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Contents

May/June 2017

The Importance of Grandparents

RETIREMENT: Pre-planning Life Celebration

Building a Long-Distance Relationship with Your Grandchildren

10 Enjoying Road Trips with Grandchildren 11 Should You Move in with Your Child? 12 Grandparents as Parents

STAFF WRITERS Michelle Chalkey

Lisa M. Petsche

Donald Hoffman

Harleena Singh

Angela S. Hoover

Martha Evans Sparks

Jamie Lober

Tanya J. Tyler

Dr. Tom Miller

ROCK POINT PUBLISHING Brian Lord / Publisher Kim Blackburn / Sales Representative Jennifer Lord / Customer Relations Specialist Barry Lord / Sales Representative

13 FAMILY VISION: Vision and Close Work 14 The BEST Place a Senior Adult Has Ever Lived:

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16 EVENTS CALENDAR 18 SENIOR SERVICES DIRECTORY 21 COMMUNITY: How Safe are your Parents? Bullying in the Elder Communities

24 Grandparent Blogs 25 The Best Anti-Aging Foods 26 Rotary Club Reaches Out Locally and Internationall

28 Never a Dill Moment When You Play Pickleball 29 AGE ALLOWS: Debbie Sledge and the Donovans: A Musical Legacy

30 ELDER LAW: Preventing Beneficiary Designations from Wreaking Havoc on Special Needs Beneficiaries

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Dear Friends, Someone paid me a wonderful compliment a few weeks ago. “You’re so adventurous,” she said, with a touch of wistfulness. “I’m not. I just can’t seem to get out and do stuff like you.” A long time ago, I decided that life is for living. I decided I would not let any opportunities to do things pass me by, however quirky they were or however much other people frowned upon me

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I certainly advocate rocking on a front porch at the end of a long busy day, when you just want to take time to admire the sunset and refresh and renew yourself for tomorrow. Perhaps you will say yourself, as I often do, “And now, for my next adventure.” Live life like you mean it!

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The Importance of Grandparents More people relying on elders’ help by Harleena Singh, Staff Writer

Grandparents have always played an essential role in bring up children, but nowadays, more people rely on their parents to help them with their kids. The unconditional love of grandparents benefits children in many ways. A grandparent’s love and warmth creates a special bond between both generations. Most important, it gives them a feeling of comfort and security. According to a 2013 study, 98 percent of children learn social skills from their grandparents, including manners, respect and the difference between right and wrong. Many children are raised solely by their grandparents. In some cases, parents abandon their responsibilities due

to various reasons; however, grandparents rise to the occasion and take up the responsibility of raising the children, even though they are aware this additional responsibility can take a toll on their health. Your child’s relationship with your parents will depend on your own relationship with them. Sometimes parents worry about grandparents spoiling their children. Conflicts could arise, including disagreements about child-rearing methods or the deep involvement of grandparents in the child’s life. As children grow up, they will have several teachers, but there is no replacement for grandparents. Grandparents have a gold mine of knowledge to pass on to their children and grandchildren – not just book knowledge, but real-life experiences and information that is not taught in any school. Children

look up to their grandparents for suggestions on how to cope with life, knowing they have faced the real world. Grandparents serve as a link between past, present and future. They introduce their children to family traditions, get involved with them in the present and help them shape their futures. According to an Emory University study, children who know stories about their ancestors show a higher level of emotional well-being and adjust better than those who haven’t been told about their past. Grandparents and grandchildren often become best pals. Children reveal their secrets and problems to their grandparents and grandparents, in turn, offer them valuable advice on how to deal with different situations. Children may not listen to their parents, but they will pay attention to what grandparents have to say. According to one AARP survey, more than half of grandparents give their grandchildren advice on such important subjects as illegal drug use, morals and religion. In a

study by the American Psychological Association, many children view their grandparents as confidants, and having grandparents around to talk to when their parents are too busy helps encourage better behaviors and social skills in children. While some people look forward to having grandchildren, others feel they have done their part by raising their kids. Some may be willing to give up their lives and look after a needy child, while others are not capable of handling them. Some grandparents are over-involved while some keep their distance because they don’t want to interfere with how their children raise their children. Work with your parent at the level of involvement they are most comfortable with to help them build a strong bond with their grandchildren. ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

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Who will notify family and friends? Have you discussed the type of visitation, funeral or memorial service you’d like to have with anyone? Do you know what casket or urn they would like? Do others know what your favorite song is? Is there a favorite outfit you’d want to wear? Do you want traditional burial or cremated? Do you have military benefits that might pay for part of the funeral? And the questions go on and on… “When a death occurs, survivors are naturally stunned, often emotionally devastated and find it difficult to make decisions when they are simply trying to cope with their loss,” said Jeanne Sledd, Senior Advance Planning Specialist at Milward Funeral Directors. “Making the decision to plan your funeral is a big decision, but it is a decision that loved ones will appreciate very much at the time of your death.” With an advance plan, all necessary and difficult decisions can be made so families can devote their time and energy to the memory of their loved one, sharing sentiments and stories with each other, friends and associates

during the visitation and celebration of life memorial service. If one does not plan for the inevitable end of their life, then one day a great deal of responsibility will be placed on the shoulders of a spouse or children for final arrangements and settlement of the estate. People buy life insurance to provide economic means for survivors. But money from life insurance doesn’t console survivors during their emotional pain from grieving. Lawyers draw up wills to ensure possessions in estates will be distributed according to our wishes. But an estate is not probated until after a funeral. “By taking the time now, to put one’s affairs in order for your funeral, loved ones can be spared emotional and financial burdens in the future,” Ms. Sledd said. Because we are living longer and our families are often scattered around the country, advance planning is the responsible gift that provides helpful guidance, emotional support and required information to those who will survive us. A funeral or memorial service is an opportunity for family, friends and associates to gather, reflect upon and honor the meaning and impact of the life of a deceased loved one. It is a complex blend of religious,

psychological, emotional, social and economic dimensions that are interrelated, but individual for each service. A funeral or life celebration, like a wedding, is a ceremonial event that must be planned to coordinate activities and people in a flowing sequence that will help to provide a positive lasting memory for everyone in attendance. It is never too early to pre-plan your funeral or life celebration and you can always make changes to your plan if your circumstances change. ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

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If you haven’t already employed social media and other online tools for your relationships, you should. Whether it’s texts with smart phones, live video calls that allow for interaction and document or game sharing or other social media platform, try to come up with an activity or game that keeps the kid(s) participating and playing. This could be trivia or something else that suits their interests. If the grandchildren have a gaming console such as a Wii, Xbox or PlayStation, get one yourself so you can play video games together while voice chatting. You’ll be the coolest grandparent ever in their eyes. There are so many wonderful apps and social media platforms available it would be impossible to mention them all. Here are some that can help keep your connections strong, no matter the distance. YOUNGER GRANDCHILDREN

