Contents March 2025
Publisher’s Letter
Founder Jim Watson (1950-2024)
Publisher
Jason Watson
334.328.5189 cell/text jason@riverregionboom.com
Editor
DeAnne Watson
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Contributing Writers
Jeff Barganier
Greg Budell
Janice Costa
Rebecca Hastings
Pam Molnar
Susan Moore
Ellen Ryan
Nick Thomas
Cover Photography
Photography by DiAnna Paulk photographybydiannapaulk.com
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Fresh Starts
March has arrived, and with it, the promise of Spring—longer days, blooming azaleas, and the welcome return of front porch weather. There’s something about this season that reminds us life is always renewing itself. The trees shake off winter’s chill, the birds get back to singing, and even the most stubborn among us start to wonder if it’s time for a little fresh start of our own.
Mark Twain once said, “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.” And isn’t that the truth? Whether it’s picking up a new hobby, rekindling an old passion, or simply deciding to be more present in the everyday joys of life—Spring reminds us that it’s never too late to begin again. Maybe you’ve thought about learning to paint, taking up pickleball, or finally writing down those family stories for the next generation. Whatever it is, let this be your season to step forward, to shake off the dust of routine, and embrace the excitement of something new.
Speaking of fresh starts, this month’s cover story highlights Barrie and Laura Harmon, a couple who have dedicated themselves to making our River Region a better place. Their leadership and generosity have shaped many initiatives over the years, but most recently, they’ve spearheaded efforts to raise $5 million for Montgomery Christian School, allowing it to double in size and serve even more students in our community. Their story is one of commitment, compassion, and the kind of steady investment that transforms lives. It’s a reminder that real change doesn’t happen overnight, but through years of showing up, caring deeply, and taking action.
As you flip through this issue, I hope you find inspiration, entertainment, and maybe even that little nudge to embrace something new this season. After all, Spring isn’t just for the flowers—it’s for all of us.
Age Well, My Friends,
Creamy Tortellini Soup with Sausage and Kale
Ingredients:
1 tablespoon olive oil
1 pound Italian sausage, casing removed
3 cloves garlic, minced
1 medium sweet onion, diced
2 teaspoons Italian seasoning
Kosher salt and ground black pepper, to taste
2 tablespoons all-purpose flour
4 cups chicken stock
1 (8-ounce) can tomato sauce
1 (3-inch) Parmesan rind, optional
1 (9-ounce) pkg refrigerated three cheese tortellini
½ bunch kale, stems removed and leaves chopped
⅓ cup heavy cream
3 tablespoons chopped fresh basil
Heat olive oil in a large stockpot or Dutch oven over medium heat. Add Italian sausage and cook until browned, about 3-5 minutes, making sure to crumble the sausage as it cooks; drain excess fat.
Stir in garlic, onion and Italian seasoning. Cook, stirring frequently, until onions have become translucent, about 2-3 minutes; season with salt and pepper, to taste.
Whisk in flour until lightly browned, about 1 minute. Stir in chicken stock, tomato sauce and Parmesan rind, if using. Bring to a boil; reduce heat and simmer, stirring occasionally, until reduced and slightly thickened, about 10 minutes.
Stir in tortellini; cover and cook until tender, about 5-7 minutes.
Stir in kale until wilted, about 1-2 minutes. Stir in heavy cream and basil until heated through, about 1 minute; season with salt and pepper, to taste.
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SNL at 50 (and Bill Murray Live!)
BOOMers- like it or not, we've been around for all 50 seasons of Saturday Night Live. When it launched in '75, it was appointment TV. You watched it live, or you missed it. Now, an app makes watching any bit from any season or time possible.
In the year of our comedic lord, 1975, "Saturday Night Live" (SNL) burst onto television screens like a slapstick-smeared comet, leaving a trail of laughter, confusion, and iconic catchphrases in its wake.
Isn't that special? It makes me verklempt!
For us, SNL became more than just a latenight show; it was a beacon of irreverence, a mirror reflecting the absurdities of the times, and a source of endless water cooler conversations. Let's take a jovial journey through 50 years of SNL and its cultural impact!
When SNL first aired, America was in the midst of disco fever, bell bottoms, and an inexplicable love for pet rocks. We were fresh from the counterculture movement, eager for something that resonated with our rebellious spirits. Enter SNL, with its ragtag team of comedians led by the visionary Lorne Michaels.
The original cast, lovingly dubbed the "Not Ready for Prime Time Players," featured names like Chevy Chase, John Belushi, Dan Aykroyd, Garrett Morris, Lorraine Newman and the late great Gilda Radner. These comedic pioneers didn't just push boundaries; they bulldozed them.
The sketches were edgy, the humor was sharp, and the satire was unapologetic. BOOMers found in SNL a voice that echoed their frustrations and joys. Whether it
was Chevy Chase's bumbling President Ford or Jane Curtin's deadpan delivery on Weekend Update followed by Dan Akyroyd's, "Jane, you ignorant slut!" (hilarious because we'd never seen anyone called that on TV), the show became a weekly ritual. Let's not forget the musical guests, who ranged from the legendary to the "Who is that again?" SNL's early years were a cultural phenomenon, shaping the comedic tastes of our generation.
As we BOOMers aged, so did SNL, but the show's commitment to humor remained unwavering. The 1980s saw the rise of talents like Eddie Murphy, whose characters—such as the unforgettable Gumby and Mr. Robinson—brought laughter to living rooms across the nation. BOOMers found themselves quoting lines like "I'm Gumby, dammit!" and reminiscing about the good ol' days of gritty New York humor.
we found solace in the show's ability to poke fun at our realities. I still love Farley's motivational speaker, Matt Foley, "living in a van down by the river". These sketches were more than comedy; they were cultural touchstones that we made part of the national lexicon.
Entering the 2000s, SNL faced the challenge of staying relevant in a rapidly changing media landscape. We, now seasoned veterans of life, watched as the show adapted to new comedic sensibilities while still retaining its signature edge. Will Ferrell's George W. Bush impersonation became a staple, and Tina Fey's portrayal of Sarah Palin was so spot-on that it blurred the lines between satire and reality. The real Sarah Palin never said, "I can see Russia from my front porch," but Tina Fey's impersonation has millions believing she did.
The 90s ushered in a new era of SNL legends, with the likes of Chris Farley, Mike Myers, and Dana Carvey dominating the stage. Now juggling careers and families,
SNL's cultural impact extended beyond the screen, influencing political discourse and even swaying public opinion. Anyone heard anything from Palin recently? What makes SNL's impact on BOOMers so profound is the shared history and
evolution. We witnessed the show's birth, reveled in its golden years, and now seem skeptical of the current generation of stars. Honestly, I'm not impressed, but I remain open-minded. The show had slumps in previous iterations.
BOOMers passed down their love for SNL to subsequent generations, creating a legacy of laughter. They reminisced about classic sketches, introduced their children to the hilarity of Wayne's World, and debated the merits of various cast members over Thanksgiving dinners. For us, SNL was more than just a TV show; it was a cultural touchstone.
Peacock Network has some awesome documentaries on SNL's history and how the show is done. My favorite was on the development of the infamous "Cowbell" sketch with Will Ferrell, Jimmy Fallon, and Chris Parnell. Fascinating!
A separate special on the musical guests is "worthy" (as opposed to "not worthy") too. I also recommend the movie, "Saturday Night", a feature film from last year that does a great job of reciting the drama of the 2 hours leading up to the very first SNL
(featuring George Carlin).
One of SNL's living legends, who joined the cast in season 2, is Bill Murray. Bill's had an incredible career (I loved "What About Bob?" most), so when I heard he was coming to Atlanta, I scored tickets for a show billed as "Bill Murray & His Blood Brothers."
I, and, as it turned out, many others at the show, were expecting some comedy from Bill. Instead, we were treated to a decent blues band with Bill wandering about, shaking a tambourine, and standing behind
some bongo drums, adding imperceptible percussion to largely unknown songs.
