was just the start

"Audie" and granddaughter Laurel

"Audie" and granddaughter Laurel

her husband Alex and their daughter Laurel, our first granddaughter. There’s truly no greater joy than becoming a grandparent! Our youngest daughter, Sarah, lives in Atlanta, Georgia, where she works as a Director at a nonprofit organization. Sarah has always had a heart for service and advocacy, so it’s been incredible to watch her thrive in a new city while making an impact in her work.

the same surgery. What followed were six rounds of chemotherapy, 20 radiation treatments, and a full year on Herceptin. Now, I’m on an estrogen blocker, which I’ll continue for the next ten years.

When I first

Though Steve and I have been empty nesters for the past seven years, our careers keep us active. I’m now in my 23rd year of teaching at Halcyon Elementary School, and the joy of working with students continues to challenge yet inspire me each day.

BOOM!: As a breast cancer survivor, would you share your breast cancer story with us? Describe the emotional impact on you and your family when you were first diagnosed. As a woman of faith, how would you describe God’s role in helping you cope with this challenge?

Audrey: I started getting mammograms every August when I turned 35 because both my mother and grandmother had battled breast cancer. For years, it became a routine part of my life. But on April 1st, 2021, during a self-exam, I felt something different, something that didn’t feel right. I made an appointment with my gynecologist, and from there, things moved fast. By April 16th, I was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma.

The news hit me like a wave. My cancer was classified as Triple Positive, meaning it fed on estrogen and progesterone, and I was Her2 Positive. There were so many appointments to keep up with, and on June 9th, 2021, I had a lumpectomy, and they even repaired a hernia during

heard the diagnosis, fear overwhelmed me. I couldn’t stop thinking about all I might miss. I remember sitting on the side of my bed, tears streaming down my face, terrified that I wouldn’t live to see my youngest daughter walk down the aisle or to hold my future grandchildren. I didn’t want to leave my husband or miss out on growing old together. I let myself feel all of it—every tear, every worry. But then, I knew I had to shift my focus. I turned my heart to the Lord.

It’s easy to say, "I trust the Lord," when everything is going according to plan. But when life throws something unexpected like this, trust becomes a choice you have to make over and over again. Whenever those dark, fearful thoughts crept in, I turned to Philippians 4:8. I sang worship songs to pull myself out of that mindset. And each time, the Lord was faithful, helping me refocus. He worked through the people around me, too—friends who prayed for me daily, lifting me up when I couldn’t face another challenge alone.

People often told me how strong I was throughout this journey, but I always made sure to point them back to the truth: the Lord was my strength.

BOOM!: For some people, having breast cancer causes them to be less vulnerable and isolated. Your reaction seems to be more vulnerable and proactive. Would you describe your approach to dealing with breast cancer? What about sharing with others?

Audrey's granddaughter’s baptism in Mobile, Alabama L-R: Nathan May, Sarah Gillis, Alex Foxx, Mary Kathryn Foxx, Laurel Foxx, Audrey's mom Mary Merrill, Steve Gillis, Audrey

The girls and Audrey went to New York to take something off her bucket list and to make more memories together.

4 generations: L-R, daughter Mary Kathryn Foxx, Audrey, Audrey's mom, Mary Merrill and granddaughter, Laurel Foxx

Audrey with her daughters before she started chemo treatments.

Audrey: Breast cancer has become a significant part of my life story, but it’s also become an opportunity—one the Lord has given me to share my journey and offer hope to others. When I meet someone newly diagnosed with breast cancer, I can relate in a very personal way because I’ve been in their shoes. That’s why I’m passionate about continuing to share my story—I want women to know that there is life after breast cancer. It’s incredibly reassuring to talk with someone who’s walked the same path and who understands the fears and uncertainties.

I always tell women, “Ask me anything.” Whether it’s about the diagnosis, treatment, or the side effects, I’m open to sharing my experience. I believe honesty is so important in these conversations. It helps to know that you’re not alone and that life can go on in a beautiful way after breast cancer.

BOOM!: You are also a PE teacher at Halcyon Elementary School in Montgomery. How would you describe your journey to be a teacher and why PE? Could you share some of the benefits

of PE for your students?

Audrey: From the time I was a little girl, I knew I wanted to be a teacher. My mother was a physical education teacher for over 30 years, and she even taught me when I was in high school. At one point, I considered becoming a special education teacher or a school counselor, but my love for athletics and my high energy, combined with seeing the impact my mom had on her students, led me to choose Physical Education.