When it comes to younger children, interactive is the name of the game. Play games, draw and read stories together. Scoot & Doodle is a free drawing and sketching app that can be used in Google Hangouts. Drawpile is another free app that allows children to share their art masterpieces with anyone in their network. It’s interactive so the receiver can add color to a drawing or an audio recording before sending the piece back to the sender. Draw Something is a drawing game app for idevices, android phones and computers. Users draw pictures for others to guess. Disney’s Scribble Mix is a mobile-only drawing game similar to Pictionary. It can be downloaded for free with advertising or for 99 cents without ads. Ustyme was developed by a pair of grandparents for children ages 2 to 8 years. Frustrated that they were unable to keep their grandchildren’s attention over Skype, they built this platform to share books and games while on live video calls. It comes with two books and one game for free and has more than 50 books

available for 99 cents to $1.99. Kindoma is another storytime app for ages 2 to 7 years. Available on iPhone, iPod Touch and iPad, it has 200 books available; 10 are free. Books for purchase range from $2.99 to $12.99, or you can get unlimited access for $6.99 a month. Tipitap is a drawing app for ages 3 to 7 years. You have to download the $1.99 app and share a unique code. The platform provides blank “sheets” to draw and 28 coloring pages, along with six paper games such as Tic-TacToe, Dots and Boxes. You can create your own game and play however it works for everyone, whether in real time or back and forth through texts. Stories can be read via video chat or even pre-recorded and emailed. TEENS

Too cool and “in the know” is the motto for this bunch. Brush up on Internet acronyms and emoticon meanings to impress your older grandchildren with your hipness and ability to “get it.” Again, if they have a gaming console you should get one, too, if possible. Apps teens might enjoy include Scoodle Jam, a free cooperative drawing app for ages 13 years and up. It provides 18 scene starters and a blank comic strip and allows you to create your own scene by selecting a photo. The app can also be used for homework help, planning a trip or designing a project together. Chess.com can help develop kids’ strategic thinking skills. They can ponder moves for days or play through. Word With Friends is a fun vocabulary-building game teens and adults both love. Perhaps you and your grandchild(ren) can start a blog together. Take turns picking a topic and then both of you can write your take on it and post. It can provide a lot of insight into stages of life and also offer a nonpreachy way for you to get across important life lessons. Wordpress, the most popular and free blog site available, has numerous layout and design options.

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Enjoying Road Trips with Grandchildren Give them an experience to cherish by Michelle Chalkey, Staff Writer

The summer months provide the perfect opportunity to spend extra time with your grandchildren. Perhaps a week at Grandma and Grandpa’s house is something the children look forward to every year, but this summer, why not go on a little adventure? Road trips can create a whole new family experience, something the children will remember forever. You probably already know traveling with youngsters isn’t always easy. Little ones and teenagers seem to get bored quickly, which can make a road trip long and painful for everyone. But with an optimistic attitude and a few tricks up your sleeve, you can give the children an adventure they’ll want to take year after year. Here are a

few ways to make road trips enjoyable for everyone in the car. Pack Lightly. Kids, especially younger ones, come with plenty of extra bags. From their toys and blankets to strollers and diaper bags, your trunk will be filled with their necessities. Pack as lightly for yourself as possible. You’ll want free hands to help the kids. Bring Along Audiobooks. Audiobooks are a great way to keep everyone entertained. Kids may not be eager to read a book in the car, but they love listening to the narrators. Every age group can benefit from an audiobook. It gives the family something to talk about and discuss at later points during the trip. Rent an audiobook from your library or use a subscription service such as Amazon’s Audible. The Harry

Potter series is great for most age groups. For elementary-age kids, try Lemony Snicket’s “A Series of Unfortunate Events.” “The Book Thief ” by Markus Zusak will keep teens entertained. Bring Snacks. Pack healthy snacks such as fruits and vegetables to keep hunger at bay. Offer water instead of soda. You don’t need sugary snacks on a long car trip. Take Breaks. Stop every couple of hours so everyone can get out and stretch their legs and go to the bathroom. Bring a Frisbee for the kids and make your breaks active. When you return to the car, everyone will feel refreshed. In addition to stopping for food or gas, stop at local points of interest. Let the kids have a say in choosing these spots, too, so they’re something that interests them. Surprise Them with a New Toy. Kids will stay entertained longer with a new toy. These can range from stuffed animals to coloring books to handheld video games. For older kids, give them a blank notebook to record their experiences of the road trip.

The energy you bring to your trip will rub off on the youngsters. Be open-minded and ready to have a good time. You may have to make silly faces and do some work to keep the kids entertained, but the most important thing is the memorable experience you create with them. Understand they may not be as content as you are to ride in a car for several hours, so be willing to work with them. The more often kids travel, the more likely they’ll come to enjoy and appreciate road trips with Grandma and Grandpa. ABOUT THE AUTHOR

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Should You Move in with Your Child? Ask yourself some practical questions before deciding by Lisa M. Petsche, Staff Writer

When seniors live alone, other people may have concerns about their physical or emotional welfare. Particularly if the senior has health problems or don’t live close by, a son or daughter may invite him or her to move in. If you receive such an offer, ask yourself the following questions and take time to honestly and thoroughly answer each one before making a decision. Interpersonal Issues. What kind of relationship do you have with your child? How well do they get along with others in their household? How well do you? If you need help, are you comfortable with the idea of role reversal? Your Needs and Expectations. Would the move uproot you from important relationships and community connections? If you have a pet, can it be accommodated? If your child has pets, are you comfortable around them? If you have a chronic illness, how are your needs likely to change? Your Family’s Needs and Expectations. Would you be expected to contribute to the household in practical ways, such as cooking meals or providing child care? Would your child or other household members be willing and able to provide the help you need? Lifestyle Issues. Do you and your child have similar lifestyles and values? Are differences likely to be a source of tension? How might your needs and preferences affect household members’ routines and responsibilities? Are they prepared to make adjustments? Available Supports. Would you be within walking distance of a grocery store, pharmacy or bank? What about proximity to a place of worship? Would you be close to public transit routes? Would friends and former neighbors be

able to visit? Consider the distance they would have to travel and their transportation options. If you have to move, how easily could you link with needed medical supports, such as a new family doctor? What community services are available to assist in meeting your needs, now or in the future? Finances. How much would you be expected to contribute toward household expenses? Do you have savings or insurance that would cover the cost of needed medical equipment or healthcare services? If not, who would pay for them? Home Setup. Is there sufficient space in the home to meet everyone’s privacy needs? Will you have your own room and bathroom? How accessible is the home? If adaptations are required, what is the estimated cost and who would pay? Other Options. Before making a decision, explore alternatives: home healthcare and support services such as meals on wheels; live-in help; home renovations; and moving to a seniors’ apartment complex or assisted living facility. The Decision. If you accept the offer, consider having a six-month trial period, with the understanding that you will pursue other options if you, your child or other household members feel it’s not working out. Keep in mind that such a plan involves numerous changes that affect daily living. Everyone will require time to adjust, but challenges can usually be overcome if everyone is committed to making the arrangement work. ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Lisa M. Petsche is a registered social worker and freelance writer specializing in boomer and senior concerns. She has personal experience with elder care.