Then he sang. Once it became clear that Bill was not going to do any humor (other than his wardrobe), much of the crowd wandered to the Variety Theater's bars and smoking areas. It was as if he hired a band so he could do mediocre (being kind) karaoke to a live audience.
Still, it was cool to see a living legend, even if he looked sort of "halfway there". It turns out, there was one comedic moment. At the show's end, I looked at the price of the ticket I bought.
Turns out the joke was on me!
Greg Budell has lived in Montgomery for 20 years. A 50+ year veteran of radio, TV and writing, Greg hosts the Newstalk 93.1FM Morning Show with Rich Thomas, Susan Woody, and Jay Scott, 6-9 AM Monday - Friday. He returns weekday afternoons from 3-6 PM for Happy Hour with Pamela Dubuque and a variety of sidekicks. His favorite topic is life! Greg can be reached at gregbudell@aol.com.
Your home should make you feel safe, comfortable and happy — and the same is true for your pets. But as pets move into their older years, the home they love can become more challenging to navigate. Just like people, aging pets can struggle with arthritis, hearing loss, diminished vision, mobility issues and respiratory concerns.
So how do you reconfigure your home to better accommodate your senior pet while making it safer and more comfortable for you as well?
According to Molly Erin McCabe, owner and principal designer at McCabe By Design, "Humans aren't the only creatures who benefit from 'aging-inplace' design — our fur babies can too!" Aging-in-place design, which she defines as "the practice of making everyday home life more comfortable, easier to navigate and safer," is all about ensuring that homes work for all family members as they age.
Both humans and animals often see gradual hearing loss as well as increased noise sensitivity as they age. For this reason, Kimberly Kerl, founder and principal designer at Kustom Home Design, sees reducing background noise as essential. She notes, "Appliances and electronic devices can create significant background noise that hinders the ability to hear or comprehend speech." Some pets may also be sensitive to vibrations from appliances. Kerl says installing quieter appliances can help.
To minimize noise, she recommends dishwashers with sound deadening insulation, remote motors on cooking vents and exhaust fans and laundry rooms equipped with soundproofing. A door with weather stripping can also help to mute laundry noise.
Breathe Easier and Step Lightly
With both people and pets, immune systems tend to weaken with age. People over 65 account for between 50% and 70% of flu-related hospitalizations, according to the CDC, and older pets are more likely to develop complications from respiratory infections than their mid-life peers.
"Air quality and humidity control are important for respiratory health," states Laurie Coger, D.V.M., of the Healthy Dog Workshop. To improve indoor air quality, she recommends using air purifiers, changing filters regularly and positioning them strategically.
Finding flooring that works for both people and pets as they age can be challenging. Hard surfaces can be slippery, and are often hard on the legs (or paws). If someone slips and falls, they're more like to end up hurt if they land on a hard surface. And senior dogs, in particular, need traction, according to Coger.
Carpet, by contrast, provides a softer landing, but tends to gather dirt and dander, and it can be more difficult to clean if your pet has an accident.
While everyone likes a fresh smelling home, Coger also warns that scented candles and cleaners can be harmful to pets and people.
Kerl also warns that, "Edges of rugs can easily become tripping hazards, and transitioning from a soft surface with traction to a harder surface with less traction can lead to falls." One possible solution is using "indoor/outdoor rugs with rubber backing or slip resistant pads. These are typically thinner materials with less traction than carpet rugs, and are easier to clean."
For areas where hard flooring is desirable, McCabe recommends flooring with a slip-resistant finish. For cat owners, she likes low-pile carpet squares, as they provide some cushioning, and are also easy to remove and wash individually if the cat has stomach issues.
She adds, "Senior cats who experience hearing loss may resort to 'reading' their surroundings through vibrations, especially from the floor. Therefore, using low pile carpet can allow your cat to understand their environment better."
Healthy Eating and Drinking
Remember when you were 20 and could eat just about anything and still
feel great? Pets may also have more sensitive stomachs as they age, and they may need better nutritional support. Fatty foods can lead to pancreatitis, while higher carb diets increase the risk of cancer.
Fresh food has many benefits, both for pets and people.
For those who enjoy cooking, steam ovens, air fryers and sous vide are great cooking options for making healthier meals.
Cooking can also be a great way to entice a finicky older pet to eat. If food is your love language and you want to share that with your four-legged best friend, Coger cites The Forever Dog Life as a resource for finding nutritionally balanced recipes for your pets.
But even if you hate to cook, you can still enjoy the benefits of healthy, home-cooked meals. Numerous delivery services bring home-cooked meals right to your doorstep — and similar services now deliver home-cooked pet meals as well.
Whatever you food preferences, eating healthier starts in the kitchen, and Kerl says your kitchen should be designed to facilitate that. She states, "Conveniently located refrigeration and microwaves can make it easier to store and reheat homemade food. Refrigerator drawers, undercounter chillers, microwave drawers and speed ovens can make it easier to store and reheat small batches of food for people and pets."
Kerl also recommends induction cooking as "the safest type of cooktop" (unless you have a pacemaker). Because the cooktop stops heating when the pan is removed, you're less likely to accidentally get burned — and if your cats are prone to walking across the cooktop, they're less likely to get burned as well.
Water consumption is critical as people and pets age. Older cats, in particular, may struggle with getting enough fluids. McCabe sees water fountains as a great solution, stating, "Cats love running water and therefore may be more inclined to drink, helping mitigate feline maladies such as diabetes and kidney disease. For homeowners, water fountains are advantageous because they hold more liquid than a standard bowl, reducing the frequency of refilling. They're also harder to kick over due to the weight of the motor, which means less bending and cleaning."
As an added benefit, the calming sound of water bubbling may help to reduce stress.
Of course cats aren't the only ones who benefit from greater water consumption. Water helps to regulate the metabolism, lubricate the joints, flush toxins from the body, promote kidney function and support healthier skin. For that reason, a water filtration system is a great investment. It can make water taste and smell better, while removing harmful contaminants.
Elevated food and water bowls can be easier for pets to reach, while also minimizing the bending needed to refill dishes. Kerl recommends locating these near a water source to simplify filling water bowls. She explains, "I have projects where we install a pot filler at the feeding station to eliminate the need to carry bowls of water and risk spills which can lead to slipping."
McCabe suggests using rubber-backed mats under food bowls, noting, "This not only helps prevent the bowls from moving but also reduces clean up from drool and water splashes."
For cats that have spent their lives eating on raised surfaces, these may become more difficult to access as they age. In those cases, McCabe suggests providing a set of stairs to the feeding area, with a sturdy platform.
Likewise, for cat owners who may have trouble bending, McCabe suggests securing litter boxes atop a low table for ease of cleaning, with a set of steps for cats to access the box.
Visual Cues
As we age, good lighting becomes essential. Kerl sees daylight as "the best light source," and believes that it can be a mood booster for both people and pets, but she also recommends motionactivated lighting for added safety.
While cats and dogs rely less on visual cues than humans do, they may still experience stress from age-related vision loss. Minimizing clutter and maintaining clear pathways throughout the home can help.
As Coger notes, "Blind dogs learn to navigate homes quite well if they have consistent layouts and furniture arrangements."
Both humans and their pets often find medications helpful for living out their golden years in comfort. However, it's easy to forget to take these when the bottles are difficult to access. Additionally, poor lighting can make reading dosage instructions tough. McCabe says, "It's important to store medications in a convenient, organized and ergonomic location that is well lit. This can minimize mistakes in the administration of medications."
It's also a good idea to separate human and pet medications to avoid confusing the two, particularly since some medications may be prescribed (in different doses) for you and your pet.
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It starts with a drawer. You open it to grab something and suddenly realize it’s overflowing with things you haven’t used in years. That’s when it hits you—clutter has taken over more than just your drawer; it’s creeping into your home and mind. The mess isn’t just physical; it can create stress, anxiety, and even make daily tasks harder.