Physical Education in schools is so important because it allows me to introduce students to lifelong activities that I hope will inspire them to stay active throughout their lives. Physical activity becomes even more crucial as we age, and it’s rewarding to help students find something they enjoy that keeps them moving.

Beyond physical fitness, I also focus on teaching life skills in my PE classes. I help students learn to resolve conflicts with words, especially when issues arise during outdoor play. Whether it’s sharing equipment, managing disagreements in

games, or encouraging their peers, these are valuable skills that they can carry with them well beyond the classroom.

BOOM!: One of the unique things about your teaching philosophy is that you want to know the names of all your students (about 700); tell us why that’s important and the benefit it produces for your students and you. Also, what was it like to share your breast cancer experience with your students? Did they see you after you lost your hair due to chemo?

Audrey: One of the things that’s really important to me is knowing each of my students by name. I have almost 700 students this year, and even though I only see them once a week, I’m proud to say I’ve almost got all their names down. Sometimes I have to ask a student to remind me, but for the most part, I know their first names. It’s something I truly believe the Lord has helped me with. As a parent, I remember how much it meant to me when my children's teachers knew their names, and I want to give my students that same feeling. It lets them know that I value them, that I see them

Audrey's last treatment, during Covid so she didn’t get to ring the “bell”, took one home, it sits on her mantel.

The day after my 5th chemo treatment

Audrey at Piedmont Park, Atlanta, Georgia

as individuals, and that I respect them enough to remember their names. When the students came back for the 2021-2022 school year, I had already shaved my head due to chemo. I remember one sweet little boy looking at my name badge and asking,

“Mrs. Gillis, is that what you’re supposed to look like?” I just smiled and said, “Yes, and maybe I’ll look like that again one day.” I was careful not to scare the students about why I lost my hair. I explained that I had to go to a special place to get my medicine and that it wasn’t like the medicine their mom gives them when they’re sick. I also wanted to make sure they didn’t think they could catch what I had, or that I was about to die. For a lot of my students, their experience with cancer has been tied to loss, so I hoped that my story could show them that not everyone who gets cancer dies. I wanted to be a source of hope for them.

Audrey: Steve and I both majored in Physical Education at Troy State, but it definitely wasn’t love at first sight for either of us. We were both involved in a Christian ministry on campus and had a lot of the same classes during our junior year, so we ended up spending a lot of time together. We became really good friends before we ever considered dating. A big turning point was when

we went on a summer mission trip

BOOM!: The breast cancer journey involves everyone close to us, especially our spouse. Would you share your love story with us? How did your husband help you navigate the strange new world of breast cancer?

during his first year at Troy, so the idea of me potentially dying was really hard for him to face. But once again, the Lord was faithful. I was leading a Bible study for five young wives and had given them questions to ask their husbands. Steve and I decided to go through those questions ourselves, and it opened up a deep conversation. I was able to share my hurt, and for the first time, Steve cried and showed his emotions. From that moment on, he became my biggest supporter.

Steve was by my side every step of the way. He’s the one who shaved my head when it was time, and during my radiation treatments, he cooked dinner every night. I truly think that the level of friendship that we established so many years ago, before we even started dating,

with a group from Troy, and it gave us a chance to see each other’s love for the Lord in action. That experience really deepened our connection.

In the summer of 1990, we both went to Kenya for another mission trip, and by the end of that trip, I think we both knew we were going to get married. A year later, on June 1st, 1991, we did just that. When my cancer journey began, Steve was in denial. He didn’t want to talk about it. His only experience with cancer had been the loss of his father

has been critical in the success of our marriage, especially when we face trials like we did in 2021.

He truly is the best!

BOOM!: Do you have time to be involved in the community/church?

Audrey: Church has always been a central part of our lives, and we've taken on various roles within the congregation. Both Steve and I find great joy in encouraging others in their walk with the Lord. I’ve been actively involved with Women of Hope, a support group for breast cancer survivors and those currently battling the disease. I also make it a point to be engaged with my neighbors, investing my time in the people around me. Additionally, I spend

Halcyon Elementary provided huge support for Audrey Shavon Webster, Carla Pugh (breast cancer survivor) Anne Owen, Audrey, Shannon Schmidt(Principal), Amber Jackson, Dr. Ronnie Doughty ( Assistant Principal)

The faculty of Halcyon Elementary surprised me and all wore pink to school in support of my cancer journey.

Audrey lead the Troy University Breast Cancer Walk in 2021, and shared the experience with daughter, Sarah.

a lot of time attending my students’ extracurricular activities, supporting them beyond the classroom.

BOOM!: What are you most passionate about?