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Legacy Reserve at Fritz Farm, Lexington’s newest senior living community will open July 2017. Eliminate the stress of home maintenance, pursue new interests, enjoy fine cuisine and cultivate friendships all in the security and comfort of a carefree living environment. Join residents with a vibrancy for life and passion for independence in our extraordinary community.

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Grandparents as Parents The second time around entails unique circumstances by Martha Evans Sparks, Staff Writer

Usually, having to take full parental responsibility for your grandchildren or other children not your own comes with little warning. Grandparents often cartwheel into a world of child neglect and abuse, court proceedings and drug addiction they never knew existed. Grandparents need fast, accurate answers to their questions. In sorrow and love they take in the little refugees created by military deployment, fatal accidents, incarceration or mental illness. However, 80 percent to 90 percent of the cases where grandparents find themselves raising their children’s children happen because of the biological

parents’ addictions to drugs and alcohol. One of the first things grandparents or others stepping in as fulltime parents should do is go to family court and prove to the judge that it is in the best interests of the child for someone other than the birth parents to have custody and to be awarded that custody. Custody has two components: legal custody and physical custody. Legal custody means being able to make decisions for the child – where the child goes to school, what doctor the child sees in case of illness – or to give permission for the child to play a sport at school that might result in injury. Physical custody refers to where the child lives, eats and sleeps. Sole custody, sometimes called full custody, gives you both legal and physical

custody of your relative child. With full custody, grandparents have the complete say on everything. One important effect of having full custody is lowered stress for the child. Many of these children live in fear they will be abruptly dragged back into the abusive situation they have escaped. If a court has awarded the grandparents custody, the natural parents cannot show up without warning and say, “He’s my kid. I’m taking him now.” At least there will have to be a hearing first. Children coming out of neglect and abuse sometimes need special parenting methods. Little children often conclude from their experiences in the chaos of a dysfunctional home that adults cannot be trusted, that adults never do what they say they will do. Sometimes children who move from the custody of drunken and/or drug addicted parents to Grandma’s are amazed to find that she doesn’t live in her car and they come home to the same house every day. They are surprised to learn when Grandma says, “We will have dinner at 6 p.m.,” that is

when they eat. Sometimes imposing a rigid schedule, at least at first, is helpful in parenting a young child who has been abused or neglected. Money has to be the top problem for most second-time-around parents. Food, clothing and medical expenses suddenly increase enormously, but the Social Security check does not increase. Yet many grandparents would not have it any other way. They do not want strangers raising their own flesh and blood. In Kentucky, relatives parenting children not their own may want to contact Legal Aid of the Bluegrass at (859) 233-4556 to get help. This would include information on the Senior Health Insurance Plan (SHIP) that assists seniors in accessing Medicare, Medicaid, Food Stamps and other government programs. Substitute parents may also find helpful information by attending the low-cost, one-day Grandparents As Parents (GAP) conference held each March in Lexington. Call (859) 257-5582 or go to www. gapofky.org for more information.

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FAMILY VISION

Vision and Close Work LOOK UP ONCE IN A WHILE TO REST YOUR HARDWORKING EYES

by Dr. Rick Graebe, Family Eyecare Associates and Vision Therapy

It is interesting to note how eyesight has evolved. The vision system used to be more about looking far afield for what could be hunted and eaten – and what could hunt and eat us. These days, people are spending more time with their gazes fixed on their computer or TV screens or cell phones. There are certain physical dynamics to this everyday phenomenon. There is

a lens inside the eye that flexes and focuses, so when we look at things up close, that lens has to work extra hard. When you look at something in the distance, both eyes move in the same direction, but when you look at something close, your eyes’ pointing muscles have to cross to focus. To see the tiny letters on your phone, you have to be much more precise than when you’re looking at a tree. To keep both eyes turned in and pointed precisely is one of the most difficult things the eye-pointing muscles have to do. You are using the macula, which is located

in the dead center of the retina. That extra precision requires extra effort from the eyes. Sometimes when you spend too much time reading or playing on your phone, you might feel headachy, sleepy or have trouble concentrating. Close work can cause eyestrain. One way to combat possible eyestrain is to adhere to the “20-20-20” rule. When you’re working on your computer or watching videos or texting on your phone, be sure to look up every 20 minutes. Focus your eyes 20 feet away for 20 seconds to rest them. This is also a good time to roll your shoulders and neck to relieve the strain sitting can place on them. TIPS FOR THE GRANDKIDS

One way to combat possible eyestrain is to adhere to the “20-20-20” rule.

More and more children nowadays are already picking up the constant-phone-watching habit. They also spend more time playing video games. A growing number of children in the United States (about 30 percent) are presenting as nearsighted. (It’s almost 50 percent in Asia.) The increased screen time is suspected. For children, the recommendation is to follow a “5-2-1” standard. Every day, children should eat five servings of fruits and vegetables. They should have no more than two hours total of screen time a day, including watching TV and playing video games. And they should spend at least one hour

doing some type of physical activity, preferably outdoors. When children are just sitting there looking at a screen, they are not learning about their body and space. They need to explore, touch and feel so they can learn how to move in a three-dimensional world. Children need to get feedback from the sensory system through movement, touch and visual and auditory stimulation. This is critical for the development of spatial awareness. It’s up to parents (and grandparents) to help children wean themselves from their electronic addictions. One way to do that is to be mindful of your own use of your phone, laptop, iPad and other devices and lay them aside once in a while to play outside with your grandkids. ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Dr. Graebe received both his B.S degree in Visual Science and Doctorate of Optometry from Indiana University. He is a Behavioral Optometrist and learning expert. He has been in private practice here in the Bluegrass area for the past 32 years.

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Among the growing field of senior housing options in Lexington, a new addition soon to open in Beaumont Centre stands out. Provision Living at Beaumont Centre offers thoughtfully crafted, wide-ranging services and amenities that use a holistic approach to wellbeing to nourish the bodies, minds and spirits of all its residents.

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Provision Living prides itself on creating an inviting environment where residents can flourish in all these aspects of life. Provision Living’s vision is “to create a radiant organization where people are loved, inspired and thriving.” Its mission is to become “the best place a senior adult has ever lived.” “The one thing that differentiates us is our approach to taking care of our residents,” said Barry Brinegar, Community Relations Manager. “Provision Living is committed to having the best caregiver-to-resident ratio of any other community.” “Luxurious amenities and unparalleled support for residents and families make Provision Living at Beaumont Center first in its class,” added Community Relations Manager Amber Lakin. “Those two things really do set us apart. We are doing things no one else is doing. There are no gimmicks. This is just good care.” Provision Living’s independent living neighborhoods provide

personalized assistance that eliminates the daily burdens of living. From the rooftop garden patio to the movie theater to the Bourbon Reserve Room in the bistro, independent living residents will find a variety of comforts at the facility, including enriching activities and educational programs, group exercise classes and access to wellness and personal care services – everything they want and need to enjoy hassle-free living. “We have a total of 104 apartments. Thirty-two of those will be in a secure memory care neighborhood and 72 will be in the personal care three-story building,” Barry said. “On the top floor of our personal care building, we’re offering some apartments are for independent living. Folks can live with us independently until they start needing more care, so they can age in place. We’ll just add on that care right where they are in that apartment. The care is bundled into the cost of monthly rent, so the care levels will never increase in cost to the residents.”