Decluttering can feel overwhelming, but with the right mindset and a few strategies, you can start the process and stay motivated until the job is done. More importantly, you’ll create a space that supports a calmer, more enjoyable life.
Start Small, Think Big
One of the biggest mistakes people make when decluttering is trying to tackle everything at once. That approach often leads to frustration and burnout. Instead, start with small, manageable tasks:
• The Five-Minute Rule – Set a timer for five minutes and declutter as much as possible in that time.
• One Drawer at a Time – Focus on a single drawer, shelf, or small area before moving on. Seeing small victories can boost your motivation.
• The One-Year Test – If you haven’t used or worn something in the past year, it’s probably time to let it go. If you struggle, ask yourself if you’d buy the item again today.
• The 12-12-12 Challenge – Each day, find 12 items to throw away, 12 to donate, and 12 to return to their proper places.
Set Clear Goals
Having a clear vision of what you want to achieve can help keep you on track:
• Define Your Why – Are you decluttering to create a peaceful space, make room for new things, or simply reduce stress? Maybe you want to prepare your home for retirement or make cleaning easier.
• Create a Decluttering Schedule – Set aside specific times each week to work on different areas of your home. Tackle one room at a time to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
• Use the Four-Box Method – Label boxes as "Keep," "Donate," "Trash," and "Undecided." This method prevents you from simply shifting clutter from one space to another.
Stay Motivated
Decluttering is not just about getting rid of things—it’s about creating a home that brings you joy and peace. But it’s easy to lose motivation when faced with sentimental items or a neverending pile of stuff. Here’s how to stay on track:
• Celebrate Small Wins – Acknowledge your progress, even if it’s just one cleared-out shelf or a single decluttered drawer.
• Visualize the End Result – Imagine how your home will look and feel once it’s clutter-free. A lighter, more peaceful space awaits you.
• Find a Decluttering Buddy – Enlist a friend or family member to keep you accountable and make the process more fun.
• Donate with Purpose – Knowing your items will go to someone in need can make letting go easier. Consider donating to local charities, shelters, or thrift stores.
• Reward Your Progress – Find little ways to celebrate as you go. For each closet you tackle or room you finish, treat yourself to coffee with a friend or a walk outside. Make sure it’s something you look forward to!
Letting Go with Ease
It’s common to struggle with letting go of sentimental items. They often hold memories, but they can also take up valuable space. To make it easier you can take photos of meaningful items before donating them, so the memories remain without the clutter.
Another great tip is to keep a memory box with only the most cherished keepsakes instead of keeping everything. This will make these things feel extra special. When it feels hard to let go, remind yourself that letting go of objects doesn’t mean losing the memories attached to them. The real value lies in the experiences, not the items.
Maintain the Momentum
Once you’ve decluttered, keeping your space organized requires ongoing effort:
• Adopt a "One In, One Out" Rule – When something new comes in, something old should go out.
• Regularly Reassess Trouble Spots – Some areas, like kitchen counters or entryways, tend to accumulate clutter quickly. Make a habit of tidying these spots often.
• Practice Mindful Shopping – Before buying something, ask yourself if you truly need it and where it will go in your home.
• Use Storage Wisely – Baskets, bins, and shelves can help keep things organized, but be careful not to let storage solutions become an excuse for keeping unnecessary items.
The Rewards of a Clutter-Free Life
Decluttering isn’t just about tidying up—it’s about improving your quality of life. A home free of unnecessary items is easier to clean, more enjoyable to live in, and can even improve your mental well-being. By taking small steps, staying motivated, and developing habits to maintain order, you can enjoy a clutterfree home that feels peaceful and inviting. More importantly, you’ll create a space that allows you to focus on the things that truly matter—family, relaxation, and making new memories, rather than managing old stuff.
Rebecca is a former teacher who is passionate about authenticity, faith, and family. She has been featured on sites such as The Washington Post and Parents and her books are available on Amazon. Connect at RebeccaHastings.net.
“They not only cure cancer, they lift spirits.”
Lewis—Colon Cancer Survivor
I was stunned to learn I had colon cancer. Until then, I’d never even been in a hospital. Receiving that news was overwhelming, but I placed my trust in Dr. McDaniel and God, and they never let me down. Dr. McDaniel’s entire team cared for me as a whole person, not just a medical file. I believe that, through prayer and the right treatment, my life was saved. Now, seven years cancer-free, I realize that the human connection was as crucial as the medical treatment. That’s what makes this place so special.
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Keep Moving Forward... A Trip to the History Museum of Mobile
A few years ago, a talented young Mobile entrepreneur named Brad May purchased my memoir, "How Prayer Helped Me Escape the Corporate Rat Race." He later contacted me via email to convey his thoughts about my book. His exact words were: "I put it above the stacks of other books I had lined up to read. I usually focus on one book at a time to complete, but I actually put down the current book I was reading to read yours. It took me a long time to complete (months of reading little bits here and there), but now that I've finished it, this has been one of the most impactful books I've ever read. As I got into many of the stories of your life you put in the book, in the back of my mind, I was asking, 'ok, but where's the stuff about prayer?... where am I going to see what formula Jeff used so I can do it too?' I actually made comments to my wife in disbelief about why the book seemed so slow and disconnected. I KNEW God had led me to buy that book and put it on the top of my list. I just couldn't reconcile what I was reading. It was interesting in its own way, but not what I expected. Then I got to the chapter, 'On Changing Course.' I was in tears reading this. I felt God's presence when I got
to this part of the book. I'm supposed to be outside doing yardwork today, but I couldn't put the book down after I read the opening line of that chapter. It stated what I had been thinking:
You may be thinking that my focus has been less about prayer than about the mundane ventures of life. But praying, in and of itself, doesn't mean that the challenges of life are rendered null and void. ...We must still make decisions, contemplate the world around us, and fulfill obligations both great and small. Prayer, however, changes how we make those decisions, how we contemplate the world and how we meet our obligations.
"I have been reminded that there's no secret path or tactical formula to employ to get where God is leading me. I think if you had asked me, I would have said that I knew that intellectually...but I had to admit I came into this book expecting one thing and got another. A perfect example of life sometimes. Reading this book was more of an experience than an informationgathering exercise. Had I not completed the book, I wouldn't have gained this insight, which is exactly one of the things your book has taught me: keep moving forward in faith in what God has led you to do next, even when it seems mundane."
Although we had never formally met, I ended up hiring Brad's firm, Genesis Bay (www.genesisbay.com), to manage my website, www.jeffbarganier. com. As Brad's communication about my memoir was by far the most meaningful review of that particular book that I had received, I wanted to make his acquaintance. So, as an excuse for getting to meet Brad in person, I decided to visit the History Museum of Mobile. Museums are remarkable places to learn how humanity keeps moving forward. Unlike libraries, museums offer the opportunity to see and sometimes feel actual objects of antiquity. Whereas, books merely allow us to read about things. But before modern printing presses generated books to fill libraries, what did books and documents look like? Through May 25, 2025, you can go see for yourself at the History Museum of Mobile. The exhibit is titled, "Painted Pages: Illuminated Manuscripts 13th to 18th Centuries." When I learned this
Jeff and Brad
History Museum of Mobile
exhibit included a Hebrew scroll of the biblical Book of Esther, I had to see it with my own eyes.
This exhibition comes from the collection of the Reading Public Museum in Reading, Pennsylvania. It includes examples of materials used to create historic manuscripts—parchment, vellum (animal skin), gold leaf, and minerals that, once ground into powder, yielded pigments used by artists before the age of printing. French, Italian, Spanish, Dutch, Flemish, English, and German examples are included. These diverse and colorful works give insight into medieval European and even Middle Eastern history from the sacred to the secular.
Other museum exhibits include: a collection of horsedrawn carriages; a collection of
miniature Mobile architecture; artifacts from frontier days; native-American implements; and much more. The History Museum of Mobile is open Monday through Saturday, 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. and Sundays, 1:005:00 p.m. Tickets for "Seniors" are $12. But we were able to park free right in front of the door.
