september 2013
Because it Could Be You
Rochester Personal Defense
Learning Through Adventure:
Ooey Gooey
For The Love of Nursing:
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SPECIAL FEATURE: Creating A Strong Foundation 18 FOR A GOOD CAUSE: Cancer Wellness Connection 20 LOCAL BUSINESS MATTERS: The Science of Living 23 LEADING WOMAN: For the Love of Nursing
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IN HER OWN WORDS: I Thought I Was Alone
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COVER STORY: An Educational Powerhouse
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LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHERS Personal Defense has a course that teaches women the best techniques to ward off any attackers. Flip to page [??], to read about our associate editor Ashley Cooper’s experience.
“All of life is a constant education.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt A good education is important to success, whether it’s a formal education or the lessons life is constantly teaching us. If we are not constantly learning, then accomplishing anything is life is almost impossible. For these reasons, we publish an issue focusing solely on education each year. We feature the people and companies that are making a difference in the education of our children and also young adults. One group of women that is making a difference in a big way are the women of The Million Dollar Women’s Education Club. The founders, Elaine DelMonte, Jennifer Sands, Beth Anne Napier, J. Christine Wilson and Jan August have joined forces to raise funds to help educate at-risk youth in our community. You will learn more about this organization and their inspiring story on page [??]. Laying the ground work for learning early in life is important to future educational success. Lisa Murphy, founder of Ooey Gooey, travels the country conducting seminars educating parents and teachers on what she considers the seven essentials of early education. These essentials include creating, moving, singing, discussing, observing, reading and playing. Read her story on page [??]. Statistics say that a woman living in the United States has a 25 to 26 percent chance of being raped in her lifetime. It is for that reason that women need to prepare themselves for every situation. Rochester
Since 1910 the Boy Scouts of America (BSA) have been molding young men into responsible adults and leaders in their communities. Along the way, society has changed and BSA has tried to change along with it. The leadership of the local BSA includes three incredible women: Annemarie Cook, Valerie Kalwas and Rebecca Leclair. Turn to page [??] to see how they are helping the organization face new challenges from today’s society. Mark your calendar for Sunday, Nov. 3, for our Ultimate Women’s Expo at Eastview Mall. Come and enjoy more than 150 vendors, live entertainment, an incredible fashion show and much more. If you have a business and want to be a vendor, there are still a few spaces are limited and they are going fast so contact us today, (585) 287-5362. RWM has many great events planned for this fall, be sure to check out our Facebook page, www.facebook.com/ RochesterWomanMagazine, for all of the latest details.
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Creative DIRECTOR Kelly Breuer
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Madelaine Britt Kristine Bruneau Sarah Jane Clifford Rebecca Even Amber Houston Sadie Kulhanek Joan Lincoln Amy Long Nadia Pierre Louis Angella Luyk Nicole Shein Kathy Smith Brandy White Whitbourne
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MOVIES
The Family - Sept 13 A mafia boss and his family are relocated to a sleepy town in France under the witness protection program after snitching on the mob. Despite the best efforts of Agent Stansfield to keep them in line, Fred Manzoni, his wife Maggie and their children can’t help but revert to old habits and blow their cover by handling their problems the “family” way, enabling their former mafia cronies to track them down.
Rush – Sept 20 Set against the sexy and glamorous golden age of Formula 1 racing, Rush portrays the exhilarating true story of two of the greatest rivals the world has ever witnessed—handsome English playboy James Hunt and his methodical, brilliant opponent, Niki Lauda. Rush follows the two drivers as they push themselves to the breaking point of physical and psychological endurance, where there is no shortcut to victory and no margin for error.
Prisoners – Sept 20 How far would you go to protect your child? Keller Dover is facing every parent’s worst nightmare. His sixyear-old daughter, Anna, is missing, together with her young friend, Joy, and as minutes turn to hours, panic sets in. Knowing his child’s life is at stake, the frantic Dover decides he has no choice but to take matters into his own hands.
Cloudy 2– Sept 27 Cloudy 2 picks up where the first movie left off, with Flint Lockwood discovering that his evil machine which turns water into food is still operating and now creating mutant food beasts. With the fate of humanity in his hands, Flint and his friends must embark on a dangerously delicious mission, battling hungry tacodiles, shrimpanzees, apple pie-thons, double bacon cheespiders and other food creatures to save the world… again.
OUT & ABOUT 7th Annual Empowering Women Luncheon–10/8 The YWCA is hosting the annual Empowering Women Luncheon at the Rochester Riverside Convention Center on October 8th. This year’s speaker is the Editor Emerita of Essence Magazine, Susan L. Taylor. Taylor’s story is one of true inspiration and empowerment for woman. At 24, she was separated, broke and had a daughter to support. Today, she is at the head of one of the most successful African American owned businesses and is flourishing as a fourth generation entrepreneur. Taylor will be sharing her ways of finding fulfillment and success in both personal and professional life. From her story she hopes to inspire and encourage women to reclaim their lives. Her novel, All About Love: Favorite Selections from in the Spirit on Living Fearlessly will be available at the luncheon and a book signing will be following it. The YWCA has been provided shelter and support to women and children since 1883. Attendance and support of the luncheon can further help the needs of women and children in the area. Tickets are available at ywcarochester.org. You can purchase an individual ticket for $60, or have a table for yourself and your friends and colleagues, a total of ten people, for $600. Sponsorship opportunities are also available. For more information contact the YWCA at 585-368-2260 or visit www.ywcarochester.org
Rochester Yoga Festival – October 6 A one day yoga festival showcasing both the wide ranging styles of yoga practiced in the Rochester area and some of our talented, enthusiastic local instructors is being held at the Saint John Fisher Varsity Gym on October 6, 2013 from 9:00 AM to 4:30 PM. Yoga is practiced in a diverse array of forms by people of all ages and fitness levels all over the world. The Rochester Yoga Festival is an event that was created to embrace and celebrate that inclusive spirit. Several styles of yoga that are practiced in our area will be featured, including Baptiste Power Vinyasa yoga, Yin-style restorative yoga, Hatha yoga, and Iyengar yoga. Instructors will include Cyndi Weis from Breathe Yoga Studios, Enrique Fulchi from Atman Yoga, Karen Reisdorf from Blue Pearl Yoga, and Cindy Edington from Tranquil Heart Wellness and Inspire Yoga. There will be four group yoga sessions held throughout the day, a short meditation, health and wellness vendors, and even live drummers and a henna tattoo artist. The Rochester Yoga Festival will offer a fun and easy way for Rochesterians to sample a style of yoga that might be new to them or perhaps to try yoga for the first time. Practicing yoga in a larger group also offers a different experience. According to Festival Director Amy Mercovich, “When many people get together to do yoga, there is an amazing energy that is created that makes you feel happy and alive. Then, the icing on the cake is that when you go home, you want to be nicer to yourself and your family.”
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Casual Elegance in the East End
Fraiche Bistro
By Nicole Shein | Photos by Brandon Vick
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Fraiche Bistro and Dessert Bar doesn’t have a menu that fills several pages, or a list of specialty cocktails that leaves your head spinning before you’ve even had a sip. What it does have is a clean, minimalist interior and a simple selection of offerings that belies the attention given to each dish. Fraiche bills itself as “French-influenced” but is clearly not bound by strict adherence to traditional cuisine. I doubt that you’ll see a boozy, coffee-anddoughnuts milkshake, for example, listed on the chalkboard outside any bistro in Paris. Nevertheless, the bistro concept – prepare a few dishes, prepare them well, and serve them without a lot of fuss or frippery – is evident in the End End establishment. Black wooden tables and chairs, stark white walls, wrought iron chandeliers, and floor-to-ceiling windows contribute to the bistro’s casual elegance. The space feels at once open yet intimate, with a small bar and two distinct dining areas, one of which features a wooden farmhouse table and couch-like seating for larger parties. Since the menu at Fraiche features local produce, says owner Kathy Christa, the menu reflects seasonal offerings and is destined to be reinvented several times a year. One of the two entrees I tried, the Market Fraiche pasta dish, seemed the pure embodiment of fresh summer tastes in a bowl. Atop a foundation of house-made pappardelle and cleverly shaved summer squash, which itself resembled wide, flat noodles, was piled sweet corn, crisp-tender sugar snap peas, and cherry tomatoes. With herbs like basil and mint as garnish, and the vegetables and pasta swimming in a light sherry sauce, this dish was almost soup-like, reminding me of an inventive, seasonal take on pho. Pork tenderloin with a plum chutney was more autumnal, since the meat was wrapped in pancetta and had a predominate flavor of rosemary. The chutney, a brilliant red in hue, complemented the pork like a good fruit side dish is meant to do. Creamy, herbed goat cheese risotto and a piquant field-greens salad, also topped with goat cheese as well as slivered almonds and rings of red onion, accompanied the tenderloin. Christa’s background is as a pastry chef, and she almost opened Fraiche simply as a dessert bar. One of the favorite desserts, she says, is her signature bread pudding. These come served as individual, towering cakes, crusty and caramelized a deep brown. Cut into this confection and you’ll get to the heart of what bread pudding is supposed to be: ooey, gooey, custardy, creamy and indubitably comforting. Another of Fraiche’s claims to fame are their hard milkshakes. I’ve heard tell of a caramel pretzel version, but the one I tasted was coffee and doughnuts. It came cleverly served in a mason jar mug, topped with a dollop of fresh whipped cream and a quartered glazed doughtnut perched on the rim. Fraiche gets these from Rochester institution Donuts Delight, and actually blends one into the milkshake itself, which also includes Moonlight Creamery vanilla ice cream, coffee, and espresso vodka. Not sure if this drink qualifies as a cocktail, a dessert or a breakfast food – but they are popular at the bistro’s Sunday brunch. Other menu items include tuna nicoise salad, poutine, French onion soup, a roasted half-chicken with all the trimmings, seared scallops, and bouillabaisse. Fraiche also plans to open for weekday lunches and Saturday brunch, due to popular demand. Fraiche Bistro and Dessert Bar 130 East Ave I (585) 319-4313 I www.fraiche-bistro.com rochesterWomanMag.com :: september 2013
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One in eight women in the US develops breast cancer in her lifetime. It’s time Rochester joins together to make a difference.