“Independent living will include three meals a day,” said Amber. “This is restaurant-style dining. And the bistro will have freshbaked bread and things like that.”

With its personal care facility, Provision Living ensures residents can enjoy a comfortable, worry-free lifestyle. Services include restaurant-style dining with a selection of fresh, healthy options at each meal; access to wellness and personal care services; and discreet assistance with activities of daily living and medication management. A nurse will be on site 24-7. There will also be housekeeping, laundry, maintenance and transportation services and a variety of enriching social activities, group classes and wellness, fitness and educational programs. A concierge will assist residents in

making appointments or arranging transportation. Provision Living also has in place advanced technology for safety and support, including intelligent wireless-based safety systems. Provision Living’s memory care services are designed to address the specific needs of individuals with memory loss. Everything from the building design and the outdoor spaces to the social activities and dining experiences are specifically constructed to enhance the lives of residents and their families. Each neighborhood has its own team of dedicated support companions whose goal is to become intimately familiar with the elders. These companions will provide the right type of support to meet the needs of families as they experience the challenges and stresses related to memory loss. A unique feature the community will offer as part of its management team is a Family Support Mentor. Carla Guthrie brings more than 18 years of experience in dementia care to the position. She previ-

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point of care for family members and for professionals,” Barry said. “She will actually function as a navigator for our residents. When they go to the hospital for care, she will orient the staff to the resident.” Beaumont Centre is a safe, comfortable community that has everything a resident at Provision Living might desire, including numerous shopping, recreation, entertainment and dining opportunities. There is easy access to major highways from the area and to iconic Kentucky venues such as Keeneland Race Course. The people living in Beaumont Centre have watched Provision Living’s progress from groundbreaking to ribbon cutting with great interest. “The neighborhood has been very supportive,” Amber said. “It’s almost like people have been waiting for us.” Provision Living, with a number of communities in various states, including Missouri, Michigan, Tennessee and Florida, looks forward to bringing its particular vision of senior living to Lexington.

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Yoga Health & Therapy Center Classes Our Yoga Classes feature slow stretch with gentle breathing, and relaxation techniques. Class size is small, to provide careful instruction. Yoga classes are offered Mon through Thurs (daytime and evening), and Sat mornings. Our Meditation Starter Course teaches simple ways to focus and quiet the mind; 5-week sessions are offered on Sundays at 5:30 pm. A nonprofit organization operating since 1981, The Yoga Health & Therapy Center is located at 322 W. 2nd St. Free private parking is provided for most classes. For more information on fees and scheduled dates and times, call us at 859-254-9529, or email us at info@yogahealthcenter.org

Sit and Get Fit Mondays and Fridays, 9:30am10:30am. FREE! This event is a seated controlled exercise/ movement class to improve strength, flexibility, balance and coordination. It is taught by Anne Graff, MS, OTR/L, Occupational Therapist certified by the American Senior Fitness Association as a Senior Fitness Instructor and trained in Body Recall. Also included are: Fall Prevention and Recovery, Fun Movements to Strengthen Body and Mind, Improve Posture and Core Conditioning, Wellness Education, Relaxation Techniques, and Music. The Charles Young Center is located at 540 E. Third Street. Parking is available on Shropshire Avenue or Lewis Street, Lexington, KY. Ages 60 and older. For more information, please contact Alexis Edge at 859-2460281 or aedge@lexingtonky.gov.

Community Yoga Class with Lauren Higdon Every Tuesday 10:30am– 11:30am at Centered Studio, 309 N. Ashland Ave. Suite 180 in Lexington. This weekly restorative class integrates gentle yoga, breathing techniques, meditation and wellness tips for all ages and levels of physical condition. Classes may include chair yoga, restorative, yin yoga, tai chi, and more. Perfect for beginners as well as experienced yogis! Donations-based class.

Community Flow This weekly (Tuesdays) restorative class integrates gentle yoga, breathing techniques, meditation and wellness tips for all ages and levels of physical condition. 10:30am–11:30am. Donation only (great portion of all donations go to the Backpack Food Program at Ashland Elementary.) Inspiring, Educating & Supporting our World through the Moving, Visual & Healing Arts! Daily classes, therapies, workshops & a great spot to host your next event! 309 N Ashland Ave Ste.180, Lexington, KY 40502. 859-721-1841. www.centeredlex.com.

Lupus Support Group Living & Coping with Lupus: meets 1st Tuesday of every month at Imani Baptist Church, 1555 Georgetown Road,

Lexington from 7:00pm–8:30pm. The Lupus Foundation of America support groups are intended to provide a warm and caring environment where people with lupus, their family members, caregivers and loved ones can share experiences, methods of coping and insights into living with chronic illness. www.lupusmidsouth.org 877-865-8787.

MELT Method Hand, Foot and Body Healing Class by Shayne Wigglesworth. Mondays and Wednesdays at 12pm - Discover painfree living at any age! Enjoy a gentle foam roller class to reduce pain, inflammation, stress, anxiety and more! MELT Method certified instructor Shayne Wigglesworth will teach you healing techniques you can use for self care at home. All materials and rollers are provided. Perfect for all ages, body types and experience levels. Learn more – call/online: www.centeredlex.com 859-721-1841

Lexington Area Parkinson’s Support Group Free daytime and evening discussion groups for people with PD and their care partners. Daytime meetings held the 4th Monday of each month at noon. Evening meetings held on 1stWednesday of each month at 6:00 pm. Both group meetings held at Crestwood Christian Church, 1882 Bellefonte Drive, Lexington, KY. For more details contact Elaine at 859-277-1040 or by email info@parkinsonslexington.com. Please visit our website atwww. parkinsonslexington.com to

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Free ‘How to Stay Young’ Class Triple Crown Chiropractic and Wellness offers a free class twice a week explaining how to keep your body young through chiropractic care. Free spinal screening available for anyone who attends the class. To register for the class, please call 859-335-0419. Questions to pr.triplecrownchiro@gmail. com. Triple Crown Chiropractic and Wellness: 1795 Alysheba Way #4103 Lexington, KY. Free gift from the office to those who attend the class!

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Lexington Farmer’s Market Every Saturday at Cheapside Park visit the Lexington Farmers’ Market! You can purchase herbs and spices, honey, beeswax, candles, body care products, organic products, eggs, meats and fresh, seasonal produce. 7am-2pm.

May 9

“Right Place at the Right Time” Come learn everything you need to know about Senior Living in Lexington. Susan Neville with Silver Lexington Senior Placement Service will speak and take questions at the Eastside Library conference room from 6-7pm. Space is limited please RSVP to Susan Neville (859) 519-8591.