While in the Mobile area, Cindy and I stayed at the Hampton Inn Fairhope/Mobile Bay, just up the street from Page and Palette Books, where I have conducted book signings.
management. When Cindy wanted to watch the Auburn/ LSU basketball game, the manager, Justice, personally found the station for us and put it on the screen nearest our table. Our waitress, Kimberly, who possesses a bright and charming smile, was the best of the best. And because of nice folks like Justice and Kimberly, we'll visit Tin Top again … next time we need an excuse to visit Brad. Meanwhile, in his words, "Keep moving forward in faith …" And so will we. Many blessings.
We also ventured over to Bon Secure Bay and dined at Tin Top. It's just a few miles from another favorite restaurant— Jesse's. Laid back Tin Top has great seafood and outstanding
Jeff Barganier is a novelist, travel writer and speaker. He travels far and wide upon the slightest excuse for something interesting to write about. His novels include Lawson’s Bluff (2021); The Slash Brokers (1998). He also manages Cindy Barganier Interiors LLC (www.cindybarganier.com) at The Waters in Pike Road, Alabama. Contact Jeff at Jeffbarganier@knology.net. You may print out his features at www.jeffbarganier.com and take them with you when you travel!
The Book of Esther
Tin Top in Bon Secour
Horse-drawn carriage collection
In today’s fast-paced digital world, handwritten letters have become a rare treasure. While text messages and video calls offer instant communication, there is something magical about receiving a letter in the mail—especially for a child. Becoming a pen pal with your grandchild is a wonderful way to build a deeper bond, share stories, and create keepsakes that they can cherish for years to come.
Picture your grandchild racing to the mailbox and discovering there is something for them.
Now, imagine how fun it will be when you get a letter back!
Why Become a Pen Pal with Your Grandchildren?
Letter writing offers a unique way to connect across generations. It encourages creativity, patience, and thoughtfulness while also serving as a tangible reminder of your love. Unlike fleeting digital messages, letters can be saved, re-read, and even passed down as part of your family’s history.
Writing letters with your grandchildren also provides an opportunity to teach them valuable skills, such as handwriting, storytelling, and even basic letter etiquette. And let’s not forget that special excitement of receiving a letter in the mail—a simple joy that never fades.
Getting Started: Making It Fun
To make letter writing an exciting activity, consider incorporating some creative elements:
• Use Fun Stationery – Choose colorful or themed stationery that reflects their interests, such as animals, space, or their favorite cartoon characters.
• Decorate with Stickers and Drawings
– Kids love stickers! Encourage them to decorate their letters, or add some surprise stickers inside the envelope for them to use.
• Personalized Touches – Consider including small surprises like a pressed flower, a funny comic strip, or a homemade bookmark.
• Handwritten and Typed Letters – If younger kids struggle with writing, allow them to dictate their letter to a parent or use fun stamps and drawings to communicate.
What to Write About?
Not sure what to include in your letters? Here are some engaging topics to make your correspondence fun and meaningful:
• Stories from Your Childhood – Share funny or exciting memories from when you were their age. Describe your favorite games, school experiences, or even a mischievous adventure.
• Ask About Their Interests – Show curiosity about their hobbies, school projects, or favorite books. Ask openended questions that encourage them to write back.
• Exchange Jokes and Riddles – Include a joke or a riddle in each letter to keep the conversation playful and lighthearted. (If you don’t know one, you can always look them up online or in a book!)
• Create a Collaborative Story – Start a short story and let them add a few sentences before sending it back. This can turn into an ongoing creative project!
• Teach Something New – Share fun facts, a simple recipe, or even a basic craft idea they can try.
• Make a “Mail Challenge” – Give them a small challenge, like drawing a picture of their dream vacation or writing about what they would do if they could time travel.
Adapting for Different Ages
Different age groups will engage in letter writing in unique ways. Consider the age of your grandchild as you write letters.
• For Toddlers & Preschoolers (2-5 years old): Keep letters simple with short sentences, drawings, and fun stickers. You can even send postcards with pictures and let them respond with scribbles or stickers.
• For Early Elementary (6-9 years old): Encourage simple letter writing by asking
easy questions and including short, playful stories. They may also enjoy including handmade crafts. Origami is especially fun!
• For Tweens (10-12 years old): Engage them with deeper conversations about their favorite activities, books, or school subjects. They may enjoy exchanging puzzles or jokes.
• For Teens (13+ years old): Focus on shared interests, personal reflections, and even future dreams. Discuss books you’ve read, offer life advice, or write about family history. Teens will love surprising things about you from when you were young. And remember, they’re not too old for a good joke!
Keeping It Going
To keep the pen pal tradition alive, consider these ideas:
• Set a Routine – Decide how often you’ll write to each other, whether it’s weekly, biweekly, or monthly.
• Surprise Them with Special Deliveries
– Every once in a while, send a small gift
like a postcard from a trip, a book, or a special keepsake.
• Encourage Themed Letters – Write letters based on holidays, seasons, or special events like birthdays.
• Save the Letters – Keep a scrapbook or box for storing letters so you and your grandchild can look back in the future.
A Gift That Lasts a Lifetime
Becoming a pen pal with your grandchild is more than just an exchange of letters—it’s an exchange of love, wisdom, and shared experiences.
Whether you’re telling stories, sharing jokes, or simply sending a warm hello, each letter builds a bridge that connects your hearts across the miles. So, grab your favorite stationery, pick up your pen, and start a beautiful tradition that your grandchild will treasure forever.
Rebecca is a former teacher who is passionate about authenticity, faith, and family. She has been featured on sites such as The Washington Post and Parents and her books are available on Amazon. Connect at RebeccaHastings.net.
"Tech Support Tantrums"
Tech support. Two words that strike terror into the hearts of anyone who’s ever tried to, you know, use technology. If Dante were alive today, there’d be a 10th circle of hell, and it would be a never-ending loop of trying to fix your Wi-Fi with a tech support rep named “Kyle.”
It always begins the same way: hope. You’ve hit a snag—your printer’s spitting out blank pages, your internet’s slower than a carrier pigeon, or your smart fridge has decided it’s smarter than you. You think, I’ll just call tech support. They’ll help. Oh, sweet, naive optimism.
The first hurdle? The phone tree. “Please press 1 for account issues, press 2 for technical problems, press 3 if you’ve lost the will to live.” You press 2. “Please describe your problem in a few words.”
“My internet is down,” you say confidently.
The robotic voice responds, “I’m sorry, I didn’t catch that. Did you mean, ‘I need to upgrade my service?’”
“No!” you shout. “My internet. Is. Down!”
“Let me transfer you to someone who can help,” it says, as if this isn’t its job, and then—silence. You’re on hold. The music kicks in, a single loop of instrumental jazz that sounds like it was recorded in a dentist’s waiting room in 1987.
When you finally reach a human, they’re either way too chipper or so
indifferent that you’re convinced they’re working from a bunker in another dimension. “Hi, this is Kyle! How can I assist you today?” Kyle, buddy, you know why I’m here.
“Have you tried restarting your device?” he asks. Oh, Kyle. Kyle, Kyle, Kyle. Of course, I’ve restarted it. That’s the only thing I’ve done. But I humor him because I need Kyle on my side.
Next, he tells me to unplug the router, count to ten, and plug it back in. This is when I start questioning everything. Why ten seconds? Is there a router fairy that needs a full ten to reset the system? Would five seconds work? What if I count in dog years?
While I’m crawling under my desk, Kyle starts typing furiously. I imagine he’s taking notes like: Customer may be unhinged. Recommend escalating.
And escalate they do. To "advanced support." Now I’m in tech support purgatory, on hold again, listening to jazz so bad it should be illegal. Occasionally, a robotic voice chimes in to say, “Your call is very important to us.” Really? Because it feels like my call is a game of hot potato that nobody wants to catch.