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By Joan E. Lincoln
Primitive man used it for warmth and protection. Throughout history it has been a symbol of wealth and power. Animal print saw an emergence in the 1940’s when the women’s liberation movement began. Fashion took hold in the 1950’s when Christian Dior’s muse made the print a desired sign of chic sophistication. The 60’s brought on the Hippie revolution using animal print and introducing color and an “Easy Rider” approach to rebellious, exotic styling. The 1970’s brought the dangerous and wild playful use of animal print in the intimate world of lingerie. The 1980’s, well maybe we shouldn’t go there again, or we should just consult Madonna, Blondie or Bret for an explanation. Several years ago, leopard print was merely a passing trend. But today, the print has graduated from fashion flash in the pan to a wardrobe staple fashion choice. Tiger stripes! Leopard print! Giraffe spots! Oh my! Animal print patterns have survived for decades and appear to be everywhere in the fashion world today. Seen by some as trashy, animal prints are actually one of the longest standing patterns in fashion, seen on everything from lingerie to shoes to blankets and curtains. While animal print might not be the new black, the trick to figuring out what to wear with leopard is to treat it like it is “THE NEW BLACK”. Now I am aware it doesn’t go with as many colors, but it does have the wear-with-everything power that most reserve for your most basic fashion choices. Some experts in the fashion world treat leopard as a classic print. There are millions of versions of leopard, most work others not so much. Some can look hideously cheap while most take on the ultra-cool design and hue. Research has taught me that the yellow can’t look too yellow. It’s a real skill to pick the really gone wrong leopard print from the ugly patterns but that’s where you earn your Fashionista stripes...or sorry, spots! In a new season predatory prints are not only in famous designers’ collections but even in collections of more puritanical brands. There are trenches and coats in Anna Sui, Kenzo, Oscar De La Renta, Prada, and the Carolina Herrera collections. They should be worn with tight black pants or leggings and accentuate your waist with a wide black belt. Let’s face it, leopard print can be dangerous - it is difficult to combine it the right way: to keep refinement and elegance in your image without even a hint to vulgarity. Besides, such clothing certainly attracts attention, being in such clothing
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you must always look great and enjoy admiring glances of those around you. Plus-size women should wear animal print proudly. It is a skill to know what looks best on your frame. Keep the pattern small when choosing to wear animal print on top. Get a little wild and add a splash of color to your outfit by choosing a color splash of jeans or leggings. Fashion is fun; but it still has a few rules, a large print will be overwhelming and bring attention to a larger frame, while a small print will look feminine and complimentary. A- list celebrities have made leopard and animals prints a most popular fashion trend doesn’t want to go away! The red carpet continues to be loaded with a variety of haute-couture featuring what some consider a “closet basic”. There can be a full out animal print couture gown or a classic LBD with leopard trim, or that classic black designer gown with a animal print handbag or shoe added for that punch of excitement. The guarantee is, animal print will make a red carpet appearance! Home decor has encouraged the use of animal print with subtle style. When your guests enter your space you want them to experience the softness of sparingly placed animal print pieces, not the effects of being in a jungle. I find animal print to be alluring, adventurous and down right fun! Style-matters- own your animal instinct! Joan Lincoln owns Panache Vintage and Finer Consignment in Brighton Commons. She can also be heard Thursday mornings during Wake Up With Tony on WARM 101.3 discussing all of the latest fashion trends and styles. rochesterWomanMag.com :: july 2013
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By Ashley Cooper | Photos by Jeff Gerew I said it to myself too many times to count.
In every conversation resulting in a female friend of mine revealing her technique for warding off predators that most often included walking toward her car with keys protruding from the cracks in her ever-clenched fists intending to gauge her foe’s eyes out, I said to myself. In every 5 o’clock news story revealing an unsuspecting female jogger labeled, “missing,” I said it to myself. In every viewing of Taken, the 2008 blockbuster that challenged fathers everywhere to be slightly more Liam Neeson-esque, Taken, I said it…in every episode of Dr. Phil that concluded that the woman at hand’s psychological hiccups stem from being a victim of sexual abuse as a child, I said it again… That sort of thing always happens to someone else. And while I may be fortunate enough to never experience this kind of assault, the unfortunate truth is that there are no guarantees for anyone…and the facts are the facts. -A woman living in the United States has a 25 to 26 percent chance of being raped in her lifetime (1 in 4). (Greenberg, Bruess and Haffner, 573; Horowitz, 413; Lips, 233) - Girls ages 16-24 have the highest chances of becoming victims of rape…2-3 times higher. (Norment, 152; Rathus, Nevid and FichnerRathus, 565) According to the National Health and Social Life Survey, sexual assault occurs in a variety of circumstances, not solely from dangers. (Someone with whom the respondent was in love: 46% Someone that the respondent knew well: 22% Acquaintance: 19% Spouse: 9% Stranger: 4%; Rathus, Nevid and Fichner-Rathus, 565) As a young, single twenty-something often out-and-about in the city, I have often wondered what the likelihood would be of me defending myself should I ever experience an assault. But like most other unpleasant, thoughts, I quickly dismissed the notion and went to my go-to: not me, never me. I now wonder how many other women, how many victims, how many survivors, thought the same thing… When the opportunity arose to participate in a women’s self-defense course, I admit I was a little leary. In spite of my efforts to approach all new experiences with an open mind, entertaining the possibility that I could potentially ever be in danger was unsettling. However, I have come to learn that incessant worry is counter-productive…the best offense is to be prepared with a good defense. I walked in bereft of any foggy notion of what I was getting myself into.
Taught by primary instructor and Rochester Personal Defense founder Dave Jenkins and co-instructor Fred Miner, the class is an all-day event designed to equip women with the necessary skills to “to not only avoid a serious situation such as a sexual assault, but how to fight and win” (www.safeinrochester.com). While a fragment of the course is discussion-based, the majority is learning and practically applying skills in striking and ground-fighting, in critical incident detection, in frontal and rear attack defenses, in avoidance tactics and in having the proper mindset.
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In every e-mail forward exposing the “Top Ten Tactics of Trenchant Trespassers,” or “Admonitions against Aggressive Assailants,” I said it to myself.
The class I entered is offered through Rochester Personal Defense, LLC and is known as, “THE EQUALIZER: LEVEL 1.” In my experience, it truly lived up to its claim: not your everyday rape prevention class!
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That girl will never be me, I said to myself.
The last part of the course allows students to utilize the skills they’ve learned throughout the day …full out! Jenkins and Miner, in fully padded suits, permit each woman, one by one, to enter “the mat” and fight! Real-life scenarios are professionally simulated to give students opportunities to not only practice the physical components of offense and defense, but also the mental. Students learn communicative skills that they may also engage in throughout the class. As an introverted writer dreading conflict, I was nervous about the simulated fights. The classmates and instructors could not have been more encouraging and supportive of not only myself, but the other students. The atmosphere became more and more comfortable, and it proved to be a valuable experience that I will cherish for a long time. And …can I just say…I am so proud of myself for doing it! Though I went home that day with a few bumps and bruises, it was truly worth it to have simply gained the confidence I need to go about my life without in being in constant fear of threat. Jenkins and Miner are sincerely the best of the best—experienced, professional and personable, it was evident that they genuinely care for the welfare of women in this community and are passionate about teaching them to protect themselves. “One of the lacking aspects of education for young women is the idea of self-reliance and self-defense,” says Jenkins. “From the very young, women are told that their father, brother, boyfriend, or husband will be their protectors. The issue is that they will not always be around. Attending a class such as ‘The Equalizer’ and learning that you are capable of defending yourself is the most valuable type of education you can obtain… I have also had sexual assault survivors tell me in confidence that if they had known then what they know now, their encounter would have ended in an entirely different way.” Women who are reading this, I urge you to enroll in a self-defense course like this. Bring your daughters, your sisters, your mothers, your girlfriends and learn together. There is not a more important investment of your time than obtaining this kind of education. By the time you’ve taken ‘The Equalizer I’ on, you’ll barely be able to contain yourself in anticipation of Level II. Source(s) for statistics: http://thehathorlegacy.com/rape-statistics/ Please visit http://www.safeinrochester.com/ for more information.
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9Slides can be used as an interactive app or website to spice up any plain presentation with a pre-recorded video. It allows students to add a recording of them narrating and explaining their presentation over any type file such as PDF or PowerPoint. Afterwards, the 9Slide can be added to any site or blog for educational purposes. This app/ site is a simple tool that can be used for a variety of subjects and education levels and can also be viewed from any Web browser or mobile device. www.9slides.com
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Edmodo is an app designed to help better connect students and teachers. Edmodo was created for the iPhone, iPod touch and iPad and is thought of as a Facebook-like app for the classroom. Students can use this device to submit assignments, take notes, view grades, ask questions and check messages in and outside of the classroom. Teachers can use this app to grade assignments, keep tabs on submissions and reply to messages and questions from students. Edmodo is Apple award-winning and can be found in the iTunes store or online at www.edmodo.com
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Khan Academy is a site that can be used by students, teachers or anyone with a thirst for knowledge. The website has an extensive library that covers topics such as K-12 math, biology, chemistry, finance, history and physics. Students can benefit from this selfpaced learning tool that also measures their improvement and their parents or teachers can view their profiles to see detailed progress reports. Practice activities are also included in Khan Academy, which is completely free of charge! www.khanacademy.org
4 - The Board Dudes Smart Learning Book
This reusable laptop book is used to help your child prepare for kindergarten over and over again. It’s a dry erase spiral notebook that let’s your child engage in repetition without permanent markings. The best part is it’s only $7.99. This can be available for shipping at any Office Max Store.