May 13

Garden Club Plant Sale Raises Money for Worth Causes Down to Earth Garden Club will host its annual plant sale community fundraiser Saturday from 9:00 A.M.– noon at Woodland Christian Church. The plants are grown, nurtured and generously donated by each club member. This wonderful community benefit event will be held rain or shine. The club will sell plants for shade or sun. Come and support your community while adding beauty to your garden! Money raised will benefit local projects that promote gardening, education, preservation, conservation and

environmental stewardship. Some of those projects include Habitat for Humanity; Florence Crittenton Home; Chrysalis House; Peace Meal Community Garden; Floracliff Nature Sanctuary; Seed Leaf Community Garden; Raven Run Nature Sanctuary; Venerable Trees; Wolf Run; Green Acres Community Garden; Lower Howard’s Creek Nature Preserve and more!

May 16

Eat, Move, Lose Weight Support Group 12 – 1 pm, Lexington-Fayette Co. Health Department PH Clinic South, 2433 Regency Road. Free weight-loss support group appropriate for anyone wishing to lose weight or maintain weight loss. Share struggles and ideas with others. Held first and third Tuesdays most months. For more information or to preregister, call 288-2446.

May 18

Diabetes Prevention Program Series 12 -1 pm, Lexington-Fayette Co. Health Department PH Clinic South, 2433 Regency Road. Free year-long intensive program helps overweight adults or those diagnosed with pre-diabetes reduce their risk for developing full diabetes. Begins with weekly meetings. Info & registration, call 859288-2347.

Interested in volunteering at an event? Earn points and have a GREAT time! Contact kathyfreakingrocks@ gmail.com for details.

May 27

Mutts 4 the Military Paws 4 the Cause is proud to announce the launching of our new program, Mutts 4 the Military!! Join us Saturday, May 27th from 11AM-7PM at Liquor Barn-Hamburg. We will have information on this new program, food, and a FREE GIFT with EVERY DONATION! We will also have a raffle for a Mutts 4 the Military goodie bag, featuring NEW Mutts 4 the Military promo items (like the slick new shirts, bumper stickers, and MORE!!) We will also have several ADOPTABLE pets out. Come support a great cause!

June 9

4th Annual Bluegrass Elder Abuse Prevention Conference

Keynote speaker Marie Smart from the University of Kentucky and Sanders-Brown Center on Aging. 8:00am–3:00pm at the Lexington Senior Center, 195 Life Lane, Lexington, KY 40502 in the All Purpose Room. To register, call 859-576-3898 or online at www.BluegrassEAPC. com.

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Assisted Living and Memory Care Community Opens Provision Living at Beaumont Centre, which broke ground in December 2015, is planning to welcome its first residents this June. The 88,000-square-foot community will offer 93 private assisted living apartments; twenty-six which will be dedicated to memory care. The community is the first in Kentucky for Provision Living. For more information about Provision Living, visit http:// www.provisionliving.com or call 859.823.5055.

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Shopping Event Stop by Morning Pointe, 233 Ruccio Way, Lexington, KY from 11am–3pm to shop: Mary Kay and Tastefully Simple.

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Mutts 4 the Military Paws 4 the Cause is proud to announce the launching of our new program, Mutts 4 the Military!! Join us Friday, May 26th from 3-7PM at Man O War Harley-Davidson. We will have information on this new program, food, and a FREE GIFT with EVERY DONATION! We will also have a raffle for a Mutts 4 the Military goodie bag, featuring NEW Mutts 4 the Military promo items (like the slick new shirts, bumper stickers, and MORE!!). Join us to kick off the start of this AMAZING new program!

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Senior or Elder bullying is becoming a problem in the aging population. You may think your loved one is safe from such things, but it is being shown that bullying is becoming a problem in Senior Social and Living Communities. Elder Bullying and Elder Abuse are similar but are not the same thing. While Elder Abuse comes from someone in a position of power over the senior, Elder Bullying can come from senior peers as well, just as the children who are bullied at school. Senior living facilities do an excellent job of taking care of our loved ones, but occasionally the personalities of the various people who live in the facilities and their interaction with other residents can be overlooked unless an obvious incident occurs. Just like the children who suffer in silence, many elders do as well. Bullying occurs for much the same reasons and in much the same ways. Popularity, jealousy, being different, seclusion, and anger. Not being included in activities and socializing can be just as devastating for an eighty-year-old as an eightyear-old. Bullying is characterized by a repetitive aggression or a one-time aggression that is either verbal, antisocial or physical in nature. These behaviors include: • Verbal: name calling, teasing, insults, taunts, threats, sarcasm, or pointed jokes targeting specific individuals • Physical: pushing, hitting, destroying property, or stealing • Anti-social: shunning/excluding, gossiping, spreading rumors,

and using negative non-verbal body language such as mimicking, offensive gestures Seniors often consider any behavior that is frightening or disturbing to be “bullying”. It is noted by the US Department of Health and Human Services that in any senior community up to 25% of the elders have been bullied at some point. This happens at the not only Assisted Living communities, but adult daycare centers, senior housing, retirement communities and senior centers. Senior environments with higher functioning residents or participants tend to have more problems with bullying. Some common characteristics of people who bully:

• Seek to control others • Feel important by: • Being powerful and controlling • Making others feel threatened, fearful or hurt • Causing and observing conflict between people • Have difficulty tolerating individual differences • Have a lack empathy • Likely to have few friends and social relationships At the same time, bullying among older adults also seems to be associated with loss. • Loss of sense of value • Loss of social identity and roles • Loss of family and a sense of belonging Older bullies may be seeking control at a time in their life when they feel powerless. • Some negative behaviors may be attempts to regain a sense of self identity Elderly women tend to engage in more passive aggressive behavior like gossiping and whispering. Men

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Grandparent Blogs They’re a great way to share your wisdom by Angela S. Hoover, Staff Writer

Have you considered starting your own grandparent blog? Maintaining a blog can improve your life and skillsets in many unexpected ways. It will help you: Add Focus To Your Life. In the practical aspect, a blog becomes another (fun) responsibility in your life that needs caretaking and nurturing, but there is also a deeper aspect to a blog. Once you start writing about your life and the perspective that shapes it, you will become more intentional about who you are and who you are becoming. Develop Better Life Habits. Blogging requires time, devotion and commitment. It’s a healthy habit that can add a sense of purpose to your life. Exercise Your Brain. Writing in and of itself requires a degree of mental organization. Additionally, choosing what you want to say will require you to dig deeper and reflect on why you feel or believe a certain way – what life events or even historical events have helped shape your worldview. Too many people mistakenly believe they have nothing to say, but everyone has a story. A blog entails more than just writing. Considerations of layout organization, font styles and graphics are also needed. You’ll

find yourself learning new programs and picking up more tech skills as your blog develops. Become a Better Writer. Want to know the secret to writing well? Practice, practice, practice! A blog will increase the amount of time you regularly write in a certain way. Gain an Eye for Meaning. It’s not possible to blog about every event of life or thought you have; this will develop your filter for what is essential. Which topics and events have meaning and are useful – whether practically or emotionally – to readers? Don’t lose sight, though, that some of the most meaningful examples can appear in mundane events. Meet New People. After a few entries, you’ll begin to see comments on your blog or receive emails and feedback on social media. Some of these interactions may lead to new friendships. In general, the blogging community is friendly and encouraging and genuinely roots for each other’s success. Make Money. Blogging sometimes provides bonus money. It could be as little as $20 a year but could actually be as high as $20,000 year. If you’re still working, have your own side business or want to start one, blogs are easily tied into your business or career as an additional promotion/marketing tool.