When “advanced support” finally
arrives, their first move is to repeat everything Kyle had me do. At this point, I’m considering setting my router on fire and living off the grid. Who needs Netflix when you can learn to churn butter?
But here’s the kicker: eventually, it works. Some random combination of unplugging, re-plugging, restarting, and threatening to cancel your service does the trick. Your internet springs to life like a phoenix rising from the ashes.
And yet, the victory is hollow. What changed? Was it the 19th reboot? Kyle’s prayers? The router fairy waking up? Nobody knows.
Still, I’m weirdly grateful for tech support. Sure, they’ve shaved years off my life and made me question my sanity, but they’ve also taught me patience. And by “patience,” I mean learning how to scream into a pillow without frightening the neighbors.
So here’s to you, Kyle. May your hold music always be short and your scripts slightly less patronizing. And may I never, ever have to call you again.
- Archie Grumbleton
Wilson Pickett Music and Art Festival
April 5 * 10am-5pm
Cooters Pond Park * Prattville, AL
The Wilson Pickett Music and Arts Festival is an annual event held in Cooters Pond Park in Prattville, Alabama, celebrating the arts and the legacy of Wilson Pickett, a Prattville native. Festivities include an entertainment stage, food vendors, children’s activities, and an artist village, featuring local and regional artists representing a variety of media. For more information about registration, please call the Special Events office at 334-595-0850 or visit wilsonpickettfestival.com.
2025 Autism Mud Bug Ball
April 5, 3-6pm * Montgomery Biscuits Riverwalk Stadium
WHO’S READY FOR SOME CRAWFISH?! Reduced price EARLY BUG tickets are on sale until March 3. VIP tickets are available until they sell out. Both of these tickets allow early admission at 2 PM. VIP includes priority seating and a free event t-shirt and koozie. General Admission and day of ticket sales will be admitted at 3 PM. All tickets include: ALL YOU CAN EAT crawfish and fixins (Corn, Potatoes, Conecuh Sausage), Live Entertainment, Admission to the Biscuits Baseball Game, and a free fireworks show. Tickets available at www.mudbugball.com.
“Mamma Mia” at Gogue Performing Arts Center
March 25 at 7 PM * Auburn, Alabama
A mother. A daughter. Three possible dads. And a trip down the aisle you’ll never forget! Set on a Greek island paradise where the sun always shines, a tale of love, friendship and identity is beautifully told through the timeless hits of ABBA. For nearly 25 years, people around the world have fallen in love with the characters, story and music that make “MAMMA MIA!” the ultimate feel-good show. Tickets: 334.844.TIXS (8497) or email gpactickets@auburn.edu.
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Montgomery Botanical Gardens Presents "Garen Design for Year-Round Color" Class Saturday, March 15, at 10am
Instructor: Ethel Boykin, Horticulturist and Founder of MBG Come and bring a friend. No admission fee, donations appreciated, and no pre-registration required. Bench seating is available but you may bring a folding chair. Bottled Water will be provided.
Location: In the Wisdom Wood Outdoor Classroom Montgomery Botanical Gardens at Oak Park 1010 Forest Ave. (Across from Jackson Hospital) FOR MORE INFORMATION: www.montgomerybotanicalgardens.com
Caregiver of the Month Spotlight: Teressa Goodson
For the month of March, we proudly recognize Teressa Goodson as our Caregiver of the Month! Teressa consistently demonstrates extraordinary dedication and compassion in her work. She not only assists with daily needs but also provides invaluable emotional support, making a real difference in the lives of our clients and their families. Her reliability and genuine care are truly remarkable. Thank you, Teressa, for being such a vital part of our team! For more information visit www.homecareassistancemontgomery.com.
The Fab Four: USA Meets the Beatles
Saturday, March 8, 7:30 PM * Montgomery Performing Arts Center
If you want to experience the best Beatles tribute ever, you won’t want to miss The Fab Four-The Ultimate Tribute. The 2025 tour brings their all-new show to the stage, celebrating The Beatles’ first visit to the USA, with performances from the Ed Sullivan show and the Meet The Beatles album, as well as the Beatles’ greatest hits of every era. The Emmy Award Winning Fab Four is elevated far above every other Beatles Tribute due to their precise attention to detail. https://www.ticketmaster.com/
Selma to Montgomery Relay & Bike Ride
Saturday, March 15 *
6am
Starts in Selma and ends at the capitol in Montgomery The Civil Rights Race Series will be hosting the Selma to Montgomery 51-Mile Relay Race and Bike Ride to commemorate the 1965 world-renowned march led by Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. The race will start in Selma, Alabama, and end at the state capitol in Montgomery, Alabama. Register at www.selmatomontgomeryrelay.com/.
Montgomery Smooth Jazz Fest
March 14 * Riverwalk Amphitheatre
The Montgomery Smooth Jazz Festival celebrates various music genres with an emphasis on Smooth Jazz and R & B. Now in our 3rd year, the festival will provide two days of outstanding performances for national jazz and R & B artists. Our main stage at the Riverfront Amphitheater will feature live performances accentuated with large video screens including a specially designed interactive screen allowing the artists to stylishly operate harmoniously with the music. Artists include Boney James, Leela James, Evelyn “Champagne” King, and many more. Get tickets and more information at https://www.montgomerysmoothjazzfestival.org/
Frazer Offers GriefShare Support Group
This GriefShare group is offered for anyone who has lost a loved one. We use the new GriefShare 4.0 video-based curriculum followed by discussion concerning the stages of grief, the storms that come with it, and ways of dealing with loss.
Frazer Church-East Sanctuary, 6000 Atlanta Hwy, Montgomery, AL 10:00 AM–12:00 PM, Weekly on Wednesday
CONTACT: BJ Nave rnave@frazer.church 334.495.6343
45th High School Reunion Gathering of Robert E. Lee High School Students
The class of 1979 from Robert E Lee High School had a 45th reunion gathering. Everyone enjoyed a lot of good food, fellowship and outdoor fun! Big thanks to Sara Case and Caroline Gomez for organizing. Everyone who attended isn’t pictured but we had about 75 in attendance! Go Generals, always!
“Yes! And...?” Beginning Improv Workshop
March 11-April 8 * Cloverdale Playhouse
Our workshop is designed to teach you the basic techniques of improvisation through short form sketch work and games. Come play with us and learn skills to make you a
Rejected Movie Sequels
If it's March, it's Oscar month, and this year, a sequel ("Dune: Part Two") is nominated for Best Picture. This doesn't happen often, and it's even rarer for a sequel to win that coveted award, with only two sequels having won Best Picture - do you know which? (Answers below).
Sometimes, however, Hollywood hits a home run with sequels to hit movies ("Back to the Future" and "Star Wars"). But they also strike out ("The Sting II"). Then, there are proposed sequels that never make it into production, such as the examples below. And if you believe these, I've got a script to sell you about a sequel to a landmark 1969 counterculture film featuring two bikers who take to the road again, but this time suffer from severe motion sickness – "Queasy Rider":
- Based on the success of a classic 1942 patriotic musical, MGM wanted its star to return in a comedy about a New England entrepreneur who attempts to start a business manufacturing sweet treats for pampered pooches. But the idea was scrapped when Jimmy Cagney refused to appear in "Yankee Poodle Candy."
- Although this 1946 film about returning World War II veterans won seven Academy Awards, RKO couldn't convince the cast to reunite for a film where the men discovered how their lonely wives had formed a brewing club to promote their favorite brands. So, alas, we never got to see "The Best Beers of Our Wives."
- Alfred Hitchcock showed no interest in directing a sequel to his avian thriller, "The Birds," despite Universal Pictures proposed catchy new title: "12 Angry Wren."
- Woody Allan failed to embrace suggestions from Orion Pictures to follow up one of his popular 80s comedies, this
time featuring an aspiring hairdresser who practices on her siblings. So he declined to make "Hannah and Her Scissors."