5 - strong museum of play
Looking for an education for your child that goes beyond the school walls. Rochester’s Strong Museum of play provides a fun and creative learning environment for your child. They have an educational program called Theme Day in which children have the opportunity to learn about an interesting subject. Take your child to visit their rochesterWomanMag.com :: september 2013 a17 public library when they’re not in school and enhance their reading. The Strong Museum of play offers fun and creative learning environment for every child to enjoy.
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Strong Foundation By Nadia Pierre-Louis | Photo by Zach Shephard
As a parent, making sure children stay active is imperative to their development. Parents try to find the perfect fit for their family and their values. So at a young age children are placed in sports teams, music lessons and for some, Boy Scouts. The Boy Scouts of America’s Scout Law is to be trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean and reverent; all qualities parents try to instill in their children from a young age. There are many other activities that can benefit children in the long run as well, but according to Annemarie Cook, an Executive Board member, the Boy Scouts attract parents who appreciate the fact that they reinforce the values taught at home. “All of those points help young men succeed not only in life but within themselves,” said Cook. Cook initially got involved with Scouting when her son’s peers encouraged her two boys to start in kindergarten. “It’s a great organization for young men,” said Cook. “They learn leadership qualities and skills. The boy scout troop that my son was involved with did so much for his self-confidence and leadership.” On the board, Cook plans various fundraising events and provides oversight on operations and program development. For the past seven years she’s help run the boy scouts from a fiscal point of view along with planning their special events and projects. Being with the Boy Scouts for so long, Cook has noticed a big decrease in membership. One reason that could factor into this is the fact that many parents are either both in the working field, and have little time to participate in Boy Scout functions, or have single parent homes, making it even more difficult. As mentioned earlier, there are so many opportunities available to kids these days. This is another cause as to why the Boy Scouts are unfortunately seeing a decrease in membership not only in Rochester but all around the North East according to Valerie Kalwas, Council Commissioner for the Boy Scouts. Nowadays, extracurricular activities such as sports team don’t have the cut off season. Children can play their favorite sports in a more concentrated manner. Some opt for this instead of joining an all year round Boy Scout troop. “We’re in hard times right now but we’re not giving up,” said Kalwas. “It’s too valuable a program to sit back and let it die.”
Kalwas started as a Tiger Coach, and as of May she has been providing guidance to Scout leaders to ensure the youth are getting recruited and parents along with their children are aware of the great opportunities Boy Scouts offer. Not only do the youth learn and practice many good qualities reinforced by the Boy Scouts, it’s also beneficial to their families and volunteers. Being such a hands-on organization, it requires a lot of time and effort from the families of children that participate. “I’ve become a better manager and business person, better listener and leader,” said Kalwas. “There is value for everyone involved.” Council Marketing Committee member, Rebecca Leclair, has seen how Scouting is a family commitment. For three generations, from her father to her sons, Leclair has been submersed in the Scouting way of life. For the past few years Leclair has been working on promoting and reminding families of the importance of the Boy Scouts in all different communities. As a mother, Leclair believes that women see the value of the organization because they know exactly what is being offered to their children. And at the lower levels of volunteering, you primarily see women helping out. Many of the fathers participate in organizing big outdoor activities for the Scouts and the women, including Leclair, are responsible for a lot of the fundraising for their troops. So help comes from all different angles in these scouting families. Despite the decrease in membership, the Boy Scouts are continuing to evolve; creating new merit badges, developing programs for leaders and keeping up with the changing times. They are expanding the older co-ed programs in Scouting, showing a growth in female and older youth membership. A new hands on, career based learning program is now being offered for boys and girls between the ages of 14-20. Youth involved in this program can have a jump start to finding a good career fit for them whether that be in the fire department, police department or in the medical field. Cook believes that the Boy Scouts will continue to grow and her expectation is for them to offer their many wonderful opportunities to the youth for years to come. Boy Scouts of America prepares youth for life. For more information about Scouting in your community and to find a Pack or Troop in your neighborhood, contact Seneca Waterways Council Boy Scouts of America at 585-244-4210
Discover Scouting
Experiences that last a lifetime When you sign up your son for Cub Scouts, you’re signing him up for much more than an after-school activity. Whether he’s camping for the first time or catching his first fish, your son will be taking part in activities that are fun, as well as building his character and starting him on a path to success. While there are lots of cool badges to earn, the experiences along the way will be his true rewards.
Find a Cub Scout Pack in your neighborhood.
BeAScout.org
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Cancer Wellness Connection
More than a patient
By Amber Houston Imagine living life as one always does with the same daily routine and marks on the calendar of planned events, vacations and meetings. Suddenly one visit from the doctor’s office changes everything. He tells you that you have cancer and suddenly your daily routine, the marks on the calendar and life in general changes altogether. But despite the trials and tribulations that life throws you refuse to be a victim of your current circumstances. You refuse to just be considered a patient but a regular person just trying to live life one day at a time. That is the goal of Cancer Wellness Connections, which is an organization that teaches you to live life as you normally do as you conquer your condition. The dream of Cancer Wellness Connections started in the minds of Dr. Cynthia Angel, Dr. Brent DuBuster and Eileen Grossman. Together these three founders created an organization that started as a spa treatment center for women diagnosed with cancer back in 2006. Today Cancer Wellness Connections has excelled into more than just a spa but also a wellness and activities center. They cater to more than 10,000 people a year at four different locations. The expansion of the organization all started from a card game with friends. “Our Founder, Eileen Grossman, went into the Fusion Center on Lattimore Road with some cards, a table, and a bridge game and played with some friends. When she left all the ladies in the room said hey I like to play cards too and that became the genesis of the program” States Betsy- Twohig Barrett, President and Executive Director of Cancer Wellness Connections. After the card game the organization felt that there was a need for more than just manicures and spa treatments. “It became clear that women who are undergoing kimo-therapy treatments do better if they are more active, if they are not placed in a sick role” states Dr. Angel. Now the organization is equipped with physical therapists, yoga instructors, massage and a book club to help accommodate all the needs of the patients. Cancer Wellness Connection’s name speaks for itself. They are all about building a relationship with those they come in contact with on a daily basis .One of those connections made is with 74-year-old B.J. Youdleson. Youdleson has experienced both sides of the coin of what Cancer Wellness Connections is all about. She works on the advisory committee of Cancer Wellness Connections but also receives treatment for endometrial cancer. Youdleson is a writer for
the newsletter and has interviewed patients who were going through the same thing that she is now. Her most memorable experience as a patient was when she received a Reiki session by one of the volunteers during her treatment. A Reiki session is a treatment that involves relaxation of the mind using hands. “She did this 20 minute Reiki session and by the time she was done I was calm, I wasn’t in tears anymore, everything was fine. I had a friend sitting there with me and I was able to enjoy his company and I was like this is what we’ve been doing all these years. It was wonderful” says Youdleson. Cancer Wellness Connections also have annual events for people to get involved in. One of those is the annual 5k race that is taking place on September 15th at Cobbs Hill Park. The main goal of the race is to raise awareness about ovarian and gynecological cancer. It also gives people a chance to give their support to family members who have lost their battle with Cancer or those going through current treatment. “It’s fun to do; it’s fun to be out there. You see people out there supporting friends, remembering friends and loved ones. When someone is ill it’s really hard to do anything. This is one way to show your support for women and other families who are going through this,” says Barrett. The organization also has a creative logo known as “Save the HooHah’s “which was created by Barrett and Dr. Angel. The annual 5k race was initially created to just raise awareness for ovarian cancer but now the organization is using their new slogan to raise awareness for all gynecologic cancer. “A lot of times people are uncomfortable talking about the things that are down there so it was kind of a thing where you could startle someone, make them giggle a little bit. It would start the conversation. It’s important that women are aware of the symptoms and the issues that affect them in their reproductive organs,” states Barrett. Cancer Wellness Connections is a home grown organization that has grown into a force to be reckoned with. It started from a small room on Lattimore road to catering to numerous patients at four different locations. They are looking for more ways to expand and are looking to make their website more interactive. For more information about the organization, volunteering, or participating in the 5k race log on to www.cancerwellnessconnections.org or you can contact them at 585-469-5727.
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“Nothing is less important than which fork you use. Etiquette is the science of living. It embraces everything. It is ethics. It is honor.” -Emily Post As millennials gradually enter today’s highly competitive and at times ruthless workforce, they’ve undoubtedly become the subject of mass scrutiny by employers regarding their communicative skills…or lack thereof. Who is to blame, here? They were the ones, after all, to have been brought up by hovering helicopter parents in this technological revolution that relies less and less on face-to-face interaction and more and more on efficiency… Some speculate that anytime a civilization progresses, a sacrifice must be made. In the case of millennials, it is perhaps their ability to effectively communicate, to navigate their way through any social situation. If these twenty-somethings are so heavily criticized (predominately out of concern or amusement) even now in this regard, how much worse will it be for younger generation, Generation Z (or “The New Silent Generation”) who know nothing different? It is these youngsters, the princes and princesses of the digital age that most concern Cynthia Ely, owner of the newly-established “The Refinement Studio” located on Rochester’s Canterbury Road. She fears that with the disappearance of basic social etiquette will not only deeply affect the population’s ability to communicate, but will prompt a disrespectful, unruly society that no longer values the premise of “saving face.” Last summer, Cynthia Ely watched, along with the nation, the unsettling footage of former Greece Central School District bus monitor Karen Klein enduring verbal harassment by four local 7th graders on their after-school route. Like many that were impacted by the incident, Ely grieved with the community for the sake of the children, and was determined to take action, so as to prevent any other acts similar in nature from occurring again. “When I saw that [video], I was shocked…I watched it in disbelief,” recalls Ely. “That was the impetus of where we are now. I was really hurt because the whole country was watching. I thought, ‘Someone has got to teach children manners.’ I needed to do something.”