Be an Inspiration. Blogging has benefits for you, but it can change the life of a reader. Your words could be just the right information, encouragement or hearty laugh or cry they need. Blogging is one of those rare hobbies that is free. Of course, you could pay a few dollars a month to use your own domain name, but most people don’t because so many sites such as WordPress offer blog spots for free. Before beginning a blog, consider what type of blog you want and for which type of audience. Your blog writing style can be conversational and personal, fact-based or a combination of the two depending on what your blog will focus on. It could be a journal where you just share life experiences and little drops of wisdom. It could be more narrowly focused: humor, a specific subject such as divorce, a disability, living somewhere unique. It could be political or offer arts and crafts and things to do with grandchildren. It could be a tech guide or give advice for either other grandparents, parents or young people. Who are you interested in reaching? You’ll not only enjoy blogging more but also have more success with it if you determine the answers to these questions before you start your blog. Here are a handful of grandparent blogs you can check out either for inspiration and examples or for your own enjoyment as a follower: Social Network and Support

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The Best Anti-Aging Foods Food choices can boost longevity and health by Harleena Singh, Staff Writer

With age, the body changes. Digestion isn’t as efficient. Your sense of taste may change due to medications or you may have problems chewing. A visit to the doctor will let you know you need to eat a balanced and healthy diet, combined with adequate exercise, and take other measures to age well. Here is a list of the best antiaging foods you can eat: 1. Berries – They are delicious and packed with various antioxidants that prevent or reduce damage to your cells. All berries possess a high concentration of minerals and vitamins that can

protect cell health and stave off the effects of free radicals. 2. Salmon – Along with other fatty fish such as sardines and mackerel, salmon is heart healthy and high in omega-3 fatty acids and may help prevent stroke. It’s recommended to get at least two servings of salmon a week. 3. Beans – Most beans are packed with fiber and minerals, which are crucial for overall health. They prevent bloating, constipation and cramping and improve nutrient intake. 4. Dark Chocolate – It’s full of flavonoids that protect the skin from various types of UV radiation, which speeds up the aging process.

5. Cruciferous Vegetables – Cauliflower and broccoli help the liver break down and excrete toxins. Broccoli, enriched with beta-carotene and vitamin C, helps keep weight down. Steaming broccoli is the best way to hold onto its nutrients. Kale is full of vitamin K, potassium and lutein that keep blood pressure in check and help maintain healthy bones and vision. 6. Tomatoes – They are high in lycopene, which can help protect against lung and prostate cancer. Processed or cooked tomatoes, as in paste, sauce and juice, may be more effective than raw ones; mashing or heating them releases more of the fruit’s lycopene. 7. Nuts – They’re full of omega3s, unsaturated fats, protein, potassium, calcium, vitamin E and fiber, which can have a great impact on your bone strength, inflammation, blood pressure, hormonal balance and growth and repair of cells and tissues. Try to get five one-ounce servings per week. 8. Yogurt – It’s a good source of calcium and probiotics, which means it protects against bone mineral density loss and osteoporosis and also optimizes gut health by removing harmful bacteria. Get yogurt fortified with vitamin D, which helps in the absorption of calcium. Yogurt has protein also and helps you digest food. 9. Fiber – Dietary fiber, especially that found in whole grains, fruits, vegetables and legumes, helps regulate the digestive system, which may ease constipation. Fiber can reduce your blood

pressure, cholesterol and inflammation, resulting in a healthier heart. Fiber also lowers the risk of diabetes, controls blood sugar and helps fight obesity. 10. Olive oil – This helps increase your amount of antioxidants. According to one study, there was a drop in bad cholesterol (LDL) and an increase in good cholesterol (HDL) among people given extra virgin olive oil. 11. Carotenoid-containing Foods – The phytonutrients found in yellow vegetables and fruits such as orange bell peppers, carrots, squash and oranges can help improve the skin’s vibrancy and stop collagen breakdown. 12. Green Tea – You can drink it hot or cold; it’s full of flavonoids that may protect against heart disease and certain cancers. It also contains catechins (one of the most effective compounds for preventing sun damage such as hyperpigmentation) and polyphenols (antioxidants that combat free-radical damage and may reverse the effects of aging). 13. Wine – Red wine contains resveratrol, a compound that likely contributes to its benefits and, according to animal studies, may activate genes and slow cellular aging. 14. Water – The lack of H20 can lead to dehydration, fatigue, mild headaches, constipation and many other health problems. So make sure you drink enough water every day.

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otary Club Reaches Out R Locally and Internationally Civic organization walks the walk by Jamie Lober, Staff Writer

If you’ve heard of the Rotary Club but don’t know any details about it, you’re probably not the only curious person reading this article. “Rotary is the largest and oldest service organization in the world with over 35,000 clubs internationally and 1.25 million members,” said Gerry Van Der Meer, president of the Rotary Club of Lexington. Rotary started over 100 years ago when several businessmen came together and decided to do some good in the world. Though the club was originally a men’sonly organization, it has diversified and now has women, too.

The Lexington club is the 21st largest with 350 members. Members are very proud of their growth and giving. “We are the fifth most giving civic organization in the world and are supported in part by the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation,” Van Der Meer said. The club gives scholarships to high school students and offers mentoring and reading programs for grade-school children. Another popular Rotary event is Dancing with the Lexington Stars, which is held every May. The funds go to Surgery on Sunday. “The hospitals give their space and doctors and nurses give their time and Rotary provides the

money to take care of all the costs for the operations,” said Van Der Meer. During the annual winter clothing program, Rotary volunteers work at the Kentucky Horse Park. They charge $5 for a picture with Santa to raise money to buy over 800 coats for kids. The Rotary Club also provides grants. “People will submit what their needs are in small increments from anywhere from $500 to $5,000,” Van Der Meer said. One grant recipient is the Toyota Bluegrass Miracle League, where children play at a handicapped accessible ballpark. “We like to do things in the community but internationally as well,” said Van Der Meer. “We are currently helping with the installation of solar panels in Rameswaram, India. Our mantra is, ‘Service above self.’ We are people who want to give back. We walk the walk; we do not just talk the talk. “We are in the middle of a membership drive because to do all of these things we need a lot of mem-

bers,” Van Der Meer added. “We just want to make sure that we have somebody we think will contribute and do things for the club.” Van Der Meer was formerly a general manager at hotels and state parks, but he wanted something more. “I always felt the community was an important part,” he said. “We have our jobs and careers but life is a lot bigger than that.” Rotary turned out to be just what he was looking for. Speaking from his experience, Van Der Meer believes your involvement with Rotary will make you feel good. “It gave me a lot of joy to work with many organizations from United Way to Rotary,” Van Der Meer said. “I served on various committees and I do not do it for any other reason than the pure joy of giving.”