- This drama sequel would have featured an eccentric high school English teacher with an aversion to using small grammatical phrases in the classroom. But "Rebel without a Clause" was never produced.
- The plot for this Sci-Fi horror sequel focused on an infectious skin disease spreading through a city, causing its demented victims to wander the streets at night, driven crazy by the itchy lesions. But no one wanted to direct "Invasion of the Body Scratchers."
- Based on a 1945 John Wayne film, this sequel would have capitalized on modern reality shows and followed the mishaps of a group of ultra-thin contestants attempting to gain weight. But the Wayne estate was not impressed with the script for "They Were Expandable."
- In what would have been a tense psychological thriller, this sequel script called for a famous British actor to portray a gardener who believed his root vegetables were sending him psychopathic urges telepathically. But Anthony Hopkins had no interest in returning for "Silence of the Yams."
- Finally, speaking of plant-themed sequels, it's hard to imagine the lack of enthusiasm for a historical biopic revealing that a city-wide shortage of exotic fruit was the real cause of the French Revolution. And yet, no one wanted to finance "Last Mango in Paris."
("The Godfather Part II" in 1974 and "The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King" in 2003). Nick Thomas teaches at Auburn University at Montgomery and has written features, columns, and interviews for many newspapers and magazines. See www.getnickt.org.
neurobiology at UC Berkeley, Brizendine graduated from Yale School of Medicine and did her internship and residency at Harvard Medical School. She founded the Women's Mood and Hormone Clinic at UC San Francisco and is a practicing psychiatrist.
The brain expert and author of "The Female Brain" and "The Male Brain," who is 70, identifies critical times in a woman's life based on hormonal changes. She also changed the terms for these periods to better explain them.
This book is about women, but it also has some critical learnings for men. Brizendine says she's heard from many men who buy and read the books to understand better and support women going through these changes.
The Hormonal War Zone
Brizendine describes "The Upgrade" in her book as "the wisdom phase that emerges after spending decades in the hormonal war zone."
But what is the hormonal war zone? Our hormonal war zone, says Brizendine, starts at puberty and ends at menopause. During these roughly 35 years, a combination of ovarian hormones, adrenal hormones and brain and nervous system chemicals have constantly changed and affected our bodies and behaviors. Brizendine defines and explains all of these terms as if she were conversing with you, not like you're reading a science textbook.
Ovarian hormones prepare and sustain the body for pregnancy and have other functions.These hormones include estrogen (controls brain energy, inflammation, mood, mental ability and affectionate behavior), progesterone (makes you want to be comfortable and cozy, as well as creating the "brain fog" during pregnancy), and testosterone (drives libido, muscle stimulation and zest for life).
Adrenal hormones include adrenaline (which provides bursts of energy to respond to danger), cortisol (which regulates your body's stress, emotional reactions and metabolism), and DHEA (which counteracts cortisol, decreases depression, increases sex drive and causes acne and body odor).
Finally, brain and nervous system chemicals include follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH), which triggers the
creation of follicles in the ovary to get the best eggs ready for fertilization; luteinizing hormone (LH), which brings the egg to release; oxytocin, which moves together with estrogen and leads to a bonding effect, and GABA (gammaaminobutyric acid) which acts as the body's natural Valium.
All of these hormones have a profound effect on the brain. Says Brizendine, "Waves of LH, FSH, estrogen, oxytocin and testosterone temporarily reorganize brain networks and stimulate qualities like memory, language and affection, peaking around ovulation."
The Transition
Between 45 and 55, women begin "The Transition," formerly known as perimenopause, which is "the developmental phase of a woman's life when the brain and body enter unfamiliar territory as the reproductive-phase circuits are finishing their job," says Brizendine.
This is often a time when our hormones feel totally out of whack. It's also a good time for women to consider Hormone Therapy (HT), she says, and not just for hot flashes. If you're nervous about trying HT, you're not alone.
"The Women's Health Initiative study in 2002 set women back for many years by saying hormone therapy could lead to an increased risk of breast cancer and heart disease," says Brizendine. "Those findings were later found to be untrue, but doctors today are still wary about prescription hormone therapy."
Yet, for many women going through the transition, HT's estrogen and progesterone "can soften the wildness of the waves by calming the brain's spiky demands for a dwindling supply in the ovaries," says Brizendine.
Plus, every tissue and organ in the body uses hormones. "Estrogen helps with vascular health, and the brain has estrogen receptors all over it," says Brizendine. HT can help neutralize the glitchy, brain fog symptoms that may occur during perimenopause and beyond.
While hormones are the show's star, many other psychological growth phases occur during the transition, including shifting identities and moving toward authenticity. "The transition marks a change in our relationships and societal roles," says Brizendine.
The Upgrade
This is when women are "emerging into the most powerful identity phase," says Brizendine, previously known as menopause or postmenopause. It may be the understatement of the year, but I like the term Upgrade vs menopause, don't you? Here's why Brizendine changed it:
"'Perimenopause' and 'menopause' are fossil words created by men at pharmaceutical companies," Brizendine writes. "These words arose as men studied how to maintain elasticity and fullness in the parts of our bodies they, as cisgender men, like to interact with, i.e., breasts and vaginas. I don't believe they encompass the full scope of the Upgrade, and so I decline to use them, other than in this note explaining my reasons."
The Upgrade can take over a decade and continue for the rest of a woman's life. During this phase, the female brain can make changes accessible to its wiring during the reproductive stage. Ultimately, the Upgrade is "about realizing you have a choice about your path in the second half of life," says Brizendine.
Benefits You Can Expect During the Upgrade
In the book, Brizendine shares these positives you can enjoy during the Upgrade:
● Directness. Brizendine explains that younger women's brains use estrogen to get along with others for reproductive purposes biologically. During the Upgrade, new hormonal influences motivate us to speak up.
● Focus. During the Upgrade, our brains can only hold one thought. Instead of dealing with the anxiety of multitasking, we can become more engaged, focused and thorough in our actions.
● Validation from within. Since our fertility hormones are no longer driving our need for external approval, we are more confident in our wisdom and experience.
● The return of fearlessness. Our hormones are no longer driving us to please others, so we can often find the courage to try new things during the Upgrade.
● Freedom. Without the "urges, obsessions and delusions that your fertility hormones created around relationships and intimacy," your brain is free "to explore and expand intellectually and emotionally."
The 3 Necessary Ingredients
Brizendine (or anyone) can't wave a magic wand and make everything wonderful during the Upgrade. You'll have to put in a little work. Luckily, she has a formula. "You can sleep, eat and exercise your way to an Upgrade," she says. Here's how:
1. Sleep. "Sleep is important for every life function," says Brizendine, "especially for brain function." As your brain is getting used to the hormonal changes during the Upgrade, it needs sleep to reset and recharge.
However, sleep can be more difficult as you age. "As women age, their nighttime sleep can be less steady because of drops in estrogen and hot flashes, among other things," says Brizendine. Sleep interruptions contribute to short-term memory loss.
Brizendine doesn't recommend using prescription and over-the-counter sleep aids. They contain chemicals that block the brain's ability to lay down memory pathways, she writes, which can lead to forgetfulness, confusion, falls and even the feeling that you have dementia.
Instead, she recommends a series of actions that help you sleep better. These include getting direct sunlight, vigorous exercise before 3 p.m., limiting yourself to one cup of something caffeinated in the morning at the most, eliminating alcohol at night, eating protein and
nonstarchy vegetables at night, finishing dinner by 6 p.m., and shutting off tech at least 30 minutes before you go to sleep.
Keep your bedroom between 66 and 68 degrees, which is optimal for sleeping. You can use blankets. I shared my favorite line with my husband: "If your spouse complains, tell him to man up and get a heating pad." Brizendine also suggests a short nap (20 minutes) before 4 p.m. if you've gotten under six hours of sleep.