Audrey: I am passionate about people. My heart is to help people in any way that I can. You will find me cooking meals for people, calling to check on people, really anything I can do to make the lives of others easier. Two of my greatest passions are to encourage moms with young children and helping them find solutions to issues with their little ones and to encourage young wives. It can be a big adjustment when you get married. I want to point these ladies to the Lord and encourage them to love their husband.

rather than just being spectators. For

BOOM!: What do you like about living in the Montgomery/River Region area? What do we need more of?

Audrey: Growing up in a small town, I never imagined I’d end up living in Montgomery. My family used to visit almost every year for the rodeo, and back then, I thought Montgomery was huge! I even remember saying as a kid that I’d never live there. Well, 32 years later, jokes on me!

Now that I’m here, I really enjoy how convenient everything is. I’m not a big shopper, but it’s nice knowing that whatever I need, I can usually find it in Montgomery. And I love that we have both a Sam’s Club and a Costco—I have memberships to both! Even though Montgomery is a larger city, it still has that small-town feel. It almost never fails that when I am out and about, I run into someone I know, reminding me that a ‘city’ is more than just the businesses there or the fun things to do; it's about the people who call it home.

I think it would be fantastic if Montgomery offered more opportunities for parents to actively participate in activities with their children,

connections but also create lasting memories for both parents and children.

BOOM!: How do you like to relax and wind down from a full day of activity?

example, there could be family fitness classes where parents and kids can exercise together or

community sports leagues that encourage parents to join in alongside their children. Even things like familyfriendly cooking classes or art workshops could allow parents and kids to bond while learning a new skill together. Activities like these would not only strengthen family

Audrey: To wind down from the day, I usually cook dinner for my husband, and we enjoy catching up over a nice meal. We’re good about keeping each other updated on what’s happening the next day and just enjoying conversation. Sometimes we get a real treat, and our daughters will randomly facetime to share something from their day—they live very busy lives, so times when they think to call or check in are incredibly special. Before bed, I’ll take a shower and then read a bit. Right now, I’m working through DEEPER by Dane C. Ortlund, a book my daughter recommended. It’s usually lights out by 9 o’clock, because that 4:15 alarm comes mighty early!

BOOM!: How do you like to spend time with family and friends? What’s it like being a grandparent? What do they call you and your husband?

Audrey: I absolutely love having my family over and cooking for them. There’s something special about gathering around the table and having those deep, meaningful conversations. My husband is great at asking questions that get everyone talking, and we’ve been doing that since our girls were little. It’s one of our favorite ways to connect.

I also love visiting my daughter Sarah in Atlanta and experiencing a bit of her

Student, Sylvester Morris, bought Audrey these breast cancer pens with his allowance.

Audrey Celebrating with Harper McDurmont and her mom after she finished her Girls on the Run race!

Audrey supports her student Ava Suber at her gymnastics meet

Audrey enjoying a Mississippi State football game with my pair teacher, Anne Owen, a proud alumni!

life as an independent adult. Last year, she surprised me with Braves tickets and a fun weekend doing some of her favorite things. This year, Steve and I spent a whole weekend with her and her boyfriend, Nathan, who has quickly become part of our family. It’s been so wonderful to see her thriving.

And being Audie to my granddaughter, Laurel, has been one of the greatest joys of my life. I was blessed to spend 10 days in Mobile when she was born, helping Mary Kathryn and Alex adjust to their new role as parents. Watching my first baby become a mother has been such a special privilege. I’ve made the trip to Mobile at least once a month since Laurel was born. Her Poppa G and I are completely smitten and overjoyed to have been promoted to grandparents!

BOOM!: Many people, as they age, experience a renewed sense of purpose, new goals, etc. How would you describe this sense of renewal in your life? Any advice for the rest of us seeking renewal?

Audrey: After battling cancer and as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned to let go of the little things that used to stress me out. I’m focusing more on prioritizing family time because that’s what truly matters. One of my biggest regrets is that I never got to take my daughters to school on their first day. I was always tied up with work.

My advice to younger people is to cherish your time with your children. Work can always find someone to replace you, but you will always be their mom or dad. Make the most of those precious moments because they are irreplaceable.

BOOM!:What are some of your favorite travel experiences? Favorite getaway spot? Are any travel dreams planned?

Audrey: In 2018, I had the joy of fulfilling one of my mother’s dreams by taking her to Switzerland and Austria. She had always wanted to visit the locations where The Sound of Music was filmed, and it turned out to be an unforgettable trip.