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Who Are the Caregivers? Assisting others with activities of daily living among their tasks by Martha Evans Sparks, Staff Writer

Do you know a caregiver? Perhaps you are a caregiver. Though definitions and criteria vary, numerous studies of informal caregiving in the United States generally define a caregiver as an unpaid individual – spouse, partner, family member, friend or neighbor – who assists another person on a regular basis with activities of daily living and/or medical tasks. The caregiver feeds the care receiver if necessary. He or she helps the person dress each morning and undress and prepare for bed each night. A caregiver may help the care receiver use the bathroom. If

the care receiver is fully or partially incontinent, the caregiver changes diapers as needed. The caregiver often gives medicines. He or she may take the care recipient’s blood pressure or perform blood sugar tests or other medical procedures and keep a written record for the person’s physician. About 43.5 million caregivers in the United States provided unpaid care to someone in the past 12 months, as reported by the National Alliance for Caregiving and the AARP. About 34.2 million Americans provided unpaid care to an adult age 50 years or older in 2015. Most of these (82 percent) cared for one other adult, but 15 percent cared for two adults and 3 percent cared for three or more

adults. In 2015, the Alzheimer’s Association estimated about 15.7 million family caregivers were caring for someone with Alzheimer’s disease or other dementia. The average age of home caregivers is 49.2 years. Forty-eight percent are 18 to 49 years old and 34 percent are older than 65 years. The number of hours given to caregiving increases with the age of the caregiver. Caring for parents is the primary situation for caregivers between the ages of 50 and 64 years, with 70 percent of this group involved in parent care. More than 75 percent of caregivers are female. Women may spend as much as 50 percent more time providing care than men. Sixty-five percent of care receivers are female, with an average age of 69.4 years. However, among caregivers who are spouses aged 75 years or more, both sexes provide equal amounts of care. Caregivers who spend 21 hours or more weekly at caregiving tasks are nearly four times more likely to be caring for a spouse or partner. Some studies show 36 per-

cent of female caregivers perform the most difficult caregiving tasks, such as bathing, toileting and dressing, compared to 24 percent of male caregivers. Men, some studies find, are more likely to help with finances, arrangement of care and other tasks that, while important, are less physically burdensome. Forty percent of male caregivers were found to use paid assistance for a loved one’s personal care. The average caregiver serves in this role for four years. Only 30 percent provide care for less than a year. Twenty-four percent provide care for more than five years, and 15 percent of caregivers provide care for 10 years or more. More information about caregiving can be found at www. caregiver.org/caregiver-statisticsdemographics.

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Never a Dill Moment When You Play

Pickleball by Dr. Tom Miller, Staff Writer

Perhaps you, like many others, enjoyed playing ping pong, paddleball, racquet ball and even tennis earlier in life. Then as the years passed, those hips, legs, knees and shoulders gave way to aging. There is still hope for anyone Living Well 60+ in the golden years who wants to keep playing racquet sports, and it’s called pickleball.

There are over 15,000 indoor and outdoor pickleball courts in the United States.

Pickleball combines elements of ping pong, badminton and tennis. In this game, two, three or four players use paddles made of wood or composite materials to hit a perforated polymer ball, similar to a whiffle ball, over a net. This sport shares the dimensions and layout of a badminton court and a net and rules similar to tennis, with a few minor differences. Many players enjoy pickleball because it helps them stay active in their senior years. Tennis, racquetball and ping pong players love the competitive nature of the sport and regularly participate in local, regional and even national tournaments. Pickleball was invented during the 1960s by three dads – Joel Pritchard, Bill Bell and Barney McCallum – from Bainbridge Island, Wash. Their kids were bored with their usual summertime activities, so the trio developed the idea and rules for the game. One anecdote says Joel Pritchard’s wife, Joan, started calling the game pickleball because the combination of different sports reminded her of the pickle-boat crew where oarsmen were chosen from the

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leftovers of other boats. According to Barney McCallum, the game was named after the Pritchards’ dog, Pickles, who would chase the ball and run off with it. However the name evolved, pickleball has become popular among adults as well as children – so much so that the new Lexington Senior Center includes pickleball as one of its activities. Terry Clark, a retired Lexington Veterans Administration Medical Center chief of social work and Army veteran, is an avid pickleball enthusiast. She says pickleball possesses all those characteristics that make a racket sport exciting to play and watch. “It is competitive, fast paced and fun,” she said. Clark, who started playing pickleball after retiring, insists the best part of the game is the pickleball community. “The [experienced] players genuinely like to help new players become better and have fun,” she said. “They share their paddles, encourage them to play with everyone and give tips on how to be better. No wonder it is a fast growing sport.” According to the Pickle-Ball, Inc. (www.pickleball.com),

there are over 15,000 indoor and outdoor pickleball courts in the United States and at least one location in all 50 states. As more retirement communities adopt pickleball, there has been an explosion of new court construction throughout the United States, especially in the southern states. Pickleball is being introduced to children in physical education classes in middle and high schools. According to the Sports & Fitness Industry Association’s 2016 Participant Report, there are more than 2.5 million pickleball players in the United States. So if you’re in a pickle about staying active as you age, consider learning how to play pickleball and find a community of seniors who enjoy the spirit of the game. You can also learn more about the sport at www.usapa.com, the USA Pickleball Association’s Web site. SOURCES AND RESOURCES

Leach, Gale H. The Art of Pickleball (4th ed.). Two Cats Press, 2013.

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Age Allows Debbie Sledge and the Donovans: A Musical Legacy Age Allows is a column dedicated to the development of a creative lifestyle for older adults. It is designed to provide new ways of thinking about retirement, develop creative alternatives to living during advanced age and enrich the life experience for those in independent living, assisted living and nursing homes. It seeks to help older adults reexamine and enhance their lifestyles and increase their contributions to society. by Donald Hoffman, Staff Writer

I was in the audience wondering what to expect from the large group of retirees slowly gathering on stage. I’ve sat through many concerts by professionals and mature choral groups and have heard both triumphant and disappointing performances. This group, more than 100 strong, looked somewhat ragtag. Looks are deceiving, but they are not a sign of musical talent. The group settled in and began tuning their voices. Introductions were made, the conductor entered the hall and the audience hushed. “Be kind,” I reminded myself as I leaned slightly forward. I knew after the very first note I was in for a treat. The performance was great, the voices strong and clear and the musical interpretation of the wide-ranging program excellent. A hundred-plus senior adults, many in their 90s, most without formal musical or vocal training, gave the audience a musical potpourri of extraordinary quality. Surely they were not new to the stage. There must have been a history of musical involvement that led them to this point in their development. The Donovan Chorus began quite by accident in the late 1970s as part of the University of Kentucky’s Council on Aging/Donovan Scholars Program. I had been appointed director of the program while I continued to teach art

education classes. Bernard, newly graduated from Cornell University, arrived with his wife, Debbie, to join the art education faculty. I got to know Bernie during the following year. Debbie was busy raising her first child but traveled most weekends and occasionally for longer periods. Bernie sometimes mentioned his wife was out of town but never gave the reason for the trip, until one day he let slip that Debbie sang with her sisters and was on her way to Las Vegas for an engagement. Debbie was a member of Sister Sledge. If you remember the song “We Are Family,” you remember Sister Sledge. How wonderful, I thought, to have such a talent so near. We had reviewed the activities offered by the Donovan program and found several areas in need of expansion. The program had many visual art classes, an active lecture series called the Forum and a two-week-long summer writers’ workshop. There were few other opportunities for senior adults to develop creative thinking. Notably missing were opportunities for theater and musical involvement. We immediately began designing programs to meet those needs. Radio Drama began soon after, but designing a musical experience proved to be more difficult. I had no idea how to identify a director who might bring out the best vocals with untrained voices. But then, creativity took hold.