2. Food and Drink.
Unhealthy foods we could get away with eating when we were younger have a more significant effect on our microbiome during the Upgrade, says Brizendine. The microbiome includes the cells and bacteria in our intestines that are essential to keeping our immune systems healthy.
That means that sugar and processed food cause more inflammation, drive higher weight gain and decrease brain function during this phase. What should you eat to optimize your Upgrade experience?
A 2023 study found that the Mediterranean diet was associated with a lower incidence of brain decline in older adults. Brizendine recommends following the plan, which includes lean proteins, leafy greens and a small amount of healthy fats.
She follows the Mediterranean diet, with a particular emphasis on eating a good amount of protein. Protein is crucial for muscle building and strength, and Brizendine aims for 100 grams of protein each day and a minimum of 80 grams daily. She also suggests eating foods high in fiber. Fiber encourages the brain's regeneration, which can help protect
it from Parkinson's and Alzheimer's diseases.
Strong muscles are
Be careful with your wine consumption, Brizendine says. Stick to only one glass of wine per day. Otherwise, alcohol becomes an inflammatory to the brain and can even lead to permanent brain damage.
Timing your eating and drinking is essential, too. Brizendine suggests allowing 12 to 16 hours between dinner and breakfast. "It stresses the metabolism in a good way, just like building muscles in the gym," she says. "Giving the GI tract a rest during these hours helps the microbiome flourish."
3. Movement. "Sarcopenia means the wasting away of muscles, and starting at age 35, our muscles start to break down," says Brizendine. "We need to counteract it by stimulating muscles through exercise and eating protein."
Brizendine offers these parting words: "You can't help getting older, but you can take control of what your life looks like as you get older. We can get older and get better. Don't give up." Courtesy
Barrie & Laura Harmon
Barrie and Laura Harmon's journey is a testament to a life well-lived, marked by love, service, and resilience. Both lifelong Montgomery natives, they met by chance in a grocery store checkout line, a serendipitous encounter that blossomed into a marriage lasting 45 years. Barrie's dedication to the insurance industry through Harmon-Dennis-Bradshaw and the couple's commitment to education and philanthropy have left a lasting impact on their community. Passionate supporters of the arts, education, and local charities, they continue to pour their hearts into making Montgomery a better place—one act of kindness at a time.
BOOM: Let's start with your story. Can you share a bit about where you both grew up and how you met?
Laura: Both of us are lifelong natives of Montgomery and graduated from Sydney Lanier High School. Afterward, Barrie attended The University of Alabama with a degree in business. I graduated from Wesleyan College with a degree in social education. After moving back to Montgomery, we were both living the "single life" and, by chance, met in the checkout line of the A&P grocery store in Cloverdale. This eventually led to a wedding on Friday the 13th (for good luck), which has lasted 45 years and is based on mutual respect and appreciation of our personalities.
BOOM: Life is full of both mountaintop moments and valleys. In 2005, you
Unforgettable trip to Ephesus.
Travel has always been a big part of the Harmon's marriage.
Region, and how have you seen your involvement impact others and your own lives?
Laura: Living in Montgomery our entire lives makes us realize the importance of making our community a better place. The Montgomery community enhanced and benefitted our lives through business, friends, churches, and various philanthropy activities. We are very involved and supportive of the arts, including ASF, MMFA, Alabama Dance Theatre, Montgomery Symphony, etc., but we also have a strong commitment to various charities and organizations that serve the underserved citizens of our community.
We are especially active in the Montgomery Christian School, Boys &
Girls Clubs, Mercy House, Common Ground, Central Alabama Community Foundation, Valiant Cross Academy, and Bridge Builders. Philanthropy feeds on itself in that the more you give, the more rewarding it becomes. I think we derived this community commitment from our parents, who were also very
In addition, we are very fortunate that our charitable and philanthropy goals and commitments have created two of us. We have both benefited from life in the Montgomery community and thus, we feel an obligation to serve and elevate the quality of life.
BOOM: Montgomery Christian School holds a special place in your hearts. Why has it become such a meaningful part of your lives? What excites you most about its growth and the generational impact it's having on families in the community?
Laura: Montgomery Christian School holds a special place in our
hearts because of its success and religious mission. To fully appreciate the unique success of MCS, you must understand its very modest beginnings as a preschool at Trinity Church in 2005 with only a few students. Today, under the current leadership of Headmaster Pam Mclemore and the Board of Directors, their success is unprecedented. Their grade levels are above public-school performance in math 163%, reading 143%, and writing 45%.
The Harmons with Michael Bolton as sponsors of his concert at ASF.
At Yosemite National Park in California
Barrie and Laura with daughter, Stephanie.
Every child who has graduated from the 6th grade has been awarded a full scholarship to Magnet and Lamp Programs as well as local private schools. 100% of the students who attended MCS from K-5 graduated from high school. This is remarkable as education is the cornerstone of our society, and MCS is providing opportunities to our underserved community.
Because of the growth and reputation, there are currently 80 students on the waiting list, which has necessitated a capital campaign that is in the process of purchasing the Aldersgate Methodist Church facility.
BOOM: Community is often built through shared passions. As avid Alabama football and basketball fans, how has following the Tide created meaningful friendships and traditions for your family over the years?
Laura: We have a mixed Alabama/ Auburn marriage in that we both have family Alabama and Auburn allegiances. College football has always been a passion for both of us and has generated an occasionally lively conversation. However, with age, the conversation has been modified to some degree.
BOOM: Travel seems to be another passion you both share. From cruising the seas to European adventures, what have been some of your most memorable trips? And what is it about travel that continues to fuel your curiosity and connection?
Laura: We are very fortunate to have the opportunity to travel extensively. It is an adventure to experience other cultures, religions, history, etc., and we have traveled to some very exotic destinations like Africa, India, China, Morocco, and most European countries. In addition, as we age and mature, cruises have become a very relaxing method of travel.
time in the mountains, and how does it balance out your active life in Montgomery?
L aura: We are fortunate to have a vacation home in Highlands, which has become our retreat and sanctuary in July when the temperature is 75 degrees. A roaring fire and a glass of wine are the perfect forms of relaxation. Highlands provides a setting to restore the mind and soul. This is where we go to slow down and recharge.
BOOM: As you both look back on your lives so far, what advice would you offer to others about aging well?
BOOM: How has having a home in Highlands, North Carolina, become a retreat for you? What do you love most about spending
Laura: Aging is a reality that is difficult to grasp sometimes. You must put your life in perspective as your priorities change. lt's imperative that you maintain a positive attitude and continue to be active.
We want to thank the Harmons for sharing some of their story with us this month. If you have comments or suggestions about our cover profiles, including nominating someone, please text Jason Watson at 334.328.5189 or email jason@riverregionboom.com.
In Highlands, North Carolina with family.
United Way presenting check to Service Dogs of Alabama.
Vacationing in Ireland.
When Irene Glowinski packs grocery bags for critically ill patients and Cheryl White brings her trained service dog to visit hospitals and "read" to children at an elementary school, they recognize the good they're doing for others. But these volunteers don't generally think of the good they're doing for themselves.
Volunteering can benefit your health, says Angela Thoreson, a psychotherapist with Mayo Clinic Health System in Albert Lea and Austin, Minnesota. As she has written, "Research has shown that volunteering offers significant health benefits, especially for older adults."
These benefits can be divided into five broad categories. Let's look at them in sections with some examples from real life.
1. Volunteering Can Improve Physical Health
"Volunteers report better physical health than non-volunteers," says Thoreson. She mentions the release of dopamine, a brain chemical that leads to positive, relaxed feelings and reduced stress. Studies show this can lower the risk of heart disease, stroke, depression, and other illnesses.
"People who volunteer have lower mortality rates than those who do not, even when controlling for age, gender and physical health," she writes.