Similarly, in 2022, my daughters made one of my dreams come true. I’ve always wanted to visit New York, so my daughters planned a December trip that we like to call my “after cancer” trip, to celebrate the end of a tough battle. We explored everything from the Statue of Liberty and The Today Show to Times Square and Rockefeller Center, and even saw Wicked. It was incredibly special to experience this dream city with my adult daughters, who are now more than just my children but also my friends. I’m passionate about traveling and soaking in the incredible beauty of the world that the Lord has created. I often tell my husband that I’d love to explore the west and see the Grand Canyon. Once I retire, I’m looking forward to hitting the road and discovering even more amazing places.

BOOM!: As you’ve aged, how have your priorities changed? How would you describe what it means to “age well”? What are your thoughts on retirement?

Audrey: To age well, I believe it's important to live one day at a time. As the Bible says, each day has enough worries of its own, and I trust that the Lord has a plan for my life, so there’s no need to stress about the future. I’m really looking forward to retirement. I’ve loved my job but can't wait to embrace my role as a full-time Audie.

BOOM!: Do you have any hobbies or other activities that grab your attention?

Audrey: I’ve always said that my family is my hobby. I love spending time with them and hearing about their lives and experiences. While working out every morning before heading to work might not be a hobby in the traditional sense, it’s something I enjoy and make a part of my daily routine. It not only helps keep me healthy but also sets a positive tone for the day.

BOOM!: Give us three words that describe you.

Audrey: Energetic, Positive. and Compassionate

We want to thank Audrey for sharing some of her life's story with us this month. Her journey with breast cancer has not been an easy one and she especially understands the emotional highs and lows that go with this disease. She is an inspiration to others and that's why we wanted to share her story. We hope you’ll share her story with friends and family; they’ll enjoy the reading experience. If you want to reach out to Audrey, please email her at amgteachingpe@gmail.com. Thanks to DiAnna Paulk and her creative photography skills. If you have questions, comments, or suggestions about our cover profiles, including nominating someone, please text them to Jim Watson at 334.324.3472 or email jim@riverregionboom.com

Trip to Helen, Georgia with high school friends Marla Morris, Cristie Smith and Sandy Sanders

Cheaha with my mom, Mary Merrill. This is the highest point in the state of Alabama

The Wonder of Shea

You’ve probably heard of Shea Butter, but also probably don’t know much about it other than seeing it as an ingredient in body and hair products. It IS super moisturizing, which is why you are seeing it in so many places. Moisturizing in a similar way to cocoa butter, but without having to smell like chocolate!

the 28-30 you sometimes see online!), so a low level, but sufficient as a hair product to protect your scalp. It is the presence of cinnamic acid that gives shea butter this property.

prevents skin from getting dehydrated – which of course is a key factor in skin getting that dried out look.

Research has also shown that the oleic acid in shea, which is between 40-50% of its composition, can soothe the pain and inflammation associated with chronic skin issues such as eczema and rosacea. This could be a game changer for a lot of people.

Last winter I made the mistake of leaving it too late to switch up my skin care routine – for body and face – to a richer, more moisturizing version for winter, and oh did I regret that. I had itchy, scaly patches on my legs and my face looked terrible! Never again. So this year I am ready. I spent all last Saturday in the kitchen “cooking up a storm”, but not of food, of skincare products and ALL of them have Shea butter in them. I made lip balms, shower creams, face cleansing balm, whipped shea body butter and hair pomade - my husband’s favorite. I was literally in there all day long. I am adding them to my site one at a time, so bear with me, but you can always email me too – www.loghousearomatics.com and loghousearomatics@gmail.com.

Why shea? Well, as stated it is super moisturizing it also has many other benefits, including a level of natural sun protection – in fact, my husband noticed that when using the hair pomade he did not get sunburn while out playing golf, so I looked it up and shea butter dos in fact have a natural SPF of around 7 (NOT

It also contains Vitamins A and E, which are both proven to help reduce scar tissue, so you can apply shea directly to existing scars and it should, over time, help reduce their appearance. These things do not happen overnight though, you must use it consistently for at least a few weeks, if not months. Patience and persistence is key.

Those same antioxidants help fight cell-damaging free radicals, which helps support your skin’s elasticity and reduce fine lines and wrinkles. It’s the same process as helping to reduce scar tissue, it’s helping your skin to repair itself. Thus the same applies to any other types of skin damage – for example, burns, grazes, etc.

So where does shea butter come from? Well, just like so many wonderful natural products, it is only sourced in one area of the world, in this case, Africa. The butter comes from the nut of the Karite tree. The nuts are picked, cracked, grilled then pounded. After all that, they are boiled in water to extract the shea butter, which is scooped out and left to cool. It is then ready to use. At room temperature it is a solid; to use it you melt it between your hands into an oil.