It was at that moment that Ely had the idea of bringing her sister’s North Carolina etiquette school up north. Alas, Ely’s sister agreed to sell the business (i.e., the name, the website, the curriculum and logo) to her and “The Refinement Studio” was reborn in Rochester to where it truly stands out as being one of a kind. After three soft openings, “The Refinement Studio” is well-received. Teachers and students alike sing the praises of Ely’s innovative idea, further affirming the notion that this community is in great need of manners. Peruse Ely’s website and you will note that she has assembled multiple party packages for your son and/or daughter and their friends to not only experience a formal tea, but to have proper instruction in manners as well. In these elaborate tea parties hosted and taught by Ely, children learn all the essentials from proper grooming and hygiene techniques, to basic skills in eating properly, in passing food, in leading conversations and behaving well. Children have the opportunity to dine in one of Ely’s studio “party rooms” (appropriately and adorably decorated to suit each gender) and enjoy not only their choice of tea, but also finger sandwiches, seasonal fruits and petit-fours served on authentic fine china. Ely also anticipates partnering with local school districts and afterschool clubs to offer etiquette lessons as a fun and valuable elective. In her research, Ely has re-familiarized herself with the teachings of Emily Post and has come to believe etiquette as a necessity. While some would label etiquette a “lost art,” Ely stresses the need for services like the ones provided at “The Refinement Studio” as being culturally relevant now more than ever. “We’re becoming more casual as a whole and moving forward, we’re going with a quickness in the technological field. All of those social skills seem to become obsolete, but they’re not…I would like to revisit the little things that make a difference. ‘Please’ and ‘thank you’ make a difference and they’re the simplest words…Emily Post believed respect, honor and consideration. Those are the things that we must focus on. She always believed that the purpose of manners is others feel uncomfortable around us and to prepare for the unexpected.”
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For the Love of
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When founding Dean of Nursing at St. John Fisher College, Dianne Cooney Miner, was a child, her brother was hospitalized and treated for a brain tumor. “I still have vivid memories of Kevin in the hospital, the nurses who took care of him, and the professional presence they had and the care they provided my brother and my family,” says Cooney Miner. This indelible experience, says Miner, probably encouraged her to purse a career in nursing that has expanded beyond anything she could have possibly imagined. She states, “In my era, if you were good at math and science, nursing was a logical step, and I was good at both.” Miner’s career and exceptional experience in the clinical field has not only led her to St. John Fisher College in Rochester, New York, but has opened doors to a world of nursing that has stretched beyond the boundaries of the campus. A transplant from Cooperstown, New York, Miner worked for twenty-six years as a clinical nurse specialist in neuroscience. In 1997, she reduced her practice to part time so she could teach at the University of Rochester. Maintaining a connection to her clinical work was important to her both personally and professionally. “Staying clinically current and involved in the community helped me to maintain authenticity in my role as an educator,” she recalls. With her dual experience in education and as a nursing professional, Miner became an instrumental asset in the founding of St John Fisher’s Graduate School of Nursing. With help from an eight million dollar grant from the Wegman Foundation, the school expanded with larger building and facilities, including a state of the art lab that includes simulators to train nurses in pre-critical diagnostic care. In addition, Miner helped to establish additional graduate and PhD programs, increasing the number of students from less than a hundred to over seven hundred and fifty. As a measure of the school’s success, ninety-six percent of the last graduating class passed the national license exam on the first try. Many graduates have moved on to PhD programs, and leadership roles in the community. As Miner’s successes in the School of Nursing continue to grow, so does her success both nationally and internationally. She has consulted on projects to build nursing schools in India, and most recently, she was approached by a friend and vice president of the AMAR Foundation to offer her expertise in education and professional nursing. AMAR is an international organization that works to rebuild and recover critical
medical and educational services in war zones and areas of civil unrest. What started out as a conversation about building nursing and clinical education facilities in post war Iraq, turned into a trip to London and a visit to the House of Lords to meet Executive Chairman of AMAR, Baroness Nicholson of Winterbourne. “I got into the cab and said, I’m going to the House of Lords. The cab driver turned and said to me; oh you are, are you? I said to him, no one is more surprised about this than I am,” she laughs. Miner spent the afternoon engaged in lengthy conversation about her experience and ideas to help AMAR establish a successful facility. “This was one of the most delightful, absolutely thrilling, energetic, and incredible women I have ever met in my life,” says Miner. “She has amazing courage and commitment to the middle east and rebuilding education and health care at great personal risk. I could have spent decades with her learning from her and admiring what she has done.” Back here in the states, Cooney Miner is about to receive her own prestigious recognition. In October, she will go to Washington DC to attend her induction into the American Academy of Nursing. “This is probably one of the most exciting and meaningful things that’s happened to me,” said Miner. Stressing a connection to the community and maintaining good working relationships with Rochester clinics and hospitals is important to Miner. She still volunteers at the St. Joseph neighborhood center, which provides free health care to those who do not have insurance. In addition, she is working with the university to provide future training and programs to help veterans in the community and those soon returning. “We had a conference with the veterans association and heard loud and clear that we need to be there for them,” says Cooney Miner. Cooney Miner loves the Rochester community for its tireless philanthropy, support of education and the arts. She has five children and her apples have not fallen far from her tree of success. One is the mayor of Syracuse, her son is a graduate of West Point working in economics and environmental science, her two youngest are twins with one working as a lawyer in Syracuse, and the other, a doctor and Chief Resident at Yale. Her other daughter is following in her footsteps as a graduate student of nursing and works with Amnesty International. “What I love most about this community, is working with such committed, hard working people who care about others living healthy lives, and the diversity of talent that make this such a wonderful place.”
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I Thought I Was By Sadie Kulhanek Until I was five years old I thought I was the only one. I thought I was the only one who had to wear a trainer that hung at my hips and got in the way when I was on the playground. I was the only one who had to change a battery when the sound around me suddenly cut out. There wasn’t anyone like me in my family or in my preschool or at daycare who wore purple ear molds. I was the only one who couldn’t hear without them, but I never understood why… until the first day of kindergarten. I remember the first day in Mrs. Brinkhoff’s class with the colorful alphabet rug stretched across the floor. I was five years old. I boarded the school bus that morning with my hair in braided pigtails, a red Winnie the Pooh backpack slung over my shoulders, and a toothy grin plastered on my face. I knew I was going to kindergarten to learn how to read. I had no idea my self-identity would change that year, too. I made a new friend named Gerry that day, and I finally realized what was different about me than my other friends. He wore hearing aids like I did, but he talked with his hands instead of his voice. I asked him why, and his interpreter kindly told me he was deaf. I couldn’t talk with my hands yet but, because I wore hearing aids, I was deaf too. I’m from Nebraska. It’s the land of corn, Husker football and approximately 5,000 deaf people. (And no it’s not “that state over by Kentucky or something?” as one of my RIT classmates guessed). It’s smack dab in the middle of the United States. I came east to Rochester, the city of Eastman Kodak and garbage plates and about 40,000 deaf people. That’s eight times more than the deaf population in the entire state of Nebraska. The fact that nearly 10 percent of RIT’s student population is deaf compared to just a handful of students in my hometown at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln means there’s a greater understanding of deafness and deaf culture in Rochester. The day I moved into my dorm my freshman year, my family and I were shocked when our hearing waiter at Applebee’s knew sign language. That doesn’t happen in Nebraska. When I was visiting colleges my parents and I were attuned to the differences -- two fulltime interpreters at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln versus 120 at RIT. UNL doesn’t offer C-Print, which is real-time captioning, but they suggested I could ask somebody to be my note-taker.
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Accessibility isn’t the only perk RIT had to offer. Because nearly everyone in Rochester has been exposed to a deaf person at one point or another, it’s not such an oddity. There’s no unnecessary “I’m sorry” from someone who finds out I’m deaf, or the awkward but wellmeaning, “Hey! My dog is deaf, too!” A lot of people ask me why I decided to travel more than a thousand miles to Rochester for college. RIT has more to offer in terms of accessibility and social opportunity than any other university I looked at while giving me real world experience. I know not everybody is deaf or is an interpreting major or knows how to sign. I need to be able to interact with both hearing and deaf alike and RIT provides that. But it’s awfully nice not to have to explain what “those things” in my ears are here in Rochester. People also realize they need to face me while talking so I can read their lips or they need to get my attention first so I know they are addressing me. They are patient when I ask “what?” a million times in a noisy room, and they know to not dismiss my request to repeat what they said with, “don’t worry, it’s nothing.” I remember the first day of kindergarten as the day my self-identity changed. Nearly 15 years later, I am fluent in American Sign Language. I know how to advocate for myself. When I got my first job, the man in charge of the training didn’t want to provide an interpreter or wear a microphone because it made him feel uncomfortable. With persistence, I convinced him it was necessary. I’ve accomplished things even educators thought I couldn’t, like taking four years of Spanish in high school. I have proven doubters wrong. But most importantly, I’ve taught others and myself how to appreciate my deafness. Like any student, I am still discovering myself. I am certain when another 20 years go by, I’ll look back on my first year at RIT as a year I learned more about the person I will become. I am certain I’ll reminisce with as much fondness as I do my first day of kindergarten when I met another deaf person and realized who I was and started on a path of becoming who I would be.
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A notion tried and true, any time enlightened women, creative women, resolute, independent, generous women congregate to defend a vision greater than themselves, a compelling movement, like a volcano erupts, and everyone benefits… There’s no question in noting that women indeed bring a unique, and rather potent, perspective to the table when it comes to rallying for change.