Since 2021, Glowinski has volunteered for three hours a week — or more — at Food & Friends in Washington, D.C., a nonprofit that delivers medically vetted meals and groceries to critically ill neighbors over 5,000+ square miles (1.2 million total deliveries a year). Packing grocery bags, the volunteer teams are on
their feet and moving constantly, lifting and shifting containers of beans, fruit, pasta, tomato sauce and so on.
Glowinski has trained and done aerobics for decades, which helps. Lifting weights and strengthening muscles "can help prevent or control conditions as varied as heart disease, diabetes, arthritis and osteoporosis," according to a Harvard Medical School publication for older adults.
Dog lovers can improve their own health by using well-trained canines to improve people's lives. Volunteers at The Dog Alliance, based in Cedar Park, Texas, provide service dogs for disabled veterans and first responders; certify therapy dogs and handlers to help children read and reduce stress for hospital patients and employees; offer summer camps and dog training to the public; and more.
Cheryl White has volunteered since 2011. She's a Hounds for Heroes puppy raiser. In addition, she and Boudreaux — a Great Pyrenees/Catahoula mix — take
part in a "read to a dog" program at an Austin elementary school and visit staff and patients at a hospital.
Hospital work involves a lot of walking. Having retired from teaching six years ago, White is glad that volunteering gets her out of the house and moving. Boudreaux is in demand, so there's a lot of ground to cover — six floors in 60 to 90 minutes.
2. Volunteering Can Improve Mental Health
"Research also has shown that volunteering leads to lower rates of depression and anxiety, especially for people 65 and older," Thoreson writes. "By spending time in service to others, volunteers report feeling a sense of meaning and appreciation, both given and received, which can have a stressreducing effect."
Meeting people and talking to them engages the brain, White notes, while "interacting with children and having fun — mental health goes with that. No depression there." Her therapy dog,
whether meeting a patient or a staff member, "is the gateway for others to feel better. Of course, I've got him all the time."
"It makes me feel good to be doing this," says Glowinski, who directs the groceries she compiles at Food & Friends into bags labeled for people suffering from diabetes, cancer, renal disease, and other maladies. "As clichéd as the term is, I can tell I'm making a difference. The clients are thoroughly vetted, and you know these people are truly, truly in need."
3. Volunteering Provides a Sense of Purpose
Helping others gives volunteers a sense of purpose and accomplishment, says Thoreson. "The work volunteers provide is essential to everyday activities," she adds. "Older volunteers experience greater increases in life satisfaction and self-esteem."
White's parents "did for others," so she had role models. Teaching special education classes also showed her the importance of helping those who have difficulty in life. Now, seeing how much good her therapy dogs have done, "I owe it to people that I can share this," she says. "I feel like it's an obligation: If I can help, I should help."
When clients' lives are literally on the
meet the need. "A whole group of us talk about this," Glowinski says (echoing White): "If we miss a shift, we feel we have to make up the time. We all have the same sense of mission.
4. Volunteering Teaches Valuable Skills — and Draws on Them
Many volunteers learn skills "on the job"; others bring or hone abilities they've learned elsewhere. Part of volunteering may be mentoring others. All of this, Thoreson suggests, keeps both mind and social skills active.
White has put in years of training and practice with her dogs, from basic obedience to "canine citizen" classes to specific therapy work. The Dog Alliance has booked about 2,000 volunteer hours from her since 2011.
While a dog is "reading" with a child, for example, her role is to monitor the dog for stress or discomfort. At the hospital, employees under stress and patients in physical or emotional pain all find release in nuzzling and confiding in the dog. Years of teaching special-needs children certainly add to White's skill set.
5. Volunteering Nurtures New and Existing Relationships
"One of the best ways to make new
many cases, volunteers have diverse backgrounds, which helps expand their social network and allows them to practice social skills with others."
While hospital patients are petting Boudreaux, White talks with them. "It's good socialization time, good to make connections," she says. "When you see the same doctors and nurses all the time, you get to know them too. I enjoy that."
In fact, one nurse asked whether White made rounds at the elementary school, then exclaimed, "My daughter knows your dog!"
"Just through the dog, I got to know the mom more, and then I got to know the daughter," White says.
After nearly two years of chatty weekly shifts with fellow volunteers, "we're developing friendships," Glowinski says. Texts, phone calls, lunch after shift — these are all building blocks. "Yes, you develop new relationships with these people. Not a bad thing, right?" she laughs.
In fact, regular connection — including steady volunteer work together — helps people make and keep friendships, and studies show that friendships are important to healthy aging.
Alabama Ranks in the Top 10 States for Identity Theft: DON’T BECOME A VICTIM!
Montgomery and Tuscaloosa ranked in the 25 worst cities for identity theft per capita in the first half of 2023 and Alabama ranked as the eighth worst state in the country. The year 2023 was the worst year on record thus far for identity theft, with more than 500,000 complaints filed in the first half of the year for the country. Identity theft takes different forms, including tax returns, government benefits like Social Security, medical insurance, credit cards, bank accounts, and other types of financial accounts.
Susan Moore of Moore Wealth Management, Inc. (MWM) in Montgomery, AL, conducts a free workshop/webinar every year in March on techniques to prevent identity theft. The workshop is updated every year to include new types of identity theft that are occurring and new measures to counteract them. This year’s workshop will be conducted by webinar on Wednesday, March 26th, from noon to 1:30 p.m., and it is complimentary and without obligation. There will be both a live and recorded version. Please call the Moore Wealth Management office for further information or reservations at 334.270.1672 or email Sarah@ moorewealthmanagement.com. If you miss the webinar, we also offer free consultations that are without obligation. Webinar participants receive an action plan containing things to do to minimize the chances that they become victims of identity theft. Topics include methods to protect your credit rating, credit, and debit cards, as well as banking and brokerage accounts. We review
Financial Thoughts with Susan Moore
By Susan Clayton Moore, J.D. Principal of Moore Wealth Management, Inc.
how criminals use scanners to collect information on cards used at ATMs, gas pumps, and convenience stores. We cover how to protect your electronic exposure on the internet, your computer, and your cell phone, including passwords and logins, encryption, secure emails, computer hacking and viruses, spyware, and malware.
Some of the areas of identity theft that are growing the fastest are medical insurance fraud, fraudulent tax returns, and Social Security benefits. We discuss how to monitor and protect these areas where retirees are especially vulnerable.
Finally, we go over common-sense techniques to thwart some of the most common ways thieves get access to your identity. For example, you should never mail payments on your bills from your mailbox at home. You should shred your boarding passes from airline
flights because they contain sensitive information hidden in the bar codes on the passes.
We conduct a variety of workshops and seminars at MWM. The mission statement of MWM is very simple: “and then some.” We attempt to do what is expected, what is required, “and then some.” The Identity Theft workshop is part of our monthly “and then some” workshops. In addition, MWM conducts monthly current events and market updates that attempt to explain what is going on in the financial world. If you would like to be on the mailing list or receive email notifications of upcoming seminars, please call 334.270.1672.
Susan Clayton Moore, J.D., is a financial advisor and wealth manager of Moore Wealth Management, Inc., with offices in Montgomery and Alexander City, AL. Susan has under advisement over $150 million (as of 9.1.24) in brokerage and advisory assets through Kestra Financial and has been a financial planner for over 40 years. Contact Susan at 334.270.1672. Email contact is susan@moorewealthmanagement.com.
The opinions expressed in this commentary are those of the author and may not necessarily reflect those held by Kestra Investment Services, LLC or Kestra Advisory Services, LLC. This is for general information only and is not intended to provide specific investment advice or recommendations for any individual. It is suggested that you consult your financial professional, attorney or tax advisor regarding your individual situation. Securities offered through Kestra Investment Services, LLC (Kestra IS), member FINRA/SIPC. Investment Advisory Services offered through Kestra Advisory Services, LLC (Kestra AS), an affiliate of Kestra IS. Kestra IS or Kestra AS are not affiliated with Moore Wealth Management, Inc. https://www. kestrafinancial.com/disclosures.
