March.2014
WEISFJORD NEWS
Something’s Gotta Give BY LYNDSEY JACKSON MUMMYS CORNER was doing my shopping the other day and I saw a lady with a little boy, she was texting on her phone and he kept calling “mummy mummy“, she kept telling him “wait a second” and he started pulling on her coat and calling her, she carried on walking and texting. He started to cry and shouted “mummy“, “WHAT??” she screamed at him, “I dropped my teddy outside” he said little tears spilling out of his eyes, “why didn’t you tell me?” she yelled and dragged him outside to find it while giving out to him. If she would of just put her phone away for 2 seconds and listened to him in the first place, he would have had his teddy and there would have been no tears. So please make sure you listen to your kids, if you don’t listen to the little things they have to say to you when they are little, they wont tell you the big stuff when they are big because to them it has always been big stuff. So when your kids want to talk to you about something, don’t tell them to wait, put everything else on hold and just listen. The tv wont get hurt, the phone wont forget and the computer wont miss you but your kids will. Its understandable to tune your kids out from time to time but if you constantly ignore your child, then you are giving them the message that listening isn’t important and what your child has to say isn’t important and that will affect their self esteem. Be a good role model and take the time to listen to them, remember children learn from there parents and if you want them to listen to you, you should listen to them.
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DISCIPLINE MISTAKES WE MAKE……… Over using the word no: if
parents constantly use the word no it will lose its power, kids will be so used to hearing the word that it will eventually have no meaning. Save the word no for dangerous situations. Instead of saying no for the things they shouldn’t be doing, try explaining to them the things they should be doing. For example, if they are standing up in the bath tub, tell them you should sit down in the bath because its very slippery and you might fall and hurt yourself. Expecting too much: parents t h i n k
there kids know so much more then they do and they expect them to automatically know how to behave when it comes to going places. For example if you bring your kids out to a restaurant and they are very loud, running around the place while they are waiting for the food, they arent trying to be naughty, instead of snapping at them, try explaining how he should behave in the restaurant and point out what others are doing. Kids are natural born mimics and they will get the hang of it. It just takes time and a lot of reminders for kids to learn how to behave outside the house. We model behaviour we don’t want to see: if something annoys us we yell, if someone hurts us we call them names but we get mad if our kids do the same. Of course they are going to copy us, we are there role models
and although we cant be perfect all the time, we should be more aware of our behaviour around our kids. We intervene too much: your kids are running around the house screaming or you see your child pouring juice into his cereal, instead of jumping in and shouting at them to stop, which will probably cause them to keep doing it, try ignoring it and they will eventually stop and you will avoid a shouting match. Sometimes they are innocently exploring new things and sometimes they are attention seeking. When safety isn’t an issue, just keep an eye on them without intervening. We are all talk and no action: your kids will behave bad if you let them and if you have no consequences for there b a d behaviour then they will continue to behave bad. You need to set the rules and then follow through. You need to make the rules and expectations clear, then take actions when they are broken. If you want your kid to do something, ask them nicely, if they don’t do it, offer them a consequence and if they refuse to do what you asked, you follow through with the consequence. Using time out ineffectively: time out doesn’t work for every child. For example, your little boy hits his sister for nothing, you put him in time out in his bedroom, he is angry at you and his sister and he starts throwing his toys around the bedroom. So instead you could take him into another room, sit him down and explain that its not acceptable and tell him to do a kind deed for his sister to make her feel better, he could make her a nice chocolate milkshake or something, he will make his sister happy, which will make him feel happy and everything is positive and nice.
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POETS CORNER YOUR
KIDS WANT YOU TO PLAY,
GET
Astrology PISCES FEBRUARY 19TH - MARCH 20TH
UP OFF YOU’RE A*SE.
THEY WONT
BE KIDS
FOR LONG,
THE YEARS
GO BY SO
FAST.
“PLAY DOLLS WITH MUM”
ME
“PLAY CARS WITH DAD”
ME
“I
DON’T HAVE TIME” YOU REPLY
CANT YOU
SEE YOU
ARE MAKING THEM SAD.
THEY WANT
HUGS AND
KISSES,
GIVE
THEM AS MUCH
AS YOU CAN.
VERY SOON
THE DAY
WILL COME
WHEN
THEY WON’T
WANT TO HOLD YOUR HAND.
YOU
NEED TO GIVE
THEM ATTENTION
AND
LISTEN TO WHAT
THEY HAVE TO SAY,
PLAY LOTS
OF GAMES
WITH THEM
AND
MAKE THE MOST
OF EVERY DAY.
MAKE
LOTS OF MEMORIES,
MAKE
THEM LAUGH
AND SMILE.
REMEMBER
THEY ARE
ONLY KIDS
FOR A LITTLE
WHILE.
STRENGTHS: gentle, wise, artistic, musical, intuitive, compassionate, dedicated WEAKNESSES: sad, overly trusting, fearful, can be a martyr, emotional CHARISMATIC MARKS: face easily shows emotion, frail to medium build LIKES: time alone, time to sleep, romance, swimming, music, time alone DISLIKES: being criticized, cruelty of any kind, know-it-alls
Pisceans are the greatest dreamers of the zodiac. They live in an imaginary world and are always daydreaming, be it about themselves or about their near and dear ones. They are very emotional and sensitive by heart. They are easygoing and generally accepting of others around them. They are very kind hearted, sincere, responsible and honest. Pisceans are very intelligent and hard working in the work place but they can also be quite lazy when it comes to doing things for themselves. They can be oversensitive and this trait becomes irritating for others. They always avoid uncanny and problematic situations, where they may have to face troubles. Don’t take them for a fool, they’re sweet tempered, kind people but they have a side to them you do not want to bring out. Pisces love so hard and so strong that the thought of any betrayal from a loved one is very hard for them to accept. Give a pisces a million reasons why a relationship wont work out with someone and they will stay for the one reason it might.