As multifarious the backgrounds and personalities of the founding members of the Women’s Education Club are each of their reasons for joining…
In this age of national education reform, a dynamic quintet (and then some!) of leading ladies refuse to be mere sideline spectators. Like many in our community, these women are keeping Rochester’s children under close watch; they’ve dedicated their time, energies, ideas and resources to seeing a day when every child is afforded the opportunity to succeed, regardless of his or her circumstances. Elaine DelMonte, Jennifer Sands, Beth Anne Napier, J. Christine Wilson and Jan August have joined forces to constitute one of the area’s most compelling powerhouse groups devoted to at-risk youth. The (1 Million Dollar) Women’s Education Club is currently at work recruiting members. As the name suggests, the club is exclusive to women, but beyond that, the only qualification for joining is a passion for improving the quality of education for students demonstrating learning needs. The goal is to raise (at least) 1 million dollars in membership dues which will directly benefit the Education Enterprise of New York (E2NY), a 501 (c) organization that operates as an umbrella to the Norman Howard School and EnCompass: Resources for Learning. For nearly three decades, the Norman Howard School has proven to be a valuable community resource, spearheading an exciting, progressive movement designed to reach out to children, in grades 5-12, who possess specific learning challenges. NHS sees that academic growth of these students is achieved through offering special services that suit individual learning styles. According to the school, there are currently ten different counties, and at least 41 different districts represented at the NYSAIS-accredited institution. The Normal Howard School provides a unique setting for students in that it offers a “small, structured and supportive learning environment.” The school also offers fun and educational electives and after-school opportunities to further aid in the students’ ability to reach their full potential. In 2004, EnCompass: Resources for Learning was launched as an initiative of the NHS Board of Directors to supply innovative services to students struggling in their academic endeavors. EnCompass utilizes specific tools, including specialized staffing and curriculum, to customize the learning experience for struggling students. The organization is in partnership with the Rochester City School District and the Hillside Work Scholarship Connection. EnCompass provides services to students both in the day and after-
Both Jennifer Sands and Beth Anne Napier found inspiration in their spouse’s commendable devotion to E2NY. Richard Sands, Chairman, Constellation Brands, Inc. and Bill Napier, Trustee (The Jane F. Napier and William J. Napier Charitable Lead Trust) are active as Founding Education Partners in the Norman Howard School parent company, along with several noteworthy donors and/ or partners in the community including Danny Wegman, Dutch Summers, David F. Christa and Dick and Jodie Fox, among others.
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“Children are likely to live up to what you believe of them.” –Lady Bird Johnson
A former educator, Jan August is enthused by the mission of E2NY and the Norman Howard School, and gratified by the opportunity to nourish the cause she holds so dear. August also remains active on the board at Hillside Children’s Center as well as the Hillside Service Overview Committee. “I am happy to stay in education, though not in teaching directly,” comments August. “It’s my way of giving back.” Elaine DelMonte, who proudly allied as a promoter of all things Rochester states, “Women are typically the educators or advocates for education; each woman is here for a variety of reasons running the gamut. The best way I can give back to Rochester is investing in the youth.” Additionally, some founders have a personal ties within the Norman Howard School, making their investment that much sweeter. Jennifer Sands is continually inspired by the success of her son Cameron, who was a student of the Norman Howard School in his youth and later attended Nazareth College. Cameron, in gratitude, went on to mentor at the Norman Howard School and his sister, Courtney Winslow is a regular volunteer for the school’s 3D program for students in foster care. Susan Schottland is avid supporter of EnCompass, Women’s Education Club member and close friend of Jennifer Sands. Moreover, Jan August became a lifelong advocate after witnessing her niece’s progress as a former student at the school; August was impressed by the ardor of the faculty and staff alike. Though Sands calls the Women’s Education Club a “work-inprogress,” she couldn’t be more tickled about the group’s astounding momentum. The “Club” has already managed to rally the support of key Rochester figures including Monroe County Executive Maggie Brooks. It has also caught the attention of Josephine Braitman, Olivia Cornell, Nancy Mann and Lindsay Fox, to name a few.
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For Beth Anne Napier, who stresses that all members are in “equal footing” with the founders, the process of recruiting has been especially endearing: “On a more personal level, the interesting thing for me has been realizing levels of friendship. It is so heartwarming that my friends would, without blinking, no questions asked, jump in with both feet. It’s been a great experience,” she notes. Napier goes on to describe the aspect of raising funds: “It all comes down to raising money. We have powerhouse women from all different age groups that are providing services, getting the job done, getting the dollars raised to get these students what they need. It’s great for all of us.” Sands also notes that while “it’s tough to get into the community and [ask] to give and support” but in the end it is highly rewarding. The quintet unanimously agrees that fundraising has prompted them to get in touch with their creative senses and “think outside the box.” As the women insist on their informational site, “Our club is not about writing a check and then walking away.... it’s about women spending time together and bonding and sharing ideas and having a little fun.” In the past, the Women’s Education Club has hosted successful events to benefit the Norman Howard School and EnCompass alike. Each of these events is intentionally coordinated to stand out among other benefits. Courtney Winslow and Jen O’ Hara (daughter of Susan Schottland) recently collaborated with a team of volunteers to supply backpacks, 32
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filled with unused school supplies as well as brand-new sneakers to over 90 students in NHS’s summer 3D program (focused on supporting children in foster care). The program focuses on academics in the morning and clubs in the afternoon. Winslow and O’Hara noticed that the kids were distressed “saving up” for their school supplies they would need going into school year as their caretakers are often unable to afford the expense. They decided to take matters into their own hands and work with the Women’s Education Club to raise funds and supplies. Winslow noted that it was a perfect opportunity for younger women to get involved in the Women’s Education Club as they could tangibly donate a filled backpack or pair of sneakers for the cause… The result? Winslow and O’Hara call it “lifechanging.” They were able to witness the expression of the kids as they received their brand new school supplies, making it so worth their time and investments. The initiative was so successful, that Winslow is currently planning a similar opportunity for next summer! To find out how you can be a part of the charitable work that the Women’s Education Club is doing, please visit http://womenseducationclub.com/. As Elaine DelMonte would say, “There’s a million reasons to help our kids, so there’s a million reasons to join the Women’s Education Club.”
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Live Runway Auction See local business owners strut the runway, bid on everyday services and benefit Go Red For Women. Thursday, September 19, 2013 from 6:30 to 9:00 p.m. Auditorium Theater — Catherdral Hall $15 advanced tickets | $20 at door Includes wine and desserts For more info and ticket sales go to www.heart.org/goredrochester
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The Go Red For Women volunteer passion committee in Rochester is thrilled to introduce a ladies-night-out like you have never seen before. Grab your girlfriends and enjoy fine wines and sample delectable desserts while participating in a live runway auction where you will bid on the services that you really need – all to help fight the leading cause of death in women: heart disease.
This unique auction is unlike any previously seen in the greater Rochester community. We’ll be auctioning services such as snowplowing, painting, plumbing, cleaning and landscaping. And, there will also be services every woman needs to pamper herself. Our generous service providers and business owners will have a lot of fun with the audience as they strut the runway for the highest bidder. There will be a silent auction and vendor tables as well.
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As part of the Go Red For Women movement, the American Heart Association will host its inaugural “Helpers with Heart” Service Auction on September 19, 2013, in order to raise awareness of heart disease, the number one killer of women. The evening will run from 6:30 – 9:00 p.m. at the Auditorium Theatre at 885 East Main Street.
Tickets are available now at www.heart.org/goredrochester for just $15. You can also purchase a ticket at the door on Thursday, September 19th for $20. While the Helpers with Heart service auction is a fun event, it’s all an effort to raise funds to stop a very serious killer in our country. Heart disease remains the leading cause of death for women over the age of 20. Cardiovascular diseases kill more women than the next five causes of death combined, including all forms of cancer. Naomi Silver, CEO of the Rochester Red Wings is the campaign’s volunteer chairwoman leading the fundraising efforts for Go Red. Her role culminates October 30th at the Go Red For Women Luncheon. For 10 years, women have been fighting heart disease individually and together as part of the Go Red For Women movement. Community partnerships with Entercom Rochester, Rochester Woman Magazine and most notably, 13WHAM’s “Go Red with the Women of WHAM” initiatives have helped local women to recognize their risks. “We must ensure that we know our numbers. Know our own risk factors and do what we can to control them,” says Silver. “Take the time to make healthy choices. Move more, eat better and quit smoking. We’re fortunate in Rochester to have such amazing facilities where the American Heart Association funds more than $5 million in research grants.” For more information and to get involved locally with Go Red For Women, call the American Heart Association at 585-697-6270 or visit www.heart.org/rochesterny.