Its deep moisturizing level comes from its rich oleic, linoleic and stearic acid content. As well as deeply moisturizing the skin below the surface it also provides a protective layer on the surface that

You will rarely get pure shea butter here. It is usually combined with other oils to make it easier to use, and of course less expensive. If you ever do get a chance to try pure shea butter though, do try it. A small amount goes a super long way! A friend of mine brought some back from Ghana once and it was amazing – just a little 1oz pot lasted me all summer! I can’t promise you that, but I can promise you that you will love the benefits that shea can bring to your skin, particularly in the oncoming winter season.

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Can You Afford to Retire?

Can you afford to retire? The pandemic has pushed many people to confront this question earlier than they may have planned. The answer may be more complicated than you think and an incorrect answer could be costly. To correctly answer the question, it may help to build a retirement income and expenses pyramid.

Longevity risk is one reason that the answer is complicated. Many people retiring today live twenty-five years or longer after they retire; think of that as being unemployed for 25 years. In addition, that twenty-five-year period is filled with three different phases with different sets of expenses: the Go-Go years, the SlowGo years and the No-Go years. Another complication is that your lifestyle when you retire may be totally different, with a different set of expenses; it’s a whole new budget. Finally, your sources of income are likely to be different and subject to new sets of risks.

On Wednesday, October 30th from noon to 1:30 p.m. Susan Moore of Moore Wealth Management, Inc. will be conducting a complimentary webinar that covers how to build your pyramid, estimating what your income and expenses will be during retirement. There will be both a live and recorded version. Please call the Moore Wealth Management office for further information or reservations at 334.270.1672 or email sarah@ moorewealthmanagement.com. If you miss the webinar, we also offer free consultations that are without obligation.

Financial Thoughts with Susan Moore

By Susan Clayton Moore, J.D. Principal of Moore Wealth Management, Inc.

a whole set of questions: when to take Social Security to maximize it for your circumstances; when and how to take income from the annuities; and which pension option to take and is your pension safe (is it at risk because of underfunding)?

A pyramid approach attempts to prioritize the sources of income and expenses. First, you build the foundation of the pyramid with your guaranteed sources of income which include Social Security, some types of annuities and pensions. This involves

Once you’ve determined the guaranteed sources of income that make up the foundation, then you have to budget and figure out your essential expenses, which include food, housing, healthcare and taxes. These expenses may vary widely in the three phases of Go-Go, Slow-Go and No-Go. This too involves a whole set of questions: how to maximize your healthcare coverage and minimize your costs; can you afford to age in place or do you need to plan to downsize into independent or assisted living options; and how to minimize taxes on Social Security and avoid higher Medicare premiums.

Then you build the middle level of the pyramid which includes your variable sources of income from savings and investment portfolios and your desired

expenses like vacations, hobbies, entertainment and taking care of family. Like the essential expenses, these may vary widely depending up on the three phases. A portfolio producing an income is subject to different risks than one in which you are accumulating assets. Conventional wisdom was that a safe withdrawal rate from a portfolio was 4%; new studies show that in a low interest rate world the “new” safe withdrawal rate is 2.5% to 3%.¹ In addition, a portfolio producing an income is subject to greater risks of sustained losses than a portfolio providing no distributions.

Finally, you are ready to build the top of the pyramid which include your legacy plans: helping to fund grandchildren’s education, gifts to family while you’re alive and at your death; and philanthropic giving while you’re alive and at your death. These should be funded with your longer-term holdings or illiquid investments.

Retiring is complicated. The old adage applies: if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Build your pyramid!

Susan Clayton Moore, J.D., is a financial advisor and wealth manager of Moore Wealth Management, Inc., with offices Montgomery and Alexander City, AL. Susan has under advisement over $150 million (as of 9.1.24) in brokerage and advisory assets through Kestra Financial and has been a financial planner for over 40 years. Contact Susan at 334.270.1672. Email contact is susan@moorewealthmanagement.com.

The opinions expressed in this commentary are those of the author and may not necessarily reflect those held by Kestra Investment Services, LLC or Kestra Advisory Services, LLC. This is for general information only and is not intended to provide specific investment advice or recommendations for any individual. It is suggested that you consult your financial professional, attorney or tax advisor regarding your individual situation.

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¹https://www.onefpa.org/journal/Pages/The%204%20 Percent%20Rule%20Is%20Not%20Safe%20in%20a%20LowYield%20World.aspx