“Why not ask Debbie?” I thought. Maybe she could help. My opportunity to consult her quickly arrived. “Debbie, how would you like to direct our first chorus?” I asked. “We have six people who would like to sing.” “I can’t do that,” replied Debbie. “I don’t read music. How could I possibly teach others?” “How are you able to sing professionally?” I asked. Debbie, it turned out, learns her arrangements by rote, singing what she hears and practicing hours at a time until her part is perfect. The difficult weekly schedule also proved to be a problem. We were able to work around it and convinced Debbie that learning to sing by rote would be a plus for our beginning students, thus enabling the first Donovan Chorus to begin. The chorus rapidly expanded in popularity and size. No wonder I sat amazed (and gratified) as I watched its performance that day. It has been more than 40 years since this simple caring act by Debbie Sledge left behind a legacy of musical involvement for an entire community. Its continued success and increasingly large numbers of involved older adults proves that even those without musical experience will embrace opportunities to sing, play and listen to music in its varied forms if given the chance. That is good, since musical involvement can provide many benefits for older adults. Music therapy began in earnest during World War II, where it found widespread use in the treatment of post-traumatic stress. Its calming effect was well documented and it helped many former soldiers learn to better cope with stress. It was not a cure. Now, 50 years later, after decades of research and technological advances, music therapy is used with Alzheimer’s patients and older adults with depression with positive results. Utilizing i-Phone technology, music therapists program musical selections designed for specific purposes. For example, Alzheimer’s, a progressive disease affecting the brain, may cause advanced patients to wander, become loud or disrup-

tive and even demonstrate violence toward others. The behaviors are normally uncontrollable, but music and the i-Phone calm the patient and external evidence of agitation disappears. Again, music therapy is not a cure but a treatment that helps keep the Alzheimer’s patient, fellow residents and staff safe. Therapeutic use of music serves only some of the aging population. While some people argue all music can be therapeutic, large numbers of older adults searching for creative experiences within the music area who do not need to be treated therapeutically. Writing music, interpretation through vocal and instrumental performance and listening activities provide numerous ways to explore creativity through music. Writing music, poetry, fiction or essays requires similar thinking but all use different languages. Music uses the language of sound, rhythm and tempo with a great deal of emotion thrown in for good measure. All are motivated by the way individuals relate to their environment. All creativity grows from what you see, how you interact with people and events and your inner feelings and beliefs. Take, for example, the song “I’ve Got Tears in My Ears from Lying on My Back in Bed While I Cry Over You.” All creative experience grows in some way from a person’s emotional attachment to and their involvement within an environment. Those singing or learning to play an instrument for the first time will go through “growing pains” as they explore the learning process. But the simple act of involvement provides each individual the satisfaction of learning to creatively interpret the music they are singing, playing or writing, participating in creative experiences that provoke the thinking processes necessary for successful aging. ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Don Hoffman is the former director of the Donovan Scholars/ Council on Aging at the University of Kentucky and author of Arts for Older Adults: An Enhancement of Life.

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Special Needs Beneficiaries

by Amy E. Dougherty, Bluegrass Elderlaw, PLLC

The main way most American families save for the future is through private retirement savings plans such as 401(k)s and IRAs. These plans offer the opportunity to designate a beneficiary upon the death of the account holder. These designations allow the account assets to bypass probate and pass directly to the named beneficiaries. Often, individuals make these decisions when initially setting up the account and never reconsider them. Typically, the account holder names a primary beneficiary and a contingent (or back-up) beneficiary. The contingent beneficiary only receives the account assets if the primary beneficiary predeceases the account holder. The account holder can generally name more than one person. Some financial institutions will allow the account holder to name a class of beneficiaries, such as “my children.” However, for individuals who have children or loved-ones with special needs1, being the beneficiary of a retirement account could wreak havoc on their needs-based government benefits, such as Supplemental Security Income

(SSI), Medicaid, or housing assisA Special Needs Person may tance. This is not simply a problem be provided for through designatfor large retirement accounts, many ing their Special Needs Trust as of the needs-based programs have the beneficiary of a 401(k) or very strict income and asset limits. an IRA account. There are also A Special other ways to Needs Person fund Special could lose acNeeds Trusts, BEING THE cess to these including BENEFICIARY OF programs designating which provide the trust as a A RETIREMENT medical beneficiary of ACCOUNT COULD coverage, a life insurhousing, and ance policy WREAK HAVOC other necesand giving ON NEEDS-BASED sities if they assets to the inherit assets Special Needs GOVERNMENT or income in Trust in a BENEFITS. their individLast Will and ual name. Testament. Proper Routinely planning can review your prevent a Special Needs Person retirement account beneficiary from losing their government designations and Estate Planning benefits. Creating a Special Needs Documents, especially for the SpeTrust to receive the funds on behalf cial Needs Person in your life. of the Special Needs Person will accomplish this goal. The account SOURCES & RESOURCES: holder merely designates the trust 1. “Supplemental Needs Person” as the beneficiary. If properly draft- means a person who: is disabled or ed, the trust can receive funds from is receiving, or is eligible to receive, a retirement account without nega- assistance or other benefits under a tive income tax implications and means-based government program the funds can be used to assist the (such as Medicaid or Supplemental beneficiary without compromising Security Income). “Disabled” is government benefits. The purpose defined under USC Title 42, Section is to supplement the benefits. 1382c(a)(3), KAR Title 907 Chapter

20:005, or under any Kentucky law related to means-based government programs. “Assistance” is defined in United States Code Title 42, Section 1396d(a), or under Kentucky law related to means-based government programs, and in particular KRS 205.510. ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Amy E. Dougherty has been with Bluegrass Elderlaw, PLLC since 2012. Amy focuses her practice on assisting older persons in qualifying for Medicaid long term care using Wills, Powers-of-Attorney, Advanced Directives, and Trusts. She also advocates for clients before Social Security, Medicare, and Medicaid agencies and defends against involuntary dismissal from long term care facilities. Previously, Amy practiced elder law for Legal Aid of the Bluegrass. She is a graduate of the University of Kentucky where she earned her B.A. (History) and J.D. Degrees. Amy is a member of the Fayette County Bar Association, the Kentucky Bar Association (Elder Law Section), the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys, and the Academy of Special Needs Planners.

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