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sports ::world of women
Does Clothing
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By Sarah Jane Clifford
Female athletes are constantly looking for any advantage that will help increase their performance. There are several ways in which clothing can affect performance according to Livestrong.com. A runner may reap the physical benefits of wearing the latest high-tech footwear. Or an athlete may gain a perceived psychological edge on his opponents by wearing certain color, like when Tiger Woods wears red on the final day of a golf tournament. Physical In some sports the difference between winning and losing can come down to fractions of a second. Cyclists, skiers and other athletes that race against the clock seek clothing that will make them more aerodynamic and shave those few precious fractions off their time. Comfort also plays a key factor. Wearing clothing that fits well allows an athlete to move more naturally. Similarly, clothing designed to wick moister away from the body also benefits an athlete’s performance. Mental Sometimes an athlete equates a lucky color with success. The July 2010 issue of Psychological Science profiled a study conducted by Lysann Damisch and others in the psychology department at the University of Cologne, Germany. The study showed that a good luck charm can help a person improve her confidence in her own abilities. Experiments concluded that good luck charms and good luck-related sayings, such as “break a leg,” helped performance. Perception What an athlete wears can affect his self-perception and the perception of others. The Oakland Raiders have used black uniforms to help build an intimidating reputation around the NFL. In October 2009, a young 36 september 2013 :: rochesterWomanMag.com
fan asked Woods on his website, why he wears red on the last day of each tournament. He answered that his mother considers red his power color. Colors Color may do more than affect an athlete’s performance. An article published in the August 15, 2008 issue of “U.S. News and World Report” profiled a study done by lead researcher Norbert Hagemann of the University of Muster. Tae kwondo referees were shown taped matches in with one competitor wore red. The study concluded that the officials gave those wearing red 13 percent more points than their opponents. Compression clothing Compression clothing is used by some athletes to stabilize muscle groups and increase performance. However some research has not supported these claims. In an article in the June 4, 2010 issue of Science Daily, two studies at the Indiana University argue that compression clothing does little to affect an athlete’s performance. Researcher Abigail Laymon found that compression socks did not help an athlete’s running performance. Doctoral student Nathan Eckert’s study concluded that compression clothing did not enhance leaping ability. They say that clothes make the man and woman. In sports, clothes may actually prove the difference between winning and losing. If you have information, ideas, comments or suggestions for “World Of Women Sports,” please contact Sarah Jane Clifford at 585/388-8686. Her e-mail is gtc@ frontiernet.net. Clifford owns and operates The Gymnastics Training Center of Rochester, Inc., 2051 Fairport Nine Mile Point Rd., Penfield, NY 14526
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By Rebecca Even Watching a child learn to walk is a most rewarding and magical time. We get to witness their confusion as they fall down and see their determination to reach different destinations. I have seen them deliberately march their little legs across the room and laughed at the cuteness of it. After becoming a personal trainer I was able to see and appreciate more than just the cuteness in a baby’s deliberate movements. Babies can, through their own discovery teach us valuable lessons. Many of my clients have told me that they would love to be able to keep up with their young children as they get older. I get a lot of people telling me that they “don’t know how their children can physically do some of the things that they do”. I viewed these comments as a challenge. I started to think about how children play, about how I used to play. If any of you have cared for a child you know that they have a certain amount of insane fearlessness. I was always running and jumping around without a worry in the world. Being cautious was not high on my list. The first time that I tried to do a cartwheel it wasn’t a pretty sight to see. I repeated it several times asking the adult who was watching me if I had done it right each time. After several tries I finally executed the perfect cartwheel. Now if any of you have seen a child do a cartwheel or somersault correctly for the first time they immediately scowl, concentrate really hard and try to do it again. That little scowl is them trying to remember and reproduce all the same movements that led them to perfection. This is how your workouts should be performed. Break down the exercise into parts that you can work with and perform and perfect each part before trying to tackle the whole thing. You need to approach it as something new that needs to be understood. Working with women and exercise I find that a lot of my time is dedicated to getting those women to recognize and replicate their own movements. Essentially I need them to act like that child who is figuring out how to walk or cartwheel. While coaching my newer clients through new exercises I find that I have to spend a lot of time teaching them how to do this. They might do five squats in perfect form and start to lose their balance on number six. Now, because they weren’t paying attention to how their body was moving through the first five, number six is the one that has made the impression on their brain. When it comes time for rep seven they have lost the rhythm and the mechanics of the exercise. This concentration is something that many of us do not know how to use because most of our daily movements have become so practiced and automatic. I have one exercise that I do with all of my clients that was shown to me by one of my college coaches. I want everyone who is reading this article to try doing calf raises. Stand flat footed and push up to the tips of your toes. If this is easy for you try doing with your eyes closed. Many of you will realize that the moment you close your eyes you become confused and don’t know how to balance and that simple exercise becomes nearly impossible. If you want to master this exercise you need to focus your attention to what the muscles around your ankle are doing when you have your eyes open. If you can memorize the way that it feels when you have your eyes open you will be able to have a repeat performance with them closed. In my opinion deliberate movement is a true sign of strength.
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Rochester has a vibrant and choral-rich community as evidenced by more than two dozen communitybased choruses. According to artistic director and founder of Concentus Women’s Chorus Gwendolyn Gassler, opportunities to perform music composed specifically for women’s voices have increased over the last 20 years. “The vision of Concentus is to perform a variety of classical music ranging from medieval chant to contemporary compositions with a high standard of excellence,” says Gwen, who expertly melds helping to create a beautiful sound that delights audiences with her desire to introduce people to the choral art form. Although I wasn’t familiar with choral music, listening to several pieces chosen by Gwen was truly electric and left a lasting impression on me. From a Gregorian chant sung in unison, to a rhythmically (or harmonically) complex arrangement of an African folk song, it’s easy to understand how Concentus has delighted audiences during gallery openings, holiday concerts, and a special Women’s Hall of Fame Induction Ceremony. “Our goal is to create a beautiful and moving aesthetic experience for our audience,” says Gwen. Concentus is from the Latin word concinō, which means singing and “a blending of voices in harmony.” It also implies collaboration and coming together, which is appropriate given the collaborative nature of the choral art form that Concentus was founded on. Gwen, who holds a Master of Music degree in Choral Conducting from the Eastman School of
Music, and a Bachelor of Arts degree in Music from Colgate University, served as Rochester Oratorio Society’s assistant conductor for 20 years. There she met Edna Huelsenbeck, and together they founded Concentus as a nonprofit organization in 2001. When Edna left Rochester, Gwen stayed at the helm of Concentus and continued to help shape the nascent group. “The love of music was in my DNA,” says Gwen. “Exposure to classical music through recordings and live performances of great vocal soloists, orchestras, and choruses has always enchanted me.” Gwen’s interest in choral music deepened while singing with Colgate’s University Chorus under the direction of Marietta Cheng. “Professor Cheng inspired me with her focused rehearsals and elegant, clear baton technique,” says Gwen. “It’s a style I continue to emulate.” As Artistic Director of Concentus, Gwen is responsible for exploring and selecting the repertoire, leading weekly rehearsals, finding and hiring collaborating accompanists and guest instrumentalists as needed, vetting performance venues, helping set a yearly budget, and participating in marketing and fundraising efforts. Known for their ability to produce a blended sound, all members of Concentus have extensive choral experience, and some have advanced degrees in music – although they have chosen to pursue a wide range of professions. “Concentus is successful because of the tremendous efforts of each woman in the group, many of whom serve on our Board and various committees in addition to learning our extensive repertoire,” says
Gwen. “I couldn’t focus on our artistic growth and collaborate with other ensembles without the myriad administrative tasks they undertake with such energy.” The women of Concentus are not paid singers. According to Gwen, they are striving to balance their passion for singing with their careers, families, and their desire for lifelong learning. Often, rehearsals and performances becomes their way of achieving balance. Gwen has plenty of advice for young singers. “Listen to and perform all kinds of music, and be protective of your voice at the same time. It’s easy to over-sing and push the voice to mimic current pop artists who often have a lot of electronic assistance in the studio. Be open to coaching and take lessons if possible, to learn proper technique so your voice stays healthy, regardless of the style of music you perform.” You can hear Concentus Women’s Chorus perform live at a holiday concert featuring both sacred and secular seasonal music with guest instrumentalists on Sunday, December 15, at 3:00 p.m at Asbury First United Methodist Church. If you can’t make it, you can listen to sacred and secular carols from a variety of eras and styles on a professionallyproduced CD entitled “Make We Joy.” The CD is available for purchase on CD Baby or the Concentus website. For more information, please visit concentus.org.
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Creating. Moving. Singing. Discussing. Observing. Reading. Playing. The above-mentioned are the seven essentials that parents should be investing in on a daily basis with their young ones, according to Lisa Murphy, founder and CEO of Ooey Gooey, Inc. Ultimately, “play,” the seventh element, is not only the cement that binds the remaining essentials together, but quite possibly, the most beneficial aspect of early education in preparing children for school in later years. The Rochester-based early learning center “Ooey Gooey, Inc.” began rather unintentionally in 1996. While attending a national seminar on early childhood education in Dallas, Texas, Murphy found herself taking a spot onstage when the presenter didn’t show up! Luckily, she embraced the challenge. “It was supposed to be a popular workshop and I was just chatting with a woman when I said, ‘I could probably get up there,’” said Murphy. “She looked at me and said…‘I dare you.’” Fearlessly, Murphy hopped on stage and on-the-fly, astutely delivered a compelling presentation. Her improvisational skill are doubtlessly top-notch as today, Murphy is on the road 300 days a year, speaking on 15 different topics related to early childhood education. Following her first accidental workshop in 1996, Murphy was asked to conduct tours of her learning center and also to sell copies of her book. At the time… she had neither! For months, individuals were sending her a multitude of letters addressed to “Ooey Gooey, Inc.” When she decided to go further with her vision, she christened it, “Learning through Adventure.” In spite of Murphy’s attempts to re-label, “Ooey Gooey” appropriately “stuck” in minds of her followers. In the end, the name has persevered as the title of her company as it perfectly encompasses her entire philosophy. One of Murphy’s chief concepts she endeavors to convey to her audience is the importance of having a child-centered environment, or an environment that does not permit children to run around and do as they please, but rather providing a controlled atmosphere. This allows children the opportunity to behave the way children are made to behave, but within safe boundaries. “I want people to understand and give in to the notion that we need to control the environment and not the children,” said Murphy. “It’s not appropriate.” One example Murphy gives is that if your child is rummaging through your purse, rather than being upset with the child, maybe consider placing your purse in an area that they can’t reach.
“People expect toddlers to sit for 30 minutes, and that just doesn’t happen,” said Murphy. “That’s not what they’re designed to do right now. In our workshops, we show that there is a choice within the environment that the adult sets up.” On the road, Murphy, as mentioned frequently draws from 15 different workshops. They range from hands on, interactive classes to comparing and contrasting some of the masters of early childhood education. Murphy said she likes to help people where they need it, whether that is exchanging play dough recipes, or discussing a specific theorist’s approach. One of her most popular workshops is, “The Importance of Early Experiences: How Playing IS School Readiness.” In it, Murphy alludes to the seven essential activities parents and teachers should do with children every day to build a solid foundation for them to enter school. This eventually led to a book titled, Play: The Foundation that supports the House of Higher Learning. “It provides a lot of affirmation for people that there aren’t seven more things,” said Murphy. “You’re probably already doing them!” The decision to work in early childhood education goes deeper than just loving children. Murphy believes no one can do this for monetary reward or for social recognition. You have to have a true passion for this and it’s one that she’s had her entire life. At the young age of three, Murphy knew already that working with families and children is what she wanted to do for the rest of her life. Growing up in Livermore, California, Murphy got her start with children babysitting as a teenager. Murphy recalled a foreboding experience as a toddler:“I had a piece of paper I drew that was what my nursery would look like and I wrote ‘We are learning through adventure at Lisa’s Nursery School.” On the days she’s not on the road, Murphy is working on her Masters Degree from Champlain College, is an ultrarunner, enjoys reading and has recently picked up a yoga addiction. You can find and like Lisa Murphy’s Facebook page, “Ooey Gooey, Inc.” Find her on twitter @OoeyGooeyLady and watch her iTunes podcast called, “Free Childcare Bar and Grille.” Her other books are entitled, Ooey Gooey Handbook, Ooey Gooey Tooey, Even More Fizzle, Bubble, POP & Wow! and What to say when the Wolves come Knockin’.
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Head chief, CEO and powerhouse, Dr. Gidget Hopf is not allowing the organization to dust over. For over 100 years, ABVI has been a Rochester emblem, and for 27 of them Dr. Hopf has been a leader in the growth and the success that which exists behind the doors of ABVI-Goodwill.
A reputable leader in our community, a female role model, and as her colleague Mary Boland describes her, “an unbelievable visionary,” Dr. Hopf has helped inspire a cultural movement within Rochester with a spirit outgrowing her petite stature. Growing up in a housing project on Staten Island, Hopf took a keen interest in advocating and serving the disabled during her years as a young speech therapist. During her time working with patients at the infamous institution, Willowbrook State School, she began to solidify her passion for caring for the disenfranchised. “As a speech pathologist, you are not taught in school how to work with someone who’s non-verbal or who has all these severe mental disabilities, and language disorders. That’s when I had to use my creative skills and started using sign language for the first time,” said Hopf, “I learned to love people, this population.” Hopf’s intuition and drive have been showcased throughout her career. Including at Willowbrook, where at age 23, she initiated a speech-learning program teaching both language and valuable living skills. With her “functional living room” she used very little resources to create a classroom setting in an institutional environment. “I asked my friends and neighbors for refrigerators and beds, and they gave me a room and I was able to set it up and bring, mostly children and young adults who I was working with, and start teaching them language by doing functional skills. That was my beginning as a being a problem solver.” These problem-solving skills, combined with her passion for the field, opened Hopf up to opportunities nationwide. Moving onto the Monroe Developmental Center, a state owned organization, she began to help transform the institutional model-and to be singled out as a devoted leader. She would move up the ranks quickly at Monroe Developmental Center, earning a Team Leader position. This would be the stepping-point for Hopf as she came to the realization that not only was she capable of fulfilling the job requirement, but going beyond it. Recognizing her leadership abilities, she stood out as a young woman among her male-dominate field. “A lot of them were the typical men- bureaucrats who had been moved up in the ranks, and they didn’t do a good job. They were paper pushers and stayed in their office all day,” said Hopf, “I was named a team leader at 28, and I had 24/7 responsibility with living units, with people, with nurses, physicians, the therapy aid staff, and I just thought I would treat people the way I liked to be treated. That was sort of the beginning of my leadership approach because I had never taken a course or anything. “ (continued on page 50)
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Founder and CEO of Priceless Vessels By Ashley Cooper
“I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back.” – Maya Angelou In pursuit of an undergraduate degree in English, Cynthia McGill, bright and ambitious, left her Washington D.C. homestead for the Flower City. With a veritable scholarship and aspiration to work on the set of PBS’s most popular daytime children’s series Sesame Street in tow, McGill studied at the University of Rochester. In the wake of graduation, McGill endured several unsuccessful attempts to find work in the New York City television scene. In spite of her endeavors to leave the quadrants of Rochester, McGill began her career in children’s television right here on a local network. McGill’s feelings about residing in Rochester started to take a turn when she decided to pursue a Master’s degree in Instructional Technology at the Rochester Institute of Technology. She further delved into higher education upon receipt of her Doctor of Philosophy Degree in Higher Education Administration from the State University of New York at Buffalo. Suffice it to say, education was never an objective taken lightly in McGill’s experience. “[Growing up], it was never a matter of ‘if you’re going to college,’ it was ‘where you’re going to college,’” says Dr. McGill. “You want to see a business or corporation with equal amounts of men and women. You know it fosters a good working environment, a good working culture to have both men and women at the table…we’re not going to move up through the ranks without education.” McGill also met her husband in Rochester: Bishop Reginald McGill, a local minister who today co-pastors New Life Fellowship. The couple has been married 41 years. Together, they have two beautiful daughters, Maia and Adrienne, and one granddaughter. After a successful two decades in various administrative roles at institutions of higher learning (including holding the highly-revered position of Assistant Provost at the Rochester Institute of Technology for six years), Dr. McGill turned to co-pastoring full-time alongside her husband at New Life Fellowship. She also dedicated herself to her utmost passion: mentoring to women in the community. In 2001, Dr. McGill founded “Priceless Vessels,” an organization that serves to empower Rochester women “to rise above mediocrity to the level of excellence in their personal, professional and spiritual lives.” Members of Priceless Vessels enjoy not only the benefit of networking with other accomplished women in the region, but the opportunity to learn from the experiences of those who’ve gone before, to share her struggles and achievements alike, to seek and to give advice and to empower and be empowered. “Priceless Vessels really started as a gift to me,” says McGill. “I wanted to have some lasting, connecting relationships with women, whereby some actually form into real friendships. Obviously, [we’re] helping each other professionally, but also personally. I am really tickled by Priceless Vessels; we have professional women in all stages of their career.” Among the noted women that belong to ‘Priceless Vessels’ are Dr. Gidget Hopf, Mary Worboys-Turner, Michelle A. Hutchinson, Esq., Stephanie Jackman, Patricia Larke, Dawna Mallory, Dr. Patricia Marino, Dr. Ellie continued on page 50)
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Mary Worboys-Turner recalls her initial ventures in landing her first post-college job with a certain fondness. With all the optimism she could muster, young Worboys-Turner entered an employment agency, excited to see where the previous four years of hard work and determination as an undergraduate student would lead her. When the agent prompted the Ashland College alumna to demonstrate her typing speed, Worboys-Turner, somewhat surprised replied, “I didn’t study psychology and biology for four years to type. Thank you, this is not the place for me to look for a job. ” And with that, she exited the premises, confidence unscathed. It was that sort of fortitude, of sincerity, of candor that propelled Worboys-Turner into a series of successful career transitions and significant leadership experiences, each one allowing her to delve into what she most adores-- helping others see that their dreams are realized. What an honor it was to have interviewed this woman who has dedicated her life to the welfare of others in her beloved community. The day subsequent to Worboys-Turner’s unsuccessful visit to the employment agency is one she will never forget. The agent, once so quick to dismiss her credentials, called her back, not only offering his apologies, but extending an invitation to return to the agency. This time, the agent promised to help Worboys-Turner find a job that suited her education and skill-sets. Through that process, she began working an entry-level position at the Association for the Blind in Rochester, fueling her enthusiasm for the installment of necessary social services. From the Association for the Blind, Worboys-Turner joined the State’s Department of Social Services, again, advocating for the blind and visually-impaired. Wanting to do more in the field, she decided to pursue a Master’s Degree. Worboys-Turner attended Northern Illinois University where she obtained her M.S.Ed. in a specialized program that blended the two entities. Because of Worboys-Turner’s full spectrum degree, she was able to return to the Association for the Blind and approach superintendents with a promising proposal— an innovative educational model for mainstreaming students with visual impairments promoted by Monroe BOCES I. The project expanded from serving students in Monroe Country exclusively to reaching multiple counties. Worboys-Turner additionally worked with a team to initiate the creation and implementation of specialized services and resources available to visually impaired children in New York State in its entirety. After a prosperous tenure in the field of blind rehabilitation and education), Worboys-Turner joined Allendale Columbia as Assistant Director of Admissions. A year later, she became Director of Admissions and implemented the first marketing for the school. She was instrumental in developing financial aid packages for local students who are academically competent, but not otherwise able to afford tuition at the Rochester private school. She had similar responsibilities during a stint at the Oak Knoll School in Summit, New Jersey. (continued on page 50)
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Dr. Gidget Hopf
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After long consideration, Hopf left the state system and moved to the not-for-profit sector, which according to her was the best decision she could have ever made. After 5 years as acting as the associate director of ARC of Monroe, at the young age of 35, the working mother of two was hired as the CEO of ABVI-Goodwill.
Phillips, Dr. Lesli Myers, Kathy Nixon, Jill Wynn, Marla E. Wall, Elisha Rogers and RWM’s own fashion columnist (and owner of Panache Vintage and Finer Consignment), Joan Lincoln!
Among Worboys-Turner’s other professional experiences, she was a licensed broker through Merrill Lynch.
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Today, if you walk the halls of ABVI-Goodwill you may overhear the contagious laugh of Dr. Gidget Hopf. She resides over one of this city’s most treasured, and successful non-forprofits, and continues to grow along with her expanding organization. She is confident in the work that ABVI-Goodwill does for Rochester residents, the changes they are making, and her ability to learn from others. Working with the “Ability One” Federal program, she directs the employment of community members, many with visual impairments and developmental disabilities, and helps those who may not be able to be employed otherwise. Hopf is strengthening the community whom she had come to love so very much in her youth. Going ahead, she believes in the outreach ABVI-Goodwill is capable of. Determined to help the region’s most distressed neighborhoods, the city’s lacking educational programs, and poverty-stricken population, Hopf is ready to see ABVI forward.
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McGill is humbled by her organization’s success and profound impact on the professional women involved. “When I was coming up, I didn’t have any women mentors; sometimes you just need a woman to relate to, so I think that’s important,” reflects McGill. “We have a couple of very young ladies-- one is in law school, so the lawyer and the judge can help her and encourage her. It’s that kind of thing that I’m really excited about. More women are attending and they’re telling others… the great thing is we just love what we’re doing. That makes it exciting to see women empowering other women and encouraging other women and sharing their struggle and giving their time.” Members of Priceless Vessels come together approximately six times per year, according to Dr. McGill; the organization has many exciting events planned. Upcoming is a special breakfast at the Strathallan Hotel entitled “The Joys and Risks of Owning a Business” with Joan Lincoln featured as the keynote speaker. Women have the option of becoming a “Platinum” Priceless Vessels Member, with the perks details listed on the website.
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Upon returning to Rochester from New Jersey, Worboys-Turner married Nixon-Peabody, LLC partner Scott Turner and has since committed herself to community service. Among her first significant undertakings in volunteer work were for the College at Brockport where, as board chair, she was able to position for the college’s first ever comprehensive capital campaign of $22 million, and the Girl Scouts of Western New York (GSWNY) merger, where, as first board chair, she was instrumental in blending four councils overseeing 22,000 girls into one fullyoperational one. She now serves on the boards of Rochester Area Community Foundation board, Roberts Wesleyan College, Rochester Rotary Charitable Trusts, and E3 Rochester as well is on a steering committee member of United Way Women’s Leadership Council. These days, most of Worboys-Turner’s energies are devoted to recruiting highly successful and replicable Charter Management Organizations to open charter schools in Rochester through E3 Rochester. She firmly believes that it’s a community responsibility to see that each child is receiving a high quality education and is properly-equipped to be successful in college and career and this is how she and her colleagues are participating in that responsibility.
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RWM’s Events 8/15 A VISUAL EXPERIENCE AT THE MAG On Thursday, August 15th the Memorial Art Gallery was transformed into visual extravaganza for RWM’s Visual Experience at the MAG. Over 300 attendees enjoyed fabulous fashions by local designers and boutiques including Sojo Fashion, SV Styles, Chandeliers, Panache Vintage & Finer Consignment, Hot Rod Bettie, K.O.L.O.U.R.E.D, Raul Siro Fashions, B. Younique Boutique and Reckless Necklace. Everyone also enjoyed live performances by the RWM cover divas Samantha Vega and Kyla Minx, Josh Shapiro, Triumph Entertainment, and Jem of the Nile Belly Dancers with music all night by DJ FLEX. A portion of the proceeds from the event were donated to Trillium Health. rochesterWomanMag.com :: september 2013 51
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to read a dud by Kristine Bruneau
The art of short stories
I stumbled upon a gem of a short story by Edith Wharton while listening to Selected Shorts a free podcast that features some of the finest artists of American theater reading contemporary and classic short fiction. Xingu is Wharton’s humorous take on an insufferable group of high brow book club ladies who get played by one of their own. I was so enamored with the reading by actress Christina Pickles that I searched for a copy of it on the web. Anyone can download it as an ebook or read it online for free on Project Gutenberg, where you can find more than 43,000 digitized stories and forgotten classics that now belong in the public domain.
and unsettling depiction of life in the American South. O’Connor’s prose is seductive – luring you from your comfort zone, and plunging you into the surreal. The title story is a tale of a murderous fugitive The Misfit, who stumbles upon a grandmother and her family in the woods. The Misfit lives by a moral code of remorselessness, while pontificating about Jesus. The irksome grandmother, however, remains duplicitous until her demise. Category: Fiction, Science Fiction The Illustrated Man by Ray Bradbury (1951) Eighteen stories of science fiction, fantasy, and horror compose The Illustrated Man. Written between 1940 and 1950, Bradbury presents himself as a nameless narrator who meets the Illustrated Man – a wanderer whose body is a pulsing canvas of exotic tattoos. Even more remarkable, and disturbing, is that the illustrations are magically alive, with a tale of their own. “The Veldt,” shows what happens to obstinate children when they take a game of virtual reality too far. “Kaleidoscope,” is a heartbreaking portrait of a group of astronauts floating helplessly through space, hopelessly crashing through the earth’s atmosphere.
The short story is a brief work of narrative prose in any genre of fiction that can (arguably) be read in one sitting. Originating from oral storytelling, the short story is considered a crafted form of personalized expression. Masters of short story writing include well-known literary heavyweights such as Hemingway, Chekhov, Joyce, Borges, Faulkner, Welty, and Melville, and contemporary authors like Margaret Atwood, Ha Jin, Sandra Cisneros, and Alice Munro. Because there are so many great stories to read by wonderful authors and so little time as we head back to school this fall, I’ve chosen four of my favorite short story Category: Fiction, Magical Realism collections to share with you. Enjoy! Strange Pilgrims by Gabriel Garcia Marquez Category: Fiction, Southern Gothic (1993) A Good Man is Hard to Find and Other Stories Strange Pilgrims is a wonderful, but sometimes overlooked, collection of 12 short stories from by Flannery O’Connor (1955) A true gem from the Southern Goth tradition, Nobel Prize-winning author Gabriel Garcia this collection of 10 short stories combines Marquez. These tales perfectly define the genre elements of humor, horror, grotesque characters, of magical realism – where fantastic elements and moments of God’s grace to create a moody are woven seamlessly into the real world. These
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evocative stories combine terror, nostalgia, humor, and poetry. Stand-outs include “The Saint,” “Maria dos Prazeres,” and “The Trail of Your Blood in the Snow” – a haunting tale of a panic-stricken husband who takes his wife to a Parisian hospital to treat a cut finger and never sees her again. Category: Fiction, Contemporary The Complete Short Stories of Ernest Hemingway: The Finca Vigia Edition by Ernest Hemingway (1998) With straightforward prose, spare dialogue, and understated mastery, Nobel Prize-winning author Ernest Hemingway is a writer’s hero. This classic collection is a treasure. “The Snows of Kilimanjaro” reflect Hemingway’s fear of leaving his life’s work unfinished, and questioning his moral code of conduct – a mixture of hedonism and sentimental humanism. “Hills Like White Elephants” is the “abortion” story (banned from some High Schools) and an idiom for a valuable but burdensome possession of which its owner cannot dispose of. More great minimalist pieces include “The Killers,” “A Clean, Well Lighted Place,” and “A Very Short Story.” For more than two decades, Kristine Bruneau has made a career from writing and communications. Her commentaries, stories, and reviews have appeared in a variety of regional and national publications. She posts regularly to her Mommy Musings blog – a mash-up of commentary, humor, and insights on motherhood, love, and life at kristinebruneau.com.
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By Angella Luyk Dear Angella, I get nervous when I am going to meet a new potential client. Do I arrive early, or right on time? When do I call them back for a follow up appointment? -Jillian Dear Jillian, A lot of us struggle with this. A good idea is to choose a location close to your prospective client’s location (you don’t want to inconvenience them and want to make it as easy as possible for them to get there). Make sure you arrive a minimum of fifteen minutes early. You want to arrive early, catch your breath and take a moment to compose yourself. This also allows you to get the best seating. There is nothing worse than having to scramble for a seat. When your guest arrives, stand up and greet them. Offer to get them a coffee or water. If they say yes, go and order it for them. This will give them an opportunity to catch their breath and organize their thoughts. When you return with their drink make small talk so they have a chance to take a sip. Ask them if they found the place okay or mention what a great/bad day the weather turned out to be. When you feel your guest is settled in, ask them open-ended questions about their business to get the conversation started. You don’t want to start off by trying to sell them, remember you are building relationships. Before this meeting you should have done some research about the person you are going to meet. Find out who a great client will be for them. Familiarize yourself with their website. This information will make it easier to start and maintain a conversation. You want to control the flow and direction. An opening you may want to ask is, “How did you get into your business?” People love to hear themselves talk and to talk about themselves. As they tell you their story you can insert little tidbits about yourself. People don’t want to be
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sold. They want to be educated, how can you help them solve their problem by partnering with your service or product. Always end your meeting on a positive note. Thank them for spending time with you. If you have offered them a quote or referral make sure you get it to them in the deadline you promised. The key now becomes when do you follow up on the quote you sent them. Have you ever noticed that things seem to happen in threes? Recently I learned that a good friend of mine is pregnant. A few days later I received an e-mail from a colleague I work with that she would be resigning her job to become a mom, she was pregnant. The final straw, I was out networking and ran into another friend who was pregnant. This is three people in a very short time that I knew where pregnant. We all can tell stories about things that have happened to us in threes. What you want to do is call your potential client three days after you met them. If they don’t call you back, call them again three days later. Now if they don’t call you back, wait three weeks and call them. If they still don’t call you back, leave it alone. They are probably busy. You may run into them at another event and they will most likely say to you, “Sorry I owe you a phone call but I have been dealing with XYZ issue. Let’s schedule a time for us to continue our conversation.” If you had kept harassing them who knows where it would go?
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